No One Dies from Divorce

Do you feel stressed out, bewildered, emotionally compromised, or overwhelmed with navigating your divorce? Today we are talking with author Andy Heller about how to deal with high-conflict divorces and co-parent effectively. Through his own divorce and life experience, Andy has outlined a pathway for how to manage emotional, logistical, and financial issues that occur during and after a divorce. His goal is to help people choose compassion over fear, heal hearts, prepare for a future, and provide security and stability for their children.

Samantha Boss spent years in and out of court, fighting to modify a poorly crafted divorce decree. This experience inspired Samantha to begin coaching others through the divorce process in order to help more parents avoid the pitfalls of parenting plans. Join us on this episode as we talk about the need for a solid, perfectly tailored parenting plan that covers your family's specific needs, or as Samantha calls it, ”the playbook for life with your kids.” 

Divorce is hard on everyone. Between Mediation, decrees, lawyer fees, court dates, parent-time, and more, the divorce process can create a lot of chaos. Often the children of divorce get lost in the conflict, and their voices are not heard. Today we are talking with Grace Casper, a young woman who was a child of divorce. Grace is sharing her perspective as her parents divorced while she was still a child. In her book that's coming out in June, Grace shares what she wishes her parents knew during the divorce along with tips to help children cope with their parents' divorce. Listen in as we discuss how to hear what our children need during divorce, and ways to support them through this massive life change.

Shelly Anderson is passionate about life's journey and the stages we grow through. At times that includes loss, divorce, and death. Join us as we discuss how grief isn't just a single stage, and that trauma becomes a part of who we are.  Time does not heal all wounds; time allows the body to absorb the wounds and create space so we can mourn the life we thought we'd live, and press forward in the life we have. 

If you're divorced and dating or dating a divorcee, then this episode is for you! Listen in as Naja Hall tells it like it is. Blended families are difficult under the best of circumstances, but marrying someone with a High-Conflict divorce comes at a cost. It will test you mentally, emotionally, and financially, and test your relationship with your new spouse as well as any children involved. All blended families come with chaos and friction, so take Naja's advice and make sure your expectations align with reality before you step into a stepparent role.

Regardless of where you're at in your marriage or divorce process, there are a few key things to consider before choosing to stay or go. Divorce coach Kate Anthony talks about the importance of doing the emotional work which can guide you to finding joy and/or exit with grace. She says, Happiness is an inside job and it begins with making the choice. You deserve to be happy!

The question we should all be asking ourselves Why not ask is relevant in all facets of life. From high-conflict divorces to negotiations in the workplace, we can all benefit from the art of having Crucial Conversations that apply to all our relationships.  Join us as we talk with Negotiation expert, Christine McKay, about how Negotiation isn't about winning, it's a conversation about relationships and you can't “win” a relationship.

Make your passion your purpose and it becomes your profession, something Tara Seals, The Bossy Educator has definitely accomplished.  As a child of divorce, an educator, and a bonus mom herself, Tara knows all about what divorce means for children.  In this episode, Jill and Tara dive into the unspoken trauma and confusion that impacts children when parents divorce. Gather your village, get clear on communication, and put your child's needs first. They see it, feel it, and need you as the adults to speak to it.

For Jill and Joanna, family law was a calling. A call to represent the underdog and even the playing field for fathers. Both women have set the bar high in establishing firms that advocate for equal rights, parent time, and a voice is doing what's best for the child. Too often children are weaponized and used as leverage for money and control. Listen in as they share their journey through law and proclaim the battle cry, “Let him see that child.” 

Navigating the tumultuous waters of divorce can be exhausting and at times infuriating. However, many couples are able to come to peaceful resolutions having little to no conflict with the help of experts Jan and Jillian.  Divorce doesn't have to ruin your life, but it will redefine it. In some cases, it may open old wounds and push you to find emotional freedom and hope through the trials. With the help of skilled professionals, experienced mediators, and lawyers, you can divorce differently and find a path to a peaceful resolution.

You are in for a wild ride as we journey down the Rabbit hole of corruption with the Murdaugh family murders.  At the center of it all is underage drinking, poor parenting, white privilege, and a prominent family wrapped in a web of deceit and corruption.  On the surface what appeared to be a reckless boating accident turned into the scandal of a century with bodies piling up.  Where there's smoke, there's fire. Listen in as we dissect all the recent accusations, settlements, and pending verdicts. 

So you fell in love with a partner who has kids! Everything seems pleasant at first, but quickly you become villainized as the “wicked stepmother.” You feel overwhelmed, unseen, blamed, and like you're always walking on eggshells. If this sounds like your journey as a step parent, join us as Radical Stepmom Christina shares her personal and professional experience of how to put your marriage first and navigate the tumultuous terrain of being a stepmom.

Today we are talking with Mary Crafts about her hard won life lessons in her newly published book, Unbounded: From Sorrow to Summitt. At 50 Mary found herself, overworked, overweight, and in a toxic loveless marriage. Something had to give. Join us as she shares her wisdom on how to honor yourself, reclaim your life, and let go of fear. 

In this episode we uncover the outdated beliefs and practices within the legal system and how being a strong, independent woman comes with unique challenges. Listen in as Jill and Kathleen share their journey to success by overcoming the odds and obstacles of discrimination, shaming, and self doubt within the legal field. Join them as they champion each one another, other women and break barriers. 

Make no mistake, divorce is a tragedy, but you can bounce back and live out your dreams even after a disaster strikes. Today we are talking with Candace Rivera who has weathered many storms including divorce. In this episode you will hear sound advice and encouragement on how to address the trauma, be intentional with your time and GIVE YOURSELF GRACE!  Rock bottom has a basement, find it, then take the stairs. A new life awaits!

Sadly our society and the legal system encourages that we stack the evidence against our spouse to justify why we deserve a divorce. Often this approach only makes things worse and children become the collateral damage. There is another way. Today we are talking with Kate Strong about what it really means to do divorce differently. It starts with Asking Yourself and doing the work of inner Self-Care. Listen as she shares how being open and vulnerable is a strength that helps you heal. “You have to feel it to heal it” she says.  Join us as we get curious, ask questions, and do the work for our own personal growth!

Dating after divorce can be daunting and exhausting.  “The grass isn't always greener. It still has to be watered and most of it is fake. 80% of the dating pool is junk, they haven't done the work to be a good date,” says Katy Clark. Join us as we dive into how to reinvent yourself post divorce, start your Glow-Up and go from frumpy to fabulous with the 3 Fs.  

Often when we are young we are blinded by love and overlook the small acts of indiscretion and disrespect in a relationship. Years later after marriage, kids, and abandonment of self, we face divorce filled with anger, fear and resentment. Together Jill and Cindy are on a mission to eradicate the shame and stigma around divorce. Listen in as certified divorce coach Cindy Stibbard unpacks her journey through dating, marriage and divorce and how looking back she can identify all the things she didn't know, the red flags she ignored, and how once she knew better, she was able to do better.

Divorces are messy, especially when it's time to clean house and sell! Today we are talking to divorce real estate expert, Joe Gordon on why you want a certified specialist vs. a standard agent when selling a house during a divorce. Having experienced his own divorce and the complexities of selling, Joe understands the delicate process it is to unravel a life and home. Listen in as he shares tips to finding a good agent that will help you move forward with your new life.

With a New year, new you under way, this might include new relationships. But first, before we can start something new, we need to break up with the old and let go of what is holding us back. Join me and Leanne Kanzler as we talk about how to Breakup to Breakthrough and live your best life! It's time to break free from what isn't working.

It's that time again! Join us as we present this year's calendar challenge designed with you and life in mind. We all have roadblocks, setbacks, and heartbreak, but we also have dreams, goals, and ambitions. This month focus on one daily challenge to create a better you. And remember, courage begins with one step! 

What should have been a clear cut divorce turned into a 3 year long battle with wild accusations, late night social media rants, and massive public scrutiny. Join us as we talk all about Kim and Kanye, his radical behavior, her ice cold shut outs and how even an iron clad prenup won't save you from a PR and legal nightmare. 

There is no shortage of drama in Utah when it comes to the Wizard of Oz, Jen Shah and Momtok “swinger,” Taylor Frankie Paul. Jen Shahs is facing potentially 30 years in federal prison for fraud and Taylor is facing solitary confinement as a newly proclaimed monogamous woman. Shah struck gold by defrauding elderly people out of their retirement and now it's time to pay the piper with her sentencing just around the corner on December 15th.

"How can I help the individuals going through a traumatic event like divorce,” is the question psychiatrist Amy Parry asks herself? Oftentimes teenagers get thrown to the side when parents are divorcing. Amy was drawn to teenagers who are struggling with the fallout of divorce on mental health. In her work she focuses on trying to understand what they are feeling and going through. “We can't make them behave, we need to work to understand them and help them understand themselves.” Listen in as we talk all about the challenges our teenagers, and ourselves, face when a family  divorces. 

With the holiday season upon us, we often become quickly overwhelmed with to-dos. In this episode, Steph Andersen talks about the power of healing and yoga: to unit or become one with self. If the heartbreak of divorce and fractured relationships have you stressed out, take a minute to release those trapped emotions and center yourself. Finding balance can bring peace and calm into our life. Join us as we slow things down and reflect on all the reasons we have to be grateful. May we all find many reasons to cultivate gratitude this week! Happy Thanksgiving!

Relationships are hard and being human is complex, especially when you're going through a divorce. Today we are diving into why therapy is beneficial to individuals and families during or post separation.  Divorce doesn't erase the relationships, it just changes the dynamics. We all need a safe space to unpack the emotions without shame or blame. Listen in as I talk with LMFT Ben Farmer about the challenges families face and overcome when navigating divorce. 

As an expert on attachment theory, Dr Morgan shares with us her insights on how to attract relationships you deserve. In today's episode we discuss how the habit of putting others' needs before our own, or ignoring our internal experiences, drives us to seek distractions from dealing with ourselves. Join us as we explore how healthy romantic relationships work and how to go from lonely to loved.

Not all divorce is high conflict. In this special Halloween edition, we uncover the seemingly dark side of divorce. We shake the bones loose and question the cost of Adultery, being a bad Spouse vs a good parent, and do moms always win? Listen in as we blast some of the spooky myths about divorce. 

You can't fight for your rights if you don't know your rights. Rob Jepson has dedicated his career to helping divorcees avoid heartache, pain, and financial setbacks through solution oriented mediation. We all need guidance on what is legal, within our rights, and what we really want during divorce.  Join us on this episode as we talk about the goal of mediation and how it can help you minimize damage and find resolution. 

While navigating through the turmoil of his own divorce, Andy Heller read countless support books to help him through the process.   He identified a crucial hole in the self-help space for men and women experiencing divorce.  His book, “Take the High Road, Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family,” is his give back with a stated goal of making the divorce process easier.  In this episode we discuss all the tips to help you not only survive through divorce but thrive and along the way learn to give yourself the grace and compassion that you deserve. This is an episode you don't want to miss.  Pick up Andy's book on Amazon and grab a copy of “No One Dies From Divorce” as well.  

Jahan Kalantar fell in love with advocating for the little guy. During the pandemic, overnight he went from a booming practice in Syndey to zero revenue. The Government's regulation was confusing, convoluted and divisive. So he took to TikTok to help explain the law in plain English.  Then he struck TikTok gold with the Depp-Heard case, or as he calls it, the trial of our generation.  As a self proclaimed nerd, Jahan read up on Virginia law to give the most informed and eloquent play by play of the trial. Join me and Jahan as we talk, all things legal from defamation, to domestic abuse, coercion,  to public relations, and what happens when you're not prepared for your day in court. 

Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo co-host one of the top marriage podcasts on Apple called, The One Extraordinary Marriage Show.  From their own experience and years of helping others, they know a thing or two about what it takes to make any relationship last.  It starts by understanding the six pillars of Intimacy.  Tony and Alisa have written a best selling book, “The 6 Pillars of Intimacy” to guide anyone who wants a stronger, healthier relationship.  If you have gone through a divorce or are going through a divorce, their advice will give you the tools you need to create a better you and learn how to love and be loved to the fullest.   

Shakira and Gerard Pique split after 12 years together.  They have two children together. There is much speculation and gossip around why they are breaking up.  Join us as we go into all  the juicy details of the power couples split.   Shakira's hips may not lie but her lips aren't moving and the truth behind their break up may never come to light.  And later, my guest Kelly Baldwin and I will dive into the difference of Common Law Marriage and Paternity: what it means for you and your family and the different reliefs each type of case gets. 

Michael Wise is a paralegal for MoxieLaw, a personal injury firm. He is dedicated to helping people find peace and closure through difficult times, including the struggles many of us have with mental health. Today Michael and I will be discussing the very sensitive yet crucial topic of suicide. Join us as we go over 5 things you can do to help you through your darkest moments and remember, Tomorrow Needs You! If you or a loved one are struggling with suicidal thoughts, please call 988 for help. You are not alone.

Welcome to season 2! Tessa is the founder of The Job Doctor. A practice dedicated to building career strategies and re-engaging people in the workplace.  She believes anyone and everyone can gain new skills to enter the workplace and thrive.  Tessa was newly divorced and had been out of the workplace for a while.  She knew she had to provide for her family which would require hard work and determination to become a valuable asset in a company.  She worked her way up from an entry level position at Franklin Covey to becoming one of the leading executive females in the company. Tessa is here today to tell you that whatever your circumstances, with the right coaching and the right attitude, you can become invaluable in any job.  She will share with us how to create the career you want, deserve, and that will allow you to provide for yourself and your family. 

No One Dies from Divorce concludes it's first season. Thank you everyone for the support and we will see you in the fall! Follow @jillcoil on Instagram, Tiktok, and Facebook to stay up to date. 

Krista Andersen is passionate about living fully, family, conflict engagement, using words to heal instead of harm, and creating memorable experiences. Her passion for how words are used to heal and harm led her to the field of mediation where Krista is devoted to helping clients learn how to engage in conflict in healthy ways.  Knowing that conflict is a constant in our lives, Krista seeks to educate people on how what they say and write has a deep impact on their relationships and personal well-being.  Her personal mantra is “words matter.” Further, as a Cancer Survivor she discusses how she found joy in the journey and was able to overcome grief, fear and resentment to use her experience as an opportunity to inspire.  Krista is an example of how we can use our trials as a platform to become the best version of ourselves.  And though the road will not necessarily be easy it will give you strength and fortify to overcome all.  

The final divorce tip this season! I'm explaining what to do when divorcing a  Narcissist

You sometimes have to fall flatter on your face then you ever have to be able to stand taller than you ever could.  This is exactly how Megan Sanford would describe her experience of being addicted to Meth, pregnant at 19, and not knowing if she would be here tomorrow.  Megan shares her most vulnerable story with the world in hopes that it will give hope and encouragement for anyone feeling they are in a hopeless situation.  Megan rallied back after giving two children up for adoption, quit doing drugs and turned her life around.  Now almost ten years later she is married, has two more kids, has a relationship with the two kids she gave up for adoption, is over ten years sober, and just graduated law school.  Megan tells the world that if she can stand up after her experience so can you.  

"If you are in a relationship that is keeping you from being happy for whatever reason, then it is probably not best to stay in said relationship."

Immigration is scary and a complicated process for those that have started, are in the middle and/or are in the final stages of the process.  It can be almost paralyzing when having to deal with immigration when going through a divorce.  In fact many think that they cannot divorce or leave an abusive relationship because of their immigration status.  However, Pooja Mehta, an attorney out of New Jersey joins our show to dispel the myths and fears with family law and immigration.  Her biggest takeaway is that if you are an immigrant and in any process of gaining citizenship to this country you do not have to stay in an abusive relationship.  There are things you can do to get out of the relationship and still move forward with citizenship and your life.  Finding an immigration attorney like Pooja can help you ease your fears and move you in a pathway forward.  There is hope and life after divorce.  

Not all divorces go to trial, but some do. I explain in this divorce tip episode why that would happen. 

Johnny Depp v. Amber Heard's Defamation trial has been heard around the world.  Millions are captivated at every move, argument and evidence that has been presented regarding Johnny Depp's Defamation case against Amber Heard and her Counter Complaint for Defamation against Johnny Depp and his Lawyer.  Jill Coil and Sterling Swank break down the trial all the way up to the last week of testimony.  You can get all the information, opinions and gossip right here.  Jill Coil has been covering the entire trial on her Instagram: JillCoil, Facebook: JillCoil and Tiktok: JillCoil.  Check it out.  The outcome of this case will be known very shortly after this podcast comes out and it will be the verdict heard around the world.  We will keep you updated on all of Jill Coil's Social Media. 

 Life after divorce allows you to be true to who you really are. So often in marriage, we forget our own needs because we are busy taking care of our spouse and our children. Because of this, we end up losing sense of what we want and what our needs are. Divorce gives us that chance to rediscover who we are and what we want to be. Today's guest, Leta Greene,  is all about embracing what makes us individually hot and amazing. Join us to learn how you can  break down the walls of self doubt and negativity with the 12 Rocks of Hotness!International speaker including three TEDx talks and author of two best-selling books, Leta Greene doesn't want to intimidate any of you, but she is known as "Hotness." At 12, she won the Boy Scout arm wrestling competition. None of those boys ever asked her out. Leta majored in Sign language and graduated with honors. Ironically, she is REALLY good at not talking. Leta inspires each of us to embrace what makes us individually hot and amazing. As an image consultant and makeup artist since 1999, Leta has helped clients to not only look their best, but to feel their best. Leta has also built a multi-million-dollar business in the beauty industry and is a sought-after trainer for women entrepreneurs. Her message is one of honoring yourself through being authentic to who you are. It is through humor, stories and a new way of seeing the everyday that makes Leta's audiences of all ages want to hold on for more! Her programs range f rom n1aturation programs for girls, confidence workshops for tweens, teen girls and women, seminars for parents on how to talk to your kids about sex and abuse. Leta is also an energetic keynote speaker for conferences and seminars on resiliency, personal responsibility, and, of course, the Hotness factor.Leta is the mother of Nathaniel, Ailsa, and Katelynn, who Leta and her husband, Nathan, agree are the most adorable children. Just follow her on Facebook and yot1 will see that they are amazing. She says her kids and hubby bring it home for her; anytime she thinks she is too cool, it is time to cook dinner. She considers her greatest accomplishment that her hubby and children still like her.This can be such an amazing journey of self-discovery. Imagine how much better the world would be if we all had the ability to become our best selves! 

Taken from Chapter 1 of my book, No One Dies from Divorce: How to Survive and Thrive When Your Marriage Ends.   This is a book about not only surviving divorce but also coming out on the other side stronger and more capable. The scariest part about divorce is the unknown, the questions that keep you up at night: Am I going to be okay? Are my kids going to be okay? What will my family and friends think? Am I a failure? What is wrong with me? People get divorced for a variety of reasons, but whatever the reason, divorce is not easy. In fact, it will most likely be one of the hardest times of your life. Even if you are the one who wants a divorce, it will be hard. For some, it may even seem insurmountable. But one thing I know for sure is, no onedies from divorce.You're not alone. You can do this. Let me help you to not only survive through, but also thrive after your divorce. We can use our trials as a pivot to become a better version of ourselves. Let's get through this together.   https://www.amazon.com/No-One-Dies-Divorce-Marriage/dp/1736959107

Most assume the financial ramifications of a divorce to be devastating, but with the right legal and financial counsel, divorce can offer the chance for a new financial beginning and opportunity. Today's guest, Rick Salmeron, is a certified financial planner and knows firsthand about the financial issues that arise when getting divorced.  Keep your focus on rebuilding after a difficult process with these surprising financial benefits of divorce.Rick Salmeron is that guy who actually loves things like compounding interest, ROI and financial statements. He's not a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional because his guidance counselor once told him he should give it a whirl. He was meant to do this. He's that guy who makes your trip to the financial planner a lot more like that local neighborhood café, and a lot less like your high school accounting class.Entered the industry in 1990, he created Salmeron Financial in 2001 and helps brilliant, very successful (and typically, insanely busy) people & families make wise decisions with their money, so that they can pursue their most important financial goals.

The mission of the state funded programs, DCFS and CPS (Division of Child and Family Services and/or Child Protective Services), is to keep children safe from violence, abuse, and neglect. If DCFS/CPS shows up at your door, you likely have a lot of questions about their process and what your rights are at each stage of the process. Tune in if you are dealing with DCFS/CPS issues during divorce, so that you know all the ways to protect your family. Download Jill Coil's  Division of Child and Family Services Guide: For Utah Parents and Guardians https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08C69K7HS/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_NzQrFbTB7R1RW

TR Morgan has presided in over 10,000 hearings as a former Domestic Relations Commissioner for the Utah Courts. After years of practicing on the bench, TR joins to share his background, judicial philosophy, and best practices when your case goes to court. Tune in to learn more from a retired Commissioner! T.R. Morgan grew up in Northern Utah playing high school basketball, winning at board games, and watching tv when he wasn't reading. After serving an LDS mission to Brazil, he attended the University of Utah and graduated with a political science degree. He then went on to receive his Juris Doctorate from the SJ Quinney School of Law. During law school, T.R. worked full-time with the Internal Revenue Service as a tax examiner and legal intern. T.R. started his legal career working with renowned Ogden Attorney Bob Echard, and, after a few years, started his own general law practice. T.R. has litigation experience in most areas of law, specializing in family law and probate.Most recently, T.R. served as a Domestic Relations Commissioner in the Second Judicial District Court. His experience wearing the black robe gave him the opportunity to interact with and guide litigants and attorneys through the Shakespearian tempest that domestic litigation can be, presiding over more than 10,000 hearings. He is most proud of, and grateful for, the high marks he received from attorneys during his annual reviews.T.R. met his wife in high school and started dating after graduation. They have been married since 1997 and have five children. Outside of the office, T.R. enjoys traveling, cheering for the Utes, and watching and discussing tv and movies. For a few years, he was part-owner of an all-ages live music venue, “The Basement.” T.R. is committed to CoilLaw and its ever-increasing standards: he is thrilled to be given the opportunity to grow, transform, and learn from CoilLaw's diverse and inclusive team.

Can I keep my inheritance safe from divorce? The short answer is yes, however you need to ensure you're protecting money by knowing your state's laws.  Regardless of your state, I always advise that you avoid commingling these funds, and to consider getting a trust as an added layer of protection. If you're the recipient of an inheritance, tune in today to learn more about your options. 

Even though I've been a JLo fan since the beginning of her career, I'm not a huge fan of “Bennifer”. Today, Cameron and I are indulging in more salacious celebrity gossip and sharing why it's not the best idea to get back with your ex.