The Good Intentions Podcast

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Jim Fay talks with Dave Rael about mutual dignity, preparing children for the world, empathy with children and adults, and positive influence Chapters: 0:52 - Approach to this episode and getting to know Jim Fay4:31 - Learning about dealing with children from education and parenting5:27 - Dave's interpretation of Love and Logic and Jim's reaction10:26 - The state of discourse in the world the relevance of preparing children for real interaction11:28 - Jim on bringing empathy to interaction with children15:21 - The primacy of simplicity and the fault in complication of life16:28 - Quick win on setting boundaries with simple words and phrases to neutralize conflict and manipulation21:31 - Influence, manipulation, and empowerment23:52 - Love and Logic applied to adults as well as children25:54 - The reasons children and other humans need boundaries and why they test them29:02 - Healthy and unhealthy setting of boundaries and the communication of boundaries and expectations as behavior modeling30:08 - The unhealthy swinging pendulum of adult focus vs child focus33:10 - The problems with punishment and the virtue of delaying reaction37:53 - A specific example of approaches to care and teaching40:03 - Differences between mothers and fathers and between children and adults41:55 - The moral case for Resources: Love And Logic (including signup for the Insider's Club newsletter) Jim's Bio on the Love and Logic Site Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition) - Foster Cline

Karen Straughan talks with Dave Rael about feminism, mens' rights, understanding people, gender relations Chapters: 0:52 - Karen, feminism, and mens' rights8:36 - Answers to oppression14:18 - Meaning of Equality21:42 - Karen on humility, ability, attraction, and her draw to the mens' movement35:54 - The power of words and the terms used by feminism43:22 - The importance of sexual consent45:31 - Harmful behaviors47:54 - Reproductive choices52:53 - Attempting to understand one another56:13 - "Nice guys" and the "friend zone"62:15 - Compassion for all parties involved in an unexpected and potentially unwanted pregnancy64:26 - The types of fiction that appeal to women and what it reveals about their desires72:20 - Privilege and empathy and the futility of seeking an ideal system83:35 - Mating habits of animals and their relevance to humans89:06 - "Seek first to understand, then to be understood" - Stephen Covey91:35 - Power and the source of your voice96:44 - Rape apologia103:39 - Violence toward women and men Resources: Karen's YouTube Channel Karen's Blog The Red Pill Cassie Jaye Christina Hoff Sommers on the Good Intentions Podcast Custody of Infants Act Married Women's Property Act "Big Red" from "The Red Pill: Raw Files" Swedish Government Bans Affirmative Action James Damore James Damore on the Good Intentions Podcast James Damore on the David Pakman Show James Damore on Freedomain Radio with Stefan Molyneux James Damore on the Rubin Report Tactics Young Women Use to Resist Condom Use When a Partner Wants to Use a Condom Sexually Transmitted Infection Hypergamy Statutory rape victim forced to pay child support Goofus and Gallant Slate Star Codex The Street Harassment Experiment - 10 Hours of Walking in NYC as a Woman Bill Burr Comedy Including References to Tiger Woods and Access to Sex Pareto Principle The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change - Stephen R. Covey Good Intentions Podcast Episode 1 with Andrea Goulet National Coalition For Men Conflict Theory Philip Davies If You See Jezebel in the Road, Run the Bitch Down (Paul Elam's article referenced in The Red Pill) Have You Ever Beat Up A Boyfriend? Cause, Uh, We Have (The Jezebel article to which Paul Elam was responding) I'll decide if you were raped, not you - Paul Elam Commentary on Rape Statistics

James Damore talks with Dave Rael about diversity, understanding, discourse, psychology, and differences Chapters: 0:52 - The story of James, the "Google Manifesto Guy"5:21 - James on unconscious bias7:57 - Biological essentialism10:41 - Humility13:24 - Sources of psychological differences between men and women14:55 - Troublesome vocabulary and individual interest in software19:56 - The nature of software development22:20 - James on the value of diversity24:38 - Psychological safety27:30 - Growth mindset and asking for what you need35:28 - Efficacy of diversity programs37:28 - Disadvantages of diversity programs41:25 - Support and interactions43:07 - Judgment and de-moralizing diversity45:52 - Alienation of conservatives48:21 - Hostile work environments and a call for understanding50:46 - Psychological traits and troublesome vocabulary52:55 - James's suggestion to de-emphasize empathy55:19 - Conscientiousness and green-field (building new systems) vs brown-field (maintaining existing systems) in software development56:53 - Discrimination60:19 - Downsides of being a "diversity candidate"63:31 - Gender bias in hiring - also the difficulty of choosing science papers66:30 - Understanding for the experiences of others68:13 - James's experience with the response to his document74:00 - A lawsuit toward Google76:04 - Going to the source Resources: James's Site The Document in Question Implicit-association test Jordan Peterson James on the Rubin Report James on the Joe Rogan Experience Dave's Software Developer Podcast - Developer On Fire Pair programming Psychological safety Mindset: The New Psychology of Success - Carol S. Dweck Expectations of brilliance underlie gender distributions across academic disciplines - Sarah-Jane Leslie, Andrei Cimpian, Meredith Meyer, Edward Freeland A Way to Detect Bias - Paul Graham Matthew 7:15-20 - "You Will Know Them by Their Fruits" Virtue Signaling Big Five personality traits Paul Bloom Paul Bloom on Waking Up with Sam Harris - The Virtues of Cold Blood Thaddeus Russell - The Unregistered Podcast Glenn Loury on Unregistered with Thaddeus Russell James on Freedomain Radio with Stefan Molyneux James with Jordan Peterson

Nicole Lee talks with Dave Rael about being brave, living the life you want, international human rights work, parenting, understanding, and blame Chapters: 0:52 - Getting familiar with Nicole8:19 - Nicole's experiences with defending human rights14:10 - Interviews with violent criminals and the complexities of motivations for abhorrent actions22:30 - Loving people with views inconsistent with your values29:52 - Moving society forward requires action39:26 - Preparing families for a multicultural world43:42 - Nicole's ability to talk about difficult and uncomfortable topics47:59 - The meaning of social justice and the good and bad of the call-out culture62:14 - Recognizing threats67:26 - Scapegoating vs calling for accountability Resources: Nicole's Website Nicole on parenting and sharing the ugly truths of the world with children Megan Phelps-Roper on The Joe Rogan Experience Martin Luther King Jr.: Revered More After Death Than Before Slavery in the United States Jewish Bolshevism

Matt Christiansen talks with Dave Rael about moral self-righteousness, societal norms, government, and giving advice Chapters: 0:52 - The nature of disagreement and the moral superiority of modern disourse4:22 - The power of "I don't know" and the virtue of alternative solutions6:01 - The axes on which we describe worldviews8:22 - Matt's evolving outlook12:50 - Forced participation17:43 - Gay marriage and the nuclear family28:05 - Views of the human ability to make good choices32:41 - Unsolicited advice34:55 - Voting, Trump, and shutting down events by force42:12 - The appropriate role of government50:08 - The divisive Democrats54:27 - Charlottesville, white nationalists, and Black Lives Matter Resources: Matt's YouTube Channel Socratic Wisdom "The enemy of my enemy is my friend" 1984 (Signet Classics) - George Orwell Gary Johnson on forced cake baking Trump Cake A Story about Applying "Must Participate" to Sexuality 2016 Donald Trump Chicago rally protest Federalist 51 Gary Johnson and Aleppo General welfare clause United States Bill of Rights Sally Boynton Brown on Shutting White People Down Uncle Tom Pepe the Frog Richard B. Spencer Non-aggression principle Pro-Trump Protesters Interrupt 'Shakespeare in the Park' Performance of 'Julius Caesar'

Hunter Maats talks with Dave Rael about education, perspective, science, reason, persuasion, and fundamentalism Chapters: 0:52 - Hunter's background and story5:43 - Resources and resourcefulness10:30 - Thinking and feeling are always linked15:21 - The Straight-A Conspiracy, Mindset, and practical learning21:56 - Aristocrats, eugenics, and Intelligence Quotient25:40 - IQ research, the blind men and the elephant, and sectarian differences35:01 - The relevance of "redneck culture"42:20 - The meaning of "Mixed Mental Arts"49:59 - Managing anger, engaging people with difficult perspectives, and challenging people53:30 - Fundamentalism60:47 - Identification of fundamentalists71:58 - The difference between the message sent and the message received75:21 - Susceptibility of humans to fundamentalism83:50 - Shaking up echo chambers and rounding out worldviews Resources: Mixed Mental Arts The Straight-A Conspiracy: Your Secret Guide to Ending the Stress of School and Totally Ruling the World - Hunter Maats Jim Watson Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor E. Frankl The Mixed Mental Arts Book List Some Context on "You should never meet your heroes" Katie O'Brien William Kamkwamba The Boy Who Harnessed the Wind - William Kamkwamba Good Will Hunting Carol Dweck Mindset: The New Psychology of Success - Carol S. Dweck “I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.” - Mark Twain The Origin of Species: 150th Anniversary Edition - Charles Darwin Francis Galton Lewis Terman The Blind Men and the Elephant Heritability of IQ Intelligence and How to Get It: Why Schools and Cultures Count - Richard E. Nisbett Richard Nisbett Mandi Ainslie "Statistics are like bikinis. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they conceal is vital." - Aaron Levenstein Thomas Sowell Black Rednecks and White Liberals - Thomas Sowell Alvin Toffler "The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn." - Alvin Toffler Bryan Callen "Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own." - Bruce Lee Hamlet (AmazonClassics Edition) - William Shakespeare The Tao of Pooh - Benjamin Hoff Sam Harris Richard Dawkins Atul Gawande Atul Gawande at Caltech on the nature of the scientist - "... an experimental mind, not a litigious one" - quoting Edwin Hubble "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." - William Shakespeare The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion - Jonathan Haidt Lena Dunham Richard Spencer Boggart Tom Woods Anarcho-capitalism Tom Woods on the Bryan Callen Show / Mixed Mental Arts podcast Strong Opinions, Weakly Held Fantich and Young

Christina Hoff Sommers talks with Dave Rael about subjects that matter including feminism, sensitivity, family, and common interests Chapters: 0:52 - Note on editing of this audio and the absence of video1:51 - Christina, the "Factual Feminist"3:23 - Christina's life and family and the benefits of working in a think-tank5:46 - The theft of feminism and Christina's reasons for keeping the label8:13 - "A healthy, evidence based women's movement will serve everyone, men and women ..." -Christina Hoff Sommers10:43 - Division and politics13:53 - What is privilege?18:03 - Patriarchy and fairness26:15 - Differences between men and women in approaching social interaction and the need for mutual understanding37:39 - The self-appointment of the people who allegedly speak for subcultures39:03 - Censorship, threats, self-censorship, fear to express opinions, and dehumanization45:44 - Derision toward feminists46:26 - Safe spaces50:39 - Off-color humor and prudery Resources: The Factual Feminist YouTube Series Very Bad Wizards The Oberlin Incident Elizabeth Cady Stanton Susan B. Anthony Dave Rubin Do men need to check their privilege? | FACTUAL FEMINIST The Coddling of the American Mind - Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt - The Atlantic Why It's a Bad Idea to Tell Students Words Are Violence - Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt - The Atlantic Evergreen State College Controversy The Charles Murray Event at Middlebury College Berkeley Riots Nobel laureate sees science education career collapse in wake of sexist comments Dr Matt Taylor apologises for controversial 'sexist' shirt worn after Rosetta mission comet landing Jordan Peterson Ben Shapiro Barred From Entering DePaul University! Wendy Kaminer Milo Yiannopoulos

Andrea Goulet talks with Dave Rael about subject that matter including government, race, empathy, understanding, and feminism Chapters: 0:10 - Who is Andrea1:56 - Accusations of lacking empathy8:33 - The intended audience of this podcast10:10 - The fundamental problem of human discourse in the world today14:12 - Politics - moderate and extreme17:34 - Defining feminism26:28 - Feeling alone in a crowd28:16 - Seeking to understand and dynamics of power34:23 - Confidence and the power of words36:51 - The complexity of human interactions, biases, and jumping to conclusions43:08 - Open-ended questions to open communication45:23 - Perspectives on sexuality49:35 - Objectification of women and the ways women can feel safe54:08 - The importance of consent70:16 - Validity of opinions and reciprocal understanding75:41 - Common ground76:35 - Context sensitivity of believing accusations - it's better to say they should be taken seriously than to say they should be believed84:35 - Men's Rights Activism86:37 - The power of government and the power of the people95:19 - Conclusion Resources: Magic Card Game CorgiBytes Andrea on Developer On Fire Technical? Non-Technical? Both! - Andrea Goulet US Senator from Virginia, Mark Warner US Represetative from Colorado, Mike Coffman Lessons From The Women's Strike - Andrea Goulet Virginia Commonwealth University (VCU) Abigail Adams urges husband to “remember the ladies” The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change - Stephen R. Covey The Confidence Gap Abigail Spanberger - Andrea's Friend and Candidate for Congress Men's rights movement Good Intentions Episode 0 - Dave Describing the intent of the show The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts - Gary Chapman

Dave Rael articulates the intent of the Good Intentions Podcast Chapters: 0:00 - The name of the podcast and the nature of intentions1:23 - Opinions, fear, and the nature of modern discourse4:35 - An awkward formulation of Dave's outlook on the nature of evil6:15 - Expectations, emphases, and intentions for the podcast10:10 - The dire situation and fear of the consequences of speaking up12:22 - A New Hope13:23 - Expectations for Good Intentions and the approach15:32 - Fellow travelers Resources: The Good Intentions Podcast YouTube Channel - Episodes will be Live Streamed The Joe Rogan Experience “You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means” - William Goldman via Inigo Montoya Political Parties in Norway The Dream of Bill Gates and Paul Allen The Cold Civil War - Angelo M. Codevilla Dave's Other Podcast - Developer On Fire Andrea Goulet Andrea Goulet on Developer On Fire 6 Type of Empathy