Your Other Brothers Podcast

Ryan returns! We catch up on his life over the last couple years, including his VERY COOL new earring. We also celebrate our 100th ConvoCast by dusting off the oft-neglected “YOBcast Topics” spreadsheet to talk about what we WOULD talk about if we were talking about it (but we're not). Do you follow? Potential YOBcast topics like robosexuality, nudity, cuddling, arousal, and much, much more. Thanks friends for 100 conversations! COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE What topics should we discuss on the YOBcast? What stands out from the options mentioned on this episode, and what other ideas do you have? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB Convocast 100 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Ryan's Enneagram Nine ConvoCast RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts Ryan's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok MUSIC CREDIT “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Tom's brother Andy returns for his annual tradition of prepping us for the big game! We dive into the big storylines of Super Bowl LIX (or, Licks) and give our predictions for this Chiefs v. Eagles rematch of two years ago. We also spend a good portion of the episode talking about non-football things! Such as the hottest players, the Kendrick v. Drake feud, and the sexuality of various snackfoods. Oh, and Taylor Swift makes her second straight appearance on our Super Bowl episode as well. We hope you feel adequately prepared for all the festivities this year! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Josh Allen claps awkwardly Josh Allen sighs emotionally COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE What name for Andy's soon to be born daughter will blow him and his wife away?! Are you looking forward to this year's Super Bowl? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 099 RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok MUSIC CREDIT “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

State of the Sparrow year-ending update, LIVE from the Brooklyn Bridge!

Tom's younger brother, Andy, returns to discuss something besides football! Well – he does give us his Super Bowl prediction before he inevitably returns for his annual Big Game assessment podcast in a couple months. But before any football talk, we discuss his impending fatherhood! He and his wife are due with their first child, a daughter, in just a few more months. What brings Andy joy, and what causes him anxiety about becoming a father for the first time? What's Tom's biggest anxiety for his coming niece? And what trait does Tom admire the most in a leader – particularly in a parent? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE What fears or anxieties do you have about fatherhood? Or from an uncle's perspective, what specifically do you pray for with your nieces and nephews? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 098 RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok MUSIC CREDIT “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

We're back! Daniel joins Tom to recap this year's YOBBERS Retreat. As a newer member of YOB leadership, how did Daniel enjoy this retreat compared to others? We reflect on this distinction of leadership and participation with our retreat, including the challenge of not just serving a role or a function all weekend long. We also dive into our retreat's first-time art piece -- a locked birdcage with one sparrow inside and two sparrows outside -- and how this piece led to some interesting reflections from the YOBBERS. Finally, we introduce the YOB universe to our newest mascot and other brother who debuted at the retreat: Eunick. COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Did you attend our YOBBERS Retreat this year? What did YOU see in the birdcage art piece? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 097 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Tom's 2024 YOBBERS Retreat blog "Yahweh (Psalm 84)" by Shane and Shane YOB's "Heart of a Brother" playlist on Spotify and YouTube The "Lifehouse skit" (interpretive dance)   RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok MUSIC CREDIT “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.  

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Dawson returns to help us close our At Home series! Tom takes the show on the road to Athens, Georgia, where he once lived for 11 years, to share an in-person conversation with Dawson, who has lived in this city for all 31 of his years. Why did Tom leave home all those years ago, and why has Dawson stayed? Has this same city been a consistent refuge for Dawson, or have there been some darker times, even times where he thought he might leave this only home he's ever known? Both Dawson and Tom live alone, and they share the joys of their homes serving as solitary refuges, as well as the dangers of falling into self-isolation. Finally, Dawson shares how "at home" he feels his his faith, sexuality, and masculinity, including the relational strides he's taken with his biological brothers and the relational challenges that remain with certain subsets of men. COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Have you never left home? Why or why not? What's been joyous about never going or never going far, and what's been challenging? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 096 RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Simon joins Tom to share their experiences of living alone for these last several years! Has it been an independent person's paradise, or have there also been emotional difficulties? How did the pandemic impact living alone? Simon also shares his experience of growing up with a twin brother, in addition to living previously with female friends, including the challenges of perception amongst any Christian onlookers. Will Simon and Tom live alone for the rest of their lives, or do they pine for a shared living space once again? Finally, Simon shares his experience from our recently held European YOBBERS retreat and how his first event with other men has factored into how "at home" he feels in his masculinity! COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Do you live alone? What are the joys and challenges of living by yourself? Do you yearn for a shared living space, or does such a prospect cause you any pause? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 095 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Simon's first ConvoCast RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Ryan makes his podcast debut as our first native Canadian on the show! He shares his unique living situation, splitting time in the big city and also a small town living in a house with his younger brother. Both Ryan and his brother are single men in their forties -- Ryan, gay; his brother, straight. How did this living situation in a faraway town come to be? Ryan tells us the story about "taking the long way" one day, along with his initial visceral reaction to the notion of living with his little brother for the first time since their youth. Ryan also shares about formerly living with a boyfriend when he was affirming, and his journey beyond spiritual turmoil to telling his testimony for more people to hear! COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Do you live, or would you consider living as an adult with your adult sibling? What would be hard, and what could be beautiful? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 094 RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Newcomer to the podcast but not to our community, longtime member Matt shares about his life in a celibate partnership with another man. He talks about splitting time in two locations to be close to his parents as well as his partner, with whom he co-owns a house. He shares openly how there was never any sort of road map to this particular kind of "Side B" journey, connecting with some other celibate couples over time. Matt shares the joys of hospitality with his partner, as well as some of the challenges of celibate partnership -- namely, translating the essence of his relationship to certain audiences, including secular friends and the workplace. Matt also shares his journey of becoming Eastern Catholic, finding a home in his faith amid his celibate partnership. COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Are you in a celibate partnership? What are the joys and challenges of your relationship as you follow Jesus through it? Are you drawn to the notion of celibate partnership, or do you have questions, even fears about entering such a relationship that honors God? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 093 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Matt's "Life on Side B" podcast about celibate partnership RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Nhat makes his debut appearance! We celebrate his 1-year YOBiversary as he tells us his “at home” story of being married to his wife of the last four years. He shares the challenges of merging his wife's family dynamic and his own into one new family and home, as well as the joys of complimenting one another and yearning for a better home together. We also dive into Nhat's childhood as a “PK” or pastor's kid and how that has impacted his faith journey, including his coming out experience at 21. How did coming out affect his parents, particularly his father, in an Asian culture often marked by honor and shame? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Are you married? What have been the joys and challenges of merging two homes into one? How have you handled your sexuality and masculinity in this new home? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 092 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE YOBcast 092: Second Adolescence Scary Close by Donald Miller RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Harrison returns to discuss his societally common but YOB-ly uncommon home life: a wife and three kids! He shares the joys of noise in his home, as well as the challenges of wondering whether he measures up as a dad. We learn about the farm where he grew up, including the literal closet that was once his refuge. While having kids doesn't complete a man, Harrison also shares how having children has helped him lean into more of his masculinity. Perhaps there are fatherly energies we all possess as men, even beyond having biological children? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Do you have children? What are the joys and challenges of raising kids as a man attracted to men? Where else do you tap into your "fatherly energy" as a man? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 091 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Harrison's first ConvoCast, discussing male friendship Harrison's book, Bent on Men Tom's circumcision blog, "The Masculine Uncertainty of Being Uncircumcised" RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Daniel returns to discuss his life in SoCal, living with two straight men! Like Andrew, he also moved across America for a new start and a new home from the Midwest. He tells us Andrew's teased "pots and pans" story from our last episode, a snapshot of pursuing healthy communication and expectations with straight roommates. Daniel shares some of the joys of living with straight men, including the activities in which they partake with each other and all of Daniel's queer friends, as well as the challenges. What will happen if and when these straight men choose to marry women and move out? Is there still joy to be found in the seasonality of such a home life? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Have you lived with straight men? What's been joyous and difficult about sharing space with someone whose sexuality differs from yours? Have expectations been hard to communicate or meet? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 090 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Andrew's ConvoCast about moving across America to live in SoCal Daniel's first ConvoCast on body image Tom's blog, "I Just Wanted to Be a Man and Finish the Race" Daniel Black's novel, Don't Cry for Me RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Andrew returns to tell the tale of his cross-country move from Ohio to Southern California! What led him to leave the only home he'd ever known to find a new one? He shares about his upbringing in the Midwest, including many years of homeschooling, and a friend who prompted him to ponder the possibility of a new start. Andrew basks in the literal and existential sunshine of his new life in SoCal, talking about his new queer community and an accepting church that makes him feel at home in his faith and sexuality. But what of his masculinity? Where does and doesn't he feel quite "at home" in that arena? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Have you made a big move for a new start? Do you perhaps want to make such a move but feel incapable, and what's holding you back? Where have you experienced found family or chosen family beyond your biological family? Where do you or don't you feel at home in your masculinity? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 089 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Andrew's first ConvoCast, discussing Heartstopper and asexuality RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Matt returns to discuss his home life: always living with his family even as he enters his late thirties! He explains the importance of family within his Navajo culture, sharing why he enjoys regularly going home to the reservation after moving away from it. But Matt also shares why he doesn't disclose anything about his sexuality with his conservative family. Despite this withholding, Matt feels at home with his churches and friends, particularly his male friends, claiming he's never felt more masculine and comfortable in his body than he does now. Will he always live with family, or does he aspire for another living situation in the future? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Do you live with family, and if so, what are the joys and limitations of your living situation? How does your faith, sexuality, and masculinity affect your family, and vice versa? Are you out with your family, or do you hope to be one day? Do you aspire toward another living situation outside your family? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 088 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Matt's blog, "A Native American with Same-Sex Attraction" RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts Matt's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

We spend over half our lives at home; let's discuss how where we live impacts our faith, sexuality, and masculinity! Join us all summer AT HOME, as we connect with a different YOB community member in a different life stage and living situation. Today we welcome back Marshall to talk more about his unique home life: a 20-acre farm, living alongside 23 people in a central house, cabins, tiny houses, and RV's. How has Marshall enjoyed living alone in the past, and did he second-guess living with younger single men as an older single man? How did Marshall's many living situations over six decades lead to his buying this farm, and what's joyful and also challenging about leading such an intentional community of believers? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Would you like to live on a large property with lots of people in intentional community, particularly if you live a single life longterm, or does that feel daunting to you? Do you definitively know whether it's better for you to live with others or perhaps alone? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 087 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE YOB ConvoCast 064: Tom's visit to Marshall's farm RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts Marshall's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

We kick off a new summer series, AT HOME: how our current life stages and living situations impact our faith, sexuality, and masculinity. Join us each episode for a new member of our YOB community sharing his story from various life stages and living situations. We start with our “plain old gay” Matt, who has been living with other gay men, both affirming and traditional, after 15 years of living by himself. We learn Matt's home environment growing up, including how that shaped his view of what the future would look like. What have been the joys and challenges of sharing his current and recent homes with other gay men, and what does he think of the “optics” of having fellow gay roommates, if anything at all? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Have you lived with other gay men: Side A, Side B, or otherwise? What were the joys and challenges of sharing a home with gay roommates? Have you lived alone for an extended part of your life, and how has that shaped your sense of home? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 086 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Matt's first podcast on being a "plain old gay" Matt's second podcast on Gen Z fashion and a YOBBERS retreat recap RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.  

It's our State of the Sparrow podcast/community update! Tom goes on an off-the-grid trip, a new YOB ConvoCast summer series is coming, and we need new websites for YOB and YOS – which requires a talented web designer! Know anyone? Email Tom: tom@yourotherbrothers.com

Harrison Bly joins the show to discuss masculine friendship! Harrison is a member of our YOBBERS community and the author of Bent on Men, a book recently featured in our monthly YOBBERS Book Club. Both Tom and Harrison reference their books, sharing what happens after some pivotal friendships change, fizzle, or even disintegrate entirely after the final page. They discuss the friendship dynamics of connecting with straight men as well as fellow "Side B" men. What are the challenges or even road blocks to forming various male friendships? And what do we do with this loneliness epidemic which has hit men hard? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Where are the victories and struggles alike in befriending both queer and straight men? Have you read Harrison's book, Bent on Men, and do you have any takeaways from the male friendships he's written about? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 085 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Harrison Bly's book, Bent on Men Harrison Bly's podcast appearance on Husband Material Tom's book, Struggle Central RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Simon joins the show from faraway Britain as our first native UK YOBBER! He tells us about his life in Oxfordshire, including a cat and his very own "flat." Tom bonds with Simon over their shared experiences in Oxford, including the very same bedroom. Simon gives us a lovely list of Britishisms, including the definition of a "yob." He also shares some of his story with faith and sexuality, enlightening us about Side B life from a non-American country. We also have an exciting update on the European YOBBERS retreat taking place later this year! COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Are you also from the UK, or do you have another non-American story to lend about faith/sexuality? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 084 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE YOB ConvoCast 082: Tom & Daniel Pitch this Summer's First European YOBBERS Retreat! RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

It's another community update pod; catch it now before it disappears like an asteroid passing over… GET IN TOUCH Email Tom: tom@yourotherbrothers.com Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist

Erin returns to discuss the development of Your Other Sisters, including our recently held coed Zoom call with Your Other Brothers! We recap our YOB and YOS call, including a critical icebreaker of our favorite condiments. We invite all who are interested in these YOB and YOS developments to join us! Man or woman, shoot us an email to learn more: contact[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com For the rest of the episode, we discuss this current season of Lent in these weeks leading up to Easter. We share some of our spiritual upbringings, including our experience with, or without, Lent, as well as with fasting in general. What are our motivations for fasting, and how do we practice fasting in healthy, God-honoring ways? How can we take our relationships with God in this season of Lent and continue growing them on the other side of Easter Sunday? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Are you observing Lent this year, or what is God teaching you in this season before Easter? Have you practiced fasting as a spiritual discipline? What prevents you or guides your motivations in fasting? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOB ConvoCast 083 LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Tom's Lent blog: "Do I Fast to Punish Myself or Meet with God?" YOBcast 088: Advent & Sexuality YOBcast 094: Lent & Sexuality YOB ConvoCast 071: Erin Resonates with Queer Culture and Pansexuality YOB ConvoCast 072: Tom Feels Out "Androsexual" and Recaps the Series with Erin! RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB Pledge and join our Patreon community! Shop the YOB store! Give a one-time gift! FOLLOW YOB Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok YOB's "Heart of a Brother" Spotify playlist MUSIC CREDIT “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Our resident Enneagram Seven and unofficial international correspondent, Daniel, returns to pitch this summer's special gathering of YOBBERS -- in Europe! He joins Tom to discuss a smaller-scale retreat or "holiday" somewhere in the Mediterranean, inviting all who are interested to email him ASAP: daniel[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com Daniel also catches us up on his life in London -- including the exciting news that he is now a British citizen! He tells us about one country where he's already traveled with his new passport, as well as another on the horizon to see a certain female pop star perform. Finally, we invite AI to listen in on our entire Zoom conversation and summarize the episode! It's...chillingly accurate. COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Where else should YOB plan a future retreat? What theme should we explore for another YOB ConvoCast series this summer? LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Daniel's Enneagram Seven ConvoCast PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/03/08/yob-convocast-082-tom-daniel-pitch-the-first-european-yobbers-retreat RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Daniel's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/daniel/ GET IN TOUCH

First-time guest Andrew joins Tom to discuss Netflix's Heartstopper! It's a queer coming-of-age show that many in our YOB community have enjoyed, though its depictions of queer romance could also be distracting for some (nothing sexual in the first two seasons, just lots of same-sex kissing). We discuss what we loved from the characters in romantic pairings to the loyal friendships that ultimately reinforce this show. We devote our remaining time to the show's lone asexual character as two people in YOB who identify as asexual ourselves. What did we resonate with in this character, and where was the disconnect? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Have you seen Heartstopper? What did you enjoy about the show, or where did you find something lacking? If you also identify with asexuality, what did you make of the show's take with its asexual character? LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Keegan's ConvoCast on bisexuality ➡️ Tom's ConvoCast on asexuality PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/02/23/yob-convocast-081-tom-andrew-review-heartstopper-and-discuss-asexuality RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Tom's straight younger brother Andy returns for his yearly appearance on the podcast to educate us on this year's Super Bowl matchup between the Chiefs and 49ers! Beyond merely giving us the players to look out for, Vegas's odds for the winner of this game, and his own prediction, he also educates us on a truly shocking Taylor Swift lyric. We dive into all the T-Swift and Travis Kelce storylines, along with the often loud objections to their media coverage. Is toxic masculinity out of control?! COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Who do you got in this year's Super Bowl? What are your thoughts on Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's media coverage? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/02/05/yob-convocast-080-tom-andy-talk-super-bowl-lviii-and-taylor-swift RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Alex is announced as our newest regular YOB contributor, and we get right into analyzing his blogs! We start with discussing a reflection of last fall's YOBBERS retreat written by his mom and how this unique blog even came to be on our site. We also go behind the scenes and into greater depth with his recently posted blog about holding hands with his straight guy friends: one story in which a friend reached across a restaurant table to hold his hand, and another in which Alex extended his own hand toward a friend while walking with him in the park. How did fears of PDA impact both of these hand-holdings, and what other fears or insecurities did Alex wrestle with – both in the receiving and expressing of such open same-sex physical touch? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Have you held hands with a male friend, straight or otherwise, in a public setting? What fears and/or triumphs have you experienced in the realm of physical touch with other men? LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Alex's 2023 retreat blog: "Renewing Hope and Forming a Liturgy for Brothers at the YOBBERS Retreat" ➡️ Alex's mom's 2023 retreat blog: "Impressions of the YOBBERS Retreat from the Heart of a Mom" ➡️ Alex's hand-holding blog: "The Healing Power of Holding Hands with Another Man" PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/01/26/yob-convocast-079-alex-holds-hands-with-his-straight-guy-friends RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Alex's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/alex/ GET IN TOUCH

Matthew returns for a second go on the podcast as we dive into Gen Z fashion trends! Have the '80s and '90s just had a baby and its name is Gen Z? How do we feel about the enlarging of pants, the sprouting of pearl necklaces, and a resurgence in New Balances and Champion sweatshirts? Beyond their fashion choices, how do we feel about this generation's greater openness about sexuality and same-sex friendships? Tom poses some community fashion questions to Matthew as we get to know him better, namely how many hats, shoes, and flannels he owns. Finally, we look back at our fifth camp retreat held a few months ago, reveling in our victorious volleyball match against a group of teenagers. Matthew also shares with us a snippet of what he shared at the retreat when he got to speak for us one night, including the reminder that God is working and loves to work on us slowly. COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ What are your go-to fashion preferences, whether you're Gen Z or otherwise? Did you attend this past YOBBERS retreat and have any fond memories to share? And should Matthew get a thigh tattoo in his 40s?? LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ YOBBERS Retreat Blog Archive PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/01/12/yob-convocast-078-tom-matthew-analyze-gen-z-fashion-and-relive-our-5th-retreat RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Dawson, formerly Adam in previous podcasts, returns to help Tom celebrate Christmas this year! Dawson shares why he celebrates Christmas in February in addition to December, and Tom tells a Christmas tale of the first man he ever feared. We reference the "Fancy Christmas" recently spent with our YOBBERS community, including someone's goal to appreciate Jesus' humanity during what can be a complicated, if not lonely Christmas season. We also give a little Survivor 44 and Survivor 45 recap for all the Survivor fans in our midst in this final podcast of 2023! COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Do you have any unique Christmas traditions? How do you feel about Christmas this year? Is it difficult to remember Jesus through whatever complicating dynamics you experience during the holidays? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/12/23/yob-convocast-077-tom-dawson-create-new-christmas-traditions RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Aaron returns to the microphone after a nearly yearlong hiatus! Tom catches up with our former YOBcast regular, and "Mr. Finance" gives us his financial forecast for 2024. Aaron also shares about Posture Shift, a nonprofit ministry he's gotten more involved with this year as a member of their advisory council. The guys share some Posture Shift event stories, including the first time Tom publicly identified as asexual on a Posture Shift panel, while Aaron recently met one of our YOBBERS from Scotland at a Posture Shift event! Check out the links below to learn more about this incredible event and organization, along with their Guiding Families resource. LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ YOBcast 065: Loving LGBT+ People w/ Bill Henson ➡️ Posture Shift ➡️ Guiding Families: Fifth Edition COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Have you ever been to a Posture Shift event? Do you have any Posture Shift stories to share? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️  https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/12/18/yob-convocast-076-tom-aaron-pitch-posture-shift RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Aaron's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/aaron/ GET IN TOUCH

It's our post-Thanksgiving episode! Matt returns to share how he celebrates Thanksgiving with his Navajo family, including which food takes the central place of the traditional American turkey. He also educates us with a Native American fact to help us commemorate Native American Heritage Month. For the rest of our conversation, Matt and Tom discuss the topic of "Side A" friendship -- that is, friendships with gay believers with an affirming theology or an acceptance of same-sex relationships. Matt mentions a new Side A friend, and Tom discusses his own recent experience with a Side A person, comparing it with a stilted interaction from over a decade ago. Has there been growth, and what does connection despite differing beliefs look like? LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ YOBcast 062: "Side A" Friends ➡️ YOBcast 065: "Side A" Friends Q&A COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Do you have any "Side A" friends? How do you connect with people of significantly differing beliefs, or is it difficult finding common ground? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️  https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/12/02/yob-convocast-075-tom-matt-are-making-side-a-friends RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Matt's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/matt/ GET IN TOUCH

Tom welcomes first-time guest and longtime community member Daniel to discuss journeys with body image and pursuit of the ideal! They share their adolescent vantages from both sides of the scale, Daniel overweight and Tom underweight, and how the gym and general fitness practices have factored into their lives in adulthood. There's also a good amount of Enneagram talk with Daniel as a Nine and Tom as a Four chiming in from those perspectives (or is Daniel actually an Eight?). Despite the lack of the ideal body or ideal life, is there something of value we can offer the world in our seeming lack? LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Tom's book, Struggle Central: https://store.yourotherbrothers.com/product/struggle-central/ COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Have you struggled with your body image or sense of self-worth? How do you find peace in pursuit of the ideal? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/11/17/yob-convocast-074-tom-daniel-explore-body-image-and-the-ideal RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Tom updates the audience on his mindset with the YOBcast for the foreseeable future, along with the strain of navigating two identities: when the microphone is on and when the microphone is off. GET IN TOUCH

Jesse returns to discuss the summer's biggest, if not most polarizing box office hit, Barbie! Tom reads off some community feedback from our Discord as we dive into hyperfemininity versus hypermasculinity, individuality versus relationships, and all the funny, moving moments from this film as it charts a new path forward for Barbie Land and, indeed, all of humanity. Is Barbie a Side B movie to those who can accept its message?? We hope you always remember, dear listener: you are Kenough. LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Jesse's sexuality ConvoCast: Jesse Falls Under the Asexual Umbrella as Demisexual COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Did you see Barbie? What moments stood out to you? Did you gain any new insights or perspectives from this film? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️  https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/10/20/yob-convocast-073-tom-jesse-are-kenough-reviewing-barbie RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

We finish our SPANNING THE SPECTRUM sexuality series by learning more of Tom's story as Erin returns to take over hosting duties! Tom shares a new term he's still feeling out for himself: androsexual, or an attraction to masculinity. He shares about his attraction for mostly straight men, going all the way back to another boy in first grade. He also discusses being on the asexual spectrum and the shame of “missing out” on such a significant part of the human experience. To close this episode, Tom and Erin look back on the previous 9 episodes of this series, giving love to all our wonderful contributors! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Tom's first book, Struggle Central: Quarter-Life Confessions of a Messed Up Christian ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 063: Matt is Gay and Christian, But Not a Gay Christian ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 064: Marshall Prefers Not to Sexually Identify as Anything ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 065: Alex Explains His Two-Way Tension as a Bisexual Christian ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 066: Ben is Queer in a "Mixed-Orientation Marriage"? ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 067: Adam is Cross-Oriented, a Heteroromantic Homosexual ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 068: Keegan Sees the Beauty Beyond One Type of Person as a Bisexual ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 069: Jesse Falls Under the Asexual Umbrella as Demisexual ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 070: Matthew Finally Comes Out as a Plain Old Gay ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 071: Erin Resonates with Queer Culture and Pansexuality COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ How do you feel about this term, "androsexual"? What episode or story resonated most with you in this series? Did you learn anything new about sexuality? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️  https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/09/22/yob-convocast-072-tom-feels-out-androsexual-and-recaps-the-series-with-erin RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Erin returns to help us SPAN THE SPECTRUM of our community from a woman's perspective! She updates us on her developments with Your Other Sisters, including a pivotal experience at Revoice this summer where she met some prospective YOS members as well as fellow YOB members for the first time. Sexuality aside, Erin discusses a general resonance with queer culture and then explains how her sexuality most aligns with pansexuality: an attraction for people regardless of gender. She also discloses being somewhere on the asexual (ace) spectrum. Erin shares some of her journey of self-discovery with sexuality, growing up in purity culture as a woman, living in Cambodia doing missions work, eventually dating men, and getting back to America on the other side of a pandemic. It's our penultimate episode of this summer sexuality series as we soon wrap things up with our finale! Erin's Pirates of the Caribbean costume: LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Erin's first ConvoCast: Tom & Erin Want Your Other Sisters to be a Thing! ➡️ Erin's guest blog: "How Your Other Brothers Has Impacted Me as a Woman" COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Do you resonate more with queer culture than straight culture? How did purity culture shape your sexuality and sense of self-worth? Does pansexuality also best fit your sexuality? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/09/08/yob-convocast-071-erin-resonates-with-queer-culture-and-pansexuality RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Matthew makes his first appearance on the podcast after writing a couple guest blogs for us! He currently serves on YOB's leadership team and is, in his own words: "just a plain old gay." He's been active in the YOB community for years, but why did it take so long for him to share his story publicly? He opens up about his long road of coming out to himself before he could ever come out to other people, referencing his Enneagram Three shame with authenticity and difficult emotions. He talks about taking metaphorical trips to the desert to lament his dreams of marriage, family, ministry, purpose, and influence, and he also beams about his sexuality's blessings, including a moment leading worship at his first YOBBERS retreat in 2021. Join us as we continue SPANNING THE SPECTRUM of sexuality in our community! We hope you feel heard and seen, all you plain old gays out there. LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Matthew's first blog, "My Gay Secret Led Me to Becoming an Other Brother" ➡️ Matthew's second blog, "As Spring Melts the Shame of My Sexuality" COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Do you feel unremarkable as a "plain old gay"? Where have you seen God lessen or break your shame, and use your sexuality for His glory? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/09/01/yob-convocast-070-matthew-finally-comes-out-as-a-plain-old-gay RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Jesse of the great City of Oaks returns to discuss his sexuality as someone on the asexual (ace) spectrum, identifying as demisexual: someone who only develops sexual feelings when a strong emotional bond is also present. He goes into the difficulties of growing up different in a sexually charged culture, as well as the blessings of being a source of safety with his guy friends. We also dive into types of attraction, the repulsion of sex, and the chore of masturbation in this jam-packed, in-person episode! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Jesse's Enneagram ConvoCast: Jesse Can Summon Two Hours of Fun as a One! ➡️ Jubilee's YouTube video: Do All Asexuals Think the Same? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Do you also identify as asexual or demisexual? What's similar about your story and what's different? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/08/25/yob-convocast-069-jesse-falls-under-the-asexual-umbrella-as-demisexual RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Keegan returns to the podcast after two and a half years to give another perspective on bisexuality in this SPANNING THE SPECTRUM sexuality series. He shares what resonated with Alex's bi episode, like the concept of "bi panic," along with how he contrasted with the conversation as well, such as feeling like a "minority of a minority" in our YOB community. He tells his story of coming to grips with bisexuality, including how YOB played a role in this revelation. Tom and Keegan also bond over recently hanging out in person for the first time! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Keegan's first ConvoCast: "Tom & Keegan Encourage the Lurkers!" COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Are you bisexual? What resonates or contrasts with your story? Do you feel like a "minority of a minority" in Side B circles? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/08/12/yob-convocast-068-keegan-sees-beauty-in-more-than-one-type-of-person-as-a-bisexual RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

We continue SPANNING THE SPECTRUM of sexual identity in our community as first-time guest Adam opens up about being cross-oriented: physically and sexually attracted to men, and romantically and emotionally attracted to women. He also describes this orientation as "heteroromantic homosexual." We dive into the nuance of his unique orientation: why Adam doesn't identify as bisexual, and why Adam steers away from any association of "identity" to describe his orientation. We close the episode with the struggles and joys of being cross-oriented: how Adam sometimes wonders where he belongs (even within YOB as he shares an uncomfortable experience from his first retreat), and how Adam can empathize with many types of people (serving him well as an Enneagram Two). COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Do you resonate with being cross-oriented? How have you pieced together your sexuality in this journey of self-discovery? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/07/21/yob-convocast-067-adam-is-cross-oriented-a-heteroromantic-homosexual RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Ben joins Tom in-studio for a conversation on his sexual identity as we continue "Spanning the Spectrum" this summer. Ben shares about being married to his best friend, a woman, for the last 15 years and why he opts for queer over bi as his primary identifier. He discloses some of the challenges in this identification as he explains (or defends) himself with certain Christians. He also reveals the joys of his orientation, including how he and his wife have opened their home as a refuge for other queer folks. COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Do you also identify as queer, and how has your journey taken you this identification? What's your greatest struggle as well as your deepest joy in your sexuality? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/07/14/yob-convocast-066-ben-is-queer-in-a-mixed-orientation-marriage RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Ben's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ben/ GET IN TOUCH

Alex returns to discuss his sexual identity as a bisexual Christian in this "Spanning the Spectrum" ConvoCast series! Alex answers whether he's felt like a "minority of a minority" in our YOB community, and he shares his long journey coming to terms with his bisexuality -- both with himself and the Holy Spirit. He dispels the myth that he and all other bi people are 50-50 attracted both to men and women at all times and in all seasons of life. He shares why it isn't necessarily "easier" being attracted to both sexes rather than exclusively attracted to the same sex as a Side B person. And we close the episode as Alex shares the joys and blessings of being a bisexual Christian, building an empathy for all kinds of people. LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Alex's Love, Victor ConvoCast ➡️ Alex's Enneagram 4 ConvoCast COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Are you also a bisexual Christian? What's your greatest struggle as well as your deepest joy in your sexuality? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/07/08/yob-convocast-065-alex-explains-the-two-way-tension-of-being-a-bisexual-christian RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Marshall joins us as another "OG" contributor and cofounder of YOB to share his perspective on this "Spanning the Spectrum" sexual identity series. He shares why he doesn't identify as gay or SSA despite only experiencing attraction for men. He also discusses a marriage conversation he once had with a woman he dated. He shares the time of his life that presented his greatest struggles with gay temptation, as well as the thing that's brought him the most joy in his sexuality. Tom closes the conversation with a little surprise for Marshall in the form of a song! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Owl City's "Field Notes": https://youtu.be/-LZ_xoHAQfk COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ How do you sexually identify, if you do? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/06/23/yob-convocast-064-marshall-prefers-not-to-sexually-identify-as-anything RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Marshall's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/marshall/ GET IN TOUCH

We kick off a new summer ConvoCast series exploring the diverse sexual identifications within our YOB community. We start with Matt who identifies as gay and Christian, but not those two identities together. He tells of his journey from "SSA" to gay and how he recently experienced feelings for a girl for the first time in his life. He shares about going to a source outside the Church to learn whether his sexual identification is as rigid as it seems. LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Matt's blog: "Why I Don't Call Myself a Gay Christian" Matt's blog: "So, I Told a Girl I Like Her" COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ How do you identify? Do you also resonate with the tension of identifying as a gay Christian? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/06/17/yob-convocast-063-matt-is-gay-and-christian-but-not-a-gay-christian RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Matt's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/matt/ GET IN TOUCH

We conclude our 7-values series by exploring our other "ship" of discipleship! How do we define this spiritual term? Is discipleship meant only for our own growth, or is our discipleship also for the people around us? How organized or structured must discipleship of believers look? And how have we felt disqualified from discipling others in their walks with Jesus because of our sexuality? LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ YOB's 7 Values: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/values/ ➡️ Wesley's art: https://www.artofatlas.com/ COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ What connotations do you feel with this value of discipleship? Have you felt disqualified or somehow handicapped from discipleship as a sexual minority? How do you disciple others? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/05/05/yobcast-107-discipleship RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Ryan's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ryan/ ➡️ Ben's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ben/ GET IN TOUCH

Once upon a time, Your Other Brothers held to the value of brotherhood! But we've since shifted this value to one of kinship. Why the change? What does kinship evoke, both for this life and the next, and how do we build or "practice" this value of kinship? When have we felt that sense of belonging outside our blood family, and when have we felt the opposite with our sexuality and masculinity, as strangers and aliens? This second-to-last value in our 7-values series ties nicely with our last value, the other "ship" of discipleship. If kinship means climbing into a boat together, discipleship is setting sail! We hope you'll join us for the follow-up and finale soon. LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ YOB's 7 Values: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/values/ ➡️ Wesley's art: https://www.artofatlas.com/ ➡️ YOB ConvoCast 043: Tom & Alex Love LOVE, VICTOR: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/03/05/yob-convocast-043-tom-alex-love-love-victor/ COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ When have you experienced kinship with another person or a community, and when have you felt more like a stranger or alien? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/04/21/URL Slugyobcast-106-kinship RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Ryan's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ryan/ ➡️ Ben's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ben/ GET IN TOUCH

How do we walk with integrity as Side B people? Must it include a wide-scale coming out, an authenticity of the external matching our internal selves? Which experiences have defined our convictions and courage to follow Jesus as we're doing? Join Tom, Aaron, and Will for this discussion on YOB's fifth value, including the origin stories of incorporating more Jesus into our content as well as determining our symbol for integrity: cairns on a path! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ YOB's 7 Values: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/values/ ➡️ Wesley's art: https://www.artofatlas.com/ COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Which experiences have shaped your convictions on this journey? What is integrity defined for you? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/03/31/yobcast-105-integrity RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Will's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/willc/ ➡️ Aaron's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/aaron/ GET IN TOUCH

Vulnerability is uncomfortable, even scary, so why do we value it so highly in our community? Sharing our story, including our sexuality, may have once felt like the most daunting or impossible task. And yet what would have been the cost to our lives had we not been vulnerable? What if we had stayed silent, closeted, cut off from such a significant aspect of ourselves with ourselves, God, and other people? Indeed, what if vulnerability that feels like weakness is actually strength – especially when practiced in a community? Join Tom, Ben, and Aaron for quite the “bread and butter” discussion on YOB's fourth value! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ YOB's 7 Values: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/values/ ➡️ Wesley's art: https://www.artofatlas.com/ ➡️ Aaron's blog, "Running from the Call to Come Out": https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2019/08/06/running-from-the-call-to-come-out/ COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ When were you first vulnerable about your story – with others, with God, and with self? When have you seen your vulnerability beget another's vulnerability – or vice versa? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/03/18/yobcast-104-vulnerability RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Ben's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ben/ ➡️ Aaron's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/aaron/ GET IN TOUCH

Adam returns to discuss another of his (and Tom's) greatest loves: Survivor! We share our origin stories with this beloved reality show that's been airing since 2000. We spend the bulk of the episode pondering why Survivor has attracted a strong LGBTQ following over the years. Why do queer people love the show, and why do queer contestants generally do well on the show? Is survival in the game connected to survival outside the game? To close the episode, Tom and Adam share their favorite players from the first couple episodes of the currently airing season, Survivor 44! We also wonder whether our beloved show will ever feature a Side B queer contestant? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Do you also love Survivor? Tell us what first got you into the show or why you love it so much. Should we start a Survivor spinoff podcast?! And if you're watching the current season, tell us who your favorites are! PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️  https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/03/10/yob-convocast-062-tom-adam-ponder-why-queer-people-love-survivor RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH

Joy and sorrow share a tenuous connection. We explore the presence of joy in our YOB community and why it wasn't one of our original values. We bask in the joy of retreats past and explore the joy to be found in our lives and sexualities, looking to Jesus' example as he took the cup from his Father, following the joy set before him. Join Tom, Ryan, and Will for their first joyful episode together! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ YOB's 7 Values: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/values/ ➡️ Wesley's art: https://www.artofatlas.com/ COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Where have you seen and felt life's truest joys? Where have you suffered your deepest sorrows? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/03/04/yobcast-103-joy RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Ryan's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ryan/ ➡️ Will's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/willc/ GET IN TOUCH

Marshall missed his first YOB retreat last fall due to his job, and Tom thinks it's a hate crime! Tom responds to Marshall's latest YOB blog about his straight male friends who have endured beyond their marriages to women. Marshall shares about the feelings he recently fielded watching housemate James get married, as well as catching up with old friend Ben who has a child now. Marshall also dishes about his friendship with another married housemate we'll call "Geraldo," along with James' and "Geraldo's" wives, who are also his housemates! They talk about the blessings of conflict management and how friendships may come and go through the seasons of life. Ultimately, how does Marshall stay upbeat about friendships once those wedding vows are exchanged? Does it take practice having joy for another's joy despite the inevitable changing friendship, or is he just special as an Enneagram Two? LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE ➡️ Marshall's blog: "The Joys of Friendships Beyond Their Marriages" COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ When have you seen friendships grow stronger through conflict? If you're single, is it natural for you to have joy for friends who get married, or does joy feel difficult as the friendship changes? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/02/24/yob-convocast-061-tom-marshall-gossip-about-his-housemates RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ ➡️ Marshall's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/marshall/ GET IN TOUCH

Tom's other brother (and yours), Andy Zuniga, returns to preview this year's Super Bowl – featuring his beloved Philadelphia Eagles! And also the Kansas City Chiefs. Andy gives you his top storylines for the football-illiterate to look out for in this year's big game, including the first-ever matchup of BROTHERS. He also gives you advice how to support your straight friend if his team loses. We discuss the most attractive players in this year's matchup, the YOBBERS's thoughts on Rihanna for the halftime show, and the celebrities pulling for each team! As if you needed any help deciding who to root for... COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE ➡️ Who are you rooting for in this year's Super Bowl? Have any thoughts on Rihanna? Have any favorite halftime shows or commercials from Super Bowls past? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/02/10/yob-convocast-060-tom-andy-fly-like-eagles-for-this-years-super-bowl RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465 FOLLOW THE CAST ➡️ Tom's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/ GET IN TOUCH