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Okay girlfriend, we're going there. We're talking about the thing nobody talks about when it comes to eating disorders: sex, intimacy, and what's happening (or NOT happening) in your bedroom. If you've noticed your sex drive has disappeared, you're avoiding intimacy with your partner, you can't be present during sex because you're too busy worrying about what your body looks like, or your relationship is suffering and you don't know why - this episode is for you. Host Lindsey Nichol gets incredibly vulnerable about her own experience with blocked intimacy during her eating disorder - how she was physically shut down, emotionally unavailable, and performing instead of experiencing. She shares the research-backed reasons why eating disorders completely sabotage intimacy (spoiler: your body is literally in survival mode), and gives you practical tools to address it. This isn't just about emotional connection - we're talking about SEX. Physical intimacy. The bedroom. Your relationship with your spouse or partner. Because your eating disorder isn't just stealing your relationship with food and your body. It's stealing your relationship with your partner too. In this episode, you'll learn: The 5 reasons why intimacy gets completely blocked when you have an eating disorder Why your libido has disappeared (hint: hormones, energy, survival mode) How body shame follows you into the bedroom Why you can't experience pleasure when you're disconnected from your body How to check your "intimacy temperature" and get honest about where you are Exactly what to say to your partner about what's going on Practical steps to start reconnecting This is real talk. This is vulnerable. This is the conversation we need to have. So grab your favorite Tarjay journal and let's get into it. Content Note: This episode discusses sexual intimacy and eating disorders openly. Best listened to in a private space. In This Episode, You'll Hear: Lindsey's Vulnerable Truth What intimacy looked like when she was in the thick of her eating disorder Being in a relationship while physically and emotionally shut down Not being present during sex - performing instead of experiencing Constantly worried about what her body looked like during intimacy Anxious thoughts: "Is my stomach flat enough? Can he feel certain parts? Should the lights be off? Should I keep my shirt on?" The realization: She wasn't experiencing intimacy, she was performing it The Research Nobody Talks About Women with eating disorders experience significantly higher rates of sexual dysfunction Lower libido, avoidance of intimacy, relationship dissatisfaction are common We suffer in silence, fake it, avoid it, make excuses And our relationships suffer while we pretend everything is fine The Question We're Answering Why is intimacy blocked when you struggle with an eating disorder? And what can you actually DO about it? The 5 Reasons Why Intimacy Gets Blocked: Reason #1: Your Body is Literally Shutting Down When you restrict food, your body goes into survival mode Sex, reproduction, intimacy are NOT essential for survival Your hormones tank: estrogen, progesterone, testosterone plummet Your libido disappears completely You lose your period (amenorrhea) Your energy is non-existent Research shows women with anorexia and bulimia have significantly disrupted hormone levels All of these hormones impact sexual desire and function If you have zero sex drive, if intimacy feels like a chore, if you're exhausted - your body is saying "I don't have resources for this" Your body is trying to keep you alive, not reproduce Reason #2: You're Disconnected From Your Body When you spend every day hating, criticizing, punishing your body - you disconnect You dissociate from physical sensations The problem: You can't experience pleasure in a body you're not connected to Intimacy requires being IN your body, feeling sensations, being present But when you're trapped in your head analyzing what you look like - you're performing, not experiencing Research: Women with eating disorders report significantly higher body image concerns during sexual activity This directly correlates with lower sexual satisfaction and avoidance behaviors You can't enjoy intimacy when you're worried about appearance the entire time Reason #3: The Shame is Paralyzing Body shame doesn't stay in the mirror - it follows you into the bedroom When you feel disgusting in your own skin, how are you supposed to let someone see it? Touch it? The shame is so heavy that many women avoid intimacy altogether Making excuses, shutting down, pulling away Being vulnerable and exposed when you feel shame about your body is terrifying Intimacy requires vulnerability - shame blocks that completely Reason #4: You're Emotionally Unavailable When you're consumed by an eating disorder, there's no room for anything else Your entire mental and emotional bandwidth is taken up by food thoughts, body checking, planning, restricting, compensating You don't have capacity to show up emotionally for your partner Can't connect, can't be present, can't be intimate beyond the physical act Intimacy requires emotional availability When your eating disorder is screaming 24/7, you're not available - you're surviving Reason #5: Control Issues Prevent Vulnerability Eating disorders are about CONTROL Intimacy requires letting GO of control, being vulnerable, surrendering If you can't let go of control long enough to eat without anxiety, how can you surrender during intimacy? The same rigidity and need for control with food shows up in the bedroom It blocks true intimacy completely The Impact on Your Relationship: What This Means: Distance and disconnection in your relationship Your partner might feel rejected, confused, helpless They might think you're not attracted to them anymore They might think they did something wrong You feel guilty, broken, like you're failing at one more thing "I can't do anything right - not food, not my body, and now not my relationship" The Truth You Need to Hear: This is not a personal failure. This is a SYMPTOM of your eating disorder. Just like: Restriction is a symptom Body checking is a symptom Blocked intimacy is a symptom The Hope: Research shows that as women recover from eating disorders, sexual function, desire, and satisfaction improve SIGNIFICANTLY. Recovery doesn't just give you food freedom - it gives you intimacy freedom too. If your relationship is suffering, recovery is the answer. Not just for food. Not just for your body. But for your relationship too. What You Can Do About It (6 Action Steps): Step 1: Check Your Intimacy Temperature Get honest with yourself. On a scale of 1-10, where is your intimacy RIGHT NOW? Not where you think it should be. Not where it used to be. Where is it TODAY? Ask yourself: Am I avoiding intimacy? Am I going through the motions? Am I anxious the entire time? Am I emotionally checked out? Is my libido non-existent? Am I making excuses to avoid it? Get real about what's actually happening. You can't change what you won't acknowledge. Step 2: Recognize This is an ED Symptom Stop blaming yourself. Stop thinking you're broken or wrong or failing. This blocked intimacy is a SYMPTOM of your eating disorder. Your body is depleted. Your hormones are disrupted. You're disconnected. You're consumed. This isn't about: Not loving your partner enough Being inadequate Being broken Personal failure This is about your eating disorder stealing one MORE thing from you. Name it for what it is: An eating disorder symptom. Step 3: Bring It Into the Light - Talk to Your Partner This is the scariest step, but it's the most important. You have to talk to your spouse or partner about what's going on. When to Have This Conversation: NOT in the moment NOT during intimacy In a calm, safe space where you can be honest What to Say (Script): "Hey, I need to talk to you about something that's been hard for me. I've been struggling with my relationship with food and my body, and it's affecting our intimacy. I want you to know it has nothing to do with you or how I feel about you. My body is depleted, my hormones are off, and I'm having a hard time being present. I'm working on it, but I need you to know what's going on." You Don't Need: All the answers A complete plan To have everything figured out You Just Need: To be honest about what's happening To help them understand it's not about them To let them in instead of shutting them out Step 4: Start Small With Reconnection You don't have to fix everything overnight. Start somewhere small. Ideas: Physical touch that's NOT sexual - holding hands, cuddling, hugging Reconnecting with non-sexual physical intimacy first Being honest when you're not in the mood instead of forcing it or avoiding it Working on being present - staying in your body during intimacy instead of in your head Taking pressure off yourself and your partner Just start. Somewhere. Anywhere. Step 5: Work on Body Acceptance You don't have to LOVE your body to be intimate. But you do have to accept that your body is allowed to: Exist Be touched Experience pleasure Take up space This is work: Therapy work Coaching work Recovery work Daily practice work The more you work on accepting your body (not loving it, just ACCEPTING it), the more available you'll be for intimacy. Step 6: Prioritize Your Recovery If you want intimacy back in your relationship, you MUST prioritize recovery. Because the eating disorder is the blocker. What This Looks Like: Get support (coach, therapist, dietitian) Join a community Do the work of nourishing your body Work through the shame Address the control issues Heal the disconnection Recovery gives you: Food freedom Body peace Your relationship back Intimacy freedom Key Takeaways: ✨ Your ED isn't just stealing food freedom - it's stealing intimacy too ✨ Blocked intimacy is a SYMPTOM, not a personal failure ✨ Your body is in survival mode - sex is not a priority when you're starving ✨ You can't experience pleasure in a body you're disconnected from ✨ Body shame follows you into the bedroom and paralyzes intimacy ✨ You're emotionally unavailable because the ED consumes all your bandwidth ✨ Control issues with food show up as control issues with intimacy ✨ Research shows recovery improves sexual function, desire, and satisfaction ✨ You need to talk to your partner - bring it into the light ✨ Start small: reconnect with non-sexual touch first ✨ Body acceptance (not love) opens the door to intimacy ✨ Recovery gives you your relationship back Powerful Quotes from This Episode: "Let me just be really honest with you. When I was in the thick of my eating disorder, intimacy was one of the first things to go" "I wasn't experiencing intimacy. I was performing it. And I was anxious the entire time" "Research shows that women with eating disorders experience significantly higher rates of sexual dysfunction, lower libido, avoidance of intimacy, and relationship dissatisfaction" "But we don't talk about it. We suffer in silence. We fake it. We avoid it. We make excuses" "When you're restricting food, your body goes into survival mode. And guess what's not essential for survival? Sex. Reproduction. Intimacy" "You can't experience pleasure in a body you're not connected to" "Intimacy requires you to be IN your body. But when you're trapped in your head analyzing what you look like - you're performing" "Body shame doesn't stay in the mirror. It follows you into the bedroom" "When you're consumed by an eating disorder, there's no room for anything else" "Eating disorders are about control. And intimacy requires letting go of control" "This is not a personal failure. This is a symptom of your eating disorder" "Recovery doesn't just give you food freedom - it gives you intimacy freedom too" "If your relationship is suffering, recovery is the answer" "You can't change what you won't acknowledge" "Stop blaming yourself. This blocked intimacy is a SYMPTOM" "You don't have to have all the answers. You just have to be honest about what's happening" "You don't have to love your body to be intimate. But you do have to accept it" "Your eating disorder has stolen enough from you. Don't let it steal your intimacy too" Research-Backed Information: Sexual Dysfunction & Eating Disorders: Women with eating disorders experience significantly higher rates of sexual dysfunction Lower libido is common across all ED types Avoidance of intimacy and relationship dissatisfaction are prevalent Hormone Disruption: Women with anorexia and bulimia have significantly disrupted hormone levels Estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone all tank during restriction These hormones directly impact sexual desire and function Amenorrhea (loss of period) is common and signals reproductive system shutdown Body Image During Sex: Women with EDs report significantly higher body image concerns during sexual activity Body image concerns during sex directly correlate with lower sexual satisfaction This creates avoidance behaviors and performance anxiety Recovery Improves Everything: As women recover from eating disorders, sexual function improves Desire returns as hormones regulate Satisfaction increases as body acceptance grows Recovery restores intimacy capacity Questions to Reflect On: About Your Intimacy: On a scale of 1-10, where is your intimacy right now? Are you avoiding intimacy? How often? Are you going through the motions or truly present? What are you thinking about during intimacy? (Your body? His reaction? What you look like?) When did intimacy start feeling like a chore instead of connection? About Your Body: Do you insist on lights off? Shirt on? Certain positions only? Are you disconnected from physical sensations during sex? Can you feel pleasure or are you too in your head? What body parts are you most self-conscious about during intimacy? About Your Partner: Have you talked to them about what's going on? Do they know you're struggling with an eating disorder? Do they understand why intimacy has changed? Are you making excuses or being honest? About Your Recovery: Is blocked intimacy motivation for you to prioritize recovery? What would it mean to get intimacy back in your relationship? Are you willing to do the work to heal this area too? What's one small step you can take today? Who This Episode Is For: This episode is essential listening if you: Have noticed your sex drive has completely disappeared Avoid intimacy with your partner or spouse Go through the motions but aren't present during sex Can't stop thinking about what your body looks like during intimacy Insist on lights off, shirt on, or specific positions to hide your body Feel anxious or panicked about being intimate Make excuses to avoid sex Feel guilty about avoiding your partner Feel broken or like you're failing at your relationship Have a partner who feels rejected or confused Want to understand WHY this is happening Need practical tools to start reconnecting Are married or in a long-term relationship Are ready to bring this into the light and talk about it Want your relationship back Need to know recovery can restore intimacy The Conversation Starter (What to Say): The Script: "Hey, I need to talk to you about something that's been hard for me. I've been struggling with my relationship with food and my body, and it's affecting our intimacy. I want you to know it has nothing to do with you or how I feel about you. My body is depleted, my hormones are off, and I'm having a hard time being present. I'm working on it, but I need you to know what's going on." Why This Works: Acknowledges there's a problem Takes responsibility without self-blame Reassures your partner it's not about them Explains the physical reality (hormones, depletion) Shows you're working on it Opens the door for support What Happens Next: They might have questions They might be relieved you're talking about it They might not fully understand (and that's okay) The important thing is you brought it into the light Important Truths About Intimacy & EDs: Your Libido Disappearing is NOT Your Fault: It's biology. Your body is in survival mode. Sex is not essential for survival. Your hormones are disrupted. This is a symptom. You're Not Broken: Your body is responding exactly as it should to starvation and restriction. This is protective, not defective. Your Partner Isn't the Problem: Even if you're attracted to them, your body can't prioritize sexual function right now. This isn't about attraction. Shame is the Enemy: The shame you feel about your body during intimacy is what's blocking connection. The body itself isn't the problem - the shame is. Recovery Restores Everything: This isn't permanent. As you nourish your body, your hormones will regulate. Your libido will return. Your ability to be present will come back. Intimacy can be restored. You Deserve Intimacy: Even with an eating disorder, you deserve connection, pleasure, and intimacy. But you have to do the recovery work to get there. Ready for Support? Work with Lindsey One-on-One: If you're ready to prioritize your recovery - not just for food freedom, but for your relationship too - Lindsey offers personalized recovery coaching where you work through: The food piece The body image piece The relationship piece The intimacy piece ALL of it Your relationship deserves you showing up fully. Your partner deserves you being present. YOU deserve to experience intimacy without shame, anxiety, or the ED blocking it. Recovery gives you that. And Lindsey is here to help you get there. Ready for Support? Option 1: The Recovery Collective Join Lindsey's group coaching program where you'll get: Community support from women who understand Weekly guidance and tools Accountability for hard days Strategies for stomach triggers and body image struggles Option 2: One-on-One Personalized Coaching work directly with Lindsey for: Custom plan for YOUR triggers and challenges Weekly support and accountability Tools specific to your recovery journey Personal guidance through the hardest moments Learn more about both options at www.herbestself.co You don't have to navigate this alone. Let's walk through recovery together. Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co  Private Facebook Community: Her Best Self Society www.herbestselfsociety.com  1:1 Client Applications: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms . Subscribe & Review: If this episode resonated with you—if you saw yourself in Lindsey's rejection story—please subscribe to Her Best Self wherever you listen to podcasts and leave a review. Your reviews help other women who are tired of perfectionism and people-pleasing find this show and realize they're not alone. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear the truth! About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She understands how core beliefs formed in childhood can create and maintain eating disorder patterns, and she's passionate about helping women identify and transform these beliefs to find lasting freedom. If this episode helped you feel hopeful again and remember your worth isn't found in your body or on your plate, please share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Your support helps more women break the chains of limiting beliefs. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

"Lindsey, I hate my stomach. I can't stop thinking about it. It's ruining my day, my mood, my recovery. What do I do?" If your stomach is your biggest trigger in recovery - if you can't stop looking at it, obsessing over whether it looks bigger, spiraling every time you see your reflection - this episode is for you, girlfriend. Host Lindsey Nichol gets real about stomach hate in recovery and shares something her client needed to hear today: "I may not love my stomach every day, but if I'm being honest? I didn't love my stomach every day when I was in the trenches of my eating disorder either." So here's the question: Which hard do you want? Hard #1: Hating your stomach while you're restricting, obsessing, body checking, over-exercising, and missing your life. Hard #2: Sometimes not loving your stomach, but being FREE. Living your life. Eating with family. Being present. Having energy. Both are hard. But only one leads to freedom. In this episode, Lindsey shares her own stomach struggles - how she used to search for evidence it was "blowing up," how it would send her into spirals of restriction and over-exercise, and what she does NOW on the days when she doesn't love her stomach. Plus, she gives you 7 practical tools you can use on your hardest days. This is real talk with practical help. No toxic positivity. No "just love yourself." Just honest truth and actionable tools for when your stomach triggers you. In This Episode, You'll Hear: Lindsey's Stomach Story: The Disorder Days How she was super conscious of her stomach feeling or looking bigger Searching for evidence it was "blowing up" - every mirror, reflection, window The spirals: restriction, over-exercise, mood switches Feeling out of control and reacting - being short or avoidant with loved ones How stomach hate controlled her entire day, every day The Truth Bomb: Choose Your Hard Hard #1: Hating your stomach while trapped in the eating disorder Hard #2: Sometimes not loving your stomach but being FREE The reality: Even at her lowest weight, Lindsey STILL didn't love her stomach The question: What other options do you have? Why you have to choose which hard you want to live with Why the Stomach Specifically? Why the stomach is such an easy target for self-criticism How society and social media have trained us to hate our stomachs Why the stomach becomes the "safe" target instead of dealing with real feelings The truth: Restriction makes stomach issues WORSE (digestion, bloating) Reality check: Stomachs are SUPPOSED to change throughout the day Aren't stomachs supposed to be FULL? That's their job What Lindsey Does NOW on Hard Days Wears baggy clothes, not restrictive clothing Avoids opportunities to stare in the mirror and body check Reminds herself of the truth: stomachs are allowed to change Thinks about her little girl self who never cared about her stomach Remembers being pregnant and LOVING watching her stomach grow Accepts that not loving her stomach doesn't mean she's failed The Shift That Changed Everything The realization: She was NEVER going to like her stomach at any size or weight Her stomach wasn't the problem - it was a tool for self-sabotage Used stomach hate when feeling out of control or "not enough" The only way through was acceptance and perspective shift Understanding that stomach hate is usually about something else entirely 7 Tools for Your Hardest Days Stop the Body Checking - Walk away from mirrors, put on baggy clothes Ask the Real Question - What am I really feeling? What am I avoiding? Function Over Form - Your stomach digests food, that's its job Remember Your Little Girl Self - You didn't care about your stomach as a kid Choose Your Hard - Trapped and hating it OR free and sometimes not loving it Wear Comfortable Clothes - Stop punishing yourself with restrictive clothing Talk Back to the Voice - "My stomach is allowed to change and that's okay" Key Takeaways: ✨ You didn't love your stomach in the disorder either - so what are you really choosing? ✨ There are two hards: choose yours - trapped with stomach hate OR free with occasional stomach discomfort ✨ Your stomach is not the problem - it's a symptom, a distraction from real feelings ✨ Restriction makes stomach issues WORSE - bloating, digestion problems increase with restriction ✨ Stomachs are supposed to change - throughout the day, after meals, when sitting vs standing ✨ The stomach is an easy target - easier to hate your stomach than deal with underlying fears ✨ You'll never be satisfied at any size - if stomach hate is really about control and self-sabotage ✨ Body checking makes it worse - the more you look, the more you spiral ✨ Function over form - your stomach's job is to digest food, not be flat 24/7 ✨ Little girl you didn't care - the goal isn't loving your stomach, it's living without it controlling you ✨ You don't have to love it to live - freedom doesn't require stomach love, just stomach acceptance Powerful Quotes from This Episode: "I may not love my stomach every day, but if I'm being honest? I didn't love my stomach every day when I was in the trenches of my eating disorder either" "Your stomach is a huge pain point in recovery. I get it. I've been there. It's real, it's valid, and it's one of the hardest parts" "I would search - like literally SEARCH - for evidence that it was blowing up" "My mood would switch on a dime. I'd feel totally out of control" "Your stomach doesn't have to control you. It doesn't have to dictate your mood, your choices, or your day" "Both are hard. But which hard do you want?" "Even at my lowest weight, I STILL didn't love my stomach. Even then. Even at my sickest" "So what other options do you have? Stay in the disorder and hate your stomach, or recover and sometimes not love it but have your LIFE back" "The stomach is easy for us to tear ourselves apart over" "Restriction makes stomach issues WORSE. When you're not eating enough, your digestion slows down. You get more bloated" "Aren't stomachs supposed to be full? That's their job. To hold food. To digest. To nourish you" "I was never going to like my stomach. No matter my size. No matter my weight" "Hating my stomach wasn't actually about my stomach. It was just a part of me that I used to self-sabotage when I felt out of control or not enough" "When you hate your stomach, ask yourself: What am I really afraid of right now?" "99% of the time, it's not actually your stomach" "You don't have to love your stomach to live your life. You don't have to love your stomach to recover" "Your stomach is not the enemy. Your stomach is just a stomach. It's allowed to exist. It's allowed to change. It's allowed to be full" "Choose your hard, girlfriend. Choose freedom" The 7 Tools Explained: Tool #1: Stop the Body Checking When you feel the urge to look in the mirror, pull your shirt tight, or analyze your stomach - STOP. Literally stop. Walk away. Do something else. Put on baggy clothes. The more you body check, the worse the obsession gets. Tool #2: Ask the Real Question Stop asking "Why does my stomach look like this?" and start asking "What am I really feeling right now? What am I avoiding?" Get to the root. Your stomach is almost never the actual problem. Common real feelings underneath stomach hate: Feeling out of control in some area of life Fear about something coming up Feeling "not enough" in comparison to others Anxiety about a situation Avoiding deeper emotional work Tool #3: Function Over Form Remind yourself: Your stomach digests food. It nourishes you. It expands when you eat because that's its JOB. It's not supposed to be flat 24/7. That's not realistic, healthy, or even possible. Tool #4: Remember Your Little Girl Self You didn't care about your stomach as a kid. You just lived. You played. You ate. You didn't analyze your body. THAT is the goal - not loving your stomach every day, just LIVING without it controlling you. Also remember: When you were pregnant (if applicable), you LOVED watching your stomach grow. You celebrated what your body could do. Why do you hate it now? Tool #5: Choose Your Hard On the hard days, say this out loud: "I can hate my stomach and be trapped in restriction, obsession, and isolation - OR I can sometimes not love my stomach but be FREE to live my life. Which hard do I want?" Tool #6: Wear Comfortable Clothes Stop punishing yourself with restrictive clothing. Stop wearing things that make you hyper-aware of your stomach all day. Wear what feels good. Your comfort matters more than how your stomach looks. Baggy clothes aren't "giving up" - they're choosing peace. Tool #7: Talk Back to the Voice When that critical voice says "Your stomach is too big," you talk back with truth: "My stomach is allowed to change" "My stomach is doing its job" "My stomach does not define my worth" "I didn't love my stomach at my lowest weight either, so this isn't about size" "Stomachs are supposed to be full" Questions to Reflect On: About Your Stomach Hate: When did you first start hating your stomach? What do you do when you hate your stomach? (body check, restrict, over-exercise, avoid people?) Does hating your stomach actually solve anything? Did you love your stomach at your lowest weight? (Be honest) About the Real Feelings: What are you REALLY feeling when you hate your stomach? What are you avoiding by focusing on your stomach? When does stomach hate show up most? (after meals, stressful situations, comparison moments?) What would happen if you couldn't focus on your stomach anymore - what would you have to deal with? About Your Choices: Which hard do you want: trapped and hating it OR free and sometimes not loving it? What is stomach hate costing you? (relationships, experiences, peace, presence?) What would change if your stomach wasn't your focus anymore? Are you ready to stop letting your stomach control your life? About Your Little Girl Self: When was the last time you thought about your body the way you did as a little girl? What would little-girl-you think about how much time you spend hating your stomach? What did you do with your time before stomach hate consumed you? Who This Episode Is For: This episode is essential listening if you: Hate your stomach and it's ruining your recovery Can't stop body checking your stomach throughout the day Search for "evidence" your stomach is getting bigger Spiral into restriction or over-exercise when you hate your stomach Let your stomach dictate your mood, choices, and entire day Feel triggered by your stomach after every meal Compare your stomach to everyone else's Thought you'd love your stomach in recovery but you don't Feel like your stomach is the one body part you can't accept Need real talk and practical tools, not toxic positivity Are stuck between hating your stomach in the disorder vs. sometimes not loving it in freedom Need permission to not love your stomach but live your life anyway Important Truths About Stomachs in Recovery: Stomachs Change Throughout the Day: Flatter in the morning Fuller after meals Different when sitting vs. standing Bloated sometimes (especially in recovery) This is NORMAL and HEALTHY Restriction Makes It Worse: Slows digestion Increases bloating Creates more discomfort Makes you MORE obsessed with your stomach Stomach Hate Is Usually About Something Else: Control issues Fear and anxiety Feeling "not enough" Comparison to others Avoiding deeper feelings You Didn't Love It at Your Lowest Weight Either: If you still hated your stomach at your sickest, size isn't the issue Stomach hate is a symptom, not the problem No amount of restriction will make you love it Function Over Form: Your stomach's job is to digest food It's supposed to expand after eating It's supposed to be FULL Flat stomachs 24/7 are not realistic or healthy What Lindsey Does Now (Practical Examples): Morning Routine: Puts on comfortable, baggy clothes first thing Avoids standing in front of mirror analyzing Brushes teeth, does hair, moves on Doesn't give herself opportunity to spiral After Meals: Expects stomach to be fuller - that's its job Reminds herself: "Stomachs are supposed to be full" Doesn't body check or analyze Focuses on how she FEELS, not how she LOOKS On Triggering Days: Acknowledges: "I don't love my stomach today and that's okay" Asks: "What am I really feeling? What's really bothering me?" Remembers: "I didn't love it in the disorder either - choose your hard" Takes action on the real feeling instead of obsessing about stomach Clothing Choices: Wears what feels comfortable, not what's restrictive Doesn't punish herself with tight clothes Chooses outfits that let her focus on living, not analyzing The "Choose Your Hard" Framework: Hard Option #1: Hating Your Stomach While Trapped Constant body checking Restriction and over-exercise Mood swings and irritability Avoiding loved ones Missing life experiences Obsessive thoughts Still hating your stomach anyway Hard Option #2: Sometimes Not Loving It But Being Free Eating meals with family Having energy for life Being present in moments Not spending hours body checking Living without constant obsession Having relationships Experiencing joy Still sometimes not loving your stomach The Question: Which hard do you want? The Truth: You're going to have hard days with your stomach either way. At least in recovery, you get your LIFE back. Ready for Support? Option 1: The Recovery Collective Join Lindsey's group coaching program where you'll get: Community support from women who understand Weekly guidance and tools Accountability for hard days Strategies for stomach triggers and body image struggles Option 2: One-on-One Personalized Coaching work directly with Lindsey for: Custom plan for YOUR triggers and challenges Weekly support and accountability Tools specific to your recovery journey Personal guidance through the hardest moments Learn more about both options at www.herbestself.co You don't have to navigate stomach hate alone. Let's walk through this together. Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co  Private Facebook Community: Her Best Self Society www.herbestselfsociety.com  1:1 Client Applications: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms . Subscribe & Review: If this episode resonated with you—if you saw yourself in Lindsey's rejection story—please subscribe to Her Best Self wherever you listen to podcasts and leave a review. Your reviews help other women who are tired of perfectionism and people-pleasing find this show and realize they're not alone. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear that her rejection story can become her redemption story. About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She understands how core beliefs formed in childhood can create and maintain eating disorder patterns, and she's passionate about helping women identify and transform these beliefs to find lasting freedom. If this episode helped you feel hopeful again and remember your worth isn't found in your body or on your plate, please share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Your support helps more women break the chains of limiting beliefs. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Former opponents know her as “Rector”. Current players/players know her as “Bryant. Either way you put it, Lindsey is a 2023 National Champion with her Lou Fusz 2007 Girls Academy team! On this episode of Soccer Mom Sunday, host Jennifer Siess from Mine To Define chats with, now, "Coach Lindsey" about all things soccer - from her playing days in STL North County CYC and JB Marine - to collegiate soccer play at Iowa State University - to 25+ years of coaching in college (UMSL), STL Soccer Camps, and competitive youth club. Oh, and she's also a Soccer Mom too! Hear Lindsey's take on the evolution of youth soccer, needed pathway growth, challenges as a female coach, and creating a bonded team that can go on to win it all.   #loufuszsoccer #ga #womenssoccer #coaching #parenting #noco

Discover the truth about gut health as Lindsey demystifies prevalent myths and misconceptions surrounding gut health. Hear Lindsey dissect myths related to detoxes, gluten-free diets, drinking liquids during meals, diet and gut health, fiber and probiotics. Learn about important nuances in these gut health issues to make the best decision for your own gut healing. Lindsey Parsons, your host, helps clients solve gut issues and reverse autoimmune disease naturally. Take her quiz to see which stool or functional medicine test will help you find out what's wrong. She's a Certified Health Coach at High Desert Health in Tucson, Arizona. She coaches clients locally and nationwide. You can also follow Lindsey on Facebook, Tiktok, Twitter, Instagram or Pinterest or reach her via email at lindsey@highdeserthealthcoaching.com to set up a free 30-minute Gut Healing Breakthrough Session. Show notes

All of us on this show and presumably everyone who listens are likely disney parks fans and most of our listeners have been to both. A majority of our listeners are Disneyland centric fans, but how many of us remember what it was like to Go to Disneyland for the first time? As a full grown adult? We have a special guest joining us today who can offer us just that. From Conciears, we have Lindsey. Hear Lindsey tell us all of her expertise on WDW and her first impressions of Disneyland and which is better? We also review some of the recent changes to "Normal" at Walt Disney World Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carrie continues discussions with Lindsey Nelms and Tara Shiflet.  They are twin sisters, who have both struggled with alcoholism and addiction within their families.  Hear Lindsey's story on her personal struggle with alcohol.  You will hear about the night that changed her life forever when she 'woke up', after a black out scare with her nine month old baby.  She tells her thoughts on AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, and her daily steps to staying sober.  Listen to how she overcame her addiction to alcohol and how she continues to stay strong and sober, nine years later.  When you hear her voice, you can feel the power and healing she brings in her beliefs.  Her story, along with her passion keeps you captivated in wanting to know more!  Support the show

Once known as the "forbidden fruit," black currants have storied past here in the US, and Lindsey Van Dyken's family has been growing them since they were legalized in Washington less than 20 years ago. Hear Lindsey's story and the challenges her family farm has faced in growing the niche crop and other berries for a growing crowd of loyal customers. The post Lindsey Van Dyken | #092 appeared first on Real Food Real People.

From dating apps to love languages, there's so much to navigate in a modern relationship. Lindsey Metselaar, the host of the hit dating podcast We Met at Acme, joins Keep Connected to discuss the link between community, dating, sex, and romance. Hear Lindsey's advice for meeting new people, hosting singles events, and using technology to spark genuine connections. For more details on this and other episodes, visit: http://www.meetup.com/blog/category/keep-connected-podcast/We hope you'll keep connected with us. Drop us a line at podcast@meetup.com. If you like the podcast, be sure to subscribe and leave us a rating!

Peter Negline, ISTAT board member and Head of Strategy & Market Research at BOC Aviation Limited, chats with industry leaders in the appraising sector in this inaugural ISTAT Podcast series. In this episode, Peter chats with Airline Economics 40 Under 40 member and ISTAT Certified Appraiser Lindsey Webster, Vice President - Asset Valuations at Morten Beyer & Agnew. Hear Lindsey’s view on the industry’s recovery and find out more about her surprising start to a career in appraising.

In this episode I talk to Lindsey Metselaar, host of the hit podcast We Met at Acme, about all things dating and relationships. We talk about dating apps, hookup culture and dating f*boys; how to make the first move and get what you want in a relationship; the dreaded "what are we" convo (hint: DO NOT have it!); overcoming jealousy; when to sleep with someone and so much more. We answer listener questions and share our own experiences with dating disasters and relationship success. Hear Lindsey's podcast: We Met At ACME Produced by Dear Media

She wasn't supposed to be born.  Lindsey's Mom was killed in a car accident when she was 2 years old as Dad was fighting his own demons. Hear Lindsey’s story of resilience in the face of turmoil in the search of acceptance. Everyday People Podcast - By The HR Dad                                      Real Stories by Real Everyday People

"Us millennials live in a generation of suppressing and not expressing." Join We Met at Acme podcast host, Lindsey Metselaar, as she dishes her top dating mistakes and advice. Plus, she reminds you that even if you don't feel perfect about yourself right now, it's important to put yourself out there. You'll look back and wish you did.    Ps. She's right.   Pps. Come hang with us in the You're Not Getting Any Younger FB Group right here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anyyounger/   Can you drop us a review on Itunes? It would mean everything, my friends. 

  Episode 19: Hunting, Revolvers, and Training with Lindsey Gray About This Episode: In this week's episode, Amy and Emily talk with Lindsey Gray of Colt's Guns at the StealthGearUSA booth during the NRA Annual Meetings. Lindsey has been involved with firearms since a young age and is the go-to person for all products geared towards women at her family's gun store.  Hear Lindsey talk about her love for hunting, bow hunting, and how to cook venison.  The girls discuss choosing a revolver and the advantages of a revolver as well as Lindsey's every day carry gun and holster choice. Where to Find Lindsey: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindseygray_coltsguns/ Shop: Colt Guns Sponsored By: StealthGearUSA Style Me Tactical, a lifestyle blog sharing concealed carry tips, outfits, and preparedness advice. Alexo Athletica, the first active carry wear line on the market keeping women safe and stylish. Let’s Get Social: NYAGG@ConcealedCarry.com Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

Lindsey has the heart of the Father. She grew up as a pastors kid and always loved God. Lindsey attended the Bob Harrison’s Increase Conference since she was 12 years old where the Lord deposited dreams and messages of more in her. As a creative designer with a real love of excellence, Linsey shares her heart for missions and to love people. Hear Lindsey's story of what happens when seeds are sown into a child's life, then God will use it for His glory.  

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Doing Ironman South Africa and the Comrades Marathon in the same year is an effort, but hardly unattainable. Many hardcore South Africans go on to do Comrades after Ironman. The trick though is to try freshen up and avoid fatigue between the events. Hear Lindsey's tips on this edition of the Ask Coach Parry podcast. Read More · Training Programs · www.CoachParry.com

TalkFEED — Doing Ironman South Africa and the Comrades Marathon in the same year is an effort, but hardly unattainable. Many hardcore South Africans go on to do Comrades after Ironman. The trick though is to try freshen up and avoid fatigue between the events. Hear Lindsey’s tips on this edition of the Ask Coach Parry podcast. Read More · Training Programs

Getting sick ahead of the Old Mutual Two Oceans Marathon and Comrades, is a concern for many a runner. While there are precautions you can take, is a flu shot they best way to keep viruses at bay? Hear Lindsey's thoughts on this episode of the Ask Coach Parry podcast. Read More · Training Programs · www.CoachParry.com

TalkFEED — Getting sick ahead of the Old Mutual Two Oceans Marathon and Comrades, is a concern for many a runner. While there are precautions you can take, is a flu shot they best way to keep viruses at bay? Hear Lindsey’s thoughts on this episode of the Ask Coach Parry podcast. Read More · Training Programs