Cupid's Coach with Julie Ferman

Unblocking Love: Somatic Healing, Mental Load, and Authentic Connection with Linda SandervilleAre you living a life that requires constant escape? In this episode of the Cupid's Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with Albuquerque-based psychotherapist and yoga teacher Linda Sanderville to discuss how to unblock your heart and body for real connection.Linda shares her unique somatic approach, combining psychotherapy with yogic philosophy to help high-achievers manage emotional dysregulation and reset their "mental load". Discover how to stop being "crazy busy," set honest boundaries, and tap into your Capital S Self—the wise inner knowing that already knows how to win at life.Inside this Episode:• The Body-Mind Link: Why emotional dysregulation shows up physically and how to listen to your body's signals.• The Mental Load Reset: Strategies for multi-passionate women to create spaciousness for romance.• Beyond the "Hot Factor": Why prioritizing emotional safety over visual "hotness" leads to lasting satisfaction.• Intergenerational Gifts: Centering family strengths and healing just as much as generational wounds.• The "Legs Up the Wall" Challenge: A simple, 10-minute daily practice to settle your nervous system.• Radical Honesty: Using the principle of Satya (truthfulness) to stop deceiving yourself in your dating life.Whether you are navigating a "dating detox" or looking to deepen your current relationship, Linda's perspective will help you move from victimhood to resiliency.Connect with Linda Sanderville: Visit SatyaCounselingAndYoga.com for consultations, blog insights, and restorative yoga resources.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to move from "Me to We"? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #SomaticHealing #MentalLoad #DatingAdvice #YogaForLove #EmotionalRegulation #LindaSanderville #RelationshipGoals

Why is emotional intelligence (EQ) the #1 quality modern women are looking for in a partner? In this episode of the Cupid's Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with fabulous dating and relationship coach Chris Gillis. Known for his deep understanding of human consciousness and "emotional fluency," Chris explains how men can move past "spreadsheet logic" to create real, lasting chemistry.Julie and Chris explore the "empathy loop" and why acknowledging feelings must always come before trying to fix problems. Whether you're a "nice guy" struggling to get a second date or a high-achieving professional looking to deepen your connections, this conversation provides the tools to shift from performing to actually being seen.Inside this Episode:Spreadsheets vs. Soul: Why treating a woman like a problem to be solved kills chemistry and how to prioritize empathy instead.The Empathy Loop: Mastering the art of vulnerable disclosure and responding with validation.Childhood "Cheat Codes": Using early memories to bypass defensive walls and build instant comfort on a first date.Masculine & Feminine Energy: Understanding the "king and queen" dynamic and why men must lead with emotional safety.The "I'm Sorry" Test: Why the ability to admit fault is a marker of high-level emotional maturity.Detaching from the Outcome: How showing up with curiosity rather than an agenda can lead to unexpected romance.Connect with Chris Gillis: Find more coaching resources at ConsultantChris.com or follow him across all platforms @ConsultantChris.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to find your person? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #ChrisGillis #EmotionalIntelligence #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #EQ #Masculinity #DatingStrategy

Is online dating leaving you feeling more disconnected than ever? In this episode of the Cupid's Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman welcomes the ultimate people connector of Santa Fe, Maggie Lamb. As the founder of Local Singles, Maggie has built a thriving community of nearly 2,000 members dedicated to face-to-face interaction, networking, and authentic romance.Julie and Maggie dive into why building a local social circle is essential for your emotional health and how to navigate the transition from "married" to "single" with a growth mindset. Whether you live in New Mexico or are just visiting, this episode reveals the magic that happens when you step out of your comfort zone and open your heart to new possibilities.Inside this Episode:The "Tiny Town" Advantage: Why meeting singles in person is the best way to bypass the superficiality of dating apps.12 Connections in 1.5 Hours: A look at Maggie's unique, structured small-group socials that foster deep, meaningful conversation.The "Revolving Door" Myth: Why seeing familiar faces at events is a comfort, not a roadblock, and the importance of consistent attendance.Mindset for Success: How to shift your energy from "finding a person" to "contributing to the room" to boost your natural magnetism.Safety and Privacy: Practical tips for high-profile or private singles, including the use of "calling cards" and Google Voice.The Santa Fe Secret: Debunking the rumor that there are no good single men in the desert.Connect with Maggie Lamb: Join the community and find upcoming events at LocalSingles.me or find the group on Meetup.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to jumpstart your social life? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #MaggieLamb #SantaFeDating #InPersonConnection #Matchmaking #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #LocalSingles

Are you living in "boy psychology" or stepping into your true strength as a man? In this episode of the Cupid's Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with coach, entrepreneur, and author Mike Raboor to discuss his direct approach to mindset, discipline, and accountability.Mike dives deep into the concepts from his new book, "Man Up," exploring why modern culture often promotes weakness through a "dopamine economy" of immediate comfort. He shares his personal journey from a multimillionaire lifestyle of external validation to finding true internal peace through "self-applied suffering" and radical responsibility.Inside this Episode:• The "Disciplined Savage": Understanding when to embrace your inner strength and how to tame it with honor and respect.• Radical Responsibility: Why "manning up" means taking ownership of every area of your life.• Breaking the Comfort Addiction: The power of a 4:00 AM protocol, cold plunges, and morning rituals to reprogram your brain.• Boy vs. Man Psychology: Why a man produces more than he consumes and the importance of serving your community and family.• The Truth About Modern Dating: Why "Mr. Nice Guy" is actually boy psychology and why alpha women struggle to find men who can lead.• Peace Over Happiness: Why happiness is just an expectation met, while peace comes from the process of becoming who you want to be.Connect with Mike Raboor: Find more about his protocols and coaching at mikesuniversity.com or follow him on Instagram @mikeradoorConnect with Julie Ferman: Ready to find your "Natural Match"? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #MikeRaboor #ManUp #Masculinity #PersonalGrowth #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #MindsetMastery

Dating Outside Your "Type" with Jennie Agin Are you stuck in a cycle of "one-date wonders"? This week on the Cupid's Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with Jennie Agin, founder of Storyful Matchmaking, to reveal why your "type" might be exactly what's keeping you single.Discover how to reinvent your dating rules through the power of activity-based dates—from character-revealing board games to nature-focused "Adventure Rabbi" retreats. We dive into the art of the second date, sitting with the discomfort of first meetings, and finding "vicarious joy" in small moments.Key Takeaways:* Dating Outside Your Type: Why moving past surface-level preferences leads to deeper connection.* Low-Pressure Dates: How activities like board games serve as the ultimate character test.* Nailing the Second Date: Practical tips for women to suggest options while staying in their feminine energy.* Smart, Soulful Connection: Navigating the "tender" early stages of dating with open-mindedness.Connect with Jenny Agan: Visit StoryfulMatchmaking.com. Connect with Julie Ferman: Register at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #StoryfulMatchmaking #Matchmaker #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #DatingOver30 #ColoradoDating

New Year, New Intentions: Doing More of What You LoveHappy New Year, everyone! It's the beginning of 2026, and as we look ahead, I have a big question for you: What is it that you really love to do that you just haven't been doing enough of lately? In this episode, I'm inviting you to join me on a mission to bring more joy, simplicity, and open space into your life. We talk about why we often fill our calendars until there's no room left for ourselves, and why I've started scheduling everything from my naps to walks with my husband and dog.We also dive deep into the habits that build happy, lasting relationships. I share some powerful research from John Gottman about celebrating wins and expressing gratitude , and I tackle a phrase I hear way too often: "I don't want to be a nurse or a purse." I'll tell you exactly why that mindset might be the very thing keeping you single and how to shift toward a more generous, giving heart.In this episode, we'll explore:The Blessing of Simplicity: How I'm using AI to simplify my kitchen and my life.Breaking the "Nurse or Purse" Habit: Why this phrase is a total turnoff to quality men and how to actually handle financial and health expectations.Mastering the Closeness Loop: Learning the difference between reacting and truly responding with empathy.The Art of the "Lasso": Tips for women on being easy to schedule with and for men on developing patience.Secure Attachment: How to practice warmth and reliability so your partner feels safe with you.Whether you're a "Golden Bachelor" or re-entering the dating scene after a gray divorce, let's make this the year you move from "me" to "we" by being the healthiest, happiest version of yourself.#CupidsCoach #JulieFerman #NewYearIntentions #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #GottmanMethod #DatingAfter50 #TransformMeToWe

2026 Dating Trends with the "Digital Matchmaker"Are you ready to "outsmart Cupid" in 2026? In this episode of the Cupid's Coach podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with a true industry rockstar: Julie Spira, America's top online dating expert and founder of Cyber Dating Expert. With four decades of digital innovation and media experience, Julie Spira has watched every major trend shift—from the dial-up days of AOL to the AI-driven world of today.The two Julies dive into Spira's latest feature article, "Dating Trends to Expect in 2026," which outlines why singles are now demanding clarity, consistency, and emotional substance over surface-level thrills. Whether you are navigating a "gray divorce," re-entering the dating world after being widowed, or curious about the new role of AI, this episode is a masterclass in modern romance.Inside this Episode:* The 2026 Recalibration: Why "emotional safety" is replacing high-octane chemistry and performative "love bombing".* Gray Divorce as a Gateway: Viewing a late-life split as a "courageous recalibration" rather than a failure.* Widowed & Ready: Giving yourself permission to find companionship without guilt and why the "two-year rule" is officially outdated.* The "Tiny Town" Dynamics: Exploring dating in community-driven markets like Palm Springs versus the freeway-focused grind of Los Angeles.* The Digital Shift: How daters are using AI as a "warm-up tool" for pre-date nerves and why crowdsourcing your dating life on Reddit is going by the wayside.Join us for a candid look at the future of connection. It's time to stop playing games and start finding the partner who treats you right on a Monday morning—not just a Saturday night.Read the Full Article: Check out Julie Spira's Dating Trends to Expect in 2026 at CyberDatingExpert.com.#CupidsCoach #DatingTrends2026 #GrayDivorce #CyberDating #EmotionalSafety #RelationshipAdvice #Matchmaking #JulieSpirahttps://cyberdatingexpert.com/2026-dating-trends/

Doing Dating Better with the "Profile Helper"Are you feeling burnt out by the "dopamine slot machine" of modern dating apps? In this episode of the Cupid's Coach podcast, veteran matchmaker Julie Furman sits down with the "OG" of online dating, Eric Resnick of Profile Helper. With over 40 years of combined experience, they share a candid look at how to navigate the digital dating world without losing your mind—or your heart—to the wrong people.Julie and Eric dive into the shift from traditional sites to social discovery apps, the truth about "unnatural matches," and why your profile should never feel like a sales pitch. Whether you're recently divorced, widowed, or just frustrated with swiping, this episode provides the "training wheels" you need to transition from "me" to "we".Key Takeaways:* Dating App Evolution: Understanding the "sweet spot" between traditional apps and casual swiping. * The "First Week" Rule: Why you should aim to meet in person or via video within 3 to 7 days to avoid "dying on the vine". * Age & Height Reality: Moving past rigid checkboxes to focus on shared values and lifestyle alignment. * Privacy & Safety: How to protect yourself from romance scams and when to use tools like Google Voice. * Authentic Photos: Why candid "friend-captured" shots often beat stiff professional portraits. Connect with Eric Resnick: Get a free profile assessment at ProfileHelper.com.#CupidsCoach #DatingPodcast #OnlineDatingTips #Matchmaking #DatingAfter50 #ProfileHelper #RelationshipAdvice

How do you find true compatibility in dating — especially later in life?In this episode, Julie Ferman chats with Anne, founder of After Hello, about navigating age gaps, attraction expectations, lifestyle differences, and emotional intelligence in matchmaking.Key takeaways:* Why fantasy dating can set you up for frustration* How to assess compatibility beyond surface-level checklists* Managing power dynamics and expectations around money* Using phone calls and virtual dates to streamline connections* Insights from Anne's own love story and client experiencesDating later in life is about connection, alignment, and flexibility — not just chemistry.

Is the label, "Narcissist" misused and overused? Yes. Let's clear things up. Julie shares colleague Marina Edelman's short list on what narcissism REALLY is, how to spot it, and why you should run the other way.

Tim Molnar, Dating Coach/author of Date Smarter, uses research-backed strategies and social science insights to evolve the dating landscape. How developing the art of social magnetism and saying YES to IRL events is .... dating smarter.

Authenticity is the new Sexy. Bob C. Grant, Relationship Coach, shares how feelings are different for men than women. What's the magic that women bring to men's lives? A woman's success and strength - is it intimidating to men, or maybe just annoying? What does support look like, and the power of the slow burn approach to sex.

Fractured Family Relationships? Often considered a red flag in dating - Josh Coleman, Ph.D., author of "Rules of Estrangement" addresses the issue from a personal and therapeutic perspective. When values clash among family members, can we agree to disagree? Are there underlying issues at play, and what might we do ?

What 104 Dates Taught Her About Love | Heidi Friedman on The Cupid's Coach PodcastWhat does it really take to find lasting love in today's world?In this inspiring episode, Julie Ferman talks with Heidi Friedman, an attorney turned author, who documented her journey through 104 first dates on the road to true love.Heidi shares how heartbreak, patience, and a commitment to personal growth helped her discover what really matters in relationships — from emotional safety and mutual support to finding someone who helps you become your best self.You'll Learn:• How to stay hopeful and confident while dating• Why “practice dates” can be your best teachers• The key qualities that make love last• How to move past perfectionism and open your heart to real connectionWhether you're single, divorced, or just curious about modern love — this episode will give you fresh insight and hope for your own journey.#JulieFerman #CupidsCoachPodcast #HeidiFriedman #LoveLessons104Dates #ModernDating #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAfterDivorce #FindingLove #LoveStories #EmotionalIntelligence #DatingTips #PersonalGrowth #RealLove

In this episode, Julie Ferman sits down with author and trailblazer Misty O'Hara to explore what it really means to live — and love — authentically. From overcoming judgment to embracing polyamory and writing The Hundred Man Plan, Misty shares her personal evolution and the courage it takes to live outside the box.Together, they unpack ideas from Brené Brown's “Atlas of the Heart,” touching on comparison, resentment, and the power of belonging. This conversation is an invitation to honor who you truly are — in love, in life, and in every connection you make.Watch to learn:* How to deal with resentment and comparison* The real difference between envy and jealousy* Why belonging starts with being yourself* How Misty found confidence and joy in her unconventional love storyListen, reflect, and rediscover your own definition of love and freedom.#JulieFerman #DatingPodcast #TheHundredManPlan #AuthenticLove #SelfDiscovery #ModernRelationships #BreneBrown #AtlasOfTheHeart #Polyamory #Belonging #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalIntelligence #LovePodcast

Why are so many successful, capable women still struggling in love? Julie Ferman sits down with Natalia Hart, transformational coach for strong women, to unpack the hidden patterns that keep high-achieving women from finding lasting connection.Together they explore: * The deeper reasons accomplished women get “stuck” in dating * Healing from role models and cultural messages that distort femininity * Balancing power with openness — and learning to receive love * How to embody confidence and softness without losing yourselfThis episode is a beautiful reminder that strength and vulnerability can coexist — and that love often begins with reclaiming your feminine power.#JulieFerman #NataliaHart #DatingAdvice #ConsciousDating #StrongWomen #ModernLove #FeminineEnergy #HealthyRelationships #MindfulDating #DatingCoach #RelationshipWisdom

In this episode, Julie Ferman invites you to look deeper — beyond surface attraction, resumes, or “types.” It's about digging for gold in dating: noticing the qualities that truly matter, the subtle green flags, and the small acts of integrity that reveal real potential.Julie shares practical ways to shift from judging to discovering — so you can spot the keepers and stop overlooking great partners.Whether you're dating online, in real life, or somewhere in between, this episode will remind you what genuine connection really looks like.Listen in and start finding the gold that's been right in front of you.#JulieFerman #DatingAdvice #ConsciousDating #ModernLove #HealthyRelationships #MindfulDating #DatingCoach #RelationshipTips #LoveWithIntention #DatingJourney

The Bright Spot in the Waiting Room: Host Julie Ferman shares a powerful story of a client who decided to be the "bright spot" in a difficult setting, choosing to connect with people instead of staring ahead or reading a book. By simply starting a conversation with a stranger, they arranged to keep going at the same time, ensuring neither of them would be so alone. It's a powerful reminder that connection is possible, even in the hardest places.

Who's getting it? Stories of real people who are transforming the way they're doing dating, with remarkable observations and surprising results. Volunteer work, expanding geographic radius

The Art of Conversation in Dating | Julie Ferman with Sarah HoltzConversation is one of the most powerful tools we have in dating and relationships — yet most of us aren't very good at it.In this episode, Julie Ferman sits down with Sarah Holtz, author, mentor, and host of Advice to My Younger Me, to explore how asking the right questions can transform connection.They discuss:- How to avoid "ping pong" conversations- Transactional vs. connection-building questions- How men and women approach questions differently in dating- 7 tips for asking questions that create deeper bonds- First date questions that reveal what really matters — without feeling intrusive Watch now, and start asking better questions.

Miriam Katz: Host of The Ex Appeal Podcast, who's interviewing EVERYONE she ever dated. What is she learning as she interviews 111 former flames, including her 6th grade boyfriend, and the Orthodox Rabbi - she dated that guy too!

The Art of Conversation in Dating | Julie Ferman with Sarah HoltzConversation is one of the most powerful tools we have in dating and relationships — yet most of us aren't very good at it.In this episode, Julie Ferman sits down with Sarah Holtz, author, mentor, and host of Advice to My Younger Me, to explore how asking the right questions can transform connection.They discuss:- How to avoid "ping pong" conversations- Transactional vs. connection-building questions- How men and women approach questions differently in dating- 7 tips for asking questions that create deeper bonds- First date questions that reveal what really matters — without feeling intrusive Watch now, and start asking better questions.

ENM. Ethical Non-Monogamy. What is it? Who's doing it? Why is this becoming more and more of "a thing" in dating today? In dating, how to share about it if you prefer ENM, and how to ask about the issue of monogamy when vetting candidates for dating and relationships.

Renaissance Woman, Dr. Elena Michaels, shares on Gut Feelings, the importance of "I Statements" in communication. Allowing the unfolding of a relationship, without attachment or agenda. How to set the tone for the pace in dating. Using the period of "waiting" is a time of nourishment. The power of The Kiss and the argument for saving sex for later.

Tammy Shaklee, "The Fairy GayMother", helps LGBTQ+ folks find each other. Are you Your Best Self on a first date, which she calls an audition for the second date? How thoughtful or critical are you in your evaluation of others? Are you a One-Date-Wonder specialist? If so, uh oh... Managing lifestyle incompatibilities in relationships.

Dating after Divorce, after a High Conflict Divorce. Karen McMahon, founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, addresses the complexities and offers a refreshing perspective, shedding light and giving hope to survivors of divorce.

The original dating coach, Evan Marc Katz returns to share insights on the hot topics. Money, Sex, Communication, and how to navigate today's dating related puzzles.

This is a replay of Episode 36, enjoy!My guest is Arielle Ford, author of The Love Thief, a spiritual romance thriller that incorporates heartbreak, healing, and transformation.

Real, live stories from Boot Camp participants who are CAUSING things to happen for themselves. Holding eye contact, smiling, sharing a calling card, doing a little research, and mustering up the courage to extend an invitation. It's not as hard as they thought it was!

Fractured Family Relationships? Often considered a red flag in dating - Josh Coleman, Ph.D., author of "Rules of Estrangement" addresses the issue from a personal and therapeutic perspective. When values clash among family members, can we agree to disagree? Are there underlying issues at play, and what might we do?

Feeling lost or depressed? Triggered often? Stuck in PTSD from past trauma? Holistic Healer/Reiki Master, Edit Kiss shows us the value in energetic therapy for healing wounds and managing the inevitable stressors in our lives. How we can bring ourselves from misery to peace.

Transform the quality of your early dates, ALL of your conversations, and EACH of your relationships through the art of conversation. Engaging curiosity, acceptance, wonder and creating love through our words and open-hearted presence.

About your VOICE. How we say things is as important as the words we choose. Voice Coach, Pamela Prather shares how to prepare for the first-impression-moments in our lives, including our first dates. How to cultivate authenticity intentionally, through our voices. Our costume, our psychic energy, but also our tone of voice, reveal so much about us. The power of laughter and ...how to stop saying "um" - Becoming consciously competent in how we speak. And that "potty mouth" Uh oh...

Real, live stories about how beautiful, happy couples actually met. How a "chance" encounter turned into lifelong love. What did he do, what did she do to cause that first date to happen. There's a moral to every story. Join us.

Loneliness has become a crisis, an epidemic in our culture. Are you part of the problem? Can you become the solution? Are you disengaged or engaged with your fellow humans? And what might happen if you choose to become a difference-maker in your own social life and the lives of those around you?

Stuck in a One Date Wonder pattern? Are you courageous enough to challenge yourself? Vision Boards - uh oh, are they dangerous? Which criteria SHOULD you stretch on, and how Google Snooping can backfire.

How a broken foot can be a blessing. When relationships morph over time, can we hang in there? Reassessing key criteria after 35 years of marriage. Wow, huh?

Kristi Price, Matchmaker in Philadelphia & West Palm Beach, on the importance of interactive conversation, bringing care and curiosity TO the dating process. Checking expectations and rethinking the stories we tell. The lengths a matchmaker will go to usher in rock-solid MEN for our female clients Spotting The Narcissism and emotional intelligence.

To what degree are our decisions based on ego, avoiding criticism and judgment, seeking validation? The key to creating balance between work and play.

Can we cause loving feelings? How? The opportunity in conflict, and the source of chemistry and connection.

Her company's pay-per-match model and Julie Ferman's Mitzvah Matches are shaking up the dating industry; no longer is personal matchmaking reserved only for the uber wealthy. It's about time.

Does a significant age difference make sense, short-term? Long-term? Looking for your soulmate? Does your soul really care how tall he is or how wealthy he is?

Are we being honest with ourselves? What's our part in the successes and failures we have had in communication, in all of our relationships? How much courage can we muster up, to find the answers to those questions? We're doing this personal growth work together. Thank you for joining me in this oh-so-challenging conversation.

Imagine - you, playing Social Director and Personal Matchmaker for yourSELF. Developing your Posse of single pals, engaging "strangers" and causing connections to happen. Julie shares social superpower strategies to build your Little Black Book.

Why The Alpha Male in disguise is a wise choice. How she and Michael handled the "who pays for what?" issue and how they found their "We" without losing their "Me".

Are your age requirements and preferences working for you? Is the person you're "targeting" looking for YOU? Or ... maybe not. Real, live stories and lessons here for you to wrestle with. Which of these tragic mistakes are YOU making? We'll find out together.

Calling In The One author, Katherine Woodward Thomas shares about why we should "do the work" and what that looks like. Transcending our gnarly histories, recognizing and dissolving our blocks to love.

When is it OK to date more than one person? Why am I attracting the wrong people? How can I know if we're compatible? Answers here

What is it to have a sense of entitlement? Who's exhibiting this behavior? People you've dated? You, maybe? Uh oh. Let's take a close look at what entitlement is and how to avoid these people.

Who's hiring matchmakers today? What to do BEFORE you hire help. Why does this matchmaker provide so many introductions for free? And uh oh, are you seeking an Unnatural Match?

Are you partnership material...yet? Are you choosing properly? Preparing for relationship, to avoid repairing later. Upleveling humanity through discontinuing labeling. The power of curiosity, inquiry, and creating a relationship manifesto.