Podcasts about i statements

Have you ever felt that pit in your stomach when you realize a relationship you once cherished has evolved into something that drains rather than sustains you? That moment when it dawns on you that your time, energy, and goodwill are being taken for granted? This raw, vulnerable episode dives deep into the murky waters of exploitation in relationships – whether business partnerships, friendships, or professional connections.We begin by examining the subtle evolution from mutual benefit to one-sided advantage. The most insidious relationships aren't those that start negatively, but those that gradually shift until you find yourself constantly giving with little in return. Through personal stories and hard-won insights, we unpack the telltale signs: feeling undervalued, experiencing one-sided exchanges, confronting emotional manipulation, and noticing the erosion of your self-confidence.The heart of this episode offers actionable strategies for those caught in these challenging dynamics. Learn the power of "I statements" when setting boundaries, the critical importance of learning to say no (even when financial considerations make it difficult), and how to communicate your needs assertively without burning bridges unnecessarily. We also explore the consequences of remaining in these situations too long – from mental health challenges to reduced job satisfaction and the spillover effect on other relationships.What makes this conversation particularly powerful is its honesty about the fear that comes with making changes. When relationships have history, when finances are intertwined, or when you've built a reputation around always saying yes, reclaiming your worth requires tremendous courage. But as we discover, the alternative – continuing to be taken advantage of – extracts a far greater cost in the long run.Ready to reclaim your worth and transform relationships that no longer serve you? This episode provides the roadmap to recognize exploitation, communicate boundaries effectively, and make empowered decisions about which relationships deserve your continued investment.If you found value in today's show please return the favor and leave a positive review and share it with someone important to you! https://www.sharethestrugglepodcast.com/reviews/new/Find all you need to know about the show https://www.sharethestrugglepodcast.com/Official Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100077724159859Join the 2% of Americans that Buy American and support American Together we can bring back American Manufacturing https://www.loudproudamerican.shop/Loud Proud American Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LoudproudamericanLoud Proud American Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loud_proud_american/Loud Proud American TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@loud_proud_americanLoud Proud American YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmYQtOt6KVURuySWYQ2GWtwThank you for Supporting My American Dream!

This episode of Big Blend Radio's SUPERVISION MATTERS Podcast with Rita Sever focuses on Communication for Supervisors and Individuals.  Learn essential skills such as I Statements and Active Listening; Tips on Word Choice and Positive Framing; and Traps like Assumptions, Gossip, and Ignoring Problems. Rita Sever is the author of “SUPERVISION MATTERS: 100 Bite-sized Ideas to Transform You and Your Team,” and “LEADING FOR JUSTICE: Supervision, HR, and Culture.”  Learn more at https://supervisionmatters.com/  Big Blend Radio's SUPERVISION MATTERS Podcast features new episodes every 3rd Friday at 12pm PT / 3pm ET. Follow the podcast here: https://supervisionmatters.podbean.com/  This episode is also  featured on other Big Blend Radio's "Success Express" Business & Career Channel. Check out our network of podcasts: https://www.podbean.com/podcast-network/bigblendradionetwork 

Are you looking for the secret sauce to keep your relationship thriving with your spouse? Countless women have rebuilt love and connection in their marriages with this “How to Strengthen Your Marriage” eBook. Download it for FREE here: https://bit.ly/marriage-strength --------------------------------------------------------------- In this heartfelt episode of Mindful Muslimah the host discusses the silent struggle of feeling alone in a marriage, even while sharing a home and a life with your partner. Getting on from her experience as a licensed educator and coach, she shares actionable insights for reigniting connection, addressing disconnection, and rebuilding intimacy in relationships. Many couples start their journey with love and excitement, only to find themselves drifting apart as life's demands take center stage. Whether it's the daily grind, unresolved conflicts, or simply a loss of communication, the result can feel like an invisible wall growing between partners. This episode offers practical ways and faith-based encouragement to break through that wall and rediscover the bond that brought you together.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University.In today's episode, Quin discusses the unhealthy pattern of trying to express yourself and your needs toward someone you love and feeling like that person consistently receives your needs as an attack on them. In response to that, Quinn teaches listeners how to break that pattern by: 1. Understanding the difference between attack versus communication 2. Disarming statements to use to help a discussion go well 3. Tips by Dr. John Gottman for creating soft start up in a conversation Mind Renewal Tip: Focusing on what you need someone to do versus what someone did wrong disarms a person's defensiveness. Scripture Renewal Tip: The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15 7 Ways to Soften Start Up by John Gottman 1. Take responsibility 2. Complain without blame 3. Start with “I” Statements 4. Describe what is happening 5. Be polite 6. Be Appreciative 7. Don't let things build up

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"I Statements" are a well-proven, effective strategy for communicating a problem or irritation in any relationship. This morning we discuss how they work, why they work, and detailed instructions for using them effectively. This information can improve any relationship, especially those closest to you, and improve your life. Michael Whitman is the senior rabbi of ADATH Congregation in Hampstead, Quebec, and an adjunct professor at McGill University Faculty of Law. ADATH is a modern orthodox synagogue community in suburban Montreal, providing Judaism for the next generation. We take great pleasure in welcoming everyone with a warm smile, while sharing inspiration through prayer, study, and friendship. Rabbi Whitman shares his thoughts and inspirations through online lectures and shiurim, which are available on: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5FLcsC6xz5TmkirT1qObkA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adathmichael/ Podcast - Mining the Riches of the Parsha: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/mining-the-riches-of-the-parsha/id1479615142?fbclid=IwAR1c6YygRR6pvAKFvEmMGCcs0Y6hpmK8tXzPinbum8drqw2zLIo7c9SR-jc Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3hWYhCG5GR8zygw4ZNsSmO Please contact Rabbi Whitman (rabbi@adath.ca) with any questions or feedback, or to receive a daily email, "Study with Rabbi Whitman Today," with current and past insights for that day, video, and audio, all in one short email sent directly to your inbox.

Are you and your partner fighting too much, Dear Listener? Chances are you're not taking advantage of our #1 communication tool for contentious couples – I-Statements!This episode delves into the power of using I-Statements (aka I-Messages) when communicating with your partner. We explore how I-Statements improve relationships by fostering open dialogue and compassion, while You-statements often lead to defensiveness and misunderstandings.After reviewing the benefits of I-Statements, we share examples for couples that clearly show how to frame your communication around feelings and needs. By reviewing I-Statement vs You-Statement examples, you'll learn how I-Statements encourage calm and empathetic communication.Next, we give you the nitty gritty on how to use I-Statements in relationships. We break down granular differences between I-Statements and You-Statements, such as specificity versus generalization, taking responsibility versus blaming, and focusing on feelings versus thoughts. I-Statements promote understanding and collaboration in relationships, allowing room for multiple perspectives and validating both partners' experiences. But that's only if you use them correctly, so listen closely for the rules of I-Statements!By the end of this episode, you'll walk away with practical insights and strategies that you can immediately apply to your relationship. This powerful communication tool will help you create a safer and more supportive space for dialogue, enabling you and your partner to enjoy more love and connection.Key Takeaways00:00 - Intro02:42 - What are "I-Statements"?05:49 - How can "I-Statements" improve communication?12:15 - How do you properly formulate an "I-Statement"? And what's the difference between “I-Statements” and “You-Statements?”33:41 - What if I-Statements feel unnatural or forced?38:16 - Are there times I-Statements aren't useful?42:23 - What if my partner doesn't want to use I-Statements?Resources and linksFor full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcastI-Statements: A Therapist's #1 Communication Skill for Couples Who Fight Too MuchFeelings ChartTo get more free dating, relationship, and social anxiety advice, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter to sign up for – you guessed it – our newsletter!

Hey everyone, it's Jennie here with episode 150 of the LDS Mission Podcast. Today I wanted to discuss the power of our thoughts and how we can empower ourselves through more positive self-talk. As missionaries, we often experience doubts, worries and insecurities. But did you know the thoughts we choose to think can significantly impact our confidence and outlook? In this episode I share how our default thoughts can sometimes be unhelpful, and offer alternatives focused on personal empowerment rather than external factors. I also discuss the importance of using "I statements" to build ourselves up regardless of circumstances. If you're feeling discouraged or unsure of yourself, give this episode a listen to discover how switching up your self-talk could be the game-changer you've been looking for. I hope you walk away feeling motivated to embrace thoughts that strengthen your sense of agency and ability to handle whatever comes your way. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know and write a review. I know this work will help missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends.     Website | Instagram | Facebook   Get the Full Show Notes HERE   Free PDF Download:  Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet   My Free Training for Preparing Missionaries:  Change Your Mission with this One Tool   RM Transition Free Video Series:  3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home   Free Guide:  5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary   Schedule a Free Strategy Call:   Click Here  

“Remember to use your I Statements.”Kara and Penny are joined by Steve from Panels to Pixels to pull apart this plot-critical episode about trust, betrayal and deception. The trio talks about making sure your TV crushes are age appropriate, interventions, Princess Diana, the curse, fighting styles, how insecurity and trauma affects our favorite characters' behavior, Xander's pros and cons, the spectrum of rule followers, sexy Tai Chi, onion kisses, comparisons of sub-par and dated CGI, and reboot rumors.Fill in the blanks: “We're Buffy the Vampire Slayer fans, of course we “________.”Errata: Steve says that the total population of living veterans and active service members is 3% of the US population, but it is actually 7%. Next time, Season 3, Episode 8, “Lover's Walk.”Keep Slaying!News Links/Referenced LinksFind Steve at Panels to Pixels podcast at https://piratecorpsentertainment.com/Join the Zedhead community - https://www.patreon.com/jasoncabassihttps://www.hollywoodreporter.com/lifestyle/arts/hinton-battle-dead-tony-winner-the-wiz-actor-1235811408/https://screenrant.com/buffy-vampire-slayer-sarah-michelle-gellar-david-boreanaz-prom-reaction/Original Trailer/WB Promo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anCO0Enyazs TPN's Buffy Guide video for S3E7: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w9pLdVFuVP8Join the conversation! You can email or send a voice message to stillslayingfeedback@gmail.com, or join us at facebook.com/groups/podcastica and https://www.facebook.com/still.slaying.a.buffy.verse.podcast where we put up comment posts for each episode we cover. Follow us on Instagram Still Slaying: a Buffyverse Podcast from Podcastica Network (@stillslayingcast) • Instagram photos and videosTheme Music:℗ CC-BY 2020 Quesbe | Lucie G. MorillonGoopsy | Drum and Bass | Free CC-BY Music By Quesbe is licensed under a Creative Commons License.

Embodiment practitioner and teacher Ēlen Awalom joins me to talk about the promise and necessity of bringing more embodied wisdom into our world and, especially, our online spaces. We consider some approaches one can use in the context of triggering or polarizing engagements in digital forums in an attempt to return the focus back to the body and lived emotional experience in very disembodied contexts. Finally, we talk in broad terms about the importance of increasing our somatic intelligence in all areas of life, whether that's in response to the meta-crisis or our own interpersonal relationships. 0:00 Introduction 2:00 Bringing More Embodiment to Metamodern Discourse 9:13 Responding with Somatic Intelligence: Step 1. Center Yourself and Feel the Emotion 16:47 Step 2. Respond with Open Questions 20:00 Step 3. Use "I Statements" 23:15 Step 4. Know When to Step Back 31:20 The Challenge of Bypassing 36:19 Intentions for Embodied Leadership 50:19 Conclusion

What You'll Hear In This Episode:How men are not mind readers, and communication is key.Why women should express their needs and desires to their partners, despite conflicting messagesThe importance of expressing appreciation and guiding each other to be a partners in each others' lifeHow to let a partner know their importance and suggest ways they can contributePersonal experiences and the importance of expressing needs for a fulfilling partnershipThe importance of balancing positive and negative feedback in relationships:Gottman's research, and the 5:1 ratio ruleKey quotes:“Having this conversation in the right way and at the right time is an invitation to deeper intimacy. It is an invitation for a man to come closer to you." — Lisa Shield“One of the issues of asking for what a person needs is to be able to have that conversation that either moves the relationship forward or she has to know that this isn't working for her for what she ultimately wants." — Benjamin Shield “Women need to ask for what they want in a loving, kind, compassionate, non-shaming, non-emasculating way; in a way that is positive and inviting and allows the right men to come closer to her." — Lisa Shield “If he has this discussion just before in his bedtime, he's going to be up, he's going to be ruminating." — Benjamin Shield "The single most important thing we can do with our time is be looking for love." — Lisa Shield  Continue On Your Journey:Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With LisaEmail the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com 

  A good apology does not blame, it is not passive aggressive, and it does not avoid responsibility. A good apology acknowledges mistakes, takes ownership, has a healthy use of “I Statements,” and is a genuine attempt to changing behavior. A good apology has the power to model effective communication and solid interpersonal skills for those peers, colleagues, partners, or kids experiencing or observing the apology. This episode is all about apologies! Mental health professionals Nik Young and Alyssa Najera share a few ways of how not to apologize and give some solid examples of what a good apology can look like. What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast: The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health. Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts: Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of catalystcounselinginc.com, a private practice located in Modesto, CA. Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. She  is also a former Child Welfare Services social worker, supervisor, and sexual abuse forensic interviewer. Alyssa Najera is now a consultant supporting teams in high stress or helping professions and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com. Disclaimer: Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider.  Thanks for listening and we'll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut! Social Media Links Instagram @therapistsuncut Facebook @therapistsuncut Credits: Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business. Voice Over by Alexia Gloria

When was the last time you gave yourself a mental and emotional boost? Every once in a while, we need to reset and bring ourselves back to center. Feeding yourself positive affirmations allows you to elevate your mood, find a sense of peace, and shift your perspective to help you keep your life together, girl! The Get Your Life Together, Girl mini bi-monthly reset is here to help you reset and remember who you are. Find a comfortable position and take a full deep breath. Our daily lives are often too busy, overwhelmed, and even loud. As this tense and stressed framework becomes our way, we often forget who we are. In doing so, we lean into the idea of chasing perfection. Today is the day you reclaim your authenticity and lean into resetting yourself for more. Take a full deep breath, breathing in authenticity. Let it go, breathe out a sense of engineered perfection. Repeat after me, if serves you: I am an unstoppable woman who is fearlessly and incredibly living her truth. I honor all that I am. What I reflect in my daily life is a true and accurate reflection of who I am both inside and out. I also witness that as I grow and change, that reflection changes too. I welcome this understanding as it shows me how unstoppable I truly am.   As I witness my growth, I keep my authenticity at the forefront of every interaction, regardless of how others may react or oppose, because I know what is best for me. I own my life. I am the director of my story. This story is written through one fundamental truth: I am worthy of everything I desire. This truth is weaved into my present moment—a present moment that is focused on love, learning, growth, creating, and living a life of legacy. Not a legacy of financial gain, but a legacy of making others know they are worthy too. In the busyness of my life, I am slowing down. I am reflecting on what best serves me. What I bring into my awareness is of my highest and greatest truth as it reminds me to never stop growing. From now on, I release perfection and seek realness. There is nothing I cannot do. There is nothing that I cannot conquer. This is my day! My unstoppable moment of ownership is to show the world who I am, what I have the power to do, and radically allow my voice to be heard. This unstoppable me is choosing to stand in my power. Take a slow, deep breath and let it go. I choose to prosper in my truth, in my story, in this beautiful life. I am the only one who has to love my story, to fill in the blanks, to thrive and to grow. I am the reflection of all that is true and good in this world. I am honored to be so.    I AM I am, two of the most powerful words in any language. Words that direct our emotions and thoughts into movements that support us. I am unstoppable.   I am worthy of everything I desire to create. I am the reflection of all that is true and good in this world. I am honored to be so. I am thriving in the now.  I am sacredly living as the best version of me. I am authentic in everything I do. I am fearless. I am unstoppable. Anytime you need a moment to come back to center. Repeat these words and lean into your truth- the truth that you are capable of doing anything regardless of how noisy or busy your life becomes because you are unstoppable. Love this meditation and want to keep the inspiration and conversation going? Join over 18,000 members on Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok who are engaging in their own life revolution daily. Like this show? Please leave us a review here – even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Still looking for more? Visit: www.getyourlifetogethergirl.com. Until next time…be kind to yourself and others. Join THE GET YOUR LIFE TOGETHER, GIRL COMMUNITY.  

There are a lot of differing opinions on how to do things best in the classroom. This can cause some challenges when collaborating and making sure all staff members are on the same page. Even with differing opinions, expectations, and experiences, collaboration in special education is so important so we can best serve our students.It is so important that we keep the focus on our students and student progress and not get derailed by our differences. I have five strategies that will promote collaboration in special education and help set you and your staff up for success and help to minimize the challenges and pushback by focusing on respect and collaboration within the team.I would love to see your classroom visions and hear about any frustrations or challenges you're facing! Send me a message on Instagram @autismclassroomresources and share your thoughts!05:28 - Why having a classroom vision is so important and tips for creating one10:27 - The importance of active listening and letting your staff know they are heard11:32 - Why you should be using “I Statements” when making suggestions or corrections12:53 - How keeping the focus on the students and goals helps staff to see that you are on their side14:55 - Why asking your staff how you can help when there is a problem is more beneficial than just providing a solution Grab the transcript, freebie and resource links at http://autismclassroomresources.com/episode156Autism Classroom Resources' Free Resource Library... http://library.autismclassroomresources.comWant more information about the Special Educator Academy? SpecialEducatorAcademy.comJoin the Free Facebook Group specialeducatorsconnection.comMentioned in this episode:Fill out this quick survey for a chance to win an Amazon or Target gift card: https://autismclassroomresources.com/survey/

More and more I have people telling me that they're less interested in formal leadership roles. The pandemic has shifted priorities for some and for others, the idea of overseeing other adults and the headaches that often come with that doesn't sound like an appealing one.  My response?You're leading with or without a title. You're leading when you're mindful of it. You're leading when you're not mindful of it. Our words and our behaviors communicate to others whether we're consciously thinking of the outcome and impact or not. Today we will consider what this looks like, why it is important, and provide an on-ramp for our friends who are interested in a formal managerial role in the future. Until next time, communicate with intention and lead with purpose.Looking for more tips?Join our weekly email list to receive episode recaps, previews, and most importantly, communication-rooted solutions for your everyday workday questions and experiences. Sign up here: http://eepurl.com/h91B0vP.S. Check your spam folder...we like to send these out on Mondays :)Have a question for Dr. Leah OH? Is something at work driving you nuts? Have an idea for an episode? Reach out!We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions and requests via email or a voice note to TheCommunicativeLeader@gmail.com. A special thank you to PR Manager, Michael Slowik, and graphic designer, David Birkam, for their contributions to The Communicative Leader. Support the Show.Hey leader! Thanks for listening. For more leadership communication tips, check out https://www.thecommunicativeleader.com/

As we get closer to winter break, we know our schedules are going to get crazy with all the assemblies, concerts, and special events. As fun as this is for our students, it can make our typical schedule feel a bit more stressful and keeping students engaged can be a challenge. So today, I am sharing eight seasonal activities you can do with your students that will keep them engaged and give you a break from planning!       This time of year is super busy for everyone! The last thing we want to do with our limited time is come up with, plan, and prep seasonal activities for our students. The good news - I am sharing eight fun and easy activities for you to do with your students this holiday season! In this episode, I'm sharing how to use self-esteem ornaments, countdowns, trail mix, elf games, scavenger hunts, and presentations to keep your students engaged with little prep on your end!            *     Show Notes: https://brightfutures-counseling.com/podcast-episodes/holiday-resource-roundup     *     Resources Mentioned:       How to Plan a Fun Elementary School Counseling Christmas Party: https://brightfutures-counseling.com/blog/2017/12/6/how-to-plan-a-fun-counseling-christmas-party        Countdown to Winter Break - Counseling and SEL Activity Pack: https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Countdown-to-Winter-Break-Winter-Themed-Counseling-and-SEL-Activity-Pack-4190664        Conflict Resolution Christmas Activity Dress an Elf with I-Statements: https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Conflict-Resolution-Christmas-Activity-Dress-an-Elf-with-I-Statements-3526142        sELF-Control Christmas Game + Google Slides Digital Holiday Board Game: https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/sELF-Control-Christmas-Game-Google-Slides-Digital-Holiday-Board-Game-3516717        Christmas Coping Strategies Digital Activity: https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Christmas-Coping-Strategies-Digital-Activity-Holiday-School-Counseling-SEL-3520988          Enroll in the Stress Free School Counseling Course: https://www.stressfreeschoolcounseling.com/enroll       Join my school counselor membership IMPACT: https://www.stressfreeschoolcounseling.com/impact             *     Connect with Rachel:     Shop: https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Store/Bright-Futures-Counseling     Blog: https://brightfutures-counseling.com/     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brightfuturescounseling/     Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2473191466030095     If you are enjoying School Counseling Simplified please follow and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/school-counseling-simplified-podcast/id1534494971

Join Johnny for a guided meditation centered on Inner Dialogue and I Statements. The meditation officially begins at the 4:45 minute marker. Music: The Calm by Joseph Beg. Sister essay on my website: https://johnnylapasta.com/2022/11/14/inner-dialogue-i-statements/Thanks for listening to the What's the Pasta!? Podcast! Please be sure to rate, review, and subscribe. Follow me on social!@johnnylapasta

My friends, we have come to our season 1 finale. This is very bittersweet, because I've been having so much fun chatting with you each week. But now we're taking time to brainstorm and plan for season 2 (coming in the New Year). So how are we wrapping up the first season? A greatest hits! Presumptuous? Heck Yeah.  But also a whole lot of leadership communication goodness!In this episode, we're going to consider 4 distinct focuses:Leadership TruthsThe Power of CommunicationRelationships...or Playing Nicely in the Sandbox with OthersFormal & Informal Leadership: Owning and Developing Your Expertise And what about our communication tips? What will help you navigate your world with more confidence, credibility, and success? Avoiding Powerless LanguageUsing I StatementsFinding Ways to Add to Your Self-Efficacy BankRemember, Leaders are individuals who value communication and learn how to do it well.Until next time, communicate with intention and lead with purpose.  Looking for more tips?Join our weekly email list to receive episode recaps, previews, and most importantly, communication-rooted solutions for your everyday workday questions and experiences. Sign up here: http://eepurl.com/h91B0vP.S. Check your spam folder...we like to send these out on Mondays :)Have a question for Dr. Leah OH? Is something at work driving you nuts? Have an idea for an episode? Reach out!We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions and requests via email or a voice note to TheCommunicativeLeader@gmail.com. A special thank you to PR Manager, Michael Slowik, and graphic designer, David Birkam, for their contributions to The Communicative Leader. Support the Show.Hey leader! Thanks for listening. For more leadership communication tips, check out https://www.thecommunicativeleader.com/

Hi Leaders,Yes, you are a leader. What? You're not in a formal authority position? Not a manager, a director, a supervisor?Guess what? You're still a leader. You're still in a position of influence -- for yourself and for others. In this episode of The Communicative Leader, we're going to look at the ins and outs of leadership. What makes one a leader? And of course, what makes one a good leader?Good leaders create an intentional, supportive environment. How?Use positive strategies to help develop desired behaviors.Focus on changing the environment in ways that support positive behavior and discourage negative behavior.Recognize that if we want our people to meet certain expectations, we must take deliberate steps to teach them how.Have a system for responding immediately and consistently to inappropriate behavior while recognizing the importance of reinforcing positive behavior.Okay, so is this easier said than done, you ask. Focus on being respectful, responsible, and safe in your thinking, your planning, and your decision-making. Let respect, responsibility, and safety color your word choices and guide your behaviors. Challenge! I want to challenge you to think about this – not just at work, but in your personal life too. Do you stop and recycle that plastic pop bottle you walk by in the parking lot or is that not your responsibility? Are you quick to chastise a child for a poor choice, rather than providing them options or an opportunity to learn from the error? How do you communicate with yourself? Do you respect your wealth of experiences and knowledge and YOUness, or do you disrespect yourself…calling names, or using putdowns?Looking for more tips?Join our weekly email list to receive episode recaps, previews, and most importantly, communication-rooted solutions for your everyday workday questions and experiences. Sign up here: http://eepurl.com/h91B0vHave a question for Dr. Leah OH? Is something at work driving you nuts? Have an idea for an episode? Reach out!We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions and requests via email or a voice note to TheCommunicativeLeader@gmail.com. A special thank you to PR Manager, Michael Slowik, and graphic designer, David Birkam, for their contributions to The Communicative Leader.Support the Show.Hey leader! Thanks for listening. For more leadership communication tips, check out https://www.thecommunicativeleader.com/

Here's ten I-Statements about change, in the geek trades, and beyond. My hope is that it will give you a richer sense of where I'm coming from in my blogs, talks, videos, and courses. -- You can read the full transcription of this podcast over on GeePawHill.org. Any feedback, you can always tweet @GeePawHill on Twitter. To get more involved in the Change-Harvesting community, click here to join the Camerata Slack! -- --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/geepawhill/message

Have you ever heard the saying, “You've got to fall in love with yourself first?” Many women reject this idea, but the truth is, the longest relationship you will have during your time on this earth is the relationship you have with yourself. Therefore, nurturing yourself is highly important, and if you want to have a life that is together, abundant, and truly in alignment, you must put yourself first. Margaret from Austin, Texas, wrote in and said, “Danielle, in the year that I've been following your work, I've been working toward owning my life and caring deeply about myself. I've made my mental health, emotional well-being, sleep, nutrition, physical activity, and relationships a priority. However, I still struggle to put myself first in all areas of my life. I know you've said multiple times that we must hold space for ourselves and our needs, but honestly, I still find myself giving more than I should because I want to be a good person. How can we hold space for ourselves without feeling selfish or guilty? And, are there ways that I can check in with myself to know if I'm putting myself first?” Fantastic question, Margaret. Many of us need a matrix to know if we have put ourselves in first position, and that's exactly what we will work through and reset today! Doing this work comes in a few different simple and easy ways. As for holding space for ourselves, I love this is a focus of Margaret's, and I hope it's one of yours, too. For those that don't know what the means, holding space for yourself means to be present with yourself, without judgment. It means you are willing to listen to your own needs, act from a grounded place of self-love, trust, and respect, and ultimately practice empathy and compassion. This is the essential act of putting yourself first. And before we dive into the rest of the question, I want to touch on quote “being a good person” quickly. First, understand that being a good person has different definitions for each of us. One may think that being a good person means doing the right thing at all costs, even the cost of yourself. You know, doing things you dislike. Others see being a good person as not speaking up for themselves, or staying small to make others comfortable with their own unwillingness to take control of their lives. Others believe it's living as you are and trying to do your best. There are so many definitions. The problem with being a quote “good person” is that we often do unkind things to ourselves while we serve others without question and without realizing the long-term impact. The deal is this; when we put ourselves first in a genuine way, we realize that being a good person starts with how we treat ourselves. When we treat ourselves well, we have the ability to engage with others in a grounded and heartfelt way. We also realize that no one else will save or do the work for you. With this understanding, you also realize that you cannot be the one who does all the work for someone else. It's that a-ha moment that you are the knight in shining armor—the princess who has to pick up her sword and slay her own dragons, right?   With that understanding on the table, let's jump to the next part of Margaret's question. Are there ways to check in and know if you are putting yourself first? And the answer is, yes, absolutely there are! And, to be honest, there's a simple practice that you may be doing First, I want you to think of yourself and your life in the first position. The first position is the “I” perspective. I need, I want, I am. This is getting into a place where you do not see your goals, needs, and desires as something separate then yourself, but instead in the mindset of how this impacts me, and only me. “I!” To help you know if you are in the first position when you are doing something for others, they would be the second position. Instead of “I,” this is the “you” perspective of point-of-view, so you would say, “You are doing this.” Or “Are you doing that?” This you is someone else. The third position is the “he/she/it/they” perspective. So, more of a collective group. As to ways to check in and know that you are putting yourself first, we literally tune in and turn inward in the first position. Anytime someone comes to you and says, “I need your help,” you would tune in and ask yourself a series of questions. Now, these questions are mere examples. You can certainly change them and make them work for you. But I may ask myself, through the lens of the first position: How do I feel today? Do I have space mentally, emotionally, and physically to help someone else? You can also ask: what is important to me today? What do I need to do for myself today to make it the best experience? When was the last time you asked yourself this question? Most people never ask this question. Yet, focusing on how you can engage with yourself is a powerful tool that serves your self-esteem, self-love, trust, respect, and so much more beyond holding space. The next question: How can I best care for myself today? This is a straightforward way to tune in, put yourself first, and become mindful of what you need and want. As to how to hold space without guilt—saying no isn't really about the “no.” Instead, it's about: standing up for your own values, principles, and needs. It's also about prioritizing what's most important to you, as I mentioned. Once you have clarity around what you want and why and then create clear standards around them, it's easier to say no. There's deep meaning behind the “no.” With that, you'll feel empowered instead of fearful and worried, which allows guilt to fall away.  More importantly, you'll be focused on what you're saying yes to, which will be your priorities and values.  The way to approach a “no” that best keeps you in the first position is:  #1 Delay your answer: #2 Make a counter-offer if this is something you do want to do but don't have all the time to commit. #3 Be firm in your answer. #4 If you need to explain, keep it brief. We hold space for ourselves without guilt by: Being honest Don't apologize for taking and owning our own space. And we are firm in keeping ourselves a priority. Holding space is necessary. Putting yourself first is a necessity, and there's nothing wrong with it. You can offer to yourself in all the kindness you do for others.   Thank you to Margaret from Austin, Texas, for the question! I challenge you to hold space for yourself and put yourself in the first position! Doing so is an essential life tool that helps elevate and reset your mindset.    Love this mini reset and want to keep the inspiration and conversation going? Send your request to getyourlifetogethergirlnow@gmail.com. Join the 16.1K members on Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok who are engaging in their own life revolution daily. Like this show? Please leave us a review here – even one sentence helps! Also, please post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Sign up for the Get Your Life Together, Girl Insider Email here! Still looking for more? Visit: www.getyourlifetogethergirl.com and the Get Your Life Together, Girl personal development blog. If you are interested in learning more about your emotions, you don't want to miss the NEW You Are Only as Strong as Your Weakest Emotion downloadable journal! Podcast listeners receive a 50% discount off their purchase. Click here to check it out! Join THE GET YOUR LIFE TOGETHER, GIRL COMMUNITY.  

Cornell University's Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP here. This episode, "Authenticity," was first aired September 8, 2021. Three different people, three different perspectives on authenticity. We share stories about when our authenticity brought others closer to us or caused them to pull away, raise questions about the relationships between authenticity, conformity, and agency, and, at one point, don some rose-colored glasses to appreciate the vibrancy and humanity that can accompany authenticity. Hosted by Rachel Sumner PhD '15, featuring graduate students Janani Hariharan and Trevor Franklin. Read the episode transcript. *The views expressed by Fresh from the Hill hosts and guests do not necessarily reflect the opinions or policies of Cornell University.

Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mentor, host of the Mindful Mama podcast, creator of the Mindful Parenting course, and author of the book, "Raising Good Humans". This book helped me to be a better listener, bring calmness into my parenting style by using emotion coaching techniques, and model "I" Statements so children can be assertive communicators. Please see The Running Educator Blog for all resources and information on this podcast. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therunningeducator/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/therunningeducator/support

Apologies for the lack of episodes in November and December - we had some technical issues that delayed recording and, when we finally did get the episode recorded the sound quality was not great. We'll re-record our most recent, not-yet-released episode and share it with you in late spring/early summer. That's right, "I" Statements is taking a little hiatus - we're excited to bring you new episodes later in 2022 and wish you a safe, happy, and healthy transition to the new year!

We talk about what it feels like to be seen, stared at, or made invisible because of a social identity. The stories that are shared demonstrate how authenticity, self-doubt, and context can all play a role in feeling visible or invisible, especially when it comes to gender, (dis)ability, and mixed identities. We also spend a moment talking about whether being 34 counts as "old age" - seriously! Cornell University's Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP and find a transcript for this episode here.

In this episode of DOMINATE, I talk about 4 "I" Statements that can help you conquer your mindset and actions! Using these 4 statements put a new perspective on the correlation between your goals and success!    Connect with me on Instagram @_camsmith_ and/or @theblackbeltmindset 

Three different people, three different perspectives on authenticity. We share stories about when our authenticity brought others closer to us or caused them to pull away, raise questions about the relationships between authenticity, conformity, and agency, and, at one point, don some rose-colored glasses to appreciate the vibrancy and humanity that can accompany authenticity. Cornell University's Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP and find a transcript for this episode here.

This was such a great conversation with relationship therapist Paige Bond, who breaks down the worst of the worst, most problematic behaviors in relationships often referred to as the four horsemen. We dive deep into each of these: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling, and the antidotes (or countermeasures) for each one. Paige gives so many great examples of each, and helps us create better "I-Statements" to make sure that we are taking responsibility for our own actions. We also get into the topic of having a secure attachment to ourselves, which will help us create better attachments with those around us. Paige helps us understand how not having a secure attachment to ourselves may prevent us from being able to be introspective enough to recognize our own needs and improve our relationships in the process. Paige talks about having an attitude of gratitude, and I share a story about my brother's journey of gratitude that might help you appreciate your partner more! Stonewalling might be a bit confusing to some (it was for me), and we have a great conversation to help folx understand the difference between stonewalling (avoiding the conflict altogether) and taking time or space away to cool down and approach the problem when emotions are more level. Learn more about Paige at www.paigebond.com and follow her on FB: @CouplesCounselingCFL ! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/practicingpolya/support

How do experiences of nourishment help us feel connected to family members who are far away? What's it like when we don't feel nourished by communities we belong to? Can anger nourish and sustain, or does it only deplete us? Why is cat food so disgusting? These are just some of the questions explored in this episode. If you're curious about the Code Switch episode that Kathryn mentions, you can find "A Taste of Freedom" here and/or by searching for Code Switch on your podcast platform of choice. Cornell University's Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP and find a transcript for this episode here.

Drawing on our own experiences and the words of others (including: Diane Ackerman, bell hooks, Sonya Renee Taylor, Martin Luther King Jr., RuPaul Charles, and Grace Lee Boggs), we explore the topic of love: loving ourselves, loving others, and the potential for love to create profound change in the world. Other topics also emerge, including (but not limited to): sacrifice, mystery, worth, colorblindness, calves, credentials, and reality television. Cornell University's Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP and find a transcript for this episode here.

We cover practical tools to eliminate workplace injustice and help your team “get sh*t done fast and fair” with Kim Scott, author of Radical Candor @ Just Work + Trier Bryant, CEO @ Just Work! We discuss the root causes of injustice and introduce several strategies to help you interrupt bias, address prejudice & confront bullying in your organization. "You can't possibly do your best work if you are being harmed by the way you're being treated by your colleagues..." - Kim Scott "Whatever problem you're solving, whatever OKR you have... your people are the ones that get it done. So we have to optimize for that experience!" - Trier Bryant ABOUT KIM SCOTT & TRIER BRYANT KIM SCOTT is the author of Just Work: Get Sh*t Done Fast and Fair as well as Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity - (one of our community's ALL TIME favorite books!) Kim was a CEO coach at Dropbox, Qualtrics, Twitter, and other tech companies. She was a member of the faculty at Apple University and before that led AdSense, YouTube, and DoubleClick teams at Google. TRIER BRYANT is Co-Founder and CEO of Just Work LLC, the implementation counterpart to Just Work, the book. Trier previously held leadership roles at Astra, Twitter, & Goldman Sachs. She proudly served as a combat veteran in the United States Air Force, as a Captain leading engineering teams while spearheading diversity, equity, and inclusion initiatives for the Air Force Academy, Air Force, and DoD. Trier also advises leading companies like Equinox, Airbnb, SoundCloud, Alto, Rockefeller Foundation, and others on their talent and DEI strategies. RESOURCES Read Just Work (The Book): https://www.justworktogether.com/the-book Contact Just Work (The Company): https://www.justworktogether.com/our-capabilities SHOW NOTES Why Kim wrote Just Work after Radical Candor (4:58) How Trier got involved & became CEO of Just Work (7:23) The impact of workplace injustice and why it matters (10:33) The root causes of workplace injustice and the roles we play (13:51) How to interrupt and stop bias (17:01) How to use “bias interrupters” and make them a part of your culture (29:55) Why language matters & how to respond to someone concerned about the “word police” (34:22) How to address bias using “I Statements” (39:46) What to do when someone is “mansplaining” during your meeting (44:39) How to confront prejudice using “It Statements” (47:58) How to address bullying with “You Statements” (51:05) Takeaways (54:08) --- Special thanks to our exclusive accessibility partner Mesmer! Mesmer's AI-bots automate mobile app accessibility testing to ensure your app is always accessible to everybody. To jump-start, your accessibility and inclusion initiative, visit mesmerhq.com/ELC Join us for our free, full-day mini Summit - "Hiring In the New Normal" | RSVP Here: https://bit.ly/2T7SJ6s --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/engineeringleadership/message

In a conversation about the support that we give and receive (and how all this support makes us feel: vulnerable, powerful, selfish, and more!), we talk about hugs, forgotten tennis shoes, listening to someone vent on the phone, attending protests, and many other ways of showing up for each other. Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP and find a transcript for this episode here.

We chat about partnerships that work, challenges associated with forming meaningful and equitable partnerships, and what can make it so stressful to define the relationship (DTR) with a partner - one of us ends up feeling like we're in couples therapy while recording! Please do check out IDP's partnership with the Changemaker Compass podcast - we're thrilled to share our enthusiasm for dialogue in one of their upcoming episodes! Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP and find a transcript for this episode here.

Hi everyone. I hope you're keeping safe, healthy, and hanging in there. Sending love your way and my thoughts are with you.Note: This episode is only meant for educational purposes and points discussed are Dr. Sheva's opinions. This episode is not meant to provide treatment. ----I don't know about you, but I am my own worse critic. I don't usually give myself credit for the things I've done and accomplished, though I shower those around me with compliments and assurance. Today is International Women's Day and I would like to remind every woman listening to this episode that you are amazing and you are doing great. Keep doing you! Dr. Sheva Assar provides tips on how we can be mindful about how we speak to ourselves. The tone we use when we're stressed or when things don't go well is very important. Dr. Sheva is a self confidence and relationship coach who helps women improve their relationship with themselves and others to reach their full potential. She helps us understand how setting boundaries is beneficial to us and that we should be focusing on the health of the relationship with others. Dr. Sheva talks about "I Statements", where she explains the importance of the way we deliver our words to others and how it is going to land on the other person.  If you're ready to take your life to the next level and curious to find out how, then this episode is for you!FOLLOW DR. SHEVA ASSAR Dr. Sheva's InstagramFOLLOW HELLO BEAUTYHello Beauty's InstagramHello Beauty's FacebookHello Beauty's YouTubeFOLLOW JOYCE PLATONJoyce Platon's Instagram

In this episode, we delve into vulnerability connected to social identities, families, and even the vulnerable experience of talking about these things publicly on a podcast. It gets meta, folks. Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP and find a transcript for this episode here.

In this episode, a counselor talks about the benefits of using I-Statements and how to use them in conversations. Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/northwestern/when-shes-around License code: HBQ3GBOW8HGHLW20

This episode's got stories from high school, questions about medical ethics, and anecdotes about dancing with friends; the conversation ranged far and wide, though it kept returning to social identities, power, and how these show up in our experiences of curiosity. Also "curiosity vampires"? Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP and find a transcript for this episode here.

We've transitioned to a new year (finally!). In this episode, guests and listeners talk about their experiences with transitions: Transitioning into college and out of college; professional transitions and cultural transitions; physical and medical transitions; and transitioning in ways that change the connections we feel to ourselves and to others. Transitions galore! Many thanks to everyone who participated in this episode, and we're wishing you all health, peace, and growth in the year ahead! Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project (IDP) proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. You can learn more about IDP and find a transcript for this episode here.

In this episode, Jazlin, Kyle, and Rachel talk about opportunities they've had, opportunities they hope to provide for others, and where they see connections between social identities and opportunity. To hear Kyle in conversation with Anthony Burrow, the excellent graduate advisor that Rachel mentions in this episode, check out Episode 1 of PRYDE Presents: Talking Youth Research. Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms.

In this episode, Carley, Jeannie, and Rachel talk about what they try to control, how that makes them feel, and the potential impact that one individual can have in the world. Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms.

In this episode, Kathryn, Khary, and Rachel talk about what they've been taught regarding objectivity, how it can show up in science and journalism and among friends and family, and when aspiring for objectivity undermines nuanced and accurate stories about power. Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms.

In this episode, Bert, Janani, and Rachel talk about the things they imagined when they were children, how they imagine what's possible for themselves, and the role of imagination in creating a more just and equitable world. Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms. Audio production from Bert Odom-Reed.

Do you hesitate before speaking up? Fear damaging relationship, blowing up or suffering a backlash? We handle the challenges of Appropriate Assertiveness in this episode from Conflict Resolution Network’s twelve skill approach to handling conflict constructively. the 12 skills approach to resolving your conflicts constructively. We've tested and refined these skills over many years to support you in better relationships at home, at work and in the community. And help you design much better solutions, too! Our presenter is Helena Cornelius, a professional psychologist with a wealth of conflict resolving experience. It's based on the book, Everyone Can Win, by Helena Cornelius, Shoshana Faire and Estella Cornelius. Christine James has joined the writing team for this audio series. Our music is by Stewart D’Arrietta. Visit the Conflict Resolution Network website headquarters to download transcripts, personal study material and resources for trainers at www.crnhq.org

In this episode, Natasha, Rachel, and Stephen talk about their experiences learning to listen, connecting to others through listening, and asking themselves questions about who they listen to and why. Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms.

In this episode, Rachel, Rheeda, and Tony talk about rest, including how they think about rest during this historic moment characterized by a pandemic and widespread protests against anti-Black racism. They also share where and when they experience rest and ask, rest: what is it good for? Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms.

In this episode, Jeannie, Owen, and Rachel talk about when they experience connection to themselves and others, and also how some of the messages they've received throughout their lives make it challenging to connect. Spoiler alert: This episode features a cute story about friendship and an invasive species (buckthorn). Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms.

In this episode, Jum, Natalie, and Rachel discuss their expectations related to community, when and how they've built community, and the ways in which the Coronavirus pandemic has affected their experience of community. Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project proudly presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms

Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. In this episode, Baba, Janani, and Rachel describe the messages they've been told about humility, when they've been humbled, and their struggles to find the right level of humility for themselves as they move throughout the world. We'd love to include some of your voices in our next episode, which will be about community. Feel free to record a voice memo about what "community" means to you and email it to us at idp@cornell.edu. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms

Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. An additional snippet of Natoshia, Rachel, and Tony's conversation about joy! Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms.

Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. In this episode, Natoshia, Rachel, and Tony talk about what it means when they feel joy, how joy connects to the stories we tell about ourselves, and the importance of seeing one's own experiences of joy represented in the world. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms.

Cornell University’s Intergroup Dialogue Project presents “I” Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. In this episode, Rachel, Ruju, and Stephen talk about times when they’ve felt a lack of access in their own lives, examples of when having access has made them feel connected to others, and questions about what access means. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms.

Cornell University's Intergroup Dialogue Project presents "I" Statements, a podcast where complexity, vulnerability, and curiosity collide. In this episode Baba, Jeannie, and Rachel talk about intergroup dialogue. Reflecting on interactions with fellow students, teammates, and colleagues, these three describe some of the challenges and opportunities they’ve experienced when having candid conversations about social identity. Music written and performed by Evan Wilhelms

I-Statements are a technique often recommended by counselors and therapists to help with communication. They're supposed to reduce defensiveness when trying to resolve conflicts by focusing on how you feel, rather than attacking the other person's behavior. As a school counselor, I used to teach I-Statements to my students until I realized that they were mostly ineffective and dis-empowering. Join me for this episode as I explain my thoughts about I-Statements and a more useful way to go about solving problems. www.lessdramamoremama.com/051

Today we answer your questions about how to help your partner heal family wounds, how to use the Clearing Structure and “I Statements” with more than just your partner, and we explore how to change the pattern of disappointment in your marriage. Today’s show is brought to you by Audible, get your FREE Audiobook when you visit http://audibletrial.com/anatomyofmarriage

My husband won't talk to me, our listener states. We can relate to a gap in our own communication. In our relationship, before we made changes, we did not communicate all of our deepest feelings with one another. It was way too personal and vulnerable. It wasn't that we didn't want to talk to one another about the deeper stuff, we just didn't know how. So, If you haven't had practice at sharing your feelings before, where do you start? First, prepare to feel awkward and uncomfortable. Just like learning a new job, or a new activity, you are coming in as a beginner. Just like learning a new sport, be open and curious about the skills needed and commit to practicing.Jon and I started by both admitting to one another that we were deficient in sharing feelings. We also agreed to the fact we were both going to suck at first. So, we created a safe place where we were not going to make fun of each other as we tried like children to speak the language of emotion. If I did it wrong, I knew I wouldn't be ridiculed. I needed to be tolerant with myself not being good at it right away. ~ Jon We started with feeling words that were more generic, such as I feel happy or I feel frustrated. We started easy.."how did you feel about your non-stick pan?" Leaving behind our aggressive and passive attempts at communicating feelings to one another we grew from expressing feelings in childish ways (slamming doors, sighing), to that of adults where we used words. Wha? This was also a change from if you really loved me you would know what I am feeling by my lack of eye contact or behavior, to sharing emotions with I Statements. "I feel.. In order to share emotions, you need to honor them from a neutral place, refrain from judgment of them being bad or good. And it helps to use a list of feeling words to practice, letting go the usual cover up of "I feel good, or I'm fine." It may not be that your husband won't talk to you, it could be that he just doesn't know how and the emotional language is new to him, and perhaps new to you too. (Theme music: Ethan Anderson, Photo credit: Joshua Sortino) Subscribe & Review in iTunes Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would love to have you! We are adding to our relationship episodes by the week and want to keep you connected to the community. Click here to subscribe in iTunes! If any of our ramblings have been helpful to your relationship, we would be grateful if you would let us know by leaving a review on iTunes. Such reviews are how others find our podcast, and how our community grows. We also enjoy reading them and learning more about how the podcast has been loving in your life. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review." Thank you, friend! "My Husband Won't Talk to Me" Relationship Podcast Gems: Jon's "special pan" is now trash after a deep frying incident.Jema practiced her feeling words with unsuspecting cashiers. Decide together on a time to check in and start practicing your feelings.Is your husband even aware that you want to know about his emotions? Express the desire to know him more deeply. It takes one person in the relationship to take the chance and be vulnerable.A List of Feeling Words

This week I take a look at the therapeutic technique of I-Statements, Aristotle's consideration of the sense of touch, and I look at the Aristotelian concept of hylomorphism - that is, the relationship between form and matter. Check us out over at the website www.ColorOfThought.com Become a Patron today and get many more colorful thoughts in your life at www.Patreon.com/ColorOfThought

In today's Episode we want to share a few different fight styles and how destructive they are, BUT, we also give you simple steps you can take today, to manage how you argument in a more healthy way! Criticism and Blaming (1st) You are always late! "You never get off your phone" "You never..." "You always..."  This style could lead to contempt and you begin to attack their character and you now add the word 'Because...' "You are always late...BECAUSE you are so lazy!" "You never get off your phone...BECAUSE you are so selfish" There are 2 ways to respond to this. Defensiveness (2nd) With this style, once you hear any accusations or comments against you, you are quick to react, your v olume rises and you pull up the shield and begin to defend yourself.   This could lead to defensive and harsh responses such as  "Just shut up!"  "Oh never mind" And then you begin to move into belittling the person and also start attacking them as a person "Just shut up, you're so stupid!" This style makes it difficult to have a conversation with someone so defensive.  The conversation escalates, you start going back and forth and you both go nowhere. Stonewalling (3rd) A good word picture. You become cold, hard, and nothing is getting through. You are a stone wall! By completely shutting down, the conversation ends, they don't exist to you and it makes the other person feel like they don't matter.   They can become, nothing gets solved, issues get swept under the under the rug and then fight after fight, you end up building a mountain of unsolved issues.   What can you do to Manage these?   Criticism/Blaming   Begin using  "I" Statements (own your feelings) instead you "You: statements   Try using the XYZ Forumula by Les and Leslie Parrott In situation X, when you do Y, I feel Z "At night when we're getting ready for bed, when you stay on your phone, I feel like I don't matter"  A complaint is easier to react to, instead of a criticism.    Defensiveness Own your responsibilities.  Take what happened and avoid repeating them now that you know how it makes them feel.   Stonewalling Let your spouse know you need time to process the issue.  Give them an appropriate amount of time and then return to them and discuss.  This eliminates the emotions around it and you can solve things respectfully.    The One Key In every argument or even fight, it's not always an agreement but it's more of an understanding of the person and their perspective. And this can cause your relationship to draw closer, instead of pushing you further apart!

Warnings: This ep contains strong language. Discussed In This Episode: Wacky Dreams, Why Did I Ask That, Massages, Expectations, Not the Lead Character, Evolving Priorities, "I" Statements, Loss of Nuance in the Twitter Age, Capital "J" joke, Irish vs drunk, Twitter Break Music courtesy of www.bensound.com

Warnings: This episode contains strong language  With special guest Ross Marquand! Discussed in this Episode: Breastfeeding, Get OK With Bodies, Wanting Attention, Starting Projects, 20 Minutes at a Time, To Do Lists, Better Than Nothing, Public Beef, Vague Statuses, Toxic Internet, Feed the Unicorns, Visible Tattoos, Dress Code, Headphone Violation, Skymall, American vs. British, What to do when Someone Says Something Terrible, Being a Good Listener, Constant Flakes, Say What You Need, Be Direct, "I" Statements, Not Looking for a Relationship Music courtesy of www.bensound.com

Today's episode is one of those beautiful accidents. What started as an episode geared toward individual athlete motivation quickly turned into a discussion about building systems that can motivate your athletes for years to come. Erin Matyak is a business strategist for one of the largest healthcare software companies in the world. As someone in charge of turning the archaic ship of medical records around, she knows what it takes to create motivating systems. This episode is worth a careful listen. Toward the end, she discusses some "I Statements" that I challenge you to do for your gym. Now, go out there and crush it.

In today’s episode we talk about feedback: why it’s important, considering the relationship, and how to give it. My answer is with love and logic, not to be confused with the parenting book. I mentioned a technique called an “I” statement. Here’s the best link I could find from a parenting website: I Statements