Poly Pocket Podcast

Well... What a journey we've all been on for the past 100 episodes. In case you haven't listened to all of them, we've tried to sum up the core thinking behind this podcast into a single episode for you. (If you have listened to the previous 99, then this is just some light revision, GCSE style)Thank you as always for your support. We will be taking a few weeks off to plan for what we're euphemistically calling 'Season 2' and will be back in the summer.In the meantime, we'll be posting what we get up to via Instagram @poly_pocket_show and you can e-mail any ideas for the show to hunter@polypocketpodcast.com or ask Butcher on a date at butcher@polypocketpodcast.comFor now though, keep us and your protection, in your pocket

This weeks episode did not go to plan... So we've had to panic record a quick update (and an apology) and we'll be back on track for Episode 100 next week.As always, send us your feedback, ideas and advice to hunter@polypocketpodcast.comLink in bio

This CNM journey can be a rocky one and in this episode we took a closer look at why people would pause from it. The focus was mainly supposed to be swinging but it's us so there are natural intersections and free flowing conversations that goes across a spectrum of CNM practices!Link in the bio ❤️

There were a lot of feelings and emotions going around with this particular episode. Butcher got angry, Hunter talked her down

Going to put it out there - Butcher was not well when we recorded this so we hope it makes sense and somewhat entertaining. We will at some point dig deeper into this topic considering all types of partners but for now we wanted to focus on the anchor partner comms!Let us know your thoughts! Link in the bio ❤️

In this episode we discuss the art of managing the de-escalation of relationships when you're polyamorous and the potential reasons why you might do this.It still surprises us how difficult break-ups in changes to dynamics (especially if you're effectively going back on something) can be. In this episode we try and unpick this whilst also asking for kindness and grace when dealing with others heads and hearts.Have a listen and as always, let us know what you think! Link in the bio ❤️

An insightful conversation with the brains behind PolyamoryUK. This dream team - James and Jo are living their fullest, authentic poly lives and were absolutely here for it!We touched on so many things but fundamentally we discussed how Polyamory works here in Great Britain. The pros and cons. These two need to come back on again soon and we're looking forward to future collaboration on a number of projects with these fabulous individuals!

So here it is - the review of Le Boudoir. With two experiences of different nights under our belts (so to speak) we thought we'd do a little review.Find out more about our thoughts of the venue, the staff and more!

This one was a great topic to get our teeth into.Jealousy is such a hot topic in the circles we move in from poly connections through to monogamous people seeking to understand the dynamic.This was supported by a recent trip to LB last week and the events that unfolded (all good but because of the work and conversations we've had surrounding it!)Ultimately though, we wanted to get to the root cause. The THING that sets off this interesting and complex emotional state! There's still so much left to say on this but it's a good start (hopefully!)Listen to our latest episode to learn more!H&B

Myself and Ms Captain recorded this session aggggggggeeeeessss ago! She is the most wonderful, authentic, insightful soul and this is evident in the discussion around foods to use with sensual experiences… Be it with two, three, four or more!Thank you so much for your time Ms C and giving the listeners something “spicy” on Valentine's Day! ❤️

Episode 90 was a deep and meaningful discussion about the dark fears that come along for the ride when you're on the journey from monogamy through to polyamory. What is it that truly scares you and why. Why is it that a lot of the time we don't know what it truly is or we can't say so we project our fears on to our anchor partners meaning that's our fears inevitably “come true.” Finally what does this means for your existing relationship(s) and can there ever be a way out or forward from this?…Join us on the discussion…H & B

Is this lifestyle and our relationship constructs just one big fantasy? And is that OK?   In this episode and debate this at length and for once POTENTIALLY land on some sort of resounding answer! It does happen every so often!

A deep and raw chat about if opening up is for everyone, who should possibly avoid it and if you really want it, what work needs to be done!We also discuss at length if there are different levels people can open to based on the conditioning and willingness to break out of these cycles.It's an endless topic… possibly without any real answers but we hope you enjoy and take away as much from it as we gained by having this talk!

This one was a toughie…A lot of our regrets come from not seizing the moment more than the fallout of situations because from these experiences we have grown…So join us on our meandering, heartfelt, conversation of living and life to the full!

This was an interesting conversation where by we discussed how many new to poly, swing, CNM, ENM all go through this to some level.It easily done and who doesn't love the feeling of being a kid in a sweet shop?

This week Butcher returns from France, Hunter eats some food and we review the Channel 4 series 'The Couple Next Door' and discuss whether the experience of the participants in this drama is relatable to the community (whilst keeping a straight face).We also spend some time talking about how the English language has insufficient words for us to express how we feel and that the conflation of feelings around the word 'Jealousy' can be misunderstood.As we wrap up we talk about the importance of arse holes and how they relate to motivational speaking - Watch the Tim Minchin video hereFinally we bring the latest on the David Haye throuple which seems to be irritating Hunter with its salacious coverage here 

Hope you've had a great holiday break... We are back with the sparkle of holiday cheer still lingering, spinning tales of sneaky gift-giving and sharing how our extended love networks bolster our spirits. And in this sprit we are making plans for 2024 and establishing what our new years resolutions are.Navigating our unique landscapes, we've learned the art of balancing the day-to-day vanilla with the spice of our lifestyle—valuing heartfelt communication and solid boundaries. In moments of vulnerability, we've stumbled upon strength, transforming jealousy and fear into deeper intimacy and faster resilience. We've seen growth, both in ourselves and in our relationships, and with the new year on the horizon, we're setting structured goals, seeking equilibrium, and exploring the potential of coaching others along their non-traditional paths. Delving into therapy with a poly-friendly therapist, we're embracing the lessons these experiences have brought us.Lots to unpack (along with an unhealthy amount of Harry Potter) so join us as we kick off 2024 in the most appropriately inappropriate way we can!H & B x

Ever found yourself floating on cloud nine after a date that just clicked? That's where our journey begins this episode, as we recount a year swept up in the highs of connection and the lows of navigating the intricate dance of polyamorous relationships. We talk about a year crammed with personal breakthroughs, from the electric spark of a first KK party anniversary to intimate ventures abroad that tested our independence and resolve.Imagine stepping off a plane in France, heart pounding with the thrill of solo travel, or the quiet pride of shaping a birthday bash into a celebration of lifestyle friendships. That's the stuff of our real, lived experiences this year. Hunter shares the depths of his romantic evening with Lady V, a testament to the emotional bonds that can bloom in the world of non-monogamy. We pull back the curtain on our adventures and misadventures, revealing the flesh-and-blood moments that have stretched and strengthened us, from navigating club dynamics without an anchor partner to the misunderstandings that can turn into belly laughs—or lessons learned.With the map of our journey unfurled, we look back at the encounters and milestones that have marked our podcasting (real life) voyage. We acknowledge our listeners across 69 countries who've joined us in the revealing dance of polyamory. As we cast our eyes to the horizon, considering the year ahead, we invite you to lend your voice, sharing your experiences and ideas as we continue to craft a narrative that's as complex, joyful, and authentic as the lives we lead.Also, Merry Christmas

Imagine opening your heart and life to more than one person — sounds exciting, right? As thrilling as it might be, polyamory is a complex lifestyle that often requires navigating uncharted waters. Join us, Hunter and Butcher, on the Poly Pocket Podcast, as we unpack our experiences and lessons learned in polyamorous relationships, beginning with a candid chat about our recent date with a like-minded couple. We use this experience to explore how open communication is instrumental in recognising gut feelings and red flags, not just within the swinging community but in polyamory as a whole.Now, think about how much does one share in a poly relationship? We bring in our thoughts on sharing information, where we vouch for transparency that provides general details without oversharing. As we walk you through a situation where a coffee date turned unexpectedly intimate, we underscore the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining communication, which are the bedrock of trust in a polyamorous setup. Pivoting to rules and boundaries, we delve into our personal experiences to highlight how these guide our relationships.But what's the difference between rules and boundaries? We (fail to) clarify this often confusing aspect, whilst trying to emphasise the value of consent when sharing personal information. As we conclude this  conversation, we take a moment to reflect on the purpose of our podcast, hoping to serve as a beacon for those navigating similar paths. In the end, whether it's discussing STIs and pregnancies or seeking approval from involved parties, everything loops back to the most crucial component — effective communication. So, whether you're already in a polyamorous relationship or contemplating it, let's learn, grow, and navigate together!H&B x

Have you ever felt the sting of disappointment in a sexual encounter? Did you feel that it was up to you to make the other person feel better? Definitely tricky ground and women are often expected to play carer in this situation. We discuss the impact this can have and what can be done to reduce the impact on someones confidence both in themselves and in their sexual counterparts.With a pinch of humor and a dose of reality, we chat about the roller-coaster ride that is the world of relationships. From the intricacies of male sexual performance and its impact on women to the tricky navigation of guilt and disappointment, we've got it all.Think it's only about being in the mood for a good romp? Well, think again. Our candid discussion on male sexual performance might just change the way you view this topic. We shed light on how a lack of male sexual response can affect women, emphasizing that it's not always about both parties wanting to engage in sexual activity. It's about understanding the multitude of factors at play, and finding that elusive balance in caring for everyone's feelings.We also dive headfirst into the murky waters of disappointment and guilt in relationships. Ever been the collateral damage of someone else's issues? We certainly have, and we share these personal tales with you, highlighting the importance of taking ownership of our actions. We also talk (again) about football

Have you ever wondered how a global pandemic would affect your sex life? Join us, Hunter and Butcher, as we venture down the path of polyamory in the time of COVID-19, sharing our personal experiences and exploring the shifts in sexual dynamics. We dive deep into the ups and downs of managing relationship changes during a unique time in society.As we navigate these turbulent waters, you'll gain an understanding of how COVID has (potentially) shaped the non-monogamous community. We tackle the tough subjects about the rise in alternative relationships, the risks of suppressing desires, and how a global health crisis can trigger an increased sexual activity. By the end of this episode, we will have considered a new perspective about the evolution of relationships within the lifestyle community and how it has adapted to a new normal caused by the pandemic. H & B x

Are you feeling drained, stretched thin, or like your energy is being constantly siphoned off in your relationships? Your rescue is here... Maybe

This week we review the Killing Kittens Birthday Ball.  Happy 18th KK!Our journey begins with the  anticipation leading up to the event, and culminates with the night's unforgettable experiences. We share our stories, from pre-party chats to navigating the charged atmosphere of the party.We caught up with old friends and had unexpected (and exciting) encounters with new ones.  We danced, we played and we managed to relocate our underwear (never taking that for granted)!Join us once again for the flagship podcast of polyamory, CNM and, in particular this week, sex parties.H&B x

Ever been on a date and the person is nothing like their online persona? We have all been there and this episode navigates the intricacies of our digital selves versus our real-life selves. We also delve into how to spot and deal with a problematic online persona.Sometimes, it becomes necessary to don a facade that isn't entirely true to us and there are some advantages and we explore where the potential pitfalls that arise when your online persona is a far cry from your real life.Enjoy!H & B x

Ever walked into a party and felt out of place or unprepared? Well, we're here to lend a hand! We're going to share some of our hard-earned insights on how to choose the right crowd for sex parties, how to read people's cues, and why knowing what you want (and know yourself) is key to making the most of your event. We'll also reveal some practical tips like the importance of a good night's sleep, staying hydrated, and keeping protection handy. And remember, if you're not enjoying the event, it's best not to push yourself.Now, we understand that attending parties, especially sex parties, can be complex and intimidating. So think of this as your guide to navigating the atmosphere, the attendees, and even your own mindset. So, buckle up for a thrilling, enlightening, and frank conversation about the world of sex parties. Trust us, you won't want to miss this.

The polyamory journey often comes with a reality check - just when you think you've got it all figured out, you realise you have much more to learn. The Poly Pocket Podcast takes a candid look at our own rollercoaster ride - from hilarious escapades involving Lady V and a cake, to humbling encounters with polyamory experts that reminded us to remain humble and open-minded.Venture with us as we dissect the multifaceted dynamics of polyamory and swinging - you'll be surprised to learn that sex isn't always the default in polyamory. We share our trials and triumphs, the importance of validation from our partners, and the need to lean on those closest to us during life's unpredictable moments. We'll also be delving into the importance of communication in our various relationships - a vital aspect that keeps everything together.Get ready for some introspection as we share our personal growth and realisations over our first year of exploring polyamory. We discuss the importance of self-awareness, listening to our gut instincts, and not solely depending on them. We also dive into an exciting discussion about 'The Chimp Paradox'. This book has been an indispensable tool, helping us gain control over our minds and emotions while navigating life's ups and downs. As a bonus, we peak your curiosity with an intriguing hint about an upcoming discussion on 'colour fetish'. Buckle up, whether you're a polyamory newbie or a seasoned pro, this episode promises an enlightening ride.

We often say we are not experts... so instead, we spoke to one! We've brought in the expertise of Elizabeth Cunningham, a seasoned life and love coach with over 13 years of experience in the field of polyamory. This episode is a fantastic exploration of shifting from monogamy to polyamory, managing the complex dynamics, and setting expectations in non-monogamous relationships.Our conversation with Elizabeth was nothing short of enlightening. She shared invaluable advice on navigating the messiness often associated with polyamorous relationships; managing egos, understanding the uniqueness of different bonds, and advocating love and respect even in the most challenging moments. This episode is not just about learning - it's about unlearning too. It's about letting go of preconceived notions, stepping out of comfort zones, and embracing the beauty of complexity in love.Elizabeth also shared insights on the art of communication within polyamorous relationships. From handling difficult conversations, fostering trust and connection, to understanding and setting boundaries - it's all about nurturing healthy communication habits. And what's more, we also discussed the concept of 'falling' in a relationship, and how to recover and grow from these falls. Tune in to our episode with Elizabeth Cunningham and prepare to expand your perspective on polyamory and relationships. Don't just listen. Immerse, understand, and transform.

Just when you think you've got a handle on human behaviour, life throws you a curveball. How do we distinguish fantasy from reality? How can you tell if someone has crossed the invisible line, blurring truth with elaborate fabrications and lies? This week on the Poly Pocket podcast, we're trying to strip down some of the complexities of human psychology, starting with a hearty debate about what separates a fantasist from a liar. We're bringing our personal stories to the table as we're not psychologists, but we're also no strangers to the art of self-deception and spinning tales. Join us as we dissect the potential mechanisms behind constructing fantasies, and how one fails to recognise a well-crafted lie masked as a harmless daydream and then diving headfirst into the what happens when fantasies become destructive? What's the fallout when the lines between reality and fantasy blur to such an extent that it becomes a manipulative escape from uncomfortable truths? Come get lost with us in the enigma of human behavior, on this week's episode of Poly Pocket.NOTE: There is some troubling content at the 10 minute mark regarding homicide and mental illness caused by a fantasy. If this is likely to upset you, we'd suggest skipping the 10 to 13 minute section.H&B x

Did you ever find it challenging to share your relationship orientation with your date, even though it's stated clearly on your profile? Are you grappling with how to navigate your polyamory lifestyle while wearing a wedding ring? Well, you're not alone! We're dedicating this episode to explore these predicaments and share our personal experiences, hoping to shed some light on this complex world of polyamorous relationships. We're also sharing our family adventures, as well as a 'hilarious' chicken joke marathon that will have you questioning your life choices!H & B x

What if there was a world beyond the traditional definitions of love and relationships? A world where you could be you, and that was not only accepted but celebrated? This episode explores the intricacies of polyamory - a lifestyle choice that is often misunderstood and misrepresented. We share personal stories and discuss the challenges we face in maintaining relationships with partners, children, and businesses - a balancing act that is both demanding and rewarding.Making the leap to live a non-traditional life requires not just the courage to break social norms but also visible examples of successful alternative lifestyles to emulate. Our episode touches on the necessity of creating opportunities and incentives that go beyond quotas and numbers. We discuss the power of vulnerability and allyship in living a life outside the status quo, and the importance of being seen and represented, particularly for minorities in industries like tech, where they are still grossly underrepresented.Enjoy x

Are you ready for a wild ride? Strap in (strap on!) as we recount our thrilling adventure at the famed sex club, @swingersclub_fatamorgana in Amsterdam. Get a glimpse of the atmosphere, better than expected buffet, and 'excellent company'. Brace yourselves, as we take a plunge into the world of sex clubs…So here it is… an informative, eye-opening discussion that could very well be your first step into the thrilling world of sex clubs and parties! Care to join us? Find the link in the bio!

Episode 69!!! (sorry, not sorry)Ever wonder what life's like in Amsterdam's infamous Red Light District? Imagine the vibrant bustle of the pubs, the openness of a sex club, and even a spontaneous decision to get inked. That's exactly the kind of whirlwind adventure we embarked on during our weekend in Amsterdam. From stumbling across a group of South Africans in a pub to kicking off candid conversations about our open relationship, we embraced an exploratory spirit that set the tone for a truly unforgettable trip.We found ourselves drawn into the heart of Amsterdam's open lifestyle - it was an adventure like no other. As our journey unfolded, we ventured to Fata Morgana, a sex club on the outskirts of the city. We were met with unexpected sights, sounds, and experiences that culminated in a surprising nine-person orgy. But this trip was about more than just the physical. We delved into BDSM, explored the power of trust, and even managed to squeeze in a champagne breakfast at the airport and a Himalayan massage that was painfully unforgettable!Amsterdam's polyamorous culture was a revelation. We explored the candidness and normalcy with which the Dutch approach their adult relationships, a stark contrast to the culture back home in the UK. This trip was filled with much more than the typical sightseeing - swinging, drinking, and a whole lot of open conversations. From the pubs to the art exhibitions, from the School for Life Cafe to our experience in a local sex club, our Amsterdam adventure was nothing short of transformative!

Unpack your running shoes and prime your ears for a wild adventure through sports, love, and life! Join Butcher and myself as we traverse the untamed terrain of football matches, half-marathons, and the riveting world of polyamory. From casual vanilla dates to tackles on the pitch, we're sharing it all – even the moments that had us questioning, "when do we reveal our relationship status in all its non-mainstream glory?"Ready to delve into the delicate dance between honesty and privacy? We're getting real about our own experiences, discussing how our lifestyle choices can impact dynamics with family, friends, and colleagues. It's a tricky balance, we've discovered, with potential misunderstandings lurking around every corner. Listen in for some enlightening anecdotes and tips on how to steer these tricky conversations with tact and sincerity.Join us as we explore how we would (or would not) approach telling people about our lifestyle choices.Movie reference is Flatliners (1990) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0099582/?ref_=ext_shr_lnk... and in case you missed it, Butchers team won 10-0

Are you ready to challenge your preconceived notions about societal norms? We welcomed Claire Doré, the Wild Woman CEO on Instagram, for a rich exploration of these ingrained perspectives and how they shape our lives. In an eye-opening conversation, Claire, an embodiment coach extraordinaire, helps us spotlight the uncanny mirroring of boardroom behaviours in the bedroom and why women often hold back from articulating their desires. Diving deeper, we examined how generational and cultural norms shape our relationships and decision-making processes. We hash out the tightrope walk between forging a path of independence for the younger generation and respecting the old ways. Claire imparts invaluable advice on navigating tricky conversations with those who hold opposing viewpoints, emphasizing the importance of understanding and compassion. Wrapping up our session, we broached the controversial topic of sexual liberty. Claire took us on a sneak-peek journey into her upcoming book, detailing her personal voyage of sexual self-discovery and how dating became her healing balm. We also discuss the potential backlash against sexual liberation and how having a strong support system can make all the difference when standing against the tide. So folks, pull up a chair and join us for this thought-provoking discussion that's guaranteed to reshape your perspectives!

Pull up a chair and join us as Butchers hike through the beautiful valleys of Wales ends with mild hot tub drama. A lighthearted moment among friends that led to an unexpected conversation about our sexuality and lifestyle.Navigating the complex world of relationships can be quite a handful. But there's nothing a bit of open communication can't solve, right? From the raw honesty required in our interactions to maintaining emotional and physical bonds, we have it all covered. Throw in some tips on sexual health, and you have a guide to managing relationships without the messy complications. And, if you thought that was it, wait till we dive into the deep end of jealousy, admiration, and the role they play in our relationships. Don't wait, tune in, and let's embark on this journey together.

None of us travel alone and we become the people we are today because of the people in our past. This week we shout out to our ex's and thank them for knocking some of the rough edges off our younger selves.We also talk about our recent holiday to France where we did not just sit around eating cheese and drinking wine

Ever wondered about the power of language in shaping intimate relationships? Here's a conversation that guarantees to enlighten you, using candid discussions and our personal reflections. Our episode today takes a deep dive into the dynamics between partners during intimate moments and how it can dramatically shift depending on language and communication. We highlight the importance of choosing the right language modes - from hyperbolic expressions to more direct communication, and how they contribute to enhancing or hindering relationship dynamics. Moreover, what could be more relaxing than recording this episode in the serene(ish) French countryside, with a glass of rose and the soothing sound of nature (and a tractor) in the background? Enjoy the frogs, butterflies and lakeside chat on this weeks episode.

Ever thought about why breakups in polyamorous relationships feel so final? Well, that's the topic we're exploring today. We explore some of our personal experiences and consider whether it's the absence of sexual connection, the unique glue binding polyamorous relationships or that there is nothing unique about polyamorism that makes these breakups feel so terminal. We're also delving into the  power dynamics within polyamorous relationships. You know those relationship escalators, the standard steps like dating, moving in together, marriage, and having kids, they can sometimes work a little differently in polyamory. When things end, there's not just two, but multiple hearts involved, making the situation increasingly complex. But fear not, we're discussing a potential solution: de-escalation, a strategic stepping back on the relationship escalator to alleviate unnecessary pain and confusion.So, whether you're curious about polyamory or you're already a part of the polyamorous world, we've got an enlightening episode just for you. Let's get the conversation rolling!Links:Tiddlywinks - (I was right!) https://www.roshambopodcast.com/episodes/tiddlywinks

When we think about trauma and jealousy, we often overlook the profound connection they have with our bodies. Join us in a captivating discussion with dance movement therapist, Orit Krug, as we explore this intriguing correlation. Orit's expertise in the field unravels the mysteries of how our bodies react to trauma, with responses like fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, and how these can be linked to feelings of jealousy particularly in relationships.Ever wondered how a simple touch can bridge communication gaps in a relationship? Orit guides us through the fascinating world of dance movement therapy, demonstrating how physical gestures can offer vital insight into the language of our bodies, and subsequently, our relationships. We discuss the tale of a couple struggling with shared responsibilities and the power of a simple touch in fostering a deeper connection and understanding. This episode is a treasure trove of valuable knowledge about the close relationship between our bodies and our minds, and how a deeper understanding of this connection can help manage trauma responses and foster healthier, happier relationships.And if you're in a polyamorous relationship or curious about them, this episode will not disappoint. We delve into the importance of secure foundations and effective communication in maintaining balance and harmony. And, if you're looking for holistic ways of healing trauma, we talk about how the potential of movement therapy to heal trauma. Get in on our conversation about Orit's services and an upcoming retreat in Costa Rica. Our chat with Orit is not just enlightening; it's an invitation to a journey of self-discovery and healing. Embark on this journey with us—you won't want to miss it!You can read more and contact Orit Krug here - https://oritkrug.com/

How well versed are you in the dark art of gaslighting? Imagine a situation where your reality is manipulated, your perceptions warped, and your emotional sanity questioned. That's the shadowy territory we venture into in this episode, as we expose the enigma of gaslighting within polyamory relationships. We scrutinise its forms, tactics, and its insidious effects on the human psyche. We'll guide you on the less-traveled path to distinguishing gaslighting from self-discovery.Ever wondered how gaslighters ply their trade, or why it seems so hard to call out within the polyamorous community? We dissect real-life incidents, laying bare the manipulative techniques of gaslighters and how they exploit our personal experiences. With no traditional framework in polyamory, we'll arm you with our experience of identifying deception and, hopefully, defend yourself against it. We'll also share insights on how gaslighting can, shockingly, be a response to trauma.Finally, we'll delve into the unique challenges and nuances of non-monogamous liaisons. From the appeal of purely sexual relationships to the complexities of navigating romantic entanglements, we cover it all. We emphasise the importance of reputation awareness, support structures, and self-protection in the polyamorous community. By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped to spot gaslighting in polyamory and navigate your way through it. Join us on this enlightening journey.

We're reflecting after a busy week and decided that we should focus just on our week in Poly so we have an episode of pure Poly Filler for you!This one takes you right into our lives: the bonds we share, the adventures we embark on, and the conversations we have. We promise you an episode that dives deeper into our polyamorous journey, giving you an authentic taste of our world.We share our experience of celebrating two birthdays with two different cakes. Catching up with our friend, Texan Tom and his kids, and spending quality (vanilla) time with The Air Steward and Legs. But it's not all fun and games. We also discuss the importance of communication within our polyamorous community, using a recent date as an example, and highlighting how our approach has evolved over time with the aim to ensure the comfort and well-being of our dates. But we're not stuck just in our world. We also venture into the ethical use of nudity in films, looking at respectful portrayals versus exploitative ones. As we wind down, we give you a sneak peek into our upcoming camping trip. So buckle up and get ready for an episode that's not just about the physical intimacies of a polyamorous lifestyle, but more about the emotional and mental connections we build, and the meaningful conversations and experiences that shape our lives.Swordfish boob bonus - https://decider.com/2018/07/14/swordfish-netflix-halle-berry-topless/#

In this episode we debate the difference between polyamory and polyf**kery? We dig deep into the distinction between these two terms and underline the importance of long-term connections versus fleeting encounters. We emphasize that it's all about the connection, not just the sex! Also, we discuss the concept of a sliding spectrum of polyamory. And, hold onto your hats as we navigate the often tricky waters of honesty and authenticity in the pursuit of polyamory. We ponder on the possible pitfalls of playing the numbers game and stress the need to invest time and effort into relationships. We're also putting non-monogamy in the spotlight, discussing its rising prevalence due to the pandemic and the potential for this lifestyle to become more accepted in mainstream society. We wrap up by reflecting on how the pandemic has impacted our lives and affected the way we view time, consideration for others, and the importance of living life to the fullest. We look forward to you joining us on this enlightening and entertaining journey!

In this special edition of Poly Pocket Podcast we are sharing the WeAreX Live which was broadcast on July 27th 2023. Due to some technical difficulties, the first 8 minutes or so are missing but it quickly starts to make sense.Have you ever questioned how you'd navigate the complex and intriguing world of polyamory? Picture yourself sitting down with our guests, Kapil, Dan, and Steff, sharing a candid conversation about their personal experiences in polyamorous relationships, the curveballs they've faced, and how they've grown from them. We open the lid on jealousy, an emotion that often shadows polyamory, but when channelled correctly, can become a powerful tool for self-realization and development.Communication, a cornerstone for any relationship, takes on a unique significance in polyamory. Our guests illuminate its importance in fostering understanding and harmony within a polyamorous dynamic. We navigate the intriguing concept of 'compersion', a term that encapsulates the joy derived from a partner's happiness, paired with the challenges and rewards of a polyamorous lifestyle. We also distinguish between CNM (Consensual Non-Monogamy) and polyamory, underscoring that each couple should define what works for them, rather than fitting into pre-ordained categories. Suffused with personal anecdotes and practical advice, this episode invites you to understand the beautiful symmetry and intricate dynamics of polyamorous relationships. So come, join us on this insightful journey!

Ever wished you could navigate the tricky terrain of revealing polyamory to those who know you (but don't know yet) without inducing a heart attack? Join us, your friendly guides Hunter and Butcher, as we recount personal anecdotes and offer useful insights on how to handle these potentially shocking revelations with honesty and tact. We assure you that your lifestyle choices don't have to change the way people perceive you.But there's more on the menu! We also venture into rather intimate territory - the burgeoning world of penis enlargement surgery. We discuss the economic impetus behind its popularity, the slew of available surgical techniques, the lurking dangers, and even take a peek into the  online forums dedicated to this topic. This episode won't shy away from the harsh reality of unrealistic expectations set by celebrity culture and pornography, that often fuel the demand for these procedures. Finally, get ready to crack a smile as we explore the curious evolution of slang words, with a special focus on the term 'gang bang.' From being a term used in negative connotations to a phrase that now holds a more positive context, its journey is quite fascinating. So, tune in, get comfortable and prepare to be entertained and enlightened!

This week we're talking about to how adjust boundaries as you're polyamorous relationships develop and how the need to accept change is central to an anchor partnership.We've all heard that communication is key, but in a polyamorous setup, it's not just essential, it's survival. We dive headfirst, no pun intended, into the complexities of our poly lifestyle, discussing everything from solo dates and threesome dynamics to adventurous anal escapades. Ever found yourself contemplating a gang bang, or negotiating boundaries in a challenging situation? We've got you covered. We explore our perspectives, experiences, and even our fears, all in an open, honest and often humorous conversation.As we wrap up, we delve into the importance of trust and protection in our lifestyle, reflecting on the constant need to adjust and grow. We also share the lighter side of our journey, recounting our daredevil child two's escapades and how we manage to keep the laughter alive amid the chaos. So, if you're intrigued by the polyamorous lifestyle or just curious about the unconventional side of relationships, this episode is for you! Embrace the laughter, the lessons, and the love with us on the Poly Pocket Podcast.**Butcher was not gang-banged in the making of this episode

This episode is an exploration of healing and personal growth. We discuss how stoicism can help manage emotions and the importance of achieving a state of equanimity. We also reflect on recognising patterns in relationships and making active choices, reminding you that only you have the power to control your thoughts and emotions. We even touch on the healing power of shared projects, from building a veggie patch to navigating the challenges of parenthood.Our conversation takes a bold turn as we tackle sexual orientations and queer identity. We attempt (and fail) to build a comprehensive comparison between terms like heterosexual, bi-selective, heteroflexible, bisexual, gay, lesbian, and the broader term 'queer'. So, tune in and join us on this unique journey of self-discovery and growth!

Ever wondered how society's binary thinking and 'bisexual ignorance' impacts those of us with fluid sexual orientations? We delve into Butcher's personal experiences of bi-ignorance, societal pressures, and how they have shaped how she operates within middle-class UK. We highlight the importance of safe spaces for discussion, breaking the shackles of binary thinking and fully embracing the spectrum of our experiences. It's not just about bisexuality, we also touch-on the fascinating world of hot-wifing and the subtle differences from cuckolding in our combined media review and what's in Butcher's pocket.

Pop the champagne and celebrate with us as we reminisce, learn, and dream about the future of the Poly pPocket Podcast. We're your hosts, Hunter and Butcher, and we're taking a look back at a year of dynamic discussions on polyamory, relationships, and everything in between. We've navigated the complexities of love languages, sex parties, mental and physical connections, as well as emotions like jealousy and FOMO. Our journey has allowed us to form new connections and friendships, redefine our perspectives, and contribute meaningfully to the normalisation of polyamory.Looking ahead, we're excited about bringing more voices into the conversation. We hope to host external professionals, expand our topics, and keep breaking down barriers around polyamory. We're eager to share this journey with you, and we're committed to making every episode a learning experience. So, come along with us as we venture into the next 52 episodes, continue to explore, learn, and grow in the world of polyamory. We're just getting started!

Join us as we spill the tea on our experience at the lavish KK Summer Ball and the unforgettable polyamorous date we had with one of our podcast listeners. We share our insights on the importance of getting to know people first, and how this approach can result in deeper, more meaningful connections.In this episode, we take you through our entire KK Summer Ball journey - from the exciting pre-party chat group to the glamorous white(ish) themed outfits and the sexy venue itself. Plus, we'll share some reflections on our past experiences at parties and meeting new people, and how these have shaped our outlook on forming new relationships.Lastly, we celebrate our nearly one-year podcast anniversary and express our heartfelt gratitude to all of our listeners. Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey, and we look forward to continuing to bring you fresh content every Monday morning. The Challengers TrailerMidsommar

Have you ever felt the weight of expectations in the bedroom, especially in polyamorous and s*x parties? This week, we share Hunter's intimate experiences with performance pressure and vulnerability, along with some lighthearted stories that will (might) make you chuckle. Ted Lasso

Ever wondered how to prepare for a s*x party? Join us this week on the Poly Pocket podcast as we reveal our personal pre-party rituals  (hint: sushi is a must, but overindulging is not).Discover the importance of dressing the part for such an event, from the right lingerie to the mandatory masks, and get our top tips on making your mask-wearing experience comfortable and enjoyable. And of course, we'll discuss our strategies for managing sexual health at s*x parties. Finally, we share our experiences with Gollum, Butcher's trusty strap-on, and provide a freephone number to book a slot (joke!)So grab your headphones, get comfortable, and join us for a fun and insightful episode packed with practical advice, you won't want to miss it!Keep us and your protection, in your pocket amigo's!