The Bevan James Eyles Show - The Fitness Behaviour Podcast

As we close out the year, it's the perfect time to reflect on what we've learned and how we've grown. For me, 2024 has been a year of profound lessons—some of which I know will shape my life forever. In my final video of the year, I'm sharing:   4 massive life lessons that changed my perspective in 2024   How these insights can help you as you reflect on your own year   Practical takeaways to guide your personal growth in 2025   This will be my last podcast for a few weeks as I take time to recharge and plan for the year ahead.  But don't worry, I'll be back in the new year with fresh content to help you thrive. Until then, take a few minutes to reflect on your own journey and start 2025 with clarity and purpose.  

 One of the most difficult conversations I've ever had with a client was this:  I had to tell them they were on a path to an early death if they didn't change their life.  At 160kg, they knew deep down that weight loss surgery was a good option.  But there was a massive barrier holding them back—and it wasn't the cost.  They believed that getting the operation was a failure.  They felt they should be able to lose the weight on their own.  The fear of shame and judgment kept them stuck.  But eventually, they worked through it, took action, and got the surgery.  Now, at 80kg, they're living a vibrant, fulfilling life they never thought possible.  Their story holds a powerful lesson: We often delay the decisions that could transform our lives because of fear or misplaced beliefs.  In this week's video, I explore:   Why we resist making good decisions   How to break through the barriers holding us back   A framework for acting sooner  If you know you're holding back from making a good decision in your life, you need to watch this.

Do you want to have the most amazing relationships in your life?  I know I do.  I want connections that are fun, where I feel free to be myself, where we share experiences that enrich each other's lives, and where I know I can lean on someone in times of need.  I also want to be the kind of person others can rely on, someone who adds value to their lives.  Lately, I've been focusing on one key element to make my relationships stronger: trust.  How can I build more trust in all my relationships? How can I be someone others trust deeply?  This has been a powerful focus that's already making a massive difference.  In this week's video, I share:    What I've learned by prioritizing trust in my relationships   Simple ways you can strengthen trust with the people in your life   How this focus can help you create deeper, more fulfilling connection   If you want to build better, more meaningful relationships, this podcast is for you.

We're entering the time of year when health and fitness often take a back seat, the social season. It's a time filled with:   More alcohol Late nights Unhealthy foods Increased stress from social and family demands By mid-January, many wake up feeling frustrated with their health.  They're overwhelmed by how much work it takes to regain control. But that doesn't have to be you. This year, I want you to enjoy the season while staying healthy and balanced. That's why I've created a short video sharing 5 practical tips to stay on track during the crazy season. Listen to this now to learn how to start 2025 in a healthy, confident place—without missing out on the fun.

The other day, I received a special voicemail from my daughter. She was bubbling with excitement, telling me how much she loves her life right now. But what makes her story even more powerful is where she was 10 years ago. As she left school, she felt a bit lost, uncertain about her future, and things didn't look particularly promising. Fast forward to today, and she's living a life she's truly passionate about, all thanks to some big decisions she made along the way. One decision, in particular, 18 months ago, became the turning point that led her to this place. This choice holds an important life lesson for all of us. In this week's podcast, I'm sharing what my daughter did to transform her life into one she loves.

The other day, I got asked an interesting question: “How do you seem to have it all together?” It was flattering to hear, but I answered honestly: “I don't always get it right, but I do have a framework that helps me stay aligned with who I want to be.” After hearing me talk about it, they looked at me and said, “Why don't they teach this in school?” Their reaction made me realize how valuable this framework can be, so I wanted to share it with you. This is how I approach my life, how I stay aligned to what's important to me, how I stay focused, and create a today and tomorrow I'm excited about. If you'd like to learn more, check out this podcast.

What does it really take to be attractive? Most people think of the usual answers, but there are unexpected traits that can make someone irresistibly appealing, and they have nothing to do with looks. In this week's podcast, I'll be sharing five surprising qualities that can boost your attractiveness from the inside out.

Sometimes, when we're in a tough emotional place, our thinking can turn against us, making things feel harder than they really are.  We might even feel like we're completely failing. This week, I was coaching one of our runners who found themselves caught in this mindset.  In that moment, I introduced them to a perspective I call "Moments vs. Trends."  This approach helped them step back and see things more clearly. The "Moments vs. Trends" tool keeps us grounded, especially during challenging times.  So, if you're feeling overwhelmed and like you're failing at everything, take a moment to listen to this podcast. It might just help shift your perspective.

I've have a simple, one-minute daily habit that has a profound impact on my life.  It's an easy process that: - Boosts my self-esteem - Strengthens my positive traits - Aligns me with my authentic self This technique is so effective that I felt compelled to share it with you. In this week's video, I'll walk you through this quick and powerful process. If you're searching for a simple way to feel better about yourself and stay true to who you are, don't miss this podcast.  

Today, I want to share how a tree reinforced one of the most important life perspectives I hold. Thinking, "A story about a tree?" Yes, a tree. In these challenging times when it feels like the world is working against us, the lesson this tree taught me is especially meaningful. If life is getting you down and you need a powerful reminder of a healthy perspective to hold, listen to this podcast.

I have a powerful technique that ignites a desire for future growth in people's lives.  Every time I use it, people walk away feeling a sense of pride and openness to greater possibilities.  I believe it's one of the most impactful leadership tools in my arsenal. In this week's video, I'm sharing this technique with you.  So, if you want to become someone who profoundly influences others, be sure to listen to this podcast.

Do You Struggle with Temptation?   We've all been there - those moments when temptation seems to take control, distracting us and consuming our energy.   Whether it's food, procrastination, or unhealthy habits, giving in feels almost inevitable.   But what if I told you there's a simple technique, so easy that even a 5-year-old could master it?   This week, I want to share this powerful method to help you beat temptation in your life.                                            Curious?   Listen to this short podcast and see how you can regain control with a strategy that's almost too simple to believe. ​​​​​​​

This week, I witnessed two of our runners push themselves to a whole new level of intensity.  It was like they were working ten times harder than I had ever seen before. Curious about what sparked this transformation, I asked them both why they had stepped up their game.  Surprisingly, they each gave me the exact same answer. What they shared with me revealed a crucial lesson about growth—one that many of us need to be reminded of from time to time. If you're ready to take your growth to the next level, don't miss this podcast.  

Do you find yourself easily distracted when you're trying to focus? Whether it's work, a hobby, or any task that requires your full attention, distractions are everywhere—phones, people, social media. They pull us away from the things we truly need to focus on. I recently introduced a simple tool into my life to help me stay focused. I was amazed by the results. This tool has been a game-changer. Now, when I plan for 60 minutes of focused work, I actually get 60 minutes of deep, uninterrupted focus. In this week's video, I'll be sharing this tool with you. If distractions often get the best of you and you'd like to reclaim your focus, don't miss this video. .

"How good are you at being uncomfortable when you are trying to grow?"   I posed this question to my cycling class the other night.   The response? A room full of people giving everything they had, pushing beyond their limits.   It's a powerful question to reflect on because often, we invest time into areas where we want to grow, yet we're not operating at a level that truly drives progress.   In this week's podcast, I'll share 4 strategies to help you thrive in that uncomfortable space where real growth happens.

Today, I want to share a surprising fitness lesson inspired by the classic 80s TV show Cheers. I know what you're thinking: "How could a show set in a pub teach me anything about fitness?" Trust me, the lesson Cheers offers might just be one of the most important for anyone looking to get back on track with their health. Curious? Listen to the show and find out what this beloved show can teach you about fitness.

Do you think people need a harsh insult to lead a change into their life?   I got asked this question recently, and it really got me thinking.   Do we really need that tough love, or is there a better way to spark the motivation we need?   In this week's video, I'll dive into this question and share what i feel works best when it comes to moving people towards change.

Starting a fitness journey is an exciting step, but many people find themselves quitting soon after they begin. It's disheartening because the initial spark of inspiration is there, yet something derails their progress, causing them to give up.   I believe the root of this issue lies in motivation. Often, people make crucial mistakes that quickly drain their motivation, leaving them feeling defeated.   In this week's video, I'll be sharing the four key reasons why people lose motivation when incorporating exercise into their lives.   If you've ever struggled to stay motivated with your fitness goals, this video is for you.

The other day, I spoke with someone who was feeling really down about their body.   As we talked, they shared their plan to fix it.   But there was one big problem with their solution…   They weren't addressing the real issue.   They felt bad because of a junk food habit, yet their solution was to hit the gym and lift weights.   In our conversation, we focused on tackling the root problem: breaking the junk food habit.   Sometimes, we know we need to make a change, but we don't take the time to understand the real issue. ​​​​​​​ In this week's video, I dive into our conversation and explore how you can get better at identifying and solving the real challenges standing in your way.

The Worrying can steal precious moments of your life.   The time you spent worrying could be better spent on amazing activites like connecting with others, growing, relaxing, and so much more.   For many people, the challenge lies in not having effective strategies to manage worry when it arises.   I use specific method whenever i cath myself worrying about the future.   It helps me shift away from worrying instantly.   In this week's podcast, i share this method with you.   If worrying is stealing from your life, make sure listen to this.

  People who struggle with their health and fitness sometimes experience a 'Health Kick' moment.   This is when they decide to create change and devise a plan to achieve their goals.   The problem is, many of these people either don't start their plan or quit it very quickly.   There are many reasons for this, but I call one of them the 'Health Kick Problem.'   It essentially sets them up to fail from the start.   In this week's video, I share what the 'Health Kick Problem' is and teach you how to avoid it in your fitness journey.

The Big Question… Who Are You? This profound question can be difficult to answer, and many people struggle to truly understand their authentic selves.  In this week's video, I delve into this topic, sharing my insights and perspectives. Additionally, I present a challenge designed to help you feel incredible about yourself within the next 24 hours. If you're ready to feel amazing, don't miss this podcast.

Do you find that your mindset works against you in life? Does this make your life harder? This week, I am sharing five powerful mindset tools that I use to keep my head in a healthy place. If you need to work on your mindset, watch this video

Are you dedicated to your exercise routine but not seeing the results you want? It can be incredibly frustrating to put in the effort without seeing progress. This week's video uncovers one of the main reasons this happens. If you're not getting the results you expect, be sure to watch this video.

When many people experience stress, they often resort to negative places or actions.   This means their response to stress has a detrimental impact on their lives.   Even though they might be aware of this, they continue to go to these places.   I refer to this as going to a 'familiar' place.   Here's how it works: 1. I'm feeling stressed, overwhelmed, and vulnerable. 2. I need to get away from this place within myself. 3. I go to a familiar place or engage in a familiar action to escape.   The problem is, if your 'familiar' place has a negative impact, you'll end up facing even more stress. If this sounds like you, something needs to change.   I believe that nearly all of us need 'familiar' places in our lives; it's part of being human.   However, we need to develop ones that help us positively through tough times.   In this week's podcast, I break down how familiar places work and how you can develop positive ones in your life.    

Do you have a character strength that has been important to your moments of success? You may see it as a part of your identity. Here's an interesting question: Does this character strength restrict your achievements? For some people, it does. This week, I share the story of a person I was mentoring who was never achieving their ultimate goal because of their biggest character strength. I also share how we identified this and what we did to help her achieve a goal she had been dreaming of for years. Listen to this if you feel you are doing the work but aren't achieving your goals.

Do you self-identify as sometimes lazy and unmotivated with exercise?   I often hear people that struggle with exercise describe themselves in this way.   One of the main reasons they are dissatisfied with their health and fitness is because they struggle with motivation.   This means they never create change and continue heading in the wrong direction.   To me, motivation should be one of the key focuses when you are aiming to bring regular exercise into your life.   There's a strategy that I used called ‘motivation stacking'. It's a powerful strategy that gets you to a place where you are ‘fired up' to exercise and keep turning up...which means you get to the place where you are proud of your fitness.   If you feel lazy and unmotivated, make sure you watch this video to learn how ‘motivation stacking' can help up your fitness.

There's a money management rule that everyone should apply in their lives if they want to have a successful financial future. It's called ‘pay yourself first'. This simple rule says that you should aim to put the first payment from your pay into your long-term investing. People who follow this rule tend to end up in an amazing place with their finances. Recently, I was thinking about this rule and how we should apply it to our ‘self-development' time. Imagine if you were to commit to the ‘pay myself my development time first' rule in your life. Do you think you'd be growing and building the life you love and desire? In this week's video, I break down this concept and how you can apply it to your life. If you feel you need more development time for yourself, this video is for you.

Last weekend, I took on a physical challenge that I failed at.   It's a challenge that I want to conquer, but I'm not sure if I can beat it—it's that hard.   But because I love a challenge, I'm going to attempt it again.   So, I thought I'd share how I'll approach taking on a challenge where there's a huge amount of doubt.   If you sometimes shy away from challenging times or want to face big ones in your life, watch this video.

Like most, I experience moments of insecurity…   These moments can lead to feeling consumed by my thoughts.   I have a tool that helps me quickly overcome this.   This week, I'm sharing this tool with you.   If you experience moments of insecurity, check out this video.

This week we both share lessons we have learnt from bringing mountain biking into our lives. We also have News, Discussion of the Week, and Q&As.

Are you a good team member?    Being in a team is a part of life.   Work teams, sport teams, your team of friends, and so on…   There are people who enhance the team, that takes the team to a higher place.    Then there are those who restrict the team, sometimes in really negative ways.   This week I share a story that taught me about how to be a better team member and the 3 principles I uphold when I'm in that environment.   Listen to this video if you want to be a person that is a valued member within the teams you are in.  

Last weekend we had the Christchurch Marathon. It was an amazing day for our half marathon group.   We had the most PB's we have ever had and some people had ‘once in a lifetime performances'.   I've been reflecting on why we had so many great performances within our team. There are things we know…   - Our group training helps people get to their next level. - Our coaches are experienced and are amazing at guiding and supporting our runners. - Our runners care about each other and want each other to succeed. - Our programme prepares our runners for success.   After reflecting on this, and those of our runners who nailed their race, I realised there was a key to their performance that was common across these runners and it can teach us an important lesson about high performance.     In this week's video I teach you how you can become a higher performer in areas of your life that are important to you.If you want to go to the next level, watch this video.

In New Zealand, the Covid lockdown period had a positive effect on many people's fitness.   A lot of people who didn't normally exercise suddenly had more time, so they used this time to go for a walk, a run or do some other form of exercise.   People were getting fitter, feeling good about themselves physically, and enjoying the benefits of regular exercise.   This could have been a life changing time….   But when life went back to normal what do you think happened?   These people fell away from the exercise habit they had built.   This lockdown period teaches some really valuable lessons around why people aren't exercising and how things need to be done differently.   In this week's video, I teach you a better way to approach bringing exercise into your life, in a way that can be maintained no matter what the conditions of your life may be.   If you aren't exercising, you want to watch this video.

The last quarter of a half marathon is tough.   As a coach, I want to make sure our half marathon runners know how to respond in a way that will:   1. Deliver the result they want 2. Help them make the best decisions in these tough moments 3. Get them to the finish line in a way they can be proud of   We have a mental technique we teach our runners which helps them win these tough moments and it's very simple and effective! This week I teach you this technique so you can get better at ‘winning' tough moments in your life.

Are you a career driven person or business owner that is compromising your health due to the demands of your work life? If you are, this week's video is for you. I share some interesting, and scary insights that I gained from an interview I did recently, around the cost of not looking after your health when you are a workaholic. If you know you are putting your health last due to your work, watch this video.

I'm keeping it simple this week.   I'm sharing a story from my life that inspired me to start a hobby that has been crucial to me.   If you feel you need something more in your life, this video is for you.

This week, one of our runners came up to me for some weight-loss advice. During our discussion, I asked the question “Why do you think you are overweight?”.   It was obvious that they hadn't thought about this question as they didn't have an answer.   They looked a bit lost.   I suggested that they have to think about this and find a possible answer or answers, because it's important to figure out the real problem/s lying behind this issue for them that may need to be solved.   A lot of people think a weight-loss journey is solely about food and exercise. While these 2 things are important, there are often (and not always obvious) bigger problems to solve, and if you get on top of these you have a higher chance of success.   In this week's video, I share why this is an important question to explore before you start a weight-loss journey and the steps you can take which will help set you on the right path.

I was talking to a friend last weekend about his financial situation.    He was telling me that he probably spends over 8 hours a week stressing about money. This is massive when you think about it, it's half the time you are awake within a full day!   The interesting thing about our conversation is that he's in a great place with his finances. It turns out that the finances aren't the problem…   It's that he's missing 3 simple steps that would remove the stress from his life.   In this week's video, I share our conversation and the 3-step plan that could help him remove a massive stress from his life.   If you are stressed, this may be a good watch for you.

Do you have an area of your life that you know you are very strong in? It could be: Career Health and fitness Being a parent A hobby Does being strong in this area hold you back? You may be wondering what I'm talking about here...   I have this concept called ‘Because I'm great I don't have to'. It's a concept that digs deep into how our strength can close us off to the work that can be done to take us to a higher level of self. In this week's video I talk about this concept and share how understanding it can lead to exciting next level versions of you.

In my book, "I Will Make You Passionate About Exercise," I introduce the concept of four different types of exercisers.   They are: The Non-Exerciser: This person has no exercise routine. The Yo-Yo Exerciser: This person comes and goes from exercise The Habit Exerciser: This person has a good routine that they know they can maintain, but sometimes aren't achieving their desired change The Thriving Exerciser: This person is in a place where they are growing and experiencing all the amazing benefits that come from regular exercise Which one are you?   (If you are a Non-Exerciser or a Yo-Yo Exerciser, it's worth getting my book which will give you a plan for how to become a Habit and eventually even a Thriving exerciser).   Recently, I realized there is a fifth type of exerciser, the highest level of all.   This is a level that not many can reach, but if you do, you'll become a legend with exercise.   In this week's video, I reveal the fifth type of exerciser. Maybe it's a level that you can aim for.

Do you feel guilty about the things you aren't doing to help yourself grow or overcome hurdles you face? You are not alone in experiencing this. Many people grapple with such guilt. Unfortunately, instead of prompting actionable change, this guilt often merely exacerbates negative feelings. There's a tool that I use to address this issue. It allows me to be realistic, fair to myself, and build trust that I will overcome challenges. This week, I will share what the tool is and how you can also use it. So, if you are sitting in guilt, check out this video

Being true to the real me is important. I like to feel aligned to my values and who I want to be in this world.  To take that a step further, I want to evolve so I can learn higher levels of myself. Every day, I have a powerful tool that I use that allows me to get to these higher levels. In this week's video I teach you this tool. I think you will get a lot of value from it.

Here's a fascinating statistic: Over 80% of people never complete their New Year resolutions. In fact, only 8% of people maintain them for the whole year.   There are many reasons why this happens, but to me, there's one single massive mistake people make when they set their resolutions which leads to them quitting very quickly. If you want to be one of 8% that achieve and stick to their resolutions, listen to this podcast. 

News: Results and coming up races, John's short course update. Interview: We have Gordo back on the show. He covers 5 key aspects of his comeback.  Coaches Corner: John looks back on an article he wrote 20 years ago to see if it still holds up. Age Grouper of the Week: Matt Facey sent through Regan Hollioake.

In my last video for the year, I am going to share the three massive (kind of life-transforming) lessons that I have learnt this 2023. These lessons are ones that I'll be carrying with me for the rest of my life. If you would like to learn these lessons, watch this video. 

Have you had a leader in your life who had a life-changing impact on you?  How important was this person to you? Great leaders have a massive impact on the world and on us as individuals. This can be an amazing coach, a manager, an organisational leader, or a connection that guides us to great heights. While great leaders are immensely important, many people struggle to lead when in these positions.  They may: •    Shy away from the opportunity •    Go about things the wrong way •    Create damage, not empowerment, in the relationship. Unfortunately, this can lead them to disengage from leading others. Having led thousands of people for over 20 years, I've learned a thing or two about how to help people get the best out of themselves. I believe there are four key tools/understandings you must have if you want to be a leader who can have a massive impact. In this week's video, I share four tips on how to become an impactful leader, enabling you to create life-changing shifts in others.

Do you exercise regularly but aren't getting the results you want? Maybe you… -        Consistently turn up -        Consistently do the workouts But you aren't seeing the change you want.  This is frustrating and can be unmotivating.  There are lots of reasons why this happens, but I feel there are 4 main ones.  This week I share 4 key reasons people why don't get the results they want, and what you need to do to overcome these. If you want to get better results, make sure you watch this video.

Last weekend 5 people cried on my shoulder.  It wasn't because it they were sad… It was because they had overcome the massive challenge of completing a marathon.  The tears represented: ·        Pride ·        Fatigue ·        Feeling on top of the world ·        Realising that they had achieved something that was so hard! These were powerful interactions which showed the value of doing something extremely hard in your life. Inspired by last weekend, I thought I would create a video explaining the 4 things to do if you are going to take on an extremely hard challenge. Something that I believe is a good thing for every person to do.  Watch the video to learn the lessons. 

Do you know what one of the main reasons is as to why people quit when they are trying to achieve something? It's because they don't feel they are making progress. It makes sense, if you are putting the effort in but you aren't seeing the results you want, it becomes less appealing to stick at it.     I think that one of the biggest problems that works against people is…   They are blind to their progress. They are doing well but they just don't see it. A great example of this was with one of our runners this week. They were feeling despondent with their running because they felt they weren't making progress. When I got them to look at their running stats, it turned out they had just run a 5km personal best.   If you want to have ‘stickability' in achieving a goal, you must become great at seeing and owning your own success. In this week's video, I share 4 ways you can become better at owning and enjoying your success, so you keep on your path to the growth you want.

Are you the kind of person who sometimes has the ‘two biscuits lead to the whole packet' problem? …and perhaps struggles to close the door on temptation once you go past a certain point? If you are, you are not alone! The problem is, when we go to this place it can lead to unhealthy outcomes, weight gain, feeling crap about ourselves, and sometimes even bigger costs. I have 3 strategies I use to manage my temptations and they have helped me become someone who very rarely goes to an unhealthy place. In this week's video I share these strategies with you and teach you how you can apply them to your life so when you are confronted with temptation, you can manage it in a healthier way.