Podcast appearances and mentions of corey costanzo

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about mind reading. Mind reading is a cognitive distortion where individuals believe they can accurately guess or know what others are thinking or feeling without direct communication. In relationships, this often involves making assumptions about a partner's thoughts, feelings, or intentions based on minimal or ambiguous cues. Attunement is different than mind reading, which we elaborate on. Codependency Codependency: Ways to Overcome Emotional Attunement Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: Corey@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson  

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about taking accountability and admit when we are wrong. We discuss what blocks people from doing that, what are common challenges to do so and also the flip side of what is the benefit and payoff. Shame and self-judgement are major blockages that  get in the way of this accountability as well the stigma of “being wrong”. Codependency Codependency: Ways to Overcome Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: Corey@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson    

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about revitalizing your romantic relationship. Many relationships become stale when not nurtured and paid attention to. Revitalizing a relationship refers to the process of injecting new energy, passion, and connection into a stagnant or declining partnership. Corey and I discuss how we bring that energy into our relationships and the tips we give people in our cousneling practice. Codependency Codependency: Ways to Overcome Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation   Connect with Corey Costanzo:   Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: Corey@stillpointwell.com   Let's Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about healthy communication tools. Most of us didn't learn healthy ways of communicating and resolving conflict in our families. Some families never talk about problems, while others might be explosive. We bring these styles into our relationships thinking they are normal and then feel sad and angry when they engender a negative response. Coret and I share what tools use in our personal relationships as well as those that we help guide our clients.   Codependency Codependency: Ways to Overcome Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: Corey@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about healthy ways to bring up issues. Many people bring up issues in dysfunctional ways with harsh start-ups, criticisms, accusations and demands, or just bad timing. There are better ways to bring up issues. Related podcasts: Codependency Codependency: Ways to Overcome Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: connect@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about giving too much and sacrificing ourselves for others. What's healthy in this arena? Related podcasts: Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about dealing with criticism. You will inevitably encounter constructive and destructive feedback from your family, friends, and colleagues, among others. Learning to navigate criticism is a highly valuable relationship tool. In this podcast episode we share personal and professional stories about the dynamics of criticism and how to deal with healthy responses to criticism. “Receiving criticism that hits a sensitive spot helps you explore unresolved issues. “ - Corey Costanzo Related podcasts: Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about how trauma effects relationships. Living through traumatic events may result in expectations of danger, betrayal, or potential harm within new or old relationships. People who experience trauma may become anxious or frightened in relation to others, experience them as having power or control, or easily feel abandoned or rejected. Still others may become overprotective or dependent. Though it's challenging, you can heal the trauma and change the effect it has upon your life and relationships. “We are not made the same, and we all heal in our own way, our own time “ - Corey Costanzo Related podcasts: Codependency Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about what to do after a fight with your partner. We share our strategies and stories with our own spouses as well as tips and tools from working with our clients. We also stress how important it is to reflect on your own role. Think about how you may have contributed to the disagreement and how you could communicate better next time and...be willing to apologize for your part. “Look beyond the surface-level argument to discuss the underlying needs, hurts, or problems that may have fueled the fight “ - Corey Costanzo Related podcasts: Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com   Let's Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.    Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It.   You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs.   Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about emotional flooding. That is when we get so overwhelmed with emotion, that the emotions take over, so we completely lose access to the logical part of our brains. We also lose access for empathy which is a key component to transform conflict. We also lose the ability to accurately assess tone of voice as well as facial expressions  and see them as threatening because we are in the “flight/fight” response. “Creating and maintaining strong boundaries is essential for avoiding overextending yourself to the point of struggling to regulate your emotions”. - Corey Costanzo Related podcasts: Transforming the Inner Critic Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about bonding through trauma and another aspect of which is called “trauma bonding”. A trauma bond is an attachment formed between two people who unconsciously bond through an experience or experiences of shared trauma. We also hear of trauma bonds in narcissistic abuse within an adult relationship. However, most of these relationships do not begin just in adult relationships, they begin early on in our childhood and they manifest and continue in our adult lives. “Walking away from the cycle of trauma bonding can feel like you are weening yourself  off an addiction”. - Corey Costanzo Related podcasts: Perfectionism: Traits and Characteristics Transforming the Inner Critic Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk  

Corey Costanzo and Robin Fann of Still Point Wellness Spa, a destination wellness spa in Asheville, NC, provide effortless relaxation through a combination of world-class services designed to reconnect to your body's wisdom.Corey and Robin share what makes Still Point Wellness unique as a destination spa and how their special combination of top quality services—including Saltwater Floatation (sensory deprivation), Esalen® Massage, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Experiencing—are designed to support personal development through deep relaxation and self exploration.Also on Speaking of Travel, Mark Collins, Partnerships Manager for RomanticAsheville.com, the online travel guide to Asheville and the Western North Carolina region, looks back over this incredible year to acknowledge everyone who has worked so hard to be a big part of what makes Western North Carolina, and the travel and tourism industry over, so successful.A must listen! Thanks for listening to Speaking of Travel! Visit speakingoftravel.net for travel tips, travel stories and so much more.

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about perfectionism and how those traits and tendencies affects relationships. Perfectionism can show up as being controlling, overanalyzing things even the small stuff, setting unrealistic standards of ourselves and others, and being over critical. So sometimes it may be best to lower our expectations and also accept the situation and other people and let imperfection be a normal part of life. “Appreciating the wins is important to combat the habit of looking for fault”. - Corey Costanzo Related podcasts: Transforming the Inner Critic Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Gandhi once said, “Though what you have to give may seem insignificant, it is very important that you give it.”Tanya Weaver, Executive Director of the American Foundation for Children with AIDS (AFCA), has helped families in some of the most underserved and marginalized communities in Africa. AFCA is a non-profit organization providing critical comprehensive services to infected and affected HIV+ children and their caregivers. Their programs are efficient and work successfully by promoting self-reliance and sustainability. Tanya shares how the organization helps the children in the programs become citizens of their country who are able to take care of themselves and know they have value. Also on Speaking of Travel, Corey Costanzo, co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a destination wellness spa in Asheville, NC, offers some unique experiences to move you along your quest for well-being. Corey lived and worked at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur and shares why maintaining an optimal level of wellness is crucial to live a higher quality life. And Mark Collins, Partnerships Manager for RomanticAsheville.com, the online travel guide to Asheville and the Western North Carolina region, shares why delivering on a common purpose to create and develop new solutions helps empower people and organizations with the knowledge and resources they'll need to reach their goals. Tune in!

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about Shame. Shame involves an internalized feeling of being exposed and humiliated. Shame is different from guilt. Shame is a feeling of badness about the self. Hidden shame often drives self-destructive behaviors and other psychological symptoms such as rage, avoidance, or addictions. We discuss different ways of changing destructive behaviors which requires trying out new, affirming behaviors to replace them. “Shame makes people want to hide and disappear, reinforcing shame”. - Corey Costanzo Related Content: Receiving Someone's Anger The Anger Habit Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about Adult tantrums, especial mantrums (male tantrums). We have uncontrolled outburst and expressions of anger. Adult temper tantrums can be sometimes be used as a mechanism to manipulate others, cover up  fear, shame or guilt with anger or get attention, as  well divert attention from another issue. “adult tantrums usual show up as a disproportionate expression of anger to the circumstance  ” - Corey Costanzo Related Content: Receiving Someone's Anger The Anger Habit Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. One of the greatest joys in his life involves relating with others. So, it's not surprising that he remembers one sentence I said over a year ago in one of our conversations: that the number one predictor of a relationship's success is allowing influence. But sometimes, opening up to our partners' thoughts and ideas can be challenging, especially if we're still working on our tendencies to withdraw and our need to be right. How do you accept your partner's influence with gentleness - without feeling disempowered or defensive? In this episode, Corey and I share some examples of opening up to influence in our relationships with our partners, in our work as therapists, and in our friendship with each other. We emphasize the importance of embracing your partner's influence and thoughts with grace, humility, and a good heart. We share how men are normally socially conditioned to seek “winning” and reject the notion of opening up to influence from their partners. We also share statistical data that provides insight into the effects of sharing power in a relationship and underscore how embracing influence can make our relationships more magical. “The best way to effectively share power in a relationship is when we can each have a voice and when we can each feel confident about the influence of our voice.” - Corey Costanzo This week on Relationships! Let's Talk About It: Influence and sharing power in relationships The number one thing that makes relationships thrive How our partner's influence can be an indicator of a behavior we're not conscious of The detrimental impacts of rejecting influence Statistical data on the relationship between being open to influence and the success of a marriage Men's need to “win” and how the need to be right lowers the other person's self-confidence The importance of listening to the reflection of a relationship How men are socially conditioned to perceive allowing influence as relegating autonomy and power How trust and self-awareness can allow us to open up to influence and accept boundaries Withdrawing connection, attention, and love as unhealthy responses to influence Cultivating balance and allowing influence in physical contact Allowing influence in friendships and how nobody changes with criticism Related Content: Receiving Someone's Anger The Anger Habit Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Dealing with our own anger habits in a healthy and productive way can be challenging in itself, but what can often be even more difficult is learning how to deal with receiving someone else’s anger in a way that doesn’t turn into a conflict or inspire feelings of resentment. If we leave ourselves unchecked, it can be easy to ‘feed off’ of someone else’s anger. Keeping ourselves grounded when receiving someone’s anger is critical to defuse the situation, but how do you do that? Addiction counselor, trauma specialist, and co-founder of Still Point Wellness, Corey Costanzo, suggests it starts with self-regulation In today’s episode, Corey and I discuss the varying degrees of anger - both giving and receiving it. We discuss how some anger is considered healthy and how we can determine when someone’s anger becomes unhealthy and abusive. We explore ways couples can help their partners defuse their anger. We discuss how my wife, Rainbow, helps me self-regulate my angry feelings by allowing me to vent. We highlight the strategies we use to keep ourselves grounded when we’re on the receiving end of someone’s anger, such as breathing deeply and validating the other person’s point of view. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries when receiving someone’s anger, some of the phrases that can often trigger a person’s anger, such as“calm down,” “just deal with it,” and “ you’re making too big of a deal out of this.” We also share alternative phrases you can use to help defuse an angry situation and Corey shares how his wife, Robin, helped him snap out of an ‘anger fog’ through empathy, understanding, and love.   “It’s the validation of an angry person’s anger that is most likely going to defuse the anger and lead towards greater connection and understanding.”  - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: Understanding the difference between ‘healthy anger’ and ‘unhealthy anger’ and why it’s critical to recognize the boundary line between them How mirroring strategies and allowing your partner to express their anger without interruption can help them self-regulate their behaviors How our childhood experiences with anger Impact the way we deal with other people’s anger in adulthood Using deep breathing techniques to keep yourself grounded while receiving someone’s anger Setting healthy boundaries when someone’s anger crosses the line Identifying and addressing emotionally, psychologically, and verbally abusive behaviors Working with your partner to set healthy boundaries, agreements, and commitments for dealing with each other’s anger Phrases that can often fuel a person’s anger and what you can say instead to help defuse the situation How validating your partner’s feelings and experiences can help them feel less threatened How Robin snapped Corey out of an ‘anger fog’ by expressing her concern for his health and wellbeing Using the practice of witnessing your partner’s anger when it’s directed at an object Retraining your mind and body to respond to anger in a healthier way through visualization techniques Preparing ourselves for conflicts in our relationships   Resources Mentioned: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) The Right Use of Power: The Heart of Ethics by Cedar Barstow   Related Content: The Anger Habit   Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before! Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372. Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode! Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Whether we are its origin or its receiver, we all experience anger throughout our lives. While anger isn’t necessarily “bad,” it is a critical emotion to understand, for what we do with anger has the opportunity to bring our loved ones closer or push them away from us. And like other emotions, we become more accustomed to anger the more we express it without restraint, creating a toxic habit that can lead to contempt in our relationships. Anger becomes more difficult to manage when it becomes a habit, for habits are executed without much conscious effort. Although the anger habit can be hard-wired in a person’s brain, bodywork therapist and Still Point Wellness owner Corey Costanzo suggests that a person can break free from anger’s chains through awareness, conscious work, and education. In this episode, Corey and I define anger as the need to be in control of external factors. We reveal how helplessness leads to frustration and, eventually, anger. We highlight different means of expressing anger in a healthy, non-destructive way. We discuss how anger impacts relationships and creates codependent dynamics in family systems. We also uncover the other emotions behind the mask of anger and underscore the power of appreciation as an antidote to the anger habit. “Anger is an emotional pathway that gets hard-wired in the brain. With a bit of awareness, work, and information, you can shift out of the anger habit.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: Anger as an emotional pathway and contraction in the body The roots of anger Why anger is a false sense of power and how it disempowers other people The first door to frustration and how it translates to anger A pet pig named Ginger and Corey’s recent experience with anger and frustration The feeling of justification whenever we express our anger How Corey shifted his expressions of anger and frustration The difference between feeling your anger versus expressing it without a filter How unmanaged anger creates a codependent dynamic in family systems and relationships Feelings of helplessness, frustration, anger, and how they all lead to contempt in relationships Why anger isn’t a bad emotion and how expressing a specific emotion creates more of it The value of visualizing our moments of anger Creating an environment where we can express difficult feelings in a healthier way Sitting with anger and how it’s different from ruminating on it The power of breath in dissipating anger Using anger, frustration, and other challenging emotions as biomarkers to detect the need to shift something How anger impacts children, their behavior, and the development of their nervous system The different styles of anger and how to manage them through awareness   Resources Mentioned: How Anger Affects Intimate Relationships by Randi Gunther Headspace   Related Content: Emotional Regulation Codependency Codependency: Ways to Overcome The Biggest Predictor of Relationship Failure New Love...Taking Risks to be Real Relationship Sabotage   Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before! Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372. Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode! Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Once a person recognizes codependent patterns in their relationships, the next important step is to learn how to overcome them. Our friendships can be a source of good modeling and influence our journey through healing codependency in our lives. My friend, Corey Costanzo, is one such friend who encourages my positivity in the world. He is a licensed addictions counselor, bodywork therapist, and somatic experiencing practitioner who owns Still Point Wellness, the premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville, North Carolina. Through the years, Corey and I have worn many hats together: as colleagues who consult with one another and as fathers who celebrate each other’s parenting. Ours is a friendship that has seen joy and appreciation - truly, a fine piece in overcoming codependent tendencies. In this episode, Corey and I discuss the hallmarks of codependent patterns and behaviors in relationships and the tools a person needs to break them. We discuss how childhood upbringing and family dynamics can inform codependent behavior later in life and illustrate how friendships can support the healing of codependent relationships. We highlight the role of education in raising awareness of codependent patterns as well as overcoming them. We also underscore the power of the breath in realizing, managing, and healing codependent behavior and explain how meditative practices can help us self-soothe difficult emotions.   “The antidote is loving oneself, self-respect, and self-awareness.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: The signs of codependency and how people develop them Codependency as a learned behavior and how it shows up in families struggling with addiction and long-term illnesses How codependency lives in the subconscious patterns of a family system The role of awareness in overcoming codependency The characteristics of people with codependency issues The difficulty of codependent people going through relational conflict Why education is an essential piece in overcoming codependent patterns Cultivating a sense of self and its power in overcoming codependency The fear of being independent in relationships and what we lose from becoming codependent The importance of aligning with your personal values and building self-worth Putting up boundaries to break codependent patterns What ruminating is and how negative emotions can impact physical health Meditating with difficult emotions and other methods to manage negative feelings The power of the breath in regulating emotions and gaining awareness of codependent patterns How utilizing the breath gives you the agency to speak your truth Attraction to the “bad boy” type and picking people as projects to fix Why people stay in codependent and emotionally abusive relationships How codependency can be a spiritual issue Bringing awareness to the potential of love and compassion to heal   Resources Mentioned: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Al-Anon Family Groups Headspace   Related Content: Codependency People-Pleasing Expressing Needs Do the Right Thing Emotional Regulation Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship? The Importance of a Personal Practice Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships   Connect with Corey Costanzo:  Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode! Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Codependency is rather insidious: though many people are familiar with the term, they don’t know how it manifests in families and impacts relationships. Awareness, Corey Costanzo stresses, is key to healing it. Corey is a licensed addictions counselor and bodywork therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, a master didgeridoo player, and a good friend of mine. Together with his wife, Robin, Corey co-owns Still Point Wellness, a premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville, North Carolina. Today, Corey and I explore the hallmarks of a dysfunctional family and how it breeds codependency. We illustrate the dynamics of codependent relationships and their children and explain why dysfunctional families find it difficult to navigate difficult emotions and situations. We describe the characteristics of codependent behaviors and illustrate their impact on relationships. We also share our experiences in dealing with codependent relationships and emphasize the role of awareness in breaking the cycle of codependency.   “Codependency is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have healthy, mutually satisfying relationships.”  - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: Codependency as a learned behavior in families and how it can be passed to generations The relationship between codependency and addiction The consequences of codependent behavior Codependent relationships between children and parents Why parents need to deal with their own emotions The characteristics of a dysfunctional family What makes families afraid of discussing difficult emotions and experiences Detachment and fear of connection in dysfunctional families Experiencing codependence in my family and learning to talk about emotions How Corey cultivated trust between himself and a teenager in his practice Breaking the cycle of codependency in couples Witnessing our partners’ experiences with emotions What enmeshment in a relationship looks like and what it takes to be differentiated Relationships with people with diagnosed mental illness and how to navigate them The fear of abandonment and the experience of isolation in codependent relationships The characteristics of codependent people and how codependency manifests in a couple’s sex life   Related Content: Expressing Needs Emotional Regulation Do the Right Thing Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship? The Importance of a Personal Practice Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships     Resources Mentioned: Headspace App Al-Anon Family Groups Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody     Connect with Corey Costanzo:   Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.   If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!   Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

A lot of people are in tremendous stress as a result of the global pandemic. Some people find themselves falling back to some old behavior patterns that they thought they had already let go. This is what’s called regression: a defensive mechanism for coping with stress. It’s a common phenomenon many of us experience unconsciously. Corey Costanzo - a licensed addictions counselor and good friend of mine - believes that a significant part of managing our regressive responses to stress is mindfulness. Corey is a licensed massage and bodywork therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, and co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville.   Today, Corey and I discuss our tendency to regress when we are under stress. We highlight the different ways regression can manifest in our lives and how they can impact our relationships. We share some of the tools you can use to learn how to recognize regressive tendencies and manage them. We also draw from our personal experiences with regression and illustrate how we work with it, as well as emphasize the parents’ roles in teaching children how to cope with stress and negative experiences.   “It’s important for everybody to figure out the resources to be able to stand up in the face of uncomfortable sensations and thoughts.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: How a stunted developmental stage can result in adult regression The collective stress resulting from the pandemic and how stress triggers regressive behavior Substance use and addiction as a form of regression and the importance of bringing regressive behavior into the consciousness Regression and self-sabotage The difference between a regressed response versus a partnered response The value of communicating our needs and meeting them ourselves How mindfulness can help the awareness of regression and recognition of stress The neuroscience of stress and meditation and how our brain regresses to primitive lifeforms when we’re stressed Corey’s experiences with regression and how he transforms them How our regressive behaviors are exhibited when we’re with family My tendency to shut down and get defensive under stressful situations Experiencing tension, anxiety, and regression in the body What it means to resource for ourselves Regression in children and teenagers and how parents can model calm and mindfulness for their kids The importance of seeking support in times of stress    Related Content: Anxiety in Families Emotional Regulation Do the Right Thing Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship? Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships   Resources Mentioned: Headspace App   Connect with Corey Costanzo Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode! Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Many of us maintain daily practices. They bring us to a state of a balanced and stable mind. For some, that practice is yoga or meditation, while for others, it could be writing morning pages or creating art. For Corey Costanzo, it’s doing didgeridoo meditation sessions. Corey - a colleague and long-time friend of mine - is a master didgeridooist who has been playing the instrument for over 20 years. For over 100 days since the COVID-19 pandemic started, Corey has been hosting 20-minute didgeridoo meditation sessions at Still Point Wellness on Facebook.   Corey is a licensed massage and bodywork therapist, a licensed addictions counselor, somatic experiencing practitioner, and co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville. By transforming his morning routine with the didgeridoo to a shared experience with an online community, Corey continues to realize the connection between cultivating personal practices and wellbeing.   In this episode, Corey and I discuss the importance of personal practices. We differentiate routine from cultivating a personal practice and illustrate how our relationships can benefit from the latter. We describe how bringing curiosity and mindfulness into our practice can bring us to a deeper understanding of ourselves. We also explore the overwhelm and guilt people feel when they fail to follow-through on habits and practices as well as share advice on how we can cultivate a daily practice.   “Personal practice is the antidote to a co-dependent relationship. I fill myself with what brings me joy and from there, I meet my partner.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:  A didgeridoo meditation with Corey Our relationship with our personal practice and how they affect us and our relationships How Corey found his connection with the didgeridoo and how he taught himself to play it The difference between a routine and a personal practice How mindfulness can bring a deeper self-awareness The art of breathing and recognizing the connection between breath and anxiety The benefits of breathing through your nostrils and how breathing through the mouth can negatively impact our health Transforming the Relationships: Let’s Talk About It! Podcast from routine to personal practice How podcasting has affected my relationship with my wife, Rainbow The importance of having an interest or hobby outside of your relationship Going back to our personal practice for self-care, self-soothing, and self-regulation Learning more about ourselves through diving into personal practice The overwhelm and guilt that comes with trying to maintain a daily practice and how to cope with them Identifying the link between curiosity and mindfulness   Related Content:  Emotional Regulation Do the Right Thing Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship? Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships    Resources Mentioned: Breath: the New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor   Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn    Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.   If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, email HeartShares@yahoo.com or visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!   Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is a licensed addiction counselor and somatic therapist who seeks to help people achieve a higher flow in their life experience. Another area of expertise is bodywork, a mix of Esalen Massage, Craniosacral therapy, and Didgeridoo sound vibration healing. A kind-hearted person and good friend of mine, Corey helps the local community improve their lives by offering donation-based Restorative Yoga classes at Asheville Community Yoga and teaching somatic psychology at the Center for Massage. He co-owns Still Point Wellness, Asheville’s premier spa featuring sensory deprivation float tank and world-class Esalen Massage, with his wife, Robin.   In today’s episode, Corey and I discuss emotional self-regulation and how we can bring awareness and mindfulness to respond to our internal experiences. We explain how we can choose to self-regulate instead of allowing ourselves to be swept by emotions and share tools and coping techniques we can use to regulate. We explain how a parent’s ability to regulate their emotions can affect their children’s psychological development. We differentiate feelings from emotions and explain how this distinction can help us manage our emotions. We also draw from our personal experiences to share the steps we took to self-regulate in times of conflict.   “If we know how to self-regulate as a parent, then that’s a form of wisdom we can pass on to our children.” -Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   Corey’s definition of emotional regulation How to access the choice to emotionally self-regulate instead of being swept by emotions Using mindfulness and awareness practices to help emotional self-regulation The biochemistry of emotions and where they are felt How to distinguish feelings from emotions to regulate responses Self-soothing and self-care methods to increase self-awareness The importance of co-regulating a partner’s emotional experiences Why parents should develop emotional regulation skills and how dysregulation can affect childhood development How attachment styles affect confrontation and conflict management in couples Resources Mentioned:   Molecules of Emotions by Candace Pert 045 Do the Right Thing 018 Is Stress Affecting Your Relationships? 007 Addictions and Their Effects On Relationships 004 Sound and Attunement in Relationships   Connect with Corey Costanzo:   Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.    If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!   Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

Corey Costanzo is a Somatic Therapist, a Licensed Addiction Counselor, and a Licensed Massage and Body Work Therapist. He is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage spa in Asheville, NC. He earned his Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Vermont and a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a special focus on somatic/body psychology from Santa Barbara Graduate Institute.   Corey joins me today to discuss the aspect of integrity and doing the right thing when faced with difficult decisions. We discuss the difference between following what our bodies and hearts tell us to do versus following our thoughts. We explain how practicing mindfulness and self-inquiry can help you determine whether you’re making the right decisions based on your values and integrity and how these practices can help you be more in-tune with your spouse, partner, or others in your relationships. We also discuss how our past experiences shape the way we make decisions and influence our decisions on doing the right thing.   “When the right thing is done, it can turn into some of the most profound growth experiences in life.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   How volunteering at a men’s detention center has impacted Corey’s perspective on doing the right thing. How Corey knows when he has made a good decision that is in alignment with his values. How to use your body as a checks-and-balances resource to guide your decisions. How mindfulness, self-inquiry, and breathing practices help you make better decisions that are in alignment with your core values and integrity. Making good relational decisions versus simply compromising. How to balance understanding your partner’s reality and sharing your own perspective without being judgmental. Corey’s recent experience of planning his sister’s surprise birthday party and how he realized he was making decisions based on his preferences instead of what his sister would want. The importance of being disciplined to think beyond yourself when making decisions that will impact others. Rewarding children for showing empathy and claiming ownership of their mistakes. What it means for parents to set ‘hard-core boundaries’ for their children and why Corey believes there is a more effective way to teach children to do the right thing. How your unique experiences, personality, and character structure influences your decision-making skills. An effective strategy for rebuilding trust that has been broken in a relationship. How to identify if your behavior and actions are in alignment with the relational agreements you’ve made. How learning from your previous mistakes and poor decisions helps you make better decisions in the future.    Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness,  a premier spa based in Asheville, North Carolina that offers first-class services such as Salt Water Floatation (a.k.a. sensory deprivation), Esalen Massage, and Cranial Sacral Therapy. Having a very intimate relationship with stress and anxiety, Corey studied Somatic Psychology and acquired a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology.  Additionally, he is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, and music therapist.   Corey joins me today to share how understanding your body and being aware of what happens to it when you’re stressed can affect your personal and professional relationships. We discuss where to look and what to do to the body when you’re stressed and explain the gravity of destressing and taking care of your ownanxiety so you can take care of others. We also share techniques that you can use to help you improve relaxation and decrease stress and explain why self-care is not simply a luxury, but a necessity for achieving a harmonious relationship with others.    “There’s always going to be anxiety. There’s always going to be stressful things. It’s how we deal with those things and what tools we can use in the present moment to be able to work with that energy of stress.” - Corey Costanzo    This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   How stress affects the physical body according to science. What the Zen Breath technique is and how to do it. Why yoga, meditation, and mindfulness are popular de-stressing activities. The first step to unlocking the door to stress and anxiety. The benefits of being aware of your stress. A technique to avoid the stress blame-game. The importance of giving your partner some space when managing stress. The benefits of doing physical activities instead of rationalizing your stress. The difference between shallow-breath reactions versus deep-breath responses. How deep breathing affects your body and influences your connection with others. Regulation versus dysregulation of the nervous system. The reason Corey began working the field of healing arts. How he learned to beat depression and anxiety. The paradox of holding stress as a badge of honor in some communities. How your family background affects the way youhandle stress and anxiety. How addiction in the family affects the next generation. How parents’ suppressing stress or anger transfers to their kids and the results. The link between indecisiveness and anxiety. Why you should give yourself permission to be wrong. The unselfish aspect of taking care of yourself so you can take care of your relationships. How you can choose to break the stress cycle and habit. What the habit of stress looks like and the biological markers and symptoms to watch out for. The number one go-to stress buster and stress reliever. What the Curious Paradox is and how it helps you accept what’s going on in your body. How Epsom salt and Esalen Massage help reduce stress and anxiety.   Connect with Corey Costanzo:   Still Point Wellness   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counselingand Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitterand Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own greatpodcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com  

Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning spa based in Asheville, NC offering world-class services including Salt Water Floatation - also known as sensory deprivation - Esalen Massage, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Corey is a man of many talents and wears multiple hats. He holds a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a special focus on Somatic Psychology and is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. He is a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, and mindfulness meditation teacher. Additionally, he is a music therapist as well as a talented didgeridoo player. Corey joins me today to discuss how addictions affect relationships. He explains how couples can improve their relationship when an addiction is present and how to identify when an addiction becomes an issue. He also explains what non-addicted partners can do to help themselves in a relationship involving addiction and how insight and awareness can help addicted partners learn to make better choices and decisions that are aligned with their life goals.   “When there’s an addiction in the relationship, it’s almost as if there’s a third-party that’s in the relationship.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   How addictions often drive a wedge between partners. The importance of non-addicted partners seeking help, counseling, and treatment. What is Al-Anon and how it helps relationships involving addictions? Signs of co-dependence and how it impacts your relationship. How co-dependences tendencies impact future generations. The difference between judging a person judging the behavior. The importance of setting boundaries. The difference between advocating sobriety vs. advocating moderation. How addictions impact trust. The importance of staying disciplined and focused on the long-term goal when facing relapses. How periods of addiction relapses can help identify what is “lacking” in an addicted person’s life. How practicing mindfulness meditation can help non-addicted partners stay aligned with and empowered to hold their boundaries. Recognizing triggers that lead to addiction or relapse. How insight and awareness can help addicted partners make better choices that are in line with their life goals. How one person seeking help can lead others to do so as well.     Resources Mentioned: Al-Anon Headspace Meditation App     Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!     Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk  

Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning spa in Asheville, North Carolina. He is a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, music therapist, and mindfulness meditation teacher. He earned his master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a focus on Somatic Psychology. Additionally, he is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner as well as a very talented didgeridoo player.   Corey joins me today to share how he is using sound and vibration as a tool to heal and transform the lives of those around him. He explains how sound helps in becoming more attune with your partner and its impact on the connection you build with them. He also explains how harmonics and vibrations influence partnerships, strategies to become more attuned to yourself as well as your partner, and how he uses the didgeridoo as a guided meditation tool in his philanthropic work.   “Attunement is a beautiful ingredient to the recipe of a successful relationship - and a successful life.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   How he uses sound and healing as meditative tools to impact the healing and transformation process. Using the didgeridoo as a healing instrument in guided meditation sessions. The “Inside Out” meditation strategy and how it works. The history of the didgeridoo. How his guided meditation sessions with the didgeridoo at a men’s detention center helped transform the lives of incarcerated men and trauma sufferers. The connection between emotional attunement and harmonic attunement. How attunement can be positive or negative. How being attuned to yourself - your knowing, alignment, and groundedness - impacts your ability to be attuned to others. Strategies to become attuned to yourself, your energy, and your personal space. The power of mental imagery, visualization techniques, and self-attunement. Designing your life with awareness and thought through mindfulness and attunement techniques.     Resources Mentioned:   Touch the Sound Documentary Ear Hustle Podcast Light A Path Organization Asheville Community Yoga The Effects of Mental Imagery on Free Throw Performance study by The College at Brockport: State University of New York   Connect with Corey Costanzo:   Still Point Wellness    Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk

This week I talk with Corey Costanzo about working with trauma. We cover a lot of ground, from what brought him to focus on clients with trauma, to specific techniques he uses to help his clients transform anxiety. As usual, I ask my question about failure, and we talk about some of his successes as well.

Treeka Drake is the owner of One Love Float in Calgary, Alberta, Canada, as well as the President of the Float Collective. She’s partnered up with Corey Costanzo to put on a Friday Activity this year called “Shamanic Floating Concepts with Didgeridoo Journey.” Treeka has been digging into the world of shamanism and incorporating it […] The post 105: Treeka Drake – Shamanic Floating Concepts appeared first on Float Conference 2020.

Corey runs Still Point Wellness, a float and wellness center out in Asheville, North Carolina. He’ll be partnering up with Treeka Drake of One Love Float to put on a Friday Activity entitled “Shamanic Floating Concepts with Didgeridoo Journey.” Corey will be playing using his didgeridoo to take people on this sound based journey. Read […] The post 104: Corey Costanzo – Shamanic Floating Concepts appeared first on Float Conference 2020.

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