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Is codependency secretly sabotaging your life and relationships? Are you losing yourself while desperately trying to fix someone else? Mayim and Jonathan explore how to spot the telltale signs of codependent behavior and distinguish it from a healthy relationship, romantic or otherwise. Using the book, “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself” by Melody Bettle as their guide, Mayim and Jonathan break down how trauma and family dynamics can create codependency and how to break those codependent patterns. Learn why pressuring others to change never works, the physiological toll of codependency, and how to set powerful boundaries to protect yourself. They share tips on how to overcome codependency, such as how to increase emotional resilience, build your self-esteem, recognize your needs, and practice healthy detachment—without losing yourself. Plus, see how Jonathan did on Mayim's codependency quiz! Check out CODEPENDENT NO MORE: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself: https://www.melodybeattie.com/codependentnomore BialikBreakdown.comYouTube.com/mayimbialik 

This week on Eat Drink Smoke, Tony and Fingers review the Crowned Heads Las Calaveras 2024 and Jefferson’s Ocean Aged at Sea Double Barrel Rye Whiskey. Topics this week include: There are four rude things restaurant owners wish food influencers would stop doing. Senators are introducing a measure to make daylight saving time a year-round standard. Thousands of homes have burned in California fires, with more days of fire weather ahead. Tony shares his version of a 'Gas Station Find.' Jimmy Carter's funeral service has concluded. There are three reasons why ‘vacation sex’ can revive your marriage—as suggested by a psychologist. All that, and much more on the latest Eat Drink Smoke! Follow Eat Drink Smoke on social media!X (Formerly Twitter): @GoEatDrinkSmokeFacebook: @eatdrinksmokeIG: @EatDrinkSmokePodcast The Podcast is Free! Click Below! Apple PodcastsAmazon MusicStitcher SpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Send us a text“Doing the inner work,” has become a popular phrase, but what does it mean? In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, Dr. Liam Johnson explains that a big part of “the work,” is self-reflection, shadow-work, journaling, and setting boundaries for personal growth. Dr. Liam discusses his journey and transition experience, highlighting the challenges he faced. He also describes his work with marginalized groups, particularly focusing on trans and non-binary individuals. And, he emphasizes the importance of specialized healthcare for the trans community, noting the lack of information in medical journals. We talk:How the name Liam chose him - 5:32The internal work that you should focus on - 14:27Setting boundaries with your family - 23:06Disassociating with your body - 31:26HIV prevention and advocacy work - 48:04Episode References:Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (book by Melody Beattie)Read more about Dr. Liam in his bio below:Dr. Liam Johnson (He/Him) is a Clinical Exercise Physiologist and Research Scientist specializing in epidemiology, with a focus on special population diseases. As a Level 5 Master Trainer, he is dedicated to improving communal health in the African American and LGBTQ communities.Dr. Liam focuses his scope of work on special population diseases, developing tailored interventions that enhance health outcomes for marginalized communities, like African American and LGBTQ populations." This approach demonstrates his diverse level of expertise and dedication to improving health equity for his communities through academically justified research. With over 15 years of experience, Dr. Liam combines his passions for research and helping others, creating educational prototypes for marginalized groups and developing life plans for patients. His work is driven by the joy of facilitating understanding and empowerment, leaving behind tangible knowledge. Recognized as one of the Best in Texas in Clinical Physiology, Dr. Liam continues to strive for excellence in all his endeavors.Link to Shadow Work Journal for Black Men: A Guided Mental Health Journal for Healing, Self-Discovery, Growth & Self-Awareness With Prompts to Work Through...Manifestation & Spirituality for Black MenTikTok: @affordably.affirmed1; @affirmedworkouts; @affirmednutrition IG: _affordably.affirmed_; _drliam.phys_specialistFB: Hellome R&R; Liam Johnson (no shirt) LinkedIn: Dr. Liam Johnson PhD., EdD., Doc.Sci. YOUTUBE: @AffordablyAffirmedAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Are you feeling burned out by the dating process or struggling to show up in your relationships? In this episode, I talk with Rebecca Marcus, LCSW about going at your own pace and: • Caring for yourself when starting new relationships just as you would in every other part of your life  • Not comparing yourself to others when dating and choosing the right pace for you • Slowing down to process and reflect throughout the dating process to understand how you feel about the other person  • The importance of honoring and speaking your needs with the other people in your life, even if they're also highly sensitive  Rebecca is a social worker in NYC who helps Millennial women chill out, get confident, and trust themselves and their dating process, so they can find and keep the love they want. Growing up on Disney movies, rom coms, and fairy tales about Prince Charming that showed unrealistic expectations of relationships, dating, and love only led to chaos and confusion when she started dating. So for a decade, she's helped millennial women navigate the confusing NYC dating scene, break toxic patterns, and create relationships and a life filled with meaning and joy. Keep in touch with Rebecca: • Website: https://rmpsychotherapy.com  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rm.psychotherapy  Resources Mentioned: • Free Meditation: https://rmpsychotherapy.com/subscribe  • Dating Groups: https://rmpsychotherapy.com/group  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781954118157   • Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9780553062182  • The Empath's Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781683642114  Thanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional. Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.

Chapter 1:Summary of Codependent No More"Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" by Melody Beattie is a self-help book that addresses the concept of codependency, particularly how it affects individuals in relationships. Key Themes and Concepts:1. Definition of Codependency: Beattie defines codependency as a pattern of behavior where individuals prioritize the needs and feelings of others over their own, often at the expense of their own well-being.2. Characteristics of Codependent Individuals: The book outlines typical traits of codependent people, including low self-esteem, a tendency to take responsibility for others' feelings, difficulty in setting boundaries, and an overwhelming desire to please others.3. Impact of Codependency: Beattie explores how codependency can be rooted in family dynamics, particularly in homes with addiction or dysfunction, and how it can perpetuate unhealthy relationships and cycles.4. Breaking the Cycle: The author emphasizes that codependent individuals can reclaim their lives by recognizing their patterns, setting boundaries, and learning to take care of themselves. This requires self-reflection, developing self-esteem, and practicing self-care.5. Practical Tools and Strategies: The book offers practical advice, exercises, and affirmations for readers to identify their codependent behaviors and work towards healthier relationships. Techniques include journaling, engaging in therapy, and creating a support system.6. Empowerment and Growth: Beattie promotes the idea that healing from codependency is possible. Readers are encouraged to pursue personal growth, cultivate independence, and recognize that it's okay to prioritize their own needs and feelings.Overall, "Codependent No More" serves as a guide for individuals seeking to understand codependency, foster healthier relationships, and nurture their own emotional well-being.Chapter 2:The Theme of Codependent No More"Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" by Melody Beattie is a seminal work in the field of self-help and recovery for individuals dealing with codependency, particularly in relationships affected by addiction or dysfunction. Here are the key plot points, character development, and thematic ideas in the book: Key Plot Points1. Understanding Codependency: Beattie introduces the concept of codependency, describing it as a dysfunctional relationship pattern characterized by excessive reliance on others for self-worth and emotional regulation.2. Identifying Symptoms: The author outlines various symptoms and behaviors common in codependent individuals, such as people-pleasing, enabling, and emotional numbness.3. Personal Stories and Anecdotes: Throughout the book, Beattie shares personal stories and anecdotes from her own life and from others in recovery, illustrating the impact of codependency on relationships and personal well-being.4. The Cycle of Codependency: She discusses the cyclical nature of codependency, detailing how it perpetuates unhealthy relationships and keeps individuals trapped in a pattern of care-taking that undermines their self-esteem.5. Steps Toward Recovery: Beattie provides practical strategies and steps for readers to break free from codependent patterns, encouraging self-care, boundary-setting, and self-reflection.6. The Importance of Support: The author emphasizes the value of support groups, such as Al-Anon and Codependents Anonymous, as essential resources for recovery and healing. Character Development- Melody Beattie as a Guide: As the author, Beattie acts as both a mentor and a confidante, drawing on her own experiences with codependency and addiction. Her journey from codependency to self-acceptance serves as a source of...

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How do you support your mind and protect your spirit when you're in the middle of heartbreak? When you're in a massive life storm - how do you lean towards a breakthrough and not have an absolute breakdown? When it feels like you're pushed to the edge of heartbreak, burnout, or brokenness - what can you do to take care of yourself?  Today, we invited our dear friend and team member, Liz Cox, to share her mental health experience and outlook on balancing kingdom principles with worldly tools. You'll hear Jess and Liz get raw and honest and share five key takeaways to help when you feel like life will take you out. Let's go. *Trigger warning: this episode mentions a personal account of SA.* Don't Miss: Want to hear more about mental health and therapy? Listen to Episode 3 of the Jess Connolly Podcast, You Might Need Therapy with Kobe Campbell.  Are you a coach? Are you interested in becoming one? Get formally equipped with our proven 6-step methodology, developed by our founding coach Jess Connolly, and coached for life in our community as you step out and coach others.  Applications are currently open! Hurry, applications close this week! Helpful Books Mentioned In The Episode:  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Original Edition)  The Child in You: The Breakthrough Method for Bringing Out Your Authentic Self  Interested in learning more about Onsite? Check out more information about what they have to offer here.

Let's go deeper! It's one thing to know you need better boundaries. It's another to know how to create them. In this new episode of Unfollow, Master-Certified Life Coach Melissa Wiggins is back with the first part of 13 questions to help you have better boundaries. Hear what they are, and the difference they've made in her own life and the lives of her clients.Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let's get started today. Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UNFOLLOW: Question Everything with Excitement, and download theFREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out One.Life today! Read Melody Beattie's book, Codependent No More - How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself Questions? Email Melissa: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeFollow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to “Unfollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins#boundaries #settingboundaries

This is a topic that's been requested many times and one that affects many households.  Michelle and Sandy have a raw conversation about how addiction touched their lives and how they participated in their own happiness when circumstances were out of their control. They share resources that were instrumental in their healing in the hopes it can be helpful for anyone who is listening that might be going through it.   Dr. Gabor Maté - https://drgabormate.com https://beyondaddiction.ca  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself https://a.co/d/2JcVFuh Codependent No More Workbook https://a.co/d/4JX9qKT Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time https://a.co/d/604Tig1 Courage to Change: One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II https://a.co/d /aiYdaxr https://al-anon.org (https://al-anon.org) Enrich Course (USE 40%OFF CODE: PODCAST): https://sheisliberated.com/enrich Huge thank you to our amazing Audio Engineer for the podcast Terry Robertson!! SCREENSHOT & TAG US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Liberated:  https://instagram.com/sheisliberated?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Liberated Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sheisliberated1    

Suddenly, my job no longer worked. I put in my resignation letter September 2020. Suddenly, my romantic relationship no longer worked. I ended it the spring of 2021. Suddenly, the non-existent boundaries in all of my relationships, family, friends, community members had to be reflected on and invented. This is because my job, my romantic relationship, my lack of boundaries were all oriented around me trying to get my unmet needs from childhood, met externally. Subscribe for weekly love letters: https://seedaschool.substack.com/ "We Will Not Innovate Our Way Out Of White Supremacy: A letter to my 19 year old self" newsletter mentioned in episode How to Start Working for Yourself, with Bear Hebert podcast episode Pre-order: "Survival Is a Promise: The Eternal Life of Audre Lorde" by Alexis Pauline Gumbs Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie

I'm excited to have Liz Rohr back on the Prosperous Empath® today, where I'll be sharing an episode that we originally recorded for their show, the Real World NP Podcast. If you listened to their past episode, you know that Liz is committed to embracing their zone of genius as an empath and avoiding burnout while staying committed to their values. Our past conversation was chock full of insights,  and I am excited to expand on them and more today.  We're unpacking caretaking, boundaries, codependency and how to stop neglecting your own needs – something that is all too common for empaths. We get vulnerable as we both talk about recognizing how sometimes we take care of other people to feel good about ourselves and ways to shift this behavior pattern. You may take care of other people because you feel capable and ambitious, just because you can do something, doesn't mean that you should do it. This is especially true as a coach, where you can only take care of others to the degree that you take care of yourself. If you're practiced in stepping over your needs, it's normal to feel like you don't know what your needs and desires are, but we give you a practical framework to start developing your authentic voice and boundaries with yourself and others. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did!   Topics: What caretaking is, how it manifests itself in relationships, and why you can't fill someone else's cup before you fill your own  Learning how to protect and hold sacred your gifts as an empath so you don't end up using them against yourself  Why you should recognize your caretaking and codependency traits and stop always jumping in to be a hero Normalizing that you may not know what your needs and desires are (yet!) after neglecting them for a long time How to start enforcing your needs and boundaries in your relationships with yourself and others and start feeling well-resourced and cherished Episode Resources: To Weep for a Stranger: Compassion Fatigue in Caregiving by Patricia Smith Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg Connect with Liz: Website Instagram: @lizrohr.co Instagram: @realworldnp   Connect with Catherine: Website LinkedIn Instagram YouTube Sign up to receive my weekly digest on empathic entrepreneurship and hear from voices committed to spreading this message, sent straight to your inbox every Friday since 2016, here.    Work with Catherine: Interested in working 1:1 with Catherine or a certified coach on her team, or joining one of her premium mastermind programs? Schedule a low-pressure call to begin the conversation here   Visit this episode's full show notes page here. -- The Prosperous Empath® Podcast is produced by Heart Centered Podcasting.

Billy's Ex “L”! Get Beducated and up your love life at https://beducate.me/pd2340-manwhore ! Get 40% off Liberator's wedge/ramp combo at http://liberator.com ! Join the conversations in The Champagne Room at http://manwhorepod.com/discord! Show Dates: 12/13 - Pete's Candy Shop 12/18 - Gebhard's, 9:30pm 12/18 - Grisly Pear (Midtown), 10pm 1/5 - Pine Box Rock Shop, 9pm 1/17 - Marian's, 7:30pm 1/26 - The Naked Comedy Show @ Hacienda Mentioned: Carolyn Busa's shop: @peaksecondhand Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing that Ever Happened to You by Susan J. Elliott South Park: Kenny Dies I Could Learn to Love You by Ashley Cleveland Follow Billy! TikTok: @thebillyprocida Twitter: @TheBillyProcida Instagram: @billyisprocida 0nlyFans: @callmebilly Venmo: @BillyProcida Cash App: $manwhorepod Do your affordable book shopping at http://bookshop.org/shop/billy! Join us for Hot Movie Night! Sign up at https://www.patreon.com/manwhorepodcast! Email your comments, questions, and criticisms to manwhorepod@gmail.com. Late Night Radio by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ www.ManwhorePod.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode #80: "Neediness" has come up in plenty of episodes, but this is the first one dedicated to that loaded word. The episode was inspired by a letter from a listener--author, Sally Vardaman, who found herself reacting to my mom's story in episode #72 about her decision to end a friendship over what she called, "neediness." Sally's letter was so reflective and insightful that I asked her to come on the show. We covered: feeling drained by a friend's needs.worrying you're overtaxing friends with your needs.eliminating the shame of having needs in the first place. We all have needs! They just rarely cannot be met by one particular friend.MEET SALLY VARDAMANSally Vardaman is a writer who believes in the power of stories to make us think, question our assumptions, and connect with each other despite our differences. She is the author of Shoot the Arrows, a new book of essays to her three teenage children on why honesty and self-reflection are the keys to a healthy and meaningful life. You can find more about her work at sallyvardaman.com. As well as on Facebook, Instagram, and Goodreads.The Books Sally has found helpful on the topic of neediness:Sally wrote, "There are no quick fixes and we need all the education we can get.  The great thing about books and learning is we always have the opportunity to understand ourselves better and change."Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, a great assessment on attachment issues with lots of practical suggestions for all attachment types.Platonic by Marisa Franco, a look at attachment specifically in friendships (pretty sure I heard about this one through Dear Nina :)How to Be Your Own Best Friend by Mildred Newman and Bernard Berkowitz (first published in 1971, thank you Nora Ephron!)Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie (first published in 1986)Lying by Sam Harris Let's connect over all things friendship! Here's my Substack newsletter about friendship & more Dear Nina website with show notes and a guide to pitching yourself as a guest Instagram & TikTok Twitter JOIN the Dear Nina Facebook group Ask an anonymous question

Hello everyone! In this episode, I dive into the reasons why it is beneficial to start caring LESS in a society where we are told to care way more than we should. This is in regards to caring about what others think of you AND putting less pressure on yourself. I talk about numerous examples of my personal experience that can help you reflect on instances where you feel like you could start caring less. Enjoy this little controversial episode and let me know if you want a HOW TO video on to start caring less. Also, let me know if you like this REFLECT series of more personal examples! P.S. Try the comfy theory trend I mention and message me on Instagram at Valueyourselfpod to tell me how it went OR comment on this episode! LOVE YOU GUYS!

In this episode, Diane interviews Courtney Burg about her book, 'Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting.' Courtney shares her personal journey of overcoming codependency and establishing healthier patterns of behavior. She discusses the importance of assessing past experiences and taking inventory of inherited patterns. Courtney also emphasizes the significance of setting boundaries and the fear and challenges that come with it. People pleasing, complaining, and exhaustion may be the norm, but at any moment you can choose to do things differently and today's episode is a great place to start.TAKEAWAYSAssessing past experiences and taking inventory of inherited patterns is crucial for personal growth.Setting boundaries can be challenging due to the fear of disappointing others and the desire for connection.Repeating behaviors from the past is common, but it is possible to break free from unhealthy patterns.Choosing the pain of change and embracing growth can lead to healthier relationships and personal fulfillment.------------------------------Links Discussed in This EpisodeOrder a Copy of Minimalist Moms: Living and Parenting with SimplicitySubstack: Minimalist Moms PodcastBook: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody BeattieStauf's Seasonal Flavored CoffeeConnect with Courtney:Book: Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting by Courtney BurgWebsiteInstagramEnjoy this Podcast?Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, then do not hesitate to write a review. You can also share this with your fellow mothers so that they can be inspired to think more and do with less. Order (or review) my book, Minimalist Moms: Living & Parenting With SimplicityQuestions? You can contact me through my website, find me on Instagram, or like The Minimalist Moms Page on Facebook.Thanks for listening! For more updates and episodes, visit the website. You may also tune in on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or Stitcher.Checkout the Minimalist Moms Podcast storefront for recommendations from Diane.If you enjoyed today's episode of the Minimalist Moms Podcast, then hit subscribe and share it with your friends!Episode Sponsors |The Minimalist Moms Podcast would not be possible without the support of weekly sponsors. Choosing brands that I believe in is important to me. I only want to recommend brands that I believe may help you in your daily life. As always, never feel pressured into buying anything. Remember: if you don't need it, it's not a good deal!Aim7 | For a limited time, you can try AIM7 for free for 7-days and then pay just $1 for your first month by using the code MINAIM7 (all caps), on their website. Please use the link in the show notes, as this special code only works on their site: https://link.aim7.com/aim7workoutsFactor | Head to FactorMeals.com/momminimalist50 and use code MOMMINIMALIST50 to get 50% off.Our Sponsors:* Check out Greenlight and use my code minimalist for a great deal: https://greenlight.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/minimalist-moms-podcast2093/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this latest installment of our For The Love of Therapy series, we delve into a timely discussion on mental wellness with a focus on genuine self-care. Our guest, Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, a renowned psychiatrist and advocate for women, offers fresh insights that urge listeners to break free from the superficial beauty and wellness industry's narrative that is steadily being pushed at us through all kinds of media, but in a dizzying fashion on social media, in particular. Steering the talk away from quick-fix solutions, Dr. Lakshmin illuminates the essence of true self-care, which, in her research, links to four major chambers rarely associated with this concept. From the importance of saying 'No' when overwhelmed, to understanding that self-care is more than just a beauty regimen, she reminds us that wellness comes from within. Dr. Lakshmin, an accomplished writer for the New York Times and founder of the Gemma community, also shares insights from her book, 'Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included)'. Join us for this enlightening conversation and let's start redefining what wellness truly means.  * * * Thank you to our sponsors! Chime | Visit chime.com/forthelove to learn how you can benefit from using Chime! BetterHelp | Visit betterhelp.com/forthelove to save 10% on your first month! Thought-Provoking Quotes: “We have to talk about the systems, the social structures that have gotten us to this place where the expectation for a woman, a mom to feel better is this very condescending, ‘well just go to a yoga class, just pour your bubble bath and a glass of wine and there… you'll feel better.' I find that to be condescending at best, manipulative at worst.” - Dr. Pooja Lakshmin “Real self-care is an internal process. It brings you closer to yourself. It's a verb. It's not a noun.” - Dr. Pooja Lakshmin “Guilt is just there all the time when it comes to boundaries and when it comes to compassion too; how we talk to ourselves.“ - Dr. Pooja Lakshmin  “Therapy is this cozy little corner where you can be with yourself and be curious.” - Dr. Pooja Lakshmin  Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Real Self-Care: A  Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin Audre Lorde Bell Hooks Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself - by Melody Beattie For the Love Podcast episode featuring Brené Brown For the Love Premium Bonus Podcast episode featuring Melodie Beatty  Gemma Guest's Links: Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Website Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Twitter Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Instagram Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Facebook Connect with Jen! Jen's website Jen's InstagramJen's Twitter Jen's FacebookJen's YouTube

If the holidays make you nervous, anxious, or stressed because of any kind of FAMILY dynamic, then today's episode is specifically just for you. We're going to talk through some of the ways you can avoid having drama, stressing yourself out about people pleasing, and instead hold really good, healthy holiday boundaries to make 2023 your most codafree holiday season ever. I also have a download for you if you feel like you could use a little help with some examples of healthy holiday boundaries! Go to my profile on Instagram @corrinestokoe and DM me the word HOLIDAYS, and I'lI send you my list of healthy holiday boundary examples that you can keep in your back pocket and brush up on before all your family holiday gatherings or as those conversations pop up in your family group texts or when you see your in-laws phone calls come through. ALSO if you find today's episode helpful to you, make sure you're following me @corrinestokoe on Instagram because we're going to be doing a LIVE series every day next week, November 13-17, at 10am pacific time, where we'll talk about having codafree holidays this year in way more depth, we'll be answering more questions that people submit and giving lots of tips on this topic. Time Stamps: [01:22] - Corinne and Neil recall one of the worst fights in their relationship, which happened around the holidays. [10:26] - What does codependency look like during the holidays? [15:32] - “What would it look like if _____?” [22:31] - Corinne and Neil give examples of how to have a Codafree Healthy Holiday. [30:31] - Do you find it tricky to balance time between families during holidays? [41:16] - Do you have an overbearing family member disrupting your holiday? [47:57] - Are you close to family members who don't get along with each other? [54:36] - How do you communicate your holiday non-negotiables? Supporting Resources: If you're curious at all about how codependent you might be, go to mintarrow.com/quiz to take our free "how codependent are you" quiz to find out! Get our list of Codafree Healthy Holiday Boundaries by DMing me the word HOLIDAYS on instagram.com/corrinestokoe "Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" Book by Melody Beattie  "Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If You Life Depended On It" Book by Chris Voss "Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less" Book by Greg Mckeown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself"

Grace Based Families Podcast October 25, 2023 Episode #110 Host: Karis Murray, Michelle Broek Michelle delves into the personal experience of growing up in a family plagued by codependency. Primarily revolving around the struggles of her brother's mental illness, she shares her journey of misunderstanding the concept of codependency, often confusing it with mere neediness. Michelle describes how she adopted a posture of self-sufficiency and people-pleasing to alleviate her family's turmoil. Michelle's personal narrative aims to highlight the roots of codependency in fear and deep concern for others, ultimately demystifying its manifestations in various relationships. The conversation transitions into the importance of setting boundaries, stressing that it is not an act of selfishness but a necessity for personal well-being. Karis & Michelle discuss common misconceptions about boundaries and address the pressure of being constantly available for others. They emphasize the importance of establishing boundaries not just with others but also with oneself. The discussion leads into the exploration of false beliefs, fear-based emotions, and the need to please others, identifying these as potent drivers behind unhealthy codependent patterns. The episode concludes on a hopeful note, underscoring the power of taking small moments of autonomy for self-care and discovering one's identity outside the context of relationships. Putting Jesus in the center of one's life can lead to healthier thinking and behavior. This episode presents an enlightening discussion on navigating codependency and setting boundaries, aiming to provide listeners with a deeper understanding of these complex concepts and their importance in maintaining personal well-being. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Celebrate Recovery: https://www.celebraterecovery.com/resources/issue-pamphlets?view=article&id=303:ip-co-dependency&catid=117/ Parents of Addicted Loved Ones: https://palgroup.org/ Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: family@gracebasedfamilies.com Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

High Vibe Self-Help Book Recommendation of: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Join host Liz Gracia in this enlightening episode of "Your Weekly Dose of Higher Consciousness" as we explore the transformative power of "Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself." In this episode, we'll delve into:The proven energy of the content  of the book to help you heal and the consciousness calibration of this self-help book.The concept of "neutral" energy on the Map of Consciousness (MOC 250) and its potential to change your life.A deep dive into the remarkable author, Melody Beattie, and her own journey of resilience and healing.An overview of the book's empowering message, including how it helps you break free from old patterns.Insights into setting healthy boundaries and saying no to unhealthy relationships.Why this book's wisdom is more relevant than ever in today's world.  If you've ever felt trapped in unhealthy relationships, this episode guides you to a brighter future. Tune in and embark on a self-care and personal growth journey with us.Links I promised:Discover Why Being NEUTRAL Is a Power Play in ConsciousnessBooks by Dr. David R. Hawkins:The Map of Consciousness ExplainedLetting Go The Pathway to SurrenderLearn to elevate your emotional state in the moment, become aware of, and release accumulated stress so you feel better and think more clearly. It's a significant next step toward unlocking the transformational power of our hearts.Support the showIf you like what's going on here, you can join me on social media here: Facebook Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TheMindBodySpiritNetwork.com

On todays episode of "Nana Tingz", I (@AntonioILiranzo) talk about what it means to be Aurasexual and letting go of dead ends. Grab some water, tea or champagne and enjoy the ride✨. Order “Antonio's Return” and my other books here: https://linktr.ee/AntonioLiranzo  Instagram: @AntonioILiranzo  Thank you all for the love and support! Book recommendations: 1. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself 2. The Power of Letting Go: How to Drop Everything That's Holding You Back 3. How to Fix a Broken Heart (TED Books)  - https://a.co/d/dGJZdaz 4. When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal- https://a.co/d/fNWcKpd

Show-notes Episode 39Title: ParenTEENg Decisions: The #1 Factor That Should Be Guiding Them.“Everyone we meet is both our student and our teacher.”Today's episode is a countdown of the four factors that guide our parenting decisions.  Together we talk about the benefits & challenges that we experience with each one of these factors.Join us to learn more about…. Family dynamics in parenting. Peer Influence The Benefit of Book and Media On The Job Training and more. Parenting Books and Resources: The Whole Hearted Parenting Manifesto by Brene Brown Loving Detachment by Dr Wayland Meyers Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist's Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization helping parents navigate the emotions and uncertainty of parenting a teenager facing criminal charges and getting them on their path to healing. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Do you find yourself constantly trying to please people? Are you often controlling, rescuing, stepping in, “helping,” and trying to fix everything? Did you know these might be expressions of codependency? Join Lyvonne for a conversation around healing our codependency, releasing the desire to control others, and learning to care for ourselves. Inspired by "Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" by Melody Beattie.Order your copy of “Sensual Faith!” visit https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/706280/sensual-faith-by-lyvonne-briggs/For this episode's supplemental materials, visit patreon.com/lyvonnebriggs (aka Sensual Faith Academy) and join the tier that's right for you! The Sensual Faith tier supports the podcast and the Lavish Love tier supports the podcast *and* grants you access to bonus content (like book studies, audio essays, tarot/oracle card readings, behind-the-scenes footage, exclusive sneak peeks, and more!).Other ways to support Lyvonne and her work:Cash App: $PastorBaeVenmo: @LyvonneBriggsZelle: Lyvonne.Briggs@gmail.com

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Have you ever heard people talking about codependency, or maybe you've seen it referenced in an article or a book or even a movie at some point and then wondered, "Wait, I wonder if that's me? Am I codependent?" If you've ever wondered this, and especially if you have loved ones who have addictions or even seem to have a lot of chaos that cause you heartache or heartburn, then today's episode is just for you. We're going to tell our stories of discovering codependency within ourselves, how it might be manifesting in your life, and some of the things you can start doing to overcome it. Time Stamps: [00:40] - “It's fine to change your mind.” [02:34] - What is codependency? [04:54] - Corrine explains how codependency feels when experiencing the push and pull of emotions. [10:31] - Take your power back and honor your choices outside of what others think. [12:56] - Neil explains his experience of the ways codependency shows up alongside addiction. [17:21] - Corrine and Neil talk about the difference between codependency and compassion. [23:03] - What happened when Corrine and Neil first started working on their codependency? [28:58] - You can care, but it's not your responsibility to make someone else feel better. [36:03] - True recovery allows room for self-discovery. [43:19] - You have the power to choose peace for yourself instead of waiting for permission. Supporting Resources: "Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" Book by Melody Beetie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Solomon is joined by Melody Beattie, a legendary self-help author. A revised edition of Melody's 1986 book "Codependent No More" was recently published, and she and Dr. Solomon discuss the topics it delves into and answer a listener question about losing oneself in relationships.Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie:https://bookshop.org/p/books/codependent-no-more-how-to-stop-controlling-others-and-start-caring-for-yourself-melody-beattie/9158976?ean=9781954118157Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Solomon's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hi Everyone! Welcome back to another episode of the M.E.O.W. Podcast! This episode explores the concept of codependency in relationships and its underlying cause. Codependency in a relationship is when one person finds no satisfaction or happiness outside of doing things for the other person. Stays in the relationship even if they know their partner does hurtful things or we do anything to please and satisfy another no matter the expense to themselves. In this episode, we dive into the 9 signs of codependency vs. 9 autonomous relationships. Signs of Codependent Relationship: 1. Neediness 2. Low Self-Esteem 3. People Pleasing 4. Communication Issues 5. Poor Boundaries 6. Trust issues 7. Guild & Shame 8. Reactivity 9. Control Issues Book Recommendations: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself  Join us on Instagram and TikTok to engage with our community and us. We would love to hear your thoughts and ideas on what topics you are interested in and connect!

Codependency is the existence of unhealthy relationship where one person fixates on taking care of or even controlling the other, forgetting their own needs and letting boundaries fade away. These relationships might stem from childhood but have impacts in our adult lives, especially at work. In fact, many types of high stress jobs seem to be built for people who struggle with these issues. In this episode, host Morra Aarons-Mele speaks to a leading expert on codependency, Melody Beattie, about her recently re-released classic book Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, and how to learn if you or your boss might have codependent tendencies.

Hi Everyone! Welcome back to another episode of the M.E.O.W. Podcast! This episode explores the concept of codependency in relationships and its underlying cause. Codependency in a relationship is when one person finds no satisfaction or happiness outside of doing things for the other person. Stays in the relationship even if they know their partner does hurtful things or we do anything to please and satisfy another no matter the expense to themselves. In this episode, we dive into two reasons why we unconsciously get into codependent relationships. You could harbor a profound abandonment wound from your childhood and the societal pressure to find "the one or the soulmate." Topics: 1. What is a Codependent Relationship 2. What is an abandonment wound & how do we obtain an unconscious abandonment wound 3. Tips on healing the inner child 4. The societal pressure to find "the one or the soulmate." Book Recommendations: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself  Join us on Instagram and TikTok to engage with our community and us. We would love to hear your thoughts and ideas on what topics you are interested in and connect!

In this Episode: CODEPENDENT NO MORE: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself  Book Summary-Golden Nugget takeaways from Melody Beattie's book.  Visit www.savingyouiskillingme.com www.andreaseydel.com  www.livelifepublishing.com  __________________ Saving You is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction  Book | Support Group  | Podcast | Community Meetings | Youtube | Coaching | Resilience Course  https://linktr.ee/SYKM We are your resource, support, and network to help you Tap Back Into Your Power. Has someone else's problem become your problem? Does loving someone with addiction leaves you feeling broken, exhausted, and disappointed?  It hurts when you love someone who drinks too much or suffers from an addiction. Life is not normal. You may feel alone but are not unique in your pain or dilemma. Nor are you isolated in this situation. Saving You Is Killing Me is a helpful guide to light a darkened path. Loving someone with an addiction is emotionally, psychologically, and physically draining. You must understand that nobody deserves to suffer - you have the right to live a peaceful, fulfilled life full of love! You can, and you will find happiness again! Your journey starts by taking back your power and shifting the focus back onto you! With compassion and grace, a positive psychology practitioner and the author of Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With An Addiction, Andrea Seydel, offers support by sharing her personal experiences and the knowledge she used to help navigate the wreckage of her struggle. She exposes the tremendous power of how our relationships can both hurt us and allow us to heal. Trauma is a fact of life, and navigating the turmoil of loving someone with an addiction can be extremely challenging. Saving You Is Killing Me offers new hope for reclaiming your life. Seydel offers insight and learning opportunities for self-healing, recovery, and resilience that foster an empowering way of life. For more support and information or to share your story of strength, head over to the website:  www.savingyouiskillingme.com Join us in the private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/savingyouiskillingme Get your copy of Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With an Addiction Book: 

This week on Spilling the Thera-Tea, KathyDan and Jess discuss Co-Dependency. They explain that it started as a term used when people are enabling a loved one with addiction; however, point out that it has a much broader use. The ladies explain what co-dependency looks like, some of the signs you may be in a co-dependent relationship, and how to begin healing from it. The episode was wrapped up with an Asked & Answered segment about how to help manage panic attacks through grounding, mindfulness, and EMDR.*************************Media mentioned in today's episode:Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself- Melody Beattie https://amzn.to/3miND69The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.-Lisa A. Romano https://amzn.to/3y3fGsIThe New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation- Melody Beattie https://amzn.to/3J4CHBRFacing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives- Pia Mellody https://amzn.to/3SGonTdPSYCHOLOGY TODAY- Find an EMDR Specialist in your area!https://www.psychologytoday.com/us*************************DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace the advice you may be receiving from a licensed therapist.This podcast and website represents the opinions of KathyDan Moore, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Co-Host Jess Lowe, and their guests to the show and website. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions.Views and opinions expressed in the podcast and website are our own. While we make every effort to ensure that the information we are sharing is accurate, we welcome any comments, suggestions, or correction of errors.Privacy is of utmost importance to us. All people, places, and scenarios mentioned in the podcast have been changed to protect patient confidentiality.This website or podcast should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever, including but not limited to establishing “standard of care” in a legal sense or as a basis for expert witness testimony.  No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on the podcast or website.In no way does listening, reading, emailing or interacting on social media with our content establish a doctor-patient relationship.If you find any errors in any of the content of  these podcasts or blogs, please send a message to kdandjess@spillingthetheratea.com.Podcast Music by:  Lemon Music Studio Have a question for our Asked and Answered Segment? Email Us!AskUs@spillingthetheratea.comFollow us on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/spillingthetherateapodcastFollow us on Facebook!https://www.facebook.com/Spilling-the-Thera-Tea-103883072393873/

Hello my friends and welcome back to Too Smart For This! This week's episode is with New York Times Bestselling Author Melody Beattie, who wrote the critically acclaimed CODEPENDENT NO MORE: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. Since its publication in 1986, the book has sold over 7 million copies and continues to help countless readers heal. For the first time, Beattie unflinchingly reveals her personal story. She also addresses trauma and anxiety in an all-new chapter—subjects she has long felt necessary to address within the context of codependency. She has broadened the lens to address a wide range of compulsive behaviors—making the book even more relevant today than it was when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago. Glennon Doyle, Jen Hatmaker, Brené Brown, Whitney Cummings, and many others have been vocal about the importance of CODEPENDENT NO MORE in their lives—and this new edition is poised to reach a new generation of readers. Melody Beattie's compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another—has guided millions of readers toward the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. With personal reflections, exercises, and instructive stories drawn from Beattie's own life and the lives of those she's counseled, CODEPENDENT NO MORE helps you break old patterns and maintain healthy boundaries, and offers a clear and achievable path to healing, hope, freedom, and happiness. For the book, shop here: https://amzn.to/3ROs7BJ   Shop Too Collective with discount code VALENTINES for 20% off this week: toocollective.com Get daily affirmation texts that remind you you're THAT GIRL: toocollective.norby.live Subscribe to our Newsletter: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtAThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806440/advertisementAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the basics of codependency. Codependency in relationships refers to a dynamic where one person enables or supports negative behaviors in their partner, sacrificing their own well-being for the sake of the relationship. This can lead to a cycle of dysfunction where both partners become overly reliant on each other, leading to unhealthy codependent behaviors such as neglecting personal responsibilities, making decisions based on the needs of the relationship rather than individual needs, and a lack of personal boundaries. Ultimately, codependency can lead to feelings of resentment, low self-esteem, and a decreased ability to function in healthy relationships. To learn more, take a listen to this episode and you can also refer to these book's recommended by Jamie, Codependent No More, How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie https://amzn.to/3jiPUwY and How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims https://amzn.to/3Ri6wBkWe hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

Hi Friends,To start off 2023 I am joined by none other than NY Times Best Selling Author Jen Hatmaker. If you don't know Jen, she's written about a bajillion books including For the Love, Of Mess and Moxie, and Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire. Her latest book Feed These People is her debut cookbook that is filled with simple recipes for the whole family. She hosts the popular For the Love Podcast and Jen Hatmaker Book Club. Her online community has millions of women who relate to her witty, honest, and vulnerable approach to life. I invited Jen on the show to kick off 2023 to talk about mindset, goal planning and of course, the Enneagram!During our conversation we talked about:The importance of mindset when it comes to setting goalsNavigating the messy seasons of life What she's learned about herself as an Enneagram 3 (aka the Achiever)We talked about the 3 types of clutter: Physical, Emotional and Calendar; Jen shares her dominant type of clutter-can you guess what it is? The start of a new year is almost always filled with expectations that we place on ourselves:Whether you are trying to lose weight, exercise more, declutter your house, get out of debt, read more, yell less… It all starts with mindset. We're hoping this year you can be a little more kind and gentle with yourself. I encourage you to share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. And if you are not already subscribed to our show, we'd love to have you join our podcast community. Search for This ORGANIZED Life Podcast on apple podcast, spotify or wherever you choose to listen. We are also on YouTube at This ORGANIZED Life.XOXO-LaurieCONNECT WITH JEN HATMAKER: WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | PODCASTJEN'S BOOK RECOMMENDATION: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for YourselfMake sure to check out our 2022 Reading List on Goodreads which has all of the book recommendations from previous guests!

We will learn: The psychological reasons why we try to control. Why detachment is necessary for a healthy life and how to practice it. How to break free from the cycle of codependency so you can start caring for yourself. Do you feel like you're always the one giving and never receiving? Or maybe you feel like you're always the one doing and never being. So how do we break the cycle of codependency? How do we stop trying too hard to control others so we can finally take care of ourselves? That's what we're talking about today, and I'm really excited about our guest because she wrote the book that helped me get my life back over 15 years ago. Her name is Melanie Beattie, and she's the author of “Codependent No More,” as well as “The Language of Letting Go,” “The Grief Club,” and “Beyond Codependency.” Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/274 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: The psychological reasons why we try to control. Why detachment is necessary for a healthy life and how to practice it. How to break free from the cycle of codependency so you can start caring for yourself. Do you feel like you're always the one giving and never receiving? Or maybe you feel like you're always the one doing and never being. You may not realize it, but these are signs of a codependent relationship. And if you resonate with these statements, your dependency may be around feeling in control. The thing is, we can't control other people.  All we can do is control ourselves. And when we try to control others, we are really just causing more problems. So how do we break the cycle of codependency? How do we stop trying too hard to control others so we can finally take care of ourselves? That's what we're talking about today, and I'm really excited about our guest because she wrote the book that helped me get my life back over 15 years ago. Her name is Melanie Beattie, and she's the author of “Codependent No More,” as well as “The Language of Letting Go,” “The Grief Club,” and “Beyond Codependency.” Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/274 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors

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This one is a BIG DEAL for me -- it's Melody Beattie! The author of perhaps the most well-known self-help and relationship book of all time, Codependent No More, on MY show! Unbelievably cool. Melody has rereleased the book 30 years after its 1992 revision, and 36 years after its original publication. If you've read it, it likely changed your life -- and if you haven't, grab a copy and prepare to close the book changed for the better. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie

You might have seen her on an interview last week with Glennon Doyle- but here they are- and The Two Jess(es) get to talk to her too! One of the most exciting interviews and conversations for these two self-professed self-help junkies, the leading pioneer of the self-help movement, Melody Beattie is here to talk about the ever confusing and all consuming practice of codependence. JessB declares that she doesn't understand what codependency really truly looks like or means- and Melody assures her, no one does. However, she DOES break it down to the practice of continually loving others before loving ourselves. This conversation is a true honor, as they unpack the additional need for a chapter on trauma to be included in Melody's new edition, and reflect on the importance of true love- for one's self, as being the answer to solving the epidemic of codependence.Meet Melody!MELODY BEATTIE is the author of many bestselling books—including The Language of Letting Go, The Codependent No More Workbook, Playing It by Heart, and The Grief Club. In 2009, Codependent No More was named one of the four essential self-help books of all time by Newsweek. She lives in Southern California. Support the show

This week, Tex Ellis, psychotherapist at Changing Patterns Psychotherapy Services, LLC in Annapolis MD shares more resources that get his thumbs up on helping you with self-reflection and taking back control. Books recommended in this episode are: * 1-2-3 Magic: Training Your Children to Do What You Want! by Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D available at https://amzn.to/3SpZ06t * How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish available at https://amzn.to/3NgH1i1 * Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie - https://amzn.to/3TWtizy * The Codependency Workbook: Simple Practices for Developing and Maintaining Your Independence - https://amzn.to/3DKHOod * How To Break Free of the Drama Triangle and Victim Consciousness - https://amzn.to/3SPLtWf * The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz - https://amzn.to/3DJxsVr For more information: www.ChangingPatternsPsychotherapyServices.com (443) 261-5950 Office Telephone DISCLAIMER: Information contained in this video is for educational purposes only. It should not be perceived as a substitution for professional medical or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. It does not take the place of psychological or medical services. If you are experiencing any conditions or have specific symptoms and you might suspect that you are suffering from a mental or medical problem that would require mental health or medical services, please seek out the appropriate specialist for assistance. Changing Patterns Psychotherapy Services, LLC © 2022

Y'all. You are in for a TREAT! Relationship Coach Adam Murauskas of @FixYourPicker and I take time and go INNNNN to answer YOUR questions about why you can't get over them! A HUGE shoutout to everyone who participated in the polls, joined us live and talked to us throughout The Afterparty! Grab your granola bars and listen + learn to this knowledge PACKED 90 minute followup to our episode. Scroll on for all of the resources (books + podcasts) mentioned here! Get To Know Adam! Adam is a full-time relationship coach, writer, content creator, student and teacher of all personal development. After moving to Panama with his wife in 2019, Adam launched FixYourPicker.com and has been helping people heal ever since. Discover fresh content daily on social media @fixyourpicker. . Connect with him!

In this Maine Mini we discuss the June 18 murder of Nicole Mokeme, who's life mission was to create safe and powerful places for Maine's black, brown, indigenous and other marginalized people. Unfortunately, an abusive man and a criminal justice system that let him continue to get away with it made Maine a very unsafe […]

In this Maine Mini we discuss the June 18 murder of Nicole Mokeme, who's life mission was to create safe and powerful places for Maine's black, brown, indigenous and other marginalized people. Unfortunately, an abusive man and a criminal justice system that let him continue to get away with it made Maine a very unsafe […]

Saying no and setting boundaries can be hard.  When you have lupus, this is a skill we learn to manage our symptoms.  In today's episode, Gwen shares two books that have helped her deal with being a codependent person.  These books set the foundation to be able to say no when needed and set boundaries in relationships to help her stay as mentally and physically healthy as possible.    Books mentioned in the podcast: Codependent No More-How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Melody Beattie) Love Is A Choice-Recovery for Codependent Relationships   Get the book “Living Life with Lupus”: Living Life with Lupus-A Guide to Living A Full Life While Having Lupus.     How to connect with Gwen: Email: gwen@thegwenalexander.com YouTube: https://bit.ly/LupusLivingPodcastYouTubeChannel Website: thegwenalexander.com/lupus-life-podcast Facebook: facebook.com/lupuslivingpodcast Instagram: instagram.com/thelupuslivingpodcast   Disclaimer: The information in this podcast is for informational purposes only.  The opinions of the guests are their own.  The host of the podcast is not a medical professional.  You should consult with your doctor or medical professional before you make any changes that may affect your health in any way. 

Childhood trauma can impact a person's emotional and physical health and personal relationships even when they're an adult, causing issues like addiction and co-dependency. Recently we sat down for an interview with Andrea Ashley on the Adult Child podcast, and today for our very special 200th episode; we're sharing that interview with you right here! We're going deep and sharing the back story from our troubled teen years to what happened that flipped the switch to bring forth our childhood traumas and how that has impacted our marriage. On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the moment that almost shattered our relationship, the work we've done to overcome co-dependency in our marriage, and what we are doing to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma with our own children. Listen in for insight into EMDR therapy, Imago Dialogue, and using breath, sound, and movement to release untreated shadows. Plus, we share some great resources that examine the cause and effect of childhood trauma on adults. Key Takeaways How Jeremiah's childhood trauma led to a pattern of addictive behaviors and a 'never enough' mentality How Mallory's childhood trauma led to her abandonment issues The break with Mallory's family that flipped the switch to shine the light on our individual childhood traumas What happened in June 2021 that almost broke us as a couple The shift that created a perfect storm and a runway for realness in our marriage How childhood traumas express themselves in adulthood How adult child work can help you return to who you were meant to be How to use Imago Dialogue to help each partner feel seen, heard, and validated How to use breath, sound, and movement to release untreated shadows How to break the childhood trauma cycle Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast Destined to Be on Instagram Jeremiah on Instagram Mallory on Instagram Level Up Entourage Facebook Group Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492 Resources Adult Child Podcast Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself The Laundry List: The ACoA Experience Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families Register for Mallory's Fall Level Up Wait List

Episode #41: In this episode we'll explore the complicated and often misunderstood topic of Codependency vs. Interdependency. In codependent relationships, one person does much of the giving and at the same time tries to get their own needs met by controlling the other person. While some people will recreate these same codependent patterns in many of their relationships, others may find that they have just one difficult relationship, in which establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is challenging. This situation often arises when we have a loved one with mental health problems, substance abuse problems, or their own unskillful ways of relating that pulls us into an anxious and imbalanced pattern of relating. Joining us for this conversation are Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) member Jill and psychotherapist and recovery specialist Kat Zwick, LMFT. This conversation is not just for those who view themselves as having codependent tendencies, but for anyone who struggles with knowing what is and is not in their control. Most of us will likely encounter this challenge at some point, with some person—a child, an aging parent, a troubled friend or an intimate partner! If you are a parent, caregiver, or spouse to this person …. the odds are greater that you will wrestle with where to draw appropriate lines about who Is responsible for what. Join us as we talk about how to find greater personal well-being, even in those more challenging relationships. Broadcast: 4/3/22 Special thanks  to Jeanne Baldzikowski for audio production, to Jennifer Young for research and outreach, and to Izzy Weisz for marketing. And thanks to acoustic guitarist Adrian Legg for composing, performing, and donating the use of our theme music. LISTEN ANYTIME or subscribe to get new or past episodes delivered to your listening device: Apple Podcasts / Google Podcasts / Spotify / Stitcher  / TuneIn JOIN EMAIL LIST Want to know our interesting topic each month? Simply  SIGN UP for our email list! FOLLOW US Facebook  @stateofmindksqd Instagram @state_of_mind.radio SUGGEST A TOPIC If you or someone you know has topic ideas for future shows or a story of mental health recovery to share, please email debra.stateofmind@ksqd.org SHARE YOUR STORY In Your Voice are short segments on the show where a listener gets to share their experience of the topic we are discussing. You can call us at 831- 824-4324 and leave a 1-3 minute message about: a mental health experience you've had, something that has contributed to your mental health recovery journey, or share a resource that has helped you. Alternatively, you can make a 1-3 minute audio recording right on your phone and email that file to debra.stateofmind@ksqd.org. Your voice may just become part of one of our future shows! SUPPORT OR UNDERWRITE If you like what you're hearing here on KSQD, also affectionately called K– Squid, you can become a “Philanthropod on the Squid Squad” by becoming a supporting member  and help keep KSQD surfing the air waves! Consider underwriting your business or agency and showing our listeners your support for State of Mind. RESOURCES Websites: Co-dependents Anonymous (CoDA) World — 12-step program for those who want healthy and loving relationships. Offers information about the program, where to find meetings and resources to learn more about codependence relational patterns. NorCal CoDA — Co-Dependents Anonymous for Northern California. Providing information about the program, working the steps and where and how to attend online meetings. Out of the Fog — A website to help communicate with people who have personality disorders. National Alliance for Mental Illness – Santa Cruz County Chapter — Provides free information, education classes, and support groups and does advocacy work helping those with loved ones with mental illness. Al-Anon - Al-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope in order to solve their common problems. Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness and that changed attitudes can aid recovery.  Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization, or institution; does not engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self-supporting through its own voluntary contributions.  Al-Anon has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. Al-Anon does this by practicing the Twelve Steps, by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics, and by giving understanding and encouragement to the alcoholic. Alateen - Alateen is a fellowship of young Al-Anon members, usually teenagers, ages 12 to 19, whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking.  Alateen groups are sponsored by Al-Anon members who meet the current Northern California World Service Association Alateen safety requirements and have successfully completed a background check. Al-Anon/Alateen Meetings in Santa Cruz County in English and Spanish: More Information or call 831-462-1818 Download Free Al-Anon and Alateen Literature including information for professionals FAQ for Newcomers Books & Articles: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself  by Melody Beattie (1986) — Instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests to help readers key to understanding codependency and to learn to  unlock its hold . This book can help chart a path to freedom and recovery. Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller (2003) — Identifies codependent thinking, emotions and behavior and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller  (1989) — A workbook that provides a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence. Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous. Moving From Codependent to Interdependent Relationships — An article defining codependent patterns and the qualities associated with interdependent relationships published by the Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center, Nov. 29. All Books & Audio by Pia Mellody — An authority, lecturer and educator in the fields of addictions and relationships and a leading author of books on Codependency. This website contains a full listing of her publications, audio resources, as well as some free recovery articles. All Books by Melody Beattie — Author of the sentinel work, “Codependent No More,” which introduced the world to the term “Codependency” in 1986. This website contains a full listing of all her publications with descriptions as well as some recovery tools. Local Counseling Resources: Ride the Wave Recovery — Individual and Group psychotherapy for recovery from eating disorders, addictions, codependency & trauma for clients of all genders, sexualities & neurotypes. Email: admin@ridethewaverecovery.com, Phone: 831-275-541 DBT Mindfulness & Skills Group Series — For Northern California Clients Kat Zwick's 22-Week Group Series . This group is appropriate for people struggling with unmanageable codependency that leads to problematic behaviors against self or others.  Family Service Agency (FSA) of the Central Coast is a dedicated underwriter of State of Mind. FSA provides resources, support, and counseling services to adults and children.  FSA believes in the power and potential of people of all ages and backgrounds to discover their own creative solutions and welcomes people of diverse cultures, genders, sexual orientations, ages, faiths, socio-economic backgrounds.  FSA Counseling Offices offer Medi-Cal, Medicare, and low-cost, sliding scale services in both downtown Santa Cruz 831-423-9444 x200 and in Soquel 831-346-6767 x200. Spiritual Resources Recommended by Jill Mount Madonna Center — Yoga-based online spiritual classes at no cost Free YouTube meditations by Ellaeenah Jadefire Contact Guests Jill – Is able to answer questions about Co-Dependents Anonymous or advise regarding other local resources. Email: pupjill@hotmail.com Katherine (Kat) Zwick, LPCC Email: admin@ridethewaverecovery.com Interdependency Support Girls Inc. of the Central Coast - Offers leadership and self-empowerment programs for girls ages 8 to 18 led by peers or mentors at school sites in Santa Cruz, Monterey, and San Benito Counties. “Behind The Scenes at SOM” Of all of our 30+ shows this show presented the most challenge in deciding on a title.  We believe this is due to the complexities and nuances of this topic.  Below is the collection of brainstormed titles. Thank you to all our volunteers and helpers who submitted ideas!  A ponder may help elucidate more of the complexities and subtleties of this very important topic.  Enjoy! Other Title Ideas: Recovery from Codependent Patterns: The Choices We Can Make Co-Dependence Recovery: The Choices We Can Make The Co-Dependent Spectrum: Finding the Choices We Can Make The Codependent Spectrum: Reclaiming The Choices We Can Make Understanding how Co-Dependence differs from Interdependence Unlocking Co-Dependence Patterns Co-Dependence Patterns: Refocusing on the The Choices We Can Make Journey from co-dependent to Healthy Relationships From Codependency to Freedom Untangling Enmeshment - The Path to Healthy Relationships Making Different Relationship Choices Recovering from our Codependent Patterns Reclaiming our Agency: The Roadmap to Healthy or Self-Contained Relationships Journey from Enmeshment to Healthy Relationships Holding Space for Yourself in Your Relationships Setting Healthy Relationship Boundaries Relational and Independent Staying Self-Connected while Connecting with Others Caring for Self and Other in Relationship Interdependence: Balancing Care for Self and Other in Relationships Recovery from Codependent Patterns: Creating healthy boundaries Recovery from Codependent Patterns: Supporting the people we love in healthy ways Codependence vs. Interdependence: Creating healthy boundaries Codependence vs. Interdependence: Supporting others without losing ourselves

In today's episode, Gina discusses the topic of trying to control others and how this tendency affects our anxiety. Trying to control others causes us pain and frustration, exacerbating our anxiety. Seven ways to reduce this natural tendency of trying to control others are shared with listeners.  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself https://amzn.to/2R0iDYS Join the NEW ACP SUPERCAST PREMIUM AD-FREE MEMBERSHIP https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/adfree Listen to the entire back catalog ad-free and more! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.tech To learn more go to: http://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety?  Quote: I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life. -Melody Beattie