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  Slam the Gavel welcomes Marineka Bowman to the podcast. Marineka was last on Season 3, Episodes 104, 131, 159, 160, 174 and 184, Season 4, Episodes 22, 48 and 61, Season 5, Episodes 149, 210, 238, 248, 256, 258, 263 and 271. HELLO DOGE and Pam Bondi.     Today we covered Marineka's updates to her case where Judge Natalie Haskins of DE is continuing to disrespect and disregard the imputed income that never existed involving the ex-husband who refuses to show his financials. Now, they have Marineka in the arrears of $23,000.00 and father NOW demands that she go to jail in order to break the  parental bond Marineka has with her daughter.      Bear in mind the father was not involved in their lives since birth and never contributed to help raising their child. SUDDENLY, he comes back into their lives only to turn it upside down. He asked for one day a week only for one hour to visit his daughter. Judge Natalie Haskins replied, "this is going to be an issue when you come back for custody." Essentially, father came back to court so Haskins could reverse custody and she asked him who would be helping him raise his child. He told her his father, who is in his 80's would be helping. So Judge Haskins gave him custody. Poor decision making on the part of the judge when their daughter was doing well in reading, and now cannot even spell simple words. Jeremiah 20:11.To Reach Marineka Bowman:   dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)Maryann Petri: dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@maryannpetriFacebook:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guitarpeace/Pinterest: Slam The Gavel Podcast/@guitarpeaceLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryann-petri-62a46b1ab/  YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536  Twitter https://x.com/PetriMaryannEzlegalsuit.com   https://ko-fi.com/maryannpetri https://www.zazzle.com/store/slam_the_gavel/about*DISCLAIMER* The use of this information is at the viewer/user's own risk. Not financial, medical nor legal advice as the content on this podcast does not constitute legal, financial, medical or any other professional advice. Viewer/user's should consult with the relevant professionals. Reproduction, distribution, performing, publicly displaying and making a derivative of the work is explicitly prohibited without permission from content creator. Podcast is protected by owner. The content creator maintains the exclusive right and any unauthorized copyright infringement is subject to legal prosecution. Support the showSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)http://www.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com/

      Slam the Gavel welcomes Marineka Bowman to the podcast. Marineka was last on Season 3, Episodes 104, 131, 159, 160, 174 and 184, Season 4, Episodes 22, 48 and 61, Season 5, Episodes 149, 210, 238, 248, 256, 258 and 263. HELLO DOGE and Pam Bondi.     Today we covered Marineka's updates to her case where Judge Natalie Haskins of DE is continuing to disrespect and disregard contempt issues involving the ex-husband. No Contact Orders are real. They, along with Attorney Laura Brooks are willfully trying to break the bond between parent and child, despite evidence that Marineka has tried to show in court. Her ex gets a slap on the wrist and hides behind "being a Christian," along with his deep connections to others that go to the same church. What HYPOCRITES.   To Reach Marineka Bowman: dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)Maryann Petri: dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@maryannpetriFacebook:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guitarpeace/Pinterest: Slam The Gavel Podcast/@guitarpeaceLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryann-petri-62a46b1ab/  YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536  Twitter https://x.com/PetriMaryannEzlegalsuit.com   https://ko-fi.com/maryannpetri*DISCLAIMER* The use of this information is at the viewer/user's own risk. Not financial, medical nor legal advice as the content on this podcast does not constitute legal, financial, medical or any other professional advice. Viewer/user's should consult with the relevant professionals. Reproduction, distribution, performing, publicly displaying and making a derivative of the work is explicitly prohibited without permission from content creator. Podcast is protected by owner. The content creator maintains the exclusive right and any unauthorized copyright infringement is subject to legal prosecution. Support the showSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)http://www.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com/

   Slam the Gavel welcomes Ron Platt to the podcast. Ron is the co-founder of NASDF (National Association for Single and Divorced Families) https://www.nasdf.org      With a background in insurance, business development, and real estate, and as a foster parent, Ron deeply understands the financial and emotional challenges families face post-divorce. His expertise in insurance product development led to the creation of Support Insured. This first-of-its-kind policy guarantees child support and alimony payments in cases of death, disability, or involuntary unemployment.     We talked about issues that resonate with parents going through a divorce. With Ron's insurance policy there will be staff available such as licensed therapists, Divorce Coaches. We discussed breaking the cycle and how financial instability after divorce impacts future generations and parents who will be able to talk to a therapist. Also, staying mentally healthy and resilient during divorce/family court Ron explains he will have a staff of licensed therapists in the group to help parents.   This new association offers support for single and divorced families and redefines the family by creating strong support networks to help divorcing and single families thrive.    NASDF is committed to advocacy, financial stability and emotional support for so many families now navigating single parenthood and post-divorce challenges and difficulties that may arise.To Reach Ron Platt: https://www.nasdf.orgSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)Maryann Petri: dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@maryannpetriFacebook:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guitarpeace/Pinterest: Slam The Gavel Podcast/@guitarpeaceLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryann-petri-62a46b1ab/  YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536  Twitter https://x.com/PetriMaryannEzlegalsuit.com   https://ko-fi.com/maryannpetri*DISCLAIMER* The use of this information is at the viewer/user's own risk. Not financial, medical nor legal advice as the content on this podcast does not constitute legal, financial, medical or any other professional advice. Viewer/user's should consult with the relevant professionals. Reproduction, distribution, performing, publicly displaying and making a derivative of the work is explicitly prohibited without permission from content creator. Podcast is protected by owner. The content creator maintains the exclusive right and any unauthorized copyright infringement is subject to legal prosecution. Support the showSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)http://www.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com/

Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseSo… your spouse wants a divorce and you don't? Oof. That's a brutal position to be in—and one we know all too well. In this candid, no-holds-barred episode, Andrea and Morgan dive into the exact steps you need to take—legally and emotionally—when divorce isn't your idea, but it's happening anyway. Whether the papers haven't been filed yet or you've already been served, this is your guide to protecting yourself, preparing smartly, and finding solid ground when your world feels upside down.What You'll Learn:The first 3 legal steps to take if your spouse hasn't filed yetHow to emotionally process being blindsided by divorceWhat to do (and not do) if your spouse has filedWhen discernment counseling works (and when it won't)How to avoid expensive legal mistakes just because you're overwhelmedWhy it's critical to understand your attorney's strategyBurning Questions Answered:“What if I don't want a divorce—do I have any control?”“How can I financially prepare if I'm in the dark?”“Is couples therapy enough to save us?”“What happens if I ignore the divorce petition?”“How do I hold it together when I'm falling apart?Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

In today's episode, Andrea and Morgan break down the divorce dream team—who you need, who you don't, and where to invest your VERY hard-earned dollars. From therapists to forensic accountants and parenting coordinators, they give you the inside scoop on which players actually move the needle in your case. Plus, they get real (and a little savage) about online divorce coaches and overpriced fluff. If you're building your team or just starting out, this episode is your ultimate roadmap to not sucking at divorce.What you'll learn:What a “divorce team” actually is and why you need oneWhen hiring a therapist makes sense (spoiler: probably now)Why most divorce coaches aren't worth your moneyWhat a parenting coordinator does—and if you need oneThe truth about forensic accountants, child therapists, and financial advisorsWhich services save money vs. waste itThe one product they do endorse: The Divorce Crash CourseHow to use Our Family Wizard for smoother co-parentingWhat red flags to avoid when building your teamBurning questions answered in this episode:Do I really need a lawyer or can I DIY my divorce?Who should be on my divorce “dream team”?What kind of therapist is helpful during divorce (for me or my kids)?What's the real deal with divorce coaches on social media?What does a forensic accountant actually do?Is it okay to start therapy for my kids without telling my ex?Can tools like Our Family Wizard actually save me money?How do I handle team members when my attorney is from a big firm?Are financial advisors helpful during divorce—or after?How can I protect my mental and physical health during this process?Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

If you've ever felt confused, second-guessed yourself in a relationship, or wondered if someone in your life is emotionally manipulating you, this episode is one you need to hear.More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/dr-stephanie-sarkisOn this episode of Even Tacos Fall Apart, I sat down with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis to talk about toxic relationships, gaslighting, and the real challenges of healing from emotional abuse. Stephanie is a licensed mental health counselor, a mediator, and an author of multiple books, including Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People—and Break Free. She's also a contributor to Forbes and Psychology Today, and she hosts her own podcast, Talking Brains. Basically, she knows her stuff.Stephanie shared how she was always the person friends came to for relationship advice, and after originally planning to work for CNN, she pivoted to counseling and never looked back. Her work, especially her books, are inspired by real-life experiences from her clients—many of whom struggle with gaslighting, ADHD, anxiety and depression. She said the feedback she gets from readers who've found the courage to leave toxic relationships is one of the most rewarding parts of her work.We talked a lot about gaslighting—what it is, how it works, and what it looks like. According to Stephanie, gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse designed to make you question your reality. It often starts small and escalates until you're isolated and unsure of your own thoughts. It can include things like hiding your stuff and blaming you for it, love-bombing you early on, then tearing you down, or pitting you against people close to you. She made it very clear: gaslighting is all about control.Stephanie also broke down the stages of gaslighting—idealization, devaluation and discard—and how those phases mess with your head. And if you're wondering whether narcissists are involved, the answer is yes—often. Especially the kind who never think they're the problem and rarely show up for therapy unless it's to blame someone else.We also talked about the trickiness of co-parenting with a gaslighter, especially if you can't go completely no-contact. Stephanie had practical advice for managing communication through apps like Our Family Wizard and Talking Parents, keeping interactions minimal and getting everything documented.When it comes to healing, Stephanie stressed the importance of therapy, support systems, and going completely no-contact if possible. She said that survivors often carry guilt and shame, especially when the abuser is a parent or partner. But it's okay to protect your peace. You don't owe anyone continued access to you—especially someone who's hurt you.The interview wasn't all heavy—we laughed about tone checkers for work emails, how pets can spot a toxic person before you can, and how important it is to find humor even when things are hard. Stephanie also shared her favorite poem (Richard Cory) and how it reminds her that we never really know what someone's going through.This conversation was real, honest and empowering—just what Mental Health Monday is all about.

Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseIn this episode on How Not to Suck at Divorce, Morgan and Andrea welcome Renee Swanson, host of the Covert Narcissism podcast, for a powerful conversation about planning your way out of an emotionally abusive marriage. Renee shares how she reclaimed her identity, protected her children, and gathered strength before initiating divorce — all while still living under the same roof as her husband. It's an episode full of actionable guidance, healing truths, and hope for anyone feeling stuck, exhausted, and unsure of their next move.What you'll learn:How to emotionally prepare before leaving a toxic relationshipThe power of “baby steps” and small daily actions that build long-term momentumWays to gather legal and emotional information to reduce overwhelmHow to communicate safely and reclaim your dignity while still in the marriageTools and strategies for coexisting with a high-conflict partner during separationWhy there's never a perfect time to divorce — and why that's okayQuestions answered in this episode:Can you begin healing while still in an emotionally abusive marriage?What does a practical, step-by-step divorce exit plan look like?How do you manage sharing a home with someone who triggers or controls you?How do you know when it's really time to leave?What legal steps should you take while you're still deciding?How do you stop reacting and start protecting your peace?Our Family Wizard is another fantastic resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our DMs, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Connect with our guest, Renee: https://www.covertnarcissism.com/podcastInstagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive into the complexities of navigating a divorce when you have a child with special or higher needs. We're joined by Cari Pines, an attorney in LA who specializes in family law and has personal experience with raising special needs children. Cari shares her expertise on how to manage the legal and emotional challenges that come with divorce when your child requires extra care and attention.What you'll learn:How to communicate effectively with your attorney about your child's special needsThe importance of gathering information about your child's diagnosis, behaviors, and needs before you begin the divorce processThe role of a forensic expert and why this might be necessary in some casesPractical advice on managing disputes with your ex regarding your child's medical care and therapyTips on using tools like Our Family Wizard to keep track of communications and medical expensesHow to take care of yourself while navigating the difficult path of parenting a child with special needs during a divorceOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

Mardi Winder-Adams, a seasoned divorce coach, opens up about the complexities of navigating high-conflict divorces in our latest episode. Specializing in cases involving challenging personalities like narcissists, Mardi shares her empathetic yet strategic approach to supporting women through tumultuous separations. The conversation highlights the necessity of assembling a strategic team—comprised of divorce attorneys, certified financial advisors, and realtors—to make informed decisions and mitigate the emotional toll of divorce. Mardi's extensive experience underscores the emotional challenges of dealing with narcissists and offers listeners invaluable insights into safeguarding oneself and one's family during these trying times.Listeners will gain a fresh perspective on the importance of professional support in the divorce process, particularly the need for thoughtful decision-making that contrasts sharply with the often rushed approach people take towards divorce compared to their meticulously planned weddings. We emphasize the crucial role of selecting an attorney well-versed in high-conflict cases, as their expertise can alleviate stress and reduce the risk of prolonged disputes. Our discussion also touches upon the concept of positive and negative advocates; the former promotes collaboration and growth, while the latter can intensify conflicts.As we explore strategies for navigating high-conflict divorces, trust emerges as a pivotal theme. Trusting your attorney's advice, especially regarding communication with difficult partners, is crucial. Mardi shares valuable tools, such as Our Family Wizard, for maintaining safe and structured dialogue. We also discuss the importance of seeking advice from professionals rather than friends or family, who may offer outdated or irrelevant guidance. Listeners are encouraged to assert their entitlements confidently, be it spousal or child support, and to carefully consider the implications of retaining the family home post-divorce, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of mortgage qualifications and potential home inspection outcomes.

Tracy is joined by Nicole Crites, a family law attorney and Guardian Ad Litem (GAL), to discuss the impact of narcissistic behavior on divorce cases. They discuss managing a divorce with a narcissist, strategies for keeping child welfare in focus, and practical advice for handling complex emotional and financial challenges. Nicole also emphasizes the importance of seeking professional therapy and using tools like Our Family Wizard to navigate these difficult situations. Tune in for tips and guidance on bringing your family law case to an efficient conclusion while protecting your well-being and that of your children. Find this episode helpful? Please leave us a 5-star review!

Anyone that has ever been a parent knows that parenting can be challenging.  Sometimes half the battle is between the parents and not the kids.  But, if we want to make it even more challenging, add a divorce or separation into the picture.  Yes, now parenting goes to a new level of challenging.  We often see what is called Parental Alienation between parents and their kids.  One parent intentionally or not, making it more difficult for the other parent to be involved in their kid's life.  This can be blatantly obvious or even more subtle.  The problem is that it causes damages to all the parties involved.  Nobody wins when this tactic is used.  Cooperation and unity are the keys to successful parenting whether divorced or not.  Having both adults in the child's life coming to common values and expectations and then enforcing them when under the care of either parent.  This alleviates the confusion and the process of raising the child is more clear on everyone's part.  Co-Parenting After Divorce: Strategies for SuccessEphesians 4:3 -  Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.Divorce can be a challenging experience for any family, but it can be especially difficult when co-parenting arrangements are involved. When two adults are not able to communicate effectively or work together amicably, the situation can become even more complex. However, there are several strategies that can help co-parents navigate these challenges and create a positive environment for their children.One of the most effective strategies for co-parenting after divorce is to prioritize the needs of the children. This means putting aside personal differences and focusing on what is best for the children's well-being. Research has shown that children of divorced parents who have a positive relationship with both parents tend to have better emotional and social outcomes (Pruett & Pruett, 2009).Another important strategy is to establish clear and consistent communication channels. This can be done through regular meetings, emails, or phone calls. It is important to maintain a respectful and professional tone, even when disagreements arise. Open and honest communication can help to minimize misunderstandings and resolve conflicts more effectively. When conflict is high, most courts recommend a safe and effective communication tool, Our Family Wizard, to communicate necessary messages.  The messages are saved and visible to the courts. This helps to keep everyone accountable with our messaging. It is also crucial to develop a parenting plan that outlines the specific details of custody, visitation, and decision-making responsibilities. This plan should be clear, concise, and legally binding. It is important to seek legal advice to ensure that the plan is fair and enforceable.In addition to these strategies, co-parents may also benefit from seeking professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide guidance and support in developing effective communication skills and resolving conflicts. They can also help to address any underlying emotional issues that may be impacting the co-parenting relationship.If you need help in this area please contact us at https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Welcome back to NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, host Lori delves into a vital discussion on the increasing role of mediation and technology in reducing the stress of parental disputes during divorce and separation. Joined by our expert guest, they explore the importance of keeping children's best interests at heart while navigating the complexities of family law. We'll highlight the growing trend of parents opting for out-of-court conflict resolution, the challenges faced by those representing themselves due to financial constraints, and the critical need for judges to acknowledge personal aspects of each case beyond mere attorney interactions. Much of our conversation focuses on "Our Family Wizard," an app designed to streamline co-parenting communication. We'll examine its plethora of features, from unalterable messaging to expense management and audio/video calls, all aimed at reducing misunderstandings and fostering cooperative co-parenting. Lori reflects on her personal experience, sharing anecdotes about how improvements in communication tools could have eased her past co-parenting struggles. Additionally, we touch on legal complexities, the importance of clear court orders, and practical communication techniques like the BIFF method to handle high-conflict situations effectively. Whether you're a parent going through a separation or interested in family law, this episode provides valuable insights and practical tips to navigate these challenging waters. Tune in to discover how innovation and empathy can transform co-parenting and reduce litigation stress. In this episode, we discuss: "Our Family Wizard" App Communication in Co-Parenting Legal Documentation and Order Writing Technology in Legal Agreements Nacho Success Story: “The Support I Didn't Know I Needed” "I wasn't sure if Nacho Kids Academy was for me, but it ended up being exactly what I needed. The guided content gave me practical steps to take, and the group calls offered a place to share and get advice. It's made me a better husband and father, and I feel more confident in my role as a stepdad." — Jason H  

Welcome to NK Podcast 277, where we dive deep into the complexities of blended families, co-parenting, and everything in between. In today's episode,  Lori has the pleasure of speaking with esteemed guest Bradley S Craig, a Licensed Master Social Worker and Certified Family Life Educator, known for his insightful book Between 2 Homes. Today's conversation ranges from the nuanced roles of stepparents to the intricacies of custody modifications, all the way through effective co-parenting techniques and the societal impact of blended family dynamics. This interview was so full of information we had to split it up into two parts!  We explore the often misunderstood influence of stepmoms, the implications of custody change requests post-remarriage, and the significance of terminology with terms like "bonus mom" and "nesting." Bradley shares his wisdom on maintaining consistent family dynamics, avoiding common pitfalls in high-conflict co-parenting situations, and adopting a professional mindset for better child welfare. We'll also discuss practical tools like the "Our Family Wizard" app, the pressures societal norms place on stepfamilies, and Bradley's recommendations for effective co-parent communication. This is not just a theoretical discussion; Bradley also brings in his personal experiences and professional insights, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating the challenges of blended families. Stay tuned for a thought-provoking conversation that offers valuable strategies, empathy, and a fresh perspective on stepfamily complexities.  Let's dive in!   In this episode, we discuss: Stepmom Influence Trust and Boundaries Court System and Legal Procedures Parenting Facilitators Business Mindset in Co-parenting Terms and Perceptions   Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I have never seen anyone care so much about helping others. Lori goes above and beyond for her clients. You can tell she and David both do this to truly help others. They are a blessing to the world of stepparents!” ~ K.H.

In this important re-air, we're here with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to talk about divorce and physical wellness. Dr. Meg is a concierge internal medicine doctor in Chicago and has quite the resume. We're so excited to be able to pick her beautiful brain.  **And if you're already contemplating divorce, go check out our crash course. Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course We'll discuss how being in an unhappy marriage really wears us down. Dr. Meg will tell us all about the subtle physical symptoms of emotional stress, Morgan will answer if your spouse can find out if you're on medication for your mental health during the divorce process, and Andrea will share about the connection between her body pain and being in a toxic marriage.   Where to find Dr. Meg: www.harper-health.com   Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.

Oh friends, you won't want to miss this episode. Morgan and Andrea are back this week (with an amazing re-air) with top Dallas family law attorney, Rebecca Armstong, find her here! talking about the things you SHOULD and SHOULDN'T do after you file for divorce. First off, do you have the DCC??? If not, you 100% need this tool so you don't totally screw up in your divorce process. It will save you THOUSANDS of dollars!! GET IT HERE! Rebecca, Morgan and Andrea answer: -What 3 things should you do after you file for divorce? -What 3 things should you absolutely NOT do after you file for divorce? -Do I need a therapist if I'm going through a divorce? -Can being in therapy be used against me if I'm going through a divorce? -Why should I go to an annual checkup at the doctor during a divorce? -Can I record my spouse during an argument and use it during divorce proceedings? -Will my spending habits be scrutinized during a divorce? -What advice did Oprah give Andrea about her own divorce? *************** Let's talk about co parenting, shall we?? Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your co parenting journey and we are HUGE fans of what they do. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck    

How do you know if it's time to leave your marriage??​​  Is your marraige worth saving?? How the hell do you do that and who the hell is going to help you figure that out???   Ever wondered if you would benefit from Discernment Counseling? The founder of discernment counseling, Dr. Bill Doherty, joins us on the podcast to find out . Not only did Dr. Doherty develop a specific type of counseling for couples where one is considering divorce, he's also been on Oprah not just once, but twice! From Harpo to How Not To Suck At Divorce, Dr. Doherty is moving up in the world, that's for sure. (hahahhaa)   Discernment counseling is when one person is leaning OUT of the relationship and considering divorce and the other person is leaning IN and wants to try to make things work. This type of counseling gives people clarity and confidence based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in the marriage. Dr. Doherty answers the questions: 1 What is discernment counseling? 2 Does discernment counseling solve problems in the marriage? 3 What are the differences between couples therapy and discernment counseling? 4 How long is discernment counseling? 5 What are the three paths of discernment counseling? 6 How do I know if we should try couples therapy or discernment counseling? Stay until the end because Dr. Doherty blows the lid off traditional therapy and tells us he favorite type of wine (you won't believe his answer).  You can find Dr. Bill Doherty and search for a local discernment counselor at  http://www.discernmentcounseling.com   *Do you have our DCC?? If you're considering divorce, you should!! https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course And don't forget about Our Family Wizard. It's our #1 app for coparents who are looking to not suck at this process! Check them out here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck   Please hit the 5 stars in your podcast app, we need the external validation, but more importantly, it helps our podcast show up in searches so we can help those who are struggling through the divorce process.  Remember, you got this and we got you. Slide into our dms, we love hearing from you! @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago @hownottosuckatdivorce  

Summary: In this episode, Elizabeth Stephenson, Sarah Hink, and Jen Bordeaux from New Direction Family Law share the top ten essential tips and advice for navigating through a divorce. They cover both legal and personal aspects, offering practical insights and supportive guidance to help listeners manage this challenging period in their lives. From financial independence to emotional support, these tips aim to provide a comprehensive understanding of what to expect and how to handle various situations during a divorce.Key Points:Your Kids Will Be OkayEmphasize the importance of shielding children from conflict.Tips on co-parenting and maintaining a healthy relationship with your children.Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your ExAvoid speaking negatively about your ex in front of your children.Focus on your children's well-being rather than on past grievances.There's Always a Way to Make It Work FinanciallyDiscuss strategies for financial independence.Importance of understanding your financial situation and planning accordingly.Don't Use Your Attorney for Emotional SupportSeek professional counseling for emotional needs.Focus on using your attorney for legal advice and strategy.Things Might Get Worse Before They Get BetterPrepare for potential escalation of conflict during the process.Stay focused on long-term outcomes and personal growth.Focus on Yourself and Set BoundariesPrioritize self-care and establish clear boundaries with your ex.Use tools like Our Family Wizard for communication.Unfriend or Block Your Ex on Social MediaAvoid the temptation to stalk or engage with your ex online.Protect your mental health by limiting exposure to potentially upsetting content.Treat Communications as Though They Will Be Read in CourtAlways maintain a respectful and factual tone in written communications.Understand that any communication could be used as evidence.Surround Yourself with Supportive PeopleLean on friends, family, or support groups for emotional support.Avoid people who encourage negative or aggressive behavior.Don't Rush into Dating After DivorceTake time to heal and reflect on your past relationship.Ensure you are emotionally ready before starting a new relationship.Resources Mentioned:Our Family Wizard and other co-parenting tools.Professional counselors and therapists.Support groups and online communities for divorced individuals.Call to Action:Follow New Direction Family Law on TikTok for more tips and insights.Reach out to a professional counselor for emotional support.Consult with an attorney to understand your legal rights and options.Conclusion: Divorce can be a challenging and emotional journey, but by following these ten tips, you can navigate it more effectively. Focus on your well-being, seek appropriate support, and take one step at a time to ensure a better future for yourself and your children.

How do you know when your marriage is over? How do you know if it's just a phase or if something that was once there will never really come back? Did you "try hard enough" to "save your marraige" and what does that even mean??? At what point can you confident that divorce is the right decision for you??? What we have learned in our professional careers as a family law attorney and hosting this podcast is that sometimes hearing other people's stories help you relate more to your own. So today, we are re airing an episode from the second season of our show which features someone's personal story about when they knew their marriage was offically over.  **** And if you're ready to begin the divorce process, you NEED the DCC! It's our one of a kind, Divorce Crash Course. This course literally holds your hand through all of your major decisions. You'll avoid MAJOR mistakes and save up to THOUSANDS of dollars because you're getting advice from one the most sought after divorce attorneys in the country!! For $97, this course will change your life. And we mean that. Check it out here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course  We welcome guest and retired husband, Mike Draper, to the show as he shares his story of when he knew it was over and what life after divorce is really like for a single dad. Check out Magic Mike, (I'm sorry), I mean Mortgage Mike on IG @mortgage_mike As always we're keeping it real and keeping the levity because this process is tough enough. But you are never alone. You got this and we got you. *** If you need support with coparenting- or maybe you just want some extra insight into what coparenting will look for you- look no further than Our Family Wizard. You can get specialized information that WE created with OFW just for our listeners here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And don't worry, we are back with fresh episodes in just a few weeks!!

If you haven't been living under a rock, you saw the movie: The Wolf of Wall Street. Now you're going to hear about the real life experience of being married to infamous character in which the movie was written about.  So what was it like being married to the Wolf of Wall Street??   Wel, their eight-year marriage began as a fairytale, filled with romantic dinners, expensive gifts, and lavish parties. But once they were bonded, Jordan's ‘mask' began to slip and acts of infidelity, narcissistic abuse, insatiable greed, and uncontrollable drug addiction became Nadine's living nightmare. Nadine naively believed that their connection was real, and that her love could save him, so she remained trauma-bonded until the pain of their relationship became too much to bear. It would be decades before she realized her story resembled thousands of other women's relational experiences.   At the age of 30, Dr Nadine, or Dr Nae as she's often referred, packed up her curtains and kids and relocated to Los Angeles. She began a transformative process of intensive therapy and deep self-reflection, which required facing her pain, admitting, and owning her mistakes, and reconnecting with the authentic self she'd lost due to Jordan's abuse. Through her own healing, a passion for helping others was born. She returned to school at 39 to become a psychotherapist, and ten years later, graduated with a PhD in Counseling and Somatic Psychology. You're also going to hear find out the hell can you do so that you're not carrying around this weight and this storm cloud for the rest of your life. To learn more about how YOU can work directly with Dr Nae (and we know you want to), check her out here: https://drnae.com/about-dr-nadine-macaluso/# AND, grab her book, Run Like Hell here: https://drnae.com/run-like-hell-book/ So tune in as we chat with Dr. Nadine Macaluso, a clinical expert and ex-wife of the real-life Wolf of Wall Street, Jordan Belfort.   If you're in need of coparenting support- look no further than Our Family Wizard. We LOVE them. Head here for more information: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And finally, if Dr Nae's story sound at all like yours...you NEED the Divorce Crash Course, get it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

Send us a Text Message.It's hard to talk with an ex under emotionally charged circumstances, yet moms and dads still need to coordinate schedules for the kids while keeping down the drama. Wouldn't it be nice if there were some kind of tool to keep everyone on track and still civil?In this episode of the Modern Divorce Podcast, host Billie Tarascio is joined by Tracy Krall, a former family law attorney and current representative of Our Family Wizard, an innovative app designed to make co-parenting easier by streamlining communication and reduce conflict.Tracy details the app's multifaceted features, including the journal, Infobank, and calendar tools. The app allows parents to share memories, store essential information like insurance details, and manage schedules. For parents still dealing with legal issues, tracking everyday activities and behaviors of both parties can be an important element.For instance, the app includes a reimbursement system and the innovative Tone Meter feature, which helps co-parents communicate more effectively and respectfully. The discussion also covers the app's customizable notifications and GPS check-ins, which provide additional layers of accountability and transparency. Billie and Tracy also discuss the app's cost and its fee waiver programs, ensuring that financial constraints don't stop families from benefiting from using its features. For more information, check out OurFamilyWizard.com/modernlaw 

Okay, let's face it- if you're listening to this podcast you know that (& if you're a new listener you will soon find out)  community, and support during divorce, is SO IMPORTANT. When you can't decide whether you need to scream in your car/bathroom/ or random aisle at Target, you need to know who you can turn to who will comfort you, make you laugh, and remind you that this horrible phase that you're in will not be your forever. Today on the show we're talking to our good friend, and dad of three: Rob Roseman. Rob is also  the founder of WTF Divorce. We adore Rob and on this episode he shares his journey of realizing the significance of finding support through online communities after going through a divorce of his own.  In this episode, we talk: -Challenges of isolation -Benefits of relatable humor -Critical advice for engaging with credentialed professionals -Rob's book "WTF Divorce" and all of the joy it can bring to your life!! Check out the book here: amazon link! Follow Rob on IG- 139K already do!! http://www.instagram.com/wtfdivorce Listen to this episode to learn how community helps make a difficult process more bearable and even bring some much-needed laughter into your life!  If you're starting your divorce process, you NEED the DCC, check that out here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey! Visit our special landing page for them to learn more about why are one of the MUST HAVES for your divorce. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

We know - it sounds pretty daunting and impossible. This episode is full of actionable steps for you to take. In this episode, we chat again with forensic psychotherapist guest, Micaela Van Dine https://mvdpsychotherapy.com/, about how to prepare to leave your abusive marriage. You're going to hear about: -Setting a timeline for leaving (we know- sounds impossible) -Understanding your/your spouse's financial situation -Securing sentimental belongings -Safely exiting the marriage -Making sure you're doing things "by the law" in your state -Be SUPER mindful of the kids Our Divorce Crash Course was help you out here- BIG TIME- please, go check it out. It's $97 and will give you an actionable plan that will help save THOUSANDS and avoid major mistakes. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course  Friends, you can reach out to Micaela directly on her website if you want her consulting advice.  As always it's recommended to consult with legal professionals and therapists specific to the listener's jurisdiction to ensure appropriate and personalized advice. If you need support in finding someone in your area, shoot us over an email at hello@hownottosuckatdivorce.com   Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Soberlink is here for you if you're concerned about alcohol usage during parenting time. Go to: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck to get $50 off your device.

In this episode, we are joined by Lisa Zeiderman, a seasoned attorney specializing in family law, to dive into the often challenging topics of prenuptial agreements, co-parenting, and navigating divorce.     Lisa brings her wealth of knowledge and experience to the table, offering practical advice and valuable insights for those who are considering marriage, going through a separation, or managing co-parenting responsibilities.    Throughout the conversation, we explore the intricacies of prenuptial agreements, highlighting their importance in fostering transparency and financial planning between partners. Lisa shares real-life examples of successful and unsuccessful prenup negotiations, providing a clear understanding of how to approach this sensitive subject.  Moving into the realm of divorce and co-parenting, Lisa discusses the critical factors in ensuring the well-being of children and maintaining effective communication between parents. She recommends useful tools like co-parenting apps and emphasizes the need for a support team, including therapists and financial advisors, to navigate the complexities of divorce.    Lisa also addresses the challenges of dealing with manipulative behavior, particularly from narcissistic individuals, and the importance of exposing dishonesty in court. Additionally, she offers strategies for handling interference from extended family members, ensuring that the child's best interests remain the focal point.    This episode is a must-listen for anyone facing the difficult dynamics of prenuptial agreements, divorce, or co-parenting. Lisa's expert guidance and compassionate approach provide a roadmap for managing these situations with clarity and confidence.    Key Points:    Prenuptial Agreements:  Acknowledge the financial partnership in marriage.  Helps avoid costly litigation in case of divorce.  Facilitates transparency and financial discussions.  Covers issues like separate property, inheritance, budgeting, and spousal support.    Navigating Divorce and Co-Parenting:  Importance of discussing children's needs and parenting arrangements.  Emphasizes the need for clear and concise communication.  Recommends co-parenting apps like Our Family Wizard for effective communication and coordination.  Highlights the significance of fostering a healthy relationship between children and both parents.  Addresses concerns about abusive or addicted parents and the need for supervised access when necessary.  Advises against unilateral decisions during litigation and stresses the importance of consulting a team of professionals, including therapists, financial advisors, and attorneys.    Dealing with Narcissistic Behavior:  Acknowledges the challenge of dealing with manipulative behavior in court.  Emphasizes the importance of exposing lies and maintaining credibility.  Suggests selecting an attorney who can effectively advocate against such behavior.    Handling Family Interference:  Advises taking control of situations where family members interfere.  Stresses the importance of maintaining boundaries and prioritizing the child's well-being.    Building a Support Team:  Recommends building a team of advisors to navigate divorce proceedings effectively.  Mentions organizations like Savvy Ladies and Family Legal Care for additional support.  Contact Information:    Lisa Zeiderman: https://lisazeiderman.com   SavvyLadies.org: https://www.savvyladies.org  

  This episode is your high conflict divorce survival guide. We are going to cover the steps you should take to help maintain your sanity and stamina needed to survive high conflict divorce process. On this episode, we talk with forensic psychotherapist, Micaela Van Dine, https://mvdpsychotherapy.com , who shares her professional insights and personal experiences related to high-conflict divorces in the courtroom. Do you have our Divorce Crash Course?? If you are navigating a high conflict divorce, this crash course will potentially help you save THOUSANDS of dollars.  Find it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course As ALWAYS, this episode offers several action steps and practical advice, like:   -Maintaining silence amid provocation -Building a support system -Choosing the right legal and mental health professionals to guide you through the difficult process   One of the most helpful tools available to you is Our Family Wizard. Used in many high conflict cases, Our Family Wizard is our top recommendation for organizing communication between coparents. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And don't forget about Soberlink! Soberlink to our go-to tool for those who suspect an alcohol issue during parenting times. Visit: http://www.soberlink.com/not to receive $50 off your device.   Hit play & feel a little less alone! Please reach out to us should you want more support!  

Listen to this episode BEFORE you go into mediation.  It IS possible to have a positive outcome from mediation, even if you feel like your soon to be ex spouse agree on NOTHING. And before we get into the nitty gritty: Do you have our Divorce Crash Course? It literally holds your hand through ALL major divorce decisions! Get it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course  Here are 3 EXPERT tips, (from a mediator herself- Joy Rosenthal-https://www.joyrosenthal.com/), to help you reframe your mind before entering mediation: 1) You don't have to RESPECT your soon to be ex, but you still need to have some DIGNITY for them. In other words, treat them like a human who also has wants and needs (even if their wants and needs are questionable and they're acting like a total tool) 2)Start to think of the problem as something that's outside of you and your soon to be ex. Meaning, the issue is "who gets the kids this Christmas?" or "who gets the lake house?" or "who's going to get the collection of ketchup bottles?" (yes, that was an actual issue for one of Morgan's cases). The issue is not about YOU, and it's not about you soon to be ex, it's simply a "problem" that needs to be "solved". 3)Think about why you want what you say you want. This one is kinda about checking ego, and also just gaining some perspective on the situation.  It's important to keep in mind that everyone loses something in a divorce. You're not gonna come of this thing with EVERYTHING you want, it just doesn't work like that.  In fact, the old divorce joke goes, "if both parties are unhappy and feel they got cheated, then the attorneys did their job" I (Andrea) HATE that joke and it makes me want to scream, but that's the way it goes! And remember, mediation, divorce- all of this mess-is just going to be ONE event that happened in your life. It's not your life, you have a lot more life to live when this is all behind you.  Our Family Wizard is here to help you though your coparenting journey. Learn more about them here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Summer's almost here folks, and you know what that means...camps, vacations..and your divorce, oh my! Not to mention: the DREADED parenting agreements. One of Andrea's least favorite topics but something we HAVE to talk about. We talk about the significance of communication and flexibility in establishing summer parenting schedules, and the legal implications of these changes. We also dive into the complexities of co-parenting during summer, including summer camps, child support, and travel logistics.  In this episode you'll learn:  *The challenges of balancing work and children's needs during the summer, especially for working and single parents *Suggestions for getting help with childcare during the summer *The importance of creativity and flexibility *Examples of creative modifications to summer parenting schedules and the importance of communication between parents *Practical approaches to managing summer activities, like summer camps, co-parenting logistics, and managing expectation *Strategies for initiating conversations with co-parents about travel plans and managing summer camp choices. And friend that barely scratches this surface in this jam packed mini episode! Don't forget to check out the DCC, honey, you need this! : https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course And, go sign up for Our Family Wizard's free newsletter! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And finally, join our private community! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity  

In the turbulent seas of high-conflict custody battles and family disputes, a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) serves as a lighthouse, guiding decisions in the best interest of the children involved. It's crucial to understand when a GAL is needed, and what their role is. This podcast delves into the circumstances that necessitate the involvement of a GAL, unraveling their purpose and shedding light on their pivotal role. Our journey begins with an exploration of the situations that trigger the appointment of a GAL, understanding their objectives, and the critical part they play in steering court decisions towards the welfare and best interests of the children.Engaging with a Guardian ad Litem can be a perplexing maze for both parents and children. As we navigate this complex path, our podcast aims to empower you with the knowledge and tools necessary to support your children compassionately and effectively through this process. We will explore strategies for fostering open communication, maintaining a stable and supportive environment, and preparing your child for interactions with the GAL. By demystifying the GAL's role and functions, we provide parents with actionable insights to facilitate a smoother experience for their children, ensuring their voices are heard and their well-being is prioritized throughout the legal process.Elle Barr is an experienced family law attorney with a deep commitment to serving children and families. She has experience representing clients in all family law matters, with an emphasis on serving as a court appointed GAL.More ways to connect with Elle:LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/elle-barr-252b14104 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elle.barr.gal/Twitter: https://twitter.com/ElleBarrGAL Enroll with Our Family Wizard: 30 day free OFW trialGAL Resources Referenced in Episode:ACE's Resource: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/index.htmlNadine Burke Ted TalkACE's Aware: https://www.acesaware.org/Children's Bill of Rights: https://emeryondivorce.com/childrens_bill_of_rights_in_divorce.phpJourney Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode:Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Soberlink:  www.soberlink.com/jbd 

Today's episode is about something we get asked about A LOT - recording your ex. The truth of the matter is there are some major things you MUST think about before hitting that record button, and yes, EVEN if your attorney suggests it. However, there is a time & a place for capturing what you need to help your divorce proceeding.  We answer:    What legally admissible means and how it applies to you When we would recommend you recording your ex What does it mean in your state? Is it legal? And what does it mean? When would it be appropriate to record and when would it not be? And, why we LOVE Ring doorbells (not sponsored...yet..hit us up, Ring!) This episode is not only insightful but a resource for you that you may need at some point & we want to equip you with the information you need. And remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey. To learn more about Our Family Wizard, please go check them out, you'll also get access to a special (and funny) article we co wrote with them!! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Do you have the Divorce Crash Course??? It's going to help you- BIG TIME. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course   You've got this, friends, and we've got you!

Friend, let's be real, we know that you're tired of pretending that everything is okay. We know that your gut is telling you that your marriage is not going to work. So, now what??? If you have EVER wondered: "What do I do if I think I want a divorce?" - this episode is for you.  If you're considering divorce but don't know where to begin, this episode is for you.  If you're just miserable in your marriage, but feel stuck, this episode is for you.  Don't forget: The DCC is here to help you save up to THOUSANDS on your divorce AND help you avoid making MAJOR mistakes. Get The Divorce Crash Course HERE! Join our private community: Here! And remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help you make coparenting easier. Believe us, you want to check them out: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck This podcast was designed to give you information, entertainment and empathy as you embark on the divorce process.  We know that divorce is hard. We know that it's a long and draining process. We also know that life is so much better on the other side.  Don't give up. Everyone deserves to be happy.  You've got this and we've got you.    

In today's episode, we have a very first for this podcast & an incredibly special guest - Retired Los Angeles Judge Dianna Gould-Saltman. That's right - a VERY recently retired divorce judge! (who BTW, has divorced several celebrity couples) Let's face it- nobody wants to go to court. It's just not a fun experience. If you're navigating the divorce process, going before the judge is likely a step that you are trying to avoid for several reasons. But for one reason or another, it happens for a lot of divorcing couples.  So, what do you do you to get the judge "on your side"??? In this episode you'll learn:  * An easy thing you can do to help yourself get in the right headspace for court  * What do to and not to do when you're actually in front of the judge in court  * Does it matter if the judge *knows* the attorney who's representing you or your spouse * What are some mistakes that Judge Dianna saw in her courtroom over and over  *What's a "private divorce"?? If you're going through this nasty thing called divorce and ready to learn how to prepare for court in the eyes of a retired divorce judge…this epiosode is for YOU.  AND! If you're wanting to hire Judge Dianna Gould- Saltman as your mediator or your private judge...guess what? You can do that! Find her here: https://signatureresolution.com/neutral-CPT/hon-dianna-gould-saltman-ret/ And friends, if your case is going into court then you likely need some more emotional support. Look no futher than our private community. You can find it right here: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity ********** Do you know about Our Family Wizard?? Because if not, you really need to go sign up for their newsletter. Our Family Wizard makes coparenting A LOT easier by helping you organize your calenders, expenses, AND monitor communications : and best part, it's looked upon HIGHLY in the courts as a way to help families do divorce better. To learn more, go to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

In today's episode, as crappy as it is - we talk about when the abuse gets worse during divorce. It's not a fun topic, but we would be doing you a disservice if we didn't talk about it. We bring in Katharine Rupp, a family law attorney based in California, who shares insights on the legal process of divorce, the significance of being organized and prepared for legal battles, and the usefulness of tools like Our Family Wizard app (hollaaa!) in co-parenting and divorce documentation.  Expect to hear strategies for dealing with emotional abuse and conflict, learn the importance of communication and documentation in divorce proceedings, and get practical advice for navigating the divorce process more effectively - as per usual!   Main Takeaways: *Importance of Our Family Wizard - (OFW) is a valuable tool for organizing divorce-related information in one platform *Responding to Attacks (so hard- but DON'T attack back) *Avoid Escalation and Emotional Response (again, so hard) *Documenting and Communicating *Seek Support and Guidance If you want some more information on how to respond to your POS ex, (hee hee) head here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck   Ask your attorney if Our Family Wizard would be right for your case. In our opinion, it can only help give you the boundaries you deserve.    Join our private community for more support. http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity  

Friends. Listen up. You need to make sure that your divorce attorney is going to GUIDE you through the long, winding road that is divorce. Take a listen to the dynamic duo, Sarah Jacobs and Jamie Berger, family law attorneys and owners of Jacobs/Berger LLC, located in Morristown, New Jersey.  Their mission is making the divorce process less nerve-wracking by focusing on the human side, rather than getting caught up in legal battles. Isn't that what we all want?! (Yes, it is..)  Sarah and Jamie express why it's so importatnt to find a relatable attorney who communicates well, knows your goals, and speaks your language.  Episode highlights: *Jacobs and Bergers' approach to making divorce less stressful *The concept of redefining the family through non-aggressive strategies *The importance of a divorce attorney understanding and addressing your needs and goals *The necessity for attorneys to be relatable and communicative *Positive outlook on divorce as a new beginning *Being a divorce "tour guide" *A Real Housewives of New Jersey divorce story....(this sh$t is GOOD) If you are in the NJ area and looking for representation- reach out to Sarah & Jamie. Here's the site again : http://www.jacobsberger.com   Aaaaaannnndddd, ya'll - you KNOW you want some glowing skin, who doesn't?? Andrea and Morgan are LOVING their results from Dermamade, and we know that you will, too. This skincare line is so effective and not super $$$. For a limited time, you can save 50% off (which is INSANE) with code AMY50. Head to http://www.dermamade.com And don't forget: Our Family Wizard is here to help make coparenting easier. And if you want some tips on how to communicate in a more effective way that won't make you want to pull out your hair extentions...go to http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck - pop in your email address and you'll get an article from US that maps out a plan for you! Join our private community: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity We love you, we're here for you, you can do this.  Go get yourself a good attorney.   

Okay, real talk. Getting your head straight for divorce is NECESSARY. It's crucial to seek the proper legal and emotional help when going through a divorce. In this episode, we chat with Dr. Ashley Southard and she has you covered! Straight from a licensed marriage and family therapist, you'll learn in this episode:  * Professional guidance during divorce * Defining worst and best-case scenarios * Managing emotions during divorce * Focusing on children, career, and supportive relationships * Addressing the struggle of over-functioning individuals to seek help or delegate responsibilities * Importance of seeking therapy before starting the divorce process * Over-functioning women in unfulfilling relationships * Identifying emotional and practical needs during challenging times This episode is for you if you're ready and determined to get your head on straight when it comes to divorce! (Trust us, you can do this!) You can find Dr Ashley on her viral IG account: http://www.instagram.com/drashleysouthard And friends, remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help with you all of your coparenting issues. Go read our co written article! It's funny and really helpful! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And keeping with the real talk. Ya'll. Your skin takes a BEATING when you're stressed, and that just plain SUCKS. However, we have a way to help you! Dr Amy Brodsky developed an amazing line of EFFECTIVE skincare- and guess what?? She's giving our listeners 50% off for a limited time. Take a sec right now and go check out Dermamade. Use code AMY50 at checkout. http://www.dermamade.com (Morgan loves the anti aging set and Andrea is digging the Vitamin C serum, as well as the Retinol serum. ) We're here for you. Join our private community http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity Please DM us with any questions! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

Okay, let's hash out everything you need to do BEFORE you file for divorce, sounds like fun, huh?  Listen, let us start by saying:  mental preparation is crucial and there is NO perfect time for divorce, and every case is different!  And before we forget, go join our private communities: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadytodivorce This episode helps you get your head straight if you're thinking about divorce.  You're going to hear: *The Importance of timing in divorce decisions *Consideration of length of marriage for potential alimony or maintenance *Permanent support after around 20 years of marriage *Setting up for success in the next chapter of life after divorce *Tools for Organizing Expenses and Communication During Divorce *Impact of job loss or significant career advancement on divorce filing and financial implications *Retirement and its impact on support and financial division in divorces later in life *Discussion of prenups, children's ages, length of marriage, employment, and retirement for awareness and discussion with an attorney *Confidential ways to consult a divorce lawyer, such as through advance consultation fees or using a separate credit card *Emotional Support During the Divorce Process *Encouragement to seek professional advice from a divorce attorney to address individual concerns This episode is for you if you are ready to get your head on straight if you are considering or currently navigating the complexities of divorce and seeking expert advice, support, and camaraderie during this challenging time.  And remember: Soberlink is THE tool you need if you suspect alcohol is going to be an issue with safe parenting time. Get $50 off your device by visiting: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER. To their FREE newsletter AND an article that we cowrote to help you not suck at communicating with your ex, visit: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck   Follow us on IG! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

Andrea and Morgan answer the question that you're probably wondering if you're going through (or about to go through) a divorce: Will the kids be okay?!  ******* To get FREE tips on coparenting communication (believe us, you'll want this) head to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck - pop in your email and you'll get access to BONUS tips, direct from Andrea & Morgan. We get real about the impact of divorce on children and invite: Meg, and sisters Eden & Larissa on the show.  They share their personal stories of coming from divorced households, navigating blended families, and the challenges of balancing different parenting styles. This episode gives you insight if you're contemplating divorce or worried about the effects on your kids. Expect to hear: *Tips on communicating with challenging co-parents and using "Our Family Wizard" for organized co-parenting, including expenses and messaging. * The importance of prioritizing the well-being of the children involved and creating a supportive environment for them. * The challenges and misconceptions of parenting during and after a divorce ** The impact on children and the importance of parental happiness for the well-being of children ***The answer you all want to hear: Will the kids be okay? Answer might suprise you.  **and BONUS !!! What can you do to give your skin that glow you had before your life turned upside down!! (hint: it's Morgan's obsession) Get up to 50% off (which is INSANE!) If you go to www.dermamade.com and enter in code: AMY50 This episode is filled with real stories, hope, and honesty to help answer your question: are your kids going to be okay?  You can do this. We've got you. Join our private community: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity Follow us on IG: http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce We'll see ya next week. 

In this episode: Andrea, Morgan, and James Quigley dive into the world of divorce and family law, AND  contempt of court. Listen to get some strategies for dealing with violations of court orders, and the emotional toll of navigating divorce.    * Examples of non-willful violations of court orders and the importance of making reasonable efforts to comply   * Situations where pursuing contempt charges for financial issues in divorce cases may be warranted, and the process of filing a petition for the court to consider contempt charges   * Assessing the teamwork of law firms, understanding lawyer agreements, and maintaining credibility with the court   * Communication strategies with challenging co-parents, using co-parenting apps, and documenting interactions.   * Acknowledgment of the emotional toll of divorce, abuse, and gaslighting, and the recommendation to seek mental health support.   * Stressing the importance of addressing emotional issues with support, as lawyers are not therapists.   This conversation is filled with real-life anecdotes, practical advice, and a touch of humor, all aimed at providing support and guidance for those going through a divorce. Join us as we tackle these complex issues and share resources, all while navigating the intricacies of divorce with honesty and levity. To find James Quigley online, head to: https://www.beermannlaw.com/team/james-m-quigley/ and follow the guy on IG, it'll make his day. https://www.instagram.com/quigleyondivorce/ And remember: If you're concerned about your children's safety during your co parent's parenting time becuase of alcohol, Soberlink is here to help. To learn more visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck and get $50 off your device. Our Family Wizard is here to my coparenting EASIER, how awesome is that??!! To get FREE access to an article that we co wrote with the Our Family Wizard team that gives action steps on how you can better communicate with you ex, go to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck   We have private communities, don't forget!! Join us. We're helpful and, like, way fun: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadytodivorce http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

In this episode, Andrea and Morgan give advice on creating parenting schedules and what you need to keep in mind to ensure the best interests of the children are at the forefront. We dive into some of the most common custody issues: *50/50 arrangment *right of first refusal *asking for more than 50% custody *difference between custodial custody and parenting time *best parenting time schedules for younger kids *more creative parenting time schedules   And speaking of kids, Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting easier! And trust us, you want Our Family Wizard as a tool in your divorce toolbox. Head to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck to get access to a FREE article that we co-wrote with Our Family Wizard on how to best communicate with a challenging ex spouse!   And remember, our private community is here to support you. Join us at: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And if you have not yet filed for divorce and would prefer to listen to our episodes privately, you can do so here: https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce. Our entire library of episodes can be listened to discreetly for $4.99 a month.  Follow us on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce See you next week, friends!

In a perfect world I think we could agree that keeping marriages healthy and two parents in the house raising the children is the optimal situation.  But, we live in a less than optimal world.  As this relates to the home we often have marriages coming apart and children being raised by parents or step parents that often desire little to do with each other.  The result can be a devastating environment to raise a child.  In our work at Rock Solid Families we see divorced or separated parents attempting to raise their children on a frequent basis.  We also get a front row seat to the challenges that come between the parents and often resulting in hurt and suffering for everyone involved, mom, dad, child, step parents, etc… In today's show we are going to tackle this subject head-on.  We are going to give you 5 must-dos if you are going to find success in raising your child that you share. Advice - 7 “Must Do's” to Raise Healthy Kids Through Co-Parenting1.   Put boundaries on personal attitudes towards each other, especially if they are interfering with the raising of the children. Past hurts can make it very difficult to put aside the hurt and strive towards coming together for the sake of raising a healthy and well adjusted child. 2. Develop a common parenting plan… that consist of -Common ValuesCommon ExpectationsCommon ConsequencesCommon Rewards3.  How do you do that? It's ok to Start with your dreams and wishes for your child but then you have to Ask the question: What's best for the family?  Be aware of the Child manipulating parents or parents using the child to manipulate the other parent. (This is dangerous on many levels and especially for the future of the child.)4. Strive for Equal but Flexible Time - Time needs to be equally split between both parents.  Many divorces place the children with one parent a majority of the time while the other receives visits and weekend sleepovers.  This may be convenient, but research has proven it to be detrimental to your children and even the parents. Do whatever you can do to Work toward healthy even if one or more of the parents are not. https://www.statnews.com/2017/05/26/divorce-shared-parenting-children-health/5. Never talk bad about each other  - Communicate necessary messages, not emotions - If you have to use restricted communication such as texts or emails and there is a concern about things taken out of context, consider using a common app such as Our Family Wizard.  Transparency in communication is key.6. Stability and Predictability create Security.  Routines, expectations, and discipline are among the greatest things parents can use to create a stable and secure environment. 7. Get Help!  Mediation, Coaching or Counseling can be the best investment you will ever make in this situation.  Rock Solid Families is able to help! Be mindful of the fruit that your parenting is going to produce. Being in conflict with your ex and then putting the children in the middle is only going to damage and destroy the fruit of the family.  Galatians 6:7-10 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. 9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. 10 Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

In today's episode, Andrea and Morgan discuss what happens AFTER you've been served with a petition for divorce…aka “dissolution of marriage”.    So if you've wondered: How do I choose the right

This episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce is sponspored by Better Help. Give online therapy a try at http://www.betterhelp.com/notsuck and get on your way to being your best self.   We want to help you survive the next few weeks. The holiday season is a stressful time, in the BEST of situations. But if you're also navigating a divorce or considering divorce, then you're managing and extra set of stress and unhappiness that's likely making the next few weeks a really tough time.  Here's how we can help.  Here are 6 pro tips from Morgan and Andrea. You ready for them? Let's go! Set some realistic expectations. Surprises make for more unhappiness. Keep busy.  Prep your family on how to handle themselves around you (tell Aunt Beatrice to not ask you questions)  and possibly your ex. Watch the cheesy holiday movies, we're talking the REALLY cheesy ones, Hallmark channel style. Nothing bad happens in these movies and it makes for great background noise Just say no to parties you don't want to attend. Nobody really cares.  Move your body. It's so damn important. If it's really cold where you live, walk around the mall, or even around a Target.  And please, join our private communites for extra support! Here are the links: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And if you need to listen to our episodes discreetly (for those of you who aren't ready to file for divorce and don't want this show popping up on your subscription list) https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce FYI: it's a private community that does have a small fee. $4.99 a month to get all of the episodes discreetly. Ideal for if you don't want your spouse seeing that you're listening to the show.  We're adding to this channel everyday- so soon there will videos there too.  The charge shows up as “Patreon” which is just a platform for additional podcasts.   Also! Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER. AND, you can get free information on coparenting and handling sticky situations! Head here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Kate Anthony, host of The Divorce Survivial Guide, is chatting with us tonight to offer another tool to help you at the beginning of your divorce process. The "D" Word, a new book out by Kate, will offer you a lot of insight and guidance as you decide, "should I stay or should I go?" Should I stay married for my kids? Does this count as abuse? Why am I so unhappy? What does a healthy relationship even look like? If the above quesitons sound familar to you...go grab a copy of Kate's book.  https://www.amazon.com/Word-Making-Ultimate-Decision-Marriage/dp/0806542357 Our hope is that this conversation helps you feel like someone gets what you're going through. We know that the decision to divorce is not easy. We know that there there are a multitude of emotions that fly through your head and heart and that you likely feel an incredible amount of weight on your shoulders.  Our advice? Talk about these thoughts and feelings. Get your butt in therapy. Start getting honest with yourself about what you want for your life and for your kids' lives. Take responsibility in the role that you play in not only your marraige but also in your life in general.  A now, a word from our sponsors: Treat yourself to the softest sheets this holiday season. Visit http://www.cozyearth.com and use code: HNTSAD to save up to 35% ! Our Family Wizard is here to help make coparenting easier. And if you could use some additional support regarding coparenting, do yourself a favor and sign up for their FREE newsletter: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And visit Kate Anthony's site to learn more about her podcast and everything else that she has to offer. She's a wealth of support and guidance. https://kateanthony.com And if you need access to our private library, to listen to all of our episodes in the most discreet way, please sign up for our subscription service. http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce And our free community over on Facebook! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity          

"I'm just going to make it through the holidays" "I think I can hang on a little bit longer" "It's just not the right time." There's no good time to get divorced. But there's (of course) a TON of reasons that come into consideration when someone decides when to file. So what should you do when you know you want to leave, but you're not quite ready for divorce?? 1- EDUCATE YOURSELF.  This is your time to gather as much information as possible. Listen to this show, ask questions..join our private communites. 2- TALK TO AN ATTORNEY. In most cases, you don't need to hire someone until you're ready to file, but you should certainly start the interview process. Remember, we suggest you interview 3 attorneys before hiring someone.  3-START PAYING MORE ATTENTION TO MONEY. We're talking about money coming in and money going out. (see our previous episodes about $$ to get more guidance here) 4-THERAPY. Get your butt in therapy. Now. In fact, stop this podcast and go. You deserve support and BTW, so do your kids. In fact, the waitlsits right now for childrens' therapists are INSANE so start doing research now and get on those lists for therapists that would right to help your family. Being proactive vs reactive is ALWAYS the better choice.  What should you NOT do?? 1- Take to social media. Don't change profile pictures or start bringing attention to yourself until you know exactly what you're doing and prepared to answer questions 2- Go spending a ton a money. 3-If you're already in another relationship- DON'T make extravegant purchases or travel plans. Especially depending on the state you live in. And if you are in another relationship, don't conceal this fact from your attorney. You need to have an open and honest relationship with your divorce attorney and they cannot fully support and advise you if they don't know all of the facts.  And if you need more insight and want the most discreet way to listen to this show, join our community on Patreon. This community offers you our entire library of episodes that you can access without needing to suscribe to our show. This channel will also hold bonus interviews and conversations that will help you as you make your decision and support you along the way.  http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce   And now, a word from our Sponsors,  Don't sleep on those old sheets that you shared with your ex, omg, YUCK!! Treat yourself this holiday season with the luxious sheets from Cozy Earth. Vist http://www.cozyearth.com and use code HNTSAD to save up to 35%!!! Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting easier. Make sure you sign up for their free newsletter at http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

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For those of you who are facing the holidays WITHOUT your kids, let us reassure that your feelings dread and sorrow are completely normal. Even if you're feeling mixed emotions, THAT'S completely normal.  It's a dramatic change from how things used to be. It can feel strange...empty...and just plain wrong.  We can promise you this: you WILL get through these holidays...even though they might be challenging.  Listen to this special re- air episode with our friend, Lisa McGregor, to hear her take on what she did to help herself get through those first few years...you hear Andrea weigh in as well- her take is a little different.    And here are some updated action steps from Andrea: Let yourself feel sad. Pretending you're okay when you're not does you no favors. Move your body. We're not asking you to run a mile, but we are asking you to go for a walk. Do something, anything. You don't need to go our and party all night, but grabbing a fresh Starbucks at least gets you out of the house.    And now, a word from our sponsors: Treat yourself to some new sheets, don't sleep on those same sheets you shared with your ex, YUCK. Cozy Earth is all about LUXURY!!  Visit : http://www.cozyearth.com and use code: HNTSAD to save 35%!!! Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER. Visit: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck to sign up for their FREE newsletter and learn our OFW can help YOU!   Join our private community! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And if you need to listen to our episodes privately: http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce  

**This episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce is sponsored by Better Health. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/NOTSUCK and get on your way to being your best self.** Why is it that we don't allow ourselves to grieve the loss of a relationship?? It's time we change that. We are chatting with Rebecca Feingloss, founder of Grieve Leave, an organization that makes grieving death, divorce, job loss, etc more accessible and without the STIGMA.  Rebecca has experience grief of several levels. Yes, she's been through a divorce. She's also lost both of her parents. Her mother died when she was young and her father recently died on the first day of the COVID-19 lockdown. She ended her marriage one year after her father died. So what, actually, is grieving?? How do you grieve? Do you have to grieve? How do you know if you are grieving?? Can you grieve if you wanted the divorce?? (yes, of course) In divorce, we often will grieve the loss of what could have been...the life that we thought we were going to have...   And what about our jobs and bosses understanding how to support you in your grief process?? And while we're on the topic, let's debunk the myth of the "5 Stages of Grief".  Look, friends, this phrase comes from a study that was performed in the 1970's and was centered around cancer paitents.  As it turns out, there are NOT "stages" of grief that you go through and then you magically "finish" the grief process. Sorry... grief is not linear. It's up and down, side to side, and is ongoing. Not everyday will be gutwrentching, but there's not "finish line". And for this reason, Grieve Leave exists. Grieve Leave offers virtual support groups for people managing the grief process. There are many different types of groups and whole lot more insight, guidance and community available. Visit them at: https://www.grieveleave.com .  You can also find them on social media at: http:www.instagram.com/grieveleave And now, a word from our sponsors: Soberlink offers alcohol montitoring in the most discreet way with the highest technology. Visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER (isn't that nice??) Visit http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck to get access to their newsletter.   Thanks for being here, friends. Remember, we are here to support you in any way we can. If you are considering divorce and would like to be in our private community to listen to our episodes without downloading them to your device: join us here: http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce And if you want to join our free Facebook community, head here: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity    

**This episode is sbrought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/NOTSUCK and get on your way to being your best self.**   Alright, here's the deal. Divorcing someone with a "type 2" personality disorder is NOT a walk in the park. AND there ARE things that you can do to help preserve your sanity... Let's start here: EXPECT IT TO SUCK. That may sound hard, but baby, if your marriage was a shitshow, so will your divorce. It'll be worth it, but it's gonna be a mental and emotional battle. So how do you go into war being as prepared as possible?   Arm yourself BOUNDARIES. Historically, type 2 personalites hate boundaries and rarely respect them, so it's crucial that you put strong ones in place that YOU can enforce. One suggestion that we have is to utilize a coparenting app, specifically, Our Family Wizard. Why? Because this app was designed to help high conflict coparents communicate LESS. Our Family Wizard is an easy to use app that will help you organize your parenting schedule, shared expenses, and even allow you and your ex exchange (what can be) court monitored messages. Now, please keep in mind that just because you use an app like Our Family Wizard DOES NOT MEAN THAT THE ABUSE WILL STOP. That's really important to note. However, using Our Family Wizard will allow you the ability to gain CONTROL. You can even establish the ONE time of day that you have to read (the obnoxious) messages from your ex. It's also the safest way for high conflict coparents to communicate...for those who are in a dangerously contentious situation.    Listen to the words of our guest, family law attorney, Katharine Rupp, who PERSONALLY uses OUR FAMILY WIZARD. This woman literally practices law and she herself has had experience with gaslighting, mental and emotional abuse. You're not crazy. You're not making this up.    You deserve to live a happier and healthier life. You need an exit stradegy. You need a plan. We are here to help you. If you are contemplating divorce and want a private community to ask questions, listen to our episodes WITHOUT them being downloaded to your phone and have access to BONUS conversations with experts,  please join our private group: https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce   This episode is sponsored by Soberlink. If you are concerned about your coparents sobriety during their parenting time, please check out Soberlink :http:www.soberlink.com/notsuck And visit Our Family Wizard and sign up for their newsletter to get some tips and tricks that can make coparenting easier for you. :http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck You've got this. And we've got You.     

How do you know if you hired right divorce attorney for your case? This episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce is an inside peek into the minds and personalities of the top family law attorneys of New York City.    Introducing:  Michael Calogero https://www.cohenclairlans.com/attorneys/michael-calogero Lois Liberman https://www.blankrome.com/people/lois-j-liberman Nicky Rooz https://selwlaw.com/nicky-rooz/   Any divorce attorney can get you divorced, but who's going to the right person in your corner to help fight for what's most important to you and your children? In you're wondering: Which NYC divorce attorney has the best bedside manner? How do I know if I'm hiring the right divorce attorney? How much do divorce attorneys cost? How long will my divorce take?   Take a listen to this very special episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce! a word from our sponsors...   Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER.  Free tips and guidance for those navigating a challenging coparenting relationship available for our of our listeners, head here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck For more support, join our private community on facebook: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity        

If you feel overwhelmed by money, this episode is for YOU. Financial advisor and author of Squeeze the Juice, Jennifer Lee, spends times with us to day to give our listeners some expert tips so that their divorce doesn't ruin them financially.    Here are some tips that can help you with getting a hold of your money: 1: Do a finanicial triage. (already overwhelmed???Jennifer is here to assist our listeners with this process) 2: Don't be an ostrich. (hiding your head in the sand will get you nowhere. Ask questions. Be brave and tell your attorney that you don't have all of the information they're asking you for. Bonus points if you're brave enough to contact Jennifer and ask a financial expert for help!!) 3: Don't give up on your money situation EVEN IF you made financial mistakes during your divorce process. Educate yourself and take BABY STEPS. Get curious about how you can improve your situation.    Jennifer's book, Squeeze the Juice, is a FABULOUS place to start educating yourself. This book is story based, so it helps readers wrap their arms around the lessons. Get it here: Squeeze the Juice Do NOT JUDGE YOURSELF for not knowing EVERYTHING (or anything) about your finances. Just ask for help. Don't leave money on the table.  Our listeners can do a FREE 15 call with Jennifer to see if can help you! https://calendly.com/modern-wealth Visit Jennifer's firm, Modern-Wealth, here: https://modern-wealth.com/   a word from our sponsors Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting easier. Sign up for their FREE newsletter to get tips and tricks that can help you coparent better. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck   For more support, join us in our private Facebook community! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity    

It's what we all worry about the most in divorce: our kids.  Will my kids be okay after the divorce?  Will my divorce ruin my kids' lives? Is it fair to make my kids live in two houses? ****This is a special re air episode with Dr Randy Heller.  We talk about what's in our control in regards to our childrens' emotional and mental wellbeing during and after the divorce process. There's a lot to digest here, so listen when you have sometime to yourself. Biggest takeway: Your kids will be okay if you are okay. To reach Dr Randy Heller please visit https://familynetworkflorida.com/ For more support with families, check out Our Family Wizard. Our Family Wizard makes communication between coparents easier. Learn more at http://www.ourfamilywizard.com And please, join our private community for more support and guidance. http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

How do you prepare if your divorce case is heading to trial? What are the steps that occur BEFORE your case heads to trial? What's the the difference between a trial and a hearing? What happens in pre trials/mini trials?? It's important that your attorney gives you realisitc expectations so that you know what a postive outcome would be, and what a "less than ideal" outcome would be. This way, you can be mentally and emotionally prepared. And remember, whereas we don't recommend switching attorneys right before you head into trial, but you CAN hire an attorney for an hour of their time to review your case. Meaning, if you want a second set of eyes on the results of your pre trial hearing- you can and should do that! It's money well spent. And if you do this, go with a good attorney- spend a little extra and get the best of the best to review your case. It will be money well spent.  3 Action Steps YOU can take to help you best prepare for trial: Know the risk/reward If you have a trial set- ask your attorney to prep with you (how to answer questions, etc) Ask for a plan for a trial (know what to expect!) And please excuse Andrea's cough...she's still recovering from Bronchitis. And send in your self care tips for both girls...they can use them! And now, a word from our sponsors: Soberlink offers peace of mind for coparents if there's a concern of alcohol use during parenting time. Visit: www.soberlink.com/notsuck Our family wizard is here to make coparenting easier. Check them out to see if Our Family Wizard can help you. Visit: www.ourfamilywizard.com We know that heading into trial is already a less than ideal situation. If your case is heading to trial and you want a second set of eyes on your case, reach out to get some names of attorneys to review your case. We're happy to help.  Join our private community for more support. www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And if you're enjoying our show, we would SO APPRECIATE a 5 star rating and review! The ratings and reviews help us book the expert guests you deserve. We love and appreciate every single one of you. Thank you for allowings us into your homes/cars/minds/hearts. You've got this and we've got you!