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Subscriber-only episodeCurrent Subscribers - Click here to accessIs Your Ex Triggering Old Wounds? If you get triggered when you see a notification from your STBX or Attorney this is for you! You're seeking harmony during this season after a divorce, but it often feels just out of reach. This Quantum workshop with Kate Mayor workshop might just be your pathway to peace.Reconnect with Your Peace:Experience this unique guided technique to release emotional triggers associated with difficult family members and partners.Strengthen your nervous system, fostering a sense of safety and empowerment during potentially lonely or stressful moments.Discover this new wayvto approach your future with confidence, ensuring a calmer and brighter holiday experience.COUPON CODE for FREE access to POST DIVORCE ROADMAP **Time Sensitive**Code: EMAILFRIENDS

OP's husband cheated, and OP had forgiven him, but then he came home with an affair baby, and that's when OP said enough and asked for a divorce. The STBX then had a heart attack, and OP told the affair baby's family to pick up the child or she'd call CPS.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lost-genre-reddit-stories--5779056/support.

Thoughts About This Episode? Text Us NowOur featured guest today, Heather Cary, is a trusted member of the DCA team and is an experienced Divorce and Co-Parenting Coach and Mediator who is dually certified as a DCA® Certified ADR Divorce Coach and a CDC® Certified Divorce Coach. She holds a Masters of Education, is certified as a New Ways For Families Co-Parent Coach, is trained as a Mediator, serves as a Parent Educator in her local area, and is a member of the Oregon Association of Collaborative Professionals.Today, Heather and Debra talk about the benefits of support groups for individuals going through divorce. Specifically we discuss the advantages of a professionally facilitated group like the affordable ones offered at DCA for just $75/month.People often seek information, advice, and support from friends, family, Google or Facebook but because that information is generic, it doesn't always help clients make the best decisions for themselves. The DCA groups are facilitated by certified, professional ADR divorce coaches who are committed to offering both information and personal support in a consistent and safe online environment for topics like:How to stay sane while on the emotional rollercoasterHow to negotiate effectively with your STBX (soon to be ex)How to make hard decisions with confidenceHow to parent your kids through this transitionHow to get organized and preparedHow to save money and understand your optionsHow to make the best use of time with your attorneyListen in to learn how DCA is combining community support and professional divorce coaching for just $75/month and how it can provide amazing benefits for you, your clients, and families.Learn more about DCA® or  any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Group Coaching: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com/groupsWebsite: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com Learn more and join the Case Consultation and Mastermind Group on divorcecoachesacademy.com

8 years ago, Clint reached out after listening to a JBD podcast. His wife had just told him she wanted a divorce. He was reeling in all types of grief, unbelief, fear and uncertainty. He enrolled in a coaching program and began the hard work of looking at his marriage and himself.Clint explains that doing his divorce poorly would hurt everyone, his kids, his STBX and himself. He wanted to be better and worked with both a therapist and divorce coach.Fast forward 8 years. His tween and teen kids are emerging adults, and he is proud of the job he did both parenting and coparenting. We talk about lessons learned, forgotten and learned again and how learning something and practicing and experiencing it are two very different things. We explore how when our family life changes, our career, or in his case his business change as well.Tune in for a dialogue on navigating divorce courageously, how to be a healthy man and raise healthy kids and other interesting stuff.More ways to connect with Clint and listen to his podcasts:During the BreakDay FireThe CrimeCastOf By and For the People5TO9Journey Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode:Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Soberlink:  www.soberlink.com/jbd

A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce. If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!!Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators. What they all have in common is their training as a parent coordinator with the ability to help parents stay child centers and learn how to collaborate. When that isn't possible, the PC can be the tie-breaker. The challenges you are facing with your co-parent will inform what PC expert would be best for your situation and how detailed your settlement agreement should be regarding the PC's involvement and authority.Dr. Lauren Behrman shares a wealth of information on what a parent coordinator is and is not, the value of involving them in the process during the divorce, the questions you want to ask in order to choose the right PC, and so much more!Dr. Behrman has her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and has been in private practice since 1985 and has considerable professional experience in treating children and families of divorce. Lauren is trained in High-Conflict Co-parent Counseling, Parent Coordination, Interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce Practice and Mediation. Dr. Behrman co-authored “Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other”, a book for high conflict divorcing parents which was published in 2018.More ways to connect with Dr. Behrman: Website: https://www.behrmanpsychologicalandfamilymediationservices.com/Journey Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Join the Ultimate High Conflict Divorce Summit: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/summit2023 Win Without Law School: https://www.winwithoutlawschool.com/ Co-Parenting Masterclass: https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass

One of the more serious notes about National Pumpkin Day is that we're also in the time frame of the most pumpkin/knife injuries. Use those little saws in a kit! We also had to figure out what "STBX" means, a surprise movie and Laura's "In The Kitchen" feature has a simple little pumpkin dip recipe. Didn't catch it all live this morning? Listen when you get home! - Tim & Laura

Well it's almost Valentine's Day, and you will never guess who I have a "date" with. Check out this episode to hear how I was failing at boundaries! If you have enjoyed this episode, please consider rating and subscribing.  And be sure to share this podcast with anyone else you feel will find benefit from it.     If you are interested in some ONE on ONE coaching, or to share your own story email me at HeavyPagesPodcast@gmail.com If you want to just send me a quick note, you can find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heavy_pages_podcast/ Download your free "chapter checklist" here: Chapter Checklist   If you would like to interact with me and share with others please join my Facebook group  "Separation, Breakup and Divorce Support" https://www.facebook.com/groups/sbdsupport/ Thanks for listening, catch you on the next one! *This Podcast is created from my old journal writings. The events are portrayed to the best of my knowledge and memory. While all the stories in this podcast are true, some names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of the people involved.

Massive victories in divorce cases are rare, and there's almost never a landslide victory by one party. So who wins? Nothing can repair the loss of a betrayal from your Soon To Be Ex (STBX), and sometimes we look to the court to fix the wounds. But it can't. So what do you do?When there are real dangers and real emergencies, there are legal avenues, but most issues don't meet that level of the court's ability to solve your problemListen in as family Law Attorneys Billie Tarascio and Julie LaBenz reveal what they see from the inside, and how to stop being triggered by your ex in a way that gets you the best results. (Hint: don't let your STBX drag you into their world.)

Subscribe in a reader How Long Does It Take To Divorce A Narcissist? Nothing about a narcissist is easy. most divorces with a narcissist can last a year to 8 in extreme cases. it really depends on what tactics your STBX deploys. divorcing a narcissist is unlike any other divorce, this video outlines a bunch […] The post How Long Does It Take To Divorce A Narcissist? appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.

Living with your soon-to-be-ex under the same roof while navigating divorce is incredibly challenging. Holding onto your peace may seem impossible. The most effective way of approaching this challenge is creating healthy boundaries and refining your communication and problem solving skills. Dr. Dan Thomason explains how easy it is to get caught in arguments about how you are communicating and to lose the opportunity to communicate effectively. He shares a tool he has created to help couples stay on topic, solution oriented and effective in traversing difficult and triggering topics. Dr. Dan also offers listeners a free eBook that outlines his communication tool, so make sure to tune in! Dan's website: https://drdanrelationshipcoach.com/ eBook

One of the many aspects of our lives that changes during divorce is the way we spend the holidays and more specifically, holiday traditions. Today Karen talks about how to make the decision about what to keep, what to let go of and what to add that is new.   A key element in making a healthy choice is to consider what your choice is based on.  Are you choosing based on what others want you to do?  Based on your anger and resentment? Or perhaps on your fear of disagreeing with your STBX or ex?  The best way to choose is to first determine your priorities and values around the holidays and your children.     Next, if you are letting some things go and adding new ones, that can be fun and exciting and add to the newness of this next chapter of life.  Karen shares a few choices she made, some that were difficult and others that were unique and creative.   Resources for you: The Sting of the holidays after divorce Finding Joy Amidst Struggles This Christmas     Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce.  If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!!   Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators.  What they all have in common is their training as a parent coordinator with the ability to help parents stay child centers and learn how to collaborate. When that isn't possible, the PC can be the tie-breaker. The challenges you are facing with your co-parent will inform what PC expert would be best for your situation and how detailed your settlement agreement should be regarding the PC's involvement and authority.     Dr. Lauren Behrman shares a wealth of information on what a parent coordinator is and is not, the value of involving them in the process during the divorce, the questions you want to ask in order to choose the right PC, and so much more!   Dr. Behrman has her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and has been in private practice since 1985 and has considerable professional experience in treating children and families of divorce.  Lauren is trained in High-Conflict Co-parent Counseling, Parent Coordination, Interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce Practice and Mediation.  Dr. Behrman co-authored “Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other”, a book for high conflict divorcing parents which was published in 2018.  Contact Lauren: laurenbehrman@gmail.com Laurenbehrmanphd.com 212.799.7921   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce.  If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!!   Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators.  What they all have in common is their training as a parent coordinator with the ability to help parents stay child centers and learn how to collaborate. When that isn't possible, the PC can be the tie-breaker. The challenges you are facing with your co-parent will inform what PC expert would be best for your situation and how detailed your settlement agreement should be regarding the PC's involvement and authority.     Dr. Lauren Behrman shares a wealth of information on what a parent coordinator is and is not, the value of involving them in the process during the divorce, the questions you want to ask in order to choose the right PC, and so much more! Dr. Behrman has her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and has been in private practice since 1985 and has considerable professional experience in treating children and families of divorce.  Lauren is trained in High-Conflict Co-parent Counseling, Parent Coordination, Interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce Practice and Mediation.  Dr. Behrman co-authored “Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other”, a book for high conflict divorcing parents which was published in 2018.  Contact Lauren: laurenbehrman@gmail.com Laurenbehrmanphd.com 212.799.7921   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

ThatGirlTasha.com https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-me-divorce-oath-keeper-leader-stewart-rhodes I have been legally separated and trying to complete the divorce process with my now infamous soon-to-be-ex-husband, Stewart Rhodes, for over four years now. My case has been sealed and I am currently not allowed to discuss it publicly., however, I can say that my former law firm dropped me (rightfully, I suppose) as a client since I could not keep currant with regular payments to them. I burned quickly through my initial $5,000 down payment/retainer and racked up an additional $12,000 (give or take with late fees and such) fairly quickly without ever coming close finalizing the divorce or reaching any sort of permanent financial or custodial agreement. I would first have to pay off my outstanding legal fees from my former law firm. I would then have to find a Montana licensed attorney willing to represent me. [Edit; I do now have a lawyer!} It's certainly not easy to find a lawyer willing to go head to head against a person who is not only a graduate of Yale Law but also commands their own private army, as well as having access to a team of equally infamous attorneys surrounding him; nonetheless, I am confident that somewhere out there is an advocate willing to be my huckleberry. I'm not looking for an overly expensive knock-down drag-out, just a simple and safe plan and a basic financial agreement (we have no assets to even argue about) and in all likelihood it will be settled out of court. I still have four school age children at home and the experience of switching over from a completely isolated lifestyle to becoming active thriving members of the community for my kids and I has run the gamut emotion wise. It has been at times; bumpy, scary, exhilarating, daunting, but all of it has taken a lot of work, diligence and a bit more tenacity than I thought I possessed. Some of the process of re-joining life (think applying for kids' social security numbers, birth certificates, school, joining sports programs) has been costly and time consuming and also been about three years worth of paperwork, but we've gotten through it. For obvious reasons I am very very hesitant to go public with this, but after a whole lot of thought, I feel I just can not move forward any other way. I am feeling a bit embolden by the spotlight now on the STBX, and without going into specifics I'm hoping that keeps anything too crazy from happening. Though I can't talk about the details of my marriage here, I can tell you that it was likely about exactly what you're picturing, but probably quite a bit weirder. It also seems like a lot of money to ask for, but judging alone from the cost of the first round, I think that is the cost I should expect. My funding goals: 1. Pay back what I owe to former law firm. 2. Retainer for a new super hero attorney. 3. Finalize the divorce. 4. I hope donors are all right with my using some donations for basic needs; getting caught up with utilities, basic living or car repairs - my truck, Ole' Bessie has 265,000 miles on her and needs a bit of help now and then. There are no words I can think of to fully describe how grateful I would be if my kids and I were able to leave the old world fully behind; to be legally divorced. I would be able to move forward without still feeling shackled. Any little bit would help. If only a fraction this amount were raised it would be a tremendous help. -Tasha

I have been legally separated and trying to complete the divorce process with my now infamous soon-to-be-ex-husband, Stewart Rhodes, for over four years now. My case has been sealed and I am currently not allowed to discuss it publicly., however, I can say that my former law firm dropped me (rightfully, I suppose) as a client since I could not keep currant with regular payments to them. I burned quickly through my initial $5,000 down payment/retainer and racked up an additional $12,000 (give or take with late fees and such) fairly quickly without ever coming close finalizing the divorce or reaching any sort of permanent financial or custodial agreement. I would first have to pay off my outstanding legal fees from my former law firm. I would then have to find a Montana licensed attorney willing to represent me. [Edit; I do now have a lawyer!} It's certainly not easy to find a lawyer willing to go head to head against a person who is not only a graduate of Yale Law but also commands their own private army, as well as having access to a team of equally infamous attorneys surrounding him; nonetheless, I am confident that somewhere out there is an advocate willing to be my huckleberry. I'm not looking for an overly expensive knock-down drag-out, just a simple and safe plan and a basic financial agreement (we have no assets to even argue about) and in all likelihood it will be settled out of court. I still have four school age children at home and the experience of switching over from a completely isolated lifestyle to becoming active thriving members of the community for my kids and I has run the gamut emotion wise. It has been at times; bumpy, scary, exhilarating, daunting, but all of it has taken a lot of work, diligence and a bit more tenacity than I thought I possessed. Some of the process of re-joining life (think applying for kids' social security numbers, birth certificates, school, joining sports programs) has been costly and time consuming and also been about three years worth of paperwork, but we've gotten through it. For obvious reasons I am very very hesitant to go public with this, but after a whole lot of thought, I feel I just can not move forward any other way. I am feeling a bit embolden by the spotlight now on the STBX, and without going into specifics I'm hoping that keeps anything too crazy from happening. Though I can't talk about the details of my marriage here, I can tell you that it was likely about exactly what you're picturing, but probably quite a bit weirder. It also seems like a lot of money to ask for, but judging alone from the cost of the first round, I think that is the cost I should expect. My funding goals: 1. Pay back what I owe to former law firm. 2. Retainer for a new super hero attorney. 3. Finalize the divorce. 4. I hope donors are all right with my using some donations for basic needs; getting caught up with utilities, basic living or car repairs - my truck, Ole' Bessie has 265,000 miles on her and needs a bit of help now and then. There are no words I can think of to fully describe how grateful I would be if my kids and I were able to leave the old world fully behind; to be legally divorced. I would be able to move forward without still feeling shackled. Any little bit would help. If only a fraction this amount were raised it would be a tremendous help. -Tasha

ThatGirlTasha.com https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-me-divorce-oath-keeper-leader-stewart-rhodes I have been legally separated and trying to complete the divorce process with my now infamous soon-to-be-ex-husband, Stewart Rhodes, for over four years now. My case has been sealed and I am currently not allowed to discuss it publicly., however, I can say that my former law firm dropped me (rightfully, I suppose) as a client since I could not keep currant with regular payments to them. I burned quickly through my initial $5,000 down payment/retainer and racked up an additional $12,000 (give or take with late fees and such) fairly quickly without ever coming close finalizing the divorce or reaching any sort of permanent financial or custodial agreement. I would first have to pay off my outstanding legal fees from my former law firm. I would then have to find a Montana licensed attorney willing to represent me. [Edit; I do now have a lawyer!} It's certainly not easy to find a lawyer willing to go head to head against a person who is not only a graduate of Yale Law but also commands their own private army, as well as having access to a team of equally infamous attorneys surrounding him; nonetheless, I am confident that somewhere out there is an advocate willing to be my huckleberry. I'm not looking for an overly expensive knock-down drag-out, just a simple and safe plan and a basic financial agreement (we have no assets to even argue about) and in all likelihood it will be settled out of court. I still have four school age children at home and the experience of switching over from a completely isolated lifestyle to becoming active thriving members of the community for my kids and I has run the gamut emotion wise. It has been at times; bumpy, scary, exhilarating, daunting, but all of it has taken a lot of work, diligence and a bit more tenacity than I thought I possessed. Some of the process of re-joining life (think applying for kids' social security numbers, birth certificates, school, joining sports programs) has been costly and time consuming and also been about three years worth of paperwork, but we've gotten through it. For obvious reasons I am very very hesitant to go public with this, but after a whole lot of thought, I feel I just can not move forward any other way. I am feeling a bit embolden by the spotlight now on the STBX, and without going into specifics I'm hoping that keeps anything too crazy from happening. Though I can't talk about the details of my marriage here, I can tell you that it was likely about exactly what you're picturing, but probably quite a bit weirder. It also seems like a lot of money to ask for, but judging alone from the cost of the first round, I think that is the cost I should expect. My funding goals: 1. Pay back what I owe to former law firm. 2. Retainer for a new super hero attorney. 3. Finalize the divorce. 4. I hope donors are all right with my using some donations for basic needs; getting caught up with utilities, basic living or car repairs - my truck, Ole' Bessie has 265,000 miles on her and needs a bit of help now and then. There are no words I can think of to fully describe how grateful I would be if my kids and I were able to leave the old world fully behind; to be legally divorced. I would be able to move forward without still feeling shackled. Any little bit would help. If only a fraction this amount were raised it would be a tremendous help. -Tasha

I have been legally separated and trying to complete the divorce process with my now infamous soon-to-be-ex-husband, Stewart Rhodes, for over four years now. My case has been sealed and I am currently not allowed to discuss it publicly., however, I can say that my former law firm dropped me (rightfully, I suppose) as a client since I could not keep currant with regular payments to them. I burned quickly through my initial $5,000 down payment/retainer and racked up an additional $12,000 (give or take with late fees and such) fairly quickly without ever coming close finalizing the divorce or reaching any sort of permanent financial or custodial agreement. I would first have to pay off my outstanding legal fees from my former law firm. I would then have to find a Montana licensed attorney willing to represent me. [Edit; I do now have a lawyer!} It's certainly not easy to find a lawyer willing to go head to head against a person who is not only a graduate of Yale Law but also commands their own private army, as well as having access to a team of equally infamous attorneys surrounding him; nonetheless, I am confident that somewhere out there is an advocate willing to be my huckleberry. I'm not looking for an overly expensive knock-down drag-out, just a simple and safe plan and a basic financial agreement (we have no assets to even argue about) and in all likelihood it will be settled out of court. I still have four school age children at home and the experience of switching over from a completely isolated lifestyle to becoming active thriving members of the community for my kids and I has run the gamut emotion wise. It has been at times; bumpy, scary, exhilarating, daunting, but all of it has taken a lot of work, diligence and a bit more tenacity than I thought I possessed. Some of the process of re-joining life (think applying for kids' social security numbers, birth certificates, school, joining sports programs) has been costly and time consuming and also been about three years worth of paperwork, but we've gotten through it. For obvious reasons I am very very hesitant to go public with this, but after a whole lot of thought, I feel I just can not move forward any other way. I am feeling a bit embolden by the spotlight now on the STBX, and without going into specifics I'm hoping that keeps anything too crazy from happening. Though I can't talk about the details of my marriage here, I can tell you that it was likely about exactly what you're picturing, but probably quite a bit weirder. It also seems like a lot of money to ask for, but judging alone from the cost of the first round, I think that is the cost I should expect. My funding goals: 1. Pay back what I owe to former law firm. 2. Retainer for a new super hero attorney. 3. Finalize the divorce. 4. I hope donors are all right with my using some donations for basic needs; getting caught up with utilities, basic living or car repairs - my truck, Ole' Bessie has 265,000 miles on her and needs a bit of help now and then. There are no words I can think of to fully describe how grateful I would be if my kids and I were able to leave the old world fully behind; to be legally divorced. I would be able to move forward without still feeling shackled. Any little bit would help. If only a fraction this amount were raised it would be a tremendous help. -Tasha

ThatGirlTasha.comhttps://www.gofundme.com/f/help-me-divorce-oath-keeper-leader-stewart-rhodesI have been legally separated and trying to complete the divorce process with my now infamous soon-to-be-ex-husband, Stewart Rhodes, for over four years now.My case has been sealed and I am currently not allowed to discuss it publicly., however, I can say that my former law firm dropped me (rightfully, I suppose) as a client since I could not keep currant with regular payments to them. I burned quickly through my initial $5,000 down payment/retainer and racked up an additional $12,000 (give or take with late fees and such) fairly quickly without ever coming close finalizing the divorce or reaching any sort of permanent financial or custodial agreement.I would first have to pay off my outstanding legal fees from my former law firm. I would then have to find a Montana licensed attorney willing to represent me. [Edit; I do now have a lawyer!}It's certainly not easy to find a lawyer willing to go head to head against a person who is not only a graduate of Yale Law but also commands their own private army, as well as having access to a team of equally infamous attorneys surrounding him; nonetheless, I am confident that somewhere out there is an advocate willing to be my huckleberry.I'm not looking for an overly expensive knock-down drag-out, just a simple and safe plan and a basic financial agreement (we have no assets to even argue about) and in all likelihood it will be settled out of court.I still have four school age children at home and the experience of switching over from a completely isolated lifestyle to becoming active thriving members of the community for my kids and I has run the gamut emotion wise. It has been at times; bumpy, scary, exhilarating, daunting, but all of it has taken a lot of work, diligence and a bit more tenacity than I thought I possessed. Some of the process of re-joining life (think applying for kids' social security numbers, birth certificates, school, joining sports programs) has been costly and time consuming and also been about three years worth of paperwork, but we've gotten through it.For obvious reasons I am very very hesitant to go public with this, but after a whole lot of thought, I feel I just can not move forward any other way. I am feeling a bit embolden by the spotlight now on the STBX, and without going into specifics I'm hoping that keeps anything too crazy from happening.Though I can't talk about the details of my marriage here, I can tell you that it was likely about exactly what you're picturing, but probably quite a bit weirder.It also seems like a lot of money to ask for, but judging alone from the cost of the first round, I think that is the cost I should expect.My funding goals:1. Pay back what I owe to former law firm. 2. Retainer for a new super hero attorney. 3. Finalize the divorce.4. I hope donors are all right with my using some donations for basic needs; getting caught up with utilities, basic living or car repairs - my truck, Ole' Bessie has 265,000 miles on her and needs a bit of help now and then.There are no words I can think of to fully describe how grateful I would be if my kids and I were able to leave the old world fully behind; to be legally divorced. I would be able to move forward without still feeling shackled.Any little bit would help. If only a fraction this amount were raised it would be a tremendous help.-Tasha

I have been legally separated and trying to complete the divorce process with my now infamous soon-to-be-ex-husband, Stewart Rhodes, for over four years now.My case has been sealed and I am currently not allowed to discuss it publicly., however, I can say that my former law firm dropped me (rightfully, I suppose) as a client since I could not keep currant with regular payments to them. I burned quickly through my initial $5,000 down payment/retainer and racked up an additional $12,000 (give or take with late fees and such) fairly quickly without ever coming close finalizing the divorce or reaching any sort of permanent financial or custodial agreement.I would first have to pay off my outstanding legal fees from my former law firm. I would then have to find a Montana licensed attorney willing to represent me. [Edit; I do now have a lawyer!}It's certainly not easy to find a lawyer willing to go head to head against a person who is not only a graduate of Yale Law but also commands their own private army, as well as having access to a team of equally infamous attorneys surrounding him; nonetheless, I am confident that somewhere out there is an advocate willing to be my huckleberry.I'm not looking for an overly expensive knock-down drag-out, just a simple and safe plan and a basic financial agreement (we have no assets to even argue about) and in all likelihood it will be settled out of court.I still have four school age children at home and the experience of switching over from a completely isolated lifestyle to becoming active thriving members of the community for my kids and I has run the gamut emotion wise. It has been at times; bumpy, scary, exhilarating, daunting, but all of it has taken a lot of work, diligence and a bit more tenacity than I thought I possessed. Some of the process of re-joining life (think applying for kids' social security numbers, birth certificates, school, joining sports programs) has been costly and time consuming and also been about three years worth of paperwork, but we've gotten through it.For obvious reasons I am very very hesitant to go public with this, but after a whole lot of thought, I feel I just can not move forward any other way. I am feeling a bit embolden by the spotlight now on the STBX, and without going into specifics I'm hoping that keeps anything too crazy from happening.Though I can't talk about the details of my marriage here, I can tell you that it was likely about exactly what you're picturing, but probably quite a bit weirder.It also seems like a lot of money to ask for, but judging alone from the cost of the first round, I think that is the cost I should expect.My funding goals:1. Pay back what I owe to former law firm. 2. Retainer for a new super hero attorney. 3. Finalize the divorce.4. I hope donors are all right with my using some donations for basic needs; getting caught up with utilities, basic living or car repairs - my truck, Ole' Bessie has 265,000 miles on her and needs a bit of help now and then.There are no words I can think of to fully describe how grateful I would be if my kids and I were able to leave the old world fully behind; to be legally divorced. I would be able to move forward without still feeling shackled.Any little bit would help. If only a fraction this amount were raised it would be a tremendous help.-Tasha

In this episode, Robin reads to us from a three-part social media post, whereby the author introduces herself as a 35-year old cis woman married to a man for 13 years. Together, they have five children, (under the age of 12). She describes her STBX-husband as pretty conservative and considers the process of her coming out to him as an act of cheating on him. In this episode, you will learn… Navigating a rocky coming-out when the husband is pretty conservative and making things really difficult from the start. Identifying as bi-sexual for a few years, but now questioning that label. That social media and messaging IS a “thing” among women who just meet up either online, or in person at a bar, (as was the case for this firefly). Recognizing that distance and differences could very well NOT be the perfect ingredient for a sustainable relationship - or is it? What would it be like to have a sexual encounter with a woman? The firefly author was worried she wouldn't feel anything or be aroused - see what she found out about that. A creative way to have your significant other meet your kids and have your kids meet “Mommy's new friend”. Seeing an opening and coming out to my son. The Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2 Links to resources: COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP: Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/ FIREFLY RETREAT: Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only 7 slots available - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com  “Firefly Tour” WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS: Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW's to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY: Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.

In this episode, Robin reads to us from a three-part social media post, whereby the author introduces herself as a 35-year old cis woman married to a man for 13 years. Together, they have five children, (under the age of 12). She describes her STBX-husband as pretty conservative and considers the process of her coming out to him as an act of cheating on him.In this episode, you will learn…Navigating a rocky coming-out when the husband is pretty conservative and making things really difficult from the start.Identifying as bi-sexual for a few years, but now questioning that label.That social media and messaging IS a “thing” among women who just meet up either online, or in person at a bar, (as was the case for this firefly).Recognizing that distance and differences could very well NOT be the perfect ingredient for a sustainable relationship - or is it?What would it be like to have a sexual encounter with a woman? The firefly author was worried she wouldn't feel anything or be aroused - see what she found out about that.A creative way to have your significant other meet your kids and have your kids meet “Mommy's new friend”.Seeing an opening and coming out to my son.The Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2Links to resources:COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/FIREFLY RETREAT:Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only 7 slots available - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com  “Firefly Tour”WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW's to: Comingoutlater@gmail.comWWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSTAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.

Once the decision to divorce has been made one of the greatest daily difficulties is how to live under the same roof with your STBX and all the contention that you are each feelings.  The most effective way of approaching this stage is refining your communication and problem solving skills.   Dr. Dan Thomason explains how easy it is to get caught in arguments about how you are communicating and lose the opportunity to actually communicate effectively. He shares a tool he has created to help couples stay on topic, solution oriented and effective in traversing difficult and triggering topics. Dr. Dan also offers listeners a free eBook that outlines his communication tool, so make sure to tune in!   For more information visit Journey Beyond Divorce.

Living under one roof while going through a divorce may be more common than you think.  It may be that neither spouse will agree to leave the marital home, finances make it challenging to support two homes, or both spouses agree it is in the children's best interest to physically separate at a later date.     Cohabitating during the divorce process can be challenging.  Today's Team Talks provides tips and strategies for cohabitating effectively, including establishing ground rules for cohabitation, setting clear emotional and physical boundaries, and shifting your mindset from living with a life partner to living with a roommate, and the benefits of using an on-line calendar for co-parenting (Co-parenting Scheduling Calendar Apps).     Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Whether you are conscious of it or not, there are actually two parts of a divorce – the practical and the emotional.  Typically the person who is initiating the divorce started their emotional divorce when they first began to think about whether divorce was even a possibility.  This means that they often are further into the emotional divorce process than their spouse when the practical pieces kick in.   It's highly unlikely that your spouse will be in the same place you are with regard to their emotions and grief around the separation and/or divorce. Your spouse will most likely move slower. It's easy to misinterpret behaviors such as anger, denial and bargaining as them being difficult or digging in their heels. These behaviors are actually just normal parts of their grieving process.   When you are emotionally out of step with your spouse, particularly in the early stages of the process, whether you are in front of them or behind them, there are strategies that you can implement that can begin to move things forward and make the process easier and more productive.   No matter how frustrated or triggered you are about their behavior, finding ways to make the divorce process easier for your STBX will also be valuable for you and for the process.   Every upset is a set up for self-growth and personal discovery. It's important to come back to yourself and your reactions to the situation, (the only things we ultimately have control of) rather than focusing all your energy on the other person.      Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

October Series: Season of Changes---There is one single change that anyone can make during divorce that will yield the greatest changes across the board and it the way they speak to ourselves, our attorneys, the judges, our kids and even, yes... your STBX. This month we are focusing on change. Let's dive in to this big change!BECOME A FAN! SOS FAN CLUB PERKS HERE: www.patreon.com/sosdivorceIf you have any questions at all during your divorce, please email Annie@StartingOverStronger.com or visit www.StartingOverStronger.com to learn more about divorce coaching and book a complimentary discovery call while you're there."Can I keep the house?" Find out more about what an RCS-D REALTOR does to protect you as you make this decision. www.AtHomewithAnnie.com.If you have ideas for topics in future episodes or to ask a question for a future ASK ME ANYTHING episode, please email Annie@StartingOverStronger.com. Gratefully,Annie You matter! Please find and follow us on Facebook, Instagram and on your favorite podcast player. Your 5-star ratings and positive reviews make all the difference as the growing podcast community seeks content that will inspire, entertain and educate them in their efforts toward real life transformation. Would you take just a moment to rate and review Starting Over Stronger? Here and on any platforms where you find us. THANKS!© SOS Divorce Survival & Recovery. Divorce Well. Live Well.Support the show (https://www.paypal.me/anniejallen)

Many people still love their Ex (or STBX) but they know that the relationship is over. For some this is difficult to understand. In this episode you will learn which of the 3 most common reasons. By understanding you can start to understand WHAT it is you need to let go of, and what you don't need to let go of.

Trying to understand why your Ex (or STBX) has moved on so fast? This episode focuses on how the paths for the two people in a divorce is different. Which one are you and what are you feeling? What is your Ex and why is he/she behaving that way? Maybe because he or she is the initiator? For more information visit our Facebook Group: From Survive to Thrive: https://www.facebook.com/groups/rebuildersintl

A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce.  If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!!   Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators.  What they all have in common is their training as a parent coordinator with the ability to help parents stay child centers and learn how to collaborate. When that isn’t possible, the PC can be the tie-breaker. The challenges you are facing with your co-parent will inform what PC expert would be best for your situation and how detailed your settlement agreement should be regarding the PC’s involvement and authority.     Dr. Lauren Behrman shares a wealth of information on what a parent coordinator is and is not, the value of involving them in the process during the divorce, the questions you want to ask in order to choose the right PC, and so much more! Dr. Behrman has her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and has been in private practice since 1985 and has considerable professional experience in treating children and families of divorce.  Lauren is trained in High-Conflict Co-parent Counseling, Parent Coordination, Interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce Practice and Mediation.  Dr. Behrman co-authored “Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other”, a book for high conflict divorcing parents which was published in 2018.  Contact Lauren: laurenbehrman@gmail.com Laurenbehrmanphd.com 212.799.7921   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com    

Annie sits down with Men's Love and Health Coach, Nancy Benitez, of MANifest with Nancy to have an informative conversation about how men process and recover from divorce differently than us gals do. Nancy's focus in her business is supporting men in the quest to attract the love they desire. You, ladies, CAN better understand and relate to all the men in your life who face divorce--including your STBX, your guy friends, and any new love interests. Tune in for some key insights into "his world!"RESOURCES:If you have questions about the male divorce experience or a personal introduction to Nancy Benitez, please email me at Annie@StartingOverStronger.com or visit www.StartingOverStronger.com to schedule a Discovery Call."Can I keep the house?" Find out more about what an RCS-D REALTOR does to protect you as you make this decision. www.AtHomewithAnnie.com.If you have ideas for topics in future episodes or to ask a question for a future ASK ME ANYTHING episode, please email Annie@StartingOverStronger.com. Gratefully,Annie You matter! Please find and follow us on Facebook, Instagram and on your favorite podcast player. Your 5-star ratings and positive reviews make all the difference as the growing podcast community seeks content that will inspire, entertain and educate them in their efforts toward real life transformation. Would you take just a moment to rate and review Starting Over Stronger? Here and on any platforms where you find us. THANKS!© SOS Divorce Survival & Recovery. Divorce Well. Live Well.Support the show (https://www.paypal.me/anniejallen)

Today we speak to a former JBD client and current JBD coach. Diane shares how she learned to accept her ex for who he is and designed a realistic and amicable post divorce relationship with him.  Diane needed to understand what was and wasn't realistic when dealing with alcoholism, addiction and mental illness. Letting go of judgment around who the father of her children is and what he is and isn't capable of enabled Diane to create ease in her relationship with her ex. Listen in for great tips and the opportunity to shift your perspective about your STBX. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

TODAY'S EPISODE is our very first PERSONAL SURVIVOR STORY! Help me welcome the lovely Shayla Deam, real estate agent, divorce survivor, friend and woman on a mission! Her story will inspire you and her SURVIVOR SHIFT may help you become a better communicator in all your relationships, but especially with your ex or STBX... or any of the difficult people in your life.RESOURCES: To connect with Shayla or Annie, please send an email to Annie@StartingOverStronger.com or visit www.StartingOverStronger.com.Can I keep the house? Find out more about what an RCS-D REALTOR does to protect you as you make this decision. www.AtHomewithAnnie.com.If you have ideas for topics in future episodes or to ask a question for a future ASK ME ANYTHING episode, please email Annie@StartingOverStronger.com. Gratefully,Annie Please find and follow us on Facebook, Instagram and on your favorite podcast player. Your 5-star ratings and positive reviews make all the difference as the growing podcast community seeks content that will inspire, entertain and educate them in their efforts toward real life transformation. Would you take just a moment to rate and review Starting Over Stronger? Here and on any platforms where you find us. © SOS Divorce Survival & Recovery. Divorce Well. Live Well.Support the show (https://www.paypal.me/anniejallen)

Clint reached out for divorce coaching support early on. He could tell he was drowning in an emotional storm and needed help. At first, the conversations were about conflict with his STBX and what was upsetting about her behavior/ Over the course of a few months, Clint began to notice and take responsibility for his part in the difficulties in the relationship.   Clint's kids were and are his first priority and the personal work he did during his divorce enabled him to have an amazing relationship with them and a solid co parenting relationship with his ex post divorce.  Click to listen to Clint's podcasts, Day Fire and During the Break  FOR MORE INFORMATION ON JBD CLICK BELOW Journey Beyond Divorce  - website Divorce Survival Kit - Freebie! 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program - Online Program

Once the decision to divorce has been made one of the greatest daily difficulties is how to live under the same roof with your STBX and all the contention that you are each feelings.  The most effective way of approaching this stage is refining your communication and problem solving skills.   Dr. Dan Thomason explains how easy it is to get caught in arguments about how you are communicating and lose the opportunity to actually communicate effectively. He shares a tool he has created to help couples stay on topic, solution oriented and effective in traversing difficult and triggering topics. Dr. Dan also offers listeners a free eBook that outlines his communication tool, so make sure to tune in!   For more information visit Journey Beyond Divorce.

Once the decision to divorce has been made one of the greatest daily difficulties is how to live under the same roof with your STBX and all the contention that you are each feelings.  The most effective way of approaching this stage is refining your communication and problem solving skills.   Dr. Dan Thomason explains how easy it is to get caught in arguments about how you are communicating and lose the opportunity to actually communicate effectively. He shares a tool he has created to help couples stay on topic, solution oriented and effective in traversing difficult and triggering topics. Dr. Dan also offers listeners a free eBook that outlines his communication tool, so make sure to tune in!   For more information visit Journey Beyond Divorce.

Figuring out where to live after divorce is often very unsettling and is the issue that causes the most upheaval. While you and your STBX are discussing what happens to the marital home, you feel in a state of limbo, uncertain where life will take you. That makes it hard to make other decisions and yet, at least one of you is going to have to move.Here you are, in the middle of one of life’s most stressful experiences, with everyone telling you no to make any major decisions and there’s this one that you absolutely have to make.How do you decide when to move out of the home? How do you choose where to live? What about the kids? Is renting short term a waste of money?Joining Mandyfor this Conversation is attorney David Glass with Enenstein Pham & Glass. Glass recently published a book, Moving On: Redesigning Your Emotional, Financial and Social Life After Divorce, drawing on his long career as a family law attorney with a PhD in Clinical Psychology as well as his first-hand experience. You can find a synopsis of this Conversation at Mandy's blog: https://sincemydivorce.com/how-to-avoid-a-mistake-when-you-decide-where-to-live-after-divorceRead more about David Glass at https://enensteinlaw.com/

Happy Friday!! We are doing something a little bit different today, where I take a question from the group and answer it for you. I keep it completely anonymous so if you ever wanted your questions to be answered live, you can submit your questions to me in the group or over on social media, and I'll make sure to keep it private in case you wanted it like that. Today's question is about handling children when the STBX (soon-to-be-ex) has a new boyfriend. Some announcements are being made, so tune in for that and stay up to date with all the things going on inside the Legion and so on. LINKS BELOW FREE EBOOK - www.robinchoe.com/ebook PODCAST - www.robinchoe.com/podcast The HQ Book on Amazon - amzn.to/2K9NcCx _____________________________________ FaceBook Page www.facebook.com/dadsovercoming/ FaceBook Private Group www.facebook.com/groups/142124546353043/ Instagram www.instagram.com/therobinchoe

Compensation issues in divorce may be more common than you would expect. They often come up in connection with spousal support or alimony and when it comes to things like stock options and deferred compensation arrangements, the division of marital assets is impacted.The questions that come from different compensation arrangements are frequently confusing and complex and even the recipients often don't fully understand what they have. So if you're the divorcing spouse what are you supposed to do? How will you figure this out and how will you handle it them in your divorce?It might be tempting to ignore them or accept your STBX's position that they have no current value but that's not the answer. Do that and you'll likely end up with a divorce agreement you'll later regret or second guess.In this Conversation, we're going to tackle some of the more common challenges and help you identify the questions you need to ask.Joining Mandy for this Conversation is Michael Wayland, assistant professor of business at Methodist University and a mediator with Christian Divorce Services. During the show, Michael references a stock option value calculator. You can find that Black Scholes calculator here.Remember to check Mandy's Since My Divorce blog for a synopsis of the common compensation issues in divorce.

The new tax bill has lots of changes that impact people getting divorced and while there's been plenty of media coverage of the changes, that coverage has been short on the divorce related details and specifics such as the tax year in which changes take effect or reminders about changes that will revert in 2026.Understanding these changes is important for anyone negotiating a divorce settlement and especially important if you started those negotiations last year. What makes this even more critical is that most of the time, once your settlement agreement becomes a court order, you are done. There are no do-overs and your STBX is not going to renegotiate something just because you didn't understand the impact of the new tax law.Thankfully, we do not have to wade through the bill itself to learn about the changes. We can turn to experts for that and one of those experts is Michael Wayland, assistant professor at Methodist University who is also a mediator. Wayland has written a white paper on the impacts of the new tax bill on divorce and joins Mandy to discuss his White Paper in this Conversation.You'll find a synopsis of this Conversation at Mandy's Since My Divorce blog. 

Your divorce is about you and your spouse ending your marriage but how you do this and how you parent with your STBX after your divorce will have a profound impact on your child no matter their age. One thing you can be sure of: your divorce WILL make your child anxious.One challenge is that your child may not express their true feelings to you and even if they do tell you it's no big deal because most of their friends' parents are divorced, or that they understand that life may be better, the change in circumstances is going to cause them some anxiety.So if your child isn't talking, how do you recognize that they are anxious?Is there a difference between the child who has had a history of anxiety and the child who has up until the divorce appeared to be care-free?Is it just a matter of giving them time to adapt and get used to the new family structure or do children do better with more proactive interventions?Joining me for this Conversations About Divorce is Bonnie Zucker, Psy. D, one of the nation's leading experts in the treatment of childhood anxiety. Zucker is the author of Anxiety-Free Kids: An Interactive Guide For Parents And Children.Want to know more about Parenting and Divorce? Check out Mandy's free audio download.

Along with deciding on how to divide your finances, you and your STBX will have to divide all your household items – that’s the furniture, the kitchen gadgets, the stuff in the garage, the pictures on the walls – everything that’s probably part of your day-to-day life.For some people, this is super easy. They’re ready to walk away from it all. There’s no emotional attachment. For others, it can be about who uses which items the most. Some people take more of a financial view and are keen to feel that the division is equitable.However it is done, for the vast majority of people, it is never worth litigating this. The legal fees could quickly outweigh the cost of the items.In this show, Mandy revisits this topic with her interview with Carrie Mitchell of TWS Home Inventory. Listen in to discover the insider’s tips to dividing your household items without losing your mind or your wallet.

Usually it’s the kids that move between their parents’ homes after divorce. With nesting, the kids stay put and the parents move in and out.A few celebrity couples have famously tried this. Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin of the “Consciously Uncoupling” fame, and Jon and Kate Gosselin from Jon and Kate Plus 8. Now, with eight kids, having the child stay put is clearly much less work but most of us don’t have that challenge.Still, nesting can mean fewer changes for the children and that can make the transition through divorce much easier. Is nesting something you and your STBX should consider? What does it take to make nesting work and does it really help the kids?Joining Mandy for this show is writer and child of divorce Alana Romain who wrote about nesting on Romper.com. You can follow Alana on Facebook and Twitter as @AlsoAlanaRomain.