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If you feel like others ask too much of you, take advantage of you, or just don’t respond in ways that you expect, today’s episode “Don’t be a doormat” will help you learn how to say “no.” The post #125: How to Say No–Don’t Be a Doormat appeared first on DrBCoach.com.

Got a challenge? In today's podcast episode, we will explore a simple framework that gives you options to face that challenge. The framework is one that I use all the time with coaching clients, and it is extremely effective. “Gain, Grow, Go.” This season's theme song is “Training Day,” by Infraction. Used with Permission. The post #124: Got a Challenge? Try “Gain, Grow, Go!” appeared first on DrBCoach.com.

In today's podcast episode, we will explore why you should learn about and know your weaknesses. I'll share some ideas around taking the VIA Character Strengths survey to help you learn why you should know about and use your strengths, as well as your “lesser strengths.” You can learn more about your strengths and “lesser strengths,” […] The post #123: Why You Should Learn About and Know Your Weaknesses appeared first on DrBCoach.com.

In today’s podcast episode, I’ll share some ideas around taking the VIA Character Strengths survey to help you learn why you should know about and use your strengths. You can learn more about your strengths and “lesser strengths,” giving yourself permission to be more of who you are and letting go of some things that […] The post #122: Why You Should Learn About and Know Your Strengths appeared first on DrBCoach.com.

If you want to change yourself, there are many different ways to do it. First, you can change your appearance, making adjustments like dying your hair or gaining/losing weight. Second, you can change your behaviors by adopting new habits. This might be easy steps taken over time, amounting to bigger changes. Third, you can change […] The post #121: How to Change Yourself appeared first on DrBCoach.com.

Hello there. This is Bethanie Hansen, I’m here with you on the Mindset for Life podcast. And we’re going to talk today about proven systems. Proven systems are things that we know work. There are certain kinds of proven systems that we have out there in the world. And one of those things just might […] The post #120: Proven Systems appeared first on DrBCoach.com.

Read the Transcript: This is episode number 119: Why does it seem so hard? Welcome to the Mindset for Life Podcast. This is Bethanie, your coach, from DrBCoach.Com–coaching with power, purpose and practical tools to help you show up with confidence. Welcome to the podcast today. I’m Bethanie Hansen, and I’m here to talk with […] The post #119: Why Does it Have to Be So Hard? appeared first on DrBCoach.com.

This season's theme song is “Training Day,” by Infraction. Used with Permission. The post #118: How to Stop Procrastinating appeared first on DrBCoach.com.

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#110: Slow Down. This is our last episode of season 2! We’ve enjoyed the inspiring, upbeat music of Danny Gokey as our theme song this year. Our license gave us one year of podcasts on which we were able to enjoy this special theme song. I hope you have loved it as much as I […] The post #110: Slow Down appeared first on DrBCoach.com.

This is episode number 108. It's all in your head. Welcome to the mindset for life podcast, I'm so glad you're here talking about mindset. Things that we think. And the way that our brain controls literally everything we do. There's so much out there that tells us that our thoughts about something create the future. Whatever we're thinking we are capable of doing, or what is possible for us, becomes our reality. Ultimately. Now, if you think about it, that really does have a lot of truth. I'm going to give you just a little bit of an example from my own life. And this will have to do with my trumpet playing in band. I don't know if I've mentioned this here on the podcast, but I chose to graduate high school one year early. So, I completed high school with all the necessary credits,  a little summer school in there, and some zero period classes. And because of meeting the requirements in a shorter time, I just, I was a freshman, a sophomore, and then a senior, and I graduated. And when I went to college, my high school band director told me that I was missing an entire year of performance experience. So he was cautioning me. He was a little worried for me that when I went to college, and I wanted to play music (I was going to be a music major), that I would be behind. Less developed than my peers. And I would really struggle. And he was right. I got there, and I really did need a little bit more musical maturity. So I was in the lowest band, the lowest jazz band, the last chair in the ensemble. And I started to develop this thinking about myself that maybe I just wasn't good enough in music generally. And perhaps I should just not be doing that. And by the second year of college, I actually dropped out of the music degree and decided not to major in music, and I turned my efforts to a different subject matter. Now, that's kind of a funny story. Because in the end, I did end up turning back to music. I did graduate, I became a band director and a music teacher. And I went on to get a doctoral degree in music later. I had a 21 year career in music. And I've been pretty successful as a musician and a music teacher. Even though that's the case, there was an experience I had in there that kind of builds off of that first experience, where I went to college thinking, Oh, I'm behind, I'm less-than. I might not measure up, maybe I should quit. So this other experience was that eventually, when I returned to major in music as a trumpet player, I had to take trumpet lessons. And I would watch these other people who I highly respected--other students in the music degree--and I would see them performing with the Philharmonic at the university, or with the Wind Symphony, or taking solos in the Synthesis jazz band, which at Brigham Young University is a really high, well-performing jazz band. I would watch all of these things happening. And I would think to myself, "I would really love to be that person one day, I would love to have a chair in one of those ensembles, first of all, but I'd like it to be first chair. I would like to play the fun parts that have the melodies to them. And I want to be really good at playing those screaming high notes." And one day, it just dawned on me that I was never going to get the opportunity to do any of that until I was already qualified as if I was in those ensembles. And at that moment, I just realized I had better start putting in the effort, as if I was first chair in this synthesis jazz band, or putting in the effort, as if I was first chair in the Wind Symphony. And I started practicing literally three and a half hours a day. And I would space that out. So it did not exhaust me and did not destroy my emboucher, which is the setting of your lips on the trumpet mouthpiece. And I would go in the practice room for the hour that I had scheduled. And then I would stay until the next person arrived and kicked me out. Sometimes I would get lots of time where nobody showed up.

#107: Do You Say No Enough? Welcome to the Mindset for Life podcast. This is Bethanie, your coach from Dr. B coach.com. Coaching with power, purpose and practical tools to help you show up with confidence. Welcome to the podcast. So excited to have you with us. Today we're going to talk about saying no, in fact, the question today is, do you say no enough? Do you need to say no more often? Do you feel like your time is sucked away and you have no control over your opportunities or your time? If that's you, it's definitely time to think about saying no much more often. There was an episode some time ago about you saying no too much. And that episode was about saying no to yourself, saying no to the things that you care most about saying no to your priorities. But today's episode number 107, we're talking about saying no much more often. So if you don't say no to other people, you are in fact saying no to yourself. And you might be saying yes to things that you really want to do. These are great opportunities, great things that you want to go participate in people you want to be with. But in the end, it's not really what you want long term. So you get caught up in this whole time suck. There's no time left, you're exhausted, you're overcommitted, you're overwhelmed. And you're wondering where to draw the line, how you can really stop the madness. And now it's time to start saying, No. Today we're going to talk about this, gonna give you a couple of tips to help you say no to the things that you want to say no to give you a little courage on that. And we might as well dive right in. Our time and commitments change as we age. I just want to give you a little bit of background about myself as a person. I grew up with many, many options and opportunities. I was very blessed, very fortunate in my young life. I was in music, I learned piano from third grade onward. And I was in band, I got to play the trumpet, the flute, the tenor saxophone, and a bunch of other instruments too, when I was still in public school, so I had a lot of opportunities. As a result, I wrote music. So I composed music when I was a young person. And when I was a senior in high school, I wrote a musical. This musical had a lot of songs and a lot of speaking parts. And I wrote all the songs. And I recruited all my friends to be in the musical. Lots of people at my church came and made a nice, big audience. And I played the piano for all of those songs. So I accompanied all of those songs too. I was pretty involved. I just did a lot of stuff. And I was also a science kid. So I took chemistry and physics and all the things that I loved. Early in high school, I took biology, in junior high, and there's just a lot that I was doing. I was not into sports, I was not a sports person. And that probably would have really made my time crazy and out of control. Because as you know, music activities take a lot. But I can speak from a place of knowing when I say it's easy to sign on for the next thing and the next thing until pretty soon, you want to do everything. You just want to do it all. And when you're in that space, you don't know what you should choose and what you shouldn't. You're just going to say yes to all those activities. And in my young life, I felt that was okay, because there were very few actual responsibilities. But as an adult, that's dangerous. We can't say yes to every single thing. If we take on every work project, if we take on every presentation opportunity, if we take on every chance for advancement or something new and special, we're going to be exhausted. The other side of that coin is that if we say yes to everything, no one else gets a chance; no one gets an opportunity. No one gets to test themselves or shine or grow or contribute. So there's that too. And that's really important to be thinking about when we're choosing to say no. If we give someone else the opportunity in an area that we really need to get ...

#106: How to Set Priorities for Your Time Welcome to the Mindset for Life podcast. This is Bethanie, your coach from Dr. B coach.com. Coaching with power, purpose and practical tools to help you show up with confidence. We're gonna talk about a mindset to set priorities around your time. What if there were these road signs in your life? Like you're driving around and you see a stop sign or a green light. What if in your life, these signs just sort of popped up in the corner of your view? What if you could just see exactly what the right choices were? And you didn't have to think so much about it? Wouldn't that be amazing. And of course, that's not going to happen, because life doesn't work that way. In fact, if we had signs popping up all the time, telling us exactly what priorities to set, and how to manage our time, it would drive us crazy. Most of us would be super frustrated that we didn't have any choices at all. And of course, life is all about choices. Choices about what we do with our time, who we spend our time with, what we make important to us in our lives, and about the priorities we decide are most important for us. Well, I have news for you today. What you are spending your time on right now in your life in this season tells the whole world including you what your true priorities are. That's right, whatever you are spending all of your time doing, that tells us what your priorities might be. I used to think that I was just too busy all the time, I would be studying, reading, doing some kind of learning activity. And I would also be doing something like working full time, maybe I was taking care of my family trying to raise my kids. Pretending and trying very hard to have a clean house, but failing miserably. And telling the story that I just didn't have enough time for all of this. And I could never quite measure up. In fact, I think I lived in sort of this fight or flight constant state of overwhelm, thinking, I couldn't control all these things in my life, because they were all important. I needed to do all of these things. Fast forward several years, many years, and I'm a lot older, and I have a lot more life experience. But I've learned a lot too. Perhaps you know what I'm talking about when I think about my priorities. So when I think about the way I spend my time, and I decide what I want to do with my time, if I look over the day, I can honestly say what my priorities are. If I want to sit and watch YouTube videos all day long, then leisure and loafing and relaxing and watching crazy stuff, that's going to be my priority. But if I want to get up really early, and I go for a walk, do a little bit of stretching, take care of my physical exercise first, and then I get the dishes done. And then I run upstairs and do some of my work, make a few phone calls, connect with some people, and take care of my dog. And also spend time with my husband on the phone at lunchtime. All those things tell me that I have a lot of priorities. But I'm gonna do them in a way that helps me to touch those people that matter. Have that face time that I care so much about as an extroverted person. I'm also I'm going to break it up. So I have a lot of energy and I can really manage my energy. One of the best things I could possibly do for myself is to exercise or walk first thing in the morning. Then get it done so I can check that box. But also it sets the tone for my whole day gives me a ton of energy makes me feel amazing. What are your top priorities? What you think about how you want to get up in the morning? What do you want those first 15 or 20 minutes to look like for you? Do you want to relax and leisurely get up out of the bed and calmly kind of ease into the day? Or do you want to leap out of bed and have your guns blazing (metaphorically speaking) and jump into action and be super energetic? Attack the day like you have all sorts of energy? Whatever you choose,

#105: A Mindset to Know that You Matter This is episode number 105, A mindset to know that you matter. This is the mindset for life podcast. This is Bethanie, your coach from Dr. B coach.com. Coaching with power, purpose and practical tools, to help you show up with confidence. Welcome to the Mindset for Life podcast, I'm very excited to share with you today the topic, which is about how much you matter. This is about a mindset for knowing that you matter. And how can you do this? That's pretty crazy, right? Because don't other people help us to know that we matter or make an impact or make a difference in the world? I'm going to challenge that notion today. In fact, I think it's our job to decide that we matter and to know that we matter. It's not other people's job to tell us or to convince us of how much we matter. And when we decide that we matter as much as other people, we can show up more authentically and better than we ever could before. So today we're going to talk about how you matter and how to develop a mindset to know that you matter. We're just going to jump right in. We all want to be seen, known, and loved. I was talking with someone earlier today who wanted to be seen just wanted to be noticed, acknowledged and appreciated at work. And when I was talking to this man, it was pretty obvious that he did not feel like his work made much of a difference. In fact, he wanted to know that he mattered. He started looking for other jobs a few months back and toyed with the idea of leaving his position to go to a new role. And he also kind of had his fingers in way too many situations happening in his life, because he wanted to feel like he mattered. After we discussed it a few times, that's what came out in the conversation. I could not have known that unless we explored it. And he didn't realize it until he hit on an either. Really all those things he was doing were just ways to try to get some feedback, try to get some knowledge about himself. Don't we all do that? Sometimes, we just look for ways to know that we exist. That we belong, that we make a difference. That somebody sees us, that they care about us. It's the greatest feeling in the whole world to be truly seen, known and loved for who you really are. And in the roles that we play, there are so many opportunities to get this kind of feedback. The question is, how can we develop it for ourselves so we're not just people pleasing all the time, looking for affirmation and feedback? Notice where you influence, and take note. The first thing I'd like to suggest today is to look at all of the ways that you influence. There are so many things that you do in your daily life that influence situations, people. If you have a pet, even. You can think about the family dog. We have one. He's about what a year and a half old. Before that we had a dog that was 13 years old, when he finally finally passed away. They overlapped a little bit. So we still had our older dog when we got the younger dog, and with any of those animals, they cared. They wanted to follow us around the house. Sure, they thought we were going to give them treats and play with them. Yes, that's true. But they also really just wanted to love us. The older dog that I'm talking about was our Golden Retriever named Buddy. He was the sweetest dog ever. And he would just go under my desk when I was working and put his head on my shoe. And just love me while I was just doing my work ignoring him. He was so full of love, and he never really seemed to ask for anything. And if you're not familiar with this, I just want to say that golden retrievers have this shape to their mouth. That sort of looks like a perpetual smile. It's so delightful. When you look at a golden retriever you think they're just smiling at you, even though that's just the way their face looks. It's the shape of their mouth. So that's just how it is. But if you want to know that you matter.

This is episode number 104: Three ways to lift your mood (instantly). Welcome to the mindset for life podcast. This is Bethanie Hansen, your coach. And I'm here to talk about three ways to lift your mood. Why would you want to lift your mood? Well, there might be a reason; maybe you're going into a difficult meeting or conversation. Or maybe you're just trying to get through the work day and you can tell that your mood is low. Whatever the reason, lifting your mood is going to help you to perform better, and the things you do in work and in life. It'll help you show up in your relationships positively. And it will even help you feel great about yourself. Whatever is happening in your life, in your work or in the world at large. Lifting your mood can have beneficial outcomes for you. Strike a "Power Pose" So the first way to lift your mood is simply to stand tall, raise your arms in the air, like you're making a Superman shape, or even the why and the YMCA song and breathe deeply. You can stretch your body out in this way. And you can feel all your muscles stretching, and you can get some oxygen flowing to your brain. And that will help you to just move things along in your body and your mind. Breathing deeply stretching your arms out is an instant mood elevator. In fact, I believe it was Amy Cuddy, who did some research on this. And it's called a power pose. When you put your arms in this large Y shape or V shape, like putting them out in their full extended strength, it makes you larger, it also helps you to feel power. Physically, it tells your brain that you're in charge. And it can lift your mood instantly. If you're going into a job interview, or a difficult meeting, and you have a restroom or a bathroom, you could go into if there are people around, you could do this in private. And you could just breathe deeply while you have that going with your arms. And you've already taken it up a level. So you've lifted your mood with just one simple action called a power pose. Now, if you want a variation for that, one way I like to do this is to put my hands up in the air, my arms are straight, and I'm walking through a doorway. Because I'm five foot seven, I can touch that doorway easily. And I will just push my arms backwards just a tiny bit to even stretch them more. And it makes me feel alive and amazing. It's invigorating. And it also elevates my mood a little bit more. So there's your tip number one, lift your mood by stretching your arms all the way out and breathing deeply. Listen to Energetic Music The second way to lift your mood is probably my favorite number one way is music. Music can lift your mood and weighs almost nothing else can. Unless you choose not to listen to music, right again, do that because it's not reaching you anywhere. The the best kind of music, in my opinion, is 1980s Pop. And that just tells you what your I love. So certain 1980s pop songs I can put on and they bring energy to me no matter where I am or what I'm doing because of the beat. And because of the message in the music, so they're happy. And even if they're breaking up with someone or they're singing about a negative subject 1980s Pop generally has a positive vibe to it. So the beat is a certain tempo that enlivens your soul and just brings energy to you. You know, the beat of the music really does have something to do with the energy that you get from that music. You have a heartbeat that might be around 80 or 90 beats per minute during low activity levels or something like that. And if you start to exercise, maybe your heart, heart rates gonna go up to 120 Beats Per Minute 130. If you get music in that zone, and you just start listening to it, pretty soon you're moving faster, because it's pushing you to increase your physical activity. And it's helping you increase your heart rate just a little bit which of course brings you a sense of having more energy.

This is episode number 103: Shorten your suffering. Welcome to the mindset for life Podcast. I'm Bethanie Hansen, your host, and I'm here to help you shorten your suffering today. The word suffering seems a little bit odd at times, I don't use that word in my vocabulary very much. Some people do. Perhaps you do. Maybe you don't. Regardless of how familiar that word is, we all suffer. We might suffer other people's attitudes; we might suffer limits placed on us from the outside world or people around us. We might suffer from world events that are happening, that are far removed from us. Or we might suffer from them as they are literally impacting us. And we're involved in them. We might suffer from the loss of other people; we might suffer from uncertainty. We might suffer from so many things in our lives that literally impact us every minute. But we can shorten our suffering. And it doesn't mean that we're bad or wrong to try to do that. In fact, it means that we're intentionally trying to find something else to focus on. I used to think that if I was really happy in a negative situation, that other people would think I was out of touch with that situation. And that probably does happen. Maybe you've experienced that too, where either you or someone else was trying to be joyful or happy when it was a tough situation. I've had my own share of difficult situations in life. And I choose intentionally. There's an option where I can review the events over and over. And I can sit in that horrible situation, and I can keep experiencing those same emotions. What we know about neuroscience is that our mindset of being stuck in a place mentally comes from replaying the same thoughts and the same emotions are going to happen. Pretty soon those thought habits take over. And we have this whole habit of feeling those same feelings and thinking those same things. And then we behave in similar ways over time. Somewhere in my life, when perhaps I was younger, I started to latch on to this idea that I could actually choose to focus on different thoughts. And over the course of my life, I have also learned that there are many other people out there, either through their research or their philosophy, who have discovered the same thing. We can look at a situation and see what is negative, how it's impacting us. How it's hurt us. And we can feel those feelings and we can think those thoughts and we can experience them. And it will cause more suffering. It increases our suffering to do that because every time we think about it, we are literally experiencing the chemical rush of emotions that fill our bodies with that negative sensation, whether it's sadness, or despair, or anger, or frustration, or a whole host of other feelings. And yet, there's always something in the future. Either something that is a lesson learned, something that will contrast with the experience we're having now, or something good that will come out of the experience. Focusing on the Future Shortens Suffering Regardless of what that thing in the future is, we can choose to believe something better is coming in the future. Something will come out of this, we're not sure what it is. But it's always going to lead to something that could be beneficial, or could be good. I like to lean on that side of things. So my goal is to decrease suffering by focusing on the future. Now, living in the present is important too. We need to experience what's happening right now and live in reality. And be very sensitive to our own experience and others. And feel what others may be feeling with empathy, and understand what others are experiencing. And yet, looking towards the future can give us a brightness of hope. It can help us to just pick ourselves up from this place that we're at, and see that there's somewhere to go. And even if we don't know where that somewhere is it simply opens up the idea of possibility. When we're thinking about a fresh start,

#102: Do You Say "NO" Too Often? Do you have a mindset to say no, far too much? If you're busy saying yes to everything but feel overwhelmed, like there isn't enough time to get things done, you might be saying “no” to yourself, too much. We're all saying no to something, all day long. It's the opportunity cost of choosing. When saying yes to something, we say no to something else. When you say no to taking a break, exercising, visiting family, and taking the time you need to be at your peak state of wellbeing, you might be saying yes to others' demands and expectations. This can create a thought loop of feeling like we've been taken advantage of by others, or that others expect too much. It you're putting everything else and everyone else first, and feel like there isn't time for your own priorities, today's episode is for you. It is healthy to take good care of yourself and focus on your needs and wellbeing. Today, learn about three areas to help increase your wellbeing and happiness: rest, social connection, and self-compassion. New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.  

If you have a lot on your plate, and you want a tip for managing stress, this is your episode! Today, listen for encouragement and a strategy to try.

When You Hit 100 Episodes, Celebrate It! Thanks for listening to the podcast. We're celebrating episode 100 today, by counting down the top 5 all-time podcasts in the Mindset for Life series. 5. #83 How to Let Go of a Challenging Situation https://drbcoach.com/83-how-to-let-go-of-a-challenging-situation/   4. #48 How to Wake Up Happy https://drbcoach.com/48-how-to-wake-up-happy/ 3. #56 How to Use Your Emotions and Make Decisions https://drbcoach.com/56-how-to-use-your-emotions-and-make-decisions/ 2. #80 You Know What Assumptions Do... https://drbcoach.com/80-you-know-what-assumptions-do-podcast/ #1 Fear and Confidence https://drbcoach.com/confidence-and-fear/ Enjoy! New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

You may have heard this one: You can win, or you can learn. Are you learning? Thanks for joining me today to talk about THAT kind of learning. I've always loved learning, especially as a younger school child. Not everyone loves learning. In fact, sometimes stretching to understand, and experiencing the discomfort that goes with it, is a very tough experience. Someone might say that you're naive to try to appreciate a hard situation and learn from it. But when you have two options--to choose negativity of the failure, or to own it and choose to learn from it, the power and resilience is yours! We can handle just about anything, with a learning attitude. Join me for today's podcast.

Are You Staying Stagnant? Being comfortable is a really great thing. It feels good to be comfortable. Like your favorite sweater. A soft pair of slippers. Your "chair." Or the way the driver's seat is set up for you in your car. Your comfort zone is a safe space that makes us feel goof, familiar, and relaxed. We don't have to be too alert, try unusual things, or stretch. But in the comfort zone, we also have expectations. This invites judgement, accusation, and disappointment. In the comfort zone, we start to live in the land of expectations and disappointment. And pretty soon, we are stagnant. Being stagnant feels "samey" all the time. Like eating the same foods all the time, a pretty bland diet. As I coach others, it seems they typically want to find a zest for life again. That one thing that will fuel their excitement for life. Yet it seems that we also want to stay comfortable..... If you're feeling stagnant, from being in your comfort zone too long, today's podcast is for you.

If you really want to achieve your goals this year, there are four steps you can take to make success much more likely. In fact, by achieving your goals, you just might be extraordinary! Take some time to consider why you want to achieve the goal. Dig deep here. It's got to be important to you. A superficial reason just won't cut it. What feeling do you hope to get from achieving this goal? And what kind of person will you need to be to reach it? You can take that even further, and consider how not reaching this goal is keeping you stuck. What are you suffering by not reaching the goal? Sometimes considering the painful reality of what you're facing right now is the biggest motivator for change. It can help you stay motivated to reach your goal. When you've clarified why you want to reach this goal, you can break it down into smaller pieces to take action. And even then your doubts creep into your mind, or your hidden saboteurs attack, you can keep going. Join me for today's podcast and learn these four tips to help you reach your goals this year, for extraordinary goal achievement. New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.  

In today's podcast, you will learn three tips to help you create better goals in 2022. If you have ever started a new year with good intentions and found it easy to forget the goal, you're not alone. Most people fail to keep new year's resolutions. But this year, to help you have the best chance of success, I'm sharing three tips for better goals. Here they are: Set imperfect goals. Focus on process, not outcome. Use strategy. If you focus on imperfect goals, you have more flexibility to reach them. You can accommodate interruptions, and unplanned events. You can reach your goals this time. When you design your goals around process, instead of outcome, you can build in the behaviors you need to reach the goal. And you're much more likely to reach it. Lastly, using strategy means that you create goals around the ideas if what you will uniquely do to reach them, and what you will not do. You will make tough decisions and weed out some options. You will focus on differentiating your goal from the common goals of your past. And you will intensely focus. Here, you carve out your special niche. Join me in today's episode of the podcast, and take advantage of three tips to reach your goals this year in new, extraordinary ways. New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

If you're looking for a way to close out 2021, you can use your strengths to celebrate the past year. We all have strengths, and perhaps you already know what they are. You have talents. Positive attributes. And if you want, you can take an assessment to discover more. The VIA Character Strengths inventory is a strength survey you might enjoy. And the Gallup StrengthsFinder is another. Whatever method you use to discover your strengths, enjoy them. Noticing your strengths can help you appreciate who you are. And, when you look at the past year through a strength-based lens, you will learn something new. You will learn that you have done very well this year. And, you got through challenges by applying your strengths. You might have even developed new strengths! Listen to the podcast episode for more details.... New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Have you ever wondered how to coach when you lead or teach others? You can help others succeed when you use a coach approach in your leadership or teaching. There are four main ways in which you might coach others. The directive style is more teaching-focused, and you might see this in prepared coach-style classes professional coaches offer. The supportive or co-active approach is much more client or others-centered, where the coach asks questions to guide the person to come to their own insight and ideas. Regardless of the way you coach, coaching is all about helping someone else learn, grow, and become both confident and self-reliant. If you're not sure how to use a coach approach, I recommend starting with the GROW model, which is well-known and easy to use. This model offers four parts to a basic coaching conversation and works in leadership, teaching, informal conversations, and intentional coaching. And of course, before you have the conversation, get your mind into a space where you really are genuinely curious. Trying to coach anyone while you have an agenda of your own about their growth is not helpful. Developing curiosity to help means that you are open to learning, and you adopt a beginner's mind toward the person you're coaching. Here is Your Basic GROW Model for Coaching G = Goal. What is the goal? What are you tying to achieve? What does it look like, and how will you know when you have it? R = Reality. Where are you starting from? What is your status right now, related to your goal? What is it costing you to be in the current reality, compared to reaching this goal? O = Options. What are your options? If you could wake up tomorrow and have the answer, what would it be? What is one tiny way to move toward your goal? What is a giant leap toward your goal? W = Will. After identifying and exploring options, what will you do? What resources do you have to support your choice? And, what kind of accountability might support your progress? If you have already been pushing the person you'd like to coach, it's not too late. You can always try again, have a fresh start, and change directions. For more ideas about using a coach approach in your leadership and teaching, and to walk through the steps of the GROW model, listen to this podcast episode. New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Today, we're going to look at how to be more confident. Are there times when you'd prefer to be more confident? Perhaps it's a situation in which you're leading others, or teaching. Maybe you are launching your business idea. Whatever it is, in today's podcast I'll give you three tips to move forward with confidence. Just click to listen... New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

If you want to reach your goals, and you've never attained them before, it's time to stretch your comfort zone. In today's podcast, we talk about what it takes to reach new, different goals. Are you open to doing new things? Does this depend on your potential audience? Video Podcast: Click to view this podcast in video form! Today, we will consider stretches that are low-stakes, and those that are high-stakes. The degree to which you are willing to stretch might vary, based on the degree of change you'll need to make, your chances of failure, and your potential for audience response. For example, if you're alone and trying something new, it's not that hard. But in front of an audience, things might be much more challenging! Consider reaching those lofty goals you have set. This time is different. You will try things you have never tried before. And this takes an effort to stretch your comfort zone. New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.  

It might surprise you, but one thing can bring confidence, connection, and resilience. It's family history! Take a moment to listen to the podcast, and consider how you can increase your confidence by learning about your ancestors and who they were, knowing that they are part of who you are. Feel connection to your larger family group when you get to know them, even though they may no longer be living. Finding details and stories about your ancestors can help you see that your own life isn't solitary. You are part of a larger network of people who have struggled, suffered, learned, and brought you here. Connecting to them brings strength and community through a sense of being part of a family, something much bigger than just you. And researching your family history builds resilience. As you find tips and clues about your family members long past, you learn about traits you also have. And this tells you that there is so much more to you than who you are right now. Here are some of the resources I consulted in preparing this podcast for you today: * https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/understanding/inheritance/familyhistory/ * https://www.familysearch.org/en/blog/why-we-need-family-history-now-more-than-ever * https://www.realmofhistory.com/2016/12/07/why-ancestors-bigger-impact-than-you-think/ * https://thefoxmagazine.com/dreaming-bigger/genealogy-the-importance-of-knowing-your-roots/ * https://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/17/fashion/the-family-stories-that-bind-us-this-life.html New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Having a mindset to let go and forgive means that we release the past, get present to our experience right now, and generate energy to find peace and thrive. In today's podcast, Dr. Bethanie Hansen shares strategies to release your connection to negative stories of the past, including self-blame and regret. The four main ideas we'll explore include: Release regrets. When dwelling on regrets from your past, recognize that they are only alive in your mind. They did happen, but they happened in the past. Other than your memory bringing them to life, these events no longer exist. What could happen if you allow yourself to let go, and stop carrying the weight of the past? When we are focused on regrets from the past, we cannot be fully present right now. As a result, we will be less than we can be, because we hold ourselves back. Forgiving ourselves can be the most important type of forgiveness we can choose. Be open to the possibilities of the present moment. Sometimes, we refuse to forgive and keep telling stories of someone who wronged us or some way in which we were victimized, so that we won't have to fully live in the present. If we let go of the past, will we choose to be open to the present? Are we willing to live in the current moment, and to experience what we have right now? Being open to the present by letting go of the past opens us to the possibility of courageously living with all of the challenges we're facing right now, and it can make room to feel peace despite so much chaos in the world. Let go by trying physical actions that anchor your choice. One way to physically let go is to hold your hands up in front of you and push them away, saying out loud what you're letting go of. A second way to physically let go is to open the door and invite the thought or story you've been holding onto to leave, then closing the door and letting go of that thought. The body holds feelings we have experienced over time, and for this reason, you might begin to feel physical relief from some of the negative influences that previously held you back. Notice what's real. Just as we must let go of the past to live in the present fully, we can anchor our thoughts in the present by physically touching things in the room with us and saying aloud, "This is real." Although this strategy might seem silly, it's a great way to remind ourselves that the thoughts bringing us anger, resentment, anxiety, and pain are just thoughts. They aren't really events happening in the present, if they are coming from relationships, events, or experiences in the past. They are in the mind, and by getting in touch with the physical reality around us right now, we can get focused on what's real and let go of what's not. Some of the ideas shared about forgiveness in today's podcast come from "The CBT Deck for Anxiety, Rumination, & Worry, " by Seth J. Gillihan, PHD, published by PESI Publishing & Media, and available on Amazon.Com. New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Have you wondered how to get more sleep while working online? The main idea behind online work is that it can be done anytime, anywhere. With no boundaries, this type of work can easily take additional time and energy. For example, if you're an online educator, instead of working with a group of students all at once, teachers often write comments and feedback each individual student. This might happen more than one way, every week.  At first, this work might be surprising to anyone new to online teaching. After getting used to the idea of regularly reaching each student, balancing one's time and energy becomes important in order to continue teaching well and to maintain work-life balance. And, healthy sleep while being an online worker of any kind is a critical part of the balance. Here are some great resources you might want to explore: Sleep is Your Superpower, by Matt Walker. Three Brains-Thinking to Doing to Being by Joe Dispenza Resources listed here were consulted to prepare today's podcast: https://www.sleepadvisor.org/remote-work-sleep/ https://www.online.umich.edu/courses/sleep-deprivation-habits-solutions-and-strategies-teach-out/all-reviews/ https://www.sleepdr.com/the-sleep-blog/the-effects-of-sleep-deprivation-on-work-performance/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4610176/ https://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/features/tired-at-work This episode initially appeared on BethanieHansen.com in extended form, tailored to online educators. I hope you've enjoyed this focused version, generalized to anyone who works online. New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

In today's podcast, you're going to learn how to stop trying to achieve your goal, and do something else instead. That's right, focusing on goal achievement is not the best way to actually reach your goals for lasting change. But, there is a great way to do it. If you're trying to make a habit or lifestyle change, you need a mindset to achieve any goal. Lasting change isn't easy, and it won't happen by changing habits short-term. To really make your goal for lasting change, consider how you will need to be qualitatively different to sustain that. When you reach your goal, how will you be different? How will you need to live in order to keep up the change you're seeking? As you plan the goal you would like to achieve, imagine what kind of person regularly lives in a way that makes that goal possible. For example, if you want to lose weight and sustain it, what kind of lifestyle will a person who sustains long-term weight loss need to have? Or if you want to be more productive and less distracted at work, what kind of project management does a person who performs that way need to have? The first and most important step to achieve any goal without relapsing into old thoughts and behaviors is to realistically visualize how you will be different in your future life of living that goal achievement. Once you can do that, you can achieve any goal. And you can maintain that success, becoming an even better version of you! If you're ready to make habit or lifestyle changes to bring out your best, now and in the future, set up support. Some of the best ways to get support for reaching your most important goals include working with a coach, surrounding yourself with like-minded people, and acting as if you're already at the goal-line. If now is a great time for you to work with a coach, let me know! New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Allison Maslan, an entrepreneur and author, said, “Once you make a decision, take action that moment. Write the letter, make the call, send the email. Show up in a bigger way than you ever have before, but don't wait for the planets to align. Take action now, and by next week, your anxiety will start to dissipate because you are going for it. I am always so impressed by persistent people, whether they are getting the results they want or not. No matter what, if they keep pushing forward, the big break they are waiting for is just one step away. Why would you ever want to miss that opportunity?” I've thought a lot about that, and as a spiritual person looking to feel and notice more personal revelation every day, this is the pivotal decision: Once you make a decision, take action immediately. When Lot's family left, and his wife looked back toward their former home, it is suggested that she did it because she paused. She hesitated on the path forward toward her future, wondering if it was really the right decision. She longed for the past, looking back on and valuing what she left behind. The idea that she was turned into a pillar of salt is really about the fact that when we stall on our journey and question the decisions we have made, after knowing they are the right thing for us, it makes us completely immobile. Now, we hesitate between two decisions. Should we move forward on the path we realized was absolutely right for us? Or, should we turn back? Take the action that felt inspired and guided, or ruminate on our lack—all that we have lost, and what we gave up to begin the new direction? The kinds of actions we need to take immediately after deciding are things like writing a letter, making a phone call, or sending an e-mail. Those might seem like small things that are fairly inconsequential, especially when compared to Lot's family leaving their homeland never to return. But it is in the small and simple things we do every day that our entire lives, nature, and character are forged into patterns that can lead to our success and happiness. Those small things, like taking each little step without looking back, make all the difference. When you take action now, next week, your anxiety will be smaller. She is acknowledging the idea clearly asserted in the book Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway, by Susan Jeffers, which plainly tells us that we will ALL feel fear when we are stretching, growing, and moving in new directions. The only way out of the fear is through it—to do the very thing that we believe drives fear and anxiety. To avoid the action only increases the fear and whittles away at our self-confidence, replacing it with self-doubt and “should” statements we tell ourselves, statements that erode any drive to overcome those feelings and take the action. Allison knows, as anyone living large does, that acting quickly on your decisions keeps those fears and doubts small and actually makes the action much easier to take. I am impressed by persistent people. They won't always have a big impact or get the outcomes they are working toward. But by being persistent, they are much more likely to eventually make progress and find the way forward, little by little. After all, that is the very nature of persistence. The opportunity is certainly NEVER going to come if there isn't any effort. But, by persisting in taking small efforts forward, or backward if that happens along the way, at least some kind of progress is more likely to happen. In some ways that effort can be a complete gamble. But, the alternative is just failure from the outset by doing nothing. I've worked to be persistent throughout my life, and a lot of the time, I've been ridiculed or at least doubted by the people around me. I can understand that when I've got a vision of something internally and ideas to motivate myself to expect good things to come that others don't share, they are probably justified in their doubts about my plans. However,

If you're focused on things that are outside your control, it may be time to redefine your vision of success. The end-goal is important, yes, but the journey is where the real work happens. For this reason, today we focus on the journey of success, instead of the outcome. If now is a great time for you to work with a coach, let me know! New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

In today's podcast we talk about mindset, and specifically how to leave the past behind, let go of a challenging situation, and look forward to create new possibilities. When stuck in a situation that doesn't go as planned this kind of freedom is just what we're looking for. Have you ever tried to let something go, but found it just kept coming to your mind? In the story I tell as an example today, that is exactly what happens. When something stressful won't leave your mind, and you are trying to move on, it takes time and energy away from what we need to do in other areas of life and work. To change the discussion, we use a tool with the circle of control, circle of influence, and circle of concern. This tool can help you identify what you can and cannot change, and find ways to focus in the areas where your time and energy can have an impact. Some areas we typically think we can control, but over which we have very little influence, are: What others say Other people's opinions of us Whether other people agree with us Whether others like or dislike us Whether people are happy with us or pleased by us And yet we can never control what other people say, think, or do. Join me in this episode to explore the idea of letting go of tough situations, and find a new way to use the circle of control tool as well. New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

In today's podcast, I'm sharing ten common assumptions about life that don't work and three that help you. Assumptions are things we think or believe, but which we take for granted. We might have gained  these ideas early  in life or because of a single high-impact experience. Regardless of how we began thinking this way, these ten assumptions hurt our healthy mindset. Listen to the podcast for details.... While there are many assumptions that don't really work for healthy thinking, here are three that do: Give others the benefit of the doubt. It's not personal. In other words, it's not about you. Small and simple habits bring big results over time. It can be difficult to change even one small habit, especially an automatic thought we've believed over time. But letting go of assumptions about life that don't help us is a great way to change things in the future. And adopting a few new assumptions that open possibilities can serve us even better! If now is a great time for you to work with a coach to take stock of your mindset and try on some new habits, let me know! New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.  

If you've been looking for the one ingredient you need for work-life balance, it's confidence. Confidence comes from knowing yourself and clearly seeing your strengths and weaknesses. Only then can you say "no" and set boundaries, limit your time and commitments, and enjoy true work-life balance. Join me for today's podcast about confidence, and consider ways in which you can learn more about your strengths and personality, and include others for your areas of weakness. You might think there is one definition of work life balance, but the truth is that each person has their own ideal of the best way to balance life and work. To decide what work and life balance might be best for your situation, you can look over your strengths, your personality, and your weaknesses. Only with this kind of confidence can you really decide where you want your time and energy to go, and whether you find your life truly fulfilling. To take the FREE VIA Character Strengths survey, visit https://www.viacharacter.org To take the Gallup Strengthsfinder survey ($), visit https://store.gallup.com/ For a quick check of your life-balance in eight domains, visit https://drbcoach.com/wheel-of-life/. This fun, free tool allows you to rate each area of life, based on your current level of satisfaction. You can come back again and again to check your balance regularly, and titles for each of these eight domains can be changed to customize your results. If now is a great time for you to work with a coach, let me know! New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.    

You know what assumptions do.... They lead to frustration, resentment, wasted time, pain, suffering, and anguish. Assuming is normal. We are wired to make assumptions to keep our minds working efficiently and leave energy for other tasks. But assumptions can limit our options. In today's podcast, I'll share some ways in which assumptions can stop our healthy progress, using the "ladder of inference." If now is a great time for you to uncover assumptions that keep you from reaching your goals in life, work, or career, let's connect!  New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Have you put in long hours and lots of effort at work, only to go unnoticed? Working longer hours will not lead to increased recognition. Instead, each person must learn to talk about and share their accomplishments with integrity, regularly. The good things you do will give credit to someone, and that someone should be you. Listen to today's podcast to learn about sharing your achievements, and gain confidence. If now is a great time for you to create strategy to get recognized at work, let's connect!  New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

If you've been wondering how to stop being frustrated, this podcast episode is for you. Common frustrations happen every day, in life, relationships, and work. But we don't have to feel frustrated about other people or situations. There are a few specific steps to take, which give us power to let go of frustration and feel differently. If now is a great time for you to get control over your frustration in life, work, or career, let's connect!  New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

In today's podcast, I'll share ideas about facing a challenge with a neighbor; we'll explore using "beginner's mind" to learn how to love your neighbor more freely. Some of the resources consulted for this episode are: "The Work," with Byron Katie, available at https://thework.com/ , with worksheets on "judge your neighbor" challenges here → https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/#resourcesModal "90 Seconds to a Life You Love," by Dr. Joan Rosenberg, available at https://drjoanrosenberg.com/, with downloads to try the method here → https://drjoanrosenberg.com/gift If now is a great time for you to change your relationships, work, or career, let's connect!  New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

If you face challenges at work, you might want a fresh start. What if you could get it, in a beginner's mindset with your boss and your peers? New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

In today's podcast, I'm sharing a great way to love your spouse or significant other. It's all about "beginner's mind."  

Welcome to the Mindset for Life Podcast, Season Two! In this second season, we focus on specific themes in the next 12 months to grow your confidence and increase your influence as a leader. Whether you are an educator leading the way for your students, a coach co-leading your clients' growth, or a manager leading your team forward, you'll benefit from a single focus each week for the next 52. Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 17:20 — 23.9MB) Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | Android | Pandora | iHeartRadio | Stitcher | Blubrry | Email | Deezer | RSS | More   New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

#72: A Mindset to Be Happy With Yourself Sometimes, we wish there were a "user's guide" to being happy with ourselves. It seems elusive. What makes us happy? And how can we be happier? You've been thinking about how to be happy. Or more specifically, how to be happy in life. Or maybe even how to be happy again. You may have felt it some time in the past, but where is it now? First, let's get more concrete with this idea. What is happiness? Happiness is a warm puppy. As younger people, we might have said that happiness is what we experience when we get something or have an experience. For example, when we are with a warm puppy, this might prompt us to feel happier. The puppy is youthful. It brings promise of growth and a future. It is still a small creature, waiting to grow. Or maybe we felt a rush of joy when a friend wanted to be with us. In both situations, we have something or someone outside of ourselves associated with this feeling of happiness. Yet when we are older, we might feel this same happiness sitting alone in nature. Or, we may feel it when looking over photographs and thinking about memories of the past. While happiness has been studied and found to be interdependent on other people in our lives, the general feeling is within us. And this means that we have something to do with it. In fact, there are some people who do not feel happiness around warm puppies. And while we might feel good sitting in a serene, natural place, someone else might feel afraid in that same setting. It isn't the external situation that determines our happiness. If happiness does not come from things or experiences alone, we might be able to instead describe it as a way of being. Happiness is the way to live, not the destination. Do you know anyone who seems to perpetually experience a joy and zest in life? Its as if that person lives every moment perpetually happy. If happiness is a way of being, what does it take to live this way? You already know how to be happy. Intuitively, we each have some kind of inner compass. You might call this a conscience. Or, maybe you would call it your "inner wisdom." And many of us call it the Spirit. Regardless, there is some part of us that has a sense of what will bring an overall sense of well-being and satisfaction in life. Researchers have taken happiness and redefined it as overall well-being or life satisfaction. And from the field of positive psychology, we can break it down into five parts summarized with the acronym "PERMA." Perma stands for positive emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning, and accomplishments or achievements. And when we describe it in these ways, happiness is not so elusive or vague at all. In fact, it is a way of living we can create. There is no secret about how to be happy in life. If you've been thinking that someone out there has all of the answers about your happiness, you're looking in the wrong places. The idea that someone else knows the one big secret that will bring you personal happiness puts the control and responsibility for life in someone else's hands. Instead, you have within you the ability to identify what matters most to you, what strengthens you, and what enhances your positive well-being. Because happiness is a way of being, rather than a goal to be achieved, you are capable of living in a manner of happiness. And most likely, this involves other people in your life. This might mean connecting with other people, or giving them service. Or allowing others to serve us. Whatever our method of connecting with others, being together with people we love can generate positive feelings and a wonderful sense of happiness when we are together. No one can tell you how to be happy with yourself except you. Even though connections with other people may lead to feelings we call "happiness," no one can tell you how to be happy with yourself except you. This depends on what you value most,

A Mindset to Make New Habits Stick Welcome to the Mindset for LIfe Podcast. I'm happy to share with you that there is a strategy to make new habits stick. Why is it that we start these habits, and they never last very long? Today, we talk about what it takes to make new habits stick. And it's all about this: the idea of a fresh start. We have rituals and routines that center around new beginnings and the possibilities that come with them. It’s as if life moves in cycles, each one bringing the idea of a fresh start. We think that we have a clean slate. The chance to try again. And we are born again, with opportunities. We can renew, improve, and redefine ourselves. Do any of these seem like new beginnings you might have have experienced? New Year: People celebrate the old, ring in the new with parties, resolutions, goals. Beginning of the school year or academic semester. New clothes, a new pair of shoes. New haircut. Pictures of children ready to go to the first day of school. Secular and religious holidays. Monday Morning. And in a research study, new beginnings also come from personal life events. They might be developmental milestones, life transitions, first experiences, or repeated significant things like anniversaries and birthdays. Moving to a new town. Living somewhere new, making new friends, going to a new school, job, church congregation, grocery store, etc. Getting Married. Graduating from high school. Graduating from college. Getting that first real job. Getting a new career position or advancement in a job. A new title. New opportunities, responsibilities. New ways to stretch and grow. New baby. Full of promise and potential. There is the first time this baby looks at you. The first time this baby giggles. Or says a word. Or moves around, or even walks. We feel so much joy at the smallest achievements, smiling and laughing. We call our family and friends. We take pictures and video. Or… children are older, and they move out of the house, and we’re what we call “empty-nesters.” We have a new start and more space, and time to think of taking up a new hobby or adventure. Or could it be… Retirement? Retirement faces some people with hope and anticipation of what could be, and of new freedom, and it hits others like a sudden loss. Maybe it’s taking away the familiar and well-loved career and all of the people who go with it and bringing a new unanticipated season. Like it or not, it’s time to develop something new. Or move in a new direction for service and contribution. Or hobbies and a part time job. Or even relocating to live closer to the grown-up children. So many opportunities, big and small, bring the idea of a fresh start. Why do we crave new beginnings so much? And why do they hold so much promise and hope for us? The "Fresh Start" Effect Prompts Aspirational Behavior FIRST—New beginnings bring with them something special also known as the “fresh start effect.” Researchers from the University of Pennsylvania at the Wharton School  studied this phenomenon and noticed that new beginnings naturally increase what we call “aspirational behavior.” And that means the motivation and drive to change ourselves, to become better versions of who we are. To let go of old habits, old and outdated assumptions about ourselves, and again, try to become better versions of ourselves. This fresh start effect happens because we are interrupted. We’re able to stop thinking about the day-to-day smaller tasks to check off our lists, and things to be done, and we can step back and see the big picture. For example, with a new promotion or position at work, or even changing jobs completely, we can separate our past performance from the new opportunity. We have the opportunity to adopt new habits and somehow feel free of whatever old habits we used to practice before, and we might even feel like we are liberated of some of the expectations and demands we had placed on ou...

If you prefer to focus on your strengths and growth, and try to avoid looking at your dark side, now is the time. There are many benefits to looking at mistakes, challenges, weaknesses, and failures of the past. Today, we will look at three powerful take-aways from looking back, and how to become more confident as a result. Join me for today's podcast, as we examine your dark side.