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What if beauty wasn't vanity but a radical form of self-respect? In this recap, Lesley Logan and Brad Crowell revisit their inspiring conversation with aesthetic nurse and rejuvenation expert Rachel Varga, exploring what it truly means to age with confidence. From skincare and collagen to breathwork and mindset, they unpack how honoring your appearance can deepen—not diminish—your self-worth. Tune in to learn why self-care is never selfish and how real confidence shines from the inside out.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:How reframing skincare as self-care redefines beauty and confidence.Why genuine confidence changes how you show up in life.How rejuvenation aligns how you feel with how you look.The role of protein, creatine, and collagen in healthy aging.How breathwork lowers cortisol and slows signs of aging.Episode References/Links:World Kindness Movement - https://www.theworldkindnessmovement.orgOPC Winter Tour - https://opc.me/tourPilates Journal Expo - https://xxll.co/pilatesjournalCambodia Retreat Waitlist - https://crowsnestretreats.comAgency Mini - https://prfit.biz/miniContrology Pilates Conference in Poland - https://xxll.co/polandXContrology Pilates Conference in Brussels - https://xxll.co/brusselsXFlash Cards - https://opc.me/flashcardsSubmit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsLL on School of Radiance - https://beitpod.com/lesleyonachelsodSchool of Radiance Website - https://www.theschoolofradiance.com (Code: LesleyLogan15 for 15% off one-on-one sessions, tutorial, and membership)Amy Cuddy's TED Talk - https://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc100 Acts of Love by Kim Hamer - https://a.co/d/0HLOjhO If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! 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It's an action. It's something that you're doing so that you can show up as your whole self and give the world the version of you that will make an impact. That cannot be bad. Lesley Logan 0:24  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:09  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the rejuvenating convo I have with Rachel Varga in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that episode, you need to do it, because she's amazing, and we've been using her tips, and some of them are extremely effective. I other ones I just haven't tried yet. I'm really impressed. But today, before we get into Rachel's amazing tips for your rejuvenating means, like skin all that kind of stuff, today is November 13th and it is World Kindness Day. Brad Crowell 1:40  Yes, it is. Lesley Logan 1:07  Damn it. That's what my papa Jake would say, celebrating like, meaning like we're gonna do it like that kind of damn it, okay. Celebrated internationally, this holiday was formed in 1998 to promote kindness throughout the world, and it's observed annually on November 13th as part of World Kindness Movement. It's observed in many countries, including the United States, Canada, Japan, Australia and the UAE. World Kindness Day presents us with the opportunity to reflect upon one of the most important unifying human principles. Oh, just period. On a day devoted to the positive potential of both large and small, acts of kindness try to promote and diffuse this crucial quality that brings people of every kind together.Brad Crowell 2:17  Yeah, so the World Kindness Movement. Lesley Logan 2:25  Tell us more. Brad, Brad Crowell 2:26  the world Kindness Movement is an organization, and they so well the world kindness movement.org if you're interested in reading more. I found it really intriguing that this is even a day, but I like the idea. I just think it's important that we are being conscious of this sharing kindness generally, because I think that in our extreme split political environment and belief in science and reality versus non science and non reality, it actually creates a lot of frustration. It really creates a lot of frustration for me, and this is a good reminder to that we still have to treat people who, you know, we definitely disagree with. We still have to treat them as humans, as people, even if we don't think what they're doing or thinking or saying makes sense, they're still humans, and we still have to treat them with kindness, regardless.Lesley Logan 3:18  You know, what's interesting about this is like we used to when we lived in LA, many of our neighbors were homeless, right? Like where we lived, and it's so easy. I watch people like they turn their head away from homeless people like they just don't even look at them, but then they wonder why they're not treating the area like with respect. It's like we don't feel like we're human. You know, you're not looking them in the eye. There are simple acts of kindness you can do every day. In fact, Kim Scott wrote a book, 100 Acts of Love, which you can put kindness in there. There are things you can do for people. Obviously, that book was written for people going through a loss, but there are things you can do. And it's really funny, art, art. My dad is like, he like acts like he hates talking to people. But then we go to the gym, which is through a casino, and he talks to everybody. He knows the name of every security guard. He knows every he knows the name of every parking attendant, right? He we now know the names of several dealers at the casino. And you know what I think makes them their day is that we just like, say hi. They're not they're staying there, waiting for someone to come to their booth or whatever, and we're like, morning, good morning. It just makes people feel seen. Like even just acknowledging people with an eye contact and a wave makes people feel seen. And I think that if we did more of that, the world will be a better place. So I think. Maslow hierarchy of needs is really real. Maslow's hierarchy, hierarchy of needs. It's a hard word for me tonight. And we judge people based on like, Oh my God. I can't believe they did that. But if they don't know where their food or meal or health care is coming from, of course they did that. You are in the Enlightened level because. You have some privileges to your life, and I'm not saying that to make you feel bad about yourself, but it is, we have to stop judging people who have less than us. We have to have more kindness. I I'm in. Okay, you take us through the first half of this list. It's long. Brad Crowell 5:13  All right, we're gonna move real quick through our upcoming events and travel y'all so come join us, if you, if we're gonna be near you. Okay, in November this no, this month we are going to do.Lesley Logan 5:22  Right now the month we're in. Brad Crowell 5:24  Thanks. This month we're gonna go, we're gonna have a Black Friday, Cyber Monday sale for OPC only. Okay, for OPC only. It's gonna be the 26th through December 1st. So check your email for more information. We're gonna send you an email on the 19th. Lesley Logan 5:35  We're not gonna tell you what it is, you just have to find out. Brad Crowell 5:37  So that's six days from now. Then next is winter tour. We are actually going to be on the road in December, and we've already made the announcements go to opc.me/tour for tickets, all the things.Lesley Logan 5:50  Days are already sold out, so you got to get in there quick. Brad Crowell 5:53  Yep. Okay. So next is while we're not doing a Black Friday, Cyber Monday sale in for Profitable Pilates at the end of December, we are going to have a sneak peek option offer for you to join Agency. We haven't really made this announcement anywhere except for the pod, so you are the enlightened ones. As we were talking about, we're giving you a heads up if you've ever considered joining Agency, but you weren't quite sure if it was for you. We got we're going to do just a short month where you can, like, figure it out, see if it's your jam, and join us. Lesley Logan 6:24  Well, it's a full month, but it's a short commitment.Brad Crowell 6:27  Short commitment. I mean, it'll be a month. So anyway, it'll be the end of December, December 26th through the 31st and then in January, Les?Lesley Logan 6:35  I'll be the Pilates journal Expo in Huntington Beach. It's the first one that they're doing in the US. And I've got a world premiere of a workshop that they were like, we love that people really want to, just like, ask you questions. And don't worry, there's an actual workshop to it, but it's a space where you can ask me questions. And so you want to go to xxll.co/pilatesjournal to get your tickets to that. Then also, in January, we're going to open up the early bird discount for our retreat for 2026 and many of you asked about it, you need to be on the waitlist if you want the discount. If you want to pay full price, don't get on the waitlist. It's fine. Go to crowsnestretreats.com and February, Agency Mini is happening. It is you want to get on the waitlist for that as well. Different waitlist link. It's prfit.biz/mini. What is Agency Mini? It's like three days of us digging into your business and on like a problem. So you can see what it's like to coach with us. That's for Pilates instructors and studio owners and anyone who's like in that service-based industry. And then in March, we are going to Poland, and we're going to Brussels with Karen Frischmann. There are different workshops at each they are on different days, because we cannot be in two places at once. So if you are interested in Poland, it's gonna be the one that happens before Brussels. And I can't remember the dates of it, but it's xxll.co/poland it's like the third weekend in March, and then the last weekend of March is Brussels. Not only we there with Karen Frischmann, we're gonna be there with Ignacio, whose last name I can't remember at this moment, but he's amazing, and the most beautiful eyes and the most incredible kind instructor. xxll.co/brussels and then in April, P.O.T London will be there with Claire Sparrow and some amazing other people. You're not gonna want to miss it. So there's your links they're in the show notes. Brad Crowell 8:20  Ignacio Rodriguez. Lesley Logan 8:22  Oh, Ignacio Rodriguez, yes, well, anyways, he is a special soul. I mean. Brad Crowell 8:26  He's from Spain, yeah. Lesley Logan 8:27  I know he's like, a Pilates Buddha. Brad Crowell 8:29  Yes, he's awesome. Lesley Logan 8:31  That's what I like. Whenever I was around him, I just was like, oh my God, he's the calmest person. Like his energy is so calm you cannot be anything but that around him, he doesn't listen to this podcast. So he wouldn't hear the compliment. Okay, before we get into Rachel's episode, who, what is our question this week?Brad Crowell 8:50  Okay this week, with a question on YouTube from @BodyFlexZone, all about the OPC Flashcard Deck series, they asked, Hey, could you possibly include the exo chair and the springboard in your flashcards?Lesley Logan 9:07  So BodyFlexZone, I'm sorry to tell you the news, but this is exciting too, so don't turn it off. We're not going to do that.Brad Crowell 9:15  No. Lesley Logan 9:16  No. Brad Crowell 9:17  Here's why. Lesley Logan 9:18  Here's why. They're included already. How do I explain this? The I write the cards as a classically trained instructor with classical equipment. They are edited by a contemporary trained instructor who has contemporary equipment, including she is has an exo chair and was trained on a springboard, and the measurements for how to use the hooks on your springboard exist in the Cadillac deck now.Brad Crowell 9:46  So, so while we are not creating a special deck for the exo chair or a special deck for the springboard, if you get the Chairs Deck, the exo chair information would be applicable. It's applicable. You know the information of the Chairs Deck is applicable to the exo chair. And in the same vein, the Cadillac Tower Deck is applicable. It includes information about springboard informationLesley Logan 10:09  Correct, because some springboards have pushed through bars, some springboards don't. There are cards that will say it's pro like they're marked that they might not be available on a tower, which means they're definitely not available on a springboard and so. But also, there's a card in each deck on how to use the deck, and it explains, if you have an Exo chair, like how to it doesn't say exo chair specifically. It's like, if your chair has four hooks, here's how to think about it. So both decks are very useful. And if you get those decks, if you ever have access to a full Cadillac or tower, you have a bunch of cards you get to use. You don't have to take a special training for it, because you've already been trained. So you can get our flash cards at opc.me/flashcards. All six decks are out. Oh, you might want to go to the website during the Black Friday, Cyber Monday. Brad Crowell 10:56  For those of you who were unable to hear what she said, you might want to go to the website during the Black Friday, Cyber Monday sale. Just a heads up.Lesley Logan 11:03  Don't miss it, because if you ask us later, no, we're not the we're only doing it for five days.Brad Crowell 11:09  Hey, send in your questions to the pod. Go to beitpod.com/questions where you can leave a win or a question, or you can also text us at 310-905-5534. Stick around. We'll be right back. We're going to dig into this really interesting conversation we have with Rachel Varga, all about rejuvenation. Brad Crowell 11:27  Welcome back. Let's talk about Rachel Varga. Okay. Rachel is a registered nurse and an aesthetic specialist who's been in the field of non surgical rejuvenation since 2011. She's published research on eye and jawline rejuvenation, teaches doctors and nurses internationally, and now blends her expertise with biohacking to help people age well. Rachel is the founder of the School of Radiance, and also hosts the School of Radiance podcast, where she shares how skincare, lifestyle and self-care can create lasting beauty from the inside out.Lesley Logan 12:01  Yeah, I've been on her pod. You should go listen to our episodes together there, and if you like it, then you have another podcast to listen to. She's, it's, I really enjoy this because, okay, I have been wanting to have someone, an expert like this, on for a while, but I didn't want it to be a vanity, like, I didn't want people to be like, Oh, it's so vain, you know, like so many people are like, I don't know, raw milking it. So they're not going to want to talk about Botox or things like that. And I well, you know, some people get granola and they're like, I gotta not do anything to my body. But also, if something's really, like she said, if something is really bothering you, like specific lines or scars or jowls, addressing it is beneficial, because oftentimes if you feel you look better, you feel better, and if you feel better, you actually just look better, like if you actually feel good about yourself, you walk around taller, you engage with people in a different way. And so it's kind of like a chicken or the egg thing, and I appreciate her approach. If you listen to the episode, it's not like, everyone needs Botox. There's always something wrong with you. No, it's like, okay, what are some of the things you can do that are non surgical, that actually do work? I, I have, I will say you're going to want to listen to her second episode, which we're not going to talk about today, but we talk about a lot of things that are like, a waste of your money and waste your time. She's very, very intelligent and doesn't waste her time. But I do think that what she talked about is people are not viewing rejuvenation as being vain anymore. They're actually seen as a form of self-care. And I do think there's a balance of what can we do as part of our self-care routine that makes us feel better about how we look, so we feel better about how we look.Brad Crowell 13:46  Yeah. That's what I was gonna say, hardcore.Lesley Logan 13:51  Well, I don't know, like, here's the thing, I really appreciate, I forget which actress it was, what's that beautiful woman? Not Diane Lane is beautiful, but she also did one of the Fast and the Furious. She's like a dame, gray hair actress.Brad Crowell 14:06  There were 10 or 11 Fast and the Furious movies. Lesley Logan 14:09  I know the more of the recent of them, and she is like, she also was in like a beautiful bathing suit in the tabloids. And I was like, I want to look like her when I'm when I'm 80. I can't think of it. Everyone's yelling at her in their car right now, but you know who I'm talking about. She talked about how, like, she said, don't like, she's letting wrinkles happen. And I also would like to let those things happen. And there are some things that just bother me, and I don't want them to, and they become a distraction for me, being it till I see it. So I do think that if like how you look is affecting how you're operating your day. It is, there is a point where you do need to actually address, like, what is going on here, because it's becoming an obstacle. I'll look it up while you say what you loved. Brad Crowell 14:52  Yeah. So one thing I thought was important was this conversation of. Lesley Logan 14:58  Helen Mirren. Brad Crowell 14:59  That was really fast. And I'm very impressed. Brad Crowell 15:01  Do you know what I looked up? I said, older actress, stunning, fast and the furious. She's on top of the searches.Brad Crowell 15:12  I went to IMDb and I started with Fast and the Furious. I was like, there's so many actors. Lesley Logan 15:17  You gotta go with my, my way.Brad Crowell 15:23  Yeah, I just, I just thought I wanted to comment about what you had said about what your topic was, that we beat ourselves up over this idea that we're gonna like focusing on how we look is somehow wrong, and I, and I think that.Lesley Logan 15:39  But then also, everything your entire life is based on how you look. You know, like we're told not to focus on how we look. However, especially if you were raised as a woman in the church, how you look could make your brother stumble, so you better figure that out. But then also, you better be sexy for your husband, or he's gonna wander. And then, oh, if you look too old, you're not going to get the job, because they don't want an older woman, like, like, so there's all this stuff about how we're not supposed to care how we look, but actually, everything is about how we look. And if you're a dude, you just get fucking hotter as you get older. And it's really annoying.Brad Crowell 16:14  Well, I love that you took all the words right out of my mouth. So here's what I was going to say, is that I think it's important to that it when we are holding ourselves to this idea that feeling like we want to care about how we look is wrong, somehow. What she mentioned was confidence, and I liked that because I thought, Hey, why do we buy a nice shirt or buy some, you know, dress shoes, you know, for the office, because we like the way that we look in those and it gives us this idea that we got it together. And I don't know why we would think that it's okay to buy a nice blouse or blazer or shoes but not do the same thing for our face or our skincare or our weight or our working out, or whatever.Lesley Logan 17:14  The food we eat or the yeah, yeah, yeah, the things that we do to make ourselves feel good. I agree. I think that makes a lot of sense.Brad Crowell 17:22  Yeah. So, you know, anyway, my point is that it is I think it's okay. I think it's okay. Lesley Logan 17:31  I, here's the thing, I really have come to a place where it's like, if the thing that you do for yourself doesn't affect anyone else negatively, it's none of my fucking business.Brad Crowell 17:43  Okay, here's, here's, let's actually start with, because I'm logical, let's actually start with the definition of vanity. Lesley Logan 17:50  Okay, let's do that. Brad Crowell 17:52  Excessive pride. Well, excessive pride in or admiration of one's own appearance or achievements. Excessive pride, right?Lesley Logan 18:01  So walking around telling everyone I'm so fucking stunning.Brad Crowell 18:02  I'm so amazing. Look how awesome I am. Look how beautiful I am, right? That is vanity, but giving a shit about how you look is not vanity, right? That we've conflated this idea and we beat ourselves up. Lesley Logan 18:17  Brad, you're fucking brilliant. It's like the word selfish, like, how self-care has become selfish care, like the fact that you'd spend any extra amount of time thinking about yourself instead of your children, the people you work for, the people you do things for the people you love. Like, that's selfish. This is amazing. And I do love this because, okay, Amy Cuddy, whose TED Talk is where the title of this podcast came from, and if anyone knows her, I would love that interview. But she talked about how she does study about the power stance, the Wonder Woman stance, when you do it for five minutes, you actually appear and feel more confident in an interview. They did a literal scientific study, and they had people not stand in a power stance and sit slumped for five minutes, bad posture. And then go in, and then they ask them, how confident you feel. They ask the interviewers, how confident did they seem? Did they appear? You figuring out what rejuvenation and as a form of self-care that works for you, which is very different, that works for me, very different than anyone else, that is like staying in the power stance. It's an action. It's something that you're doing so that you can show up as your whole self and give the world like the version of you that that will make an impact. Yeah, that cannot be bad. I'm in. Brad Crowell 18:37  Yeah. And I think that, you know, when we have confidence, obviously it allows us to deliver our, you know, purpose in life better. It makes us enjoy what we're doing more. It definitely just changes the way we show up in our community and the way that we see ourselves. Right? So, you know, and the world sees that too. You know, when we put effort into ourselves, we show the world that we are valuable because we value ourselves. And I think that is also important, is that we that that belief in yourself, right, the knowledge that you are worthy, even though it seems internal, it is very visible to other people. When you know that you belong there to do the thing you know, or you believe you belong there, to do the thing other people perceive that they pick up on that. Lesley Logan 20:25  Well, yeah, and also, like, and just, I'm gonna tell you one of your points, she we're talking about this. We're talking about rejuvenation, way that looks natural and feels good, that builds confidence. We're not talking about like, go overdo it. We know the people who look like they're overdone, you know, like, you know, we're not talking about getting a new face like the Kardashian mom. We're talking about like, just like, and it's we're not talking about doing Botox or or surgery. It can be as simple as, like, massaging your face, or the type that money you spend on the moisturizer that makes you feel good, like, these are, we're talking non surgical approaches.Brad Crowell 21:03  Yeah, yeah. So, you know, I think when you are that, because we think that self-care equals vanity, that's where we're going wrong. But when we, when we can separate the two and understand that vanity is excessive. You know, celebration of your beauty or your achievements, that is obtuse, that is annoying, that is like, you don't want to listen, you don't want to be around somebody like that. We all know people like that. (inaudible)Lesley Logan 21:31  There's the song you're so vain, you probably think the song is about you. That is a definition.Brad Crowell 21:43  But when you care about yourself, you know it's okay to to put yourself first and make that part of your self-care routine and you know. Lesley Logan 21:53  Well, I also think you're I'm not (inaudible) you up. I'm so sorry. This is our ADHD problem. I think if something is keeping you from showing up and making the impact in your world, and it has to do with your looks. It is not vain or selfish to do something about it, if it's if, if that thing is keeping you from actually showing up as your whole self to make the impact you so desire to make, the world is missing out. Brad Crowell 22:18  Yeah. Actually, a great example would be braces, or Invisalign, or, you know, even, like surgical, surgery, surgery on your teeth. Like it comes across as, like a crazy expense sometimes, but, you know, night and day difference we, we've had, I've had a really close friend of mine growing up who had surgery in his 20s, and he smiles now, you know. And I remember seeing the difference in him because he never he was no longer judging himself, you know, (inaudible).Lesley Logan 22:19  I watched something where this girl, every time she'd smile, she or laugh out loud, put her hand in front of her mouth, because she doesn't want people to see her teeth and and then, through this one organization, they fixed them. And no one would say that she's being fucking vain. No one would. And because we're now.Brad Crowell 23:12  I mean that was surgery, that was surgery. This subject, we're not necessarily talking about it, but like Invisalign, or braces (inaudible).Lesley Logan 23:18  If it's going to make you smile a little brighter, going back to World Kindness Day and making people feel seen, I would hate for someone to not get the joy from your smile. When people smile at me, I'm like, Oh, hi. Like it just brightens your day, like it snaps you out of the whirlwind that's in your mind. And I just, I was really excited to have her on because I thought it was a really honest conversation about about inner beauty and what we what would make us feel good. And I just don't think there's anything wrong. And I think it's really important you hear this, there is nothing wrong with doing things for yourself that make you feel beautiful. And if you were ever told that focusing on what makes you feel beautiful is wrong. There's some deconstruction and some, I really, when we took my eyelashes, my fake eyelashes off, it was really hard for me. It was extremely hard. I didn't look the same anymore. I had to do a lot of self-talk, but I went to Sephora, literally the next day, I was like, you have to help me. I look like a molten like a mole rat. And that is an actual thing that exists. And yes, I did look like a mole rat, if you look it up, but I she taught me, okay, the best makeup starts with the best skincare for you, she said to me, and that's what Rachel's also talked about, the non surgical approaches. And then the second thing is, by that girl teaching me a couple tricks with makeup, I could show up and do my tour as my whole self in a non-distracted way. Because I was like, Oh, my God, people are gonna be staring at me. Talk about the braces and the weird things. I have no eyelashes. That is not what people are used to seeing. Okay? So, so I just think that, like, I if it's okay, I believe it, because I felt it. I've been there. I've been there when you're like, Oh my God, my face is numb from the dentist. Like, I don't even want to see me. If things like that are keeping you from showing up on a daily basis, you owe it to yourself and the people that you can impact on this world to find some way to fill that natural confidence by taking care of yourself. So that's what I think.Brad Crowell 25:24  All right, awesome. Well, I think we've, we've talked through that pretty exhaustively. Lesley Logan 25:28  I feel good about it. Brad Crowell 25:29  Yeah, stick around. We'll be right back. We have some more tips from Rachel and the Be It Action Items. We'll be right back. Brad Crowell 25:36  Welcome back. Finally, let's talk about those Be It Action Items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Rachel Varga? She said, Hey, high protein and creatine, right? High protein intake, one gram to one and a half grams of protein per pound of body weight. Now, you probably heard Lesley mention this a lot. She definitely is on board with this. She said. Lesley Logan 26:00  It's so hard. Just be kind to yourself. Brad Crowell 26:02  It's hard, but, but, you know, there's, there are ways, and actually, a lot of it had to do with changing the food that we're eating. For example, I had a high protein bagel today, you know. And you know, it was, I don't even know what it was, a lot of protein for a bagel. And so they're, you know, eggs, and all those extra beans.Lesley Logan 26:18  I, we're not sponsored by them. But hi, Owyn, they have a 32 gram protein shake, and it's only what you need. There's nothing weird about it, I'm sure. Like, look, the biohackers would not like that we're talking about processed food, but it takes time to switch your diet around. And if you're trying to do this, it does take time. So pick a meal a day and kind of work your way towards her. But I wanted to say, I fucking love that her, Be It Action Items have nothing to do with like, going to a med spa. Brad Crowell 26:45  Right, to do beauty stuff or whatever. Yeah, I mean, because it's just like your your your Sephora experience, she said the best way to fix your eyelashes is your skincare, right? So the in this case, she's Rachel's talking about high protein and creatine, because when you she started lifting heavy and focusing on high protein, it gave her more inner power activation, and that was great for her skin, right, So that's, that's, that's.Lesley Logan 27:14  And there's tons, ladies who are listening, we have a lot of perimenopausal women. There's a ton of research on doubling up on that creatine.Brad Crowell 27:20  Yeah. And she also talked about collagen, because collagen will also help your skin. If you're watching YouTube, you can laugh along with me.Lesley Logan 27:31  I've been doing collagen since, like, religiously, since 2016 because in 2015 I did a test, and the guy's like, you have no collagen. And then a year later I did the test, he's like, okay, so you you're off the charts in collagen. And I was like, is that a bad thing? Should I, like, slow it down? And he's like, I think you could be okay. And I have not slowed it down.Brad Crowell 27:48  So we've got a call to action for you here if you want to go to theschoolofradiance.com theschoolofradiance.com, you can use a promo code, LesleyLogan15, L-E-S-L-E-Y Logan15 for 15% off one of her membership. She said there's also a free 30-minute biohacking lesson you can get on there that has a checklist, her skincare checklist, and it's available on her site. Lesley Logan 28:11  And also, like, depending on where you live, the seasons change your skincare routine has to as well. Brad Crowell 28:16  Yeah. What about you? Lesley Logan 28:18  Okay, another interesting non-meds related, Be It Action Item, which is just why I love her, right? Like you don't like, it doesn't have to always be like, get this moisturizer. She recommended breath work, specifically during exercise, to keep cortisol down and remain in a parasympathetic rest and digest state, which helps slow aging and collagen loss. So this is what I love, because in the like, people are gonna try to sell you stuff all the time, and this is fucking free. So breathe in for four seconds, hold it for four seconds, exhale for four seconds, and do that four to five times, by the way, it's called Box breathing as well. And she explains that elevated cortisol results in a drop in estrogen. When estrogen falls, collagen, elastin fall too. So you want to breathe, because it's going to help slow your aging down, and that costs $0.Brad Crowell 29:14  Yeah, she said, you two were specifically talking about lifting in the gym. And she said the guys will try to spike their cortisol. And she said, I don't want to do that. Lesley Logan 29:23  Yeah, also, and I know there's and I being a woman today, it's like, what are we listening to? Look, keeping your cortisol down is always going to be a good thing, especially if you're in perimenopause or post it'll help your sleep, which is going to help you age better. But also, when you're doing Pilates, this is something that people struggle with. You got to breathe in and out through your nose, because that keeps you cool. It keeps you calm, it keeps you grounded, keeps that cortisol down, which helps you age slower. I love this. She's coming back because I was like, Oh my God, I didn't even get to all the tools. Like, do I need to buy this? Do you buy this? Do I need to buy this? And she is going to change her life with that. I'll let you know when the episode's coming out, of course, but until next time, I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 30:08  And I'm Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 30:08  Share this with a friend who needs to hear it, leave us a review. Tell Rachel Varga how these tips and tools helped you. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 30:13  Bye for now. Lesley Logan 30:13  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. 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If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Brad Crowell 30:57  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 31:02  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 31:06  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 31:13  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.Brad Crowell 31:16  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dr. Brennan Spiegel, author of Pull: How Gravity Shapes Your Body, Steadies the Mind, and Guides Our Health, reveals how gravity shapes everything from our digestive health to our emotional wellbeing in this fascinating exploration of "biogravitational medicine." He presents the revolutionary concept that conditions like IBS and depression may be tied to how well our body resists gravity.• Gravity resilience refers to how well your body manages Earth's gravitational force• People with hypermobility conditions like Ehlers-Danlos syndrome often experience gut issues when their internal suspension systems are compromised•  The gut hangs from a suspension system like ‘ornaments on a Christmas tree,' and if it weakens, the intestines can sag, leading to digestive issues • Our language around emotions reflects our relationship with gravity – we feel "down" when sad and "up" when happy• Most serotonin (90–95%) is made in the gut with help from our microbiome, where it helps regulate muscles and systems that manage our body's relationship with gravity • Strategies to strengthen gravity resilience • Hypopressive exercises that draw the belly upward can improve internal organ support• The STACK TEN diet focuses on tryptophan-rich foods to support serotonin production• Mental and physical resilience share similar concepts - the ability to "bend without breaking"Check out Dr. Spiegel's new book "Pull" releasing October 7th, which explores how gravity affects human health and how building gravity resilience can help us find balance, stand stronger, and live longer.References and Resources:The Gravity Doctors Podcast LinkBrennan Spiegel MD's book, Pull (This is an affiliate link. We may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you and only recommend products we trust.)Effect of diet on serotonergic neurotransmission in depression. Neurochem Int. 2013;62(3):324-329.Tryptophan-rich diet is negatively associated with depression and positively linked to social cognition. Nutr Res. 2021;85:14-20.J. Wurtman: Brain serotonin, carbohydrate-craving, obesity and depression. Obes Res. 1995;3 Suppl 4:477S-480S.Research on sleep & tryptophan Sleep and Diet: Mounting Evidence of a Cyclical Relationship. Annu Rev Nutr. 2021 Oct 11;41:309-332.Amy Cuddy's paper on "The Power Pose" highlights how adopting confident postures can boost mood, increase self-assurance, and positively influence how others perceive you!Learn more about Kate and Dr. Riehl:Website: www.katescarlata.com and www.drriehl.comInstagram: @katescarlata @drriehl and @theguthealthpodcastOrder Kate and Dr. Riehl's book, Mind Your Gut: The Science-Based, Whole-body Guide to Living Well with IBS. The information included in this podcast is not a substitute for professional medical advice, examination, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider before starting any new treatment or making changes to existing treatment.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1198In this enlightening episode, Amy delves into the power of body language and its profound impact on confidence. With her extensive research and expertise, Amy explains how certain postures and gestures can influence our mindset and physiological responses, ultimately boosting our self-assurance.Check out the full episode: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In Part 2 of our conversation with social psychologist and best-selling author Amy Cuddy, we delve deeper into the transformative science of presence and its impact on our confidence, success, and personal growth. Known for her groundbreaking TED Talk and book Presence, Amy shares the power of body language and its profound impact on our emotional states and performance. From power poses to overcoming self-doubt, this episode explores practical tools for embracing your personal power, connecting authentically, and overcoming life's challenges with unshakable confidence.Tune in to discover how small changes in posture and mindset can help you tap into your fullest potential when it matters most, whether in the boardroom, on stage, or in daily life. Amy's insights on how our bodies influence our minds and the world around us will leave you empowered to take on any challenge with poise and assurance.What We Discuss:[00:00] Introduction to the Science of Presence[03:00] The concept of power posing and how it affects both our internal confidence and how we are perceived by others.[08:40] Amy discusses how power posing has made its way into popular media, from Ted Lasso to Grey's Anatomy, and what these portrayals teach us about confidence.[13:06] Practical ways to apply power posing and mental visualization techniques in everyday situations to boost personal power.[19:09] Amy reflects on the societal struggle with self-doubt and confidence, offering insights on how we can reconnect with our authentic selves to cultivate true inner power.[28:11] Amy shares a practical exercise to help listeners identify their core values and affirm their true selves for greater confidence and reduced stress.Notable Quotes:[25:59] - “Presence is about getting people to a place where they really see each other and can affirm them in that way.” - Amy Cuddy[26:18] - “When we are present with somebody else, we invite them to be present with us. Genuine attention is so rare, and it's a gift we can give.” - Amy Cuddy[13:26] - “Confidence isn't about being perfect. It's about owning who you are, flaws and all, and embracing the power you already have within you.” - Amy Cuddy[20:59] - “To avoid criticism, do nothing. But when you're focused on growth, even mistakes become part of your progress.” - Amy CuddyResourcesParadigm Shifting BooksPodcastInstagram YouTube BookPresence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest ChallengesAmy CuddyWebsiteInstagramLinkedInBritain CoveyLinkedIn InstagramStephen H. CoveyLinkedInX

In this first part of a two-part conversation, Amy Cuddy, renowned social psychologist and author of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges, joins Stephen and Britain Covey to explore the powerful concept of presence. Amy delves into how our ability to bring our authentic, best selves to high-stakes situations, whether it's a job interview, public speaking, or even sports, can drastically shift our confidence and performance. Drawing on years of research, she explains how presence is not a permanent state but a skill we can develop in order to show up with calm, composure, and confidence when it matters most.Through engaging discussions, Amy shares actionable insights into how we can all embrace our bravest selves during stressful moments, access authentic self-affirmations, and overcome the paralyzing effects of self-doubt and hyperawareness. This episode also explores the science behind self-affirmation theory and how small but powerful mental shifts can improve performance in unrelated challenges. Tune in to discover how cultivating personal power and agency can turn every challenge into an opportunity for growth and success.What We Discuss:[00:00] Introduction[01:57] Defining Presence: Being your authentic self in high-stakes situations[07:04] The role of confidence in preparation: Gaining confidence through training and practice[14:43] Over-preparation and its pitfalls: Finding the balance between preparation and mindset[19:52] How self-affirmation theory impacts performance, even in unrelated situations[29:41] The impact of hyperawareness: How to overcome distractions and perform at your bestNotable Quotes:[02:31] "Presence is about our ability to access and bring forth our authentic, best selves in our most challenging situations." – Amy Cuddy[15:25] "We often have to stop preparing the content or the skill and start preparing our mindset." – Amy Cuddy[29:14] "If we get hung up on what we didn't do well, we're less likely to be present the next time." – Amy Cuddy[08:58] "Confidence is not about tricking yourself; it's about getting out of your own way." – Amy CuddyResourcesParadigm Shifting BooksPodcastInstagram YouTube BookPresence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest ChallengesAmy CuddyWebsiteInstagramLinkedInBritain CoveyLinkedIn InstagramStephen H. CoveyLinkedInX

EPISODE 204 WHAT? SO COOL! REAL LEADERS 2025 TOP EXECUTIVE COACH Something BIG arrived in my mailbox… and I couldn't believe what I saw inside! Let's just say… some VERY familiar big names are in there like Tony Robbins, Simon Sinek, Gary Vaynerchuk, Brenée Brown, Mel Robbins, Jay Shetty, Amy Cuddy (who I quote all the time in my work!), Seth Godin, and Les Brown, just to name a few,  — and somehow, so am I. Listen to Podcast to find out what made me say “WHAT??” out loud.    About the Host: Certified Speaking Professional CSP®, Recipient of the Top Executive Coach Award in 2025, the Most Empowering Confidence Coach in North America in 2023, Philanthropist of the Year in 2024 and 2021 Canadian Presenter of the Year, Nathalie Plamondon-Thomas is a Confidence Expert. She is the author of 18 books, including 12 no.1 bestsellers and a book co-written with Kevin Harrington from the Shark Tank, endorsed by Tony Robbins. She is the Founder and CEO of the THINK Yourself® ACADEMY, offering keynotes and trainings, leading-edge online courses, laser-focus business strategy and one-on-one transformation coaching.   Along the past two decades, she has inspired over 100,000 audience members and empowered thousands of clients internationally to get rid of their negative self-talk. She combines over 10 years of experience in human resources, 25 years of experience in sales and over 30 years of distinguished service in the fitness industry. She is Vice-President on the national board of directors of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers and received the 2022 and 2023 President's Award.   Links: nathalie@thinkyourself.com Web: www.thinkyourself.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThinkYourselfAcademy LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nathaliept/ Instagram: @nathaliepthinkyourself   Book your FREE 15-min Virtual Coffee: www.thinkyourself.com/schedule   Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. You can also subscribe in your favorite podcast app. Leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.    

Is your body betraying your mind or the other way around? In this episode of The Deductionist Podcast, we dive deep into the link between movement, emotion, and behavior. From the controversy around Amy Cuddy's power posing to the science of facial feedback, we unravel whether your posture can truly influence your mindset or just make you look weird in interviews. We challenge surface-level interpretations of body language and explore how feelings, not just emotions, steer human behavior especially under pressure. Expect insights from neuroscience, psychology, and real-life stories in law enforcement and protection work.

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Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2626: Renee Benes dismantles common myths about social anxiety and connection, revealing how real conversation starts by letting go of ego and self-focus. By challenging internal narratives and cultural conditioning, she offers grounded, uncomfortable truths that empower you to connect more deeply with others, starting with a genuine desire to know them, not impress them. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.thefunsizedlife.com/talk-to-anyone/ Quotes to ponder: "Other people's movement tends to make us hyper-aware of our stagnation, and in an attempt to justify our lack of action, we simply talk poorly about others." "Whenever I found myself lost in a thought spiral, I am instantly transported out of the moment, and my consciousness is so lost in my mind, concerned with whatever new thing I have found to concern myself with." "No one in the history of the world actually knew what they were doing, they just made up everything as they went along and then handed down that made up stuff to their ancestors, AKA you." Episode references: Bob Proctor on paradigms: https://www.proctorgallagherinstitute.com/22787/what-is-a-paradigm Presence by Amy Cuddy: https://www.amazon.com/Presence-Bringing-Boldest-Biggest-Challenges/dp/0316256579 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2626: Renee Benes dismantles common myths about social anxiety and connection, revealing how real conversation starts by letting go of ego and self-focus. By challenging internal narratives and cultural conditioning, she offers grounded, uncomfortable truths that empower you to connect more deeply with others, starting with a genuine desire to know them, not impress them. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.thefunsizedlife.com/talk-to-anyone/ Quotes to ponder: "Other people's movement tends to make us hyper-aware of our stagnation, and in an attempt to justify our lack of action, we simply talk poorly about others." "Whenever I found myself lost in a thought spiral, I am instantly transported out of the moment, and my consciousness is so lost in my mind, concerned with whatever new thing I have found to concern myself with." "No one in the history of the world actually knew what they were doing, they just made up everything as they went along and then handed down that made up stuff to their ancestors, AKA you." Episode references: Bob Proctor on paradigms: https://www.proctorgallagherinstitute.com/22787/what-is-a-paradigm Presence by Amy Cuddy: https://www.amazon.com/Presence-Bringing-Boldest-Biggest-Challenges/dp/0316256579 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summary In this episode, Andy welcomes Dr. Margie Warrell, bestselling author and global leadership expert, to talk about her latest book, The Courage Gap: 5 Steps to Braver Action. Drawing from her deeply personal experiences and decades of coaching and research, Margie shares how courage isn't about eliminating fear—it's about regulating it and acting anyway. Margie and Andy explore the hidden ways fear shapes our decisions at work and at home, how overachievers can unknowingly be held back by fear, and why rescripting the stories we tell ourselves is essential to growth. You'll learn about the “courage muscle,” the power of embodiment, and practical steps to face difficult conversations and bold decisions. Whether you're leading a team, managing a project, or navigating life transitions, Margie offers encouragement and tools to help you close your own courage gap. If you're looking for insights on facing fears, speaking up, and leading with greater confidence, this episode is for you! Sound Bites “Courage is not the absence of fear—it's learning how to regulate it and act anyway.” “The smarter we think we are, the more cunningly our fear hides in the background.” “We reject ourselves before anyone else has the chance—because we don't ask.” “What we focus on expands. Fear thrives when we focus on what we don't want.” “Stand guard at the doorway of your language—your stories shape your reality.” “We need to parent—and lead—from purpose, not from fear.” “Every conversation is improv—and that's what makes it feel risky.” Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:55 Start of Interview 02:06 How Did Your Upbringing Inspire Your Courage Work? 05:12 Did You Write This Book Because It Was Easy for You? 07:24 Should We Try to Get Rid of Fear? 09:15 How Do Smart People Hide Their Fear? 13:13 What Was That Story About the First Lady? 16:00 What Does Courage Look Like in Daily Life? 17:58 How Do You Focus on What You Want Instead of What You Fear? 21:40 How Can a Manager Use This to Give Feedback? 23:50 How Do You Apply These Ideas as a Parent? 25:49 How Do You Stop Fear-Casting and Catastrophizing? 28:20 What's a Personal Story You Had to Rescript? 32:40 What's the Role of Language in Shaping Our Stories? 35:00 How Do You Prepare to Speak with Confidence? 39:16 What Reps Did You Put In to Build Courage? 42:20 What Role Has Failure Played in Building Courage? 44:34 How Do You Help Kids Build Courage? 46:34 End of Interview 47:09 Andy Comments After the Interview 52:53 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Margie and her work at MargieWarrell.com. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 440 with Kelli Thompson about closing the confidence gap. Episode 173 with Sarah Robb O'Hagan about why playing it safe is holding you back. Episode 142 with Amy Cuddy about her book Presence—confidently rise to your most daunting tasks. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills Topics: Courage, Fear, Confidence, Difficult Conversations, Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Communication, Personal Growth, Parenting, Vulnerability, Risk Management, Decision Making, Project Management The following music was used for this episode: Music: Imagefilm 034 by Sascha Ende License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Synthiemania by Frank Schroeter License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

What does it really mean to lead from below the neck?In this funny, thoughtful, and occasionally inappropriate episode (sorry, Richard Strozzi-Heckler), Bobby and Bridgetexplore what it actually takes to lead with the body, not just the brain. From control habits and emotional spirals to guinea pig impressions and the rhythm of excitement (yes, that kind), this episode is a gently clumsy invitation to pause, breathe, and reconnect.If you've ever felt like a walking head or a premature fixer, this one's for you.LinksThe Leadership Dojo | Richard Strozzi-Heckler | BooksYour body language shapes who you are | Amy Cuddy 2020 | TEDxStrozzi Institute for SomaticsThe Art Of Leading With Intuition: Why Gut Feeling Is Your Best AllyPodcast - On Being with Krista Tippett – Interviews with Bessel van der Kolk, Resmaa MenakemPodcast - Coaching for Leaders – Episodes on embodied leadership and presencePodcast - Unlocking Us with Brené Brown – Episodes on vulnerability and grounded confidence

What does it really mean to show up? In this episode of Half-Hour, we explore the quiet, powerful practice of presence — the kind that transforms a room, deepens trust, and reshapes how we lead. Drawing from a personal code of ethics and inspired by Amy Cuddy's Presence, Bryan shares how body language, vulnerability, and rehearsal culture all intersect to create ethical, human-first leadership in the entertainment world and beyond.Whether you're calling cues or navigating a high-stakes conversation, this episode is a reminder: we become what we practice — and presence is a practice worth choosing.

The Inside Stylists Podcast: Episode 156  Building Your Personal Brand as an Interior Stylist In this episode of the Inside Stylists podcast, I dive into why building a personal brand is so important for interior stylists. It's not just about logos and colours—it's really about the story people tell about you when you're not in the room. I share some of the insights I've learned from Daniel Priestley's work on becoming a ‘Key Person of Influence' and talk about how vital it is to practise what you preach when it comes to your brand. I also pass on some of my favourite networking tips, how to introduce yourself and others in a way that builds real connections, and why putting yourself out there is key to building trust and boosting your visibility. enjoy!   People mentioned in this episode Nikki Snell, Founder of Press Loft, a PR platform for interiors brands and stylists. Daniel Priestley, Entrepreneur, author of Key Person of Influence and other business books. He speaks widely about personal branding, entrepreneurship, and building influence.  DanielPriestley.com Katie Thompson, Speaker and branding expert who ran the "Be Your Own Brand" masterclass at Brighton SEO. Matt Lazenby, Website designer Amy Cuddy, Social psychologist known for her TED Talk on the "Power Pose" and presence. Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Personal Branding 02:45 Understanding Your Brand 05:52 Building Trust Through Authenticity 08:52 Networking and Making Connections 12:02 Effective Communication and Engagement 14:58 Overcoming Networking Anxiety 17:46 The Power of Personal Presence 21:12 Creating Meaningful Introductions 24:11 Putting Yourself Out There 27:05 Final Thoughts on Personal Branding   Show notes for today's episode are here The Inside Stylist's Interior Styling Course     Find us here InsideStylists.com Instagram: Instagram.com/InsideStylists  Facebook: Facebook.com/InsideStylists Podcasts : Insidestylists.com/podcast/ Blogs : Insidestylists.com/inside-stylists-blog/

How you carry yourself—your posture, your thoughts, your body language—shapes more than just how others see you. It affects your mood, your mindset, and your capacity for growth.   Dr. Andrew Fix breaks down the power of self-perception and communication, using “The Pout-Pout Fish” as an unexpected but fitting example. A gloomy fish believes he's destined to be miserable until one moment shifts his entire outlook. What if the way you see yourself is just a story you've been telling for too long?   Drawing from Presence by Amy Cuddy and Mindset by Carol Dweck, Dr. Fix explores how small changes in body language can shift emotions and how embracing a growth mindset leads to resilience and success. If your thoughts and habits shape your reality, what would happen if you decided to shift them? This episode challenges you to rethink the way you move, think, and show up in the world.   Quotes “How we carry ourselves and the mindset that we have goes an extremely long way to how we act, how we feel, how we come off and come across to other people.” (04:16 | Dr. Andrew Fix) “More than 70% of our communication, if not more, is nonverbal. That means even more than what you're saying to people, what do you look like? What's your facial expression? What's your body position? How are you acting when you say these things?” (05:50 | Dr. Andrew Fix) “Do you have a fixed mindset? Or do you have a growth mindset? Do you believe that things are just the way that they are, and there's nothing that you can do to change it? Or do you believe that if you keep moving the needle forward, you can create some positive change?” (06:25 | Dr. Andrew Fix) “If you believe that things can improve, then you will work harder.” (07:08 | Dr. Andrew Fix) “If we just show that improvement can be made and we help people understand and bring them along the journey, what a difference that can make.” (07:55 | Dr. Andrew Fix)   Links   https://poutpoutfish.com/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiiEeMN7vbQ https://www.amycuddy.com/books   SideKick Tool: https://bit.ly/4a6CqJS   Movemate:
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Amy Cuddy, Psychologist and Author shares the key ways to overcome feeling imposter syndrome and start creating your dreams. Check out the full episode: http://www.lewishowes.com/1198 Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter

Embodiment coach and neuroscience educator Amanda Blake joins me for a thoughtful and engaging exploration of the science and practice of embodiment. We cover the ins and outs of body-oriented coaching, how to discuss embodiment without getting lost in jargon, and what it means to build “minimal trust.” Along the way, we tackle neuro-hype, research credibility (with a nod to Amy Cuddy and Wendy Palmer), and the delicate balance between theory and practice. Expect insights into empathy, embodied self-awareness, interoception, proprioception, centring, and the all-important “keystone” of becoming your best self. This conversation is warm, sharp, and packed with insights that bridge science, coaching, and real-world application. Learn more about Amanda here: https://embright.org  We're resharing this episode because it's one of our best, and packed with timeless insights on embodiment that are still relevant today. If you missed it the first time, we think you'll love it. ------------------------------------------------------ Dr. Amanda Blake is a Master Somatic Coach, author, and founder of Embright. With a Stanford degree and a career spanning business education, athletic competition, and embodied leadership, she helps people align their actions with their values, develop presence, and lead with impact. Amanda's work blends science and mysticism to ignite the best in others, guided by her lifelong aspiration to "save the world" one spark at a time. ------------------------------------------------------ Check out our YouTube channel for more coaching tips and our Podcast channel for full episode videos Uplevel your coaching with a free copy of Mark's latest eBook, The Top 12 Embodiment Coaching Techniques  Join Mark for those juicy in-person workshops and events Fancy some free coaching demo sessions with Mark?  Connect with Mark Walsh on Instagram  --------------------------------------------------------- As a thanks for being a loyal listener, we're sharing a cheeky discount code for $100 OFF our most popular Certification of Embodiment Coaching course:  CEC100PODCAST More info here: https://embodimentunlimited.com/cec/

Join me for a powerful masterclass on developing a strong mindset with two exceptional guests. First, legendary athletic trainer Tim Grover breaks down what most people misunderstand about success, sharing insights from working with elite athletes like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant. Then, Harvard professor Amy Cuddy reveals the science behind body language and confidence, including how small changes in posture can dramatically impact our mindset. Finally, behavioral scientist Katy Milkman explains how to overcome procrastination and harness "fresh start" moments for lasting change. Get ready for game-changing wisdom on building unstoppable confidence and achieving your goals.In this episode you will learn:Why the steps to success are infinite and constantly shifting - and how embracing this reality leads to breakthrough growthHow to transform self-doubt into productive action by focusing on proving yourself right rather than proving others wrongThe science behind power posing and why expanding your body language can boost confidence in high-pressure situationsWhy surrounding yourself with the right community of supporters is crucial for building lasting self-beliefHow to leverage "fresh start" moments like Mondays, birthdays, and new years to catalyze positive changeFor more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1715For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Tim Grover – greatness.lnk.to/1111SCAmy Cuddy  – greatness.lnk.to/1198SCKaty Milkman – greatness.lnk.to/1151SC Get more from Lewis! Pre-order my new book Make Money EasyGet The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

In this inspiring episode, I sat down with Dr. Amy Cuddy, a renowned social psychologist, bestselling author, and TED Talk sensation, whose talk on body language and "power posing" has captivated millions around the globe. Amy shares her groundbreaking research on the science of presence and how small changes in body language can transform confidence, influence, and connection. Join us as we explore her journey from overcoming personal challenges to becoming one of the world's leading experts on how we carry ourselves shapes how others see us—and how we see ourselves. Whether you're navigating your career, relationships, or self-growth, this conversation is packed with actionable insights to help you step into your power and own your presence. Tune in to discover how you can harness simple but effective techniques to show up as your most authentic, confident self in any situation! New episodes of Dare To Be Fearless air every Wednesday on YouTube and all streaming platforms. SHOP CHIEF SWAG OFFICER mic covers.  Follow Alexa on social media here!  

In today's episode, Gina discusses the powerful method of using your body to calm the mind and reduce anxiety. In particular, specific postures are suggested that will inform the brain to relax and calm down. Listen in today to add a powerful resource for helping calm the mind and soothe your anxiety. Read Amy Cuddy's book "Presence" and feel more confident in anxiety-inducing situations! https://amzn.to/3iEwJKT Get Tara Brach's Book Radical Acceptance on Audible (free with a free trial month!) https://bit.ly/AudibleACP Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind 10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching link ACPGroupCoaching.com To learn more, go to: Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership: For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! Quote: What I most want you to understand is that your body is continuously and convincingly sending messages to your brain, and you get to control the content of those messages. -Amy Cuddy Chapters 0:04 Introduction to Body and Mind 1:35 The Cycle of Fear 3:06 Understanding Body Posture 7:14 Breathing Techniques 9:36 Correcting Anxiety-Inducing Postures 13:35 The Power of Body Language 15:03 Gratitude and Reflection Summary In this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, I delve into the profound connection between our body and mind, particularly focusing on how physical posture can significantly influence our mental state during times of anxiety and fear. Drawing inspiration from the work of Amy Cuddy, particularly her book "Presence," I emphasize the critical insight that our bodies are constantly sending messages to our brains. The central theme of our discussion revolves around the fact that we have the ability to control the content of those messages, which can lead to transformative changes in how we cope with anxiety. I explore the concept of the "C-shape" that many individuals adopt when feeling stressed or anxious. This curled posture serves as a protective mechanism but inadvertently reinforces feelings of fear and danger. By recognizing that these physical postures can affect our mental state, we can consciously work to break the cycle of stress that often traps us in a loop of negative thinking and heightened anxiety. I highlight that the dangers we perceive are frequently created by our minds, rather than being based on actual physical threats, and emphasize the importance of adjusting our body language to signal safety instead. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, Gina discusses the powerful method of using your body to calm the mind and reduce anxiety. In particular, specific postures are suggested that will inform the brain to relax and calm down. Listen in today to add a powerful resource for helping calm the mind and soothe your anxiety. Read Amy Cuddy's book "Presence" and feel more confident in anxiety-inducing situations! https://amzn.to/3iEwJKT Get Tara Brach's Book Radical Acceptance on Audible (free with a free trial month!) https://bit.ly/AudibleACP Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind 10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching link ACPGroupCoaching.com To learn more, go to: Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership: For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! Quote: What I most want you to understand is that your body is continuously and convincingly sending messages to your brain, and you get to control the content of those messages. -Amy Cuddy Chapters 0:04 Introduction to Body and Mind 1:35 The Cycle of Fear 3:06 Understanding Body Posture 7:14 Breathing Techniques 9:36 Correcting Anxiety-Inducing Postures 13:35 The Power of Body Language 15:03 Gratitude and Reflection Summary In this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, I delve into the profound connection between our body and mind, particularly focusing on how physical posture can significantly influence our mental state during times of anxiety and fear. Drawing inspiration from the work of Amy Cuddy, particularly her book "Presence," I emphasize the critical insight that our bodies are constantly sending messages to our brains. The central theme of our discussion revolves around the fact that we have the ability to control the content of those messages, which can lead to transformative changes in how we cope with anxiety. I explore the concept of the "C-shape" that many individuals adopt when feeling stressed or anxious. This curled posture serves as a protective mechanism but inadvertently reinforces feelings of fear and danger. By recognizing that these physical postures can affect our mental state, we can consciously work to break the cycle of stress that often traps us in a loop of negative thinking and heightened anxiety. I highlight that the dangers we perceive are frequently created by our minds, rather than being based on actual physical threats, and emphasize the importance of adjusting our body language to signal safety instead. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textUnlocking Confidence and Presence with Amy CuddyIn this powerful episode of Paradigm Shifting Books, Stephen and Britain Covey sit down with Amy Cuddy, renowned social psychologist and author of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges. Together, they explore the transformative concept of presence and how it enables us to show up authentically and confidently in life's most demanding moments.Amy shares fascinating insights from her research, including how body language and self-affirmation techniques can help individuals tap into their most empowered selves—even in high-stakes situations like job interviews, public speaking, or competitive sports. Britain as an NFL Punt Returner talks through how Amy's work has been directly applicable to his role as an NFL player. The conversation dives into the science behind power posing, the profound impact of aligning with your core values, and how to overcome self-doubt and imposter syndrome.From practical strategies for building confidence to stories of real-world application, this episode offers listeners actionable tools to cultivate personal power and authenticity. Whether you're preparing for a pivotal presentation, navigating a challenging conversation, or striving to perform under pressure, Amy's insights will inspire you to approach life's challenges with greater courage and connection.Tune in for an engaging discussion that's as practical as it is empowering, and discover how to bring your boldest self to your biggest challenges.00:00 Introduction to Presence05:10 Applying Presence in Various Scenarios10:39 Preparation, Confidence & Self-Affirmation30:38 Dealing with Hyper-Awareness and External Judgement36:18 Exploring the Paradox of Nerves and Performance39:06 The Importance of Personal Power46:07 Power Posing: The Science and Application55:02 Practical Tips for Cultivating Personal Power01:03:13 The Broader Impact of Confidence and Self-Doubt01:07:53 Affirming Others and Building Presence01:12:30 Final Thoughts and Practical Advice***If you like this podcast and the books we discuss it would mean a lot if you left a positive rating and review on Apple Podcasts ;)Follow Paradigm Shifting Books On:YouTubeInstagramFacebook

Happy Throwback Thursday, Heal Squad! This week, we are bringing back an episode to explore the transformative power of authentic confidence and presence with the incredible Dr. Amy Cuddy, social psychologist, former Harvard professor, and NYT best-selling author. They dive into a conversation about fragile self-esteem, imposter syndrome, and how embracing your authentic self can lead to breakthroughs in your personal and professional life. Get ready to discover how to shift from overthinking how others perceive you to focusing on the impression you make on yourself. Dr. Amy Cuddy shares science-backed strategies for building grounded confidence, like the art of power posing and self-affirmation exercises, which can help anchor you in your values and purpose. She also reveals how "faking it till you become it" isn't about pretending—it's about incrementally stepping into the best version of yourself.  Don't miss out on this incredible episode, Heal Squad! Tune in!!  Healers and Heal Liners:  Presence as Power. Trusting and expressing your true self can free up emotional bandwidth, enabling you to show up fully in every moment. Confidence Without Arrogance. Real confidence is a gift that inspires others, while arrogance creates barriers. Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: Get ready for insights on managing the "imposter experience" and why it's a common challenge we can overcome with practice and patience. -- HEAL SQUAD SOCIALS IG: https://www.instagram.com/healsquad/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healsquadxmaria HEAL SQUAD RESOURCES: Heal Squad Website: https://www.healsquad.com/ Maria Menounos Website: https://www.mariamenounos.com My Curated Macy's Page: Shop My Macy's Storefront OUAI: https://theouai.com/ use promo code: HEALSQUAD for 15% off Nanit: https://www.nanit.com/ use promo code: DREAM20 for 20% off your first order Prenuvo: Prenuvo.com/MARIA for $300 off   Dr. Amy Cuddy's Resources Instagram https://www.instagram.com/amycuddy/?hl=en  Website https://www.amycuddy.com/  Book https://www.amazon.com/Presence-Bringing-Boldest-Biggest-Challenges/dp/0316256587/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1550086293&sr=8-1&keywords=amy+cuddy  ABOUT MARIA MENOUNOS: Emmy Award-winning journalist, TV personality, actress, 2x NYT best-selling author, former pro-wrestler and brain tumor survivor, Maria Menounos' passion is to see others heal and to get better in all areas of life. ABOUT HEAL SQUAD x MARIA MENOUNOS: A daily digital talk-show that brings you the world's leading healers, experts, and celebrities to share groundbreaking secrets and tips to getting better in all areas of life. DISCLAIMER: This Podcast and all related content ( published or distributed by or on behalf of Maria Menounos or Mariamenounos.com and healsquad.com ) is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions provided by guest experts or hosts featured within website or on Company's Podcast are their own; not those of Maria Menounos or the Company. Accordingly, Maria Menounos and the Company cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions. This podcast is presented for exploratory purposes only. Published content is not intended to be used for preventing, diagnosing, or treating a specific illness. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care emergency, please contact a qualified health care professional for treatment.

01:00 I was ahead of the game until I took that supplement to get my chi moving 04:00 Trump's Next Move: The Legal Battle That Could Change EVERYTHING, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ewE5SEkFnTM 07:00 Conservative Host WALKS OFF Show After CoHost Calls Her A NAZI, https://thehill.com/opinion/white-house/5012229-trump-dei-merit/ 24:15 Maladaptive Daydreaming: Avoiding Pain by Fantasizing, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqXbZtQ11SM 28:40 Behind the Curtain: Trump's shock and awe, https://www.axios.com/2024/12/01/trump-cabinet-kash-patel-fbi 35:15 Putin abandons 'weak' Assad as rebels head for Syrian capital | Stefanie Glinski, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WWdB984gz08 40:20 Putin's armies too stretched to aid Assad's 'catastrophically bad' military | Mark Galeotti, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2pxr6tAfCxs 48:00 Trump tariffs 1:14:00 Glenn Greenwald: Dangerous New Escalation in Russia, & Our Blackmailed Politicians, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AKh4txSD0eQ 1:20:00 Christopher Caldwell: Speaking Trumpian: Persuasion in a post-oratorical age, https://claremontreviewofbooks.com/speaking-trumpian/ 1:34:20 Post-Thanksgiving Extravaganza, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=if04NMat9_4 1:43:30 Biden's Parting Gifts, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xXQDOSzglW4 1:47:00 Claremont: All the President's Mental Lapses: Democracy dies in deception, https://claremontreviewofbooks.com/all-the-presidents-mental-lapses/ 2:05:50 Who moved my chi? 2:29:45 Velvet Prisons: Russell Jacoby on American Academia, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6qlBJpJZE0I 2:38:00 Character Trouble: Undisciplined Essays on Moral Agency and Personality, https://www.amazon.com/Character-Trouble-Undisciplined-Essays-Personality-ebook/dp/B09KM7MPG4 2:47:20 Kip joins to talk about how we affect other people 3:26:00 Milgram experiment, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milgram_experiment 3:30:00 Stanford prison experiment, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_prison_experiment 3:37:30 John Doris: Rewriting the history of psychology, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GIhp_zxoc2k 3:39:00 The replication bros vs Amy Cuddy, https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/18/magazine/when-the-revolution-came-for-amy-cuddy.html 3:45:00 I find redheads disturbing

A smile can do more than just brighten someone else's day—it can shift your mood, boost your confidence, and even enhance your communication. Inspired by a personal anecdote and supported by research from experts like Amy Cuddy, this episode explores how even a fake smile can trick your brain into feeling better. Key Takeaways:• ✅ Smiling—even if forced—can trigger positive emotions.• ✅ Amy Cuddy's research shows body language, including facial expressions, influences our emotions.• ✅ A simple smile can improve your mood, confidence, and how others perceive you. Make sure to subscribe and follow me for updates, tips, and more ways to stay in the flow! You can connect with me on:• Instagram: @flow_network__• YouTube: @flow_network__• TikTok: @theflownetwork• LinkedIn Newsletter: Daily Flow Stay tuned for more great content, and as always, stay in the flow!

Send us a textPreviewing ‘Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges' by Amy CuddyIn this preview episode of Paradigm Shifting Books, Stephen and Britain Covey set the stage for their upcoming interview with Amy Cuddy, the renowned social psychologist behind Presence. The brothers share their excitement about discussing a book that has transformed the way we think about confidence and personal power.They explore the concept of “presence,” likening it to an inner strength that allows you to show up as your best self in critical moments—whether it's a job interview, a high-stakes presentation, or a pivotal sports moment (like returning punts in the Super Bowl). Drawing from Cuddy's groundbreaking research, they unpack how presence isn't an innate quality but a skill that can be developed through intentional shifts in body language and mindset.The episode touches on key themes from the book, including the science of power posing, the transformative idea of “fake it until you become it,” and the role of presence in overcoming imposter syndrome. Stephen and Britain also share the questions they're eager to ask Amy in the full interview, including insights into her research process and her thoughts on applying presence in everyday life.Join the conversation as the hosts dive into why Presence is a must-read for anyone looking to bring their boldest self to life's biggest challenges.00:00 Introduction to Presence03:06 Practical Applications of Presence06:27 Amy Cuddy's Background08:32 Questions to explore***If you like this podcast and the books we discuss it would mean a lot if you left a positive rating and review on Apple Podcasts ;)Follow Paradigm Shifting Books On:YouTubeInstagramFacebook

In this episode, Katherine tackles one of the top fears (and no, it's not death!)—public speaking! Let's dive into practical tips for leaders who want to engage their teams and build trust every time they step up to speak. Whether it's a team meeting or a town hall, Katherine covers how to keep your message clear, connect emotionally, and boost your speaking confidence. Ready to turn those nerves into leadership superpowers? Tune in and let's make speaking fun and impactful!   Additional Resources: Listen to Amy Cuddy's TED Talk  Connect with Katherine Coble on LinkedIn Learn more about Borshoff Follow PeopleForward Network on LinkedIn Learn more about PeopleForward Network   Key Takeaways: Preparation is Key: Good public speaking starts with clear goals and understanding the audience's concerns. Practice, simplicity, and alignment with values make the difference. Clarity and Simplicity: Avoid technical jargon and keep the message accessible. Break down complex ideas to ensure everyone can follow along and stay engaged. Engage Emotionally: Appeal to both the rational and emotional sides of the audience, creating a connection and relevance to drive the message home. Warmth Before Competence: Prioritize warmth and trust-building, then reinforce competence. This approach helps leaders create lasting influence and respect.

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Episode 031 - Sometimes…Actions Think Louder Than Thoughts The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori Episode Overview: In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori dives into an unconventional but powerful perspective on change: that actions can shape our thoughts, sometimes more profoundly than the reverse. While many self-help messages focus on shifting our mindset to drive behavior, Dr. Tori explores the overlooked approach of using action as a catalyst for internal transformation. Drawing on insights from thought leaders like Amy Cuddy, William James, and Robert Cialdini, this episode reveals why small, intentional actions may be the key to lasting growth in influence, leadership, and personal development. What You'll Learn: The Power of Action-Driven Change: Discover why shifting your actions can have a ripple effect on your thoughts, emotions, and even beliefs, challenging the traditional “thoughts-first” approach. Key Influence Insights: Learn from research and insights on how commitment and consistency influence belief formation (Leon Festinger), the role of body language in state management, and the science behind power poses. Practical Application: Get a glimpse into Dr. Tori's Influence Book Club, a community designed to help people transform insights from top influence and communication books into real, practiced skills. Practical Tools for State Management: Explore Dr. Tori's resource, “101 Ways to Manage Your State,” which provides actionable strategies to help you take control of your mental and emotional state. Access it at DrTori.com/101. Action as Habit-Building: Understand Aristotle's wisdom on habit and excellence—why repeated behaviors define us more than occasional good intentions. Memorable Quotes: “Sometimes, action thinks louder than thoughts.” “If you want to change your life, don't wait for your mindset to shift. Start with the action, and let your thoughts catch up.” “We become what we think, yes—but also what we repeatedly do.” Key Takeaways: Embrace the Behavior-First Approach: By changing your actions, you can influence your mental and emotional state in powerful ways. Smiling, adopting power poses, and managing your body language can change how you feel, not just how others see you. Consistency Builds Commitment: As seen in Festinger's theory of cognitive dissonance, our actions often strengthen our beliefs and commitment. Taking even small steps in a particular direction can align our mindset over time. Join a Like-Minded Community: In the Influence Book Club, Dr. Tori not only helps others grow in their influence skills but puts action at the forefront, ensuring that members implement what they learn to create lasting impact in their communication and relationships. Connect With the Influence Community: If you're ready to dive deeper into actionable influence skills, join the Influence Book Club at InfluenceBookClub.com. Be part of a community that translates knowledge into impactful behaviors, transforming influence from theory to practice. Listener Challenge: Think of one small action you can take today to influence your mindset. Strike a power pose, put on a smile, or take one step toward a long-term goal. Notice the shift that a single behavior can have on your thoughts and emotions. Don't Forget to Rate and Share! If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs a boost in influence. Every recommendation helps grow our community of people committed to influencing for good.

Ever feel like you're not quite giving off the confidence you know you should be as a leader in the arts? Social psychologist Amy Cuddy says it may have something to do with your “presence” – a sort of “self-assured enthusiasm.” Today, we get into her research on presence as an incredible indicator of leadership success, from how you come off to your colleagues to whether people you meet trust you. Hear how to tap into your personal power and harness it to lead. Hint: it can start with something as simple as changing your physical posture.

Hello loves! I am back! If you were wondering where I was, wonder no further. Just play the song "Without me" by Eminem. Anyway, during my slight hiatus, I learned a couple of things, got in a relationship, broke up, and still have been studying Psychology but now with the help of some of the best social psychologists in the world. None other than Amy Cuddy is the inspiration for this specific episode! Her Ted Talk: https://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc?si=28jqyBMYgtk-kbod and her book: https://a.co/d/522z4Pc If you get the chance please do me a favor and check them out! Anyways please take a listen and let me know what you think! Here is my social media if you want to reach out, speak about your experiences, or have any suggestions or want to be friends. I am here, thank you for your support. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/filipinavlogz/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091254532184 Twitter: https://twitter.com/filipinavlogz

The best leaders are always noticing how their actions and behaviors affect those around them. Strong leaders are master influencers and recognize they can control the way they are perceived by others, and this is very powerful in driving desired outcomes. This episode introduces a model - Warmth and Strength - for leaders to self-assess their impact on others and take action to shift their behaviors to maximize their influence. Amy Cuddy - Your body language may shape who you are - https://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc?si=oNoZuw1pWgWjAZTo  Connect, Then Lead - Harvard Business Review, Amy Cuddy, Matthew Kohut, and John Neffinger -  https://hbr.org/2013/07/connect-then-lead    

Each Sunday, TED shares an episode of another podcast we think you'll love, handpicked for you… by us. Today we're sharing a special episode of Fixable, TED's business advice call-in show, hosted by Anne Morriss and Frances Frei.Where do bullies go when they grow up? New research shows they just move from the playground to the workplace. This week, Master Fixer and social psychologist Amy Cuddy joins Anne and Frances to walk us through the strikingly stable patterns bullies follow to undermine and ostracize their targets – patterns that are way more common than you might think. Get part two of this conversation where Cuddy details actions you can take to stop bullies -- and other ways to fix your problems at work -- by finding Fixable wherever you get your podcasts.What problems are you dealing with at work right now? Text 234-FIXABLE or email fixable@ted.com to be featured on the show.Transcripts for Fixable are available at go.ted.com/fixabletranscripts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Each Sunday, TED shares an episode of another podcast we think you'll love, handpicked for you… by us. Today we're sharing a special episode of Fixable, TED's business advice call-in show, hosted by Anne Morriss and Frances Frei.Where do bullies go when they grow up? New research shows they just move from the playground to the workplace. This week, Master Fixer and social psychologist Amy Cuddy joins Anne and Frances to walk us through the strikingly stable patterns bullies follow to undermine and ostracize their targets – patterns that are way more common than you might think. Get part two of this conversation where Cuddy details actions you can take to stop bullies -- and other ways to fix your problems at work -- by finding Fixable wherever you get your podcasts.What problems are you dealing with at work right now? Text 234-FIXABLE or email fixable@ted.com to be featured on the show.Transcripts for Fixable are available at go.ted.com/fixabletranscripts

In this episode of Oh, Hi Self, I'll introduce you to 10 practical confidence hacks that can make an immediate difference in your life. Drawing from my personal experiences and teachings from figures like Tony Robbins and Amy Cuddy, I discuss strategies designed to help you not only regain confidence in the moment but also cultivate a deeper, lasting self-assurance over time.00:00 Introduction and Mission00:36 Understanding Confidence02:20 Confidence Hack #1: Change Your State06:09 Confidence Hack #2: Get a Pep Talk09:59 Confidence Hack #3: Power of Music12:05 Confidence Hack #4: Use Your Future Self15:11 Confidence Hack #5: Make Good Eye Contact16:50 Confidence Hack #6: Daily Me Time19:00 Confidence Hack #7: Flirting24:42 Confidence Hack #8: Remember Who You Are26:33 Confidence Hack #9: Channel Different Characters28:53 Confidence Hack #10: Curate Your People32:01 Recap and ConclusionConnect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/Website: https://sandrapossing.com/

In today's episode, Gina answers a listener question about overcoming stage fright. A number of specific tools are touched upon that will be helpful for anxiety around performance and public speaking, including behaviors such as power poses, repetition and practice, visualization and other mindfulness techniques. Using these suggestions, listeners experiencing performance and presentation related anxiety will improve their ability to excel under what can be high pressure circumstances. Listen in and start today! Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind 10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching link ACPGroupCoaching.com To learn more, go to: Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership: For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! Quote: Do one thing every day that scares you. -Eleanor Roosevelt Chapters 0:23 Introduction to Overcoming Stage Fright 1:55 Preparing for a Big Audition 6:23 Developing a Pre-Audition Routine 7:41 The Science of Presence and Power Posing 12:28 Unlocking Your Full Potential through Presence 13:00 The Power of Visualization for Performers 16:03 Importance of Self-Care in Managing Anxiety Summary In today's episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, we address a listener's question about dealing with stage fright and anxiety related to performing, whether it be in front of a large audience or a small group. The host emphasizes the importance of understanding that some level of anxiety is natural and can actually help keep us focused. However, for those already dealing with anxiety, additional strategies are needed to manage performance-related fears. The host suggests various techniques to prepare for auditions or performances, such as practicing in different environments, engaging in mindfulness and relaxation exercises, and developing a pre-audition routine. The concept of power posing, as discussed in the book "Presence" by Amy Cuddy, is recommended to boost confidence and alter body chemistry to better handle stress. Visualization is highlighted as a powerful tool to prime the mind for positive outcomes, and seeking support from friends, family, or a coach can provide encouragement and reduce feelings of isolation. Reframing auditions as opportunities for growth rather than make-or-break events can help alleviate pressure and foster a growth mindset. Self-care is emphasized as crucial for managing anxiety and stage fright, including adequate rest, hydration, nutrition, and engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation. Journaling or seeking therapy can also be beneficial for emotional release and promoting a tranquil state of mind before performances. Overall, by implementing these strategies and taking care of oneself, anxious performers can transform their approach to auditions, navigate them with greater ease, and showcase their authentic selves without the fear of failure. The host ends the episode with a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt encouraging listeners to do one thing every day that scares them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, Gina answers a listener question about overcoming stage fright. A number of specific tools are touched upon that will be helpful for anxiety around performance and public speaking, including behaviors such as power poses, repetition and practice, visualization and other mindfulness techniques. Using these suggestions, listeners experiencing performance and presentation related anxiety will improve their ability to excel under what can be high pressure circumstances. Listen in and start today! Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind 10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching link ACPGroupCoaching.com To learn more, go to: Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership: For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! Quote: Do one thing every day that scares you. -Eleanor Roosevelt Chapters 0:23 Introduction to Overcoming Stage Fright 1:55 Preparing for a Big Audition 6:23 Developing a Pre-Audition Routine 7:41 The Science of Presence and Power Posing 12:28 Unlocking Your Full Potential through Presence 13:00 The Power of Visualization for Performers 16:03 Importance of Self-Care in Managing Anxiety Summary In today's episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, we address a listener's question about dealing with stage fright and anxiety related to performing, whether it be in front of a large audience or a small group. The host emphasizes the importance of understanding that some level of anxiety is natural and can actually help keep us focused. However, for those already dealing with anxiety, additional strategies are needed to manage performance-related fears. The host suggests various techniques to prepare for auditions or performances, such as practicing in different environments, engaging in mindfulness and relaxation exercises, and developing a pre-audition routine. The concept of power posing, as discussed in the book "Presence" by Amy Cuddy, is recommended to boost confidence and alter body chemistry to better handle stress. Visualization is highlighted as a powerful tool to prime the mind for positive outcomes, and seeking support from friends, family, or a coach can provide encouragement and reduce feelings of isolation. Reframing auditions as opportunities for growth rather than make-or-break events can help alleviate pressure and foster a growth mindset. Self-care is emphasized as crucial for managing anxiety and stage fright, including adequate rest, hydration, nutrition, and engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation. Journaling or seeking therapy can also be beneficial for emotional release and promoting a tranquil state of mind before performances. Overall, by implementing these strategies and taking care of oneself, anxious performers can transform their approach to auditions, navigate them with greater ease, and showcase their authentic selves without the fear of failure. The host ends the episode with a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt encouraging listeners to do one thing every day that scares them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chapter 1What is PresenceIn her transformative book "Presence," Amy Cuddy explores the power of body language and the psychology behind making a strong personal impact. The central thesis revolves around the concept of "power posing," a practice intended to increase self-confidence and presence by adopting poses that express power and dominance. Cully argues that by altering our physical stance, we can shape our minds to be more assertive, confident, and poised, thereby enhancing our overall presence in both personal and professional settings. Through engaging anecdotes and grounded research, Cuddy illustrates how simple changes in body language can prepare us to handle stressful situations with grace and assurance. "Presence" isn't just about outward expressions but delves deeper into developing an authentic sense of self that resonates in every interaction. This book is a call to liberate ourselves from fear and tap into our innate potential by simply embodying the presence we wish to project.Chapter 2 Meet the Writer of PresenceAmy Cuddy, in her book "Presence," effectively employs straightforward, accessible prose to engage readers and convey her ideas on personal power and confidence. Her writing style is inviting and conversational, which helps demystify complex psychological concepts for a general audience. Cuddy uses anecdotes and personal stories to make her points more relatable and emotive, aiding in building a connection with her readers.She frequently utilizes contrasts—between powerlessness and presence, for instance— to highlight transformations and the impact of her theories in real-life scenarios. This contrast not only clarifies the concepts but also emotionally engages the reader by showcasing tangible outcomes.Cuddy's use of rhetorical questions serves to provoke thought and encourage self-reflection among readers, making the text interactive and personally relevant. Her language is imbued with empathy, which not only reflects her understanding of human vulnerabilities but also aligns with her message that anyone can harness personal power through presence.Overall, Amy Cuddy's linguistic choices and narrative style are integral to effectively communicating her message, making complex psychological insights accessible and emotionally resonant.Chapter 3 Deeper Understanding of PresenceThe concept of presence—a sense of being in the moment or manifesting fully in a physical, mental, or virtual space—has a profound impact on various domains including literature, culture, and society, influencing people's perceptions, interactions, and understanding of reality. Here, I will explore how presence has shifted people's ways of thinking and its notable impacts on specific fields. LiteratureIn literature, the presence of characters and settings plays a crucial role in immersing readers and evoking a strong sense of realism or believability. The idea of "presence" in narrative fiction, as explored by writers and theorists, often hinges on the depth with which characters and environments are depicted. Authors like Virginia Woolf and James Joyce exemplify this through their stream-of-consciousness technique, which brings an intense, immediate presence to their characters' thoughts and emotions. This style invites readers to live in the characters' moments, seeing the world vividly through their eyes, thus changing the way narratives could be experienced, moving away from mere observation to active mental and emotional participation. CultureIn cultural contexts, presence can be explored through practices like mindfulness and meditation, increasingly prevalent in Western societies. Originally rooted in Eastern spiritual traditions, these practices emphasize being fully present in the moment, which has influenced contemporary health and wellness culture significantly....

Text me your thoughts on this episode!This is a recording of a live webinar I hosted on Friday 6/21/2024. We talked about: Perimenopause and confidence Gender socialization and confidence Self-directed neuroplasticity tools How to politely and firmly say no to a wrongly-timed invitation Demo of bilateral stimulation, which promotes blood flow and impulses to both sides of the brain, effectively reducing anxiety How to generate calm, grounded focus ahead of a presentation (with my former client Kristine) Demo of my take on Dr. Amy Cuddy's power pose, which helps you to down-regulate the sympathetic nervous system, associated with flight/fight/freeze stress response, and activates the parasympathetic nervous system, associated with rest and digest Demo of how to generate the confidence to speak up when you're flabbergasted by an opposing counsel who's saying factually incorrect things (aka lying through their mouths) To learn more about coaching with me, come on over to https://www.jamieleecoach.com/apply Enjoy the show? Don't miss an episode, listen and subscribe via Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts. Connect with me **You want to get promoted and better paid with best tools possible. That's what I offer inside my Executive Coaching Series, and you can learn all about it here: https://www.jamieleecoach.com/apply ** Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me at jamie@jamieleecoach.com

Free Month of my Weekly Coaching Group So today I'm gonna talk about that green emotion called jealousy. Oh, we've all had it, we've all experienced it, and we've all been the subject of it. But with actors, it can get so tricky.  I wanted to do a podcast, really putting this emotion into perspective. “A flower never thinks of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms.”  Buddha said, “Do not envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.” “Winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners.” I think my own personal journey with jealousy. If I am having jealousy over someone else, it's because I am not keeping the focus on myself. Keep the focus on yourself. Keep the focus on yourself.  Whatever I put before taking care of myself, I am going to lose.  Also, whatever you put before taking care of yourself, you are going to lose.  Winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners.  And I think it's so important to understand we have one  journey in this life. Just one. And it's the one you're on.  Let's make it the damn best one we possibly can.  Amy Cuddy says, “Focus less on the impression you're making on others and more on the impression you're making on yourself.” The greatest thing about getting older is really starting to understand that the person who I most want to be impressing, the person that I most want to be challenging, the person who I most want to show that I can do it, is me.  That also helps so much with anxiety. It also helps so much with me wanting to be on my team. Because you know what? My team is fucking great.  So many years I abandoned myself looking to be on somebody else's team.  Wanting to be with the quote unquote popular kids in the second grade.  What a waste of time.  I want to be with my people. Meaning me. Meaning me, myself, and I. Someone else's success does not rob you of anything. That's the Truth.  In fact, I have found that when I support people in their success, they're more than happy to help me and support me in achieving my own success.  The other thing is that when  I focus on another person or another person's success and why they have it and I don't have it, the only thing I'm doing is weakening me. And I'm sick and tired of weakening me. I want to be working for myself, not against myself.  And jealousy is an emotion where we work against ourselves.  When you indulge in the emotion of jealousy, you are letting yourself off the hook for taking responsibility for what you need to do to take care of yourself and advance your goals, your acting career. Jealousy is really a completely useless emotion and it is a catabolic energy.  Meaning it is a self defeating energy.  And when you're in catabolic energy, you have a very low chance of success.  I want a high chance for success. I want to live in anabolic energy.  When you find yourself being jealous, you need to reframe it. Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.  When you find yourself being jealous, you need to reframe it and pivot the energy from working against you to working for you, from being catabolic to being anabolic, which is healing, growing energy with a high chance for success. Ask yourself these questions: by this person having success, what are they really taking from me? The answer is nothing. They are just living their life.  And instead of focusing and putting energy towards what this person has, ask yourself, “where do I need to put energy and effort so I can create the life and career that I wanna create for my life?” Two very important questions.  The first one being, by this person having the success, what are they taking from me?  Nothing.  And instead of focusing and putting energy towards what this person has, where do I need to put my energy and effort so that I can create the life and career that I want to create? Again, keep the focus on yourself. Keep the focus on yourself.  How can I take care of myself in this moment? Create a plan. Organize yourself. Take an action to put yourself closer to where you want to be in your life. Do a vision board. Do a gratitude list. Get yourself out of the catabolic energy of jealousy and get yourself into the anabolic energy of taking responsibility for your life.  Jealousy is all about putting energy in the wrong place. That's all it is.  Energy that is being put in the wrong place. So how about putting all that energy on taking care of you and your life?

There are two parts of how non-verbal communication impacts trust in communication: Whether you are perceived as trustworthy by those you are speaking to and whether you trust yourself on the inside.   We dive into both in this episode. You'll learn... How non-verbal communication can be distracting and decrease your credibility Why open body language creates trust and how you can apply it to your next presentation Mindset shifts to generate trust in yourself     Links and Resources:  Check out the TED talk I reference in this episode from Amy Cuddy: https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are?language=en For more inspiration and to join the Fully Expressed Program, check out www.speaktoinspire.com and register for the free masterclass there.    Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any of my inspiring public speaking tips coming up soon.   And, if you enjoyed this episode, please leave me a rating and a review?    Thanks!

Step into the life of Tracy O'Malley, a renowned coach and speaker, as she recounts her transformative journey with the Enneagram to break generational cycles of trauma. From her initial skepticism during rehab to becoming a leading voice in the Enneagram community, Tracy explores how this path not only reshaped her career but also clarity to her interactions with her children. Discover her motivations and her passion for teaching the Enneagram to assist others in gaining self-awareness and personal growth. Tune in to learn how the Enneagram can be a powerful tool for understanding and change.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Tracy's childhood trauma and the decision to seek change.The Enneagram personality typing system and its benefits.The Enneagram's impact on her relationships with her children.Her motivation and passion for teaching the Enneagram worldwide.Tracy's authenticity and growth as a confident speaker on stage.Episode References/Links:Tracy O'Malley InstagramTracy O'Malley FacebookTracy O'Malley WebsiteTracy O'Malley's PodcastEnneagram Type Blueprint (Use code BEIT to receive a 5% discount)Guest Bio:Tracy O'Malley is a highly sought after Master Performance Coach for companies like Google, Amazon + John Deere, a Top Enneagram Expert, Multi-Millionaire Entrepreneur and a Mom to two incredible Millennials. She has helped millions all over the globe; individuals, couples, families, leadership teams, fortune 100 Executives and CEOs step into the leaders they were always designed to be and create an effective and beautiful culture not only in their Professional Teams, but also their Home Teams. She teaches both professionals and individuals how to integrate the Enneagram in every area of life, guiding people to think and perform differently, uncover and change habits that no longer serve them, plus shift their relationship with money and intimacy by identifying where they are blocked and rewire those limiting beliefs.  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar  Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedIn  Episode Transcript:Tracy O'Malley 0:00  I mean, Google, Amazon, YouTube, Facebook, John Deere have all brought me in to teach them this language because when we understand each other, we understand everything. And when we understand each other, we build credibility and trust, and we build a culture that's bulletproof. And that wins. So I was like, who knew that the girl who showed up in rehab and told her therapist to fuck off when she said, I want you to do the Enneagram, is now teaching it to millions of people all over the world.Lesley Logan 0:29  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:11  All right, Be It babe, just get ready. Get ready, I had so much I wanted to say I don't want to end this interview. And then also, I want to make sure I have time to talk with her after the interview before my next one. Because she is just a force in the all the best ways. She is fierce and lovely and empathetic. And frickin just wants you to win. And I love this podcast for a few reasons. One, I get to support you on your journey, and your life and being it till you see it. And recognizing you're so freakin awesome. And two, I get to meet epic, epic people. Mostly epic women who I, I would be like touched to just to like get to hug them in real life some day. So Tracy O'Malley, she's so amazing. This episode takes you on a journey of her life, and also how she was able to utilize what was going on in her life to not just benefit those around her. But now to benefit so many others. And what she's doing today to help others is nothing sort of amazing and truly going to change your life and those around you. This is just going to be so fun. I can't wait for you to listen to it. So here I'm just going to let Tracy tell who she is in just a moment. But save this one. Really listen to it. You'll pick up different things as you listen to it and the things you have in common with her, the things that's inspiring about her, the things that open the doors and also the things that she might call you out on in the best way, way that someone who can only see the true honest you can. So here she is Tracy O'Malley. Lesley Logan 1:11  All right, Be It babe. I'm really excited. I was introduced to this incredible woman you're gonna hear about today, because of one of your favorites, which is Jake Kelfer and we are on a Zoom call. It's kind of like how have we not met yet we have so many friends that know each other and we know each other's friends. And so it's just gonna be a really amazing conversation. Tracy O'Malley, thank you for being here. Can you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at?Tracy O'Malley 3:02  Oh my gosh, hi, I love, I loved our conversation before. And same thing, I love when I meet people who who keep saying you got to meet this person, you got to meet this person. And then we actually meet it's like, there it is. I'm Tracy O'Malley. What I'm really good at is seeing through people's soul, quite honestly. I can kind of see through a lot of the masks that we wear with such love and compassion. So that we can step into who we were always designed to be and make sense of all of this crap that you know life has thrown at us honestly. Lesley Logan 3:33  Yeah. And it's interesting talk about like masks we wear because we all kind of like people might seem call it a different hat. But really like, the different ways we show up. And what we're trying to show and what we're trying not to show. You might scare some people that you can see through. Tracy O'Malley 3:49  I do. You know, it's funny, like if you meet me, and I get this because, and I never take it personal when people are like, oof, you're very activating. Because I, had I met me 15 years ago, I would have been lined up, hightailed the fuck away from me for sure. Because a lot of us come by these masks very innocently and for survival and when somebody can kind of see through the armor that can be very, very scary. So either people are really magnetized to me because wow, they feel seen. Or they're like, holy shit, I need to get away from you because they feel really seen. And depending on where you're at in your journey, that's kind of how this will play out for you.Lesley Logan 4:32  Yeah, I like picturing different moments I've met people similar to you. And you're and I can recall, like, if you're not ready for that. You're like, oh, I need to be a spar with that person. It's so funny because the couple of times that's happened, I've also then re-engaged with them later down the road and going how did I not let them be my best friend and it's because I wasn't ready for it yet. You know, I wasn't ready to be fully seen yet. So can we talk about 15 years ago? Like when did this journey start for you? Because if you, obviously, this a skill set you had, you didn't always know you had it. So how did this kind of come about?Tracy O'Malley 5:05  Well, ironically, you know what's funny about that is, is I always knew I had it. I didn't know what to do with it. And you know, as a little girl, I grew up in a pretty traumatizing home, alcoholism and Jekyll and Hyde kind of shit going on, and unpredictability and violence and, and emotional abandonment. And this little girl in me kind of trying to navigate what all of this meant. And early on, I was always seeking like, how the hell did we get here? And how the hell do I get out of here? And, you know, I always had to kind of read situations. It is one of my spiritual gifts, as well as being able to read situations and people and energies, mainly because I had to kind of gauge the situation I was growing up in, but it's also kind of one of my gifts. But like taking you back 15 years ago, is kind of when it was all coming to a head I had almost I was about 40 years old at that point. And a lot of those skill sets had served me well. I had been married and divorced at that time, through a recession, raising teenagers, and on paper, and all the receipts showed that all that those coping mechanisms worked out really well for me, you know, on paper, I was solid, knock me down, I'll get back up kicking and screaming. But I felt this internal struggle. And also I could see some of that effect on my kids. Even though you know, to the world, they were the greatest kids and they were and they are, but I could feel their restless irritability, discontentment, fear, and all of that. And, and I knew I needed new tools in the toolbox. These spiritual gifts that I had were great, but they were for survival, not necessarily to thrive. And it all came to a head when my dad was diagnosed with cancer, and was dead within 12 days, like seriously from diagnosis to death in 12 days. And yeah, he's the most impactful person in my life, the most dysfunctional person and also, the person I loved more than anyone. And for him to go from that, to that that fast. I was like, holy shit, life is really short. And, I don't necessarily know a different way. And so the people that went before me and my family, I love them dearly but, what they were teaching me, modeling for me, all of that was not going to take me where I wanted to go with my family and my lineage moving forward. So I made the decision that all these coping mechanisms, although provided survival for me, I was not going to thrive or pass it on to my next generation. So I decided to check myself into rehab. For all my coping mechanisms, not just the obvious ones that were a problem. You know, there was alcohol, there was food, there was anger, there was power, there was sex, everything but drugs basically I've used to cope.Lesley Logan 7:57  My big joke around my household is like, we clearly were the kids who had that "This is your brain on drugs," because like most people that are friends of mine, alcohol is a definite one and those other ones you listed, but no one's doing the drugs because we're told, so I guess it's like (inaudible).Tracy O'Malley 8:12  So God forbid you do a drug like, but you know, you could be drinking tequila shots off people and you know, doing some reckless shit. And I did and I came by a lot of it super innocently and I didn't want that anymore for my life. And if you don't repair it, you repeat it, or it gets repeated or both. And that was happening. And I did not want my kids to fast forward 25 years to feel like I felt and the only way that wasn't going to happen is if I went fucking first. And so I broke the mold. Like everybody in my circle, my family and my friends are like what are you doing? You're not bad. We're way worse than you. I'm like, Well, that's the fucking problem is like, I'm surrounding myself with people that don't challenge me to level up. And although, yeah, I didn't have a physical addiction to alcohol. I wasn't like an everyday drinker. But when I did, I was so unpredictable, that that creates an environment that I grew up in and I had migraines and ulcers in the second grade. I don't want that for the people that I love. And so it was in rehab. I walked in, and my therapist who's tough and she's from Texas, and I still see her to this day, you know, over 12 years later and you know, I've been through nine therapists at this point and I could manipulate anybody you know, I know how to talk, I know how to, I know how to do it. And it was the way that I did that prior in my life was to kind of test them to see if they could handle me. I didn't manipulate to manipulate like a narcissist might but I manipulated to test them to see if they really were what they said they were. And all the nine therapists before her, I could, like they ended up in a codependent bond with me. And I was like, okay, this is a little fucked up. But with her, I think I was also ready. I was like, listen, I need you to help me fix some shit. And she's like, well, your robust ego, first of all. I'm like, oh, here we go. Okay. And it was in day two, she wanted me to take the Enneagram thing, which is how the Enneagram came into play for me. And I basically said, go fuck yourself, I don't need another label. I'm walking in here with plenty. I don't need another thing to make this complicated. And she wasn't even rattled by my very colorful, intense language and intense energy. She did not even miss a beat. She's like, my dear, I get it. But your best thinking has gotten you here. And this might help you get out of the box that not only you've put yourself in, but the world has also put you in. So how about you just open up your mind a little bit? And give it a shot? Touché. Lesley Logan 10:54  I love her. I love her so much.Tracy O'Malley 10:55  I know. Yeah, she like and that's the thing with that intensity where, when we were talking about before, where it can be very activating for people, I used to get off on that, it was like, see, I'm the strongest person in the room. Whereas now when I activate somebody, it's like, I know, it's for their greatest good if they choose to receive it that way. And she provided that for me. Like she wasn't even rattled by that. And so I trusted her. I trusted her to take me on a journey. And you know, she did quite one hell of a journey for sure. Lesley Logan 11:26  So she, how did she take the Enneagram test? But you guys, we've had, we've talked about it before. It's been a while. It's been a couple of years. But for people who don't know, what is the Enneagram? And why do you think that she had you do it so early on in your journey?Tracy O'Malley 11:39  I hate the what is the Enneagram question because it's like, it's so stupid, but like I get it. It basically is this mappings, the way that I describe it is this beautiful navigation system that explains how you are divinely wired in your motives and your core fears that if you kind of sift through all the masks and the hats and the bullshit, at the root of who you are, there's this really distinct perspective, motive and fear in which you see the world. And why think she had me take it. And by the way, all those online assessments are wrong. The first one that I took was wrong as well. So just little asterisk there. The reason I think that she had me tackle this so early, and I'm so grateful she did and honestly, I don't even know if I'm still sober to this day without this beautiful system and framework that kind of, you know, because my robust ego can think that I can handle this and I know better and all this shit. And the Enneagram kind of is this navigation that keeps me in my lane. When I want to go off roading or fly off a cliff or go rogue kind of guides me back into who I was always divinely meant to be before life kind of life to me in the face a little bit. And so when you understand and that, you know, and I was tackling this at the age of 40, 40 years old, that's a lot of shit to unpack. And I think that's why a lot of people start the personal development journey. And then like, fuck this, I'm out. It's too hard, too much to unpack. It's too overwhelming. It's kind of like when you're spring cleaning and you start it and you're like I just opened a can of worms. I only wanted one worm to pop out. And now the whole fucking can's open. Lesley Logan 13:18  Yeah, yeah, I totally understand. Tracy O'Malley 13:20  Right, like, so I think when we embark on this journey, like, that's how this feels. And it's like, nope, let's just spackle this all back together and move on. And the Enneagram kind of helps you streamline and accelerate that understanding of yourself with compassion. When I understood at the core of everything that I did was a motive of being strong and powerful. That helped me reverse engineer and connect a lot more dots a lot faster, which, in turn, creates transformation. You can see movement in this growth because even in therapy, I love therapy, but it's fucking slow. It's really, really slow and I don't move slow. And so I think she also recognize that like, alright, lady, I'm here, let's make shit happen. I'm not staying more than 30 days. So you got 30 days to make something happen. And I was able to move the needle faster with this understanding, with this beautiful navigation of myself and a willingness to really use it the way that it was always intended. We're more than just a number we're more than just our type that's just kind of our home base and we go but there's all these other levers and directions we can take and detours we can take when the main road that we normally take isn't the right one to take. Right? And it provided me that very, very quickly. And then the next aha was oh shit. I have two children that have a totally different navigation system than me. And I've been trying to take them down all my roads all this time and no matter how well intended I was and how beautiful of a mom I am and it was never landing the way that would serve them best.Lesley Logan 15:06  That's so interesting. So like, first of all, I want to just highlight like, I love that you're saying you're more than just a number because all Enneagram people say, what's your number? And I was like, it's kind of like, what's your sign? And even like astrologist would say, okay.Tracy O'Malley 15:17  And I love that too. Lesley Logan 15:18  Yeah. And it's like, it's not just your sign, because like, you also have a moon sign, a sun sign, we have a whole chart, a nd like, where the moon, like, everything is changing all the time. So the Enneagram makes me feel like a birth chart. And if you want, if you got astrology, guys, it's kind of like that. And there's these areas that you can tap into. And so what you're basically saying is, you are navigating their life through the way that works best for you. But because of their Enneagram and their needs, that's not going to work for them, that's not going to be their strength, it's not going to be their motivation, it's not going to be their way to tap into things. And so basically, it's like, if you're trying if you're an Aquarius guys, you're trying to make your Cancer, like, here, read your brain. That's not gonna work.Tracy O'Malley 15:58  Exactly. Exactly. And low key. I was judging them for not being motivated like me and low key, I was like, I'm not, like I was frustrated with them, and low key I was like,oh, my god, I'm failing them. And, you know, about day two, when I understood myself sitting in rehab, understanding and reading this, and then realizing that there's eight other languages and other different navigation systems. And I was hightailing it to figure out where my kids fell in this, so that I could serve them better. Not necessarily to put them in a box or label them or say, you're this, and you're that, but like, how can I create a win win, where they trust me, they know that they are seen, heard, understood and valued for who they were divinely made to be? And how can I speak to them in a way that builds credibility and trust and empower them to move forward. And when I got home, you know, I didn't come home and say, Oh, my God, the Enneagram I never talked about the Enneagram for the next five fucking years. But I was using it as a navigation system, every conversation I had with my kids., and then out in business and beyond, I was trying to ask questions that would help me kind of pinpoint where they fell in this beautiful framework, so that I could speak to them in a way that served them. And within days of coming home, and really being more curious and intentional with the way that I spoke, the the temperature and the culture in my home changed immediately. And they were teenagers at the time. And if you've ever been around teenagers, that's not an easy task, especially with the track record I had, you know, I was kind of an authoritarian in my house is very good and tactical, and they didn't have to worry about certain things. But it was like my way or the frickin highway, a lot of time. And that tone shifted, because of my understanding of this and speaking to them in a way that served them better. And when that happened, I could see that like, they started coming to me with everything, instead of the teenager. sneaky shit. They're like, Mom, this stuff's happening. We're scared. We don't know what to do. And because of me, knowing where they fell, the way they were motivated, the way that they feared, the way that they perceived the world, I could speak to it and not try to convince them to see it my way. And in turn, here's the beauty of this whole fucking thing is they taught me more about myself, because of my willingness to see through their lens too.Lesley Logan 18:27  Yeah, it's so beautiful. Oh, and I, what I'm also loving is that, like, you took this skill set that you had this gift of like seeing people and using that to navigate the world to survive. And the way you shifted, it was to use it to thrive. So everyone's thriving now, not just you. And I think that also is really cool. Like, the way I'm kind of now more intrigued about Enneagram. What you're saying is like, it's actually not so much about your number, it's actually more about the other people on the wheel and where they land. And so because if you can, if you can support that, if you know what their fear, way of fearing is or the know what their motivation is, you can support that journey. And if you support them, it'll, like you just said, it'll give back to you.Tracy O'Malley 19:12  100% and, you know, I'm raising two types that are very different than me and different from each other. And they both, their strengths and the way they're motivated. They are the two areas of my life that I probably needed the most growth in and so they are my greatest teachers to this day. And because of that, I bring something to the table that they absolutely need and they're more willing to lean into it. So we are like this beautiful, polarizing team, the three of us, you know, they're they're 26 and 27 now, and you know, they're my favorite people in the world and I am theirs and we're all very, very different but like when you have three very different polarizing motives, fears, the way that they see the world when you understand each other, you're bulletproof, but when you don't, that's when it's like fucking Fight Club, which it was, you know, back 15 years ago when I was starting this because it was just like trying to make each other see things in ways that we didn't understand. And it was like this power struggle rather than this, like, this is who we are. Let's leverage this to make this beautiful for us all.Lesley Logan 20:24  Yeah. (Inaudible) So fascinating, because like, you could be going, no, this is the way you need to see it. And the way you're doing that is activating the fear in them. So they're not even willing. And also, especially with teenagers, and just kids in general, most people don't know how to articulate what they're feeling. They don't how to articulate what they're feeling is fear. So like, then you're just like, you're not making sense that you don't even like what I'm saying. So I think this, okay. This is really, really, really cool. So you come home and you start to you use it, you said you didn't even talk about it for five years. When did it transition from you utilizing it support your life to you like doing this as something that you put out into the world?Tracy O'Malley 21:02  Yeah, so it got crazy. So you know, when I went into rehab, I walked away from the career that I had, which was 15 years in the car industry, very masculine energy, you know, which my intense robust ego worked very well in that industry. I was great at what I did, and I fucking hated every second of it. You know, it was very soul sucking, very cutthroat, which I like, but just not integrity filled. And when I walked into rehab, I also walked away from my career. So when I got out, I was like, okay, I'm 40 now, what do I want to be when I grow up, and I accidentally fell into a network marketing company. And now female-dominated. And I was like, I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to be soft in all of that. But I better fucking learn. And thank God, I was armed with the Enneagram because I was like, okay, let's test this thing. Let's test this thing. So I started every conversation and in order to build and I was very successful, within two years, I took that business from zero to a million-dollar income and on paper I was very least likely to do that. But with this understanding in this beautiful navigation system, every question like, how do I lead everyone, right? And the best statistic about that business was not the millions of dollars that I made, it was helping other people make millions of dollars that were different than me. So in that organization, there's like 100,000, salespeople now, and seven of them have gone on to make millions of dollars. They're represented by six different Enneagram types, and not one of them is an eight like me. That's my favorite statistic of all, is the ability to lead everyone. So you know, I started using it, started using it and because of the growth people were asking me, and I was speaking on stages in front of 20,000 people like how are you doing this? You're lit single mom that went to rehab with no social network? How did you make this happen? And I'm like, I leveraged every single person, I made every single person in front of me a leader. And how did I do that? Because I spoke to who they are, not who I wanted them to be. And I was using this tool the whole time, nobody knew it. Part of me really liked having the secret weapon nobody knew about. But part of me is like, I just got good at it, I was using my divine gifts. And the Enneagram provided me a language to put to it and a system that I already had. But then 2017 happened and I got really sick. And I got sidelined. And around the same time. And I had already kind of felt this pull that I knew there was something bigger that I was supposed to be doing. And that little girl in me, when I was like, I knew that I would be doing something like this. But my robust ego also really liked making millions of dollars a year doing something very easy. That came very easy to me, I wasn't going to stop that. And so like there was this divine intervention, and this forced sabbatical with my health, that forced me to kind of get still, again, which I don't necessarily love. I get it. But I don't love it. And it was during this time that the Enneagram became trendy. And it pissed me off. Because I've been using it at this point for six years, five, six years. And it became the cutesy thing and I was fucking angry about it. I was like, you guys are missing the beauty and the power of this tool. So I didn't hop on it because it was trendy. I hopped on it because I was mad about it. Because I was like, that's totally anything too, don't do things just because it's cool. It's like, no, you guys are doing it wrong. And I'm about to disrupt what you guys believe about this. And then I came out of the Enneagram closet and reveal like how I built that business and made leaders was understanding this framework and knowing where people fell in it with out assessments without test without me even saying what's your fucking Enneagram type? I got so good at where are you motivated? And then if I felt like I got it, I would know because hello, we could make shit happen, right? And so when it became trendy, I was like, okay, I'm gonna show you guys actually how to use this thing, because you're just, you're learning about your type, but you're missing the mark if you don't know all the things that are connected to you, like you said earlier, like me learning about the other types is actually beneficial because my aid tool, which is my main source is usually not the right tool for the job. So I better know how to use the other dynamics that are connected to me in order to be the best version of myself. And so people were like, Oh, my God, you've been using this this whole time. I'm like, yeah, let me show you how. And so people started bringing me into masterminds and group coaching programs. And, you know, big Fortune 500 companies are now having me on retainer as their executive coach using this language. Right? It's a (inaudible) language. I know. I mean, Google, Amazon, YouTube, Facebook, John Deere, have all brought me in to teach them this language. Because when we understand each other, we understand everything. And when we understand each other, we build credibility and trust, and we build a culture that's bulletproof. And that wins. So I was like, Who knew that the girl who showed up in rehab and told her therapist to fuck off when she said, I want you to do the Enneagram is now teaching it to millions of people all over the world.Lesley Logan 26:39  I mean, it's crazy. It's also amazing. It's also it's like, it definitely is like 'what we resist is there to assist' kind of a thing. You know, I've definitely, okay, but hold on. So you went from like, being in car sales and then in network marketing, and then to speaking in front of people? Are you a natural speaker? Did you like speaking in front of people? How do you prepare for that?Tracy O'Malley 27:00  You know, it's so funny, because I get a lot of people who want to be speakers and like, the best speakers are the ones who never wanted to be a speaker. Honestly, like, it was never about that. For me, I'm great at it. I mean, I'm not polished at all. Like, I'm not like, specially trained, but I can move a room and I can make an impact. In fact, I was the girl in college that would vomit. Before my communications class. In high school, I was really good in music and things like in sports. But if they wanted me to do like a solo, like, I'm like, I'm out. I don't want to be this. I like to fly under the radar. I like to be stealthy. And so when they started putting me on stages, I was like, this was never my calling. But I know that the impact I'm here to make is really important. And I'm going to get over my myself. Even as a little girl, when I was reading maps, like I grew up reading maps, for a reason. I always wanted to understand how we got here, and how do we get from here to there. And the fact that, you know, if you take my my whole life, and connect all the dots, they all mattered, and they all can, lays a trail for somebody else. And I still, like speaking I'm good at it. But it's not my favorite thing to do. It's not my greatest work. I'd much rather be in the trench with somebody. I'd much rather like, okay, like, let me impact you so you can go impact millions, right? I like to be more of this invisible, like 911 call, which I am to a lot of people. Like when hell's breaking loose, like my phone's ringing. And nobody knows about it. And I love that, like, that's my favorite work to do. But bringing the voice to something like this. And something like a story like mine, I think is really important to kind of make that impact. And because I'm not polished and because I'm real. I think we need more of that. So, I'll continue to do it.Lesley Logan 29:05  I completely agree. I think it's really true. I think it's really easy for people to see a polished speaker and go oh my gosh, they like, first of all, you'll hear a polished speaker tell a story similar to yours and go and you will forget how bad it was because just this polished thing and then you put yourself like that's, that's where I have to be. And it's like actually, like they had coaches, they had help. But also, people nowadays are more likely to want the realness and Chelsea Peitz, she's been on the podcast. She's a social media coach. And she actually said that there's, I forget the law, you guys, it's on her Instagram account, but like, there was like some sort of like, law of physics, but law does a different title, which is like, people are more likely to trust you if they if they already liked you. And then they see you make a mistake and they see you keep going. They're actually more likely to trust you. So in her example, it's like, you know, screwing up, you know, in your reel or having a misspeak and then correcting that in a podcast or speeche is actually more valuable to building trust than if you say it perfectly right every single time.Tracy O'Malley 30:05  That's one of the things that I love about your podcast, too. Like the be it till you see it. You just, I knew as a little girl this is what I was gonna be doing. It was never what I wanted. But I was like, okay, and you know, when I knew that I would be speaking and nobody was there. Nobody knew who the hell I was. But I knew that this calling was on my life. And sometimes when the calling is calling, and you're gonna get called out to get called up and, and all the things I was like, alright, well, I'm just going to speak as though I've been speaking to arenas. And I never have a signature keynote. I'm not saying not knocking anybody that does. But the reason I get asked back a lot is because you're gonna get something different every time and you never know what it's going to be. And I think people really appreciate that, because that's fucking life. Life on life's terms is really, really hard. And a pretty polished signature keynote isn't going to create transformation. It might make somebody cry, it might make somebody buy some shit. But I am here to accelerate transformation and really disrupt somebody's life so that they can step into who they were always designed to be. And I wish somebody had done that for me. And so, you know, when I get asked why I do what I do, it's like, I would have died for me back 23 years ago, when I really started diving in and understanding that the biology of who I am, the biography that I came from, the behaviors that didn't serve me anymore, and this backstory really were gonna matter for something. It was like, all right, bring it. Let's, let's see what's going to happen here. And it's still like, it's uncomfortable sometimes. But I know that I never remember anything that I say either. Ever.Lesley Logan 31:52  Yeah, I understand that. Especially because like, I also get like, a vulnerability hangover. Where am I after like, did I say the wrong thing? Did I say too much? You know what I mean? And it's like, well, what did I say? I don't even remember. So I'll have to just wait till it comes out. And I go was it too much? I don't know. To trust, it's right for that person. You know, I want to, for the person listening, it was like, okay, hold on, hold on, now. You, and it's like a be it till you see it story for you. How did you go from like, throwing up a communications class before you spoke in front of the room to like actually talking from arenas. Do have a mantra? Do you have a practice? Like, how did you get yourself to feel comfortable up there? Or do you still not?Tracy O'Malley 32:30  I'm very comfortable up there. Because it's never about me, right? I think humility, sobriety, my commitment to do the work every day. You know, one of the things that I learned and I carry with me every day, that, you know, I'm not like every day is a new clean slate. And what I have is a daily reprieve that's contingent on the maintenance of my spiritual condition, the maintenance of it, and every day, like that comes first. And so that humility of like, I know that my life is going to turn out beautiful, as long as I don't make it all about me, right? That I'm going to be safe. Yes, I'm going to get uncomfortable. But when we kind of approach, everything we do, it's like, who can I serve today, and not from a codependent like giving to get kind of way like, I'm here to be a vessel of change for him, and I will be beautifully, abundantly rewarded by that. The minute I stopped making it about me, this got a lot easier. There is no mantras because, and that's when when I do remember what I say, on a stage or on a podcast. It's because I made it about me, because it was like scripted, bullet pointed all the things but when I'm like, Who am I going to serve today? I know that if I impact the one person in the room that needs to hear this, they're gonna go out and make a difference in this world. And my job is done. Like it's amazing. It's amazing. And so just remembering that this is for the greatest good, and I will get mine. And it may not look the way that I want. But there isn't necessarily a mantra but humble, humble, humble, humble, humble, and doing my own work every day. It was funny. I've never branded myself, believe it or not. It's amazing that I've have this amazing business that I've had over the last decade because I've never done I'm so messy. There is no, nothing Lesley, have I ever done that is planned. I've never launched. I've never had any kind of marketing, nothing. It's all been pure instincts and intuition for me. And although that has served me very well and served the people really well. I also recognize that I'm not making the impact I'm making. I'm not making the impact I want to make because there's this visibility kind of breakdown in like people hear about me. In fact, you, you probably heard about me from our friend Jake. And then you went to my social and you're like, this doesn't, like,I hear how great she is. but this shit sucks. Facts. I mean, not saying that you said that. Lesley Logan 35:11  I didn't say that. But I was like, wow, Jake, she's not very, like, I just, you don't say enough about you? That's true. Tracy O'Malley 35:19  Bingo. Bingo. So I have hired a creative director who I fucking love. She's amazing. And we're excavating a lot of my story. And it's like, the vulnerability that comes with that, and like, I'm terrified of it and equally, really excited because it's bringing this whole collection of 52 years of my life. And why I was born to do this and why I was born to help other people kind of navigate the hard things in their life and why I'm the person to do that. It's very, very confronting for me. And also like, it feels like a big warm hug. And it feels like that little girl that was reading maps all by herself, trying to figure this shit out on her own, is all of a sudden saying, yay, all of this is going to help people in a way that we've always wanted. It's so cool. It's so cool.Lesley Logan 36:13  It's so cool. And I love that you bring up I mean, like the be it till you see it came from like, peopl always asking me like, how are you so confident? Like, how do you get all these things done? And I was like, what are you talking about? Like, I'm, like, scared all the time. Like, I'm constantly like, like, wondering, like, Is this, are we doing the right thing? Is this the right thing? But I always take the end in mind, and I work backwards. And then I act like the person, I do the things that that end would get me now. And that's where this came from. And I will always attribute it to Amy Cuddy, because she actually is the person who formulated that sentence for me in her TED Talk, like, she doesn't know me, and, you know, shout at anyone who knows Amy, we're trying to get a hold of her. But, it's interesting thing, like, we, it's tempting to put everything in a box from our childhood ago that was traumatic, that caused me to be like this, instead of actually going, okay, if it wasn't like that, I wouldn't be this person, I wouldn't have these tools, skill sets, and I wouldn't have had to do the things I've had to do to become the person I am. And also, there's a, there's a part of you in there that like was already doing these things in your own little way. And it's a strength you've had for much longer than you give yourself credit for. So I think it's just really, really cool. Like, I could talk to you forever, I see it really good. But we're gonna take a brief break and find how people can work with you. Lesley Logan 37:25  Alright, Tracy, so one of the things I love is that you're not all about just figuring out the number, you truly want to help people understand how to utilize this tool in their life. So they can literally make the impact they want to make. So can you tell everyone how they can work with you and find you?Tracy O'Malley 37:39  So there's a few different ways. I have a podcast that has over 400 episodes. So if you're like curious about this, before you go down the rabbit hole of all the other shit that's out there, just go listen to my podcast. I talk about leadership, you know, because I think this is all coming from this legendary leadership, this legend that you are created to be, right? And how we lead ourselves will impact how we can go out in the world and lead in our homes and out in the professional world as well. And so a lot of my teachings using the Enneagram is self leadership and then leading beyond you. You can go to TracyOMalley.com to start with the Enneagram. I always say it's a great starting point especially if you've been through anything in your life and you feel like you're all over the place. You're throwing a bunch of crap up at the wall hoping something sticks like my Enneagram assessment's over 95% accurate. Start there because then it kind of sifts through and you'll know, okay, this is what motivates me. This is the fear this is my blind spot. Like I at least I know that and you can meet yourself with more compassion instead of the whipping shame stick. So go there. We have a code for your audience. If you go to TracyOMalley.com and you get the assessment and use the code, be it, you'll get a beautiful little special discount.Lesley Logan 39:01  We love that. We love that, guys. I, this is, I think this is, first of all, 400 episodes. I'm gonna start binging on all of that just so I can learn more. And I think it's just really a gift that you've given everyone the amount of effort and work you've put out there. I hope more people get to hear about you because it's going to change their lives. So, B-E-I-T guys. We'll put the link in the show notes.Tracy O'Malley 39:27  Yeah, you know, I also go in I work with a lot of teams as well because what usually happens is once you kind of drink the Enneagram Kool-Aid, you can also do like a 90-minute deep dive. So it's kind of like, it's one thing to have the ticket, the Enneagram and understanding and having the right information. Hello, that's the cookie right there like having that, awesome. But I'm like somebody's like great. Now what do I do with this? I'm the girl who buys the fast pass everywhere I go. I need skipping lines like tell me what this means. And bring me to the front of the line. Like you can dive deep with me for 90 minutes. It's like 10 years of therapy, life frickin changing. So not only do you have the right information, I kind of tell you what to do with this in your life personally and professionally. So then what happens usually is once that happens, usually I get brought into a couple situations, or partners, or business partners, or besties, or parent-child situations, family situations, masterminds, groups, companies, like people are seeing the profound understanding that this can have like when you understand the profound effect it can have in cohesiveness and culture, personally and professionally, that they want everybody to do it. And I am the master facilitator for that. So if you have teams or organizations bring me in, it's like, I'm way more than the Enneagram y'all like, that's just the tool that I use. I have, you know, 23 years of really diving deep into a lot of modalities to really help you make sense of yourself and those that you love and lead.Lesley Logan 41:05  So cool. I have already, like, my mind's already thinking, my husband's gonna listen to this. And I'm like, maybe you know, have someone interpret.Tracy O'Malley 41:13  We can do a topical session podcast episode. I can do, like, therapy.Lesley Logan 41:16  Well, because you're, you know, like, we have the Strength Finders 2.0, which is always very helpful. Like, we use it for our team. But it's like, it's kind of like what you do and not the how to do it. Yeah, so like, the Enneagram is very much like on how you do things like the why behind the, the why, sorry, the why is more important because we work together. And so if someone's like, why are you doing it like that? And other times he's like, why are you getting so upset? I'm like, I think it's because I'm a seven and you're a four, three or whatever. Tracy O'Malley 41:42  Oh yea, like, seriously, my relationship that I'm in, my romantic relationship, there's no way it survives without my understanding and understanding how to integrate that because I would have probably throat punched him, you know, years ago, because he would have been so triggering to me when he's under stress, like under, but understanding that even when it feels personal, like it's not. And this is the beauty of that is like, yeah, this doesn't feel good. And like, I don't like your behaviors right now. But I understand it isn't, it isn't about me. And how can I serve you and be a better partner for you? And yeah, I had good friends of mine, clients, they had me come do their team, right? They did like a team retreat. And then they have a podcast as well and they're sex therapist, like, and then I did like a couple session on air with them. It was so much fun. Oh, and every once in a while I get calls. They're like, okay, he's acting like this, what does this mean?Lesley Logan 42:39  You have to have, you have to have like a Voxer membership, where people can just pay you like, hey, Tracy, hold on. Before I let you go, bold, executable, intrinsic, targeted steps people can take to be it till they see it. What do you have for us?Tracy O'Malley 42:52  So I think that, you know, we hear like, awareness is everything. Yeah, that's the first part. But most of us go from awareness to like, how do I fix this? How do I make this stop? Right? Especially in the times we live in, we go from this awareness to action, awareness to action, and we skip this really fucking important part of called acknowledgement, right? And this is where we connect the dots. And the Enneagram can help you connect them faster. So that's why I love this tool so much. But also really diving into biography not to stay stuck, you know, I used to be somebody like I'm not looking back, I'm not going that way. But we really have to be able to reverse engineer, how we got here, and where even some of the behaviors that you and I have had that worked out, okay, for us, weren't necessarily coming from the healthiest of places, they were more for survival. And, yes, that's fine. But that's not sustainable or fulfilling, and you'll burn out. Right? So taking the time in this understanding your biography, doing some timeline work, I really, strongly encourage people, whenever I'm working with my private VIP clients, I send them a journal. And I say, divide it into three sections. And I want you to take at least a minimum of a five-minute walk every day. And with no technology, no multitasking, no podcast, I don't want you listening to anything, I want you to sit at the couch, lace up your shoes and invite the child inside of you for a conversation. And that's kind of where my journey started to unpack my timeline. And so as you start walking, and inviting, it's just like any relationship, you have to be consistent and committed to it. And even doing some of this inner child work, which is really fucking important, you guys, really important. You have to be consistent with it. So in this journal, I have them divided into three different categories and the first section is like zero to seven. The second section is eight to like 13 and the second or the third section is 14 and up and any kind of thoughts, feelings, memories and emotions that come up, even the littlest things, put in one of those sections, and start building this timeline of understanding this is how you're kind of going back and rerouting and seeing how you took this route, how you took this route, how you took this route, and where some of those patterns that serve you really well came from dysfunctional places, and how you can flip the script because those things are your superpowers, but they can also be the kryptonite in your life as well. And it's just a matter of understanding the come from and that we can switch the come from when we can meet ourselves with compassion. And when we understand that compassion comes when we understand that, at the root of everything that we're doing is a beautiful, beautiful child that is running scared. And we can (inaudible) that part of who we are, that's when we can shift this. And those things that maybe are the kryptonite in your life can become the superpowers. Like,the kryptonite in my life has always been my intensity. Like seriously, I can blow up my life on a dime, I could blow up a situation. And like be it be very, very disruptive. That intensity hasn't gone anywhere. I can still blow some shit up. But now it's coming from a place of love, compassion, empathy, service, grace, rather than fear, insecurity, unworthiness, shame, guilt, and ego. So get a journal, do the three, take a walk five minutes a day, invite that child in. One of the things that I do every morning is I do the walk. And I invite you know, whatever you believe in, I believe in a god that's bigger than me, good orderly direction, whatever that means to you. And I say any thoughts, feelings, memories, emotions that need to come up that I need to address, and reconcile or embrace so that I can step into the calling that you have on my life. I'm available for it, even if it's uncomfortable, and even if it's exciting, right? So that honestly, I know it sounds a little woo. But I'm telling you this, this is an action item that most people, they say I've done the inner work, check. I've done my inner child work. You don't fucking stop it. It's until you're dead, you guys. Yeah, it's until you're dead. Because as you build this and create a safe place for your inner child to come out and play, guess what he or she's got a lot more to say. And if you're like me and have five decades under your life, she's been stuffing shit for a long, long time. So the safer that I have created an environment for her to speak freely, and let her freak flag fly. She's got all sorts of shit she's wanting to say. And the more confident she gets in speaking it the more I don't sabotage my own shit in my life today.Lesley Logan 47:41  Oh my gosh, Tracy, like I could listen to you forever. Thank goodness, you have four episodes? To do. But I, I feel like we barely scratched the surface. Tracy O'Malley 47:51  We barely did. Lesley Logan 47:51  Yeah, well, I know we'll be having you back. But also, I just know that every single person listening to this, the thing that's keeping them from being it till they see it is the inner work that they maybe think they've done or thought they did or have been avoiding doing. And I love all the things you've offered us. You guys, go listen to the podcast, go take a look at that blueprint and also like work with you because it will change your life and you can start to see people you know, just like not even as powerful as Enneagram but when I read the four tendencies, and I was like, hold on. Okay, so Brad's probably a rebel. I'm an upholder. That's an interesting combination as a couple, here we go. But then I sort of see different people and like, like some people, like this person is so annoying, and like they're a questioner, and it is annoying. And they will get in their own way, because they'll just keep asking, but you know, once you can start to like pinpoint things. And so I feel like having the Enneagram being a guiding light as a compass is gonna make your life so much easier with the people around you, the people you're trying to support. Every single person this episode I know is trying to change people's lives. And whether it's five people or 5 million people like you have to understand how to serve them. And so Tracy, you're just amazing. Thank you for your gifts and thank you for sharing with us. I can't wait to hear how people are going to use these tips in your life. Make sure you tag Tracy, tag the Be It Pod. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.Lesley Logan 49:06  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day.Lesley Logan 49:33  Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod. Brad Crowell 49:48  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 49:53  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co. Brad Crowell 49:58  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi. Lesley Logan 50:05  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals. Brad Crowell 50:08  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Bullies can't bully alone – they need other people to participate in their campaigns to shame, discredit, and exclude their targets. This means that we often have more power than we realize to stop bullying in the workplace. In Part 2 of Anne and Frances's conversation with Master Fixer and social psychologist Amy Cuddy, they explore smart, simple actions all of us can take to prevent bullying and shut it down in its earliest stages. If you haven't listened to Part 1 of this interview, make sure to first check out the previous episode, “How to spot a bully in the workplace.” What problems are you dealing with at work right now? Text 234-FIXABLE or email fixable@ted.com to be featured on the show. Transcript for Fixable are available at go.ted.com/fixablescripts

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Where do bullies go when they grow up? New research shows they just move from the playground to the workplace. This week, Master Fixer and social psychologist Amy Cuddy joins Anne and Frances to walk us through the strikingly stable patterns bullies follow to undermine and ostracize their targets – patterns that are way more common than you might think. Stay tuned for part two where Cuddy details actions you can take to stop bullies in next week's episode. What problems are you dealing with at work right now? Text 234-FIXABLE or email fixable@ted.com to be featured on the show. Transcripts for Fixable are available at go.ted.com/fixabletranscripts Mental Health at Work Index (https://mentalhealthindex.org/): A partnership of Columbia University's Mental Health + Work Design Lab (https://www.cugmhp.org/programs/mental-health-and-work-design-lab/) and One Mind at Work (https://onemindatwork.org/). This is an in-depth assessment tool created by a team of psychologists and business leaders to help companies measure and improve their mental health efforts in a scientific and data-driven way.

If you want to be able to stand up for yourself WITHOUT saying a word, then listen up homie!! Because there are sooo many PRACTICAL tips you can take from this episode to start feeling AND looking more confident - IMMEDIATELY! Today's guest is world-famous body language expert and Ted Talk speaker with over 68 million views, Dr. Amy Cuddy. Her writing, research, teaching, and speaking focus on how we can take control of our own thoughts, feelings, and body language to affect presence and performance, and today she's revealing the simple tricks you can use to command respect from others and be portrayed as genuinely confident.  In this episode, we're touching on: The importance of body language in conveying confidence Attractiveness and the role of posture in dating Dominant versus intimate body language Power posing and its impact on emotions The difference between genuine confidence and arrogance, and the double-standards women face Overcoming adult bullying  How to use powerful body language to change the way you FEEL and ACT, so you don't get taken advantage of or used The passive, powerless postures that you're unconsciously using that are BETRAYING you and what to do instead The REAL reason you're still hurting and lacking confidence yearsssss after that traumatic break-up with your high school boyfriend  So, if you're ready to start conveying your worth and show up with more confidence in your life, without having to SAY anything, get ready to take notes because today's episode is FILLED with actionable advice from Amy and it's just what you need to hear, homie! Get Your Copy of “Presence”: https://www.amazon.com/Presence-Bringing-Boldest-Biggest-Challenges-ebook/dp/B00U6DNZK8  BOMB ASS QUOTES FROM DR. AMY CUDDY: “True confidence is grounded in strong self esteem and the ability to take negative feedback and actually hear it right if it's constructive.” “Arrogance is sort of like a weapon that people use to prevent people from challenging them because they know there's nothing behind it. And so they've got to keep up that wall. And it does prevent people from challenging us, but not because they trust us, because they want to get rid of us." “Adopting powerful posture changes how you feel about yourself. And how you feel about yourself is going to really powerfully influence the body language you use in an interaction in a way that's organic."  "[Bring] your boldest self to your biggest challenges." Follow Dr. Amy Cuddy: Website: https://www.amycuddy.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-cuddy-3654034/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amycuddy/  Follow Me Lisa Bilyeu:  Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu  X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu SPONSORS: If you purchase an item using these affiliate links, Impact Theory may receive a commission. Try Audible FREE for 30 days! Just visit https://audible.com/woi or text woi to 500-500. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at https://betterhelp.com/women and get on your way to being your best self! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa now to grow your business–no matter what stage you're in. Get a free 30-day Alo Moves subscription by going to https://alomoves.com and use code WOI.  Right now, download NetSuite's popular KPI Checklist, designed to give you consistently excellent performance - absolutely free, at https://NetSuite.com/WOMEN. Go to https://tryviome.com/LISA and use code LISA to get 20% off your first 3 months, and take control of your gut health today! Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase by going to https://drinkAG1.com/lisa. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices