Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

#151: Feel like the kitchen is intimidating? You're not alone--but it doesn't have to stay that way! In this episode, Hailey (star of "Cooking at Kaleo") joins us to share simple, motivating tips to help you grow more confident cooking at home.Whether you want to eat healthier, save money, or just feel more capable, this conversation will give you a great place to start. Resources mentioned in this episode:Cooking at Kaleo YouTube videos: https://www.youtube.com/@haileypoints8825For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leadersTo fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-formPlease visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠Thanks for listening!

#150 Graduating from college is exciting… and overwhelming. You're stepping into a whole new world—maybe a new job, new city, or new stage of life. In this episode, Kim and Char welcome Madison to help you launch strong. From building spiritual habits in a busy schedule to finding real community (even if it means sitting by strangers at church), this conversation is packed with practical wisdom for single women in transition.Whether you're feeling lost, lonely, or just ready for what's next, this episode will help you root your identity in Christ, take initiative in your new season, and grow into the kind of woman who thrives—and loves her husband before she even has one.Resources mentioned in this episode:TheBibleRecap.com#126 Inside the Community of an Aspiring Good Guy#105 Can't I Just Watch Church Online?#91 Dealing With Change#49 Alcohol: To Drink or Not to Drink#25 Tips for Being the New GirlFor more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leadersTo fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-formFor video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠Thanks for listening!

#149 You're single, you don't have kids yet… so why should you care about parenting? In this episode, Kim and Leah sit down with Rose—a mom of four—to talk about what single women can do now to prepare for motherhood in the future. From learning the character of God to spending time with families you admire, this conversation is full of practical wisdom and real-life insights. Plus, Leah (who is about to become a mom herself!) gets some firsthand advice. Whether motherhood is years away or just around the corner, this episode will help you love your future kids before you even have them.Related Episodes:#18 Sarah's Episode on Marriage and Family#86 Enjoying God (ABCs of God's Character)#51 Leah as a single girl#110 Leah's Engaged!For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leadersTo fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-formFor video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠Thanks for listening!

#148 What if you could love your future husband before you even meet him? In this special episode, Kim and OG co-host Adrienne sit down with Kim's soon-to-be daughter-in-law, Kinsey, to talk about how she lived out the principles of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One—long before she knew she'd one day marry Kim's son!Kinsey shares her journey from chasing identity in sports to finding fulfillment in Christ, the intentional choices she made during her single years, and the prayers she didn't even realize were being answered. From battling doubts about her standards to trusting God's timing, Kinsey's story is filled with wisdom, encouragement, and a beautiful reminder that God writes the best love stories.If you're a single woman wondering how to prepare for a future marriage while staying faithful to God right where you are, this episode is for you!Key Takeaways:✨ Ways to love your future husband before you meet him✨ The power of spending time with God and trusting His character✨ Why surrounding yourself with godly women is a game-changer✨ The importance of staying faithful where God has placed youNo matter where you are in your journey, this conversation will encourage you to walk in faith, trust God's plan, and embrace the season you're in.Listen now and be inspired to love well—before “I do”!Related Resources:Fisher's Episode #99For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leadersTo fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-formFor video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠Thanks for listening!

#147 Emotions—do you ignore them or let them run the show?In this episode, we dive into why learning to process emotions with God is one of the most important areas to grow in as a single woman. Whether you tend to bottle up your feelings or let them dictate your decisions, understanding how to handle them biblically can transform not only your relationship with God but also your future marriage.Join Kim and Jena as Leah unpacks: • The two common ways people deal with emotions (and the pitfalls of both!) • What the Bible teaches about emotions and how Jesus modeled them • A simple process to help you name, feel, and surrender your emotions to God • How unprocessed emotions can affect your spiritual, mental, and even physical healthIf you want to grow in emotional maturity, deepen your intimacy with God, and prepare for a thriving marriage—this episode is for you!Listen now and learn how to love your future husband before you even meet him by stewarding your emotions well today.Resources mentioned in this episode:Feelings Wheel https://feelingswheel.com/Search for Verses Resource https://www.openbible.info/topics/valuePraying Our Tears Article https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=DxOWWWVDGD0Steps to Process Our Emotions:Copyright Leah St.Germain/Catherine Leach.Printed with Permission PrayName the EmotionsFeel the EmotionDescribe the Painful Event How It Made You FeelLies You Could Be Believing (about God and Self)Truth From ScripturePray and Ask for God's Help To Believe What's TrueShare with a Trusted FriendFor more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leadersTo fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-formFor video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠Thanks for listening!

#146 What does it mean to have faith in Christ? How does it relate to relationships and marriage? What will help your faith thrive in the seasons ahead of you?Listen in as co-hosts Charlotte and Jena sit down with Kim as she reflects on her 40-year spiritual journey and shares candid insights on maintaining a strong faith in all of life's challenges.Whether you're navigating the complexities of modern dating, seeking purpose in singleness, or striving to deepen your spiritual walk, Kim's experiences offer practical wisdom and encouragement for your journey.Resources mentioned in this episode:#86 Growing Closer to God#68 Processing Your HurtsFor more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leadersTo fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-formFor video clips, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠Thanks for listening!What happens when you have two single women and two married women discussing important topics for single women?You have the Season 8 Podcast Team!In this episode, you'll get to know our newest podcast team member, and you'll be able to listen to our discussion on the loudest, most influential voice in each of our lives.Click ⁠here⁠ to find out more about the bookmarks mentioned on the podcast.

#145 A lasting, enjoyable marriage doesn't just happen--it starts with how you date. If you follow the same dating patterns as the culture, you'll likely end up in the same place: frustration, heartbreak, and disappointment. But what if there's a better way?In this episode, Kim and Jena sit down with Colin and Karisa to uncover three common dating pitfalls that can derail your path to a lasting, God-honoring marriage. Get ready for real talk, practical wisdom, and the kind of advice that could change your love life forever!Related Episodes:#28 Setting Boundaries in Dating#28B Bonus Boundaries Episode#107 K-I-S-S-I-N-GFor more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leadersTo fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-formOur instagram page is at ⁠@sixonesis⁠Thanks for listening!

#144: For years, Anna convinced herself that love wasn't something she needed--playing it cool, staying unattached, and pretending she didn't care. But deep down, she longed for a real, God-honoring relationship.As friends around her found love, got engaged, and started families, she found herself battling jealousy instead of joy...until one day she made a decision to love love even when it wasn't happening to her. Join us as Anna shares four ways she's been able to do that.Resources mentioned in this episode:For a copy of Leah'sBoyfriend Devo, please email Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com.Related Episodes:#82: Happy Valentine's Day! (Part 1)#114: Happy Valentine's Day! (Part 2)#2: Is it Love-If, Love-Because, or Love-Regardless?For more information about the podcast and theLoving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.To learn more about StuMo, visithttps://www.stumo.orgTo learn more about Downline, visithttps://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leadersTo fill out an interest form for Downline, visithttps://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-formFor video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠Thanks for listening!

In this bonus episode, Kim sits down with her friend Tracy Baack, who has gone from reader to romance writer! They discuss how Tracy found her way into writing, the role of her faith in her storytelling, and why she chooses to write closed-door romances. Tracy shares what makes this genre unique, the misconceptions people might have, and why it resonates with so many readers. We also talk about faith-driven relationships, the importance of emotional boundaries when reading romance, and what shapes the love stories she tells. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about love, faith, and the power of storytelling to encourage single Christian women in their pursuit of meaningful relationships. Tracy's website is tracybaack.com Here's a link specifically to Love and Other Goals and Tracy's other books: https://a.co/d/fzVYiIX Her Instagram is @authortracybaack https://www.instagram.com/authortracybaack?igsh=MWR5NXV0bmkydzlyZg== Other bookstagrammers on instagram: @krystals.book.nook shares only closed-door romance https://www.instagram.com/krystals.book.nook?igsh=czJzNDJ1M2pyOHdt @annascleanreads also shares only closed-door recs https://www.instagram.com/annascleanreads?igsh=a2MweG50N240a2Zu @parismaereads shares a wider variety of books, but she includes content guides and pages to skip on romances that are not closed-door https://www.instagram.com/parismaereads?igsh=MXhjYWRjdXZxbzljag== @thereallifebookreviewer is a popular big account that shares a wide variety of books with spice ratings and chapters to skip. She reads more of the popular trending books, so this is a good account to follow if people are wanting to know what to skip in popular books https://www.instagram.com/thereallifebookreviewer?igsh=NmhkNGswdDloczF6 For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#143: In this conversation, Kim, Jena, and Charlotte discuss music. Jena shares some compelling insights about how influential music can be. Because of music's powerful influence, she passes along some helpful truths and principles to guide us to detox our playlist.  "If music is influential, then when I'm listening to music, it is influencing and affecting my life- for better or for worse. This makes me want to be thoughtful and wise about what music I consume." --Jena Resources: Clearplay.com Vidangel.com William Augusto: Soaking in His Presence For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#142: Our guests today are Cat and Jeremy Leach. If you've listened to the podcast for a while, you'll probably remember them. Cat has been on numerous times. The episode they did while engaged, "Why Waiting Was Worth It," is in the TOP TEN of ALL of our episodes. Cat and Jeremy boast a hefty single girl and single guy resume,' so they understand singleness well. Now that they are married and have become parents, they share in this episode the habits they formed in singleness that have made their marriage thrive. Resources mentioned in this episode: Episode #40: Cat talks about traditions Episode #71: Why Waiting Was Worth It Episode #107: Cat talks about kissing For the Values Mining Resource, please email Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

Repost #111: Have you made some goals for 2025? Is one of them to get married? If so, you need to listen to this episode! Kim has a goal-setting gene in her DNA, but Adrienne and Leah don't. Join in on their discussion, where Kim shares her best insights about successful goal-setting to help you move toward becoming who you want to be in 2025.  Why you shouldn't have a goal to get married this year How many goals should you set? The importance of setting SMART goals What goal-setting looks like ⁠⁠ The LifeScore Assessment ⁠https://assessments.fullfocus.co/lifescore/⁠ Plant Nanny App ⁠https://apps.apple.com/us/app/plant-nanny-cute-water-tracker/id1424178757⁠ The Bible Recap ⁠https://www.thebiblerecap.com/start⁠ Want more? Read the book! ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Your-Husband-Before-Even/dp/1944298339/ref=sr_1_1?crid=276N9TGK94SI4&keywords=loving+your+husband+before+you+even+have+one&qid=1705967769&sprefix=loving+your+%2Caps%2C145&sr=8-1⁠

Repost #40: The Christmas countdown is on, and our guest this week LOVES Christmas! She knows how to make it special whether she has a man or not. Cat joins us on this episode to share her insights and best tips for making this your best Christmas yet! Resources mentioned: Cat's Instagram: @catleach13 She Reads Truth advent study BethlehemStar.com The Nativity Story movie Adrienne's Instagram Kim/Podcast Instagram: @sixonesis Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book

Repost #74: The holidays can be a complicated season to navigate, especially as a single woman.  Whether it's a conversation topic we want to bring up ... or a conversation we'd rather avoid at all costs ... we all need help getting prepped to go home for the holidays! Today our guest is Ryan O'Sullivan, and she's going to be giving us 3 seasoned tips on how to prepare to spend time at home this holiday season. For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from the podcast, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

Today, Kim is in the studio to give you a quick update. We know consistency is key in podcasting, so she's sharing a few upcoming changes. Change #1: Due to an unexpected health issue Kim had this past week, we are starting our holiday break a little earlier than planned. Like we did during our summer break, we'll repost some past episodes that we don't want you to miss. Change #2: Kim is fine health-wise, but she needs to slow things down a bit, so starting this week, we are moving to an every-other-week posting schedule.  We'll kick off our new season on January 14. We have some incredible guests already lined up for the Spring! I'm looking forward to sharing them with you.  We still have a lot to talk about, so I hope you'll make plans to join us. Have a great Christmas!! For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#141: This week is Thanksgiving, so it's the perfect backdrop to discuss becoming a more thankful person. We have the whole podcast crew on this episode, and we are sharing our best tips and truths for growing in thankfulness and gratitude. One of the choices you can make as a single woman to invest in yourself and a future marriage is to develop your character. There are many things you can't change, but you can change your character. God has a part in this process and we do too. We hope you will be spurred on to be a more thankful person, not only this week, but all year long! Resources mentioned in this episode: Char's Roommate's Gratitude Journal 30-day Gratitude Challenge Revive Our Hearts website Choosing Gratitude by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#140:  Kennon Vaughan joins us again on this episode, but this time, he brings his wife, Kathryn. Together, they help us wrestle with those situations when we don't understand what God is doing. If you wonder why God hasn't brought your husband yet, this episode is for you! Resources mentioned in this episode: #118: Discipleship and the Single Girl with Kennon Vaughan To learn more about Downline, visit ⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders⁠ To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit ⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form⁠ For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#139: Group hangouts can play an important role in a single woman's social life. Sometimes, they can be life-giving, but sometimes, they can leave us feeling insecure and empty, especially when we're competing for a guy's attention. If this has ever been a struggle, this is your episode! Dianna works with college students at the University of Texas in Austin, and she is the perfect guest for this discussion. She is godly, fun, others-focused, and a slay single queen! You'll want her to show up at your next group hang! Resources mentioned in this episode: Episode #131: Navigating Loneliness For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#138: Our friend Austin takes the hot seat in this episode and gives a Christian guy's take on the four most unattractive qualities in single women. Austin shares his perspective on how these qualities affect men's attraction and relationship dynamics. You'll be challenged and encouraged to pursue your relationship with God and personal growth. For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#137:  In this episode, you'll have an opportunity to meet Greer. She wrestled with the Lord in college and decided to go her own way...until she got pregnant. We hope this episode provides encouragement, hope, resources, and practical help for those facing an unplanned pregnancy...and help and encouragement for the friends who are walking alongside them. To connect with Greer or Kim, please email Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com. For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#136: In this episode, Kim and Leah welcome Dr. Joy Skarka, author of Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy. They discuss the journey of freedom for those struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. They explore Dr. Joy's personal freedom journey, her new book, and the growing issue of pornography among women. The conversation emphasizes the damaging effects of pornography, the misconception that marriage will solve sexual struggles, and the spiritual aspects of sexuality. Listeners are encouraged to steward their sexual desires and seek support from trusted mentors. Dr. Joy offers hope and practical advice for women navigating these challenges, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles. Introduction to Sexuality and Relationships Dr. Joy's Journey and Book Insights Understanding Sexuality and Purity The Growing Issue of Pornography Among Women The Damaging Effects of Pornography The Misconception of Marriage as a Solution The Spiritual Aspect of Sexuality Stewarding Sexual Desires Practical Tips for Managing Sexual Urges Navigating Conversations About Pornography Encouragement for Women Struggling with Pornography Final Thoughts and Words of Hope Resources mentioned in this episode: Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn & Shame to Authentic Intimacy, Dr. Joy Skarka & Dr. Juli Slattery Sex and the Single Girl, Dr. Juli Slattery Rethinking Sexuality, Dr. Juli Slattery authenticintimacy.com Joy's Instagram: @joyskarka @skarkafamily Related Episodes: #48 What Porn Doesn't Tell You (w/Joy Skarka) #77 Single With a Sex Drive, Part 1 (w/Joy Skarka) For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#135: Drew and Heather enjoy a marriage characterized by communication, unity, and teamwork. Are those qualities you'd like to have in a marriage someday? If so, you'll want to hear how vision and calling have helped them. In this episode, Leah and Kim delve into their story. You'll hear insights on how calling and vision: formed during their single years guided them in dating gave them clarity when they met provided direction as newlyweds and how it continues to impact their marriage, family, business, community, and church For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#134: Finding your identity in Christ is one of the critical choices a young woman can make while she's single, and it will have a big impact now and in a future marriage. Michelle Fries joins Kim and Jena on this episode to discuss her journey in finding identity--her true self. Michelle is the author of You Are Not a Mistake: The Gift of Sacred Identity from the God Who Says You Belong.  Michelle and Kim have known each other since they were single girls, and they have done a lot of life alongside each other. Michelle's story will draw you in and inspire you to find your true self in God. Resources mentioned in this episode: Michelle's website ---> https://michellefriesblog.com/ Michelle's instagram--> https://www.instagram.com/michelle.t.fries/ FB: Walking in Sacred Identity w/ Michelle Fries For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#133: Opportunities to attend conferences usually pop up this time of year. Are you thinking about going to one? If you are a single girl, we think you should go! In this episode, Kim, Jena, and Char discuss three main benefits single girls can experience at a conference. Resources mentioned in this episode: Episode #131: Navigating Loneliness For more info about attending or volunteering at SMC, reach out to the StuMo staffer from your campus, or you can contact us at https://www.kimvollendorf.com/contact For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#132: Among Gen Z'ers, 42% have been diagnosed with a mental health disorder, and the number one contributing factor to this mental health epidemic is the influence of digital technology and social media. In this episode, Leah, Char, and Kim get real about our relationship with our phones. Leah, who is pursuing a master's degree in clinical mental health, leads our discussion with some alarming statistics. She shares four ways our smartphones hurt us and four practical ways to fight back. Resources mentioned in this episode: The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt one sec app Episode #129: Three Things I'm Glad I Did When I Was Single For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠⁠@sixonesis⁠⁠ To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form⁠⁠⁠⁠ Thanks for listening!

#131: Ever felt lonely? Yeah, we have too. In this episode, Kim, Leah, and Jena explore the topic of loneliness. We each share our personal experiences with loneliness, and Jena shares three essential insights about loneliness and some practical tips for navigating it well. We emphasize the importance of turning to God and building a solid relationship with Him to navigate loneliness. Our discussion offers valuable insights and encouragement for those who are experiencing loneliness. Here's the Downline interest form link: https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form To learn more about Downline, visit their website: ⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders⁠ To see video clips of this episode, please check out Kim's instagram ⁠⁠@sixonesis⁠⁠. For more information about the podcast or the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. Resource Mentioned: Finding God in My Loneliness by Lydia Brownback Thanks for listening!

#130: Being around good, godly men can change how you view guys and relationships. Knowing that good guys still exist can influence the type of guy you're interested in and help you WAIT for that type of guy! In this episode, you'll meet Simeon, Kim's middle son. He's a single guy working in Phoenix, and he's sharing his best insights on growing in generosity. It was a fun episode to record, and Simeon brought co-host Adrienne out of "retirement" to do it with us! For more information about the podcast or the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com. Aspiring Good Guy Episodes: #126 Daniel #99 Fisher #65 Blake #47 Tyler #26 Logan #22 Austin

#129: We love asking married women, What are the best decisions you made when you were single--what made the biggest impact on your singleness, walk with God, and your marriage today? Getting their perspective is GOLD. In this episode, Kim and Leah talk with Courtney, a married woman who has some great insights about maximizing your single years. The Wonderful Spirit-Filled Life by Charles Stanley For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

#128: Welcome to Season 8! You're not crazy--this is the same episode from last week. We had some technical difficulties, so we're calling last week a *soft* launch and giving this episode another shot to reach all our platforms. We want you to get to know our newest single co-host and hear our discussion on why the Bible matters in both singleness and marriage. Char's Episode #43 Making Time for God To see video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page @sixonesis For more information about the bookmarks mentioned, the podcast overall, and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com

#128: What happens when you have two single women and two married women discussing important topics for single women? ...You have the Season 8 Podcast Team! In this episode, you'll meet our newest podcast team member and listen to our discussion on the Bible is the loudest, most influential voice in each of our lives. Click here to find out more about the bookmarks mentioned on the podcast. For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com. For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page @sixonesis Learn more about StuMo Learn more about Downline

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! I know we said that LAST week was the LAST one in this series, but we just had to squeeze in ONE more! This week, we are reposting one of our most listened-to episodes. Gracen was our guest on Episode #4: Having Sex Before Marriage Is No Big Deal, Right? It takes a unique woman (and a unique husband) to open up about this topic, and Gracen shares insights other married women are often hesitant to share. Gracen offers both TRUTH and HOPE from her own experience. If you regret the sexual decisions you've made, if you find it difficult to maintain sexual integrity, or if you just need some encouragement to trust God in this area, this is your episode! Related Episodes: #4B: More of Gracen's Story #6: What Should I Share, and When? #56: Sexuality & Shame #77: Single With a Sex Drive #103: Sex and the Love Hormone #104: Starting Over in Purity With My Boyfriend #115: Resolving Your Past Thanks again for joining us for our summer series! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

Welcome to the LAST episode of our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! Kim pulled her mentor card for this episode and chose to repost Episode #96: How to Handle Your Conflicts. Many of our listeners are starting off the semester with new roommates, and we want you to have the best year ever. The best way to handle conflict is to be prepared for it. Walking down an aisle won't automatically make you good at resolving issues with your husband. Why not learn some skills now? Jessilyn is here for it, and she's sharing some practical steps for us to handle our conflicts well. Thanks so much for joining us for our summer series! We hope you have enjoyed it. For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! Rounding out Kim's top 3 is Episode #71: Why Waiting Was Worth It. Jeremy and Cat know a thing or two about waiting, so we brought them on to encourage you in your waiting season. If you are a single woman needing advice on how to wait well in your singleness, you'll love this episode. Thanks so much for joining us for our summer series! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! Episode #86, Enjoying God, was one of Jena's top 3 picks. In it, Kim shares her best tips to help you enjoy your relationship with God. Shout out to Bill Bright of CRU for the "Because God is..." idea mentioned in this episode. If you are interested in a bookmark, please Venmo $2 to @Kim-Vollendorf and then send your address to Kim via email or DM her on insta at @sixonesis. Packs of bookmarks are available at www.kimvollendorf.com, where you can also learn more about the podcast and the book behind it.

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! Rounding out Leah's top three is Episode #89: What if I'm a Woman With a Strong Personality? Leah's sister, Bekah, has a "Commander" personality, while her husband, Rob, is more laid-back. Listen in and discover how that has worked for them in their ten years of marriage. They discuss questions like: What does submission in marriage look like for a strong woman? What if I'm not quiet and I have strong opinions? What if the guy I marry is more laid-back than I am? Thanks so much for joining us for our summer series! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com. Related Episodes: #88 "I Don't Want to Make My Husband a Sandwich" #92 What It's Like for a Godly Guy to Lead #93 Getting Guys to Step Up and Lead

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes. Kim chose to repost Episode #92, which is about men and Biblical leadership. In it, Kim and her husband, Sean, have an honest conversation about what it is like for a husband to lead in his marriage and family. If you've ever wondered why guys don't take more initiative in relationships or if you have struggled with the whole idea of a husband leading a family, you won't want to miss this episode! Thanks so much for joining us! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com. Related Episodes: #93: Getting Guys to Step Up and Lead #88: "I Don't Want to Make My Husband a Sandwich" #89: What if I'm a Woman With a Strong Personality?

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! Our newest single girl co-host, Jena, chose Episode #101, Mistakes Single Girls Make, as one of her top three favorite episodes. Jen, our guest in this episode, discusses the top mistakes she sees single girls make. If you would rather learn from others instead of making the same mistakes yourself, listen in to Jen's seasoned, wise perspective. Thanks so much for joining us! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! Episode #66 made both Leah and Adrienne's top three favorites. In it, Kim shares four reasons why he's not calling to ask you out. Maybe you can relate...Have you ever spent time with a guy and noticed a connection and some chemistry, but then you were really puzzled as to why he never called or did anything about it? This is a discussion we don't want you to miss! Thanks for listening in! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! This week is another one of Adrienne's top three favorites. It's Episode #32, where Sam shares insights about gossip. We are all familiar with gossip; many of us have been on the giving and receiving end of gossip. We know gossip hurts others, so why do we do it? It can be tempting to spill the tea, but the truth is gossip negatively impacts every area of our lives. It hurts others, and it damages our character and our witness for Christ. Sam helps define what gossip is and why we gossip and shares practical tips on how to fight the temptation to gossip so that we can be different from the world around us. Thanks for listening in! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! In this repost of Episode #68, Kim shares a step-by-step method to process both little and big hurts openly, honestly, and in a healthy way. This is one of Kim's favorite episodes because she didn't learn this skill until her 40s, and it would have saved her a lot of trouble if she had learned it earlier in life. No one goes through life without experiencing some hurt. Do you know how to process these hurts in a healthy way? Processing your hurts is a skill you need in life, whether single or married. The ability to handle the hurts you experience will greatly impact the quality of your single years and your marriage later. Thanks for listening in! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com. Recources: Victory Over the Darkness Book Feelings Wheel

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! This week's episode is one of Jena's top three--The KU girls in her bible study made sure she put it on the list! It's Episode #51: How Insecure Are You? Leah was our guest on this one, so get ready for one of her diagnostic tests to find out how insecure you are. Listen in as we talk about: the most common areas we experience insecurity how to identify when you feel insecure how to speak truth over our insecurities You will walk away from this episode realizing that you are not alone in your insecurities, and you'll be empowered to fight for true security in Christ. Thanks for listening in! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! This week's episode is one of Leah's top three. It's the episode where Jena shares her insights about growing in contentment and thriving in her thought life (#53). Jena is a single woman with a lot of seasoned wisdom to offer, and in this episode, she shares six practical tips that have helped her. Jena is our newest podcast host, and we hope you'll enjoy getting to know her better. Thanks for listening in! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book version of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

Welcome to our SUMMER SERIES, where we are reposting our favorite episodes! This week's episode is one of Adrienne's top three. It's the episode where she and her husband Dave talked about boundaries (#28). We often mention boundaries on the podcast, and Adrienne and Dave have some great insights. They discuss the boundaries they set while they were dating so they could honor God in their relationship. They open up about their experience and the decisions they made, how they stuck to them, and why. We hope through their openess and honesty, you'll gain some good insights and practical ideas so that you can decide how you will honor God in your dating relationships. We don't want you to miss this episode! Note: For part 2, visit Episode #28B Thanks for listening in! For more information about the podcast, podcast team, or the book version of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

#127: It's been a while since we have had a Q & A episode, so we thought we'd bring it back to wrap up Season 7. We have had a lot happen this spring, and for this episode, the gang's all here! We are welcoming back Leah from her honeymoon and Adrienne from her maternity leave…AND we are OFFICIALLY welcoming Jena, our newest member of the podcast team! How do you experience God fulfilling desires before marriage? How can single girls experience completeness before marriage? How can you be contentment in singleness when lots of friends are getting into relationships? How do you guard your heart when you have a crush? How do we make the most of singleness? How to pursue godly friendships with guys? For more information about the podcast or the Loving Your Husband Before you Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com. Related Episodes: #112 What if I'm Not a Baby Person? #62 Is Your Crush Out of Control? #28 Setting Boundaries in Dating

#126: Being around good, godly men can change how you view guys and relationships. Knowing that good guys exist can influence the type of guy you're interested in and help you WAIT for that type of guy! In this episode, you get to meet Daniel. He's a single guy working in Houston, and he's sharing how community has been a game-changer for him. He opens up about the accountability, ministry, and friendships, he's found in community. He also gives some great insights about navigating guy/girl friendships in a healthy community, and it's really good! For more information about the podcast or the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com. Related Episodes: #22 Austin #26 Logan #47 Tyler #65 Blake #99 Fisher #28 Dave and Adrienne's story #94 Girl/Guy Friendships If you would like a copy of the accountability questions Daniel mentioned, please send an email to kim@kimvollendorf.com.

#125 What if your future self could come back and give you some single-girl advice? Wouldn't that be helpful? Well, we all know that won't happen, BUT we have the next best thing... We've invited one of Kim's favorite single friends, who is no longer single, to the podcast to share what she wished she had known during her single years.  Related Episodes: #4: Having Sex Before Marriage is No Big Deal, Right? #27: Will Hookups Help Your Marriage? #105 Starting Over in Purity With My Boyfriend #115 Resolving Your Past Thanks for listening! For more information about the podcast or the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

#124: What if you could love your husband before you even have one by praying for him--before you even knew who he was? That's what Molly did as a single woman, and in this conversation, she shares with Kim what praying for her one-day husband looked like... and how God miraculously answered it years later! You'll be encouraged by her story, and you'll be motivated to start praying! Sample Feelings Wheel--> https://feelingswheel.com/ Related Episodes: #11 Can Prayer Make a Difference #20 God, Are You Listening? #50 One in TWO Million: RJ and Kim's Story For more information about Kim, the podcast, or the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com. For more information about The Brook, please visit https://www.thebrook.city Thanks for listening! Pray for Kazakhstan--> https://prayercast.com/prayer-topic/kazakhstan/ Pray for Zimbabwe--> https://prayercast.com/prayer-topic/zimbabwe/

#123: Things aren't as they should be. We live in a broken world, and because of that, families experience broken patterns of relating to each other. Parents are broken. Children are broken.  It's wise for single women to resolve some of these broken patterns of relating with parents and change what they can before they repeat the broken patterns they've experienced. That's the conversation we are starting today. Kim is joined by her friend Jess, who shares some surprising insights from Moses' life. Who knew that Moses could be such an encouragement as we work toward healthy relationships? Doing what we can to have healthy family relationships allows us to invest in ourselves and in our future marriage– it's kinda like loving your husband before you even have one! Related Episodes: #68 Processing Your Hurts For more information about Kim, the podcast, or the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com. For more information about the Traveling Team, please visit https://www.thetravelingteam.org/

#122: We know modesty can be a struggle. What exactly is modesty? What does modesty look like? Why would a girl want to be modest? To answer your questions, we thought it would be helpful to discuss modesty with a young woman who recently started dressing modestly. Chanyng studied dance at the University of Arizona and joined Kim and Jena on this episode for a candid discussion. Chanyng's instagram--> @chanyngfloyd and @bakewithchan Podcast instagram--> @sixonesis Podcast website--> kimvollendorf.com Book--> Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Related Episodes: #14 What's the Big Deal About Modesty?

#121: You've been single a long time. The guy who is paying attention to you isn't following Christ. You know you aren't on the same page spiritually, but he's really cute and fun. You wonder if you could be a good influence on him. Singleness has worn you down, and it's tempting to think that if the two of you got married, it wouldn't be such a big deal.  Well, we get it, and we are here for you. It's important to understand the challenges a marriage faces when a couple isn't on the same page spiritually, and that's what we are talking about today! Clark is a pastor, and he's seen the struggles of these spiritually "mismatched" marriages. His wife Pam joins us for a realistic look at what marriage is like when one is following Christ and one isn't.

#120: Old friends Kristen, Kathy, and Leigha join Kim on this episode to reflect on their decision to start following Christ in college. After more than thirty years, has it been worth it? What has kept them from quitting? What advice do they have for single girls? What advice would they give their 19-year-old selves? This episode went a little longer than normal, so grab a cup of tea and make time to soak up some wisdom from some women who have gone before you. Related Episodes: #68 Processing Your Hurts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/processing-your-hurts/id1551403877?i=1000580756739 The Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book https://www.kimvollendorf.com/