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Hey Stepparents,It's common knowledge that society creates roles you are expected to play, whether based on your gender, your job, or other stereotypes that put you in a box.  Today we're speaking with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani about navigating your multi-faceted nature to embrace your whole self.Kristina will be talking about her new book, expected to drop any minute, called “Becoming Flawesome,” where she shares the journey of her personal transformation on the path to happiness. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/66.Topics Covered:- Introduction to Kristina- How much we are bombarded by expectations - Social roles and stereotypes surrounding women - How Kristina's book came to be- What it means to be happy with your life- Action Items- Links to Kristina (including how to get a free book chapter!)Click to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.”If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also, if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,Despite rising tensions around the holidays and the buzz of annual family gatherings straining your already taxed energy, the familiarity and nostalgia of holiday traditions brings a certain warmth. However, if you're estranged from a loved one or from a person who was once close to you, this time of year can amplify that pain. Today we're discussing estrangement. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenitng.com/65. Covered Topics:- My Story of Estrangement- Having Your Own Back- Radical Acceptance- Being with Uncomfortable Emotions- Why Uncomfortable Feelings Are Difficult to Tolerate- Showing Up Authentically- Taking Responsibility- Listening and Hearing- Action ItemsAnd if you continue to struggle, schedule and assessment call with me at synergisticstepparenting.com/work. During the call you'll gain clarity about the root cause of the issue and identify the next best steps to move your towards the relationship you want.Until next time, be well!Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hey Stepparents,Happy New Year! I've been out unexpectedly with a bad cold and some medical issues all of which prevented me from being able to produce the valuable content that I aim to provide you with week to week. So, I've taken the time to tend to my well-being and have some great episodes lined up for you with special guests sharing their insights and resources and addressing topics that don't get enough attention. Today's conversation is no exception with returning special guest, Carrie from Beating Disaster, back to discuss how to make and follow through on choices around safety. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/64. Covered Topics:- Introducing Carrie- Making safe choices related to an environment and different types of relationships- The fastest way to make a shift- The danger of assigning labels to people- What to do before leaving a relationship or a situation- The importance of being where you're at- Changing themes in your lifeSubscribe to my email list! You'll be notified as soon as new episodes drop so you don't miss a thing. When you subscribe you'll get the guide to Resolve 5 Most Common Stepparenting Challenges in 5 Days. The guide has actionable tips related to what we've discussed in this episode.Until next time, be well!Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,The month of October is the of Domestic Violence Awareness and National Bullying Prevention.  As you know, recently, I did a few episodes on raising awareness around domestic violence where I and a guest discussed specific examples of what domestic abuse can look like, how it feels and its common patterns. But I want to provide you guys with more tips around important considerations to get clear on for yourself as well as for your children as you teach them about safety in relationships. So, I'm thrilled to be joined by Carrie, a defense and violence prevention expert from Beating Disaster.Find the show notes for this episode at synergiticstepparenting.com/63.Covered Topics: - Introducing Carrie- Why talk to kids about relationship safety - How to talk to kids about relationship safety- Common mental blocks in children's books on safety- The benefits to you of teaching kids about safety- Action ItemsClick here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,As the Thanksgiving holiday is sneaking up on us, I like to steel quiet moments of reflection on the year thus far. And I've noticed what I am overcome with most in these moments is the feeling of gratitude.  Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/62.Topics Covered: - Things I'm feeling grateful for this year- Perspective of Gratitude- The benefit in taking on a perspective of gratitude even in challenging situations- My personal experience with taking the perspective of gratitude- Action ItemsUntil next time, be well!Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hey Stepparents,I'm excited to bring to you highlights from my conversation where Allison Dagney interviewed me about the dynamics between a stepparent and a parent and how to navigate these differences to best support the kids. Allison is a covert abuse survivor, author of When Tears Leave Scars – her personal memoir – and a rapid reprogramming coach for others who have been through the painful experience of emotional abuse. In this episode we discuss seeing the stepparent as a source of support, the value of the stepparent's perspective, being transparent with kids about flaws, and loyalty binds.  Get comfy and settle in for this conversation where we share insights and anecdotes about how we've navigated this tricky balance in our blended families. It'll be worth the listen. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparnting.com/61. Topics Covered:- Introducing Allison K. Dagney- Stepparents aren't replacing the parents, they are additional support - Set a positive intention from all angles - The value and skill of taking in the stepparent's perspective - Why it's critical to be transparent with kids about your flaws - Children's loyalty binds- Don't speak ill of your stepchild's/child's caregivers - Don't stifle children from being their authentic self - Action ItemsClick here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hey Stepparents,I'm excited to bring to you Part 2 of my conversation with Allison Dagney, who is a covert abuse survivor, author of When Tears Leave Scars – her personal memoir – and a rapid reprogramming coach for others who have been through the painful experience of emotional abuse.  In this episode Allison shares why she never wanted to have a conversation with her ex, a key tactic to look out for, what happens when you're in an unhealthy relationship, and the best thing to do if you or a loved one is being emotionally abused.  Get comfy and settle in for this penetrating conversation that is sure to give you more acumen about your intimate relationships. It'll be worth the listen. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/60. Covered Topics:- Introducing Allison Dagney- Why Allison never wanted to have a conversation with her ex- A key tactic to look out for- What happens when you're in an unhealthy relationship- The best thing to do if you or a loved one is being abused- The recap- Action Items- Links to AllisonClick here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hey Stepparents,I've been under the weather and lost my voice and therefore wasn't able to record portions of my episode which is why I haven't put out an episode for a couple of weeks. But I'm thrilled to be feeling better and to pick right up where we left off.In my last episode, I shared my story of covert abuse, discussing what I endured, how I got there, contributing factors, as well as what my realizations, takeaways and outlook has been since healing from this experience. Find the show notes at synergisticstepparenting.com/58.Today I'm thrilled to bring to you an interview with Allison Dagney, who is a covert abuse survivor, author of When Tears Leave Scars – her personal memoir – and a rapid reprogramming coach for others who have been through the painful experience of emotional abuse.In this episode we clarify what emotional abuse is, what keeps the victim in the relationship, how abusers find their victims, and specific examples of emotional abuse so that those going through it can identify if it's happening to them.  I feel grateful to have had this conversation with Allison who so openly shared her experience of covert abuse and broke down the tactics and nuances in a tangible and easy-to-understand way.It was healing to discuss this subject matter with someone who deeply understands the experience on a personal level, has done the work to heal her own wounds and is wholeheartedly committed to helping others heal theirs too.Get comfy and settle in for this eye-opening conversation that is sure to give you new insights into yourself and your intimate relationships. It'll be worth the listen.Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/59. Topics Covered:- Introducing Allison Dagney- What emotional abuse is- What keeps the victim in the cycle of abuse- How abusers find their victims- Specific details and examples of emotional abuse- What is a trauma bond- What is gaslighting- What is bread-crumbing- Talking to kids about Emotional Abuse- Action ItemsClick here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,First of all, I want to apologize that I didn't produce an episode last week. I got sick with a nasty cold, and decided to live what I preach, that self-care needs to be a priority. I often talk about how important it is to meet your own needs first so that you can better support others.So, I followed my own advice, unplugged from everything, and answered my body's plea for rest.Since October is domestic violence awareness month, I am sharing a bit more about my 16-year long relationship that was riddled with covert abuse. The abuse was mostly emotional, though there were incidents of physical abuse as well.Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/58. Covered Topics:- Abuse Susceptibility- The Temptation Leading to Abuse- 5 Tactics of Abuse- The Wake Up Call of Abuse- The Aftermath of Abuse- Clear Hindsight- An Attitude of Gratitude- You can Heal and Have An Amazing Life After AbuseClick here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents, Have you ever put work into a relationship thinking, “I'm putting in so much, I've gotta be racking up some excellent relationship karma points. I'm bound to get some of this coming back around to me!” Maybe you've gotten upset that you're not getting the same level of support in return, or you're not being appreciated, or not even being given credit for all that you do. Does this sound familiar?And when this happens, do you feel frustrated, hurt, and depleted?This might be counter intuitive, but I invite you to think about whether you're showing up in the relationship from your best self. This is what we're exploring today. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/57. Covered Topics:- An Alternative to Overextending Yourself- Cleaning Up Your Relationship Energy- How Overextending Yourself Makes Your Partner and Stepchild Feel- How You Feel in Your Relationships as the Overextended Stepparent - How the Energy of Overextending Impacts Your Stepchild- How to Deal with the Overextended Stepparent Syndrome- Action ItemsClick here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Recently, I was reflecting on my early days as a stepparent, remembering many times when I felt uncomfortable in said role. Frustrated and consumed with tension, emotions and split decisions, I worried about what each stakeholder in the situation was thinking and wanting from me. So badly wanting to start off all interactions with my “best foot forward.”This is the cycle we'll be exploring on the show today. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/56. Topics Covered:- The Stressful Worry Cycle- The Shift- The Challenge- Growing Up with Opposing Cultural Values- The Impact of Growing Up with Opposing Cultural Values - The Epiphany - My Purpose- The SolutionIf you're ready to release the frustration and chaos and create aligned harmonious relationships that bring you peace and joy, book your free call with me at synergisticstepparenting.com/work to find out how you can create your dream life. Until next time, be well!Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,This time of year where work gets busier with year-end initiatives and deliverables and school's back in session. In some climates, like here in New England, the days are quickly getting shorter, and the busy holiday season is just around the corner. So, it's no surprise that you might find yourself feeling more drained. Before you chalk it up to life's busy day-to-day grind, I invite you to slow down to ponder, is that really all that's operating here making you feel depleted? Or is it something else? Is it possible that you have an energy leak? If you're finding yourself more tired than usual, stick around because this is exactly what we'll be exploring today! Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/55. Topics Covered:- Do you have an energy leak?- Client Story- Why it's particularly damaging if and when you have an energy leak at home- Common mistakes people often make when trying to resolve an energy leak at home- How do you address these energy leaks?- So how do you get to the bottom of it?- 2 Big causes of energy leaks- 5 reasons for why you can't fix them on your own- How to resolve the energy leak?- Action ItemsIf you find yourself struggling and would like to learn more about what you can do, head on over to synergisticstepparenitng.com/work fill out a brief questionnaire and schedule a complimentary clarity call. I'd love to help you identify the next best step for you to start moving towards creating the life and relationships you dream of. Until next time, be well!Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hey stepparents,I know a lot of you have a school-aged child. This time of year can be chaotic with the start of a new school year, extra-curricular activities, drop-off and pick-up logistics, etc. You also might find yourself in a position of co-parenting with your partner and possibly their ex, and maybe even with their ex's new partner as well. These extra cooks in the kitchen can add to the overwhelm and leave you feeling uncertain as to what your role is in supporting your beloved stepchild. So today we're discussing some things to keep in mind as you consider co-parenting and ensuring the best environment and supports for your stepchild. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/54.Topics Covered:- Negotiating a Shared Schedule That Works for the Co-Parents and the Child (4 Elements)- Should Stepparents Share the Academic Responsibility- How Important Is It for Your Stepchild to Have a Reliable Schedule?- What if my Co-Parent and I Have Differing Parenting Styles on Education?- I don't have enough Time in the Day to Work and Parent – how do I Communicate with the Other Parent(s)?- Action ItemsAnd finally, help me celebrate with you! DM me at synergisticstepparenting on LinkedIn or on FB at marianatapov to share how this went for you. Until next time, be well!Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

As the new school year is getting under way and things feel chaotic and busy, you might be feeling overwhelmed and like it's virtually impossible to keep up. When this happens often you might feel like not doing anything because you don't know where to even start. If you can relate, you're definitely not alone. But stick around, because I have some great step-by-step tips for you to not only stay afloat, but flourish. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/53.  Topics Covered:- It Starts with You- What to Include- What to Exclude- Implement the Change- Your Stepchild- Your Partner- Your Work- Your Family- Action Items- *Pro tipI'd love to hear how this goes for you, so please be sure to email me, or DM me on LinkedIn or FB and let me know. Until next time, be well.Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hey Stepparents, With the academic school year already upon us, many stepparents worry about how to set their stepchild up for success.And to help with that concern by providing actionable tips and strategies, we are thrilled to be joined by Dominique Padurano, M.S., Ed., Ph.D. – aka “Dr. P” of Crimson Coaching to discuss academic success. Dr. P has extensive knowledge of and experience in the arena of education. Her love and passion for helping students of all ages and abilities access and crush their educational goals is instantly palpable. Grab a seat, take a load off and listen in as these strategies are sure to ease your worries while setting your child up for a successful school year. It's well worth the listen. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/52. Topics Covered:- Introducing Dr. P- Dr. P.s journey to becoming a tutor and coach- Her teaching philosophy- The difference between students of divorced parents vs. whose parents are together - Setting a child from a blended family or a co-parenting situation up for academic success- Dr. P.'s resources and free gifts!- Action ItemsUntil next time, be well!Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hey Stepparents,Today we're continuing our exploration of sex and intimacy by delving into polyamory with John Hoelle, a family law attorney and mediator, and co-founder of Conscious Family Law & Mediation. We cover what polyamory is, how polyamory can improve an otherwise monogamous relationship, the benefits of utilizing a coach in your relationship, and how to approach and discuss polyamory with kids. John has an easy warmth about him instantly making you feel comfortable. I feel honored that he offered to have this candid conversation and am thrilled to be sharing it with you all. John let us into his beautiful journey and courageous exploration of love, security, and connection. Get comfy and settle in for this amazing conversation that is sure to expand the way you think about relationships and trust. It'll be worth the listen. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/51. Topics Covered:- Introducing John Hoelle- What polyamory is- How exploring polyamory can improve an otherwise monogamous relationship- The benefits of utilizing a coach in your relationship  - How to approach and discuss polyamory with kids - Recap- Action ItemsClick here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,Welcome back to the finale of my conversation with Rose Schlaff, a Pelvic Physical Therapist, Intimacy Coach, and founder of Be Well with Rose, LLC as we wrap up our discussion about sex and intimacy. Rose and I quickly bonded from the get-go over our passion about the need to shed light on issues that most of us struggle with but feel uncomfortable discussing. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/50. Get comfy, grab your favorite beverage and join us for this convo. It'll be worth your while. Topics Covered: - Introducing Rose Schlaff- Today's explicit landscape- The key to opening to door and creating safety- How to safely explore sexuality- How to encourage self-advocacy while adhering to expectations- The Do's and Don'ts of what to say when talking to your kids about sex- Action Items Click to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,Welcome back to part 2 of the conversation with Rose Schlaff, a Pelvic Physical Therapist, Intimacy Coach, and founder of Be Well with Rose, LLC. This week we are continuing our discussion about sex and intimacy. We cover:- Introduction of Rose Schlaff- why and how your body image plays a role in intimacy- how to love your body- the surprising gift of sharing your whole truth - why and how to talk to your kids about sex Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/49. Be sure to check out Rose's links below. She has some amazing free resources to help you on your journey of having these conversations and reclaiming your sexuality. One powerful way to sustain knew knowledge is to share highlights from what you've learned. So shoot me a DM on LinkedIn @synergisticstepparenting or on FaceBook @marianatapov and share your biggest takeaways and “Aha”s. Until next time, be well!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,We are continuing our conversation about sex and intimacy this time with an expert on this topic. Rose Schlaff is a Pelvic Physical Therapist, Intimacy Coach, and founder of Be Well with Rose, LLC. I'm so excited to share this conversation with you. When Rose and I first met, we quickly found that we were both passionate about the need to underscore and shed light on issues that aren't often discussed and often feel uncomfortable to talk about.Having more of the dialogue around gender norms and societal expectations and conditioning around these norms, expectations around sex and what keeps people from having a healthy and vibrant sex life. Stick around, it's going to be a good one.  Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/48.  Topics Covered: - Introducing Dr. Rose Schlaff- Societal messaging and conditioning about gender norms- Expectations about sex- The medical system's approach to sexual health and well-being and why it falls short- What holds most people back in from having healthy and vibrant sex lives- How you can start allowing pleasure to unfold in your life- Action ItemsThis actually ended up being a 3-part conversation. So, be sure to tune it next week as we share more wisdom about increasing your pleasure and intimacy in your relationships and how to set your kids up for success in this area as well. And shoot me a DM on LinkedIn @synergisticstepparenting or on FaceBook @marianatapov to let me know how it goes and your biggest “Aha”s and takeaways. Until next time, be well!Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,Today we are continuing our conversation about sex. And I'm thrilled to welcome back my partner and Lilah's dad, John to the show. John was a great sport! He was very transparent about why he had several talks with his daughter about sex and why you should be doing this too. He shared the key to navigating those conversations. He also shared his 4 tips for making those conversations as productive as possible.  Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/47. I'm so excited to share this conversation with all of you, so here we go … Let me know how it goes! You can DM on LinkedIn @synergisticstepparenting or on FaceBook @marianatapov. Remember it just takes practice. Which starts with choosing and committing to a small action that will move you towards your goal. From there it's just rinse and repeat. You can do this!Until next time, be well!Click here to listen!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,Today we are continuing our conversation about sex. And I'm thrilled to welcome back to the show my step-daughter, Lilah. Who generously let me pick her brain about the sex talk. In our case there were multiple which I strongly encourage all parents to do. Which is to have multiple sex talks and not just one throughout a child's development. Lilah and I will discuss why that is in this show so stay tuned. We also discuss what was most helpful about our talks, how we curbed the awkwardness, and what are the biggest issues facing teens are facing right now related to sex. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/46. During this conversation there are times when Lilah refers to me as step-mom and other times that she refers to me as mom. I realize this may be a little bit confusing. She shared why that is during our conversation in Episode 33 entitled Confessions of a Stepdaughter – Broken Silence: Part 1. Find the show notes for that episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/33. Check that out if you're want to learn more about that.  I'm thrilled to share this conversation with all of you, so here we go … Topics Covered:1)    Why it's best to have multiple conversations about sex with your child and to start when they are young2)    8 Things to do to ensure that your child is comfortable, engaged and is getting value from the conversation3)    What issues tweens and teens are dealing with most right now4)    What parents can do to best support kids when it comes to sexPlease DM on LinkedIn @synergisticstepparenting or on FaceBook @marianatapov.I'd love to hear what you found valuable and if you have any other questions that I can address for you. Until next time, be well!Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,Today we're talking about something different than what we've discussed on the show before …So let's talk about sex baby, let's talk about you and me… yes, that's me doing a little nod to Salt-N-Pepa.We are definitely going to talk about “all the good things and the bad things”. There are lots of misconceptions about sex, both for parents and certainly for children. So today we're talking about some of them. Find the Show Notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/45. I'm excited to have this conversation because it's so important. And don't worry because of course I have other perspectives to share with you on this topic in upcoming episodes. Including an interview with my step-daughter, her father, and an intimacy expert.But today we're talking about why this is such an important topic and why you want to be paying attention to it and not overlook it.Topics Covered: - My Childhood Experience with Sex Talks- Why Having Sex Talks With Children is Important- Start Early- Figure it Out Together- 4 Steps for How to Begin- Should Stepparents Take the Lead to Have Sex Talks with Their Step-child?- Your Action StepsUntil next time, be well.Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi Stepparents,I'm excited to be joined by Debra Doak and Tracy Callahan of Divorce Coaches Academy. And if you don't know what a divorce coach is, don't worry friend, you're not alone. They will share all about it so just keep listening. Find the show notes at synergisticstepparenting.com/44.Debra and Tracy are rockstar divorce coaches dedicated to their profession and ensuring quality, competence, and success within it. To that end they founded Divorce Coaches Academy to create quality training, community, and professional development for up and coming as well as established divorce coaches.They are disruptors in the best sense of the word. And now I'm thrilled to introduce them to you …Topics Covered:We're going to be diving into why they started the Divorce Coaches Academy, what to look for and look out for when hiring a divorce coach, and why doing divorce right is so important.I know this will be a valuable conversation so let's dig in …+ What is a divorce coach?+ Why they started the Divorce Coaches Academy+ What to look for and look out for when hiring a divorce coach+ The biggest casualty in a bitter divorce+ Opportunity created through divorce+ Top 3 things that a divorce coach can help with during your divorce process+ Action StepsThanks for joining us for this jam-packed conversation! Aren't Debra and Tracey just fantastic? I know, it's clear they are experts in their field. I love how they laid out all the important aspects to consider as one navigates divorce.Things that probably don't occur to most of us off the top of our head. But these considerations make such a huge impact on the outcome of the divorce and the family created on the other side of it.Was this episode helpful? I'd love to hear from you. You contact me here or find me on LI or FB and shoot me a DM. I always love to hear from you!Ok my friend, thanks for listening and wishing you a wonderful week!Until next time, be well.Rate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts“Tons of value in this episode, love and appreciate your authenticity in all of your content.” If you like the show, please consider rating and reviewing us. This gives us the ability to reach and help more stepparents – like you – move towards the life and relationships that they desire with their blended clan.Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate us with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review” then be sure to let me know your favorite thing about the episode.Also if you haven't done so yet, follow the podcast so you don't miss a thing. Follow now!

Hi, Step-parents!I am so excited to bring to you Part 2 of my conversation with the fabulous Leks Vucko in this week's episode. Leks is a health and fitness coach and what I love about her work is that she brings a lot of mindset and emotional awareness to her work and how she talks about health. Last week she gave us the low-down on the complicated and confusing health & fitness industry, the do's and don'ts of eating healthy and how to nourish your body. And she breaks down the body's response to foods. She once and for all answers all of your burning questions and puts to rest the myths. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/43. I'm incredibly excited for Part 2 of this amazing conversation. So, without further ado, I introduce to you Leks Vucko. After 20 years in the health and fitness industry, Leks has created a unique program where she helps high-performing business owners who, although successful, are feeling on the verge of burnout and are not sure how to get back on track. Her unique program taps into biohacking, physical health, mental strength, etc. and helps her clients feel focused, impactful, and successful reaching their peak performance daily to build their business and thrive on energy and passion. Day in and day out for years to come. Her passion comes from her own experience with training, mindset and burnout. That passion is to help others become the best version of themselves no matter where their starting point may be. Topics Covered:-       How food codes the body -       Best advice for making healthier changes to your eating habits-       What sabotages your ability to stick to healthy eating habits -       Common misconceptions preventing most from eating healthy-       Fasting Do's and Don'tsThank you so much for tuning into this episode. I hope you got a ton of value from this one, I know I did.  I love how frankly and boldly Leks speaks about all things nutrition and healthy habits. I don't know about you, but I'm certainly feeling inspired to take action on adopting some of the strategies that Leks shared with us.  I suggest you listen to last week's and this week's episode again and think about what little tweaks or changes you can start to make to improve your health and the health of your family. And maybe it simply starts with just noticing which choices you're currently making. Remember every journey starts with just one small step.  If you haven't yet, consider subscribing to the Synergistic Stepparenting podcast so you don't miss a thing. I have a great perk for you, when you do. You can find out more about that at synergisticstepparenting.com/subscribe. I would love to continue to be a resource and make sure that I am providing value and valuableContent, so, please, drop me a line!You can find me on LinkedIn or Facebook and just shoot me a DM. Or feel free to email me at Maria@synergisticstepparenting.com anytime! I'm always happy to hear from you and would love to hear any questions that you might have or any topics you would like to hear me discuss on the show. Thank you again, my friends, and I hope you have a fantastic week. Until next time, be well.*Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Revi

Hi, Step-parents!I am so excited to bring to you this week's episode. We have a special guest named Leks Vucko who is a health and fitness coach, and she is a complete powerhouse. We speak frankly in this interview.She gives us the low-down on the complicated and confusing health & fitness industry and the do's and don'ts. And she breaks down how our body responds to foods and why it responds the way that it does. She once and for all answers all of your questions and puts to rest the myths. I'm incredibly excited for this amazing conversation. So, without further ado, I introduce to you Leks Vucko. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/42.After 20 years in the health and fitness industry, Leks has created a unique program where she helps high-performing business owners who, although successful, are feeling on the verge of burnout and are not sure how to get back on track.Her unique program taps into biohacking, physical health, mental strength, etc. and helps her clients feel focused, impactful, and successful reaching their peak performance daily to build their business and thrive on energy and passion. Day in and day out for years to come.Her passion comes from her own experience with training, mindset and burnout. Her passion is to help others become the best version of themselves no matter where their starting point may be.Topics Covered:What makes our relationship with food complicated?How has food changed in the last 100 years?How does food impact our emotional state?How can one develop a healthy relationship with food?Thank you so much for tuning into this episode. I hope that you found this conversation with Leks as enlightening as I did. It was such a fantastic conversation that we ended up going into Part 2, which will be released for you guys next week.So be sure to stay tuned and tune in to get those nuggets!I would love to hear from you about how it's going so far. What are some of your favorite episodes, what themes and things are coming up for you in your lives on your step-parenting and blended family journeys.I would love to continue to be a resource and make sure that I am providing valuablecontent so please drop me a line! You can reply to the emails, for those of you who have subscribed.You can also feel free to find me on LinkedIn or Facebook and just shoot me a DM. Or feel free to email me at Maria@synergisticstepparenting.com anytime!I'm always happy to hear from you and would love to hear any questions that you might have or any topics you would like to hear me discuss on the show. Thank you again, my friends and I hope you have a fantastic week.Until next time, the well.*Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hi Stepparents,I'm so excited to share this week's episode with you where I had the pleasure to interview Christine Luken who is a financial dignity coach helping high earning professionals, pay off staggering amounts of debt and massively increase their net worth through her financial coaching.She is a the author of several books including Money is Emotional and Financial Dignity After Divorce where she blends wise money management with emotional intelligence.This week, Christine shares her best tips for how to optimize finances in a blended family for individuals going through a divorce or co-parenting post-divorce. We tackle whether it's best for blended families to handle their money together or separately, how to diffuse emotions around money to prevent mistakes you'll later regret, and the #1 thing blended couples can do to reduce money disagreements.You don't want to miss this episode! So here we go …Find the Show Notes at synergisticstepparenting.com/41Thank you so much for tuning into this episode and thank you to Christine for her priceless actionable tips!To recap we discussed the following ... 1) Whether blended families should handle money together or separately. 2) Financial trauma, what it looks like and what the individual healing through it needs. 3) How to diffuse emotion around money to prevent mistakes you'll later regret. 4) Having your own back in your financial decisions. 5) How blended couples can reduce money disagreements.Check out all of Christine's links in the show notes and check out her work and her fantastic books, including the new one titled Financial Dignity After Divorce.I hope you found as many golden nuggets in this conversation as I did. Please share this episode with 1-3 people you know who are going through a divorce or are co-parenting after a divorce. Because one of my goals is to support individuals touched by divorce to live their best lives.Thank you so much, if you enjoyed this episode, please rate us and leave us a review. We've got the steps for how to do in the show notes.Until next time, be well!*Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Get the Full Transcript at synergisticstepparenting.com/40. Episode Covers:- How to make sense of catastrophic events?- Signs that you need help- How to talk to your stepchildren about difficult events- When and how to ask for help- How to heal through difficult life eventsResources: https://www.tamaraashley.com/qards/about/https://www.rapidresolutiontherapy.com/specialist

Hi Stepparents,Let's face it there is lots up in the air right now, which is part of the times we're living in. And things have been going this way for a while now. Change in many facets of our lives is accelerating forcing us to adapt quicker. This causes feelings of overwhelm and stress.If the pandemic hasn't been overwhelming enough, the fact that a senseless war recently broke out in Europe with crimes against humanity being carried out on peaceful civilians, has sent many into a downward spiral of feeling helpless and wondering …What is it all for? and What's next?To answer the call of this reality, I'm sharing some strategies to help you and your stepchild cope with all the uncertainty, fear, and stress. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/39.Covered Topics:- Acknowledging Your Feelings- Creating Positive Habits- Fostering Calm- What Stress Looks Like - Staying In GratitudeIncorporating these strategies is sure to help your family navigate challenges while nurturing deeper bonds to each other. And you'll be teaching your kids powerful life lessons in the process.For more tips to go synergisticstepparenitng.com/subscribe to sign up for my email list making sure you don't miss a thing! As a thank I'll send you my 4 Step Guide to Transform Family Chaos into Harmonious Co-Parenting.Until next time, be well!Related Episodes:Synergistic Stepparenting podcast titled 7 Components Of A Stepparenting Sanity RoutineMisconceptions About Consistency In StepparentingStepparent's Crippling Dirty Little Secret*Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hey Stepparents!Let's face it stepparenting is not the easiest job. And although it's rewarding, it can be overwhelming. And when it comes to your partner and stepchild, it can take a while to find your groove with each other. Did I mention the many stakeholders with strong opinions about you, and your relationship with your stepchild? There is the ex-partner also known as the other bio-parent, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, best friends, etc. It's no wonder that the anxiety is starting to set in.Have you ever had doubts about whether or not being a stepparent right for you? This is the exact question we're talking about this week.  Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/38. When I first started my stepparenting journey, I definitely wasn't ready! At least I didn't feel like I was. I took lots of time to think about it and came up with many good reasons for not having children. Many of my “reasons” came down to fear. Fear of uncertainty. Fear of the tremendous responsibility. Wondering … Topics Covered:- Questions to Ask Yourself- Safety- Quality Time- Discipline- Co-Parenting- Giving Up ControlIf you want more tips and strategies to help you on your stepparenting journey, download my FREE 4 Step Guide to Transform Family Chaos into Harmonious Co-Parenting at synergisticstepparenting.com/subscribe. Through showing up, staying grounded and being responsive to the needs that arise during these interactions, you are earning your place in your blended family.The rewards are well worth it!Until next time, be well. Related Episodes:#1 Obstacle to Achieving Your Stepparenting Goal#1 Cause of Disconnect in Your StepparentingBuilding Your Blended Family Dream Team*Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hey stepparents! Maria Natapov here, stepparenting coach and strategist. I am excited to present to you the rest of my conversation with Dr. Dr. Bushman, with whom we talked about eating disorders. This interview was inspired by my recent conversation with my stepdaughter where she delved into her trauma story touching on her issues with eating. Those episodes can be found at synergisticstepparenting.com/33 and synergisticstepparenting.com/34.In Part 1 of our conversation with Dr. Dara Bushman we clarified the difference between eating disorders and disordered eating. We discussed how the key perspective is in evaluating whether something we are noticing is truly problematic or whether it's just a natural developmental change that may be temporary in nature.We also identified how to notice our own mindset around food and body shape. Because as we've discussed on the show before, kids are noticing everything you do and are deeply influenced by your behavior. This week we're going to learn what's at the heart of food related issues, what the precursors are to eating disorders, and how to have critical conversations with your stepchild to prevent these issues. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/37. Again, without further ado, I introduce you to the fabulous Dr. Dara Bushman!Who is Dr. Dara Bushman, Eating Disorders Specialist?Here's a refresher on Dr. Dara Bushman's background. She's a licensed psychologist who specializes in rapid transformation, helping people move from crabby to happy from ordinary to extraordinary from surviving to thriving. She's an author and featured psychologist in the media and a mom of two energetic school kids and two dogs.Her clinical background includes working with individuals, couples, families and even groups to dissolve trauma triggers and eliminate recurring traumatic experiences license in the states of North Carolina and Florida. She was a lead therapist for 10 years at milestones and recovery, a comprehensive eating disorder treatment center, where she introduced a comprehensive approach to healing that involves mind body healing, she has cracked the code to the language of disordered eating and the secret to eating disorders through the language of foodenese.Early in the pandemic, she saw a picture of a healthcare worker hugging an elderly patient in isolation and immediately felt a calling and recently began working in assisted living facilities in the Asheville area. She also works with aspiring professional athletes, as well as Olympians to break mental blocks and achieve peak performance, getting them out of their heads and onto the winner's platform.I can't wait for you guys to get all the goodness of this incredible conversation. Here we go...Topics Covered:- Food Related Issues Often Center Around Shame- Noticing Problematic Patterns around Eating- Precursors to Eating Disorders- How to Approach Your Stepchild's Behavior around Food- How Can You Get to the Root of Your Stepchild's Eating Behavior?- How to Start “Planting Seeds” for the Necessary Conversation- How to Begin the Difficult Conversations- Allow Yourself to Be the Novice and Your Stepchild to Be the TeacherThis was such an important conversation full of soundbites that I'm taking away and hope you are too. To sum it up we learned what's at the root of food related issues and the precursors signifying food issues. We identified how critical it is to start planting seeds and how to begin the difficult conversations with your stepchild.We also discussed the benefits of being a novice and letting your stepchild be the teacher around what's going on for them regarding any con

Hi stepparents!Welcome! I'm your host, Maria Natapov, Stepparenting Coach and Strategist.Today we have a very special episode for you. We'll be discussing Mother's Day for Stepmothers.This is a loaded episode, both emotionally and literally because we have lots to cover.  We'll be delving into several areas. Like, why this is a particularly challenging holiday, what this holiday feels like for many stepmoms, and how to ensure you have an amazing Mother's Day holiday.You're going to want to share this info with your loved ones, so grab your spouse and step-kids and be sure to share it with your family, bestie, and friends. This episode is designed to shed light on the stepmom's experience and challenges around Mother's Day so that you feel seen and heard and know that you're not alone.And to help the rest of the world, and most importantly members of your inner circle, gain awareness and understanding to support you during this holiday and time of year.Topics Covered:- The Stepmom Experience- Why is Mother's Day Difficult for Stepmoms?- How to Ensure You Have a Special Mother's Day- How to Enjoy Your Mother's Day Regardless of Your StepfamilyIf you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed out, go to synergisticstepparenting.com/work to see how I can help you transform family chaos into meaningful and harmonious co-parenting.Ok step-mommas, happy celebrating and wishing you a very happy Mother's Day!!!Until next be well!Related Episodes:7 Key Components of the Stepparenting Sanity RoutineHow to Have Difficult Stepparenting ConversationsFeeling Out Your Blended Families' Traditions and Beliefs*Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hey stepparents! Maria Natapov here, stepparenting coach and strategist. I am so excited to introduce you to Dr. Dr. Bushman. With whom we had the pleasure of having a conversation this week talking all about eating disorders and disordered eating. Recently, I did an interview with my stepdaughter, who is incredible. Where she delved into her trauma story of abuse and neglect and trauma recovery. And we touched on her issues with eating. Those episodes can be found at synergisticstepparenting.com/33 and synergisticstepparenting.com/34.I'm never quite sure whether to say eating disorders or disordered eating. Which is one of the many things that I'm hoping Dr. Bushman would clarify for us today. And get some really good tips around how to identify and help ourselves and our children with disordered eating. And how to have conversations about it and how to navigate that very complex world. Because, as we know, food is all around us. It is such an enormous part of our culture and our everyday. So I can't wait to delve into this conversation. Without further ado, I introduce you to Dr. Dara Bushman!Episode Covers:- Dr. Dara Bushman and her background as an eating disorders specialist- The Difference Between Eating Disorders and Disordered Eating- Perspective is Key In Identifying Eating Disorders- How to Identify Your Mindset Around Food and Body ShapeLinks to Dr. Dara Bushman and her S.H.I.F.T. Planner and JournalDr. Dara Bushman's WebsiteDr. Dara Bushman's S.H.I.F.T. Powerful Planner and Journal*Notes: How to leave a review on Apple Podcasts1.    Open the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.2. Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.3. On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”4.    Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hi Stepparents! Welcome to the show, I'm your host Maria Natapov, Stepparenting Coach and Strategist. I am very excited to bring you this special episode that is near and dear to my heart. This week we conclude the conversation with Lilah as she shares more of her story, what that was like for her, how she learned to heal and what that has looked like and continues to look like. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/34. In spite of some unpleasant details, I'm so excited to share this interview crammed with robust soundbites with you all – and despite her tender age, she has many. So, let's dive in …Topics covered:  - What was helpful and what wasn't - What helped her feel safe - What she now steers clear of - What the hardest thing was - How she moved forward - Why things got harder after she left the abusive household - The breakthrough momentRelated content:Episode 33 - Confessions Of A Stepdaughter - Broken Silence: Part 1Episode 29 - Confessions of A Stepdaughter  *Notes: How to leave a review on Apple Podcasts1.    Open the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.2.    Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.3.    On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”4.    Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hi Stepparents!Welcome to the show, I'm your host Maria Natapov, Stepparenting Coach and Strategist. I am very excited to bring you this special episode that is near and dear to my heart. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/33.I had the sheer pleasure to again interview my incredible stepdaughter for this week's episode. But I have to warn you that there will be some details shared and discussed that will be uncomfortable if not straight up stomach-turning. So please remember that this episode is not for the faint of heart and if you have children around, please put on some headphones or wait until you're alone to listen. This way you give yourself space to decide whether and if it's the right time to introduce this subject matter to them and to discuss these issues with them. This week Lilah dove into more of the background of her story of abuse, what that was like for her, how she learned to heal and what that has looked like and continues to look like. In spite of some unpleasant details, I'm so excited to share her powerful story and pearls of wisdom with you all – and despite her tender age, she has many. So here we go ….Topics covered:- Why Lilah calls me - her stepmom - "mom"- The story of her abuse and neglect and what the day to day was like for her- Her trauma and disordered eating- How she navigated it all - What empowered her along the way- What helped and what made things worse- What she's learned to do to combat the negative and judgement voices that have taken residence in her head- How to not numb out the feelings, even the painful ones*Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello stepparents!Welcome back to another episode of the Synergistic Stepparenting podcast, I'm your host Maria Natapov, Stepparenting Coach and Strategist.A few weeks ago I shared on social media that the Synergistic Stepparenting podcast celebrated its half birthday. And in celebration of this fact, this week we're sharing our most downloaded episode. Find the FULL transcript at synergisticstepparenting.com/32. For our new listeners who haven't gotten the chance to catch up on some of the earlier episodes yet, we wanted to make sure that you don't miss out on this gem. And if you've been with us for a while, we wanted to make sure to highlight this value-packed episode by giving you a chance to re-listen. Because who couldn't use a reminder to ask for what we need and how to do it? I am sincere grateful to you for listening and spending your precious time with us! I'm so touched by this gesture, that I would like to give you something in return.So, I invite you to head over to synergisticstepparenting.com/subscribe to get your FREE guide called 4 Steps to Start Transforming Family Chaos into Harmonious Co-Parenting including several powerful tools to get you immediate results!I also inviting you to hit like and subscribe to this podcast on your favorite streaming app so you don't miss a thing.And it would be amazing if you leave us a review and share some of your favorite aspects of the podcast so that other stepparents who could benefit from this advice, these tips and strategies can also find us and join you on this journey. Now, without further ado, I present to you our MVP episode – How To Have Difficult Stepparenting Conversations. Enjoy!Topics Covered:- How to have difficult conversations with our beloved blended family members- Feeling at Odds and Unappreciated by Your Blended Family- What to Do About the Overwhelm of Disappointment and Hard Work of Stepparenting - How to ask for help- How to stay grounded in stepparenting-  3 Steps to Having Difficult Stepparenting ConversationsResources:- synergisticstepparenting.com/7 - synergisticstepparenting.com/11 *Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled "Ratings & Reviews."Under one of the highlighted reviews, select "Write a Review." If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show. 

Hello stepparents! Welcome back to another episode of the Synergistic Stepparenting podcast, I'm your host Maria Natapov, Stepparenting Coach and Strategist.A few weeks ago I shared on social media that the Synergistic Stepparenting podcast celebrated its half birthday. And in celebration of this fact, we'd love to share with you 2 of our most downloaded episodes. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/31.For those of you who are new listeners haven't gotten the chance to catch up with some of the older episodes yet, we wanted to make sure that you don't miss out on these gems. First, I would like to share a sincere thanks to you for listening and spending your precious time with us! And I'm so touched by this gift you've given me, that I would like to give you something in return. So, I invite you to head on over to synergisticstepparenting.com/subscribe to get your FREE e-book called 4 Steps to Start Transforming Family Chaos into Harmonious Co-Parenting which has several powerful tools to get you immediate results! The other thing I'm inviting you to do is hit like and subscribe to this podcast on your favorite streaming app so you don't miss a thing. And now, without further ado, I present to you our runner up MVP - #1 Cause Of Disconnect In Your Stepparenting. Enjoy!Topics Covered:- showing up- For a long time, I thought showing up meant just that - physically getting myself somewhere. - I wasn't showing up by bringing ALL of me to the table. - What does it take to fully show up?- 2 major factors of showing up * Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

For this episode I had the pleasure of interviewing my partner, John Swain as we dug into the challenges and common misconceptions of my stepparenting journey and our road of "blending".Find the FULL transcript for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/30.  Topics covered: What was the experience like realizing that your child is going to have a stepparent? The bio-parent's biggest fears The stepparent's biggest fears, top priorities and mis-steps The bio-parent's top priorities The hardest part of blending or the step-family dynamic for the bio-parent bio-parent's reflections on how we handled discipline bio-parent's advice for stepparents Bio-parent's reflection on what he would change if he had a do-over* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

In this episode I interview with my stepdaughter. See the FULL transcript at synergisticstepparenting.com/29. Topics covered:- What was it like for her to be getting a stepparent?- Helpful things her dad did to prepare her for meeting her stepparent (yours truly!)- Did she have any say in getting a stepparent?- Her biggest fears about getting a stepparent- What it was like for her when I came into the picture- Her advice to stepparents to be successful when dealing with their stepkids and how to best create those opportunities- If she could do it all over again, what would she do differently?Until next time, be well!* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hey stepparents! Given the unpredictability of the times we're living in I hear many parents getting advice to create consistency and routines because they help to reduce a child's anxiety and help them adjust to changes. And while this is true, I want to point out the other side of the coin – inflexibility. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticsteppaernting.com/28. Covered in this episode:- How parents common think of consistency- Why flexibility is important- What is really at the heart of consistency and why it's critical you, stepparent, know it!- The importance of self-regulation- 5 strategies to help stepchildren to cope with expected changes Resources: For suggestions for how to self-regulate or find calm even during upsetting situations, please check out episode 7 at synergisticstepparenting.com/7 and episode 11 at synergisticstepparenting.com/11 on Stepparenting Sanity Routines.  I truly hope that this episode has been helpful and that you share it with a stepparenting or blended family buddy, sports mom, or book club bestie you know who could benefit from it. I would so appreciate it!Until next time, be well!* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello, stepparents and welcome. I am delighted to have you join me today because I had the special privilege of interviewing the fabulous Dr. Patricia Papernow, who is the world's leading expert in step parenting and blended family dynamics. Today's episode will be just part 1 of my interview with her. I'm so excited to have you join me. Without further ado, here we go … Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/27. MARIA NATAPOV: Hi, everybody. Thank you for joining us. We are here with the fantastic Dr. Patricia paper now. Welcome. We're so excited to have you. Dr. Paper now is an internationally recognized expert on stuffy Emily's she integrates a deep understanding of the research with four decades of clinical practice and a wide variety of clinical modalities including psycho educational, systemic and trauma informed the recipient of the award for distinguished contribution to family psychology from the APA couple and family division. Dr. Papernow is the author of one of the classic books in the field Surviving and Thriving in Step Family Relationships: What Works and What Doesn't. And with Karen Bonnell, The Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating, to Getting Serious, to Forming a Blended Family as well as dozens of articles and book chapters. Dr. Papernow is a psychologist in private practice in Hudson, MA and director of the Institute for Stepfamily Education. We are so excited to speak with you! Clearly, without a doubt you are an expert in this field. And it's such a pleasure to get to pick your brain and have you share your wisdom with us. If you could speak a little bit more to, I believe you've mentioned there's step families and there's blended families. Topics Covered:>>[2:15] Difference between step families and blended families>>[2:36] Difference between families who struggle vs. those who have success>>[5:08] What stepparents can do when they are having a hard time bonding with the stepchildren>>[6:21] Home is usually a safe space but with blended family tensions it starts to not feel safe for stepparents. Dr. Papernow shares advice for what to do about that.>>[7:37] How to build connection in stepfamily relationships>>[11:18] A deeper dive into the concept of "blending" and how to think about it.>>[13:19] Building family traditions.>>[16:20] How to approach stepparenting mistakesLinks for this show:Patricia PapernowPatricia Papernow LISurviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn'tThe Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating, to Getting Serious, to Forming a “Blended Family”* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello, stepparents and welcome. I am delighted to have you join me today because I had the special privilege of interviewing the fabulous Dr. Patricia Papernow, who is the world's leading expert in step parenting and blended family dynamics. Today's episode will be just part 1 of my interview with her. I'm so excited to have you join me. Without further ado, here we go … Find the FULL transcript for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/26. >>[2:05] I'd love to delve into the challenging aspects to consider during the journey towards blending the family and how to navigate that successfully particularly around the not physically present other parent with regard to the children. If you could speak a little bit to the critical things to absolutely not do.>>[2:49] couples have to slow it down. >>[3:56] keep that physical expression low. >>[4:30] Affects on kids when the other parent is bad-mouthing their re-coupling. >>[6:15] Dr. Papernow's advice for dealing with a child who's other parent is bad-mouthing their parent's re-coupling or if you're the stepparent in that re-coupling. >>[8:49] Easy wrong turns and big booboos to avoid in parenting - how to handle discipline. Identifies 3 types of parenting styles>> [13:22] "plant the seed.">> [13:55] we need to sit new ideas before we can embrace them.Links for this show:Patricia PapernowPatricia Papernow LISurviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn'tThe Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating, to Getting Serious, to Forming a “Blended Family”* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple Podcasts1.  Open the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.2.  Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.3.  On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”4.  Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show. 

Hello, stepparents and welcome. I am delighted to have you join me today because I had the special privilege of interviewing the fabulous Dr. Patricia paper now, who is the world's leading expert in step parenting and blended family dynamics.Today's episode will be just part one of my interview with her. I'm so excited to have you join me. Without further ado, here we go ...Find the FULL transcript for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/25.We are here with the fantastic Dr. Patricia Papernow who integrates a deep understanding of the research with 4 decades of clinical practice and a variety of clinical modalities including psycho-educational, systemic and trauma informed. The recipient of the award for distinguished contribution to family psychology from the APA couple and family division, Dr. Papernow is the author of one of the classic books in the field, Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn't. And with Karen Bonnell, The Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating, to Getting Serious, to Forming a “Blended Family”. As well as dozens of articles and book chapters. Dr. Papernow is a psychologist in private practice in Hudson, MA, and director of the Institute for Stepfamily Education. We are so excited to speak with you. Clearly, without a doubt you are an expert in this field.>>[2:12] Dr. Papernow shares her story that brought her to her work.>>[3:50] What is different about the step family vs. the first-time family?>>[7:04] In your book you mention noticing cycles for establishing these new connections and rhythms. Can you elaborate on the timeframes for this and the blending of the families?>>[14.34] StepFamilies Face 5 Key Challenges:Insider/Outsider Challenge – When I turn to my partner, my child feels like an outsider. When I turn towards my child, my partner feels like an outsider.Kids Feel Differently Than Adults About the Blended Family – kids experience the new relationship as a loss of the parent's attention. And have a natural loyalty bind – if I like my stepparent, I'm betraying my mom or dad.Parenting - tasks in a stepfamily pretty routinely divide parents and stepparents.How do we become an us in the presence of Us and Them?How do you make it okay for kids to love both of their parents?>>[15:36] Parental tension and conflict are the biggest predictors of poor well-being in kids.Links for this show:Synergistic Stepparenting PodcastPatricia PapernowPatricia Papernow LISurviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn'tThe Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating, to Getting Serious, to Forming a “Blended Family”* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello stepparents!Recently, I was watched an inspirational talk about sharing your story. It was a TED talk, which I love, because there's always something valuable in them.In that moment, I realized that sharing my story completely, might help to shed light on this kind of experience and possibly help someone else in a similar situation, to see that they too can get on the other side of it and have a full life.This goes out to you who find yourself in a bad situation or a bad relationship. Know that you are not alone. You are worthy, you are beautiful and you can achieve absolutely anything you set your mind to. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/24.Finding Stepparenting Strength In Moments Of Unworthiness- How to start shifting your thoughts- Maria's story of being a domestic abuse survivor- How Maria's experience helped her forge a relationship with her stepdaughter - Her message to others who might want to be a stepparent but feel they have nothing to offer a childIt will be okay and it's okay to reach out for help. Help is here and available to you. Please reach out to me at Maria@synergisticstepparenting.com. If nothing else just to share your story with me. I'd so love to hear it!You're not alone. There are people who care. I am one of them. You can and will get through it. That's what I'll leave you with.Until next time, be well!* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello Stepparents! Find the FULL transcript of this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/23. - What makes a great leader in stepparenting?  - 4 qualities of a great leader- The Final Stepparenting LessonI'd love to hear and celebrate your stories of leadership in your stepparenting so please email me at maria@synergisticstepparenting.com and share them!Are you struggling to develop your leadership skills in your stepparenting role? If so, book a discovery call at synergisticstepparenting.com/work to find out how I can help you transform family chaos into meaningful and harmonious co-parenting. Until next time, be well.  * Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello Stepparents!It can be challenging to stand by while someone is saying things that are blatantly negative about you. Or things that can be perceived as such. It's particularly painful when you learn of someone saying something negative about you to your stepchild. Especially when the child is little. Since little kids are more impressionable than older children who can discern more of the truth for themselves. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/22.Topics Covered: - How not To lose yourself when facing a negative situation - An Effective Approach for Stepparents Caught in Challenging Relationship Dynamics1. Identifies how best to respond strategically. 2. You'll get the peace of mind of a clear conscience. If you find yourself struggling with resentment, guilt, shame, anger, or any other disturbing emotions, go ahead and book a Rapid Resolution Session at synergisticstepparenting.com/rr. I'd love to help you get clear and move forward with ease and joy in all of your stepparenting relationships! And I know it's possible for you. Until next time, be well!  * Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hey stepparents! I need to level with you ...Topics Covered: - Today we're delving into exploring how perfectionism gets in the way. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/21.- Stepparenting Support And Connection Create Courage- Testimonial from Pamela that reads: "I have listened to all the episodes thus far. Well done! Quite honestly, I think most people can relate well to the content without being a step-parent. It's very relevant! Great job! Thank you for sharing! Keep them coming."- Stepparents Support Others More Than Themselves- If you're ready to find out how I can help you, head over to synergisticstepparenting.com/work and fill out the questionnaire for a discovery call. There's a lot of beauty out there. And yes, it IS for you.Until next time, be well!* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello stepparents! As I reflect on the past year and consider my goals, I can't help noticing how much I rely on tech day-to-day. It's obvious that we live in a digital world that seems to be getting more digital and automated by the second. Don't get me wrong, I love all the advancements and feel so grateful to live in this moment-in-time and its unlimited access to information at my fingertips. But I find myself burning out faster and more often. And nothing compares to the feeling of just being near a loved one. Even if we're not saying a word. Lots of us are considering what is missing or could be better this year and creating new habits and goals. Today I'm doing a deep dive on habits around connection and technology. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticsteppaernting.com/20.Topics covered: - How Is Technology Impacting Your Blended Family?- Why Is It Hard To Break Away From Electronics?- How To Communicate With Your Stepchild About Their Technology Usage- Referenced Episode 17. Find the show notes for that episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/17.- 5 Approaches To Try With Your Blended Family To Curb Technology UsagePlease drop me a line at maria@synergisticstepparenting.com and share your stories about your favorite ways to bond and spend time with your family! I'd love to hear about it and share with the audience of this show. Until next time, be well!* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello Stepparents! With the new year upon us, and many of us re-assessing and making plans for the year to come I'm hearing that many of you are in throes of deciding whether your relationship is working for you or if it's time to move on. So, I wanted to speak to that.We all know that becoming a stepparent and blending into a family is challenging and takes a lot of time and energy. It can take between 5 and 7 years before all the blending players start to find a grove with each other.Being in a blended family is clearly not for the faint of heart. Though there are undoubtedly some difficult and painful moments and even stretches, it's important to distinguish whether these are temporary or whether you are just torturing yourself or your kids.Today I'm sharing 3 aspects to consider to help you assess your situation and gain clarity on which is the right choice for you. Find the show notes for this episode at syenrgisticstepparenting.com/19.Topics discussed:- Importance of being grounded and calmBefore you listen on, I strongly urge you to revisit and listen to episode 11 titled 7 Key Components of a Stepparenting Sanity Routine. You can find the show notes for that episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/11.- Honor yourself and this stepparenting question with space and consideration.- 3 Aspects Stepparents Should Consider When Deciding Whether The Relationship Has Run Its Course.- How to effectively approach these questions in stepparenting?The answers to these questions can be hard to tease out and arrive at on your own. And you don't have to! If you'd like to know how I might be able to help, grab a discovery call at synergisticstepparenting.com/work. Let's jump on a call and see if we're a good fit!I'd love to hear about your story and what your stepparenting journey has been like for you. I'd love to celebrate your wins with you and to hear what's been troubling and what would be helpful to hear discussed in a future episode.So please email me at maria@synnergisticstepparenting.com and let me know!Until next time, be well!* Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello Stepparents! Recently, I've spent several episodes discussing your stepchild's loyalty conflict, their behavior, even the wiring of their brain and why some approaches work better than others in interactions with your stepchild. To that end, today I'd like to focus on my favorite technique that I think is one of the most important and effective. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/18.To be honest this technique works well across the spectrum of relationships – be it with your spouse, in-law, friend, or co-worker. It works well with kids too. And your stepchild needs you to have effective tools when interacting with them in challenging times and bad days. Topics Covered: - A powerful technique that helps your stepchild self-regulate.- How to respond when something's wrong in a way that won't make things worse - 4 Steps of Reflective Listening- What do avoid doing with little kids- Benefits of Reflective Listening- Do I have to do this alone?Doing this work is simple but not easy. And as a stepparent there are often additional considerations and particulars adding to the challenges.You don't have to go through this alone. In my VIP Breakthrough Program, I hold your hand every step of the way and guide you to a life of more ease, peace and joy. Curious about working together? Head on over to synergisticstepparenting.com/work to learn more about my VIP Stepparenting Breakthrough program and schedule a discovery call. I'd love to see how I can help you on your stepparenting journey and assess if we're a good fit. Until next time, be well! * Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello stepparents! For the last 2 weeks I've discussed the loyalty conflict that occurs for a stepchild between you, their stepparent, and their other bio parent, your partner's ex.Find the show notes for those episodes at synergisticstepparenting.com/15 and synergisticstepparenting.com/16. This week we're delving deeper into the root cause of what effects your stepchild's behavior. Find the show notes for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/17.Topic Discussed:- Disruptive Communication Patterns in Stepparenting.- Why Blowing Up and Punishing Your Stepchild Doesn't Work – Science.- Stepparents Want Connection Because as Humans We are Wired for It.- An Unexpected Response is More Effective at Improving Your Stepchild's Behavior.- 5 Benefits of Responding Unexpectedly in Stepparenting and How to Do It.  - Dr. Dan Siege's hand model of the brain presentation. Found here. * Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.

Hello Stepparents! Last week I talked about the background of why kids have an inherent loyalty conflict when it comes to you, the stepparent and their other biological parent. Find the show notes for that episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/15.And if you haven't yet listened to that episode, I highly recommend you do so. I shared what's going on for your stepchild during and after divorce. These insights help you as the stepparent, by understanding how your stepchild feels.I also reflected that when your stepchild is having big emotions towards you, it's not personal. They are just trying to cope with what's going on for them - which is A LOT!This is not to convince you to condone disrespectful behavior. But often for stepparents understanding the root cause and knowing you're not being targeted helps you in maintain your cool and to move the dynamic in a productive direction.I also shared actionable tips you can implement right now to get out of the crossfire. So be sure to check those out.This week I want to continue this deep dive and move on to discussing the behavior. Find the FULL transcript for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/16.First of all, I want to clarify that when I say behavior, there is no judgement attached to it. It is not good or bad. It just is. And what I mean by behavior is something a person does or says.In this episode, we're going to explore both the behavior of the child, but also the behavior of the parents, including you – the stepparent.Topics Covered:Several Stepparents Have Reached Out With Concerns About Their Stepchild's Behavior- Case Study of a Stepmom to a 3-year-old StepdaughterI spoke with a stepmom about her 3-year-old who likes saying “no” and seems to enjoy being bad. The stepmom was worried about her young stepdaughter's defiance and how much worse things will get if they don't nip this in the bud.- Case Study of a Stepmom to a Tween StepdaughterI spoke with another stepmom who is concerned about her stepdaughter's behavior at school. She is hitting peers, acting out, etc. The stepmom is worried that the issue is a lack of discipline and the child just needs to understand that this is not acceptable behavior.- All Behavior is Communication 4 tips for how to make your stepchild feel seen, heard, and lovedIn episode 7 I shared How to Stay Sane in Stepparenting. Find the show notes for that episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/7. And in episode 11 I shared the components of said Stepparenting Sanity Routine. Find the show notes for that episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/11.I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode. So please drop me a line to share them with me!Find the FULL transcript for this episode at synergisticstepparenting.com/16. Until next time, be well! * Notes: How to leave a review on Apple PodcastsOpen the Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.Navigate to the Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast.On Synergistic Stepparenting Podcast page, scroll down to find the subhead titled “Ratings & Reviews.”Under one of the highlighted reviews, select “Write a Review.” If you like what you hear – give us a 5-star rating! And let us and others know what you like about the show.