The Date Brazen Podcast

Today's podcast episode is a coaching session with Michelle. She's in her 50s, divorced after a 24-year marriage, and getting back into dating after being with one person her whole adult life. In this raw and powerful coaching session, we unpack the overwhelm of dating apps, the anxiety of being “naive,” and the pressure late bloomers feel to already know how dating is supposed to work. Michelle shares how: → Dating apps make her feel panicked in 3 minutes or less → She's afraid she missed the memo on how to flirt or date → All she really wants is a partner to laugh with at a family campsite, but dating feels like an IMPOSSIBLE way to get there. We talk about self-compassion, letting go of judgment, and what it means to stop settling—not just for the wrong relationship, but for a miserable dating life.  

In this very first live coaching session on The Date Brazen podcast, you'll meet Ellie—an amazing, big-hearted late bloomer who's never had a romantic relationship, and who thought dating was something she missed the memo on. Sound familiar? Together in this episode we explore: Why Ellie stayed on multiple 4-hour dates she didn't even want to be on How to process feeling behind in your dating life The surprising strategy shift that gave Ellie permission to want what she wants How to practice self-compassion and build dating resilience in real time so you can put yourself out there and attract the right people If you've ever felt behind, unchosen, or like you're "too late" to find what you want—this episode is for you.

Does the idea of making the first move in dating make you feel awkward AF? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly how to shoot your shot as a late bloomer—without spiraling into self-doubt or waiting for someone else to make the first move. You'll learn: ✅ The mindset shifts that make it easier to take bold action in dating ✅ Why making the first move 100% of the time is a game-changer for attracting the right relationship ✅ How to bounce back from rejection (without losing your confidence)   Work with Lily:

If you've ever feared that you're not attractive or desirable because it's never happened before, this episode is a must-listen.   Lily breaks down the internalized fears many late bloomers carry—and how to reframe those thoughts with compassion, context, and confidence using her signature ACK mindset tool (Acknowledge, Compassion, Kind Reframe). You'll also get a powerful challenge to reconnect with your body and spark self-trust this week.  

If flirting feels awkward, forced, or like a foreign language—especially because you feel “behind” in dating—this episode is your new playbook. Lily breaks down her step-by-step approach to flirting IRL with courage and ease. You'll learn how to strike up a conversation, gauge interest, and shoot your shot—without spiraling or second-guessing yourself.

Are you a late bloomer wondering, “How the hell do I even start dating?” In this episode, Lily breaks down the exact 6-step roadmap to go from anxious and avoidant to confident and aligned in your love life. You'll learn how to drop shame, claim your essence-based preferences, use dating apps with boundaries, and build your IRL dating strategy—messy and awkward and powerful.   Here's how to work with Lily: ✨ On Demand Training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a Late Bloomer ✨ Buy her book: Thank You More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book ✨ Download the free "Create Your Essence-Based Preferences" Guide HERE   Follow Lily on: ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube

In this kickoff to the Late Bloomer Series, Lily gets real about how to tell a date you've never been in a relationship—without spiraling, oversharing, or self-abandoning. If you've ever felt behind in love, this episode will help you embrace your story, communicate with confidence, and stop making your dating history mean something it doesn't.   ✨ Grab Lily's book Thank You, More Please + get the bonus Podcast Listening Guide: https://datebrazen.com/book   Get on the waitlist for Main Character Dating: https://www.datebrazen.com/waitlist   Learn how to work with me: https://www.datebrazen.com/   Follow me on ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube  

Are you tired of living for everyone else's expectations... and ready to step into your own dang spotlight?

RSVP for my new training- Stop People Pleasing & Build a Stupidly Joyful Life HERE Apply for Main Character Life Mastermind HERE Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book Follow me on ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube

In this episode, we're diving deep into Main Character Energy — what it is, why it matters, and how to start building it (even if you're shy, introverted, or feeling wildly behind). You'll learn: - Why Main Character Energy is even more important in unstable times - The three essential skills at the heart of a Main Character Life - The truth about people-pleasing, perfectionism, and "best friend identity" - Why healing burnout isn't just for you — it's for your community, too - How to take powerful action using the "10 Seconds of Courage" method Real stories from Lily and her clients on what happens when you stop shrinking and start taking up space This is your invitation to stop settling for “good enough” and start creating a life that's audaciously joyful, deeply aligned, and unapologetically yours. Want to go deeper? Join us for the free live training on April 23rd: ✨ Stop People-Pleasing + Build a Stupidly Joyful Life ✨  You'll learn exactly how to cultivate Main Character Energy — and get a behind-the-scenes look at the 6-month mastermind, Main Character Life. RSVP HERE-- https://www.datebrazen.com/joyful-life Applications open during the live event, and spots are limited. ✨ Join the waitlist for early access → https://www.datebrazen.com/mcl-waitlist

She Moved Abroad, Quit Her Job & Took Her Life Back: Jackie's Main Character Energy Story Burned out, stuck, and shrinking herself to stay safe—Jackie thought joy was out of reach. In this powerful episode, she shares how she went from emotional exhaustion to building a joy-filled life abroad with purpose, friendship, and bold-ass moves. If you're craving your own main character energy moment, this one's for you. RSVP for my free training on April 23rd, 2025: https://www.datebrazen.com/joyful-life Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book Follow me on: ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube

In this episode, Lily shares the ONE question that will revolutionize how you vet potential partners, ensuring you never waste time on lackluster dates and conversations again. Grab your notepad because this episode isn't just about strategy - it's a journey into reclaiming control of your dating narrative and steering towards the relationships you truly desire. Links: ✨ Order Lily's book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get our free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to attract the right partner as a "late bloomer": https://www.datebrazen.com/training ✨ Download the Free Guide to Your Essence-Based Preferences HERE ✨ Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/qd-questions-strategy ✨ Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   ✨ Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

In this week's episode of the Date Brazen Podcast-- Episode Spotlight: "How can I stop being lazy in my dating life?", I'm teaching you exactly what you need to do instead of falling for the productivity myth. (which will lead to better outcomes for your dating life!)   What you'll learn in the episode:   ✨ How to ditch the idea that “doing more” will get you better results in dating. ✨ How to do the most POWERFUL tiny steps in dating to get the biggest results. ✨ Why embracing self-care and giving yourself permission to slow down is key. ✨ How to redefine dating success on your own terms—and why that's your real path to finding the right people for you. ____________   WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training   Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode, I walk you through my Blessing and Releasing strategy: a powerful step-by-step method to let go of the wrong people and make space for the right ones. Because holding on to what isn't meant for you? That's keeping you from what is.   Here's what you'll learn: ✨ How to identify who to bless and release (and why it's essential). ✨ The mindset shift that will help you actually move on. ✨ Why setting boundaries is a radical act of self-love. ✨ How to embrace abundance instead of settling out of scarcity. ✨ The truth: You are worthy of what you desire in love. ____________   WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training   Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode, I break down exactly how to start dating with confidence, self-care, and intention.-- especially if you've never dated before!   You'll get a step-by-step guide to move past fear, own your desires, and create a joyful dating life on your terms.   Here's what you'll walk away with: ✨ How to start dating from a place of power (not pressure). ✨ Why your thoughts are not always facts—and how to shift them. ✨ The "Thank You More Please" challenge to clarify what you really want. ✨ How to release perfectionism and embrace the messy, fun, real parts of dating. ✨ The truth: You are uniquely qualified for the right person. _________ WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training   Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

If you've ever been told you're too picky or need to be more open, this episode is for you. Your preferences aren't the problem—they're the key to dating with more joy and ease. I break down how to define your essence-based preferences so you can stop wasting time on the wrong people and start attracting the right ones.   ✨ Get free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training   Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

This week, I'm joined by the brilliant Brandon Kyle Goodman—writer, actor, and sexual wellness advocate—to talk about breaking free from shame, embracing curiosity, and giving yourself radical permission to be messy in your self-discovery. If dating has ever made you feel like you need to “get it right” before putting yourself out there, this episode is your permission slip to do it your way.  

If you've ever hesitated to put yourself out there because what if they say no?, this episode of the Date Brazen Podcast is for you. ​ We're flipping the script on outdated dating rules that keep you passive and stuck. Instead of waiting, I'm teaching you how to co-create the dating life you want, how to shoot your shot like a boss, and actually enjoy the process (yes, really). ​ Here's what you'll learn: ​

Dating can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions—excitement, hope, fear, and sometimes, pure panic. In this episode, we're tackling the fear that keeps so many incredible people stuck on the sidelines. If you've ever thought, What if I get rejected? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I'm not enough?—this one's for you.   I'll walk you through how to move through dating fear with self-compassion, community, and a whole lot of self-trust. Because here's the truth: fear is normal, and it doesn't have to be in the driver's seat.   You don't have to be fearless to find love—you just have to be willing to take messy, brave action toward what you want.   Hit play, and let's reframe your fear into power.   Takeaways: ✨ Self-compassion isn't just nice; it literally helps your body handle stress better. ✨ Feeling afraid to date? That's human. You're not alone. ✨ Messy action beats overthinking every time. ✨ The right person won't need you to perform or say the perfect thing. ✨ If you desire more, it's because it's possible for you. Let's go get you what you want.

In this week's Date Brazen Podcast episode, Flirting 101: My 3-Step Process to Flirt, Know If Someone's Into You, and Ask Them Out with Ease, I'm breaking down my 3 step process to exactly how to flirt, know if someone's into you, and ask them out with ease.   Here's the deal:

Today on The Date Brazen Podcast, I'm talking to Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu-- dating and relationship experts and co-hosts of Dateable, one of the top podcasts on modern relationships, featured by The New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily.   Tune into this episode to hear- Understanding your dating archetype can help you navigate relationships better. How to use their quiz in the Dateable book helps identify strengths and weaknesses in dating. How to use the "Sunday test" helps assess compatibility with a partner. What to expect with sexual chemistry in early dating-- can it develop over time, or do you need to expect "The Spark". And more!   Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They're the authors of How To Be Dateable and the co-hosts of the podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. They're also the hosts and executive producers of the dating experiment show Exit Interview. Julie brings her background in human-centered design and qualitative research, while Yue shares her experience as a dating coach. Together you can find them at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/ and @dateablepodcast. Their book How to be datable comes out January 28th, 2025- TODAY! Get Julie and Yue's book at howtobedateable.com And learn about their work at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/   This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨   Links: Get Lily's Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily unpacks her favorite piece of dating advice: You can't say the wrong thing to the right person. This 15 minute episode will free you from so much anxiety and worry in your dating life, so you have more time and energy to shoot your shot with confidence. Takeaways Dating is a microcosm of your hopes and fears. Self-care in dating enhances your quality of life. You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. The right person will ask for clarification. Focus on a minimum viable audience in dating. You are for the few, not the many. Embrace the messiness of human connection. Your desires matter and are achievable.   This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨   Links: Get Lily's Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE.   

Enjoy this ep spotlight!  This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨ Links: Get Lily's Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily engages with Susan Hyatt, a master certified life coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker. They discuss Susan's mission to empower women through her Bear process, which emphasizes self-care, body wisdom, and breaking free from diet culture. The conversation explores the importance of creating a thriving environment, embracing pleasure, setting boundaries, and taking bold actions in midlife. As they approach the New Year, Susan shares insights on goal-setting and the significance of living a pleasure-centered life, encouraging listeners to overcome obstacles and embrace their potential.   You'll learn: Susan Hyatt is a master certified life coach and bestselling author. The Bear process focuses on self-care and body wisdom. Environmental detox is crucial for creating a thriving space. Mindset work helps break free from diet culture. Pleasure is essential for healing and well-being. Setting boundaries is key to listening to your body. Embracing bold actions can lead to personal growth in midlife. New Year energy can be harnessed for goal-setting. Creating a pleasure-centered life enhances overall happiness. Obstacles are not greater than one's potential.   This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training:  3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨   Links: Get Lily's Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

We're taking a break for the holidays (coming back Jan 7th, 2025) so enjoy this ep spotlight!  This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training:  3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨ Are you feeling like a “late bloomer” in your dating life? In this Episode Spotlight of the Date Brazen Podcast, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by “late bloomers” and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily's insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences.  Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires.  You'll learn how to: Embrace self-compassion and connection Distinguish between thoughts vs. facts Break free from societal (and patriarchal) dating norms and define your dating journey Heal and neutralize "late bloomer" conditioning Let go of those who aren't right for you with grace (bless and release!) Embrace your current stage in life and recognize that you're whole as you are Redefine what “blooming” means to you Links: Get Lily's Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily outlines a comprehensive seven-step dating plan for 2025, aimed at helping listeners create a joyful and fulfilling dating life. The plan emphasizes the importance of claiming desires, understanding essence-based preferences, and utilizing qualifying questions to find the right partner. Lily also discusses the significance of in-person dating, building a unique dating profile, and fostering community support to enhance the dating experience. The episode encourages listeners to take control of their dating lives and believe in the possibility of finding the right relationship. You'll learn: Create a 2025 dating plan to make the right relationship inevitable. Claim what you want unapologetically in your dating life. Essence-based preferences help you define how you want to feel in a relationship. Qualifying and disqualifying questions are essential for vetting potential partners. In-person dating is still alive and can reduce reliance on dating apps. Build a dating profile that reflects your true self and essence-based preferences. The Thank You More Please challenge helps you recognize evidence of what you want in your love life. Community and support are crucial for a joyful dating experience. You are worthy of care and support in your dating journey. What you desire in love is possible, no matter your past experiences. This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season. If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year.   Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Get Lily's Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE.

In this episode, Lily addresses the feelings of loneliness that can arise during the holiday season, especially for singles. She provides a three-step framework to help listeners navigate their emotions, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and acknowledging feelings, finding comfort and belonging, and choosing accessible positive thoughts. The conversation encourages self-compassion and resilience, offering practical advice for managing loneliness and fostering emotional well-being. You'll learn: Recognize that loneliness is a hard moment and allow yourself to feel it. Emotional granularity helps in understanding and processing feelings. Self-soothing is essential for immediate comfort during loneliness. Reaching out to friends for support is crucial, even if they can't always respond. Creating a joy-building plan can help combat feelings of loneliness. Choosing accessible positive thoughts can shift your mindset. It's normal to feel lonely, especially during the holidays. Building resilience helps in managing future feelings of loneliness. You are worthy of love and support, regardless of your current situation. Your desire for connection is valid and can guide you towards it.   This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season. If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year. Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Get Lily's Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This episode is for you.  Yes, it's that time of year—when relatives turn the holiday dinner table into a Q&A about your dating life. Lily is sharing how to respond to every nosy question from relatives - that you don't want to answer!  This is your guide to handling intrusive questions with confidence while staying grounded and true to yourself. Tune in for the best strategies for setting boundaries, saying “pass the peas” to nosy questions, and finding joy in the season without letting holiday stress or stress about your dating life get in the way. You'll learn: How to spot the self-judgment trap  Why self-compassion is the antidote to self-judgement Boundaries that slay: “You don't owe them your story” becomes your mantra for keeping nosy questions in check Active self-care strategies that keep you thriving  How to build a joy plan that sticks  Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Dr. Kristin Neff - SelfCompassion.orgSelf-care Activities for Women, Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite  

Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you've ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life. Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as “emotional outsourcing,” helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions. We get into: How emotional outsourcing holds you back from being your authentic self The three essential emotional needs: safety, belonging, and worth An in-depth look at the nervous system and its role in fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses Grounding techniques to help you reconnect with self-love and intention How to expand your capacity for feeling good, seen, and safe Links:  ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Victoria's website Victoria on Instagram  Feminist Wellness Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-from-codependency-with-victoria-albina  

I'm diving into how to care for yourself when life feels heavy. If you're feeling drained or disappointed post-election—or really, after any tough experience—I'm here with a simple but powerful framework to help you reclaim your energy. In this episode, I'll guide you through the SOFT practice: Self-compassion, Owning your needs, Feeling your feelings, and Thoughts, not facts. I'll share practical tools, like Dr. Kristin Neff's self-compassion meditation, to help you navigate challenging times with more grace.  Whether it's political stress or personal struggles, this episode is for anyone who needs a reminder that you deserve care, kindness, and support. Links: Free 5-minute self-compassion medication from Dr. Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-practices/ The Loveland Foundation: https://thelovelandfoundation.org/

We're airing a popular episode about claiming your essence-based preferences. Lily takes you through what essence-based preferences are, how they can transform your dating life, how to know if you're being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode you'll want to come back to again and again! Hot-takes and How-tos from this episode: How do you know if you're being too "rigid" Essence-based preferences can apply to everything that you want Figure out how to get to the root of what you want by crafting your personal love-life vocabulary Links: Main Character Dating (formerly Brazen Breakthrough)Episode 26: How to navigate money in your dating life Follow Date Brazen on TikTok

“Should I give them another chance, or should I ‘just know' if they're right?” Hot take: The whole slow burn vs. spark debate might be keeping you from finding a meaningful connection. This episode challenges the idea that a romantic connection needs to fit neatly into a “slow burn” or “spark” to be worth pursuing. In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ The pros and cons of Slow Burn vs. Spark—and why binaries rarely help in dating. ✨ Why curiosity is your best guide—offering a healthy middle ground that brings clarity without overthinking. ✨ When you're just not feeling romantic interest? Bless and release without guilt! ✨ How to know what you want, trust your instincts, and choose curiosity over stressing about instant chemistry. Get ready to reframe your approach to dating, focus on what matters, and let go of the pressure to decide if it's a slow burn or a spark from the start. Let's make dating feel lighter, more fun, and aligned with you! Links: Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/slowburn-vs-spark

How do you date with intention and authenticity during an election season? You're in luck! Lily is back with a special episode all about dating during the election. She explores how to navigate the heightened political climate with a boundaried, agency-filled plan to attract people who truly align with your values.  Lily also shares tips on crafting a profile that reflects your values, managing tough discussions on dates, and knowing when to "bless and release." Get ready to learn how to vet dates based on political beliefs, set firm boundaries, and confidently steer conversations. You'll learn: Understanding your boundaries and using essence-based preferences to define how you want to feel in a relationship How to incorporate your political values into your essence-based framework Best practices for bringing up politics in dating, including a reminder that “You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person.” Guidelines for dating during an election year, focusing on asking questions and prioritizing your emotional well-being Tips for including your political preferences in your dating profile Navigating heated political discussions during a date with grace Links: Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! 121. Dating Apps, AMA 135. How to create your essence-based preferences 162. The complete dating detox guide Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/dating-during-an-election  

Playing the sidekick in your own life? Not it. Step into your power, claim your main character identity and start making bold moves today. Why not you? Lily is dishing all about main character energy—what it is, what happens when you're not living in it, and how to level up and claim your spotlight. We've all been there—shrinking our desires because we fear being "too much" or worried about rejection. Or maybe you're in that “good enough” life rut: a good job, good friends, good vacations... but deep down, you know you're ready for great. This episode is all about ditching the people-pleasing and stepping into your main character era. You'll learn: What it really means to not be in main character energy The three essential main character skills: permission, self-trust, and massive messy action How to stop sidelining your needs and start taking up space Practical tips on how to use 10 seconds of courage to build that main character muscle It's not about being perfect. Even main characters make mistakes—but they've got the tools to get back up. So, give yourself permission to be a little messy and start owning your story today.  Links: Applications are open for the Main Character Life Mastermind!140. My bless and release strategy for letting go216. Stop overthinking your love life decisions (and how to actually trust yourself) Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-build-main-character-identity  

Ready to crush it and take your dreams to the next level? This episode is ALL about that! We're diving into Laura's epic journey of leveling up her life, how she tapped into her MCE (yep, Major Character Energy), and broke down her big dreams into totally doable, bite-sized steps. And guess what? It worked! You'll walk away feeling fired up, knowing that what you want is not only possible—it's practically calling your name.  This is your sign. Time to hit play, step into your power and go after what you want. We get into: Why action without community = dead-end vibes Laura's raw, real talk on going through Main Character Life Mastermind during a tough time of grief How deep personal growth impacts everything, including your relationships The badass move from inaction to taking bold steps toward your biggest dreams Real talk: Confidence is EVERYTHING, and asking for what you want is the key to getting it How to create the support system you need to step onto that bigger stage in your life Links: Applications are open for the Main Character Life Mastermind!Laura's websiteLaura on Instagram: @cheekylamiki @dispatcheddivorcee Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/from-paralyzed-to-launching-her-dream-business-with-laura

Ready to stop playing small and start living big? This week, Mastermind client Katie shares how she embraced main character energy, stepped out of her comfort zone, and began living a joyful AF life!  From ditching self-doubt to creating a social life that lights her up, Katie talks about the bold moves she made—like taking a sabbatical and going on solo adventures. It wasn't easy, but she trusted herself enough to push past fear and take massive, rewarding actions. We get into: Breaking out of your comfort zone and going after what you want Building joy and meaningful social connections The power of self-trust and why it's okay to invest in yourself  Katie's breakthrough journey and how she stopped playing small  Don't miss out on the chance to take control of your own story! Tune in and step into your main character energy.  Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/comfort-zone-to-mce-with-katie  

Do you feel like you're burning the candle at both ends with nothing left for yourself? In this bonus episode, Lily chats with Juliet, a client from the Main Character Energy Mastermind, about how she transformed her life by setting boundaries at work and making room for joy and meaningful connections.   Juliet's story is all about taking back control and living fully to share how stepping into her power completely flipped her life around. From feeling burned out and isolated to creating deep friendships and a fulfilling love life, Juliet's transformation is nothing short of inspiring. We get into: Truly believing in what you need and want unlocks the power to make aligned choices Identifying the key components and values of your ideal life is the first step toward living it How Juliet nurtured deeper connections with friends  Finding more space for joy within all facets of Juliet's life  Overcoming internal criticism shifts your mindset from self-doubt to self-compassion Turning “dating sucks” into “I can make dating fun!”  Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/from-burnout-to-boundaries-with-client-juliet

Are you stuck in a cycle of overthinking and self-doubt? Lily tackles exactly how you can break free from that mental loop. We dive into the real cost of overthinking—how it's draining your energy, wasting your time, and slowing down your life's momentum. Lily shares methods to help you stop doubting yourself and start building a rock-solid foundation of self-trust. By the end of the episode, you'll have a clear plan of action so you can confidently take bold steps toward the life you want, without the exhausting mental spirals. What if overthinking was just a roadblock on your journey to becoming the main character in your own story? This is your invitation to shift into that energy, giving yourself permission to trust, transform, and take massive, messy action. You'll learn: How to recognize the signs that you may have a self-trust deficit and how it affects your daily life Why building self-trust, even imperfectly, is an essential step toward living a rich and fulfilling life The reasons behind why you struggle to trust yourself and how fear and past experiences may be holding you back That self-trust is a skill that takes time and practice to master How to build self-trust and confidently take action, leading to more clarity and control in your life Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Lily's book: Thank You, More Please Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-trust-yourself  

Want to know how to ask for exactly what you want, nurture your biggest dreams, and crush your fears along the way? You're in luck!  Lily and her guest break down how to tap into your main character energy and own every aspect of your life. In this episode, you'll learn how to reclaim the parts of yourself you've left behind, nurture your inner light, and permit yourself to ask for – and actually receive – what you truly want.   We get into: The disconnect between showing Main Character Energy on the outside but not feeling it internally Giving yourself permission to take the chance and truly nurture your own needs The power of finding support through a community coaching space and receiving collective encouragement The challenges of asking for what you want, and learning that sometimes it's about asking less of yourself and allowing others to show up for you How slowing down, even during success or failure, doesn't stall your growth Understanding that listening to your desires only fuels more of them The willingness to embrace more joy and actively seek it out in your life   Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/ask-for-what-you-want-mce

Ever thought about making a big leap from your current job to your dream career? Discover how Erica ditched an exhausting job and became a full-time romance novelist with main character energy! Lily welcomes Erica a former Main Character Energy Mastermind client who made the leap from feeling stuck in her career to living her dream as a full-time romance novelist. Erica gets real about facing her fears, ditching self-doubt, and breaking free from the "shoulds" to follow her passion. This convo is a must-listen if you're ready to trust yourself, go after what you want, and make some bold, messy moves. Plus, Lily spills the details on her live training event happening October 9th, all about taking risks with main character energy. This episode will leave you feeling inspired and ready to take tangible next steps to embrace main character energy, stop “shoulding” all over yourself, and step into a braver, bolder, and more magical season of your life. We get into: How Erica embraced her desire to become a full-time romance novelist  Tapping into main character energy to choose yourself and make your dreams a reality: “Here is an opportunity to figure out a way to choose me,” said Erica. Get the scoop on how trusting yourself can lead to bold moves and major life changes “What you want doesn't just appear one day because you wish for it hard enough. It's about really taking into consideration the work that I put in, the talent that I know I have, the want and just going after it.” How stepping away from people-pleasing can help you build the self-trust you need to chase your true desires Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Erica's books, including “Witty in Pink” Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/choosing-yourself-with-erica  

What happens when you stop playing it safe and start betting on yourself? In this episode, Jackie spills on how she shifted from burnout to bold moves, and what it takes to embrace that Main Character Energy. Jackie, a former Main Character Energy Mastermind member, joins Lily for a convo about how she went from frozen in fear and burnt out to making some serious boss moves in her life. Together, they dive into the power of community and the mindset shifts that make growth happen. Spoiler: It's all about trusting yourself, embracing the messiness, and going after what's yours—whether it's your career goals or relationship desires. We get into: How self-trust can lead to unexpected joy and experiences  Transitioning from a background character energy to main character energy “Whatever growth you are looking to make - if you put in the effort, it will come.” Taking imperfect action and claiming that things are working out - even when it feels uncomfortable  Jackie's experience as a researcher of joy! Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/huge-risks-with-mce-with-jackie  

Is it possible to stay true to yourself while navigating the world of dating? Absolutely! We're pulling back the curtain with special guests Ali and Erica from Finding Mr. Height. Lily sits down with the duo to discuss how they decided to start their dating podcast and offers a glimpse into the clues, details, and breadcrumbs that help you figure out if someone is right for you. We also dig into the anxieties that surface in new and long-term relationships, offering strategies for navigating them with confidence and clarity. You'll also hear Ali and Erica's candid thoughts on their least favorite—and most favorite—pieces of dating advice. Plus, Lily explores some uncharted territory, sharing her take on long-term relationships. This episode is packed with humor and practical tips to help you own what you want and build strong relationships. We get into: What inspired Ali and Erica to launch their dating podcast, Finding Mr. Height Spotting the subtle clues and signals to determine if someone's right for you (or not) Relationship anxieties—whether you're just starting out or deep in a long-term commitment Finding and building a meaningful relationship that works for you Ali and Erica's top dating tips and the advice they'd rather skip Links: Finding Mr. Height podcast Finding Mr. Height on Instagram @findingmrheight Erica on Instagram @spericaa Lily's appearance on Finding Mr. Height Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/finding-mr-height-ali-and-erica  

Hot-take: Bragging is key to attracting more in your dating life. That's right! We're diving into Lily's favorite chapter from her book, Thank You More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love. It's all about the Brazen Bragging Revolution!

What does it take to go from feeling "behind" in dating to confidently making your move every single time? This week, Lily welcomes client Allyson, who shares her journey from feeling behind in dating to embracing self-compassion and taking control of her love life. They chat about the game-changing power of self-love, shaking off society's BS standards, and how stepping into a main character mindset has leveled up not just Allyson's dating game, but her whole life. Tune in for some real talk on how to attract meaningful relationships while staying true to yourself, taking your shot, and feeling all kinds of empowered. We get into: The struggle of feeling behind in dating – "It felt like a mountain I couldn't climb." Why it's okay to be uncomfortable, and how to find safety even in the discomfort. Owning the fact that you are in complete control of your love life. How Allyson found the courage to shoot her shot and ask someone out Allyson's new beliefs about her future, and how it's all coming together Links: Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough) Lily's book: Thank You, More Please Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shooting-your-shot-with-allyson  

What if the key to transforming your dating life is all about owning your worth? Listen in to find out how Miriam went from dating fear to confidently choosing people who were aligned with what they truly wanted.  Join Lily and client Miriam as they dive deep into the thoughts that so many of us have about dating, worthiness, and settling, and how these can keep us stuck on a hamster wheel, going through the motions without real progress. Miriam shares their journey from feeling frustrated and scared about dating to radiating confidence and truly enjoying the experience! We get into: The dating hamster wheel: How to break free from the endless cycle of dating without progress and finally make things happen. Tips for overcoming those nagging thoughts like “I'm too much” or “All the good ones are taken” and boosting your dating confidence Dealing with fears of settling, picking the wrong partner, or just getting started in the dating world How Miriam mastered the art of blessing and releasing when there was a values mismatch, rather than sticking around to “see where this goes.” Links: ✨RSVP for Lily's Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough) Lily's book: Thank You, More Please Date Brazen on YouTube Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/bless-and-release-confidently-with-miriam  

Hot-take: You should make the first move 100% of the time. If you read that and feel a sense of fear, that's okay! In this episode, Lily breaks down everything from rocking a proactive mindset to embracing those awkward moments and showing yourself some self-compassion so you can confidently make the first move every time. This is the most passionate lesson Lily teaches, and she has seen a major difference in clients' ability to attract the right partner. Tune in to learn how to transform your dating life with bold confidence and get the deets on more resources to help you along the way.  You'll learn: How to embrace the awkwardness, recognize your inner power, and remember you're resilient AF. “You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.” Take Your Shot: Every attempt brings you closer to what you want because you're actively attracting and asking for it. Use the S.O.F.T. method to move through rejection: Self-compassion, Own Your Needs, Feel Your Feelings, and remember that Thoughts Are Not Facts. Creative and practical suggestions to help you take that first step! Links: ✨RSVP for Lily's Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Main Character Dating Lily's book: Thank You, More Please 162. The Complete Dating Detox Guide Kristin Neff's Self-compassion.org Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/make-the-first-move-every-time  

Are you wondering, “How do I pick up the pieces after this horrible breakup?” This week, Lily dives straight into an inspiring conversation with Liz, a former client who turned the heartbreak of a broken engagement into a powerful journey of healing and finding new love. Liz keeps it real, sharing her experiences of embracing pain, seeking support, and rebuilding self-trust. Together, Lily and Liz explore the transformative process of becoming your main character through the work of Main Character Dating, formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough. Returning to the podcast after her first appearance in 2023, Liz brings a full-circle perspective, offering wisdom and insights for anyone navigating post-breakup life or re-entering the dating world.  Listen in as Liz reflects on how the principles of Main Character Dating have evolved with her, revealing how embracing self-discovery and vulnerability can be your greatest strengths. We get into: Picking up the pieces after a shitty breakup Liz shares her raw experience: “I had to fully feel all my pain,” emphasizing the importance of embracing and processing emotions to heal When you show up with your feelings, the right people show up for you as well Navigating the desire/shame see-saw means trusting your gut and understanding there's no perfect timeline for getting back into dating Liz explores, “What does self-trust look like for you now?” sharing how she found courage and rebuilt self-trust  Links: ✨RSVP for Lily's Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Lily's book: Thank You, More Please Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/self-trust-and-love-after-a-breakup-with-liz  

Are you feeling like a “late bloomer” in your dating life? This week, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by “late bloomers” and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily's insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences.  Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires.  You'll learn how to: Embrace self-compassion and connection Distinguish between thoughts vs. facts Break free from societal (and patriarchal) dating norms and define your dating journey Heal and neutralize "late bloomer" conditioning Let go of those who aren't right for you with grace (bless and release!) Embrace your current stage in life and recognize that you're whole as you are Redefine what “blooming” means to you Links: ✨RSVP for Lily's Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Lily's book: Thank You, More Please Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/late-bloomer-guide-to-releasing-worry  

Ever wondered how to heal from a toxic relationship and truly thrive? Lily is joined by licensed psychotherapist Ginger Dean, the genius behind the book, Loving Me, After We. They dive into the journey of healing from toxic relationships, highlight the importance of self-soothing, and chat about how to rebuild self-trust.  Ginger shares her personal and professional experiences, drops some wisdom on emotional recovery, and introduces her latest book, 'Loving Me After We,' packed with practical steps to go from hurting to thriving. They also get into what it means to be the 'green flag' in relationships and the power of self-care practices like yoga, massages, and somatic work. You'll hear about: The inner work needed to become the best version of yourself, focusing on baseline levels of emotional availability and self-awareness. Practices and shifts, in addition to therapy, to come home to yourself and create a self-care plan after a hard breakup. Self-care practices and ideas to take care of your well-being. Building or rebuilding self-trust after being in a toxic or the wrong relationship. Links: ✨ Get Lily's Free Training: Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable ✨ Ginger's website Ginger's book, Loving Me, After We Episode link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-after-a-hard-breakup-ginger-dean

Why do we always feel awkward asking our friends for help with our love lives? Imagine the game-changing power of having a trusted squad of co-conspirators in your corner, ready to support you. This episode dives into how to ask your friends to be your co-conspirators in love—one of the top three ways to date IRL! Now, it's not that your friends are clueless about dating; they just need to learn how to help you in a way that matches your wants, needs, and desires. In this episode, Lily guides you through a co-conspirator invitation, so your friends can really be there for you. Here's what you'll learn in this juicy episode: Learn how to spot the friends who are perfect for this role and how to prepare for that all-important invitation  Asking someone to be your love-life co-conspirator is an honor—here's how to make sure you're ready to have that convo. Not every friend will be a good fit as a co-conspirator, and that's okay. Discover creative solutions to avoid dead-ends and establish boundaries. FAQ on Co-Conspirators: Everything from the best personality types for this role to how to figure out if your friends are mentally available, and overcoming the shame of asking for help. Tune in and transform your dating life with the help of your very own dream team!

Ever dreamed of writing a book or want to share your story and ideas? If so, this episode is for you. Lily welcomes Richelle Fredson, her incredible book proposal coach, on the show. Without Richelle, Thank You, More Please would still be a dream! We're diving deep into main character energy and how to bring it to your writing and publishing journey. We're talking about what it takes to get published, the importance of sharing your story, and how to boldly step into the world with your unique voice. For nearly 20 years, Richelle has been a powerhouse in the book publishing industry. Known as the "six-figure book coach," she's worn many hats: publishing guide, guest teacher, and marketing strategist for bestselling authors. Now, she's here to help aspiring authors develop standout book concepts, killer book proposals, and vibrant online communities. Get ready to embrace your main character energy and share your story with the world, even if you don't think you're ready yet. We get into: Conquering the anxiety of "shooting your shot" Flipping the script on imposter syndrome: embracing bold, messy action Richelle's take: "Who gets to write a book and who gets published?" Diving in: "You can start before you think you're ready" The real talk on getting a book published The book proposal: your golden ticket to traditional publishing and ultimate self-advocacy Overcoming comparison and self-doubt to start telling your story Links: Richelle's website Richelle's podcast Bound + Determined Lily on Richelle's podcast You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now, and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/write-a-book-richelle-fredson