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You know that spiral where you replay a conversation for hours, convinced you said the wrong thing to the wrong person at the wrong time? Lily's got one sentence that ends it. This week's Episode Spotlight revisits the piece of advice that went viral for a reason: you cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. Inside this episode: ✨ The exact moment on a first date Lily talked about her ex for 30 minutes straight, and why it didn't end the relationship (it's the one she's still in, eight years later) ✨ The follow-up nobody talks about: the right person isn't just forgiving, they know how to ask for what they need ✨ Why "minimum viable audience" means you're not for everybody, and that's the relief valve for first-date anxiety ✨ The difference between being a mind-reader and letting someone tell you what they need ✨ How to stop treating dating like there's a secret script you have to get right → Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book → Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating → Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook → Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ → Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen → Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

If you've never been in a relationship before, or never been in a good one, and you identify with feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, or overwhelm when it comes to dating, and you just feel like it's impossible for you to find love and it's all over. This episode is for you. This is exactly what I would do if I was your dating coach in the next three weeks, so you could build a joyful dating life, attract the best dates of your life, and make the right relationship inevitable this summer. Inside Episode 275: Why "it happens when you least expect it" is actually desire suppression in disguise, and what to do instead How to build your matchmaker protocol: claim your essence-based preferences so you stop settling before you even get to the starting line The vetting questions I used as a professional matchmaker to qualify the right people and disqualify the wrong ones without mind drama Why rejection feels like death (it's biological, not dramatic) and how to build a bounce back plan so it stops running your dating life The Bounce Back protocol: a step-by-step rejection resilience plan you can write in your notes app right now Work with Lily Join the Main Character Dating: https://datebrazen.com/dating Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

Your brain is convinced it knows how your love story ends. It's gathered all the evidence from your past and decided: this is just how it is. But your brain is not a fortune teller. It's a safety mechanism. And it is working with about 1% of the data. In this episode of The Feminist Dating Show, Lily breaks down three reasons you might just be wrong that finding love is impossible — and why more is possible in your love life than you currently believe. Inside episode 274: Why your brain's "it's never going to happen" narrative is a biological feature, not a fact about your future The math on how many people you haven't met yet — and what that means for your love life How to use the relationships you already have as evidence that more is coming The two things that actually change your timeline: proximity to opportunity and courageous behavior in the face of it Lily's ACK process for rewiring your brain toward possibility when scarcity takes over   Work with Lily: Join my free live training, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed: https://datebrazen.com/lets-go Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

Okay, let's say finding love is 100% all luck. A few weeks ago I shared my take: finding love is proximity to opportunity plus courageous behavior in the face of it. I got a lot of comments that said, "You're wrong, it's just 100% luck." So let's run the thought experiment. If finding love is 100% about luck... what creates the conditions for luck to occur? What even is luck? And how do you become the luckiest version of yourself in your dating life? This week's episode of The Feminist Dating Show shows you exactly how to create the luckiest love life possible, even if you've never been in a relationship before. Inside Episode 273 you'll learn:

You want dating to feel like something you're in charge of, that is going your way, not something that's happening to you. That shift-- from anxious hustle to magnetic momentum-- is what this episode is about. This week on The Feminist Dating Show, Lily breaks down the three levels of dating energy and exactly how to move from bothered and stressed to unbothered in your love life. Inside episode 272: The three levels of dating energy-- student, bothered CEO, unbothered CEO-- and the specific behaviors that tell you where you actually are right now Why the bothered CEO over-personalizes rejection and outsources decisions (and how to stop) The SOP system that removes anxious decision-making from your dating life entirely How to use jealousy and comparison as a compass pointing toward what you want instead of proof that you're behind The ACK method: a three-step framework for getting back to unbothered when rejection happens

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You already know what the worst case scenario looks like. Your brain has mapped it out in extraordinary detail (in its attempt to keep you safe from rejection and vulnerability).  This episode is about what happens when you let the best case scenario take up some of that space too. In this episode, Lily walks you through a best case scenario practice designed to open your brain up to possibility to getting exactly what you want-- without forcing you to believe anything you're not ready to believe yet. Inside this episode: Why your brain defaults to worst case scenario thinking and why that habit is not a character flaw The difference between believing something 100% and simply making room for it. You don't have to be fully convinced for it to happen The plan that actually works to believe the best case scenario: "it might not be impossible that..." What your best case scenario sounds like when you say it out loud

In this episode, Lily unpacks the fear, "Will I just die alone", that showed up dozens of times in her Instagram DMs, and walks you through what to actually do with it.   Inside this episode: Why this fear feels too shameful to say out loud, and why that shame is exactly the reason you need to say it The seesaw dynamic keeping you stuck between hope and hopelessness, and how to step off it for good What "dress rehearsing tragedy" is and why your brain does it to protect you The question to ask yourself instead of "will I die alone?" that gives your brain somewhere useful to go The 1am reframe that will help you actually release dating worry   Work With Lily: Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

If you want to walk into a coffee shop, a bookstore, or a comic book store this summer and actually know how to say hi to someone you find cute, this episode gives you a step-by-step flirting framework you can use the next time you leave your house. Flirting is a buildable skill — not a secret language, not a personality trait. Here is the exact process. Step one: how to open a conversation with a question or a complimentary comment, and the body language signals that tell you in the first 30 seconds whether to keep going or move on Step two: what co-creation looks like in a conversation, so you can tell if they are actually into you without overthinking every word Step three: the one low-stakes question that turns a fun conversation into a potential date ("random question, are you single?") and exactly how to respond to every answer you might get The difference between a co-created date plan and a "muscling" date where you do all the work — and why the muscling version is a signal, not a relationship The "winking run" — the practice one client used to build rejection resilience 10 seconds at a time   Work with Lily:

If you have zero dating experience and you want to find the right partner, this episode gives you six tools for late bloomers to start dating successfully. From zero experience to finding the right partner, without the patriarchal nonsense or the spiral. Step one is dropping the shame — and the actual skill that makes that possible (hint: it's not positive thinking, and it's not logic) Step two is figuring out what you want, even if you've never been in a relationship. You have more information than you think. Step three is the one or two questions that tell you almost immediately whether someone is worth your time Step four is a dating app strategy that won't drain you: one app, 20 minutes a day, no notifications, and you stay the CEO Step five is IRL dating — including the version that costs nothing and starts this week Step six is the habit that most people skip, and that's the reason they stay stuck   Work with Lily:

Finding love isn't just luck or timing.   It comes down to two learnable skills. Episode 269 of The Feminist Dating Show breaks both of them down so you can start practicing today.   Inside this episode: ✨ The reason going on more dates won't get you closer to the right person. Dating is not a numbers game. It's an act of self-trust. ✨ Proximity to aligned opportunity: why most people are either paralyzed by fear or doing dating busy work, and what to do instead. ✨ Courageous behavior in the face of opportunity: shooting your shot, blessing and releasing fast, asking for what you want on a first date. That's not too much. That's main character energy. ✨ Women who self-silence during conflict are four times more likely to die prematurely. These two skills aren't just how you find love. They're how you stop silencing yourself once you're in it. Work with Lily:

Dating in your main character energy means more access to everything you want. More connection. More aliveness. More of the good stuff. It also means more rejection. BOO. Rejection doesn't have to mean anything about you. It's a filter, getting the wrong people out of the way. And the fear of it is one of the top forces stopping people from going after what they want. This episode is your rejection resilience guide. So you become unstoppable in your dating life.  Inside episode 267: ✨ Why we fear rejection like death (literally, biologically) ✨ The SOFT protocol: move through rejection without making it mean something about you ✨ Fierce vs. tender self-compassion and when you need each one ✨ How to build reframes that actually feel true, not like toxic positivity Work with Lily:

Have you ever stared blankly into your fridge at 5 PM, trying to conjure up a dinner plan for your family? Have you ever felt the gentle parenting levetate out of your body when your child begs you for the 35th snack of the day? Recipe guru & cookbook author Rachel Mansfield is here, and she is going to solve all your family food problems (seriously - I was literally taking notes as we spoke). Rachel shares all the expert tea & tips with us, Mom to Mom to save you time and stress. You'll learn how to stock the pantry so everything is fair game, how to explain to kids why we might limit or avoid certain foods, what to always have on hand in your kitchen to make dinner easy to throw together, recipe ideas that won't take more than 10-15 minutes to prep, and of course - her POV on why there's no such thing as too many snacks!You can learn more about Rachel on her website, follow along on Instagram at Rachel Mansfield and Cadootz, pre-order her new cookbook, More Please!, check out your child's new favorite snack, Cadootz, and read her Substack!Loved this episode? There is so much more where that came from:️Subscribe....leave a review....and share with your friends!Follow The Fun On IG: @BrittanySheehanSleepWork with me:1:1 Concierge Sleep PlansSleep CoursesPotty Training SupportThe B Hive Client Membership ProgramTake The Sleep QuizLearn More About Me & My ApproachRead Success StoriesSay Hi: info@brittanysheehan.com

In this episode, Abby shares her late bloomer story with so much honesty and clarity. We talk about what it was like to be in her mid-30s, never having been in a serious relationship, carrying a loud "I'm behind" and "I'm weird" narrative, and feeling totally unsure how to talk about her dating history without spiraling. Abby opens up about moving to a new city, trying to date while feeling embarrassed about her experience, and struggling with the not good enough voice that made her avoid connection. She also shares what shifted for her as she started to process shame, build community, and trust herself enough to take up more space at work, in dating, and in her daily life. Inside this episode, you'll hear: how Abby learned to identify and quiet the "I'm weird" and "I'm behind" voice how belonging helped her stop self-isolating and start connecting what helped her ask for what she wanted (down to "I need 25% more texts") how she advocated for herself at work while doing two jobs how she built friendships, community, and eventually a healthy relationship what she wishes she could tell her past self, who felt so far behind This is a powerful example of what can happen when you stop avoiding your desires and start trusting yourself enough to move toward them. Work with Lily ✨ Join the live training: Stop People-Pleasing and Build a Stupidly Joyful Life live training-- December 3rd:  Sign up HERE ✨ Apply to Main Character Life, my 6-month mastermind where Abby did this work — the space to release people-pleasing, build self-trust, advocate for what you want, and go after the life you've been circling for years. Apply HERE ✨ Get my Book — Thank You, More Please, Buy the book + grab your bonus HERE Follow Lily everywhere:

Feminist dating coach and Date Brazen founder Lily Womble shares how to invest in your love life the same way you invest in your financial future with intention, clarity, and confidence. Drawing from her new book Thank You, More Please, Lily explains how to move beyond the algorithm-driven dating grind and cultivate what she calls Essence-Based Preferences—a framework for attracting the relationships that truly align with your values. We explore the parallels between financial and emotional abundance, why self-worth is the ultimate currency, and how to stop “settling for less” in both money and love. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to another episode of the Pelvic Power Podcast!This episode is warm, grounded, and deeply relatable — a mix of introspection, humor, and empowerment. You explore the idea of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and how societal timelines can create unnecessary pressure — especially for women in their 30s navigating relationships, fertility, and purpose + add pelvic pain on top of that and it can feel quite challenging!In this episode we chat about:How society's timeline pressures (marriage, kids, career) create unnecessary FOMOQuestioning what you actually want vs. what you've been told to wantWhy you're not late to life — you're right on time, living on your own timelineHow to make your life so juicy that you don't feel like you're missing out on anythingBook recommendation: “Thank You, More Please” — a feminist dating guide that reframes modern loveA reminder that the most important relationship you'll ever have is with yourselfI hope you enjoy this episode

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by the marvelous Lily Womble—a feminist dating coach, former top matchmaker, host of the Date Brazen podcast and author of Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love.  Lily is on a mission to help us break free from the beliefs the patriarchy has embedded in our love lives—and to ask for more.  In this conversation, we talk about what it means to date as a feminist. We explore everything from how the patriarchy shapes modern dating culture to why so many women feel like they're “too much” and “not enough” at the same time.  We'll hear about Lily's experience dating as a self described late bloomer, we'll unravel the tension between wanting to be chosen and choosing for ourselves, how you can overcome a scarcity mindset - thoughts like, “It'll never happen for me!” - by harnessing the power of desire. We also get into black cat energy, the male gaze, and flirting, of course! So, whether you've ever felt behind in dating, struggled to believe you deserve more, or found yourself following traditional gender norms and yet it's not for you - you're going to want to hear this. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Lily! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Lily Womble was one of the top matchmakers in the U.S. After setting up hundreds of first dates, she realized that with the right tools, high achieving women could match themselves better than anyone else ever could.  She started her company, Date Brazen, five years ago and has since helped thousands of women become their own expert matchmaker with her unconventional, intersectional feminist approach to dating.  She's on a mission to interrupt the patriarchal status quo found in the dating world to help women create love lives that are self-trust filled, settle-proof, and actively joyful.   She changes lives daily with her 85k+ TikTok community, Top 4 Relationship Podcast- The Date Brazen Podcast- , and sold-out coaching programs world-wide. She lives in Brooklyn with her fiancé, Chris. You can find out more about working with Lily here, buy Thank You, More Please, follow Lily on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, and stream the Date Brazen podcast. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Hey girl,In this uplifting episode, I sit down with dating coach and author Lily Womble to explore how gratitude can be a powerful portal for manifesting the love you desire. Inspired by her transformative book Thank You, More Please, we dive into why dating feels especially difficult right now — and how to bring back joy, agency, and fun into your love life. One of the standout tools we discuss is the Dating Scavenger Hunt: a playful and empowering way to challenge yourself, stay open, and make dating feel exciting again. This conversation is all about turning your dating journey into a space for fun, expansion, pleasure, and possibility.BIO:Lily Womble is sparking a feminist revolution in the way we date and find love. She was one of the top matchmakers in the U.S., but after setting up hundreds of dates, Lily realized that the answer to finding love was much deeper than a setup and that the way we are taught to date is still stuck in the patriarchal dark ages. She founded her company, Date Brazen, in 2018 and has since helped hundreds of women create love lives that are epic, settle-proof, and joyful-as-hell with her intersectional feminist approach.She changes lives daily on TikTok, Top 4 Relationship Podcast- The Date Brazen Podcast, and sells out coaching programs worldwide. Her book, Thank You, More Please: A feminist guide to breaking dumb dating rules and finding love, is changing lives around the world, published by Legacy Lit. She's been featured by the New York Times, Washington Post, NBC News, Oprah Magazine, and Glamour.Resources Mentioned:https://www.datebrazen.com/bookIRL Dating Scavenger HuntFollow Us:Here are 3 ways I can help you:​Book A Call With Me - I've been getting A LOT of DM and email requests to chat with me and answer specific questions about love, dating, relationships, and men, so I'm opening back up my limited calendar for a few calls. So book a time with me here!Join the Get Your Guy Club- Wanna have Dating Support for a year to help you get your guy, but at your own pace. You can get access to my 2 weekly group calls, my private Facebook group, Monthly 1on1 calls, and my online course with 40+ hours of content for just monthly payments of $300…​Check out the Get Your Guy Coaching Podcast- With more than 100 episodes, you can binge and learn so much with my podcast. The latest episode is all about Sex Appeal with Shan Boodrum. Check it out here.Send us a textThank You: A big thank you to our listeners for tuning in! Your support and feedback are invaluable to us. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider subscribing, rating, and sharing the podcast with others who might benefit from it. For more updates and behind-the-scenes content, follow me on social media and visit my website. We appreciate you being part of our community!

In this kickoff to the Late Bloomer Series, Lily gets real about how to tell a date you've never been in a relationship—without spiraling, oversharing, or self-abandoning. If you've ever felt behind in love, this episode will help you embrace your story, communicate with confidence, and stop making your dating history mean something it doesn't.   ✨ Grab Lily's book Thank You, More Please + get the bonus Podcast Listening Guide: https://datebrazen.com/book   Get on the waitlist for Main Character Dating: https://www.datebrazen.com/waitlist   Learn how to work with me: https://www.datebrazen.com/   Follow me on ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube  

Are you tired of living for everyone else's expectations... and ready to step into your own dang spotlight?

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In this episode, we're diving deep into Main Character Energy — what it is, why it matters, and how to start building it (even if you're shy, introverted, or feeling wildly behind). You'll learn: - Why Main Character Energy is even more important in unstable times - The three essential skills at the heart of a Main Character Life - The truth about people-pleasing, perfectionism, and "best friend identity" - Why healing burnout isn't just for you — it's for your community, too - How to take powerful action using the "10 Seconds of Courage" method Real stories from Lily and her clients on what happens when you stop shrinking and start taking up space This is your invitation to stop settling for “good enough” and start creating a life that's audaciously joyful, deeply aligned, and unapologetically yours. Want to go deeper? Join us for the free live training on April 23rd: ✨ Stop People-Pleasing + Build a Stupidly Joyful Life ✨  You'll learn exactly how to cultivate Main Character Energy — and get a behind-the-scenes look at the 6-month mastermind, Main Character Life. RSVP HERE-- https://www.datebrazen.com/joyful-life Applications open during the live event, and spots are limited. ✨ Join the waitlist for early access → https://www.datebrazen.com/mcl-waitlist

She Moved Abroad, Quit Her Job & Took Her Life Back: Jackie's Main Character Energy Story Burned out, stuck, and shrinking herself to stay safe—Jackie thought joy was out of reach. In this powerful episode, she shares how she went from emotional exhaustion to building a joy-filled life abroad with purpose, friendship, and bold-ass moves. If you're craving your own main character energy moment, this one's for you. RSVP for my free training on April 23rd, 2025: https://www.datebrazen.com/joyful-life Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book Follow me on: ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube

“ You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.”Modern dating can feel like a chaotic mess—swiping fatigue, societal pressures, and outdated patriarchal norms make it seem more like a minefield than a path to love. But what if dating could actually be joyful, empowering, and aligned with your values? Enter Lily Womble, a feminist dating coach, author, speaker, and founder of Date Brazen, which is on a mission to help women create dating lives that feel extraordinary and authentic.In this episode, Erin and Lily break down the biggest myths about dating and offer powerful, actionable strategies to help you approach love on your terms. Whether you're feeling disheartened by the process or just need a fresh perspective, this conversation will leave you ready to date with confidence. We discuss:Why dating is still stuck in the dark ages and how to reclaim your power & joy in the processDating as self-care— prioritizing boundaries, agency, and pleasure over pressure and scarcityMost people aren't your person and how to focus on the ones who actually align with youDitch the checklist, because true compatibility is about how they make you feel, not just what's on paperWords matter—how reframing your dating mindset creates new possibilitiesUsing qualifying & disqualifying questions to filter for true compatibilityDating apps are just a tool—how to attract great matches both online and IRLOUR GUEST: Lily Womble is an intersectional feminist dating coach and founder of Date Brazen. She has led thousands of badass, feminist women around the world to build dating lives that feel like self-care, that also lead to extraordinary love. Womble has been featured in InStyle, HuffPost, Bustle, ABC News, and Oprah Magazine. She lives in Brooklyn.Want more Lily? Find her and Date Brazen online at https://www.datebrazen.com/ and listen to the Date Brazen podcast https://www.datebrazen.com/blog. Check out her book Thank You, More Please.Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

In this episode, Lily shares the ONE question that will revolutionize how you vet potential partners, ensuring you never waste time on lackluster dates and conversations again. Grab your notepad because this episode isn't just about strategy - it's a journey into reclaiming control of your dating narrative and steering towards the relationships you truly desire. Links: ✨ Order Lily's book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get our free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to attract the right partner as a "late bloomer": https://www.datebrazen.com/training ✨ Download the Free Guide to Your Essence-Based Preferences HERE ✨ Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/qd-questions-strategy ✨ Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   ✨ Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

In this week's episode of the Date Brazen Podcast-- Episode Spotlight: "How can I stop being lazy in my dating life?", I'm teaching you exactly what you need to do instead of falling for the productivity myth. (which will lead to better outcomes for your dating life!)   What you'll learn in the episode:   ✨ How to ditch the idea that “doing more” will get you better results in dating. ✨ How to do the most POWERFUL tiny steps in dating to get the biggest results. ✨ Why embracing self-care and giving yourself permission to slow down is key. ✨ How to redefine dating success on your own terms—and why that's your real path to finding the right people for you. ____________   WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training   Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode, I walk you through my Blessing and Releasing strategy: a powerful step-by-step method to let go of the wrong people and make space for the right ones. Because holding on to what isn't meant for you? That's keeping you from what is.   Here's what you'll learn: ✨ How to identify who to bless and release (and why it's essential). ✨ The mindset shift that will help you actually move on. ✨ Why setting boundaries is a radical act of self-love. ✨ How to embrace abundance instead of settling out of scarcity. ✨ The truth: You are worthy of what you desire in love. ____________   WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training   Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode, I break down exactly how to start dating with confidence, self-care, and intention.-- especially if you've never dated before!   You'll get a step-by-step guide to move past fear, own your desires, and create a joyful dating life on your terms.   Here's what you'll walk away with: ✨ How to start dating from a place of power (not pressure). ✨ Why your thoughts are not always facts—and how to shift them. ✨ The "Thank You More Please" challenge to clarify what you really want. ✨ How to release perfectionism and embrace the messy, fun, real parts of dating. ✨ The truth: You are uniquely qualified for the right person. _________ WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training   Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

If you've ever been told you're too picky or need to be more open, this episode is for you. Your preferences aren't the problem—they're the key to dating with more joy and ease. I break down how to define your essence-based preferences so you can stop wasting time on the wrong people and start attracting the right ones.   ✨ Get free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training   Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE. 

“Should I give them another chance, or should I ‘just know' if they're right?” Hot take: The whole slow burn vs. spark debate might be keeping you from finding a meaningful connection. This episode challenges the idea that a romantic connection needs to fit neatly into a “slow burn” or “spark” to be worth pursuing. In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ The pros and cons of Slow Burn vs. Spark—and why binaries rarely help in dating. ✨ Why curiosity is your best guide—offering a healthy middle ground that brings clarity without overthinking. ✨ When you're just not feeling romantic interest? Bless and release without guilt! ✨ How to know what you want, trust your instincts, and choose curiosity over stressing about instant chemistry. Get ready to reframe your approach to dating, focus on what matters, and let go of the pressure to decide if it's a slow burn or a spark from the start. Let's make dating feel lighter, more fun, and aligned with you! Links: Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/slowburn-vs-spark

How do you date with intention and authenticity during an election season? You're in luck! Lily is back with a special episode all about dating during the election. She explores how to navigate the heightened political climate with a boundaried, agency-filled plan to attract people who truly align with your values.  Lily also shares tips on crafting a profile that reflects your values, managing tough discussions on dates, and knowing when to "bless and release." Get ready to learn how to vet dates based on political beliefs, set firm boundaries, and confidently steer conversations. You'll learn: Understanding your boundaries and using essence-based preferences to define how you want to feel in a relationship How to incorporate your political values into your essence-based framework Best practices for bringing up politics in dating, including a reminder that “You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person.” Guidelines for dating during an election year, focusing on asking questions and prioritizing your emotional well-being Tips for including your political preferences in your dating profile Navigating heated political discussions during a date with grace Links: Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! 121. Dating Apps, AMA 135. How to create your essence-based preferences 162. The complete dating detox guide Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/dating-during-an-election  

Did you know that dating can actually be JOYFUL? That you don't HAVE to be on the apps to meet people? We sure didn't. Thank the good lord for Lily Womble, creator of Date Brazen and author of "Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love." In this episode, Lily covers: Why the current state of dating sucks so much... it's not just you and there's real cognitive reasons why it feels so awful How to start centering IRL dating and get off the apps How to stop feeling behind and embrace your singleness A step-by-step plan to take your dating life from *bleh* to FULL OF JOY How to embrace the awkwardness and messiness of dating What the phrase "Thank You, More Please" means and how to start using it to create the life you want How to build a date that brings you joy Connect with Lily: On her website  Buy her book  Main Character Dating course  Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, Gabrielle sits down with Lily Womble, a former matchmaker turned dating expert. Growing up in the South, Lily's self-worth was tied to her relationship status, often leading her into relationships that weren't right for her. After moving to New York and achieving success at a top matchmaking firm, she found herself in a series of toxic situations and realized she was far from practicing what she preached. At her breaking point, Lily left her job and launched DateBrazen, where she flipped the f%cking script on her dating approach. By embracing self-compassion and ditching rigid checklists, she opened herself up to new possibilities. Her book, ThankYou, More Please, even sparked a viral TikTok challenge about manifesting the good things you want in life. Tune in for some f%cking great advice on navigating the dating world and manifesting the relationship you truly desire!Check out Lily's book “Thank You, More Please” and learn more about the coaching sessions she offers at datebrazen.com.Follow your host!     TikTok: @gabrielle_stone    Instagram: @gabriellestone & @fmltalkpodcast    YouTube: FML TALK    Website: www.eatprayfml.com        Plus, if you want to submit an FML story, email it to info@eatprayfml.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Gabrielle sits down with Lily Womble, a former matchmaker turned dating expert. Growing up in the South, Lily's self-worth was tied to her relationship status, often leading her into relationships that weren't right for her. After moving to New York and achieving success at a top matchmaking firm, she found herself in a series of toxic situations and realized she was far from practicing what she preached. At her breaking point, Lily left her job and launched DateBrazen, where she flipped the f%cking script on her dating approach. By embracing self-compassion and ditching rigid checklists, she opened herself up to new possibilities. Her book, ThankYou, More Please, even sparked a viral TikTok challenge about manifesting the good things you want in life. Tune in for some f%cking great advice on navigating the dating world and manifesting the relationship you truly desire! Check out Lily's book “Thank You, More Please” and learn more about the coaching sessions she offers at datebrazen.com. Follow your host!      TikTok: @gabrielle_stone     Instagram: @gabriellestone & @fmltalkpodcast     YouTube: FML TALK     Website: www.eatprayfml.com          Plus, if you want to submit an FML story, email it to info@eatprayfml.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hot-take: You should make the first move 100% of the time. If you read that and feel a sense of fear, that's okay! In this episode, Lily breaks down everything from rocking a proactive mindset to embracing those awkward moments and showing yourself some self-compassion so you can confidently make the first move every time. This is the most passionate lesson Lily teaches, and she has seen a major difference in clients' ability to attract the right partner. Tune in to learn how to transform your dating life with bold confidence and get the deets on more resources to help you along the way.  You'll learn: How to embrace the awkwardness, recognize your inner power, and remember you're resilient AF. “You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.” Take Your Shot: Every attempt brings you closer to what you want because you're actively attracting and asking for it. Use the S.O.F.T. method to move through rejection: Self-compassion, Own Your Needs, Feel Your Feelings, and remember that Thoughts Are Not Facts. Creative and practical suggestions to help you take that first step! Links: ✨RSVP for Lily's Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Main Character Dating Lily's book: Thank You, More Please 162. The Complete Dating Detox Guide Kristin Neff's Self-compassion.org Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/make-the-first-move-every-time  

Send us a Text Message.Emma Specter just published their book More Please: Food, Fat, Bingeing, Longing, and the Lust for "Enough"! "More Please" is a beautifully reported journalistic memoir that interrogates and reframes Emma's own relationship with their body. They're also the culture writer at Vogue, where they write about film, TV, books, podcasts, news, body politics, and queer artists and issues.  From abortion access in California, Dakota Johnson's performance in "Am I OK?", and being fat during a global pandemic to ranking the best Mary Kate and Ashley movies of all time, Emma covers culture with smarts and style.  Listen to us discuss the book, our bodies, clothes, relationships, allyship and more. Buy More Please: Food, Fat, Bingeing, Longing, and the Lust for "Enough" by Emma Specter today. Follow Emma on Instagram here. And on X here. Follow me on IG here. Access exclusive content on my Substack here. Please rate and review the show wherever you listen! And write me with questions and ideas: tierneytierneytierneytalks@gmail.com Thanks to Margot Padilla for engineering and editing this episode.Support the Show.

Why do we always feel awkward asking our friends for help with our love lives? Imagine the game-changing power of having a trusted squad of co-conspirators in your corner, ready to support you. This episode dives into how to ask your friends to be your co-conspirators in love—one of the top three ways to date IRL! Now, it's not that your friends are clueless about dating; they just need to learn how to help you in a way that matches your wants, needs, and desires. In this episode, Lily guides you through a co-conspirator invitation, so your friends can really be there for you. Here's what you'll learn in this juicy episode: Learn how to spot the friends who are perfect for this role and how to prepare for that all-important invitation  Asking someone to be your love-life co-conspirator is an honor—here's how to make sure you're ready to have that convo. Not every friend will be a good fit as a co-conspirator, and that's okay. Discover creative solutions to avoid dead-ends and establish boundaries. FAQ on Co-Conspirators: Everything from the best personality types for this role to how to figure out if your friends are mentally available, and overcoming the shame of asking for help. Tune in and transform your dating life with the help of your very own dream team!

Ever dreamed of writing a book or want to share your story and ideas? If so, this episode is for you. Lily welcomes Richelle Fredson, her incredible book proposal coach, on the show. Without Richelle, Thank You, More Please would still be a dream! We're diving deep into main character energy and how to bring it to your writing and publishing journey. We're talking about what it takes to get published, the importance of sharing your story, and how to boldly step into the world with your unique voice. For nearly 20 years, Richelle has been a powerhouse in the book publishing industry. Known as the "six-figure book coach," she's worn many hats: publishing guide, guest teacher, and marketing strategist for bestselling authors. Now, she's here to help aspiring authors develop standout book concepts, killer book proposals, and vibrant online communities. Get ready to embrace your main character energy and share your story with the world, even if you don't think you're ready yet. We get into: Conquering the anxiety of "shooting your shot" Flipping the script on imposter syndrome: embracing bold, messy action Richelle's take: "Who gets to write a book and who gets published?" Diving in: "You can start before you think you're ready" The real talk on getting a book published The book proposal: your golden ticket to traditional publishing and ultimate self-advocacy Overcoming comparison and self-doubt to start telling your story Links: Richelle's website Richelle's podcast Bound + Determined Lily on Richelle's podcast You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now, and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/write-a-book-richelle-fredson  

Ever wondered why you often overlook the self-care you desperately need? This week, Lily chats with the amazing Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite who drops some serious knowledge on managing stress, building habits that stick, and incorporating practical self-care into our everyday lives. Get ready for some game-changing insights straight from her awesome books!  We get into: The three must-have types of self-care for ultimate well-being  How to spot the red flags that scream you're neglecting self-care  Handling high-stakes pressure in dating and staying grounded Why stress isn't all bad—it's all about balance and self-compassion  How inequality affects self-care for Women of Color and how everyone can be co-conspirators in making a change  Fun and easy activities to seamlessly weave self-care into your daily routine  Links: Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite's website You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book!

Apply for Farnoosh's Mentorship Program.Today's show focuses on helping a listener who is an exceptional saver - but has no financial goals. How can she prioritize her spending? Also, navigating a future fiance's massive debt load and job interview red flags. Listen to hear how to win a free copy of Thank You, More Please. Mentioned: The So Money episode on Pre-Nups.

As a single woman who is actively dating, it can be tough to get adequate support from your friends. Sometimes they mean well, but the things they say and do can feel dismissive or insulting, and that can begin to create a certain emotional distance that's hard to recover from.That's where dating expert Lily Womble comes in. In Lily's new book "Thank You, More Please", she breaks down how women can get more adequate support from their friends along their dating journey.As always, the unedited version of this interview can be found in our private community, The Group Chat.To learn more about the research around women's connection and conflict, visit Betterfemalefriendships.com

Can you be a feminist and still participate in finding a partner in today's dating landscape? How can you allow yourself to want a partner while maintaining your independence and autonomy? These are some of the questions we address in this bonus episode with one of my favorite people ever, Lily Womble. Lily is a feminist dating coach and the founder and creator of Date Brazen, a feminist dating coaching program and movement that I really wish was around when I was dating. We discuss dating apps and why they are both useful tools and addiction-creating slot machines, how to navigate the dating world with your values and true desires at the forefront, and how to give yourself the radical permission you crave to go after what you want. Her new book "Thank you, More Please!: A feminist guide to breaking dumb dating rules and finding love" is out today!Get full show notes, transcript, and links to Lily's work here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/bonus-lily-womble

In this episode of the “Ask a Matchmaker” podcast, Matchmaker Maria is joined by dating coach and author Lily Womble to celebrate the release of her new book, “Thank You, More Please.” They dive into the core principles of feminist dating, discussing how traditional dating advice often fails women by perpetuating patriarchal norms. Lily shares insights on her 12-Date Rule method, designed to shift focus from physical to emotional compatibility, and offers practical steps for a dating detox to help reset your approach to finding love. They also explore the importance of agency and self-compassion in dating, and discuss strategies for meeting emotionally secure partners. Whether you're hitting the patios this season or navigating online dating, this episode provides valuable tips to empower your love life. Tune in to learn how to stand in your power and find meaningful connections on your own terms. Lily Womble is the Founder and CEO of DateBrazen, whose mission is to help badass, feminist humans build joyful, fulfilling, and confident-as-hell dating lives that lead to extraordinary love.    In 2015, she moved to NYC to try a new career in musical theatre.During that time she worked various side hustle jobs and on a whim took another as a matchmaker (because if anything it would make for a good story). Turns out she wasvery good at it! During her matchmaking days, she set up 399 dates and became the 3rd most successful matchmaker out of 160 around the country. In setting up all these dates, she realized that dating is a microcosm of our overall wellbeing and working with women on their love lives really fit into her heart's purpose. LINKS:  https://www.datebrazen.com/ (https://www.datebrazen.com/) https://www.datebrazen.com/book (https://www.datebrazen.com/book) https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen (https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-date-brazen-podcast/id1498856353 (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-date-brazen-podcast/id1498856353) https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen (https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen) *******Stay Connected!******** @matchmakermaria (Follow!) @askamatchmaker (Follow the pod!) Make sure to subscribe and sign up for notifications for fantastic dating and relationship advice brought to you by Maria Avgitidis!  

Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, shares insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please” so that you can navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main character energy. Plus, she will share how to know when it's time for a dating detox.  The Dating Dish story this week is based on new findings from Tinder: The Green Flags Study on Assumptions & Dating Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How fast is too fast when dating a new match? Follow Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Thank You, More Please”. Read the Tinder study by visiting: tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study#assets_all Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Intro (00:01:38) Tinder's "Green Flag Study" on assumptions in dating  (00:05:47) Challenges in modern dating  (00:07:00) Creating positive dating experiences  (00:14:57) Criticism of dating apps  (00:17:24) The challenges of modern dating  (00:18:36) Design of dating apps  (00:19:01) Impact of dating apps on users  (00:21:23) Dependency on dating apps  (00:22:22) Main character energy in dating  (00:25:57) The practice of dating skills  (00:30:15) Challenging societal messaging  (00:29:11) Bragging on a date  (00:34:22) Brazen Bragging  (00:38:08) Essence Based Preferences  (00:42:18) Dating Detox: When and Why  (00:48:28) Importance of Intentional Dating  (00:49:21) Navigating Relationship Preparation  (00:49:58) Lily Womble's new book, "Thank You More Please"  (00:50:27) Listener Question: Relationship Pace  (00:51:52) The Notion of "Slow Love"  (00:53:06) Balancing New Love and Personal Life  (00:55:21) Cherishing New Love  (00:56:32) Invitation for Questions and Future Episode Preview Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My first book, Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love, is out in the world right now. I'm SO EXCITED! My business manager Jayla Rae joins me to reveal the little-known, lesser-discussed pieces of my book-writing journey. She's leading me through questions about what I learned while writing the book, what I am most looking forward to, and thought-provoking questions about the book from Date Brazen clients! Join us on this behind-the-scenes book journey! We get into: Getting real and raw while writing the book and the juicy stories within The feels and the fun of sharing my book with friends and family for the first time. Answering burning questions from the Date Brazen community about the book, future plans, and beyond! Links: You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/book-pub-day-qa  

**Book Giveaway** Leave a review for this episode in Apple Podcasts to enter to win one of 10 copies of Thank You, More Please.** Lily Womble, feminist dating coach and founder of Date Brazen, joins So Money to share advice from her new book, Thank You, More Please. Learn how to navigate the dating world without depending on matchmaking apps, and using "Essence-Based Preferences" to attract exactly what you desire in your love life.

How can embracing your main character energy and taking up space transform your journey?  In this episode, Lily sits down with Krishan Trotman, VP and Publisher of Legacy Lit Books, to discuss the exciting journey of co-creating Lily's new book 'Thank You, More Please,' which hits shelves next week, June 11th.

This week on Bound + Determined, I'm sitting down with Lily Womble, author of Thank You, More Please, (Legacy Lit, June 2024) —a book I've proudly been a part of since a chance meeting with the author pre-pandemic.

Did you ever wonder how feminist dating principles could make your marriage stronger? In this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, you're going to find out. I was joined by Lily Womble, my favorite dating coach and founder of Date Brazen, a coaching framework that's helped hundreds of women around the world build a clear path to the best relationships of their lives with unconventional, feminist-led coaching. I got a sneak peek of Lily's upcoming book, “Thank You, More Please” which will be released in June. We talked all about the concepts she explores inside and how it serves as a feminist guide to breaking dumb dating rules. You know I could talk about navigating the patriarchy all day, so this was a super fun conversation and you're going to love Lily's insights. Just a few things we talked about included: - How women are taught to people-please and caregive in order to survive - What internalized patriarchy is and how it affects your relationships - Why I believe dating doesn't end just because you're married - How to recast your spouse in a role that you both value - My take on why it feels like women have to do “all” the emotional labor  You don't settle in any other area of your life, so let's not start with your most important relationship. This episode will give you the tools to envision and create a partnership you want to be in. Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/159

Kelly welcomes dating coach, author and founder of Date Brazen, Lily Womble, to the podcast to discuss a new perspective on Valentine's Day. Whether you are single or coupled up, Lily gives tangible tips to stop buying into the V-day Scam and comparison game that surrounds this holiday of romance. Lily's upcoming book Thank You, More Please also challenges listeners to build confident and joyful dating lives and relationships and breaks down simple steps to help you apply this to your life. She also discusses ways to have self compassion, to make this day what you want it to be and to always live a life where you celebrate yourself.  Website: datebrazen.com Socials: @datebrazen See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.