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It's Lesbian Visibillity week, where we take a look at some of the most wonderful women who have shaped Feast of Fun over the course of 20 years. Just like no two people are alike, the relationships we develop in our lives will also be incredibly unique. Before open relationships became more acceptable in LGBTQ+ circles, sex-positive writer Tristan Taormino was helping pave the way for people to expand their minds to new kinds of relationships.We spoke to Tristan in 2008 about her new book “Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships” where she said a big factor in fufilling relationships was for people to defnine monogamy on their own terms, and that the best relationships complement each other instead of trying to meet each other halfway in everything.  
Please enjoy this encore presentation of “Ménage à How Many?” with Tristan Taormino as part of our celebration of Lesbian Visibility Week and the design I made that became the modern lesbian pride flag. FEATURED BOOK:

This episode may get your heads scratching if you're tuning in from a society that has very specific relationship dynamics and arrangements in place. My curiosity to how other's live their lives and what they deem as healthy for their relationships has never been higher, as I am in the process of becoming the best partner and friend myself.In this episode, I speak to Akil Apollo Davis, a full-time Performing Artist & Theatre Professor of Mask and Art Aesthetic. He has been a unique and influential presence in New York City's performance, educational and cultural avant-garde for 2 decades. We discuss the ins and outs of this thing called Sex Positivity. And to give you a brief idea, sex positivity is a social and cultural movement that promotes an affirmative and open attitude towards all aspects of sexuality. It encourages individuals to embrace and explore their own sexual desires, preferences, and identities without judgment or shame. Sex positivity emphasizes the importance of consent, communication, and respect in sexual relationships. He has trained with Monks in Thailand, Brahmans in Bali, Witches in New York, and has worked with Psychologists to bridge the gaps between esoteric knowledge and classical paradigms. Akil's Karmic mantra: there must be more light. Episode Highlights Meet the one and only Akil How he went from celibacy to monogamy to discovering consensual non-monogamy Akil's understanding of attachment and fear in relationships The establishment of monogamy Accessing your healthy sexual energy The tiers of being non-monogamous, and the importance of communication on your wants and needs Emotional maturity Real life examples on how non-monogamy works The ins and outs of play parties The downsides of sex positivity/monogamy Compersion - a new word to remember Resources, courtesy of Akil:Sex-Positivity for Curious Minds 1.“The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy2.“Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life” by Emily Nagoski3.“Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships” by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá4.“Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships” by Tristan Taormino5.“What Makes a Baby” by Cory Silverberg (for all kinds of families)6.“Queer: A Graphic History” by Meg-John Barker and Julia Scheele7.“The New Topping Book” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy8.“The New Bottoming Book” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy9.“Girl Sex 101” by Allison Moon and KD Diamond10.“Pussy: A Reclamation” by Regena Thomashauer11.“Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century” by Barbara Carrellas12.“Sex God Method” by Daniel Rose13.“The Art of Sexual Magic: Cultivating Sexual Energy to Transform Your Life” by Margo Anand Psychological and Emotional Work for Curious Minds1.“The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” by Bessel van der Kolk2.“The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse” by Wendy Maltz3.“Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma” by Staci Haines4.“Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha” by Tara Brach5.“The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship” by Don Miguel Ruiz6.“Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by Dr. Sue Johnson7.“More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory” by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert8.“Love's Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy” by Irvin D. Yalom9.“Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex—and How to Get It” by Marty Klein Improving Your Sex Life1.“She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman” by Ian Kerner2.“The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know” by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams3.“The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge” by Tristan Taormino4.“The Multi-Orgasmic Woman: How Any Woman Can Experience Ultimate Pleasure and Dramatically Enhance Her Health and Happiness” by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams5.“The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: How Couples Can Dramatically Enhance Their Pleasure, Intimacy, and Health” by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams6.“The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover” by David Deida7.“Guide to Getting It On: Unzipped” by Paul Joannides, Psy.D.8.“Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man” by Ian Kerner  Get in touch with Stephanie: www.listeningwellpodcast.com | @listeningwellpodcast Thank you for Listening Well!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fan girl moment! In this episode we interview one of our idles, Tristan Taormino. We learn all about her life from her upbringing to what lead her to become a trailblazing feminist pornographer and why she's proudly known as Butt Girl. Tristan also shares advice for folks who want to watch ethical porn, as well as how to navigate shame around being turned on by rough or objectifying imagery or fantasies. Get ready to laugh, learn, and listen to an inspiring life story! About our guest: Tristan Taormino is a writer, speaker, sex educator, and host of the podcast Sex Out Loud. A former syndicated columnist for The Village Voice, she is the author of numerous books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, Down and Dirty Sex Secrets, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, and her recent memoir A Part of the Heart Can't Be Eaten. She is the founding editor of the annual Best Lesbian Erotica anthologies, editor of The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Edge, and coeditor of The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure. Taormino has won four Lambda Literary Awards and eight Feminist Porn Awards, among other awards. She lives in Los Angeles. To learn more go to tristantaormino.com Join us for our live Topless (and tapas) book reading in San Francisco on Wednesday, November 15th! Tickets are limited to snag yours ASAP here Pre-order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com and get free access to our online workshop How to Pamper Your Partner for every book preorder (offer/workshop is exclusive to preorders). Other links: Start meditating now with 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at calm.com/shameless Get 20% off The Personal Massager by Butter Wellness when you go to butterwellness.com and use the code “SHAMELESS” at checkout Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

“This is the thing I used to say to my wife, ‘Just because I love you, everyone else didn't suddenly become ugly.'” In Part Two of “Ethical Non-Monogamy” Ogun and I explore jealousy, Ogun's view of God in relation to relationships, and more. Resources: Books: Love's Not Colorblind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin A. Pattersonhttps://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/36206376 Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristian Taorminohttps://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/1128665 Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmongamy by Jessica Fernhttps://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/52569124 Podcasts about non-monogamy: “Multiamory” https://www.multiamory.com/podcast“Curious Fox” https://www.wearecuriousfoxes.com/podcast Sex-positive podcasts:  “Dan Savage Lovecast” https://savage.love/lovecast/ “Sex with Emily” https://sexwithemily.com/"Doing it! With Hannah Witton" https://hannahwitton.com/podcast/ Instagrams Accounts About Polyamory: “PolyPages” https://www.instagram.com/polypages/ “Polyamory_Awareness” https://www.instagram.com/polyamory_awareness/“Raquel Savage” https://www.instagram.com/raquelsavage/“Good Polyamory” https://www.instagram.com/goodpolyamory/ “Faithfully Polyamorous” https://www.instagram.com/faithfullypolyamorousSupport the showFollow us for more ✨bad✨ content: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtobebad_podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtobebad Website: https://calledtobebad.buzzsprout.com/ Sponsor of this episode: https://www.arthumorsoul.com/ Want to become part of the ✨baddie✨ community? Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/calledtobebad Have a ✨bad✨ topic you want to talk about on the show? Get in touch with host, Mariah Martin at: calledtobebad@gmail.com #ctbb #podcast #podcastersoffacebook ...

Goat and Fox talk about the downfalls and benefits of 'Coming Out' about being non-monogamous/polyamorous to family, friends, acquaintances, and co-workers. You can contact us via email at ginandjuicewithgoatandfox@gmail.com Follow us on IG and FB Goat and Fox (@ginandjuicewithgoatandfox) • Instagram Gin and Juice with Goat and Fox | Facebook Fox wrote about her personal experience with 'Coming Out': The Ugly in Being Open About Our Non-monogamy The Bad in Being Open About Our Non-monogamy The Good in Being Open About Our Non-monogamy Pt 1 The Good in Being Open About Our Non-monogamy Pt 2 The Good in Being Open About Our Non-monogamy Pt 3 Referenced Couple's book: No More Fighting: The Relationship Book for Couples: 20 Minutes a Week to a Stronger Relationship Favorite Resources from Goat and Fox's library: Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Thanks to R Stevenson Art (@rstevensonart) • Instagram for our fabulous show art. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Last week, we got a question from an anonymous helper who's in love with her husband... And his brother. It's complicated. But it's ok! Because this week, we dive back into our conversation with speaker, coach and host of The Love Drive, Shaun Galanos.  Follow @hahopodcast on Instagram for more! Shaun Galanos:https://www.shaungalanos.com/@thelovedrive Ms. Danielle: https://msdanielleferrentino.com/IG: @msdanielleferrentinoBooks Discussed in this Episode:Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships28 Summers Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/help-a-human-out.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/help-a-human-out.

If you've ever been in love you know it is amazing. But it can also be confusing, complicated, or downright illogical. So what do you do when you are in love with not only your husband, but his brother too? Well, that's the question we are answering today. Our incredible resident love expert Shaun Galanos (speaker, coach and host of The Love Drive), is back to help us help this human out.  Follow @hahopodcast on Instagram for more! Shaun Galanos:https://www.shaungalanos.com/IG:@thelovedrive Ms. Danielle: https://msdanielleferrentino.com/IG: @msdanielleferrentinoBooks Discussed in this Episode:Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships28 Summers Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/help-a-human-out.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/help-a-human-out.

This week we're joined by Sex Out Loud podcast host, award-winning author, sex educator, and speaker Tristan Taormino to talk about solo polyamory and relationship anarchy. Tristan has edited 25 anthologies and written 8 books on the subject of sex and relationships, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She is also the founder of The Open List, which details healthcare and other professionals who have experience working with alternative sexualities and lifestyles. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more!Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com, or you can leave us a voicemail at 678-MULTI-05. We love to hear from our listeners and we read every message. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network.

In this episode Madeline spoke with Gabriel, a cisgender male who has experience in consensual polyamorous relationships. They chat about boundaries and how it is different in each non-monogamous relationship. Madeline and Gabriel dive into the concept of jealously and finding the root cause. They also explore the importance of needing consent from all parties involved and keeping an open and honest stream of communication.Gabriel recommends these books:Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by-Tristan TaorminoThe Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Loveby- Janet W. Hardy

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work. The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamy Tristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up. Decisions to make regarding non-monogamy Tristan's advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try. Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this. The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamy Time management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed. We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan's suggests the ‘don't ask, don't tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly. Considering the Past Trauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner's triggers and understand why they exist. Background Tristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years. Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals. Links and Resources Tristan's Book – https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X Website http://tristantaormino.com/ https://openingup.net/ More info: Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ Host Recent Episodes Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taorminoMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

Our sex-negative culture pushes us to repress and feel shame about our sexuality or lifestyle. Stepping out of the shadows and telling your story becomes an important act of rebellion. There are risks involved in telling your story. More than just the frowning disapproval of judgy relatives at holiday dinners, living an openly atypical life can lead to risks to employment, housing, medical care, and child custody. This is why it's doubly important that those who can live out loud do since their open existence is a powerful 'fuck you' to the status quo. Our guest today has been openly flipping off the establishment for more than 25 years since beginning the magazine 'Pucker Up' shortly after finishing college. She continues to do so as she works on a memoir telling her story from childhood through to her relationship with her father as he battled AIDS in the early years of the epidemic. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark are joined by Tristan Taormino to discuss her upcoming (as yet untitled) memoir and to talk about Telling Your Story as Resistance. Tristan Taormino is an award-winning author, sex educator, speaker, and media maker. She is editor of 25 anthologies and the author of eight books on sex and relationships including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She is founder of The Open List, a list of professionals (therapists, social workers, psychiatrists, psychologists, consultants, relationship and life coaches, doctors, lawyers, etc.) who are experienced and knowledgeable about alternative sexuality and lifestyles, including open relationships, polyamory, and non-monogamy. She is the host of the long running podcast Sex Out Loud.  Find Tristan at @TristanTaormino and @SexOutLoud on Twitter and her patreon at https://www.patreon.com/tristantaormino Buy Kat Stark's novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers. Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible , Itunes Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK  Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com   Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode 104 is officially going down in the annals of American Sex history as the go-to butt play guide. Tristan Taormino tells us everything we’ve always wanted to know more about backdoor play. We bust anal sex myths that keep us ashamed and afraid to experiment. Tristan gets to the bottom of the notion that anal is the riskiest kind of sex--find out if that’s really true and why. You'll learn essential anal anatomy, the best lube for your behind, enema do’s and dont’s, the benefits of anal masturbation, specific step-by-step guidelines for givers and receivers to maximize your odds of having a painless & pleasurable experience, the best positions for anal (including pegging), the real story on gaping, anal training & buttplugs, and a butt-load more (ha!). Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999  Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 104 Links Tristan Taormino Twitter https://twitter.com/TristanTaormino Tristan Taormino Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tristantaormino/ Tristan Taormino Facebook https://www.facebook.com/AskTristan/ Tristan Taormino SFW website http://tristantaormino.com/ Tristan Taormino NSFW website https://puckerup.com/ Sex Out Loud podcast https://www.voiceamerica.com/show/2096/sex-out-loud Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X/ The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, 2nd Edition https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Anal-Sex-Women/dp/1573442216 Tristan Taormino Patreon https://www.patreon.com/tristantaormino Tristan Taormino’s bonus story https://www.patreon.com/posts/30122979 Former Podcast with Ruby Ryder on Pegging http://sunnymegatron.com/ruby-ryder-pegging-paradise/ Amberly Rothfield Twitter Video (CAUTION: On a NSFW tube site) https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5d7d8fc6c1fef American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast  Episode 104 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info 30 day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY http://dipseastories.com/sunny Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY  http://manscaped.com  10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric  & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed At least 25% off BDSM gear & sex toys with Stockroom’s daily deal (there’s a new product each day!) https://www.stockroom.com/dailydeal/?acc=7c590f01490190db0ed02a5070e20f01

Recently, Forty Thrive co-hosted an event called The Self Care Project, showcasing experts in all areas of self care; mind, body and spirit. During this event, we hosted a panel called "Pleasure as Self Care," featuring some incredible sexual health experts. One of those experts was the outspoken and super funny Wendy Miller. Click here to download... Wendy is an award-winning, writing and producer powerhouse, working with media giants like NBC, Lifetime and Oprah Winfrey. She also spent over seven years creating hundreds of hours of premium, sex-positive programming for couples as Head of Programming for Playboy TV. It’s because of that role that Wendy is now a board-certified sexologist, serving as a sexual wellness consultant with a passion for helping women improve their lives through healthy, positive sex lives. Wendy's faves:  Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love Sliquid Organics Magic Wand Womanizer *Some of these products include affiliate links which may provide a commission to Forty Thrive at no cost to you. 

As the new year begins, The Pageist joins Lee to discuss delicious books to curl up with this winter. From hot erotica to invigorating writing to bring excellence to your sex life, they look at their favorite reading from the past year and beyond. Examining the shift from local bookstores to online-megamarts, they compare books and kinky toys, while encouraging everyone to find the best opportunities for learning and inspiration for them. Passion And Soul Podcast: iTunes Subscription: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/passion-soul-podcast-by-lee/id840372122  RSS Feed: http://passionandsoul.libsyn.com/rss  Past MP3 files: http://passionandsoul.libsyn.com  PassionAndSoul Audio Page: http://passionandsoul.com/audio  Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/erotic-awakening-podcast/passion-and-soul  Contact The Pageist: Website: http://thepageist.com iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/pageist-bdsm-sex-book-reviews/id1078134480 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thepageist/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ThePageist Email: thepageist@gmail.com Links, Events, People and Movies Mentioned: Mystic Productions Press: http://www.MysticProductionsPress.com Essence of Shibari by Shin Nawakari: https://www.amazon.com/Essence-Shibari-Kinbaku-Japanese-Bondage/dp/1942733852/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Queer Magic Anthology Call: http://www.mysticproductionspress.com/news/queer-magic Dan and Dawn of Erotic Awakening: http://eroticawakening.com Rachel Maddow Fan Page: http://www.maddowfans.com The Barbara Pimm Society: http://www.barbara-pym.org Amazon Smile Charity Program: https://org.amazon.com Arcane's Attic Floggers: http://www.arcanesattic.com PXS (Power Exchange Summit), May 19-21, 2017: http://powerexchangesummit.org The Marketplace 6-book Series, by Laura Antoniou: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B015TCJ4IM/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Laura Antoniou: http://lantoniou.com Catherynne Valente: http://www.catherynnemvalente.com Palimpsest, by Catherynne Valente: https://www.amazon.com/Palimpsest-Catherynne-Valente/dp/0553385763/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Stephen King: https://www.stephenking.com Jack Rinella: http://leathermusings.blogspot.com Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships, by Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Designer-Relationships-Monogamy-Polyamory-Optimistic/dp/1627781471/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, by Tristan Taormino: https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing, by Dr. David Lay: https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Porn-Dicks-Responsible-Pleasure/dp/0996485236/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 BDSM: A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism, by Ayzad: https://www.amazon.com/BDSM-Guide-Explorers-Extreme-Eroticism/dp/8892598457/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Look Into My Eyes: How to Use Hypnosis to Bring Out the Best in Your Sex Life, by Peter Masters: https://www.amazon.com/Look-Into-My-Eyes-Hypnosis/dp/1440449864/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Real Service, by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/Real-Service-Joshua-Tenpenny/dp/0982879431/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus, by Christina Abernathy: https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Slavehood-Miss-Abernathy-Omnibus/dp/1890159719/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities, by David M. Ortman and Richard A. Sprott: https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Outsiders-Understanding-Sexualities-Communities/dp/1442217367/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 CARAS: https://carasresearch.org Alfred Press: http://alfredpress.com Unequal by Design: Counseling Power Dynamic Relationships, by Sabrina Popp, MD and Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/Unequal-Design-Counseling-Dynamic-Relationships/dp/0982879482/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 National Leather Alliance book awards: http://www.nla-international.com/allawards.html Rooms Formed of Neurons and Sex, by Ferrett Steinmetz: http://uncannymagazine.com/article/rooms-formed-neurons-sex/ Leather Spirit Stallion, by Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/Leather-Spirit-Stallion-Kaldera-2015-03-18/dp/B01F9GZ9EQ/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Mollena Williams: http://mollena.com Jolted Awake: An Unconventional Memoir, by Richard Levine: http://alfredpress.com/jolted-awake-an-unconventional-memoir/ Soul of a Second Skin: The Journey of a Gay Christian Leatherman, by Hardy Haberman: https://www.amazon.com/Soul-Second-Skin-Christian-Leatherman/dp/1934625388/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Paige's page of 101 and recommended books page: http://thepageist.com/book-recommendations/ Paige's Goodreads Book List: https://www.goodreads.com/ThePageist Lee's Recommended Reading and Other Such Things: http://astore.amazon.com/pass-20 Meditations by Marcus Aurelius (Penguin Great Ideas Edition): https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Penguin-Great-Marcus-Aurelius/dp/0143036270/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 The Anatomy of Melancholy, by Robert Burton: https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Melancholy-Robert-Burton/dp/1781395764/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Remembrance of Things Past, Complete Unabridged 6-Book Bundle, by Marcel Proust: https://www.amazon.com/Modern-Library-Search-Complete-Unabridged-ebook/dp/B006NKL8BQ/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Lee's Upcoming Events/Appearances: http://passionandsoul.com/appearances Lee Harrington Contact Information: Website: http://www.PassionAndSoul.com FetLife: http://www.FetLife.com/passionandsoul Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/PassionAndSoul  Facebook Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/lee.harringon The Pageist shares her literary wit and wisdom with us all!

  There is a lot of misinformation about anal sex out there. In order to enter through the back door, it is important to have good information, good lube and a lot of patience & understanding about sex, your partner and yourself. Tristan Taormino joins Mou to deliver the goods on anal sex. ... Be sure to tune in!   Guest Bio Information: TRISTAN TAORMINO is an award-winning author, columnist, editor, and sex educator. She is the author of 7 books: including Secrets of Female Ejaculation and Great G-Spot Orgasms; Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships; and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. Tristan was the winner of a Firecracker Book Award and named Amazon.com’s #1 Bestseller in Women's Sex Instruction in 1998. She is series creator and founding editor of 18 volumes of the Lambda Literary Award-winning anthology Best Lesbian Erotica, an annual anthology, for which she's collaborated with many well known feminist and erotica writers. She runs her own adult film production company, Smart Ass Productions, and is currently an exclusive director for Vivid Entertainment. She writes an advice column for Taboo Magazine. Tristan has been featured in over 200 publications, has appeared on over 4 dozen radio and talk shows. She lectures at top universities. For full resumewww.puckerup.com.  

Download episode # 127 ThToday we give a warm welcome to Tristan Taormino the author of Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. Not only is she an amazing author of many books on sex, she is also a director of the revolutionary reality porn series known as Chemistry. Tristan tells us about her take on open relationships, legalizing marijuana, anal sex and dishes the dirt on bisexual pornography.Sex is Fun is sponsored by www.GreatSexGames.com , The Smitten Kitten, Extreme Restraints , and Healthy and Active Comment on this show at our FORUM

Gray interviews Tristan Taormino, author of Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. There are also a few spots left on Rita for your sponsorship of the ART of Rita. The ART itself will take place on July 10th, but her available limbs, etc. are going fast. To be a part of it, visit graydancer.com!