Podcast appearances and mentions of Cory Silverberg

A new report from the World Health Organization suggests that teens, including Canadians, are using condoms less. At the same time STI's like syphilis, chlamydia, and HIV have been on the rise in Canada. Cory Silverberg is a sex educator and author of "You Know, Sex" a book geared towards young people and all the questions they have. They answered your questions about how to start these conversations with your own teen.

Join Lyndsey and Denise as they chat with renowned sex educator Nadine Thornhill, Ed.D. Stay tuned as Nadine shares her expertise on when and how to talk to your kids about SEX. We discuss how parents should approach these crucial conversations, offering tips for making children comfortable and fostering inclusive and safe environments. Tune in for many invaluable insights! How old were you when you learned about the birds and the bees? Watch now and share your thoughts in the comments. Let's spark a conversation!

This episode may get your heads scratching if you're tuning in from a society that has very specific relationship dynamics and arrangements in place. My curiosity to how other's live their lives and what they deem as healthy for their relationships has never been higher, as I am in the process of becoming the best partner and friend myself.In this episode, I speak to Akil Apollo Davis, a full-time Performing Artist & Theatre Professor of Mask and Art Aesthetic. He has been a unique and influential presence in New York City's performance, educational and cultural avant-garde for 2 decades. We discuss the ins and outs of this thing called Sex Positivity. And to give you a brief idea, sex positivity is a social and cultural movement that promotes an affirmative and open attitude towards all aspects of sexuality. It encourages individuals to embrace and explore their own sexual desires, preferences, and identities without judgment or shame. Sex positivity emphasizes the importance of consent, communication, and respect in sexual relationships. He has trained with Monks in Thailand, Brahmans in Bali, Witches in New York, and has worked with Psychologists to bridge the gaps between esoteric knowledge and classical paradigms. Akil's Karmic mantra: there must be more light. Episode Highlights Meet the one and only Akil How he went from celibacy to monogamy to discovering consensual non-monogamy Akil's understanding of attachment and fear in relationships The establishment of monogamy Accessing your healthy sexual energy The tiers of being non-monogamous, and the importance of communication on your wants and needs Emotional maturity Real life examples on how non-monogamy works The ins and outs of play parties The downsides of sex positivity/monogamy Compersion - a new word to remember Resources, courtesy of Akil:Sex-Positivity for Curious Minds 1.“The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy2.“Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life” by Emily Nagoski3.“Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships” by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá4.“Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships” by Tristan Taormino5.“What Makes a Baby” by Cory Silverberg (for all kinds of families)6.“Queer: A Graphic History” by Meg-John Barker and Julia Scheele7.“The New Topping Book” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy8.“The New Bottoming Book” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy9.“Girl Sex 101” by Allison Moon and KD Diamond10.“Pussy: A Reclamation” by Regena Thomashauer11.“Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century” by Barbara Carrellas12.“Sex God Method” by Daniel Rose13.“The Art of Sexual Magic: Cultivating Sexual Energy to Transform Your Life” by Margo Anand Psychological and Emotional Work for Curious Minds1.“The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” by Bessel van der Kolk2.“The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse” by Wendy Maltz3.“Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma” by Staci Haines4.“Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha” by Tara Brach5.“The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship” by Don Miguel Ruiz6.“Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by Dr. Sue Johnson7.“More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory” by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert8.“Love's Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy” by Irvin D. Yalom9.“Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex—and How to Get It” by Marty Klein Improving Your Sex Life1.“She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman” by Ian Kerner2.“The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know” by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams3.“The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge” by Tristan Taormino4.“The Multi-Orgasmic Woman: How Any Woman Can Experience Ultimate Pleasure and Dramatically Enhance Her Health and Happiness” by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams5.“The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: How Couples Can Dramatically Enhance Their Pleasure, Intimacy, and Health” by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams6.“The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover” by David Deida7.“Guide to Getting It On: Unzipped” by Paul Joannides, Psy.D.8.“Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man” by Ian Kerner  Get in touch with Stephanie: www.listeningwellpodcast.com | @listeningwellpodcast Thank you for Listening Well!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

#028: Ali Prato - host of Infertile AF Podcast, Fertility Rally & Now Published Author!  If you're in the infertility space and haven't heard of Ali Prato's podcast, InfertileAF, I think you've been living under a rock.  Ali is an infertility warrior and advocate who went through secondary infertility before having her second child, Sonny, through IVF. Ali's podcast, Infertile AF, which was founded in 2019, has released more than 250 episodes and has been downloaded globally more than 1.4 million times. Listen to Infertile AF here. Her new book, Work of ART, is a children's book about IVF and Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART), based on her own experience to conceive her now 8-year old son, Sonny.  Connect with Ali:  Instagram: @InfertileAF Website: https://www.infertileafgroup.com/podcast  Email: infertileafstories@gmail.com  Book mentioned: You Know, Sex: Bodies, Gender, Puberty, and Other Things by Cory Silverberg - get it HERE (this is an Amazon affiliate link) ___________________________________________________________________________ WORK 1:1 WITH ME: If you're struggling with your fertility journey, and are craving connection and direction from someone whose been in your shoes...I'd love to show you the exact steps I took to find peace and happiness, even with my infertility.  _____________________________________________________________________________ Thanks to our amazing partners! Check out these deals just for you: Wild Wonder - Head to drinkwildwonder.com/LIFEBEYONDINFERTILITY to get 15% off your entire order! Mosie Baby - When intercourse isn't working or not possible, try the first FDA-cleared at-home intravaginal insemination kit. _____________________________________________________________________________ If you haven't already, please subscribe, rate, and review the podcast to be notified of new episodes every Tuesday. Plus, be sure to follow along on Instagram @lifebeyondinfertility.

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No parent is ever really prepared for the question “where do babies come from?” but thankfully there are ways you don't have to make it as weird as our parents did. In this episode, we chat with sex educator and author Cory Silverberg about theirnewest book, “You Know, Sex” and learn how to chat in curious and age appropriate ways about body parts, consent, identity, porn and other so-called “unmentionable” topics (we promise it's not as scary as it sounds!)   For more information on Cory Silverberg and all of their books: https://www.corysilverberg.com You can also follow them @corysilverberg    **You asked for a longer episode so we brought it!! Let us know what you think! We think this episode really needs to be listened to in its entirety but for those who like to jump around, below are some time codes where you can jump around to various topics.   @03:00 – Cory shares what it was like growing up with a father who was a sex therapist (spoiler: it wasn't like the show Sex Education lol)   @05:27 – We chat about shame and where it ACTUALLY comes from   @07:20 – What the research says when it comes to kids trusting their parents when it comes to sex education   @07:47 -Josie asks about what she can say to her two kids about sex in an age appropriate way (When they start asking about sperm!!)   @11:55– Why you shouldn't panic when kids ask about sex…because it's not really always about sex!   @13:07 – How to answer the question “where do babies come from?” in a way that doesn't have to be about sex (intercourse) at all!!   @14:40 – Is slang okay or should we be encouraging kids use “proper” names for genitals?   @16:35 – What age do kids actually start knowing their sexuality and how they identify?   @21:57 – How to talk about sex and baby making when your child has a disability      @28:45 -  The average age kids are first seeing porn (It's younger than you think!), what can we do to protect them, and how we can talk to them about it.   @36:55 – why you need good sex education books around the house   @37:52 - Tips for parents who feel completely lost when it comes to starting “the talk”, how you can start to get kids to think critically about things like sexism and relationship stereotypes.     If you're looking for even more, you can find some other sex education resources here: https://findyourpleasure.com/world-sexual-health-day/ https://findyourpleasure.com/kids-need-sexuality-education/              

How can parents and caregivers create a safe and open environment where young individuals navigating their own identities feel comfortable exploring and expressing their evolving identities? What are the most common misconceptions or misunderstandings that parents and caregivers have about supporting queer, trans, and non-binary young people? How can they overcome these barriers to offer genuine support? What actionable steps can educators and community leaders take to ensure that queer, trans, and non-binary youth feel seen, heard, and validated in these spaces?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline invite sex educator and author Cory Silberbeg back on the show to discuss how to support young people in their quest to understand their identity, sexual orientation, and gender in today's political climate. They discuss the role of “trusted adults”, how to facilitate conversations and field questions in the home, and how to ensure a support network in and out of the home environment. More about Cory Silverberg Raised in the 1970s by a children's librarian and a sex therapist, Cory grew up to be a sex educator, author, and queer person who smiles a lot when they talk.Cory spends a lot of time reading, writing, and talking about sex and gender and are happiest working with others. Cory was a founding member of the Come As You Are Co-operative and worked as a researcher and television consultant for over 10 years. Cory is a core team member of ANTE UP!, a virtual professional freedom school founded by Bianca I Laureano. They also spend a lot of time helping other people make books.Cory is the co-author of four books including What Makes a Baby, the ALA Stonewall Honor Book Sex Is a Funny Word, and the forthcoming You Know, Sex, all with Fiona Smyth. Cory has been featured on NPR's Fresh Air, and their books have been called “the books about sex that every family should read” by the New York Times.  Cory's life is full of kids. All of them know where babies come from. Some know more. Learn more about Cory at www.corysilverberg.com.IG: @corysilverbergTwitter: @corysilverbergFB: https://www.facebook.com/whatmakesababyWebsite: www.corysilverberg.comProfile in the New York Times Magazine: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/28/magazine/sex-ed-books-teens-parents.htmlANTE UP! Professional Development School: https://www.anteuppd.com/Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Today I'm speaking to Sarah Sproule (she/them), a sex educator, an occupational therapist, as well as a mother of three teens. Sarah uses their skills to ensure that every parent and caring adult knows how to build a deeper connection with their growing kids, and believes that no child should ever feel alone and unable to reach out for help with their body, their boundaries, or their needs. Or their knowledge about sexuality.In this episode, we are talking about ‘sensitive things' with our kids, plus reclaiming the ‘C word'. We dive into the following topics;* The ‘invisible influence of normal'* Showing kids we're a trusted person to talk to about sensitive things* Why we don't want to wait until sex ed classes to start talking about sex* Teaching kids about body boundaries* Answering your Qs about: * How to explain to kids why you do some things in private?* 4 year olds asking BIG questions you're not sure they're ready for* 3 year olds who are resistant to challenging gender stereotypes* How to support your child when someone is asking invasive questions* Plus Sarah shares the unknown history of the C word!Find out more about Sarah's work here.Follow her work on Instagram here.Follow Laura on Instagram here.Subscribe to my newsletter here.Enrol in the Raising Embodied Eaters course here.Here's the transcript in full:Sarah Sproule: I drew analogies between talking about sensitive things and other parts of parenting. So, I don't know a single other parent who waited for their child to ask them for a stem of broccoli before they gave it to them. Right? And we know that broccoli's really great. I don't know a parent who waited for their child to ask them, Can you please show me how to cross the road? Because I want to stay safe. Like, there are so many things we do, we take initiative for, because we know it's important for the health and safety and joy of our child. INTROLaura Thomas: Welcome to the Can I Have Another Snack? podcast, where we are talking about appetite, bodies, and identity, especially through the lens of parenting. I'm Laura Thomas, I'm an anti-diet registered nutritionist, and I also write the Can I Have Another Snack? newsletter. Today, I'm talking to Sarah Sproule. Sarah, who uses she/them pronouns, is a sex educator, an occupational therapist, as well as a mother of three teens.Sarah uses their skills to ensure that every parent and caring adult knows how to build a deeper connection with their growing kids. She believes that no child should ever feel alone and unable to reach out for help with their body, their boundaries, or their needs. Or their knowledge about sexuality.In this conversation, we talk about what Sarah calls the ‘invisible influence of normal'; all the things, spoken and unspoken, that shape how we think about bodies, sex, pleasure, periods, and more. And we talk about why it's important to approach these conversations with our kids early and in a non-judgmental way that prioritises connection and helps inoculate them against body shame.We talk about supporting kids to trust their body boundaries and how that can help them use their voice when something doesn't feel right. Plus we answer your questions like how to teach kids that maybe it's best not to touch their penis at the dinner table, without inadvertently shrouding them in shame.Obviously this is a conversation about sensitive topics to do with sex, and at one point we do mention rape and other forms of violence. We also use the C word quite liberally towards the end, which Sarah and I are comfortable with, but we understand that it may not be for everyone. So all of that is to say, listen at your discretion and take care of yourself. I will say, though, that Sarah is extremely compassionate and thoughtful in how she approaches these topics. So I hope you'll find this to be a safe and nourishing conversation. Just before we get to Sarah, I wanted to tell you real quick about the benefits of becoming a paid subscriber to the Can I Have Another Snack? newsletter and community and whole wider universe.So until the end of September, I'm running a 15% off sale on the cost of annual memberships. So instead of paying £50 a year, you would pay £42.50 and that gets you access to the monthly Dear Laura columns where I answer your questions. It gets you access to the whole CIHAS archive, it gives you commenting privileges, plus weekly discussion threads tackling the big issues like…how clean is your fridge? And who are you dressing for on the school run? It's a really welcoming space where we learn from each other, share with folks who have a similar world view to us, and we have a lot of fun. And of course it's a completely diet, body shame-free space.  I wanted to quickly share what one CIHAS reader said recently. They shared this review saying: “Laura's Substack is a lifeline in a world where diet culture and fatphobia is pervasive in all aspects of our lives including how we feed our children. Every time I start to worry about my toddlers eating and that internalised diet culture mentality starts bubbling up, it's Laura's voice telling me that it's all going to be okay. Through her invaluable work on CIHAS, she's genuinely keeping me sane and empowering me to navigate feeding my child and making the right decisions for my family. The paid subscription is more than worth it. Thanks, Laura.” Well, thank you for that really sweet review. And like I said, we're running a sale for the rest of September and you can sign up at laurathomas.substack.com and I'll drop the link in the show notes so you can find it really easily. And by becoming a paid subscriber, not only do you get the sweet perks that I mentioned earlier, but more importantly, your contributions help make this work sustainable. All right, team, let's get to today's guest. Here's Sarah.  MAIN EPISODEHey, Sarah, can you start by telling us a little bit about you and the work that you do, please? Sarah: I support parents and other adults who are raising children to speak about sensitive things. So that's a euphemism for puberty, genitals, babies, growing up, sex, relationships, all that sort of stuff that might seem a little bit like…eeeeh!...when you think about having conversations about that with kids.And that work is important to me. I'm an occupational therapist, but I do that work because I was one of the kids that would have really benefited from way more open and sort of practical conversations about all that sort of stuff. My mum and dad were missionaries and we grew up in Nigeria for most of my teens, but yeah, even though mum was a nurse and she would have told me how my brother was born and all the bits and bobs and… Laura: Yeah, the gory details.Sarah: Yeah. I think because I had undiagnosed ADHD particularly, it meant that if things weren't repeated and part of everyday life, I just forgot. So I got to be nine years old and I thought sperm flew through the air to get to the egg. So I didn't want the children that I was raising to have that same experience.And so here we are now, Masters in Sexuality Studies. I've been doing this now for a few years, and it just feels like the more I do it, the more I realised that this is the exact sort of work that…all my experiences growing up and being a neurodiverse person…it's all set me up for this. So that's a great sense of joy to feel so aligned with work and with who I am as a person.Laura: For sure. And thank you for sort of walking us through that transition from OT to sexuality studies to what you're doing now. And I think it's so interesting that your background is in OT because – and that's occupational therapy for anyone who isn't familiar with that acronym – because it really shines through in the work that you do.And I think that's the only other allied health professionals, I think, would see that, but definitely you can see the echoes of that. And I think it's such a great foundation for the more coaching-centered work that you're doing. So you sort of alluded to this in what you were saying there, but you talk a lot about this concept of the ‘invisible influence of normal'. Can you unpack that a bit more for us and tell us what that is? Sarah: Yeah, absolutely. So wherever we live, in whatever sort of country or city or family, there are influences on us from those cultures, whether it's family culture, city culture, farm culture, Irish culture, Australian culture, whatever. Those influences or those…the messages we're given subtly show us what normal is.So normal could be being married with children, for example, and not that anyone might have ever said that to us, what's normal is to get married and have kids, but maybe it's an assumption in the way people ask young children or growing people questions about what they want to do in the future, how many kids they want. Like if someone asked someone how many kids you want, there's an invisible assumption there that they want children. So this invisible influence of normal impacts us, not just when we're growing up, but it impacts adults who are raising children as well, because if we lived in a family that didn't use penis and vulva or clitoris as words for genitals with children, then we're going to grow up into adults who…the invisible influence of normal will have said, sort of shaped, you don't use those words with kids. And that's just normal. That's what sort of we grew up to expect. And that's just one example. There are lots of other ways like what is normal just gets sort of embedded into our consciousness, maybe without even our own awareness. So a lot of the times this “normal idea of normal” – and I'm using my fingers in air quotes – we might not realise that it's impacting how we speak to the small people in our life until we have a particular experience. Like it could be something like having a conversation with another parent at the school gate or in childcare, where they speak about, say, walking around nude in their home and all of a sudden you realise, what? Some people think it's normal or okay to walk around nude in front of their kids at home. What? And all of a sudden everything sort of shakes a bit, you know, in our world view. Laura: What I'm hearing you say is that this invisible influence of normal, it shapes our ideas of what is acceptable, what is taboo.And ultimately, I think it shapes whether we have a shame response to something, or whether we can talk openly and transparently about, you know, like you say, sensitive subjects without them becoming, yeah, something that we have to hide or feel shame about. Is that a fair way of kind of putting it? , Sarah: Yeah, that's a beautiful way of saying it.So this story came into my mind and I wanted to share it. So picture me 13 years ago. And I have like a five year old, a three year old and a one year old and it's Saturday. So if any of the people listening are anything like us…Saturdays, we're like, we're just trying to eke out every single minute of sleep, or at least being horizontal in the bed that we can manage, you know, and so our three kids playing around the room, the doors locked so that they can't get into trouble. And you can hear this sort of splashing in the bathroom and I get out of bed and I go in and have a look. There's a five year old has taken some condoms out of the bedside drawer – because condoms were our contraceptive method of choice at the time. And opened up the packet, given one to her brother, one for herself, and they've got them in the basin, they're trying to fill them up like water balloons. And I'm at the door and I'm looking in the door and, like, my breath catches in my throat….cause, like, your kids are touching something that is related to penises.  Laura: Oh it's so dirty! Sarah: So it's sort of like, this is the first time I ever thought of anything related to this work, right? And I call out to my partner. I go, John, the, the kids are playing with condoms…and this is my really traditional Irish Catholic husband sort of says, Yeah, so what?  I'm like, they're condoms! And he goes, So? And it was in that moment that I was like, Oh, hang on a minute. So for me, that was a moment when that invisible influence became visible. It was like, yeah, if he thinks this and I don't think that, what's going on here, what's…what's happening? And so it was a really clear moment in time for me.I was like. Oh, there are things at play here. There's, there is influences at play here that I didn't even realise. Um, and I think it was particularly clear because in my mind, John was sort of very traditional and I was like the uber progressive Australian parent living in Ireland. So it was quite a shock.And that's where this whole process for me of really looking and seeing what I thought was right that was unexamined and how that was really leading me down the same path to treat my kids the same way that I was treated, which was…yes, we can answer questions, but at the end of the day, sex and things related to adults, like life, children had to be protected against because it is in some way dangerous and sort of wrong. And of course there are lots of things about adult sexuality that, yes, are not appropriate for children, but there are a whole stinking lot of things that families can talk about in a way that is educational and supportive and kind and open and connecting. And when we don't allow ourselves access to those topics of conversation, we're losing the chance, not just to inform our children. That, to me, in my work is a secondary thing. The information exchange, that's a secondary thing. What's more important is that we are creating moments over and over again, where we prove and show ourselves to be someone, an adult, a trusted adult, who can talk about pretty much anything and everything. And we do that with understanding and we do it in a way that is respectful of our children and their ability to understand stuff. When that shift happens in an adult's mind that they realise that talking about sensitive things is a bridge over which they build a connection with their child and which will last a lifetime because it will last a lifetime, then all of a sudden it's like, Oh, okay. So this might be awkward and I might not know how to do it, but God damn it. I really want to try because I understand what is possible if I make this effort.  Laura: Yeah, and again, what I'm hearing you say is that you're prioritising the relationship that you have with your child over and above your own comfort and probably other people's comfort, people around you, maybe grandparents, maybe other parents at the school, teachers even, that your, your child might come into contact with. And that kind of leads me to a question that I, I was thinking about for you, which was around why it is so important for us, as parents, as carers, as guardians, to be the people that are starting these conversations with our children, these, like you say, sensitive conversations, and that could, I think, range from calling genitals by their correct names all the way through to puberty and periods.Why does it feel so important for it to be coming from us rather than, you know, waiting until Sex Ed at school or waiting until they hear something in the playground? Sarah: Again, it's about creating connection. I think about it from the perspective of how many years an adult, either a parent or a caregiver in some other capacity, is with their child or their young person, right?So I will often say that, okay, so If our kids stay with us until they're 23, just pick a number. You've got 23 years of meals and negotiations about bathroom time and conversations about going out with friends and all that, where your child has the opportunity to come to tell you something that's difficult or worrying for them or where they can ask you a question that is going to make the difference between them being able to speak up for themselves in a tricky situation or not. So your child is around you lots and lots and lots. Whereas if they first hear something sensitive, like how babies are made or what sex actually is from a teacher at school, that teacher may only be there for, say, 10 months of their life and then they're gone. And so when your child is thinking about the memories of how they learned particular things, a teacher's face will come up, but your face won't. And what that means is when they have a question or a concern or something tough is happening in their world, there's not that sort of memory that connects you and sensitive, awkward, unpleasant, difficult, concerning, but also exciting life events in the head, right? So it's very much about, again, how can we build that connection? How can we demonstrate to a child or a young person that we talk about this stuff. I drew analogies between talking about sensitive things and other parts of parenting. So I don't know a single other parent who waited for their child to ask them for a stem of broccoli before they gave it to them.  And we know that broccoli is really great. I don't know a parent who waited for their child to ask them, can you please show me how to cross the road, because I want to stay safe. Like, there are so many things we do that we take initiative for because we know it's important for the health and safety and joy of our child.And this area of being human, this developing sexual self is no different when you sort of look at it like that. Most of the time people go, oh yeah, I see what you're saying there, I wouldn't wait for my child to ask me to send them to swimming lessons. I mean, some of us might've done that before our child was even one. So it's far more about realising that our parenting approach, if it's different, only in the sensitive conversation section, then that's showing us that there's something behind that, that needs to be examined so that we can show up for our child in the best way. Laura: If you think about it from the perspective of, you know, like a, I don't know, a seven year old saying to another seven year old in the playground, oh duh duh duh, sex, penis, vulva, and that's complete news to your seven year old. I can imagine that that would be attached to, again, shame, embarrassment, of not knowing that information or that completely, like, coming out of the blue, versus if you've already maybe laid some foundations and some groundwork, then your child might have the language to be like…Or maybe they don't have necessarily, like, they can't explain all the ins and outs of it, but they can be like, oh, yeah, that's something I've heard of, and maybe I can go home to this trusted person and get some more details or ask some more questions. I suppose that's the kind of, I would imagine, you know, the ideal way that that scenario plays out rather than a child who just feels so overcome by shame and embarrassment that they don't have anywhere to go with that information.Sarah: Absolutely. And I mean, that scenario that you've pictured, that's probably actually best case scenario for a child that doesn't know anything. A more problematic scenario might be where a child tells another child something that's just completely and utterly wrong. Like one of my kids came home from school, I think they were probably 10, and he came home and he said, mum, Michael at school told us that rape means having sex with someone and then killing them.And I was like, Oh, that's not right, is it? Because we'd had those conversations. So it's not just about setting your child up to not be surprised by things, but actually if you've got there first with the accurate information, inaccurate stuff tends to like, they don't grab onto it and go, Oh, okay.Because…you know, think about that. It's quite damaging for a child or a young person to think that rape is having sex with someone and then killing them because then they don't understand what rape really is, you know, and so there's all sorts of complexity and difficulty that sort of arise from that.And, and I imagine that any…well, I would hope that any young person would go through the education system and very quickly get the correct definition given to them at some point in the curriculum, but nevertheless. It's not a great introduction if they're getting inaccurate information from a peer.Laura: Yeah, because you're completely missing the whole, you know, really important opportunity to talk about consent.And so speaking of consent, I wanted to – and maybe this will help us take some of these more abstract concepts and put them into more concrete terms, but something that I've noticed since becoming a parent is how entitled people feel to kids' bodies, you know, whether it's hugs or kisses or touching them in some way.Like, I was with my three year old the other day and someone from their pre-school, a teacher, ran up behind them and picked them up and scooped them up, and it scared the shit out of me, never mind my three year old. And of course it was coming from a well intentioned, loving place, because I know that they have a good relationship, but it feels like such a tricky one to navigate as a parent.And I have a lot of thoughts about this. But I'm curious to hear your thoughts on how we begin to teach kids about their body boundaries and what is okay and not okay in terms of people accessing their bodies and, and talking about who they share their bodies with and in what capacity. Sarah: The best way to learn things is through experience.So we could spend, you know, all day, every day saying to our child, you know, your body, your choice, you get to decide what's done to your body. But if we don't create an environment at home where that is lived rather than just spoken, then that makes it difficult. So children who – and I was one of these kids, actually – children who their voices aren't heard, we – I'm going to say, we – we grow up, we lose sense of what our truth is, right? So here's something that I've been thinking about lately. One of the adults in my community asked a question about school refusal. In my world, it's ‘school can't' or ‘school avoidance'. If a child is…said we just have to go to school anyway. You just have to go. That's what we do. We have to go. The message there is it doesn't matter how you feel. There are some things that just have to be done because it's always been done like that, right? You can imagine that if that model is placed on a relationship and our child grows up to be a young adult and is in a relationship with someone who is very clear on the way things should be. So for example, I had a relationship for a time with a person and, in the process of negotiating our physical intimacy, I remember an interaction where I said, we'll need some lube. And this person says, Oh no, we don't need lube. And, now, it was a big deal for me to even say we need lube, but the other person being so clear, like we don't need it. I just completely, like, shut down. That was it. Okay, well then that must be true because what the other person is saying, which is opposite to me must be true because that was something that was demonstrated over and over and over again in my growing up. And I'm bringing up school refusal because it's so…it's really difficult. It presses a lot of buttons in an adult, you know, a child who doesn't want to go to school. That's probably one of the more complicated places where respecting our child's voice and their deep inner knowing of what is right for them is going to be hard, whereas maybe a little bit easier in, if it was, do you want to go to the beach or do you want to, you know, go over to Jimmy's house and jump on his trampoline. Like it won't matter so much what our child says, if they say jump on the trampoline and we would have preferred to go to the beach, we're like, oh, we'll go and jump on the trampoline. But, so there's sort of like a, you know, like a continuum of the places in raising children where it's easier to respect who they are and their interests and what they want, versus the ones that are more difficult. And oftentimes the ones that are more difficult will be the ones where it puts us, as the adult, in a position where we have to go against someone in authority, or someone whose opinion we really value and we're concerned about their response when we're sort of advocating for our child.So it's no easy thing, but it really is about your child's experience of being heard, seen, believed, honoured. Yeah.Laura:  Yeah. You remind me a lot of a conversation I had with the psychologist, Hillary McBride, who is author of the book Wisdom of Your Body, and she talks a lot about embodiment, and we had a conversation about children's embodiment, and it was, you know, there, there are situations, of course, where we can't let our kids stay home because we have to go to work and we don't have any other form of childcare. As much as we would love to stay home with them all day and to let them rest and get all the things that they need, but again, late stage capitalism doesn't allow that. One of the things that she pulled out was just this idea that, even when we have to hold a boundary with our child, that we believe their experience, that we trust them and that we kind of, yeah, validate, I think, their experience because that will enable them to hold on to that seed of being able to trust their own embodied wisdom. You're nodding away there. I don't know if you have anything else that you would like to add to that.  Sarah: Yeah. So in my world, sometimes parents will say, yeah, but like consent is all very well, but what about, I've got a two year old who doesn't want to get into their car seat and we were going to wherever we're going and they have to be in the car seat.I'm like, yeah, yes, they do absolutely have to be in the car seat. And so in my world, I would be talking about informed consent versus like consent. And so a two year old doesn't have enough information and understanding about the implications for what they want to do. They don't understand that that puts them in danger.And so understanding that, while a two year old is very sort of clear on what they need, we have more information. That doesn't mean what they need is wrong. It just means we have more information and we need to facilitate sort of understanding, and that can be really hard when your two year old is doing the banana body and just, there's no way you can get the seatbelt on, you know?And so oftentimes it's about creating a culture when that clash of needs is not happening. So when your two year old is screaming, saying no, about getting in the seat, that's not the time to sit down and explain various things, but maybe there's another time the following day. Where it's possible to say, you know, I love you and my job is to keep you safe.And let's think of all the ways you need to be kept safe, or some of the ways. And you can list off, you know, electricity and fire and other things and then say, and did you know, cars are really dangerous if we don't have seatbelts on, just very like, little drops of knowledge and then I suppose that we can set our two year old up for success.And that could look like…like kids do really well with context, connection and choice, right? So getting to the car, setting context, in half an hour, we're going to need to get in the car. What does your body need to do before we do that? Do you want to run around? What sort of, what busyness? Because you remember, we're going to have to sit in the seat with the belt on.So context, connection, getting down and showing them that you see them. I love you. And I know that your body has a hard time being in the car seat. What can I do to help you out? Like letting them know, we see them, we understand what their experience is like. And then the choice is really offering as much choice as possible.So the seatbelt isn't a non-negotiable thing, but maybe there's other choices. Would you like to take a toy? Or would you like to choose the music? Or would you like to have a special blankie or like try and find all the ways that if your kid, the feeling of at least a little bit of autonomy so that you can keep them safe without too much conflict.And I…like I had three two year olds, I know it's not easy and we're all strapped for time. But if you sort of take a step back and think about it in the broader context, it's not just about that moment where you're trying to put them into the car. Context, connection, and choice are one of those things that's going to help you help your kid. And if you can do that, you feel good. Don't you? As a parent and like, Oh, like, wow. For the first time ever, my two year old got into the car seat without a screaming match. Like that's a win. And that helps me anyway, feel warm and fuzzy.  Laura: Oh, it definitely makes such a difference when you feel like you're maxed out, but then you get that win.And I mean, you're speaking my language, Sarah, and it's the exact same approach that I would take to a child who was struggling to come to the table, or who was really having a hard time eating and getting everything that they needed from food, you know, that connection piece is so important. And I will spare you the TED talk about everything that I see on Instagram that prioritises like these cheap wins over real connection over the feeding relationship. So yeah, I'll rein it back to what we're talking about here. Sarah: You know, when I was thinking about this, that we're going to have this conversation together, I was imagining that you and I at work would probably be that thing where we're holding onto different parts of the elephant. And while my work may look different, it's two parts of exactly the same thing. So I'm pleased to hear that is absolutely the case. Laura: 100%. So I got quite a few questions sent in. I'm not sure if we'll have time to go through them all, but I would really love to get your take on them. So these were sent in on Instagram that, you know, in the Instagram boxes, it's like a really tiny little space. So not all of them have all the context that I think we would need. I'll just shoot anyway. So the first one was “How to explain to kids why some stuff you do in private”. Again, there's no context here, but I'm going to assume that this parent means that their child is touching their vulva or their penis.Maybe…I mean, unless you have any other thoughts as to what might be going on there, but that seemed to be the most obvious thing to my mind. Sarah: Yeah, well, let's assume that. It's like anything else. We can think of other scenarios, that something is right in one context, but not another context. So oftentimes I will say, well, when we're going for a picnic in the park and we're sitting on a blanket. It makes total sense to use our hands, right? Cause we're probably eating a sandwich or a muffin or something, but when we go to granny's house and she served us tomato soup in a bowl, then what makes the most sense is to use a spoon. Or what do we wear when we go to the local swimming pool? Wear our swimmers. What do we do when we go to watch a movie in the cinema? Well, it wouldn't make sense at all to wear our swimmers. We'd get cold in the air conditioning anyway. We need maybe some trousers and a T-shirt. Same thing. With our genitals, depending on where our genitals are or like where our body is, well, there'll be different rules for them.So when we're on our own, when we're in the bathroom, when we're in our room, our genitals are our own. We can touch them and feel them and notice what feels good and what doesn't feel good. And you know, we wash our hands afterwards to make sure we don't spread any germs around the place, but your genitals are yours and you get to touch them and do with them whatever way you want. When we're outside, all the other people, they're allowed to not want to see us playing with our genitals, right? So we don't do it. Because if we didn't have that rule whereby people don't play with their genitals in public, then a lot of people might start playing with their genitals on the bus or in the playground or at school. And then it would be chaos. Not everyone wants to see other people's genitals or their hands down there. So it's just about common courtesy, really. And using analogies for other parts of life, where that same dynamic applies, it tends to ease us adults who are feeling a little bit squeaky about having that conversation in, because it's like, this is the same dynamic that plays out everywhere else in human existence. It just so happens because this is about genitals. Sometimes we're like, eh, I don't know what, help, help. Because maybe we're trying to reduce the likelihood of our child feeling shame, probably because when we were growing up, we were made to feel ashamed by what the adults around us said, and not because they were perhaps doing that on purpose, but because that's what they… Laura: They didn't have it shown to them. Yeah. Sarah: They, they didn't know. And most likely they would've been doing it with good intentions. Yeah. Some of us, you know, the adults that cared for us did not have good intentions. For the most part, though, most adults do, whatever level of ability we have talking about sensitive things is exactly right, depending on what's been in our past.So just because someone in the playground, a parent, is really good at this stuff, and we're not, that doesn't mean they're a better parent. They were just dealt a different hand and that's just the way it is.  Laura: Yeah. I hear you say that it's really important to have some self compassion when you are thinking about these issues.Thinking about having these conversations with your kid, but you kind of get that lump in your throat and you're not really quite sure how exactly to handle them, that just thinking about it, is a really good starting point, isn't it? And then from there, if you notice, Oh, I'm…well, it's checking in with your own bodily experiences, right, and saying, okay, what's coming up for me and where do I need some support or some help or some resources to help me open up these conversations.I really love the analogies that you use because these…yeah, it's a very similar thing, you know, talking about context and what's appropriate – I have some feelings about the word appropriate, but let's not get into that. One question that kind of came to my mind as you were explaining how you might approach that conversation. I'm curious if other parents might have this same thought, is that oftentimes in books around body boundaries and consent, they talk about your genitals as being private. So you know, one of the books that we have talks about how everything that's underneath your bathing suit, you know, it's your body, it's private.Would you use that kind of language, or how might you use that language? Do you find that helpful, or not so much? Sarah: There's a lovely author called Cory Silverberg, and they wrote three books for children of various ages. Laura: They're so good, these books. Sarah: Yeah, they're great. That author coined this idea of middle parts, and so the idea is rather than using private parts, using middle parts to generally describe genitals, because when we talk about private parts, it's just…it makes it complicated to give a child shame-free ownership of those parts of their body, right? One of the shifts in a family culture that can be really useful is this idea that in our family, we talk about everything.So, in a sense, particularly when kids are small, genitals aren't really private in families. Right? Laura: This is the exact thing that I've bumped up against with my three year old who still needs me to wipe his butt. And so there is that confusing thing of like, well, if this is private, but I need help with this or, you know, I still need to bathe him.And even the example that you gave earlier where we walk around our house nude, but we don't go outside nude, right? Like that can be a confusing thing. So I'm sorry to interject, but it just…you're articulating the exact, the exact thing that I have bumped up against. Sarah: Yeah. And so I suppose, again, it's another demonstration of something that manifests in lots of different ways in our parenting, but because it's to do with genitals, it's a bit like, Oh, not quite sure how this works.So the whole dynamic of raising children is that in the beginning, we're having to do a lot of things for them that they will eventually do themselves, feeding, cleaning, dressing, even sort of communicating, like taking the whole burden of communication off them onto us. So we're interpreting sounds and body language and all that sort of thing.So you can explain that dynamic to a child and say that there are certain parts of our body that are more sensitive than others and middle parts or genitals like penis or a vulva or whatever, there's a lot of special skin on those parts. And what that means is that they need special care, right? Now, when you're grown up and when you're, you know, maybe you're 8 or you're 10, you're going to wash those and put your clothes on those parts of your body. And you won't really need an adult's help at all. And you probably definitely won't want an adult's help, but while you're still small and I'm having to help you do a few other things, this is one of the parts of your body that, that you need help with.And my job is to help you eventually do it all on your own. Right. You would need to also say that bit about only trusted people help us with our most sensitive parts of ourselves. Right. And I suppose as a reminder that it's not just genitals we're talking about here. We're also talking about anus and we're talking about mouth because those are parts of the body too that can be used in ways that are really hurtful for people who don't have a child's best interest at heart. So when you're framing it in that way, there's less sense of like…the word private tends to put a shroud over things where, if you're talking about the sensitive special skin and special parts, then it's more like it's an honour and a privilege sort of thing, like to support you in this part of your being human. And to me, it just feels more gentle and collaborative and kind of nurturing. Laura: Yeah, I often thought about, like, the language of private parts as well as being a little bit confusing from the perspective of, like, as in when kids mature into young adults where they might want to start sharing their bodies with other people in a respectful, consensual way.Again, if it's got that sort of private, you know, shroud of shame connotation, then that's going to be a lot harder for them to do that in a way that, that feels safe.Sarah:  I'm laughing because I remember a meme that I saw, it would have been years ago now, but it was like, lies we tell children, number one, we don't lick other people's private parts.And just sort of like this, like head in the hand, like face palm, like, moment where, well, actually, when you get older…And I suppose what it illustrates is, when we're talking to kids, we have all this information and knowledge about where things could go as adults, right? They don't have an understanding of that.And I suppose it's no harm really to allow ourselves as adults to simplify it at a particular point in time, right? Knowing that as our kids get older, that truth that we've told will no longer be true. Right. And so, and that's where resources like Cory Silverberg's book, Sex is a Funny Word or, You Know Sex. Sex is a Funny Word is for around, around seven and eight years, And, You Know Sex is sort of for 10 to 14 year olds where it's really clear, it's a lot about how our bodies are instruments of pleasure, right? Which is often another conversation that adults find hard to have with kids. You know, that classic thing where you have that conversation about how babies are made or well, sperms and eggs get together and a penis goes into a vagina, if those two people want to do that, or you might talk about IVF or artificial insemination, but if it's a penis in a vagina… Laura: It leaves out a whole part of the conversation as to why people have sex. Yeah. Sarah: Exactly. And so oftentimes the kids will come back and say, all right, so I've been thinking about that. So that means you and dad did that twice, right? And parents will go, Oh, which actually just demonstrates that, like you said, a whole section of the conversation that was was left out about pleasure. So I think in these moments, when we're talking to kids about boundaries and safety, it's possible to simplify it a bit, knowing that down the road, one of our important jobs is to bring this whole pleasure and sharing our bodies with other people, and that naturally comes as they grow older and they start cluing in on more things to do with…they see the diversity in relationships around their extended community and family, you know, like if you have a same sex couple in your community, it makes it so much easier. And thank you to all the out gay and bi people, right?Because it makes it so much easier to have the pleasure conversation because it's so clear that if a child has had those conversations that sex really is only a penis and a vagina that all of a sudden you get this beautiful opportunity to talk about, well, actually intimacy is so much more about pleasure and how bodies feel good and how, when we share our body with someone else and we trust them and they trust us, then we get to help another person's body feel really good.There are lots of different ways that that happens. And then remember that in parenting, sometimes you don't have to say everything, like you can…Um, if you have a child who really needs things to be quite concretised, so an autistic child, for example, who really needs very specific communication. I'm autistic, I know what it means when someone's beating around the bush and I have to say, can you just tell me, tell me exactly what you mean by that? What does that mean? And then they're clear. And I'm like, okay, fine. And there are children like that, but some kids, you know, the information layers on over time, so it's far more about just holding your nerve and knowing that over the weeks and the months and the years to come, there'll be lots of opportunity to do and say and read all the things.Laura: And that's exactly what I was going to say is, reminding ourselves that, that this isn't a one and done conversation, that we will be having, if we're lucky and privileged to continue having these conversations with our kids, if they trust us enough to keep coming to us for these conversations, then it will be an iterative, as you say, layering on more information and more nuance as they developmentally can grasp that.So, I'm really curious to hear your answer to this question, because I bet there's a ton that you would love to say, but the person who sent this question in asked, “Four year old is asking questions, I'm not sure she's actually ready to hear the answer about, what do I do?” Sarah: I always say that if a child is asking the question, then they need to know the answer.Oftentimes in parenting advice, you'll hear people say, first of all, you ask them, well, what do you know already? And again, I go back to that old thing about, okay, where else in parenting do we check, well, what do you know already? Like there may be some places where you genuinely want to know, okay, do you know the basics of the solar system, for example? And so then I can just tell you, answer the question based on your knowledge, but oftentimes adults will use that, what do you know already as a way to sort of like create space. Laura: Or deflect. Sarah: Yeah, deflect. That's right. Or create space. And that's not a bad thing if your brain is trying to catch up. But all I would say is, a four year old has huge amounts of capacity for understanding sperms and eggs and uteruses and testicles and lots of things. And as a general rule, if we think a child isn't old enough to get the answer to something, it's probably because there's something in our past or a worry that we have that we don't know is there.So short answer, answer the question and see what happens, and use simple language in a way that you would use for answering any other questions you might ask. Laura: It's interesting, just maybe a point of difference in how we might approach things, because if a, for example, if a child came to me and asked, is this healthy for me? Like this food. Usually, I would be really curious to know, okay, well, I'm interested, what do you think? Do you think this is a healthy food? Just to get a gauge of, like, what information they've picked up or what they've learned so that I'm kind of starting from where they are and then maybe building from there.But I also see, like, how in certain situations it could be, like, Oh, fuck. I'm in too deep here. So let's just get the kid to do the hard work for me. Yeah. Sarah: And I guess, again, it's about how much stigma and shame culturally exists around a topic. There's a lot of stigma and shame that exists around…there is a lot of cultural shit around your topic as well, right? They're both heavily laden. Laura: But I would argue that you probably, uh, win on this, Sarah: Yeah. Yay! My topic's more stigmatised! Laura: You got it, yeah! I think what we're saying is, the point is to have the conversation, right? To think about, and again, what we were saying before, noticing what comes up in us when that question is asked.Sarah: And if you need to buy time, one of the great ways to do it is to say, Oh, I love that question. I'm so glad you asked it. Even if you're lying because you're freaking out, reinforce how great it is that they brought that up. I love that question. I'm so glad you asked it. I want to make sure I give you the best answer I can. So I'll get back to you tomorrow. Now, if you say that. You must get back to them tomorrow, otherwise it's a breach of trust. And remember, we're trying to be askable adults, the people they trust the most to come to them with their worst and best questions and worries. So that's really important. So you, in rugby language, you kick for touch. You tell them you come back tomorrow, you run around and find your most trusted sex educator, or you go to your therapist or ask your best friend who seems to know how to do all these things. And then you go back to your kid the next day.Laura:  Yeah. I did not understand the rugby reference, but everything else you said sounded really good.Sarah: Kicking for touch means, like, you take the ball and you kick it as far down the pitch as you can, hoping that it will bounce in exactly the right way that you can run down and start from that point. Right. Laura: Got it. Okay, I'm with you. Alright, another quick question, just in general: smashing gender stereotypes for a three year old who has turned out like a princess. They love glitter, and dresses, and pink, and does not enjoy wearing pants, despite the parents best efforts to show her a variety of gender roles. And then the same person kind of asked a follow up question, which is, is it okay to just…let her be tacky and think she's a Disney princess, even if I wish it was different.So yeah, questions about gender roles and offering a variety of, not even offering a variety, but challenging gender stereotypes. Sarah: So I'll answer the second part of that question first. It is absolutely okay to allow your three year old to be as tacky and as pink or as glittery as they want. Absolutely.And that goes for a child of any gender. Yeah. Yeah. And I would also say that for some of us, there is a desire, I suppose, to fix everything that's wrong with the world through a small person who's growing up. And really they're one human. Yeah, and they're themselves and they're an individual. And I remember thinking a lot about this when my daughter was, I can't remember what she was, we started to get into YouTube videos about makeup and she loved makeup and I really had to do a lot of soul searching and personal sort of, like, care because I really wanted to fix the whole of the patriarchy when it came to like appearance and that whole makeup culture and everything. But I realized that no, no, that's not my job. And it's definitely not my 11 year old, 10 year old's job. My job is to love her and support her and help her feel like she is the best thing since sliced bread. Even if she is…has interests along sort of gender stereotype lines. And yeah, so remembering that in the moment when we're thinking of, Oh, we want to sort of fix the gender stereotypes and all that stuff. That really our child's body is not the place in which to do that. If you have a desire to create some sort of change, find somewhere else to do it.And look, the person who's asking these questions has already done a really great job of providing diversity and opportunity to see different things in their home. And so, you know, you've done what you can do and you continue to look at yourself and notice, okay, where are some of the ways that I might unthinkingly be following stereotypical lines and maybe then volunteer for some organisation or donate money somewhere else who's doing work related to gender and get on loving your kid and doing all the sparkly, tulle, pink, whatever it is. Unicorns. Yeah. Laura: Yeah. I think that's such a helpful reminder is that, you know, kids are not our like personal projects for righting everything that is wrong in the world and that there are other ways that we can create opportunities for them, show that we will be loving, accepting no matter what they decide they want to be when they grow up or how they want to express themselves or, you know, who they want to be in relationships with or any of that stuff that we can. There…you know, it doesn't have to be this either/or binary because so much of what is problematic about systems in the world is that they're binary, right?And so we…I suppose one thing that we can do is work to not replicate binaries in our, in our own home and in our parenting. And I have a little curveball question for you that I wanted to ask, which is kind of related to, something else we talked about at the very beginning around people feeling entitled to kids' bodies, and I promise I didn't just get you on the podcast to answer my own parenting shit, but I was curious to hear if you had or how you might approach this or if you had any thoughts on this. Something that we come up against quite a lot is people really feeling entitled to explanations from my three year old. You know, that thing, which again can be like very well connected, meaning and people want to connect with him by asking, you know, what's your name? What's your age? But then they always ask, are you a boy or a girl?And It just feels so invasive and I can tell that he feels invaded because he kind of like, you know, curls into me, and it's one of those things where I just want to say. There is no such thing as a girl or a boy. What are you talking about? Like, and just launch into this whole diatribe about gender roles and, and things, but it, you know, the corner shop is not the place to do that.So I'm just curious if you have any thoughts on how you can kind of say to your child, like, it wasn't okay that they asked you that question. And, you know, I could tell that you were uncomfortable with that question while also maybe kind of like deflecting that question, does that make sense what I'm asking?Sarah: In a sense, you've partially answered it already because what you said there about saying to your kid afterwards, that question was, I could see it made you uncomfortable. What you're doing is you're, you're reflecting back their experience of it and reinforcing that that was a valid response, right?And so you're really sort of saying that made sense to me that you felt like that, that felt a bit weird. And you could even be more sort of broad and say, you know, some people ask questions that don't feel comfortable or feel a bit unkind or feel a bit rough. Whatever is the natural language that your, your kid would resonate with.But the other thing would be to – and you may already do this – is in the moment when it's happening and the person in the shop has asked that question, you can see your kid's body language doing what it's doing. You could simply say, Oh, I noticed that that question, it feels, it feels uncomfortable. So how about we talk about what we're buying in the shop, or did you know that apples is our favorite fruit? This is a personal choice. Actually. Some people would choose to deflect in a way that's very sort of gentle and easy going, because in the presence of a child, they're not interested in raising the conflict, elevating the energy. So do that way. Some people are more comfortable saying simply, you know, we don't really talk about gender in our house. We're much more interested in… whatever it is. So like it's finding the balance that feels right to you in being able to redirect…or I had one person just simply ignored questions they thought was stupid, they just like blanked them and went, okay, good to see you and off they went or, okay, we're going off to get the milk now. And just like, just pretended that it hadn't even happened, you know. It's different for everyone. There will be, and I'll speak to this too, there will be some people that don't have the personal capacity to manage any of the options that we've just mentioned here. You know, and there's someone in my community who something similar happened, they were in the park and a dear family friend, I think was about 50, saw them after, it might've been after COVID. So it'd been a few years and, her daughter was probably about 10 and he sort of, he moved in or something and she could see her daughter's whole body. So like, like shrink like this, but in the moment, yeah. Did not have the capacity. Like didn't see it coming. Hadn't thought about any of this stuff before. And so the interaction happened, he left and she hadn't been able to do anything about it, which makes complete sense because there are many of us, we go into a trauma response that reflects what's happened to us in our past, where we also were mute or I didn't have power to, to sort of do anything about that.So also, I suppose, a recognition of that. We all have different capacity when it comes to a situation like this and to reiterate and go back to that thing again about self compassion, whatever you have capacity to do in that moment is exactly right. It is not possible to achieve something if you don't have the underlying ability or experience or knowledge to do that.And so there's no shame, there's no blaming about that. It purely gives you an opportunity to notice. And then maybe at some point you'll have the ability to reach out for help. And for some of us, we don't have the ability to reach out for help for 5 years, 10 years. Some of us never in our life because we don't have the economic advantage or the educational support to do so.So it's just a small reminder that we all start in this area at completely different places on this spectrum of ability. And it doesn't mean you're bad or wrong. It simply means you are who you are with the life that you had. Laura: Sarah, I just want to – before we do our snacks – I just wanted to say, I felt myself get emotional at what you were saying there because it's just…the work that you're doing is so important and I know makes such a difference to the families that you help and I know you put a ton of like free resources and content out there.So I'm just really grateful to all the work that you're doing and yeah, just shining a light on these really difficult, challenging conversations in a way that is so compassionate and so just nuanced and thoughtful and yeah, I just know that you're making a big difference for a ton of people, so I wanted to say thank you.And I want to know what your snack is! At the end of every episode, my guest and I share something they've been snacking on. It can be a show, a podcast, a book, you know, like a literal snack, whatever it is that you've been really into lately. So what have you got for us? Sarah:  Yeah, well, this is actually something quite personal because, you know, I mentioned about being autistic.And that diagnosis came very late in life for me, only last year. So the thing I'm snacking on is noticing when it's possible to truly be myself, as opposed to do something that I've learned to do to make everyone else feel comfortable, you know, and that can be something as simple as, well, this isn't simple. Actually, this is quite challenging for me. I was at a, like a week long training for…a therapy training that I'm doing the other week. And instead of sitting on the chair, I sat on the floor because that's where my body felt the most comfortable. So, and it felt so damn good, you know, like it didn't feel just good to sit on the floor. It felt good to honour who I was. And so in an ideal world, I guess, honouring who I am wouldn't be a snack, but because this is a work in progress. It absolutely is a snack right now, and I'm grateful for it. Laura: Oh, I love that. And a lot of people who are part of the Can I Have Another Snack? community are neurodivergent, and I'm sure will really resonate with that experience of, yeah, unmasking and feeling like really comfortable doing that and how, yeah, just affirming that feels. So yeah, thank you for, for sharing that. Oh, my thing is just going to sound really trite compared to that, but my thing is a show, it's called Deadloch. Have you seen it?Sarah: Is that the Australian show? Oh, it's so good. Laura: Yeah. So, okay. So I'm excited to be able to talk to someone about it because I feel like not a lot of people have come across it.Uh, so it's set in Tasmania. It's all I can describe it as…is like a lesbian detective show. Sarah: That's about it. And like, it's so quirky, isn't it? Like it's just so random and weird and sometimes dark and sometimes hilarious. And it's sort of like, it's, it's wild. I'm so glad you love that. Laura: It is wild. And so there's, there's only one season, which is really disappointing, but it…each episode is an hour, so I feel like it's enough that you can, like, get stuck in. And I am someone who, like, my nervous system cannot handle a lot of stress, anxiety in the shows that I watch, I need to, like, be able to decompress. I do want to say that...it is a murder mystery, like it does ramp up in terms of the suspense across the season I want to say, but there's enough dark humour and comedy and, like, a lot of swearing and ridiculousness that it kind of like tempers it out and yeah, so it's really good. I highly recommend it. Sarah: It's amazing. Can I just say, from the perspective of sensitive conversations to the writers of that show, they had to write a rationale for why the word cunt should be in the script because it's used prolifically. For anyone who doesn't know, in Australian colloquial swearing language, cunt is used for lots of different things and it's important it was in there, culturally. It was super important. So I just loved that. And the other thing I loved was that – this isn't a spoiler – the victims of the crimes are not the gender you think, like you naturally assume them to be based on a lot of other like TV crime you would see.So there's some things that comes out and it just sort of skews your expectation based on what the culture has given you, that invisible influence of normal in crime shows, you know? Laura: There is a lot of cultural stuff that is a kind of cultural critique, I suppose, that around gender, around racism, there's a lot of stuff that it touches on, but there is prolific use of the C word.But it, it's just like the way that it is thrown in, it's just very well done. The whole thing is very well done. So highly recommend. Sarah: And can I just say one thing, because you said “the C word” and I think it's important. Because when I was about 28, I was able to reclaim the word cunt because I was in a relationship with an artist at that point and a poet.And he said to me, because I was like, Ooh, that's a yuck word, he said, did you know like, it comes from the old…Old English or Old Norse or something, something of like, when you're ploughing that there's like, the plough leaves a cunt behind in the soil. And I was sort of like, oh, that actually sort of made me feel like, well, that's sort of nice. Like it's a similar sort of look. And for some reason, it just made me feel like I think I could reclaim that word. Not that other people can't, but from that time on, I was like, yeah, okay, that word and I, we can coexist with relative equanimity. Laura: Do you know what? I don't even know why I censored myself because I say cunt all the time.You're a cunt, you're a cunt, they're a cunt. But I understand that maybe not everybody is as comfortable with that word.Sarah, before I let you go, can you let everybody know where they can find you and learn more about your work? Sarah: Sure. Well, my Instagram is @IAmSarahSproule. And at the moment in the season that I'm in, which is really about unmasking and making sure I rest as much as I can. There's not a lot of new things out there, but there is about three years worth of very detailed content there about how to talk to kids about all sorts of things that all different ages, and it's well worth trawling back through there and, getting your fill of support. So that's where the main place you can find me. Laura: Yeah, I will link to all of that in the show notes and there's some great farting content on there as well, which I really appreciate and enjoy. Sarah, it's been such a delight to talk to you. Thank you so much for sharing everything with us. I know we could have gone on for like another 90 minutes, but I will wrap up there and let you go. Thanks so much, Sarah.OUTROThanks so much for listening to the Can I Have Another Snack? podcast. You can support the show by subscribing in your podcast player and leaving a rating and review. And if you want to support the show further and get full access to the Can I Have Another Snack? universe, you can become a paid subscriber.It's just £5 a month or £50 for the year. As well as getting tons of cool perks you help make this work sustainable and we couldn't do it without the support of paying subscribers. Head to laurathomas.substack.com to learn more and sign up today.  Can I Have Another Snack? is hosted by me, Laura Thomas. Our sound engineer is Lucy Dearlove. Fiona Bray formats and schedules all of our posts and makes sure that they're out on time every week. Our funky artwork is by Caitlin Preyser, and the music is by Jason Barkhouse. Thanks so much for listening. ICYMI this week: Let's Talk All Things Neurodiversity and Food* How are you flipping gender scripts for your kids?* Nourishing Full Bodied Awareness with Hillary McBride* Let's Talk About Snacks, Baby This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit laurathomas.substack.com/subscribe

Comment on fait les bébés ? Comment le bébé arrive dans le corps de la maman ? On se trouve souvent démuni face à la demande de notre enfant, qui a le chic, pour poser cette question quand on s'y attend le moins ! Avec Alison, du podcast Les Maternelles Dégenrées, nous te partageons nos conseils pour être prêt.e à répondre à ton enfant, sereinement ! Retrouve mes formations : www.merecredi.com/formations

How can we make the “sex talk” easier? How do we deliver age appropriate and factual information to our children?? In today's podcast we dive into this topic. Cory Silverberg joins me to share their wisdom and guidance on this sometimes tricky topic. For more from the I am. with Kylie Lately podcast - more personal reflections, more conversations with guests, & more juicy self-development inspiration, you can join our members only platform here... https://plus.acast.com/s/the-kylie-camps-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I explore how to talk (and answer their many questions) to elementary school age children (ages 6-12) about sex, sexuality and gender identity, relationships, body image, family dynamics, & supportive parenting if your child (including when identifying as gender creative or expansive or transgender). Resources - Planned Parenthood Website (2023) - Book Recommendations: What are my Words by Katherine Locke, What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg, Bodies are Cool by Tyler Feder, One of a Kind Like Me (Español) by Lauryn Mayeno, It Feels Good to Be Yourself by Teresa Thorn, Introducing Teddy by Jessica Watson, Body Boundaries make me Stronger by Elizabeth Cole, YES NO - A first book on consent by Megan Madison, Gender Explorers by Juno Roche, The Gender Creative Child by Diane Ehrensaft PhD - If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

PRE-ORDER THE RAINBOW PARENTING BOOK!! Rainbow Parenting is back for another three episodes! Tihs week, Lindz chats with Author Cory Silverberg who wrote one of our absolute favorite picture books, What Makes a Baby? Lindz and Cory talk trans-inclusive sex education, the process and craft behind their books, and so much more! If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support the Queer Kid Stuff Patreon for just $5/month or $50/year! Find Us Online - Queer Kid Stuff Website: https://www.queerkidstuff.com  - Weekly Newsletter Signup: https://bit.ly/qksnewslettersignup - Patreon: patreon.com/queerkidstuff - Instagram: instagram.com/queerkidstuff - Twitter: twitter.com/queerkidstuff - Email: business@queerkidstuff.com Production - Host & Creator: Lindz Amer - Producer: Multitude - Editor: Mischa Stanton - Theme Music: Amanda D'Archangelis - Artwork: Abe Tensia About The Show Welcome to Rainbow Parenting, a queer- and gender-affirming parenting podcast. Every week, queer educator Lindz Amer starts conversations about the intimidating first steps on how to affirm queer, trans, and nonbinary kids. They talk to experts who explain how to approach age-relevant early childhood sex ed, queer kid lit, gender reveal parties, and much more. And this isn't just for parents; educators, caregivers, librarians, and anyone who knows, loves, and works with kids can start the process of raising a whole generation! Season One begins May 30th, with new episodes dropping every Monday. Produced in partnership with Multitude.

What is the distinction between talking with children about their bodies, about sexuality, and about sex? And why is it important to talk about each? What are some barriers for adults to have these conversations with the children in their lives? How can we ensure that our conversations about sex are age appropriate…and what does “age appropriate” mean anyway?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with children's non-fiction author Cory Silverberg about having expansive conversations with children about sex and sexuality, including consent, body autonomy, pleasure, relationships, and identity - all grounded in the child's experience. They discuss the building blocks that support honest dialogue between children and trusted adults, as well as some of the barriers and pitfalls adults can come across when talking to the kids in their lives.More about CoryRaised in the 1970s by a children's librarian and a sex therapist, Cory grew up to be a sex educator, author, and queer person who smiles a lot when they talk.Cory spends a lot of time reading, writing, and talking about sex and gender and are happiest working with others. Cory was a founding member of the Come As You Are Co-operative and worked as a researcher and television consultant for over 10 years. Cory is a core team member of ANTE UP!, a virtual professional freedom school founded by Bianca I Laureano. They also spend a lot of time helping other people make books.Cory is the co-author of four books including What Makes a Baby, the ALA Stonewall Honor Book Sex Is a Funny Word, and the forthcoming You Know, Sex, all with Fiona Smyth. Cory has been featured on NPR's Fresh Air, and their books have been called “the books about sex that every family should read” by the New York Times.  Cory's life is full of kids. All of them know where babies come from. Some know more. Learn more about Cory at www.corysilverberg.com.IG: @corysilverbergTwitter: @corysilverbergFB: https://www.facebook.com/whatmakesababyWebsite: www.corysilverberg.comProfile in the New York Times Magazine: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/28/magazine/sex-ed-books-teens-parents.htmlANTE UP! Professional Development School: https://www.anteuppd.com/To find more about Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla, follow them at @wearecuriousfoxes, @coacheffyblue, and @jacquelinemislaon Instagram.If you have a question that you would like to explore on the show, reach out to us and we may answer your question on one of our upcoming episodes. Leave us a voicemail at 646-450-9079 or email us at listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comFollow us on social media for further resources on this topic:fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxesinstagram.com/wearecuriousfoxesyoutube/wearecuriousfoxesJoin the conversation: fb.com/groups/CuriousFoxSupport the show

Sarah and Robin are joined by Certified Sexuality Educator, badass boss, parent, and good friend of the podcast Kristen Tribby of Fun Factory. We talk sex-positive parenting, processing our own trauma through parenting, parenting as a queer person, kids' bodily functions, and why the "no means no" approach does not work. We share a lot of laughs in this episode as we learn that a sense of humor and self-compassion are the ways we each are surviving parenting. Sidebars include Robin and Sarah's birthing experiences, the books What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg and the Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk,and holding space for the hard conversations with your kids (and yourself).Kristen Tribby is Head of Marketing at our favorite vibrator and dildo makers Fun Factory

Things get a little more awkward than usual today, when we talk to Cory Silverberg, a Canadian sexuality educator and author. Cory is the author of What Makes a Baby, Sex Is a Funny Word, and You Know, Sex. Cory talks to us about teaching consent to our children and families, what happens when four year olds don't like your book, and how to talk about all the different ways that families come about. This episode does contain anatomically correct language, discussions of transgender and queer folks, and references to the dangers of sexual abuse. This episode contains lots of great jumping off points for further conversation, but we want folks to be aware of where all we're headed in this conversation. More information about Cory and their work can be found at www.corysilverberg.com and their books can be found at retailers all over North America. Thank you for joining us today on Barnyard Language. If you enjoy the show, we encourage you to support us by becoming a patron. Go to www.patreon.com/barnyardlanguage to make a small monthly donation to help cover the cost of making a show. Please rate and review the podcast and follow the show so you never miss an episode.   You can find us on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok as BarnyardLanguage, and on Twitter we are BarnyardPod. If you'd like to connect with other farming families, you can join our private Barnyard Language Facebook group. We're always in search of future guests for the podcast. If you or someone you know would like to chat with us, get in touch.   We are a proud member of the Positively Farming Media Podcast Network.

When Cory Silverberg was 17 years old growing up in Canada, there simply weren't many resources available for a teenager confused about gender. But Silverberg - who uses they pronouns, and doesn't identify as a man - found surprising solace in the form of a retail job at a local sex shop, and discovered a rare super power that would shape their life. “Other people's sex stuff didn't freak me out,” Silverberg says, “and I knew how to show that it didn't freak me out.” Decades later Silverberg is a celebrated sex educator, public speaker, and the author of three acclaimed books aimed at teaching kids how to talk about sex and gender, and how to think of sex as a path to understanding their place in the world. On this episode of Paternal, Silverberg discusses when to talk to kids about sex and gender, why some of those conversations can be triggering for parents, and why kids engaged in these candid conversations wait longer to have sex. Learn more about Paternal and sign up for our newsletter at www.paternalpodcast.com. You can also email host Nick Firchau at nick@paternalpodcast.com with any comments or suggestions for men he should profile on the show. Make sure you subscribe to the show on Apple Podcasts or wherever you're listening, then keep an eye on your feed for new episodes.

Cory Silverberg talks with Emmy Winner Charlotte Robinson host of OUTTAKE VOICES™ about his new children's sex education book “You Know, Sex” that's aimed at kids aged 10 to 14. “You Know, Sex: Bodies, Gender, Puberty And Other Things” is the first thoroughly modern sex ed book for any child navigating puberty and adolescence. Silverberg is a certified sex educator and former chair of sexuality educator certification for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. He's created this fabulous manual that's presented in a comic book genre illustrated by Fiona Smyth. This 400-page comprehensive work looks at sexuality, body differences, reproduction, hormones and development with an emphasis focusing on our LGBTQ teens and also addresses power, pleasure and how to be a decent human being. This is Silverberg and Smyth's fourth collaboration following their other publications including “The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability”, “What Makes a Baby” and “Sex is a Funny Word” all available on Seven Stories Press. In “You Know, Sex” Silverberg focuses on young people's thoughts and experiences exploring sex. Cory also includes chapters on body autonomy, disclosure, stigma, harassment, trauma, consent, boundaries and safety as well as puberty and reproduction that includes trans, non-binary and intersex bodies experiences and more. Fiona Smyth illustrations include racially and ethnically diverse characters providing an inclusive cross-disability experience that makes “You Know, Sex” a book for every kind of young person and every kind of family especially in these challenging times when the mere discussion of sexual orientation is being banned in states across America. We talked to Cory about what he hopes to accomplish with his timely new sex education book and his spin on our LGBTQ issues.  Cory Silverberg was raised in the 1970s by a children's librarian and a sex therapist and grew up to be a sex educator, an author and queer person. Cory received a master's degree in education from the Ontario Institute for Studies in Education at the University of Toronto. Illustrator Fiona Smyth was inducted into the Doug Wright Awards' Giants of The North Canadian Cartoonist Hall of Fame alongside Alootook Ipellie in 2019. She teaches illustration and cartooning at OCAD U and the Art Gallery of Ontario. Cory and Fiona's collaborations have been honored by ALA Stonewall Book Award and 2016 Norma Fleck Award for Canadian Children's Non-Fiction.  For More Info…   LISTEN: 600+ LGBTQ Chats @OUTTAKE VOICES

Today, Ali is talking to Cory Silverberg, sex educator and the author of You Know, Sex, a graphic style book that The NY Times recently called one of "The Books about Sex that Every Family Should Read." and Ali could not agree more. The New York Times Book review says, "Silverberg's writing is fearless . . . Here is that rare voice that can talk about the hardest things kids go through in ways that are thoughtful, lighthearted and always respectful of their intelligence." Ali and Cory talk about all of it, including how You Know, Sex is the first thoroughly modern sex education book for every body, covering not only the big three of puberty—hormones, reproduction, and development—but also power, pleasure, and how to be a decent human being. They also talk about the lack of good education we all got (and are still getting), talking to kids about fertility, infertility, and miscarriage -- and so much more.  TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE Miscarriage; fertility; infertility; sex education; hormones; reproduction; pleasure; being a decent human being; LGBTQ family building.  EPISODE SPONSORS: FERTILITY RALLY, @fertilityrally No one should go through infertility alone. Join the Worst Club with the Best Members at fertilityrally.com. We offer 4 support groups per week, 3 private Facebook groups, tons of curated events, and an entire community of more than 400 women available to support you, no matter where you are in your journey. Doors open the 1st of every month! Join at link in bio on IG @fertilityrally or at fertilityrally.com RECEPTIVA DX The ReceptivaDX test can help couples struggling with unexplained infertility. It can help identify endometriosis before an embryo transfer, and has the potential to save women the stress, anxiety, and cost of multiple failed IVF attempts. Learn more at receptivadx.com or download the ReceptivaDX app. Use code INFERTILEAF for $75 off. BELI @beli.baby Beli is formulated with the right nutrients to help boost your fertility, increase egg quality and support IVF to increase your chances of conception and a healthy pregnancy. To get started with Beli, go to belibaby.com and use code ALI15 for 15% off your first month of either Beli Women or Beli Men. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/infertile-af/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Better Call Saul, the prequel and spin-off to Breaking Bad, has only a few episodes left. We talk with the show's star, Bob Odenkirk, and showrunner/co-creator Peter Gould. While filming Better Call Saul, one scene was interrupted for the worst imaginable reason: Odenkirk had a heart attack that was nearly fatal. He'll tell us about returning to life–and to that scene.Cory Silverberg's new book, You Know, Sex, touches only briefly on reproduction. Instead, it centers on young people and the questions they might have about pleasure, power and identity.

Better Call Saul, the prequel and spin-off to Breaking Bad, has only a few episodes left. We talk with the show's star, Bob Odenkirk, and showrunner/co-creator Peter Gould. While filming Better Call Saul, one scene was interrupted for the worst imaginable reason: Odenkirk had a heart attack that was nearly fatal. He'll tell us about returning to life–and to that scene.Cory Silverberg's new book, You Know, Sex, touches only briefly on reproduction. Instead, it centers on young people and the questions they might have about pleasure, power and identity.

Cory Silverberg's new book, You Know, Sex, touches only briefly on reproduction. Instead, it centers on young people and the questions they might have about pleasure, power and identity. Also, TV critic David Bianculli reflects on the Jan. 6 committee hearings as if they were a drama series.

Cory Silverberg's new book, You Know, Sex, touches only briefly on reproduction. Instead, it centers on young people and the questions they might have about pleasure, power and identity. Also, TV critic David Bianculli reflects on the Jan. 6 committee hearings as if they were a drama series.

How do you teach your child about sex? It's a perennial question that has spawned hundreds of illustrated books meant to demystify sexual intercourse.But for the Canadian author Cory Silverberg, there was something lacking. Silverberg, who uses they/them pronouns, felt that books on sex aimed at children often omitted mention of intimacy in the context of disability or gender nonconformity. And so they set about making a book of their own.They wanted to tell a story of how babies are made that would apply to all kinds of children, whether they were conceived the traditional way or through reproductive technologies, whether they live with adoptive or biological parents, and no matter their family configuration.The book critic Elaine Blair, who had also felt that children's literature on sex was a little thin on inclusivity, recalls being drawn in by the fact that Silverberg's “Sex is a Funny Word” is one of few children's books that contend with the fact that children encounter representations of sexuality in the media.Ms. Blair met up with Silverberg in Houston to understand the germ of the idea and the editorial process of delivering the book, from conception to print.This story was written by Elaine Blair and recorded by Audm. To hear more audio stories from publications like The New York Times, download Audm for iPhone or Android. 

We spoke with Cory Silverberg, educator, entrepreneur, researcher, and author of the books What Makes a Baby, Sex is a Funny Word, and the new book, You Know, Sex. These books are approachable and factual guides to sex and bodies, but also grown-up feelings, experiences, and all kinds of stuff that can be really hard for anyone to talk about. Supported by Fiona Smyth's vivid and playful illustrations, Cory Silverberg's writing always finds a humane and plain-spoken way to explain everything from the functioning of reproductive organs to the nuances of consent and everything else anybody could want to know about how to use their body. Hear more from Kobo in Conversation.

We spoke with Cory Silverberg, educator, entrepreneur, researcher, and author of the books What Makes a Baby, Sex is a Funny Word, and the new book, You Know, Sex. These books are approachable and factual guides to sex and bodies, but also grown-up feelings, experiences, and all kinds of stuff that can be really hard for anyone to talk about. Supported by Fiona Smyth's vivid and playful illustrations, Cory Silverberg's writing always finds a humane and plain-spoken way to explain everything from the functioning of reproductive organs to the nuances of consent and everything else anybody could want to know about how to use their body. Hear more from Kobo in Conversation.

Dr Karen Gurney AKA The Sex Doctor is on a mission to help us understand how desire works, particularly in women, because it is NOT the spontaneous desire that we see in the movies. In fact, she says ‘It is normal to never feel like sex, out of the blue, ever, in a long term relationship'.As well as female desire, Steph and Karen discuss how sex changes from those exciting early flushes at the start of a relationship, the impact of having children and the mental load, talking to kids about sex, and how we can future-proof our sex life, including through increasing ‘Sexual Currency'.Dr Karen also answers listener questions, about sex after having a baby, infidelity, not feeling attracted to your partner and never feeling like sex, even though it's always good ‘once we're doing it'.Karen's book Mind the Gap and Online Courses Karen's TedX Talk ‘The Surprising Truth About Desire' Karen's TedX Talk ‘The Power of Orgasms to Address Gender Equality' Karen's InstagramSteph's Instagram Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth – book for kids State of Affairs by Esther Perel Thoughtful gifts at Don't Buy Her Flowers See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

L'invitée de cette semaine est Tessy Vanderhaeghe, éducatrice certifiée en santé sexuelle. Dans cet épisode, on aborde le développement psychosexuel 0-5 ans et l'éducation sexuelle avec nos enfants.Bref résumé des sujets abordés: - ouverture sur le genre- le consentement- nudité et bisous- utiliser les bons mots pour les organes génitaux- endroits intimes/privés- comportements normaux versus problématiques- expliquer d'où viennent les bébés- quand/comment aborder la sexualité avec nos enfants- comment bien réagir face à des comportements sexuels- reconnaître les adultes en qui nos enfants peuvent faire confiancePour suivre Tessy sur Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/yestess.familles/ Petit guide gratuit pour "Parlez de sexualité en famille, sans tabou !"  https://education.yestess.ca/guidegratuitLivres recommandés: Le petit illustré de l'intimité (3 tomes),  par Mathilde Baudy, et De quoi sont faits les bébés, par Cory Silverberg

We share a list of materials (books and websites) which can help facilitate informed, non-judgmental, medically accurate discussions with young people. Stay tuned, we'll continue offering more resources to help have these conversations. Books mentioned: The Every Body Book 2020 Rachel Simon (see Episode 8) - ages 8+ It's Perfectly Normal by Robie Harris 5th edition 2021 (see Episode 4) - ages 10+ You Know, Sex by Cory Silverberg 2022 (see Episode 21) - ages 10+ S.e.x. - the all-you-need-to-know guide to get through yours teens and twenties - Heather Corinna - 2016 - ages 12+ Our Bodies, Ourselves - The Boston Women's Health Book Collective - 2011 (Touchstone Edition) - ages 15+ Drawn to Sex: Our Bodies and Health - Erika Moen & Matthew Nolan - 2020 - ages 18+ Websites mentioned (United States): Advocates for Youth: https://www.advocatesforyouth.org/abortion-out-loud/abortion-out-loud-abortion-storytelling/ Free the Pill.org: https://freethepill.org/ Guttmacher Institute: https://www.guttmacher.org/state-policy/explore/overview-abortion-laws NARAL National Abortion Rights Action League: https://www.prochoiceamerica.org Planned Parenthood: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/ Sister Song: https://www.sistersong.net/reproductive-justice Websites mentioned (Canada): Abortion Rights Coalition Canada: https://www.arcc-cdac.ca Access BC (Free Universal BirthControl): https://www.accessbc.org Action Canada: https://www.actioncanadashr.org/resources/factsheets-guidelines/2019-09-19-access-glance-abortion-services-canada Dr Jen Gunter - The Vajenda https://vajenda.substack.com Native Women's association of Canada https://stbbi.nwac.ca Scarleteen: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/pregnancy_and_parenting_sexual_health/how_to_access_a_safe_selfmanaged_medical_abortion Teen Health Source: https://teenhealthsource.com

Today's book: You know, Sex by Cory Silverberg; Illustrator Fiona Smyth (Published by Seven Stories Press AND Triangle Square books in 2022 ) HOT!!! off the presses (new book smell and all). Landa and Barb have been planning and scheming (okay, maybe not "scheming", but definitely planning) for today's book review to be released. Come listen to us talk about today's delightful trove of sex ed goodness, brought to you by the peerless team of Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth. Also mentioned in today's episode: ABAI Annual Convention Boston (Barb's talk about Consent) www.abainternational.org/events/program-details/event-detail.aspx?sid=75998&by=ByArea#s439_0 Emily Nagoski - Come as you Are www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-As-You-Are-Revised-and-Updated/Emily-Nagoski/9781982165314 The porn conversation www.thepornconversation.org Emily's Rothman - Pornography and Public Health www.oxford.universitypressscholarship.com/view/10.1093/oso/9780190075477.001.0001/oso-9780190075477 World Erotic Art Museum (Miami Beach, Florida) www.weammuseum.com/

Sex education has always been a difficult topic to discuss with our kids, and it's only getting harder. However uncomfortable this may be, you're the right person to do it for your kids.One of the most common parent worries is how do they start having a conversation about sex. Do you sit your kids down one day and have a serious conversation? Do you leave them brochures or books on their bed? What's the best way?As a parent, you cannot rely on the school system to provide sex education for your children. In many cases, schools provide no sex education at all; in others, the information provided is often inadequate or one-sided. Even if your child's school provides a very good sex education course, it may not begin until a time when your child needs your guidance on this subject.You should begin talking to your child long before they start asking you questions about sex education. If you do not, they will get their information from other sources that are unreliable, wrong, or incomplete.In today's episode, we're joined by Casey Wike, a mom, wife, sex educator, and parenting coach who has been in education for the past 13 years. She has a wide range of subject area expertise and has taught Pre-K through college-level courses as well as training teachers and parents. Casey now runs her own business, supporting parents and caregivers one on one and in small groups to help them feel comfortable and confident when talking to their children about subjects such as sex, relationships, and their bodies. This is going to be a fun but slightly uncomfortable conversation. However, I do feel this conversation is a great one to have with your children. Happy listening!Episode Highlights: [02:31] The goal of this conversation[05:48] About Casey Wike[07:39] Sex education starts with parents[08:43] Why Casey decided to take sex education on Instagram[11:27] Sex and sexuality aren't a taboo. It's part of our lives[12:15] Common myths about having the sex talk with your kids.[13:36] The benefits of having the sex talk with your kids[15:12] Where to start with sex talk[19:21] Teach your children about consent and boundaries[19:57] Satisfy your kid's curiosity by providing answers[25:32] Creating a comfortable environment to have a conversation with your kid[30:44] Casey's upbringing: What she wishes her parents knew about sex talk[33:30] Sex education is not just about intercourse[34:48] Biggest mistakes parents make when having the sex talk with their kids[35:11] Why sex education should start early[40:18] Casey's advice to parents who have not yet started the sex conversation with their kids.[42:05] Some important resources that Casey offers[45:54] Casey's final wordsResources Mentioned:Show Notes (here)Connect with Casey on InstagramVisit her Website: https://caseywike.com/ Mentioned Books - What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg and Fiona SmythSupport for the Look On The Bright Side Podcast comes from: Jessie Monroe Nail Care:  Visit JessieMonroeNailCare.com and save 20% on your entire order (excluding bundles) with code BrightSide20Don't forget to visit the blog for additional resources. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/JenellBStewart)

In this episode you're going to learn how to educate yourself so you can have sensitive convos with your stepson who has come out to you as trans. Firstly, what a privilege it is that your stepson has trusted you with this information about himself. And it's beautiful that you've accepted this and want to learn how best to support him going forwards. In this episode I share 3 things to help you prepare for this change so you can be there for your step kid or any sort of kid, and learn how to talk to a trans kid about sensitive things. Want to skip ahead? Learn to celebrate your different experiences (7:02) An honour and prompt to re-educate self (8:46) Book Resources (10:50) Sex is a funny word by Cory Silverberg & Fiona Smith The ABCs of LGBT+ by Ashley Mardel Trans+ by Kathryn Gonzales & Karen Rayne Gender Explorers by Juno Roche www.genderspectrum.org And it makes sense that if you've never had acceptance and unconditional support modelled to you this situation can be extremely challenging because it is very complex and can bring up various emotions within us. In particular fear and maybe even your own painful experiences of rejection. This is why I have The Evolve School. It not only helps you learn how to talk to your kid(s) about ANYthing sensitive but it also helps you learn how to be kind to yourself as you learn new skills to help you build an evolved communicating family. So if you feel that you could do with further support leave your details here and I'll be in touch when we next open.

Dans ce deuxième épisode de notre bloc sur le soutien radical, nous aborderons la notion d'alliéE avec l'auteure Pierrette Coulombe. S'il est impossible de devenir expertE de toutes les situations de marginalisation ou de précarisation d'un coup, ou d'être unE AlliéE avec un grand A de toutes les communautés et individus en même temps, nous croyons qu'il est essentiel d'offrir le respect et la considération de base à toutes les personnes indépendamment de ce qu'elles vivent. C'est dans cette optique que nous vous proposons, via cet épisode, de prendre le temps de se jaser, entre personnes privilégiées sur plusieurs points, de ce qu'on peut faire pour travailler réellement vers une plus grande égalité des chances. Comme d'habitude, Miriame Gabrielle est là en fin d'épisode pour sa chronique Assis-toi sur ton sofa avec ton inconfort, restez jusqu'à la fin! Supportez toutEs ou pantoute! Abonnez-vous sur Patreon pour du contenu exclusif! 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Dr Karen Gurney is a psychosexologist who has been helping couples overcome sexual problems since 2003. I can see why. She is a reassuring presence and talks in a straightforward way about sex. She is full of wisdom about how to futureproof a long term relationship, as well as how to guide your children, especially as they get into their teens. This is an important chat I feel - as we Brits are famously buttoned up about sex. We talked about how I want to give my children the information and guidance for them to have happy sex lives in the future - and Karen admitted she feels nervous as well as excited about bringing up her own sons with the right messages. We also laughed about how my early attempts at sex education with my eldest son, backfired publicly in the park one day, when he was 4! For more information and resources, Karen recommends https://www.bishuk.com/ (good for teens) and the book Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg for younger kids. kumon.co.uk/trial kumon.ie/trial See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How are babies made? We speak with Cory Silverberg, author of What Makes A Baby, for answers to questions about how we all come into the world. This is a conversation that welcomes all kinds of families as we answer questions about why babies don't hatch out of eggs, why boys have nipples, why girls have babies but boys don't and why some people look more like one parent more than the other. Later in the episode we also explore how we get our last names and how two people can have the same last name when they're not related. We made this episode with our youngest listeners in mind, but parents may want to preview this episode on their own or listen with their kids. Download our learning guides: PDF | Google Slide | Transcript "How are babies made?" - Wade, 7, Charlottesville, Va. In his book What Makes a Baby, Cory Silverberg begins by reminding kids and grownups that there are really two questions: what makes a baby in general, and then the more specific question that is unique to you--where did you come from? That's a question that only your parent or parents or the adults who love you can answer. While there are lots of ways that babies join families, some things are true for all of us. “For all humans to be born we need three things. We need to start with an egg; we need to start with a sperm; and those come from two different bodies. And then we need a third body part which is called a uterus. That's where we grow, where this tiny, tiny thing grows into a baby, which is the thing you are when you are born," Silverberg explains. Book recommendations from Cory Silverberg Books Geared to Kids 4 - 7 (ish) What Makes a Baby By Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth A book about where babies come from that works for every kind of family, regardless of who is in it and how the child came to be. What's the Big Secret: Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys By Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown A simplified and clear introduction to reproduction, genitals, and touch. Leaves out a lot of kids and families, but better than most. Who Are You? The Kid's Guide to Gender Identity by Brook Pessin-Whedbee and Naomi Bardoff Also simplified, but a good introduction on gender identity written and illustrated for younger children. Books Geared to Kids 7 to 10 (ish) The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls By Valorie Schaefer and Josee Masse Only for girls, and not trans inclusive, but still one of the best books to cover a range of sexuality and puberty related topics. It's So Amazing! A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families By Robie Harris and Michael Emberly Covers reproduction including intercourse gestation and birth, with a focus on heterosexual, gender normative parents and kids. Sex Is a Funny Word By Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth Covers body parts, boundaries, touch, and an extensive gender section for kids and families of all identities and orientations. Stacey's Not a Girl By Colt Keo-Meier, illustrated by Jesse Yang A picture book about a kid who knows they aren't a girl, but isn't sure if they are a boy.

From the first sentence of the book (which is "Disabled people have sex"), we're smitten with this publication. With content and language to inform and empower disabled people, caregivers, and educators alike, what's not to love? We'll tell you more on this episode. Check it out here: https://onipress.com/collections/limerence-press Additional show links: Parents Magazine "Should We Be Talking to Kids About What It Means To Have Good Sex?" by Ellen Friedrichs https://www.parents.com/kids/health/should-we-be-talking-to-kids-about-what-it-means-to-have-good-sex/ The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability by Miriam Kaufman, Cory Silverberg, and Fran Odette https://www.corysilverberg.com/sex-and-disability Andrew Gurza and Disability After Dark Podcast http://www.andrewgurza.com/podcast Cripping Up Sex with Eva https://www.crippingupsexwitheva.com

Part 2 of this conversation with the incredible Jennifer Wiessner is the HOW! The “How” is such a big aspect of this topic that we decided to dedicate an entire episode to it. We start off with a bang, diving into her teaser from Part 1 on why we need to strike “virgin” from our vocabulary. Trust me, it's eye-opening.Jennifer shares with us the importance of using anatomically correct terms, what those words are and when to start using them with our children. She discusses ways to prevent shaming our children for behaviors that come naturally to all humans based on how our bodies are built because with shame comes unhealthy sexuality.She also “wraps parents in a warm blanket” by telling those who are, “worried they've said the wrong things or have missed the boat that you don't know what you don't know. Most of us have been brought up in a culture that is sex-saturated yet sex silent. No one taught us, so we all need to cut ourselves a little slack. But, now is the time to change that.”  Please let me know if you would be interested in participating in a workshop by Jennifer through the Mama Mindset community via zoom. Connect with Jenniferhttps://jenniferwiessnerhealthysexuality.com/https://www.facebook.com/jennifer.blatzwiessnerBook MentionedFrom Diapers to Dating: A Parent's Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Children by Debra HaffnerThe Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. SiegelBrainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J. SiegelMommy, Mama, and Me OR Daddy, Papa, and Me by Lesléa NewmanDads and Daughters: How to Inspire, Understand and Support Your Daughter When She's Growing Up So Fast by Joe Kellyhttps://newmoongirls.com/free-digital-new-moon-girls-magazine/ Your Daughter's Bedroom: Insights for Raising Confident Women by Joyce T. McFaddenModern Mothering: What Daughters Say They Need from Their Mothers Regarding Sexual Development and Its Impact on Their Self Worth by Joyce T. McFaddenRaising the Transgender Child : A Complete Guide for Parents, Families, and Caregivers by Alisa Bowman and Michele AngelloBirds and Bees and More by Samantha J. Schulte and Sandra L CaronWhat Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg (several others by this author)It's Not the Stork by Robie Harris (he has a series of children's books)Join the Mama Mindset Community!IG https://www.instagram.com/mama_mindset_podcast/FB https://www.facebook.com/mamamindsetfollowersWebsite https://amycothren.com

Today's Book: Sex is a Funny Word- A Book about Bodies, Feelings, and YOU by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth (illustrator) www.corysilverberg.com/sex-is-a-funny-word We love the bright colors and inclusivity of this book! We think this book is great for pretty much anyone, and we'll tell you why.

Syanne Centeno-Bloom is an artist, model, outdoor-lover, advocate, student, and piano player. She is also someone with 2 rare conditions who uses a wheelchair. The fact is that in so many ways, the systems and culture we live in seems to simultaneously erase disabled people and make them inhuman. From online harassment to navigating ableism in the modeling industry, hear from Syanne about how she’s reclaiming her sexuality and showing the world that the disabled community is sexy, too.Featured in this Episode:Syanne Centeno-BloomInstagram: @syannebloomTikTok: @syannebloomSee the 2021 swimsuit calendar Syanne led with 11 other disability advocatesAdditional Resources:Handi - The Handi Book of Love, Lust, and DisabilityCripping Up Sex with EvaThe Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability by Cory Silverberg and Fran OdetteThe Routledge Handbook of Disability and Sexuality by Russell Shuttleworth and Linda MonaParentbooks - Disability, Puberty, & Sexuality book listSlick ChicksModels of DiversityFolks to follow online:@syannebloom@my_catheter_and_me@lizrajchart@maddistrokeofluck@stephcarmenc@amputee_ot@annaaarachel@stickwithchloe@hahaemilyhahn@taraandwolfie@diana_unfiltered@tamaramenaofficial@wheelchairmommyAbout our Sponsor:Janji aims to explore, connect, and give back by crafting comfortable, responsibly-produced running apparel guided by the places we run and the people we meet.Get 15% off your next order of Janji with code SEXOUTSIDE at checkoutLet’s be friends:We want you to be a part of the Sex Outside community!Find Sex Outside on Instagram! @sexoutsidepodConnect with us on TikTok: @sexoutsidepodCheck out what we’ve saved for you on PinterestWant to support Sex Outside?Leave a 5-star review in Apple Podcasts or the app of your choosing!Head to the Sex Outside Shop to find stickers, shirts, and underwear!Need a transcript for this episode? Find it here.Hosted and produced by  Laura Borichevsky.Cover artwork by  Hailey Hirst.Music by The Wild Wild and UTAH, licensed via  MusicBed.

In this episode, you’ll hear from the wonderful Ran Courant-Morgan, Manager of Parent Education at Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts. Ran brings a very special dose of magic to their education work with parents, caregivers, and direct care professionals. In this episode Ran and host Christine Koh talk about how our culture is learning a new language and a new way to think about gender, how to practice using they/them pronouns, why it’s important to meet kids where they are at when it comes to conversations about sex and gender, and more. Links:Planned Parenthood League of MassachusettsFamily Acceptance ProjectWhat Makes A Baby by Cory SilverbergAMAZE Live! with Cory Silverberg and Bianca LaureanoEdit Your Life Episode 114: Gender Identity 101 with Casey BrownKids-AskBecome An Askable Parent is a podcast from AMAZE.org. AMAZE creates free educational videos + resources to help families talk openly, honestly, and less awkwardly about sex, health, relationships + growing up. The goal of the podcast is to help parents learn how to communicate better (even when they don’t have all the answers!) so their kids know that they can ask them anything. Connect with AMAZE.org on YouTube (@amazeparents), Facebook (@amazeparents), Instagram (@amazeparents) and Twitter (@amazeorg).

This episode we learn about sex and how people get so weird about their bits and bobs and why that matters.

Avita Bansee is a yoga teacher specializing in pre- and postnatal. The birth of her children and continued study in yoga philosophy, anatomy, pranayama and biomechanics inform her teaching and self-practice. Avita's group classes are centered on breath, strength and active rest while maintaining a sense of playfulness. Her work for the last seven years includes training private clients, aiding them with pain management, birth recovery or general well being through yoga and exercise. In addition to teaching yoga, Avita has a Masters in Political Science from the New School of Social Research and is a passionate advocate of social justice, feminism and anti-racist activism within and beyond the wellness industry.You can find out more about Avita and her work at avitayoga.com and on Instagram @yogawithavita. Check out her September workshop with Eleni and Liz on The Connective, Earth, Fire, Water. And find out more about her collaboration with Tejal Yoga and Social Justice at tejalyoga.comThe book Avita referenced, What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg can be found here.

This week Seth is joined by physical education and health teacher Nichole Wilder, sex and sexuality educator Nadine Thornhill, and educator Lauren Jackson for part two of our discussion about how to talk to kids about sexual orientation. Show Notes: 25:56- A Day In the Life of Marlon Bundo, by Jill Twiss 43:55 PFLAG 43:57 Egale Canada 46:36- Transgender 101, by Nick Teich 47:55- Rad Child Podcast Giveaway 48:30- A Kids Book About discount code radchild 1:11:13- She-Ra 1:11:13- Steven Universe 1:11:55- GLSEN 1:12:04- The Trevor Project 1:12:25- Netflix Babysitters Club 1:13:16- Sex Is A Funny Word, by Cory Silverberg 1:13:36- Every Body Curious web series 1:14:22- The Every Body Book by Rachel E. Simon 1:15:22- Jessica Kingsley Publishers 1:15:45- Fandumb Podcast 1:16:35- Let's Talk eBook, by Nadine Thornhill   Follow Nadine: Nadinethornhill.com Nadine Thornhill on YouTube @NadineThornhill on Instagram & Twitter   Find us on the web! www.radchildpodcast.com Facebook Twitter Instagram Contact us: radchildpodcast@gmail.com Be a guest Donate Buy Rad Merch

On the second part of our special Gender two-parter, Seth is joined by creator of Queer Kid Stuff Lindz Amer, author of You Be You Jonathan Branfman, therapist Karen Foley, and sociology professor Simone Kolysh.  This week they discuss practical ways to talk to kids about gender and help raise kids to be aware of gender roles and stereotypes. Show Notes: 6:58- It Feels Good to Be Yourself, by Theresa Thorn 31:56- Gender Neutral Parenting, by Paige Lucas-Stannard 34:05- Neither, by Airlie Anderson 34:19- Julian is a Mermaid, by Jessica Love 34:23- Red: A Crayon's Story, by Michael Hall 35:54- Sewing the Rainbow, by Gayle E. Pitman 36:45- A Day in the Life of Marlon Bundo, by Marlon Bundo and Jill Twiss 37:37- Worm Loves Worm, by T.J. Austrian 38:07- A is for Activist, by Innosanto Nagara 38:15- The ABCs of Equality, by Chana Ginelle Ewing 38:23- The GayBCs, by M.L. Webb 38:52- A is for Awesome!, by Eva Chen 39:25- Sex is a Funny Word, by Cory Silverberg 39:37- What Makes a Baby, by Cory Silverberg 40:01- Camp Aranu'tiq ( summer camp for gender variant youth) 40:11- Queen of the Hanukkah Dosas, by Pamela Ehrenberg 40:53- Intersectional Allies, by Chelsea Johnson, LaToya Council, and Carolyn Choi 41:38- The Conscious Parent, by Shefali Tsabary 42:24- Gender Born, Gender Made, by Diane Ehrensaft 42:38- The Gender Creative Child, by Diane Ehrensaft 42:44- Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue by Dr. Christia Brown 43:19- Queer Kid Stuff 43:48- Lindz Amer Ted Talk about Gender 44:18- Activist, You! Podcast

The Connected Yoga Teacher Podcast 151: Male Pelvic Health & Yoga with Dr. Susie Gronski   Description: Pelvic health is a recurring topic on this podcast, but most of the time, it is about pelvic health in general or particular to female-bodied people. However, pelvic health is something important to male-bodied people too, so on this episode Dr. Susie Gronski sheds some light on male pelvic health and the issues surrounding that.   Dr. Susie Gronski describes herself as “the physiotherapist for your privates”. She is a licensed doctor of physical therapy, board certified pelvic rehabilitation practitioner, and a certified health coach. On her podcast In Your Pants, Dr. Susie approaches the topic of pain, pelvic health, and sexuality with open and transparent conversations. Apart from providing 1:1 hands-on consultations with her patients to teach them how to be the expert in treating their pelvic pain, Dr. Susie is also a Registered Yoga Teacher, and brings that aspect into her work.   What are some of the concerns that male-bodied people have regarding their pelvic health, and how can yoga or PT help? In this interview, Dr. Susie addresses a variety of topics - from pelvic pain, to urinary issues, from how pelvic health relates to sexual function, to myths around pelvic health.    If you know someone who is male-bodied, or are a male-bodied person yourself - this episode has great information that will be beneficial in understanding more about male pelvic health.   Key Takeaways: [6:55] Shannon introduces her guest for this episode - Dr. Susie Gronski. [7:53] What is the work that Dr. Susie does and who does she do it for? [8:38] What has the challenge been as a female-bodied person addressing male body part issues? [12:58] Be aware of the language and terms you use around the topic of pelvic health! [14:27] What are some of the main issues that male-bodied people face with regard to pelvic health? [19:10] Dr. Susie shares an anecdote of a patient she is working with. [22:15] Pain is a very personal experience that varies greatly from person to person, and particularly with men, there is a lot of stigma around how they should act or seek help. [23:50] Lower back pain can also be related to pelvic health. Dr. Susie explains how. [26:29] How does the male pelvic floor function differently from the female pelvic floor? [30:50] What is the relationship between between pelvic pain and stressful images or experiences? [35:47] What are the benefits of going to see your pelvic health PT or going to yoga class for some of these issues? [40:33] It is important to not always be focused on engaging the pelvic floor muscles but to maintain some balance to optimize function. [45:52] How can we encourage men to attend a pelvic health class or a yoga class? [47:50] When should men see a pelvic health PT for any issues they're experiencing? [53:53] Dr. Susie recommends that people should see a PT who specializes in male pelvic health, and she explains why. [56:19] What are some resources Dr. Susie recommends to find a male pelvic health specialist? [58:13] What is Dr. Susie's podcast about? [58:38] What is the biggest myth or misconception men have about their pelvic health? [1:01:59] What are Dr. Susie's thoughts on hernias and exercise in male bodies? [1:05:53] What were your key takeaways from this episode?   Links: Dr. Susie Gronski In Your Pants Podcast with Dr. Susie Gronski The Connected Yoga Teacher Podcast Episode 150: Start a Membership Site with Amanda McKinney Other resources on Pelvic Health Mayday! Mayday! My Pelvic Floor Is Malfunctioning…, By Dr. Susie Gronski Pattern of activation of pelvic floor muscles in men differs with verbal instructions: Pattern of Activation of Pelvic Floor Muscles, by Paul Hodges et. al.  Study of stress and relation to pelvic floor Pelvic Pain Support Program The Connected Yoga Teacher Podcast Episode 009: Kegels, Mula Bandha and Pelvic Health with Shelly Prosko The Connected Yoga Teacher Podcast Episode 129: Pelvic Floor 101 with Marie-Josée Forget Find a pelvic health PT: Pelvic Guru - Global Pelvic Health Solutions - Canada American Physical Therapy Association (APTA) Sex is a Funny Word: A Book about Bodies, Feelings, and YOU, by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth Yoga for Pelvic Health Teacher Training   Gratitude to our Sponsor Schedulicity and Pelvic Health Professionals   Quotes from this episode:   "There's a lot of isolation and stigmatization and taboo around helping male-bodies."   "The prostate has been blamed for a lot of male pain issues, but if you look at the research and the literature, the stats are about 95-97% of them have no correlation to an infection at all."   "Part of my role is to help them to be aware of that protective response, and question whether or not that's necessary for them in that moment."   "Sexual health issues, they often are intertwined with psychological or psychogenic components as well."

Episode 1 Season 1: The Birds and the Bees it is more is just Sex.   What are we going to talk about?   Jax and Renae delve into the forbidden of talking about sex with your tweens teens. Guess what?!? Research does NOT support the idea of simply not talking about sex with your tween/teen. Jax and Renae kick the door down on the taboo topic of talking with teens about sex by drilling into discussing gender, sex, and masturbation right out of the blocks. Healthy sex education starts when children are little! Not after they have learned about sex from their friend on the monkey bars. It is a myth that talking about sex leads to sex!   When should you start talking to kids about sex?   The younger the better but using language and sources that are appropriate for your child at different developmental ages. They should learn from you rather than from the playground talk.    Gender??? What???   A relatively new area to talk to our kids about is gender expression and sexuality. Renae and Jax take some time to talk about how to help kids understand gender and how to prepare your children to explore their gender and/or understand other's gender expression.   What should you do when your culture is different than those around you?   How do you handle the social reaction to your child having “the” knowledge? You need to be open with other parents in your circle when you talk with your child because they talk to each other and any info and potential misunderstanding will spread like wildfire! Renae and Jax also talk about respecting the culture of other families around you. Different cultures have very different beliefs about sex.     What is your expectation?   Are your expectations are too high or too low? Your expectations will dictate the behavior of your kids. If they are too low the kids may choose to not exceed them. If they are too high, you may have chosen a battle line. Listen in, Jax and Renae will give you ideas about expectations.    Tips   Jax and Renae give tips on how to create the right situation and open the conversation with your kids so that it goes smoothly, and they perceive you as hearing over lecturing. Setting and phrases to use with your kids are covered. Renae and Jax also discuss things to help you stay present while you are freaking the fuck out inside!   How can You reach us? Find them on social media by engaging with them in their facebook group for Moms of Tween/TeenDaughters: https://www.facebook.com/groups/momsandteengirls/?ref=bookmarks  Jax Anderson can be found on IG @thepsykotherapist and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaxandersonlpc/. Renae can be found on IG @renae.d.swanson or you can email her at rswanson@integritycounselingllc.net.  Join the email list for Raise A Little Hell Podcast here: www.raisealittlehellpodcast.com   Resource Ideas and Links   Talking about sex with the littles. The following books are golden.   Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth What Makes a Baby by Cory Silberberg   Talking to your kids about sex   https://healthfinder.gov/healthtopics/category/parenting/healthy-communication-and-relationships/talk-to-your-kids-about-sex   https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking   https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/ultimate-guide-to-sex-talk#when-to-talk   Gender and Sexuality   https://www.thetrevorproject.org/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMImZ7X-vr35gIVAtbACh0GVQs6EAAYASAAEgK-cPD_BwE   https://www.genderbread.org/   https://www.hrc.org/resources/resources-for-people-with-transgender-family-members     Resources for our academic audience   Roffman, D.M. (2011). A review of talking to your kids about sex: Turning “the talk” into a conversation for life. American Journal of Sexuality Education, 6, pp. 326-328.   Telingator, C, & Webster, C.R. (2019). The birds and the bees: Speaking to children, adolescents, and families about gender and sexuality. Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, 58, pp. S10.   Bersamin, M; Todd, M.; Fisher, D.A.; Hill, D.L. Grube, J.W; & Walker, S. (2008). Parenting practices and adolescent sexual behavior: A longitudinal study. Journal of Marriage and Family, 70, 97-112

Fiona Smyth is a legend of the Toronto arts community. A true renaissance woman, she's a sculptor, a muralist, a book illustrator an animator, an art teacher and an independent comic book artist. If you're a Toronto resident, you've probably seen her work without even realizing it. Her murals adorn iconic locations like Lee's Palace's Dance Cave and Sneaky Dee's (which is known to Scott Pilgrim Fans) where she designed their sign and bonehead cow logo. In 2019, she was inducted into The Giants of The North Hall of Fame as part of Canada's Doug Wright Awards for indepedent cartooning along with the late Inuit cartoonist Alootook Ipellie (1951-2007). Her psychadelic and fluid drawing style has graced a who's who of Canadian publishers, newspapers and magazines since the time she was a student at the Ontario College of Art and Design, (now OCAD University) where she now teaches a new generation of students how to make comics. She is best known for tackling feminist issues, including issues of sexuality, gender and idenity throughout her entire body of work, which spans 30 plus years. In 2018, Koyama Press published a retrospective of her career from 1985-2018 called Somnambulance, which features excerts from her comic Nocturnal Emissions, published by Vortex Comics, as well as work she did for Vice, Drawn and Quarterly, Exclaim! Snipe Hunt, Taddle Creek and even Urban Outfitters' Slant Magazine, among others. Other work includes Cheez 100, collecting the first 100 strips of her series Cheez that was published in Exclaim! Magazine, her first and only graphic novel, The Never Wheres and two critcally-acclaimed sex education books for kids written by renowned sex educator Cory Silverberg, What Makes a Baby? and Sex is a Funny Word. On the podcast, Aaron finds out how Fiona was recruited to create the Sneaky Dee's sign, what about her childhood and catholic upbringing pushed her to explore feminism in her art, what makes her work for kids different than her work for adults, what her southern good ol' boy pen name is and how it felt going from a punk student with a D.I.Y. ethos that's skipping class at OCAD to teaching at OCAD and becoming the authority she used to rebel against. Plus, find out if Seth lived with her, where she saw herself among the “Holy Triumverate” of Toronto's autobio artists (Seth, Chester Brown and Joe Matt) in the 90s and what it's like to be featured as one of Canada's Big Four comic artists in the recently closed This is Serious: Canadian Indie Comics at the Art Gallery of Hamilton. Oh, and she reveals that she and Cory Silverberg are working on a third sex education graphic novel covering puberty. Also, did you know she wanted to be a realist painter?This episode of Speech Bubble with Fiona Smyth is sponsored by Hairy Tarantula and Bam Coffee Co.@fionasmythlukkieFiona's FacebookFiona's blogFiona's TumblrFiona's Giants of the North Hall of Fame Write-upFiona's Zines OnlineWhat Makes a Baby?How to Comission Fiona Smyth for a ProjectLearn How to Make Comics from Fiona – Starts Jan. 25, 2020Society of IllustratorsWeird ThingsAlbatross Soup – a short film by Winnie Cheung with illustrations by Fiona SmythBradley of Him by Connor Willumsen – Koyama Press

This week Seth is joined by director of Family Formation at Family Equality and transgender dad Trystan Reese and doula, sexuality educator and mom Vicki Bloom. Join them in their discussion about how to talk to kids about pregnancy and conception.  00:57-Family Equality 02:34-Our Whole Lives Sexuality Program 29:23-Sex is a Funny Word, by Cory Silverberg 29:33-What Makes a Baby, Cory Silverberg 33:13-Shift Book Box 42:48- Questions Children Ask And How to Answer Them, by Dr. Miriam Stoppard (NOT Recommended)   Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @Radchildpodcast Email us at radchildpodcast@gmail.com Find out more info or apply to be a future guest at www.radchildpodcast.com Subscribe to support us monthly at https://www.patreon.com/radchildpodcast   You can follow this weeks guests here: Trystan Reese- @BiffandI Vicki Bloom- @Wholeselfdoula  

Join Seth, Chrystal, and Rebecca as they talk about the best kids books around the topics of sex and consent. See www.radchildpodcast.com for full show notes! 1:04- Sex is a Funny Word, by Cory Silverberg 3:26- It's Not the Stork Series, by Robie H Harris (Recommended With Caution) 7:02- Wait, What? by Heather Corinna 10:06- Tell Me About Sex, Grandma, by Anastasia Higginbotham 16:30- A Kid's First Book About Sex, by Joani Blank (Recommended With Caution) 16:31- The Playbook for Kids About Sex, by Joani Blank (Recommended with Caution) Both Joani Blank books available for download here. 31:51- C is for Consent, by Eleanor Morrison 32:19- Statistic Sources: RAINN The Hornbook 1 The Hornbook 2 The Conscious Kid The Office on Woman’s Health 37:45- Sex Ed Rescue 38:58- Your Body Belongs to You (Not Recommended) 41:08- The Rad Coloring Book 41:57- No Means No! by Jayneen Sanders 42:06-Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent, & Respect, by Jayneen Sanders 42:38- Miles is the Boss of His Own Body, Abbie Schiller and Samantha Counter 45:12- What's The Big Secret? (Not Recommended) 

This week Seth is joined by guests Isy Abraham-Raveson, Anastasia Higginbotham, and Rachel E. Simon as they discuss how to talk to kids about Sex and Consent. 2:14- The Ordinary Terrible Things Series, by Anastasia Higginbotham 2:20- Tell Me About Sex, Grandma, by Anastasia Higginbotham 3:32- The Every Body Book, by Rachel E. Simon 56:42- Shift Book Box 1:04:18- What Makes A Baby, by Cory Silverberg 10:05:57- Where Did I Come From?, by Peter Mayle (Not Recommended) 1:09:28- The Great Big Hug, by Isy Abraham-Raveson 1:17:29- Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent, and Respect, by Jayneen Sanders 1:24:11- Amaze.org 1:24:33- Queer Kid Stuff 1:24:51- Sex Positive Families 1:26:00- The Three R’s Curriculum 1:26:27- Sex is A Funny Word, by Cory Silverberg 1:26:30- Miles is the Boss of HIs Body, by Abbie Schiller 1:26:54- C is for Consent, by Eleanor Morrison 1:27:00- No Means No! by Jayneen Sanders 1:27:11- Mary Jo Padgurski Book Series 1:28:28- It’s Not The Stork, by Robie Harris (Not Recommended) 1:28:47- You Be You! by Jonathan Branfman 1:29:10- Scarleteen 1:29:20- Sex Ed Rescue 1:30:08 Wait, What? by Heather Corinna 1:30:46- A Kid’s First Book About Sex PDF 1:34:47- Not My Idea, by Anastasia Higginbotham

In this episode, we discuss how to talk with young people about sex. Talking about sex often accompanies discussions about puberty in mid-primary school classes, prompting further questions at home. Parents and carers might find it difficult to know what to say. Schools Educator Athi joins Anne to share some wisdom on how to start or continue these conversations at home. Enjoy!.  Suggested resources for the podcast: "What Makes a Baby" by Cory Silverberg is a really gentle introduction to the idea that the sperm and egg join and that's how a baby starts. "Mummy Laid an Egg" by Babbette Cole is a really great picture book for younger children. "The Amazing True Story of How Babies Are Made' by Fiona Katasukus available as a book and a 3 part animation. The Australian Research Center, in Sex, Health and Society at La Trobe University publish research about sexual behavior of young people. Transcript available here.

April is Child Abuse Prevention month. Therefore, we thought it would be a good idea to bring back Feather Berkower, a leading expert in childhood sexual abuse prevention. During Feather's first visit to our podcast, she spoke to us about ways for Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse. Today Debbie and Feather dive deeper into how to have uncomfortable conversations, with both adults and children, to promote sexual assault prevention. Listen and learn: How to talk to children about sex and body parts in an open, developmentally-appropriate way. What to say to an adult whose behavior with your child makes you uncomfortable. A leading expert’s opinion about sleepovers, play dates, and online safety. The difference between normal sexual play between children and sexual abuse. Ways to encouraging children to tell if sexual abuse occurs, and how to talk to children after a disclosure of abuse. About Feather Berkower: Feather Berkower, Founder of Parenting Safe Children, is a licensed clinical social worker and one of the nation’s leading experts in child sexual assault prevention. She has dedicated her career — which now spans over three decades — to educating parents and youth professionals on how to make their communities “off limits” to childhood sexual assault. Using her community-based approach, she has trained over 100,000 school children, parents, and youth professionals across the United States. Resources: The Parenting Safe Children webpageBehaviors to watch out for when adults are with children.Feather’s book Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual AbuseThe Parenting Safe Children workshop calendar and registrationOnline workshop, for those outside the Denver Metro Blog post Feather mentioned about sleepovers Books for Children: Some Parts are Not for Sharing by Julie K. Federico I Said No! A Kid-to-kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private by Kimberly & Zack KingAmazing You by Gail Saltz and Lynne Cravath It’s Not the Stork (ages 4+) by Robbie H. Harris It’s So Amazing (ages 7+) by Robbie H. HarrisSome Secrets Should Never Be Kept by Jayneen Sanders What Makes A Baby by Cory SilverbergSex is a Funny Word: A Book about Bodies, Feelings, and YOU by Cory Silverberg and Fiona SmythAdditional book recommendations on the Parenting Safe Children webpage 19. Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower

Two important things before we get started: Register for Explore More Summit, my free online conference! It starts February 25th, 2019 and the theme this year is PLEASURE. You do NOT want to miss it. Check it out here at exploremoresummit.com. Support Shine Louise Houston's crowdfunding campaign for her new erotic film, Chemistry Eases the Pain. Details are here. On to your emails! First up, CuriousMom was raised with a lot of sexual shame and body shame. As a mom of two daughters, she is doing her best to raise them in a sex positive way (and it sounds like she's doing a GREAT job), but she doesn't know what she doesn't know. Where can she find resources and support on raising kids in a sex positive home? I cannot recommend my chat with Melissa Carnagey from Sex Positive Families highly enough. It's at this year's Explore More Summit on the VERY FIRST DAY, so get on that. Also, Sex Positive Families is a MUST for all folks with kids in their lives. Check out their recommending reading list, too. It's for kids and adults. Also check out Nadine Thornhill, Cory Silverberg's books "What Makes a Baby?" and "Sex is a Funny Word", and once your kids are teens, they MUST know about Scarleteen. Next up, E wrote in with a sweet note about the ways the show has changed. I am so grateful for all of you!!! Then, Unimportant wrote in because they feel neglected by my lack of an email response. Let's talk about the realities of what happens on my end and why every single email is so treasured even if you don't hear back from me. Let's do this imperfectly! Finally, Adam wrote in. His wife has a very limiting disability and it's led to a sexless marriage. He's been hiring escorts to help with his sexual needs because he loves his wive and their children, and just isn't sure what to do.  And...THE AMAZING Shine Louise Houston joins us to talk about her new film, Chemistry Eases the Pain. Help support the film, check out the awesome perks, and spread the word. We need more awesome queer smut! Head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast and support the show at $3 or more for exclusive access to this and every week's bonus content. This week? Supporters are getting something NO ONE ELSE IS GETTING! An exclusive extended clip from my chat with Melissa Carnagey of Sex Positive Families!  Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram. About Host Dawn Serra: What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

Your questions have been pouring in. And of course, if you want to practice being the sexpert, folks who support the show on Patreon at $10 get to offer their advice for the show, too. So, where are we going this week? Emma has been seeing someone for a few years who keeps disappearing and ignoring her. They have amazing chemistry and great sex, so what can she do about the way he behaves?  The truth is the way he's behaving is abusive and all about control and manipulation, and not at all about honoring this relationship. I dive into the why and how of what I think Emma should do next. Maddy and another listener both wrote in recently asking for help about how to raise sex positive kids. I have a bunch of resources to share from books to websites and big concepts that I think set us up for more success as teens and adults. Also, Nadine Thornhill talked about this on episode 109 of the show. Check that out, too. Because kids and sex is about more than just condoms and STIs. It's about emotional intelligence, resilience, finding your voice, knowing your own body, communicating boundaries and desires, and learning how to survive the awkward. If parents can help kids learn that? They'll be so much better prepared for all the stuff around sex that makes sex so confusing and difficult. Plus, FOCUS ON THE PLEASURE. Talking about pleasure doesn't make kids have the sex. But it does empower them around knowing what they want later in life. Another listener needs help finding a third for her threesome desires, but she has herpes. How can she find someone who wants to play with her and her boyfriend, and who won't mind her herpes status? Speaking of playing with others, Lindsey and her boyfriend love being watched while they have sex. They've done it once, but they want to do more. Where can they find voyeurs who will enjoy watching them get off? From Tinder and OK Cupid to exploring local poly groups and play parties, there are loads of options if you're willing to put in a little work and ask for what you want. Tori is a rape survivor with a long history of less-than-satisfying sex. She's in a new relationship and she's taking it slow, but she needs help around how to disclose her survivor status to her boyfriend. I have lots of thoughts about what it means to share your trauma with someone, and how to explore this space from a place of connection and curiosity rather than one of fear and shame. Finally, Nathan wants to know how to convince his girlfriend to be his keyholder because he is into chastity devices. Will she even want to? Once again, the only answer is to ask her, and I explain why. Love the show? You can lend your support by heading to patreon.com/sgrpodcast - supporting at $3 per month gets you exclusive weekly content you can't hear anywhere else. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources mentioned in this episode Scarleteen.com Cory Silverberg's books "What Makes a Baby?" and "Sex is a Funny Word" Anastasia Higginbotham's "Tell Me About Sex, Grandma", "Death is Stupid", and "Divorce is the Worst" Nadine Thornhill, a sex educator specifically working with parents on teaching their kids about sex. Check out her YouTube, too. Heather Corinna (founder of Scarleteen) has a book called "S.E.X., second edition: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties" A great resource for parents about raising kids is John Gottman's "Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting" About Dawn Serra I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I’m not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it’s not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband.

How are babies made? We speak with Cory Silverberg, author of What Makes A Baby, for answers to questions about how we all come into the world.

My guest today is Anya Manes, whose work I’ve followed for a while. She educates parents about talking to their kids about sex, holding workshops and webinars especially for parents of tweens. After dealing with awkwardness and strife in her family surrounding sex, she became a high school biology teacher and realized the need. She explains practically how to handle these difficult topics with your child, and why you shouldn’t wait until the middle school years to have these discussions! What you’ll hear in this episode: The norm: a scary, powerful view of sex Anya’s years as a high school biology teacher Why she left teaching to pursue motherhood and supporting parents in sex education Advice to parents about creating a safe space Communicating the rules and boundaries about physical bodies Anya’s book recommendations for parents The “Answering Questions BRAVELY Formula” B--Take a deep breath R--Recognize and affirm your child A—Ask why they are asking V—Investigate further E—Evaluate your circumstances L—Give the lowdown, but follow the two-sentence rule Y—Your values Anya’s free interview series Resources: www.talkingaboutsex.com www.talktokidsaboutsexseries.com  (Anya’s resources) Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg  

Biz and Theresa hash out the possible reasons why Biz can’t stop saying “no” to EVERYTHING her kids want to do, even when there is no good reason for it. “No, you can’t play with that toy that is totally yours and is actually fine for you to play with! Wait, I mean, ok.” Plus, Biz feels cheated by TV again, Theresa survives an epic public temper tantrum, and we ask why so many kids were eating cake in the 50’s?! And, we have an incredibly helpful conversation about talking with our kids about sex and gender with sexuality educator and author Cory Silverberg, whose wonderful new books include What Makes a Baby and Sex Is A Funny Word. Share your genius and fail moments! Call 206-350-9485* *Be sure to tell us at the top of your message whether you're leaving a genius moment, a fail, or a rant! Thanks!! Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Subscribe to One Bad Mother in iTunes Join our mailing list!

  Witness Sandra make new friends with author, sex ed heavy hitter and straight shooter Cory Silverberg. TOPICS: Rubbing One Off, White Men, Journalism, Nerds, Anxiety, Self-Awareness, Squelching, Erotic Hypnosis, Aroused Ovulation, Sex Science Snags, Individuals vs Populations, Sex Writing, Flirting, Dating & Disability, Low Bar Sex Ed, Sex vs Reproduction, Gender, Kickstarter, Intro Drama, Person of Color, Aggressive Sperm vs Passive Egg (myths) and P-i-V Sex. Checkout Cory's phenomenal children's book, "What Makes a Baby."

A 70-year-old man finds himself addicted to the expensive charms of a "financial dominatrix." A woman's husband can't be bothered to use the vibrator that sends her over the moon. A kinky couple can't be bothered to take the time to do the BDSM that gets them both off. Hmmm. The gift of ho: The sister of a disabled man wonders how to go about buying him a sex worker for the holidays. Dan brings in guest expert Cory Silverberg, author of The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability, to help her along. And a question for the lesbians of the world: Why don't you want to date a "real man" instead of a "fake man"? Let us know, ladies: 206-302-2064  This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage

A 70-year-old man finds himself addicted to the expensive charms of a "financial dominatrix." A woman's husband can't be bothered to use the vibrator that sends her over the moon. A kinky couple can't be bothered to take the time to do the BDSM that gets them both off. Hmmm. The gift of ho: The sister of a disabled man wonders how to go about buying him a sex worker for the holidays. Dan brings in guest expert Cory Silverberg, author of The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability, to help her along. And a question for the lesbians of the world: Why don't you want to date a "real man" instead of a "fake man"? Let us know, ladies: 206-302-2064  This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage

Join Dan Savage and guest star Cory Silverberg in a very special sex-with-disabilities episode of the Savage Lovecast. Also, a follow-up call from the French major house of drama. And an awful lot more. Call 206-302-2064 to get on the show. This podcast is brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.audiblepodcast.com/savage.

Join Dan Savage and guest star Cory Silverberg in a very special sex-with-disabilities episode of the Savage Lovecast. Also, a follow-up call from the French major house of drama. And an awful lot more. Call 206-302-2064 to get on the show. This podcast is brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.audiblepodcast.com/savage.