Podcasts about sustaining open relationships

Paul Krauss MA LPC speaks with Kelly Benzin LMSW and Brittani Decess LPC about Non-monogamous Relationships and the Importance of Communication. The conversation covers many aspects including: Myths and Facts of Non-monogamous Relationships, Important Terminology, Intersectionality, Judgements and Stereotypes, Cultural Bias, Intersectional Lens, Safety, Weaponizing Non-monogamy, Jealousy, Communication, etc.    For further exploration: Books Polysecure by: Jessica Fern Polywise by: Jessica Fern  The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by: Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton Open Deeply by Kate Loree, MFT Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships by: Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, Emily Sotelo Matlack More than Two by: Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert The Polyamory Workbook by: Sara Youngblood Gregory  Hot and Unbothered by: Yana Tallon-Hicks Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by: Tristan Taormino   Podcasts Multiamory Queer & Poly Remodeled Love Cheaper Than Therapy   Instagram and/or TikTok @chillpolyamory @shelovesradically @elzcunningham @remodeledlove  @polyphiliablog  @unapolygetically  @the_vspot  @annie_undone  Kelly Benzin, LMSW is therapist serving clients in Grand Rapids, MI. She focuses on working with women, the LGBTQIA + community, and those in non monogamous relationships. Kelly works through a Feminist Theory lens and how the current systems in our society impact our community's mental health. She is a trauma informed and EMDR trained clinician, as well as a self identified Relationship Anarchist.  Brittani Decess, LPC is a mental health therapist at Health For Life Counseling and has been practicing since September 2021.  Brittani identifies as a queer cis-gendered white female and uses she/her pronouns . Brittani has worked with a variety of individuals and families across the life span using talk and creative therapies to aid clients in healing and processing. Brittani holds a Bachelor's degree in Art Therapy and a Master's Degree in Counseling with a focus on Marriage, Couples, and Families. Brittani is also continuing training in EMDR techniques and Couples Therapy Modalities. Brittani has several years of trauma-informed work including facilitating a Cognitive-Behavoral-Therapy curriculum to youth in court system, being a public speaker and educator on topics related to sexual assault and domestic violence, and counseling children, teens, and caregivers moving through the adoption and foster care system before coming to Health for Life Counseling- Ada, MI. Brittani specializes in topics and issues related to lifespan changes/transitions, trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship dynamics (couples, families, and other relationship groupings), attachment, communication, self-esteem, LGBTQ+ experiences , sexuality and intimacy, and impacts of unhelpful social narratives. Brittani approaches therapy by working towards processing the meaning of experiences by exploring the intersectionality of cultural identities and how connections to people, places, and events have impacted the client(s) mental health and other areas most important to them. Get involved with the National Violence Prevention Hotline: 501(c)(3) Donate Share with your network Write your congressperson Sign our Petition Looking for excellent medical billing services? Check out Therapist Billing Services. A behavioral and mental health billing service developed by therapists for therapists. Preview an Online Video Course for the Parents of Young Adults (Parenting Issues) EMDR Training Solutions (For all your EMDR training needs!) Paul Krauss MA LPC is the Clinical Director of Health for Life Counseling Grand Rapids, home of The Trauma-Informed Counseling Center of Grand Rapids. Paul is also a Private Practice Psychotherapist, an Approved EMDRIA Consultant , host of the Intentional Clinician podcast, Behavioral Health Consultant, Clinical Trainer, Counseling Supervisor, and Meditation Teacher. Paul is now offering consulting for a few individuals and organizations. Paul is the creator of the National Violence Prevention Hotline (in progress) as well as the Intentional Clinician Training Program for Counselors. You can find Paul on Insight Timer. Paul has been quoted in the Washington Post, NBC News, Wired Magazine, and Counseling Today. Questions? Call the office at 616-200-4433.  If you are looking for EMDRIA consulting groups, Paul Krauss MA LPC is now hosting weekly online and in-person groups.  For details, click here. For general behavioral and mental health consulting for you or your organization. Follow Health for Life Counseling- Grand Rapids: Instagram   |   Facebook     |     Youtube  Original Music: ”Alright" from the forthcoming album Mystic by PAWL (Spotify) "Cherry Colored Funk" from Heaven or Las Vegas by Cocteau Twins (Spotify) "Heaven or Las Vegas" from Heaven or Las Vegas by Cocteau Twins (Spotify)

It's Lesbian Visibillity week, where we take a look at some of the most wonderful women who have shaped Feast of Fun over the course of 20 years. Just like no two people are alike, the relationships we develop in our lives will also be incredibly unique. Before open relationships became more acceptable in LGBTQ+ circles, sex-positive writer Tristan Taormino was helping pave the way for people to expand their minds to new kinds of relationships.We spoke to Tristan in 2008 about her new book “Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships” where she said a big factor in fufilling relationships was for people to defnine monogamy on their own terms, and that the best relationships complement each other instead of trying to meet each other halfway in everything.  
Please enjoy this encore presentation of “Ménage à How Many?” with Tristan Taormino as part of our celebration of Lesbian Visibility Week and the design I made that became the modern lesbian pride flag. FEATURED BOOK:

This episode may get your heads scratching if you're tuning in from a society that has very specific relationship dynamics and arrangements in place. My curiosity to how other's live their lives and what they deem as healthy for their relationships has never been higher, as I am in the process of becoming the best partner and friend myself.In this episode, I speak to Akil Apollo Davis, a full-time Performing Artist & Theatre Professor of Mask and Art Aesthetic. He has been a unique and influential presence in New York City's performance, educational and cultural avant-garde for 2 decades. We discuss the ins and outs of this thing called Sex Positivity. And to give you a brief idea, sex positivity is a social and cultural movement that promotes an affirmative and open attitude towards all aspects of sexuality. It encourages individuals to embrace and explore their own sexual desires, preferences, and identities without judgment or shame. Sex positivity emphasizes the importance of consent, communication, and respect in sexual relationships. He has trained with Monks in Thailand, Brahmans in Bali, Witches in New York, and has worked with Psychologists to bridge the gaps between esoteric knowledge and classical paradigms. Akil's Karmic mantra: there must be more light. Episode Highlights Meet the one and only Akil How he went from celibacy to monogamy to discovering consensual non-monogamy Akil's understanding of attachment and fear in relationships The establishment of monogamy Accessing your healthy sexual energy The tiers of being non-monogamous, and the importance of communication on your wants and needs Emotional maturity Real life examples on how non-monogamy works The ins and outs of play parties The downsides of sex positivity/monogamy Compersion - a new word to remember Resources, courtesy of Akil:Sex-Positivity for Curious Minds 1.“The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy2.“Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life” by Emily Nagoski3.“Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships” by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá4.“Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships” by Tristan Taormino5.“What Makes a Baby” by Cory Silverberg (for all kinds of families)6.“Queer: A Graphic History” by Meg-John Barker and Julia Scheele7.“The New Topping Book” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy8.“The New Bottoming Book” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy9.“Girl Sex 101” by Allison Moon and KD Diamond10.“Pussy: A Reclamation” by Regena Thomashauer11.“Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century” by Barbara Carrellas12.“Sex God Method” by Daniel Rose13.“The Art of Sexual Magic: Cultivating Sexual Energy to Transform Your Life” by Margo Anand Psychological and Emotional Work for Curious Minds1.“The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” by Bessel van der Kolk2.“The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse” by Wendy Maltz3.“Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma” by Staci Haines4.“Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha” by Tara Brach5.“The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship” by Don Miguel Ruiz6.“Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by Dr. Sue Johnson7.“More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory” by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert8.“Love's Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy” by Irvin D. Yalom9.“Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex—and How to Get It” by Marty Klein Improving Your Sex Life1.“She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman” by Ian Kerner2.“The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know” by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams3.“The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge” by Tristan Taormino4.“The Multi-Orgasmic Woman: How Any Woman Can Experience Ultimate Pleasure and Dramatically Enhance Her Health and Happiness” by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams5.“The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: How Couples Can Dramatically Enhance Their Pleasure, Intimacy, and Health” by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams6.“The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover” by David Deida7.“Guide to Getting It On: Unzipped” by Paul Joannides, Psy.D.8.“Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man” by Ian Kerner  Get in touch with Stephanie: www.listeningwellpodcast.com | @listeningwellpodcast Thank you for Listening Well!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fan girl moment! In this episode we interview one of our idles, Tristan Taormino. We learn all about her life from her upbringing to what lead her to become a trailblazing feminist pornographer and why she's proudly known as Butt Girl. Tristan also shares advice for folks who want to watch ethical porn, as well as how to navigate shame around being turned on by rough or objectifying imagery or fantasies. Get ready to laugh, learn, and listen to an inspiring life story! About our guest: Tristan Taormino is a writer, speaker, sex educator, and host of the podcast Sex Out Loud. A former syndicated columnist for The Village Voice, she is the author of numerous books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, Down and Dirty Sex Secrets, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, and her recent memoir A Part of the Heart Can't Be Eaten. She is the founding editor of the annual Best Lesbian Erotica anthologies, editor of The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Edge, and coeditor of The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure. Taormino has won four Lambda Literary Awards and eight Feminist Porn Awards, among other awards. She lives in Los Angeles. To learn more go to tristantaormino.com Join us for our live Topless (and tapas) book reading in San Francisco on Wednesday, November 15th! Tickets are limited to snag yours ASAP here Pre-order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com and get free access to our online workshop How to Pamper Your Partner for every book preorder (offer/workshop is exclusive to preorders). Other links: Start meditating now with 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at calm.com/shameless Get 20% off The Personal Massager by Butter Wellness when you go to butterwellness.com and use the code “SHAMELESS” at checkout Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

“This is the thing I used to say to my wife, ‘Just because I love you, everyone else didn't suddenly become ugly.'” In Part Two of “Ethical Non-Monogamy” Ogun and I explore jealousy, Ogun's view of God in relation to relationships, and more. Resources: Books: Love's Not Colorblind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin A. Pattersonhttps://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/36206376 Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristian Taorminohttps://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/1128665 Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmongamy by Jessica Fernhttps://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/52569124 Podcasts about non-monogamy: “Multiamory” https://www.multiamory.com/podcast“Curious Fox” https://www.wearecuriousfoxes.com/podcast Sex-positive podcasts:  “Dan Savage Lovecast” https://savage.love/lovecast/ “Sex with Emily” https://sexwithemily.com/"Doing it! With Hannah Witton" https://hannahwitton.com/podcast/ Instagrams Accounts About Polyamory: “PolyPages” https://www.instagram.com/polypages/ “Polyamory_Awareness” https://www.instagram.com/polyamory_awareness/“Raquel Savage” https://www.instagram.com/raquelsavage/“Good Polyamory” https://www.instagram.com/goodpolyamory/ “Faithfully Polyamorous” https://www.instagram.com/faithfullypolyamorousSupport the showFollow us for more ✨bad✨ content: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtobebad_podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtobebad Website: https://calledtobebad.buzzsprout.com/ Sponsor of this episode: https://www.arthumorsoul.com/ Want to become part of the ✨baddie✨ community? Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/calledtobebad Have a ✨bad✨ topic you want to talk about on the show? Get in touch with host, Mariah Martin at: calledtobebad@gmail.com #ctbb #podcast #podcastersoffacebook ...

This week I'm sharing my experience moving from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy. I talk about why my husband and I decided to open our marriage, how the transition went and some of the challenges and benefits of being non-monogamous.—If the podcast is resonating with you, please share this episode with a friend who would find it inspiring, share it on social, and/or drop us a review over on Apple Podcasts. It goes so far in helping us spread our message to like-minded folks.Thank you and XO!❤️Olaiya----------------Book a free 45-minute coaching call with me!Email me to get info on coaching or ask a question you'd like answered on the podcastSubmit a question or topic suggestion anonymously hereCome say Hello!

When it comes to the philosophy of non-monogamy, there can be a lot of questions: Is it polyamory or an open relationship? Do we have to tell each other about other partners? Is it a relationship or just sex? Today's episode is all about intimacy and non-monogamy and how people connect and relate to each other in that world, with lots of nuggets that apply to ALL relationships, whether monogamous or not. In today's episode, I'm breaking this all down with Marcia Baczynski (aka Marcia B.)  Do you geek out on consent, communication, intimacy, how we relate to each other and connect, and why we engage in romantic and sexual relationships in the first place? You're not going to want to miss this episode! In episode 403 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss: (5:48) The difference between non-monogamy and polyamory (10:28) Important and relevant things to communicate with your partner(s), particularly when you're in a non-monogamous relationship (and why the complexity of communication grows exponentially—not linearly—in non-monogamous relationships) (12:50) Ethical non-monogamy vs consensual non-monogamy: what's the difference and do they mean the same thing? (And Marcia's preferred term here) How do you determine if one non-monogamous relationship is ethical or not? (32:17) Our best tips for living the lifestyle that works the best for YOU (and one really important thing to keep in mind when navigating non-monogamy) (44:08) TWO things that are so important to pay attention to when it comes to your relationships and what to hone in on so that you can get your desires met more often Slide into my DMs on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethdialto/  Or slide into Marcia's DMs on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/askmarciab/) or Twitter (https://twitter.com/askmarciab) Links: Episode 399: My Sacred Slut Summer Buy Marcia's book, Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators Learn more about Cuddle Parties Download Marcia's free Field Guide to Consent Learn more about Marcia and her work at her website: https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/  Take her upcoming course, Not Needy (starting October 26, 2022) Come join me for my October workshop! Sign up for my Open Community Embodiment Class on Nov 11, 2022! Books mentioned in this episode: The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, & Other Adventures by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams Cuffed, Tied, and Satisfied: A Kinky Guide to the Best Sex Ever by JAIYA The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin D.C.

Welcome to the wide world of alternative relationship models. Opening up, threesomes, and swinging are increasingly becoming more mainstream, so naturally, we've got questions. Some of us do better with monogamy, but some of us thrive with a little variety - and no matter where we land on the spectrum of relationships and sex, we can always gain vocabulary to explore our desires, and act on our pleasure.So on today's show, I take your questions on open relationships and we get into it. First, we tackle open relationships when we're already partnered. How do you establish the ground rules? What do you do when your partner has a date but you don't, and you feel that jealousy coming on? Next, threesomes and swinging: how do you practice safe sex in a group sex situation? Finally: when you're the third party, what's the best way to talk to the partner of your partner? In this case, and truly all others, the key is becoming a grade A communicator – because if there's one thing you can count on in an alternative relationship, it's lots and lots of talking. Show Notes:Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Last week, we got a question from an anonymous helper who's in love with her husband... And his brother. It's complicated. But it's ok! Because this week, we dive back into our conversation with speaker, coach and host of The Love Drive, Shaun Galanos.  Follow @hahopodcast on Instagram for more! Shaun Galanos:https://www.shaungalanos.com/@thelovedrive Ms. Danielle: https://msdanielleferrentino.com/IG: @msdanielleferrentinoBooks Discussed in this Episode:Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships28 Summers Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/help-a-human-out.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/help-a-human-out.

If you've ever been in love you know it is amazing. But it can also be confusing, complicated, or downright illogical. So what do you do when you are in love with not only your husband, but his brother too? Well, that's the question we are answering today. Our incredible resident love expert Shaun Galanos (speaker, coach and host of The Love Drive), is back to help us help this human out.  Follow @hahopodcast on Instagram for more! Shaun Galanos:https://www.shaungalanos.com/IG:@thelovedrive Ms. Danielle: https://msdanielleferrentino.com/IG: @msdanielleferrentinoBooks Discussed in this Episode:Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships28 Summers Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/help-a-human-out.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/help-a-human-out.

How many are in your party? For some people monogamy is just right, but for a growing number of people, open relationships is where they find true happiness.We are raised on fairy tales of a handsome prince rescuing a fair maiden and then they live happily ever after, but how close is this image to real life?As gay people, we try to reinterpret that image of monogamous marriage in our fight for gay rights and marriage equality. There is even a new study that shows that GLBT youth want to be married and have kids by the age of 30.How many people are truly satisfied by having one lover for their entire life?Tristan Taormino - Opening UpTristan Taormino, award-winning author, columnist, pornographic film director joins us to talk about her new book “Opening Up: A guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.”BUY THE BOOK: https://amzn.to/3ykpzBbTristan studied over a hundred polyamorous people, in a sort of Kinsey Report on non-manogamy. Tristan interviewed in person, over the phone and by email, people who were content and settled, and others who were at a crossroads in their relationships.She discovered that all the people engaging in this lifestyle “exude an above-average level of sexual and emotional satisfaction -something that in my experience and observation seems to elude a lot of people.”Tristan Taormino loves her FOF tSo how do you convince your wife to have a three way with the nanny, or the pool boy?Well, it can be a very difficult topic to bring up because relationships are often viewed as sacred and some people are not going to react well to even bringing the topic up. Tristan recommends you start slow and put little feelers out there to see if they are the same wavelength. Of course, you have to make sure the person you are currently involved with has good self esteem otherwise you are in for a lot of trouble and soul searching.Join us as we chat with Tristan about the tips and tricks on open relationships. We talk about how you design an open relationship, the pitfalls of an nonmonogmay, keeping it fresh five or ten years later and what to do if one person is kinky and they other is not.There is a lot to take into consideration if you are going to turn your relationship into an open one. For example, what do you do if one person is attracted to it and the other isn’t? Is coming out as polyamorous like coming out of the gay closet? What do you do when someone reacts negatively to your identity? And what about the children, do the kids even care?Tristan Toarmino is the niece of famous American author Thomas Pynchon, so of course we just have to ask her what he thinks of her work.Take a dip in our jacuzzi of love- Feast of Fools.

This week we're joined by Sex Out Loud podcast host, award-winning author, sex educator, and speaker Tristan Taormino to talk about solo polyamory and relationship anarchy. Tristan has edited 25 anthologies and written 8 books on the subject of sex and relationships, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She is also the founder of The Open List, which details healthcare and other professionals who have experience working with alternative sexualities and lifestyles. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more!Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com, or you can leave us a voicemail at 678-MULTI-05. We love to hear from our listeners and we read every message. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network.

In this episode Madeline spoke with Gabriel, a cisgender male who has experience in consensual polyamorous relationships. They chat about boundaries and how it is different in each non-monogamous relationship. Madeline and Gabriel dive into the concept of jealously and finding the root cause. They also explore the importance of needing consent from all parties involved and keeping an open and honest stream of communication.Gabriel recommends these books:Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by-Tristan TaorminoThe Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Loveby- Janet W. Hardy

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work. The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamy Tristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up. Decisions to make regarding non-monogamy Tristan's advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try. Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this. The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamy Time management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed. We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan's suggests the ‘don't ask, don't tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly. Considering the Past Trauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner's triggers and understand why they exist. Background Tristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years. Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals. Links and Resources Tristan's Book – https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X Website http://tristantaormino.com/ https://openingup.net/ More info: Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ Host Recent Episodes Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taorminoMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself is a big part of the open-minded approach required to make this type of thing work.The Importance of Boundaries in Consensual Non-monogamyTristan recommends a slow start and provides clear guidelines and examples on how to do this. Knowing what you want and need makes setting boundaries easier. These boundaries include whether or not you and your partner wish to keep your non-monogamy close to home or not. This ultimately bleeds into how much time you will be investing in non-monogamy and the depth of the relationships you will be seeking. Tristan shares the types of boundaries that could come up.Decisions to make regarding non-monogamyTristan’s advice for couples with different feelings about non-monogamy is to go at the pace of the slower partner. Ultimatums are not encouraged especially if your partner agrees to give it a try.Tristan adds valuable advice about making decisions during the heat of a moment, advocating a more thought-through approach when put in these situations. People trying non-monogamy also struggle with certain behaviours including jealousy. We learn more about this and how to constructively handle this.The Common Pitfalls of Consensual Non-monogamyTime management is considered one of the pitfalls of non-monogamy. With many tools available at our disposal, Tristan unpacks the subtle and obvious scenarios that eventually lead to your time being consumed and the negative impact it can have if not managed.We hear about emotional privacy and how it involves considering the preferences of all the parties included in your non-monogamous arrangement. Tristan’s suggests the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell ‘ method if all parties can agree to it. Vito power comes into play here and we hear about how it can be used fairly.Considering the PastTrauma and negative childhood experiences eventually manifest in our relationships. Tristan urges us to investigate these issues so that we are informed when entering a relationship and acutely aware of our partner’s triggers and understand why they exist.BackgroundTristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world for nearly 20 years.Tristan hosts Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network and is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program while still running a coaching and consulting business for sexuality and creative professionals.Links and ResourcesTristan’s Book –https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295XWebsitehttp://tristantaormino.com/https://openingup.net/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Host Recent EpisodesBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/141-doing-non-monogamy-well-tristan-taormino

Our sex-negative culture pushes us to repress and feel shame about our sexuality or lifestyle. Stepping out of the shadows and telling your story becomes an important act of rebellion. There are risks involved in telling your story. More than just the frowning disapproval of judgy relatives at holiday dinners, living an openly atypical life can lead to risks to employment, housing, medical care, and child custody. This is why it's doubly important that those who can live out loud do since their open existence is a powerful 'fuck you' to the status quo. Our guest today has been openly flipping off the establishment for more than 25 years since beginning the magazine 'Pucker Up' shortly after finishing college. She continues to do so as she works on a memoir telling her story from childhood through to her relationship with her father as he battled AIDS in the early years of the epidemic. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark are joined by Tristan Taormino to discuss her upcoming (as yet untitled) memoir and to talk about Telling Your Story as Resistance. Tristan Taormino is an award-winning author, sex educator, speaker, and media maker. She is editor of 25 anthologies and the author of eight books on sex and relationships including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She is founder of The Open List, a list of professionals (therapists, social workers, psychiatrists, psychologists, consultants, relationship and life coaches, doctors, lawyers, etc.) who are experienced and knowledgeable about alternative sexuality and lifestyles, including open relationships, polyamory, and non-monogamy. She is the host of the long running podcast Sex Out Loud.  Find Tristan at @TristanTaormino and @SexOutLoud on Twitter and her patreon at https://www.patreon.com/tristantaormino Buy Kat Stark's novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers. Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible , Itunes Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK  Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com   Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Abbie is joined by the three hosts of Clit Talk (@clittalkshow) (https://clittalkshow.com/about) Sugar, Katie and Lindsey. They talk about period sex, the changes in their relationships that have come from the increased lockdown laws in Los Angeles at the time of recording, open relationships, and their attendance of a sex party in 2018. The books mentioned are Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino  The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy You can listen to Clit Talk on any of your usual podcasting platforms! As always, you can find me @abbiechatfield on Instagram, or you can join the podcast group IT'S A LOT WITH ABBIE CHATFIELD PODCAST GROUP on Facebook. Follow the pod @itsalotpod on IG.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For the month of February, we sit down with queer Asian Americans to learn more about how they navigate finding love here in America.   This episode, we sit down with Robin Mele, a queer second-generation Taiwanese-American therapist in NYC and learn more about them navigating through their asexual, panromantic, and polyamorous identity. We talk about identities, stereotypes, dating apps, and so much more!   Robin Mele (they/them/theirs) is a queer second-generation Taiwanese-American who currently works as a therapist on an inpatient psychiatric unit for adolescents at a public hospital in New York City. They have a master's degree in dance/movement therapy, and they have their yoga teaching certification. They currently identify as asexual, panromantic, and polyamorous.   This episode, we cover: How Robin got started in their career working as a therapist. What is dance movement therapy? Growing up biracial white and Asian. How they discovered their asexual, panromantic, and polyamorous identity. Facing stereotypes with these identities. Why it’s not about adding more labels and more understanding ourselves. Navigating being asexual, panromantic, and polyamorous within the Asian community. Thoughts on dating apps, inclusivity in the space, and superficiality How to navigate racial fetishism. Why timing is everything in love and relationships. References from this Episode: Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVN) Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino Lex Dating App The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman To get in contact with Robin, you can reach out to them Instagram @Robinks   You can follow me at: Instagram (instagram.com/stevenwakabayashi) YouTube (youtube.com/stevenwakabayashi) Weekly Newsletter (mindfulmoments.substack.com)

Christopher Ryan, PhD. is an author, speaker, and podcast host, as well as an excellent storyteller. With his New York Times best-selling book, Sex at Dawn, he became known for challenging the standard cultural narratives around sex and social organization. His new book, Civilized to Death, questions whether civilization has been a net benefit to our species. On his podcast Tangentially Speaking, Chris welcomes a mix of unconventional guests including famous comics, bank robbers, drug smugglers, porn stars, and rattlesnake experts. In this interview, Chris offers a challenging perspective on how humans have strayed from egalitarian tribal living, instead adopting customs that don’t match our biological drives and social needs. He focuses on the disruptive role of agriculture in human history, marking that as the period during which we veered off course. Chris also shares humorous and touching stories from interviews and travels in his van, Scarlett Jovansson. Here’s the outline of this interview with Christopher Ryan: [00:00:17] Tangentially Speaking podcast: Interview with Bruce Parry. [00:00:49] Film from Bruce Parry: Tawai: A Voice from the Forest. [00:01:01] Podcasts with Stephanie Welch: Disruptive Anthropology: An Ancestral Health Perspective on Barefooting and Male Circumcision and The Need for Tribal Living in a Modern World.  [00:02:50] Book: The Red Queen by Matt Ridley. [00:03:03] Book: Civilized to Death: The Price of Progress, by Christopher Ryan. [00:04:50] Spain to lead the world in life expectancy. Study: Foreman, Kyle J., et al. "Forecasting life expectancy, years of life lost, and all-cause and cause-specific mortality for 250 causes of death: reference and alternative scenarios for 2016–40 for 195 countries and territories." The Lancet 392.10159 (2018): 2052-2090. [00:11:37] Show: Tribe, hosted by Bruce Parry. [00:11:52] Film: Cannibals and Crampons, with Bruce Parry and Mark Anstice. [00:14:26] Book: Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá. [00:18:28] Sarah Hrdy, author of books on alloparenting. [00:20:37] Article: Sex at Dusk by David Barash. [00:23:30] Agriculture as the catalyst for a profound revolution in the way human beings organize themselves. [00:27:27] Book: Against the Grain: A Deep History of the Earliest States, by James C. Scott. [00:29:08] Thomas Malthus and Thomas Hobbes. [00:44:17] Anthropologist Nurit Bird-David. [00:46:43] Critics of Chris’s position on cultural evolution: Matt Ridley, Steven Pinker, Richard Dawkins, David Buss, Helen Fisher. [00:55:39] Book: Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, by Tristan Taormino. [00:58:09] Dan Savage. [01:02:50] Book: The Evolution of Everything: How New Ideas Emerge, by Matt Ridley. [01:07:28] Book: The Brave Athlete: Calm the F*ck Down and Rise to the Occasion, by Simon Marshall and Lesley Paterson. [01:09:59] Think globally, act locally. [01:18:14] Kenneth Ford, Director of the Institute for Human and Machine Cognition (IHMC); Podcast: Optimal Diet and Movement for Healthspan, Amplified Intelligence and More with Ken Ford.  [01:22:35] Tangentially Speaking podcast. Get a T-shirt. [01:27:03] Podcast with the woman who took ayahuasca: Mandy. [01:30:27] Podcast with rattlesnake expert: John Porter. [01:30:46] Jeff Leach. [01:37:19] See more of Chris at his website and his TED talk.

Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan present live in front of an audience at Naughty in N'awlins for part two of their panel, Sustaining Open Relationships through Life's Challenges. Not your typical swinger convention topic, the trio share their heartfelt stories about loss, health and medical trauma, and facing death. It's not often on the Swingset that the crew shares about such heavy and activating topics, so choose wisely when you cue up this episode, Swingsetters. Yet the vulnerability, rawness, and emotion are all a part of this life and therefore a part of open relationships. Listen as Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan share their perspectives and strategies for coping, getting your mojo back, and even thriving while healing and integrating traumatic life experiences. We mentioned Andrew Gurza during the panel. You can find his work, both  the Disability After Dark podcast and his work as a Disability Awareness  Consultant at AndrewGurza.com, and you can find him twitter @theandrewgurza. If you run events than you should contact Andrew to learn how to offer accommodations for all your event attendees. NOPE Tristan Taormino is coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset’s eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!   Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Intro and Interstitial Music: CloudNone & Paul Aiden – Anonymous Outro Music: DESERT STAR – Edge of the World       Our Triad Review segment includes music by ローマンRoman titled: L O V E, off the P A L M S ( D E L U X E ) album. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan present live in front of an audience at Naughty in N'awlins. Not your typical swinger convention topic, the trio share their heartfelt stories about loss, health and medical trauma, and facing death. It's not often on the Swingset that the crew shares about such heavy and activating topics, so choose wisely when you cue up this episode, Swingsetters. Yet the vulnerability, rawness, and emotion are all a part of this life and therefore a part of open relationships. Listen as Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan share their perspectives and strategies for coping, getting your mojo back, and even thriving while healing and integrating traumatic life experiences. We mentioned Andrew Gurza during the panel. You can find his work, both the Disability After Dark podcast and his work as a Disability Awareness Consultant at AndrewGurza.com, and you can find him twitter @theandrewgurza. If you run events than you should contact Andrew to learn how to offer accommodations for all your event attendees.       Tristan Taormino is coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset’s eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!   Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Intro, Interstitial, and Outro Music: Direct & Matt Van – Cold Ground       Our Triad Review segment includes music by ローマンRoman titled: L O V E, off the P A L M S ( D E L U X E ) album. This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Episode 104 is officially going down in the annals of American Sex history as the go-to butt play guide. Tristan Taormino tells us everything we’ve always wanted to know more about backdoor play. We bust anal sex myths that keep us ashamed and afraid to experiment. Tristan gets to the bottom of the notion that anal is the riskiest kind of sex--find out if that’s really true and why. You'll learn essential anal anatomy, the best lube for your behind, enema do’s and dont’s, the benefits of anal masturbation, specific step-by-step guidelines for givers and receivers to maximize your odds of having a painless & pleasurable experience, the best positions for anal (including pegging), the real story on gaping, anal training & buttplugs, and a butt-load more (ha!). Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999  Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 104 Links Tristan Taormino Twitter https://twitter.com/TristanTaormino Tristan Taormino Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tristantaormino/ Tristan Taormino Facebook https://www.facebook.com/AskTristan/ Tristan Taormino SFW website http://tristantaormino.com/ Tristan Taormino NSFW website https://puckerup.com/ Sex Out Loud podcast https://www.voiceamerica.com/show/2096/sex-out-loud Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X/ The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, 2nd Edition https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Anal-Sex-Women/dp/1573442216 Tristan Taormino Patreon https://www.patreon.com/tristantaormino Tristan Taormino’s bonus story https://www.patreon.com/posts/30122979 Former Podcast with Ruby Ryder on Pegging http://sunnymegatron.com/ruby-ryder-pegging-paradise/ Amberly Rothfield Twitter Video (CAUTION: On a NSFW tube site) https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5d7d8fc6c1fef American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast  Episode 104 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info 30 day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY http://dipseastories.com/sunny Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY  http://manscaped.com  10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric  & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed At least 25% off BDSM gear & sex toys with Stockroom’s daily deal (there’s a new product each day!) https://www.stockroom.com/dailydeal/?acc=7c590f01490190db0ed02a5070e20f01

Wow. Based on the huge response, something really resonated with with my first Under Covers episode. I wanted to have a series of conversations featuring women of all ages, backgrounds and sexual orientations answering the same questions about their sex lives because I believed their answers would normalize what so many of us may be feeling and maybe also unite us as well. Even though we may be different, we share so much shame, misinformation, judgment and trauma when it comes to sex. My goal is for us to find healing and community by sharing our stories with each other. So, I’m going to keep this brief. In this second Under Covers conversation, I speak with a woman I’ve named Patti. That’s not her real name. All you need to know in advance is that Patti is 56, married and identifies as bisexual. That’s where all similarities end…or begin. The two books mentioned about opening up a marriage and establishing new rules for ethical non-monogamy are: Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships and The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love In addition, there are two specific products mentioned in this episode. One of them is a cannabis lube created by a company called Foria. If you are in a legal cannabis state and interested in purchasing the product, you can find out more at https://foriapleasure.com/products/foria-pleasure Foria does not sponsor this show and I receive no compensation from them despite the fact that I clearly love and recommend their product. But you can find out more about Foria THC lube on their website. Hopefully it will bring you pleasure. The other product mentioned is a sex wedge. I personally love the company Liberator, which manufactures all of their products in Atlanta. They also don’t sponsor my show (YET) but below is an Amazon affiliate link for a Liberator product that I personally own, use and love. If you purchase an item from an Amazon link, I’m eligible for something like 9 cents. So please buy 85,000 Liberator Wedge Ramp Combos, cause this podcast is expensive to produce. Thank you.

As the new year begins, The Pageist joins Lee to discuss delicious books to curl up with this winter. From hot erotica to invigorating writing to bring excellence to your sex life, they look at their favorite reading from the past year and beyond. Examining the shift from local bookstores to online-megamarts, they compare books and kinky toys, while encouraging everyone to find the best opportunities for learning and inspiration for them. Passion And Soul Podcast: iTunes Subscription: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/passion-soul-podcast-by-lee/id840372122  RSS Feed: http://passionandsoul.libsyn.com/rss  Past MP3 files: http://passionandsoul.libsyn.com  PassionAndSoul Audio Page: http://passionandsoul.com/audio  Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/erotic-awakening-podcast/passion-and-soul  Contact The Pageist: Website: http://thepageist.com iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/pageist-bdsm-sex-book-reviews/id1078134480 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thepageist/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ThePageist Email: thepageist@gmail.com Links, Events, People and Movies Mentioned: Mystic Productions Press: http://www.MysticProductionsPress.com Essence of Shibari by Shin Nawakari: https://www.amazon.com/Essence-Shibari-Kinbaku-Japanese-Bondage/dp/1942733852/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Queer Magic Anthology Call: http://www.mysticproductionspress.com/news/queer-magic Dan and Dawn of Erotic Awakening: http://eroticawakening.com Rachel Maddow Fan Page: http://www.maddowfans.com The Barbara Pimm Society: http://www.barbara-pym.org Amazon Smile Charity Program: https://org.amazon.com Arcane's Attic Floggers: http://www.arcanesattic.com PXS (Power Exchange Summit), May 19-21, 2017: http://powerexchangesummit.org The Marketplace 6-book Series, by Laura Antoniou: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B015TCJ4IM/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Laura Antoniou: http://lantoniou.com Catherynne Valente: http://www.catherynnemvalente.com Palimpsest, by Catherynne Valente: https://www.amazon.com/Palimpsest-Catherynne-Valente/dp/0553385763/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Stephen King: https://www.stephenking.com Jack Rinella: http://leathermusings.blogspot.com Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships, by Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Designer-Relationships-Monogamy-Polyamory-Optimistic/dp/1627781471/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, by Tristan Taormino: https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing, by Dr. David Lay: https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Porn-Dicks-Responsible-Pleasure/dp/0996485236/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 BDSM: A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism, by Ayzad: https://www.amazon.com/BDSM-Guide-Explorers-Extreme-Eroticism/dp/8892598457/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Look Into My Eyes: How to Use Hypnosis to Bring Out the Best in Your Sex Life, by Peter Masters: https://www.amazon.com/Look-Into-My-Eyes-Hypnosis/dp/1440449864/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Real Service, by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/Real-Service-Joshua-Tenpenny/dp/0982879431/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus, by Christina Abernathy: https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Slavehood-Miss-Abernathy-Omnibus/dp/1890159719/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities, by David M. Ortman and Richard A. Sprott: https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Outsiders-Understanding-Sexualities-Communities/dp/1442217367/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 CARAS: https://carasresearch.org Alfred Press: http://alfredpress.com Unequal by Design: Counseling Power Dynamic Relationships, by Sabrina Popp, MD and Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/Unequal-Design-Counseling-Dynamic-Relationships/dp/0982879482/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 National Leather Alliance book awards: http://www.nla-international.com/allawards.html Rooms Formed of Neurons and Sex, by Ferrett Steinmetz: http://uncannymagazine.com/article/rooms-formed-neurons-sex/ Leather Spirit Stallion, by Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/Leather-Spirit-Stallion-Kaldera-2015-03-18/dp/B01F9GZ9EQ/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Mollena Williams: http://mollena.com Jolted Awake: An Unconventional Memoir, by Richard Levine: http://alfredpress.com/jolted-awake-an-unconventional-memoir/ Soul of a Second Skin: The Journey of a Gay Christian Leatherman, by Hardy Haberman: https://www.amazon.com/Soul-Second-Skin-Christian-Leatherman/dp/1934625388/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Paige's page of 101 and recommended books page: http://thepageist.com/book-recommendations/ Paige's Goodreads Book List: https://www.goodreads.com/ThePageist Lee's Recommended Reading and Other Such Things: http://astore.amazon.com/pass-20 Meditations by Marcus Aurelius (Penguin Great Ideas Edition): https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Penguin-Great-Marcus-Aurelius/dp/0143036270/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 The Anatomy of Melancholy, by Robert Burton: https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Melancholy-Robert-Burton/dp/1781395764/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Remembrance of Things Past, Complete Unabridged 6-Book Bundle, by Marcel Proust: https://www.amazon.com/Modern-Library-Search-Complete-Unabridged-ebook/dp/B006NKL8BQ/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=pass-20 Lee's Upcoming Events/Appearances: http://passionandsoul.com/appearances Lee Harrington Contact Information: Website: http://www.PassionAndSoul.com FetLife: http://www.FetLife.com/passionandsoul Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/PassionAndSoul  Facebook Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/lee.harringon The Pageist shares her literary wit and wisdom with us all!

Books we geek out on: ‘The Ethical Slut’ by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt ‘The Giving Tree’ by Shel Silverstein ‘More Than Two’ by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert ‘Sex at Dawn’ by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha ‘What do Women Want?: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire’ by Daniel Bergner ‘Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships’ by Tristan Taormino Swipe Night on social media: facebook.com/SwipeNight @SwipeNight The post 08 – Eleanor O’Brien and Polyamory appeared first on Mammoth Audio.

  There is a lot of misinformation about anal sex out there. In order to enter through the back door, it is important to have good information, good lube and a lot of patience & understanding about sex, your partner and yourself. Tristan Taormino joins Mou to deliver the goods on anal sex. ... Be sure to tune in!   Guest Bio Information: TRISTAN TAORMINO is an award-winning author, columnist, editor, and sex educator. She is the author of 7 books: including Secrets of Female Ejaculation and Great G-Spot Orgasms; Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships; and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. Tristan was the winner of a Firecracker Book Award and named Amazon.com’s #1 Bestseller in Women's Sex Instruction in 1998. She is series creator and founding editor of 18 volumes of the Lambda Literary Award-winning anthology Best Lesbian Erotica, an annual anthology, for which she's collaborated with many well known feminist and erotica writers. She runs her own adult film production company, Smart Ass Productions, and is currently an exclusive director for Vivid Entertainment. She writes an advice column for Taboo Magazine. Tristan has been featured in over 200 publications, has appeared on over 4 dozen radio and talk shows. She lectures at top universities. For full resumewww.puckerup.com.  

Download episode # 127 ThToday we give a warm welcome to Tristan Taormino the author of Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. Not only is she an amazing author of many books on sex, she is also a director of the revolutionary reality porn series known as Chemistry. Tristan tells us about her take on open relationships, legalizing marijuana, anal sex and dishes the dirt on bisexual pornography.Sex is Fun is sponsored by www.GreatSexGames.com , The Smitten Kitten, Extreme Restraints , and Healthy and Active Comment on this show at our FORUM

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