Podcasts about psychologists

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It's a right old mixed bag of messages from you lovely listeners this week. There's info about a Chatabiscuit's podcast, an offer of some help from a drone operator, a bit of behavioural psychology, an old FHM anecdote, a barrage of pub jokes, a quip query, a visit to a Bristol comedy club, a trip to London to see the Queen, more on Sting's brother and a trio of recollections about Princess Diana's funeral. FOR ALL THINGS CHATABIX'Y FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE/CONTACT: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@chatabixpodcast Insta: https://www.instagram.com/chatabixpodcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chatabix Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/chatabix Merch: https://chatabixshop.com/ Contact us: chatabix@yahoo.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cult Season continues, and much like Stefan himself, you may have hoped this would go away after Part 1. Unfortunately, like all persistent internet hauntings, Molyneux has returned. And this time, Chris and Matt venture even deeper into the Moly-Hole, a place where truth is redefined, callers are slowly gaslit into existential confusion, and every philosophical insight is served with the overwhelming scent of narcissism and emotional manipulation.We return to the joyful world of Stefan's caller-domination rituals, courtesy of Twitter Spaces, where he continues his life's work of berating strangers and stroking his own ego while insisting he alone possesses the True Meaning of Truth.Listeners can thrill to the culmination of the Truth Call™ from Part 1, where the philosophically inclined young father is sucked further into Stefan's epistemological meat grinder as Stefan tries to uncover the imaginary psychoanalytic roots of the caller's ongoing defiance. From there, we are introduced to Caller No. 3 for just a sprinkling of the patented victim-blaming and misogyny of the Molyneux Method.Finally, Chris and Matt offer their overall thoughts on Molyneux's long and illustrious career as an internet arsehole. They conclude that while Stefan has managed to cycle through platforms, ideologies, and degrees of baldness, he has maintained absolute fidelity to the same psychological tactics—gaslighting, projection, undermining, hypocrisy, and the uncanny ability to make even a throwaway joke feel incredibly creepy.So that's it for now… collectively we can escape the Moly-Hole, carefully sealing the tunnel entrance as we leave. And let's pray this is the last time anyone has to think about good ol' Stefan.Aside from that… Cult Season continues. Abandon hope, etc.LinksFreedomain Radio 6162: The Most Frightening Fact! (Twitter/X Space)Philosophy student reviews Molyneux's The Art of the ArgumentMichael Shermer's amazing excuse for endorsing MolyneuxFormer guest discusses Molyneux's descent into racist pseudoscience (2016)Guardian article (2008) on Molyneux's online cult & “DeFooing”Daily Mail article (2015) on a family impacted by Molyneux's communityDaily Beast profile on Molyneux during his Trump pivotSPLC profile on Stefan MolyneuxSPLC investigation of Molyneux's alt-right connections (2018)College of Psychologists of Ontario:...

Many shoppers skip returning carts due to convenience, time pressure, or assuming staff will handle it. Psychologists link this behavior to self-interest versus community norms, making the humble cart a surprising test of courtesy, accountability, and modern consumer habits. Please Like, Comment and Follow 'Broeske & Musson' on all platforms: --- The ‘Broeske & Musson Podcast’ is available on the KMJNOW app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever else you listen to podcasts. --- ‘Broeske & Musson' Weekdays 9-11 AM Pacific on News/Talk 580 AM & 105.9 FM KMJ | Facebook | Podcast| X | - Everything KMJ KMJNOW App | Podcasts | Facebook | X | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Psychologists will tell you that human beings are formed not primarily by ideas, but by experiences that shape our inner world. A child becomes confident because they experience delight and acceptance from a parent. A person becomes anxious because they experience instability. A person becomes bitter after experiencing betrayal. Information is helpful. But experience is formative. Listen as Pastor Ryan walks with us through Acts 2.

RU6: STEVEN REISNER ON THE DANCE OF THE OCCULT & UNCONSCIOUS IN FREUD https://renderingunconscious.substack.com/p/ru6-steven-reisner-on-the-dance-of Rendering Unconscious episode 6. This episode of Rendering Unconscious is a lecture by Dr. Steven Reisner “On the Dance of Occult and Unconscious in Freud” given at Morbid Anatomy Museum, NYC, October 2016, as part of a lecture series hosted by Dr. Vanessa Sinclair on Psychoanalysis, Art & the Occult. In this lecture, Dr. Reisner explores Freud's interest in the occult and its implications for psychoanalytic theory. Reisner argues that Freud's curiosity extended beyond sexuality to include phenomena beyond sensory perception. He discusses Freud's experiments with telepathy and thought transference, emphasizing the importance of integrating denied knowledge. Reisner also highlights Freud's cautious approach to disseminating such knowledge, balancing scientific rigor with public perception. Additionally, Reisner links Freud's theories to contemporary issues like resistance to knowledge and the impact of narcissistic or traumatized parents on their children's sensitivity to occult phenomena. This talk was first presented at a conference organized by Dr. Vanessa Sinclair and Carl Abrahamsson, exploring the intersections of Psychoanalysis, Art & the Occult, held in London, May 2016. The Fenris Wolf 9 is a book of collected papers from this conference anthologized by Sinclair and Abrahamsson. https://amzn.to/3XXcwnd Steven Reisner, PhD is a psychoanalyst and political activist in New York. He is a founding member of the Coalition for an Ethical Psychology, Advisor on Psychology and Ethics for Physicians for Human Rights and past-President of Psychologists for Social Responsibility. Follow him at Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drreisner/ News & updates: On Wednesday, December 3rd, join us as we explore Freud's life-long interest in telepathy – Phantoms of the Clinic: From Thought-Transference to Projective Identification with Dr. Mikita Brottman. https://rucenterforpsychoanalysis.substack.com/p/phantoms-of-the-clinic-from-thought This event will be recorded and made available for all those who register. Register here: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/drvanessasinclair/9 Proceeds raised go towards paying our presenter(s). Thank you for your support! The song at the end of this episode is "Butterfly effect" from the album All p03ts are p0rn0graph3rs by Vanessa Sinclair and Pete Murphy available at https://petemurphy.bandcamp.com/album/all-poets-are-pornographers-13 Enjoy! Thank you for being a paid subscriber to Rendering Unconscious Podcast. It makes my work possible. If you are so far a free subscriber, thanks to you too. Please consider becoming a paid subscriber to gain access to all the material on the site, including new, future, and archival podcast episodes. It's so important to maintain independent spaces free from censorship and corporate influence. Thank You.

Psychologists and self-help gurus will all tell us that a grateful heart and a positive outlook will do wonders for health and relationships. A person with a heart of gratitude will be seen by others who will want to follow and see what he has going for him.Such a person is a magnet for sharing the Gospel, and the greatest source of wisdom has much to say on the subject. Dozens of times in the Bible, we read about the value of gratitude. Paul mentions it several times, including in the account of Elisha healing a woman's sick son.We read in 2 Kings 4:37, “She fell at his feet and bowed before him, overwhelmed with gratitude. Then she took her son in her arms and carried him downstairs.”To be overwhelmed with gratitude is an emotional reaction to kindness.Lamentations 3:22–24 says, “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. ‘The Lord is my portion,' says my soul, ‘therefore I will hope in him.'”This is especially interesting because to lament means a person is sorrowful about something. In this case, it's the prophet, Jeremiah. But notice, even in his grief, he focuses on God's love and care for him. He is grateful in his circumstance. In modern language, Jeremiah was being intentional about his gratitude.The Bible tells us there are many variations of gratitude. In Second Corinthians, Paul even expressed his deep gratefulness to God for allowing him to participate in sharing the Gospel. You see, a truly grateful heart transitions from selfishness to concern for others. And we can do the same thing today. When we focus on others, gratitude follows.In Philippians 4, Paul also passes along a profound life lesson. Here, he says that we can learn to be grateful in all circumstances. Think about that. Grateful — whether in distress or good times. Abundance, or poverty.A few years ago, a youth missions group was repairing homes damaged by storms in Louisiana. A girl entered a house that was missing part of its roof, and she found an elderly woman rocking in a chair in a bedroom. “Oh, I'm just so happy to have a dry place to sit,” the woman said. She literally had no other dry areas in her home to be until help could arrive. Yet she didn't complain about her circumstances. Instead, she gave thanks to the Lord, and in so doing — inspired that 16-year-old girl.Gratitude is a perpetual gift, to us, and to others.Let's pray.Father God, you are good. You're good to us every day, and we are thankful for that. We're grateful that you didn't leave us in our sins, but you sent Jesus. We're grateful that you sustain us always, in body and in spirit. In Jesus' name, amen. Change your shirt, and you can change the world! Save 15% Off your entire purchase of faith-based apparel + gifts at Kerusso.com with code KDD15.

Hello everyone! We weren't able to record a podcast this week, because 1) Stuart was busy and 2) it's Tom's birthday. So by way of apology we're re-releasing this one about some drama last year between Jon Haidt, sworn enemy of smartphones, and some guys who like meta-analyses. Hope you enjoy it!A while back, The Studies Show covered the question of whether smartphones and social media cause mental health problems. Amazingly, that podcast didn't settle the issue, and the debate has continued—and continued rather acrimoniously.Psychologists—most notably Jonathan Haidt—are currently laying into each other, analysing, re-analysing, and meta-analysing datasets to try and work out whether “it's the phones”. In this paid-only episode of The Studies Show, Tom and Stuart explain the story so far, and in the process get very disappointed by their heroes.If you want to hear the whole episode and read the show notes, it's easy to become a paid subscriber at thestudiesshowpod.com.Show notes* The summary of Jonathan Haidt's upcoming book, Life After Babel* The Google Doc on social media effects maintained by Haidt, Twenge, and Rausch* Christopher Ferguson's meta-analysis of causal social media effects studies* Very useful online calculator to interpret effect sizes* Study on the (non-)relation between reported and measured phone use* Haidt & Rausch's first article criticising the Ferguson meta-analysis and re-calculating the effects* Anne Scheel's critical tweet* Matt Jané's first article responding to Haidt & Rausch* Haidt & Rausch respond to Jané (and criticise Ferguson again)* Jané responds to Haidt & Rausch, again* Haidt & Rausch's second (or is it third?) article criticising the Ferguson meta-analysis (this is the one where they note the more basic errors)* Article by Mike Males making the point that, whoever is right, the effects are all very smallCredits* The Studies Show is produced by Julian Mayers at Yada Yada Productions. We're very grateful to Malte Elson, Pete Etchells, and Matt Jané for talking to us for this episode—but any errors are our own. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sciencefictionspod.substack.com/subscribe

Fear and apprehension around math can start in elementary school. Recently, hundreds of school psychologists gathered in Ottawa to hear how math anxiety is impacting kids - and what can be done to overcome it.

After months of mutual criticism, New York mayor-elect Zohran Mamdani and U.S. President Trump have a surprisingly warm meeting. Bill de Blasio tells us he knows why Mr. Trump was impressed by the man he once called a "Communist lunatic."A survivor of abuse by Jeffrey Epstein explains why she took on Donald Trump and Congress to secure a promise that files on the serial predator would finally be released. Given the serious concessions it demands from Ukraine, that country's foreign-affairs chair says it's hard to believe the American-led peace plan is meant to be serious. After a horrifying grizzly bear attack in B.C., a woman from Bella Coola Valley tells us about her own grizzly encounter -- which convinced her a tragedy like this was only a matter of time. A legendary collection containing some of the rarest vinyl records in the world is now accessible to all online. We'll hear about it ... and hear some of it.Psychologists find people become more altruistic when a growly costumed vigilante shows up -- a phenomenon they call "the Batman effect".As It Happens, the Friday Edition. Radio that knows some science is beyond our cape abilities.

Host: Dr. Susan Buttross, Professor of Pediatrics at the University of Mississippi Medical Center, and Abram NanneyTopic: There are two emotions that are often used interchangeably, jealousy and envy, but they are significantly different in their psychological roots and how those emotions impact others. If we are honest, we've all felt them at one time or another. Those uncomfortable pangs of envy when a friend gets a promotion or the jealousy that you feel when a partner is spending a lot of time with someone else. But are these the same emotion? Psychologists say no. Today we'll explore the subtle differences and how we can control them when they occur.You can join the conversation by sending an email to: family@mpbonline.org. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this powerful episode, Gina Livy is joined by Dr. Beverley David for a grounded conversation about what it really means to keep moving forward, especially when things are going well. Together, they unpack the psychology of progress, exploring how reflecting on ease, shifting beliefs, and tuning into the quieter parts of ourselves can be just as transformative as working through the hard stuff. Dr. Beverley shares thoughtful prompts to help members reconnect to their “why,” challenge old narratives, and stay aligned with their evolving identity. Whether you're riding a high or feeling stuck, this episode offers gentle, practical reminders to check in, go deeper, and keep showing up for yourself.Dr. Beverley is a Clinical Psychologist registered with the College of Psychologists of Ontario. She also holds a Ph.D. in Sleep Research (Insomnia) and a Master's in Health Psychology.Find Dr. Beverley:https://www.yourpsychologycentre.ca/@drdrbeverleyYou can find the full video hosted at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livymethodfall2025To learn more about The Livy Method, visit livymethod.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textHoliday magic shouldn't require a spreadsheet and a stress headache. We talk candidly about the creeping pressure that starts when stores roll out Christmas before Halloween, why time suddenly feels so fast, and how easy it is to confuse tradition with obligation. Together we take a hard look at the rituals we've inherited, admit where they've stopped serving our families, and model a better path: ask who it's for, invite your kids into the decision, and choose the version that actually brings joy.We share a real shift in our own home—pressing pause on the “perfect” day-after-Thanksgiving tree farm outing—and what happened when we finally asked the kids what they wanted. The answers surprised us and freed everyone. From there, we get practical. You'll learn a simple stress inventory to identify your top three pressure points, a coin-flip gut check to cut through indecision, and no-guilt scripts to say, “No, thank you,” when your calendar is already full. We also explore how to navigate extended-family expectations with respect, clarity, and options that keep connection at the center without burning you out.If you love certain traditions, keep them and savor every minute. If you're carrying rituals that feel heavy, modify them or let them go. Nothing has to be forever; reevaluate each year and let the season of life guide the plan. Expect concrete ideas for scaling back cards and parties, creating simpler gatherings, and practicing boundaries so you can be present for what matters most. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs permission to opt out, and leave a quick review to tell us which tradition you're changing this year.Please be sure to checkout our website for previous episodes, our psych-approved resource page, and connect with us on social media! All this and more at www.thelylaspodcast.com

“Do yourself a favor. Take a kid fishing.” That's a quote from a man named Frank White, who produced a show called Southern Sportsman. He would say those words at the end of every broadcast. Psychologists would agree with his suggestion. Fishing gives your son an opportunity to be outside, practice problem-solving skills, and connect with others. One study even found that combat veterans who went to a fly fishing retreat slept better and showed less symptoms of stress. It's fairly easy and cheap to get started. Many public libraries have rods and reels to check out for free. Go to your state's game and fish department website and find a local body of water. Then, cast a line out with your son, and  marvel together at God's amazing creation. For more ideas to raise boys to become godly men, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.

Psychologists, Theologians, Philosophers, Stoics, Scientists and a Bogan from Latrobe Valley have been trying to identify, understand and get-to-know the 'self' for millennia. With absolutely no qualifications or credibility, Tiff and I continue the exploration in - what can only be described as - a convergence of pseudo-science, psychology, humour, and complete conversational mayhem. If you're looking for some high-brow education, this is not the episode for you but I will say that the last five minutes might be the TYP moment that gets us pulled off the air. Funny though. Totally worth it.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the final weeks before his death, Jeffrey Epstein's state of mind was a chaotic blend of despair, denial, and defiance. Jail records show he was restless, sleepless, and visibly agitated — crouching in his cell with his hands over his ears to drown out noise, pacing aimlessly, and struggling to adjust from luxury to confinement. Guards noted his anxiety and mood swings, describing him as alternately withdrawn and frustrated. He reportedly called himself a “coward” and told staff he couldn't bear the isolation, yet insisted to psychologists that he wasn't suicidal, saying it would be “crazy” to kill himself and that he still had a “wonderful life.” The collapse of his empire — from private jets and palatial homes to a concrete cell — shattered the narcissistic image he'd built over decades. Psychologists later concluded that Epstein's entire sense of self was tied to control, power, and prestige — all of which had been stripped away, leaving him psychologically cornered and destabilized.However, his attorney David Schoen told a starkly different story. In a five-hour meeting just days before Epstein's death, Schoen said his client was “animated and energized,” focused on his legal defense, and adamant about fighting the charges in court. Epstein had reportedly asked Schoen to take over as lead counsel and appeared optimistic about his chances. That interaction led Schoen to firmly reject the idea of suicide, arguing that Epstein's mindset was far from hopeless. He cited forensic pathologist Michael Baden's findings that Epstein's neck fractures were “more consistent with homicidal strangulation than suicidal hanging.” Between the prison records describing agitation and the lawyer's insistence on Epstein's resolve, the truth of Epstein's final state of mind remains contested — split between the image of a crumbling man at the edge of despair and that of a calculating manipulator who still believed he could talk his way out of hell.to contact me:bobbycapucci@protonmail.com

Send us a textA clean report card can still hide a hard truth. When spelling lists melt down into tears and progress graphs flatten, parents are left wondering if it's effort, maturity, or something deeper. We open up about the moment a seasoned school psychologist realized her own child needed more than time—she needed an evaluation, a plan, and a different kind of help. That shift from “try harder” to “teach differently” becomes the turning point.This is also a story about protecting self-worth. We share scripts for talking to kids about learning differences, shifting praise from outcomes to effort, and inviting children into the plan so they feel empowered, not singled out. Behavior is reframed as communication; avoidance becomes a clue to skill gaps, not a character flaw. By partnering with teachers, requesting the right data, and acting early, families can move from confusion to steady progress.If report cards raised questions or your gut says something isn't clicking, you're not alone—and you're not powerless. Listen, take notes, and share this with someone who needs a nudge toward early intervention. If the conversation helped, follow the show, leave a review, and tell us what topic you want next.Please be sure to checkout our website for previous episodes, our psych-approved resource page, and connect with us on social media! All this and more at www.thelylaspodcast.com

In this episode, Dr. Rachel Zelkowitz defines trauma and its prevalence among individuals who self-injure, delineates posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) from complex PTSD (C-PTSD), and discusses common treatments for addressing trauma, including Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Prolonged Exposure (PE). With interest in treating military veterans and active duty service members, Dr. Zelkowitz provides insights into nonsuicidal self-injury (NSSI), self-harm, and trauma among military members.Learn more about Dr. Zelkowitz and her work here, and learn more about common treatments for trauma at the National Center for PTSD at www.ptsd.va.gov. Below are links to some of the research referenced in today's episode:Gromatsky, M., Halverson, T. F., Dillon, K. H., Wilson, L. C., LoSavio, S. T., Walsh, S., Mellows, C., Mann, A. J., Goodman, M., & Kimbrel, N. A. (2023). The prevalence of nonsuicidal self-injury in military personnel: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Trauma Violence Abuse, 24(5), 2936-2952.Liu, R. T., Scopelliti, K. M., Pittman, S. K., & Zamora, A. S. (2018). Childhood maltreatment and non-suicidal self- injury: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Lancet Psychiatry, 5(1), 51–64.Harned, M. S., Korslund, K. E., Foa, E. B., & Linehan, M. M. (2012). Treating PTSD in suicidal and self-injuring women with borderline personality disorder: Development and preliminary evaluation of a Dialectical Behavior Therapy Prolonged Exposure Protocol. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 50(6), 381-6.Harned, M. S., Schmidt, S. C., Korslund, K. E., & Gallop, R. J.(2021). Does adding the Dialectical Behavior Therapy Prolonged Exposure (DBT PE) protocol for PTSD to DBT improve outcomes in public mental health settings? A pilot nonrandomized effectiveness trial with benchmarking. Behavior Therapy, 52(3), 639-655.Follow Dr. Westers on Instagram and Twitter/X (@DocWesters). To join ISSS, visit itriples.org and follow ISSS on Facebook and Twitter/X (@ITripleS).The Psychology of Self-Injury podcast has been rated as one of the "10 Best Self Harm Podcasts" and "20 Best Clinical Psychology Podcasts" by Feedspot  and one of the Top 100 Psychology Podcasts by Goodpods. It has also been featured in Audible's "Best Mental Health Podcasts to Defy Stigma and Begin to Heal."

     Slam The Gavel welcomes back Theo Chino from the state of Illinois. Theo was last on Season 5, Episodes 128, 143, 164, 187, 192, 204, 206, 217 and Season 6, Episodes 252 and 322. Today we discussed the monsters you can't run and hide from. The monsters that exist to parents and their children lurking behind every corridor in the family courts, that seek to suck parents dry of their children's college funds. Along with Guardian ad Litem's (third party parasites) and judges who twist a child's word and destroy parents. There are also the monster's people create by trusting others with information that will later be used against them whether it is real or made up.    Happy Halloween all!To Reach Theo Chino:  theo@alliedra.com and billingassetrecovery.comSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)Maryann Petri: dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@maryannpetriFacebook:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guitarpeace/Pinterest: Slam The Gavel Podcast/@guitarpeaceLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryann-petri-62a46b1ab/  YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536  Twitter https://x.com/PetriMaryannEzlegalsuit.com   https://ko-fi.com/maryannpetrihttps://www.zazzle.com/store/slam_the_gavel/about*DISCLAIMER* The use of this information is at the viewer/user's own risk. For information only and no affiliation with legislation, bills or laws. Not financial, medical nor legal advice as the content on this podcast does not constitute legal, financial, medical or any other professional advice. Viewer/user's should consult with the relevant professionals. Reproduction, distribution, performing, publicly displaying and making a derivative of the work is explicitly prohibited without permission from content creator. Podcast is protected by owner. The content creator maintains the exclusive right and any unauthorized copyright.Support the showSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)http://www.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com/

Episode Summary: Have you ever found yourself saying yes when you really wanted to say no? Or have you ever felt overwhelmed and exhausted because you were trying to meet everyone else’s expectations? If so, you are not alone. In recognition of National Stress Awareness Day, today, we’re going to explore how to move from overwhelmed to overjoyed by learning to say no without feeling guilty. We’ll dive into Scripture, explore research on overcommitment, and I’ll share five practical ways to set God-honoring boundaries. Quotables from the episode: Many of us, especially as women, have been taught that saying yes is the godly thing to do. We associate busyness with productivity, and productivity with worth. But the truth is, constantly saying yes can leave us drained, distracted, and distant from God’s best for us. For many years, I said “Yes” every time something was asked of me because I believed it was the godly response. Until God impressed upon my heart that he never told me to do that much, and had I sought him for wisdom, He would have readily guided my path! That was totally on me, but God was so gentle in getting my attention. Psychologists have long studied the effects of people-pleasing and overcommitment. Research from the American Psychological Association shows that chronic overcommitment leads to stress, anxiety, and even depression. Emotionally, people-pleasers often struggle with self-worth, believing their value is tied to what they do for others rather than who they are in Christ. Chronic Overcommitment and Overwhelm Chronic overcommitment and overwhelm can take a serious toll on physical health, leading to conditions such as: Adrenal Fatigue & Hormonal Imbalance – Constant stress can dysregulate cortisol levels, leading to exhaustion, brain fog, and difficulty managing emotions. Cardiovascular Issues – Chronic stress increases blood pressure, heart rate, and inflammation, raising the risk of heart disease, hypertension, and stroke. Weakened Immune System – Prolonged stress suppresses immune function, making the body more susceptible to infections and slower to heal. Gastrointestinal Problems – Overwhelm can contribute to acid reflux, irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), ulcers, and digestive issues. Chronic Pain & Inflammation – Stress triggers inflammation, which can exacerbate conditions like fibromyalgia, arthritis, and migraines. Sleep Disorders – Overcommitment often leads to insomnia, poor sleep quality, and chronic fatigue. Weight Gain or Loss – Stress-related eating patterns can lead to unhealthy weight fluctuations, metabolic dysfunction, and insulin resistance. Muscle Tension & Headaches – Persistent stress can cause tight muscles, tension headaches, and even TMJ (jaw pain from clenching). Burnout & Mental Fog – Long-term overwhelm can impair cognitive function, reducing focus, memory, and decision-making ability. Autoimmune Disorders – Chronic stress has been linked to the development or worsening of autoimmune diseases such as lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, and multiple sclerosis. Managing stress through rest, boundaries, and self-care isn’t just about mental well-being; it’s essential for physical health. Jesus himself set boundaries. In Luke 5:16, we read, “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” He didn’t heal every person or meet every need. He sought the Father’s will first. If Jesus set boundaries, then we should, too. Addressing the spiritual and scientific aspects of restoration To counteract the physical effects of chronic overcommitment and overwhelm, we must address both the spiritual and scientific aspects of restoration. Here’s how: Prioritizing Rest & Sabbath (Biblical & Scientific) Biblical Insight: God modeled rest in Genesis 2:2-3, and Jesus regularly withdrew to quiet places (Mark 6:31). Sabbath isn’t just a suggestion; it’s a command for our well-being (Exodus 20:8-10). Science: Rest lowers cortisol, improves immune function, and enhances brain health. Sleep is crucial for memory consolidation and physical repair. Application: Schedule intentional rest. Guard your Sabbath. Ensure 7-9 hours of sleep. Setting Boundaries to Prevent Overcommitment Biblical Insight: Even Jesus set boundaries—He didn’t heal everyone at once and took time alone with the Father (Luke 5:16). Proverbs 4:23 reminds us to guard our hearts, which includes protecting our time and energy. Science: Chronic stress leads to burnout, weakened immunity, and heart disease. Learning to say “no” prevents emotional and physical depletion. Application: Use discernment in commitments. Before saying “yes,” ask: Does this align with God’s will? Is this sustainable? Engaging in Mind-Body Renewal Biblical Insight: Romans 12:2 encourages us to renew our minds. Philippians 4:8 tells us to focus on what is pure and lovely. Science: Practices like deep breathing, exercise, and gratitude shift the brain out of stress mode, improving mental clarity and resilience. Application: Try breath prayers (e.g., inhale “Be still,” exhale “and know that I am God”; inhale “I trust you, God,” exhale “in all things.”). Move daily to reduce inflammation and boost mood. Nourishing the Body & Mind Biblical Insight: Daniel chose healthy foods and was stronger than those indulging in excess (Daniel 1:12-15). Our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Science: Whole foods reduce inflammation, regulate blood sugar, and protect against stress-related illnesses. Application: Eat nutrient-dense foods, stay hydrated, and avoid excess caffeine or sugar that heightens stress responses. Seeking Community & Support Biblical Insight: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 teaches that two are better than one. We weren’t designed to carry burdens alone (Galatians 6:2). Science: Social connection lowers stress hormones, strengthens immunity, and increases resilience. Application: Surround yourself with godly counsel. Delegate. Accept help. Community is part of God’s design for our well-being. Releasing Control & Trusting God Biblical Insight: Jesus said, “Come to me, all who are weary… and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). Trusting God’s sovereignty brings peace (Isaiah 26:3). Science: Chronic stress stems from feeling out of control. Releasing worries to God reduces anxiety, lowers blood pressure, and improves mental health. Application: Regularly surrender your burdens to God. Journal prayers. Meditate on Scriptures about His faithfulness. By aligning our lives with God’s rhythms and applying scientific wisdom, we can reduce overwhelm and prevent burnout and experience lasting peace. Practical Tips for How to Set Healthy, God-Honoring Boundaries Recognize that “No” is a Complete Sentence You don’t need to over-explain or justify your decision. Jesus simply said “yes” or “no” (Matthew 5:37). When we recognize that saying no is a way to honor God’s best for us, we can do so with confidence. Pray Before You Commit Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. ”Before saying yes to anything, take a moment to pray and ask, Is this God’s best for me in this season? Set Priorities Based on God’s Calling Ephesians 2:10 tells us that we are created for good works that God prepared in advance for us. This means that we are not called to do everything—only what He has specifically prepared for us. Identify what God is calling you to do in this season and let that guide your commitments. Understand That Saying No Opens the Door for God’s Yes When we fill our schedules with obligations, we leave no room for the divine appointments God has for us. Saying no creates margin for God’s greater yes. Isaiah 30:21 says, “Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’” Practice Saying No with Grace and Love You can say no in a way that honors both God and the other person. Here are a few ways: “Thank you for thinking of me, but I can’t commit to that right now.” “I appreciate the opportunity, but I need to focus on what God has called me to in this season.” “I’d love to help another time, but my plate is full right now.” Encouraging Scripture to Empower You: Learning to say no without feeling guilty Galatians 1:10 – “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Matthew 11:28-30 – Jesus calls us to rest in Him, not to take on every burden. Psalm 46:10 – “Be still, and know that I am God.” Sometimes, God’s best for us is rest. Ecclesiastes 3:1 – “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” We must discern what is right for this season. Colossians 3:23 – “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” Our commitments should be done with joy and purpose, not guilt. Scripture References: Luke 5:16 “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” Galatians 1:10 “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Matthew 11:28-30 Jesus calls us to rest in Him, not to take on every burden. Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God.” Sometimes, God’s best for us is rest. Ecclesiastes 3:1 “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” We must discern what is right for this season. Colossians 3:23 “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” Our commitments should be done with joy and purpose, not guilt. Saying no is not a rejection of others—it is a way of saying yes to what God has planned for you. You don’t have to live overwhelmed and exhausted. You can move from overcommitted to overjoyed by setting God-honoring boundaries. I encourage you this week to pray over your commitments. Ask God to show you where you need to say no so you can say yes to His best. If today’s episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs encouragement in this area. And as always, if you need more hope-filled encouragement, visit my website DrMichelleB.com or connect with me on social media. If you know someone who routinely falls prey to people-pleasing, or is feeling overwhelmed, please consider sharing this episode with them to offer a biblically-based hope-filled perspective. Recommended Resources: Sacred Scars: Resting in God’s Promise That Your Past Is Not Wasted by Dr. Michelle Bengtson The Hem of His Garment: Reaching Out To God When Pain Overwhelms by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner AWSA 2024 Golden Scroll Christian Living Book of the Year and the 2024 Christian Literary Awards Reader’s Choice Award in the Christian Living and Non-Fiction categories YouVersion 5-Day Devotional Reaching Out To God When Pain Overwhelms Today is Going to be a Good Day: 90 Promises from God to Start Your Day Off Right by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, AWSA Member of the Year, winner of the AWSA 2023 Inspirational Gift Book of the Year Award, the 2024 Christian Literary Awards Reader’s Choice Award in the Devotional category, the 2023 Christian Literary Awards Reader’s Choice Award in four categories, and the Christian Literary Awards Henri Award for Devotionals YouVersion Devotional, Today is Going to be a Good Day version 1 YouVersion Devotional, Today is Going to be a Good Day version 2 Revive & Thrive Women’s Online Conference Revive & Thrive Summit 2 Trusting God through Cancer Summit 1 Trusting God through Cancer Summit 2 Breaking Anxiety’s Grip: How to Reclaim the Peace God Promises by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the AWSA 2020 Best Christian Living Book First Place, the first place winner for the Best Christian Living Book, the 2020 Carolina Christian Writer’s Conference Contest winner for nonfiction, and winner of the 2021 Christian Literary Award’s Reader’s Choice Award in all four categories for which it was nominated (Non-Fiction Victorious Living, Christian Living Day By Day, Inspirational Breaking Free and Testimonial Justified by Grace categories.) YouVersion Bible Reading Plan for Breaking Anxiety’s Grip Breaking Anxiety’s Grip Free Study Guide Free PDF Resource: How to Fight Fearful/Anxious Thoughts and Win Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Henri and Reader’s Choice Award Hope Prevails Bible Study by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award Free Webinar: Help for When You’re Feeling Blue Social Media Links for Host: For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at: Order Book Sacred Scars / Order Book The Hem of His Garment / Order Book Today is Going to be a Good Day / Order Book Breaking Anxiety’s Grip / Order Book Hope Prevails / Website / Blog / Facebook / Twitter (@DrMBengtson) / LinkedIn / Instagram / Pinterest / YouTube / Podcast on Apple Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In the final weeks before his death, Jeffrey Epstein's state of mind was a chaotic blend of despair, denial, and defiance. Jail records show he was restless, sleepless, and visibly agitated — crouching in his cell with his hands over his ears to drown out noise, pacing aimlessly, and struggling to adjust from luxury to confinement. Guards noted his anxiety and mood swings, describing him as alternately withdrawn and frustrated. He reportedly called himself a “coward” and told staff he couldn't bear the isolation, yet insisted to psychologists that he wasn't suicidal, saying it would be “crazy” to kill himself and that he still had a “wonderful life.” The collapse of his empire — from private jets and palatial homes to a concrete cell — shattered the narcissistic image he'd built over decades. Psychologists later concluded that Epstein's entire sense of self was tied to control, power, and prestige — all of which had been stripped away, leaving him psychologically cornered and destabilized.However, his attorney David Schoen told a starkly different story. In a five-hour meeting just days before Epstein's death, Schoen said his client was “animated and energized,” focused on his legal defense, and adamant about fighting the charges in court. Epstein had reportedly asked Schoen to take over as lead counsel and appeared optimistic about his chances. That interaction led Schoen to firmly reject the idea of suicide, arguing that Epstein's mindset was far from hopeless. He cited forensic pathologist Michael Baden's findings that Epstein's neck fractures were “more consistent with homicidal strangulation than suicidal hanging.” Between the prison records describing agitation and the lawyer's insistence on Epstein's resolve, the truth of Epstein's final state of mind remains contested — split between the image of a crumbling man at the edge of despair and that of a calculating manipulator who still believed he could talk his way out of hell.to contact me:bobbycapucci@protonmail.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-epstein-chronicles--5003294/support.

Some of us feel everything, others not so much move through life with steadiness and calm. Psychologists call this the difference between high neuroticism and low neuroticism. The strengths and challenges of each emotional style. How worriers and warriors can connect without clashing. Tools to balance warmth and competence in communication. Personal stories of growth, friendship, and letting go of perfection. Practical, science-backed exercises you can start using today.Reference:The Highly Sensitive Person Elaine N. Aron Emotional Agility Susan DavidCues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication Vanessa Van Edwards Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

According to the NHS, approximately 1,600 babies are born every day in the United Kingdom. But what often goes unspoken are the nine months leading up to this event—the periods of anxiety, doubt, and self-discovery that mothers inevitably experience.  A study published in Evolution, Medicine & Public Health journal in April 2023, found that 62% of women grapple with a panic-inducing fear of pregnancy and childbirth. Psychologists refer to this phenomenon as tocophobia. So, where does tocophobia come from? What are its symptoms then? And how can a woman overcome it? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: ⁠How did flat Earth conspiracy theory start?⁠ ⁠Is it a good idea to sleep with my pet?⁠ ⁠What's the best way to choose my toothpaste?⁠ A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. First Broadcast: 8/12/2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textA sudden internet blackout forced us to look up—and what we saw changed how we handle news, social feeds, and family time. We talk about the invisible cost of constant stimulation, how algorithms narrow our world, and why even “content we agree with” can quietly poison our mood. The conversation turns practical fast: we share the small switches that actually helped—curating feeds, muting hot-button topics, and building simple transition rituals between work and home so we don't carry doomscroll energy into dinner.We get honest about parenting through all of this. Kids don't have the language for a dopamine comedown, and frankly, many adults don't either. We explore modeling consistent tech boundaries, replacing screens with paper books and tactile activities, and using empathy when limits spark big feelings. There's also a candid detour into managing stress during a home remodel, noticing when reactions are outsized, and asking for a short, peaceful break before re-engaging. It's not about perfection; it's about protecting the nervous system and choosing inputs that support the people we want to be.If you've felt your mood bend after a 30-second reel—or realized that evening scrolling ruins the next 25 minutes—this one will resonate. You'll come away with strategies for an algorithm detox, ideas for evening resets, and a gentler way to hold both productivity and presence. Less noise, more real life. If this spoke to you, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a quick review so others can find it too.Please be sure to checkout our website for previous episodes, our psych-approved resource page, and connect with us on social media! All this and more at www.thelylaspodcast.com

It was exactly two years ago, when Clinical Psychologist Dr John Burns from The Resilience Centre, sat down with Leigh Hatcher, in a conversation exploring the possibility of people rekindling hope after experiences of adversity. Now, we again bring together John and Leigh, only this time - it is a unique conversation about John's own adverse experience - his current journey of a manageable, but not curable, diagnosis of cancer that came shortly after the recording of their first podcast together. John bravely shares with Leigh (and all of us) his personal story about what it takes to rekindle hope in the face of adversity that was unanticipated and unimaginable. The Resilience Centre, as a team, wants to express gratitude to their special colleague John, for making the physical time and emotional space to record such a meaningful podcast for all of us to grow from. The post Rekindling Hope – Part #2: Revisiting Hope with Clinical Psychologist Dr John Burns appeared first on The Resilience Centre.

IntroductionImagine trying to swim while holding a beach ball underwater – you might pull it off for a bit, but sooner or later that ball is bobbing to the surface. Masking ADHD can feel just like that. Many of us with ADHD learn early that our brains and behaviors can stand out, so we develop a “socially acceptable” persona to blend in. We smile, sit still, and force focus – all to hide our natural restlessness or distraction. This isn't about being fake; it's a survival strategy learned over years. But as the ADDA (Adult ADHD Organization) puts it, keeping that mask on “will take a lot of energy – and the same goes for hiding your ADHD symptoms” In this episode, we'll explore what masking looks like, why we do it, how it varies across individuals, and most importantly, how to gradually unmask without burning out.What Is Masking and Why We Do It“Masking” (also called camouflaging or impression management) means hiding ADHD-related behaviors to appear neurotypical, usually to avoid stigma or negative judgments. Psychologists trace the idea back to Russell Barkley, who noted roughly one-third of people with ADHD develop masking habit. In practice, this can mean sitting unnaturally still to hide hyperactivity, speaking slowly to avoid interrupting, or painstakingly rehearsing what to say in social situations. We do it for safety. Maybe a teacher, boss, or parent once told us our energy was “too much,” or we saw peers get punished for fidgeting. Over time, we absorb: if we let our ADHD out, we risk judgment, rejection, or even losing out on opportunities. In fact, research shows it's not paranoia: about 78% of adults with ADHD admit to concealing their symptoms at work for fear of discrimination In school, the disparity can be shocking – one study found students with overt ADHD behaviors are disciplined 3.5 times more often than their peers for the same actions. Add gender and cultural pressures, and masking can feel like the only path: for example, women with ADHD often face “double discrimination” (for having ADHD and for not fitting feminine organizational norms) and are 40% more likely than men to hide their diagnosis entirely. In short, from childhood on, many of us learn that showing our “whole” ADHD selves is risky or unwelcome. So we adapt. We smile when our mind is racing, offer practical reasons for missed details (“Sorry I'm late, traffic was a nightmare!”), and push down our impulsivity. This constant self-monitoring – judging every word, movement, or post you make – drains your brain like a marathon trainer. It literally spikes stress: one study found that simply drafting and editing an email to seem “normal” boosts cortisol by 45% – your body treats each message like a big performance reviewe. Over time, the nervous system can't tell the difference between a social slip-up and physical dange, so we end up trapped in a cycle of hyper-alertness, exhaustion, and anxiety.What Masking Looks LikeBecause masking is so ingrained, it can look subtle – almost invisible – to others. Here are some common signs:Forcing calmness: You feel restless or impulsive inside, but you keep your voice and movements unusually slow. Your leg might be itching to bounce, but you tuck it under the chair. (Essentially, you're acting tranquil on the outside to hide your inside.).Over-checking & perfectionism: You triple-check your work or double-back on a short text. It's not just organization; it's anxiety about making even a tiny mistake. You polish emails or assignments obsessively so no one will doubt you. This can buy you time socially, but it bleeds your time and energy.Mimicking behavior: You silently copy others. If classmates fidget with a pencil or crack jokes, you nod and do something similar, even if it feels unnatural. You rehearse social scripts or small talk lines so you don't stand out.Hyper-focusing to overcompensate: You push intense focus on tasks that are being observed. In a meeting, you might go above and beyond on one project to cover for the times your attention drifts away.Suppressing stims: You swallow small yelps when you're excited, hold in hand-flapping urges, or quietly tap your foot under the table so nobody notices your need to move.Masking emotions: Instead of expressing frustration or excitement, you “perform” a neutral or cheerfully appropriate response. You might bottle up anxiety during social events and then have a breakdown in private.Over time, these “adaptations” literally become a second job. You're constantly monitoring yourself: “Am I moving too much? Did I blurt out something weird? Should I rephrase that?” It can feel like juggling while walking a tightrope. Nothing about the self feels authentic anymore – you're playing roles, not being you. But it's understandable: many ADHDers grew up being rewarded for “good behavior” and punished for impulsivity. The very need to mask is born out of those early lessons.The Spectrum of Masking ExperiencesMasking isn't one-size-fits-all; it varies depending on who you are, your ADHD type, and even where you live. For example, many women with ADHD describe “quiet masking”: an exhausting act of looking calm and organized while feeling chaos inside. Research suggests women often mask more intensely – making extra lists, rehearsing conversations, or overstating competence – which partly explains why ADHD in girls is underdiagnosed. One online clinician notes that 82% of women with ADHD report taking excessive notes or lists as a main coping strategy, whereas men more often throw themselves into high-powered work or sports to cover their restlessness. Men, on the other hand, often face a different mask: society may expect them to “just power through” or hide vulnerability. They might channel their energy into accomplishments or humor while resisting showing any confusion or need for help. Non-binary folks often juggle multiple sets of expectations, effectively running two exhausting personas simultaneouslyHormones also play a role: many women report that masking feels easier at certain times of the month and nearly impossible at others. Studies find that in the week before a period (when estrogen drops), it may take two to three times the energy to hold the mask than usual. In real numbers, one analysis suggests neurodivergent women spend about 4.2 hours each day on masking behaviors (mental checklists, micro-adjustments, etc.) compared to 2.7 hours for men – almost two extra hours of invisible labor.Cultural and social context also shifts masking. If you live in a community that stigmatizes any difference, you may have learned to mask more completely. Queer or BIPOC individuals, for instance, often mask not just ADHD but intersectional identities – layering on extra caution. As a parent, you may have taught your child that only quiet, compliant behavior is “good,” so they never learned a louder style of coping. As an educator, you might see a child who seems well-behaved and think “no ADHD here,” while inside that child is using up all their energy to meet those external expectations. The takeaway: everybody's mask looks a bit different. What matters is the cost: all masking demands surplus energy, and when you're always paying that cost, the debt comes due.The Exhaustion CostSpeaking of cost – exhaustion is the hallmark of masking. It's not ordinary tiredness; it's an all-the-way-to-your-toes, bone-deep fatigue. Over time, masking takes an enormous toll on mental and physical health. Psychologists warn that chronic masking leads to “chronic stress, emotional exhaustion, and mental health struggles” like anxiety or depression. You might find yourself mentally blanking after social events, or breaking down over small setbacks. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) can worsen this: even a tiny hint of criticism triggers a panic that sends you scrambling to mask harder, which drains more energy.Imagine the analogy of a running car engine: for you, masking means the engine is revving constantly, even when parked. That steady drain pushes cortisol and adrenaline through your system day after day. In fact, one study found cortisol (the stress hormone) climbs nearly 50% higher when an ADHD brain is in “masking mode,” treating every text or conversation like a high-stakes. No wonder so many ADHDers talk about being “tapped out” by nightfall.The breakdown can look like burnout or even depression. Burnout may start targeted (you feel okay at home but depleted at work), whereas depression spreads gloom into all areas. The difference can blur when masking for years: you might not even recognize yourself under the layers of effort. Some call it an identity crisis – when the role you've played for so long crowds out who you actually are. Teachers and therapists note that people rapidly “unmasking” often feel lost at first, confused about what they truly feel versus what they've performed for so long.Chronic masking even shows up in our bodies. It turns out that intense mental effort – like keeping a fake version of you running all day – activates the same inflammation pathways as physical traum. In other words, the stress of constant performance can undermine your immune system and heart health just like chronic physical stress. People who have masked intensely for years sometimes develop exhaustion-related illnesses in mid-life (autoimmunity, chronic pain, etc.) at higher rates. The data is sobering: extreme mental strain is linked with roughly a 23% higher risk of heart disease and 50% higher risk of Type 2 diabetes.None of this means your experience is exaggerated or “all in your head” – it's very real. Masking might start as a child's coping trick, but it can become a hidden crisis of burnout and self-alienation. When we say “exhaustion in between,” we mean the haze between two states: who you pretend to be (masked) and who you hope to be (unmasked). That haze is filled with stress, self-doubt, and second-guessing everything you say and do.The Path to UnmaskingSo how do you step out of that haze? Psychologists and coaches emphasize that unmasking is a gradual process. It's not an all-or-nothing revelation; it's more like slowly lowering the mask corner by corner. First, you need safe spaces – people or places where you feel accepted even if you slip up. That might be a close friend who knows you have ADHD, a sympathetic coworker, or an ADHD support group. In these environments you can practice just being a little more you.Awareness is the first step. Start by recognizing the ways you've been masking. Make a list (mental or written) of behaviors you do to hide your symptoms. Maybe note times you felt especially drained. As one psychologist suggests, once you see your own patterns, “you can begin making small changes to live more authentically – without the exhaustion.”. Small changes might be as simple as choosing one meeting to not take perfect notes, or allowing yourself one moment of stimming where it feels safe. Each little crack in the facade eases the pressure.You do not have to do it alone. Working with an ADHD coach or therapist can provide support for this journey. They can help you build confidence in your unmasked self and develop coping techniques for tough moments. Support groups (online or in-person) are also powerful – hearing others' stories of unmasking can make you feel understood, and you'll pick up practical tips. Remember: there's no shame in needing a plan or support to shed layers you've held onto for years.Importantly, you have a right to yourself. Unmasking may feel scary at first – you might worry about disappointing people or losing opportunities. Indeed, relationships built on the masked you may strain when the real you emerges. But authenticity also invites real connections. Let people see why you needed that mask, and give them a chance to adjust. Most find that gradual honesty (e.g., letting someone know “I'm actually not great at meetings” or “I need a second to think, I have ADHD”) can lead to more empathy and support in the long run.Tips & StrategiesPractical Daily ToolsUse timers and structure: Make time visible. Set a Pomodoro timer (25 minutes focus, 5 minutes break) for tasks. Many ADHDers swear by visual timers or apps that count down work segments. This keeps your brain anchored and reminds it that it's okay to pause. Timers can also break hyperfocus and prompt you to check in with yourself.Practice mindfulness (even briefly): Mindfulness isn't about chanting om; it's simply noticing what's happening now. Try a two-minute breathing exercise or a grounding check (e.g. count five things you see) when you feel off-balance. Training attention like a muscle can gradually make it easier to stay present, instead of slipping into panicked self-monitoring.Body doubling: Work or study next to someone else, even if they're doing their own thing. This can be a friend, coworker, or a virtual co-working session. The presence of another person gives your brain a subtle social cue to stay on task. It sounds funny, but many ADHDers find it helps them focus and not procrastinate as much.Externalize information: Use sticky notes, apps, whiteboards – anything that gets things out of your head and into the world. Write to-do lists, set multiple alarms, and put reminders in plain sight. Our brains with ADHD often work better with external structures. For example, if you always misplace your keys, have a dedicated hook or dish for them; if you forget errands, put notes on your phone's home screen. This isn't laziness – it's smart strategy.Transition rituals: Create small routines to “switch gears” at key times. For instance, light a candle or play a specific song when you start work, and then another cue (closing a planner, stretching) when you end. These rituals tell your brain “work is starting (or ending)” and can reduce the jarring overwhelm of sudden task changes.Therapeutic Strategies and SupportTalk to an ADHD-aware therapist or coach: A professional who gets ADHD can help you unpack why you feel the need to mask, and teach coping tools that don't involve hiding. For example, they may work on managing emotional overload (RSD), building self-esteem, or creating realistic plans for ADHD challenges. As one source notes, “seek out a therapist or coach who understands what you are going through”. They can guide you through practices like cognitive reframing or co-regulation exercises.Join support groups or communities: You aren't alone in this. Connecting with others who share ADHD (in support groups, forums, or social media) can be a game-change. Sharing stories helps you feel validated and less isolated. You'll learn “if they do it too, it's not just me,” which is huge for reducing shame. Some groups even offer body doubling sessions or accountability partners, blending practical help with empathy.Consider medication or coaching: If you haven't already, speak to a medical professional about ADHD medication or executive function coaching. While not for everyone, proper medication can reduce the intensity of symptoms, which in turn can lighten the masking load (for instance, less need to hyper-focus or suppress stims). An ADHD coach or organizer can help set up routines and accountability that make daily life smoother. Even simple tips like using noise-cancelling headphones in an overstimulating class or workspace can cut sensory overload and ease the urge to mask your discomfort.Practice self-regulation techniques: Techniques like co-regulation (doing relaxation exercises with a trusted person) can help you manage anxiety during unmasking. Breathing exercises, grounding, or gentle movement breaks (take a short walk, stretch) can also break cycles of panic when you feel exposed. The key is to have these strategies ready before you need them, so you don't default to the old mask under stress.Mindset Shifts and Self-CompassionReframe your self-talk: Change the narrative from “I'm being fake” to something kind like “I'm doing what I need to feel safe right now. This simple mental shift reduces self-blame. Remember: masking began for a reason. It was a way to protect yourself in situations that felt unsafe or unaccommodating. Treat masking as what it is – a survival strategy – not a character flaw.Set realistic expectations (“Good enough is enough”): One therapist advises: you don't have to be perfect. If you mentally prepare for an outing by saying “I will do okay, but I might feel tired and that's fine,” you're giving yourself permission to be human. Lower the stakes. If a conversation goes a bit off script, remind yourself it's not the end of the world. You're learning new habits, so expect some wobble at first.Take structured breaks: Masking is tiring; build in after-care. Plan downtime after social or high-mask situations. For instance, if you have a big meeting, schedule a 15-minute quiet break afterward to decompress (read, meditate, or just stare at the ceiling). These “mask rest” breaks are not indulgence but necessary refueling. Even during an event, sneak micro-breaks: a few deep breaths in the restroom or a moment outside can reset your system.Engage in self-care rituals: After masking sessions, do something comforting: perhaps rock on a chair, hug a pillow, doodle, or listen to your favorite music. Physical movement can help shake off tension. Journaling can also help: write down what parts of the interaction felt draining, what felt okay, and what small things helped you cope. Each insight is gold for next time.Offer yourself compassion: Recognize the courage it takes to gradually be yourself. Each time you unmask a little, you're practicing bravery. When you catch yourself slipping into shame or “shoulding” on yourself, gently pause and remind: You deserve care and acceptance, even while you're figuring this out. Affirmations like “I am learning to be me” or celebrating small wins (e.g. “I spoke up for my needs today”) reinforce a kinder inner voice.ConclusionMasking may have been part of our childhood toolkit for surviving a world that didn't seem built for us, but carrying that weight forever is optional. As research shows, chronic masking comes with costs – physical, emotional, relational – that we are not obligated to pay indefinitely. By understanding why we masked and how it wears us down, we gain the power to change course. Unmasking is a journey of self-discovery and patience. It means gradually replacing exhaustion with authenticity. It means finding and creating spaces where our real selves can breathe.Finally, remember: there is no single “right way” to do this. Some days you'll need the mask a little longer; other days you'll fling it off completely. Each step toward honesty is progress. Embrace the support around you, use the tools that work, and give yourself credit. Over time, you'll find that as the masks slowly lift, life feels lighter – and so do you.This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe

Would you like to live like a champion—someone who consistently wins in life, not just occasionally, but day after day, in every area that matters most? On this week's episode of Love University, we explore three key principles that can help you step into your greatness—starting now. Whether you want more success in your relationships, career, finances, health, or mindset, these three simple steps can help you live with more confidence, power, and joy: Step 1: Turn “Little Bads” into “Little Goods” Many people are weighed down by self-defeating thoughts: “I don't have enough time,” “Life is difficult,” or “I can't find someone to love.” These are the little bads—small, self-defeating messages that accumulate in your thinking and drain your emotional and psychological energy. The key to living like a champion is to notice these patterns and change them for little goods: positive, believable affirmations like “There's plenty of love and opportunity for me,” or “I have all the time I need.” At first, the negative voices will resist—after all, they've lived in your head for years. But, with daily repetition, you will crowd them out and replace them with encouraging, life-affirming thoughts that fuel your actions and elevate your mood. Step 2: Start with the Easy. Champions don't wait for the perfect moment. They begin with what they can do right now. This might mean reading a short article about a new career path, writing the first sentence of a book, or spending just 20 minutes at the gym. Psychologists call these early actions successive approximations to the goal—small steps that build confidence and momentum as you reach your larger objectives. With each completed action, you develop a rhythm of success. As you go from short walks to longer ones, from brief study sessions to deep dives, and from quality conversations to meaningful relationships, you prove to yourself that growth is possible—and that you're the kind of person who follows through to achieve what you desire. Step 3: Practice the Power of Discard. Living like a champion isn't just about doing more—it's about letting go of what holds you back. That includes old clothes that don't fit, obsolete equipment, and cluttered paperwork. Discarding isn't just physical; it's psychological. When you clear your external space, you begin to free your internal space. As you throw away objects that no longer serve you, you create mental clarity, self-respect, and room for new, empowering beliefs to take root. The more you let go of what you don't need, the more power you have to attract what truly matters.

Would you like to live like a champion—someone who consistently wins in life, not just occasionally, but day after day, in every area that matters most? On this week's episode of Love University, we explore three key principles that can help you step into your greatness—starting now. Whether you want more success in your relationships, career, finances, health, or mindset, these three simple steps can help you live with more confidence, power, and joy: Step 1: Turn “Little Bads” into “Little Goods” Many people are weighed down by self-defeating thoughts: “I don't have enough time,” “Life is difficult,” or “I can't find someone to love.” These are the little bads—small, self-defeating messages that accumulate in your thinking and drain your emotional and psychological energy. The key to living like a champion is to notice these patterns and change them for little goods: positive, believable affirmations like “There's plenty of love and opportunity for me,” or “I have all the time I need.” At first, the negative voices will resist—after all, they've lived in your head for years. But, with daily repetition, you will crowd them out and replace them with encouraging, life-affirming thoughts that fuel your actions and elevate your mood. Step 2: Start with the Easy. Champions don't wait for the perfect moment. They begin with what they can do right now. This might mean reading a short article about a new career path, writing the first sentence of a book, or spending just 20 minutes at the gym. Psychologists call these early actions successive approximations to the goal—small steps that build confidence and momentum as you reach your larger objectives. With each completed action, you develop a rhythm of success. As you go from short walks to longer ones, from brief study sessions to deep dives, and from quality conversations to meaningful relationships, you prove to yourself that growth is possible—and that you're the kind of person who follows through to achieve what you desire. Step 3: Practice the Power of Discard. Living like a champion isn't just about doing more—it's about letting go of what holds you back. That includes old clothes that don't fit, obsolete equipment, and cluttered paperwork. Discarding isn't just physical; it's psychological. When you clear your external space, you begin to free your internal space. As you throw away objects that no longer serve you, you create mental clarity, self-respect, and room for new, empowering beliefs to take root. The more you let go of what you don't need, the more power you have to attract what truly matters.

Psychologists think that limits make a child feel safer and calmer. However, certain restraints can do just the opposite, making your little one feel insecure and slowing their development. Here are some things you should allow your kids to do – for instance, crying and being noise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The episode of Living Myth begins with a study on how our brains and our bodies respond to traumatic events. Apparently, our brains do not fully distinguish between something traumatic happening to us directly or something we observe that is harmful to someone else. To our brains a threat is a threat, whether we are actually experiencing it personally or are witnessing it on a personal device. Because humans are essentially social and typically empathic creatures, the same instincts that help connect us to each other can cause us to feel stress and pain by watching almost any kind of traumatic event.     A key issue is that in consuming mass media coverage of the flood of traumatic events that now plague the world, we cannot simply resolve the sense of threat and fear of harm that penetrates us and causes our brains to trigger our fight or flight responses. Our body remains convinced that we are in some kind of danger, yet we can neither completely escape by flight nor effectively engage with fight. As the world becomes more and more chaotic and this process repeats, we become intensely activated, but with nowhere for all the energy to go. We can feel increasingly on the verge of overwhelm as well as physically and emotionally worn down.     Psychologists who were consulted offered helpful suggestions such as setting boundaries on news consumption, calling friends or family members who can have a settling effect on us or spending more time in nature. However, the report also included the statement that under the pressure of repetitive traumatic stress a person's worldview might radically change. This greater fear involved the sense that in the midst of all the chaos people would conclude that life has no real meaning or purpose. However, the idea of an altered worldview can also be seen as our psyche's instinctive way of seeking genuine healing and finding meaningful ways to change the course of both our personal and collective lives.     Ancient wisdom along with ideas of depth psychology suggest that in order to truly change we must start right where we are and accept the mess we are in if we would find deeper understandings and wiser ways of being. For it is precisely in the dark nights of the soul that we can experience revelations of both our deeper sense of self and the regenerative energies that are essential aspects of both nature and the cosmos.     Chaos as disorder and cosmos as regenerative order are the two huge energies that continuously make, unmake and remake the world. As things fall apart, the knowing self within us moves closer to the surface and seeks to become more conscious to us. Seen through the lens of the deeper sense of self and soul, the traumatic events that we experience and/or witness are not simply intended to defeat us or overwhelm us or make us numb, but rather, they are secretly intended to awaken us to a greater understanding of our own inner capacity to change and be part of the life-enhancing, life-creating dynamic through which chaos turns into cosmos, through which we can individually be redeemed from our own darkness and also find ways to contribute to a re-imagination and re-creation of a more coherent, inspired and interconnected sense of human culture.     Thank you for listening to and supporting Living Myth. You can hear Michael Meade live by joining his free online event “The Heart Within the Heart” on Thursday, October 30.   Register and learn more at: mosaicvoices.org/events.      You can further support this podcast by becoming a member of Living Myth Premium. Members receive bonus episodes each month, access to the full archives of over 700 episodes and a 30% discount on all events, courses and book and audio titles.   Learn more and join this community of listeners at: patreon.com/livingmyth     If you enjoy this podcast, we appreciate you leaving a review wherever you listen and sharing it with your friends. On behalf of Michael Meade and the whole Mosaic staff, we wish you well and thank you for your support of our work.

Think your dating profile is harmless fun? Think again. Psychologists reveal how your carefully crafted prompts—like “My most useless skill is…” or “I’ll fall for you if…”—could secretly reveal your personality, habits, and even your emotional quirks. From subtle self-loathing to impulsive decision-making, we break down what your online dating answers really say about you… and why the dating world might be even crazier than you thought. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here…➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show Facebook ➡︎ https://facebook.com/thejubalshow YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh Support the show: https://the-jubal-show.beehiiv.com/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes the most difficult stories can lead us to the most powerful truths.  This account of a man named Achan is one of those stories.  Achan was a man who carried something we all can understand: a mistake, a failure, that he kept hidden.  Psychologists tell us that shameful secrets and unspoken guilt do incredible damage to our whole person.  But how could we ever bring what is in the dark, bring what is hidden, out into the open?  Through Achan's story, we will see how our gracious and redeeming God can turn our deepest troubles into a door of hope. 

Send us a textSome weeks stretch forever, and some feel like three at once.  Instead of forcing old routines, we choose the pivot: trading six-mile runs for rock climbing, swapping comparison for curiosity, and learning to measure progress by small, honest wins that actually sustain motivation.Small wins become deposits in a self-worth bank—non-scale victories, a clean problem explanation in a meeting, or a compliment so unexpected it lights your whole day. Yes, even being mistaken for your son's sister at brunch can be a tiny miracle.We also talk candidly about Botox, identity, and why a subtle change isn't about chasing youth but about finding a little confidence. Throughout, we return to a simple practice: notice what you can influence, celebrate the micro-moments, and offer others a win when you can. If you've been navigating fatigue, perimenopause, recovery, or just a season that won't let up, this one's a hand on your shoulder and a map for the next foothold.If this resonates, share it with a friend who needs a small win today, subscribe for more honest midlife and mental health conversations, and leave a review telling us your latest tiny victory—we'd love to cheer you on.Please be sure to checkout our website for previous episodes, our psych-approved resource page, and connect with us on social media! All this and more at www.thelylaspodcast.com

Depressed Psychologist? ~ How do psychologists avoid becoming depressed? Listen to caller's personal dramas four times each week as Dr. Kenner takes your calls and questions on parenting, romance, love, family, marriage, divorce, hobbies, career, mental health - any personal issue! Call anytime, toll free 877-Dr-Kenner. Visit www.drkenner.com for more information about the show (where you can also download free chapter one of her serious relationships guidebook).

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When a 30(b)(6) representative is deposed, the testimony is that of the organization, not of the individual answering the questions. However, in the heat of battle, it can be challenging to remember this distinction. Questions in 30(b)(6) depos that use words like "you" - and answers that use words like "I" or "me" - can blur the roles and lead an examiner to see the testimony as also being that of the witness individually. But it isn't. Psychologists refer to this confusion as an "attribution error," meaning that we may attribute the testimony to the wrong source.This confusion can be fatal to a claim if the representative is also a key witness individually and wasn't deposed separately. Today, Jim discusses a brand new court ruling where a federal judge dismissed a claim against an individual defendant (and key witness) who was only deposed as a 30(b)(6) deponent. The question there was, when a 30(b)(6) witness says “I,” who's really speaking—the individual or the entity? Learn how that 30(b)(6) deposition in Ademi wasn't enough to survive summary judgment, and what every litigator must do to avoid the same trap. Essential listening for anyone taking or defending corporate rep depositions.SHOW NOTESAdemi, et al. v. Central Park Boathouse, LLC, and Dean Poll, individually, No. 22-cv-8535 (S.D.N.Y. Sept. 23, 2025) (summary judgment granted in favor of individual defendant where plaintiff's counsel only deposed defendant in a 30(b)(6) capacity and, thus, had no testimony from the witness himself)Fed. R. Civ. P. 30(b)(6) (designated representative rule)King v. Pratt and Whitney, 161 F. R. D. 275 (S. D. Fla. Apr. 27, 1995) (rule governing representative depositions doesn't limit scope of questions that can be asked, beyond topic list); Joseph v. Chronister, et al, 2019 WL 8014505, Case No. 8:16-cv-274-T-35CPT (M. D. Florida January 29, 2019) (scope of designated-representative deposition is not strictly confined to topics set forth in notice; further noting the twin benefit of this type of deposition, being that it limits the number of people within a corporation to be deposed, and prevents bandying); See Marksberry v. FCA US LLC, 2021 WL 2142655, No. 19-2724 (D. Kan. May 26, 2021) (lawyers may object to topics as “outside the scope” of that listed on the 30(b)(6) notice, and such objections have been held to be permissible, but the witness “must nevertheless answer the question because Fed. R. Civ. P. 26(b) - not the deposition notice defines the scope of discovery”).

Psychologists warn that the use of tracking apps can normalise constant monitoring, which may start in families but spill into intimate partner relationships, potentially leading to controlling and coercive behaviours. But how do we know if tracking those we love is beneficial or problematic? - Nagbabala ang mga pyschologist tungkol sa paggamit ng mga tracking app na maaaring magnormalise ito ng kultura ng palagiang pagmamanman, isang gawi na maaaring magsimula sa pamilya, ngunit kalaunan ay magbunga ng kontrolado at mapang-abusong relasyon.

Chances are that when most of us think about the notion of crime our minds turn to acts committed against an individual – be it theft, fraud or even physical assault. But every day ecological crimes are committed against the planet we all live on that often fly under the radar despite the significant, far-reaching effects they have on all of us. In this episode, we're joined by criminal psychologist and bestselling author, Dr Julia Shaw to talk about her latest book, Green Crime – Inside the Minds of the People Destroying the Planet, and How to Stop Them. She breaks down the factors that drive individuals and organisations to commit acts that are damaging to the environment and explains how understanding the psychology that underpins these acts can help us to keep our planet healthy for generations to come. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We've talked about eco-anxiety before on Do You Really Know, and it's real. A survey published in the Lancet in December 2021 found that 75% of young people thought the future was frightening. But others are preaching a more positive outlook, with cautious climate optimism looking set to be a trend in 2023. While our fears around the climate crisis are justified and useful, if they paralyse us out of doing anything, those feelings of hopelessness are inevitable. Psychologists call it “learned helplessness”. What cause is there for optimism? What are the arguments against climate optimism? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to more episodes, click here: ⁠Should I walk 10000 steps a day?⁠ ⁠What is a vertiport?⁠ ⁠What is productivity paranoia?⁠ A Bababam Originals podcast. Written and produced by Joseph Chance. First Broadcast: 20/1/2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're bringing back another great episode for our special Menopause Matters Season — this time with the fabulous Tania Dalton. Tania is a healthy aging coach and fitness trainer, known for her inspiring approach to redefining what's possible as we age. She's passionate about showing that menopause isn't an ending, but the beginning of a whole new chapter. Since we first recorded this episode, Tania has continued her mission, working as an online health coach helping women over 50 regain their energy so they can thrive in their careers and their lives. She's also launched an exciting new venture — the Midlife Women's Clinic, an online service for Australian women navigating perimenopause. The clinic provides education and connects women with GPs, Nurse Practitioners, Naturopaths, Psychologists, Nutritionists, and other experts who specialise in perimenopause. Tania brings such inspiration and practical wisdom to this conversation, sharing how lifestyle choices can transform how we age and how midlife can be the most empowering time of all. Here's what we cover: -Why Tania became so interested in how lifestyle impacts aging -Why she's determined to show women menopause isn't the end so much as a whole new beginning -Simple and effective ways to transform life -Staying active despite osteoarthritis -Training for an ironman challenge (she since completed this!) -Being willing to try things while accepting you may not be able to complete them -Why Tania feels menopause has been the best thing to happen to her -The importance of prioritizing sleep -How Tania manages stress -The importance of getting outside a lot, especially first thing in the morning -How living more simply can help with health -How Tania has accepted her aging self -Optimal nutrition in midlife and beyond -Increasing variety in your diet to assist your microbiome -The importance of strength training and getting clear on what we need to do -Incorporating HIIT sessions where possible -Incidental exercise – staying mobile throughout the day -The impact of stress on increasing belly fat in midlife -How to simply incorporate meditation -Not letting perfectionism stop her from going for things -What Tania most wants women to know And more! If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, share it and leave us a 5* review on Apple Podcasts or wherever you're listening. Order Rachel's book, Magnificent Midlife: Transform Your Middle Years, Menopause And Beyond, recommended in The New York Times as one of seven top books about menopause at magnificentmidlife.com/book The paperback can also be purchased on Amazon or other online retailers: UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Magnificent-Midlife-Transform-Middle-Menopause/dp/173981150X/ US & Canada: https://www.amazon.com/Magnificent-Midlife-Transform-Middle-Menopause/dp/173981150X/ Australia: https://www.amazon.com.au/Magnificent-Midlife-Transform-Middle-Menopause/dp/173981150X/ You can listen to all the other episodes and get the show notes at magnificentmidlife.com/podcast. Podcast recommended by the Sunday Times. Feedspot #9 in 40 Best Midlife Podcasts and #7 in 60 Best Women Over 50 Podcasts You'll find lots of strategies, support, and resources to help make your midlife magnificent at magnificentmidlife.com. Check out Rachel's online Revitalize Experience, a 6-week intensive small group mentoring experience or 1-1 Midlife Mentoring.

Psychologists warn that the use of tracking apps like Life360 and FindMyPhone can normalise constant monitoring, which may start in families but spill into intimate partner relationships, potentially leading to controlling and coercive behaviours. But how do we know if tracking those we love is beneficial or problematic? And if it's the latter, how do we address it?

You've probably heard of PTSD, post-traumatic stress disorder. But what about its counterpart, post-traumatic growth?The term was coined in the 90s to describe the positive psychological growth that researchers documented in people who had been through traumatic or highly stressful life events. Psychologists and sociologists conducting long-range studies on survivors of Hurricane Katrina – which hit 20 years ago and remains one of the most devastating natural disasters to hit the US – are continuing to learn more about it. So how do you measure post-traumatic growth? Can it co-exist with PTSD? NPR mental health correspondent Rhitu Chatterjee explains what scientists have found so far … and how it could help shape disaster relief efforts in the future.Interested in more psychology and social science stories? Email us your question at shortwave@npr.org.Listen to every episode of Short Wave sponsor-free and support our work at NPR by signing up for Short Wave+ at plus.npr.org/shortwave.Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy

Send us a textWhether you're navigating relationship red flags, parenting challenges, or boundary violations with in-laws, this episode delivers valuable insights in an accessible and conversational manner. The unscripted format provides listeners with both practical advice and the confidence to trust their instincts when something feels wrong.Please be sure to checkout our website for previous episodes, our psych-approved resource page, and connect with us on social media! All this and more at www.thelylaspodcast.com

The Human Equation with Joe Pangaro – So where does hatred come from? Psychologists point to fear, insecurity, and the need for belonging. Sociologists highlight systems of inequality, propaganda, and cultural conditioning. Survivors speak of betrayal, trauma, and pain. Hatred rarely arrives alone—it's often the shadow of something deeper: a wound, a loss, a lie...

It's one thing to be busy and another to be productive – and most of us are far better at the first than the second. The reality is that architects live in a world of deadlines, meetings, and endless to-do lists, but somehow there's always time to check Instagram, rearrange your desktop icons, or spend twenty minutes deciding which playlist will help you focus before actually doing the work. Procrastination has a way of disguising itself as “just five more minutes” until suddenly tomorrow is looking a lot worse than today. This week, Andrew and I are taking a closer look at procrastination – why it happens, how it disrupts even the best-laid plans, and what you can actually do to keep it from derailing your work. Welcome to Episode 185: Procrastination: Today's Problems Tomorrow.  [Note: If you are reading this via email, click here to access the on-site audio player]  The Struggle is Real jump to 4:09 Procrastination is not about a lack of discipline or effort, it is more like a default response that shows up once the to-do list starts outpacing the hours in the day. Think of it as that urge to tidy up your inbox, check social media one more time, or find anything else to do besides the one task that really matters. It is less about bad intent and more about a short-term survival instinct. I would not describe myself as someone who avoids work, but I can admit there are times when I put things off until there is no other choice, and I suspect that puts me in the same company as most people reading this. There is research that connects personality traits with procrastination, and some of it feels uncomfortably familiar when applied to architects. People who score high in conscientiousness usually do well in professional settings, but that same trait often brings with it a strong tendency toward perfectionism. When you are wired to want things done at a very high level, it can be easy to delay getting started until you believe conditions are “just right.” The irony is that the higher the standard, the harder it becomes to begin, and procrastination finds a perfect opening. Other personality studies using Myers-Briggs categories found that INTP (Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, Perception) types were among the highest procrastinators. Those individuals tend to be analytical, independent, and comfortable living in their heads, which can be useful qualities for architects, but those same strengths can also create a pattern of putting things off. When you are wired to keep analyzing and refining your ideas, starting the work can feel less urgent than thinking about it just a little longer. There is another angle to consider, which is that procrastination can actually act as a coping mechanism. Psychologists describe it as a form of avoidance, but not always in a destructive sense. Putting something off can create short-term relief, and that breathing space can sometimes be what allows a person to function in the moment. The problem is that the stress does not go away, it simply accumulates and grows heavier with time. For some people, that mounting pressure even becomes the fuel they rely on to finally act, which is why procrastination is not only common but oddly effective for those who claim they “work best under pressure.” Architects are Busy jump to 16:03 a look at my weekly calendar for the time we recorded today's podcast episode Procrastination is not always about laziness, and more often than not it shows up as the result of overload. Nobody in this profession plans to avoid their responsibilities, but when the day fills up with meetings, deadlines, and emails, something is going to slip. That delay might look small in the moment, like moving one task to tomorrow's list, but it still qualifies as procrastination. It is not intentional avoidance, it is triage, and triage always comes with consequences. Architects are especially vulnerable to this because so much of our time is spent in coordination mode,...

I met Dr Vermani minutes before our podcast as a referral from a dear friend and former guest on this show. She was in town on a PR tour and joined me on The Wake Up the Sun show. Dr. Vermani is a clinical psychologist, public speaker, teacher and author in the field of mental health and wellness, and a registered member of the College of Psychologists of Ontario. In her private practice, Dr. Vermani Balanced Wellbeing, she provides a multi-faceted treatment approach through a variety of techniques and treatments, including supportive Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), Breath~Body~Mind practices, executive coaching, Mindfulness Meditation, Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT). Dr. Vermani specializes in facilitating treatments for adults suffering from trauma/abuse, mood, anxiety, substance addictions and other related conditions and disorders. Furthermore, Dr. Vermani offers crisis management, chronic pain management, self-esteem/assertiveness enhancement, vocational counseling, skill development and professional coaching. She also conducts outpatient/inpatient psychological, vocational and forensic assessments.We spoke about many topics and her approach to helping others and why her career chose her after her childhood and being thrust into a caregiver role at the young age of 6. Please listen as we uncover different energy levels, approaches to routine and taking care of what you focus on........expands. You can reach Dr Vermani on her website www.drmonicavermani.com or on instagram @drmonicavermani. We hope you enjoy the show and have a most triumphant day!

In this Spirit-led teaching, Dr. Leelo Bush unpacks the idea of thought conflict—what psychologists call cognitive dissonance—and shows how believers can resolve it through God's truth. By contrasting worldly pressures (like secular accreditation) with biblical principles, she guides listeners to embrace God's way without hesitation. Through scripture, practical tools, and encouragement, she explains how thought conflict is actually evidence of growth and transformation.     What You'll Learn How to recognize thought conflict and why it creates discomfort The biblical perspective on double-mindedness (James 1:8) Why saying “yes” to God quickly brings peace and promotion How “bridge thoughts” help transition from old beliefs to new ones The science of neuroplasticity and how it confirms Romans 12:2 Why perseverance through thought conflict is proof of growth     Quotable Moment “Thought conflict isn't failure. It's preparation. It's the sound of growth in progress.”     Scriptures Mentioned 2 Corinthians 6:14 — Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers James 1:8 — A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways Matthew 5:37 — Let your yes be yes and your no be no Romans 12:2 — Be transformed by the renewing of your mind     Resources PCCCA Courses: https://pccca.org/courses/ Healing the Grieving Brain Guide: https://griefcoachu.com/healing/ The Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook (Dr. Leelo Bush): Amazon link Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe (Facebook group): facebook.com/groups/courageouschristiancoachingtribe Transcript   If you've been researching coach or counselor training and certification programs, you may have noticed the thought conflict that comes up when you're trying to pick the right training. If you're a Christian, you know God's Word is clear that we should build on truth, not compromise. Second Corinthians 6:14 tells us, do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers than what we allow into our hearts and minds during training. Yet at the same time, the world shouts loudly about accreditation from secular organizations, and many people feel torn. On one side, we want to follow God's truth. On the other, we're afraid we'll miss out if we don't follow what the world says is important. That back and forth can create so much thought conflict that some people even give up before they start, simply because they're not 100% sure what the right choice is. This is just one example of thought conflict, and there are many others. Resolving them is today's topic. Welcome to the Christian Coaching School podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Leelo Bush. I'm a master coach, author, curriculum creator and the number one authority on Spirit-led Christian coaching. I've trained tens of thousands worldwide since 2003, and if you are ready to uplevel your skills, find greater fulfillment, and employ the most powerful coaching available to mankind, let's go. I'm Dr. Leelo Bush, and you're listening to the Christian Coaching School podcast, where we talk about Spirit-led coaching tools for transformation, and how to live and lead with joy and purpose. And before we go further, I would love to invite you to leave a review of this podcast. When you do, you'll be entered into our new listener drawing. I'll be announcing winners right here on the podcast, and you could win a gift card just for sharing your feedback. So let's dig into this idea of thought conflict. Psychologists call it cognitive dissonance, but I prefer to put it in plain language. It's when two opposing thoughts collide inside your head and create discomfort. One part of you says this is the right way. The other part says, no, that's too risky, stay where you are. It's like being pulled in two directions at once. And doesn't that sound exactly like what James wrote about in chapter 1, verse 8? A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways. Here's the key, though. When we pick God's way, even if it doesn't agree with the world, it's often a test. God uses these moments to see if we are ready for promotion, or ready for the next level of responsibility in His kingdom. If we choose wrong, if we keep wavering, we often find ourselves circling around that same mountain again, repeating the same lesson until we finally learn to say yes to Him. And thought conflict makes this hard because it feels like a battle inside your mind. But friend, the truth is that battle is the very evidence that growth is happening. Jesus said in Matthew 5:37, let your yes be yes and your no be no. When God calls you to something, the best thing you can do is settle it quickly in your spirit. Yes means yes and follow through. The longer you linger in indecision, the more exhausting that thought conflict becomes. Let me give you a picture. Imagine two shores with a river in between. On one side are your current beliefs, the ones you've held for years. On the other side are your new beliefs, the ones God is calling you to embrace. To get across, you have to step into that river of discomfort. That's that conflict. It's uncomfortable. It feels risky, but it's also the only way to cross over. If you avoid the river, you stay stuck on the wrong side, looking at the life you want but never entering it. And sometimes you don't cross in one leap. That's where what I call bridge thoughts come in. If your old thought was, “I can't do this,” and the new thought is “I can do all things through Christ,” you may not fully believe that yet. So you start with a bridge thought, something like this: “With God's help, I can try.” That's believable. That's a step of faith. Over time, that grows into confidence. It's the way God builds endurance in us, step by step, faith to faith. Science actually helps us understand why thought conflict feels so uncomfortable. Our brains are wired for efficiency. The neural pathways we've been using for years—the old thoughts, the old beliefs—they're like well-paved highways. Your brain can travel them quickly without much effort. But when you introduce a new belief, it's like hacking a trail through the woods. At first, it feels awkward and clumsy, and your brain resists because it prefers the smooth, familiar road. That's why it feels so hard to let go of old beliefs and embrace new ones. It isn't just weakness on our part. It's our brain doing what it thinks is best to conserve energy. The problem is left unchecked, that instinct will keep us trapped in the same patterns year after year. This is exactly why Romans 12:2 tells us, do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Notice it doesn't say one-time renewal. It's a continual renewing, over and over, creating new pathways of thought until the truth of God's Word becomes the natural highway your brain takes—or you might consider it a default setting. Think about it. Every time you practice a new thought, like “With God's help, I can do this,” you are literally building a new neural pathway. At first, it's faint and fragile. But as you keep practicing, that pathway strengthens, while the old one begins to weaken from lack of use. What once felt impossible eventually becomes second nature. So when you are experiencing thought conflict, don't interpret that discomfort as failure. It's actually proof that your brain is in the middle of rewiring. You're pulling away from old lies and teaching your mind to align with God's truth. And yes, that takes effort, but it also means you're on the right track. Let me encourage you with this: the same God who designed your brain gave you the ability to change it. Science calls it neuroplasticity. Scripture calls it renewal. Both point to the same truth—that you don't have to stay stuck in old ways of thinking. Through Christ, you have the power to be transformed, not just spiritually, but mentally, emotionally, and practically. So instead of fearing thought conflict, see it as evidence that your brain is doing the hard but holy work of change. You're tearing down the old highways and building new ones that lead directly to the destiny that God has prepared for you. And speaking of stepping into what God's called you to do, this is exactly why I am so passionate about equipping more Christians to serve with confidence in their calling. Right now is enrollment season for our Christian coaching, counseling, and specialty coaching training and certification programs. These are the very programs that give you the skills, tools, and credentials to help others create transformation, all while growing in your own walk and purpose. If you've been feeling that nudge from the Lord to step forward in ministry or coaching, this is the perfect time to say yes. You can find all the details and enroll today at pccca.org/courses. You can also find this link in our show notes. Let's get you trained, certified and ready to make an even greater Kingdom impact. Now let's bring this back. Thought conflict is not something to fear. It's part of the process of growth. Every time you set a goal, every time you move toward your calling, your old beliefs will rise up to challenge your new ones. It's perfectly normal. The enemy wants you to think it's a sign to quit, but really, it's a sign to persevere. Because once you cross the river, once you settle your yes with God, you'll look back and realize that what once felt impossible is now second nature. So my encouragement to you today is this: next time you feel that inner tug of war, pause and ask, “Lord, which way is Your way?” And when He shows you, don't hesitate. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Say yes quickly. Step forward, even if it feels uncomfortable. Because that is how God promotes you, grows you, and moves you into the life He has prepared for you. So as we close, remember thought conflict isn't failure. It's preparation. It's the sound of growth in progress. Don't run from it. Embrace it as part of the process of becoming the person God has called you to be. And before you go, remember to leave a review of this podcast to be entered into our new listener drawing. I'll be announcing winners here on the show, and you could win a gift card just for sharing your feedback. I'm Dr. Bush and you've been listening to the Christian Coaching School podcast. Carry what you learned today into the lives of those who need it most, and I will meet you in the next episode. Before you go, I want to personally invite you to join our private Facebook group, The Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe. 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Psychologists have traditionally believed we become less curious as we age, but recent research has shown that curiosity actually becomes more targeted and specific in our later years. To find out why this happens, and how maintaining broad curiosity into older age can help keep our brains young, Madeleine Finlay hears from Dr Mary Whatley, an assistant professor of psychology at Western Carolina University, and Dr Matthias Gruber, of Cardiff University's Brain Imaging Centre. Help support our independent journalism at theguardian.com/sciencepod