Sad Girls Against The Patriarchy

Alison is joined by bestie Nick to talk about ladies of lore and the problematic retelling of their stories. Medusa: assault survivor. Arachne: pro weaver pitted against Athena. Circe: just wanted to chill as an island witch. Artemis: turned a gross man into a bambi. Pandora: set up to fail à la garden of eden. Enjoy!♡ ad free episodes ~ patreon.com/sadgap

Alison is joined by Stefani and Anna to talk about their experiences in comedy! We get into how their gender has shaped the way they're received on stage, tokenization, and the balance of success without compromise. Also: why do men assume a woman making sexual jokes is “very sexual” - and why is that a problem? Why do audience members respond to a bit as if they're on a date with the gal on stage? Why can men make a r*pe joke but a survivor can't? Many such questions! Includes musings on the origins of intercourse and the importance of self-satisfying. Ends with advice for aspiring comics (it's to masturbate more often). Follow them on ig!Stefani: @stefaniroselahAnna: @annacatherineorr ad free episodes ~ patreon.com/sadgap

IQ tests, get on the analysis couch. This week we trace the intelligence quotient's horrible origin in eugenics and sterilization. Then track how it kinda improved and developed into the G factor (has nothing to do with being a g, yet kind of does). And finally identify the now recognized multiple styles of intelligence that make things a lot more interesting. Very Psych 102 style. TLDR: if you think you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong.

This week features a guest as we dive into queer identity, layers of privilege, and why everyone still gets mad when a woman raises her voice. From La Vie en Grindr to Gabrielle Union's fiery acceptance speech, let's TALK ABOUT IT!

BMI — the deeply misleading number that's on your medical chart whether you like it or not. Myers-Briggs — astrology for the boys. Love Languages — PHYSICAL TOUCH. We're here to deconstruct, to devalue, to de...smiss, these popular measures that were developed without adequate research. (To be fair the Myers-Briggs test was created by two ladies, but it was based on the work of Carl Jung, so close enough.)

Learn this ONE ~crazy trick~ to not just survive your 20s, but to THRIVE! Nah, there's not one trick, but we got some ideas. As two ladies who lived through this tumultuous era and lived it hard, we learned a few things along the way and wanna share that wisdom with you. With love from the kooky aunts

Super PACs, lobbyists, deep fakes, oh my! We're not too thrilled about the fact that politicians are motivated by money & power rather than the interests of their constituents. While echo chambers and the culture war keep us divided to our detriment. If we could find common ground, we might viva la revolution. This 'reality contradicts the messaging' extends to corporate girlbossery, too - because if you've been told gender equality has been achieved, you've been lied to. But we've got ideas on how to make some difference, or at least how to soothe your mind to make life more tolerable. Alt title: believing a politician cares about you is like believing the stripper likes you.Source list: https://bit.ly/4hIRv7oPatreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Review of the 2024 film "Nosferatu", directed by Dave Eggers. Surprisingly turned out to be a feminist rabbit hole inviting multiple interpretations. All the spoilers! (*also includes birthday well wishes for one of your hosts

~ Let's get politicaaal ~In a slight variation from usual themes, we zoom out to discuss... well, it's a big topic, but pretty much: politicians don't care about us, anyone with the power to create change is motivated by money, and We The People are encouraged to ignore it. To the point that it's terrible for our mental health when we DO see what's wrong but feel powerless to fix it.Loosely a recap of the Adam Curtis 2016 documentary called "Hypernormalisation", which is free to watch here: https://youtu.be/Gr7T07WfIhMSource list: https://bit.ly/43dijsTPatreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Special guest episode with the fabulous Bree Essrig! Most importantly we want to highlight the movie she wrote & produced, “Sugar Baby”, now streaming on Amazon Prime! Other topics include~ our failed attempt to record last fall, cosmetic procedures of the anal variety, lady-driven movies we'd love to see, how to deal w/ criticism on The Internet, planes crashing, OF model marketing, polishticks, and beyond.Find Bree on instagram at @breeessrig ♡Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgap Merch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

The "trad wife movement" might make you think of homesteading, baking bread, or raising a million kids. But beyond the FYP lies something darker! We discuss its connection to conserative politics, its whiteness, and its push to roll back a woman's right to choose. Not the same as being a stay at home mom. Maybe just a social media trend. Worth the critique if this is content you consume.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Research shows that da boiz exhibit vocal fry just as much as da goils. And yet somehow our brothers in christ only associate vocal fry with the "valley girl" archetype, and unfairly criticize it. (*Ironically* due to hardware issues this episode has audio distortion that kinda sounds like vocal fry throughout?? But we did cut the high pitched tone mentioned at the top, with a tool called spectral editing. Thanks, spectral editing.) Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/4jGyqoE

Just here to share feelings. We're angry at the state of the world. And at the leaders who do not care about us. We're tired, we're literally and figuratively sick. Grateful to be safe but devastated for our city. If you're an LA girlie maybe it will feel nice to hear other angelinos be sad together.

How's that for a click bait-y title??(Just to make sure you know. . . you are not the dummies. We are the dummies. As scholars of the feministe litrature you might say, we should prolly know what made Gloria Steinem or Susan B. Anthony famous. Now we do. yay

The 4B Movement! What is it? Why is it? Why do we & our listeners love it so much? Alexis breaks down the cultural climate around feminism in South Korea, and how it set the stage for the 4B Movement. Alison discusses similar sentiments in the US with a look to the future, but mostly is cranky and rants a lot. A mix of insight and outrage, as usual :)Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

This episode may not contain researched, educational content, but we can offer: two (2) stories of being almost-mugged. A step-by-step guide on how to improve the iOS 18 Photos app update. Late night convos with ChatGPT. A male-coded rant (read: arrogant) about being smarter than the normies. Tales from the gun shop. Tangential, ADHD vibes. Are we on one, or are we locked in? Yes.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth

~~I duunnnoooo~~ you have to listen to find out.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgap Merch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Review of the 2024 Coralie Fargeat squelchathon, The Substance. Highly requested and finally delivered. Full of spoilers and general babbling.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Let's talk about all the ways we can stop our beautiful bodies from making the bebes. From hormonal methods, to barriers like condoms, to the discontinued Essure which literally killed its users, we've got it all! Registered Nurse Alexis and Uterus Owner Alison break down these options and share their personal experiences. Content warning for a detailed account of IUD insertion.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Casual chat rather than research episode this week! We catch up on listener messages, Bad Boyfriend Stories, and screenshots/memes/etc. Much lore including what inspired us to move to LA and mental health check-ins. Plus our thoughts on conspiracy theories and herpes! Find your vape, pour a glass, and hang with the saddies.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgap Merch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

The Sad Girls do a clip show!! Nah, we put a ton of effort into this per usual. But these themes have come up in many of our past episodes and it makes us angery. Femme folk face tremendous challenges working in male-dominated jobs (STEM, trade work, finance, etc) including lack of mentorship, ill-fitting PPE, and constant sexual harassment. BONUS content — Alison rants about the inefficiency of recycling in the USA :DPatreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/3YNe4R0

An interview and discussion with actor Paul Telfer. He walks us through the relationships and experiences that have shaped his ideology, including influential friendships, exposure to feminist rhetoric in school, and observing the unique challenges his wife has faced. More generally, we talk about matriarchies, the problematic nature of male allyship, the need for men to challenge their defensive impulse, and practical tactics to implement when we hear sexist comments.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Horror tropes. Discussion of whether the girlies are into horror movies (and why). Spoilers for the 2022 Netflix show Inside Man after the conversation derails. Happy Halloween!Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/3AbwEKp

Starting off our spooky series with the scariest thing of all: MENOPAUSE! *OoooOOooooOOO* (spooky voice). Just kidding. Menopause shouldn't be scary. It shouldn't be shameful or stigmatized or something to hide. It LITERALLY AFFECTS HALF OF THE POPULATION so like maybe we should talk about it sometimes.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgap Merch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/4h9B4SB

Incels! Your favorite topic I'm sure. The etymology of the word. The origin of the subculture. That one murderous “supreme gentleman”. Psych studies, demographic stats, and advice for all the incels I'm sure are not listening. (Spoiler alert, we are not a fan.)Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/4exaJMt

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The most historical of our historical baddies yet. Joan of Arc: icon for short girls with mental health issues everywhere. She commanded armies and the respect of men by age 17. A true lesson in how much you can accomplish if you believe in yourself (and that you are a divine messenger from The Lord). Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Mover & shaker. Has no chill in the best way possible. Pioneer of intersectional feminism. Alexis shares the inspiring journey of activist Angela Davis. Bonus bad bf stories from listener contributions included.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgap Merch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

***BIG DISCLAIMER*** Before you leave a comment or send me a nasty message, just listen to the episode. I beg of you. The purpose of an episode description has never been to fully summarize an hour of content — and considering how complex this one is, I'm not even going to try. *IF YOU PUT TEXT IN FRONT OF MY EYES* without listening to it (and I will be able to tell because I know what I fucking said), you will be restricted/blocked/deleted something of the sort. This is not an open platform for the promotion of SWERF content and if you cannot even listen to the goddamn episode we bothered to research & record then no you do not have contribution privileges.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/3XLAjaJ

The oldest profession. An overview of the history of sex work around the world.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/47hi9jX

No-fault divorce, or unilateral divorce, became a thing in 1969. Before that, to have a divorce approved by a court one party had to prove the other had committed some kind of fault, like adultery, alcoholism, or desertion. After no-fault divorce passed (initiated by Ronny Reagan of all people), coinciding with more rights for women passed in the '70s, female suicide rates went down! Female homicide rates went down! Wowowow. Making it easier for women to get out of potentially dangerous or abusive partnerships was a good thing all around, but now there are a few states trying to *overturn it* -- which is pretty damn scary.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source List: https://bit.ly/4dSrL6Y

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A discussion of the docu-series “Quiet On Set” about the abusive environment of Nickelodeon shows behind the scenes in the late 90s. The series specifically focuses on showrunner Dan Schneider (BOOO) and his influence, but we branch into what it's like to be a child actor in general and the dangers involved. Featuring a special guest, who does not want to be tagged and we're all going to respect their anonymity. But they have experience in this work environment and valuable personal insights to share!Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Spicy dramas. Cathartic release. HOT GOSS. More use of the f word than all our past episodes combined. No ads to keep the flow. One of us starts crying at one point?? This the Superior Court of SADGAP of the 69th Circuit is now in session. The Honourable Sad Girls preside.Please be seated. Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merch ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Sad girls need sad breaks for travels and educations - please enjoy sad lines! Topics include recovering from trauma, reporting trauma, relationship-specific trauma… as well as sexier topics like hanogver cures, colonoscopies, & IUDs! Political commentary is a bit out of date due to pre-recording but we'll catch up sooooon.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Gossip is thought of as a "girl thing", even though numerous studies have established that guys and gals gossip about the same amount. And not all gossip is nasty, either. In fact most of it is a neutral exchange of news and a way for people to bond! Yet there are historical examples of men LITERALLY PUTTING MUZZLES ON WOMEN for gossiping too much. Mayhaps because when women gossip they can share info about a man (& his bad behavior), they can learn from each other, they can protect each other? Mayhaps.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Our sweet bebe angels. Our familiars. Our satanic helpers. Includes discussion of how(/if?) cats were domesticated. Why they are traditionally so aligned with witches. And why there is this strong Cats = Women / Women = Cats energy throughout world history. Shoutout to Napolean & Sophia, we love you darlings

No research topic this week! Chaotic, wine-induced energy. DO NOT LISTEN IF THIS IS YOUR FIRST EPISODE. Too many Sad Girl lore spoilers. Rantings include: being scarred by commitment-phobic men, importance of tipping, what is performance art?, armie hammer hunter biden justin timberlake (word cloud), why submission and astrology are supposedly femme-coded, and god knows what else. Plus 2 sweet listener letters

All the spoilers for the 2024 Netflix show Baby Reindeer! Content warning for discussions of sexual assault, coercion, stalking. Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

The Damsel of Death, the monster, the first female serial killer, the survivor of rape, incest, & physical assault: Aileen Wuornos. A discussion of her tragic backstory and killing of 7 men between 1989-1990. Is she a femcel icon who faught back in self defense, or a mentally unwell killer? Or both? Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Let's hear it for the boyyyyys. A discussion of how we're all affected by patriarchal standards, norms, and policies. Includes heightism (cuz men are 'supposed' to be BIG & TALL), prison sentences, custody laws (don't actually favor dads tbh), the draft, sexual assault / domestic violence, platonic intimacy, and suicide. Feminism is for all. We're in this together folx. [ content warning for discussions of suicide and some very dark gallows humor ]Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/3VneNGy

"Some women, Commander Norton had decided long ago, should not be allowed aboard ship; weightlessness did things to their breasts that were too damn distracting. It was bad enough when they were motionless; but when they started to move, and sympathetic vibrations set in, it was more than any warm-blooded male should be asked to take." -a published, successful male author, no joke. Includes discussion of tropes, the male gaze, and way too many references to our *ahem* chest area.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/3x1sNxQ

The last of our lil Q&A series, for now! Includes a very delayed conversation on the heated MAN V BEAR controversy, dating for money, and whether it's a problem for men to watch porn. Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

One of Alison's besties went through the process of “donating” her eggs and we thought y'all would be interested in hearing about the experience! Through interview, observation, and a smidge of research, we've got some info about what it's like to donate your eggs that's a little more in depth than what you'll find in everyone's favorite Craigslist ad: “EARN $50,000 BECOMING AN EGG DONOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!” *episodes are being released a lil out of order but let's run with it Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth Source list: https://bit.ly/4bNK0to

We're continuing with a new-ish episode format so we don't have to miss any weeks and can keep sharing that sweet sweet content. Here are more listener questions followed by our advice! How to: deal with men in the workplace, encourge a partner to practice basic hygeine, embrace the single life, and more!Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth

Dang, fetch, oh, my heck, what the holy scrud? H-E- Double hockey sticks, that′s frickin', flippin′ crud! Let's talk about baaaad words and why we say them. Where did they come from? Are they beneficial? Does your brain treat them like normal, non-swear words? This was supposed to be on whether women are judged more harshly for cursing than men, but Alison misunderstood the assignment so it's more of a psych deep dive. Enjoy, ya heathens!Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth

You got questions, we got answers (and opinions). Topics include lovebombing, dating apps / hookup culture, mother-daughter relationships, and confronting the barista when they mess up your order.Patreon ~ patreon.com/sadgapMerch ~ sadgap-podcast.com/merchig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth

Crazy how when a girl is abused by one of her primary caregivers, someone can throw it back as an insult later. Colloquially, "daddy issues" means a woman who's more promiscous, needy, and probably dates older men. When it should actually mean "survivor who lived through childhood trauma and what the f*ck is wrong with fathers for screwing over their daughters like that". Guess it just doesn't have the same ring to it. **Content warning for lengthy discussions of trauma & its lifelong effects.** (But don't worry we laugh at inappropriate times to lighten the mood, as usual.)ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.ethSource list: https://bit.ly/3UiQJo0

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Since the dawn of time, girls have been socialized to be polite, modest, and dignified. It's an ancient, cross-cultural idea that's still around today. "Boys will be boys", while women of all ages aren't given the same allowances. We're here to say, fuck that. ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth

We know you were desperate for more sports-related content. Last week was so fun we just had to keep it going! This one covers the Qatar/FIFA controversy and pay gap between the women's and men's soccer teams in the US (it is extreme). Then we go to discrimination, NCAA college sexual assault stats, and question whether contact sports are really all about suppressed homoerotic desires. Go team Sad Girls ._. ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth