UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

So many women think there's something wrong with their sex drive, when the real issue is how they've been taught to relate to their body. In this episode, I sit down with sex coach Laura Jurgens to explore why low libido is not just a mindset problem or a medical issue, and how repeated experiences, socialization, and nervous system patterns shape your relationship with intimacy.If you've been feeling disconnected from your desire or unsure how to create a more fulfilling sex life, this episode will help you see what's actually getting in the way. You'll learn how to reconnect with your own preferences, communicate what you want, and build a sense of safety and agency in your body so intimacy can feel more natural and enjoyable.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/488Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheilLearn more about Laura's work here: laurajurgens.comGrab Laura's free guide, Get Out of Your Head, here: laurajurgens.myflodesk.com/h1zqbvc842Mentioned in this episode:FREE GUIDE: The Top Three Things I Wish I Had Known Before Becoming A CoachThe world needs coaches. The world needs our work. The world needs your specific perspective, your experiences, your special sauce. Even if you don't know that yet, I do. And I want to help you get there. Download this guide at https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threethingsClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

Do you struggle to feel at peace with your body when you gain weight? Or worry that gaining weight will result in health issues? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I invite you to challenge the beliefs that weight is synonymous with health and that health is synonymous with morality (spoiler alert, it's not).Then, I tackle a listener question about unclear work expectations and how that impacts their perceived success in the role. I show you how to step into clarity and confidence so you can take action on what matters most and stop feeling frustrated by things that are out of your control.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/487Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Have you ever gotten so close to a goal, and then one thing to goes wrong, and your brain immediately decide the whole thing was a mistake? That moment right before the finish line is where so many people quit. In this episode, I introduce a concept I call The Last 5% and showing you why your brain is most likely to turn progress into proof that you're not capable right when you're closest to getting the result you want.If you've ever stopped just short of what you wanted or told yourself all your effort didn't count because you didn't get the final result, this will change how you approach your goals. You'll learn how to stop making setbacks mean something about you, figure out what's actually left to solve, and keep moving forward from experience instead of starting over.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/486Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:FREE GUIDE: The Top Three Things I Wish I Had Known Before Becoming A CoachThe world needs coaches. The world needs our work. The world needs your specific perspective, your experiences, your special sauce. Even if you don't know that yet, I do. And I want to help you get there. Download this guide at https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threethingsClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

Does your brain go straight to worst-case scenarios when you think about someone you love, and make you feel like it's your job to prevent them all? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I coach someone through intense anxiety about their child's future and explain why believing you are responsible for everything that could happen is what's actually creating the panic.Then I answer a question about staying motivated during a job search, and why trying to force motivation when you don't know what you want is never going to work. If you struggle with anxiety about others or feel unmotivated when pursuing your goals, this episode will show you how to question the beliefs creating pressure and fear, and how to move forward from a place of clarity instead of self-judgment.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/485Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Do you ever tell yourself, “What I'm doing isn't enough, so I might as well not bother”? That thought is exactly what's keeping you stuck. In this episode, I'm teaching one of my favorite concepts for getting out of overwhelm and into action: The Infinite 1%. You'll see why doing a little is actually everything. If you've been feeling overwhelmed by how far you have to go or waiting until you can do something perfectly, this is going to change how you think about progress. You'll learn why your brain dismisses small actions, how that keeps you in inertia, and what it looks like to build real momentum by actually doing something instead of nothing.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/484Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Why is it so hard to let go of something that happened years ago, even when you know it shouldn't matter anymore? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I coach someone through what it really takes to release an old grudge without pretending it didn't hurt.Then I answer a question about attractiveness and the belief that you can control whether other people are attracted to you based on how you present yourself. If you've been holding onto resentment or trying to control how others see you, this episode will help you understand why those patterns aren't working and learn how to shift out of them.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/483Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Do you keep telling yourself you'll finally get it together tomorrow, once you feel more ready, more clear, or more “on top of things”?In this episode, I revisit two of the most powerful patterns that keep you stuck: perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. I break down how your brain convinces you that the reason you're not taking action today is because conditions aren't ideal yet, and how it sells you the idea that tomorrow will be different. This episode will show you how to stop waiting for a perfect future version of yourself and start taking action as the imperfect human you already are.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/482Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Are your thoughts during sex preventing you from reaching orgasm? This is a super common struggle for people socialized as women. We worry about taking too long or our partner getting bored or tired, and those thoughts are exactly what get in the way. In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I show you why trying to rush or fix the experience makes it harder, and how to start shifting the thoughts that are creating the pressure in the first place. Then I coach someone who feels like there simply isn't enough time to be a good lawyer, a present parent, and take care of herself. If you've ever felt rushed, behind, or like you're failing to keep up, this episode will help you see how your thoughts about time and productivity are actually creating that pressure. You'll learn how to question those beliefs and change your experience without needing more time or different circumstances. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/481Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Have you built your entire life around waiting for motivation to text you back? In this episode, I explain why motivation is a fuckboy and why relying on it is the reason you start and stop, stall out, or never follow through on the things that matter most to you. Motivation feels amazing when it shows up, but it disappears the moment things get hard or uncomfortable, and when you treat it like a prerequisite, you give something unreliable total control over your progress. If you've been waiting to feel ready, excited, or inspired before you take action, this episode will help you understand why that strategy isn't working. You'll learn how to stop organizing your life around motivation and start following through from a place that is far more reliable, so you can actually create results whether motivation shows up or not. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/480 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil

Do you worry that saying no makes you rude, selfish, or a bad person? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I break down why what you've been taught to call “politeness” is often just people pleasing in disguise, and how that conditioning keeps you stuck in self doubt. Then I answer a question I hear all the time in different forms, what do you do when you understand thought work but you still can't change your thoughts? I explain why you are not missing a tool, why nothing has gone wrong, and why this frustrating in between stage is actually a normal and necessary part of the process. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/479Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Have you ever felt stuck in your career or questioned whether you're on the right path? In this episode, I'm joined by my mastermind student Lisa who made the bold decision to transition from being a global CEO to pursuing her passion for running a dahlia farm. Her journey is a testament to the power of reinvention, and we dive into how she navigated that shift. Lisa shares how she was able to tackle the fears and self-doubt that came with stepping away from the corporate world and how she's now embracing a different version of success. We talk about the importance of setting big goals, overcoming fear, and the emotional challenges of letting go of a well-established career to follow your passion. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/478To learn more about applying for Mission Impossible Mastermind, send an email to info@redesignyourmind.com Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheilFollow Lisa on Instagram: instagram.com/kayabloomstudio

Do you ever feel completely exhausted but can't quite figure out if it's because your body is physically tired or if it's the thoughts in your head making everything worse? In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into the complex relationship between physical fatigue and mental thoughts, and how you can shift your thinking no matter how tired you are.Then, I dive into a question that comes up often in coaching: Should you focus on the immediate thoughts that are triggering your feelings or dig into the deeper, root cause of your beliefs? Tune in to hear my answer. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/477Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Have you ever been caring for someone you love and suddenly felt resentful, exhausted, or completely overwhelmed? And then immediately thought, “What kind of person feels this way?” In this episode, I talk about the emotional reality of caregiving, especially for those of us in the Sandwich Generation who are supporting aging parents while also raising kids, managing careers, and trying to hold our own lives together. You'll hear why caregiving guilt is so common and how socialization trains women to believe they should give endlessly without limits. I explore why the real problem isn't the anger or resentment that can show up in caregiving, but the shame we pile on top of those emotions, and how shifting from either or thinking to both and can help you care for others without abandoning yourself in the process. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/476 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Join me for 30 Days of Coaching Myself Through Everyday BSTo follow along, all you need to do is head on over to Instagram, @karaloewentheil, and click follow!

Does receiving feedback make you feel instantly defensive, embarrassed, or like you've done something terribly wrong?In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions about how to handle criticism at work and how to know when you've coached yourself “correctly.” You'll learn how to manage your mind around feedback, understand why feeling defensive is optional, and recognize that sometimes the answers you already have are the ones you need to keep practicing.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/475Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

What if one of the most important financial decisions you ever make isn't about investing, saving, or budgeting... but about who you choose as your partner?In this episode, I'm joined by Vivian Tu, also known as Your Rich BFF, 2x New York Times bestselling author, and host of the podcast Networth and Chill. We discuss why money is not just about survival but about power, choice, and freedom. Vivian explains why women are often socialized to over compromise financially in relationships, how to adjust your mindset about money as a shared partnership decision, and why financial literacy is essential for protecting your future.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/474Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Learn more about Vivian Tu and her work here: yourrichbff.com and on Instagram instagram.com/your.richbffMentioned in this episode:Join me for 30 Days of Coaching Myself Through Everyday BSTo follow along, all you need to do is head on over to Instagram, @karaloewentheil, and click follow!

Does your brain love to tell you you're ugly, incapable, or untalented? What if it's right? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into a listener's question about those persistent negative thoughts that tell us we're not good enough. You'll discover why it doesn't actually matter if they are objectively true or not, and why intentionally deciding how you think about yourself does.I also answer a question about the concept of vibrations and energy, where a listener is struggling to understand how thought work connects with things like chemistry, energy healing, and even Reiki. Tune in to learn how to approach these concepts with clarity, and why your beliefs about them are just as powerful as any physical sensation.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/473Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

I'm bringing you behind the scenes to give you a peek at how I coach myself on all the shit that comes up day to day. This is a 30-day series over on Instagram where you'll see me coach myself on everything from asking a mom to put headphones on her kid on the airplane to what to do when someone shows up at your door and asks for something that you don't want to give them.All you need to do is follow me on Instagram, instagram.com/karaloewentheil. See you there!

If you feel like the world is on fire and the only appropriate response is constant outrage, this conversation will stretch you in the best way. I talk with psychotherapist and author Margaret Cullen about equanimity, what it actually means, and why it is not the same thing as apathy or disengagement. We unpack the idea that you can care deeply, take action, and still refuse to live in a state of emotional melodrama.Margaret explains how equanimity helps you recover balance more quickly when you get hijacked by fear, anger, or despair. We connect this to nervous system regulation, the 24 hour news cycle, and the cultural pressure to prove you care by being constantly devastated. You'll walk away with concrete ways to engage in your personal and political life without burning yourself out or becoming what you are fighting against.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/472Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Learn more about Margaret Cullen's work at margaretcullen.comMentioned in this episode:You're Invited: Tea at the Ritz Join me on Saturday, March 28, 2026 from 3:30-5:30pm for Tea at the Ritz in Paris. To secure your spot, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/teaJoin me for tea at the Ritz here!

Have you ever tried to teach thought work to someone you love, only to have them completely reject it? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a question from a mom who wants her teenage son to benefit from thought work but keeps running into pushback. I explain why 15 is not too young to understand emotional processing, but it is old enough to resist being coached without permission.I also answer a question from a listener who is struggling with a long standing fear of heights that shows up intensely on tall bridges and airplanes. If you have ever felt frustrated that you logically know something is safe but still experience panic, this will resonate. You will learn how to stop escalating anxiety by resisting it, how to work with your thoughts about panic, and how acceptance becomes the foundation for real change. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/471Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Do you make decisions based on what you actually want, or based on what would make you feel the least guilty? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break down how guilt and shame quietly become the emotional compass guiding our everyday choices, from small obligations to major life decisions, and why that often leaves us exhausted, resentful, or stuck. I share how women in particular are socialized to treat guilt and shame like flashing moral warning signs, assuming that if we feel bad about not doing something, it must mean we should do it. I walk you through how to recalibrate your emotional compass so you can stop making decisions just to avoid feeling like a bad person.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/470Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:You're Invited: Tea at the Ritz Join me on Saturday, March 28, 2026 from 3:30-5:30pm for Tea at the Ritz in Paris. To secure your spot, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/teaJoin me for tea at the Ritz here!

Do social events drain you? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into a listener's question about feeling exhausted at social events and why small talk often feels boring. I explore how your thoughts are creating that experience and why the key to enjoying social gatherings starts with shifting your mindset. I also tackle a question about feeling like you have no desire for sex, and how to work through the thoughts causing fear and anxiety around intimacy. Tune in to discover how thought work can transform your experience at social events and in your intimate relationships, helping you reclaim energy, connection, and confidence. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/469Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Do you find yourself avoiding negative emotions at all costs, distracting yourself with food, Netflix, or your phone? What if you could build the capacity to feel any emotion, no matter how uncomfortable, and still keep moving forward? In this episode, I'm diving into the concept of microdosing negative emotions and why this practice is the key to becoming unstoppable.Instead of pushing away the discomfort, we need to practice building safety around it, which is exactly what microdosing does. I'm walking you through how the microdosing approach helps you tolerate your emotions in manageable doses, so you can stop avoiding them and actually feel them as they pass.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/468Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:You're Invited: Tea at the Ritz Join me on Saturday, March 28, 2026 from 3:30-5:30pm for Tea at the Ritz in Paris. To secure your spot, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/teaJoin me for tea at the Ritz here!

Do you feel like you're stuck in a toxic relationship, but aren't sure if it's really the relationship or just your thoughts? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into a listener's question about how to tell if your relationship is toxic and how much of the issue comes down to your own thinking. I also tackle a question on health anxiety, where the listener is worried that their weight isn't going down despite making healthy changes, and fears they're damaging their health. Discover how thought work can help you take control of your emotional experience, whether in relationships or health, without falling into the trap of self-judgment and fear.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/467Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Join me at the Ritz Paris on Saturday, March 28, from 3:30–5:30 p.m. While you enjoy a classic high tea, I will be joined by Master Coach Jenny Chammas, a top French women's leadership coach, to talk about how to tap into your confidence to achieve big goals in your life. After our conversation there will be plenty of time for Q&A, and at the end you'll also get to meet Cecilie Søndergaard Nielsen, an executive leadership coach for senior leaders and teams in high-pressure, high-growth environments. If you want to join, click here to grab your ticket: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/tea

How many times have you turned to Netflix, shopping, or a glass of wine to avoid feeling something uncomfortable? This is a pattern so many of us get stuck in. In this episode, I'm joined by my best friend, Master Certified Life Coach Rachel Hart, to explore why we do this and what actually helps us change it. This episode is the perfect starting point for understanding why we numb our emotions in the first place, and why learning to feel them instead of avoiding them is the key to creating lasting change in your life.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/466Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Learn more about Rachel Hart's work at rachelhart.com/

Do you ever look at your life on paper and think, I should feel proud of this, while inside you feel trapped, empty, or quietly panicked? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a question from a listener who hates her career choice and feels crushed by debt, regret, and the belief that she ruined her life by making the “wrong” decision.In the second question, I address what it means to feel numb or disconnected inside and why that emptiness can make thought work feel pointless or hopeless. This episode will help you see how your thoughts, not your past decisions or your emotional state, are creating the suffering, and how learning to question what you're making your circumstances and feelings mean is the key to reclaiming agency, clarity, and self-trust. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/465Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

There's a word many of us use to feel validated or justified that actually keeps us stuck in self-doubt. Whether it sounds like “I deserve this” or “maybe I don't deserve that,” this way of thinking quietly turns your life into a moral evaluation instead of a place where you get to make choices.In this episode, I explain why the idea of “deserving” is a mental trap and how it reinforces shame, second-guessing, and the belief that you need permission to want, enjoy, or change something. I share a different framework for relating to desire, hardship, and agency so you can stop debating your worth and start deciding what you want to experience instead.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/464Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

When you've spent most of your adult life believing your body has to look a certain way to be desirable, it can feel impossible to think anything different. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener who feels stuck believing her body must change for men to be attracted to her, even after years of thought work. I also respond to a question about struggling to identify emotions beyond anxiety and feeling empty or disconnected. I explain why strong emotions are often the easiest to access at first, what it actually means to describe a feeling physically, and how learning to stay with sensations without judgment builds emotional awareness over time.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/463Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Do you ever fall off a goal, get back on, and then fall off again in the exact same way? In this episode, I explain why setbacks aren't the problem and why the way you respond to them determines whether you actually make progress or quietly give up.You'll hear why simply vowing to “do better next time” doesn't work, how shame blocks analysis, and how the combination of self-compassion and strategy is what actually creates lasting change. If you want to stop repeating the same setbacks and start building momentum, this episode shows you how.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/462Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Do you ever feel like if you could just find the right outfit, you'd finally feel confident? Or like the only way to calm your anxiety in dating is to get reassurance from the person you're seeing?In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that show how easy it is to look outside yourself for emotional safety. You'll learn how to stop outsourcing your confidence to clothes or other people and start creating emotional security from the inside out. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/461 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

When the world feels financially chaotic, it's easy to slip into survival mode and feel like money is the only thing standing between you and safety. To explore why this happens and how to create a steadier sense of financial safety, I'm joined by New York Times bestselling author, Tori Dunlap.Together, we talk about the systemic barriers women face, the guilt around wanting more, and why avoiding your numbers only increases stress. You'll hear why financial education is one of the most powerful tools women have right now, and what changes when you start seeing yourself as a capable, autonomous financial agent.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/458Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Follow Tori on Instagram: instagram.com/torikdunlap/Her First 100K: herfirst100k.com

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Ever wonder if you are pushing toward a bold goal or just fighting reality and wearing yourself out? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener question about how to tell the difference between challenging limits and ignoring real constraints like your energy, time, and capacity. I also answer a question about jealousy in polyamory and what to do when you feel physically activated watching your partner show affection to someone else. I break down why the sensation in your body is created by your thoughts, not the situation itself, and why this is work you want to do before you are in the moment. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/459Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Do you feel like you are always falling short of some invisible standard, no matter how hard you try? That sense of inadequacy can creep into your work, your relationships, and how you relate to your body, and it can quietly run your life if you never stop to question it. In this episode, I explore why insecurity is not a personality flaw or something you need to fix, but a signal that you do not feel emotionally safe with yourself. I break down how socialization trains us to measure our worth against external rules and expectations that were never designed to serve us, and why that keeps us feeling perpetually not good enough. Hit play to learn how to stop outsourcing your sense of safety and value, and how to build emotional security from the inside. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/458 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Does doing thought work make you calmer or does it turn you into someone who feels less emotional and more rigid? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener's question about whether becoming more logical means losing access to their emotions. You'll also hear my answer to a question from a listener who feels constantly angry during long school drop-off drives and blames other drivers. I'll show you how owning your choices and managing your mind can radically change how you feel without changing a single circumstance. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/457Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

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Ever notice how when someone asks you for something, you immediately feel like you should say yes? Whether it's a colleague wanting to pick your brain over coffee or your kid's school asking you to bake for the school fundraiser, there's this instant weight that settles on your shoulders. In this episode, I'm naming something that hasn't been talked about before but affects almost everyone socialized as a woman: Instant Obligation Syndrome. I'll explain why this happens, how it's rooted in the socialization that teaches women their purpose is to serve others, and why you feel like you need a "good reason" to say no. Most importantly, I'll show you why this pattern is costing you far more than you realize. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/456 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life?Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

Why is it so easy to doubt ourselves, even when we've already proven we're capable? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener's question about feeling unqualified despite a successful career. She's struggling with thoughts that her associate's degree makes her less than others in her field, even though her work experience speaks for itself. The second question is about how to manage the flood of self-doubt that comes up when pursuing big goals. A coach is working on expanding her business, but finds herself stuck in a cycle of procrastination and negative thoughts. If you've ever felt like your thoughts were holding you back, this episode will help you move through them and take consistent action toward your goals. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/455Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life?Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

Ever feel like you're "too much" for others? Like when someone tells you you're too sensitive, too needy, or taking things too seriously?In this episode, I explore why the fear of being "too much" is so common among women and how it limits us from living fully. You'll discover why this vague but powerful fear gets weaponized against women and marginalized communities, and how to start rewiring your brain around it.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/454Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I'm hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You'll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

Do you ever find yourself paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake at work, no matter how small? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I'm answering two listener questions that dive into how we handle fear, stress, and the pressure to be perfect.The first question is from someone working in a high-stakes field, terrified of making mistakes and facing professional consequences. The second question is about dealing with stress-induced habits like overeating or drinking, and the guilt that follows. I show you why you can't solve the problem by just focusing on behavior... it's your thoughts and emotions that need attention.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/453Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I'm hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You'll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

I'm hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. I'll also be sharing about our signature coaching program, A Confident Life which closes just a few days after this training. This call is happening on January 5th at 12pm Eastern. You'll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Click here to sign up for your Dream Life Planning Call: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/dreamlifecalls

I'm hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. I'll also be sharing about our signature coaching program, A Confident Life which closes just a few days after this training. There are two date options you can choose from for this call:December 30th at 12pm EasternJanuary 5th at 12pm Eastern You'll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Click here to sign up for your Dream Life Planning Call: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/dreamlifecalls

Why is it so hard to make a decision? So many of us get stuck in a cycle of overthinking, second-guessing, or waiting for external validation before we can make a choice. So in this episode, I'm sharing why women often struggle with decisiveness and how our socialization shapes the way we approach decision-making and risk. You'll learn why embracing decisiveness is crucial for creating the life you want and get practical tips for using self-coaching to make confident, purposeful decisions that align with your goals. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/452 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life?Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

In this Coaching Hotline episode, I'm answering two listener questions that are all too familiar if you've ever gotten sucked into social media comparison or felt like you're constantly navigating emotional landmines with family. The first is about how to stop feeling awful about yourself every time you scroll through Instagram, comparing yourself to others or feeling like you're not doing enough. The second question is about dealing with a family member who's set boundaries that leave you feeling rejected. This episode will teach you how to separate your feelings from someone else's behavior, take full responsibility for your emotional life, and stop outsourcing your worth to others. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/451Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life?Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

Most of us think self-trust means knowing we'll always make the right decision and that our future self will behave perfectly. But in this episode, you'll hear why this impossible standard actually sets you up to never trust yourself - and how that erodes both your confidence and your ability to create what you want in life. I share examples from my own life and give you practical steps to start creating the kind of self-trust that allows you to handle whatever comes up - not because you'll do everything right, but because you know you can deal with whatever happens. Learn more about A Confident Life here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/aconfidentlife/ Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/450Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life?Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

When you're replaying a breakup, imagining a different version of yourself your partner might have loved more, or worrying that someone is “settling,” the problem isn't the relationship, it's the way your brain is using other people's opinions to try to regulate your self-worth. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions about rejection and attraction that illustrate how quickly your mind will outsource your value to someone else's thoughts. I break down why your brain becomes so invested in mental rehearsals, fantasies, and what-ifs, and how those patterns keep you from seeing your actual emotional life clearly. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/449Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life?Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

Confidence isn't a magic spell, and it's not something you're born with. Over the course of one year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence – self-knowledge, self-compassion, self-belief and self-actualization – to create any outcome you want in your life. From the incredibly concrete (get promoted to VP) to the most ineffable (love myself more), these four skills will get you where you want to go. Join me for A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Click here to grab your spot or learn more: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/life

When you imagine yourself in the future, what do you see? Are you meditating at 5 a.m. before diving into the picture-perfect morning routine? Are you living by the beach with a business that makes money while you sleep? Are you making holiday cookies with your kids without ever spilling flour all over the floor? In this episode, I'm breaking down a crucial distinction that most self-help exercises about connecting to your future self completely miss: the difference between your future self and your fantasy self. You'll learn specific ways to check whether you're connecting to a helpful future self who has actual advice about your growth, or if you're indulging in a fantasy that keeps you stuck. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/448Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Playing with your preschooler should be fun, right? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that dig into common parenting frustrations. The first tackles how to show up authentically when your preschooler's bossiness during play triggers irritation. The second explores managing all those thoughts about how children "should" behave. You'll learn practical ways to reframe your irritation, understand what being "authentic" really means in parenting, and get curious about those inherited beliefs about how kids should act. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/447Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Are you ready to achieve your most AUDACIOUS goals in 2026?Join me for a free, live Q&A all about my year-long confidence program, A Confident Life on December 12 at 12 p.m. ET. This is your chance to discover if this program is the right next step for you, and maybe even get coached yourself (if you put your hand up, that is!).Register for the Q&A Call for A Confident Life here!

There's one thing that determines whether you can create the life you want: Your confidence. When you believe you can't, you won't.When you believe you can, you will. Teaching you how to believe you can is what we do best. And it's what I will be doing in our brand new, year-long program, A Confident Life. Join me for a free, live Q&A to discover if A Confident Life is the next right step for you. To sign up for the Q&A call, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qa-call

If you have big goals for 2026 but no idea what thoughts your brain actually needs to think to create them, this episode will give you a much clearer map. I'm breaking down the kinds of thought patterns that keep you stuck in body insecurity, imposter syndrome, dating frustration, family tension, or money anxiety and how to use the four Confidence Compass skills to shift those patterns for good. No matter what your goals are, you will hear at least one thought you can borrow and apply immediately to the area of your life you want to evolve next. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/446Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Join me to for Create More Confidence: A Pop-Up Coaching Program on December 8-10, 2025 here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/confident