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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety. Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it. This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints. If you ever find yourself asking questions like… *Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal? *How can I stop overthinking everything? *Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different? *Will I ever feel comfortable in my body? *Am I a bad parent? *How can I ask for more money at work? *Can I stop people-pleasing? *How can my partner and I communicate better? … then you won’t want to miss an episode. Visit schoolofnewfeministthought.com to learn more about The School of New Feminist Thought and more.

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    The UnF*ck Your Brain to Create Feminist Confidence podcast has had a profound impact on my life. The teachings and insights shared in this podcast have become a part of my daily thoughts and actions, empowering me to show up more fully in my own life and work towards creating positive change in the world. I am incredibly grateful for the ways in which this podcast has encouraged me to reexamine how I think, feel, and behave.

    One of the best aspects of this podcast is the wide range of topics covered by host Kara Loewentheil. From money and organization to self-acceptance and parenting, Kara explores various areas of life that are relevant to women. Her approach, rooted in psychology, provides a deep understanding of how our minds work and offers practical steps for changing unhealthy thought patterns. The guests she brings on the show also contribute valuable perspectives and insights.

    The Parent Blame Boomerang episode stands out as particularly insightful for me as a mother. It made me realize how many generational traits, both positive and toxic, can be passed down through generations. This episode prompted me to reflect on my own experiences and consider how they may be influencing my parenting style. It was eye-opening and has encouraged me to be more mindful of the impact my words and actions have on my daughter.

    While there are many positives about this podcast, one potential drawback is that it may not appeal to everyone. The language used can be explicit at times, which may turn off some listeners who prefer a more conservative or family-friendly approach. However, for those who are open-minded and appreciate honest conversations about navigating life's challenges, this podcast can be a valuable resource.

    In conclusion, The UnF*ck Your Brain to Create Feminist Confidence podcast has been a transformative force in my life. Kara Loewentheil's teachings have provided me with practical tools for personal growth and self-empowerment. From challenging societal norms to exploring the complexities of our own minds, this podcast offers valuable insights and inspiration for women seeking to live more fully and authentically. I highly recommend it to anyone looking to make positive changes in their life.



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    396. Why You Obsess Over Some People's Opinions (But Not Others)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2025 20:05


    Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn't random—it's actually a clue to how our brains process feedback and, more importantly, what we really believe about ourselves. In this episode, I'm diving into why we get fixated on some people's opinions, even when they shouldn't matter as much, and why others' judgments just slide right by. The truth is, it's not about the other person's opinion—it's about the internal fears and doubts we haven't fully addressed. Listen in to learn why we think this way and how to break this pattern.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/396Mentioned in this episode:Free Training Coming Up!Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in my new, free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It's free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can't attend live.)How to Stop Caring

    395. Why Women Care Too Much About What Other People Think

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2025 18:13


    Have you ever had a man ask why you care so much about what others think? And then found yourself at a loss for how to explain why it matters so deeply? There's a reason women tend to fixate on others' opinions, and it's not simply a lack of confidence or insecurity. This week, I'm diving into why this preoccupation with others' opinions is so powerful for women—and why it's not silly or superficial to acknowledge its hold over us. You'll hear the first step in breaking free from this pattern (hint: it isn't to judge ourselves) and how to spot the impossible, contradictory standards women are taught to meet.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/395

    FREE TRAINING: How To Stop Caring What Other People Think

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2025 4:31


    Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you?The bad news is that making everyone happy and controlling what they think about you is literally impossible to accomplish and you will die trying! Sorry, but it's true. The good news is you can actually stop trying to manage what everyone else thinks about you at every moment … and feel better about yourself than you ever have before.That's what I'm here to teach you in my brand new workshop: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think.When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ETCost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It's free.)(A limited-time replay will be available if you can't attend live.)Click here to save your spot: unfuckyourbrain.com/caring/utm_source=podcast

    394. Hopelessness Is a Lie

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2025 15:00


    Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There's no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That's hopelessness, and it's one of the most dangerous emotional states because it paralyzes us and keeps us stuck. It's also one of the most deceptive thought patterns your brain can offer you.This week, I'm breaking down why hopelessness is fundamentally a lie. When your brain tells you nothing will ever change, it's making a claim it can't possibly back up. Tune in to learn how to combat these thoughts and start embracing the reality that change is always possible—even when it feels like it isn't.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/394

    393. How to Calm Down Right Now: A Conversation with Emily Decker

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2025 37:31


    Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren't just in your head—they're physical responses from your nervous system reacting to perceived threats. In today's episode, I'm joined by somatic-based personal trainer Emily Decker to discuss how our bodies process information and why so many of us get stuck in cycles of anxiety and doom-scrolling. We explore the fascinating connection between our nervous system and the constant barrage of alarming headlines, plus why our bodies can't distinguish between real physical danger and the emotional stress we get from media consumption.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/393Mentioned in this episode:Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I'm teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-trainingSafety Training

    FREE TRAINING: Safety Is an Inside Job

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2025 5:25


    Join me on May 14th for a new, free training: Safety Is an Inside Job. You'll learn: Why emotional safety is the key to breaking through blocks on the road to your goals, and how to create radical transformation in your life more quickly.Why your brain has a panic button in the first place, and why it can get louder despite everything else you've tried.An exercise you can do when your brain starts hitting the “DANGER!” alarm so you can get yourself back to clarity and confidence sooner. Join us by grabbing your spot here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training

    392. You Are Not the Reference Point (Greatest Hits)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 25:02


    Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don't see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we're activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often assume our perspective is the only “correct” one. This rigidity creates tension in relationships, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Sound familiar?In this episode, I'm revisiting a concept I call “You Are Not The Reference Point.” The key is realizing that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors aren't the standard by which everyone else should be measured. When we allow space for others' perspectives, we open the door to better communication, greater acceptance, and less judgment. It's a game-changer for any relationship!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/392

    NEW FREE WORKSHOP! Safety Is An Inside Job

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2025 5:25


    Are you stuck in thought patterns, habits, or emotional cycles you can't break, even though you know they're not serving you? I promise that it's possible to pursue your goals without your brain putting you in fight or flight as soon as you start taking serious steps. And that's what I'm teaching you how to do in my new, free training coming up: Safety Is An Inside Job.It's happening on May 14th @ 12 PM ET, and you can click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training

    A Birthday Surprise Just for You!

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2025 2:25


    For just three days—April 24th to 26th—you can join The Feminist Self-Help Society at 50% off your first month. Get access to self-coaching tools, courses on everything from relationships to productivity, live coaching, unlimited personal support, and a vibrant community of like-minded women. If you've been thinking about joining, now's the time to grab this birthday offer. Go to https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/birthday-sale

    391. My Top 3 Lessons From Being 43

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2025 19:04


    After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I've realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven't yet accomplished, while completely glossing over what we have. That's why it's crucial to actively look for evidence of growth and progress.In this episode, I'm sharing the three biggest insights I gained during my 43rd year: how to handle differences of opinion in relationships without being triggered, how to make decisions even when you don't have all the answers, and why no single achievement will change your life overnight. Tune in to hear how embracing the highs and lows of life can teach us everything we need to know about self-trust, decision-making, and staying grounded in uncertainty.For full show notes, transcript, and more information, go to: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/391Mentioned in this episode:

    This Only Happens Once a Year…

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2025 2:43


    Once a year, on my birthday, I give you the gift — a flash sale on your first month inside The Feminist Self-Help Society, my flagship coaching membership.The sale runs April 24–26. Get on the reminder list now at schoolofnewfeministthought.com/list-podcast or text your email to +1 (347) 997-1784 with the code word LIST so you don't miss it.

    390. Pretend You Have Amnesia - Instant Brain Reboot

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 14:16


    Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You're not broken—your brain is just doing what it's been trained to do: cling to old stories, even when they're holding you back. In this episode, I'm sharing one of my favorite coaching tools that can break that loop instantly. It's simple, powerful, and might just change how you see everything—from your relationships to your goals to how you think about yourself.Find the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/390Mentioned in this episode:

    389. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I'm Talking to You) (Greatest Hits)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2025 18:03


    What does it really mean to be extraordinary—and why does it feel so uncomfortable to even ask that question? In this week's episode, I'm unpacking the way society trains women and marginalized people to fear their own greatness. We're taught that wanting more—more impact, more growth, more self-expression—is selfish or arrogant. And in times like these, when the world feels like it's sliding backward, that message gets even louder: stay quiet, don't make waves, be content with “good enough.”But now is exactly when we need to lean into our power. Tune in to learn why being extraordinary has nothing to do with fame or visibility—and everything to do with how deeply you commit to your values, your purpose, and your own full expression.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/389Mentioned in this episode:Join us for Your Future Feminist Self! 800+ women have taken this workshop and changed their lives. Now it's back, for the only time in 2025. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/future-feminist-self-podcastFFS April 2025

    388. How to Plan When the Future Feels Uncertain

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2025 19:11


    Does the future feel totally impossible to plan for right now? As someone who loves planning and going after my goals, I've found it really hard to wrap my brain around long-term thinking when everything—politics, the economy, even basic social norms—feels like it's shifting under our feet. So in this episode, I'm sharing how I'm navigating this moment—and offering a mindset shift that can help you move forward with clarity, even when the future looks like a big ol' question mark.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/388Mentioned in this episode:FFS April 2025Join us for Your Future Feminist Self! 800+ women have taken this workshop and changed their lives. Now it's back, for the only time in 2025. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/future-feminist-self-podcastFFS April 2025

    Ready to Become the Woman You Truly Want to Be?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2025 4:58


    800+ women have taken this workshop and changed their lives. Now it's back, for the only time in 2025.Click here to join us at Your Future Feminist Self: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/future

    387. The Thought Ladder and Thinking v. Believing (Greatest Hits)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2025 20:17


    Today, I'm revisiting one of the most essential tools in thought work: the thought ladder. If you've ever tried to change your results by slapping on a shiny new thought that doesn't quite feel believable, you already know it doesn't work that way. In this episode, I'm breaking down why belief—not just thought—is what really drives change, and how to climb the ladder in a way your brain can actually follow. This work takes patience and persistence, but the payoff is huge.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/387

    386. Defying Ageist Stereotypes: A Conversation with Susan Hyatt

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2025 30:18


    Ever felt the urge to shake things up with a bold, unexpected move? Women are taught that midlife is when we're supposed to fade into the background, but what if it's actually the perfect time to dream bigger, take more risks, and redefine what's possible for ourselves?This week, Master Certified Life Coach Susan Hyatt is back to talk about making courageous changes—at any age. She's sharing her own wild decision to sail around the world (with six pets, no less!) and calling out the limiting beliefs that keep women from going after their biggest dreams. Whether you're looking to switch careers, take up a new hobby, or embark on an adventure, this episode is your sign to go for it!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/386

    385. How to Cope When You Don't Feel Ok

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2025 16:26


    Are you struggling to focus with everything happening in the world right now? You're not alone. When life feels chaotic and uncertain, it's natural for your brain to spiral. But staying stuck in that disoriented, doom-scrolling state isn't actually helping you feel safer—it's just keeping you trapped in stress and anxiety.In this episode, I break down why your brain wants to keep obsessively checking the news and why that strategy never really helps. Plus, I'll share one powerful mindset shift that can help you navigate this unsettling time. Tune in to learn how to make this shift and find a little more peace—no matter what's happening around you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/385

    384. The Logical Case for Positive Thinking with Oliver Burkeman

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2025 35:46


    Do you constantly feel like you need to control everything in your life? Like if you could just be more organized, more productive, more perfect, then you'd finally feel at peace? What if the real secret to feeling more fulfilled was actually letting go of that control? This week, I'm joined by Oliver Burkeman, author of 4,000 Weeks, to talk about why embracing our limits—not fighting them—is the key to a more meaningful life. Oliver and I dive into our culture's obsession with productivity and perfection, why it actually makes us more anxious, and how to stop chasing an impossible standard and start spending your precious time in a way that actually matters. If you're ready to stop feeling like life is a never-ending to-do list, this episode is for you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/384

    383. Self-Help When the World is Burning (Greatest Hits)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2025 28:22


    Lately it has felt like the world is on fire—war, climate crises, political chaos… it's a lot for our brains to handle. And yet, instead of stepping back, we find ourselves doom-scrolling, consuming bad news like it's our job, and wondering why we feel so anxious and exhausted.Is obsessively staying informed actually helping you—or just keeping you stuck? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break down how to rewire your brain's alarm system, recognize when “being informed” is just people-pleasing in disguise, and refocus on your actual sphere of influence—so you can take meaningful action without burning yourself out.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/383

    382. How to Be Capable in Times of Crisis

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 19:50


    Are you feeling overwhelmed or even paralyzed by everything happening in the world right now? Do you catch yourself looking to others for answers—waiting for someone to tell you what to do or how to respond?Women are taught from birth that we're too emotional, too irrational, too incapable of figuring things out on our own—especially when things get tough. But that conditioning is total BS, and it's costing us our agency, autonomy, and ability to take action. In this short but powerful episode, I'm breaking down why it's crucial to trust yourself, how to develop self-efficacy even when you're feeling overwhelmed, and why waiting for permission or direction is the biggest thing holding you back.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/382

    NEW 1-DAY WORKSHOP: How to Coach Yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2025 4:38


    Join me for a scientifically-validated workshop for taking control of your mind, your emotions, and your life. Grab your spot here: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachyourself

    381. Be Your Own Partner: A Conversation About Singleness and Mindset with Meghan Keane

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2025 40:46


    Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting and start being your own best partner—whether you're single, coupled up, or somewhere in between? This week, I'm joined by Meghan Keane, founder of NPR's Life Kit and author of Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner, to break down the shame and stigma around singleness and how it holds so many women back from fully living their lives. We talk about how to identify your values, manage your thoughts and emotions, and create meaningful, nourishing connections—with yourself and others.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/381

    380. You Don't Need to Be The Best - How to Deal with Envy, Jealousy, and Competitiveness

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2025 17:18


    Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their success makes you feel like you're falling behind. If so, you're not alone—this is what happens when we've been trained to believe there's only room for one of us at the top.In this episode, I'm digging into the historical and societal roots of this mindset and sharing thought-hacks to help you break free. You'll learn how to loosen perfectionism's grip, stop seeing success as a zero-sum game, and shift into a mindset of true abundance—where you can actually celebrate others and yourself at the same time.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/380

    379. Radical Self-Love & Self-Care (Greatest Hits)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2025 24:09


    As women, we've been conditioned to put ourselves last, and if you hold any marginalized identities, the world piles on even more ways to tell you you're not enough. But the tools I'm re-sharing this week, radical self-love and exquisite self-care, are your antidote—your way to reject the oppressive systems that want to keep you small and doubting your worth.I'm breaking down what radical self-love and exquisite self-care actually mean, why they're deeply political acts, and how they expose the hidden, harmful beliefs you've been carrying. We'll tackle the thought patterns standing between you and the self-love you deserve—and I'll show you how to start practicing it in a way that feels radical and real.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/379

    378. The Biggest Time Management Problem & How to Solve It

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2025 24:09


    Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we're trained to take on responsibility for everything—other people's feelings, outcomes we can't control, and tasks that were never ours to begin with. The result? Exhaustion, overwhelm, and decisions that don't serve us.In this episode, I'm sharing how over-responsibility snuck into my own plans for 2025 and what I did to get back on track. I'll walk you through the self-coaching process I used to uncover and shift the sneaky thought patterns holding me back—like feeling responsible for other people's feelings or thinking I don't deserve to fully use my privileges. If you're ready to ditch the overwork cycle and start reclaiming your time, this episode is for you!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/378

    378. The Biggest Time Management Problem & How to Solve It

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2025 24:43


    Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we're trained to take on responsibility for everything—other people's feelings, outcomes we can't control, and tasks that were never ours to begin with. The result? Exhaustion, overwhelm, and decisions that don't serve us.In this episode, I'm sharing how over-responsibility snuck into my own plans for 2025 and what I did to get back on track. I'll walk you through the self-coaching process I used to uncover and shift the sneaky thought patterns holding me back—like feeling responsible for other people's feelings or thinking I don't deserve to fully use my privileges. If you're ready to ditch the overwork cycle and start reclaiming your time, this episode is for you!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/378

    377. Over-Responsibility: The Spin (Greatest Hits)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2025 19:06


    Do you feel like you're carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Like you're responsible for everyone and everything around you? Society has trained women to believe our worth depends on managing everyone else's thoughts, feelings, and happiness. But this over-responsibility? It's a dream stealer, an energy drainer, and a massive life suck.In this Greatest Hits episode, I'm diving into how over-responsibility shows up in our lives and why it keeps us stuck. From obsessing over appearances to taking on outcomes we can't control, this constant brain spin has us chasing impossible standards instead of living the lives we want. Tune in to uncover how over-responsibility is holding you back—and learn what it takes to finally let it go and reclaim your energy for your dreams.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/377

    FREE TRAINING: The Productivity Paradox

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2025 4:11


    Join us for the free Productivity Paradox training by signing up here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/productivity

    376. Exactly How to Negotiate As A Woman, with Negotiation Expert Kathryn Valentine

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2025 31:50


    Ever felt anxious about negotiating a raise, bonus, or promotion? Worried about being labeled “difficult” or facing backlash for advocating for yourself? You're not alone—research shows that women face unique challenges in workplace negotiations, thanks to deeply ingrained gender dynamics.This week, I'm joined by Kathryn Valentine, a negotiation expert who turned her own experience of facing backlash into a career teaching women how to advocate effectively. Tune in to hear Kathryn break down the roots of the gender negotiation gap and share practical strategies to help you negotiate with confidence—and get what you deserve—without fearing the fallout.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/376

    375. How to Improve Instead of Give Up (+ Expiring Offer Jan 3!)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2025 14:40


    The two biggest obstacles to creating lasting change? Getting started and not quitting when things go off the rails. We all know we should just try again if we fail, but let's be honest—that's a lot easier said than done when you don't understand what's really going on in your brain.Tune in this week to learn what happens in your brain when you fail and why failure is a non-negotiable part of the growth process. I'll show you how to take the sting out of shame, guilt, and anxiety so you can use every misstep as a stepping stone to the results you want.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/375

    374. Budgeting, Diet Culture & Spending Well - A Conversation with the Frugal Friends Podcast

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2024 34:47


    Do you ever try to shop your way out of a bad feeling, only to regret it later? What's really driving those impulse purchases, and how is the way society talks about women's spending warping your relationship with money? (Hint: it's eerily similar to how diet culture messes with your relationship with food.)This week, I'm joined by Jen Smith and Jill Sirianni, experts in helping people feel good about their finances no matter their income. They're sharing insights from their upcoming book, Buy What You Love Without Going Broke, which is all about spending in a way that actually aligns with your values—and ditching the guilt and shame around money decisions. You'll learn how to spend with confidence and make decisions that feel as good later as they do in the moment.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/374

    373. Most Habit Change Advice is Wrong - Inconsistency Is the Key to Success

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2024 22:26


    Do you feel like new habits just don't stick? Like no matter how hard you try, you can't seem to get it “right” from the start? Here's the thing: you've probably been taught that perfect consistency is the only way to make habits work—but that's total BS. What if the real key is actually embracing inconsistency?In this episode, I'm flipping the script on conventional habit advice. I'll show you why perfectionism is sabotaging your progress and how letting go of the need to get it “perfect” can actually help you build habits that stick. Tune in to learn practical strategies for embracing imperfection, ditching all-or-nothing thinking, and making real, sustainable progress—no matter how messy it looks along the way.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/373

    372. Patriarchy-Proof Your Resolutions (Greatest Hits)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2024 22:11


    Tired of setting New Year's resolutions that fizzle out by February? The problem isn't you—it's the patriarchy. In this episode, I teach you how to “patriarchy-proof” your resolutions so they reflect your values, not the ones you've been trained to prioritize.We'll dig into how social conditioning shapes your goals without you even realizing it—and why breaking free from those patterns is the key to creating lasting change. If you're stuck repeating the same resolutions year after year, this is the shift you need.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/372

    New Mini-Course: How to Make and KEEP Your Resolutions

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2024 9:38


    Join us in The Feminist Self-Help Society for access to this brand new mini-course complete with new audio lessons and a workbook all about making and keeping your resolutions. And, make sure you sign up before Dec 31 because the price will be increasing! Click here to learn more and to join us: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/resolutions/

    371. Stop Fetishizing Systemic Change or Your Brain in Denmark

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2024 17:13


    Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about how much better your life would be if you lived in a country with more progressive policies? Universal healthcare, affordable childcare, endless vacation days—it sounds like paradise, right? I know I've been there. But is the grass really greener, or is this just another sneaky way our brains trick us into thinking the solution is somewhere “out there”? In this episode, I'll show you why fantasizing about a “better” life elsewhere might actually be holding you back—and how you can start rewiring your brain to create change wherever you are, no passport required.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/371

    370. How to Handle Disagreement Better

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2024 18:19


    Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement that feels like it's going nowhere, just looping around the same points? Maybe it's because deep down, you believe the only way to "resolve" it is if the other person totally agrees with you—or you have to surrender and agree with them. Sound familiar?Tune in as I break down a game-changing reframe for navigating conflict. You'll get practical tools for spotting your own thought patterns, speaking your truth without needing validation, and finding peace—yes, even if the other person still doesn't see it your way. Because here's the truth: resolution doesn't mean agreement, and it's time we all start living like it.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/370

    SAVE YOUR SEAT: Feminist Future Self Workshop

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2024 3:10


    Join me for this LIVE all-day workshop, Feminist Future Self, here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/future

    369. Marriage & Money: A Conversation with Megan Gorman

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2024 23:35


    Who you choose to tie the knot with is one of the biggest financial decisions you'll ever make. Even though marriage has evolved a lot over time, it is still an economic institution that women regularly lose their financial independence to. So, whether you're single or partnered, how can you prevent this from happening? To answer this question, I'm joined by tax attorney, wealth expert, and author of her new book, "All the Presidents' Money", Megan Gorman. Megan shares how to have those important money conversations with your partner early on and her advice for creating a monthly money ritual with your significant other to stay on the same page. She also explains why women often give away our financial power in relationships - and how we can take it back.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/369

    Bonus: Election Mindset Shifts You Can Make Right Now

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2024 28:22


    Are you catastrophizing about current events and feeling paralyzed by fear and uncertainty? It's easy to get caught up in the echo chamber of social media and the news, leaving you feeling disempowered and overwhelmed. But what if you could learn to hold belief in the world you want to see, even when the evidence isn't there yet?In this bonus episode, I explore some of the common thought errors that arise during challenging times. From the idea that we have to be freaking out to prove we care, to the belief that self-coaching isn't relevant to larger societal issues, these thought patterns can keep you stuck and unable to take meaningful action. I offer shifts that I have seen to be helpful for both myself and my students in cultivating the mental fortitude we need to keep showing up for the world we believe in.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/election-mindset-shifts/

    368. How to Stop Avoiding Your Problems

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2024 23:36


    Have you ever avoided dealing with a problem, hoping it would just go away on its own? I know I have -- and I have a WILD story to share with you about what happens when we do this.Join me this week to understand why problem avoidance is so tempting but so counterproductive. You'll learn how the consequences of problem avoidance can play out in your life, and most importantly, practical strategies for facing your problems with courage and resilience.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/368

    BRAIN FRIDAY SALE: Get the 'How to Coach Yourself: The Feminist Mindset Fix' Mini-Course!

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2024 2:44


    To get this mini-course before time runs out, click here: unfuckyourbrain.com/brainfriday

    Bonus: How to Calm Your Brain Right Now

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2024 32:34


    Given the events in the United States this week, many of us have brains that are running wild. You might be feeling scared, angry, disappointed, and a whole slew of other emotions. You're not alone-- and this bonus episode is here to help. Join me to hear why catastrophizing isn't useful or accurate (even if it seems like everyone else is doing it), my own experience of anxiety and fear the last time we had the same results in 2016, and my top 5 tips for what you can do right now to keep yourself grounded and your head clear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/bonus-calm-brain/

    367. Leadership & Self Compassion: An Interview with Jerry Colonna

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2024 40:29


    Do you ever feel like the more successful you become ... the worse you feel? Jerry Colonna, a venture-capital-guy-turned-Buddhist-executive-coach, found himself in that exact position - until he decided to do the hard work of confronting himself.In this episode, we discuss how practicing radical self-inquiry with compassion is essential for anyone who wants to lead - whether they're leading a company, a family, or just their own life. You'll learn why resolving conflicts mindfully is a critical skill -- as is embracing the messiness of being human.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/367

    366. The Costs and Benefits of Standing Out: A Conversation with Deesha Dyer

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2024 24:45


    How often do you feel like you're concealing the “real” you? Do you struggle with being your authentic self, especially in challenging environments? “Authenticity” has become a very popular buzzword -- but what does it really mean? This week, I'm joined by Deesha Dyer, former White House Social Secretary and author of the book, "Undiplomatic: How My Attitude Created the Best Kind of Trouble". Deesha shares her incredible journey from going to community college at 29-years-old to working up the ranks in the Obama White House, and the challenges she faced along the way in staying true to herself. We discuss how to navigate being your authentic self in difficult environments - especially if you hold one or more marginalized identities - and the true costs and benefits of standing out.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/366

    Free Guide for Therapists: Closing the “Brain Gap” In Women's Therapy

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2024 4:13


    Grab this totally free guide, Closing the “Brain Gap” In Women's Therapy: Three Ways to Deepen Rapport, Get Better Results, and Blow Your Clients' Minds, here: https://feministtherapy.com/

    365. When to Choose Therapy v. Coaching

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2024 27:54


    Are you having a tough time figuring out whether therapy or coaching is right for you? Both have their own benefits, but it can be overwhelming to figure out which one is the right fit. And let's be real - people are always trying to compare them and say one is better than the other (trust me, I've got thoughts on this). There's a lot to unpack here, and I'm diving into it all in this episode!This week, I break down the debate of therapy versus coaching and how these practices can actually work together to support your personal growth journey. I guide you through some essential questions to consider when deciding between therapy, coaching, or a mix of both. Plus, I reveal the one crucial factor to keep in mind when making your decision. So grab your headphones and let's dive in!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here:

    Seth Godin: How to Be Strategic In Your Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2024 35:54


    I'm sure there are plenty of you who saw the word "strategy" in this episode's title and are thinking, “I'm not a strategic thinker, so this won't apply to me.” And I don't blame you -- social conditioning teaches women that we're either workhorses, nice, or lucky, and that being strategic is beyond our capabilities. Well, this bonus conversation is here to challenge that conditoning.You've probably heard of Seth Godin - the badass entrepreneur, marketing genius, and bestselling author. He joins me for this bonus episode to explore how you can use strategy to overcome the indoctrination systems that keep us oppressed. You'll learn why you ARE a strategic thinker, and you'll see all the areas of your life where you could choose to think more strategically with a long-term perspective, instead of looking for short-term comfort.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/seth-godin-bonus

    364. The Efficiency Trap - And What to Aim For Instead

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2024 19:26


    Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I've got to get my shit together?" -- even if your life is... pretty together, given the circumstances? Even if you're the most productive woman on the planet, that nagging thought can still creep up—and it's actually not about how organized or efficient you are. It's just a sign you've fallen into what I call the Efficiency Trap.This week, we uncover the real reasons behind the Efficiency Trap and how to redefine productivity in a way that aligns with your goals, priorities, and values. Let's break free from the endless to-do lists and find a path to productivity that truly matters.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/364

    Free Training: The Feminist Productivity Paradox

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2024 5:11


    Grab your spot in this new free training, The Feminist Productivity Paradox, by clicking here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/productivity

    363. Raising Feminist Kids (and Raising Yourself!): A Conversation with Jo-Ann Finkelstein

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2024 28:07


    How do the messages you received as a child impact the way you parent your own kids? What if we could raise the next generation to be more empowered, resilient, and free from limiting gender stereotypes? To explore these questions, I'm joined by clinical psychologist and author of the new book, Sexism & Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World, Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD.As an expert in feminist parenting, Dr. Finkelstein is here to illuminate how even the most well-intentioned and progressive of us unconsciously transmit harmful messages. Jo-Ann and I explore the importance of both validating girls' experiences, and opening parents' eyes to the ways we unintentionally shut down our daughters. Whether you're a parent or not, you do not want to miss this conversation!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/363

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