Podcast appearances and mentions of Alana Massey

It's the movie that launched Sofia Coppola's directing career and awakened Young Maggie to the beauty of Kirsten Dunst's armpits: the dreamy, detailed, and devastating THE VIRGIN SUICIDES (1999). We wrestle with the male narration, Marin details falling out of love with the novel upon which the film is based (and appreciating the film more as a result), and we talk about the knottiest of conundrums: how to protect adolescent girls from the world without totally depriving them of it.   Email your own musings and questions to tellmeimsorry@gmail.com Follow us: The podcast's Instagram: @tellmeimsorry Maggie's Instagram: @_saint_margaret_ Secondary texts referenced: Girl, Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen “No” by Anne Boyer (from A Handbook of Disappointed Fate) “Our Sisters Shall Inherit the Sky” by Alana Massey (from All the Lives I Want: Essays About My Best Friends Who Happen to Be Famous Strangers)

This podcast episode is a companion to “Issue #58: No More Bad Dinner Parties.”Coming together as a community has the potential to be the most important thing we do—gatherings are supposed to make us feel something, but the uninspiring dinner party I attended is far from an exceptional anecdote. It's why Priya Parker starts off her book The Art of Gathering with the observation, “The way we gather matters. And yet most of us spend very little time thinking about the actual ways in which we gather.”Last week, I spoke to Priya about how to do just that. We chatted about utilizing “generous authority,” how creating a guest list can be a cleansing ritual, and the importance of a purpose and “moment of focus.” I love what she shared, near the end, when I asked her about hosting my first dinner party in my studio apartment. You can listen to our full conversation here:Two quick episode notes:* The article Priya quotes in her book is “Chill is a Garbage Virtue” by Alana Massey.* The memory expert Priya references is Ed Cooke.Thanks for listening! You can access the original issue here. Get full access to morning person at www.morningpersonnewsletter.com/subscribe

Tiffanie Woods is a writer & strategist who leverages her background in engineering to apply systems thinking to operations & her writing/pitching processes. Tiffanie lists off how she pitches & what she includes, for easy reference these will be listed on my Medium & are found at 00:10:05 in to the podcast & again at 00:30:56. Follow Tiffanie & keep your eyes peeled for her re-launch of her podcast https://twitter.com/tiffromthe6/ Follow Eva Recinos (https://twitter.com/eva_recinos) and Alana Massey (https://twitter.com/AlanaMassey) and look in to the work they do to support writers. Support this podcast by becoming a monthly contributor at anchor.fm/btspodcast. Join Acorns (Acorns referral link: acorns.com/invite/L33KZP), sing up for HotelTonight using LCOOK61, and/or Soothe for in-home massages with LZLRZ. Use my promo code for Instacart for $5 off your first delivery: LCOOK5130 Follow #BTSPodcast on social Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/btsthepodcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/btsthepodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/btsthepodcast/ Join the Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1720173561544455 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/btspodcast/support

Laura, 30 ans, est la créatrice d’un compte Instagram très suivi qui comme son nom l’indique met en image ses aventures Tinder. C’est à croire que le phénomène des rencontres en ligne fait naître des vocations artistiques et devient une thématique à part entière. Alors pourquoi toujours ce besoin de dessiner, d’écrire, de peindre, d’analyser ces rencards qu’ils aient été un cuisant échec ou un succès notoire ? Il y a certainement pour nous, génération Y, qui avons grandi analogue et vécu le tournant digital, le sentiment d’avoir pleinement conscience de cette transformation. La notion du temps et et de l’espace a été bouleversée et comme m’a dit Laura très justement “J’aime bien prendre le temps, mais on n’a pas le temps. On a assez peu droit à l’erreur et plutôt que de dissiper un malentendu, on passe vite au prochain. Mais ça permet aussi d’évoluer vite.” Alors, à nouveau, qui rencontre-t-on vraiment lorsqu’on se connecte aux applis de rencontre ? Laura ? Suivez-là sur @mesaventures_tinder Bibliographie : King-Kong Theorie, Virginie Despentes, Grasset, 2006 Against Chill, Alana Massey, Medium, April 1 2015 https://medium.com/matter/against-chill-930dfb60a577 Emma, Le pouvoir de l'amour https://emmaclit.com/2020/03/22/le-pouvoir-de-lamour/

A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and cultural critic Alana Massey on the misguided Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA.) A woman's best friend has a husband who calls her a "horrible wife" and "slut" under his breath. The caller isn't quite ready to dump this so-called friend and her nasty husband because their social circles are so intertwined. Still. Being called a slut, by your friend's husband? Under his breath??! 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale

A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and cultural critic Alana Massey on the misguided Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA.) A woman's best friend has a husband who calls her a "horrible wife" and "slut" under his breath. The caller isn't quite ready to dump this so-called friend and her nasty husband because their social circles are so intertwined. Still. Being called a slut, by your friend's husband? Under his breath??! 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale

Alana Massey, will explain why a proposed bill to stop sex trafficking is short sighted and counter productive for those in danger. And Heather “Digby” Parton from Salon will be here to catch us up on some of the big stories we may have missed over the holiday and what stories will be making headlines in 2018.

Happy International Women's Day! It's been a tad too long since the last episode or at least later than expected. I give an update on February's lull in excitement and also talk to Acid on Alana Massey's 2015 article on Against Chill.I am also lucky to chat with Acid's husband, Toby on the opposing schools of thought on whether to take the passive or active approach when attracted to someone.

We've answered the same question a lot lately: How do single men navigate the lifestyle? We've rightfully mentioned the mountain most single men must climb to be successful, In discussing how to raise everyone's game we focused on the fact that many single cis straight men ruin it for everyone as they're everywhere and generally not well behaved. In describing them we used a phrase coined by Madeleine Holden to describe it: "Dick is Abundant & Low Value". Alana Massey expanded on that thought and wrote The Dickonomics of Tinder, a comprehensive treatise on the low expectations game, Bex Caputo joins Dirty Lola, Mike Joseph, Mister Pent, and Dylan Thomas to discuss how the phrase came into use, why it's useful, and the implications of its use. While we spoke, we mentioned Billy Procida by reputation. Dylan decided to mention him by name and reference both his blog, "You're Not An Ally, You're An Asshole" and a Storify of people who've been negatively affected by interactions.     You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!   Intro Music: Bishu - Bomb (feat. LeyeT) Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix) Mister Pent's Music: Tokyo Machine - BUBBLES Outro Music: Delta Heavy x Dirty Audio - Stay (feat. Holly)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!     Dylan Thomas Mike Joseph Dirty Lola

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Epigraph  The Drunk Booksellers get stoned on this 4/20 themed episode with Paul Constant of the Seattle Review of Books. Listen on iTunes, Stitcher, our website, or subscribe using your podcatcher of choice. This episode is sponsored by Books & Whatnot, the newsletter dedicated to books, bookselling, and bookish folk; check out their newsletter archive here. Follow Books & Whatnot on Twitter at @booksandwhatnot. If you want to get our show notes delivered directly to your inbox—with all the books mentioned on the podcast and links back to the bookstore we’re interviewing PLUS GIFs—sign up for our email newsletter. Introduction In which we make pot jokes and get excited about books We're switching up our intoxicant of choice this episode and getting stoned rather than drunk (mostly). Paul's rocking Mr. Moxey's Mints (of the peppermint/sativa variety). Emma's smoking CBD (not to be confused with William Steig's children's picture book, CDB!). Kim stops talking while stoned—which would make for a really awkward podcast episode—so she's drinking the hoppiest IPA she could find instead. Everyone's a little too high to explain the varieties of weed particularly well, so you should just read David Schmader's Weed: The User's Guide: A 21st Century Handbook for Enjoying Marijuana. Paul's Reading: Up South by Robert Lashley The Nameless City by Faith Erin Hicks A collection of books from Mount Analogue Press Manners by Ted Powers Final Rose by Halie Theoharides (a comic book tone poem about love and loss made up screenshots from The Bachelor) Reading Through It book club pick: What We Do Now: Standing Up for Your Values in Trump's America, edited by Dennis Johnson Emma's Reading: First Position by Melissa Brayden (thanks to a recommendation from our episode with The Ripped Bodice) Giant Days 4 by John Allison, Max Sarin, Lissa Treiman, Liz Fleming, and Whitney Cogar All the Lives I Want: Essays about My Best Friends Who Happen to Be Famous Strangers by Alana Massey (thanks to a recommendation from our episode with Amy Stephenson) Kim's Reading: We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Hope in the Dark by Rebecca Solnit On Tyranny: Twenty Lessons from the Twentieth Century by Timothy Snyder The Aisles Have Eyes: How Retailers Track Your Shopping, Strip Your Privacy, and Define Your Power by Joseph Turow  Forthcoming Titles We're Excited For: You Don’t Have to Say You Love Me by Sherman Alexie (out June 13) Love and Trouble: a Midlife Reckoning by Claire Dederer (out May 9) also mentioned Poser: My Life in Twenty-Three Yoga Poses Theft by Finding: Diaries (1977-2002) by David Sedaris (out May 30) Hunger: a Memoir of (My) Body by Roxane Gay (out June 13) Priestdaddy by Patricia Lockwood (out May 2) Borne by Jeff VanderMeer (out April 25) Book of Joan by Lidia Yuknavitch (out April 18) Woman No. 17 by Edan Lepucki (out May 9) Isadora by Amelia Gray (out May 23) Dreaming the Beatles: the Love Story of One Band and the Whole World by Rob Sheffield (out April 25) Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J Sollee (out June 13) Modern Tarot: Connecting with Your Higher Self Through the Wisdom of the Cards by Michelle Tea (out June 13) The Perfect Mix: Everything I Know about Leadership I Learned as a Bartender by Helen Rothberg (out June 20) Chapter I [18:50] In which we learn what The Seattle Review of Books is, talk about book reviews as a meta art form, and get advice on promoting diversity and being a safe, welcoming place for people who aren't white bros The Seattle Review of Books is a book news, review, and interviews site. This isn't consumer reports, with a thumbs up or down on each title; each review aims to have a conversation with the book. It's a site that aims to look like your bookshelf, without genre classification. Emma & Kim don't quite understand Paul's assertion that people don't organize their bookshelves, but we roll with it. SRB makes all their money through a single sponsor (which changes each week). If you're interested in their sponsorship program, you can learn more here. Paul wants to promote young, new writers and help them build up their clip file. So you should probably pitch him with your brilliant, bookish ideas. Email submissions@seattlereviewofbooks or fill in the contact form on their about page. Emma particularly loves the Help Desk by Cienna Madrid. Ask Cienna an awkward book-related question at advice@seattlereviewofbooks.com. Being a couple of white guys, Paul and his co-founder Martin McClellan are extremely concerned with diverse representation. You can learn more about how SRB encourages diversity in both the books they review and the reviewers they publish on their about page (or by listening to this episode...). But you should know right off the bat, they are not here to promote the new Franzen novel and they will not pander to bros.  Chapter II [33:10] In which we talk about life in the US post-election, say something negative about a book, and discuss Paul's past (and current) life as a bookseller Reading Through It is a post-election book club hosted by Seattle Review of Books, the Seattle Weekly, and Third Place Books Seward Park. They meet the first Wednesday of every month. On our post-election world, Paul Constant says: "This is what books were made for. Books are engines of empathy... the only way to do a deep-dive into an issue. It's our stored knowledge... This is the moment for books." The next Reading Through It book group pick is The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt. They'll be meeting Wednesday May 3rd at Third Place Books Seward Park. Read Paul's article on his time at Borders: Books Without Borders: My Life at the World's Dumbest Bookstore Chain Though he's not technically a bookseller anymore, Paul is still "on team books." Keep an eye out for our "I'm On Team Books" t-shirts, which may or may not be a thing we sell one day. Chapter III [43:20] In which Paul is better at explaining our questions than stoned Emma is at asking them, Emma and Kim give Paul major side-eye due to his bookseller confession, and Emma continues to push Uprooted by Naomi Novik Desert Island Pick (what would you read that you never had the time to read before): The Years of Lyndon Johnson by Robert Caro (beginning with The Path to Power) We couldn't find a video of the following clip of Caro on the Colbert Report, so we'll just leave you this series of gifs to explain why you, too, should consider bringing an epic five-volume biography of Lyndon Johnson as your desert beach read: You're welcome. Now, back to your regularly scheduled show notes.  Station Eleven Picks (the books to preserve for society) The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne (everything you need to know about living in a society) Great Expectations by Charles Dickens (everything you need to know about life and how it doesn’t always work out the way you want, but you should live it anyway) Read Paul's essay about The Scarlet Letter, originally written for Scarecrow Video. Wild Pick (traveling is about observing things... soaking everything in) We Tell Ourselves Stories In Order to Live by Joan Didion ("because she is the greatest observer on the planet and I would want to be like her when I was traveling") Bookseller Confession  Once again, we have a guest who hasn't read Harry Potter. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE? Paul also hasn't read Lord of the Rings and Kim proceeds to side-eye him from across the city. (In case you were wondering, the title of the direct link to this gif is "wtf-i-cant-even-you-are-stupid." Just sayin'.) Emma, naturally, tries to convert Paul to fantasy w/ an Uprooted recommendation because "nobody doesn't like it." Paul commits to reading it in order to prove her wrong. Go-To Handsell Fup by Jim Dodge Paul saved the book from going out of print and—arguably more importantly—he handsold a copy to Allison Hannigan. Impossible Handsell  Paradise by AL Kennedy (and everything by AL Kennedy) Book for Booksellers Saving Capitalism by Robert Reich Favorite Bookstores Elliott Bay Ada’s Technical Books Third Place Ravenna Favorite Literary Media Not to brag, but, we’re the only podcast Paul listens to. The Rumpus Lit Hub Book Forum Electric Literature Shelf Awareness Epilogue In which we tell you where to find us on the Internets You can find Paul on: Twitter Seattle Review of Books is also on Twitter Seattlereviewofbooks.com You can find us on: Twitter at @drunkbookseller Litsy at @drunkbooksellers Facebook Instagram Email Newsletter Website Emma tweets @thebibliot and writes bookish things for Book Riot. Kim tweets occasionally from @finaleofseem, but don’t expect too much 'cause she saves all of the interesting (ie. book-related) shizzle for Drunk Booksellers. Subscribe and rate us on iTunes!  

Writer Alana Massey joins merritt to talk flying cars, Disney mutants, and Sylvia Plath.

Alana is a writer covering identity, culture, virtue and vice for basically every outlet there is, save The New Yorker which she gets into in this interview. This week on the show she discusses what it’s like to write with an audience in mind, One Direction, and her experience in AA. Alana has a new book out called All The Lives I Want, a collection of essays reimagining the lives and legacies of famous women. You can pick it up wherever books are sold. This episode brought to you by My Lit Box (www.mylitbox.com), a subscription book service that will deliver a book written by an author of color to your inbox once a month. Get 10% off your first box using code 'WWDW' upon checkout.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Epigraph On this episode we becomes best friends with Amy Stephenson, Events Director at Booksmith in San Francisco and co-creator/host of Shipwreck, a competitive literary erotic fan fiction live show. This episode is sponsored by Books & Whatnot, the newsletter dedicated to books, bookselling, and bookish folk. We were too excited about hosting Books on the Nightstand to mention Books & Whatnot on air, but you should definitely check out the newsletter archive here. Follow Books & Whatnot on Twitter at @booksandwhatnot. Introduction In Which We Discuss Sad Sociology Books and Amy’s Twitter Life Coach, and Furiously Take Notes On the Books We’re Recommending Each Other (but oh wait look, show notes!) We’re drinking Manhattans—Amy’s go-to, “I’m fancy on a Friday night” drink—and making jokes about robotripping. We’re Reading: Amy is reading Cloud Atlas by David Mitchell (and Kim & Emma are SO excited) and Fever Dream by Samanta Schweblin. Kim is reading Necessary Trouble by Sarah Jaffe, The Undoing Project by Michael Lewis, and The Revenge of Analog by David Sax—which is her favorite book of 2016. Emma is reading My Favorite Thing Is Monsters by Emil Ferris (out from Fantagraphics Feb 14) and The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson.  Also mentioned: Shirley Jackson’s memoir(ish) essay collections Life Among the Savages and Raising Demons and the new biography on Jackson, Shirley Jackson: a Rather Haunted Life by Ruth Franklin. She recommends all the Shirley Jackson book. Because Shirley Jackson is a #bosswitch Emma’s favorite book of 2016 is Trainwreck by Sady Doyle. Amy’s is Evicted by Matthew Desmond (paperback out Feb 28). If Kim were allowed to pick two favorites, her other favorite would be While the City Slept by Eli Sanders (paperback out Feb 7). We’re Excited About: Amy is looking forward to so many books in 2017, but, when pressed, narrowed it down to these six: All Grown Up by Jami Attenberg (out March 7) All the Lives I Want: Essays about My Best Friends Who Happen to Be Famous Strangers by Alana Massey (out Feb 7) Alana Massey is Amy’s “Twitter life coach,” so you should probably follow her too: @alanamassey The Road to Jonestown by Jeff Guinn (out April 11) Woman No. 17 by Edan Lepucki (out May 9) And We’re Off by Dana Schwartz (out May 2)  Dana Schwartz is also the creator of Guy In Your MFA. Amy says, “She’s so talented it makes me angry.” Emma is excited about Lincoln in the Bardo by George Saunders (out Feb 14) Seriously. Read this book. It’s his debut novel and it’s amazing. Or listen to the record-breaking audiobook. What We Do Now: Standing Up for Your Values in Trump's America edited by Dennis Johnson and Valerie Merians  shout out to Melville House for putting this out with a quickness. Always Happy Hour by Mary Miller the cover is done by the amazing painter Lee Price. And Kim is looking forward to The Animators by Kayla Rae Whitaker because she’s pretty sure it’s queer. Chapter I [19:50] In Which We Discuss How Kids Book Authors Write The Best Erotic Fan Fic, Dick Jokes, and Shipwreck in Seattle Amy works at Booksmith in San Francisco, California. She is their Events Director, does all their social media, and is their de facto HR dept. Because bookstores.  Booksmith recently celebrated their 40th anniversary and they’re opening a new store called The Bindery—a sort of wine bar/living room space/events annex—across the street. Amy is also the co-creator and host of Shipwreck, “a competitive literary erotic fan fiction live show,” which began in June 2013 and runs once a month at Booksmith (and sometimes travels to Comic Cons). They record ALL the shows so you can enjoy crazy dick jokes from the comfort of your own headphones. They were inspired by the competitive reading series Write Club, which also has  a podcast! Shipwreck is such an amazing concept, that Grand Central Publishing wanted to collect the stories in a book: Fanfiction Parodies of Great (and Terrible) Literature from the Smutty Stage of Shipwreck edited by Amy Stephenson and Casey A. Childers Hey, Seattleites, does this sound awesome? You too can enjoy live erotic fan fiction at Emerald City Comic Con this year on March 2nd. The line-up includes:  Seanan McGuire (whose most recent book is Dusk or Dark or Dawn or Day and who wrote for the very first Shipwreck) Peter Mountford (author of The Dismal Science) Scott Westerfeld (who has a graphic novel called Spill Zone coming out May 2nd)  Matt Fraction (who writes Sex Criminals, so you know his erotic fanfic will be excellent).  They’ll be writing fan fiction for Neil Gaiman’s The Sandman comics. And their San Francisco performer, Baruch Porras-Hernandez, will be reading for both shows. Buy tickets here. There will be two shows, one at 7pm and another at 9:30pm. BONUS: we, the Drunk Booksellers, will be there selling books and representing Elliott Bay Book Co. Chapter II [40:00] In Which We Reveal Bookseller Secrets and Are Super Supportive of Each Other The book description guaranteed to get Amy reading is: “strong female character written by a women involved in a murder somehow and you won’t believe the twist… bathtub gin reading.” If you need a gateway mystery, Amy recommends Tana French, specifically The Likeness. Her desert island pick is The Comedians by Graham Greene because she already reads it every year. Her Station Eleven pick (aka the world is falling apart, which it kind of is) is Erich Fromm: The Sane Society (NOTE: this is still in print, despite what we say in the episode) and On Disobedience by Eric Fromm Her Wild pick: something Didion “because Didion teaches you how to see the world.”  Bonus bookseller confession: neither Kim or Emma have read Didion. So where do you start with Didion? If you want to read something that’s going to make you cry: The Year of Magical Thinking If you want astute cultural commentary: Slouching Towards Bethlehem Amy’s bookseller confession: she can’t get into Ferrante Go to handsells: Tana French Margaret Atwood’s contemporary fiction: Cat’s Eye and The Robber Bride Fred Vargas, who writes police procedurals that are weirdly witty, funny, and entertaining; her newest book, A Climate of Fear is out March 7th go to non-fiction: A Thousand Lives by Julia Scheeres (who also wrote a memoir called Jesus Land The book Amy wants to champion to other booksellers: Spare and Found Parts by Sarah Griffin, which she describes as “a modern, feminist telling of Frankenstein, sort of” Chapter III [50:40] In Which Our List of Bookstores to Visit and Sites to Check Out Grows Almost As Long As Our List of Books to Read Bookstore Crushes WORD Bookstores  (in Brooklyn, NY and Jersey City, NJ)  Skylight Books (in Los Angeles, CA) Title Wave Books (in Anchorage, AK) Favorite Literary Media: website:  Book Riot—“I think they’re doing the lord’s work out there.” podcasts: Let’s Not Panic: podcast by bookseller Maggie Tokuda-Hall who is spending the year traveling around South America in a Jeep with her husband Adam Wolf. WARNING: it will make you want to quit your job and travel the world. Boars, Gore, and Swords: Game of Thrones-y pop culture podcast by stand-up comics Ivan Hernandez and Red Scott other: Alana Massey’s twitter @alanamassey Maris Kreizman’s tinyletter Drafts, a writing prompt newsletter by Joe Wadlington you can send him what you’ve written and he’ll send you back validation. How awesome is that?? Epilogue [56:39] Amy can be found on the internet as @losertakesall​—a Graham Greene reference, in case you were curious. her personal website Twitter Tumblr Instagram You can also follow Shipwreck on Tumblr and Facebook. And keep up with ALL the hilarity and eroticism by subscribing to their podcast. Having a bad day? Listen to an old episode. Mood = instantly transformed. You can find us on Twitter at @drunkbookseller and everywhere else as DrunkBooksellers (plural). Emma tweets @thebibliot and writes bookish things for Book Riot. Kim tweets occasionally from @finaleofseem, but don’t expect too much.

New York sex writer Alana Massey felt a little crazy when she bought a house without a family to put in it— and 100 miles away from her boyfriend. During a visit back to the city, she ruminated on the romance of real estate; how open spaces affect the way you fuck; how she found love on a dating app; and why they'd rather live further apart.

Privacy! Boners! Feelings! THIS is a very special episode of YAPIT, in which we investigate the subject of Tina’s new book: Sexting: The grown-ups Guide of Sex Tips to Getting Dirty Digitally. Tina wanted to invite someone with fresh, smart, refreshing ideas about naked selfie pride, choosing your own SMS adventure, and the ethics of digital privacy. After reading Alana Massey’s “feeling journalism” about online dating and technological intimacy, Tina asked Alana to be on the show; whereupon, Alana proclaimed sexting to be her highest art form! DISCUSSED: “You’re not sexting with my butt, you’re sexting with me” / "You are starring in my personalized smut" / Cyber-sex / A/S/L / “I just took a sexy picture of myself; can I send it to you?” / The Gift Dispatch Sext / “Just because you’re on your phone doesn’t mean you can phone it in.” / The power to turn someone on even if you’re not in the same room / Teleportation of arousal / Stopping someone in their tracks / Reciprocity, caution, vulnerability /... See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Should your boyfriend be your best friend? Are you more popular single, or coupled? Is your social life preventing you from settling down? Alana Massey, columnist at The Cut, explains why her boyfriend isn't her best friend, but her cat is. (Even though her boyfriend saved her life, and her cat's life, from near-death in a fire.) Plus: a man who accidentally became an extra in a pornographic orgy tells his amazing tale. With Maureen O'Connor and David Wallace-Wells.

Guardian columnist Jessica Valenti is joined this week by writer Alana Massey and Thinx co-founder and CEI Miki Agrawal to talk about the changing dialogue around menstruation