Podcasts about happy even after

In episode #211, we talked about the information you need to gather to prepare to file for divorce and the initial proceedings. But what financial steps do you need to take during a divorce? How do you figure out what life will look like on the other side? How does splitting your assets actually work? Renée C. Bauer—an experienced family law attorney and mediator—joins me in this conversation to help flesh out the details.  Renée has been practicing law since 2003. She's also the author of two books, “Divorce in Connecticut,” and “She Who Wins” and the host of the “Happy Even After” podcast.  You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in... [2:16] You've filed for divorce—now what? [5:28] Creatively diving into each person's goals [10:41] Handling the sale of a house you co-own [12:52] How to separate a co-owned business [15:54] The Fair and Equitable Division of Assets [17:41] What happens if no agreement is reached? [20:27] Where retirement assets land in the process [23:24] Why a 50/50 split is the starting point  [27:47] Unraveling emotional attachments [30:00] Taking control of your finances Resources Mentioned Retirement Readiness Review Subscribe to the Retire with Ryan YouTube Channel Episode #211: Financial Steps to Take Before Divorce Happy Even After Family Law The Happy Even After” podcast Qualified Domestic Relations Order Connect with Renée on Instagram Connect With Morrissey Wealth Management  www.MorrisseyWealthManagement.com/contact   Subscribe to Retire With Ryan

We are excited to announce, family law attorney and bestselling author Renee C. Bauer will be joining us on our #podcast!   Renee C. Bauer is the author of the #1 #Amazon New Release Book --- #SHEWHOWINS. She is a frequent legal media analyst for newspapers, radio shows, and television networks alike. Renee also owns her own law firm, Happy Even After Family Law and hosts a podcast of the same name, Happy Even After.   On the show, Renee will discuss a variety of family law topics, including #divorce, #childsupport, being child focused, trusting your instincts as a women and how 'reconfigured families can work'.

Hi! I'm so happy you're here! Today I'm interviewing my friend, Renee Bauer. Renée is an entrepreneur, author, peacemaker, and blended family aficionado. And she is dedicated to helping you find your Happy Even After. She's won awards, faced her fear of public speaking, litigated cases in a courtroom, and grew a business from nothing but a folding table into a thriving family law firm in Connecticut. She's been divorced (twice), so she gets it. She has an awesome son and 3 stepkids. She's now married to a man who is her partner in every sense of the word. …but those bumps and bruises along the way led her to the happiest, most complete, most purposeful version of herself today. She believes that doing the big, scary, uncomfortable thing can be the most rewarding and fulfilling experience of your life!Contact Renee! https://msreneebauer.com/https://www.instagram.com/msreneebauer/Book CarrieVee for a Speaking Engagement: https://www.coachcarriev.com/contact-meRadical Empowerment Method Book on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3Bdp2BCContact CarrieVee!IG: @iamcarrieveeLI and FB: Carrie Verrocchioemail: carriev@coachcarriev.com

Michelle Newman is women's' mid-life transformation coach, Founder of The New MidCoaching Academy, and the host of the New Mid Podcast.Motivated by her own transformational journey and executive roles at ABC and CBS studios,Michelle is passionate about defying the expectations placed on women both on-and-offscreen. With over two decades of experience researching, studying, and guiding womenthrough the mid-life process, Michelle is known for her ability to compassionately identify theirspecific challenges and help them create lasting transformation.Through her academy and one-on-one coaching, she's served an international clientele andhelped hundreds of women achieve their desired results including quitting smoking, losingweight, achieving promotions, and multiplying their overall happiness and fulfillment.A sought-after speaker, Michelle has spoken to thousands of women on the power ofBecoming their best self and living an abundant second half. Her work has been highlighted in national media, including Deadline, Variety and Hollywood Reporter, and she's been featured on numerous podcast guests such as Mentors and Moguls, 99 Walks, Fearlessly Facing Fifty, Pivot Me, and Happy Even After.Through her podcast, The New Mid, Michelle interviews lifestyle and health experts to helpwomen struggling with embracing their next chapter of life to maximize and enjoy its potentialto the fullest. With a loyal following and tens of thousands of downloads, she's intervieweddynamic women who have successfully navigated their transition, including Joan Lunden, Dominic Dawes, Scarlett Lewis, JJ Virgin and Marisa J. Winokur.How to Be Balanced, Beautiful and Abundant?For more information go to…https://www.rebeccaelizabethwhitman.com/Https://linktr.ee/rebeccaewhitman This is The Quickest & Easiest Way To Your Own Side Hustle!Show me how----->https://balancedbeautifulabundant.com/

Welcoming back Renee Bauer!In this quick teaser episode Host: Wanda Toro Turini, Founder of Rock-it Fuel, Inventor of Ketchwords.com chats with Renee Bauer, Founder of Happy Even After LLC.Renee Bauer is on a mission to help all women believe that it is also possible for them to create a life they love and become the most amazing versions of themselves.Don't miss our guest's FREE audience gift...Text BELIEVE to 411321 to receive “Believe Yourself Badass” plus additional Happy Even After resources to help you achieve a life you'll freakin' love! (Text BELIEVE to +1-909-741-1321 via text or WhatsApp if you're outside of the US)If you are a high-achieving entrepreneur who loves to connect with other experts and realizes that visibility is "rock-it fuel" for your business...Join the exclusive Rock-it Fuel Podcast Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rockitfuelpodcastMaybe YOU'LL be our next Rock-it Fuel Guest Expert?Find Wanda on: Ketchwords BasicFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/wanda.turiniLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wandaturini/ Find Renee:Home - Ms Renée BauerFacebook: Happy Even After Family LawLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rbauer1/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msreneebauer/?hl=en 

Have you ever experienced something so tragic or difficult that it felt like an impossible setback to overcome? Chloe Temtchine is an Award-Winning Singer, Songwriter, Speaker, and creator of “Super Brave,” an interview series that features both kids and adults who are living with a chronic illness. Chloe is a survivor. She was diagnosed with a life-threatening illness (Pulmonary Hypertension/PVOD) and survived on oxygen for years despite the fact that she was given little time left to live. Twelve years later, Chloe went into cardiac arrest, and ended up in a coma for four days and on life support, when she received a life-saving, double-lung transplant. Chloe, who sings with a paralyzed vocal cord, is widely regarded by her peers in the music industry. She has written with numerous, Grammy-Award-winning songwriters such as Toby Gad (John Legend, Beyonce…), Guy Roche (Christina Aguilera…), and Sasha Skarbek (James Blunt..), to name a few. Her insights have been featured in innumerable news outlets such as The Huffington Post, The New York Post, USA Today, and Fox 5, and she has appeared on TV shows such as The Doctors, Late Night with David Letterman, and Hallmark's Home & Family. Her story will inspire you and I promise you, you do NOT want to miss this episode of Happy Even After. Guest Info: IG: https://www.instagram.com/@chloetemtchine    

In this episode Host: Wanda Toro Turini, Founder of Rock-it Fuel, Inventor of Ketchwords.com chats with Renee Bauer, Founder of Happy Even After LLC.Renee Bauer is on a mission to help all women believe that it is also possible for them to create a life they love and become the most amazing versions of themselves.Don't miss our guest's FREE audience gift...Text BELIEVE to 411321 to receive “Believe Yourself Badass” plus additional Happy Even After resources to help you achieve a life you'll freakin' love! (Text BELIEVE to +1-909-741-1321 via text or WhatsApp if you're outside of the US)If you are a high-achieving entrepreneur who loves to connect with other experts and realizes that visibility is "rock-it fuel" for your business...Join the exclusive Rock-it Fuel Podcast Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rockitfuelpodcastMaybe YOU'LL be our next Rock-it Fuel Guest Expert?Find Wanda on:Ketchwords BasicFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/wanda.turiniLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wandaturini/ Find Renee:Home - Ms Renée BauerFacebook:Happy Even After Family LawLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rbauer1/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msreneebauer/?hl=en 

Affairs, Healing, and Life as Single Mom.   Today I'm chatting with a member of our Happy Even After community all about her divorce and life on the other side.   Elicia Strazzeri is a mom to 3 young boys including a set of twins. She's been divorced for 1 year so we are getting the perspective of what life one year later looks like.   Having these conversations is so important so others know they are not alone and that there is happiness after divorce even when it feels impossible in the thick of it. Guest Info: IG: https://www.instagram.com/sassy_freckles    

The goal in every divorce is to find yourself "Happy Even After", and Renee Bauer is both an exEXPERT as a divorce lawyer, as well as a REAL LIFE expert, having been divorced twice herself. Renee Bauer talks candidly about her own experiences, which include her own feelings of shame and why she didn't used to reveal her own situation to her clients. Hear firsthand about going through divorce as a divorce lawyer, and how Renee has turned her story into a way to help everyone else going through it! (Guest: Renee Bauer, Divorce Attorney, "Happy Even After" host) Follow us on IG @exexperts

This week on Modern Life, host Jamila Souffrant is joined by Renée Bauer, an award-winning divorce attorney, published author, and founder of the family law firm, Happy Even After Family Law, to discuss all things divorce. After going through two divorces of her own, Renée started her own podcast, Happy Even After, and teaches an online course helping answer the many questions people have about divorce. Jamila and Renée talk about what you need to know when it comes to relationships, divorce, and finances, whether you're weathering a divorce yourself or supporting someone else who is. Learn More: www.fidelity.com/modernlife Donate to Year Up: donate.yearup.org/modernlife

  Breaking free from a toxic marriage takes courage and it takes even more strength and courage to rise up for yourself, after leaving the marriage. But the results? Complete transformation of soul and self. Aside from being a mother of three, Emily Moynes is also an accomplished business owner, podcaster and published author. Shortly after her second divorce, Emily embarked on a transformative journey that lead her to embrace her authentic self and re-build a ‘kick-ass life' after leaving an abusive marriage. She has since penned her first book, Rising Up, started a Staging/ interior decoration business, Elite Staging House and hosts a Podcast, GET REAL with Mama Moynes. She is a huge proponent of women supporting women and devotes her podcast and social media platform towards inspiring, encouraging, motivating and empowering women. She continues to be a voice for the voiceless and professes to like animals more than humans. Catch today's episode of Happy Even After to hear Emily's wisdom. Guest Info: IG: https://www.instagram.com/emilymoynes/    

On the newest episode of We Chat Divorce we're joined by Renee Bauer, Esq. to discuss The Art of Re-Invention – Divorcing Without Shame. Renee Bauer is an award-winning divorce attorney, author, podcast host, and champion of finding your Happy Even After. She boldly educates and inspires women about divorce so they can move into their next chapter with confidence. She is the creator of The D Course, an online educational course designed to help save thousands of dollars in legal fees. Renee is regularly sought out by media to comment on trending family law issues. She is the Founder of Happy Even After Family Law located in Connecticut.    Learn More >> https://msreneebauer.com   Connect with Renee Bauer, Esq. on LinkedIn >> https://www.linkedin.com/in/rbauer1/   The We Chat Divorce podcast (hereinafter referred to as the “WCD”) represents the opinions of Shanahan, Chellew, and their guests to the show. WCD should not be considered professional or legal advice. The content here is for informational purposes only. Views and opinions expressed on WCD are our own and do not represent that of our places of work.  WCD should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever.  Listeners should contact their attorney to obtain advice with respect to any particular legal matter. No listener should act or refrain from acting on the basis of information on WCD without first seeking legal advice from counsel in the relevant jurisdiction. No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on WCD.    Unless specifically stated otherwise, Shanahan and Chellew do not endorse, approve, recommend, or certify any information, product, process, service, or organization presented or mentioned on WCD, and information from this podcast should not be referenced in any way to imply such approval or endorsement. The third-party materials or content of any third-party site referenced on WCD do not necessarily reflect the opinions, standards or policies of Catherine Shanahan or Karen Chellew.    WCD, SHANAHAN, AND CHELLEW EXPRESSLY DISCLAIM ANY AND ALL LIABILITY OR RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANY DIRECT, INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL, SPECIAL, CONSEQUENTIAL, OR OTHER DAMAGES ARISING OUT OF ANY INDIVIDUAL'S USE OF, REFERENCE TO, RELIANCE ON, OR INABILITY TO USE, THIS PODCAST OR THE INFORMATION PRESENTED IN THIS PODCAST.     Karen: Welcome to We Chat Divorce with Karen Chellew, legal liaison and Catherine Shanahan CFA co-founders of my Divorce Solution, the company that delivers the quintessential financial blueprint to couples facing, or going through the divorce process. This blueprint, known as the MDS financial portrait, establishes the foundation and options and individual or couple would need to make clear financial decisions when considering divorce. Each podcast, Catherine and Karen, sit down with divorce professionals and other individuals who provide insight and Frank discussion about real people, real situations, and real divorce. Welcome to We Chat Divorce, Catherine and I are so happy today to welcome Attorney Renee Bauer to our podcast. In this episode, we're going to discuss the Art of Re-invention - Divorcing Without Shame. But first let me take a couple minutes to introduce Renee. Renee Bauer is an award winning divorce attorney, a published author, and founder of the family law firm Bauer Law Group. Renee's insights are sought after by local, national, and international media outlets, podcasts, and conferences, where she speaks on co-parenting blended family dynamics, relationships, and the art of reinvention as an accomplished litigator. She boldly educates and inspires women to reclaim their right to happiness through her online course, The D Course, love that and her podcast Happy Even After. Welcome Renee. Renee: Good morning, Ladies. How are you? Catherine: Good. We're so happy to have you, not only because of your expertise, but for your enthusiasm that you bring to a very difficult topic basically. ou know, you've been a divorce attorney for so long, and now you found the courage to talk about your own experiences with divorce. What gave you that courage to do that? Renee: Yeah, so, you know, it was really, really difficult. And for most of my career, I showed off in the way I thought a lawyer was supposed to show up, you know, all buttoned up and I was putting on an act and I would go into court and represent my clients and do the job that I thought I was supposed to do. But when I got home from at night and I kind of stripped away the suit in, in the act, it was, I was like a broken version of myself because I never talked about not just one divorce, but two divorces that I've had. And because I was filled with so much shame and I really had no intention of talking about it. I thought this was just something I was going to keep to myself forever and kind of just live with it. And one day a good friend of mine had started a podcast and she said, “Hey, I want to have you on as a guest. And I'm going to bring some sushi over, we'll have a couple drinks. I'm going to ask you questions.” And at that point I didn't listen to podcasts. I was just like, okay, like, I'll answer some questions for sushi. I can do that. And then she came over, we ate a ton. She clipped the mic on me. And for the first time ever, I spoke about my divorce and she asked these questions and I actually answered them. And when that podcast episode dropped, I was inundated with messages and emails and DMS from other women who said, that was my story too. Thank you for sharing. One woman said she sat in her hotel room and just sobbed because she never, she felt so alone during her divorce. And here she was listening to someone else talk about what they were going through. And at that point I knew I needed to stop being the buttoned up version of myself and really strip away those filters and start sharing my real story and start being vulnerable, which is so hard to do as, you know, a type A perfectionist of just really showing up and saying, hey this is me. This is what I went through. And it's definitely been a process, but it has been so rewarding because I've  just connected with so many people that way. And I've heard so many incredible stories and was inspired to start my own podcast because of that.   Catherine: You know, it's great that you say all of that because we talk about what it does for the other women, you know, the three of us developing through them or to the other side, right. So we know where they, where they are currently probably. But when you tell your own story and I've experienced this myself, you know, that vulnerability is very hard to do. But when you do it afterwards, you really you're healing yourself further. You know, you realize that there is still more healing. We all need to always improve. So when sharing your story, not only is that woman's sobbing in her room feeling a sense of relief because she realizes she's normal, but then I bet you went home too, and you probably shed your own tears saying, wow, I let that out. It's like something I was hiding from and it's okay. Right. Is that how you feel? Yeah. And, you know, especially the second divorce, like that was just such a moment of embarrassment and almost humiliation like the marriage was in, I was in and out of it so fast before like a season was up, but there was so much shame from that one and, you know, coming out the other side in inch and I, I you're right. You're completely right. I'd never really healed from that. Like I was still holding onto it and now I talk about it so much. And so frequently as just something that has just happened, there's no emotion attached to it. It's like, all right, it's just part of my story. And it allows me to do the work that I do now. It taught me to be a better partner and spouse for my current husband now, because I really learned from, from that. And, you know, if you, the more you talk about it, the, the more detached you are as if this is something that's so substantial and so impactful to who you are as a person. And it becomes so much less than that. And it's just, okay, this is just one chapter in my book is really, really thick. So I'm going to turn the next page, but you're completely right. The more we talk about our stories and share them there is just this healing process that happens for the person who's listening to that. And the person who's actually speaking it. Karen: Yeah. Renee, were you in the attorney during your divorces where you practicing family law attorney? Renee: Yeah. And you know what, there's the embarrassment of having to go into court and go into the courtroom on the day that I was getting divorced and standing there amongst the judges that I regularly practice in front of and some colleagues you know, that was so much shame there, which is crazy because it's like, why. You know, I do this every single day. Why was I so attached to this? And you know, there's so many reasons for that - generational upbringing and you know all of the societal upbringing that what we're taught about divorce. So even though I can work in that space and help other people through it, when I was going through it myself, it was just, you know, I got brought back to those moments of being a child and, you know, learning about friends whose parents were getting divorced or hearing my own parents talk about divorce and, you know, just, just whatever relative said. And just those things that you brought up thinking and attaching to that word. So yeah, it was, it was really, really difficult. And there was such a a difference between what I was doing in my work every single day and my personal life. And it wasn't until those two blended that I really stepped into who I am, what I was meant to do. And just in complete alignment with my life. Like there was definitely a disconnect before that time. Karen: So did they blend, or did they collide? I'm just wondering. Renee: It's all semantics. You know, I think that it was a collision at first and now it blends. I think that, you know, there was some was so much resistance at the very beginning and even my current husband and I like had to sit down and have a conversation about me speaking and being so public about it in a way that I never had before, because it was so personal. Like I kept everything to myself and now I was thrusting our family kind of into the social media world and speaking about it and sharing things, never sharing things about the exes. Cause that's not what it was about, that doesn't help you heal, but just short of sharing about our life in my journey. And so there was some resistance at the beginning because that was something my, my husband was uncomfortable with. He was like, I don't know about this. And I'm like, I get it. It's hard, it's hard for me, but you know, this is going to happen and we're going to do it. And now it's going to get easier each day and now it's, you know, he's totally comfortable with it. So there's definitely the collision at the very beginning and now it's blended beautifully. Catherine: Oh, that's awesome. You know, and I think a lot of shame comes from a lot of guilt, you know, as our generation, we're all in the same generation or actually we might be a little older than you, but you know, we're, we're expected to play our role and play it perfectly. And we're expected to do so many different things perfectly. And not only are we expected by others, but we expect it of ourselves a lot of times. And so we feel so guilty about not being able to, you know, meet up with the expectations of staying married forever or the shame as you say, getting divorced the second time, because it just didn't work out. Why do we carry all that guilt and shame on ourselves? You know, it's not until you get into your fifties that you start releasing some of that where, you know, it just doesn't matter. You know, the twenties and the thirties and the forties are just about sometimes almost everybody else, but yourself and that's what needs to change. You know, we don't need to be, feel shameful or guilty because our marriage didn't last as long as it was supposed to, by the guidelines that are put out there. You know, I don't say my marriage was a failure. You know, I was married 20 years. That's what the person, 23 years, I just say it lasts as long as it was supposed to, you know, and I think we need to change the mindset and the dialogue on how we treat others, you know? And when we look at somebody who's a divorcee, you know, so it's okay. You don't have to say, I'm so sorry for you. You know, you can say congratulations for moving forward with getting through that. Yeah. Renee: Yeah. And it's not contagious. It's like, you know, you say that you're divorced and you know, some reaction is like, oh, well, didn't, you want to try to make it work? Or, you know, oh, well, there's plenty of fish in the sea. And they kind of like, step back a little bit from you as if like they can catch it, but you're so right. And you know, what I think you said is so important is the guilt of walking away from something that just isn't good enough. Like it's okay to have to be married to someone who is a good person and not the right fit for you. And to be able to say, you know what, we're just not living in alignment. Maybe our values are different. Maybe would just adjust, it's come to completion and being able to walk away from that because there's something not something better that you're looking for, but it's just not the relationship that you want for yourself. And you walk away. Not because you're looking for there's someone waiting in the wings, but you walk away because you're choosing yourself. And I think that I, and I'm sure you guys hear it too, but there are so many women who will say, you know, my husband's a good person. He's a good father. And so what's wrong with me that I'm not fulfilled. And I think that that's, you know, there's so much work to be done there. And that's, you know, that was my first marriage. Like there was nothing wrong with it, but it wasn't, it wasn't a good fit. And, you know, he went on to marry someone who was his perfect match in every sense of the word. And so did I and you know, and it's, it's kind of like breaks my heart to think of people who stay and they kind of jam themselves into our relationship because they think that if, if, unless it's abusive or unless it's like really bad, then there's no reason for them to be unhappy. And that's where that guilt comes in because they feel guilty about wanting something different than what they have. Catherine: Just sad because we all change. You know, we hear a lot of people say, oh, our spouse says you change. Not the same person I was married to. That's why I want a divorce. You know? Well, of course we all change. You know, hopefully I change every day. I pray that I become a better person tomorrow. Right. So it's okay to change. And as you're saying, if over those years 20, and we have a lot of 30 year marriage is coming to us 20 years or five years, whatever it is, if your outlook has changed in life, listen, let the spice goes by so fast. That's okay. You don't have to feel guilty about it. You know, it is your right to be happy. And we see that a lot on the financial side, because there's a lot of shame and a lot of confusion and sadness or fear that they're going to leave this marriage. They don't have to take, they're not happy, but at least everything's taken care of because they don't understand it. And once they start getting the financial knowledge that they need, whether they have to go to work or not, it doesn't matter. But once they get that Renee, you should see their faces, you know, they just transform into, oh my gosh, I'm feeling a little bit more empowered. I'm embarrassed that I didn't know that information. You know, we always say, it's okay. You know, you did the best you could at the time you're doing it. But once you gain that kind of knowledge, some you get to move forward right. In the positive direction for yourself. Renee: Yeah. I have a client that I like to use as an example for exactly what you're talking about. And she was in a long-term marriage. Her husband did everything, paid the bills, took care of the house. And she had a really comfortable life. It was not a good marriage. It wasn't horribly bad, but it certainly was not good. And she would've stayed forever because she was afraid of what was going to happen on the other side. And so she was forced into this divorce situation. She knew she would have stayed married, had he wanted to. And she was so afraid of paying her own bills, taking care of the house and all of that. Having to go back to work full time. And it was about a year after her divorce that she reached out to me and said, I have never been so happy in my entire life. And I didn't even know that I was so unhappy until I was forced into this situation. And she said, she bought her house. She was paying her own bills. She was financially responsible. She was saving money. And, you know, she was just so happy that she was forced into this situation. And I'm like, that's you know, that's the example. That's the success story of just because you don't know it now, does it mean you can't learn it? And there's so much power when you start to really understand what money looks like and, and the finances and you take control of it. You're no longer just sitting back, waiting for things to happen for you. You become the driver and that's, you know, that's amazing. That's incredible. Catherine: That is incredible. And if you're listening, you know, that that woman took on a very courageous journey, but it was not easy. So a lot of people look at us, probably the three of us and many others that we talked to is I want to get to where you are now, you know, I'm 10 years out, right? So I want to get to where you are now, but I had to do that work too. You know, I cried every day for years, you know, I went through my ex saying to me, who has a better marriage than ours, ours is fine. Who, whose other marriage do you want? And I always said, it's not about the other people's marriage. It's about what I want, you know, the happiness I want. But it it's a journey to get through that. So if you're listening, give yourself a time so that you can be the success story of that woman as well, which is so exciting to hear. Renee: Yeah. And, and I think that that's so important too, is just to have some grace and allow yourself to heal and not jump into something else. Don't try to quick fix your emotions by jumping into another relationship. Like really give yourself that space that you can, and it's okay to cry. It's okay to miss your kids on the weekends. You don't have them. We all have gone through that, but you just continue putting one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward. And that's how you get out the other side.   Karen: I love that. So I see a tip here is give yourself space. What's some more tips that you have to help people divorce without shame, because I'm going to guess it's a high percentage of people that do have a significant amount of shame navigating this challenging process. Renee: Yeah. And so, you know, there's so many bad things about social media, but I think there's so many good things too. And I think that there are so many communities of people going through something similar and so many resources out there. So I'd say find a community that you feel comfortable in enjoying that. There's so many really amazing people doing this work and in this space and surround yourself with some, with other people who know what it's like, and they get it and they can say, I see you. I felt all of that attend events. Like the one that you put together that's a great place to connect with other women and make lifelong friendships. In addition to being inspired and excited about your future. And then just give yourself time. And like I said, don't jump into anything like it's, I think it's your initial reaction is to want to get some attention, want to mask the pain that you're feeling and you start dating before you're ready. And now you're just, you're covering up without actually healing. And so really before you jumped back into the dating world to make sure you're ready to do that, and you're doing it because you, you are ready to date, not because you're trying to fill the void to fill the time when you missed your kids. Catherine: Yeah. Do you think that's what you did and the second time around? Renee: Well, I actually did that right after my first divorce, I jumped into dating and that didn't work. That was not my second husband. Then there was time in between that. So, you know, who knows, who knows how many, what mistakes I made the second time around. You know, I think that that was just not giving the relationship enough space to let everything reveal itself. I think that that was just jumping too quickly into something and ignoring the red flags you know. Catherine: Love that Renee, not giving yourself enough space to let everything reveal itself. That is so powerful. And I think that we need to write that down and take that away because it's so true. You know, men and women, nobody wants to be lonely and everyone, and as we get older, everyone says, I don't want to be alone. I hear it from both sides, the men and the women. Right. So I always remember saying, you know, just because to my friends, I'm sitting here alone by myself. I'm really not lonely. Like I enjoyed watching the TV by myself. I enjoyed not having to cook for my kids finally for a night. You know, I learned to like embrace that and it really is cathartic. And it is something that we need, I guess it's the self care, right? Which is the best care that we need to start embracing, especially as women, because we're all, we're big givers and we're always taking care of something. But to take that time, even when you're going through the divorce to pause and look at what you need, you know, and give yourself the time to see what it is that you need from a companion, if that's what it is that you want.   Renee: And that's, that's exactly the takeaway that I have as to this day is because when I did create that time and really learned how to be by myself and do things that filled me up, it's something that I still crave. And even in a current relationship in married, it's still something that I make time for. And, you know, an example is I went to Vegas recently with my husband and he was traveling for work. And I spent the day kayaking down the Colorado river by myself. And it was, it was, you know, I don't need, I don't need someone else to be there with me. Like, this is something that just filled me up and it was that self-care. And it was being in nature and being by myself, it wasn't being lonely. It was doing something by myself. And you really, when you give yourself that space, you learn how to do that. And when you're comfortable being by yourself, you don't need to fit the type, fit someone in there. You will if you're with someone and it feels good and you're having fun and it's joyful, then that's fine. But when you start to see the red flags, you're able to walk away and say, you know what, this doesn't serve me. And I don't need you just to keep me company because I can keep myself company. Then I think that that's important is that you're really paying attention to those red flags. We all have had them in bad relationships. And when we've allowed them to linger a little too long, that's when you see the, the divorce or, you know, the relationship not work out. But it's taken some time to get there. So pay attention right at the beginning and you know, really dial into what those red flags feel like in your body and pay attention to them. And don't try to make excuses for them. It's, it's your gut instinct telling you that something just isn't right. And it's okay to walk away from that. Catherine: Yeah. I'd like to set up, I would like to set a challenge out there if you're listening to this podcast, because I do believe that with that self-care, you will release some of the shame and the guilt that you feel. So Renee, we heard that you just went kayaking in Vegas by yourself and really had a great time. So if you're listening, challenge yourself, what will you do this week today, this month to challenge yourself, to be by yourself and Karen, I think you and I will have to think of something too. I know Karen recently went out and I was so proud of her. I'm a little bit more of an extrovert. So I go out and do a lot of things, but Karen is more of an introvert, not in a negative way at all. I'm not saying that, but I said to her, go do pickleball by yourself. You don't need your friends all around you to go with ego due to a group that you don't know anyone. And she ended up doing that and she could talk about her experience. I'm not talking for her, but I will boast for her because she was the champion of a tournament that they had. And she would have never done that probably years ago, but found the courage to do it. And how did you feel after you did that for yourself? Like what kind of self-care was that? Karen: That was incredible because you are right. I am an introvert. And when I hear both of you talking about those things by yourself, I know for myself and for a lot of our clients, that's a really hard thing because, you know, for most of our lives, we're just around a lot of people. But I did take that challenge and I did sign up for a tournament. And so my first experience walking onto the courts was, oh, God, I don't know where to go. I don't know who to talk to. I don't even know if I'm in the right group here, cause you have to assign yourself a level to compete. So, you know, I just kept stepping up and asking questions and, you know, taking the next step and the worst case scenario I could walk away. But I never felt like doing that. I met some really great people and I had a really good time. So it was a great experience. So I do encourage anyone to just take small steps if that's your first step. Because we do have to do really hard things in our lives. And that piece of it is important, especially when you're in a life-changing situation, which divorce is. And we have lots of them to really know who you are inside. And I love that you encourage your clients and the people that are around you to do that because it is important. Yeah. So I have a question because you're challenging people to do hard things. That's can be a very hard thing from a self-care perspective, but when people are divorcing, they have to do really hard things from a tangible perspective, meaning make really good informed decisions for themselves and value themselves enough to make really clear financial and legal decisions. And sometimes it's really super hard because you're walking into a vortex of chaos. It seems sometime, and you don't know what's right and what's wrong and you're getting opinions from everybody. And sometimes you're you feel vulnerable and intimidated. So how much do you assign that as being as the art of reinvention, because going through divorce begins that art of reinvention. So can you talk a little bit about that? Renee: Sure. That's a great question. You know, I think that one of the mistakes that lawyers see clients make is the client comes in and says, okay, I hired the lawyer and now I don't have to do anything. And I'm going to let this lawyer do all of the work and speak for me. And I'm just going to follow the advice. And I think that that's a big mistake. There are lots of lawyers out there. Some of them do better jobs than others. Some have different value systems in terms of how they practice and whether they are pushing things to litigation or more settlement minded. And you really need to take control as a client of your own situation and become informed and ask the lawyer every step of the way, why things are being done or ask questions and not just allow or rely on the professional to tell you the way something is supposed to be done. Because at the end of the day when you sign that divorce agreement, you have to live with it. And if there's something you don't understand, or there's something that you absolutely hate, that's in there, then you need to be sure that that's being addressed before your signature goes on that page. And you know, we say lawyers say all the time that no agreement is perfect. And usually both sides are a little bit unhappy with the agreement, which is true, but you also have to start to prioritize what's important and have your goal lists. And you know, like what's the number one thing that's so important to you that you don't want to negotiate on, or it's more important for that piece than something else. So you can give up something else in order to get that. And you have to be the one to set those goals and not yet let your lawyer or any of the professional set them for you. So I think that the most important piece of it is educate yourself and ask, don't be intimidated or afraid to ask questions of the professionals and don't let any professional bully you into an agreement that you don't like. They're supposed to be working for you. They're supposed to be guiding you and counseling you and advising you of all of the, maybe the different variables if you pursue it in court or not, but you are allowed to ask questions and make sure you understand so that you're not just kind of being pushed into something that you don't like. So education and being a self advocate are the most important pieces. Karen: I love that you say that. Catherine: Sorry. Karen: Yeah, it is. I spend a lot of time with clients at the table with their attorney and other professionals and they do take that. It's almost a relief. Okay. It's in their hands. I'm good to go. And I'll say, well, now it's even more important that you're engaged because they're your advocate. They're not the boss. So they, they need to be directed by you. You come to the table and you, as an attorney, you need to know what do you want and why do you want it? And then you can do your job. And I think to your point, a lot of people don't understand that. And then they end up very confused and very frustrated. Renee: There's lots of lawyers that will just try to jam an agreement down their client's throat just to be done with it. And they, they won't listen to them or they won't recognize what their goals are in the hierarchy of those goals. And instead, they're just going to tell them that you need to do this because this is what's on the table and you're not going to get something better in court. And I think just having a better conversation, a more communication with your lawyer in order to head to, to get on the same page. So you both are working towards the same goal and a lot of times that doesn't happen. Catherine: Yeah. So even if you take pause and take on the challenge of doing something by yourself, for yourself, that might be the space that you need to get the courage to ask those really good questions or to listen to your gut. Women have a really good, strong gut reaction to things and look at the red flags and write those things down and take it to your attorney and ask those questions, you know, because you'll become more powerful by the more questions you ask. Renee: Absolutely. Couldn't agree more.   Catherine: Yeah. Karen: So Renee, do you have a final tip for everyone? I'm sure it may relate to your Happy Even After podcast or The D course. What would you like to leave with everyone today? Renee: I would say that you have to start turning inward to find solutions to the things that are keeping you up at night. So, so often what happens is someone looks at their acts and says, they're the reason for all of my misery. They're the reason I don't have enough money, or they might look to their lawyer and say, they're the reason that I, you know, I didn't get enough. And they're looking constantly for external answers, things that are keeping them up and are causing them concern. And when you flip that switch and you say, okay, what can I do to fix this problem? Or what can I do to make sure I have enough money to pay my bills? Or what can I do when I'm missing my kids, you're starting to provide your, provide your own solutions. And I think that is the key to coming out the other side of divorce, to thrive in past divorce and to really finding your happy even after is to stop blaming and looking back, stop looking in the past and just look forward and have the courage to rely on yourself and the strength to say, I am all that I need in order to make it out the other end. And because you have all of the power and you have everything you need inside of you, you just have to tap into it, believe in it. Karen: I love that. Absolutely. Okay. Renee, where should people go if they want to connect with you or learn more about you? Sure. Instagram is my favorite place to hang out. So you can find me there at Ms. Renee Bauer. And then from there, you can link up to everything else I have going on. Wonderful. Okay. Well, this concludes our episode on the art of re-invention divorcing without shame. Thank you, Renee, for a great conversation.   Renee: Thank you so much.

The life you love is not a dream. It won't always be easy, but it's possible! If you want to create a life that works for you and not against you, if you want to change your life, you have to change your mind first.    We all have the same 24 hours in a day, and it's up to you to make the most of it. When you're looking for ways to create the life you love, you may need to take the time to assess what roadblocks you need to overcome and get rid of anything that is standing in your way of achieving your goals.   I'm excited to share with you our guest Renee Bauer, Owner, Attorney, Author and Podcast Host of Happy Even After, LLC. Renee is dedicated to educating people to make to the otherside of divorce and into their next chapter and helps them embrace the power to create a life they love.   Main Topics: Divorce is so overwhelming – where does someone even begin? How do you know when it's time to file for divorce? What does a successful divorce look like?  Key Takeaways: You have the power to create a life you love.  There isn't any shame in saying "good enough" isn't good enough.  Our stories are meant to be messy and your divorce is just one moment in your full, messy life 

Renee Bauer is the mastermind behind a Connecticut divorce and family law firm branded as Happy Even After Family Law. The enterprise also includes the Happy Even After Podcast and the D Course with Ms. Renee Bauer. Renee has taken the traditional law firm business to another level. She has paid her dues though. She built her firm from the ground up, wearing various hats as a litigator simultaneously handling the business end of things. She found that should could be more effective, help more people and be happier herself if she focused on building the law firm. The turning point really came when she was authentic. She shared her personal story of divorce, not once but twice, and it spoke to her audience. Now she's on a mission to help others so they can be Happy Even After, too. Included in this conversation: Talking about her own divorce The personal shame of divorce What her divorce experience looked like Being authentic in her business Scaling her business Creating the D Course How she backed out of practicing law How she incorporated her brands What her 5-year plan was (and what really happened) How she attacks marketing Her business plans for the future How she grew her Instagram following If you liked this episode, please share it with your friends and colleagues! DM me if there are any topics or guests you would like to see or hear on Wake Up Call. Watch special livestream editions of Wake Up Call LIVE! on Facebook. Follow me on Instagram and Twitter. You can also watch these episodes on YouTube.

In the latest episode of the Empowerography Podcast, my guest is Renee Bauer. An entrepreneur, author, peacemaker, and blended family aficionado. …and I am dedicated to helping you find your Happy Even After. I was born in the suburbs of Boston, Mass and I have an accent that loves to sneak out of my mouth when I'm excited, angry, or just because I spent a weekend with my family. I've won awards, faced my fear of public speaking, litigated cases in a courtroom, and grew a business from nothing but a folding table into a thriving family law firm in Connecticut. I've been divorced (twice) so I get it. I have an awesome son and 3 stepkids. I am now married to a man who is my partner in every sense of the word. …but those bumps and bruises along the way led me to the happiest, most complete, most purposeful version of myself today. I believe that doing the big, scary, uncomfortable thing can be the most rewarding and fulfilling experience of your life. In this episode we discuss divorce, mindset, coaching, podcasting, being a lawyer, leadership, divorce education and personal struggle. Website - https://www.msreneebauer.com                 https://www.familylawyerct.com                 https://www.thedcourse.com IG - https://www.instagram.com/msreneebauer/ Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-even-after-with-ms-renee-bauer/id1519600005 "I always had this vision that I wanted to do things on a grander scale" - 00:02:08 "The leaders who are the most influential leaders..." 00:20:57 "Every new thing that I do, I go in with this expectation it might not work out" - 00:46:13 Empowerography would like to offer you a discount code to one of our exclusive partners, Quartz & Canary Jewelry & Wellness Co. Please use CODE EMPOWER15 to receive 15% off upon check out at www.quartzandcanary.com. Quartz & Canary is truly the place, where spirituality meets style.

In the latest episode of the Empowerography Podcast, my guest is Renee Bauer. An entrepreneur, author, peacemaker, and blended family aficionado. …and I am dedicated to helping you find your Happy Even After. I was born in the suburbs of Boston, Mass and I have an accent that loves to sneak out of my mouth when I'm excited, angry, or just because I spent a weekend with my family. I've won awards, faced my fear of public speaking, litigated cases in a courtroom, and grew a business from nothing but a folding table into a thriving family law firm in Connecticut. I've been divorced (twice) so I get it. I have an awesome son and 3 stepkids. I am now married to a man who is my partner in every sense of the word. …but those bumps and bruises along the way led me to the happiest, most complete, most purposeful version of myself today. I believe that doing the big, scary, uncomfortable thing can be the most rewarding and fulfilling experience of your life. In this episode we discuss divorce, mindset, coaching, podcasting, being a lawyer, leadership, divorce education and personal struggle. Website - https://www.msreneebauer.com                 https://www.familylawyerct.com                 https://www.thedcourse.com IG - https://www.instagram.com/msreneebauer/ Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-even-after-with-ms-renee-bauer/id1519600005 "I always had this vision that I wanted to do things on a grander scale" - 00:02:08 "The leaders who are the most influential leaders..." 00:20:57 "Every new thing that I do, I go in with this expectation it might not work out" - 00:46:13 Empowerography would like to offer you a discount code to one of our exclusive partners, Quartz & Canary Jewelry & Wellness Co. Please use CODE EMPOWER15 to receive 15% off upon check out at www.quartzandcanary.com. Quartz & Canary is truly the place, where spirituality meets style.

This week on Maximum Mom your host Elise Buie joins Renée Bauer. Ms. Renée Bauer is an award-winning divorce attorney, published author, and founder of the family law firm, Bauer Law Group.Renée's insights are sought after by local, national and international media outlets, podcasts, and conferences where she speaks on co-parenting, blended family dynamics, relationships, and the art of reinvention. As an accomplished litigator, she boldly educates and inspires women to reclaim their right to happiness through her online course, the d∙course and podcast, Happy Even After.Despite being a self-proclaimed introvert, Renée believes doing uncomfortable and hard things is something we all have the capacity to breathe though. Her need to share her message is greater than her fear of speaking in crowds. Stay tuned because being on stage as a Tedx speaker is on her short “to do” list even if she is going to have to take lots of deep breaths for that one.Once private and reserved, Renée has stripped away the photo filters to talk candidly about the shame and guilt most women feel in their lives so they can find their own version of Happy Even AfterWatch the interview here.Subscribe to Maximum Mom on your favorite podcast player so you never miss an episode!

About ReneeMs. Renée Bauer is an award-winning divorce attorney, published author, and founder of the family law firm, Bauer Law Group.Renée’s insights are sought after by local, national and international media outlets, podcasts, and conferences where she speaks on co-parenting, blended family dynamics, relationships, and the art of reinvention. As an accomplished litigator, she boldly educates and inspires women to reclaim their right to happiness through her online course, the d∙course and podcast, Happy Even After.Renee has a son and 3 stepkids. After going through her own divorce, she is now married to a man who is her true partner in every sense of the word. She believes that doing the big, scary, uncomfortable thing can be the most rewarding and fulfilling experience of your life.Connect with Renee:  https://msreneebauer.com/the-d-course/ | https://msreneebauer.com | https://msreneebauer.com/parent-copilot-guide/ | Instagram.com/msreneebauer  | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCttlmwiTWIb2k4bIknwm8uQ | https://www.facebook.com/msreneebauerConnect with Justin: Instagram.com/kellerthinks | Circlefifty.com | medium.com/@kellerthinks | fb.com/kellerthinks | twitter.com/kellerthinks | TikTok.com/@kellerthinks Resources mentioned in this episode: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-people-who-can-ruin-your-life/201809/biff-4-ways-respond-hostile-comments

So many women are going through divorce, but so few are actually talking about it.    Meet award-winning divorce attorney, published author, and founder of Bauer Law Group - Renee Bauer.   With nearly two decades of experience, Renee is committed to empowering all women to redefine their sense of peace and purpose in their new life.    She is the host of the “Happy Even After” podcast that teaches women how to get through their divorce with their sanity intact and find their own version of happy.    Is the prospect of getting through your divorce totally daunting? How about life after divorce? Renee Bauer, Esq., the author of the ‘D-Course' knows all about how to face shame and uncertainty, having been divorced twice, she gets it. She will teach you how to create strategies for having the right mindset both during and after divorce.    You can get her free video course on her website “First Steps to Freedom” https://msreneebauer.com/   Here is another free video course and info about Renee's "D-Course"  http://www.thedcourse.com/?affiliate_id=2865389 (This is affiliate links which means if you buy her course here, we'll receive a small commission.)

An amazing conversation with Ms. Renee Bauer! Renee is an award-winning divorce attorney, author, and founder of the family law firm, Bauer Law Group. She's also the host of the podcast Happy Even After with Ms. Renee Bauer. Renee's is committed to empowering women to help them work through the challenges of divorce and to recognize that even after a divorce, you do deserve happiness, peace, and a sense of purpose and she is here to help make that happen. Renee offers plenty of value if you or someone you know is going through a divorce. Check out her D.Course which is linked in her IG bio or on her website. Thank you for being my guest Renee! Check her out on Instagram @msreneebauer Renee's website: msreneebauer.com Twitter: @msreneebauer --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/zachrance/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zachrance/support

One of the byproducts of the COVID pandemic is that divorce rates have gone up. Often the things that are taboo are the hardest to talk about, but I feel it takes extreme times to speak up and be honest about our inner happiness and truth. Today's guest Renee Bauer is an entrepreneur, author, peacemaker and blended family aficionado. …and is dedicated to helping you find your Happy Even After. She is also someone who speaks truthfully about uncomfortable topics and believes wholely that we deserve to live our most rewarding and fulfilling life experiences.   Renee is a mom of a four (including 3 step kids) who has won awards, faced her fear of public speaking, litigated cases in a courtroom, and grew a business from nothing but a folding table into a thriving family law firm in Connecticut.   She has been divorced (twice) and now is married to a man who is her partner in every sense of the word. …those bumps and bruises along the way led her to the happiest, most complete, most purposeful version of herself today. I believe that doing the big, scary, uncomfortable thing can be the most rewarding and fulfilling experience of your life.   Today we talk about:  How to get rid of shame or “less than-ness” in any facet of our lives whether it is our relationship, jobs or life choices. Renee's story and how she went from litigator to entrepreneur/divorce specialist  Why big life changes like divorce don't have to be the end of our happiness  How we can truly start over Why it's okay to go against the status quo and follow our truth  How to know when enough is enough  Why it's okay to leave a marriage if you are unhappy. Doesn't mean your partner is a "bad person." Why Renee is a proponent of working on our marriages Why she is a proponent of couples and individual therapy, but how to know when it is no longer working  How to approach divorce in an empathetic and loving way Why mediation is a much preferred method to litigation How to keep your family in tact after a divorce Why being amicable during the process is important for the future of co-parenting and for your kids Other benefits of mediation  How our kids pick up on their parent's being unhappy  Why two happy homes is better than one toxic one  Why Renee moved from litigator to entrepreneurship  How to live the life of our dreams and why we deserve it  Mamas! How are you doing during this time of social isolation? Come follow me @soulmammaspodcast where I go live on subjects pertinent to what's going on in the world now, and tools and tips for mama self care during this time.  Find your Soul Mamma Calling in FOUR STEPS FREE PDF Keep an eye out for my new site where you can check out past episodes, free pdf's, coaching links and my NEW COURSE Uncover your Purpose in Ten Steps! Super excited about this one mamas! email me nicole@soulmammas.com for questions.  New PDF on the website https://www.soulmammas.com Pick Up your Freebie on Stepping into your Soul as Mammas today!  Follow me on Instagram here!   

Divorce attorney, author, and podcast host Renee Bauer shares that the best way to get to the other side of a life-shattering experience is to think, write about, and paint a picture of how you want your life to be, and then make that a reality. She learned this lesson while enduring the shame and guilt of divorce.   Find Renee at msreneebauer.com, as well as on Instagram and Twitter: @msreneebauer. Listen to her podcast, Happy Even After™️, on Google, Apple, Spotify, and Stitcher.

One person gets divorced every 36 seconds. Divorce is not a fun. There is a lot of pain and shame that go with it. In today's episode I speak with divorce attorney Renee Bauer on how to navigate through divorce proceedings so you can set yourself up with the tools you'll need to walk away Happy Even After you get divorced.  Show Notes: How do you know when it's tie to get divorced? How do you tell your children? What are the first steps you need to take before you file papers to get divorced? There are many different avenues to take in getting a divorce, 1) traditional litigation, 2) Mediation and 3) Collaboration.  You need to take responsibility and start advocating for yourself. Here are the 7 steps you need to take:  1- Educate and Research: Find out what type of divorce you want. 2- Interview at least 2-3 lawyers 3- Build Your Team: therapist/coach, accountant, and financial advisor. If you can't afford to hire all of these people here are the areas you need to make sure you're covered in: Mental Health (have someone you can speak with that is not friends/family) Accountant (need to know your assets and how much money you have) Financial Advisor (you need to think about your retirement, budget and savings) 4- Communicate with your attorney during the divorce. 5- Write down your goals. It's helpful before you start the process to know what your main goals are. 6- After the divorce, find time to reacquaint with yourself. Dedicate time for self-care and think about what you want. 7- Let go of the negativity and use it as an opportunity to learn something new. Realize that divorce is going to change your Lifestyle. It's about both of you coming to an agreement that is not perfect, and you probably both have it a little bit.  One of the biggest problems that people get stuck on is who gets the house. That might not be the best thing for either party with many financial obligations that come with the house.  Divorce is hard. Allow yourself time to grieve and to sit in the mud.  Ms. Renee Bauer is an award-winning divorce attorney, published author, and founder of the family law firm, Bauer Law Group. With almost two decades of experience representing countless high net-worth clients, she is committed to empowering all women to redefine their sense of peace and purpose in their new life. She is certified as a Guardian Ad Litem, Attorney for the Minor Child, and Collaborative Attorney. Renee is also a certified Mediator receiving her training from mediation pioneer, Forrest “Woody” Mosten, of Beverly Hills.  Renee's insights are sought after by local and regional media outlets, podcasts, and conferences where she speaks on co-parenting, blended family dynamics, relationships, and the art of reinvention. Having walked this path herself, Renee knows what it feels like to face uncertainty, shame, and the fear of losing life as she knew it. As an accomplished litigator, she boldly educates and inspires women to reclaim their right to happiness through her online course, the d∙course and podcast, Happy Even After™. You can contact her at: @msreneebauer on Instagram or www.facebook.com/msreneebauer