Podcasts about she comes first

Episode 96 - Jenni shares the meaning behind SHE COMES FIRST - a framework rooted in partnership, sisterhood, and community. It explores 13 key areas of women's health in a 60-day journey of transformation and inspiration. Disclaimer: Please note that all information and content on the UK Health Radio Network, all its radio broadcasts and podcasts are provided by the authors, producers, presenters and companies themselves and is only intended as additional information to your general knowledge. As a service to our listeners/readers our programs/content are for general information and entertainment only.  The UK Health Radio Network does not recommend, endorse, or object to the views, products or topics expressed or discussed by show hosts or their guests, authors and interviewees.  We suggest you always consult with your own professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advisor. So please do not delay or disregard any professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advice received due to something you have heard or read on the UK Health Radio Network.

We're talking all things *climax* babyyyyyy! From biologically what's going on, to historical understandings of female genitalia, female pleasure erasure and the triumphant discovery of the clitoris... by men. Because, ya know, if you have a clitoris you prooooobably discovered it a long time ago. We also cover pleasure techiniques, play a lil game and get personal . Basically, this episode is here to help encourage more orgasms for all bleeders. Go on and get comfortable, keep your vibe nearby and hit play! Books discussed in this episode: She Comes First by Ian Kerner Vagina Obscrua by Rachel E. Gross Bonk by Mary Roach Your Sexual Health by Dr. Kate White (friend of the pod!!)

Episode 93 - This week, Jenni shares insights on feminine energy - freedom, communication, rhythm, and connection - aligned with UNFILTERED, SHE COMES FIRST and The Physical Pension Plan Investment Programme. Disclaimer: Please note that all information and content on the UK Health Radio Network, all its radio broadcasts and podcasts are provided by the authors, producers, presenters and companies themselves and is only intended as additional information to your general knowledge. As a service to our listeners/readers our programs/content are for general information and entertainment only.  The UK Health Radio Network does not recommend, endorse, or object to the views, products or topics expressed or discussed by show hosts or their guests, authors and interviewees.  We suggest you always consult with your own professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advisor. So please do not delay or disregard any professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advice received due to something you have heard or read on the UK Health Radio Network.

Today, I'm joined by Ian Kerner, a renowned sex therapist, best-selling author, and expert in helping individuals and couples navigate intimacy challenges. You might know him from his book She Comes First—a must-read on prioritizing women's pleasure. Ian is also the co-founder of the Sex Therapy Program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and a sought-after speaker at TED, Goop, and more.In this episode, we dive into how heterosexual men can become more attuned to their partner's pleasure, shifting focus from performance to connection.We talked about:Why did he write a book in 2004 to help men better understand women's pleasure?Oral sex and more pleasure for womenWhat has changed in heterosexual men's approach to sexuality since he wrote "She Comes First" in 2004?A relax penis is an erect penis!The 'willingness window' The areas that men still need to improve when it comes to heterosexual intimacyAnd much more!My guest :iankerner.comShe comes firstSo Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love LivesMy Instagram account: @camilleparlesexe -/- My website: www.camillebataillon.com

Today, John and Shaun dive into the orgasm gap—why so many women aren't reaching the finish line in the bedroom. They break down the importance of communication in sex, myths around male performance, and why “homie, your dick's not enough.”They're joined by guest, Sabrina Zohar, who shares her insights on modern dating, picky partners, and how unrealistic checklists keep people single. Plus, is blue balls a real thing? Should every guy read She Comes First? And why sometimes, you just need to tap out.People & Resources Mentioned:Follow Sabrina on Instagram HEREFind out more about Sabrina HEREShe Comes First by Ian KernerGood Enough Mother – Donald WinnicottIf you're enjoying the show, please take a moment to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. Your support means the world!Follow Us:Find out more about John HERE | Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about Shaun HERE | Follow Shaun on Instagram HERE

IntroductionSo, you're curious about having a one-night stand. I'm glad you're here! I've had a few in my time; some very successful, some less so. Whether this will be your first one or you're a regular wondering how to make casual sex work better for you, I've compiled everything I know to write this ultimate guide to having the best one-night stands ever.The main difference in preparation depends on the sexes of the partners involved and whether it's going to take place at your house or theirs. Because I'm a cis-gendered female who mostly has sex with men, this article is geared towards heterosexual couples. But I hope that no matter the genitals of you or your partner, you'll find something helpful here. Let's dig in!Before: How To Prepare for a One-Night Stand* Find someone you're attracted to: If you're not attracted to this person, don't even bother going through with the rest of everything else. This night is about you having fun, not pleasing other people.* Set clear expectations with yourself: Decide what you want to get out of this night and if you have any clear boundaries. Do you want to have penetrative sex (penis in an orifice, either vagina or butt) with them? Where is this one-night stand going to take place? Do you want to stay over, or are you going to take your ass home in an Uber at 4 am?* Prioritize your needs first: I'm adding this here because I'm terrible at doing this. As soon as I find a guy who I want to have sex with, I lose all sense of my needs and life priorities. So, be realistic for a moment: Do you have anything you need to get done the day after your one-night stand? The point is to make sure you're caring for your general well-being and not just dropping everything for a random dude you will never see again.* Plan your sleep: There's evidence that women need more sleep than men. How well do you sleep in someone else's bed or having someone in your bed? Can you survive on three hours, or would you be better off with eight? Even if you don't know exactly because this is your first one-night stand, just take a guess, and then you'll learn whether you were right or wrong after the experience.* Set clear expectations with your partner: Communicate with them if you can. Plan where you are going to do this. If it's at your house, is your partner allowed to sleep over? Do you need them out of the house by 10 am so you can go to your yoga class?* Be honest with yourself about your true intentions: If you have feelings for this person and would like to have anything more than a one-hit wonder with them, stop right there. Having sex with them is not going to fix anything. Be sure to do the feelings check-in I've included below.* Plan your alcohol and drug intake: You don't want to be too drunk or high for your one-night stand. Know your limits. A couple of drinks is probably fine if you've eaten, but you do not want to be completely blackout. Bad things can happen, and you need to have your wits about you so you can get the hell out of there at a moment's notice. Plus, sex when you're super wasted is not very enjoyable.* Plan to meet somewhere where you feel comfortable: Don't schlep yourself across the city to a place you don't know. Make this person come to you, like to your favorite lively local bar, or go to a party together where you know a couple of people.* Consider using a highly effective form of birth control: I'm talking about an implant or an IUD, i.e., a coil. Whatever sex you have is going to be a lot more enjoyable when you're not worried about getting pregnant. I have the Hormonal IUD, which I love because it is super effective for preventing pregnancy for up to eight years, and it stops my painful periods, which is a faff that I don't want to have to deal with. If you're already using the pill for your “acne” or some other form of birth control, good for you!If the one-night stand will take place at your house, here are some other tips you might want to consider:* a) Prepare your sex toys & condoms: I'll get more into this later, but you'll want any vibrator, lube, butt plug, and fun stuff on hand. Be sure to have multiple condoms, at least three.* b) Wash your bedsheets, if possible: There's nothing like banging in a clean bed.* c) Have clean towels on hand: Some men I've had sex with will literally sweat through multiple layers of sheets. It's insane, and yes, your bedroom will be destroyed.* d) Have a bit of alcohol in your house: You may or may not want to keep a bottle of wine or beer on hand at home. I don't like to drink that much, but you and your partner might want to.* e) Tidy your house: This is totally optional, but this helps me have less anxiety, at least.If the one-night stand will take place at their house, this might help:* a) Pack the essentials: This might be hard depending on the size of your purse or bag, but see if you can bring your toothbrush, deodorant, a contact lens case (essential if you wear contacts like me), and maybe even a change of shirt for the morning after. You're not bringing your toiletries bag, just the bare basics so that you don't lose your mind.* b) Subtly bring a toy and condoms with you: You could bring a small bullet vibrator in your bag or invest in a Vesper necklace, which is a beautiful piece of jewelry that also doubles as a vibrator. Yay, secret pleasure! And also, stuff a couple of condoms in your bag.Before you proceed, do a feelings check-in.What if I have feelings for my one-night-stand partner?Be honest about whether you have feelings for this person before you have sex with them. I may sound old-fashioned, but my honest advice is: do not have a one-night stand with someone if you have feelings for them. You will just end up having your heart broken. Having casual, easy sex with someone is not going to make someone fall in love with you. In fact, the sex of the one-night stand is basically over in a minute, and that is the end. It's a quickie one-and-done.What if I'm not sure if my one-night-stand partner has feelings for me or not, or I'm not sure what their intentions are?Just be wary of men you actually like or might want to have a relationship with. If you're not sure about your partner's intentions and you might want something more serious with them, my advice is to wait to have sex. You can still fool around with them but try to keep your clothes on.I've had a couple of experiences where I found myself in bed with a guy I liked, and I wasn't sure about his intentions with me. In this case, I like to refuse to have sex with them and see how it plays out. When we part ways, we either never speak again, or we continue our relationship and get to know each other better. By then, we're beyond a one-night stand and have a slightly longer, more meaningful relationship.This is only for partners you might have feelings for or want something more serious with. If you don't want that, and you just think they're hot and want to have some quick casual sex, keep reading!What if I don't have feelings for my one-night stand partner?That's awesome! This is probably the ideal scenario. When you're both using each other to have a damn good time, no one has to feel bad about it. I've heard many women say that they feel guilty or get attached when they have sex with someone. This isn't always the case for me. I tend to get attached to someone I have sex with when I have feelings for them. But if I just think they're hot, and this experience truly is not going anywhere, then f**k it! I'm just in it for the sex, and I won't be messaging them the next day, and that's that.During: What should you keep in mind during a one-night stand?* Use protection when you have penetrative sex: You're going to need protection against pregnancy and STDs. Just remember that nature is a b***h, and people can often carry STDs without having any symptoms. These STDs can cause life-long complications for women, like infertility from Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) if left untreated. The challenge with one-night stands is that if you don't use protection, the situation can quickly escalate. No matter how much fun you thought you had that night, when you're taking Plan B or dealing with HPV forever, it's going to f*****g suck.* Trust your earlier intuition. I've had men promise me all kinds of things when they're trying to have sex with me. “I love you!” (They don't). “I'll love you forever.” (They won't). “That was the best b******b I've ever had.” (Well, maybe that one's true). Regardless, this is why you need to have it clear in your mind before you have your one-night stand what you are willing to do and what you want to get out of it. The wrong kinds of partners will say anything to get you to have sex with them. Have your wits about you and ignore the b******t and excessive sweet talk.* Prioritize your pleasure: It is very important that you, as a female, also experience sexual pleasure and orgasm, if you so choose, during this one-night stand. The statistics around female pleasure for first-time hookup sex are pretty dire. As Dr. Laurie Mintz shares in her fantastic book, “Becoming Cliterate,” “55 percent of men versus 4 percent of women said they usually reach orgasm during first-time hookup sex!” Boo. We can do better than that! Basically, the most important thing to remember is that having sexual intercourse (putting the penis in the vagina) is NOT the most reliable route to orgasm for most females. Sexual intercourse is basically for the male orgasm only. Also, men want to please women. So, how can you have pleasurable sex? “Almost 45 percent of women said their most reliable route to orgasm was intercourse coupled with clitoral stimulation.” I've written a whole article about female orgasms. Here are the most important points for your one night stand:* Mimic the way you pleasure yourself when you're with a partner: That's why I recommend having your toys on hand at your house or bringing your Vesper necklace to your partner's house. Basically, get your partner to assist you using the masturbation techniques that already work for you and that you know you like.* Get the guy to pleasure you in ways that you like but find difficult, if not impossible, to do to yourself: As I mentioned in the article, a tiny amount of butt stuff from my male partner, coupled with clitoral stimulation from my hand or a toy, does the trick very easily for me.* Take your time: You've got all freaking night. What's the rush? If you're a guy reading this article, make it clear to your female partner that her enjoying herself is important to you and that you'll be patient.* Remember that oral sex and “foreplay” is the female's main course: “Quoting Ian Kerner, author of the how-to oral sex manual for men She Comes First, “Most men consider cunnilingus an aspect of foreplay, an appetizer to be served before the main meal of genital intercourse.” However, it's crucial to understand that this “appetizer” is actually the main course for many women—it's the way they orgasm!” (Read “Becoming Cliterate” and “She Comes First”).* Go all out: This is my favorite tip! You've found someone with whom you can safely explore sexual stuff, and then you'll never see again, so seize the moment! Why not experiment, explore, and try stuff you've always wanted to try? Take a bath. Try a new position. Try chocolate or food in bed. Of course, ask your partner what they're comfortable with trying (I always shamelessly ask for a bit of butt stuff, obviously.) And if you're having a good time, or you think they're hot, say so! My best one-night stand was when a guy in Newcastle told me how much he loved my bush, and he ate me out for ages. It was so hot!* Make sure you pee after sex: You might already know this, but don't forget. It's great for helping avoid UTIs, etc.* Get your beauty sleep: You deserve to be a functioning human the next day. It's time to get some rest. If you know that you'll totally struggle to sleep, feel free to call yourself or them an Uber.The Morning After: What should you do after a one-night stand?* Prioritize your health and vitals: While one-night stands can be fun, they can be very depleting in terms of your basic needs. After you're all done, take time to shower, eat, get some sleep, and rest yourself back to health. Consider drinking a Gatorade or Electrolit to get hydrated. If you're feeling super depressed, try to do some light exercise, like going for a walk, and just know that this feeling will pass. Being hungover and sleep-deprived is a recipe for feeling like s**t!* Only have brunch with your partner if you want to: You can keep hanging out, getting coffee or food, or let him cook you breakfast, but just remember that you don't owe this person anything. Don't feel any pressure to keep hanging out with them. Only keep them around if you want to.* Clean your house: Depending on how much of a witch you are, you might want to wash your bedsheets, open all the windows to air things out, and sage-cleanse your house

Dr. Ian Kerner, bestselling author of “She Comes First” and licensed sex therapist, shares insights from his 20+ years helping couples create more fulfilling sexual connections. From his own journey of overcoming sexual challenges to becoming a leading voice in sex therapy, Dr. Kerner discusses how traditional scripts around sex often limit pleasure and intimacy. He emphasizes moving beyond the “intercourse discourse” to embrace a more holistic view of sexual experiences that prioritizes mutual pleasure and absorption.Through his clinical work and research, Dr. Kerner has observed concerning trends among younger generations choosing partnerships without sexual chemistry, while also noting positive shifts in couples' openness to sexual exploration and toy incorporation. He provides practical frameworks for couples to examine and improve their “sexual scripts” - the patterns and behaviors that make up their intimate encounters.The conversation explores how couples can cultivate psychological arousal, maintain erotic connections between encounters, and create space for authentic sexual expression without judgment. Dr. Kerner shares valuable insights about the importance of both emotional safety and maintaining elements of mystery and desire in long-term relationships.Topics Covered:Rethinking traditional sexual scriptsCreating psychological arousal and intimacyThe role of foreplay vs coreplaySexual chemistry in choosing life partnersMaintaining desire in long-term relationshipsGuest Info:Website: IanKerner.comBooks: “She Comes First”, “So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex”Follow Me:Instagram: @afinehuman Shop Dame: dame.com This podcast was produced by The Wave Podcasting

In this special December episode, hosts Dr. Kevin Chu and Dr. Justin Dubin revisit four of their favorite episodes, chosen based on listener feedback and their own favorites. The episodes featured this month include "Masturbation Myths" with Dr. Ashley Winter, "Becoming Cliterate" with Dr. Lauren Streicher, "She Comes First" with Dr. Kelly Casperson, and "Sex Toys Are Us" with the Shameless Sex Podcast girls. The hosts reflect on the past three years of podcasting and emphasize the importance of sexual education for men, highlighting how this knowledge can help them become better partners. Listeners can expect a fun and informative month filled with engaging discussions that encourage communication and understanding in the bedroom. Tune in now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon, and YouTube!

Chapter 1:Summary of She Comes First"She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman" by Ian Kerner is a comprehensive guide focused on enhancing sexual pleasure and intimacy for women. The book emphasizes the importance of understanding female sexuality and prioritizing women's pleasure in sexual relationships.Kerner argues that many men lack knowledge about women's sexual anatomy and desires, leading to unsatisfactory experiences for both partners. He advocates for a shift in perspective, encouraging men to approach sex with a focus on women's pleasure—specifically through techniques such as oral sex and clitoral stimulation.Throughout the book, Kerner incorporates practical advice, anatomical illustrations, and step-by-step instructions for various sexual techniques. He also addresses common misconceptions about female sexuality and the importance of communication in cultivating a fulfilling sexual relationship.Ultimately, "She Comes First" serves as a resource for men seeking to improve their sexual experiences with women by fostering understanding, empathy, and skill in the art of pleasure. The book promotes a more intimate connection and better overall sexual satisfaction for both partners.Chapter 2:The Theme of She Comes First"She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman" by Ian Kerner is a relationship and sexual advice book focused on understanding female sexuality and enhancing intimacy. While the book is primarily non-fiction and instructional, it can still be analyzed for key ideas, themes, and character-like entities in the context of relationships. Here are some key points regarding character development, themes, and ideas presented in the book: Key Plot Points and Structure:1. Importance of Female Pleasure:- The primary argument is that physical intimacy should prioritize female pleasure. Kerner emphasizes that understanding women's bodies and desires can transform sexual experiences.2. Anatomy and Physiology:- Kerner provides detailed explanations of female anatomy, focusing on the clitoris, and breaks down the importance of understanding these physiological aspects to enhance sexual experiences.3. Techniques for Pleasuring Women:- The book introduces various techniques for oral sex and manual stimulation, providing practical advice on how to focus on a woman's pleasure.4. Communication and Consent:- Emphasizes the importance of open communication and consent in any sexual relationship, empowering both partners to express their desires and boundaries.5. Emotional Connection:- Kerner argues that emotional intimacy and connection are crucial for fulfilling sexual experiences. Understanding a partner's emotional needs is highlighted as key to overall pleasure. Character Development:- While the book does not have traditional characters, various archetypal figures are present, such as:- The Educated Man: Represents the reader who seeks to understand and improve his sexual and romantic experiences by gaining knowledge about women's sexuality.- The Empowered Woman: Embodies the ideal of a woman who knows her body and desires, encouraging men to prioritize her pleasure. This character serves as a model for understanding female sexual agency. Thematic Ideas:1. Sexual Equality:- The book promotes the idea that sexual satisfaction should not be a one-sided affair, advocating for balanced pleasure in sexual relationships.2. Breaking Taboos:- Kerner aims to dismantle societal taboos surrounding female sexuality, encouraging discussions that normalize women's desires and pleasures.3. Education and Awareness:- Stresses the importance of sexual education, suggesting that knowledge can lead to better sexual experiences both for men and...

We all know the standard: missionary, doggystyle, woman on top but have you ever heard of these...the Stand and Deliver, the Pearly Gates, the Pretzel? Maybe you're scratching your head right now. We hope you're at least intrigued and ready to join us on this fun, playful episode where we are talking all things sex positions! Inspired by an article in a recent issue of Men's Health by Ian Kerner, sex therapist and author of "She Comes First," George and Laurie are introducing listeners to these positions and many more. Our sexpert, Dr. Laurie breaks down how these positions increase pleasure for both partners and can increase the quality of orgasm, lover connection and maybe even some laughter to the bedroom. This is a spicy episode that you'll definitely want to listen to with the lover in your life!  Check out this episode's sponsor and help support the pod! cozyearth.com -- the softest, sexiest lounge wear and sheets! Laurie won't buy any others! Use the code Foreplay at checkout and get 30% off your order!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 59 - This week, Jenni shares an excerpt from her upcoming book Unveiling the 'SHE' in SHE COMES FIRST, exploring the complexities of self-love for those raised in care, dysfunctional homes, or with disabilities. Disclaimer: Please note that all information and content on the UK Health Radio Network, all its radio broadcasts and podcasts are provided by the authors, producers, presenters and companies themselves and is only intended as additional information to your general knowledge. As a service to our listeners/readers our programs/content are for general information and entertainment only.  The UK Health Radio Network does not recommend, endorse, or object to the views, products or topics expressed or discussed by show hosts or their guests, authors and interviewees.  We suggest you always consult with your own professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advisor. So please do not delay or disregard any professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advice received due to something you have heard or read on the UK Health Radio Network.

Episode 55 - Jenni takes a deep dive into Intimate Health using her avatar character India - the I in SHE COMES FIRST. What are the structural, hormonal, physical, spiritual, nutrition interconnections to pelvic health… Disclaimer: Please note that all information and content on the UK Health Radio Network, all its radio broadcasts and podcasts are provided by the authors, producers, presenters and companies themselves and is only intended as additional information to your general knowledge. As a service to our listeners/readers our programs/content are for general information and entertainment only.  The UK Health Radio Network does not recommend, endorse, or object to the views, products or topics expressed or discussed by show hosts or their guests, authors and interviewees.  We suggest you always consult with your own professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advisor. So please do not delay or disregard any professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advice received due to something you have heard or read on the UK Health Radio Network.

In this episode, we react to a YouTube video by Paul & Morgan called "What We Wish We Knew About Sex: https://www.youtube.com/live/YzjTbGmwP7M?si=HQSM6KIe8p99uFv2 See our live reactions, both the good & the parts we found problematic. Let us know what you think, and comment below with what you'd like us to react to next! Link to the book recommendation "She Comes First" that was mentioned in this video: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0007Q1CI6?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_9VW7V8XBCT209CE47YM0 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sexpositivityunfiltered/support

Episode 43 - This week, Jenni discusses complications arising from a basic breast procedure, limiting her current mobility. Share which SHE COMES FIRST character resonates with you the most. Disclaimer: Please note that all information and content on the UK Health Radio Network, all its radio broadcasts and podcasts are provided by the authors, producers, presenters and companies themselves and is only intended as additional information to your general knowledge. As a service to our listeners/readers our programs/content are for general information and entertainment only.  The UK Health Radio Network does not recommend, endorse, or object to the views, products or topics expressed or discussed by show hosts or their guests, authors and interviewees.  We suggest you always consult with your own professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advisor. So please do not delay or disregard any professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advice received due to something you have heard or read on the UK Health Radio Network.

Sheepdog (formerly WoundedSheepdog) joins the conversation. (Today's guest wishes to remain anonymous and will be referred to by his Twitter (X) handle.) My guest has been in a relationship for over 20 years, is a father, and has a lot of unique experiences to share with those who may be struggling in a sexless or sexually declining relationship. His tweets are inspirational, insightful, and accountable. So, if you are seeking motivation, I highly encourage you to follow him. Today's topic indulges the question, “How to encourage conscious relationships without endorsing the gender war.” Caution: this episode contains sexual topics. Sheepdog has been through an inspiring transformation and shares his background story and journey from emotionally retarded to emotionally intelligent. We discuss why the Red Pill Agenda is a harmful mindset that encourages men to see women as objects, not people. We also discuss why porn can be degrading to our beliefs about sex and intimacy and how porn can negatively impact our expectations. We then talk about how we learned there was so much more to sex than the basic flat concept floated around by social, cultural, and media narratives. Also, chatter about why taking the O out of the sex session can lead to better sex and connection. While being goal-oriented is an attribute to the boardroom, it isn't an attribute to the bedroom. Emotionally connected sex is THE BEST sex you can have, bar-none. Romance is important, rituals are important. It does not mean you are a “simp” or a “cuck” if you like to appreciate your lady or receive affection from your lady. Love isn't logical, nor does love aim to fit the mold of the Red Pill Agenda. We discuss the importance of touch, which is EVERY SINGLE PERSON'S LOVE LANGUAGE. Danielle talks about why it's important to see your spouse as a human being and not just some label or category or affiliation. We need to see each other as equal in value and worth. We must remember we are on the same team. Danielle expounds on an idea mentioned by Sheepdog in one instance regarding ego and speaks to why we sometimes straddle ego and authentic self in the bedroom, why we need a story line (mental arousal) while we are in present moment with the touchable, physical NOW. Sheepdog then highlights the trends of relationship orientations, such as “Trad-Con” relationships, in which the demands and expectations for this type of relationship demean and objectify women. How the Red Pill movement is really just an Agenda of Agent Smith. Must the man lead? And if he's unconscious, CAN he lead? What does it require for a man to lead? Sheepdog says patience! Then we take a dive into the controversial topic of infidelity and forgiveness. How do you take accountability for infidelity? What happens on Discovery Day (D-Day, as Sheepdog calls it)? How do you rebuild trust? Can you love again after an affair? Toward the end of the conversation, we share our learning and teaching experiences in the realm of parenting and specifically, how to talk to your children about sexuality and intimacy and how to encourage their curiosity. This episode is filled with so much substance, nuance, and two individual perspectives compassionately considering one another in an authentic, connected dialogue. Mentioned in this podcast: Zuby, Andrew Tate, Fresh and Fit Podcast, Red Pill Movement, Wife Worship, TradCon, Biblical Marriage, Obligatory sex, Chump Lady, Adam Lane Smith, She Comes First by Ian Kerner, LastaDolphin. For more insight and inspiration, be sure to follow today's guest on X (formerly Twitter- forever Twitter) https://twitter.com/Woundedsheepdog    

Episode 36 - Jenni shares a new menopause programme ‘SHE COMES FIRST' - your 13-step journey to a magical menopause. Explore a new creative and practical approach with new mostly overlooked tools… Disclaimer: Please note that all information and content on the UK Health Radio Network, all its radio broadcasts and podcasts are provided by the authors, producers, presenters and companies themselves and is only intended as additional information to your general knowledge. As a service to our listeners/readers our programs/content are for general information and entertainment only.  The UK Health Radio Network does not recommend, endorse, or object to the views, products or topics expressed or discussed by show hosts or their guests, authors and interviewees.  We suggest you always consult with your own professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advisor. So please do not delay or disregard any professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advice received due to something you have heard or read on the UK Health Radio Network.

*This episode includes sexually explicit language.We communicate about a lot of things with our romantic partner -- money, kids, career, food, and politics– but how often do you really TALK about sex? And if you do, are you doing it right? Best-selling author and sex therapist Ian Kerner breaks down how to talk about sex with your partner and explains why writing your personal sex script is key to sexual happiness. In 2004 he released the blockbuster best-selling book She Comes First. Ian's work has been featured in the Washington post, NYT, NPR, The Atlantic, and New York Magazine. He is the go-to expert on sex therapy and in his latest book,So Tell Me About The last Time You Had Sex, he suggests couples use a “sex script.” What is a sex script and how do you write one or follow it? Ian Kerner answers these questions, and guides us through writing our own sex script, in this episode of Ten Seconds to Air.Ian Kerner Website:https://www.iankerner.com/

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Dr. Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor, best known for his New York Times best-selling book "She Comes First." His expert insights on sex therapy, couples therapy, and relational issues regularly grace prestigious media outlets such as The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR. Our candid and enlightening conversation with Dr. Kerner covers an array of topics, from the importance of communication and self-compassion in sex and relationships to the common misconceptions about men and women in these contexts. We delve deep into the nuances of the sexual experience, exploring the three phases of sex, the role of fantasy, and the differences between men and women in the bedroom. Host: Brent Franson, Founder & CEO, Most Days Guest: Dr. Ian Kerner Music: Patrick Lee Production: Artifact  

Grab your seat for SHE COMES FIRST here.   Grace Jones once said, “In a room full of people, want yourself first” and that quote changed my life forever. Today we're talking about how to get your POWER back in your dating life + relationships. I'm sharing my top tips on how to detach and choose yourself first.  

Episode 25 dives right into the bedroom! Lauren's recently been rereading Ian Kerner's book: SHE COMES FIRST and she has some juicy questions for Trey.  But, before they launch into the subject of communicating their way to better and more patient sex, Trey shares one of his favorite phrases, "Are you asking for advice or do you want me just to listen?" They discuss why this term has been so helpful to their partnership and Lauren even goes so far as to say that, "If we cannot feel vulnerable enough to communicate with our partners, there is no way that our sex is going to improve. Because better sex requires better communication." Throughout this episode, they discuss female arousal times and even tell a story about a recent work day where Lauren had to embrace the slow build, fight feelings of inadequacy, and trust that there was plenty of patience for her AND that Trey would communicate if he needed to be done. Since Trey has not read Ian's book (spoiler!) Lauren asks him to share where and how he learned to provide oral and manual pleasure to the vulva and clitoris. Trey asks Lauren how she moves through personal frustration when arousal is taking longer than desired, and she shares how she avoids using negative phrases at all costs! They both realize that their favorite go-to-phrase is, "are you comfy?" This code allows them both to continue chasing pleasure while checking in with the other's body.  They discuss the power of coaching one another up in the sex they want and HOW they want it and close this episode out by sharing the power of celebrating the unique sexual desires of all humans. If you'd like to learn how to understand YOUR process of arousal or how to communicate what you want in the bedroom, schedule a FREE 15-minute consult with Lauren today! https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult⁠ Lauren loves equipping couples with tools to communicate their sexual needs, wants and desires! Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It's all up to you. Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock  ⁠ Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/support

Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. Ian is the bestselling author of She Comes First, an essential guidebook for pleasuring women, praised by The New York Times for its "cool sense of humor and an obsessive desire to inform." It encourages men to put down the remote and engage in oral sex Read his book here: https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260

Sex is a normal part of human biology, but in our society, there is a lot of stigma, shame, and secrecy when it comes to talking about sex. Unfortunately, the majority of sexual education in the United States withhold information on important topics like anatomy, hormones, consent, and pleasure. Today's guest, Dr. Jolene Brighten, is on a mission to change the way we talk about our bodies and sex. Dr. Brighten is a board-certified naturopathic endocrinologist, a pioneer in the field of women's health, and a fierce proponent of honest, medically accurate sexual education. Her new book, Is This Normal? bridges the gap between what most folks learned in sex ed. classes and the truth about human biology. Is This Normal? is a comprehensive and engaging guide to the human body, including hormones, the menstrual cycle, the orgasm gap, and so much more.  Today she's back on The Model Health Show to have a real conversation about anatomy, human biology, hormones, and sex. This interview covers everything from the anatomy and function of the clitoris, the importance of the vaginal microbiome, the role of hormones, and natural, normal variations of the human body. If you want to learn more about sexual health and hormonal health, Dr. Jolene Brighten is an empowering, honest, and non-judgmental educator. I hope you enjoy this interview! In this episode you'll discover: The solitary function of the clitoris. Major problems with anatomy education. The effects of fear-based sexual education. Why parents need to become the expert in their home. The history of feminine hygiene. How douching impacts the vaginal microbiome. The difference between a vaginal orgasm and a clitoral orgasm. How a woman's cycle affects her sex drive. What arousal non-concordance is. How the sexual excitation and inhibition model works. The role and function of hormones during ovulation. What to look for in a safe lubricant. The risks of labiaplasty. Different variations of vulvas, and why they're normal. Why humans are the only mammal that retains breasts. The biological reason why genitals are darker than the rest of the body. Items mentioned in this episode include: Ettitude.com/model -- Use the coupon code model15 for 15% off organic bedding!  Foursigmatic.com/model -- Get an exclusive discount on your daily health elixirs! How Alcohol Influences Metabolism & Longevity – Episode 657 She Comes First by Dr. Ian Kerner Beyond the Pill by Dr. Jolene Brighten Is This Normal? by Dr. Jolene Brighten Connect with Dr. Jolene Brighten Website / Facebook / Instagram Join TMHS Facebook community - Model Nation  Be sure you are subscribed to this podcast to automatically receive your episodes:  Apple Podcasts Stitcher Spotify Soundcloud Download Transcript  

What is sex therapy and how is it different from other forms of therapy? What are some common concerns explored through sex therapy? What should you expect from a sex therapist and sessions alone or with partner(s)?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with nationally recognized sex therapist and the author of She Comes First and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, Dr. Ian Kerner. They discuss the advantages of sex therapy for those who are looking to address struggles around erotic intimacy and sexuality, solo or with partners. Ian shares his practical and solutions-focused approach, which takes a closer look at people's sexual scripts by analyzing the last time they had sex.To learn more about Ian KernerIan Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. He lectures frequently on topics related to sex and relationships, with recent presentations for the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, the Ackerman Institute, Tony Robbins, The Society for Sex Therapy and Research and TED 2021. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has been translated into more than a dozen languages and more recently So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. He is the co-founder and co-director of the Sex Therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychology. He lives with his family in New York City. Website: iankerner.comResource: aasect.orgSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comLeave us a voicemail: 646-450-9079 Join the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

The Pleasure Gap Between Men's  and Women's Sexual Health (Part 2)  How is women's sexual health different from men's sexuality, and have we finally understood female pleasure? What do men need to ‘get' about it? What are the ingredients of a great sex life and a happy relationship? Health seeker Adiel Gorel discusses all this and more with therapist and author Ian Kerner.    Key Insights: Ian Kerner used to experience early ejaculation, so decided to educate himself. He found out about women's sexual health, and consequently understood his own sexuality better as well. As a species, we moved away from procreative to recreational and relationship sex. Since female orgasm is not linked to procreation, it has rarely been studied widely in the past. Ian Kerner explains the inspiration for his popular first book ‘She Comes First' as well as his new book ‘So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex' – a question he asks his therapy patients. Ian speaks of chemistry, attraction as a social construct, and what causes us to pick someone. Spectatoring or the performative aspect of sex is also discussed. Communication is key to satisfying sexual relations in a couple. Apart from the physicality of intercourse; couples must connect mentally – ‘outercourse' as Ian puts it. Author, Investment Expert and Wellness Advocate Adiel Gorel isn't just an expert in his chosen fields but also a storyteller who makes complex issues easily accessible. Tune in to his show where he addresses diverse issues with a single aim to improve quality of life.    Have questions? Seeking the right information is the first step toward improving quality of life and health. Post your questions in the comment box below or get in touch with me directly. https://adielgorel.com/ info@life201.com   healing sexuality sexuality coach sexuality chakras women's sexual health sexual health doctor Premature ejaculation Male and female orgasm She comes first He comes next When was the last time you had sex   #AdielGorel #AdielGorelShow #health #wellness #betterliving #psychotherapist #sexcounselor #couplestherapy #sexualhealth #wellness #prematureejaculation #clitoris #femalepleasure #fgm #sexualenergy #performanceanxiety #arousal #intimacy #spectatoring #healthyrelationships #sexualwellness #sextherapy     

Ian Kerner is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First as well as the recently published So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex.

The Pleasure Gap Between Men's  and Women's Sexual Health (Part 1)  How is women's sexual health different from men's sexuality, and have we finally understood female pleasure? What do men need to ‘get' about it? What are the ingredients of a great sex life and a happy relationship? Health seeker Adiel Gorel discusses all this and more with therapist and author Ian Kerner.    Key Insights: Ian Kerner used to experience early ejaculation, so decided to educate himself. He found out about women's sexual health, and consequently understood his own sexuality better as well. As a species, we moved away from procreative to recreational and relationship sex. Since female orgasm is not linked to procreation, it has rarely been studied widely in the past. Ian Kerner explains the inspiration for his popular first book ‘She Comes First' as well as his new book ‘So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex' – a question he asks his therapy patients. Ian speaks of chemistry, attraction as a social construct, and what causes us to pick someone. Spectatoring or the performative aspect of sex is also discussed. Communication is key to satisfying sexual relations in a couple. Apart from the physicality of intercourse; couples must connect mentally – ‘outercourse' as Ian puts it. Author, Investment Expert and Wellness Advocate Adiel Gorel isn't just an expert in his chosen fields but also a storyteller who makes complex issues easily accessible. Tune in to his show where he addresses diverse issues with a single aim to improve quality of life.    Have questions? Seeking the right information is the first step toward improving quality of life and health. Post your questions in the comment box below or get in touch with me directly. https://adielgorel.com/ info@life201.com   healing sexuality sexuality coach sexuality chakras women's sexual health sexual health doctor Premature ejaculation Male and female orgasm She comes first He comes next When was the last time you had sex   #AdielGorel #AdielGorelShow #health #wellness #betterliving #psychotherapist #sexcounselor #couplestherapy #sexualhealth #wellness #prematureejaculation #clitoris #femalepleasure #fgm #sexualenergy #performanceanxiety #arousal #intimacy #spectatoring #healthyrelationships #sexualwellness #sextherapy     

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One of the topics I get the most DMs about is female ejaculation. Either women who do it all the time and want to stop or women wanting to know how to do it and everything in between. In this episode, we're talking about female ejaculation, how it works, why we shouldn't be afraid of it, and why it actually is pretty amazing. So, why not give it a try? She Comes First by Ian Kerner  Women's Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston Medical News Today Healthline

This week's episode features the indomitable “abolitionist” Brooke Obie, who is the Editor & Chief of XONecole the premier digital destination for Black women millennials and the host of their podcast She Comes First. And, what an episode it is! Brooke gives us a window into her life and how the “Christain culture” she was raised in shaped her life in both positive and negative ways that ultimately helped her discover the passion and purpose to tell, share and advocate for authentic Black stories that embrace ALL of our community. Get ready to truly be inspired by her life and career pivots in the pursuit of personal liberation that will help you discover your own! Brooke Obie - https://www.instagram.com/brookeobie/ & http://www.brookeobie.com/ XONecole - https://www.xonecole.com/ She Comes First - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/xonecole-podcast/id1484872409 Brooke's article on Dr. Donald Shirley - http://www.brookeobie.com/blog/brooke-obie-on-how-green-book-and-hollywood-swallowed-donald-shirley-whole/ Please remember to subscribe, leave a rating and follow us on Linkedin and Instagram @BLKONTHESCENE.

On this week's episode of She Comes First, we've got a fave - Elaine Welteroth! She's giving us the real on what it means to step into herself, on her terms and own every bit of it.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week's guest is the star of the hit show P-Valley and she's no stranger to the art of self-care. Brandee Evans joins She Comes First to discuss how playing Mercedes has stretched her as an actress, how the art of the show has imitated her own life, and how she has learned to care for herself while being her mother's primary caretaker.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When it comes to travel, accessibility is often an afterthought. But it shouldn't be. Qudsiya Naqui, host of the Down to the Struts podcast, takes on a journey into the world of accessible travel. She speaks with writer Bani Amor, wilderness specialist Erika Rivers, and Maayan Ziv, the founder of AccessNow, a mobile app that helps travelers find and share accessibility information. Resources: You can learn more about Qudsiya and the Down to the Struts team at downtothestruts.com. Learn more about disability experiences through media and culture. The Disability Visibility Project created by Alice Wong is a great place to start. You can find blog posts and interviews with members of the disability community at disabilityvisibilityproject.org. See what Erika Rivers and her team at Wilderness Inquiry are doing at https://www.wildernessinquiry.org/ Explore Maayan Ziv and AccessNow at https://accessnow.com Follow Bani Amor on Instagram, https://www.instagram.com/baniamor/?hl=en Special thanks to Story District in Washington D.C. for permission to share original audio from their March 2020 show, “She Comes First.” You can learn more about Story District by visiting storydistrict.org.

Welcome to “Pillow Talk,” the interview series where Lara calls up her favorite creators to chat about sex, art and answers your most sensual questions.Today Lara is joined by therapist and sex & relationship specialist Ian Kerner! We talked about his best-selling book “She comes first,” his 3 top tips for the art of giving cunnilingus and then we answered your most pressing questions! Amen. Check out Ian Kerner's work here

In this week's episode, “Three Weddings and a Brothel,” Pan and Beth descend into complete chaos as we discuss the canon and semi-canon weddings of Jamie, Claire, and Lord John. Beth goes off on a tangent about female pleasure, Pan rants about The Scottish Prisoner, and somehow we pull the whole thing together by the end using scrap paper and glue sticks. Before you listen, make sure you check out our pre-reading assignment, an early draft of Lord John's proposal to Claire. The fic rec this week is Every Impossible Move by JeSuisPrest The book we discussed is She Comes First by Ian Kerner Theme music is "Hens March to the Midden," (Traditional) performed by the talented @faeriesfanficblog (tumblr). This podcast is NSFW. Listener discretion is advised.

Whether you had to think for awhile or you can recall your last time like that, we're chatting with She Comes First author and sex therapist Ian Kerner about the pleasures of sex and how sex can help us bring us closer to our partners (and in light of everything going on, we all need that reminder more than ever!). We discuss the importance of being 'cliterate' and not just putting the emphasis on intercourse, how you can start to explore in the bedroom in a way that doesn't seem as intimidating, and the important sex trends you need to know that are happening right now. TW: In the intro we also talk about abortion rights and the overturning of Roe v. Wade Learn more about Ian Kerner: https://www.iankerner.com/ and check out his latest book 'So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex' Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Filter Off: Try the new dating app where you date people not profiles and receive 5 extra daily picks at https://www.getfilteroff.com/ with the code DATEMEDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In This Episode, You Will Learn: How to preserve and maintain your health and body. Debunking misconceptions around psychedelics & alternative medicines. How to develop more self reliance and personal ownership. The key to self-defense, situational awareness, and keeping yourself (and your loved ones) safe.   Resources + Links: Connect with Chance on Instagram | @chancelloraven   Learn more about psychedelic education at: The Zen Project Third Wave MAPS Organization Mindbloom   She Comes First by Ian Kerner   Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray   Join us in our Facebook community | Conquer the Day Facebook Group    Listen to our FREE Meditation https://youtu.be/dMygIWwdWaY   Take our FREE assessment to LEARN MORE about yourself and how to improve your habits: Download Curiosity Questioning Essentials HERE!   ……………………………   Tag us in an Instagram Story with your biggest takeaway  @conquerthedaypodcast   Connect with Lindsey Rago Instagram | @raygobomb Facebook | @lindseyrago   Connect with Brian Pickowicz  Instagram | @brianpickowicz Show Notes: How do you turn fear into empowerment? Our special guest this week is creative entrepreneur, Chancellor Aven, here to give his experience and advice on conquering stress & fear! In today's podcast, we have an in-depth discussion on the health and safety of your body through developing pillars of self-reliance, protection, and preservation. First, Chance will share the challenges he faced during his health journey, and his long road to recovery via the use of alternative drugs and medicines.   Then, we want to dive into honing self-defense and preparation skills as useful tools for protection. How do you gain more situational awareness? Where can people start when learning how to defend themselves? How does this help to empower the groups of people that need it most? When it comes to your safety, there's nothing more important - so don't hesitate in learning the best ways to take care of yourself and the ones that matter in your life! 0:01:30 Meet Chancellor Aven, creative entrepreneur and founder of AVENHAUS, here to share his story of recovery and self-preservation! 0:02:50 What has been your health journey and health challenges? 0:07:30 What was the moment that made it worse? 0:09:25 During that time, did you think it was related to stress? 0:10:25 What was your experience under immense stress? 0:14:40 Facing the diagnosis. 0:16:00 How was your headspace during those six months? 0:20:05 What were the steps taken that helped you recover? 0:24:40 What is ketamine useful for? 0:26:00 How do you get ketamine? 0:28:30 How did your previous knowledge of CBD help you stay open to alternative treatments? 0:31:45 Breaking down the misconceptions around drugs. 0:33:20 Where can people educate themselves on psychedelics? 0:34:50 How do you maintain your state with the tools you've learned? 0:36:05 What have you found that is most useful to you? 0:37:45 How has self-reliance helped you to regulate? 0:42:00 Where should people start when learning self-defense? 0:43:10 What is your personal definition of self-protection? 0:46:40 What do people need to come to terms with when defending themselves? 0:51:30 The difference between fear and preparation. 0:53:20 What is stress inoculation? How can we increase it? 0:55:15 What are some helpful pillars people can start with? 0:58:10 Understanding firearms for personal responsibility & accountability. 1:01:25 Why is it important to have these conversations? 1:04:15 Who does the second amendment help to empower? 1:07:05 What book has impacted your life the most? 1:07:45 What does your ideal day look like for you? 1:08:45 What is your favorite movie and why? 1:09:10 What is one habit that helps you conquer your day?

Funnest episode ever award goes to this one, in which we talk with Dr. Emily Fessler, sex therapist and marriage and family therapist/couples therapist and professor of MFT, about marriage and relationships, sex (yep, sex!), and the 5 Things she recommends for people looking to grow or maintain their romantic connection.Emily Kahumoku Fessler (therapy practice web site: http://Therapyco.net and Instagram: @thefullemilyexperience)  is a native Hawaiian/Irish professor of Marriage and family therapy and a private practitioner. She's got a casual, laid-back approach to therapy (and life) and doesn't sweat it when things get heated in session. She's been described by one of her long-time clients as “the everyday people's sex therapist” and can't count on both hands how many times she been cornered at a party by someone that says, “Can I ask you a weird question?”Honorable Mentions:Barry MCarthy (sex researcher)“The 5 Things” you can do to maintain/build your romantic relationshipResponsive sexual desireRecommended Reading:The 80/80 Marriage, by Kaley Klemp and Nate Klemp PhDCome As You Are, by Emily Nagoski PhD (women-targeted)She Comes First, by Ian Kerner PhD (husband-targeted)—Welcome to the Psychologists Podcast, hosted by Drs. Gill and Julia Strait. We're psychologists, we're married, and we're trying to figure out how to keep two small children alive. Join us as we explore psychology research and practice through a very personal lens. ***https://tinyurl.com/Thepsychologists ***Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thepsychologists ***Twitter @psychspodcast

We welcome back Dr. Ian Kerner, renowned sex therapist and best selling author of “She Comes First.” As one of the most well known voices in the field of sex therapy, Ian integrates both a biological and psychodynamic understanding of sexuality, making his work both deep in understanding as well as incredibly practical. In our interview, Ian discusses his most recent book, “So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex.” As the first question in his sessions to couples in sexual distress, Ian walks us through the ways he helps couples get unstuck in the bedroom. Through examining the sequences of events, Ian talks about how couples can analyze their “sex script” and help expand these scripts to give couples more flexibility and erotic identities with themselves and to one another. He also shares with us some very practical tools and techniques to address sex ruts. Take a listen! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lovelink/support

In this episode, we are talking about Sex and Aging with Melinda Porter. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor and owner of MCP Counseling in Carrollton, Texas.  Melinda is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist who provides services to couples, polycules, and individuals with diverse sexuality and expressions.  Melinda has also worked in the queer community since 2012. Working with children, teens, individuals, couples, and families to process sexuality and gender questions and/or transitioning. She provides safe space and education on the journey to congruency. Her goal is for her clients to find self-understanding and skills to be in the moment. Guest info-Melinda's Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/melinda-chats/id1537457611Website: https://mcpcounseling.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melindachatsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/melindachats/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmuZ7Jb7vSg3mHMH0U9hlngTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melindachatsResources:  Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, She Comes First by Ian Kerner, and Mating in Captivity by Esther PerelThis episode is sponsored by SimplePractice. Get your first $100 towards your first month of SimplePractice when you sign up for an account today. This exclusive offer is valid for new customers only. Go to https://www.simplepractice.com/partners/hersexualspace to learn more.  Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.

Dr. Ian Kerner likes to call himself the Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom and is one of the most recognizable voices in clinical sex therapy. He is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy, and working with individuals on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress.  He approaches psychotherapy from an integrative perspective, which seeks to explain human behavior by bringing together physiological, affective, cognitive-behavioral, neurobiological, and systemic approaches as they apply to the natural stages of human development and the wide range of human functioning.  Ian is also the New York Times best-selling author of numerous books, including She Comes First. His latest book, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, is available now wherever you get your books. WE CHAT ABOUT... Why Ian calls himself the Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom Some common challenges couples face when it comes to their sex lives What a sex script is and how it can be useful The difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire How the brain responds to turn-ons and turn-offs What fantasy and mind based arousal look like The importance of making a ritual out of weekly sex Why you should be changing up your sex script to help with arousal What to do when you can't shut your thoughts off during sex How to navigate through guilt and shame when you were raised in a sex-negative home What to do if sharing a fantasy, or role-play, feels uncomfortable What to do if there's a mismatch in libido How fantasy and power play are a way of processing and resolving trauma, and that many find kink to be therapeutic Why labeling your partner as “sexless” or “sex addict” isn't helpful How biological, psychological, sociological, and relational variables can negatively impact sexuality The homework assignments Ian would suggest if you wanted to change your sex script ____________________________ I'm excited to announce that I'm now taking clients for 1:1 anxiety coaching. To learn more and sign up, visit courageouslyu.com/coaching or send an email to hello@courageouslyu.com to join my client waitlist today!  ____________________________ COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES:  https://courageouslyu.com/ian-kerner/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/   COURAGEOUSLY.U FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1416219115169393

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Sex therapist and author Laura Berman has been speaking to couples and individuals for many years in an effort to help them love, and be loved better. In this risqué episode, Laura regales Joss with some colourful anecdotes from her unusual family life. The two of them discuss the difference between men and women as sexual beings, we find out how Joss met her partner, and discover the reasons behind her fairytale complex. Books mentioned in the episode: Quantum Love, How to give her absolute pleasure and She Comes First. *** A massive thank you to our wonderful sponsors! BetterHelp - Start your therapy journey today with 10% off your first month at this link: betterhelp.com/cuppahappy or use code cuppahappy at check out LinkedIn Jobs - Post a job for free on LinkedIn using the link: https://linkedin.com/cuppa *** A Fascinate Production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The NSPC sit down with the author of the best selling book..She Comes First. You can figure out what this episode is all about! It is perfect for the better lover May! This guest and episode, is kind of a big deal! Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Economist and NPR amongst others. Ian contributes regularly on the topic of sex for CNN Health. He lectures frequently on topics related to sex and relationships, with recent presentations at New York University, Yale, Princeton and the Ackerman Institute. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy(AFTA).

On today's regular version of the show … How do I help my spouse believe they are attractive when it's not what they believe about themself? Plus I'm joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, the author of She Comes First, to answer a listener's question about premature ejaculation. On the Xtended version … A deeper conversation […] The post Premature Ejaculation #416 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

On today's regular version of the show … How do I help my spouse believe they are attractive when it's not what they believe about themself? Plus I'm joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, the author of She Comes First, to answer a listener's question about premature ejaculation. On the Xtended version … A deeper conversation […]

The True Meaning of ‘Cliteracy' Starting with a discussion of his book, She Comes First, Ian Kerner's coined word ‘cliteracy' is given more thought and emphasis. Overall, the term encapsulates the aim of his bestselling book. He relays to listeners his previously one-sided mentalities towards sex, his struggles, and his overall motivations for becoming "cliterate" (clitoral literacy). By moving past an intercourse-dominated understanding of what sex had been, and shifting towards an outercourse understanding of what sex could be, his life changed for the better. For more on the backstory and motivations for She Comes First, and his whole shift in perspective, check the episode out. Less Performance Anxiety With Cunnilingus? Yes and no, Ian Kerner states. Certainly, if one shifts towards more foreplay, closeness, and outercourse over sticking to a strictly penetrative practice, the slow-burning build-up can be a much more relaxed experience for all who are involved. And according to Kerner, it is much rarer for a man to be anxious about performing oral sex on a partner over traditional vaginal intercourse (where maintaining an erection or premature ejaculation can often crop up). Instead, females are usually much more anxious to receive cunnilingus because of issues of genital self-esteem and other factors. For more on this, Ian Kerner really brings up some cogent points on the subject. Genital Self-Esteem This concept is a very important one to consider when the topic at hand is cliteracy. Especially for someone who has harsh, unrealistic, or unhealthy self-perceptions about the appearance or size of their genitals, and so on. And the number one way to remedy an anxious partner is to express how much you enjoy giving them pleasure--expressing one's during the performative aspect of cunnilingus is key. This reinforces a system of positive feedback which in turn makes the act more enjoyable for all involved. Sex in Multiple Acts Ian likes to remind his clients that sex shouldn't be done on just a penetrative basis. He likens those kinds of sexual practices as a play with only one act. So, instead of going straight for the climax without actually having built up properly for it, he encourages starting slow. Only when you introduce important elements can you move onto the next act. If you want really good, healthy sex, one should logically start with the first act: this could consist of seduction or playful touching. Act 2 is genital stimulation. And act 3 can logically progress from there with more foreplay. Or maybe an intermission between acts 3 and 4, and then the play resumes. Also, who says an orgasm has to be the end result? Some of the most satisfying sexual experiences (plays) don't always end with a climax. For much more, check it out! Changes to She Comes First? Because Ian wrote She Comes First over a decade ago, some of focuses and implementations are perhaps a little lopsided for his taste now. Technique gets the majority of page space throughout the book, and he ponders aloud if perhaps he should have focused more on the communication aspects of sex over achieving a ‘flow' state during the act itself. Both are important of course! But overall, Ian is proud of the book, as he should be. And for those who haven't picked up a copy, you really should. You should also really check the episode out! Background Ian Kerner is the bestselling author of, She Comes First, and its companion piece, Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man. In addition to garnering acclaim with the aforementioned books, he has successfully launched and maintained a career as a licensed psychotherapist, a sexuality counselor with a focus in sex therapy and couples therapy; he is also considered a prominent authority on sexuality throughout the industry. Just a few of the notable programs and organizations that he is a part of include the following: He is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT); Also, Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and currently sits on AASECT's Board of Directors. And for a more in-depth list of his affiliations and efforts, visit his website here: https://www.iankerner.com/ In addition, Ian is also a very accomplished public speaker and lecturer and has spoken at dozens of events on topics ranging from psychotherapy to sex tips and beyond. He has been a guest on the Dr. Oz Show, he writes for CNN Health, and is a frequent speaker at many academic institutions and symposiums. All in all, Ian is one of the most successful writers on sexuality of all time, and we have been extremely fortunate to have him on the show! Website: https://www.iankerner.com/ ----- More info: Book and New Course - https://sexwithoutstress.com Web - https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/ Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/ If you're enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. 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Female sexuality is quite different than male sexuality. "For a woman to turn on parts of her brain need to turn off." -Ian Kerner The Cheat Sheet: Sexual attention deficit disorder: what is it and how does it relate to porn? Is Ian in favor of or against pornography? What is IELT and why does it matter? How often should couples have sex? What is the sex pyramid? And so much more... When it comes to sex do men think about it more than women - or is that just a myth? And if you're in a relationship how often should you be doing it, how often is healthy? These are just a few of the questions we answer on today's show. Joining us is sex and relationship expert and the best-selling author of several books including She Comes First, Ian Kerner. We talk about all of that and more on episode 382 of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: Sex is a crucial aspect of a romantic relationship, yet it's one of those areas most couples (and singles) don't have the vocabulary to talk about. Ian Kerner is a man on a mission to change that and he's written several New York Times best-selling books to do so, as well as work with clients in his private practice as a licensed marriage and family therapist. One of the first things we discuss today is the fact that male and female sexuality are different, despite the fact that our culture treats them the same. A guy typically only needs one sexual cue to get turned on. However a woman often needs multiple cues and her arousal is much more context-oriented. What that means is a woman often needs a safe, comfortable and secure environment without distractions in order to be fully ready for sex and orgasms. In fact, functional MRI scans have shown that certain parts of a woman's brain actually dim during arousal, the parts associated with stress, anxiety and high emotion. So arousal cues different, but do men really think about sex more than women? Not as much as you might believe. Studies of college students have shown that men only think about sex 17-20 times a day while women think about it around 10 times a day. So yes men think about it more, but not that much more. And once you're in a sexually active relationship, how often should you be doing it? Ian recommends at least once a week to keep the connection there and to keep that sexual chemistry in the air. He also recommends using his sex pyramid to keep a good balance of familiarity and novelty to keep your sexual life healthy. The sex pyramid is grouped into multiple types of sex from romantic love-making to fantasy sex to sensual sex. Ian gives us the full details of how to blend those sex groups on today's show! We also talk about how to use porn in a healthy way, how to deal with premature ejaculation and much more. Listen in and enjoy! Special thanks to Ian for being here, and thanks to you as well. We'll see you next time on The Art of Charm. THANKS IAN KERNER! If you enjoyed this session of The Art of Charm Podcast, let Ian know by clicking on the link below and sending him a quick shout out on Twitter: Click here to thank Ian on Twitter! Resources from this episode: Ian Kerner's web siteShe Comes First, by Ian Kerner 52 Weeks of Amazing Sex, by Ian Kerner Good In Bed Ian Kerner on Twitter The Art of Charm bootcamps   You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast Wanna leave a comment? Too bad! Email me instead (we read everything)!   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there.   FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming!