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Black Muslim Singles Society brings to you it's podcast on topics related to single life, courtship, and matchmaking from the Muslim perspective. Hosted by Zara J. For matchmaking and events: Www.blackmuslimsinglessociety.com Instagram: @blackmuslimsinglessociety @blackmuslimsinglessocials @_z…

Courtship Code


    • May 6, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
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    • 317 EPISODES

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    The Courtship Code podcast has been an integral part of my life for the past year. I stumbled upon this podcast while searching for resources to help me achieve my love goals, and it has truly been a game-changer. From the moment I decided to commit to realizing my desires and admitted that I needed support, joining the Captivating Courtship group coaching course associated with this podcast was the best decision I made at the end of 2020.

    One of the best aspects of The Courtship Code podcast is the wealth of information it provides. Zara J, the host, introduces concepts and ideas that are not commonly discussed elsewhere. Her unique perspective on marriage and relationships gives listeners a fresh approach to achieving their relationship goals while also emphasizing self-worth and feeling cherished throughout the journey. The podcast acts as a catalyst for further research and exploration, prompting me to dig deeper into topics that were previously unknown or overlooked.

    What sets The Courtship Code apart from other podcasts is Zara J's coaching. While her episodes are informative and valuable in themselves, participating in her coaching program takes everything to another level. Through her guidance and expertise, I have undergone a transformation into a woman who knows her worth and understands how to foster positive and fulfilling relationships with men. The coaching program aligns perfectly with my vision of love and marriage, providing me with practical tools to level up in my love life.

    However, like any podcast, there may be some aspects that can be improved upon. One suggestion would be to include more diverse perspectives on relationships. While Zara J provides valuable insights from her own experiences, hearing from experts or individuals with different backgrounds could add depth and broaden the scope of discussions. This would provide listeners with a more comprehensive understanding of love and courtship.

    In conclusion, The Courtship Code podcast is an exceptional resource for anyone looking to enhance their love life. Zara J's positive yet balanced approach resonates deeply, and her coaching program takes the experience to new heights. The podcast is filled with valuable gems that allow for self-reflection and personal growth. Overall, I am immensely grateful for the impact it has had on my life, and I wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone seeking guidance in matters of the heart. Thank you, Zara, for creating such a transformative and empowering podcast.



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    #1 Reason High-Achieving Muslim Women Keep Attracting Situationships S8E10

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2025 22:26


    If you're a high-achieving Muslim woman with an anxious attachment style, chances are you've found yourself in the same painful cycle — deep emotional connections that feel like the start of something real… but never lead to marriage. In this episode, we unpack the #1 reason you keep attracting situationships and how your emotional openness can actually attract the wrong men if you don't know how to qualify them for long-term commitment.We'll explore:Why anxiously attached women are amazing at bonding, but often ignore signs of low commitmentThe hidden fears that keep you stuck in unaligned courtships longer than you should beWhy emotional chemistry and compatibility aren't enoughHow to spot marriage-readiness in the first 30 daysThe mindset shift you need to stop chasing and start choosingPlus, learn how the Captivating Courtship Code teaches you to effortlessly qualify a man for commitment so you never again waste your time on another unclear, emotionally exhausting situationship.

    Anxiously Attached Muslim Women Who Want Marriage S8E9

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2025 28:48


    In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the unique challenges faced by anxiously attached Muslim women in their journey to marriage. If you're tired of cycles of situationships and heartbreak, this episode is for you. We explore the three essential shifts you must make to break free and manifest the love you deserve:Get Clear on Your Vision of Love: Learn how to define what a healthy, fulfilling marriage looks like for you—and commit to it fully.Build Trust and Emotional Security: Discover how emotional management and cultivating trust can pave the way for a strong, stable relationship.Focus on Your Captivating Life: Understand how to stop chasing and rediscover your sense of self so that you attract love rather than losing yourself in it.Join us as we break down these key shifts and help you move from frustration to empowerment in your courtship journey. It's time to stop the patterns and create the marriage you deserve.

    You're Not Alone: How to Break Isolation & Build Your Village in Courtship S8E8

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2025 54:21


     Courtship can feel like a lonely road—especially for Muslim women navigating it with strong values, big dreams, and a desire to do things the right way. Whether you're feeling like no one around you “gets it,” tired of getting advice that doesn't align with your faith or goals, or silently questioning if you're the only one struggling—this episode is your reminder: you're not alone.In this episode of Patterned, we explore: ✨ Why isolation in courtship is so common for high-achieving Muslim women ✨ How lack of aligned support can lead to self-doubt, overthinking, and emotional burnout ✨ What it really means to have a "village" of women around you who understand and uplift you ✨ The role of sacred sisterhood in healing patterns, restoring confidence, and staying aligned with your values ✨ Practical ways to connect with community, even if you feel like you're the only one on this journeyYou'll also learn how being in intentional, aligned spaces like coaching communities, pattern rewiring groups, and sisterhood circles can be the very thing that transforms your courtship experience—and helps you show up as your most confident, supported, and emotionally clear self.

    6 Steps to Go From Breakup to Bride for Muslim Women S8E7

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2025 39:48


    If you're fresh out of a breakup or caught in a cycle of almost-relationships, this episode is your roadmap to healing, alignment, and real commitment.In this powerful episode, I'm sharing the 6 transformative steps to go from heartbreak to high-value courtship — and eventually, to becoming a bride. These steps will help you stop wasting time on situationships, rebuild your confidence, and position yourself for intentional love with a commitment-ready partner.Whether you're healing from rejection, dating with confusion, or doubting if love is still possible for you — this is your sign that it is. Let's walk the path from pain to partnership, together.How to trust yourself and love again after heartbreakWhy increasing your self-worth is the foundation of aligned loveHow to meet matches who are emotionally available and marriage-readyThe difference between dating and courtshipHow to create deep emotional connection with potential partnersWhat it means to "stay on code" and hold your standards for commitmentHeal Wounds to Learn to Trust AgainIncrease Your Self-Worth & ConfidenceMeet Aligned, Intentional MatchesCourt with Clarity (Not Confusion)Create Heart-Centered Emotional ConnectionStay on Code for Commitment & AlignmentLinks Mentioned in This Episode: Watch 3 Step Courtship Blueprint Training: Watch Now

    The First 30 Days of Courtship – The Most Important Mistake to Avoid S6E6

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2025 26:07


    In today's episode of the Captivating Courtship Podcast, we're diving into one of the biggest mistakes high-achieving women make in the first 30 days of courtship—and how it silently sabotages meaningful connection.If you've ever felt the need to prove your worth, push the relationship forward, or dismiss men too quickly—this episode will speak directly to your heart.Discover how masculine “doing” energy shows up in the early stages of courtship and how shifting into feminine alignment can help you attract emotionally available love with ease and clarity.Why high-achieving women unconsciously fall into masculine energy in the first 30 days of courtshipHow over-investing or overanalyzing too soon leads to emotional burnout and self-sabotageThe difference between healthy observation and fear-based judgmentHow to receive love without performance, pressure, or proving your worthSimple mindset shifts to stay grounded in feminine energy while navigating new connections

    Why High-Value Muslim Women Never Beg for Love S8E5

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 22, 2025 40:56


    In this episode, we explore why high-value Muslim women never beg for love—and why you shouldn't either. If you've ever found yourself overextending, emotionally chasing, or trying to prove your worth in courtship, this conversation will help you realign with your value. Discover how to embody confidence, trust in divine timing, and create space for the love that's already written for you.What it really means to "beg for love" and how it shows up in courtshipThe mindset of a high-value Muslim woman grounded in taqwa, self-worth, and trust in Allah's decreeWhy setting boundaries and walking away is an act of self-trust—not scarcityThree practical steps to stop chasing and start attracting aligned, marriage-ready loveWhen a woman feels unseen or unworthy, she often tries to do more—but a high-value woman knows her worth is not up for negotiation.A high-value woman doesn't convince someone to choose her—she aligns with someone already seeking what she offers.Begging is rooted in fear and lack. Walking away is rooted in faith and self-respect.You were not created to chase what is already written for you. Choosing yourself is how you make space for the right partner to choose you, too.Resources Mentioned:The Simple 3 Step Courtship Blueprint TrainingThe Courtship Blueprint MembershipThe Captivating Courtship CodeIn This Episode, You'll Learn:Key Takeaways:

    The #1 Thing Keeping You Stuck in Cycles of Disappointment in Love

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2025 38:41


    If you're a high-achieving Muslim woman struggling with courtship, feeling frustrated by inconsistent men, and wondering why you keep getting ghosted, rejected, or why things never seem to move forward, this episode is for you.In this episode, we uncover:The real reason you feel stuck in cycles of disappointment in loveWhy trying to control courtship is actually pushing marriage further awayHow to embody Captivating Queen Energy to attract a commitment-ready manThe mindset shifts that make marriage happen fasterThe truth is, successful courtship is not about waiting passively or trying to force things to happen. It is about aligning with trust, attraction, and taking high-quality courtship actions without stress or overthinking.If you have not made it to 90 days of courtship in 12 months or more, join The Courtship Blueprint—a community designed to help you master the skills to meet men, embody attraction, and learn to trust and surrender by taking courtship 30 days at a time.Sign up for our FREE 5-Day Training: "The Simple 3-Step Courtship Blueprint for High-Achieving Muslim Women"This proven framework will show you how to attract a compatible, marriage-ready man without stress or wasting time.What You'll Learn in This 5-Day Training:Day 1: How to Surrender and Trust the Process to Attract a Compatible HusbandDay 2: How to Meet Marriage-Ready MenDay 3: How to Make Heart-Centered ConnectionsDay 4: The First 30 Days of Courtship—What Works & What Doesn'tDay 5: The Path to Marriage Without Wasting TimeJoin the free training now: Click Here

    The #1 Courtship Mistake Keeping You Stuck in Confusion S8E3

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2025 62:29


    Have you ever found yourself deeply connected to a man—feeling the attraction, the chemistry, and the emotional bond—only to realize months or even years later that he's still not ready to marry?You keep waiting, hoping, and trying to make things work, but deep down, you know this relationship isn't leading to marriage. This is the #1 mistake keeping high-achieving Muslim women stuck in confusion: staying in relationships that aren't going anywhere.In this episode, I'm breaking down:✔️ Why so many women waste time in relationships that don't lead to marriage✔️ How to stop chasing commitment and start making high-quality courtship decisions✔️ The Captivating Courtship Code (CCC) process that helps women take back their power and attract a commitment-ready husbandIf you're tired of uncertainty and ready to step into a confident, aligned approach to courtship, this episode is for you!Why women stay in relationships that don't lead to marriage and how to recognize the early signsThe biggest mindset shift you need to start making confident courtship decisionsThe difference between men who are commitment-ready vs. men who waste your timeThe 3 essential elements of a crystal-clear Vision of Love that helps you attract marriageA real-life CCC success story of a high-achieving woman who broke free from waiting for the wrong man and got married within monthsHow you can start making empowered, high-quality courtship decisions todayThis free training, “How to Qualify, Court, Commit: A Workshop for High-Achieving Muslim Women Ready for Marriage” is happening soon, and you don't want to miss it!Save Your Seat Now: Register NowThis exclusive training will show you:✅ How to qualify the right men for marriage and avoid dead-end relationships✅ The exact steps to move from courtship to marriage without pressure or fear✅ The mindset shifts and courtship strategy that have helped countless women attract commitment-ready menSpots are limited, so register now!

    Why High-Achieving Muslim Women Struggle with Courtship (And How to Fix It) S8E2

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2025 35:24


    If you're a high-achieving woman, you've built a successful career, your finances are in order, and you've checked off personal milestones—but when it comes to love, things aren't falling into place. You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, relationships that fizzle out, or connections that leave you questioning,Why does this keep happening to me?In today's episode, we're uncovering:The real reason high-achieving women struggle with courtshipThe three biggest roadblocks keeping you stuck in frustrating dating cyclesHow to stop overthinking and take aligned action toward a meaningful relationshipThe proven process to confidently navigate courtship toward commitment and marriageIf you're tired of dating confusion and ready for a clear, intentional path to love, this episode is for you.You Don't Have a Proven Process for CourtshipJust like in your career, success in love requires a step-by-step strategy, not guesswork.You Struggle with Emotional GuardingYou may be great at expressing thoughts but struggle to build deep emotional connections.You're Overthinking Instead of Taking Aligned ActionWaiting for the “perfect moment” keeps you stuck—real love is about alignment, not timing.Solution?Gain clarity, confidence, and a framework to attract the right relationship.Ready to break free from frustrating relationship cycles and finally attract the right man for marriage?Join the free live training:How to Qualify, Court, Commit: A Workshop for High-Achieving Muslim Women Ready for MarriageSave Your Seat Now:Register HereIn this training, you'll learn:The exact steps to transform your courtship journeyHow to identify and attract commitment-ready menThe framework that has helped women move from confusion to clarity in loveLimited spots available—don't miss this opportunity.Will you still be meeting men who aren't serious a year from now?Still stuck in situationships, second-guessing yourself?Still wondering when it will finally happen for you?Nothing changes if nothing changes. If you're listening to this, you know it's time for a shift.Take the next step now.Join the free webinar:Register HereIf you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend and subscribe for more insights.See you inside the free training—your next-level relationship starts now.Links to Your Next Steps:Book a Courtship Clarity ConsultationJoin The Captivating Courtship Code CoachingGet The Courtship BlueprintFREE Captivating Courtship PlaybookFREE Queen of Courtship QuizFollow or DM us on Instagram@captivatingcourtshipDon't forget to leave apodcast review!Key Takeaways:Free Webinar: How to Qualify, Court, CommitWhat Happens If You Don't Take Action?Call to Action:

    Captivating Testimonial: Restoring Belief in Love and Attracting Marriage After Divorce

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2025 21:40


    In this episode of The Courtship Code Podcast, we speak with Sauda, a mom of 4 and divorcee who join The Captivating Courtship Code coaching after her second divorce simply to restore her confidence that resulted in meeting her now husband and attracting marriage within a year of coaching. Sauda details how her conservative Muslim upbringing impacted her previous marriages and how she learned to take a new approach to courtship, set boundaries and embody her self-worth and value with the help of the CCC program. Links mentioned in today's episode:Book a Courtship Clarity Consultation Join The Captivating Courtship Code CoachingGet The Courtship Blueprinthttp://www.captivatingcourtship.com/breakup FREE Captivating Courtship Playbook Follow or DM us on Instagram @captivatingcourtship Don't forget to leave a podcast review!

    Overcoming Limiting Beliefs and Embracing Shadow Self S7E29

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2024 17:06


    Limiting beliefs can keep you stuck in a cycle of pain and self-doubt. For Muslim women, these beliefs might be influenced by cultural and societal expectations, making them even more challenging to overcome. Limiting beliefs are those negative thoughts that hold you back. They might sound like, "I'm not good enough," or "I'll never find love again." These beliefs often stem from past experiences and can be deeply ingrained. The first step to overcoming them is to identify them. Pay attention to your self-talk and challenge those negative thoughts. In this episode we explore how to overcome limiting beliefs so you can attract love and marriage. 6 Week Breakup Transformation Mini Course https://6-week-breakup-transformation.teachable.com/p/6-week-breakup-transformation Join The Captivating Courtship Code community Https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Book a 1 Hour Total Package Confidence Session https://total-package-confidence.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=5646118

    Forgiveness and Gratitude: Finding the Gifts in Your Breakup

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2024 20:40


    6 Week Breakup Transformation Mini Course https://6-week-breakup-transformation.teachable.com/p/6-week-breakup-transformation Join The Captivating Courtship Code community Https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Book a 1 Hour Total Package Confidence Session https://total-package-confidence.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=5646118

    Understanding Breakups: The First Step to Healing S7E27

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2024 28:55


    Whether you saw it coming or it hit you out of nowhere, the end of a relationship can leave you feeling lost and in pain. Understanding why breakups happen and how to navigate them can be the first step towards healing and personal growth. Today, we'll explore the psychological and emotional aspects of breakups, why they happen, and how you can start the healing process. Today's Episode will help to gain more clarity and the first steps to heal and move forward. 6 Week Breakup Transformation Mini Course https://6-week-breakup-transformation.teachable.com/p/6-week-breakup-transformation Join The Captivating Courtship Code community Https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Book a 1 Hour Total Package Confidence Session https://total-package-confidence.teachable.com/purchase?product_id=5646118

    LoveMe Love Loop Relationship Pattern 101 S7E26

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2024 35:55


    LoveMes are hopeless romantics, codependents, who seek validation through feeling needed. LoveMes love the idea of love, and find themselves swept into romantic fantasies with little required from a potential partner in order to feel committed or valued. LoveMes love a relationship project, a partner they believe they can improve and make better, simply being a support system to fix a partner's life. They try to see the good in partners, and will sacrifice their own wants and needs in order to make sure their partner, and everyone around them, has their needs met and feels secure. This makes them prone to low quality attraction, settling, friend zone, and being someone's “big comfy couch.” Learn more about this relationship pattern on this episode. Take the FREE Love Loop assessment, DM, “QUIZ” to @captivatingcourtship on Instagram Join The Captivating Courtship Code community Https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

    Avoider Love Loop relationship pattern 101 S7E25

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2024 45:14


    Avoiders are committed to their independence, fear of rejection, and the belief that their must authentic selves would never be fully valued or loved. They uphold a shell of their identity in order to protect themselves from judgment and avoid their discomfort with their full truth, not from a place of arrogance but from fear of rejection. Avoiders have a difficult time with emotional intimacy and typically feel overwhelmed when relationships get too close or when lots of emotional expression takes place. When this happens Avoiders will shut down, withdraw or avoid any perceived conflict in hopes of feeling safe. Especially if their partner is highly emotionally reactive. In this episode you will learn about the Avoider Love Loop and how to transform it. Take the FREE Love Loop assessment, DM, “QUIZ” to @captivatingcourtship on Instagram Join The Captivating Courtship Code community Https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching FREE 6 Step Courtship Loop Code Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/courtshiplooproadmap FREE Courtship Loops download ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10⁠

    Sexual Love Loop relationship pattern 101 S7E24

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2024 42:26


    The Sexual Love Loop relationship pattern has an anxious attachment style and is a pattern type that oftentimes uses sexual attraction and desirability as a way to leverage power and validation during the dating and courtship process. While this may seem common for some, the guilt, shame and abandonment cycle that someone with the Sexual Love Loop experiences post encounter is what makes this a painful self-sabotaging relationship pattern. In this episode you will learn the basics of the Sexual Love Loop relationship pattern. Take the FREE Love Loop assessment, DM, “QUIZ” to @captivatingcourtship on Instagram Join The Loop membership community https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/the-loop FREE 6 Step Courtship Loop Code Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/courtshiplooproadmap FREE Courtship Loops download ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10⁠

    Adapter Love Loop relationship pattern 101 S7E23

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2024 33:34


    Most adapters toggle between anxious and avoidant behaviors and think of relationships like reality shows, full of drama and better to watch and observe than to participate. They are students of relationships (romantic, friendships, social activities) more than actively engaging in them. If you're an adapter, you may have a tendency to take on other people's problems and find yourself adapting to negative mindsets and beliefs when it comes to relationships, inspite your actual relationship experiences or lack thereof. In this episode you will learn how to turn this around so you can attract love and marriage. Take the FREE Love Loop assessment, DM, “QUIZ” to @captivatingcourtship on Instagram Join The Loop membership community https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/the-loop FREE 6 Step Courtship Loop Code Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/courtshiplooproadmap FREE Courtship Loops download ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10⁠

    Too Good Love Loop relationship pattern 101 S7E22

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2024 49:33


    Those with the Too Good Love Loop relationship pattern tend to be very confident on the surface, while deep down inside secretly struggling with low self-worth particularly when it comes to getting emotional needs met. Vulnerability, empathy and communicating relationship needs are some of the core wounds and challenges a Too Good must face while navigating the dating and courtship process. In this episode you will learn all about the Too Good Love Loop relationship pattern. Take the FREE Love Loop assessment, DM, “QUIZ” to @captivatingcourtship on Instagram Join The Loop membership community https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/the-loop FREE 6 Step Courtship Loop Code Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/courtshiplooproadmap FREE Courtship Loops download ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10⁠

    Trophy Chaser Love Loop Testimonial: Owning Your Unique Fairytale to Marriage S20E21

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2024 51:17


    In this episode we have a deep dive conversation with a CCC alum who shares her unique journey to love and marriage. She shares how the knowing who your person is doesn't mean you won't have to do the inner work to align with your journey to love and marriage. You will learn how this couple turned their breakup into a major breakthrough and learned to navigate healing and commitment for their love story. Take the FREE Love Loop assessment, DM, “QUIZ” to @captivatingcourtship on Instagram Join The Loop membership community https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/the-loop FREE 6 Step Courtship Loop Code Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/courtshiplooproadmap FREE Courtship Loops download ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10⁠

    Burnout Loop 101: Dating and Courtship S7E20

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2024 44:22


    If you have been feeling unmotivated with dating and courtship, been ghosted, or not getting past 4-6 weeks of the dating and courtship process you may be in the courtship Burnout loop. When you are in a dating and courtship burnout loop you will find yourself consistently having to start over from short-lived dating experiences, feeling not good enough for the partners you meet, or feeling lost and confused about where to meet the right partners for you. However, this relationship pattern is less about where to meet someone you're interested in and more so about what beliefs do you have about your self-worth, shadows, and triggers in relationships that need to be healed so you can feel fully worthy and deserving of the love you deserve. In this episode you will learn the basics of dating and courtship burnout and how to break this courtship pattern so you can progress in your love life and believe in love again. DM “QUIZ” on Instagram to take the Relationship Pattern Assessment Other links: ⁠Book a 1:1 Love Loops guidance session⁠ 12 week Private Coaching Consultation ⁠The Loop membership community⁠ ⁠Join the Captivating Courtship Code waitlist⁠

    Finding the Beauty in Breakups, Divorce & Your Next Chapter S7E19

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2024 46:58


    One of the biggest relationship challenges you may face in life is learning how to process emotions and move on from a breakup or divorce. Breakups are painful, eye-opening and freeing.  They effortlessly challenge who you think you are and who you have been in life and to another person.  For some, the amount of vulnerability and grief that comes from a breakup may cause them to avoid love and connection to focus more on themselves and shut out the possibility of ever experiencing disappointment ever again.  For others, a breakup becomes an opportunity to grow and become more resilient with relationships, even if they continue to create the same pattern of pain over and over again. Regardless of how you receive the experience, the goal is to find beauty in the breakup.  Only when you find the beauty in the breakup will you be open to receive the lessons, forgiveness, and purpose the relationship served.  By doing this, your heart remains open and available to love and commitment.  In this episode we discuss what steps you need to take to find the beauty in a breakup and move into your next chapter. DM, "QUIZ" on Instagram to take the relationship pattern assessment Love Loop Guidance Call - This 60 minute 1:1 video call will provide you with clarity on your current dating and relationship blindspots, what exactly is holding you back and what specific steps you need to take to stop repeating courtship experiences according to your Love Loop relationship pattern. You will have time to ask questions about your patterns and unique circumstances so that you walk away with guidance and a clear vision of the best actions to take right now. The Loop Membership - Our do-it-yourself transformational membership portal filled with transformational workshop pathways for your specific Love Loop relationship patterns. You will learn key steps to navigate dating and  courtship for your specific Love Loop, breakups, burnout, and situationships using our proven processes. The Captivating Courtship Code - Our signature coaching community with step-by-step guidance to help you transform relationship patterns, navigate courtship and attract your vision of love using our practical and proven 6 step process. Relationship Pattern Accelerator - The 12 week private coaching accelerator that provides a customized approach to transforming your Love Loop relationship patterns. Dive deep into your subconscious blindspots and align with your vision of love with personalized attention and insight.

    How to navigate Courtship Loops Questions Answered S7E18

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2024 51:06


    This question and answer episode provides insight into your courtship loops with specific instructions on how you can break your current courtship patterns with the key steps. 12 week ⁠Private Coaching Consultation⁠ FREE 6 Step Courtship Loop Code Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/courtshiplooproadmap FREE Courtship Loops download ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10⁠ FREE Relationship Pattern Assessment https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/29b46a21ad FREE Month to The Loop Join the waitlist https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/7cbd8c30b3 Other links: ⁠Book a 1:1 Courtship Loop session⁠ https://captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=50274262 12 week Private Coaching Consultation ⁠The Loop membership community⁠ ⁠Join the Captivating Courtship Code waitlist⁠

    Stress and Nervous system regulation with Meredith Seagan Sarason S7E17

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2024 75:49


    Health and wellness coach, Meredith Seagan Sarason, joins the episode to discuss the impact of stress on the nervous system and how this can be triggered during dating, courtship and in relationships. She provides tips to help manage emotions and triggers so that you can come back into your body and clear mental state with more ease. FREE 6 Step Courtship Loop Code Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/courtshiplooproadmap FREE Courtship Loops download ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10⁠ Other links: ⁠Book a 1:1 Courtship Loop session⁠ https://captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=50274262 12 week Private Coaching Consultation ⁠The Loop membership community⁠ ⁠Join the Captivating Courtship Code waitlist⁠

    Courtship: Trust, Shadows and Sabotaging Relationships S7E16

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2024 53:44


    If you have been attracting partners and navigating courtship and dating yet once you are invested in the relationship or find yourself attached to the possibility anxiety or avoidance creeps in and sabotages the relationship, this episode is for you. We will explore how to regain trust, integrate your shadow, and stop letting past wounds ruin your relationships. Dm, "LOOP" @captivatingcourtship on Instagram for a FREE Courtship Loop roadmap FREE Courtship Loops download ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10⁠ ⁠Book a 1:1 Courtship Loop session⁠ 12 week Private Coaching Consultation ⁠The Loop membership community⁠ ⁠Join the Captivating Courtship Code waitlist⁠

    Courtship 101: The Captivating Courtship Code Process Basics S7E15

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2024 61:38


    Are you curious how your relationship patterns are formed and how you can use relationships as a spiritual journey to partnership and greater self discovery? At the core of all your relationship experiences is the foundation of trust, healing wounds, and having unshakeable self-worth. Rebuilding these three elements of your inner-self will have a direct impact on your ability to give and receive love. In order to step into your worth and align with the relationship awaiting, you must break your current relationship patterns and loops you're operating in. In this episode we explore the basics of relationship patterns and the Captivating Courtship Code process. ⁠Book a 1:1 Courtship Loop session⁠ 12 week Private Coaching Consultation Join The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program FREE Courtship Loops download ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10⁠ FREE Relationship Pattern Assessment https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/29b46a21ad FREE Month to The Loop Join the waitlist https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/7cbd8c30b3

    Captivating Testimonial: Adapter Love Loop, Engagement & Doing the Inner Work S7E14

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2024 54:28


    In this episode we have a chat with CCC client Amirah about having the courage to dive into the challenges of the inner work in order to quickly transform her Adapter Love Loop pattern and attract her relationship. We discuss healing from past relationships, trust, and fully opening your heart to receive love after trauma and disappointments. Amirah shares the impact CCC has made on her love life and how she attracted her person and engagement after years of being single and avoiding relationships. Get the FREE Courtship Loops download https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/56abf83e10 Other links: Book a 1:1 Courtship Loop session The Loop membership community Join the Captivating Courtship Code waitlist Questions? Send a DM on Instagram @captivatingcourtship

    Courtship for Anxiously attached High Achieving women S7E13

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2024 37:08


    If you are a high achieving woman that's anxiously attached you may find yourself overthinking interactions with men, having a hard time balancing your career and love life, or attracting emotionally unavailable men. You may find yourself subconsciously trying to control the outcome of the relationship and rushing the courtship process whenever relationship anxiety creeps in. This keeps you on the hot-cold, situationship relationship wheel. Being in this courtship loop may have you feeling frustrated, lonely, or even confused about how to break-free from sabotaging patterns so that you can attract the healthy, long-term commitment you truly want. In today's episode you will learn the actual problems you're facing in your dating and courtship experiences and what shifts you need to take, along with a practical solution that makes courtship and dating effortless and predicatable. Enrollment for The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program is NOW OPEN: www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: The Captivating Courtship Code  - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way. Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop.  Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan. Have a question? DM us on Instagram @captivatingcourtship

    Setting Boundaries and Uncovering Blindspots S7E12

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2024 36:46


    What are your courtship blindspots? Are a lack of boundaries holding you back from the relationship you deserve? In this episode you will learn about how your courtship and dating blindspots are keeping you frustrated and from the relationship you want and how you can turn them around. Links mentioned in this episode: Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching DM "QUIZ" on Instagram to access the NEW Love Loops Quiz Join the Love Loops Membership waitlist https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/7cbd8c30b3 Captivating Weekend waitlist www.captivatingcourtship.com/captivatingweekend

    Captivating Weekend - Self Worth Sarah S7E11

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2024 28:40


    If you have achieved success in her career but struggle with feelings of inadequacy in your personal life, you may be a Self-Worth Sarah. When it comes to Self-Worth Sarahs, despite your accomplishments, you battle with low self-worth and often attract emotionally unavailable partners who reinforce your negative beliefs about yourself.  This may lead to codependency in relationships and feeling burnt out from unsuccessful dating experiences. In this episode, you will learn how to break this relationship pattern and step into your worthiness to have the love and life you deserve. Captivating Weekend www.captivatingcourtship.com/captivatingweekend Links mentioned in this episode: The Captivating Courtship Code  - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way. Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop.  Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan.Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @captivatingcourtship

    Captivating Weekend - Anxious Ava S7E10

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2024 20:25


    Are you an Anxious Ava? If you are a woman who values your spiritual beliefs and is actively seeking a long-term committed relationship, however, your anxious attachment style leads you to overthink every interaction with potential partners, then you may be an Anxious Ava. Your anxiety causes you to appear clingy or needy. Despite your desire to find love, you struggle with managing your emotions and often feels discouraged by the lack of commitment from the men you date. In this episode we discuss the biggest pain points for the Anxious Ava type when experiencing relationship anxiety, and how to attract a partner you desire who is willing to commit to a serious relationship.

    Captivating Weekend - Are you an Overwhelmed Olivia? Story time S7E9

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2024 30:06


    Are you an overwhelmed Olivia? If you are successful with a demanding career, balancing life and love can feel very overwhelming, and your romantic life may even take a backseat to your career.  Despite your professional achievements, you struggle with relationship anxiety and constantly finds yourself emotionally attached to men who are unavailable or unwilling to commit.  In this episode we discuss how to avoid feeling burnout from unsuccessful dating experiences, and how to deal with clinginess and neediness in relationships, along with experiencing low self-worth. Register for the upcoming Captivating Weekend with Early Bird registration DM, "CAPTIVATE" on Instagram @captivatingcourtship

    A Sneak Peek into Our Captivating Weekend Virtual Event S7E8

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2024 9:16


    How to use Courtship Loops to Attract Better Relationships S7E7

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2024 26:56


    Are you stuck in a courtship loop? If you have been meeting men and it feels like you are attracting the same experiences over and over again or if you feel clueless about why you feel stuck in your love life, you may be in a courtship loop. Courtship Loops are a connecting pattern in your relationship experiences that shows where you have been settling, shrinking, or not in your value. Once you are clear on your Courtship Loops, you can quickly identify where you need to grow and how to accelerate your healing so that you can attract a better quality man and attract the relationship or marriage you deserve. APPLY TO THE CAPTIVATING COURTSHIP CODE: captivatingcourtship.com Book a FREE 15 minute Courtship Clarity call Book yours Follow on Instagram and send a DM @captivatingcourtship

    No Journey to Love is the Same S7E6

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2024 33:07


    Over the years of working with clients and helping them o shift their patterns and find love, one thing that's for certain: No journey to love is the same. Every client success story has come with their own path and ups and downs. By understanding that no journey to love is the same you will be able to better embrace your unique circumstance. You will gain a deeper appreciation for your own journey and look to the lessons and experiences as positive check points leading to the relationship you deserve. ENROLLMENT TO CCC IS NOW OPEN: Apply now: www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: The Captivating Courtship Code  - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love. Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com

    Why insecurity stops men from pursuing you and what to do about it S7E5

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2024 50:26


    If you often feel weighed down with anxious thoughts, fears and doubts when it comes to relationships this episode is for you. Feeling insecure and anxious is one of the most common sabotaging behaviors that breaks promising relationships. Although it's totally normal to feel insecure at times during dating and courtship, when insecurities become a constant problem in your love life, you will want to learn to manage your emotions, fears, and doubts so that they stop holding you back from love. In this episode we discuss why you may feel insecure, how that impacts your love life, and what to do about it. APPLY TO THE CAPTIVATING COURTSHIP CODE www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: The Captivating Courtship Code  - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love. Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com

    Overcoming Uncertainty for Anxious Attachers S7E4

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 2, 2024 43:41


    When you start your journey to partnership you may think you should focus on where to meet men, how to create emotional connection, or how to allow a man to pursue you so that you go from single to committed. You may think your biggest challenge is avoiding men who are time wasters so that you don't fall into the situationship trap or get emotionally attached too soon to a man who isn't ready to commit. While these things are partially true and should be a part of taking control of your love life, for women who are anxiously attached and have a hard time attracting a man who will commit, one major shift you will need to make in order to create a different outcome is to make courtship simple. episodecourtship ATTEND THE UPCOMING CAPTIVATING WEEKEND EVENT: www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them The Captivating Courtship Code  - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love. Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com

    How to Use Marriage Mentors to Improve your Love Life S7E3

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 15, 2024 59:21


    For many high achieving women, despite how confident you may be on the outside, you may feel very indecisive and uncertain when it comes to dating and relationships. This uncertainty creates major insecurity. Insecurity leads to feeling very hesitant to make decisions in your love life that actually creates the outcome you desire. Then, your go to solution will be to vent to your friends or family for advice. Leaning on friends and family for relationship advice is a well intended action. Yet, it's important to shift this behavior so that you avoid falling into negative mindsets, trauma bonding, or bad advice that will result in the opposite of what you want. In this episode we breakdown real life stories of well intended friends and family sabotaging relationships with bad advice, what are Marriage Mentors, and how you can use Marriage Mentors to improve your love life and create the relationship of your dreams. DM "MORE" on Instagram to learn more about CCC and receive the Free 2024 service guide Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good.Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com 

    Captivating Courtship 2024 S7E2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2024 47:19


    In this episode we reflect on courtship lessons of 2023, what to expect from Captivating Courtship, and new services and programs in 2024. To get the 2024 service guide, email or DM "MORE" @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram or book a consultation. Book a 30 minute consultation: www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good.Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com

    Stop trying to change him & do this instead S7E1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2024 61:37


    Oftentimes when I'm working with clients who find themselves repeating relationship patterns, anxiously attached, or fearful of getting hurt their main focus during dating & courtship is to change the man. Your love lens is so intensely focused on him that you may not realize your subconscious fears are causing you to show up as controlling, needy, or simply less attractive.  This is the opposite of what you actually want, right? Right. This behavior causes drama, pushes the man away, and prematurely ends promising relationships that could lead to deeper commitment. Instead, focus your love lens on you. In this episode you will learn the importance of not changing a man and how it can improve the quality of your life and self-love. Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them The Captivating Courtship Code Lifetime Community - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love. Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good. Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com  

    How to stop being the problem in your love life S6E51

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 25, 2023 35:33


    One of the biggest triggers you may face on your path to partnership is the concept that you are the problem in your love life. When you embrace the idea that you may be PART of the problem, you open the door to change your current relationship status that no longer serves you. You will now have the opportunity to explore aspects of yourself that may feel uncomfortable to own. Which means you have the privilege to get to the root of your challenges, transform, and actually grow so that you can attract the quality of partner and love you deserve. In this episode we discuss why you must embrace being the problem in your love life and how you can commit to the necessary shifts in order to stop allowing old patterns and problems control you and the love you desire. Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them The Captivating Courtship Code Lifetime Community - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love. Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good. Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com

    Why you struggle to trust men during dating & courtship and how to trust S6E50

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2023 51:26


    One of the scarier aspects of dating & courtship is opening yourself up to making new connections, feeling excited about the relationship, then fearing disappointment. When you finally meet a new man that you share a connection with, you so badly want the relationship to work that you subconsciously begin looking for all the reasons why it won't. This cycle is exhausting and a pattern you will want to break if you are serious about attracting a healthy, committed partner and lasting relationship. In order to do this you must learn to rebuild your trust muscle and learn to trust yourself, first. If you find yourself struggling to trust men you may be experiencing a lot of fear, anxiety, and conflict in your relationships. This episode will help you understand why you struggle to trust and how you can change this around and rebuild your trust muscle so that you can attract the love and relationship of your dreams. Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them The Captivating Courtship Code Lifetime Community - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love. Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good. Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com  

    Hot Cold Relationship Burnout S6E49

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2023 49:53


    Are you feeling burnout from hot-cold relationships, situationships, and feeling like you are always on the edge of commitment? If so, there's a secret you are missing in dating and courtship that took me years to discover. In today's episode you will learn how anxiously attached women can get off the hot-cold relationship treadmill and finally attract commitment. Not only will you have a better understanding of how to navigate courtship with more ease, you will learn the missing piece that will allow you to attract the guy you want without pressure, chasing or pursuing when he goes warm or cold. ENROLLMENT FOR CCC OPENS OCTOBER 30TH - NOVEMBER 8TH. Join the waitlist Now https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/ccc-waitlist Free Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions about the NEW Love Loft VIP day experience? DM "VIP" on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

    Anxious Overthinking & Sabotaging Relationship Patterns S6E48

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2023 39:16


    Want to attract commitment yet find yourself feeling burnout, in situationships or breakups? If you find yourself anxiously overthinking then your relationship patterns are sabotaging your relationship success. In this episode we explore the biggest gap in your courtship and dating process, the commitment bridge. You will learn why you have a difficult time crossing the bridge to commitment, why women with an anxious attachment more often are in kinda-sorta relationships AKA situation ships and what to do about it, and what steps and tools you can use to keep you grounded during the courtship process so you no longer attach and instead move towards commitment with your guy, side by side. To learn more about the New Love Loft VIP day experience email, "VIP" to captivatingcourtship@gmail.com or DM @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram To get the New Free training and learn out to cross the commitment bridge and break cycles of burnout, breakups, and situationships email, "5 STEPS" to captivatingcourtship@gmail.com or DM @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

    From anxiously attached to trusting the Courtship Process and Letting Go of Control S6E47

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2023 28:28


    Do you find it difficult to stop anxious overthinking during the courtship process? If you find yourself getting deeply emotionally attached whenever the need for security and validation surface and it's sabotaging your love life, this episode is for you. Oftentimes, when you find yourself feeling fear and other emotions around a potential relationship going left, you may emotionally react and become needy, clingy, or combative and unintentionally push the man away or try to control the courtship process in order to speed things up and get the commitment you desire. This is a fast track to ruining the path to commitment. When you are on the bridge of trust as we teach in CCC you must stop repeating past relationship patterns, allow yourself to fully connect with a man's heart, and navigate the courtship process with intention so the bridge feels safe to cross for both parties. This will help you attract love. On today's episode we're discussing how high achieving women can manage anxious attachment during the courtship process and let go of trying to control the process. Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

    How to Communicate to Connect from the Heart S6E46

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2023 51:17


    Do you have difficulty allowing yourself to be fully authentic, vulnerable, and feel safe connecting with a man's heart? When you are attempting to attract commitment from sabotaging relationship patterns, child trauma, or unhealed wounds you will have a hard time communicating from your heart without fear of rejection, disappointment, or being judged. This is way, learning how to communicate and connect from the heart is one of the most powerful ways you can transform your love life and deepen emotional connections that lead to a healthy relationship. As a woman, your feminine essence is your superpower. It allows you to influence, create safety, and captivate a man's heart effortlessly. Knowing how to tap into your super in a way that is purely authentic, heart-centered, and connected to your core will ground you in your worth and make you even more attractive to the best relationship for you. When you are reacting out of fear of hurt, guarded, or treating relationships transactionally you won't create the healthy, loving connection you desire with a man. This is Wounded Princess Energy. Potential partners won't be able to deny this aspect of your authentic value when you can fearlessly communicate and connect from your heart as the Captivating Queen you are. In this episode you will learn how to communicate and connect with a man's heart and how you can empower yourself through your feminine essence to transform your love life and all of your relationships. ENROLLMENT FOR CCC OPENS SEPTEMBER 15-22. GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW. www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

    Selling Yourself on Settling S6E45

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2023 49:06


    Have you been selling yourself on settling? In this episode we discuss what it actually means to sell yourself on settling, why you do it, and how to stop so that you can attract the healthy relationship you deserve. Too often, women confuse settling with status, accolades, or even ego driven desires. However, actual settling is much deeper and has a greater mental, emotional, and spiritual impact. When you sell yourself on either settling to stay single or settling for less than you deserve in a relationship, you will never have the type of relationship you deserve, even if you attract commitment. When you decide to settle, you train yourself on a subconscious level to believe you are not worthy or deserving of what your heart and soul truly desires for your love life. You can have the relationship your heart craves. You must simply decide it's inevitable and do the work required to make it happen now. In this episode you will learn the key steps to stop selling yourself on settling and get on the path to the relationship you deserve. ENROLLMENT FOR CCC OPENS SEPTEMBER 15TH GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW ⁠⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠⁠ Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

    Feeling Burnt Out w/ Courtship & Dating S6E44

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2023 55:31


    Have you been feeling burnt out with courtship and dating? The feeling of "burnout" is often linked to deeper emotions that's causing you to want to shutdown, avoid or simply do nothing with your love life. While it's understandable to feel frustrated or disappointed at times, being burnout is typically the result of managing your beliefs, emotions, and actions during the courtship process. Wanting a relationship is normal. Every human wants to feel understood, connected and loved. Yet, if you have been single for some times or newly broken-up the stress of uncertainty and lack of control over the outcomes in your love life may cause you to react to situations in a way that's the total opposite of your true relationship desires. This is why getting to the root of burnout so that you don't avoid, shutdown, or make emotionally reactive decisions with potential partners can quickly transform this feeling and put you on the path to enjoying courtship, better dating experiences, and believing in love again. In this episode we discuss why you are feeling burnt out, what to do about it, and steps to burnout around moving forward. JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR THE CAPTIVATING COURTSHIP CODE: ⁠⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠⁠ Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

    Where to meet quality men: Simple 5 step Love Links Strategy S6E43

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2023 52:41


    If you haven't felt sure about what steps to take to meet new men this episode is for you. Today, we're discussing Captivating Courtship's signature 5 step Love Links strategy and how you can use it to self-assess what actionable steps you can take to meet quality men and attract an authentically aligned partner. The Love Links strategy is a simple road map shared with The Captivating Courtship Code's clients to navigate the relationship market and expand dating and courtship options, without overthinking. By using the map, you have a simple plan to prioritize where to meet men starting with a broad approach and narrowing in. We cover online dating, conferences, long distance relationships and more with this simple approach. This way you never have to second guess where to start or feel a drought in your love life, especially during cuffing season. The Love Links strategy is at the perfect companion to your Love Loops, to make it easy to navigate the relationship market according to your relationship patterns. We provide you with the best tools and approach to meeting potential partners according to your specific Love Loops, to make dating and courtship work with you and decrease any resistance you may have to moving your love life forward. Take notes and listen now. Enrollment for The Captivating Courtship Code opens September 15th. Get on the Waitlist Now https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

    LoveMe Love Loop: Self Sacrificing and Shrinking w/courtship & relationships S6E42

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2023 43:26


    The relationship pattern known as the LoveMe Love Loop is known for self-sacrificing during courtship, dating and relationships in order to people please and meet their potential partner's needs. The hopeless romantics of the 8 Love Loops, their willingness to prove their worth through people pleasing and shrinking their voice is their strongest form of self-sabotage that keeps them from having the relationship and connection they deeply desire. In this episode, we dive into the LoveMe Love Loop and the pros and cons of their particular relationship pattern. We discuss the secret to LoveMes getting their emotional needs met, increasing vulnerability and communication, and stepping into their most powerful authentic selves. You will also learn 3 simply keys to no longer shrink during the courtship process so you can get your wants and needs met. CCC FALL ENROLLMENT OPENS SEPTEMBER 15TH GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW www.captivatingcourtship.com/ccc-waitlist Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

    Trophy Love Loop: Boundaries and Fear of Missing Out S6E41

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2023 31:20


    Do you have the Trophy Love Loop? One of the biggest challenges with the Trophy Love Loop is having difficult keeping boundaries due to a fear of missing out. This fear is rooted in survival emotions that not only causes low value behaviors in relationships and your personal life, but it also causes you to attract and work to keep relationships that are low value and less than you deserve. All of this is rooted in thoughts, feelings and beliefs of not being worthy of the love and security you desire and deserve. When you don't believe you are enough and that you can actually have the relationship you deserve, you will settle and find yourself feeling anxious and insecure with the men you meet. These behaviors also trickle into your personal and work relationships, resulting in experiences and relationships that don't allow you to feel safe and valued. You can turn this around. You deserve to break this loop and have the relationship of your dreams and deepest, and most authentic desires. If you have the Trophy relationship pattern this episode is dedicated to you. Listen now. Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass: https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠ Join The Worthy Woman coaching community: ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ Find Your Path to Love: ⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠ Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

    Love Loops 101: Uncovering Relationship Patterns S6E40

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2023 59:31


    If you have been single for years or find yourself experiencing the same types of relationships, men, or courtship and dating experiences you may be in a Love Loop. Love Loops are the signature 8 sabotaging relationship patterns that makes it difficult to build a happy, healthy relationship that leads to long-term commitment or marriage. Each of the 8 Love Loops has different experiences, beliefs, feelings, and actions that keeps them in the loop. Some are more difficult to break than others. Yet, they all can make courtship and dating hard, disappointing, and disempowering. By knowing your Love Loops and how to break them you can learn to navigate the dating and courtship process with confidence, clarity, and intention so that you can manifest the life and relationship you desire. In this episode, we discuss the 8 Love Loops with a brief breakdown of each of the different relationship patterns. We also dive into how Love Loops are formed, why you need to break them, and the 6 key steps of the Captivating Courtship Code that will help you break them faster. Links mentioned in this episode: Free Love Loops Roadmap https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy Love Loops Masterclass https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR Worthy Monthly Membership ⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠ The Captivating Courtship Code coaching https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/ccc-waitlist

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