Emily Gaudreau's How To Raise A Maverick

In keeping with the spirit of not getting medical advice from Facebook, we brought in the excellent Jacqueline Jones, MD, to share her wisdom about the Coronavirus and what we can do to navigate the medical system effectively with our kids and adult children.   In this episode, you'll learn: How to get a free 15-minute coaching session with me (Emily) Where to find the free DIGITAL-LOCKDOWN guide  Meet the wonderful Jaqueline Jones, MD Author of  Medical Parenting  The facts about the Coronavirus and why you don't need to worry Kids are oddly not impacted by the Coronavirus  What forms you need o have in place for your kids over the age of 18, so you can be in the hospital with them. How to set your nanny or caregiver up, so they're able to care for your child. Please take pictures of the forms and keep them on your phone so you have them when you need them. The #1 things parents do that drive proportions crazy. Keep kids in a warm moist environment to keep their nose healthy and prevent ear infections. Order Dr. Jones Book Medical Parenting at www.Medicalparenting.com 

When it comes to raising kids that understand the value of money and know how to save, give and spend like a boss... John Lanza the author of the Art of Allowance and the Money Mammals will show you how. This is the second time we've had John Lanza on the show and I'm telling you that you will want to tune into this one for sure!

Fact: 1 in 5 girls are sexually abused. Fact: most will never get anywhere close to healing the complex layers of trauma. In this bonus episode, Myhriah Young shares her incredible story of extraordinary healing with us. https://www.myhriahyoung.com/

It is officially 2020! And OH MY GOODNESS am I excited. I want to give everyone a little bit more than just a "goal setting" episode, cause gosh we all know about how to set goals.  Kelly Pietrangeli is the Queen Bee when it comes to helping people live their best life. So if you love the that New Years' feeling of getting a fresh start, your gonna love Kelly! In this episode, you will learn: How to effectively reflect on the past year. You'll learn about Kellys "word of the year" method. I can't want to hear everyone's 2020 words! And what Kelly Wheel of LIfe, Project Me and Project We are.  Click here to check out all the free resources Kelly has to help you have the best life possible. Listen to the previous episode we did with Kelly last year! 

Dr. Heather Maquire shares her wisdom on how to stop defiance from kids before it starts. In the episode, you'll learn how to: 1. Catch your kids being good. 2. Teach them how to respectfully negotiation skills. 3. Give them choices before they act out. 4. Get kids bought in on a reward system Check out her free guide to using an effective reward system. Heather@prismbehavior.com @prismbehavior http://www.prismbehavior.com http://www.prismbehavior.com/freeguide http://www.prismbehavior.com/podcast Headspace meditation app

Does it feel like you're always battling with your kids? Ann Kaplan is a fantastic, straight-shooting parenting coach that knows all too well about the power struggles that can happen when you're raising your little Mavericks. In this episode, you will learn the three elements to getting toning down the battles. 1. It takes two to tango! How to drop the rope and stop prevent the fight in the first place. 2. Make it more rewarding NOT to push away from you. 3. You can make the drive to push you away work to your advantage. Click here to get Ann's 'Getting Kids To Listen' free guide bit.lymomaguide or https://www.mommeexperience.com/freeguide https://www.mommeexperience.com/ To register for my free video mini-course "Powerful, Predator Repellant" click here http://emily-gaudreau.mykajabi.com/shop Let us know how these tips worked for you! All the best, Emily

Link to Quiz: https://howtoraiseamaverick.com/quiz Have a picky eater? I do! That's why I brought Jessica Gust on to share her wisdom on how we get these picky little buggers to eat.  In this episode, you will learn: Why we should label foods good or bad. How we might be putting too much pressure on the kids while thinking that we are just trying to encourage them.  And when we might have more than just a picky eater and when to call a professional like Jessica to help us out. She has great resources on her website and a few listed here below.  www.elementnutritionco.com  (What to do when your picky toddler doesn't eat)  https://www.elementnutritionco.com/toddler-wont-eat-here-is-what-you-can-do/ Jessicas Free Resources: https://www.elementnutritionco.com/nutrition-freebies/ Her Instagram Link: https://www.instagram.com/elementnutrition.kids  She also has a Free Facebook Community. They have some great conversations there. She also has plans to do some videos coming up to help with significant issues (a bit more of an intimate setting). https://www.facebook.com/groups/encocommunity You can contact Jessica via Instagram DM or her contact page here: https://www.elementnutritionco.com/contact/

Kids out of control? Think you need to see a therapist? Well, Stacy Jagger is giving us a sneak peek at her most powerful tool to bringing peace back into homes. Here new book “30 Day Blackout” even gets a Thumbs up from Dr. Sears!

On December 1, 2017, Lou Apert along with the rest of the nation watched a video of her very pregnant daughter shooting up heroin in an Albuquerque alley. The video was recorded by a policeman who offered to adopt the baby. Lou gives us the raw unfiltered truth of what it is like to be the mother of an addict and how complex the opioid epidemic is. 

Every once in a blue moon I get the chance to work with a healer that is so good... it's scary. Leslie Huddart is one of those rare, gifted practitioners whose work transcends far beyond the mere definition of a healer. If you ever get a chance to work with her...DO IT! She does not disappoint! In this episode, you will learn... What Acupuncture actually is. The layers of the body.New research about the Mitochondria having its own DNA that is circular and passed down from the mother.What trauma with a big T and a little t means.What to do when talk therapy stops working.

Sleep is a BIG deal! As parents this is ultra-magnified. What if you had sleep apnea and stopped breathing thousands of time during the night? The effects that would have on your physical health, mental health, and work productivity would be extreme, to say the least. Some of you already know what I'm talking about. It's estimated that 22 million Americans suffer from sleep apnea. That's a ton of people functioning at 1/4 of their full potential. What if we could drastically lower that number by simply paying attention to the way our kids breathe? Of course, you would need to do more than just watch them, you would need to take them to an Ear Nose and Throat specialist like Madan Kandula, MD. Who is doing groundbreaking work to change the statistics and help children and adults with the basic need to... breathe. But It all starts with having an awareness to recognize the symptoms.

Today on How To Raise a Maverick we're talking about the drinking culture. Not the drink culture of the younger generation, we are talk'n 'bout parents. If you know me personally I love a good cocktail. So when Lisa Boucher starting talking about "when kids see you use alcohol as a way to cope with life... it's not a great message." Uhhm OUCH!  I felt that one right in my "mommy needs a drink" tee shirt!Lisa who is a former alcoholic, the daughter of a formal alcoholic, mother of grown twin boys and has been helping folks with their struggles with substance abuse for 20 plus years... is calling for a "Wake Up!!" My favorite thing she said was "you can't raise a Maverick if you're a mess."#truthIf you enjoy a good mindset shift and wine... this is a good one for you! 

Grandparents are the BEST! Except when their not :) How to deal with those fun issues that pop up when the generations mix.

It's nothing to brag about... ( no.. ready it's not a good thing) but I have had more than a handful scary life experiences that I BARELY made it out by the skin of my teeth and a prayer! I share two of these close to the end of this episode. Yes, that is my way of saying you had better listen to the whole thing!! ;)Pete Canavan is no stranger to these crazy life events himself, not only physically but digitally. So he dishes the dirt on best practices in digital security and holding your (and your kids ) own if push comes to shove.

You may think what has this got to do with raising Mavericks???? And I say EVERYTHING!  In order for us to have healthy conversations about sex with the kids, we need to address our own sexual hang-ups.  If you are like me, I was raised in a Baptist Church which for better or worse it didn't set me to have a healthy sex life right out of the gate. To say the least :)... 

How the heck are we going to get these kids to hold their own "out there"?!? Before you think all is lost listen to what Mark C. Perna has to say about all of this! Not only has he written a best selling book 'Answering Why: Unleashing Passion, Purpose, and Performance in Younger Generations but he has made it his lives work to help parents like you and me, schools and employers. Showing us how to not only inspire but to also truly appreciate how incredible the younger generations they are.  Thank you for tuning in and if you want to find out more about Mark be sure to check out his website https://www.markcperna.com  where you will find great, free resources that will absolutely change the way interact with your kids and adult children. 

Parents LOVE to share photos of their kids. Kids are cute, funny and the grandparents want to see their every move.  But is there a price to pay for letting the world have access to our kid's images...(and if you share them on any social media site you are sharing them with the world).  YES!  Here are just a few ... 1. 50% of the images used on pedophilia sites are stolen from social media sites. Often they photoshopped into very sexual images. Uhhmm creepy! 2. Digital kidnapping. This is where someone decides that they like your child, create a profile using their name and either pretend to the child or parent in the comments. Don't believe me.. check out #littlegirlrp  (rp means Role Play, they are roleplaying that your kid is theirs) Many of the comments and tags are sexual and downright disturbing.  3. Digital DNA. This is a term that is now being used to describe your legacy and life online. Since facial recognition software is so commonly used now your child entire life will easily be searched by universities, employers and bullies alike. Let me know what you think... with me via our private Facebook page Maverick- Parents  Hugs,  Emily 

Ever wish your life was ...better? That a magic wand could be waved and the quality of your life goes up. I don't have a magic wand... but I do have an amazing woman that has the next closest thing. 'Project Me for Busy Mothers: A Practical Guide for Finding a Happier Balance' is Kelly Pietrangeli latest book and if you want a better life... GET THIS BOOK! http://myprojectme.com/ http://www.myprojectme.com/projectwe http://amzn.to/2sQfMDF

Have you ever felt that your child was different and feel desperate for help? 'My Child's Different' by Elaine Halligan is an absolute must-read for any parent that has a child that is ..well "different." Today Elaine gave us a handful of simple ways we as parents can change our OWN behaviors to help bring out the best in all of our kids. https://amzn.to/2sYwkbz

Trauma-informed care is the latest and greatest in child care and parenting. But what about the parents. What does self-care look like for us? https://howtoraiseamaverick.com

How to turn the volume down on Christmas. How to talk to kids about Santa and teaching unconditional love!

What does LSD have to do with understanding child development... apparently everything.

What to say to kids about weed now that it is legally in some states? I'll be sharing our family's life-altering experience in regard to weed that is not to be missed!

The author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Kristen Jenson shares with us the 2nd edition of her wonderful book. This book is loved in our home and I highly recommend it to anyone who has kids and understands the dangers of porn and protecting young minds.

What To Say When Kids Talk About Private Parts In Public  It's pretty much common knowledge these days that teaching kids the anatomically correct names for their private parts is necessary to protect the child from abuse. But what do you do when they pretend they have a penis at grandmas or yell vagina at the Thanksgiving Day table? Or another common question..."Is it O.K for fathers to shower with their daughters? and what age should they stop?" In this episode, I tackle both of these questions and give you a few tips on how to handle them eloquently. 

4 ways to get those teens to do what they need to!

Do you talk to your kids about their body safety rules? Today I completely cover what a quick conversation the car could sound like. Trust me this odd conversation is literally the difference between your child being a victim of abuse or not. 

Comedy writer James Breakwell is dropping truth bombs and telling parents to chill the heck out! His sometimes controversial views on parenting are a breath of fresh air in a world overrun with "perfect parent pressure".

Why Is Halloween so Horrible These Days? It seems like Halloween gets more and more disgusting with every passing year? Is it just me? Or is it that way in your neighborhood too? Research shows that when kids dress up as their favorite superhero they perform way better on tests. So what happens when you dress them up bloody murders?  

Rachel Ragsdale of Neuroptimize sheds light on how near-feedback can be used as a drug-free solution to psychological issues that are otherwise untreatable.

Intentional parenting is not easy. So, inspired By Chris Bruno and his spreadsheet I decided to create a simpler version, a worksheet for planning your intentional parenting year.  

Divorce rates are down, How to get your kids to sleep in their own beds. Why you need to be having great sex NOW.

I Will Never Drink Lemon-aid From Kids Stands and Here's Why Here in Denver kids are now allowed to have lemon-aid stands. I am such a sucker for kids that are selling anything. I will buy what-ever they are selling but I will NEVER drink that stuff. Kids are DIRTY! God only knows how many buggers are floating in that stuff! HA! In this episode, I'm sharing my perspective on Bert and Ernie coming out as Gay and transgender kids transition and the suicide rates.

Wear your underwear! What is a Maverick? How not to be an octopus parent.

The Gut, The Eyes and the Plan By the age of 25, I had worked lived and traveled all over the world. Most of the places I ended up were also on the list of countries American should stay away from due to political unrest. I was often alone and not once was I hurt.  Why?  Well in this episode I will share with you the three things that I was taught as a kid to stay safe. My lessons were taught in the mountains but they are universal laws that everyone should know.  Tune in and let me know what you think? 

One of the very more important skills you can teach your kids is money management.  In the U.S parents give 41 billion dollars but only 53% of the parents are giving any allowance at all.  John Lanza is expert of how, when and why we should be using allowance to get our kids ready for the real word. By using funny animal characters and fun tools he gets the kids excited and inspired to set goals and learn the differences between wants and needs.   The Art of Allowance is Lanza's latest book guides parents on how to instill money smart skills with the use of allowance 

What Does Sex Positive Parenting Mean?The practical side of sex-positive parenting means that you ...Start from a very early age talking about the sexual anatomy (including the external female anatomy) using the correct medical names. Being very matter of fact and relaxed when the kids have questions about sex. Talk about it like you would talk pizza .... check out this GREAT TED talk.... https://www.ted.com/talksal_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one   Be positive, NOT complex.

How do you get those sassy kids to stop mouthing off? There are 4 reasons kids will talk back and you must sort out which of the four they are in order really nip that sassiness in the bud.

2 great things!! Kids are heading back to school AND if you are going to be in Colorado August 18th and 19th we are doing a crazy fun Mini- Maverick Photoshoot. You get amazing portraits of your kids taken by "yours truly" and All the money goes to educating single moms on how to keep three kids safe from sexual abuse. Spots are VERY limited! So book them now!!! https://calendly.com/emilygaudeau/photosession

Ellen Gendelman's book 'When Ice Cream is Not Enough' does NOT try to convert you to some crazy way of parenting. It does not try to convince you that our future generation is ruined because of your bad parenting skills. It actually does not tell you what to think at all! Refreshing right! Ellen Gendelman has simply and brilliantly presented over 20 snapshots of relationships, you get to hear from both perspectives and you never actually hear how the story ends. You are simply gifted two new perspectives.  In a world that is striving to gain empathy 'When Ice Cream is Not Enough' is priceless! If you have a book club this is a wonderful book to spark conversations and create deeper relationships.  Check it out! You won't be disappointed! Hugs, Emily 

The Truth Behind Video Games The United States is the only industrialized country that does not have regulations on the sale of violent video games to minors. How has this fact affected the homicide in the United States? Well, you might have guessed... it's not good!. LT. Col. Dave Gross, U.S. Army (Ret.) has made it his mission to spread the word about the devastating effect video games and screens, in general, have had on our youth. Listen in for some amazing truth bombs and research-backed advice from an expert in the factors that enable or restrain killing. https://www.killology.com/ There is someone you know that needs to hear this podcast. Please share it!

Kim O'Malley is the powerhouse here in Colorado running and spreading the word of the Girls Leadership Programs. She lets us in on the amazing work these women are doing across the country to help girls and their caregivers refine their EQ (emotional quotient).

How do you deal with Narcissistic behavior in kids? Or perhaps your partner or what if you are are the one with narcissistic tendencies. Dr. Ramani walks us through what to do and not to do when you one of these tricky personalities in your life.  Https://howtoraiseamaverick.com/donate http://www.doctor-ramani.com

10 ways to do less so your kids can be more.

Myth #1: Telling kids how they were "made" is a good way to explain the 'Birds and the Bee's'. Myth #2: "We use anatomically correct names for private parts..." Myth #3 - I'm fine; I have heard everything I need to know from friends who have taken body safety courses. Myth #4 - It's too early (the kids are too young) or it's too late (the kids are too old).  

From Hot Head Mom to Calm, Cool and Collected For many many moons, I have had my skinny little toolbox of trick that I can pull out when kids decide to push ALL my buttons. BUT things have changed and I now have the ability to withstand the creative wrath my offspring can throw at me. What happened you may ask... well I have been working VERY hard for a year to acquire the skills of a "master Parent  (if there is such a thing). While I am still a far cry away from a perfect mom I have had a major paradigm shift that has served me and this wild family of mine well. Here are the three shifts that have happened to me... 1. Positive time out... yes, you read it right... positive, NOT NEGATIVE. And this time out is not just for the kiddos... it's for you as well. I am officially giving you permission to lock yourself in the bathroom, check your phone, hang out with me on Instagram :) and get the anger and primitive brain to take the back burner to your frontal lobe. YES  use your highly evolved frontal lobe to deal with your little (or big) spitfire child. And get them to do the same is a spot ( far from you) where they can chill the heck out). Once the rage is gone THEN you can decide how you want to deal with your parenting challenge. 2. Kids DON'T have to feel bad to change their behavior. This has been a massive shift for me because when I think if discipline I don't envision the kids enjoying it. but the reality is yo do what the kids to feel good about themselves or they will not do better. This is a  hard shift for most parents to make (including me).  3. Connecting and recognizing feelings instead of shaming. If you haven't yet you should read "Love Languages"... find out what your kids love language is and connect with them that way. My littlest love language is touch, so hugs snuggles and tickles are her jam for sure. So after you connect, listen and really try to empathize as much as you can (authenticity).  Emily

Part 2: How to get tested to see if you will become violent or suicidal before taking medication that could cause involuntary intoxication. Then we talk about discipline and natural consequences. The pros and cons.

Is Anyone in Your Family on Antidepressants or Other Psychoactive Medications? -Before we dive into this I want to let you know that you can be tested to find out if you are susceptible to these side effects.-  Selma Eikelenboom-Schieveld is M.D and a medical forensic expert who is examining the relationship between psychoactive medication (treating anxiety disorders and depression) and involuntary intoxication (which can lead to suicide, homicide and extreme violence). WOW is all I can say! If you listen to ANY of our episodes it needs to be this one. Consider it a public service announcement!!! 

When Did Youth Sports Stop Being Fun? Screaming parents, crying kids, and frazzled coaches. You don't have to look far to find parents that take their kid's soccer/ baseball/football game WAY to serious. John O'Sullivan the author of Changing the Game and founder of Changing the Game Project brings some great wisdom to the reality of youth sport today. The three main takeaways ... The things that you think you are doing to help your kids may actually be hurting them. Coaches and parents need to work together... coaches are not the enemy (and neither are the referees). The chances of your child ever getting a scholarship are extremely slim, but the paybacks from playing sports are guaranteed.

Help keep HowToRaiseaMaverick going. https://howtoraiseamaverick.com/donate My gosh! Yet another school shooting!  This week I explore the idea that what we are dealing with is partly the Werther Effect. Which is the backstory that explains copycat suicides and mass shootings like what we just saw at Santa Fe High School in Texas.  I have spoken before about the fact that white males have the highest rate of suicide in the U.S and I have a firm belief that these shooting go hand in hand with the suicide issue. Listen in and let me know if you agree. NEXT...  Neuro-Linguistic-Programming is an AMAZING therapy that I have just discovered. As a huge believer in counseling and therapying being the best parenting tool, there is, I am always looking to better myself and make sure I am in the best mental place to raise my kiddo. Cause God only knows I need all the help I can get!!!   So I have done my fair share of sitting in a chair spilling my guts... but to be honest it seems like I'm not really getting to the heart of an issue. I just feel like a whining baby complaining about life and trying to find something worth talking about. BUT... NLP is completely different.   You focus on a specific outcome that you would like to achieve. This sounds SO stupid... but all I wanted was to remember to take my supplements, morning and night. It seems like a silly thing to go to therapy for but it is a real issue for me and I HAVE to take them or I will get very sick (I know this from experience).  Anyways, after just two sessions, I have had a complete paradigm shift and have been able to shift issues that are seemly unrelated. I am completely blown away by how well it works.  If you live in Colorado the extremely talented practitioner that I see is Cheryl Breault. That is a wrap for this week!  Shine On, Emily