Nathan's School of Thought

When I curate photos, as a photographer, I have to decide which ones are relevant, which ones are beautiful, which ones take me back to a time or place or situation, which ones are most likely to be valued by the recipient or by me, and can I get rid of the rest? Curating life is much the same. What things matter most? What are the greatest distractions in my life? If you were to take the experiences of your life and display them on a wall, sort of a panorama of your loves and your losses, the good and the bad, the lifespan of who you really have become, the picture of who you really are on the inside, the picture of what your life has contained... what are the greatest distractions?  The third thing I would invite you to write down is, "if I am distracted from what matters most, what do I lose?" if you're distracted from something unimportant, you don't lose much. But if you're distracted from those things that matter most, you may lose a great deal.  We live in a world full of distraction. Some of the distractions are really tasty. Some of them are really exciting. Are you willing to let them go? Are you willing to let the focus be the focus?  I invite you to curate your life and join me in that exercise.   Quotes referenced in this podcast are taken from: https://www.npr.org/2013/05/10/182861382/the-myth-of-multitaskinghttps://www.breakthetwitch.com/minimalism/

In this podcast, Nathan discusses the importance of The Three R's™: Respect, Respond, and Redirect™. Nathan helps us understand and address the underlying emotions driving disruptive behavior to effectively defuse conflicts.Illustrated by an incident during a training session in New York City, Nathan explains how to effectively handle interruptions and conflicts in multiple settings, including work, family, and public interactions. By sharing a story where a participant's disruptive behavior was met with understanding and engagement rather than dismissal, the speaker highlights the importance of recognizing the underlying issues behind someone's behavior. I invite you to find me on Instagram @natesschoolofthought, or go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast if you find it helpful.

In this episode, I share personal reflections on my 40-year marriage journey with my wife, starting from our humble beginnings with no understanding of how to navigate life together, to celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary. I recount the challenges we faced, including financial difficulties, the birth of our children, and the trials of raising a family, with a focus on the spontaneous and unpredictable nature of life. Despite the hardships, I highlight the importance of gratitude, growth, and the realization that life's meaning is shaped by our responses to experiences. Through the story, I talk about hope, resilience, and the endless potential for learning and becoming better, including an inspiring quote from Jordan Peterson. Ultimately, I encourages you to search for beauty and meaning in your own lives, recognizing the eternal nature of important, true, and real things.I invite you to find me on Instagram @natesschoolofthought, or go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast if you find it helpful.

This podcast delves into the profound impact stories have on individuals and societies, illustrating through historical and literary examples how narratives can inspire change, dictate perceptions, and influence actions. It discusses the effect of literature like Sun Tzu's 'The Art of War', the moral dilemmas in Victor Hugo's 'Les Miserables', the deceptive tranquility in Nazi Germany during the 1936 Berlin Olympics, and the motivational power of Thomas Paine's 'Common Sense' during the American Revolutionary War. I emphasize the dual nature of stories to both build and destroy, and urge listeners to consciously choose and curate the narratives they tell themselves and others. Highlighting the permanence of practiced thoughts and actions, I encourage you to focus on positive, virtuous, and noble ideas to to build the story that becomes a fulfilling life.I can help you get where you want to go. Message me on Instagram @natesschoolofthought, or click the Contact link on my website: https://natewalkercoaching.com.

Revitalizing Relationships: Don't Let Your Bonds Become StagnantIn this heartfelt talk, I share analogies that  highlight the importance of keeping relationships fresh, just like spring water. I emphasize the concept of honoring the 'bids', or attempts at connection, from others, to encourage healthy progress in relationships. Stagnant water in a stream is akin to stagnant relationships and in this podcast, I underline the significance of 'emotional deposits' in ensuring the prosperous flow of relationships. I can help you get where you want to go. Message me on Instagram @natesschoolofthought, or click the Contact link on my website: https://natewalkercoaching.com.

Episode 78Happiness  and Change, No Matter What Others Think: Confronting Self-Consciousness & Embracing Your Ability To BecomeIn this reflective talk, Nathan discusses the often subtle insecurities we carry about our appearances and how these thoughts can impact us. He deciphers how insecurity is common, and that the best way to confront it is by shifting our focus from how we look, to the value we provide to others. Nathan talks about the importance of dressing appropriately and the influence it has on our self-perception and performance. Additionally, he critiques an attitude of superiority based on appearances and encourages us to pursue the positive changes we can make in ourselves, whether it's related to appearance, fitness or attitude. In conclusion, Nathan empowers the viewers to retain their personal power, to be the person they aspire to be, and to not give away their power to others' opinions.I can help you get where you want to go. Message me on Instagram @natesschoolofthought, or click the Contact link on my website: https://natewalkercoaching.com.00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections00:33 Dealing with Self-Consciousness01:49 The Impact of Appearance and Dress02:51 The Danger of Superiority Complex03:29 Embracing and Improving How You Are Seen03:50 Addressing Perceptions and Judgements04:31 Dealing with Unfairness and Challenges07:28 The Power of Attitude and Response09:21 Choosing Happiness and Personal Power10:36 The Journey to Self-Improvement12:08 Embracing Your Identity and Potential13:37 Conclusion: The Power of Choice

Podcast 77: Regret, Loneliness, and Good Things To ComeIn this episode, Nathan discusses the experience of regret and provides a deeper exploration of the feelings that arise during the holiday season. He urges the listener to not dwell on past mistakes and instead embrace the learning opportunities they provide. Reinforcing this point, Nathan quotes John Greenleaf Whittier and Henry David Thoreau about regret. Nathan discusses the choices we make, and the importance of accepting responsibility for these choices to gain personal power and influence outcomes. He suggests that, instead of trying to erase past experiences, it is healthier and more fruitful to make those experiences meaningful. Nathan concludes with a reflection on the story of the baby prophesied by Isaiah, who grew to suffer for humanity, and offer hope and healing. He encourages listeners to look forward with faith, learning from past mistakes, and celebrate hope this Christmas.00:01 Introduction: Contemplating Regret00:40 Understanding the Downward Spiral of Regret01:40 The Dangers of Dwelling on 'It Might Have Been'02:21 The Complexity of Choices and Regret03:37 Taking Responsibility for Our Choices04:31 Dealing with Regrets of Unmade Choices05:11 Turning Regret into a Learning Experience05:49 The Importance of Moving Forward from Regret06:09 Finding Meaning in Loneliness and Difficulty06:39 Finding Hope in the Story of Christmas08:02 Conclusion: Embracing the Future with HopeI can help you get where you want to go. Message me on Instagram @natesschoolofthought, or click the Contact link on my website: https://natewalkercoaching.com.

This episode is titled "Podcast 76: Childhood Trauma, Adult Shame, and Grace." It follows Nathan's personal experience of feeling ashamed and embarrassed after nearly missing a VIP dinner at an event he was invited to. He reflects on the childhood trauma that can trigger similar emotions and reactions in adult relationships. Nathan's counsel emphasizes the importance of giving grace and understanding to others who may be responding from their past experiences.I am willing and ready to help you. Find me on Instagram @natesschoolofthought, or on the web at natewalkercoaching.com.

This episode is  podcast 75:  Gratitude - the Wonder Drug." In it, Nathan talks about the power and benefits of gratitude. He shares a personal experience from his youth on the farm, where he felt overwhelmed with gratitude for his family and everything he had. He then goes on to discuss various studies and research that show how gratitude can improve sleep, mood, immunity, decrease depression and anxiety, strengthen relationships, promote generosity, and more. Nathan concludes by expressing gratitude towards his listeners and wishing them a happy Thanksgiving.Articles referenced in this podcast include:https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-of-health/can-expressing-gratitude-improve-healthhttps://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/2022/11/practicing-gratitude/https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/September-2016/When-Looking-for-Happiness-Find-Gratitudehttps://namica.org/blog/the-impact-of-gratitude-on-mental-health/https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/is_gratitude_good_for_your_healthhttps://time.com/5026174/health-benefits-of-gratitude/I can help you get where you want to go. Message me on Instagram @natesschoolofthought, or click the Contact link on my website: https://natewalkercoaching.com.

In this episode, Nathan reminisces about his idyllic farm life during his childhood. The narrative takes an emotional turn as he shares the traumatic story of the death of their pet dog while operating farm machinery. This event leads Nathan to discuss the delicate balance between shielding one's loved ones from pain versus allowing them to learn from difficult experiences. He uses the example of Corrie Ten Boom, a famous Holocaust survivor, to enhance this point. Nathan closes the podcast by emphasizing the importance of love as a guiding force in processing, understanding and transcending past suffering.https://www.instagram.com/natesschoolofthought/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1

In this episode, we examine labels and how they can impact our identity. We'll explore the importance of reframing labels and understanding that we are not defined by them. I'll share some techniques for self-reflection and embracing the true, unique self beyond the false front created by labels.

Our memories are built on stories. Unfortunately, some of our stories are "anger stories," and in them is a very unhealthy share of negative emotion.If you were unfairly treated by someone else, or bullied or abused--- if they did things that made you angry, if you felt ignored or oppressed in some way, and you tell that story and the anger is present in the story, guess what it does to the person who offended you? Nothing. It doesn't make them "un-offend" you. If they are still living, it's unlikely to make them run to you and say, "Hey, I just had a feeling I should apologize for bullying you in second grade. By the way, I don't remember who you are anymore, and I live in another state." If they're not living, you certainly can't change anything about their current state. You can't go back and say, "You need to make this 'un-happen.'. You made me really angry. You made me really sad. You made me feel unloved, rejected, ignored, mistreated"--- fill in the blanks. Harboring and telling "anger stories" is like reaching into a bag full of rattlesnakes. All of the poison gets injected into you as you retell the story. You replenish the poison, and you put the snake back in the bag--- this time a little fatter and a little more poisonous than it was the last time, and round and round and round it goes.I'll help you change the stories.Go to natewalkercoaching.com, and on the Contact page, comment on what would be most useful. Talk to me about this podcast and what you would like to hear. Share this with friends and loved ones. Reach out to me if I can help you with NLP or coaching or any other thing. 

The world is full of people who will do great things when they feel like they're making a noticeable difference. We can talk about motivation until the cows come home, but nothing is a more predictable impetus for good than someone who feels like they matter. Whether you and I are close friends, casual acquaintances, or maybe I'm just a voice on a podcast, someone you've never met... that makes no difference to me at all. You matter to me. I want you to be successful. I want you to be happy. I want you to have whatever tools you need to make sure that your life is a good one and that you're able to give energy and love and encouragement to others.If I can be of help to you, go to natewalkercoaching.com, and on the Contact page, comment on what would be most useful. Talk to me about this podcast and what you would like to hear. Share this with friends and loved ones. Reach out to me if I can help you with NLP or coaching or any other thing. 

All of us deal with anxiety or fear of some kind, and to some amount, for some period of time. As I was studying for NLP certification, I came across this: "Based on metaphysical thinking, there is only one real emotion on the planet--- love. All negative emotions are derivatives of fear." part of my work then is to help people be rid of fear, whether via NLP, or just by being a friend. Our fears can range from what someone said to me recently: "I'm feeling a little out of control," to something as extreme as in the Bible: Job 2 verse 9: "Then said his wife unto him, doest thou still retain thine integrity? Curse God and die." He was really going through some stuff and she was done with it.  Some of our fear takes the form of stage fright. Some is just regular old--- and I mean regular old, though it can be crippling--- anxiety. Some fear is well-founded and some is not. Most of it will put us in a state of fight or flight, and spending a lot of time there will destroy your body, your mind, and your relationships. Anxiety / fear of any kind, and excitement, are almost physiologically identical. As far as your body is concerned. They're the same thing. So what's the difference? What makes one shut us down and the other one get us all jazzed about what's about to come? The answer is all in your head, literally. Here are some things that will help you find excitement, in place of fear and anxiety.  I can help you find excitement and hope for the future. Go to natewalkercoaching.com, click on the contacts page, and tell me how I might be of assistance. There are great things that you and I can do, and great tools that I have available to help you. Referenced article: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5149447/

When we try to solve problems of any kind, we usually start by trying to find a solution. When some asks what the problems is, we usually say, "I just need…," and describe the solution to a problem we haven't really articulated.The real power is in finding the right problem. I this episode, I'll show you how to get it done. I can help you find the right problem, and the best solution. Go to natewalkercoaching.com, click on the contacts page, and tell me how I might be of assistance. There are great things that you and I can do, and great tools that I have available to help you. 

Finding truth requires effort, not a patronizing pat on the head. Anything virtuous, lovely, of good report, or praiseworthy leads us toward truth. The opposites of those lead to untruth, to lies. It is a lie that our purpose on earth is to just skip happily through a rainbow world, picking flowers and having food handed to us, while our bodies remain healthy and strong and our friends all praise every single thing that comes out of our mouth. That's not reality.  It is truth to know that we are tested and tried by difficulty, trial, effort, faith, and perseverance. The most successful and happiest people you'll ever meet have experienced a lot of all of these. They give others the freedom to learn by similar experience, knowing that it is not their job to save them, but to love them, encourage them, and cheer for them when they go through difficulty of their own. If there is no absolute truth, then there is no absolute love. If there is no absolute love, there is no absolute answer. I can help you find truth,  confidence,  relief, and hope for the future. Go to natewalkercoaching.com, click on the contacts page, and tell me how I might be of assistance. There are great things that you and I can do, and great tools that I have available to help you. 

A couple of weeks ago we talked about the Sunk Cost fallacy. The more time and energy we put into a failing strategy, the more unwilling we are to give it up. That's the easiest definition.Not long after that podcast aired, I got a question from a listener, who said something like, "yes, but how do you know? Where's the line and how do you decide? Couldn't staying the course actually be an act of courage?"  Listen to find out, and to ensure a more successful future. To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

Do you ever feel like your life is just an unbroken string of disasters; of things falling apart, things not working out, and challenges on top of challenges? You are not alone. Most of us suffer similarly, to one degree or another. In this podcast, we'll talk about how disasters bring opportunities, often where you least expect them. Life is meant to be good, and it is, as soon as we learn to tell the endings from the beginnings.To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

Hello, my friends. Shall we talk about how messed up humans are, including you? Humans are just weird. We have all these weird tricks that our minds play on us, and not one single one of us is ever immune to this kind of stuff. We have little mental shortcuts we take. We have funny little fallacies that we do, and I'm gonna talk to you about one of them today because I think it will be helpful.I've had conversations with people, in the last week, who are all facing some version of this topic, and so I'm gonna give you a couple of examples and then tell you what it is. To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

Happy Independence Day!

I can remember being asked, "who are your heroes?" That question always produces some pretty interesting answers and some pretty varied ones.. You'll get all kinds of stuff. You'll get sports heroes. You'll get military heroes. You'll get, characters from mythology. You'll get scriptural heroes. You'll get heroes from history, all kinds of heroes. And you can ask what the qualities are and you'll get all kinds of answers. Some heroes are worth the title; some, not so much. ISo who are the real heroes? In a world gone insane, I can think of nothing more heroic than a man who is willing to say, "okay, I'm in. I'll do it. I'll marry someone. I'll start a family. I'll miss sleep. I'll try to be patient. I'll teach my children. I'll honor my wife. I'll provide for them all, protect them all, watch them grow, help them through heartaches and challenges. I'll be disrespected. I'll be worshiped. I'll be tired. I'll be elated. I will suffer. I will pray, and I'll work myself to the bone for 50 or 60 years. I accept the responsibility to fill the world with love, beginning here and now."  What could possibly be more heroic than that?  To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

Fear of success is not actually a real thing.  Now I know somebody's going to argue with me: "no, I've had fear of success." Well, what you've actually had is fear of failure, but it goes something like this. A lot of times when somebody says they have fear of success, what they have is fear of being found out. So they say, "if I give a speech at this convention, or I do this presentation, or I sell this thing, or if I do this podcast, what if somebody finds out I was actually wrong about a little bit of that? What if I get a fact wrong, or what if it turns out that they know more about it than I do, and then they tell everybody about it and then everybody thinks I'm an idiot?"  Fearing success is not helpful to you. Believing things that are not true about yourself is not helpful to you. Now, sometimes you need some help to find and fix these harmful beliefs or patterns. That's what I do for a living. Maybe you and I should talk sometime. Go to my website at https://natewalkercoaching.com, click on the contact link, and tell me how I can help you. We'll have a conversation, and I don't charge for those. I talk to people all day long. I know how to help you figure out what those things are that are really stopping you, and it's not really fear of success. Don't let others' judgment of you, or your fear about your own lack of ability or lack of preparation, or your fear of the unknown, stop you. They will if you allow it. But if you learn how to get past it, your life will never, ever, be the same. As George Eliot so wisely put it: "It's never too late to be who you might have been."  Please share this podcast with all who might benefit from it.

When I was a little kid, my mom would sometimes have the Julia Child cooking show playing on TV. My mom says that little four year old me would look at those knives and dreamily sigh, "Why can't we have knives like that?" For some reason I was absolutely fascinated with her kitchen knives. I thought they were the coolest thing on earth.  Fast forward, and I have become, quite by accident, somewhat of a knife collector.Somebody asked me once, "what's the best overall survival knife?" Well, I wrote a five page document, ranking several knives in order, and talking about why you would choose one over the other, and what some suitable alternatives would be for the price. The reason that was five pages long, the reason I have more than one knife, the reason a person might want more than one car, is all comparison. There's something better about each one. There's something that's a drawback about each one. Inherent in every design in knives or in people, are strengths and weaknesses. We are prone to compare ourselves to others all the time. This comparison game, good or bad, is something that's wired into us.To take the Habit Finder Assessment, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com and click the Habit Finder link. You and I can schedule a time to review the results, free of charge. To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

From this episode: "… a couple of the daughters were in high school and they were really, really upset at the prospect of this move. After they moved, they thought it was the end of the world. In conversation with them, I would hear them talk about what they left behind. Leaving the friends, leaving what they thought the future would hold. They worried that their future could not possibly be as good as their past, and that whatever future there was would be nothing like what they had imagined or hoped it would be. And what about all the memories that they would leave behind? "My own daughter, in a conversation with me a few months ago, and expecting her second child, expressed some anxiety about how she would feel about the new baby. How would she feel when he was born? What if she didn't love him as much as the first one? What if there wasn't enough love to go around? What if her future just held more labor and less love? Now, most parents have similar questions with their second child, but of course this was her first second child."  Change is always easier, and the future always brighter, when we understand how to love. 

When people lack the words for something, it's often unimaginable to them. Without words, some things just don't exist.  We are often unaware of things we can't describe, or hyperaware, and overly influenced, by those we use all too often—especially if they are negative. Our language dramatically influences our life experiences.Words have power. What you say or describe will influence your future: your physical, spiritual, intellectual, social, and emotional health.In the music of your soul, do you choose consonance or dissonance? I have spent a lifetime creating or arranging music. That's a language in which I am quite fluent. Similarly, I can help you rearrange the music of your mind. Let me know how and when I can help you realize the symphony in your soul. To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

This is one of the most useful exercises I can recommend, and one that has produced some remarkable breakthroughs for clients and friends. Expanding your view of the world is remarkable liberating, and can reduce anxiety, open your mind to new ideas, help you be more creative, and enhance your employment opportunities. As promised in this episode, here's a link to a handful of photos I've taken. https://500px.com/p/natewalkerTo get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

 In a conversation a few days ago, I said something about: in the world of metaphysical thinking, it's postulated that there is only one true emotion. That emotion is love. Everything else is a derivative of fear. The friend to whom I was speaking said, “Would you do a podcast about that?” In this episode, we explore a few definitions of love, including Eros, Philia, and Agape. We also talk about fear, love's great counterfeit, and how to recognize and replace it with love. The happiest people live there.You'll find the article, 3 Signs of Fear Addiction, at  https://libertycounsellingluxembourg.com/3-signs-of-fear-addiction/ To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

Why do you do what you do?This is a story about challenging myself. First: to retain a clear memory of a transformative experience, and second: to examine my motives. You may find yourself identifying with parts of this story.To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

We often talk about overcoming marital conflict by changing someone in ourselves, or in our partner. We rarely talk about nurturing the relationship.In this episode, we'll compare our relationships to my wife's prized peach tree, and learn more about how to make it grow into something beautiful.To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to https://natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

You've probably noticed, especially over the last couple of years, that society as a whole feels heavier, angrier, more afraid. Negative emotions like anger always cause harm to our bodies and minds. Getting rid of negative emotions can free us up to do things that we are capable of doing, but would otherwise be unable to do. There are opportunities that we simply can't see when negative emotions have gotten in the way or negative habits of thinking. It's time for you to put that behind you. You need never tell that story again to yourself or to anyone else. You will be shocked at how much of your life is being governed by this heavy bag of stuff you are carrying around, with a story inside of it. I've worked with several clients over the past few weeks. A surprising number of them have been dealing with some anger. In this episode, with permission, I share a portion of one of my conversations with you. I think you will find this helpful. To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

Protect yourself from snakes in the grass, whether real or imagined. To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.The world needs to know what they can really do. And I can help you do it. 

Nothing matters more than our relationships. In this episode, I pay tribute to my Dad; my hero and teachers, for whom people matter most.To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.The world needs to know what they can really do. And I can help you do it. 

How can you make big, complicated decisions easier? Listen to this episode for some life-changing insight.To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.

"…I saw a woman who kept saying hi to people who obviously knew and loved her, because every time somebody would walk past, they'd say, “Oh, it's so good to see you.” And she was vivacious and full of energy, but that's not what caught my eye. What caught my eye was that her hair was done exactly like Farrah Fawcett, and I mean the Farrah Fawcett that most of us know from the Charlie's Angels era."Listen or read the transcript for the rest of the story. I would love to help you take the blinders off any way I can. I would love to help you live fully in the moment. I would love to help you anticipate the future. To get hold of me and talk about how I can best help you, go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Or, DM me on Facebook, etc.  Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.  Please share this podcast with family and friends.The world needs to know what they can really do. And I can help you do it. 

If you're ever in a situation where you long for the culture you left behind; when you find it more valuable than the one that you have with your partner, spouse, friend, community, etc, it's time for you to get to work. You need to start really seriously identifying what it is that you can build together. Find someone who can help you do it. Have a little chat with them. Call me. You know I'm always sitting around here waiting for you to call anyway! Do whatever you have to do to find someone who can help you build a culture that retains the values that you brought with you, and builds new and wonderful things around it.I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.Article referenced in the podcast: https://toppandigital.com/us/blog-usa/coping-culture-shock-five-stages/

Anxiety stems from focusing on what we don't want. Listen as Nathan walks you through a motorcycle riding analogy, and helps you rid yourself of anxiety. I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.

WE make things mean what they mean, and when we pack them together, it can be our downfall, or our salvation.I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.

Enjoy this conversation with my friend, Cory Ivins, on the effects of mandates (coercion), making things easier, and making someone matter—especially as a boss, parent, or spouse. I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.

When trying to make things happen, employers, parents, and friends often resort to "motivations" that don't really motivate at all. Listen to see what really works.I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.

What are your gifts? How can you use them in the most meaningful way?I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.

A Christmas message.I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.

Want to avoid stress in your conversations with others? Learn this simple trick to avoid conflict.I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.

 Choose the name you'll carry within yourself. The best name you can possibly choose is your own; cleaned, polished, strengthened, and imbued with value over time, until it becomes a one word description of your full potential, when or not that potential has bean fully realized.I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.

Enjoy this glimpse into a life-changing concept you have probably never heard of!I invite you to go to natewalkercoaching.com/contact-1 and share your thoughts, notes, comments, or aspirations in the comments section. Tell me how I can help you best, and we'll schedule some time together, free of charge, to discuss it.   Let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss, and as always, please share this podcast.

During this season of gratitude and appreciation, gather your family close, and examine them with gratitude. If you are the only family you have, examine yourself for all that is beautiful and good and kind about you. Most importantly, may we all seek to do what the Master would do: be grateful as He is grateful, serve as He serves, and love as He loves. "I believe that appreciation is a holy thing—that when we look for what's best in a person happen to be with at the moment, we're doing what God does all the time. So in loving and appreciating our neighbor, we're participating in something sacred." –Fred RogersLinks:https://www.prageru.com/video/whats-the-truth-about-the-first-thanksgiving?gclid=Cj0KCQiA4OybBhCzARIsAIcfn9kHNf4VmFz1hyfJFhIi5ue8VElCXx6QomFVPj-9vRjCHbPdtvNpQgIaAll_EALw_wcBhttps://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier

“And so it is with luck – unlucky people miss chance opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties intent on finding their perfect partner and so miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers determined to find certain type of job advertisements and as a result miss other types of jobs. Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for.” https://richardwiseman.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/the_luck_factor.pdf

Be sure to listen to part two on this topic, in the next episode of Nathan's School of Thought.“My research revealed that lucky people generate their own good fortune via four basic principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.” –Richard WisemanArticle mentioned is here: https://youarenotsosmart.com/2013/05/23/survivorship-bias/

Self-fulfilling prophecy is the result of our faith, our assurance of things hoped for, and evidence of things not seen, whether good or bad. Now, of course, in the Bible verse, we're talking about good things to come, but it works both ways. We look for evidence all the time. The kids trash the house; we say, “Who did this?” We watch a crime show; what's the evidence? We listen to a scientist talk about how the universe works and we say, “Show me some evidence of that.” In relationships, we talk about evidence all the time. There's a saying that pops up very often when we're trying to prove something, and the earliest citation I can find of the current usage of the phrase, at least, is by Arthur James Balfour, the first Earl of Balfour. He said, “There are three kinds of falsehoods; lies, damned lies, and statistics.” We use statistics or evidence to tell lies, damn lies or statistics about ourselves. Attacks on ourselves are often phrased in a way that shows what we believe we are, despite our actions for good. We say, “I am…” “I'm a bad person. I have too many flaws. I've made too many mistakes. I have done too many things that were wrong. I have too many hidden flaws. I have too many pet sins.” Really? Too many for what? Too many to overcome by yourself, maybe. There isn't some state that you can reach that makes you irredeemable, and yet we believe this “irrefutable evidence” about ourselves and find more and more to stack on top of it until the burden becomes too heavy to bear. We often come to a conclusion at the end of this kind of talk that says, “If people really knew how bad I am, they would abandon me.” Now all of this is an evidence problem and it's an evil one. Our evidence can even exacerbate or produce depression, and it forms a vicious cycle. Dr. Allen Schwartz said, “All of us have to clear ourselves of this ‘poor me' way of thinking. It is not helpful and not realistic. Negative thinking is contagious, because it leads to negative talk and the self-fulfilling prophecy. If you convince yourself that your life is awful, then you go about making your life awful.”If you find the evidence of things not seen that are good, you will find happiness. You will find improved health and better immune response. You will find deeper, more fulfilling relationships. You will find more gratitude, and you will find less fear. Your entire life can be transformed by these things that we're talking about. Focusing on all that is good and true, including what is good and true about you, becomes the assurance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. Do this every single chance you get. Treat yourself as that person you are becoming. Treat others the same way and ignore everything else. It will change your life. I can help you with this—and help you provide some of that evidence. To get started, go to natewalkercoaching.com, and in the contact area in the comments section, tell me things you're thinking about how I can help you. If you'd like, you can take the Habit Finder assessment linked from that same website, and you and I will schedule a time to go through it together, free of charge, and find out how I can help you best.