Podcasts about how to drink less alcohol

In this episode I want to talk you through a way to think about these moments and share tips to help you navigate them in a way that help you move towards the new relationship you want to have with alcohol. For support taking what you are learning here head over to JumpseatCoaching.com

In today's episode Lorna, a fellow This Naked Mind Sr. Certified Coach, and I share her story. Her ups and downs with attempting to exit the cycle as well as how she exited the cycle. Listen in to this story because it will help you. You'll learn you aren't alone. You'll discover possibility and hope. Lorna believes that each of us has a yearning to be fulfilled, a desire to feel safe and strong in the decisions we make, and a right to find a ‘clarity of purpose' as we move through our lives. Through her own life experiences Lorna learned first-hand what alcohol can do to your body, mind and spirit.For support exiting the cycle of drinking, over drink shame or regret reach out to either one of us.Connect with Lorna here: LornaWilsonCoaching.comConnect with Debi here: JumpseatCoaching.com

When it comes to the topic of alcohol, drinking less of it or stopping, we have this great skill of beating ourselves up. Blaming ourselves for our inability to change. The truth is, this only keeps us stuck in our unwanted pattern.  What you will discover in this episode:How to hack your brains built in pleasure centerWhy this skill will help you untangle the over drinking habit3 tools to help you built this brain hack into your lifeFEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership

It's all about balancing the comfortable with the uncomfortable.If you want to create your own unique relationship with alcohol, with yourself in the Captains seat, then…this is your work. The drinking rate has skyrocketed during the past 15 months. If your current relationship with alcohol is something you want to re-evaluate, then know....my specialty is helping you do just that while learning to savor the entire experience. What you will discover in today's episode:One of the most important things to embrace while you change what you drinkWhy seeing your life only as your future self is a problem.What happens when you plan for the future without considering where you are now.How to become your future self while still regarding your current self.FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership

In today's episode I'm going to teach you how to make decision from your future. It's a higher level of thinking. Remembering and repeating your past does not require as much of you as thinking from your future. I love the concept of thinking from our future. What would the you, that is already achieved, that has already become, that has already where you want to be, how would they make these decisions?What you will discover:How your view of your own future impacts your current selfThe importance of a clear vision of your futureImagination is more important than knowledgeStop letting your past impact your current self and future selfFEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership

How much of your time do you spend thinking about what your life with less alcohol in it would be like? This week, I'm sharing how important it is to know what you actually do what. If you find yourself arguing with reality, focusing on the past, making excuses, justifying your choices, or beating yourself up about it, I invite you to try on the questions I'm posing to you today. There is so much power in observing and owning what you truly, deeply want. What You'll Learn from this Episode:Why knowing what you want is necessaryA tool to help you easier discover exactly what you wantThe importance of observing things how you already have things you want 

What you will discover:This is a journey - not a quick fixThe stories you tell yourself matterIt's possible to transform your relationship with alcohol AND remain your socializing, extraverted self.Where the "fun" actually comes fromFEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching MembershipThis Naked Mind Coaching

What You'll Learn from this Episode:We don't need to be a “better” personThe perfect storm affectWhy we choose to believe certain things are true without question.The power of asking “what if.”This episode is brought to you by EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership. If you want to design, claim and create your own unique relationship with alcohol. One based on how it fits in the life you want to live, then this is the place for you. 

The lenses we see the world and ourselves through are completely optional and we can wear as many different lenses on this journey called life as we want. Did you know that? Too many of us are comparing our “prescriptions” to other people’s, trying on their glasses, thinking, “My journey has to look like theirs" But friends, we are all unique and this journey is going to require your own unique prescription and I’m inviting you to try on some new ones.Join me this week as I show you what the process of changing lenses has looked like for me over the journey of growing my own business, and how so many of you are wearing damaging lenses that make it impossible for you to see all the ways in which you are amazing and accomplished right now.  What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Why comparing your journey to other people’s and trying to do what they’re doing won’t work.What the process of changing lenses looked like for me on my business growth journey.The damaging kinds of lenses we wear on our EXIT journey making it hard to see where we really are.This episode is brought to you by EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership. If you want to design, claim and create your own unique relationship with alcohol. One based on how it fits in the life you want to live, then this is the place for you. 

Listen in as Christy and I chat all about integrative medicine, our nervous system, and the lies our brain tells us all day long.  Ignite your curiosity and trust you'll get exactly what you need. Referenced in the episode:Jumpseat CoachingDance Yourself Clean CoachingThe Tapping Solution 

My mission is to help every woman love what they see in the mirror with their own eyes. My dream is to rebrand the messaging around solving over drinking, updating the known methodology to match what current behavior change studies have proven to be more effective. I know exactly what it's like to let the idea of forever along with the stigma and shame associated with even needing help drinking less does to a person's self-image.  What You’ll Learn from this Episode:What I've put together to help other women just like myselfThe why behind the EXIT MethodologyA whole new approach to solving over drinkingA special offer during the month of May.Program referenced: EXIT & Beyond Virtual Life Coaching Membership Recourses and support available at JumpseatCoaching.com 

What if there is more than one way to change what you drink?  What if all your past attempts are learning you to create the exact relationship you want. What You’ll Learn:Cycles of changeChanging what you make failure meanThe power of your belief About the brain negativity biasRetraining the brainI've created brand new resources and options for help for you. Head over to JumpseatCoaching.com to check them out. 

What you'll learn in this episode:The truth about alcohol and happiness4 Neurochemicals of the brain's pleasure centerTips to help  you practice activating the brain pleasure center on purposeWays to boost your own natural highMentioned on the episode:EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching MembershipOpportunity to win an annual scholarship to EXIT & BeyondDayBreaker DOSE program 

In this episode, I want to talk to you about the main themes and topics that I teach and go into detail about why I teach them. Listen in as I cover the following areas that I think are crucial for everyone to understand:The importance of the words we use The concept of Self Coaching The power of knowing how to process your emotionsRelationships (with yourself and others)Belief systemsI teach all of these topics in EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership, with my private clients, and throughout past podcast episodes. If you can get your head around these concepts and apply them, you’re going to be able to get unstuck from the drinking life cycle faster as well as live a much more accelerated and exciting life.

Completing these 3 things each morning will train your brain to see your future. IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:Key to long turn successSkills you already have to bring along on the journeyWhy this works FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:Podcast Giveaway and 2021 Annual Gift Package

Life truly is way more fun without alcohol in it. 

It takes time and patience to really do this work. The space between awareness you are indeed drinking too much alcohol for your life and figuring out how to make alcohol small and irrelevant in your life requires  the skills of delaying gratification, leaning into discomfort, being OK with trying new things, and be ok with going against the grain.  In order to navigate all the way to success, the journey requires resilience. IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:How to apply EXIT to help make the navigation less messyWhy more than 1 compelling reason is necessary A simple process to create as many compelling reasons as you need. FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:The 2021 Annual GiftPodcast review giveaway

I’m talking about motivating ourselves by beating ourselves up. This is a huge issue because it not only hinders us from moving forward, but it’s also something that can be so insidious we don’t even see that it’s happening.So in this episode, I’m sharing what beating yourself up can look like (it might not be what you think!) and why it’s actually detrimental to your success. I’ll be giving you the low-down on why this behavior affects your journey and sharing tools to motivate yourself differently so you can quit the negative self-talk and feel better in all aspects of your life.IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:What beating yourself up can look like.Why we beat ourselves up and how it creates a false belief on the path to success.The five components of the thought model.Five steps to stop beating yourself up as a form of motivationFEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:Podcast GiveawayHoliday Gift

IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:About my own personal blooper Examples of how I applied the EXIT toolsHow long it actually took me to exit the drinking lifeWhat I'm discovering from other people What alcohol actually is Why I no longer put it into my body. Mentioned in Today's Episode: The giveawayOther free resources

Have you wanted to join EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership but you just don't have the money? Do you love the podcast and want others to get help from it too? FANTASTICI'm announcing the 2021 giveaway plus a way for you to take a step towards helping others receive the same help you've received. Detail can be found here - https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/givin

Hey my friend, how are you? So glad to have you here, so glad to be recording this for you today.Listen, if you want to get started exiting the drinking life and I’m pretty sure you do or you would not be listening to this podcast, I want to make sure that you get my Jumpstart Guide. This is a beautiful starting off point for you.It’s a really quick easy read with some powerful tools you can start using right away to help you change what you drink.Simply go to JumpseatCoaching.comIN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:How to get the EXIT Quick Start Guide What happens in our minds that gets us off course, even when we’re doing everything right.How to get past the discouragement.Why you should expect and embrace the “hard.”The benefits of getting through hard things.Why you should return to your breath Today, I want to talk about when it’s really hard to choose something to drink other than alcohol. I believe all of us have been there at one time or another because if it was always easy, then we wouldn’t still be talking about it, we wouldn’t have all the sober curious books, the mindful drinks movement, the variety of podcasts about getting, staying, remaining sober or drinking less alcohol.When it feels really hard to make a different choice, our primitive brains, that part of our brain that’s just wanting to keep us alive, just really starts to go into overdrive.We can start to let it take over and run the show, and then it’s all drama, it’s all horror, it’s all, “This is terrible. It’s too hard, I can’t do it,” and then before we know it, we’re back in our old patterns of avoiding our emotions and numbing out of our life with alcohol.I want to talk to you about what to do when the journey of change really feeling challenging.When you’re doing all of the things: examining your thoughts and beliefs, processing your urges and your negative emotions, you’re doing the thought work, you’re deciding to drink from a conscious decision instead of an unconscious automatic one, you’re taking care of yourself personally by moving your body more, getting as much rest as you can and choosing healthier foods and it is still just hard.We often think like, “I thought by this point, it should be easier.” We start thinking, “Something’s going wrong. It shouldn’t be this hard. It’s easier for other people. I wish it were that easy for me. Look at that girl, she’s drinking wine all the time and look how good she has it. It’s not fair. Why do I have to suck at making this easy? Everyone else seems to be thinking this is easy and it’s still not for me. I’ve been at this a long time. It shouldn’t require so much mental effort anymore. I shouldn’t have to work so hard at this. It’s really discouraging that this seems so challenging still. I don’t know if I can keep this up forever.”These are the stories that our brain offers us. Oftentimes my clients will say, “I don’t want to have to live like this forever. I want to be able to just not want it. I want to be able to have a drink every once in a while and not go off the deep end.And those are our thoughts about our experience of doing what it takes to exit the drinking life and make alcohol a small and irrelevant part of our lives.We think we’re just telling it like it is, “Like it is hard. I’m just being real. I’m just telling the truth. I’m just sharing what it’s like for me,” but in actuality what we’re doing is we’re stacking the pain, we’re stacking the discomfort and the difficulty and the challenge. We’re stacking the resistance and making the experience of changing what you drink even more uncomfortable with the way that we’re thinking about it.So many of us believe life with less or no alcohol in it is too hard or not something that we can sustain.And if you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while or if you’ve known you needed to exit the life of drinking, over-drinking, shame, and regret for a while and you just haven’t been doing it, I’m talking to you.We just have this idea of like, “It’s going to be too hard,” or “There’s going to be a right time to do it,” or “I just need to get through this difficult period, then I’m going to be able to focus on it.”But what’s actually too hard to sustain is doing all of the things that help us change what we drink while thinking terrible feeling thoughts about ourselves our lives, our bodies, and the process of exiting the drinking.Focusing on what we’re missing out on and how other people are responding to us making this change all of that.It’s the way that we are choosing to interpret the journey that causing the true pain and suffering.One way of approaching this is encouraging yourself to say yes to the process, to all of it.It kind of reminds me of being pregnant. Saying yes to the entire experience.The morning sickness, the tiredness, the extra weight, the mood swings, the moving growing human inside of us.How about that? Say yes to the entire process saying yes to the process, especially the hard parts.For those of you who’ve never been pregnant. Think of a time in your life when you signed on for something. Something you know would involve saying yes to the sucky parts as well as the wonderful parts.This is how I like to think about doing hard things.But….let’s just talk about it in the framework of exiting the drinking life. Ending that over-drinking cycle. I truly do get it. I’ve been on it, in it. I tried changing what I drank for 7 years. Trust me, I get it.”But this is the way I believe committing to and saying yes to the entire process is a really great way to thinking about it. A way that can really serve you when it feels hard.Imagine you’ve signed on to get your Masters. You’re there for the degrees. You know you’re going to have to take some classes that you really aren’t going to like it because it’s part of the program. It’s just how it is. You take a certain number of classes every semester or maybe you’re just taking it, one class, at a time…..And your current class might be allowing urges. Last semester maybe you took Examining Your Beliefs  and maybe you took Fully Dialing in on your emotions.So if you were taking these classes to get your Master’s Degree would you expect it to be easy?Most people wouldn’t go into this journey of getting their Master’s Degrees and believe or think things like “What do you mean this is challenging?I thought this was just going to be something I was going to completely coast through.Like I’m completely shocked. Why is this so hard? Why isn’t it getting easier? I mean, Gosh, now I’m doing this thing and this seems hard too. Now I’m in this class, this class seems even harder than the classes I took last semester.”They get harder as you go along sometimes. Of course, we would expect it to be hard. We would, of course, expect ourselves to work hard.Most people go into this thinking and believing “Okay, this is the real deal. Like I’m going to have to buckle down. I’m going to really have to make sure I focus and study.”What if that was the way you approached your exit journey. As though nothing was going wrong when it was hard? When allowing urges is hard, you’re like, “Yes,” yes to this, because you know why? Because I want the results of being in control of alcohol instead of it being in control of me.Yes, I really want to master trusting myself to figure this out. I want to untangle the beliefs and thoughts keeping me stuck. I want to achieve my goal of exiting the drinking life, ending the love-hate relationship I have with myself.This journey is not one you can “cheat the system” with. You can’t sneak your way through the course or copy your neighbor to get the end results you want. In order to exit the drinking life for good, to make alcohol small and irrelevant, you have to say yes to the hard work. Yes to all of it.You have to say yes to the days when your urges are pretty easy to process and they’re pretty mild and they’re really not that strong and yes to the days where they feel super intense.You have to say yes to the days where you are so restless and all you want to do is drink wine to calm your body down and yes to the days where it was really a great day and it was really pretty easy and things were simple for you.You have to say yes to having your thoughts totally dialed in and yes, to create a creatively constructed plan to attend an event in order to stay with your plan of not consuming alcohol. Probably extremely uncomfortable the first time, maybe even the 2nd, or 3rd time but you commit to making it work because of the end result you want.You have to say yes to getting enough sleep when you can and yes to sleepless nights and exhaustion the next day. By saying yes to all of it, we’re dropping the resistance, we’re dropping the belief that something is going wrong and then it should be different than it is.It shouldn’t be any different than it is.The belief that it should be different, it should be easier, it shouldn’t be so challenging is what’s making it so much more challenging.It’s the opposite of what we think.We think we’re just telling the truth, but if it was supposed to be different, it would be different.It’s not different, it is exactly how it should be.In fact, the harder it is, the more of an amazing accomplishment it is on the other side when you’ve achieved it.The more chances you have to evolve as a human being into your highest and best self.This is how you really grow.Think about how great it will feel when you’ve come through this class.Like you’ve gone through this process, this program. You’re going to come out on the other end feeling so accomplished, but this opportunity is only there for you if you say yes to the experience.What many of you do is you take a couple of classes or maybe you start your first class and then you’re just like, “This seems hard. I’m just going to back out of it. This isn’t a good time. I can’t focus on this.” And then you have to start again. Your credits don’t transfer. You have to start all over again.Some of you make it to the second semester, senior year, and then you go, “You know what? Forget it,” and then you have to start at the beginning again, and that’s completely fine, but just recognize what you’re doing when it’s the second semester, senior year and you’re just going, “Yeah, screw it.” You’re not saying yes to the experience. The key is to make this journey feel “less hard” is to say yes to the easy and the hard, the wins and the losses, the failures upon failures, the mistakes upon mistakes. It’s all part of the process.Besides saying yes, what else can we do to keep ourselves going forward in the face of incredible challenges?Sometimes it’s really, really hard.Things are happening in your life or you’re trucking along and now there are some significant challenges. Maybe you’ve had the loss of a close family member or friend, maybe it’s something really big that is happening. Maybe you’re having a big relationship change. Maybe there’s some big-time stuff happening at work and it’s so easy then to be like, “I can’t take on one more thing. I barely was holding it together with this drinking less thing anyway. I’m just going to have to take a break,” and you know what taking a break means, it means just getting in the way back.Another tool you can use when you catch yourself wanting to break away and quit moving towards your desired outcome is to bring the focus back to just this one present moment. The easiest way to do that is to focus on your breath.Truly focus on it. Bring your mind to your breath and let yourself notice right where you are right then. When we are in the “I can’t take it any long” mindset, we’ve taking our focus too far out into the future. We’re projecting the worst case in our heads, even if we aren’t saying it out loud.By bringing yourself to your own breath, this brings you into the current, present moment.Because when it’s hard we can tend to catastrophes about the challenge.We think, “Well today was really hard, so there’s no way I’m going to be able to keep this up long term,” or “This whole week has been hard,” or “This whole month has been hard. There’s no way I’m going to be able to keep this up on going.” “I can’t see myself being able to do this month after month, week after week.” “I don’t know how I’m going to hold it together while I’m on vacation,” or through the holidays or over the summer or whatever is a challenge.What I want to offer to you is that you don’t have to entertain any of those concerns in your head. They seem really important and necessary to think about, but I promise you, you really don’t. All you need to think about is what you’re going to do today.And when your brain tells you it’s too hard and you’ll never be able to keep it up, you can just agree with this.That’s again saying, yes, you’re not it, you’re not going, “Oh, I shouldn’t be thinking that I’m not going to be able to keep it up,” instead going, “Yeah, maybe I won’t be able to keep it up forever, but I will keep it up today.”That is saying yes to the hardship and the difficulty. It’s acknowledging your experience and not asking yourself to think any differently about the future. You’re not saying that the way that you’re thinking about it as wrong or that it ought to be different. Instead, you’re just reminding yourself that you don’t have to make any of those decisions today.Some people will say, “We'll wait, if I decide that I’m not going to really drink anymore, seriously, I’m not going to like have a champagne toast at my daughter’s wedding?” Well, considering that she’s three right now, we probably don’t need to worry about it. It’s probably not something that you have to decide on right now, but your brain is going to go to that. Like, “What about this? What about that? You’re never going to have this. What if you go to Italy, you’re not going to have any wine?” I don’t need to know. I don’t need to decide that today. When that opportunity and that experience arises, I will make the best decision for myself for that day.Many of us talk about living in the present and all you have is the present moment. And there’s a lot of truth to that, and we can apply that to our experience of changing what we are drinking too.because so much of what feels the most uncomfortable is when we’re looking into the future and creating a story of how awful it’s going to be and/or when we look to the past and we tell ourselves a story of how awful and horrible and difficult it was and uncomfortable. And then we project that into the future and go, “Well, that’s exactly how it’s going to be. I wasn’t able to keep it up then so I won’t be able to keep it up in the future as well.”This way you don’t have to resist your experience so much. You say yes to today. Today is an unplanned day. The end. That is what you’re doing. Combine saying yes to all of it, the whole experience, to dropping the resistance and then to just committing to doing what you said you were going to do today and knowing that you don’t need to worry about the rest of that. When your brain offers up, “What about this? What about that? What am I going to do here? What am I going to have then?” Just remember, “I don’t need to decide that right now. I will decide when it’s necessary for me to decide that.”This is huge, huge stuff. Really, really helpful.Remember to get that Jumpstart your Exit Guide by heading to JumpseatCoaching.com/jumpstart.Right now EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership is not accepting new members but we will be opening up again the first week of January. The best way to make sure you are notified when we are accepting members again is to get on my email list. By getting your own Jumpstart Guide you will be added to my email list. PLUS the Jumpstart Guide will get you going on your own unique exit journey.Have a wonderful week and I will talk to you very soon. Take care of bye-bye.

Keep noticing the thoughts that come up for you when drinking shows up in your consciousness - they all point to your beliefs. You may notice it in the patterns of thoughts or how your moods shift throughout the day. Make sure you are journaling and recording how you feel each day. If possible, record your thoughts and emotions around the parts of the day when you experience the most triggers. Being aware of how you're reacting mentally and emotionally can go a long way toward getting a sense of your beliefs. ​List your triggers and get very curious about them - what is it about that situation, that triggers you? The belief is underneath the trigger, and it’s driving the conscious thoughts of alcohol that are creating your urge to drink.Ignite curiosity while hanging out with friends. Notice their conversations, verbalize the thoughts you have about alcohol, discuss it all with someone. Have questions - Bring them to me at here - https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/AskDebi

The idea for this episode came to me while attending a networking event this morning. As I record this it’s the Tuesday before Thanksgiving here in the United States. The episode will go live on Thanksgiving day. In addition to sharing what you do and who it is you help, the coordinate of the meeting asked people to share something they are grateful for.For me, I’m actually grateful for all the changes 2020 has brought into my life. When I pause and truly think it through, COVID has forced me to re-decide a lot of things in my life. The company I’d worked for since 1983 offered an amazing retirement buyout package, this was actually offered in the exact same year they’d paid out 2 months of pay for a bonus. The highest bonus payout in the companies history.WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVERWhat a decision isThe power of making decisionsWhat happens when we prolong decisions or procrastinate.Why we leave decisions unmade.FEATURED IN THIS EPISODELast week’s Episode - 6 Steps to Jumpstart Your EXIT from the Drinking Life Learn More About My ProgramSubscribe to the Show Over on YouTube Free ResourcesIf you think about how most people live their lives – most is not even an exaggeration either – most people live their life on default. They are living at the effect of decisions that were made by no conscious choice. They’re just defaulting into previously made decisions or un-thoughtful decisions.People keep drinking as they have, they eating in ways that adversely affect their bodies, live in the same house, stay married to the same person, have the same job because it’s something they decided oh so long ago.We aren’t taught to pause and rethink these things unless something forces us to.2020 has forced many of us to rethink plenty of things in our lives.I believe that decisions are where we can find the power to create the lives we want to create and evolve into the highest version of ourselves.Unfortunately, and inexplicably, most of us stop making decisions on purpose as we get older.We simply fall into patterns of living out the decisions we have made in the past or think if we don’t decide, then we can avoid the discomfort.This pattern we allowed ourselves to fall into is part of the reason everything happening around us right now feels so darn hard.A decision is simply a commitment to a thought, feeling, and action that creates a result.First, everything is optional.The longer I apply and coach using EXIT principles - uncovering my thoughts, bringing in awareness as to how the thoughts make me feel and how my feelings are affecting my actions, reactions or my nonaction, create the results in my life, the more I realize that the most painful trap we can fall into is the thought/belief that there is not a choice.When we forget there is always a choice, we get stuck in suffering because we believe we have to live out the “negative” decisions of our past. We start to feel like our life is a list of “have to-dos”.When I remind my clients there is nothing they have to do and that they have complete free will, they are often very confused. Many of them have not considered that much of what they are currently doing is something they either really want to do (take care of their kids, work the job because of the paycheck, clean the house because they like how it looks and feels, cook the food because they like eating healthy) or that they could stop doing if they chose to (clean the house themselves, spend time with family they rather not, follow someone else’s manual for them)The process of evaluating your life in a way that gives you your power back is imperativeWhat’s interesting is that it often doesn’t mean you will change what you are doing, but it will change how you feel about it and how you think about it.This can be one of the most freeing exercises to take your power back in your lifeWhen you understand that there is always a choice.That you don’t have to continue the decisions of your past and you don’t have to follow anyone else’s idea of how you should live you change the question you ask yourself.Your power question then becomes - Would I choose this again today?When you understand that there's always a consequence to every thought you think (the result that comes from thinking the thought), you can take ownership of the results, desirable AND undesirable, that you currently have.Then from that place, you can decide if you want to keep signing up for mandatory suffering, or if you want to take advantage of an opportunity that involves voluntary discomfort but also the promise of less suffering for the rest of your life.

Most of your first times with new experiences in your life alcohol free will bring up thoughts leading to uncomfortable emotions and feelings. Know this is an amazing opportunity to create new neural pathways in your brain. The more you experience getting through events without drinking, the easier it gets. Eventually, even if you're surrounded by alcohol and people drinking, you'll notice the old thoughts leading to worry won't be there.Make a plan - set yourself up for success! Use the If than tactic. If this happens, then I will do this. ​Visualize yourself at the event and how you’ll respond  - see yourself following through with how you want to behave. See yourself responding in a way that is comfortable for you. ​There will always be unknowns ​Have a committed listener on call - someone who knows what you’re doing, that you’re committed to being alcohol-free for the event, and who you can speak with (at the event or by phone). Sometimes we just need to say what we’re feeling and thinking, to someone who’s in our corner.​Leave if you need to! Know where you can go and how you can get there - home, your hotel, a friend's place, etc. You are free to leave and it doesn’t mean anything about you if you choose to.If you have a question you'd like me to help you with, then let me know here - https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/AskDebi

How often have you told yourself that your drinking isn’t “that bad”How often have you talked about needing to get a handle on your over drinking but never make the decision to do what it requires to actually do it?How often have you blown off your goals, telling yourself that you'll start again on Monday?To me, this is locking yourself in your own prison from the inside because we want to avoid voluntary discomfort.And by avoiding it, we're actually signing up for the mandatory suffering that's to going to come.In today's episode, I’m going to share how igniting curiosity is the key to opening the prison door.FEATURED IN THIS EPISODE:Six steps to quick start your EXIT from the drinking lifeLearn More about my ProgramFREE Training: The Key to What's Been Making it So Hard 

You'll learn about the growth of the industry. Why the growth is happening now and where you can find some gorgeous, delicious alcohol free options.Referenced in the show today:Martha's amazing resource over at Clear Power Coaching. Debi's membership siteLyre's Non-Alcoholic spirtsGruvi - non-alcoholic beer and wine options

In this episode, I talk about how our thoughts can aid us with gradual improvement and the small steps we can take to ensure our minds don’t get the better of us.I’ll recount a personal story of how I recently experienced the feeling of success and how you can, too, by simply changing the rules you have set up for yourself in your mind. I’ll explain that completing small tasks, like hitting play to hear this podcast or persevering despite how many times you make a mistake, should be considered successes. Listen in to find out how to stop feeling like a failure and how you can redefine what it means to succeed.IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:How to redefine what success looks like to you.Small steps you can take to feel successful. REFERENCED IN TODAY’S EPISODE:Reservations for 6 at Six - Get you 6PM brain back in alignment with you 6AM brain.  - offered exclusively inside EXIT & BeyondExit & Beyond Life Coaching Membership

One of my main goals of the show is to help you become an expert at applying the model, so you can use it to work past negative emotions and stay on track with your goals, whatever they may be.You’ll hear me talk about why it’s so important to know the difference between your circumstances and your thoughts, and how this will help you be a more compassionate observer of your mind.IN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:The crucial difference between a circumstance and a thought.Why so many of us think our circumstances are our problem, and why we try so hard to change them.That you don’t have to change a difficult situation or person in your life – just your experience of them.How to speak to yourself compassionately and better understand your underlying emotions.Mentioned on today episode: New YouTube ChannelExit & Beyond Life Coaching Membership

It hit me that Halloween is just a few days away. Which means the holiday season is about to begin.Personally, I think the holiday season is the best, best time to get your ticket and board the transformation flight to alcohol freedom. I know, I know many of you are thinking I’m crazy right about now….Let me just tell you why I think this is the ideal time to allow yourself to tackle exiting the drinking life inside a program like EXIT & Beyond. All times are actually a perfect time to do it, but I think this is a great time because of all of the holidays that are coming. During this pandemic, most people are spending their days at home and many have found themselves over drinking, overeating, and gaining weight. Although more alcohol and food are normal during stressful and overwhelming times, “quarantine” should not be used as an excuse to put keep over drinking. So today I want to discuss how to overcome the defeatist attitude you may be facing and help you push through this coming year healthier and stronger than ever.Listen in as I share four reasons why you should not wait for your current situation to be over before you tackle exiting the drinking life. You will learn how to combat negative thought patterns and take advantage of opportunities as they come into your life. If you are ready to love yourself to a place where you no longer need food or alcohol to get through tough times, this is the episode for you.Mentioned in the show - Exit & Beyond Life Coaching MembershipIN TODAY’S EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:Why now is the perfect time to end the drink, over drink, shame and regret cycle.How to overcome a defeatist attitude.Ways to battle your negative thoughts.Why self-love is important when coping with stress.Four reasons you should tackle exiting the drinking life now.The importance of listening to your body.

WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:The #1 skill I use to get and remain alcohol free for over 4 years.How to point your brain in the direction you'd like to goThe power of unconsciously thought patterns and how to change them.Questions you can ask yourself  MENTIONED IN THE SHOW:Ask DebiEXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership

I want to give you 5 tips today to help you make achieving the goal of changing what you drink a little bit easier for yourself. 1 - Start now. Your brain will tell you that this isn’t the best time, this is the wrong time. 2 - Be willing to go through the messy middle.3 - Become a part of the 1% club.  It is the small, easy, consistent things you do that actually create the biggest results in life.4 - Be Patient.5 - Choose to have fun with the process.  Tiny celebrations.Referenced in the show - EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership

There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so ~ William Shakespeare.We have neurons that are firing and wiring in our brains. When they’re firing and wiring they send off chemical reactions and we just call those things feelings. Our feelings are what drive our actions. Our feelings come from our thoughts. How would life be different if we stopping thinking of our feelings as good or bad or right or wrong?  Would this shift allow us to end the over drinking habit? Listen is as I show my insight. WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER in today Episode:The 2 things going on if you’re not where you want to beWhy removing blame and shame is the only way to exit the cycleHow allowing yourself to be present with your emotions can be life-changingMentioned in the show:EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching Membership

In today’s episode, I invite you to challenge the idea that actions are “good” “bad” "right" or "wrong".  How would your life be different if you let go of assigning a good or bad right or wrong meaning to actions? What you'll discover in today's episode:Why there is so much power is letting go of assigning good, bad, right, or wrong to action.How continuing to believe this lie fuels your drinking habitA better way to think of your actionMentioned in today show:Exit and Beyond Life Coaching Membership  

The journey of living a life free from the influence of outside substances like alcohol is one that goes outside the norm. What is considered “normal behavior.” Because of this, you can sometimes feel isolated and alone. Especially when you are new at navigating this world.Terri Hug decided to create something to help with getting to know yourself again and connecting with others who’ve also made the choice to live an alcohol-free lifestyle.In this episode you’ll learn:The true meaning of the word soberHow tiny steps make a big impactBit more about DebiWhy Terri created The Sober BoxHow The Sober Box can help you exiting the drinking lifeReferenced in the show:EXIT & Beyond Life Coaching MembershipThe Sober Box

What I wanted was to change my desire…..I just wished I could desire less of it. I remember so desperately wanting to not want alcohol.I was unhappy, exhausted, and uncomfortable with the direction my life was headed and my drinking was getting in the way of me making the changes II kept finding myself going to get that drink again, and again knowing how it was going to turn out.I was frightened about so many things. Would I sleep at night, what would I do with my time, how would I keep friends, how would I relieve stress, how would I celebrate something amazing, who would console me when I was down. What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The most dangerous weapon we use against ourselves on our journey to exit the drinking lifeHow to use your past failures as a tool.Why you have a choice in whether having a drink is a tool or a weapon.How taking action from a place of frustration or obligation makes it more painful than it needs to be.Why planning can be one of your most valuable tools.Once we are down, we keep right on beating ourselves up when we are down. Then we drink even more.Tools to help you EXIT Examine your beliefs about alcohol & what life without it will beX-out the ones holding you backIgnite curiosityTrust yourself to figure this outIf you want to take what you are learning in the podcast further, then I’d love to be your Life and Alcohol Freedom Coach. Come apply to join by going to JumpseatCoaching.com/membership

Yes, it's considered "normal" to drink alcohol. However, when we begin to appreciate that it’s interfering with how we want to show up in life, our brain starts to offer us up all kinds of stories pointing us away from changing. This everyday childs play tool just might give you the shift you need to embrace the journey so you can change what you drink without judgment. Small changes are much more realistic to incorporate into your life but they make a big impact. These small change will make a big impact: Examine your beliefsX-out the ones holding you backIgnite curiosityTrust yourself to figure this outReferenced in this episode:Grey's Anatomy  clipHarvard StudyExit & Beyond Membership

I get questions like these a lot...."What is wrong with me? Why can't I figure this over drinking thing out?" "Why can I just cut back and stop thinking about alcohol?" My short answer to all of these questions is BELIEF. Today, I'm inviting you to listen in as I share what beliefs are. How belief affects our actions. Plus what you can do to start uncovering your beliefs. As long as a belief exists for you that alcohol is benefiting you in some way, you won’t be able to take the actions to change your relationship with alcohol. Listen in this week as I share some of the most common excuses and reasons people give me for why their situation is different or unique, and why your brain will always try to prove that to you. I’m highlighting some of the lessons I teach here that are key to changing your relationship with alcohol, and from there, you’ll be able to start uncovering your own personal beliefs so you can see for yourself what's truly been holding you back. FEATURED ON THE SHOW:When you’re ready to exit the drinking life and take what you’re learning on the podcast to the next level, come check out my Exit & Beyond Membership Program. Come hang out with me on YouTube - I've just begun a brand new channelVisit JumpseatCoaching.com to find out how to claim your free Desire Dampener Program.  

We can accept the pain that will inevitably come along in life and be more alive for it.We don’t need to suffer.When we argue with our pain or think that we shouldn’t be feeling it, we suffer.We find all sorts of ways to create unnecessary emotional suffering.But when we’re suffering, we’re not showing up fully for life.We’re robbing ourselves of the life we could have.In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into emotional suffering and why we create pain around our pain. In our modern lives, we’re called on to evolve in this new way. We don’t need to just survive; we need to thrive. And learning to stop suffering is a huge part of that.Leave a review and enter to win....click here to see detail in Episode 25....

In this episode, we'll dive deep into the idea of necessary darkness and crossing the river of misery. We're going to be uncomfortable on this journey of life and transforming our relationship with alcohol, no matter what we do.We get to choose whether we want the discomfort of staying the same, or the discomfort of transformation.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The one skill that we need to exit the drinking life. Why drinking less is simple, but not easy.How our thinking about the process gets us into trouble when things get difficult.What the river of misery is and what's on the other side of it.Why we need to choose between the misery of now and the misery of growth.The poem referenced in the Episode To love ourselves long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the person we used to be. The person we are too exhausted to be any longer. The person we don’t recognize inside ourselves anymore. The person we grew out of. The person we never ended up growing into. We so badly want ourselves to get our spark back when it burns out, to become speedily found when we are lost. But it is not our job to hold ourselves accountable to the person we used to be. It’s our job to travel between each version and to honor what emerges along the way. Sometimes it will be an even more luminescent flame. Sometimes it will be a flicker that disappears and temporarily floods the room with a perfect and necessary darkness.To celebrate (the 25th Episode and beyond), I’m giving away a few things I can’t live without to some lucky listeners: $50 Amazon gift cards, and a brand-new pair of AirPods.Here’s what you want to do right now to sign up for your weekly, bite-sized coaching from Exit The Drinking Life:Subscribing in Apple PodcastsStep 1 To subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Click here to visit the Exit The Drinking Life Apple Podcast Webpage  - it will open in a new tab so these instructions will be accessible to you on the other tab. Then click on the “Listen on Apple Podcasts” button. This will launch Apple Podcasts on your computer and bring up the podcast.Step 2Click on the “Subscribe” button and you’re all set!You can also listen to the podcast via Spotify, Stitcher Radio, or wherever you get your podcasts.Step 3 - Review the Podcast is necessary for you to then enter to Win!I’ll be giving away $50 Amazon gift card and a pair of Apple AirPods to a couple of lucky listeners who review the podcast in Apple Podcasts.How to Enter: Once you’ve listened to an episode or two, click on the “Ratings and Reviews” link on the Exit The Drinking Life in Apple Podcasts to leave a review.Any review qualifies you to win: I want you to be honest, tell me what you think, and how I can help you better. Unfortunately, Apple Podcasts doesn’t release contact information for reviewers so please email me at Debi@JumpseatCoaching.com with the title of your review for your official entry. You can also screen shot your review and email it to me to qualify.  Thanks for listening!  

The most difficult and complicated part of exiting the drinking life is the decision to start. During my 7 year struggle to drink less my thoughts about the process were all about relentless, unwavering willpower and deprivation.  Basically, a horrible, turbulent trip of resist, deny, resist, deny, cave, resist, deny, resist day after day, week after week and never feeling  happy about alcohol's role in my life. It wasn't until I began to decided to go against the grain and explore how I was attempting to drink less did I make alcohol irrelevant in my life. Understanding the way the brain is designed by default is key. Discussed in today's episode:The brain's natural programing to:Seeking pleasureAvoiding painProving ourself rightConnecting with people The skills to work around the brain's natural programing:Delay gratificationLean into discomfortBe OK with trying new thingsBe OK with going against the grainYou can find out how to work directly with me, Debi, at https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/ExitTribe

Life appeared, to the outside world, to be going really well for me.I traveled the world as a flight attendant. With expenses paid, I enjoyed dinners with my military child stationed overseas and sipped wine in France, Germany, Spain and Italy.I drank with coworkers on my layovers. At home, I enjoyed cocktails with friends and family. Weekends included brunch and mimosas. I attended networking events with free flowing alcohol. Date nights with my husband involved dinner and drinks. And of course, when I hosted family events, I proudly served a wide variety of alcoholic beverages.Every event or gathering involved drinking. In my world this was “normal”.I wasn’t the only one drinking this way; everyone I knew drank the same way. It was just part of life. I enjoyed this lifestyle for years, never wondering why I was always the one to finish the wine bottle or if other people went home from a party and helped themselves to another drink. On our flights back across the Atlantic, our crew laughed together as we tried to piece together the night.We had a great time filling in the blanks for each other.I didn’t learn until years later that my style of drinking is called Gray Area Drinking (GAD).In this episode I share what GAD is and what to do if you discover you are in the messy middle.Debi Talbert, Life & Wellness Coach For The 50+ Woman - Certified by The Life Coach School and This Naked Mind Institute. She coaches the 50 plus individual who is tired of trying to figure out how to end their dysfunctional relationship with alcohol. She helps people who in the Gray Area (messy middle) stop over drinking without labels, shame or judgment.Find information about programs and resources at  jumpseatcoaching.com

Yes, me too. Listen in to this episode to discover how missing  the rest of the story will affect the outcomes of your life. This is a quick, easy to digest, yet powerful episode. Do tell me how the rest of the story goes for you over at Debi at Jumpseat Coaching dot com. In case you missed it the discount code is ETDL for help with discovering the rest of your story, click here.

Listen in to todays episode as I help you explore how asking yourself this simple question "The Story I'm Telling Myself Is?" will help you make small subtle shifts so you can begin to exit the drinking life my drinking less alcohol. A few of the things I hear from my clients (and I told myself) are:It (meaning alcohol) provides relief.It's Relaxing.It's sophisticated.Normal people who are in control can drink. It's fun.Its celebratory.It relieves stress.It turns off my brain.The stories I hear (and told) about life without alcohol: It's boring not to drinkIt'll be dullIt's unsophisticated.What am I going to order? It's not as funIt's hardIt's not fair that I don't get to drinkIt must mean that I have a problem.It must mean that I'm an alcoholicIt's a struggle that requires willpower, and I just don't have the energy for that. It's awkward, tedious, annoying, and embarrassing not to drink.Without it, I'll fee deprived.I'll be stigmatized and have to justify why I'm not drinking.I'll always feel like I want it, and I'll always have to fight against that desire. The stories we tell ourselves affect how we feel. Our feelings/emotions cause us to act/react and not act. From those actions/reactions or lack of action is where the results of our lives come from. In this episode you'll learn how a little talked about method to help you question those stores and turn them around into ones to help you exit the drinking life. You can find out all about FLY - First Love Yourself Coaching Membership Program by clicking here.  

I loved my time with Florence. So many things she shares about sugar pertains to our journey of exiting the drinking life. Yes, I did this interview while the Podcast was named "The Sober Curious". I feel this information is too valuable to leave archived.In this episode you’ll learn:What goes on in the brain with sugar.There is loads of sugar in alcohol.How to apply Florence’s ninja mind trick to alcoholThis knowledge along with applying the observation cycle will help you drink less alcohol. Awareness, clarity and turning around our beliefs are key to regain control over alcohol.Many of you will experience difficulty allowing the urge to just be. However, the more you practice allowing the urge, observing your thoughts and experiencing your feelings, the more you’ll reduce your desire for alcohol. Over time you will find yourself drinking less and less as you reduce your desire to drink.To get help practicing allowing the urges so you can reduce the desire to drink, visit https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/

Plus stay tuned to the end because several of them have a shared a personal message with you. One which they hope will help you make the brave step to begin this transformation journey.   While attending This Naked Mind Live this year in Denver, I interviewed and chatted with loads of amazing people who have successfully let go of alcohol.  This people have been able to find freedom around alcohol. Struggling to exit the drinking life on your own? I can help you. Find out how over at JumpSeatCoaching.com 

Procrastination is the action of delaying something and knowing it's probably a bad idea. Proactivation is a made up word I heard from Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School. I love this term. Stay tuned because I share with you exactly how to flip the switch on procrastination when it comes to transforming your relationship with alcohol. I can totally help you exit the drinking life. Ready to take off? Click here

The guilt is running behind the sense like white noise without many of us even noticing. It's so comfortable to us we dive into on auto pilot. You know it has you in handcuffs because there is no traction, growth, or movement in the direction of your dreams. If you are ready to exit the drinking life, learn more about EXIT over at JumpseatCoaching.com/Exit.

In this quick, short episode I'm joing you right after doing a Spin workout! I love all the insight which comes to me while on my spin bike. The great benefit of coaching is some one else, an outsider who has been there done that, can help you see, notice, feel, hear the stories you are telling yourself. The stories keeping you stuck in the drinking life cycle. As you grow you time with the coach and the processes you begain to take the process with you every place you go. A truly great coach will help you no longer need their help. If you are ready to have someone help you see, hear, notice and feel the stories keeping you stuck, then head of to https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/ExitDiscovery to book a free breakthrough discovery call.

According to "siri" the definition of commitment is the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause. Listen in as I share how my thoughts around commitment had me believing a totally false story. Amazing how our brains work sometimes. Reach out to me in iTunes with a review sharing your take a way from this episode. You can also tag me @debi.talbert in Instagram with the #ExitTheDrinkingLife.

You can reach Jane here - https://www.janecoburn.life

This is an under 5 minute insight into the topic. I do a deep dive into this on the next episode.

Mar 26, 2014 Podcast: 5 Ways To Get Fit In Your Car, How To Drink Less Alcohol, Natural Malaria Remedies, Headaches From Swimming, 4 Ways To Avoid Heart Arrhythmias, and Supplements for Hepatitis B. Have a podcast question for Ben? Click the tab on the right, use the Contact button on the app, call 1-877-209-9439, Skype “pacificfit” or use the “” form...but be prepared to wait - we prioritize audio questions over text questions. ----------------------------------------------------- News Flashes: You can get these News Flashes hot off the presses if you follow Ben on , and . Want to get the most bang for your buck out of HIIT? The latter is better. . It INCREASES it! , to $479. Worth a look. ----------------------------------------------------- Special Announcements: Men's Health is launching a search for the next big name in fitness. 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Contrary to popular belief, they are not as active as you might think. He will spend up to 7 hours in the car, crowded with gear. He is worried about EMF exposure, posture problems (has to reach to the right to use the computer in the car), sitting, poor sleep (crazy hours), erratic diet. He can't just get out of the car and do burpees (not safe). He eats plant based, vegan diet. He runs and plays team sports when he can. In my response I recommend: - -Steering wheel isometrics - pushdowns, bicep squeezes, chest flies -Body weight resistance - elbow squeeze, commuter crunch, torso twist -Deep core - kegel exercises, glute squeeze, pelvic tilts -Neck isometrics - front, back, side-to-side - (use code BGF025 for 25% discount) and box breathing How To Drink Less Alcohol Jean asks: Are people affected differently, physiologically, by alcohol? She and her husband will have the same amount to drink and she will get negative and augmentative while he will just fall asleep. She also has more trouble having just one glass than he does. Are there some people who should just not drink alcohol due to genetics? Do you have any tips on how to have "just one" drink? In my response I recommend: - - Natural Malaria Remedies Summer asks: She gets GI issues while she runs anything over 2-3 miles. She has been taking mefloquine, a Malaria medication for travel to Uganda, weekly. Right after she takes it she feels great but by the end of the week her GI issues while running return. She has looked into the FODMAP diet but is looking for more suggestions on how to run longer distances without GI distress... other than taking mefloquine. In my response I recommend: - - - - - - Headaches From Swimming Trigraine asks: Competitive Masters runner who had transitioned into triathlon (70.3 and Olympic). She usually runs right after she swims and without fail gets migraine headaches after the run finishes (also gets swollen hands when she runs). She always drinks electrolytes while she swims and usually while she runs. She has tried plenty of drinks and electrolyte capsules but is at a loss of what to try next. In my response I recommend: - and and for chlorine sensitivities/detox (use code BEN for 10% off ) - 4 Ways To Avoid Heart Arrhythmias Una asks: She was diagnosed with Wenkebach heart block, supraventricular tachycardia, and an atrial flutter back in 2003. She had an ablation to correct it all in 2006 but she still get "skippy". She has her cardiologist blessing to continue to run and has a big year of races ahead of her. She still goes into arrhythmia easily (like when she drinks ice water) but would like to try things like TianChi to give her training a boost but is leery of stimulants. She has heard you mention that some stimulants act on different pathways in the body and don't trigger the same response. Do you have any recommendations of supplements she could try that are less likely to trigger her arrhythmia? In my response I recommend: -Avoid caffeine - - -Electrolyte intake via or Supplements for Hepatitis B Chris asks: His girlfriend is a Hepatitis B carrier. She is not sick, which is great, but the doctor says there is no way to cure it and that she has probably had it for 25 years (since she wasn't vaccinated). The doctor suggested some foods to avoid, like chili powder but says that she will always have it although it is not life threatening. He doesn't want to accept that it is not curable and is looking for supplements, diet or lifestyle changes she could make to rid herself of Hep B. In my response I recommend: -, combined with and ----------------------------------------------------- -- And don't forget to go to -- Prior to asking your question, do a search in upper right hand corner of this website for the keywords associated with your question. Many of the questions we receive have already been answered here at Ben Greenfield Fitness! 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