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What is Chai_Beauty's Mission and Purpose? To be or Not to be a podcaster.

To understand where we are going. We have to understand our core and what drives us. This upcoming podcast episode is an introduction to the Enneagram, but I want to share my number with you.

The advice we all need when. it comes. to thinking. about a time you had to be vulnerable with someone. It takes a different type of strength to love thy neighbor.

Sloth is not always a bad thing, but it is when you are. not prioritizing yourself. Remember you are important.

Resentment is not for you. Let it go and enjoy the moments in your life because life is too short. you are not entitled to anything but your perspective but it does not mean it is. the TRUTH.

Pride is a double edge sword, but it can drive you to make the decisions you never thought you would make or be bitter. The choice is yours. Just remember you are in control.

We decide who we want to be, but we must remember to face our truth and never. lie to ourselves to be successful. The statement fakes it to you make, only work when. you able to reflect on what you have become.

It is time to be you. it is time to let go of your envy and the comparisons in your heart and Breathe. You need to. be encourage.

You are not alone but you can choose to be along, but you must remember avarice can be a sin because you are limit your ability. you must rely on others and ask for help.

Do. not let fear control your thoughts and movement. you are better then this!

Gluttony is dangerous, but you are always in control and have a support system rooting for you. Your greatest enemy is yourself.

Thank you for your support and I can feel the love.

We are back with Season 2!

Hi!  I'm so happy you're here.  Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future. And guess what?  You get to be along for this journey. Because we are in this together.  So, we have talked about acts of service. We're now moving on to gifts.  And I think we have...  sort of taking gifts out of context. In some ways. We just expect that if you love someone, um, you should give gifts and extravagant gifts that potentially could put someone in a financial bind, make them sacrifice a lot of and.  Again, going back to what I said prior, gifts are great, and they can make a lot of statements when you deliver a gift. And when you think about those statements that people give you, I want you to check to see have you declared love for yourself? Have you declared that I am special, I am kind, I am caring, I am, I am the cream of the cream.  I am the icing on the cake.For me, I like cookies, oh well, chocolate chip to be exact, but I think what I have done is each year. I, I love gadgets, so like I have a lot of knickknacks, paddywhacks, all in my house, so there's always a gadget and so throughout the years I've always just bought myself a gadget that I've spied for like three to six months, I've watched YouTube videos on it sometimes or I've just been around someone that had the gadget for a while and I buy at least one gadget a year and that's how I give, give a gift to myself  and as I've gotten older and continue the theme of like learning how to dance in the rain.  Um, I started going to farmers markets or to the grocery store just to purchase flowers to put in my house for those days when I like to wake up and I'm sad or like I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I just want to tell myself.  I love you; I see you, and we may not be where we are today, but just like this flower, the seasons will change, and we will be where we need to be. So just hold on and love yourself, cause we're almost there.  So, have you loved yourself today?  Have you taken a moment to gift yourself with something?  To say I'm here? Thanks for watching! Be sure to subscribe for more videos like this Winter is coming!

     Hi!  I'm so happy you're here.  Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future, and guess what?  You get to be along for this journey because we are in this together.  So, we have finished five love languages.  I think I just want to sit and, um, talk to you about.  them as an altogether component for the last five episodes, um, simply because individually I, I know they work great, and we've talked about receiving and giving the five love languages.  However, have you gone on dates with yourself and treated yourself with the utmost respect in these categories?  I  known for me it took me a while to Understand or even comprehend the components of taking yourself out on dates, uh, enjoying your quality time with yourself, uh, and just being a good friend to yourself. So, my question is today, have you thought?How you have loved yourself in the sense of acts of service. Have you loved yourself?And you're going to keep peeing how many times you going to say I love yourself. I think it's very important and you must love yourself. And so, you're going to hear it a bunch of times like a bunch of times. Um, so love yourself, love yourself, love yourself.Love yourself in the way of acts of service and you're probably like chai, chai.  What do you mean by loving yourself in a component of acts of service?  Simple, have you given yourself a break?  It is okay to say, I have a laundry list of things to do.  But they don't have to get done today. Today is my sabbath. Today is the day of rest. Today is the day that I do not want to go or do anything and that is a service to myself because we all have all lights that come on at some point in our lives that says, hey, have you loved yourself today?

  Hi!  I'm so happy you're here.  Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future. And guess what?  You get to be along for this journey because we are in this together.  So, we're back.Quality time has been the most rewarding.  time with myself.  I can honestly say my favorite color is pastels. I don't like horror movies or any gory things at all. Sorry, no thank you, do not pass go or collect your 200. I, I enjoy like Wondering, but like, I'm not the type of person, like when you say let's go for a walk, I'm not that. If you say let's go for an adventure, and like we just happen to go to a park and spend like three hours walking around, cool. But if you like say we're going for a walk, I'm probably going to be like, nah. Or like, let's go for a hike. I'll be like, how far is this hike? Is it a mile? Is it two miles? Is it three miles? cause if it's three miles, that means three miles back. That's six miles. No, can do.  But I wouldn't have known these things if I hadn't taken time out. Just like with giving myself gifts and just enjoying life, um, and like serving myself, um, so putting me first in some areas, I could not articulate what I needed to.  And I've had the play of rich, ha, privilege, I couldn't speak, privilege of being able to answer those questions. And realizing what I said Tuesday, I might not feel the same way on Thursday, uh, due to just life experiences, reading.  Other people who respect it and be like, oh, I didn't think like that. That's true. That could happen. Um, and lastly just Enjoying Me I Don't know how many people can honestly say they don't have to be around people just to enjoy themselves just to Say I am in love with myself, because I am quirky, I am kind, I am caring, I am compassionate, I am intelligent, I am teachable, and I am a good friend to others.  And whether I'm being a great friend to others or being a great friend to myself, I love myself. So, my question goes back to, have you given yourself time?  To learn who you are, and what you like, and how you show up for you, in those quiet moments when you're just by yourself, do you love yourself? 

   Hi!  I'm so happy you're here.  Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future. And guess what?  You get to be along for this journey. Because we are in this together.  Please don't cry. I would say that it gets better with time.  But I'll be lying to you.  It actually just gets easier, but not better. And you're probably asking me, what does that mean?  I mean, the pain you're feeling right now, it becomes like a scratch. Like you see the mark, you see the scar that's left, and you sometimes get a sharp pain, And you're, In your heart.  And you feel like you can't breathe. You feel the tears coming.  And sadness just overtakes you.  But what I want to remind you is just like all the other five love languages be encouraged that you will get through this, and it doesn't matter that it potentially can take your entire life.  For it to pass, it can take 30 days, 60 days, but all you need to know is that you are so strong.  You got through it, whether it was barely, or you exceeded.  Your community, your support system, they're there, just turn around.  Have you opened your mouth and say, I'm injured, I'm hurt, I don't know if I even want to be here tomorrow.  I don't even know if I care to be here tomorrow, because they can help, they can pour into you, they can make tomorrow the best day ever, or they can show right then and there and make that minute the best day, you just have to give them an opportunity.  To pour life into you. Just say that you are worthy of all things. You are the prayers, the answers to somebody's dream.  You are right where you need to be.  And even though it doesn't feel like it, and your world seems a lot grayer, and maybe you can't pick up that phone to talk to that person because they're not here anymore, but there is someone that is there for you.  That will be right there to say, I got you.  Don't sniff your tears. Your tears are welcome here.  And it's going to be okay. So, let's just sit here in quietness. And let me remind you of all the ways you've done your very best.  Because your best is good enough.  So, we all love you. 

  Hi!  I'm so happy you're here.  Welcome to Chai Beauty.  Where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future. And guess what?  You get to be along for this journey. Because we are in this together.  I'm going to be honest; touch is kind of hard for me. Cause I'm not a touchy-feely person. But I had to sit back and think about the feeling of touch.  And one of the things I can remember is, in my college days, I was really stressed. Mental health wasn't popular.  Um, but I just got overwhelmed and I cried. Like, cried.  And I went to a school that had a chaplain.  And I remember crying, feeling overwhelmed, and walking into her, um, her space where she had office hours, not saying a word, continuing to boohoo.  And she didn't touch me at first, and she finally said, can I touch you? And I said, yes.  While hiccupping, and, and stress, and feeling like my life is over, I'm not equipped to even do the things that I'm doing.  And she hugged me, and for the first time, I got safety from someone outside of my house. So, when I think about touch, I think about  not my mom and my dad, but like people that genuinely got to know me, and over time we created space that they would touch me, as in giving a hug, patting me on the knee, saying like it's going to be okay, to just looking at me, and making very good eye contact, and saying,  hey.  And so that was important to me in that season because I didn't need words of affirmation. I didn't even need quality time. I needed somebody to touch me and give me comfort in a way I never got comfort before.  And as I thought, I thought of touch as comfort. A way to connect.And...  To experience something that you can't put in words.  Because if I try to communicate, touch, it's like somebody empathizes and sympathizes with me. And that feeling and that touch resonated so deeply in my soul that I can remember this moment. Five or ten years later, because I was just safe.  And as I continue to learn about touch, and how it works, I hope that. 

Hi!  I'm so happy you're here.  Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future, and guess what?  You get to be along for this journey because we are in this together.  So, I'm going to be honest, I don't know what I'm going to get from this new season. Um, this new season is called Boundaries. I've purchased the book and then I've purchased the handbook because I wanted more thought-provoking questions, but some things I'm super excited about and I come up with these questions and some things...  It takes time. So, when I did boundaries, the first chapter is a day, what is it called again? Sorry, y'all. I'm flipping through the book. cause it is, what are boundaries is the part like, so it's broken up in parts. So, you have several parts. So, the first part is what is a boundary? The second. Then the second part is the chapter A Day and a boundary, A Boundaries.  And then you have the chapter book that goes with it. And the high level is, we're reading about a character, and she goes through her life and from 6am to the next day. And the questions basically are getting you to look at someone else's life.  And see, like, how would you change this? What would you say to this person? Like, really getting you to truly think and process, like, how this person has said certain things.such as like their mom coming over and their mom telling them like they're lonely and they're not trying to like the mom saying like I'm not intruding or anything and then the child says no of course you're not even though she has other responsibilities towards her family she still allows her mom  toum come into her life and disrupt the things that she has to do and she justifies it by saying like My mom is lonely. Um, I need to save her and what does saving her look like?  Um, and, but the story goes on to say that when her mom left, she still talked about her loneliness. So that child did not save her mom from the loneliness. If her mom was still talking about it when she left.  And so that was a lack of boundaries.  And how would we have given that advice to that character and said, hey, you still have other priorities.So, you should tell your mom you have other priorities, right?  I think the question we have to ask ourselves is how do we justify lack of boundaries and letting somebody flourish but yet cause us chaos?  Getting us ready for that character, it asks us in the handbook several questions, but I decided the one I wanted to talk about is the questions list in the introduction and below reflects some of the confusion Christians may have about boundaries. So, the questions are, can I set limits and still be a loving person? What are legit boundaries? What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? How do I answer some with my love, time, energy, or money?  Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? How do boundaries relate to mutual submission in marriage? Aren't boundaries selfish? Is it difficult for me to hear no from other people? Do I tend to control other people when I get, when I don't get what I want?  And so, when it came to those questions, they really, um, had me thinking because can I set boundaries and still be a loving person? Absolutely. I think yes you can. It's just harder to do and I think it's easier to set boundaries with strangers and friends than it is with your family. Um, so that's what I think about that question. What are legit boundaries? Um, it depends on the situation, I can't, I'm not everyone and everything, but depending on how people respond to what I'm saying, and how, what I'm saying, and then if they respond in a way that isn't appropriate or just for me, I then have to come in and say it. Thank you. Hey, the reason, the way you did this made me feel this and so it caused me to now say this to you in my processing. Um, I do think some people get hurt and upset but that isn't your responsibility if you know, like, you're not being malicious and trying to manipulate me.  Um, I do think setting boundaries are very frightful and sometimes you feel guilty, especially with family members, because this is the way you've operated for a very long time. So, like when you start setting boundaries or start learning about yourself, um, people got to get accustomed to the new you. And so that's when you see a lot of relationships change, you get new friends, like a whole bunch of things happen. Um, and I've been in transition for a couple of years. So, um, that transition of setting new boundaries, because I'm learning who I am, I'm learning what I need, not what I want, and needing requires a lot more from you.  I don't think boundaries are selfish, if you're coming into it with that intent, that good intent. Um, and I do, for me, it is difficult to hear no. I take not as rejection, and I've, I'm currently in still. I'm in progress with saying like, just because somebody says no does not mean they're not loving you, it does not mean that they don't care about you, it doesn't even mean that, um, that they're selfish and they're mean and they're out to get you, it just means they don't hold the capacity to help you in this time, and just like sometimes you don't hold the capacity for others, it is okay to say like, I know you need this from me, but I can't help you, but I can, I can give you another resources, I can give you another friend, um, it's just, like, today is not a good day. And when you truly respect somebody and you want to support them, I, I think you both can come to an agreement to say, okay, I understand that today is not a good day, but somewhere later in the week will be good. Or, like, you may not want to hear this at all because, like, this person has complained over and over and it's just not good for your mental health. Cause there, it's like, they're doing insanity, right? They're trying to do the same thing, get different results, and you're like, it's just not working in my, and I want to put my energy somewhere else.  Um, do I tend to want control other people when I don't get what I want? Absolutely. I'm sorry. I, I am completely honest. Yes, I do try to get control. Um, I think that's where my independence comes from, where I'm like, oh, if you're not goanna do what I want, how I want it, when I want it, then.I'm going to do my own thing. Like, I'm going to figure it out. I'm going to rely on myself more.  Because again, it goes with that fear of rejection. That I'm like, I don't want to be rejected. So, if I count on myself, I'm not going to reject myself. I love myself. So, I'm going to work hard for myself.  And so, with those questions, so the other Handbook then leads us to say, with these questions, have you, what have you wondered about? What questions do you, um, especially want answered?  Um, I want all of them answered. I think that's why this book is being picked up by so many readers. I think it's why it's important.  Um, and then it just says, as you process through this study and work towards the goals you have set for yourself, remember this book is aimed to help you.See the deep uh, deeply the deeply biblical nature of boundaries. Um, but going back to the character in the book, she has she has many dilemmas.  Like, she feels isolated, she feels hopeless, she feels confused, she has guilt over what she does. But overall, she feels like her life is not hers and it's out of control. And I think...  At some point, we all feel like that, and when people come to our problems, we're like, we can help them. But, um, as we go, I want to encourage you and ask you, have you really looked in the mirror with yourself and figure out what's in your life out of control? Because whatever you feel is out of control in your life, um, get back in control. Because you have the power to change everything in your, in your life. Like you're like, what? Yes, you have the power to change everything that's happening in your life. You just need the tools and the resources to do them. Um, we are in an age where it's like theology and God. We're in an age of Google. We're in an age of, of knowledge. Instant knowledge. Um, but I think a lot of us Want to do these things, but what really stuck out to me in this chapter, and it wasn't even like Huge in this chapter. It was just like a small sentence, and They said that her son was out of control because he couldn't understand delayed gratification and my life has been Sometimes out of control because I can't wait for that delayed gratification.  There are boundaries I've allowed to happen because I want instant gratification.  And so, I have justified a lot of things in my life.  Um, as if I can't have it now.  What can I do, such as allowing somebody that I probably wouldn't allow to come in my life and dictate things, such as a parental unit, um, anything. Like, when I'm in need and I know somebody has it, I will allow you to do whatever you want in my life. Because I'm like, you have it and I need it. Um, and that's manipulation. I think the entire world works out with manipulations. Like, I'm sorry. It is what it is. Bud.  It's going to cost you something and what is that cost? I, I believe you have to figure out the pros and cons to life. What do you value the most? What are your beliefs? Where are your values?  For me, I've learned like what is my love language? My love language is I value words of affirmation is probably like my top three, but my, my ultimate one is acts of service. Like, if you love me, show me.  And because I valued that when people are just talking to me, I have stricter boundaries with these people because I'm like, that's fluff. I don't really care for fluff. You have to show me. And when someone in my life does acts of service and they don't even ask for anything back, they just do it.  It caused me to like to be a hedgehog and just pop up from the ground and be like, Ooh, what are you doing? How are you doing that? Well, thank you. Amazing. And so that speaks to me, um, on a different level that our boundary is more open. And I'm in a season of like, is that a good thing? Is that a bad thing for us? Like, how do we know what a boundary is? How do I keep boundaries consistently? Um, consistency has been an issue for me for a very long time. I'm working on it, y'all. I'm working on it. But overall, like...  What does a boundaries life look like and how can I get control of that? And what's the best advice I can give to myself? Cause in this season we're talking about self-love, we're talking about resources, but at the end of the day you also have to have that growth mindset and be honest with yourself. Cause the only person that's having this conversation is you, yourself, and whatever your religious belief is.  Or if you count on yourself, you're still having this conversation with self. So, I encourage everyone to take a moment and look at what in your life is out of control. 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Navigating Boundaries: A Journey Through Personal and Spiritual Growth In this episode of 'Chai Beauty,' our host delves into her personal reflections and challenges while reading a book on boundaries. She shares emotional reactions to the content, the difficulties in aligning her workbook with the latest edition of the book, and the complexity of identifying and communicating personal boundaries. The discussion touches on two main types of boundaries—physical and spiritual—and their significance in maintaining mental and emotional well-being. The host also explores how boundaries are portrayed in the Bible, and the importance of self-awareness and responsibility in defining one's soul and maintaining healthy relationships. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:38 Navigating Emotional Overwhelm03:53 Understanding Boundaries06:38 Spiritual Boundaries and Personal Growth09:15 Defining Your Soul and Self-Reflection11:39 Overcoming Fear of Dependence Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Journey of Healing and Boundaries In this episode of Chai Beauty, our host shares a deeply personal journey of recovery from severe physical injuries and the lessons learned about setting boundaries and asking for help. Reflecting on scriptural teachings and personal experiences, the discussion delves into understanding personal responsibility, the importance of community support, and the transformative power of confession and self-awareness. Tune in for insights on navigating life's challenges with grace and resilience. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:39 Understanding Boundaries01:06 Personal Struggles and Therapy Journey02:19 Asking for Help07:35 Confession and Community09:26 Reflecting on Personal Growth10:21 Future Aspirations and Final Thoughts14:26 Conclusion Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Exploring Boundaries: A Personal Journey with Chai Beauty In this episode of Chai Beauty, the host delves into their thoughts and experiences regarding personal boundaries. They discuss the importance of setting clear boundaries, as outlined in a referenced book, and reflect on different types of boundaries such as physical, emotional, and geographical. The host shares personal anecdotes about respecting others' boundaries and dealing with their own. They also touch on the impacts of not maintaining boundaries, including emotional and physical stress, and emphasize the need for self-respect and personal growth. The episode ends with a focus on processing feelings and the importance of emotional regulation. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:38 Exploring Boundaries in Faith02:01 Personal Reflections on Boundaries03:33 The Impact of Boundaries on Mental Health05:05 Respecting Others' Boundaries06:01 Navigating Constructive Criticism06:57 Dealing with Emotional and Physical Reactions07:56 Overcoming Isolation and Suicidal Thoughts09:02 Balancing Work and Personal Life10:03 Standing Up for Personal Truths11:12 Healing Through Time and Distance12:38 Managing Emotional Regulation13:07 Understanding Consequences14:08 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Exploring Boundaries and Emotional Awareness In this episode of Chai Beauty, we delve into the concept of boundaries, inspired by the story of the Good Samaritan. We discuss the importance of recognizing and managing internal and external pressures, and the significance of owning and addressing our feelings. The host reflects on personal experiences with avoidance, anger, and frustration, and how journaling, therapy, and self-awareness have played a role in emotional growth. The discussion extends to the importance of taking responsibility for one's actions and the flow of love in our lives. Questions about self-love, receiving love, and the influence of attitudes and beliefs are posed to help listeners reflect and grow on their journey. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:42 Understanding Boundaries01:28 Exploring Feelings and Emotions05:09 Dealing with Anger and Frustration09:15 Personal Growth and Self-Reflection12:04 The Flow of Love Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Understanding Boundaries and the Power of Saying No In this episode of Chai Beauty, the host delves into the concept of boundaries, exploring the chapter 'Understanding Boundaries' from a handbook. They discuss the importance of learning to say no, sharing personal anecdotes about the challenges of compliance and the fear-driven motivations behind saying yes to undesirable tasks. The host reflects on their journey of personal growth, emphasizing the role of compassion and the importance of evaluating one's motivations and responsibilities. They also share insights on the influence of childhood experiences on adult behavior and stress the need for self-awareness and boundary-setting to protect oneself. The episode concludes with encouragement to visit their website for more community engagement. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:35 Understanding Boundaries: Compliance vs. Complaints01:19 Personal Story: Saying Yes to the Bad05:22 Evaluating Your Life: Compassion vs. Guilt06:41 Overcoming Fear and Setting Boundaries12:09 Final Thoughts and Reflections13:59 Thank You and What's Next Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Breaking Down Walls: Embracing Vulnerability and Building Connections In this heartfelt episode of ChaiBeauty, our host delves into the theme of avoidance and the importance of breaking down personal walls to build stronger relationships. Sharing personal anecdotes, especially around the challenges faced in college and beyond, the host emphasizes the necessity of asking for help and fostering connections. By evaluating personal boundaries and overcoming fears tied to rejection and conflict, the episode encourages listeners to let others in, understanding that vulnerability can lead to deeper, more meaningful connections. Insights from a book on boundaries are discussed, and the episode concludes with a call to self-reflection and personal growth. Listeners are reminded of the importance of community and the value of showing gratitude to those who support us. 00:00 Welcome to ChaiBeauty00:27 Understanding Avoidance01:58 The Importance of Sharing03:51 Building Boundaries06:25 The Wall vs. The Fence08:19 The Power of Confession12:15 Overcoming Fear and Guilt03:09 Reflecting on Personal Growth28:53 Navigating Compliance and Boundaries42:17 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Self-Awareness and Growth: Overcoming Manipulation and ControlIn this episode of Chai Beauty, the host shares personal reflections on manipulation and control, narrating an impactful story from college where they unintentionally hurt a close friend by only reaching out when in need. The host explores broader themes of self-awareness, regret, and personal growth, emphasizing the importance of authentic relationships and the negative impacts of controlling behavior. They also discuss experiencing depression and overcoming challenges with controlling individuals at work. The episode ends with a motivational message encouraging listeners to acknowledge their controlling or manipulative tendencies and strive to build genuine and supportive connections in their lives. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:38 Understanding Controllers and Manipulators01:15 Personal Reflections on Manipulation04:31 Dealing with Controlling People07:51 Encouragement and Self-Awareness11:55 Final Thoughts and Community Engagement Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Embracing Growth: Navigating Non-Responsiveness and Healing In this heartfelt episode of Chai Beauty, the host reflects on personal growth, addressing the impact of being non-responsive to others' feelings and behaviors. She shares her struggles with internal battles, including ADHD and personal insecurities, and acknowledges past failures in being supportive to friends. Through self-awareness and anecdotes, she emphasizes the importance of apologizing, understanding one's limitations, and offering grace to others. Listeners are encouraged to recognize and address their own shortcomings, fostering a more compassionate and supportive community. The host also mentions ongoing efforts to extend the Chai Beauty community through a new website. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:37 Understanding Non-Responsiveness01:49 Personal Struggles and Growth03:34 The Importance of Apologizing05:06 Learning from Friends06:17 Offering Support and Empathy07:47 Overcoming Hurt and Moving Forward11:55 Final Thoughts and Gratitude Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

 Navigating Functional and Relational Boundaries with Chai Beauty Join Chai Beauty as the host shares personal insights and experiences about understanding functional and relational boundary issues. Delve into topics of boundary development, relationship building, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. The host emphasizes learning from past mistakes, the value of mentorship, and the significance of knowing when to ask for help. Additionally, there are discussions around self-introduction across different life stages, the impact of seasons in life, and practical tips for dealing with boundary injuries and personal insecurities. The episode ends with a heartfelt encouragement to the listeners, acknowledging their progress and strength in their journey towards better self-understanding and growth. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:38 Understanding Functional and Relational Boundaries01:48 The Journey of Entrepreneurship04:37 Navigating Life's Challenges09:05 The Importance of Setting Boundaries09:58 Reintroducing Yourself Through Life's Changes11:18 Final Thoughts and Community Engagement Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Journey of Self-Discovery and Growth In this episode of Chai Beauty, the host reflects on personal growth, childhood development, and breaking free from past traumas. They discuss the importance of understanding how one's upbringing impacts adulthood, sharing their own experiences with people-pleasing and redefining boundaries. The host encourages listeners to consider their own development, highlighting that change is always possible. They share practical steps for personal improvement, addressing the challenges and triumphs of evolving past childhood hardships. The episode emphasizes creating a fulfilling life through self-awareness, perseverance, and the courage to evolve continuously. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:31 Reflecting on Childhood Development01:49 Overcoming Childhood Traumas03:16 Personal Growth and Development05:07 Practical Steps for Change10:23 Navigating Adulthood13:54 Embracing Your Journey14:26 Thank You and What's Next Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Exploring the Ten Laws of Boundaries and the Path to FreedomIn this episode of Chai Beauty, the host delves into the concepts presented in chapter five of a book titled 'The Ten Laws of Boundaries'. The ten laws discussed include: The Law of Sowing and Reaping, The Law of Responsibility, The Law of Power, The Law of Respect, The Law of Motivation, The Law of Evaluation, The Law of Proactivity, The Law of Envy, The Law of Activity, and The Law of Exposure. The host reflects on the importance of these laws in achieving personal freedom and authenticity, sharing personal experiences and the challenges faced in understanding one's powerlessness. They discuss mental health, the importance of seeking help, and the ongoing journey to becoming the best version of oneself. The episode concludes with a heartfelt appreciation for listeners and an invitation to explore further resources on the Chai Beauty website. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:38 The Ten Laws of Boundaries01:30 Understanding Freedom and Responsibility03:49 The Importance of Exposure04:04 Personal Journey and Mental Health07:37 Seeking Help and Support08:25 Navigating Life's Challenges10:58 Final Thoughts and Gratitude Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Debunking Common Boundary Myths In this episode of Chai Beauty, we explore Chapter Six from a handbook on boundaries, focusing on 'Common Boundary Myths.' The speaker discusses eight prevalent myths: 1) If I set a boundary, I'm being selfish, 2) Boundaries are a sign of disobedience, 3) If I begin to set boundaries, I will be hurting others, 4) If I set boundaries, I will hurt others, 5) Boundaries mean I am angry, 6) When others set boundaries, it injures me, 7) Boundaries cause feelings of guilt, 8) Boundaries are permanent and I'm afraid of burning bridges. The episode includes reflections on personal experiences with setting boundaries, navigating guilt, anger, and the importance of self-care. Listeners are encouraged to evaluate their own beliefs and excuses regarding boundaries. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:38 Common Boundary Myths Introduction00:50 Myth 1: Boundaries and Selfishness06:03 Myth 2: Boundaries as Disobedience06:58 Personal Reflections on Boundaries09:24 Myth 3: Boundaries Hurt Others09:50 Myth 4: Boundaries and Anger10:41 Myth 5: Boundaries and Guilt11:11 Myth 6: Boundaries are Permanent11:51 Final Thoughts on Boundaries12:38 Thank You and Community Updates Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org

Understanding Boundaries: Explored in Depth In this episode of Chai Beauty, the host delves into the concepts of boundaries, breaking them down into three parts. She covers foundational aspects, myths, boundary conflicts across various relationships (friends, family, work, digital age, etc.), and discusses chapters 7 through 14 of a recommended book on boundaries. The host emphasizes the importance of self-work and healthy boundaries, offering guidance on measuring success with boundaries through practical steps. Additionally, she encourages listeners to read chapters 7 through 17 of the book for a deeper understanding. The episode closes with appreciation for the community and an invitation to further connect via the Chai Beauty website. 00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty00:38 Introduction to Boundaries01:05 Understanding Boundary Conflicts01:47 Healthy Boundaries and Self-Work04:30 Steps to Measure Success with Boundaries06:20 The Importance of Alignment07:13 Encouragement and Final Thoughts09:02 Community and Future Plans Calls-to-action: Join my Patreon account:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529Join my Instagram account:https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=enJoin my YouTube account:https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/aboutVisit my Website:www.chaibeauty.org