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Why does an emotionally shut down man struggle to change—even when he genuinely wants to?In this follow-up episode, Luke and Alana respond to listener questions about emotional shutdown, nervous system healing, and what recovery actually looks like for men who have spent years disconnecting from their emotions.***Listen to Part 1 HERE.***Together they explore:Why insight alone doesn't create changeWhat emotional shutdown is really protectingHow attachment wounds shape adult relationshipsWhy some men become more emotional after starting recoveryWhat somatic work actually isHow nervous system healing creates lasting transformationWhat emotional reconnection looks like in real lifeChapters01:23 Why Insight Isn't Enough07:40 What Shutdown Protects11:50 Control and Safety16:20 Predictability Over Vulnerability20:10 Reconnecting Emotionally28:53 Somatic Work Explained30:14 Healing Takes TimeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men's Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.

This solo episode of Just Press Record explores why purpose, place, and people are essential to meaningful experiences, personal transformation, and human connection.Matt Zeigler connects recent trips to Chicago, St. Louis, and a World Cup match in Philadelphia with lessons from Chuck Marohn, Aaron Hurst, Joe Pine, Shannon Staton, Kate Bradley Chernis, and D.A. Wallach on travel, serendipity, community, and belonging.Main topics coveredWhy travel makes us more open to new experiences and better decisionsHow life transitions create moments where people are ready to changeWhy saying yes to small opportunities can lead to memorable experiencesThe power of programmed serendipity in work, travel, and relationshipsWhy in-person meetings still matter in a remote work worldHow unplanned conversations create deeper professional and personal bondsThe difference between efficiency and connectionWhy live sports and shared culture create powerful human experiencesHow taste tribes help people find belonging outside politics and workWhy purpose, place, and people are a useful framework for building a more meaningful lifeTimestamps00:00 Why purpose, place, and people matter02:19 How travel opens us up to transformation03:32 Saying yes to the hotel upsell in Chicago06:00 Why the best travel moments are often unplanned07:29 Taking the train to St. Louis and returning to the office09:10 Programmed serendipity and transformative experiences11:12 Why the best work trip moments are not on the agenda12:31 How in-person time turns handshakes into hugs13:23 Deciding to go to the World Cup15:27 Taste tribes, culture, and belonging18:03 The power and pageantry of a live World Cup match19:42 Purpose, place, and people as a framework for life21:31 Why meaningful experiences are worth prioritizing22:00 Final thoughts and where to find more from Matt Zeigler

Stress is shaping more of your decisions than you realize.In this episode, John sits down with Bryan Post, one of America's foremost child behavior experts and co-founder of The Post Institute, to talk about fear, love, stress, trauma, parenting, leadership, active listening, and why people often react from survival instead of clarity.If you are a sales leader, manager, parent, or anyone trying to communicate better under pressure, this episode gives you a practical look at how stress affects the brain, why discipline should be taught instead of punishment, and how slowing down can help people move through fear and make better decisions.Want to lead better conversations before fear takes over the room? Visit www.jbarrows.com and learn how you can Make It Happen.What You'll LearnWhy fear and stress shape how people respond at home, at work, and in sales conversationsHow early experiences can influence behavior, emotional regulation, and relationshipsWhy physical presence is not the same as emotional presenceHow breathing and self-awareness can improve active listeningWhy discipline should mean teaching, not punishmentHow slowing down can help people move through fear and indecisionHow Bondify is using AI to give parents in-the-moment support without removing the human lensBryan Post is one of America's foremost child behavior experts and the co-founder of The Post Institute. For more than 20 years, The Post Institute has provided education and support to parents and professionals involved in the lives of children who have experienced trauma. Bryan specializes in a love-based treatment approach focused on understanding fear, stress, and the power of love to bring peace and healing.If you are a parent who needs support at the moment, check out Bondify — free 24/7 parenting support built on 30 years of Bryan Post's expertise. Text it like you're texting Bryan himself. Visit bryanpost.com to learn more.Bondify: https://bondify.ai/Bondify Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bondifyofficial/Bondify FB: https://www.facebook.com/people/Bondify/61571882300625/Connect with Bryan Post:Website: https://bryanpost.com/Fear to Love: https://feartolove.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bryanpostofficial/Li: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanpost1/Fb: https://www.facebook.com/people/Bryan-Post-Official/61585577754101/John Barrows is a sales trainer, speaker, and founder of JB Sales with over 25 years of experience in the industry. He has made hundreds of cold calls a week, led startups to acquisition, and trained high-performing teams at companies like Salesforce, LinkedIn, Amazon, and Okta. Through JB Sales, John focuses on practical sales execution—helping reps fill pipeline, close deals, and build trust with buyers in today's AI-driven sales environment.Connect with John Barrows:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnbarrows/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnmbarrows/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@johnmbarrowsCheck out John's Membership: https://learn.jbarrows.com/pages/individual-packages?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcastJoin John's Newsletter: https://www.jbarrows.com/newsletter

How shame, withdrawal, and approval-based parenting quietly affect self-worth.Have you ever found yourself saying things like, "I'm disappointed in you," giving your child the silent treatment after a difficult moment, or withholding affection until they apologized or behaved differently?Most parents have.Not because we don't love our children.But because many of us were raised with the belief that approval, affection, and connection should be earned.And without realizing it, we can sometimes pass those same messages on to our own kids.In this episode of the Raising Eyebrows Miniseries, Celia Kibler and Dr. Kailey Buller explore one of the most common and often unintentional parenting mistakes: conditional love.Because every child needs guidance, accountability, and boundaries.But they also need to know that their worth is never tied to their behavior, achievements, mistakes, or ability to meet our expectations.In this honest and thought-provoking conversation, Celia and Dr. Kailey unpack how shame, withdrawal, criticism, and approval-based parenting can quietly shape a child's sense of self. They also discuss what it looks like to hold children accountable while still communicating unconditional love, safety, and belonging.In this episode, you'll hear:What conditional love looks like in everyday parenting momentsHow shame differs from healthy accountability and disciplineWhy children need to feel loved even when their behavior needs correctingThe lasting impact of approval-based parenting on confidence and self-worthHow withdrawal, criticism, and emotional distance can affect parent-child relationshipsWhy mistakes are opportunities for learning—not evidence of a child's valuePractical ways to set boundaries without using shame or guiltHow to build stronger emotional safety and connection within your familyOne of the most powerful reminders in this episode:A child's behavior may need correction, but their worth never does.That doesn't mean there should be no consequences.It doesn't mean lowering expectations.And it definitely doesn't mean letting children do whatever they want.It means separating who your child is from what your child does.Because children who know they are loved even when they struggle, fail, or make mistakes develop the confidence to learn, grow, and take responsibility for their actions.And children who feel emotionally safe are far more likely to come to us when they need support the most.If you've ever wondered whether your discipline approach is building connection or creating distance, or if you're trying to break parenting patterns you experienced growing up, this episode offers practical insights and compassionate reminders that can help you parent with greater clarity and confidence.Tune in to this episode of Raising Eyebrows your weekly dose of sanity in a world full of parenting noise.We're so glad you're here.To stay connected with Celia Kibler, follow @beabetterparentdotcom and explore more support through the Be A Better Parent Skool community at skool.com/beabetterparent.You can also connect with Dr. Kailey Buller at @vitalswithdrbuller for thoughtful, evidence-based support around motherhood, family health, and raising children with confidence.And if you want parenting support right when real life is happening, be sure to download the Be A Better Parent app. It offers on-demand guidance, practical tools, and real-time support to help you respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence right when you need it most.

Did you like the episode? Send me a text and let me know!! Productized Services: The Hourly Trap Debunked | Pi & Piette 2.0 | Business Conversations Episode Summary: Is charging by the hour slowly killing your business before it even starts? In this episode of Business Conversations with Pi and Piette 2.0, AI voices PI and Piette tackle one of the most critical decisions every founder faces: should you charge hourly or package your skills into a productized service from day one? Spoiler — the data says ditch the hourly model immediately. Drawing from John Warrillow's Built to Sell, Paul Jarvis' Company of One, a Journal of Business Research academic paper, and a raw interview with agency founder Brad Martin, this episode gives you a complete roadmap for building a service business that generates predictable revenue, eliminates scope creep, and ultimately doesn't need you in the room to run. What You'll Learn: Why the hourly billing model traps you in a revenue-for-effort death spiralThe three mandatory traits of a true productized service: specified, branded, pricedWhat the LUX Hotels Cinema Paradiso experience teaches us about mental tangibilityHow Brad Martin's Google Doc discovery process doubled his efficiency overnightThe "Jam Session" method for eliminating scope creep without damaging client relationshipsWhy retainers and recurring revenue are NOT the same thing — and which one actually builds business valueThe one question that forces you to stop thinking like an employee of your own companyTimestamps: [00:00:00] – Introduction & Today's Listener Question[00:01:30] – The Menu-Less Chef: Why the Custom Hourly Model Is Broken[00:03:00] – Brad Martin's Story: Giving Away the Farm Before the Contract[00:04:30] – The Hourly Trap: Why Your Business Becomes Unsellable[00:05:30] – Bespoke vs. Productized: Why the Tailor Analogy Actually Proves Our Point[00:06:30] – What Is a Productized Service? The Academic Definition[00:07:00] – The Cinema Paradiso Framework: Specified, Branded, Priced[00:08:00] – Mental Tangibility: Why Packaging Makes Clients Feel Safe[00:09:30] – Minimum Viable Profit: Paul Jarvis' Day-One Strategy[00:10:00] – Brad Martin's Google Doc Epiphany[00:11:30] – The Embarrassment Test: Launch Ugly, Launch Now[00:12:00] – Jam Sessions: The Genius Fix for Scope Creep[00:13:00] – Retainers vs. Recurring Revenue: A Critical Distinction[00:14:30] – Final Verdict & The Blank Check Thought Experiment[00:15:30] – Submit Your Question & Wrap-UpResources Mentioned:

You want to help your teen be resilient and feel more confident and capable of handling life's challenges. But when they're struggling, whether with mental health, motivation, school, substances, or simply growing up,  it's easy to slip into protection mode. You try to shield them from pain, solve their problems, and prevent mistakes before they happen.The problem? Confidence isn't built through protection. It's built through experience.In this conversation, I sit down with clinical psychologist and adolescent mental health expert Dr. Jerry Weichman to explore the parenting tools that truly help teens build confidence and resilience. Why do so many parents feel overwhelmed and alone? How is today's digital world impacting families? And why is focusing on what you can control one of the most powerful mental health strategies available? We discuss it all.Dr. Jerry shares the mindset shifts and practical tools he's used with thousands of families, including how parents can support a struggling teen without trying to control them, why resilience matters more than ever, and what it takes to create healthier family dynamics in a world full of stress, distractions, and uncertainty.If you've ever wondered how to help your teen build confidence while also preserving your own sanity, this episode is for you.In this episode on helping teens build confidence, we discuss:Why helping your teen build confidence starts with changing your own mindsetThe difference between protecting your child and building resilienceHow today's digital world is affecting parents, teens, and family relationshipsWhy focusing on what you can control reduces stress and overwhelmThe parenting trap of trying to "fix" your teen's strugglesWhat to do when your teen knows the tools but refuses to use themWhy allowing mistakes can actually help your teen build confidenceHow resilience protects teens from anxiety, depression, and hopelessnessPractical mental health strategies for both parents and teensWhy parents need support, tools, and compassion tooHow Dr. Jerry's Raising Families platform helps parents navigate common family challengesMore about Dr. Jerry WeichmanDr. Jerry Weichman, PsyD, a clinical psychologist, adolescent mental health specialist, and parenting expert, is the founder and creator of Raising Families, a free-to-access platform and trusted go-to resource for pro-active parents that provides real-life tools, systems and solutions for navigating today's most common mental health challenges impacting children and families. Looking for support?

As an ambitious woman who feels stuck, the problem often isn't that you're not doing enough (if anything, chances are, you're probably overdoing it, lol).In today's episode, we're diving into the hidden reason so many ambitious women struggle to receive more love, money, success, support, and abundance — even after doing all the inner work.We're talking about self-trust, hyper-independence, over-effort in dating & business, and why constantly trying to fix yourself may actually be the thing standing between you and the life you're trying to create.We explore:Why self-trust is more important than confidenceThe real reason why receiving feels unsafe for so many womenHow hyper-independence blocks love, support, and abundanceThe hidden addiction to self-improvement and "fixing" yourselfWhy healing can become another form of perfectionismThe difference between understanding yourself and trusting yourselfHow over-efforting shows up in business, dating, and relationshipsWhy ambitious women often struggle to enjoy the success they've worked so hard to createThe capacity conversation nobody is havingWhy your next level may require less control, not moreHow to become the woman who allows life to meet her halfwayIf you've ever felt exhausted from carrying everything alone, constantly chasing the next breakthrough, or wondering why success still doesn't feel as fulfilling as you expected — this episode is for you.—In this episode, I discuss:00:00 - 05:19 The struggle to receive05:20 - 08:27 Self trust vs confidence11:19 -  13:58 Healing vs. fixing yourself13:59 - 16:26 The purpose of hyper-independence16:27 - 19:32 The importance of expressing yourself19:33 - 22:02 Healing as a journey - not an end goal22:03 - 24:52 The power that comes from trusting yourself24:53 - 27:18 Enjoying life beyond achievement27:19 - 33:02 Capacity to receive & letting go of control33:03 - 37:23 Becoming the woman who receives life—Similar episodes: Ep 160: The hidden cost of being a 'bossbabe' - and the #1 lie women are told about Feminine Energy EP 163: The real reason you keep sabotaging what you say you want – how to stay ‘on track'EP 152: How I am upgrading each aspect of my life this year (+ how you can, too!)—Similar episodes: ⁠Ep 160: The hidden cost of being a 'bossbabe' - and the #1 lie women are told about Feminine Energy ⁠⁠Ep 157: The Art of Self-Mastery: What it really takes to thrive in life, love, leadership & wealth⁠⁠EP 164: How to be 'that girl' who always gets what she wants - fusing 'IT girl' x 'magnetic queen' energy⁠—I was recently interviewed by my friend Lisa, host of the Real Money Podcast! We dive into all things energetics of money and the inner work it takes to create true wealth and become a magnet to money. Tune in ⁠HERE⁠!—Connect with Laura: Laura's Website: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/⁠Laura's Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/⁠Laura's 1-1 Coaching: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1⁠Laura's Coaching Certification Course: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/⁠>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: hello@lauraherde.com>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: ⁠@laura.herde ⁠Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you're a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!Make sure to be subscribed to UNFUCK YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday.Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

Send us Fan MailOne unexpected phone call can change everything.Sarah White thought she had stability as a restaurant partner. Then she learned her partners had voted without her, planned to sell the business, and were eliminating her role. Instead of scrambling to find her next job, Sarah made a bold mid-career move. She bought them out and took ownership of Westover Taco in Arlington, Virginia.In this episode of The Mid-Career GPS Podcast, I talk with Sarah about what career resilience really looks like when your professional life gets messy. Her story is not just about restaurant ownership. It is about confidence, relationships, decision-making, and building a plan before you need one.Sarah shares the behind-the-scenes reality of running a neighborhood restaurant in a challenging post-COVID economy, including rising food costs, staffing challenges, permits, zoning, licensing, tariffs, and changing wage rules. She also explains the misunderstood reality of tipped wages and how policy changes can affect service, retention, and the customer experience.We also explore how Westover Taco became a women's sports bar almost by accident. What started as Sarah's love of women's sports turned into something bigger: a community gathering place where fans knew the game would be on and where girls could see representation, possibility, and belonging.This conversation is a powerful reminder for mid-career professionals who feel stuck, blindsided, or unsure about their next move. You do not have to wait for disruption to start building your next chapter.In This Episode, You'll Learn:How Sarah responded after being pushed out of a restaurant partnershipWhy ownership became the right move to protect her staff and visionWhat mid-career professionals can learn from business uncertaintyHow relationships and networking helped Sarah move quicklyWhy being “people rich” can create more career optionsHow introverts can build stronger professional relationshipsWhy women's sports representation matters in business and communityHow to start building your career pivot plan before you need itKey TakeawayCareer resilience is not built in the crisis. It is built before the crisis happens. Whether you are navigating a job search, preparing for a promotion, or questioning what is next, your relationships, reputation, and readiness matter.Listen NowIf you have ever felt blindsided, stuck, or uncertain about your next career move, this episode will help you think differently about ownership, resilience, and building a network before you need one.Follow Sarah White on LinkedIn.Follow Westover Taco on Instagram.Support the showIf this episode resonated with you and you want more support in how you SHOW UP for your career and life, I want to invite you to join the SHOW UP Leadership Lab. This is my group membership program where you'll get the clarity and support you need to SHOW UP more impactfully and effectively in your life and career. Visit https://johnneral.com/showup to join. Please leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts here.Connect with John on LinkedIn here.Get John's New Mid-Career Journal on Amazon here.  Follow John on Instagram @johnneralcoaching. Subscribe to John's YouTube Channel here.  

This episode is for every mother who's ever felt overwhelmed, resentful, or quietly stretched beyond her limits.If you're holding everything together, saying yes when you want to say no, and wondering why you're exhausted, this conversation might change the way you think about boundaries forever.In this powerful moment episode, Zoe explores why boundaries aren't selfish; they're essential. She shares the simple mindset shift that helped her move from people-pleasing to protecting her energy, her time, and her wellbeing, and explains why resentment is often the clearest sign that a boundary is needed.Through honest stories from early motherhood and practical examples you can use immediately, Zoe shows how setting boundaries isn't about pushing people away - it's about creating the limits that allow you to show up as the mother, partner, friend and person you want to be.

Motherhood can leave many women feeling stuck in survival mode—constantly rushing, reacting, and carrying the invisible mental load of family life. In this heartfelt conversation, breathwork facilitator and mind-body coach Tash Forbes shares how chronic stress, anxiety, and a dysregulated nervous system can keep mums trapped in fight-or-flight without even realising it. Tash explains the powerful connection between breath and the nervous system, why so many women have forgotten what true calm feels like, and how simple breathing practices can help create more presence, patience, and capacity in everyday life. She also opens up about her own journey through postnatal anxiety, burnout, and healing, and how breathwork helped her move from merely surviving to genuinely thriving again.Tash Forbes is obsessed with helping people stress less and live more. As the founder of Breathing Space, she uses breathwork and nervous system coaching to help people create more space within, because life feels a whole lot better when you're not constantly running on empty.In this episode, you'll learn:Why shallow chest breathing can keep your body stuck in fight-or-flight modeHow belly breathing signals safety to your nervous system and promotes calmThe difference between functional breathwork and transformational breathworkWhy many mums struggle to relax, even when they finally have time to themselvesHow chronic stress and unresolved emotions can be stored in the bodyTash's personal journey through postnatal anxiety, burnout, and healingThe surprising link between self-worth, anxiety, and nervous system regulationHow breathwork can help you respond rather than react during challenging parenting momentsWhy stillness can feel uncomfortable when your nervous system is wired for busynessSimple ways to weave breath awareness into everyday routinesA practical breathing technique you can start using today to create more calm and clarityHow becoming a more regulated parent can positively impact your children and relationshipsWhy you don't need to do more to feel better—you may simply need to reconnect with your breathConnect with Tash Forbes:Website: https://breathing-space.com.auA 5-minute reset for when your body is tight and your mind won't stop. https://breathing-space.kit.com/howtostopanxietyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tashforbes_/ https://www.instagram.com/breathing.space_/Book a breathwork: https://breathing-space.com.au/breathwork/Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, or simply craving more calm in your day, this conversation offers practical tools and gentle encouragement to help you reconnect with yourself, one breath at a time.Would like to access tailored 1:1 sleep support but don't know where to start? Jump on a FREE sleep clarity session with Jen here https://sleepthrivegrow.com/For more information on this topic, head to the show notes: Episode 115 Show NotesAnd I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Come and connect with me on Instagram at @sleep_thrive_grow.And click the +Follow button to never miss an episode. New episodes are released every Tuesday!To find out more about how I can support you, visit my website here. Until next time, Thrivers

You're ambitious, you're building something incredible, and you're working all day every day to make it happen. But what about love? What about creating space for a partner while still showing up powerfully in your business?Women's dating and relationship expert Natalia returns to Employee to Boss to share how ambitious women can balance masculine energy in business with feminine energy in relationships—and why understanding both is the key to having it all. With all of her current clients now in relationships after leaving dating apps, and three recent engagements, Natalia's approach is clearly working. This conversation will challenge what you think you know about success, love, and what it means to be a powerful woman who also wants partnership.In This Episode:Why all of Natalia's current clients have left dating apps and are now in relationships—and what that teaches us about transformationThe real qualifications needed to be a love coach (hint: it's way more than just getting married yourself)Why you have BOTH masculine and feminine energy—and how to use each strategically in business vs. relationshipsWhy only 10% of women doing the work can change the entire paradigm of relationshipsWhy your beliefs become your reality—and how to cultivate the ones that serve your visionListen to ep 50 with Natalia: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/employee-to-boss-entrepreneurship-side-hustles-and/id1598027167?i=1000587222147 Connect with Natalia: https://www.instagram.com/nataliaheartcoaching/Connect with me, Hayleigh Hayhurst:Steal my Podcast Launch Checklist for free: http://espressopodcastproduction.com/checklistWebsite: https://www.espressopodcastproduction.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EspressoPodcastProductionInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/espressopodcastproduction/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@espressopodproductionMusic: John Kiernan. www.johnkiernanmusic.comProduced by Espresso Podcast Production: https://www.espressopodcastproduction.com/Join the Conversation: What did you think of this episode? Share your thoughts and key takeaways with me on social media using the hashtag #EmployeeToBoss. If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with your network.

What's on your mind? Let CX Passport know...Your buyer isn't thinking about you nearly as much as you think they are.Alyssa Nolte built her career on consumer psychology and buyer behavior research... eye tracking, presidential campaign advertising, the science of what moves people from curious to committed to coming back. She now runs Ology Collective, helping companies understand how their customers actually buy, not how they assume they buy.That gap between assumption and reality is bigger than most companies realize. Customers don't care about your departments, your KPIs, or your internal language. They experience your brand as one continuous thing. And every time the effort of working with you outweighs the value you deliver, the math quietly turns against you.What you'll learn in this episode:Why companies design experiences for themselves instead of their customers... and how to break that patternThe effort vs. value equation that quietly kills customer retentionThe line between motivating a buyer and manipulating oneHow LinkedIn authenticity can open real business relationshipsWhy 80% capacity is a feature, not a bugCHAPTERS00:00 Consumer psychology meets customer experience02:35 The self-reinforcing echo chamber problem05:13 Productivity culture as a barrier to customer empathy08:00 The effort vs. value equation across the customer journey10:14 The line between motivating and manipulating12:50 Do customers share blame for bad experiences14:45 First Class Lounge19:54 The Notorious Plant Killer ... authenticity on LinkedIn24:56 What 140+ podcast conversations taught Alyssa about buyers27:01 Podcasting as an authentic brand connection toolGuest ResourcesAlyssa Nolte on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alyssanolte/The Growth Signal Podcast: https://rss.com/podcasts/thegrowthsignal/Alyssa's Substack - Alyssa Likes To Talk: @alyssalikestotalkAlyssa's website: https://alyssanolte.com/Listen: https://www.cxpassport.comWatch: https://www.youtube.com/@cxpassportNewsletter: https://cxpassport.kit.com/signupI'm Rick Denton and I believe the best meals are served outside and require a passport.Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be taken as legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult with a qualified attorney, financial advisor, or other professional regarding your specific situation. The opinions expressed by guests are solely theirs and do not necessarily represent the views or positions of the host(s).

Send Gemma a messageHave you ever left a date feeling completely conflicted?  Part of you feels excited.Part of you feels anxious.  Part of you wants to see them again.And part of you feels relieved it's over.In this episode, I explore why dating can feel so confusing and how different parts of ourselves can interpret the exact same situation in very different ways.Drawing on concepts from Schema Therapy, I introduce three key voices that often show up when we're dating. You'll learn how old wounds such as abandonment, emotional deprivation, defectiveness and people-pleasing patterns can quietly influence attraction, decision-making and relationship choices.I also explore common dating coping modes includingMost importantly, we'll look at how to strengthen the Wise Self - the part of you that can step back, gather information, spot red flags, honour boundaries and make healthier relationship decisions.In this episode you'll learn:Why dating can feel so confusing at timesHow vulnerable parts of us influence attractionThe role of coping modes in dating and relationshipsWhy familiarity can be mistaken for compatibilityHow schema chemistry can override good judgementThe questions your Wise Self needs to be askingHow to recognise who is currently "holding the microphone"Why healthy dating involves learning to date from wisdom rather than from your woundResources Mentioned:Love Wisely FoundationsLove Wisely Group Coaching ProgramDating Profile Check-Up1:1 Coaching with Dr Gemma GladstoneSupport the show

Competition is growing.Attention spans are shrinking.Everyone has access to the same technology, the same AI tools, the same social media platforms, and the same marketing ideas.So why do so many businesses still struggle to stand out?In this episode of The MindShare Podcast, David Greenspan sits down with former Adidas Vice President Lesley Hawkins for a powerful conversation around branding, leadership, confidence, marketing, emotional intelligence, and what it really takes to build a business that people notice and trust.Drawing from nearly 15 years at one of the most recognized brands in the world, Lesley shares lessons from building and leading inside Adidas - and how those same principles apply to entrepreneurs, business owners, brokers, agents, and leaders trying to grow in today's highly competitive environment.This episode dives into:what most people misunderstand about brandinghow to measure the impact of your brandwhy authenticity matters more than everleadership gaps that cause businesses to become reactivehow emotional intelligence creates stronger businessesthe role of AI and technology in modern businesshow to protect perceived value in uncertain marketswhy some people adapt under pressure while others freezeconfidence, clarity, consistency, and self-awarenessthe connection between time management and performanceDavid and Lesley also discuss:standing out in crowded marketsattention and visibilityleadership under pressurewhy so many businesses blend inhow to avoid operating emotionallywhat separates successful business owners from struggling onesIf you're trying to grow your business, strengthen your leadership, improve your marketing, and stand out in a world where everybody seems to look and sound the same… this episode is for you.What You'll LearnWhat people misunderstand about brandingHow strong brands create trust and visibilityWhy authenticity is critical in leadership and businessLeadership gaps that create overwhelm and chaosThe importance of emotional intelligence in modern businessHow AI and technology are changing business relationshipsWhy businesses struggle to stand out todayHow to protect perceived value during difficult marketsWhat separates adaptable leaders from reactive onesThe relationship between confidence, clarity, and consistencyWhy time management impacts business performanceHow to build stronger leadership habits and mindset[00:00] Introduction - standing out in today's market[04:00] Introducing former Adidas VP Lesley HawkinsBranding & Positioning[07:26] What most people misunderstand about branding[10:04] How to measure the impact of your brand[14:57] Branding strategies small businesses can apply immediatelyMarket Research & Understanding People[19:02] Questions business owners should be asking themselves[21:25] Going beyond surface-level market dataLeadership & Business Growth[28:43] Leadership gaps causing businesses to become reactiveMarketing, Authenticity & Human Connection[36:30] The biggest marketing mistakes businesses are making[42:19] Why authenticity matters in leadership and branding[44:13] AI, emotional intelligence, and human connection[51:48] Protecting value instead of racing to the bottomResilience, Pressure & Performance[58:48] Why some people adapt under pressure while others freeze[1:00:41] The importance of time management and structure[1:02:13] Confidence, clarity, and consistency in business[1:04:27] What to say to people who believe “I can't”[1:07:16] Skill vs mindset and getting out of your own way[1:08:14] Defining a successful day[1:10:55] Final words of wisdom from Lesley HawkinsKey TakeawayStanding out today isn't about being louder.It's about being clearer.More intentional.More authentic.More consistent.And operating with confidence while everyone else reacts emotionally around you.SponsorsThis episode is brought to you by:KiTS Keep in Touch SystemsHelping real estate professionals stay top of mind through smarter marketing, follow-up, and CRM systems.REM Real Estate MagazineCanada's trusted source for real estate news, business insights, and industry commentary.

Lisa Rusczyk and Dona Murphy interview Dr. Stephen about his memoir of his fourth marriage and how it changed him to realizing an important thing - why bad things might happen.Want to know more about Dr. Stephen?Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards is an international speaker and author holding a PhD in Spiritual Counseling. Born in Blackpool, UK, and currently based in Florida, he focuses his work on love, transformation, and the mind-body-spirit connection.About the Book:The Venus Fly Trap is a non-fiction work based on the true story of a high-stakes, intense relationship between a wealthy English businessman and a former international supermodel heiress.Themes: The narrative explores the intersection of pleasure, power, and pain, detailing how a relationship can spiral from luxury settings into obsession, betrayal, and chaos.Style: The book is described as a raw, fearless, and unfiltered exploration of human nature, intended to help readers embrace flaws and release shame.Reception: Early readers have compared the book to works like Fifty Shades and Gone Girl, noting its intense emotional ride and focus on the psychology of addictive relationships.Relationships: Why people remain in unhealthy partnerships, how to distinguish real love from emotional dependency, and how to rebuild self-worth after toxic experiences.Mental Health: Insights into the "spectrum of insanity," breaking free from shame, and the importance of vulnerability.Societal Issues: Exploring the new sexual revolution and the lessons learned from love, chaos, and personal transformation.Thank you for watching and listening.

Simple tasks that seem easy to you become overwhelming battles for your teen or young adult with ADHD. One small request turns into a massive blow-up. And when we don't understand the ADHD brain, it can feel like they're being disrespectful, lazy or even manipulative. In today's episode, I'm joined by therapist and ADHD expert Debbie Murad to unpack what's really happening underneath ADHD and emotional dysregulation in teens and young adults. Debbie explains why so many ADHD behaviors are misunderstood as intentional defiance when they're actually rooted in brain development, executive functioning challenges, dopamine regulation, and overwhelm.We also talk about the emotional toll ADHD takes on teens themselves. Because behind the missed assignments, emotional explosions, forgotten responsibilities, and impulsive behaviors, many teens are silently carrying shame, self-loathing, anxiety, and the exhausting feeling that they can never quite keep up with everyone else.This conversation is especially important for parents who feel burned out, triggered, confused, or stuck in constant conflict with their teen. Because understanding what's happening neurologically can completely change the way you respond, and ultimately strengthen the relationship with your child.In this episode on ADHD and emotional dysregulation in teens, we discuss:Why ADHD behaviors are often mistaken for disrespect or defianceWhat emotional dysregulation actually looks like in teens or young adults with ADHDThe difference between supporting your child and over-accommodating themWhy teens with ADHD can become overwhelmed by seemingly “simple” tasksHow ADHD impacts self-esteem, shame, and relationshipsWhy parents often take ADHD behaviors personallyThe connection between ADHD, impulsivity, dopamine, and addiction riskHow hyperfocus can become both a strength and a challengeThe link between ADHD, perfectionism, anxiety, depression, and burnoutHow parents can become better advocates for their neurodivergent childWhy mindfulness and emotional regulation work for parents matters tooThe importance of helping teens build executive functioning skills instead of doing everything for themHow understanding your child's brain can transform your relationship with themMore about Debbie MuradDebbie Murad brings over 30 years of expertise as a Clinical Social Worker, having worked with a wide spectrum of clients, including adolescents struggling with executive functioning, mental health and addiction issues. As the founder and CEO of Beach Cities Gateway, a transitional program for emerging adults, Debbie specializes in guiding young people through the challenges of mental health, addiction, and executive functioning.Looking for support?

In this episode, we're diving into the psychology of resentment — especially for overfunctioners who feel like they're carrying everything on their shoulders.If you've ever found yourself thinking:“Why am I the only one doing everything?”“Must be nice…”“I wish people would help me more…”…this episode is for you.We explore:Why resentment is often rooted in envy/jealousy rather than angerThe hidden desires underneath “must be nice”Why overfunctioners struggle to receive helpThe subconscious belief that love must be earned through doingThe dynamic between overfunctioners and underfunctioners in relationshipsWhy boundaries and support can actually feel uncomfortable in your bodyHow Human Design helps untangle conditioning from your authentic selfThis episode is an invitation to start seeing resentment not as proof that something is wrong with you — but as information about the parts of yourself you haven't felt safe to embody yet.✨ Ready to explore your patterns on a deeper level?Pattern Readings help uncover the subconscious beliefs and relational dynamics shaping the way you move through life, work, and relationships.Learn more or book here: Pattern Reading.Any questions? You can always email me at nicole@nicoleguenaconsulting.com

Healthy relationships don't just happen — they have to be protected.In this episode, we discuss the intentional ways couples can protect their relationship and marriage from unhealthy influences, spiritual attacks, poor boundaries, emotional division, and outside interference.We break down the importance of boundaries with the opposite sex, protecting your partner publicly and privately, being careful who you allow access to your relationship, and why communication, prayer, and unity matter so much.This conversation is for couples who want to build relationships that are strong internally and protected externally.What You'll Learn in This EpisodeWhy protecting your relationship requires intentional effortHow boundaries protect trust and unityWhy outside influences can slowly damage relationshipsThe importance of protecting your spouse publicly and privatelyHow spiritual warfare can affect marriages and relationshipsWhy communication and consideration matter deeplyHow to build a relationship rooted in unity and protectionWho This Episode Is ForCouples wanting stronger marriages and relationshipsMen and women preparing for marriageCouples working on communication and boundariesAnyone seeking healthier, more intentional relationshipsprotect your relationship, marriage advice, relationship boundaries, healthy marriage habits, protecting your marriage, communication in relationships, spiritual warfare relationships, emotional intimacy, healthy relationships, relationship discipline, couples communication, god centered relationships, protecting your spouse, marriage self improvement, avoiding relationship problems, social media and relationships, building strong relationships, healthy couples habits

You've done the work. You've been in therapy, read the books, and you can name what happened to you. So why doesn't it feel like enough?That gap between understanding your story and actually feeling different in your body has a reason. And it's not because you haven't tried hard enough. It's because childhood emotional neglect creates a very specific kind of wound that requires a very specific kind of repair. In this episode we're going past the recognition and getting into what that repair actually looks like and how to start creating it in your real life.In this episode we cover:What implicit emotional learnings are and how to recognize the ones that may still be running in the background of your relationshipsWhy insight alone often doesn't move them and what the brain actually needs insteadThe three step sequence that allows the brain to revise an old emotional learning at its rootWhy CEN survivors often have no discrete memory to target and how the implicit learning tends to surface insteadHow corrective experiences can happen in therapy through co-regulation, rupture and repair, EMDR, and somatic workHow they can also happen outside of therapy in your relationships, your body, and your daily lifeWhat interoception is and why rebuilding it is a core part of this workHow to start recognizing a corrective experience when it's happening because it often doesn't feel the way you might expectWhat hyperindependence has to do with all of thisWhy animals, nature, and routine can be legitimate corrective experiences for people who feel isolated right nowWhat earned secure attachment is and what the research suggests about getting thereWhat tends to get in the way, including shame, and what active receiving looks like in practiceThanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast!Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform.Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Follow on TikTok: @sarahherstichlcswLearn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim TherapyThis podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment.Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER.The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

A donor asked one of my clients, “How much do I have to give for you to stop asking?” Oof. That question hit me right in the chest. And honestly, I think a lot of fundraisers have either been asked something like this or secretly fear hearing it.In this episode, I break down exactly how I would respond and why I believe obligation has no place in major gifts fundraising. None. I'm not interested in convincing, pressuring, manipulating, or cornering someone into giving. That's not partnership. That's coercion with a tax receipt.We talk about the difference between fundraising from desperation versus fundraising from grounded leadership. Because donors can feel your energy. They can feel when you're white knuckling a goal, trying to force a gift, or needing their validation. And they can also feel when you genuinely mean it when you say: “You do not have to give.”The best donor relationships are built with people who are all in. People who want to be there. The people who don't just write checks, but become real partners in the mission. That kind of fundraising starts with you releasing pressure from yourself first.What you'll learn in this episodeHow Julie would respond when a donor says, “How much do I have to give for you to stop asking?”Why obligation-based fundraising damages donor relationshipsThe psychological reason donors are more likely to give when they feel fully free to chooseHow desperation and pressure show up in donor conversations, even when you think you're hiding itWhy emotional regulation matters in major gifts fundraisingThe difference between inviting someone into a mission versus convincing them to fund itHow to stop white knuckling individual donor relationshipsWhy real donor partnerships require alignment, not pressureWhat “walk away power” actually looks like in fundraising conversationsHow releasing donors from obligation helps attract more passionate, committed supportersAt the end of the day, major gifts fundraising is not about getting people to do things they do not want to do. It's about leading well enough, listening deeply enough, and believing strongly enough in your mission that the right people naturally lean in. The more grounded and pressure-free you become, the more authentic and sustainable your donor relationships will be.Want 15 leads in 5 minutes? DM me "Breakfast burrito" on LinkedIn and I'll send you a pdf and 6-minute training to help you generate 15 leads for your nonprofit in minutes. It's totally free. All you need is an email to sign up. DM me "Breakfast burrito" - I'm from Texas, what can I say? - to get your pdf and mini training.If you're an ED or DD of a $1M+ making a difference in your community and you're ready to make bigger, bolder asks, then DM me “CL” on LinkedIn and I'll share details.

A lot of parents believe staying together “for the kids” is the right thing to do… but what happens when the relationship is filled with tension, resentment, fake love, constant arguing, emotional distance, or toxicity?In this episode of Uncomfortable Convo's, we're talking about the long-term damage unhealthy relationships can have on children — and how kids silently absorb everything happening inside the home, even when parents think they're hiding it.We dive into:How toxic relationships shape a child's future relationshipsWhy kids normalize unhealthy loveThe emotional effects children carry into adulthoodWhy some parents stay out of fear, guilt, or judgmentAnd why two healthy separated parents can sometimes be better than one unhappy householdThis conversation isn't about telling people to leave their relationships. It's about being honest about the environment children are growing up in… and the lessons they carry with them for the rest of their lives.Sometimes the hardest conversations are the ones people need to hear the most.Sponsored by Rinse Kings Pressure Washing and Cleaninghttps://www.instagram.com/rinsekingsaz/My Socialshttps://linktr.ee/SkarxFace

In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Podcast, Maurice Harker explores a powerful truth about growth and relationships: real progress requires courage—and the willingness to take emotional risks.This episode dives into the balance between protecting yourself and choosing to show up with trust, vulnerability, and intention. Maurice discusses why many people are mislabeled or misunderstood, and how fear-based thinking can hold you back from becoming who you truly want to be.You'll also learn how confidence, identity, and trust in yourself create the foundation for making wise decisions—even when outcomes are uncertain—and why calculated risks are often necessary for meaningful growth.

Hey Diabuddy thank you for listening to show, send me some positive vibes with your favorite part of this episode.In this episode, Coach Ken and Graham open up a conversation that doesn't get talked about enough—intimacy and relationships while living with diabetes.From managing BS during intimate moments to navigating confidence, communication, and vulnerability, this episode highlights a side of diabetes that often gets overlooked.Ken and Graham break down the real-life challenges people face, including concerns about highs and lows, wearing devices like CGMs or pumps, and the mental load that can show up in relationships.The conversation expands into how diabetes can impact self-image, confidence, and connection, and why avoiding these conversations can create more stress over time.

You think you're protecting your heart…But what if the same energy protecting you from rejection…is also blocking the intimacy you deeply want?In today's episode, we're talking about the modern relationship dynamic almost no one is willing to name:The epidemic of emotional detachment.The “I don't need anyone” energy. The emotionally unavailable “cool girl.”The pressure to seem unfazed, low maintenance, and impossible to hurt.And while this energy may feel protective…It often comes at the cost of:connectionattractionemotional safetyand true intimacyBecause the truth is:Most women didn't become cold for no reason.They became cold after heartbreak. After disappointment. After giving deeply and not feeling met there.But eventually…The walls protecting your heart can also block the love trying to reach you.

In today's episode, I'm talking about what boundaries actually require. Honestly, boundaries can be tricky. They often come with guilt, second-guessing, and that uncomfortable feeling that we might be letting someone down.Whether it's saying no or stepping back, it can feel selfish, even when deep down we know it's what we need. The truth is, boundaries aren't about shutting others out; they're about tuning into ourselves. They require self-awareness, honesty, and the willingness to listen to what our emotions are trying to tell us!Boundaries are the “fences” we put in place around our time, energy, and capacity. When we honor our boundaries, they create space for healthier, honest connections. They truly are one of THE kindest things we can do for ourselves + the people around us!In this episode, I cover:What boundaries can bring up + what they requireWhy boundaries are decisions for YOU (not rules for others)How boundaries define what's acceptable for your time, energy & capacityWhy ignoring your limits leads to resentment and disconnectionHow holding boundaries creates healthier + more honest relationshipsWhy boundaries are one of the kindest things you can do for yourself & others Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-boundaries-actually-require Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com Resources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

Send us Fan MailWhat does your daughter learn from you — even when you're not trying to teach?In this episode, we explore the deeper side of fatherhood — the kind that challenges your identity, your ego, and the way you show up every day.I'm joined by Christopher Veal, a TEDx speaker, Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, and author of The Whole Man: Evolving Masculinity, and the host of The Vulnerable Man Podcast. His work centers on helping men better understand vulnerability and redefine what it means to be a man in today's world.From emotional regulation to modeling relationships, this conversation dives into what it really means to raise daughters — and how the process transforms you as a man.You'll hear insights on:The weight of being your daughter's first example of a manHow everyday interactions shape her expectations of relationshipsWhy ego can get in the way of growth as a fatherThe importance of repair, patience, and intentional presenceHow to shift from reacting to responding in high-emotion momentsThis episode is a reminder:You don't have to be perfect.But you do have to be intentional

In this powerful episode, we sit down with Don Ready for one of the most real and faith-filled conversations we've had on the podcast.Don opens up about the moment he was diagnosed with cancer, the fear that hit instantly, and how that diagnosis launched him into the fight of his life—physically, mentally, and spiritually. From panic attacks in a work van to life-threatening treatments, paralysis, and a high-risk stem cell transplant, this is a story of resilience, faith, and unwavering trust in God.We talk about:What goes through your mind when you hear “you have cancer”How his faith was tested—and strengthened—through sufferingThe reality of chemotherapy, radiation, and recoveryLearning to walk again after losing mobilityThe people who showed up… and the ones who didn'tHow trials reshape your perspective on life, purpose, and relationshipsWhy he now lives with the mindset: “It must be God”This episode isn't just about surviving cancer—it's about purpose in pain, finding God in the middle of the storm, and what it really means to fight when everything is on the line.If you've ever faced adversity, questioned your faith, or needed a reminder that you're not alone in your battle—this conversation is for you.Tap in, share with someone who needs it, and don't forget to subscribe for more real conversations like this.---Want to be a guest on Rooted In Christ? Send Eric Stephens a message on PodMatch, here:https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1759833790503730c0e0ceb0e

In this powerful episode of the Rodes Live Podcast, Rodes digs deep into the concepts of approval and validation—two forces that shape the journey of every music artist, creator, and podcaster. From navigating expectations to breaking free from external judgment, Rodes shares real, lived experiences from both sides of the industry: as a Hip-Hop artist and as an Executive.Rodes reflects on how the voices that matter the most—the fans—provide the real proof. From the support, numbers, engagement, and love shown over the years, he breaks down why artists must learn to value authentic connection over industry politics.This episode brings an energetic and insightful edition of “What's Poppin”, highlighting culture, creativity, and what's trending. Today's What's Poppin Artist of the Day is Fredro Starr—recognized for his influence, longevity, and impact across Hip-Hop and entertainment. Rodes gives flowers where they're due while spotlighting Fredro's versatility and contributions to the game.Key Topics CoveredBreaking down the need for approval as an artist and why it can be a trapUnderstanding validation and how to avoid relying on itRodes' personal journey through Hip-Hop—from recording artist to ExecutiveThe importance of audience connection and building real fan relationshipsWhy “receipts” from the people matter more than industry opinionsBehind-the-scenes thoughts on podcasting, artistry, and creative evolutionThis week's “What's Poppin” highlights in music and cultureWhy This Episode Matters“The Proof” is an honest reminder that every creator must learn what really counts. Whether you're making music, building a podcast, or creating content—your audience is your proof. Your work is your validation. And your growth is your legacy.Rodes lays out the truth from the heart, making this an episode any aspiring or active artist should hear.Connect with Rodes

In this episode of Quick Book Reviews, Philippa is joined by bestselling author Tom Rob Smith to talk about his moving and deeply personal new novel, 20 Years Together.Known for acclaimed books including Child 44, and for screen work such as London Spy and The Assassination of Gianni Versace, Tom discusses why 20 Years Together is such a different book from his previous work, why he chose to write it now, and how it grew out of real emotional and philosophical questions around love, commitment, and marriage.This is a conversation about writing, relationships, storytelling, hope, and the challenge of creating an ending that truly lands.In this episode:Why Tom Rob Smith wrote 20 Years TogetherHow the novel was inspired by real questions about marriage and long-term relationshipsWhy this book is so different from his crime and thriller fictionThe overlap between love stories and thrillersThe challenge of writing emotionally honest fictionWhy endings matter so muchHow a book can leave readers in tearsTom's thoughts on adapting stories for television, film, or fictionHow place, views, and writing environments shape the creative processWhat Tom is reading right nowBooks and authors mentioned:20 Years Together – Tom Rob SmithChild 44 – Tom Rob SmithLondon Spy – Tom Rob SmithThe Assassination of Gianni Versace – based on the book by Maureen OrthAftermath – Rachel CuskThe Swimming-Pool Library – Alan HollinghurstThe Line of Beauty – Alan HollinghurstOur Evenings – Alan HollinghurstThe Diving Bell and the Butterfly – Jean-Dominique BaubyWhat to expectThis episode is perfect for listeners who love:thoughtful author interviewsbehind-the-scenes writing conversationsliterary fictionemotionally powerful novelsdiscussions about relationships, marriage and identityTom Rob Smith's books, television work, and creative processPhilippa and Tom also talk about dream and nightmare writing locations, how different stories reveal themselves as books or screen projects, and the emotional complexity of writing a novel that draws more closely on personal experience.A conversation about hopeOne of the most striking themes in this interview is hope — in fiction, in relationships, and in the stories we tell ourselves about the future. Tom reflects on setting 20 Years Together against the backdrop of 2012 London, and why he wanted to capture a sense of optimism and possibility.Biscuit verdictA controversial moment for the podcast: Tom Rob Smith is not much of a biscuit eater. However, there is a nostalgic nod to the chocolate digestive, plus a writing fuel combination of dates and dark chocolate.If you enjoyed this episodePlease follow, rate and review Quick Book Reviews, and share this episode with a fellow reader. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if your sex life didn't decline with age… but actually got better?In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Julie Merriman - therapist, author, and host of Sexy After 50 - and we're dismantling one of the biggest myths women have been sold: that desire fades, pleasure disappears, and your most alive, turned-on years are behind you.Spoiler: they're not.With nearly 30 years of experience, Dr. Julie has helped countless women break free from the “virtuous trap” of self-sacrifice - the pattern of being everything for everyone else… while quietly disconnecting from their own bodies, pleasure, and desire.This conversation is liberating. We dive into:Why so many women feel disconnected from their sexuality (especially in midlife)The nervous system piece no one is talking about —-and why it changes everythingHow burnout, stress, and “being the good one” kill desireWhat actually brings your body back onlineThe role of novelty, communication, and play in long-term relationshipsWhy your sex life isn't broken… it might just be boredAnd how aging can become your most confident, embodied, pleasure-filled era yetThis isn't about “fixing” yourself.It's about reclaiming the parts of you that were never meant to be shut down in the first place.If you've ever felt numb, disconnected, or like there's more available to you… this episode will meet you there - and show you what's possible on the other side.____________________About Our Guest:Julie Merriman, Ph.D., LPC-S, CSC, is a counselor educator, podcaster, author, speaker, and clinician with close to 30 years of experience rescuing women from the "virtuous" trap of self-sacrifice. She doesn't do fluff. She does survival.She is the architect of Soul Joy™ and author of In Pursuit of Soul Joy and Are We Gonna Have Sex or What? Dr. Juls is the voice behind the Top 100 Motivational Podcast Compassion Fatigue Cure and the host of Sexy After 50. She uses polyvagal science, somatic wisdom, and chakra psychology to melt the nervous system "freeze" that kills desire and fuels burnout.From her Texas ranch, Dr. Juls leads a movement of high-achieving women who are done being invisible. She bridges the gap between clinical neuroscience and raw human desire, proving that midlife isn't a decline, it's a hostile takeover of your own life.Reignite Your Fire & Desire: https://colossal-speaker-6707.kit.com/62dfb355a6 Sexy After 50 Podcast:https://www.buzzsprout.com/2569244 Website: https://www.juliemerrimanphd.com/ IG: @dr.juliemerriman _______________Go Deeper: ⁠www.krishall.ca⁠ Women's Retreats: BC Canada: ⁠https://www.krishall.ca/application-wwr⁠ Mexico: https://www.krishall.ca/application-wild-women-unleashed Sex Coaching:https://calendly.com/krishall2/consultation-call Download The Pleasure Portal (FREE)⁠https://www.krishall.ca/the-pleasure-portal⁠ Learn Sex Magic (FREE)https://www.krishall.ca/sex-magic Use code KRIS10 for 10% off sex toys: waands.com Submit your questions:⁠⁠https://www.krishall.ca/podcast⁠⁠   IG:https://www.instagram.com/kris.the.pleasure.engineer/ https://www.instagram.com/illhavewhat_shes_having/ 

“The way people behave is a reflection of what leaders tolerate.” — John C. MaxwellWhat if the biggest problem in sales isn't the product… but the experience?In this episode, Jay sits down with Drew Pearlman, a lifelong operator in the automotive industry who has built winning cultures in one of the most high-pressure environments in business.From starting on a car lot at 14 years old to leading top-performing dealerships, Drew shares what actually transforms teams, builds trust, and drives long-term success.This conversation breaks down:Why most sales environments fail—and how pressure destroys performanceThe difference between a manager and a true coachHow relationship-based selling outperforms transactional tactics every timeThe “Bible” system Drew used to build lifelong customer relationshipsWhy referrals should be earned, not forcedThe breakdown inside dealerships—and how to fix culture from the top downThe future of the automotive experience and why concierge is inevitableDrew also introduces his company, Pearl Auto Advocates, built on a simple truth:the traditional car-buying process is broken—and customers are ready for something better. At its core, this episode is about something bigger than cars.It's about people.It's about slowing down, asking better questions, and building relationships that last decades—not transactions that last minutes.If you're in sales, leadership, or building a team—this one will hit home.

Episode Highlights With PaulWhat horizontal relationships are and why they matterHow vertical dynamics create shame and resistanceThe nervous system connection in parenting and how this can help us be more connected and effective in relationship with our children How Freud and Richard Adler differed on the topic of horizontal relationships and traumaPractical examples for shifting into horizontal parentingThe flaw with superior positions in relationships and how this robs us of our confidence and autonomy “Self sacrifice” and how it's a nobler term for self abandonment and how we program this into our kidsHow the vertical side uses extreme circumstances to argue for vertical relationshipsWhy connection > control in raising autonomous adultsHow repair builds lifelong trustHow this approach makes you a better leader everywhere else in your lifeUtility verticality vs relational verticality Reputation and the puppet strings it has on us as human beings and how this comes into play in parentingIt isn't that the strong survive.. It is the connected that survive Punishment: So much of punishment is laziness on the parents part and the fear of reputationIt isn't about just changing the behavior but addressing the underlying reason and capacity Forgiveness isn't the letting go of what happened but the softening of the blame There are over 400 unique characteristics that will emerge in your child regardless of how you parent themHow this can create space for a both/and instead of an either/or in parenting Guilt perpetuated by reputation and verticality After age 7, our role as a parent is to be a safe place for a child's exploration of themselvesResources MentionedPaul's website and his InstagramWhat Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and HealingThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Paul LevineKiss Me Like a Stranger: My Search for Love and Art by Gene WilderBioptimizersI love and use so many products from them, but I especially love the magnesium and digestive enzymes. Visit bioptimizers.com/wellnessmama and use wellnessmama15 at checkout to get the best dealBONCHARGEI like so many of their products - from their red light products to their sauna blankets. Red light has been so helpful for me during my recovery from Hashimoto's. To find out more, go to boncharge.com/wellnessmama and use code wellnessmama for 20% off!

Thinking about opening your relationship—but already feeling tension, anxiety, or uncertainty?You're not alone.For many couples, conversations about non-monogamy or open relationships quickly become overwhelming. One partner may feel excited and ready to explore, while the other feels hesitant, worried, or emotionally unsafe.In this episode, I break down why that happens—and how to approach non-monogamy in a way that actually supports your relationship instead of destabilizing it.Because the truth is:

Meeting new people shouldn't feel awkward — but for most real estate agents, it does.In this episode of The MindShare Podcast, David Greenspan breaks down the part of the business that almost everyone overthinks… how to actually connect with someone new, start a conversation, and turn it into a real opportunity.Because here's the truth — every person you meet is an opportunity. But most agents never do anything with those opportunities.No follow-up.No system.No next step.Just conversations… that go nowhere.This episode picks up where Episode 381 left off — if your CRM is your “bank account,” then this is the moment before the deposit. This is about how to meet people, what to say, how to connect naturally, and how to get contact information without coming across as awkward or pushy.From simple conversation starters to using social media as a natural bridge, David walks through a practical, real-world approach to turning everyday interactions into long-term business opportunities.If you've ever hesitated to ask for someone's contact info…If you've ever thought “this feels weird”…Or if you know you're meeting people but not turning it into business…This episode will change how you approach every conversation moving forward.What You'll LearnWhy most agents miss opportunities when meeting new peopleHow to start conversations naturally without forcing businessThe simplest way to ask for contact information without being “creepy”How to use social media as a bridge to build new relationshipsWhy every new contact should be treated like an opportunityThe difference between meeting people and actually building a pipelineHow small daily interactions can compound into real business over timeWhy consistency in meeting people is more important than chasing leadsTimestamps[00:00] Introduction — why this is bigger than just an email[02:00] Every person you meet is an opportunity[05:00] The mistake agents make after conversations[08:00] The $1 contact concept explainedMeeting People & Missing Opportunities[11:00] Why agents overthink “who's serious”[14:00] The real reason conversations go nowhere[17:00] Why most opportunities are lost immediately“How Do I Do This Without Being Creepy?”[20:00] The Momentum training question[23:00] Why this fear is holding agents back[26:00] The simplest way to connect with someone newUsing Social Media as a Bridge[29:00] Turning conversations into connections[32:00] How to use Instagram or LinkedIn naturally[35:00] Building comfort without forcing the interactionFrom Conversation to CRM[38:00] What to do after you meet someone[41:00] Why adding them is just step one[44:00] The difference between a list and a systemPlaying the Long Game[47:00] Why most relationships don't convert immediately[50:00] The importance of patience and consistency[53:00] One person a day = long-term businessClosing Thoughts[56:00] Conversations vs relationships[58:00] Why everyone is an opportunity[01:00:00] Final takeawayKey TakeawayYou're already meeting people every day.The difference between agents who struggle and agents who grow consistently comes down to one thing:

In this powerful Listener Series episode, Kayleigh sits down with Leah to share her story of giving birth during the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic, navigating a traumatic delivery, and enduring years of unexplained postpartum pain before finally being diagnosed with severe endometriosis. Leah opens up about medical dismissal, complex trauma, subsequent pregnancies, and the ongoing journey of healing, both physically and emotionally. This episode is a raw and honest look at what happens when trauma isn't just one moment, but a series of experiences over time.In this episode, we talk about:

The reclamation of your individual sovereignty is the only way to experience true freedom in your relationships. If you want to feel fully free to be you, fully expressed, you have to create internal safety by sourcing from your divinity.In this week's Soul Sovereignty Podcast, I talk about Relationship Sovereignty. Tune into to learn:How to free yourself from codependent dynamics and power struggles in relationshipsWhy working with your subconscious mind will help you release patterns of lack and need in relationshipsThe unconscious fears that can show up that prohibit your full expression…and more.The quickest way to shift how you show up in relationships is to work with me 1:1 in a private portal of transformation. Together, we tune into your soul's truth and release all that is not your soul's truth. You see what you need to see in order to create new patterns, source love and safety from within, and reveal the truth of who are - without the unconscious fears of being seen, fears of rejection, or self-doubt and shame.You can schedule a free connection call or begin working with me here: https://thepathtosovereignty.com/reclaimyoursovereignty-relationship-coach/Stay tuned for the last of the 7-part Series on Soul Sovereignty next week: Financial Sovereignty. :) You can receive a Free 12 Days of Transformation to:* Start your path to sovereignty* Align to your soul's truth* Release subconscious beliefs* Shift how you show up in relationshipssimply by signing up here: https://thepathtosovereignty.com/12-days-of-transformations/About your Host Jessica Falcon:A former lawyer turned mystic, Jessica Falcon guides you to access your soul's truth – in and through your body – so you can embody your divinity, reclaim your sovereignty, and revolutionize your relationships. Since 2016, she has researched religious history, ancient civilizations, and mythology to identify the core wounds and subconscious beliefs deeply embedded in the collective psyche so you can shift out of old relationship patterns to create true freedom.Visit https://www.thepathtosovereignty.com to learn more or follow on IG @thepathtosovereignty. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulsovereigntyandsexuality.substack.com/subscribe

If you're the one who always gets it done, the one everyone depends on, the one who "just handles it"—this episode is for you.In this solo episode of UNSUBSCRIBE with Ginny Priem, Ginny breaks down the #1 pattern quietly destroying high-achieving, high-performers: over-functioning. Not burnout. Not overwhelm. The root system underneath both.You'll learn:What over-functioning actually is (and why it looks like excellence from the outside)The 3 signs you're over-functioning at work, at home, and in your relationshipsWhy smart, capable women and people get stuck in this cycle...and why "just do less" doesn't workThe UNSUBSCRIBE™ Filter applied to over-functioning: what to MANAGE, SWAP, MUTE, and what to BLOCK or UNSUBSCRIBE™ from completelyThe exact 3-sentence script to hand something back without guiltWhy stopping doesn't mean dropping the ball (it means finally picking up the right one)This episode is for the high achiever who's exhausted from being the default, the fixer, the responsible one. If you've been Googling "why am I always the one who has to do everything" or "how to stop over-functioning"—hit play, then leave a rating & review, and share it with someone you care about.Sponsors:ine+ nutrition: Get their super greens, collagen, and new sleep product all for 15% with code GIN15. Support your wellness and the show with each order.Thrifty Traveler: Get flights deals delivered right to your inbox. SWAP things for experiences and get $20 off your first year with code GINNYPRIEM.Connect with Ginny:BOOK GINNY TO SPEAKSUBSCRIBE TO GINNY'S SUBSTACKINSTAGRAMLINKEDINFACEBOOKYOUTUBE

For so many women, ADHD has been misunderstood for decades — often internalised as laziness, failure, or not trying hard enough.But what if that story was never true to begin with?In this week's episode of the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast, I'm joined by Kristen Pressner, Global Head of People & Culture, TEDx speaker, and passionate advocate for neurodiversity for a conversation on ADHD, leadership, parenting, and why understanding your brain can change how you live, work, and relate to yourself.Kristen brings both professional insight and deeply personal experience to this conversation, sharing what it's been like raising four neurodivergent children while navigating a high-powered career, and how this journey has reshaped the way she understands ADHD, both at home and in the workplace.This is a conversation that gently challenges some of the narratives many of us have grown up with, particularly the idea that ADHD is about laziness or lack of discipline, and instead invites us to explore what might be possible when we approach ourselves (and others) with more curiosity, compassion, and understanding.In this episode, we explore:Kristen's experience of supporting her family through their neurodivergence diagnosisThe different emotions that can come with an ADHD diagnosisWhy understanding the biology of ADHD can help us work with our brainsThe impact of undiagnosed neurodivergence on mental health and relationshipsWhy so many people may not recognise themselves in traditional narrativesHow creating non-judgmental environments can reduce shame in those with ADHDHow to feel safe to survive, which allows you to thriveWhy knowing your needs can be tricky, and how to gently explore thisPractical ways workplaces and managers can support neurodivergent employees with meaningful, individualised accommodationsHow Kristen has brought her lived experience into her leadership work to support others more effectivelyThe concept of a “brain friend” and how having someone alongside you can make navigating life with ADHD feel less overwhelmingHow tools like AI can support neurodivergent people to process thoughts, communicate needs, and better understand themselvesThis episode is a reminder that there is nothing “wrong” with your brain, and that with the right support, understanding, and space to explore what actually works for you, things can begin to feel a little more possible.Timestamps:00:01 - Introduction to ADHD Women's Wellbeing00:48 - Kristen's Family's Journey of Neurodivergence12:30 - Navigating Neurodivergence in Family Dynamics29:40 - Navigating Neurodivergence in Parenting37:51 - Understanding Neurodivergence and Its Impact on RelationshipsThis week's episode is sponsored by Understood.org, the leading nonprofit dedicated to empowering the millions of people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you're parenting a neurodivergent child, I'd recommend listening to their podcast, Everybody Gets a Juicebox, as it's full of relatable stories and practical tools to help your family thrive while protecting your own wellbeing, too!The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Live Event Recording is here!My first-ever ADHD Women's Wellbeing Live event sold out, and now the full experience is available to you wherever you are, whenever it feels right.Alongside three neuro-affirming experts, we spent four hours exploring the questions that matter most to late-diagnosed women. Get lifetime access here!Inside the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Live Recording, you'll find:Kate Moryoussef on post-diagnosis growth and her gentle framework for what comes nextDr Hannah Cullen on the neuroscience of ADHD and why your brain works the way it doesHannah Miller on reconnecting with purpose through a neurodivergent lensAdele Wimsett myth-busting on hormones, HRT, progesterone and perimenopauseUnderstand yourself more deeply, feel less alone, and finally access the expert knowledge you deserve. Because every woman with ADHD deserves access to the knowledge, expertise and understanding that for too long simply hasn't been available to us.To get lifetime access for £44, click here.Join the More Yourself Community - the doors are now open!More Yourself is a compassionate space for late-diagnosed ADHD women to connect, reflect, learn and come home to who they really are. Sign up here!Inside the More Yourself Membership, you'll be able to:Connect with like-minded women who understand youLearn from guest experts and practical toolsReceive compassionate prompts & gentle remindersEnjoy voice-note encouragement from KateJoin flexible meet-ups and mentoring sessionsAccess on-demand workshops and quarterly guest expert sessionsTo join for £26 a month, click here. To join for £286 for a year (a whole month free!), click here.Links and Resources:Find my popular ADHD workshops and resources on my website [here].Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_podYou can connect with Kristen via her website, LinkedIn (Kristen Pressner), Instagram (@kristen_pressner), Facebook (Kristen Pressner), X (@kpressner) or TikTok (@kristenpressner).Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity and clarity.This week's episode is sponsored by Understood.org, the leading nonprofit dedicated to empowering the millions of people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you're parenting a neurodivergent child, I'd recommend listening to their podcast, Everybody Gets a Juicebox, as it's full of relatable stories and practical tools to help your family thrive while protecting your own wellbeing, too!

Protect your peace” sounds like self-care… but what if it's actually holding you back?In this episode, we unpack the fine line between protecting your peace and avoiding your life. While boundaries and emotional safety are essential, overusing this mindset can quietly turn into fear, avoidance, and missed opportunities.If you've ever skipped a conversation, passed on an opportunity, or avoided growth in the name of “keeping your peace,” this episode is your reality check.We'll dive into:The difference between true peace and emotional comfortHow avoiding discomfort can shrink your lifeThe hidden ways “protecting your peace” impacts relationshipsWhy growth, connection, and opportunity require a little disruptionHow to protect your peace without missing your purposeThis is for anyone who feels calm… but also stuck.Because real peace doesn't come from avoiding life—it comes from having the strength to live it.

Non-monogamy is usually seen as something that destroys relationships.But what if, in some cases, it can actually save them?In this episode, I'm talking with a non-monogamy expert about a perspective that challenges everything most couples have been taught about love, sex, and commitment.We explore how Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) and Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) can sometimes be a more honest and sustainable way to navigate real relationship challenges—especially when it comes to mismatched libidos, unmet needs, and resentment.This isn't about telling you to open your relationship.It's about helping you think more clearly about:What you actually needWhat your partner can realistically provideAnd what options exist beyond the default model of monogamyWe also get into:Why expecting one person to meet all your needs can create pressure and disconnectionHow resentment builds when sexual needs go unmetThe difference between choosing monogamy vs defaulting into itHow people navigate open relationships, polyamory, and other forms of non-monogamyThe role of honesty, communication, and emotional security in polyamorous relationshipsWhy some couples explore swinging, swingers communities, or other forms of shared sexual experiencesThe emotional realities (not just the fantasy) of ethical non-monogamyWe also talk about the different roles partners can play—and why one person often can't be everything for you over time.Whether you're firmly monogamous, curious about ENM, or somewhere in between, this episode will give you a new lens on relationships, desire, and what it actually means to get your needs met.

Have you ever felt resentful in your relationship but couldn't fully explain why? Felt proud of your career but quietly suffocated at the same time? Found yourself wondering what you actually want — versus what you've been told to want?You're not having a breakdown. You're having a rebellion.In this episode, Kat unpacks the Good Girl Rebellion — what's driving it, what's really underneath the resentment and frustration so many women are feeling right now, and the liberating truth that you get to write an entirely new template for your life, your relationship, your career, and your future.In this episode:Why high-achieving women are feeling resentful in their relationships — even when their partner is doing nothing wrongThe inherited template driving ancestral anger and how it shows up in modern relationshipsWhy the "independent woman armour" can secretly keep you from receiving the love and support you actually craveWhat grief has to do with the good girl rebellionThe two desires ambitious women carry that the world keeps telling them can't coexist — and why they're wrongWhy living your new template gives other women permission to do the sameThe liberating truth: you get to decide all of itLinks mentioned in this episode:

Send us Fan MailWhy do we keep bringing up the same hurt in our relationships, even when we know it is not helping?In this episode of Love Shack Live, we're unpacking one of the most frustrating patterns couples get stuck in: revisiting the same argument, the same betrayal, the same disappointment, and somehow feeling even worse every time. If you have ever thought, “I am not going to bring this up again,” only to find yourself right back in it, this conversation is for you.This is not about being dramatic. It is not about wanting to fight. And it is not proof that you are broken or incapable of moving on.More often, it means something inside you still feels unresolved.We explain why talking about what went wrong over and over is not the same as creating emotional resolution, and why so many couples stay stuck trying to solve the past by living in the past. You will hear why hurt keeps resurfacing, how emotional memories and triggers work, and what it actually takes to move forward without ignoring what happened or pretending it did not matter.You will learn how to shift from obsessing over what happened to getting clear on what you need now. Instead of staying in the cycle of blame, rumination, and repeated arguments, this episode will help you start identifying what would actually help you feel safe, supported, heard, and able to risk connection again.If you are tired of having the same fight, carrying the same resentment, or waiting for the past to stop hurting on its own, this episode will give you a new framework for healing.In this episode, we cover:Why you keep bringing up the past in argumentsWhat it really means when something still feels unresolvedThe difference between accountability and emotional punishmentWhy “talking about it more” often makes things worseHow emotional healing actually happens in relationshipsWhy trying to control your partner will never create real safetyThe hidden emotional payoff of staying stuck in old painHow to stop solving the past from inside the pastThe shift from “don't want” to “do want”Questions to ask yourself when you want to move forward but still feel hurtMentioned in this episode:The emotional driver behind repeated conflictFairy dust needs: being heard, acknowledged, appreciated, and reassuredThe importance of learning relationship skills, not just talking about relationship problemsIf this episode resonates:If you and your partner keep circling the same pain and you want help understanding what is actually happening underneath it, you can book a clarity call at stacibartley.com/apply.Because love is not enough. Skills are.Timestamps: 02:37 How Healing Actually Happens06:21 Triggers And Unresolved Pain08:54 Stop Solving With Logic11:39 The Comfort Blanket Of The Past12:38 Betrayal And Power Struggles14:07 Control And Self Blame Traps16:40 From Weaponizing To Support20:23 When Families Pretend Its Fine22:07 Build Self Awareness And Safety24:25 Accountability And Moving Forward24:59 Why We Stay Stuck25:48 Emotional Gas Runs Out26:43 Recreating Old Patterns28:31 Projection In The Comments30:47 Relationships As A Rite34:04 Hurt Needs Digesting36:12 Do Want Framework37:22 Brain Wired For Threats39:05 Questions That Create Safety41:16 Fairy Dust Needs43:12 Invite Not Demand44:22 Patterns Need New Skills45:32 Practice The Switch

In this episode we'll talk about:Why we avoid difficult conversationsHow avoidance quietly weakens relationshipsWhy honest conversations deepen trustEmotional courage in relationships and leadershipHow this applies to partners, friends, business, and lifeWhy growth requires honest communicationAnd more… CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here's the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Faith Isn't Knowing the Whole Path… It's Taking the Next Honest StepApple: https://apple.co/3MB62IuSpotify: https://bit.ly/4rZw3RN

In this insider episode of Quick Book Reviews, Philippa is joined by returning guest Alison Barrow, PR Director at Transworld (Penguin Random House), to answer a brilliant listener question about book marketing, ARCs, and social media influence.If you've ever wondered:Why do some books dominate Instagram and BookTok?How do publishers decide which books get major promotion?Are ARC reviews always honest?Do great books get overlooked?…this episode pulls back the curtain on the real publishing ecosystem.WHAT YOU'LL DISCOVERHow publishers choose their “lead titles”The truth about ARCs (Advance Reader Copies) and influencer marketingWhy you keep seeing the same books on InstagramHow word-of-mouth, bookshops, and libraries still shape successThe balance between authentic reviews and publisher relationshipsWhy some incredible books quietly build audiences over timeBOOKS MENTIONEDWhatever Happened to Madeline Stone – Louise O'NeillMars One – Charlotte RobinsonThe Ending Writes Itself – Evelyn ClarkeIt's Not What You Think – Claire MackintoshElizabeth & Marilyn – Julie Owen MoylanThe Wreck – Lizzie StewartSlings & Arrows – Nick McLachlanLISTENER QUESTION OF THE WEEKA thoughtful question from Johanne sparks an honest discussion about:Social media book promotionAuthenticity vs visibilityWhether “hyped” books can still be trustedABOUT OUR GUESTAlison Barrow is PR Director at Transworld (part of Penguin Random House UK), working with global bestselling authors and shaping major publishing campaigns.Article mentioned in The Bookseller: https://www.thebookseller.com/comment/events-not-a-campaign-solutionJOIN THE CONVERSATIONGot a question for Alison?Email: quickbookreviews@outlook.comLOVE THE SHOW?If you enjoy Quick Book Reviews, don't forget to:Follow / SubscribeLeave a reviewShare with a fellow book loverCOMING NEXTMore author interviews, book reviews (no spoilers!), and insider publishing chat every week. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've been curious about what it looks like to say what you need to say in practice, today you'll hear from someone who found her outside voice and is using it to create the life she wants. Jessica Carlson has spent years serving others—as a pastor's wife, a mom, a teacher, and now supporting college students in getting the resources they need. Jessica and I first connected over our shared background in high-demand religion, and since we began working together, I've watched her life transform. She learned to speak up messily and imperfectly, and to support herself through hard conversations that once felt impossible. Jessica's journey is a powerful example of how everything can shift when women use their voices, not just for themselves, but for the kind of change they want to see in the world. Here's what we cover:What Jessica's life looked like when she first joined the Stop People Pleasing groupThe power that comes from realizing you get to choose the kind of discomfort you feel in relationshipsWhy the goal isn't always to say no, but to understand you have that option when you need itHow a simple step-by-step process helps you find the right words and practice speaking upJessica's journey of running for public office and the changes she has made by working on this skillJessica Carlson is a university career coach and former high school teacher. She lives in the midwest with her husband of 23 years and 2 children, both in college. She has a bachelor's in English and secondary education and a master's in education. She was raised in a fundamentalist high-demand religious context and then married a Christian pastor through which church experiences compounded the people pleasing she learned at an early age. At her core, she serves people but that service as a wife, mom, teacher, and community member caused her to lose herself. Jessica is a reflective thinker and someone who cares deeply about connection and meaning but has only recently realized that her voice matters and that it is powerful and she can impact systems. She is especially drawn to conversations about how we unlearn the pressure to be everything for everyone, and what it looks like to choose ourselves, sometimes for the first time.Find Jessica here:instagram.com/jess_c7072tiktok.com/@queenbee7072 Find Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationsinstagram.com/sarafiskcoachfacebook.com/SaraFiskCoachingtiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachyoutube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333

Thinking about sharing a sexual fantasy—but worried your partner will see you differently? This is where most couples unknowingly start creating distance instead of deeper intimacy.In this episode, we break down the 3 biggest mistakes couples make when sharing sexual fantasies—and why these patterns often lead to pressure, resentment, or emotional disconnection instead of closeness.If you've ever struggled with how to talk about sex, navigate kinks or fantasies, or handle differences in desire, this episode will give you a clear framework for doing it in a way that builds trust, emotional safety, and a more satisfying sex lifeWhat You'll LearnHow shame around sexual fantasies creates distance in relationshipsWhy avoiding conversations about sex limits intimacy and connectionThe hidden risk of pushing a fantasy too quickly after sharing itHow pressure and urgency can lead to coercion (even unintentionally)Why your partner's reaction is shaped by conditioning—not youThe truth about being “sex-positive” without abandoning your boundariesHow to handle mismatched sexual interests in a healthy wayWays to explore fantasies without being 100% sexually compatibleKey TakeawaysOpen communication about sex is essential for long-term intimacyFantasies require consent, pacing, and emotional safetyShame, pressure, and people-pleasing are the biggest intimacy killersYou can accept your partner's desires without participating in everythingGreat sex lives aren't about perfect compatibility—they're about how you navigate differences togetherChapters0:00 Introduction to the topic of sharing sexual fantasies and the common issues couples face.1:05 Introduction to the three biggest mistakes couples make.2:02 Mistake #13:23 Importance of openness and being sex-positive.4:19 Benefits of discussing sex more frequently.5:16 Normalizing conversations about sex.6:34 Importance of consent and communication in sexual relationships.7:31 Variety and novelty in long-term relationships.8:28 Understanding each other fully through sharing fantasies.9:27 Mistake #212:04 Mistake #316:03 Encouragement to maintain personal boundaries.21:32 Exploring fantasies in a healthy way.22:52 Conclusion and encouragement to seek help if needed.Resources & Next StepsIf you're noticing patterns like holding back, pushing too fast, or going along with things that don't feel right, that's exactly what I help couples work through.

Guilt can feel uncomfortable and easy to push away, but it is one of those emotions that actually serves an important purpose in our lives.For this episode, Debbie sits down with developmental psychologist Chris Moore, author of The Power of Guilt, to unpack what guilt really is and why it plays such an important role in our lives and relationships. Informed by both research and personal experience, Chris offers a perspective that might completely change how you see this emotion.You'll come away with an understanding of where guilt comes from, how it shows up in everyday life, from childhood to parenting to relationships, and why some people feel it more than others. They also get into topics like apology, forgiveness, and how guilt can actually help us repair and strengthen connections. Listen and Learn: How a single life-altering mistake shaped how Chris understands guilt, responsibility, and forgivenessHow guilt quietly reveals the hidden ways our most important relationships shape what we feel and why we're driven to repair something we might not fully understand yetDoes the guilt you feel over small things like unfinished chores reveal deeper, hidden influences from the relationships that shaped your internal rules and standards?Why feelings like guilt begin much earlier than we assume and later grow into something far more complex and central to relationshipsWhy some people feel guilt far more intensely than others, and how personality, relationships, and even gender differences quietly shape that experience in ways you might not expectWhy feeling like you are never doing enough as a parent might actually come from the very nature of caring for someone vulnerable, and what that reveals about guilt being more automatic than accurateHow guilt can quietly become a tool of control when forgiveness is withheldHow ideas like restorative justice and even collective guilt reshape the way we understand responsibility and emotional repair in societyWhy guilt, though uncomfortable, can actually serve as a powerful internal signal that helps us recognize when a valued relationship may need attention and guide us toward repairing and strengthening itResources:The Power of Guilt: Why We Feel It and Its Surprising Ability to Healhttps://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781637747728Chris' Website: https://www.chrislmoore.comConnect with Chris on Social Media:https://www.facebook.com/mfwguilthttps://www.instagram.com/chrismooreauthorphd/About Chris MooreDr. Chris Moore is a professor of psychology and former dean of science at Dalhousie University in Canada, as well as a former Canada Research Chair at the University of Toronto. He holds a PhD in developmental psychology from the University of Cambridge and an MFA in creative nonfiction from the University of King's College. He has spent his career studying human social understanding and relations, and has published well over 100 research papers, edited 5 books and special issues of academic journals, and authored The Development of Commonsense Psychology (Psychology Press, 2006). He has had numerous invitations to present at academic conferences and universities around the world and has enjoyed many research collaborations in Canada, the United States, Australia, Germany, China, and the UK. Moore's work has been cited in mainstream print publications such as Psychology Today, Today's Parent, and the New York Times. His research has also been featured in a variety of TV documentaries, including The Nature of Things and the Baby Human series on Discovery Health. His new book, The Power of Guilt: Why We Feel It and Its Surprising Ability to Heal, is his first for a general audience. He lives in Nova Scotia with his family.Related episodes: 430. Nonadaptive Guilt and Shame with Carolyn Allard 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth 320. Anger and Forgiveness with Robyn Walser 358. How to Keep House While Drowning with KC Davis 341. Self-Forgiveness with Grant Dewar See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm joined by therapist, bestselling author, and boundaries expert Nedra Glover Tawwab for a powerful conversation on what it really means to have healthy dependency in our relationships.So many of us find ourselves swinging between two extremes — overgiving, people-pleasing, and losing ourselves in others… or shutting down, becoming hyper-independent, and struggling to let anyone in.But what does the middle ground actually look like?Together, we explore the spectrum between codependency and hyper-independence, and how both patterns — while protective — can ultimately leave us feeling disconnected and unfulfilled.This conversation goes beyond romantic relationships. We talk about friendships, family, community, and the importance of having a diverse support system rather than expecting one person to meet all of our needs.We also unpack:Why “healthy dependency” isn't a weakness, but a fundamental human needHow codependency and hyper-independence develop as adaptationsThe role of boundaries in creating sustainable, respectful relationshipsWhy over-focusing on the why behind someone's behaviour can keep us stuckHow to stop over-functioning in relationships and recalibrate your energyThe importance of having multiple sources of connection and supportWhy doing the “uncomfortable thing” is often the path to secure relationshipsNedra shares practical, grounded insights on how to move away from extremes and towards more balanced, flexible, and connected ways of relating.If you've ever struggled with asking for help, felt resentful in relationships, or found yourself stuck in the same relational patterns, this episode will give you a clear and compassionate framework for doing things differently.Connect with Nedra Glover Tawwab:InstagramWebsitePurchase her new book, The Balancing Act

Yes. Yes. Y'all know what it is… the Ern & Iso Podcast is back with another one

A Note from James:I've been in therapy for more than three decades.Different therapists. Different kinds of therapy. Different crises.And one question has always fascinated me: What is the therapist actually thinking while I'm sitting there talking?Are they bored? Are they judging me? Are they secretly Googling me?My guest today, Lori Gottlieb, knows the answer—because she's both sides of the story.She's a psychotherapist, author of the bestselling book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and the writer behind the popular advice column “Ask the Therapist.”But what makes Lori unique is that she's willing to pull back the curtain on therapy itself: what therapists think, what patients hide, and why people keep repeating the same patterns in relationships and life.This episode originally aired several years ago, but the ideas still feel incredibly relevant—especially now, when conversations about mental health are everywhere.So if you've ever wondered what's really happening on the other side of the therapy couch, this conversation is for you.Episode Description:Psychotherapist and bestselling author Lori Gottlieb joins James to discuss what really happens inside therapy—and what both therapists and patients often misunderstand about the process.Drawing from her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, Lori explains why therapy isn't just about venting problems but about understanding the patterns that drive them.James shares his own experiences as a long-time therapy patient, raising questions many people quietly wonder: Do therapists judge their patients? Do they get bored? Do they Google the people they treat?Lori answers candidly, discussing the hidden dynamics of therapy, the emotional complexity therapists carry home with them, and why the most important conversations in therapy are often the ones people hesitate to bring up.The conversation also explores relationships, secrets, childhood experiences, and why many people keep repeating the same life patterns—even when they know better.What You'll Learn:Why therapy isn't just about discussing problems—it's about understanding patternsThe difference between content and process in relationshipsWhy therapists rarely get bored—even when problems seem trivialThe surprising ways therapists think about their patientsWhy the hardest topics in therapy often show up at the end of a sessionTimestamped Chapters:[00:02:00] Lori Gottlieb on Therapy as “Editing Your Life Story”[00:03:00] Introduction to Lori Gottlieb[00:04:16] Inside the Book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone[00:05:02] Why Therapists Need Therapists[00:06:17] Are Therapists Bored Listening to Problems?[00:07:00] Content vs Process: The Real Work of Therapy[00:09:00] Why Pain Has No Hierarchy[00:10:23] James's “Statistician” Theory of Therapy[00:11:00] Why Every Patient's Story Is Unique[00:12:00] Finding Something Likable in Every Patient[00:12:45] The Hollywood Producer Patient[00:15:12] The Most “Boring” Therapy Patients[00:16:03] Labeling What's Happening in a Conversation[00:18:00] Building Trust Without Oversharing[00:20:00] Judgment vs Protectiveness in Therapy[00:23:04] What Therapists Wish Patients Knew[00:24:11] Do Therapists Care What Patients Think of Them?[00:25:00] Different Styles of Therapy[00:29:00] Advice vs Understanding in Therapy[00:32:51] Do Therapists Ever Google Their Patients?[00:36:00] Why Patients Googling Therapists Can Backfire[00:38:00] The Awkward Beginning of Every Therapy Session[00:41:00] Working With a Patient Facing Terminal Cancer[00:44:00] The Emotional Impact of Therapy Work[00:46:00] Handling Suicidal Patients[00:47:30] When Therapy Ends[00:50:00] Why Saying Goodbye Matters in Therapy[00:53:00] “Doorknob Disclosures” — The Secrets Patients Reveal LastLinks and Resources:Check out Lori's website and sign up for her newsletter at Lorigottlieb.comAsk the Therapist is the column Lori writes for the New York Times. You can submit a question for Lori hereRead Lori's book, “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed.”Also check out Lori's book from 2011, “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough” (This book is not about settling! She says “I didn't win the title battle with the publisher. And I still get letters from people who say the book has helped them.” A lot of it has to do with saving your marriage or setting standards. And she wrote a column about this once, too.)“Dear Therapist” is the column Lori wrote for six years for “The Atlantic.”Follow Lori on Twitter and FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.