Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Podcast

Success. If you're like me, you can't get enough of it. And you've probably spent way too much time - and possibly money - searching for it. In books and videos. You dress for it. You chase it. You fake it ‘til you make it. You travel far and wide!   But let me ask you this: Do you feel successful? Truly, fully, mind-contentedly successful?   Of course you don’t. If you did, you wouldn’t be here. And let’s face it, if it was really that easy - if everyone was doing it - you wouldn’t need me. No one would. And while that would mess with my business plan, it’d also make this world such a better place. But I digress...   So are all of those methods and products and shortcuts and paths just a bunch of hooey? Are you being bamboozled and scammed? And taken and flimflammed?   The short answer, believe it or not, is...  NO. None of these success-minded offerings are wrong. But all of them in and of themselves can be incomplete. Every single one of them. Especially the fancy ones!   Success isn’t a destination. It doesn’t come in a box. It’s not something you can buy or barter. No one can tell you exactly how to get it because...and here’s the simple truth that no one ever wants to tell you...success is already a part of who you are. It’s been inside of you all along.   Here’s the part where I offer up the caveat: Only you can find your unique path to success.   And here’s where I give you hope: By simply doing a few ridiculously easy things every day, you can absolutely be more successful.   And now for the part that seems to trip most of us up: There is no try...you must actually DO!  So are you ready to do? Are you ready to unleash the success you so desire? Well look no further, Dorothy, you've always had the power my dear... you don't need to leave Kansas because I'm going to tell you the 3 not-so-fancy habits for success that have been within you all along!   Mentioned in this Episode: #127: Beyond Thankfulness: 4 Things You Need to Be Grateful For If You Want to Grow  #128: 3 Ways to Celebrate Yourself on Your Birthday 

My guess is that you are extremely important. There are probably dozens, hundreds, even thousands of people holding their collective breath and waiting on your every move. You are the glue that holds everything together in your world.   It’s exhausting. It’s overwhelming. You are constantly doing at least 10 things at once at any given time. And if you stop - if you even dare to take the tiniest of breaks - the universe as we know it would immediately unravel and cease to exist.   And how could you ever live with yourself after that?   Now is the time when someone shakes you, you open your eyes and rejoin the rest of us...here in what I like to call reality.   Don’t get me wrong; I am not judging you. I’m the last person to do so. In fact, would you like to know a little secret? I used to be just like you. And if I’m honest, I still find that I can slip back into those patterns of belief and behavior.   But it doesn’t have to be this way...  What if I told you that you have the power to release yourself from this no-win rollercoaster ride? And what if it were surprisingly easy? Would you jump at the chance?   Furthermore, what if instead of having to do some more things to get there - instead of holding tighter to what you have - the key to an easier, less stressful, less over-extended, less busy, less daring, happier and far more fulfilling life turned out to be quite the opposite?   Buckle up...  Wait. Scratch that. Back that thing up and unbuckle, Buttercup. Sit back, take a deep cleansing breath and listen now as I reveal the 6 Things You Need to Let Go of This Year. That’s right, less really can be more. And you deserve it!   Mentioned in this Episode: #132: Don’t Let Auld Lang Syne Trigger Your Ol’ Anxiety  #133: Embracing the Letdown 

Last year was a rollercoaster ride for nearly everyone I know. Lots of changes and losses and upheaval. Some sweet moments, of course. But in so many ways, it seemed like one of the most tumultuous years ever. At least in my lifetime.   So how about you? What are the things that happened in 2017 that you can’t wait to leave far behind you? What did you lose? What went wrong? Where would you love to press the reset button? And what would you change if you could?   I know a lot of people don’t like to dwell on the negative. In fact, I’ll jump in and say that I’m definitely one of them. But there’s a huge difference between dwelling and processing. Between sweeping stuff under the rug and taking the time to sort through it and deal with it accordingly.   It’s okay to think about these things. In fact, it’s necessary to reflect. It’s part of grieving. It’s part of growing. It’s how you begin to design a new blueprint for a new chapter. And it’s probably the healthiest way I know to ring in a new year.   When you move on too quickly, you often miss the important lessons that life is desperately trying to teach you. And if you don’t learn them, you’re probably going to repeat the same patterns and behaviors again. In fact, you may just destine yourself to relive the same mistakes and tragedies over and over.   How ridiculous is that? Especially when there’s a very simple way to avoid it.   I’m in the same boat. 2017 was a challenge for me to say the least. And I found myself groundhog-daying some pretty pervasive themes that I've been grappling with most of my life. I'm soooo ready to get 2018 started. Good riddance, 2017. Sayōnara. Buh-bye!!!   But wait. Before I throw the 2017 baby out with the bath water, I bet there are some good lessons in there somewhere.   So sit back and let me share my top 3 lessons From a kind of Crappy Year! Mentioned in this Episode: #133: Embracing the Letdown 

We're barely into the new year and you've already used, lost, grown tired of, or broken all of your favorite holiday toys. The leftovers are gone. Or worse...you're still wearing them under your "fat" pants. The next decent excuse for a merry celebration is months away and those resolutions are feeling impossible to keep.   Any of this ringing any bells? Chances are you've had this feeling before. And not just after the holiday season. My guess is it's happened to you repeatedly. Anytime you build up expectations. Anytime something extraordinary inevitably ends...or becomes just plain ordinary.   It's almost as if this huge, deflating beast is waiting in the wings to ruin anything really good in your life. Poised to fill you with boredom, apathy, and displeasure. Whispering in your ear as soon as the fun begins, "Is that all there is?"   Well, Buttercup, that something may be super stealthy and illusive. But it has a name. I call it: The Letdown.   That's right, The Letdown. Be honest, you're not strangers. We've all been there. And while it can strike at any time things are going your way even for a nanosecond, The Letdown thrives on ceremony and Kodak moments. The Letdown feasts on the holiday season just as much as you do. Only YOU are it's Christmas dinner; your joy and cheer its brightly wrapped holiday presents. And unlike you, The Letdown knows how to drag its party out way past the end date on the invite.   Let's face it: what goes up must come down. It's basic physics. And you cannot fight that. So you have a decision to make: You can wallow...or you can embrace the letdown.   If you chose door number two, listen now for 3 Sobering Strategies designed to bring you gently down from your holiday high.   Mentioned in this Episode:  Episode #132: Don’t Let Auld Lang Syne Trigger Your Ol’ Anxiety 

It's here again. That time of year when you've run out of...well...  Year!   Where did the time go? How did another entire year just slip away in the blink of an eye? And more importantly, how did you not make good on that laundry list of resolutions? Why are you still in that job, that car, that house, those pants? You may ask yourself, my God, what have I done? https://youtu.be/98AJUj-qxHI   So. Many. Questions. And some regrets. And do I detect a hint of anxiety?   Let's face it: New Year's is a time that often seems literally designed to get you to dwell upon these things! You look back, you assess, maybe you even stress and beat yourself up a little.   If you're like me, you've spent many a year's end in the grips of this vicious cycle. Checking old lists. Making new ones. Or, more likely, just manically expanding the ones which already exist. Bargaining and negotiating with imaginary versions of yourself - past, present, and future - and most likely making outlandishly unrealistic promises that you already know full well you couldn't keep even if you seriously intended to.   Your heart is racing, your palms are sweating, your breathing is shallow, and there's no chocolate left anywhere in the house!   Seriously, knock it off. Don't let Auld Lang Syne trigger your ol' anxiety.   Look, 2018 is right around the corner, ready or not. So you can do this the easy way, or you can make yourself crazy. If you choose crazy, walk away; we're done here. I wish you much chaos, drama, and turmoil.   But if you're ready - really and truly up for the challenge - I have 4 tips that can make this your smoothest New Year's transition ever. Including 1 that may surprise you.   So pour yourself a glass of the bubbly of your choice, sit back, and let me walk you through it.  You've got this!  

Last week I talked about how to deal with those rude, obnoxious people you've undoubtedly been encountering in spades this holiday season. Bad drivers, selfish shoppers, lazy, incompetent customer service people...and the list goes on.   We joked a little, tongue in cheek, about 5 ways to handle these Grinchy Grinch Grinches without loosing it completely and hauling off and punching anyone in the face. We can all agree how tempting that sometimes is. And I suspect we can all agree that it's never a good idea to actually follow through. My hope is that my suggestions snapped you out of that festering frustration and neutralized any lingering visions of a smackdown.   But what if they didn't? What if - bear with me here - what if that anger caused your heart to shrink a little? Maybe one, maybe two, possibly even three sizes too small!   That's right. What if YOU have become the very Grinch you so dread and despise?   Here are some simple questions designed to determine if the unthinkable has indeed occurred:  Do you have a case of the bah-humbugs? Feeling the urge to kick an elf? Any desire to knock over a few glittery trees? Does the thought of stealing gingerbread men out of the mouths of cheery little children produce a deep sense of satisfaction? Does this song sound romantic to you? https://youtu.be/tWFaP1tkGgM If you can answer yes - or even maybe - to one or more of these questions, you may be suffering from a classic case of Grinchitus. Left untreated, you could actually kill Christmas.  That's right; I said you could potentially murder the most wonderful time of the year!   Do I have your attention? Are you ready to nip this thing in the bud and return to your formerly holly jolly self?   Good. Sit back, hit play, and lighten up, buttercup...'cause I'ma tell you exactly what to do. With not 1, not 2, but 3 surefire tips to grow your heart 3 sizes - back to its original warm and fuzzy Christmasy-ness - STAT!  

 The woman who cuts in front of you at Starbucks and proceeds to place an order for a small village - and keeps revising it for at least 52 minutes. - The old man who zooms in front of you to steal the parking space you've been waiting patiently for, blocks you from driving around him, and then expects you and the line of vehicles behind you to back up so that he can let the parked car out. - The lady with two entire shopping carts full of stuff - and a nappy little dog - in front of you in the express checkout. - The cashier who expects you to do a price check when he rings your items up incorrectly. - That mother behind you in line blissfully ignoring her kids screaming, throwing stuff, and ramming their cart into the back of your knees. - The bad toupee wearing a sports car that road rages you for several miles after you won't let him cut across five lanes of traffic to turn right in front of you...in a lane that's designated for through traffic. - The driver of the ginormous SUV that pulls into the compact space to your left, gets out and walks up to your passenger side window and asks you to move over so that she can take up two compact spaces. ...And I'm sure you have at least a couple of your own tales to rival or top these harrowing, true-life horror stories. Let's face it, while this time of year brings with it tidings of comfort and joy and hopes of peace on earth, it also unearths a lot of impatient, rude lunatics behind the wheels of cars and shopping carts. Be honest: Don't you sometimes just want to punch them in the face? But don't. Nobody likes spending Christmas Eve in the pokey. Instead I'm offering up 5 hilarious and slightly less problematic - but possibly far more satisfying- things you can do instead. Spoiler alert: Here's a sneak-peak of my possible favorite one: https://youtu.be/nBmNcy4zZNU

Hey Buttercup I got your number: You are superwoman. Not only can you bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan...you bought the land, built the farm, selected the pig - after breeding, delivering, raising, and grooming it - cured and smoked the meat, and now your creating dozens of recipes and preparing dishes to serve at the party of the century which you will single-handedly pull off.   Why? Because you can.   My sister had a friend who told her one of the single wisest things she'd ever heard. And she in turn passed it on to me. Just because you're good at cleaning toilets doesn't mean you have to do it for a living.   Think about that. Really think about it. Just because you can do everything doesn't mean you have to do everything.   So let me ask you this: Why do you?   I know, I know...You're superwoman. Of course you have to! And as we head full force into the holiday season, you may believe that you're absolutely indispensable. There's a ton to do and you've got it all covered. But let's face it, this is often exactly when life decides to throw you a curveball.   In fact, let me throw one at you right now: You cannot do everything all the time all by yourself. Yes, you. I'm talking to you!   But you already know that. You already know that you need help and assistance and support. You already know it but you don't always act like you do. Just like I don't. Just like most kick-ass, highly motivated, superwomen don't.   So let's take a few minutes for a hilarious reality check and poke some fun at ourselves with my 5 Foolproof Signs that you could use some extra support this holiday season...and all year 'round!  

Breaking News: Grown-assed woman found dancing in the streets in a pointy hat holding fistfuls of cake and chanting, "WooHoo, it's my birthday!" between bites.   Remember when YOU got that excited when your birthday rolled around? How long has it been?   As you get older and wiser, more seasoned and experienced, you probably also experience a corresponding decline in enthusiasm for your birthday. Let's face it: Once you hit a certain age, another trip around the sun can be a bit hard to take.   So many women dread getting older. They live in fear of the signs of aging. They focus on grey hairs, laugh lines, bumps and bulges, regrets, missed opportunities, unreached goals, and so on. Sound familiar?   Why do we do that to ourselves? And more importantly, how can we knock it off?   In this episode I share my 3 show stopping, cake eating, street dancing ways to get your birthday party started and celebrate yourself. On your birthday, on Saturday, on any day and every day!   Yesterday was my birthday. I may be too old to party like a rockstar but I'll never be too old celebrate ME. And neither are you. Maybe it's time to get back in touch with your inner birthday girl!   https://youtu.be/6t1vaF50Ks0   

Today is American Thanksgiving. It's a day dedicated to giving thanks for all the blessings in our lives. The myth we were taught as children revolved around the colonial settlers from Europe - or Pilgrims - and the native Americans. It was told that they put aside their differences for one day a year to share a meal, teach each other their unique traditions, and embrace each other with love and acceptance.   But anyone with any true knowledge of that time in American history knows that this is just a fairytale.   The concept of a Thanksgiving - or day of thanks - is present in nearly every world religion as a day to be thankful for the harvest and the previous year. And these are worthy aspirations. But I'm going to say something controversial: The myth I grew up with is also a worthy aspiration. I still believe this wholeheartedly...even given my knowledge of the true nature of the relationship between the settlers and the natives.   Anyone can be thankful for the good stuff. And we all should be of course. But what about the challenges, the setbacks, the tragedies, and the travesties? What can you gain from being thankful for those things?   Perhaps a better question is this: What can you lose by not being thankful for the stuff that seems indisputably bad? What are you missing out on by not digging below the surface?   Growing up, Thanksgiving was a central holiday in my family. But honestly, it was less about thankfulness and more about socializing and partying. I was never truly taught the value of a thankful practice until, as an adult, I found it on my own. And so I've created my own traditions and my own complex practices that go way beyond thankfulness.   So while I bet you're thankful for the "blessings" in your life. Your talents. Your favorite things. Good friends and family, and so on. I suspect you don't give the same reverence to the "curses". I'm talking about failures, maybe an insect infestation or an ex who won't leave you alone. Your rotten childhood or even a bad back.   What sort of crazy person would be thankful for any of that?   Me, that's who!  And if you're ready to grow - I mean really, truly grow - you will be, too!  In this podcast I'll explain why you need to be just as thankful for your perceived curses as you are for your blessings. And I'll tell you the 4 seemingly awful things you must start thanking your lucky stars for fight now!   So listen up, buttercup; I'm about to blow your mind!    

Have you ever gotten super excited about doing something new...only to be immediately derailed by a well meaning friend or loved one? Of course you have! We all have. And sometimes the warnings, criticisms, and devil's advocate act can truly come from a place of good intentions. Sometimes you need a reality check. But what about when you really don't?   Almost 20 years ago, my sister was about to get married. She'd put on a lot of weight over the years and she really wanted to slim down. For her health. For her vanity. And for her wedding photos.   Roughly two and a half months before the wedding, she saw an infomercial that sparked her motivation. It was for a diet plan that seemed to suit her but it would have taken 7-14 business days to be delivered. She did some research and discovered that the product was shipped from our town. So she grabbed me, drove to the warehouse and convinced the employees that she had to buy the product right then and there. It went against all the rules but she's very persuasive when she wants to be. And she was lucky to find some people who didn't want to re-route her hopes and dreams. They even threw in a bonus product as a "wedding gift".   And against all odds, my sister exceeded even her own expectations and got married 60 pounds lighter and 4-5 dresses sizes down!   Imagine if they'd told her no. Imagine if I had talked her down. Imagine if the people close to her had insisted that it was impossible or unrealistic or unhealthy.   Chances are that you have that one person in your life that lies down in front of you on the tracks every time you board the change train. It's hard enough to deal with your own doubts and fears but what do you do when you also have to carry someone else's baggage?  In this episode, I talk about why people feel the need to hop into the driver's seat of your rail car and attempt to slam on your brakes. And I provide 3 turbo-charged tips that'll give you the power to look 'em straight in the eyes and say, "Don't mess with my toot toot!"  Mentioned in this Episode:  Episode #90: Boundary Setting for Dummies  Episode #100: Beat Your Inner Bully  Episode #124: 4 Easy Ways to Say, "I Don't Got Your Back!"   Episode #125: Support for Dummies  

Some people always suck the air out of the room. They make everything about themselves. They are masters of manipulation...able to belittle you so stealthily that you may find yourself thanking them for the deed. They can make you smaller with just a quick glance. And my guess is that you can spot them a mile away. Like most people, you're probably pretty good at avoiding them or at least defending yourself from their calculated attacks.   These people are not good for you. They're not supportive. And it's usually obvious.   But what about the friends and family members who aren't evil incarnate but who somehow still miss the mark when it comes to support? Do you know how to spot them? Do you have adequate defenses and strategies in place to protect yourself?   And here's the BIG, difficult, in-your-face question that needs to be asked: Are you actually one of them?   You probably think you're super supportive. And maybe you are. But if you feel like you're not getting the support you truly need, it may mean that you're not clear about what support really looks like. And therefore, you may not be giving it to others in your life either.   The first step to towards real support is truly understanding it. And as a professional healer for nearly two decades, I'm often stunned at how many people just don't get it.   So I'ma break it down for you right now with Support for Dummies!   There are 4 main ways that support shows up. Some may surprise you. In fact, a lot of people confuse support with something far less...well...supportive! In this episode I reveal all of this to you - and more. Not only do I explore the 4 Signs of True Support, but I give you a spot-on litmus test to immediately gage and determine if you're receiving the support you need. Extra points if you're brave enough to share it with your loved ones so that they can also discover just how supportive you are showing up in their lives!   The good news is that it's never to late to teach the people in your life just how you need to be supported. And it's never to late to learn a few new skills yourself.   Mentioned in this Episode:  Episode #124: 4 Easy Ways to Say, "I Don't Got Your Back!"  

Ever wondered how you can let someone know that you just don't support them? Looking for ways to show someone you really don't care? We've all been there. So I'm here to show you 4 ways to say, "I don't got your back!" Or...you know...identify which of your own loved ones aren't truly there to support you. Support. It's that make or break ingredient that can often be the difference between success and failure. Think of it like salt: You don't always detect when it's there. When administered correctly, it's subtle. It makes everything work better. It can bring out flavor, textures, even colors. It's responsible for the chemical success of so many things. So while it's presence can be easily taken for granted, its absence is glaringly obvious. You literally cannot live without salt. And if you're completely honest with yourself, you know that the same thing is true of support. How many heart-warming stories have you heard about an underdog who went from rags to riches or who, against all odds, achieved something that transformed the world? And how many times have you succeeded at something without any help, guidance, or support? But what about those people in your life who are supposed to have your best interests at heart? Your friends, your family, even your coworkers and bosses? Are they truly supporting you? Chances are, you know the answer. And you probably have at least one person in your life who means well, who appears to have your back. But when push comes to shove, they're not only not offering you support, they may actually be actively sabotaging you. So how can you identify if there's one of these unsalty characters messing up your recipe for success? I share 4 simple ways in this week's podcast. And I also give you 3 easy tips to restore the support that you need to succeed.

Remember all of that fuss in Romeo and Juliet about a rose? You know, if it was called anything other than a rose, it'd still be a rose. It would look the same, feel the same. Smell the same. That's some deep stuff, right? Basically, Shakespeare was saying it didn't matter how you framed it; a rose is a rose is a rose.   But what if you called a rose a banana? Could that be confusing? Could it drastically alter perceptions and possibly really mess up a good pie? Or let's say you called a rose a thorn delivery system? Suddenly it might not be so appealing.   There's an art form to marketing and spin. A masterful finesse to renaming, rearranging, and reforming how we see things. It can change what we believe, what we want, even how we behave. And sometimes that's refreshing. But sometimes it can be harmful.   You might have designer clothes and handbags, artisan cupcakes or cheese, reimagined, recycled, and upcycled tchotchkes. But did you know that you're probably also walking around with something else that's been rebranded and reframed? I'm talking about FEAR. That's right: there's a whole lotta buzz around repackaging this old feeling. But let's face it: fear by any other name...is still just fear!   And if you want to deal with fear, move through it, overcome its hold on you, you have to get really real and face it head on.   In this episode, I reveal 4 surprising ways you may be disguising this emotion and enabling yourself to detour around it. I also tell you 2 signs that may indicate that you're unknowingly living in a state of perpetual fear. And finally, I share 3 Balancing Tips designed to help you bust through your fears and cope like a unicorn! Just kidding. You'll be coping like a boss. But you can call yourself a unicorn, or a banana, or even a rose. Because a boss by any other name...still takes charge and gets things done!   //

When I was growing up, I was cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. I was also looney for Lucky Charms, crazy for Captain Crunch, and fanatical over Fruity Pebbles. Weekly grocery shopping with my family was stressful. I had to choose one and commit to it for an entire week. Or worse, they'd let me have a couple, which would make every morning an agonizing dilemma. And then there was the bickering and bargaining with my sister over who would get the last bowl of whatever was in the box. It didn't really matter what it was...I wanted it because she did, and visa versa. Sounds silly, right? But at the time, these felt like life altering decisions. Huge amounts of energy were spent on ruminating over the choices...and then often regretting the sacrifices I'd made. Don't even get me started on the Eggos! Today I face the same sorts of conundrums. I could get all up on my high horse and talk about how much more serious and important they are but here's the truth: it's all relative. All of it. Not just the decisions but how I perceive and approach them. How I frame them. And how I choose to let them affect my sanity and well being. So let me ask you this: Do you find yourself second guessing your choices? Do you always want what the other girls have? Do you sometimes find yourself doing nothing because you're afraid you'll miss out on one thing if you choose the other? In my professional opinion, you may be loco for FOMO. What the heck am I talking about? I'm so glad you asked...! This week I'll show you just how easy it can be to not get all caught up agonizing over decisions with 3 Decisive Tips. And for those of you who don't know, I'll reveal the meaning of FOMO. And then I'll blow your minds with a little JOMO. Mentioned in this Episode: Episode #49: Interview with Philip Dhingra Episode #96: You Decide…Even When You Don’t Episode #97: Guess Again…or better Yet Don’t Episode #118: Decide Already //

See that woman over there? She's got a way better job than me! And that one? Man I want her car! And check out the brains on the one with all those diplomas on her wall! Grrrrrrrraaaaargh!!! Woah! Clearly I need to get a grip on my green eyed monster. Sound familiar? Jealousy can come on like a freight train and mow down your confidence. I call it the Jealy Roll. Worst. Pastry. Ever. Recently I had to get over myself and acknowledge my own jealy roll. Yes, that's right; I'm just as susceptible to the pitfalls of toxic comparison-itis and stuck-itude as you. We all are. In fact, those super together women with great jobs and cars that may have tripped me up... Guess what? They're busy jealy rolling over someone else from time to time. So what to do, what to do... Well, how about a little motivational dessert? This episode is the perfect cherry to plop atop the motivation sundae I just spent a couple of months serving up to you. Let's face it: nothing but NOTHING kills your momentum like a good old fashioned case of comparison-itis. It's a stone cold change stopper if ever there was one. So c'mon, who doesn't need a decadent pallet cleanser every once in awhile? I'm offering up 5 generous scoops of jealousy busting tips, topped with 3 luscious questions you can ask yourself right now. You'll detect notes of clarity, followed by not-so-subtle hints of renewed confidence. I'm even going to add an extra bonus topping. It's my own special house blend of "who-are-you-really-jealy-of-anyway?" - rolled in a freshly created aha! moment. So grab a mental spoon, sit back, and let me teach you how to slow your jealy roll! Mentioned in this Episode: #83: Keep Your Eyes on Your Own Prize #88: Change is Hard…and Other Lies Your Mother Told You #114: The Perfect Recipe for Change //

// I once joined the YMCA. I did it because I wanted to work out regularly and spend time participating in activities with my son. I was going to get in shape so I could be healthy, happy, and, I'll be perfectly honest here...HOT. I made the decision. I was committed. And by taking the very concrete action of signing that contract allowing them to debit money from my account every single month, I had thoroughly covered all the steps of my very own motivation model. I was unstoppable. I was on fire! Remember when you were feeling just as motivated? Remember feeling unstoppable and on fire? You may even remember it like it was yesterday. Because it might actually have been just yesterday! So what happened? Well let me speak for myself; I lost my motivation. Or more accurately, I abandoned it. In fact, a couple of years later, I was still being debited every month for my membership...and I'd not been there since the first month or two. One day my sister asked me why I didn't just cancel the membership. And I replied with the half joking quip, "Because then they'll know I'm not going!" Can you relate? Think about your false starts. Craft supplies unopened. Running shoes still in the original box. Expired exotic ingredients in the cupboard. Dusty boxes in a corner containing the brochures for that business you were absolutely going to launch... What's your story? And is it truly over? I just spent 5 episodes chatting you up on motivation. You know why you want what you want. You've clarified exactly what that is. You've committed to your decision. And you've taken action. Isn't that enough? The short answer is: No. You've lathered. You've rinsed. But if you truly want to succeed in creating those life altering changes, you must learn how to repeat. Not just that nice. Not even twice. You must repeat relentlessly until you've accomplished your goals. Sound hard? Exhausting? Maybe even a little scary? Only if you let it be... Never fear, Krylyn's here! So let me teach you how to keep it up, buttercup! Mentioned in this Episode: #114: The Perfect Recipe for Change #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change?  #116: Whyyyyyy? #117: What You Want?  #118: Decide Already!  //

// So you think you're motivated. You've defined what you want. You've figured out why. You've tapped into your desire. But there's still one more thing you gotta do. And it all comes down to this. What is it? Are you sure you're ready? Okay, here we go... Quiet on set... Lights; camera; ACTION! I've spent the last month breaking down motivation for you piece by piece. No sugar coating. Gloves off. Down to business. And we are finally at the homestretch. I've helped you identify your WHYs. I've taught you how to cut through all the noise and discover your true desires. And I've clarified the importance of decision - and how you are always making decisions either proactively and consciously or passively and irresponsibly. Today I'm giving you the final - and indisputably most crucial - piece of the motivation puzzle. You have to take action. You know that. I'm not telling you anything new. I'd love to be the inventor of the Insta-Motivate Change supplement. Just add water and live your dreams! But if I told you that I'd done that, would you believe me? Would you buy what I was selling? No! Of course not! You're a smart, powerful, capable woman. You know the score. And you don't need a magic bullet. You just need a little push in the right direction. A reminder. Some support. So let's get real. What I'm offering you in this week's podcast is a no-nonsense, 3 Ingredient Formula to provide an easier journey down that necessary path of action. You can't put it in the blender. It doesn't mix easily with your morning latte. It won't wash down with your multivitamin. But when prepared and administered properly, it will give you that added boost you need to make those amazing changes you know you need to make in your life. You cannot defy the laws of physics. As Einstein himself said: "Nothing happens until something moves." Ready to create some serious changes? Click to listen NOW. And...GO! Mentioned in this Episode: #114: The Perfect Recipe for Change #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change?  #116: Whyyyyyy? #117: What You Want?  #118: Decide Already!  //

// In the space between desire and action, there lurks a shadowy nemesis to all wishy washy scaredy cats and procrastinators. A powerful force to be reckoned with. A master of movement. A champion of change.  What is it?  Guess.  Don't daly or hesitate.  Guess.  Need a hint?  Decide already!!! That's right, I'm talking about...  Decision! Why is decision a part of the change process, you might ask. Isn't it enough to identify the things you desire to change...and then take action to change them? That's a really excellent question. To answer you, I need to ask you a few questions:  1. Have you ever dilly dallied, refusing to make a decision, only to discover that the decision went ahead and made itself without you?  2. Can you relate to that old saying, "Be careful what you wish for!"?  3. And more pointedly, have you ever made a decision that you regretted and invoked that old saying with the force of 1,000 suns?  If you can't answer "YES!" to all three of those questions, congratulations; you're my hero! However, the rest of us mere mortals have experienced all of the above scenarios. Repeatedly. Yes, even me.  I actually happen to be in the middle of weighing a major, life altering change. And even though this is what I do - and what I help others to do - for a living, I need a little help and support from time to time as well.  So to give us all that extra boost we need to not only make decisions, but to actually do so with certainty, clarity, and satisfaction, I've created 3 powerful questions you should ask yourself every time you're faced with a decision. I also reveal a shocking truth about decisions that may be keeping you from following through with the changes you know you need to make in your life.  Ready to discover how to instantly make better decisions? Decide to listen. Now!  Mentioned in this Episode: #96: You Decide…Even When You Don’t #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change?  #116: Whyyyyyy? #117: What You Want?  //

What you want? baby, YOU got it!  Or do you?  Before you can get what you want, you have to not only know what it is, you gots to burn for it, deep down, in your soul! What am I talking about?  This is the stuff that moves mountains. It forges paths. Dams rivers. Launches ships and dreams and entire careers. It even drives some to drop houses on their sisters and others to terrorize little girls over a pair of shoes.  Maybe you already know what I'm talking about...But I'm not ready to reveal it just yet.  First let me congratulate you on making it this far in my epic series on change. Clearly you want to make some changes in your life or you wouldn't still be here. Wanting something is a good first step towards getting it. But it's not enough. If it were, you'd already be living the dream, right?  What I'm talking about here today is essentially want on steroids. Want to the infinite degree. Want after guzzling a six pack of Monster*. Are you with me yet?  History is littered with people who wanted things but never quite got it together to make their dreams happen. Their want turned to longing. Maybe even despair and bitterness. And eventually regret. You don't want to be one of those people. I don't want you to be one of those people!  So what in the world am I referring to? What is it that your want needs to grow up to be in order to get you from wanting to having?  Let's go back in time... Think of something you wanted so badly that it became a singular obsession. Something you set your sites on and from which you refused to back down. Something you obtained or achieved. You visualized it. You worked tirelessly towards it. And you eventually manifested it. This was more that mere want, wasn't it. What did you feel? What driving force catapulted you to that goal? What seductive flame was this? DESIRE - appetency, appetite, craving, drive, hankering, hunger, itch, jones, letch, longing, lust, passion, pining, thirst, thirstiness, urge, yearning, yen! Need a little help re-sparking your flame? This podcast will help you rekindle that fire within. I'm giving you a surefire - pun intended - 3-step process to reclaim your heat right NOW! Ready?   Let's do this!  *Disclamer: Please don't guzzle a six pack of Monster; I WANT you to live!  Mentioned in this Episode: #97: Guess Again…Or Better Yet, Don’t! #107: Ch-ch-ch-change it!  #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change?  #116: Whyyyyyy? //

// WHY? Because I said so. Because you have to. Because that's the way it works. Because it's always been that way.  Feeling motivated?  Of course you're not! Those answers never work. They didn't work when you were a kid. They don't work on you now. But let me ask you this: Can you easily and readily provide exciting, empowering, satisfying answers to the WHYs in your life? Because if you can't, you're probably not going to truly find the motivation to get from this side of WHY to the other. In fact, it gets worse; you may actually become demotivated. And let's face it, if you were from content on this side, you wouldn't be asking WHY. (117) The less in touch with your WHYs you are, the more loaded and offensive that question can start to feel. The more frustrated you can become. The more you may avoid looking for the answers. I mean seriously...WHY would you want to stress yourself out? WHY??? But here's the thing: WHY isn't going anywhere. WHY is in your face. Every day. And remember those flippant answers to WHY that I opened with? They become insidious. They are knee-jerk defenses to WHY that have only one purpose: To kill your motivation. (92) So are you ready to use your superpower to master WHY once and for all? The first step to unleashing your motivation is finding YOUR WHY. Not anyone else's. not some pat answers. But YOUR unique, amazing WHYs that will turbocharge YOUR unique and amazing journey. You're here because you don't want a cookie-cutter life; so don't settle for no cookie-cutter WHYs.  Need a little help? In this podcast I walk you through my 4 surefire questions designed to cut through all the bull and right to the heart of your WHYs to find the true answers that will motivate you.  So listen now. WHY? Because I got YOU!  Mentioned in this Episode: #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change? 

// Have you ever fantasized about having a superpower? Maybe you secretly wish to fly. See through walls. Be invisible. Be invincible.  Well, I can't help you get any of those powers. And honestly, they seem like they just might be more trouble than they're worth. Imagine flying into high rise windows. Or having to see the weird things people do when you're not looking. If you were invisible, I bet people would trip over you all of the time. And being invincible? I don't know about you but I'm exhausted just thinking about that one. But what if I told you that you already have a superpower? One you use every day. One you likely neglect and take for granted. One that when properly focused and directed can help you get your heart's desire.  No, this is not where I wish you back into your bottle. This is where I reveal the incredible superpower that fuels all of your decisions and shapes how you approach change.  Yes, change. We are still on that. But starting this week I'm turning up the dial to FABULOUS. And I'm not only going to tell you what this superpower is - this magical mojo that gets your change motor running - I'm gonna teach you exactly how to use it. Hell, I'll even help fill up your tank! And of course I'll give you the tools to get your own refill anytime you need one.  In this podcast episode I reveal this unstoppable superpower and outline my 4-Step guide to truly understanding and mastering your wiles. But because it's so powerful, so effective, I'm going to take the time to really work on it with you. We'll spend the next four weeks digging into one step at a time so that we can roll up our sleeves, get a little dirty, and really flex those change muscles. Change on; change off. Just call me Ms. Miyagi! Mentioned in this Episode: #96: You Decide…Even When You Don’t

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// We humans are social creatures. We rely on each other for so many things. We form friendships, groups, communities. We gravitate towards people who share our opinions and world views. We look to our mentors and heroes for guidance. And we need this support to shape, confirm, and validate our realities.  You don't have to look far to find a bazillion quotes about virtually any subject imaginable. There's something extremely primal and comforting about a good quote that strikes a chord deep inside you. It can spark a fire, a passion. A transformational "AHA!" moment. It can even move you to...well...change.  Yes, we're still on that behemoth of subjects. And next week it's going to transition into some serious stuff. I'll expect you to come prepared, wearing your big girl pants.  But before we get all real up in here again, let me pamper your soul a little by offering up my 5 favorite quotes about change. I dare you to listen to this week's podcast and not feel supported, even a little motivated. [*Spoiler alert: That's where we're headed next!] In episode 113, I talk about how each of my top 5 quotes has affected me personally. And I put them into context for you as we continue to foster your journey towards positive, proactive change. As an added bonus, I'm giving you 34 additional inspiring quotes about change in this week's companion download.  You have to change. It's going to happen with or without your cooperation. But you don't have to do it alone. And when you make conscious decisions and take positive steps towards the life you want, by design, support will appear as if by magic. Why not let me and 39 folks with some world class wisdom help lead your way? Mentioned in this Episode: #109: Be More Like Jane #110: Dear Dissatisfaction, I'm the Boss of You

How many times a day do you catch yourself saying, "I'm trying!" Cmon, you can tell me; what happens on the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Podcast stays on the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Podcast.   Not ready to 'fess up out loud? That's okay. I actually have a much deeper and more critical series of questions to ask you: When you say, "I'm trying!" what do you really mean? Where is your mindset? What message are you sending to the world? And more importantly, what message are you reinforcing deep within your own psyche? What habits and patterns are you repeating? And how is this affecting your process of change?   I'm sure you've figured out where I'm going with this. But in case you haven't, let me ask you to do something else. Think of a time you were with a child - maybe your own, maybe someone else's, maybe even YOU - and they were tasked with completing something ridiculously simple. Something virtually anyone could do. Probably something they'd already done, possibly even earlier that day. What did you know about this child in this scenario? And what did you say in response?   A wise, internationally famous, intergalactic puppet once said to a stubborn, young protégé of his, "Do or do not, there is no try." And as we all know, he was spot on.   You're about to learn that said character is also one of my most beloved mentors. I emphatically put forth that the entire universe created around his message is one that exists primarily to remind us all about exactly what I've been testifying about to you over the past couple of months: Change!   This week - with some help from my little, wrinkled friend - I'll tell you exactly how this iconic story franchise is designed to get you out of your own damn way and into shifting your energy from doubt to belief. And I'll reveal the 3 enormous change-friendly messages that consistently run through the entire series.   Still haven't guessed who I'm talkin' 'bout? Well head on over to my podcast now!  Mentioned in this Episode  #106: The Bearable Discomfort of Change  #111: There’s No Excuse for You //  

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(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//forms.aweber.com/form/85/613778185.js"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs); }(document, "script", "aweber-wjs-jtjhwbiqd")); Think back to a time when you really wanted something. I mean lusted after it, visualized, fantasized to the point of complete distraction. Powerful goddess that you are, you did whatever it took to manifest your desire. Whether it was a new dress, a new car, a new job, or a relationship, the one thing I can tell you for certain is that it involved change. Congratulations! You've successfully managed change in your life before. And you can and will do it again. We've been digging deep into that process these past many week as my series on change has helped you to create healthier ways to approach your dreams. And if you've been diligent, you may have made a few new changes as a result. Perhaps you're over the moon. But there's also a distinct possibility that you're feeling a bit...disappointed, disillusioned, anticlimactic, maybe even depressed. So what happens when the change you absolutely had to have turns out to be far less satisfying than how you'd imagined it would be? What's wrong with you? And how can you get over yourself and just enjoy the fruits of your labor? Well, my friend, there's nothing wrong with you. This is an expected phenomenon. But with a little bit of conscious effort and reflection, you can create satisfaction and get back on track. Dissatisfaction is a close, personal pal of change. It often crashes the party just when the victory celebration gets underway. I cannot promise you a way to avoid or eliminate it. But what I am giving you is a way to handle dissatisfaction like a boss. First I'll teach you the three main sources of your dissatisfaction. Warning: they often overlap and you might be under the influence of any or all of them at an given change. And then I'll share 3 shockingly simple ways to overcome that nasty feeling trying to steal your thunder. So grab your headphones, crank up the podcast, and repeat after me: "Dear Dissatisfaction, I'm the boss of you!" And in less than 15 minutes time, you can back that promise up!

// See Jane. See Jane run. See Jane fall. See Jane cry. See Jane stand up, regroup, and do the same thing all over again. Jane is frustrated. Jane's in pain. Where is Jane running to, anyway? As it turns out, Jane is trying to get to Nordstrom's. They're having a BIG shoe sale. Jane needs new shoes. Jane's shoes are worn to the sole and falling apart. Maybe that's why Jane keeps falling down. Jane can't afford new shoes and yet she's planning to charge a pair of Louboutins. If she can ever make it there, that is. Jane has fallen victim to clever marketing...and the old paradigm of change. Unfortunately, Jane doesn't really exist or I'd put her in a pair of earbuds and have her listen to my latest podcast. STAT! You don't have to wait to be in excruciating pain to make a change. In fact, when your back is against the wall and you're drowning in desperation, you may find it extremely hard to make sound long-term decisions. You also aren't a complete slave to your cravings and impulses. Changes born solely of lust and desire can also prove to be unwise. Of course, we all have to change under duress sometimes. However, that can and should be the exception, not the rule. But you already know that, don't you? So does Jane. Here's the problem: the old paradigm of change - the one most of us have accepted and bought into - preaches just that. It can literally be a free pass to sit on your butt making excuses when you know very well that you are so much better than that! So are you ready for a new paradigm? Are you prepared for a tiny shift that can blow you mind and rock your world? This week I will give it to you! I'll expose the flaws in the old way we've learned to approach change. And I'll replace it with a far more empowering, liberating, exhilarating way for you to start engineering the changes that will transform your life. It all comes down to one simple word. I'll reveal that word and guide you through a powerful assessment exercise that will allow you to take control of what, when, and how you make changes from now on. I bet you can't wait! Jane couldn't. Wanna know what happened for her? Listen now! Mentioned in the Episode: #107: Ch-ch-ch-change it!  #108: Pick a Lane

// Nearly two decades ago, I was thrust into the midst of monumental change. After putting my husband through grad school, I quit my job, we packed our car, put what wouldn't fit into storage, and drove across the country with our three year old to stay with our families while he looked for employment. Huge changes, right? But that was just the tip of the iceberg. You see, what I thought was the beginning of a new chapter in our lives was actually the end of my marriage. I was literally dumped on my mother's doorstep. The man I'd been with since my first year of college had engineered a plan to leave me with nothing...not my child, my belongings, or my self esteem. Don't get me wrong, I'm not confessing some great tragedy here. The truth is I'm grateful for how things unfolded because it was a pivotal time for me; it paved the way for the life I have now. But it also forced me to make some critical decisions about change. As overwhelmed as I was, as much as I needed to face and sort out, the only way I could tackle all of those changes was one at a time. Change rarely presents itself neatly, when you're prepared, or in bite-sized portions. But that doesn't mean you are destined to be caught off guard like I was. In fact, if you proactively monitor your life and assess what needs to be changed, you can often choose your changes before they choose you. This week I'm teaching you a killer formula to determine where to start. It's surprisingly simple. You'll need to use your answers from last week. So if you missed it, hop over to the previous podcast, have a listen, and download and complete the worksheet. Then come on back to this podcast for step by step instructions for my foolproof method of pinpointing the one change your heart yearns for the most right now. And in case you're wondering, I got everything I needed back those 20 years ago. I raised a fine young man and I'm more awesome than ever!

// When we were kids, my sister and I used to love watching animated Christmas movies. You know the ones, they ran every year. Frosty the Snowman, Rudolf the Red Nosed Reindeer, How the Grinch Stole Christmas, and so many more. But there was one that featured a song that was crazy infectious; it applied to so many situations, was irrefutably basic and true, and just had to be sung. So...we sung it. And not just at Christmas. This song worked so well all year round that we'd sing it until we drove our parents batty. This song was - and is - a brilliant life lesson. What is this essential piece of wisdom that you simply cannot live a full life without? I'll give you a hint: it's all about change. See if you can guess. (Spoiler: I'll reveal it a little later.) This week we are taking a leap to the next phase of my change series. So far I've shattered the myths, revealed the truths, and prepared you to embrace the discomfort of change. If you're still with me, you're ready for the next step: Identifying what the heck you want to change. Right about now, you're likely feeling a bit overwhelmed. Let's face it, you're a powerhouse and a go-getter and you want it all now. That is...until it's time to break it down and really assess what that means. Because like most people, there are probably a gazillion things that you want to change...like yesterday! So I'ma let you in on a little secret in this podcast. A secret that when fully believed and implemented will absolutely liberate you to start effectively creating all the changes you desire. Then I will give you a sneak preview of the surefire four step formula to successfully change anything. And finally, I will give you an exercise that will allow you to hone in on exactly what changes are most important for you right now. Are you ready to Ch-ch-ch-change it? Betcha thought I'd forgotten about that promise I made earlier, huh? No, ma'am! Here it is:  https://youtu.be/OORsz2d1H7s

(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//forms.aweber.com/form/88/1129094988.js"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs); }(document, "script", "aweber-wjs-lj83i7rua")); Want to know an embarrassing little secret? Sometimes I wait a bit too long to change my sheets. This isn't a calculated process. I don't plan ahead. There are not 'pro vs. con' lists made, color charts, meetings by committee, etc. In fact, it's virtually unconscious. The payoff for changing vs. not changing my sheets is minuscule in the grand scheme of things...that is until not changing them becomes downright unbearable. So where is the tipping point? What is the trigger that moves us to either change or agonize over not changing? Simple. The key to all perspective change is discomfort. But before you switch to autopilot, tune me out, or close this email, read this one extremely important sentence: Discomfort is equally responsible for your decisions to change as it is for your choices to do absolutely nothing. Do I have your attention? Good. Let's go back to my bed. One night I may get home really late after a completely draining day only to remember I'd planned to change the sheets. Now I know how dreamy and relaxing freshly laundered linens would feel enveloping me as I pass out, but I also do not want to go through the time and trouble to make that happen. In fact, I'm worried the process might even wake me up when all I want to do is plop directly into a deep slumber. I also know that the sheets on my bed are not pristine and aren't going to feel as cozy or comfortable as the clean ones would. So how do I decide? There's always discomfort - and comfort - in every choice, in every change. And you face these crossroads dozens of times every day. Now for the exciting part: No matter how big or small the changes you're facing may be, you can learn to apply my 3 Essential Keys to getting comfortable with being uncomfortable and take control of when, what, where, and how you choose to change!

(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//forms.aweber.com/form/74/1356799374.js"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs); }(document, "script", "aweber-wjs-8qhitpusv")); Sometimes there's great satisfaction in knowing exactly what's going to happen at every turn. Having a stocked refrigerator, the bills all covered, an orderly schedule. We often cling to the familiar. And If you're like most people, you strive to set up a routine that will achieve just that. Humans like consistency, security, predictability. And we can create it. But it's always temporary. Some would even say it's all an illusion. I'm not here to get all woo-woo on you. But after all, this is the next installment of my series on change. And those same annoying creatures who'll tell you that an orderly existence is an illusion will also be the first to quip that the only constant in this world is...change. So indulge me, if you will: Think back to a time when you felt truly alive, excited, energized, jazzed, on edge, vital, and probably even at least a little afraid. I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that when you've felt this way, you were either facing or going through - wait-for-it - change! There are very few certainties in life. No lesser than Benjamin Franklin is credited with saying that the only two are death and taxes. But I'm here to modify that list. Because the most certain uncertainty there is in this life is - you guessed it - change. Last week I busted through the 3 myths about change that hold you back from fully realizing your life's purpose. You should now be poised to tackle what I'm going to share today, the 5 Truths about change. These bombastic revelations will allow you to unleash your inner superhero, if you dare. And here's a bonus truth, just for you: Change is gonna get you. Period. It may not always be pretty....at first. But it'll be worth it, I promise. You CAN handle the truth....change is inevitable so face it head on and make it work for you! //  

// You just broke in your new couch, your Netflix queue is full, and you're about to reach level 5,000 on CandyCrush. Sure, things could be better but they could also be a whole lot worse. You, my friend, are in the comfort zone. Days go by with little to no real conflict. Weeks. Months. Even years. Why rock the boat? You're fine. Fine! Until you're not... There's an old saying that people will stay the same until not changing becomes more painful than choosing to change would be. And while it can be true, it's not always the case. Some people consciously choose to change...by choice and design. In fact, ALL people do so at times. I've done it. You've done it. And there's great reward, monumental empowerment, and a whole lot of confidence building mojo in taking the proactive route. Think about a time when you firmly and definitively decided to change. What happened? How did the world respond? What paths became clear? How did it impact your life? This week I'm launching a series of thermonuclear podcasts all about change. But let me warn you, if you're too timid, if you're not ready to commit yourself to taking control of change, do NOT listen. Here's my caveat: Notice I said take control of change; I didn't simply say change. Because here's the hard truth. Change. Will. Happen. With or without your cooperation and consent. So what stands between you and conscious, willing, proactively designed change? Simple: Three powerfully nasty myths. Call them change-gamers. You don't play them, they play you. Over and over again. They keep you on that couch, sidelined from the phenomenal YOU you know you're meant to be. Overshadowing your dreams with doubts, stunting your greatness with comfort. It's time to explode those change-gamers into game-changers. Let's bust those myths together as we take charge of your change right now! Mentioned in this episode: Episode #88: Change is Hard...and Other Lies Your Mother Told You Episode #96: You Decide...Even When You Don’t

// You've been having a rough time. Breakup, loss of job, health scare, financial troubles. Maybe all of the above. You can't face this alone but you hate asking for help. You fear how people will react. Will they judge? Gossip? Turn their backs? Say the 'N' word? Or worse yet, all of the above? But you're exhausted. Emotional. Scattered. Overwhelmed. Probably all of the above! Wouldn't it be amazing if you had someone who knew exactly how to be there for you in this crisis? Someone who always said the right thing, brought the perfect comfort food, and never left your side? Someone who could help you trouble-shoot and find the best solutions one step at a time? I'm here to tell you that you already do. And she's been there all along. Guess what, buttercup, you are the one who can best do all of the above. Because you are the wind beneath your own wings! Now I'm not here to discount the support of others. You need to ask for and allow that into your life. But I want you to think about how you rush to help your friends in times of need. What do you do for them? What are your signature moves, your unique strategies? What sets you apart from everyone else? And now for the really tough question: Does anyone do exactly those things for you, just the way you long for them to? Buddha said, "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." But a sad truth is that most of us reserve that adulation for others, shortchanging ourselves especially when we need it the most. Giving yourself what you need in times of stress and crisis is not a weakness or a luxury, it's a bare necessity, an essential gift that a truly strong woman gives to herself. Let me give you 3 supercharged tips to do just that. And allow me to give you the tools you need to take extraordinary care of the most amazing woman you know - YOU.

// Think back to a time when one of your best friends was going through a really rough time. Maybe it was a breakup or she lost a job. Maybe a death or other profound loss. Heck it could have been an extraordinarily bad hair day. Whatever it was, she came to you for support. And you probably rolled your eyes, sighed dramatically, puffed up, and said, "What the hell is wrong with you? I told you this was going to happen. Why do you keep getting yourself into these situations? You brought it on yourself just like you always do and you deserve what you get. Now quit your whining, pull yourself together, get over it, and stop being such a hot mess!" No? So let me ask you this: When's the last time you said any of that nonsense to yourself? If you're like most people, You'd do anything for your best friend. You're her biggest fan and her strongest ally. You're always there for her no matter what. Right? So why aren't you treating yourself the same way? Let's face it, you are the only person who can logistically always be there for you. You're right there by your own side no matter what happens. So you can do this the hard way, or you can learn to be the very best friend you could ever have. Girlfriend, it's about time! So this week I'ma teach you how to be your own bestie. First I'll go over the fine points of what it means to really be a best friend. And then I'll share 3 simple tips that you can put into action today to start generating immediate and lifelong self-bestie mojo. Listen now and allow me to introduce you to the very best friend you will ever have: yourself!

// Have you ever totally lost it? You're having a bad day, a bad week...a bad everything... You reach a boiling point. Something triggers you and you finally just flip out. Maybe you kick and scream. Yell at the top of your lungs. Punch things. Throw stuff. You're hot and flushed. Your ears are ringing. You see red. And while this behavior may be frowned upon in polite society, as long as nobody gets hurt, you may find that once it's over, you secretly feel relieved. Maybe even a sense of liberated invigoration. What just happened? Well, my friend, the clinical explanation is this: you had a TANTRUM. tan·trum ˈtantrəm/ Noun. Described in various dictionaries as uncontrollable, an outburst, angry behavior, disobedience, violence, rage, frustration, etc... Does that sound dreadful? Who throws tantrums? Kids. Celebrities. Politicians. But what about you? Do you throw tantrums or do you feel guilty when you even let your anger show? Does losing your cool make you feel bad? Well I have only one thing to say to that: You're not doing it right! Welcome to The Big Girl's Guide to Throwing a Successful Temper Tantrum. Buckle up, Buttercup, it's going to be a grumpy ride! That's right. I am here to not only advocate for the well timed, properly executed tantrum, I'ma teach you just how to throw a world class, show-stopping, mind-blowing, stress-relieving fit. I will walk you through the 10 crucial steps needed to successfully nail a world-class melt-down. 10 sounds like an awful lot, but don't be intimidated. Because as an added bonus, this week I won't just tell you what to do one step at a time, I'm actually going to show you. So don't hesitate; tune in now and learn how to loose it like a pro. I'm giving you permission to completely go bananas! What are you waiting for?

// Did you ever have to end a relationship with someone who was just no good for you? Maybe someone kind of abusive. Who kept you stuck. Lied. Cheated. Made you feel like total crap. A real bully. Unfortunately most of us have had to deal with at least one person like this along the way. It's not always easy to cut ties. Especially when it's someone you genuinely care for. But once you do, life inevitably becomes easier, happier, healthier. So what if I told you that you're still dealing with a bully? That's right, there's someone out to get you right now. Someone is trying to trip you up, keep you down, and steal your lunch money. I'd tell you to kick the crap out of her except for one thing: that someone is you. Of course you don't mean to do this to yourself. But let's face it, we are all our own worst critics. It's something we develop early in life and it becomes second nature. You may be so used to it that you've forgotten where you end and this critic begins. But make no mistake: that voice you hear, the one that cuts you down at every opportunity, it's not really you. It's just a garden variety bully and it's high time you learned to beat your inner bully! In episode 100 I tell you how to beat your inner bully without messing up a single hair on either of your heads. In fact, let's settle this thing right now, once and for all! I'll help you identify where that bully comes from and then I'll walk you through 3 painless steps to send her packing for good. And as a special thank you for sharing my 100th podcast with me, I have a special gift to all my listeners.

Can I ask you a question? I want you to be brutally honest. Tell me the truth. Even if it's painful... What should you be doing right now? I'd tell you to really think about it but my educated guess is that you don't have to. I suspect you have a laundry list ready to go. In fact, there's a good chance laundry is on that list! You should be doing a million things. Am I right? What's more, there're probably a million other things you should have done instead of many of the things you actually did. You should figure out why that is. You should have figured it out years ago. You're probably a world-class expert in shoulding all over yourself. Wanna know what I think about this? It's a bunch of Bullshould! That's right; l said Bullshould. If this incredibly powerful word isn't yet a part of your everyday vocabulary, maybe it should be. Or more importantly, maybe it could be. Should is a dirty word. It traps you in a cycle of guilt and regret. It stinks. Stinks, I tells ya! And that's why I want you to start recognizing it for the Bullshould it truly is. So what if I told you that by making a tiny shift, by reframing your language and your perception surrounding the concept of should, you could instantly and dramatically change your relationship with the things you do...and the things you don't do? What if all it takes is three simple steps to free you from self criticism, doubt, and shame? And what if those same easy changes could open you up to endless possibilities and choices? Well, if I told you that - and I just did! - you might think that you should listen to this week's podcast. Bullshould! Oh, I want you to listen. But don't do it because you should. Do it because...you could!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRYW7JE_XY8 Who do you trust? I don't mean superficially, casually, socially. I mean who would you want on that desert island with you if you were stranded? And a soccer ball doesn't count. Who would you trust in a crisis? With your twitter password? Who would you sign over control of your affairs to if it ever came to that? Most people have one or two people that come to mind immediately. And that's a really good feeling. But let me ask you this: Is that trust completely unconditional? And here's a tougher question: If you could clone yourself perfectly, right down to the last molecule, would you trust yourself in these situations? Trust is tricky. It's something you're told needs to be earned. Something that you know can be lost. It's something that takes conscious care and time to build...but too often one wrong move to send crumbling down. And like so many crucially important life skills, no one teaches you the fundamentals and language of trust. You're left to our own devices to try to figure it out on your own. The first person - and the most important one at that - who you need to trust is yourself. That's where it begins. And that sets the tone for all others. The level of trust you have in your relationship with yourself will determine and inform the quality of every relationship in your life. In this episode I delve deeper into the topic of self trust. I've talked about it a lot. But this time I break it down for you in a way I wish it'd been taught in school. First I'll reveal the 3 questions you must answer to assess where you are with trusting yourself. Be honest and I promise you it can change your life. Next I'll teach you what I call The 4 Pillars of Trust. And finally, I'll give you the shockingly simple key to unlocking a truly healthy sense of trust.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PBj0gbhvYY0 Remember the last time you were driving somewhere new? You may have been nervous because you weren't sure where you were going. Probably you had your navigation system helping out. But still, it can be a bit nerve wracking when you're on unsure footing. Maybe you missed a turn and had to re-route. Or possibly you swerved across a few lanes of traffic to get in the correct lane at the last second. But the fact that you're here now, reading this, tells me that it was not the end of anyone's world. So let's break it down: You had some decisions to make that day, right? First you decided to go somewhere you'd never been before. You had to decide how to get there. You had to choose the fastest route or the one that kept you off of major highways. You had to determine how early to leave, just in case you ran into any problems. And if one of my scenarios above occurred, you had to quickly shift gears and make split second course corrections. Can I ask you a question; did you second guess any of those decisions? Chances are you did. Chances are you second guess decisions way more often than you should. And it's time for you to knock that off! Last week I helped you identify healthy and effective ways to make proactive decisions. I know that if you're following my 5-step decision making process, you're already deciding like a champ. But what happens after those decisions are made is just as crucial as the actual making part. If you're second guessing yourself, back-tracking, reversing or even changing your decisions for the wrong reasons, I am here to help. In episode 97, I'll reveal the number 1 reason why you're second guessing your decisions. And then I'll guide you through the 4 essential truths about decision making that you must embrace in order to own your decisions and stop those self-doubt bombs from messing with your mojo!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gC9DofV2G7M&feature=youtu.be Have you ever found yourself standing in the cereal aisle at the grocery store, staring at the dozens of boxes, pacing, agonizing, comparing nutritional information, calories, prices, absolutely paralyzed from making a simple, ultimately inconsequential decision? At the time, it can feel huge, even life altering. I mean you are committing to at least a few days worth of breakfast here. It could set the tone for your whole week. What if you pick the Raisin Bran and you wake up tomorrow totally not in the mood for dried grapes? Or maybe you go with GrapeNuts and you chip a tooth? Or you buy that fancy healthy stuff only to realize as you're eating it that you had forgotten that everyone else in the house but you hates that fancy healthy stuff? What if? Decisions. Decisions. Decisions. We easily make hundreds of these suckers every day. So why are some of them harder than others? You might be saying to yourself, "That's easy, Krylyn. Some of them are bigger and more important and warrant more consideration and will have more impact!" To which I can only reply, "Ehem...really? So your breakfast dilemma was truly that earth shattering?" So what did you do when faced with your epic cereal conundrum? Maybe you bought all three boxes, giving you even more decisions to make. Perhaps you closed your eyes and pointed or some other form of random selection. Maybe you gave up and didn't buy any cereal, putting that decision off for another day. All of the above are valid decisions. But make no mistake, even when you don't actively decide, you are still making a decision. In this episode I'm going to walk you through my proven 5 step decision process. It may not make all of your decisions easy, but it will make them conscious and doable. Let's face it, some decisions are going to be tough. You won't always be in your comfort zone. But I promise you that you'll feel so much more empowered when you make your decisions your way and on your terms. So are you ready to listen to this week's podcast? You decide...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DY5l6f9B_aE I have so much to do right now. Maybe I should start by making a list. But first I'll make a pot of tea. And I should check my email, FB, IG, Twitter... I just wasted several hours. I'm way too unfocused. I think I'll watch Netflix for 30 minutes and try to clear my head. Still not feeling it. A little yoga? A walk? Oh wait, didn't I need to buy something on Amazon? And call the phone company? Okay, I'd better do that before they close. I'll get to that other stuff later. I mean, I can do it anytime. Right? Oh crap! I have at least two hours worth of stuff to do in 45 minutes! I'm going to miss my deadline. But wait, was that a hard deadline? I think that's just the timeline I set for myself so that I wouldn't stress it. Phew! I've still got like two days. I can just chill out with Mr. Haagen-Dazs and cruise YouTube. I'll do that other stuff. Tomorrow. Does any of this sound familiar? Be honest. Let's face it: we all have our glorious moments of world class procrastination. And way too often these marathon sessions of avoidance can leave you feeling guilty, stressed, inadequate, even a little dirty. But it doesn't have to be that way. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you're procrastinating? The truth is that procrastination can be a profound, teachable event. In this episode I will reveal the two reasons why you procrastinate. I'll tell you your three choices every time you are faced with doing something that elicits a procrastination response. And I'll guide you through exactly how to get the most out of this often misunderstood life lesson. So let's jump right in - after a piece of chocolate - and discover just what procrastination has to offer!

https://youtu.be/JKZIr8UwUCM We all have that one friend. You know who I'm talking about. She never seems to truly listen to what you say. You can pour your heart out to her about how you just wrecked your car and will be broke and riding the bus for the next two months and before you've finished your tale of woe, she's already bored, checking her phone, and interrupting you to ask for a ride to the store. She asks you vague, polite questions and immediately transitions into an angry monologue about her boss before you can get a word in edgewise. Then a week later, she texts you, asking if you want to go out to have dinner and a movie...and B T Dubs, can you pick her up? We all have that one friend. But what's worse is this: We are all guilty of sometimes being that friend. You've heard the cliche that communication is a two-way street. It's a cliche because it's true. But often it's easy to get so caught up in what's going on in your own lane that you wind up paying no attention to oncoming humans. And that's when communication accidents are most likely to happen. Last week I helped you identify potential communication breakdowns that can be caused by what you say and how you say it. And I bet if you're using the techniques I shared to remedy that, you've already noticed a marked improvement in the quality of your conversations and relationships. This week I discuss the other part of the equation: Listening. And I saved the bigger piece for of the pie for last. So sit back, click play, and let me share three major ninja tricks guaranteed to instantly improve your listening skills. You won't believe your ears. Warning: Do not try this at home unless you're ready for instant and amazing results!    

https://youtu.be/hQ7Tbghcg-k Did you ever play that game where you replace the lyrics to a popular song so that they still sound similar, fit into the tune, even rhyme...but completely change the meaning, tone, and spirit of it all? In other words, have you ever gone Weird Al? Maybe you fell in love with a song and sang it all of the time only to be embarrassed and disoriented to learn that the lyrics that moved you to your very core were not the ones recorded...or even heard by anyone else but you. How many times have you been in a heated discussion where the other person was reacting to words that never left your mouth? And trying to explain yourself only made it worse. The point is that communication is precariously fragile at best. We often hear what we want to hear. What's even more curious is that we sometimes hear what we expect to hear, despite what's actually being said. And when you're the one doing the talking, this can prove to be baffling and frustrating. It can create rifts, build walls, cause unbearable tension and resentment. You may even want to throw in the towel and walk away. How awesome would it be to instead be able to successfully transmit your thoughts from your brain to your mouth to the ears of the people you talk to, to truly be listened to? That's where I come in. In this episode, I will help you identify the key reasons why what you say may not be heard the way you mean it to be. Then I'll teach you three simple techniques to use anytime you want to ensure that people really listen to what you have to say. So go ahead, listen to this week's podcast...and excuse me while I kiss this guy because we built this city on sausage rolls!  

https://youtu.be/4QuWHWQC49g What if a complete stranger approached you on the street and asked you for a kidney? Would you say yes or would you say no? Okay, I realize that this is an absurd situation that would almost definitely never happen. And if it did, you'd probably pull out your pepper spray or scream at the top of your lungs. But indulge me for a moment; there's a method to my madness. If it did hypothetically happen, you'd probably say no. So let me ask you this: Why? If you've already mastered the skills I'm teaching in this week's podcast, you might be crossing your arms, shaking your head a little, and thinking to yourself, "No is a complete sentence." But if like so many people you have been conditioned to justify yourself when you say no, you may actually be feeling a bit anxious and defensive and even involuntarily forming a response for this imaginary crazy person asking you for body parts. No is always an option. In fact, it's often the right option. But if you find it hard to just say no, you're not alone. Now, think about a more realistic situation in your life where you've said yes when every fiber of your being wanted to say no. Think about what it would have been like if you'd followed your instincts. And think about a time when you said no but felt guilty and felt the need to justify yourself and possibly even allowed that no to morph into a yes. What if you could retrain yourself to say no when it's the right and appropriate choice for you? How would that affect your esteem, your focus, even your health? In this episode I will help you identify why you hate saying no, recognize what always saying yes is costing you, and reveal three surprising truths about saying no that could immediately change your perspective...and your life.

https://youtu.be/VPeXXg1jwac   Hi, my name is Krylyn and I'm a good girl! Okay, to be perfectly honest, I'm a recovering good girl. Which is not to say that I'm a bad girl or no longer a good one or that being a good girl is bad or that being a bad girl is good. Deep. Breath. Got it? Probably not. Because this isn't an easy topic with black and white lines that you need to stay inside of. In fact, that's kinda the point. All that matters is whether or not you're the right kind of girl for YOU. I believe I probably popped out of the womb a good girl. In fact, I think they had a box labeled "Good Girl" ready and waiting for me. And instead of being handed to my mother to be held raw and new and pink and warm, the nurses gave her the box..with me in there somewhere. That box became mine. I owned it. I inhabited it. I stayed firmly inside the lines all through my childhood with very little exception. I did so because it was expected. I did so to survive. And I did so to the point where I got lost and redefined. When people looked at me, they saw only a box. I wore that box so obediently that when someone declared the box needed to change, I shape-shifted right along with it. No questions asked. No bumps in the road. Just me, being that good! Am I ringing your bells, triggering any aha! moments for you? If so, you need to listen to this episode. Right now! Unless of course you'd rather wait. But don't. Be a good girl one last time and let me guide you towards becoming the girl you truly are. Let me reintroduce you to the glorious girl inside your box. And let me help you decide for yourself what kind of girl you want to be!  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YrBS2TUtDA   If you've ever been in a dysfunctional relationship. If you don't always feel your power. If you find yourself being walked all over, used, abused, or just plain drained by how someone in your life is treating you, you might by in urgent need of Boundary Setting for Dummies! If you're ready to get in my face for insinuating that you might be a dummy, congratulations: You got boundaries! But if you're nodding your head, tearing up, and/or hoping desperately that I can guide you where others may have failed, read on. This podcast was made just for YOU. I'm sure you've heard this one before: "You teach people how to treat you". But what exactly does that mean? And who in their right mind would actively, knowingly teach someone to repeatedly knock the stuffing out of them? So here's the chase: You can choose to do it consciously from a place of balance and empowerment. Or you can obliviously bounce through situations, out of control, wondering why these things always happen to you. And if the latter is more your style, it's about freakin' time we gave you a boundary makeover...STAT! In episode 90, I walk you through 4 steps to setting boundaries. Chances are you already know them. And you've even employed them in various aspects of your life to varying degrees. But like the rest of us, you're human, with battle scars and blind spots and moments of low self esteem. And you have an arch enemy archetype. We all do. That certain type of person who's essentially your emotional kryptonite. It's very likely that you've not sat down calmly - from a place of strength - and consciously journeyed through these powerful game-changing exercises with your nemeses. So do it now! Listen to this podcast and start teaching everyone in your life exactly how you need to be treated. At the end of the day, this gift to yourself is actually the greatest gift you can give to everyone who truly respects you. As for anyone else....who needs 'em?

Ever have one of those days when everyone seems 100% committed to pushing your buttons and testing your boundaries? That overnight package got lost in the mail. You've wasted over 40 minutes of your lunch break on hold with an apathetic customer service representative trying to resolve a $3 issue. Meanwhile, your barista put herbal tea in your triple espresso. On a different day, you'd probably let these things go. But not today. Today you're ready to rumble. Some days you just wake up with your fight face on. You're ready to go 12 rounds with any fool who crosses your path. No one is safe. No one is spared. No one is getting out unscathed…not even you. Now I'm not saying that there's nothing out there worth going to the mat for; of course there are times you'll have to fight for what's right. But even then, you have choices. Even then you can decide how to approach the situation. Even then you can choose your battles wisely. And even then you can assess which battles are truly worth your energy…and which situations are better left behind as you consciously walk away. In this episode, I'll get down in the ring with you. We'll get real and explore some of the ways to gracefully manage that fight face. And I'll share 4 steps that you can take every time you hear that bell in your head, signaling another round. These tips will allow you to take control and make conscious decisions about when, how, and if you want to do battle. And best of all, they will help you transform the battles you do need to pursue into more pleasant negotiations. Imagine working with the post office to find your lost package and cooperating with customer service to quickly resolve billing discrepancies. Visualize walking away from those conflicts feeling warm and happy and knowing that you've helped others feel that way, too. Imagine hugging your barista…okay, maybe that's pushing it too far. After all, I pity the fool who messes with my latte! Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Have you ever lost a tooth? Of course! You lost a bunch of them. You were told to put them under your pillow at night while you slept. And instead of freaking out in terror that your own body parts would attack your face in your dreams, you were giddy and hopeful that some mythical, winged creature was going to daintily flit into your bedroom, reach under your head, take that useless hunk of bone, and replace it with cold, hard cash. It seemed perfectly logical. And you believed it right up until that aha! moment that shattered the illusion. Then the morbid ridiculousness of this bizarre ritual crystallized. You may have felt a bit confused, even betrayed. But you probably also experienced a sense of liberation. Now you knew the truth. The truth is calmer than lies. The truth isn't always pretty but it's always centered. The truth will indeed set you free. Because the truth is empowerment and possibility. It's objective, not personal. And it's the only place from where true change and transformation can begin. In spite of all that, you are lying to yourself right now. About what, I don't know. But I do know that the lies you tell yourself are likely rooted in the lies you grew up with. And I can confidently say that they are holding you back from fully embracing the life you deserve. That's right; even though they seem to offer comfort and prizes, those shiny little fairies are actually messing with your happiness. In this episode, I'm going to provide three steps to obliterate those fairytales from your life once and for all. I'll share the most powerful way I know to instantly uncover pure truth. And just like when you were a child, while it may sting initially, that pinch transforms into possibilities the moment you let the lies go. Are you ready to face the endless wonders on the other side of those ugly lies? Listen now because you deserve the beautiful truth. Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Remember when you were little and someone close to you would tell you how beautiful you were? Or smart, talented, sweet, etc. Maybe you even had a special nickname that lit you up like a fireworks show every time you heard it. What's more, you believed it. You allowed yourself to be enveloped in that admiration. And chances are, it manifested in your actions...even shaped your identity. You became more of whatever wonderful aspect of you was highlighted and celebrated by those around you. It's also likely that you experienced the polar opposite. Someone in your life - possibly even you - told you that you were lacking, inadequate, or even downright bad in some aspect of your life. And I'd bet that you lived up to that label as well. Here's the cold, hard truth: You rise or fall to your own perceptions and expectations, not to objective realities. If you believe you are beautiful, you are. And you will radiate that beauty into the world, regardless of your physical shape or state. If you know you are lovable, you are. Not just to yourself, but to others around you. So how easy is it to flip a switch and become the person you want to be - to yourself and to the world? The good news is that it's an elemental skill which you already possess and can summon any time. The challenging news is that it's a two-way switch and can revert to the off position anytime you allow yourself to become stuck in negativity, stress, or defeat. In this episode I walk you through 3 powerful exercises guaranteed to instantaneously flex your self-love muscle. And I provide a simple bonus step to provide a constant reminder to yourself that to know you truly is to love you. Listen now because it's high time to rediscover just how amazingly lovable you really are! Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Here it is, almost Valentine's Day again. And here I am, single. Like me, you may find yourself feeling a bit lonely, depressed, and unloved when this holiday rolls around. Even if you're in a relationship, if your sweetheart has gone tart, this holiday can leave you feeling empty, sad, and utterly disappointed. Let's face it: It's hard to feel worthy when you watch the parade of flower deliveries at the office, the sumptuous boxes of chocolates in the hands of the coupled, and glittery cards everywhere, brimming with red hearts and gooey sentiments. Valentine's Day is like the Memorial Day of the romantically disenfranchised. And all you can do is hunker down and bear it, hoping that next year will be different; next time you'll find love. Psych! If you're walking around feeling that way, you've been duped by the chubby little cherub in the diaper with the arrow. Hallmark has kicked your heart and submerged your brain in creamy nougat centers. You've lost touch with the indisputable, universal truth that you not only deserve to be loved, you already are! So why do you get caught up in the madness? Why do the holiday aisles filled with heart-shaped boxes and disturbingly adorable bears knock the stuffing out of you? How can such a blatant campaign for your February dollars suck you dry of hope, confidence, and well-being? It's all about truly understanding and embracing love. Not the store-bought substitutions or commercially viable alternatives. But true love. On your terms. The way you need to experience it. In this episode, we'll kick Cupid to the curb. I'm giving you 3 powerful exercises that'll reboot your heart with the myth-busting, expectation-smashing truths about love. And I've provided a quiz designed to instantly clarify what love truly means to you. Because when it comes to love, why wait when you can create? Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.