Perfectly You Podcast

Man, I hate failing. I hate to be embarrassed. I hate to be judged. I hate to worry about what others think.  But, what if our desire to avoid failing is actually holding us back?  What if failing is actually the key to success? Let's chat about this!   

When you receive criticism (aka: feedback), how does it make you feel?  Are you someone who is able to GROW through criticism?  Or, do you get OFFENDED by the criticism? I can assure you I've been in both camps & one way leads to growth & the other leads to playing a victim, staying "stuck," & sitting in self-pity.  So, would you like to know how to GROW rather than stay stuck (you're either growing or you're dying, so we may as well GROW!)...then, press PLAY!   

Why do I make the same mistake over & over again? Why don't I learn? Why can't I kick this? Why don't I get better? Why? Why? Why? Well, my fellow hoooo-mans, let's talk about this!  

Do you worry about the future? Your plans? Your week? How will you be able to get it all done? How can you ever check all of those boxes on your to-do list? If you do, guess what? I'd bet you have a pulse! Because you are doing what almost every other human does...so, let's chat about it!  

This episode may be for mature audiences only...I did tell it in a PG manner, but I am talking about mature subjects. Why does he think that he needs a special drink to have fun? This question rolled in my head… I used substances for things for far too long until I was freed from it. In an instant. Yep, I really did.  How did I do it? How did it happen? Was it easy?  Let's talk about my journey to becoming sober...I'm pulling the curtain ALLLL the way back today.   

You think you want something different, but you keep letting yourself down. You keep bailing on yourself. You keep failing.  Why?  I've been there & I remember EXACTLY what it was that made me finally ready to create change & became the catalyst for the change in my life...let's see if it might help you, too!  

I've known the areas or circumstances that "make me" get upset or feel "triggered." Quotes because y'all know that I don't believe that anyone can "make you" anything & that being "triggered" is entirely your choice, as well. But, that being said, I know the places that, if I'm not paying attention, I'll go where I don't want to & I'll likely behave in a way that will have me saying apologies later. What I didn't expect is the third part of today's episode. What I didn't expect was the obvious lesson that the Lord had for me...  

This world is full of helpful advice, isn't it?  Fall short? Just do better! Make a mistake? Just do better! Trip & skin your knees? Just do better! Miss the mark? Just do better! You get the idea...but, what if there WAS something helpful to help us "screw up" less?  Let's talk about a simple idea that is blowing my mind

Everyone wants to feel SEEN. Everyone wants to be noticed. Everyone wants to feel like they matter...have you ever thought: Don't they see me?  Don't they see how good of a job I'm doing? Don't they see how hard this is for me?  Don't they know that others would have quit by now?  Don't they SEE me?  Yeah, friend--me, too. Let's chat for a bit...  

When others do well, does it bother you? Are you able to clap when someone else wins? If they are successful, does that mean that you're not? Let's cut this concept apart today...let's talk about what's underlying it & what we can do about it...  

Do you ever wish that you could have a timeout?  Like, how cool would it be if WHEN you needed one, someone would come along & put you IN timeout? I mean, I'd be kinda ok with it.  Many times others see our signs of self-destruction before we do... What would it be like to pay attention to our thoughts & emotions to proactively do this for ourselves on purpose?  Let's chat about that one time I put myself in an adult timeout...  

When you're afraid, what is it that you say to yourself? When you don't know the next step, what phrases are you rattling off (out of unconscious habit) in your head? My guess is that they are not helping you get OUT of fear--rather, they are fueling the fire & making the fear more intense.  So, what can we do about it? My fraaaaand, I'm so glad you asked!  

Excuses. We all use them. All of the time.  Some we ditch & others tend to stick around.  Guess what makes them damaging & dangerous? When you BUY them. When you BELIEVE them. When you no longer know that they are excuses.  Ewwwwwww...let's dicuss this!

What matters most when you want to get GOOD at something?  Is it QUALITY or is it QUANTITY? Is perfection (quality) superior to quantity (number of reps)? I used to revere perfection & would stall & research until I could be perfect...which wasn't very fruitful...womp, womp, womp. So, what do we get to do to GROW? I'm glad you asked...let's chat!  

We can pinpoint it in others. It's easy to spot.  But, what about ourselves? Why is this harder to see? How can we reveal it (even though you may not really WANT to

What happens when something says something that could be true, BUT it contradicts your current belief system? What happens when you entertain the idea that it "could" be true. It "might" be true. What if it's true? I want you to think about your beliefs this week. To challenge what you believe to be true. To remember where the thought originated & if you chose to hang onto it out of fear, acceptance, social needs, etc.  And, to learn ONE phrase that just might set you up to challenge it all: Hmmmm, that's interesting.

Breakthroughs are part of the process. If you're growing, you're bound to have some breakthroughs & when they happen, you're going to want to tell someone! And, what happens when they don't get it? What happens when it's not that big of deal? What happens when they don't share in your AHA moments? Let's talk about breakthroughs and the shadow side of them...grab your air pods, let's chat!  

Are you proud of yourself? What are you MOST proud of? Does that question make you cringe? It used to make me cringe.  I wasn't proud of anything I did. I had a LOT of mindset work to do, so praise God for growth

Do you quit easily? Do you "throw in the towel" too easily or too often? In what area? You know the one...it's familiar to you, because you've done it over & over again. So, today, let's talk about what it looks like to examine our threshold for failure...pull up a chair!  

So, we've all heard it. To each one of us, it means something different.  And, before you get all worked up, just stick with me for a minute... Can we agree that we use words to create impact? Can we discuss our intent & motive behind those words? Ok...let's do just that...  

Why fit in when you were born to stick out? Why be a follower when you could be a leader? Why not swim upstream? What do all of these have to do with each other? To NOT follow the crowd.  Now, in today's world, this is tough. Especially when the career of "influencer" has erupted in recent years.  So, how can we be extraordinary in today's world? Let's chat about this...  

What happens when you don't know what to do? Or, maybe you're at the fork in the road, but don't know which way to go? Or, maybe you do know which way you think you should go, but you don't really WANT to? Now, we're getting warm, right?  Let's talk today about what it looks like to let God lead & some very real, raw moments in between!  

Two-faced. So many different versions of her...seems awful, right? What if that was the truth? And it was a GOOD thing? What if we all (if we're blessed) have MANY different versions of ourselves & we get to see them as the blessing that they are? You didn't get here today by chance, so how did the former versions of you contribute?  Let's explore how the former versions of us can teach us a thing or two! Join me...  

What is REALLY required? To get to the next level? To reach that promotion? To reach that next mile marker? What is required? Is it something new that you get to acquire? Or, is it something else? Pull up a seat...let's chat!  

Have you ever said something & it was TOTALLY misunderstood? Like, the person heard something completely different than what you intended? Can we say the root of the problems in the entire world could possibly be traced back to this one single thing? I'm all over the place today, but we are talking about being misunderstood, about disagreements, about self-coaching & about spiritual warfare...now, how's that for a growth buffet? I hope you're hungry! Let's dig in!

They said that? They did that? Can you believe it? How could they? What were they thinking? I'd never do that.  I'd never say that.  I'd never think that. How DARE they. Sound familiar? Sound like I'm in your head? It's because it was once my inner self-talk. Walking around being offended by E V E R Y T H I N G.  It's exasperating. It's exhausting. It's emotionally overwhelming. And, it's the norm for most people with a pulse.  Wanna find out how to live a life that is UNOFFENDABLE? Whelp...today is your day!  

What is your view like? Do you see the BIG picture, or are you missing out on it? Do you see miracles & blessings around you?  Do you feel like telling me, "cool bruh...that's not happening around me..." then, THIS is for YOU. What if it was as easy as changing your glasses? C'mon...let's chat!  

So, here I am dropping this episode a few days late, with an episode on patience...requires a bit of patience, amiright?  I recently learned that I'm not maybe quite as patient as I thought... Do you feel like you're patient? Do you like to serve others? Do you believe that you are generous? What if there are lessons for you TODAY in this episode? Let's talk patience, my friends!  

Life is gonna life us. I say it all of the time. So, when the waves come, how do we respond?  Do you like to crawl into the fetal position & say, "I'm out!" Or, do you stay standing? How have you shown up in the past when facing overwhelm? Would you like to grow in this area? Good, me too! Let's get to work!  

Did you know that more than 90% of our thoughts are recycled? Sayyyy whattttt? Yes, more than 90% of our thoughts are recycled, meaning that it's not an original thought. It's a thought that we've thought before. Likely, many times. And, even more likely, it's probably not a healthy or positive thought.

Do you wonder if you are REALLY growing? Are you REALLY putting in the reps? Does what you're doing REALLY matter? I think we can get wrapped up in measuring our progress {or trying to?

It's not THAT big of a deal, is it? It's not THAT deep, is it? It's just a comment, right? I was just joking, honestly.  What on earth am I talking about here?  Today's episode is inspired by my 11-year-old, Kash Charlie, who spotted this limiting belief from a mile away...not literally, but you get the idea.  Is our language innocent? Do our words hold power? Why don't you take a listen & hear just what my 11-year-old picked up on!  

What does it take to be successful? What do successful people do? How do they behave? Are they different than "other" people? What if you could make one small shift that could create mighty change in your life, leading you to success?  In marriage. In fitness. In business. In parenting. In mental health. In emotional health. In spiritual health.  Let's talk about it...  

How is value assigned? What makes something valuable? Is it the worth that someone assigns? Is it the "fair market value?" Does it fluctuate? Does it change? Is it in the eye of the beholder? What if it can be fluid (ever-changing) AND permanent, depending on what we're discussing? Let's have a valuable chat, my friends!  

Do you show up for others?  Do you show up for yourself? Does being "locked in" to a plan give you the eeebie jeebies? If you have trouble honoring your commitments? If you've ever been there, this show is for you!  Another raw, real episode that gives you a peek behind the curtain of imperfection...in order to honor a commitment to myself, & to my Savior, Jesus Christ.  Come along with me, my friend...let's talk.  

What if you don't desire to follow the person who is leading? What if they aren't a "good" leader? What if you just don't like them? Can we be honest with one another? Sometimes we just don't want to follow someone else...but, why? Is that good? Bad? What if there is no right or wrong answer here, but there is something to learn?

If you're leading ANYone & you're not asking this question, you may want to stop, ask, pivot & change course.  Why do all of that? Because your leadership may be INeffective...& if you're leading someone, you want to lead on PURPOSE...not on ACCIDENT. So, what is it & why is it important? In this episode, we'll talk about what to ask, why to ask it & what will happen to your leadership if you choose to NOT ask "the question."  Grab your fave beverage {mine happens to be pink

Time is our non-renewable resource. Once a minute has passed, we do not get it back again. What would it look like to not be afraid of this fact & rather, embrace it? What would it look like to take a look through a new lens? What would it look like to have a last day perspective? Let's find out

The highs & the lows. We're all very familiar, right? Compliment? HIGH.  Insult? LOW. Someone buys our lunch? HIGH. Someone rear ends us after that bought lunch? LOW. It's up & down. Up & down. Up & down. All day lonnnnnnng. So, how can we get off of the rollercoaster?

Do you worry a lot? Would you say you are a "worry wart?" Or, did you "used" to be a worrier & think that you've grown. It's less of a problem than it used to be? If you're like me & an average human, you may fit BOTH of the above categories...so, what to do?? Whelp, let's dig in & chat about that!

Remember those soap operas & all of that drama? Right when things settle, BAM, something gasp-worthy happens & we're all on the edge of our seats! Well, I wish that I was talking about what you see on daytime TV, but in reality, we all have a bit of this inside. In fact, if you've never taken an honest look at your life, you have no idea just how much you are the lead actor AND also the director, AND the writer...womp, womp, womp. Actually, no need to sulk! We get to choose out of this...wanna know how? I'm so glad you asked...let's chat!   

Have you tried & failed? Do you feel stuck? Do you do the things & you just cannot get ahead? Do you want change, but you just don't know how or why good things don't happen for you & to you? I've thought all those thoughts. I've felt stuck. I've failed. I've wondered why all the good things are not happening for me. I believe this will bless you today ❤️  

Are you thinking too small? Believing that it's just not for you? Do you rule out that something will work before you even try? What if you could expand your mind? What if you could see that it's possible? What if it already is? Pull up a seat...let's chat about this!  

I'm stuck. My business isn't growing. My savings isn't growing. My kids don't listen to me. My waistline isn't shrinking.  I'm stuck...& there's no way out...or, is there? What if the solution was SO much easier than you think? Let's unpack this together...  

What will people talk about at your funeral? Or your retirement? Or for your next promotion? Will it be your "good intentions?" Or, will it be all of the other things that you intended to do & you actually DID? Let's talk about this very thing TODAY...but, first: Grab your spot for today's workshop: Breaking Free...from the chains that bind you!  **disclaimer: this episode was done in order to move forward & NOT live a life of "good intentions," so my location & equipment created some sketchy reception & spottiness in a few areas...however, I believe the Lord's message is still clear

Do you have a friend group that you trust? Sisters? Chosen sisters? That you can grow with? That you can be honest with? That you can be fully transparent with? Like, really, TRULY, transparent with? Letting all the fake filters fall? Let's dig into an inspiring way to grow with your sisters!  

God will go to any length to get ahold of you, amiright? What if He would send you across the country & re-route you to spend the night in a Greyhound station?  Would He do that? Whelp...let's see what He's done.

Have you ever wondered if our luxuries & conveniences could be damaging? Could the things that you use daily for day-to-day life be causing "damage?" Have you ever wondered how much we are a product of our own choices? Y'all, I'm ready to dive into this with you today...let's chat.  

The squeeze is on. Life is coming atcha. You're stressed...nearing burnout

When life puts on the squeeze, what comes out of you?  Life is gonna LIFE you, but when that happens, what will your response be?  If your "sandwich board" of life is selling lemons, we better see lemon juice when the squeeze comes. But, my guess is it's not lemonade. If you're like any other human, you've got some work to do in this department, so let's dig in together!  

What is your response when someone compliments you?  Do you say "thank you" with a side of stinkin' thinkin' {I wonder what they want?}? What if I told you that we all miss out & you're bound to until you decide to LOOK around? Let's get into this because I don't want you to miss out! {see what I did there?