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Eating fast food every day is bad for you. And so is the leadership behavior of putting off addressing issues with your team because it isn't convenient. In today's conversation, we compare eating junk food in relation to not making team decisions that serve your higher good. Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/thisisleadershipschool.com

There's always something to do if you want to fill your time, but is that the best use of your life? What if you could learn how to optimize your time so that you:Perform at a higher rate - to make better use of your time Enjoy more time off - to make better use of your life“You are way more powerful than your brain wants you to realize.” -- Vikki Louise Are you willing to “break” some rules to find out what you are capable of?Join in on today's podcast as we learn some time-hacking tips from time and productivity expert, Vikki Louise (@vikkilouise___). 

What do you do when you have a team member or contractor who is not meeting their deadlines or keeping their commitments?How do you tactically deal with this issue without it feeling so hard having to address problem areas with your employees?Step 1: Assess the problem Identify the facts of the situation. What is it that has not been done? State it very clearly and factually without any narrative from you (what you think about them for not having done the task)Step 2: Determine if the problem is skills related or behavioral If it is a skillset problem this means they are missing out on a resource or intelligence to complete the task. Maybe they need some more training or direction. Or maybe they need a new tool or computer. If it is a behavior issue this means that they are not lacking ability, they are not performing in a certain manner that is needed to fulfill the job. This could be a lack of manners in dealing with clients or team members. This could be an attitude problem. Step 3: Choose your direction Once you know what type of problem it is, you address it appropriately. If it is a mix of both, skillset and behavior, be sure, to begin with, behavior. Because if someone is not willing to fix their behavior it serves you no good to fix their skills. They are someone who needs to be let go for a better team player. Listen in on the podcast as I break this down more and give you some examples of each type of problem and how you can address them with your team member if needed. Last tip: Don't let problems fester. Address them promptly and directly. I give you some tips in the podcast on this as well, but bottom line you need some clear values and expectations in place for your company and each role, so you can make this easier. If that is something you need help with, join This is Leadership School. We will help you set those up for your team. http://thisisleadershipschool.com/ 

When you become a leader it's more than taking on the title or stepping in to that role. A great leader embodies the leadership characteristics that make a difference. A strong leader learns how to overcome fear and doubt to keep taking action. A confident leader knows how to make decisions and remain clear to avoid overwhelm. A powerful leader does it all not for themselves, but because they know the world needs them to rise up. That they have value to bring that the world (or your market) needs from you. Notice how all of these traits are internal. They are all things you have to become or embody to be a leader. That is because...Leadership begins with you!Join me for this short episode about inspiring the leader in you! Want to access more resources for your leadership? Visit the site:http://thisisleadershipschool.com

How do you own the leadership role of your business? There's more to it than just being the owner/founder. Dive into today's episode as I ask you some tough love questions to help you see which category of business owner you fall into. Please leave a podcast review on iTunesAnd connect with me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/

Welcome to This is Leadership School. Note: For all existing followers -- this is a shift in name and a slight shift in messaging from the original podcast. -------This is Leadership School is all about empowering you as the leader of your business (even if it's just a vision in your mind) to embrace your power and become all you can be. If you are a leader in a business -- managing a team -- this is for you too. All leaders are welcome as we dive into how to make leadership feel more enjoyable and less overwhelming. As we switch hustling and stress for structure and confidence. ---------Follow along on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/ 

Are you willing to go all-in now and reap the benefits of your decisions? OR Do you prefer to defer your result and wait until say…retirement? This is just one of the concepts presented in the amazing book, “The 4-Hour Workweek.” Today we’re breaking down the primary concepts presented by Timothy Ferris in this book and addressing how they apply to your coaching business. This will give you some perspective for how you want to set up your business to run smoother, easier, and automated for your freedom and success. Connect with me on Instagram at www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef and send me a DM to let me know a book you would recommend. You can get the free resource to help you plan out your business on my Instagram page too or visit: https://stefanieedwards.com/resources

Today's episode is special guest Teasi Cannon, author of "Lord, Where's My Calling?" She's here to help us uncover our calling. She also offers some great advice with following through on writing the book you've been putting off and how you can learn to lean into your calling when you connect with those you will impact. This is a fantastic conversation that also includes some comments about the Biblical faith and worldview Teasi and I share.  To find more about Teasi or grab a copy of her book visit: https://www.teasicannon.com/Are we connected on Instagram? Drop me a DM and say Hi @marketingwithstef.

Getting people to show up to your online workshop is more than just making them aware of the date and time. If you want more people joining you live on your training, try following these four steps.1. Use boosted Facebook Events to garner more traffic2. Promote well in advance3. Have a more appealing offer to attend4. Encourage live participationToday's podcast includes a conversation I had with Life Coach Michelle Joiner about her recent webinar. Join in as we break down her response and I offer some suggestions for getting more leads and connections. Want to be a guest and get some help with your marketing? DM me on Instagram and make your request. https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/

Do you feel embarrassed that you want more out of your life?Feeling ashamed that you want to do something else or be something more than what you have already accomplished. Thinking it’s somehow selfish to desire more for yourself. If you have felt like this — ever — then today’s guest interview with life coach Michelle Joiner will inspire you. Michelle shares tips on how she keeps her confidence tank full and doesn’t allow herself to get caught in the comparison trap. Because no one else knows your walk in life as you do. What you think and feel. Allowing the emotions, no matter what people think they know of our life, is freedom for yourself to live your life on your terms in the way you want.“You must do the thing, you think you cannot do.” — Eleanor Roosevelt Imagine living into new possibilities for your life and business. What would you do if nothing was stopping you? --------------Let me know what you thought of this episode or reach out to request a complimentary 30-minute marketing assessment. Connect on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/ Want to learn more about the relationship coaching Michelle offers, visit her at: https://www.instagram.com/totalpackagelifecoach/ -------------Want to talk marketing and get a free assessment for your business? Let me know you're interested. Complete this quick form: https://marketingwithstef.typeform.com/to/gkA4ZO1n 

There is nothing wrong with proving yourself.When you apply for a job — you first have the belief in your abilities that you could do this but you still have to nail the interview to get the job. What does that require? Proving yourself to the hiring manager — convincing them you are worth taking a risk on. When you try out for a team — not everyone makes it — only the best who fit the needs of the team — that the coach sees the most potential in — make the cut. You know what it requires to get there — proving yourself to the coach. But before you try out for the team, before you apply for the job, or the mastermind, etc. You first have to believe in yourself and your ability. You have to believe you are worth it to apply, to take the interview, to keep trying, even if, because things are going to get scary, nerve-wracking, intense, etc. And your belief in yourself has to be solid if you are ever going to convince anyone else that you have what it takes to join their team, work with them, guide them, etc. Do you believe in yourself and your ability -- enough you could prove it to someone else?Listen in on this episode for insight to what you think about yourself and how you put yourself out there to prove it to get what you want. Connect with me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/ Drop me a DM if you want to talk about what you feel after listening to this episode.

Do you feel the freedom to be more than one thing in your life? Be more than a mom, a wife, an employee, coach, etc.? Rather than treating yourself as a failure for trying to live up to a “should be” ideal what if you can remember you are valuable and capable of choosing to define your role in life in the way that best suits you and your interests?Join me for a podcast conversation with special guest Jessica Ambuehl – a woman who embraces diversity in her career taking on different roles and paces to feed her creative outlets and passions. As a photojournalist she travels regularly - internationally, embracing different types of projects, as she interacts with people in a variety of ways, being willing to explore, recognize, and value the diversity in different cultures. Jessica shares how you can have a bigger identity than any one role or label. And how we can be different than a typical role or stereotype to embrace our personal passions and fulfill who God has made us to be. Connect with me on Instagram and drop me a DM at: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/Find out more about special guest, Jessica Ambuehl at: https://www.instagram.com/jessicaambuehl

The results that you are having are directly connected to the thoughts you are creating. In other words, whatever you are thinking is creating / providing / giving you the outcome or results that you have. I recently listened as a client explained a recent launch that yielded seven new customers. Rather than being delighted with these results, she was upset, because she had been aiming for about four times that amount. When she sat down to debrief after the experience she began exploring what had happened, which gave her these results. She looked at her thoughts and her feeling of confidence and felt secure that she was on the right path to creating the results she wanted. But there was a disconnect she wasn’t seeing. Do you know what it was? What she currently believed — even though positive and leading to a feeling of confidence — was not a good enough feeling to get her the bigger results. So when she started taking action from this thought and believe she did the actions that yielded seven new clients instead of actions that yielded 40. Do you see the mind magic in this revelation? Sometimes you can have a positive, encouraging, empowering thought, but it is only good enough to get you to point A when you really want to go to point E or F. If you want to achieve bigger, greater, results you have to uplevel the thought, the feeling, and the actions as well. Get free resources to help you grow your life coaching business: https://stefanieedwards.com/resourcesConnect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/

How are you looking to the past to decide your future?What if you can just determine your future — by creating it in your imagination right now?It is possible. You can decide anything for your future and it doesn’t have to defined by what has or has not happened in your past. It is the self-belief you have to choose first. “We think we have to create the result before we actually get to believe we are the kind of person who can do that thing.” — Krista St-GermainHow can you be confident in something you have never done?What if you can leverage the idea that it is possible, that you can be capable of it, to show up and try, and fail, and try again. And gradually you develop the confidence that you can do it, as you lean into the capability. Listen to today’s episode with special guest, Master Certified Life Coach Krista St-Germain.  Connect with me on Instagram and let me know what you think about the podcast and who you'd like me to interview in the future. https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/ 

Why is it that the success you had working for an employer, is not translating to working for yourself? In this episode we cover a few reasons this is happening and help you see how you can overcome these issues, learn how to have your own back, and create the structure you need to work on your own, for yourself. To help you start setting up your own coaching business with success, download the free resource guide: https://stefanieedwards.com/setupbusinessguide 

Today we have a special guest, Master Certified Life Coach, Krista St-Germain, join us for a conversation about believing in what's possible in your life. We chat about what it is like to love yourself before setting a goal. Imagine what impact that could have on you? Verses thinking that if you love yourself as you are that means you won’t ever change or that you will just accept things as they are and stay stuck. What if you could decide what needs to change in our lives comes only after you learn to love yourself as you are? This is an amazing conversation that will help you acknowledge where you're at currently and help you see the possibility available to you from here. Loving this episode and special guest -- reach out on Instagram and drop a DM to let us know what you enjoyed. Connect with me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/Connect with Krista on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/

In today's episode, we cover the distractions that are plaguing the growth of your new coaching business and help you set your target so you have the needed structure to succeed in achieving your income goals.  This is a fun episode full of examples of how you can improve your productivity, focus, and grow your business with more ease. You can also get your free resource to practice the concepts discussed at https://stefanieedwards.com/setupbusinessguide And connect with me on Instagram -- I'd love to hear from you. https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/ 

Responding to the news is not a common practice for me, but today we explore an interesting new story about a massive cargo ship that has lodged itself (aka gotten stuck) in the Suez Canal. And before we know the outcome - the solution to this problem - we are going to look at the ramifications of what has happened and draw some parallels back to your business. 1. What is your contingency plan for your business, should anything catastrophic stop you from being able to operate?2. What "tug boats" can you put in place (small, but mighty actions) to help you move forward and help you achieve your big results? Join me for this unique conversation on business and marketing around the shocking results of the massive cargo ship getting stuck in the Suez Canal. Then jump on Instagram and share your thoughts with me. Let me know what stuck out to you and what you plan to work on now. https://www.instagram.com/marketingforlifecoaches/ Here is the link to get your free guide: https://stefanieedwards.com/setupbusinessguide 

In this episode, we’re going to help you run your life coaching business with ease and simplicity that feels fun right from the start. How? By avoiding these three pitfalls, so many new life coaches fall in to:Being unfocused and wasting time Lacking clarity and procreating instead of addressing the bigger issuesRefusing to commit to their business and direction And then of course there is always the mind drama that might pop up and prevent you from moving forward. But in this episode, we are calling out the three ways your business approach could be hurting you. Tell me where you're at in your business and let me know any questions I can answer for you. Send me a DM on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/. I would love to answer your question on a future episode. 

Do you ever get caught up rehashing a conversation on repeat in your mind, trying to find another solution, another way that it could have gone? I have done that a couple of times this week and to be completely honest, it has not helped. The challenge with having a conversation replay in your head is that you are making your brain do double duty. One you are asking your brain to recall the conversation as closely as possible to how it originally happened.But oftentimes, it is adapting or changing in your mind as you put on emphasis on the parts that trigger you. Your brain is also crafting your emotional reaction as you think about the conversation. And lastly, you are attempting to analyze the conversation while replaying it in your mind. So much effort, for so little result. Join this conversation as we address the problems with rehashing a conversation and offer you some practical solutions to move forward when you're ready. For MORE HELP:If you want some more help working through this reach out to me. You can email me at coach@unworthythoughts.com Or message me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/And don’t forget to follow me on TikTok for daily inspiration, challenge questions, and lots of fun. https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachingwithstef

The only person I ever can control is me. I know this. I share this with my clients. Yet, in my role as a mother, I somehow blocked this from my knowledge.I had to come back to realizing that my children cannot give me what I need. Good or bad. I must be responsible for creating what I need for my life. I am the one who creates my peace of mind. I am the one who decides to be calm and collected. I am the one in control of myself. For all the positive attributes. I am the one in control. My thoughtsMy emotionsMy well-being My peace My confidence My joy My beliefs My creativity For all my negative attributes. I am the one in control. My triggers My rageMy frustrations My annoyances My limitations My strugglesMy sinsMy inability to focus It is not what my children do that takes away from or adds to my control. It is how I choose to respond to what they do and what I make it mean in my life. Here's a link to my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachingwithstefHere's a link to my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/

If you want to live with my intention and strive to fulfill your purpose, then you need to learn how to manage your brain. Taking control of the thoughts you allow it to dwell on and stressing which ones you want it to absorb and take root with. Otherwise, you will just be running after the next thought that pops in good or bad, most often negative. It is your job to overcome juggling thoughts. Only you have control of your mind. You can develop the skill to filter out the noise and think on purpose — with very intentional thoughts. You will have the ability to call it out for what it is, and move onward without being discouraged and upset. This is how you can transform yourself from thinking you are unworthy to believing you are amazing and worthy of respect and success. Listen in on this episode as I give you a couple of examples for how this works in your life and what you can do about it. --------------------------------Ready to discover how you really feel about yourself? Reserve your free exploration call. Email me at coach@unworthythoughts.com--------------------------------Here's a link to my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachingwithstefHere's a link to my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/ Ready for some amazing coaching? Start off in the group for just $47/month!https://stefanieedwards.memberships.msgsndr.com/offers/7f4046c7-0d0c-4adc-b283-d517b1804542

Here's the link to the group coaching I mention at the end of the podcast: https://stefanieedwards.memberships.msgsndr.com/offers/7f4046c7-0d0c-4adc-b283-d517b1804542Here's a link to my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifecoachingwithstefHere's a link to my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/ -----------------Happy New Year everybody. I’m dropping this episode a day later in the week so I can celebrate the new year with you.It can be so transformational for you when you can open your mind up to explore the other options. To see things from a different perspective and imagine what could be. That is where real change can start to happen. But far too many of us are stuck with the same viewpoint most of our lives. Things hardly ever shift or change because we don’t challenge ourselves to take on a new viewpoint. I want to explore the options more and more in the new year. What about you? Think about this — what in your life right now feels too tight, too small, too out of alignment? Maybe it used to work, but right now it no longer seems to serve its purpose? This may be the area of your life you want to start exploring first. It could be a simple shift in your thoughts or it might be a bigger change in your life that will yield your new possibilities, but it first begins by being able to explore the options. To open your mind to a different way of thinking. To help you get started, think over the issue or pinpoint and clearly visualize the challenge. Now write it down at the top of a sheet of paper. Underneath that write down all the reasons for why you want change to happen in this area. Stay focused on this one issue only. And keep exploring and letting out all the reasons why you want something different. Even explore what you believe the difference would create for you. Doing this exercise can reveal a lot about what you are thinking — maybe even reveal some things you hadn’t considered before and then give you some new vantage points. Because when you see why you won't change, but you haven’t been willing to move towards the change before, maybe now your reasons why will override your desire to stay where you are. Getting in touch with why you want to change can help you uncover a driver or motivation to help you achieve it. That my friend is why we take time to explore our thoughts and see how we feel. It is so revealing of what you have going on and in helping you find peace by moving out of conflict with yourself. Blessings to you for an amazing new year full of new possibilities and new perspectives.

Despite the fact that your nose sits right above your mouth, most of the time, you cannot smell your own breath. Someone else can come near you and immediately smell if your breath is foul, but you can't pick up on it on your own. I find this so interesting. And it relates so well to how you process your own thoughts about yourself and the things going on in your life. Just like your nose to your mouth, you are so close to your own thoughts that you can't even discern them with clear objectivity. Whereas you can often see clearly to support and encourage someone else, you can't seem to treat yourself with the same compassion. Whereas you think there are no other options, and you are just stuck, when in fact there are multiple possibilities but you're too close to your own thoughts to see it any other way. This is the power of life coaching with me. It lets you see your thoughts clearly and offer yourself some fresh perspective.

What are you capable of?This week I am on vacation — on what was supposed to be a sort of sabbatical. A time alone by myself to reflect and tackle some projects in a big way. I planned some major goals for myself that I was super excited about because I knew there would be no distractions. I would be 100% in charge of my schedule and have the space to get things done the way I wanted without pressure to show up for work or family in a particular way. But then I changed things. I decided to take my oldest child with me. It was 100% the right decision, I don’t doubt that at all. This time — just the two of us — is amazing. But he is also a major distraction and a detour in my goals I set. I was getting coached on this very topic yesterday because I have been struggling to find balance in my schedule. I don’t need to work all day, nor do I want to while I am on vacation, but I do want to put in four hours of work and get the projects and coaching done that I need to accomplish. And my child acts like I am working 24/7. My spending 15 minutes on something feels like a couple of hours to him. He has no sense of time. Why do I share all this? Because it has caused me to reevaluate. And I want to share what I have learned from this experience that can help you. I could remain in resistance to my actual reality. Meaning, I could keep wanting to get these big projects done and work uninterrupted for four hours per day. Which by the way is what I thought this vacation was going to be like. That was my expectation. However, because I made the shift and brought my son along, I ended up with a different reality than I had planned. Yet, I had continued to think things should be the same as if he wasn’t here. Do you see the struggle in that thinking? I was causing myself pain by holding on to a thought of how it should be and thus having resistance to how it actually is. How are you limiting your possiblity?What could you really be capable of?

“Ok, but if I take a shower, do I have to wash my body?”This was the response I received from my child when I asked him for the third time to go take a shower. Immediately I found this comment hilarious because it struck me as an example of how we begrudgingly go through the motions sometimes without making an impact. Just like you might go through the motions of standing in the water - without applying the soap and doing the actual scrubbing to get clean. You might show up for an event but not actually take the action of engaging with anyone to make a difference for your business. You might do some busy work to feel productive throughout the day - checking emails, doing research, etc. but not actually producing a real impact. When my child tried to get out of taking a shower by opting to not wash his body, he wasn’t doing anything most of as adults don’t do regularly. He was just looking to satisfy my request without actually having to do the work. I know I have done that from time to time at work and in my own business building. How about you?

Say goodbye to a mediocre life - Discover how to live with purpose! This episode is short but it is a powerful precursor to the new free "Discover Your Purpose" mini course. My treat for you -- helping you love yourself, believe in your worth, and find your purpose! http://stefanieedwards.com/purpose

Recently I was on a coaching session for myself, when I told my coach “I struggle with indecision. I get caught up in indecision and struggle to take action.”Yes! This can still happen to you even when you are actively being coached. Because we are all works in progress. The amazing thing that came out of opening up and sharing this during my coaching session, what how it revealed what I thought about myself. I was describing my struggle as a statement of fact. I was saying it like I would tell you that I am a woman. I am tall. I have brown eyes. I was telling her that I am just someone who gets caught up in indecision. Y’all this is not a personality trait that I want to make a fact of my existence. That was the first thing coaching on this topic did for me. It helped me discover how I was defining indecision in my life. Secondly, we explored the topic further and it allowed me to decide consciously how I did want to think about myself. Because when you take control of your thoughts - you have the power to decide what you think instead of allowing your subconscious to determine your course of action. So for me, I wanted to stop thinking of myself as someone who gives into indecision. That is not how I want to define myself. Instead, I want to think of myself as someone who has the intelligence and confidence to make a decision and move forward. My goal on top of that is to be the woman who takes massive action. So then I spent some time with my coach breaking down what that means for me. Why? Because it helped me strengthen my new belief and see how it was possible for me to connect with it. What about you? What are you saying about yourself that you don’t even realize you are accepting as fact? Maybe some independent reflection will help you discover what you’re saying, but I challenge you to explore how a coaching session can help you hear the things you are saying that you don’t hear for yourself. This happens to people all the time. We just say things as fact. And sometimes on our own, it can be challenging to pick up on those instances and call them out. That’s the beauty of life coaching. Just like working with a swim coach can help you improve your technique and make swimming easier and more effective. At least that’s how it worked for me. I thought I was swimming great until I started working with a coach and discovered how hard I had been making in on myself. No wonder I could never swim long distances. After making the modifications and necessary improvements my behavior and the way I thought of myself as a swimmer transformed. It happens all the time in coaching related to our bodies, to our athletic performance, to our jobs, so why not for your personal life and mindset? This is the root and foundation of everything else you do in life. Doesn’t it make sense to spend time working through your beliefs about yourself and crafting the best version of yourself possible? Connect with me on Instagram if you haven’t already. I am creating IG Reels that challenge you to think about your life. I dropping short bursts of value in challenge questions, thought-provoking ideas, and coaching nuggets. It is the ideal way to give yourself 30 seconds of mental work for the day. That’s an easy commitment you can give yourself and then you can work on building up your ability to sit with your thoughts and digest how you think about yourself. https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/

Why I jumped out of an airplane to give up on worry and how you too can find freedom from indulgent emotions. Today's episode is about finding new possibility on the other side of the emotions you have become too comfortable with -- those indulgent emotions that keep you stuck. Indulgent emotions often feel familiar or “true” because we embrace them and welcome them into our live quite frequently. They become a regular part of our way of thinking and we start to accept them as just the way things are.Let’s take confusion over making a decision as an example. To be more specific let’s say you are confused about which niche to take to grow your coaching business. Confusion seems like something we just have or even that it’s a part of our journey - vs. accepting that we don’t have to indulge in confusion. Just like we don’t have to indulge in another glass of wine or bowl of ice cream. We get to decide what we consume - whether that is what we eat or what we think. Indulgent emotions — we don’t break up with them because we want to manipulate a reality that gives us exactly what we want — without requiring ourselves to own up and take responsibility for how we want to feel. Your indulgent emotion blocks you from experiencing the result you want. Indulgent emotions keep us stuck and unable to move forward.How will you challenge your indulgent emotions so they don’t keep you stuck? Identify which emotions you are indulging inExamine why you indulge Decide if you would like to stop and move forwardCreate a plan of action to prevent further indulgence from holding you back Connect with me on Instagram and tell me what emotion you want to break up with so you can start moving forward in life. https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/

In today’s special podcast, I interview realtor Sam Staskal who recently shared a video of her laughing at herself over an embarrassing situation. The video went viral for so many reasons because of the connection people felt when watching. In our raw conversation, Sam shares about the experience of laughing in the moment, what it has been like connecting with others through this viral video, and how she keeps a positive outlook even through her struggle with depression.We dive into some powerfully honest topics such as:Addressing body image issues — related to being overweight Responding to negative comments from haters on the Internet Moving past the fear of rejection Focusing on the positive no matter the circumstances Shifting your perspective to take on new challenges & roles The power of smiling and laughing Listen in for a conversation that will enrich your day and have you laughing along with Sam and me. Connect with me on Instagram and send me a message: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/

Does showing up for work suck the life right out of you? Do you wish there was more for you? It’s not too late to make a change. In fact, I encourage you to do, but first, take time to know why you want the change in your life. Why do you want that for YOU?Not because someone else encouraged you Not because someone said you couldn’tNot because your 12-year-old self wanted it But because YOU right now in the moment - want this for yourself? What is the reason driving your desire?That is your WHYAnd that WHY is a bigger motivation than earning the title, the role, the income, or even the outcome.

Why are you struggling to find your voice as a coach?I want to challenge you to take a look at what is holding you back and why you can’t move forward with growing your coaching practice because you haven’t yet found your voice as a coach. Note - I say voice differently than a niche. Your niche is the area you will serve. Your voice as a coach is your leadership energy - your unique appeal that attracts clients to you. In this episode we will discuss three reasons you haven't yet found your voice as a life coach:1. You are struggling to believe in yourself and the value you have to offer2. You struggle because you are wrapped up in indecision 3. You are imposing someone else’s model on yourself Using the questions presented throughout this episode, how can you start exploring your thoughts about your own voice? How can you start to move towards your self-confident discovery of knowing who you are as a coach and how you bring value to your clients? Have we connected on Instagram yet? I want to help you believe in yourself, find your voice, and share it with the world to grow your coaching practice.Follow me at https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/ and then drop me a direct message and let me know how I can serve you by answering your questions on the podcast.

Looking to the past to guide your future will not take you very far, because your past self doesn't know what you need for the future. You have to learn how to create the thoughts that will carry you forward, that will create change, and help you conquer your fears. You have to learn how to embrace and embody your new thoughts. Learn how to work through what has held you back. Clean up the unworthy thoughts. Create the new powerful thoughts that will guide you like a compass. This is the power of life coaching! Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/

Operating your business on your own can be challenging enough but as a woman, your menstrual cycle can complicate things. It can make decision making more stressful. It can wear down your energy and clarity. It can wipe out full days of productive action. But knowing it is coming and acknowledging the impact it has on you can help you take preventative action that allows you to accommodate your period, grant yourself grace, and still keep moving forward in your business. Reflect with me in this episode on how your period is impacting your life and business and what you can do to better prepare and protect yourself from the range of hormones, emotions, and physical complications. Come connect with me on Facebook in the group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/965361500541770Or catch up with me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/marketingwithstef/

Think of trying on new thoughts just like trying on clothes. Sometimes you walk into the dressing room and are so blown away by the outfit you don’t even want to take it off. Do you know what I mean? I have walked up to the checkout counter before and asked them to scan an item I am wearing because I am so attached to it. At other times, I like something but not enough to spend my money on it. Somethings just not right, and I am willing to wait and see if I still want it later. And at other times it doesn’t fit or look right so it is a definite no. You have probably experienced a shopping experience like this. You know what this is like standing in front of the mirror. Now do this as you consider new thoughts. Even now as you are listening to this podcast about testing out different thoughts, you can try this on and see how you like it. Are you open to the possibility or do you feel like you are right where you need to be and no change is necessary?Join the Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/965361500541770 Want more info on the upcoming beach retreat? Join the Facebook group. Come message me in the group.

Do you ever make things more complicated then they need to be?Do you find yourself sometimes adding steps to projects or going back to re-do and improve something before you are ready to release it to the market? This is making things more complicated. This is an unconscious stall tactic to prevent yourself from having to be open for business. Think about it this way. If your project stays under construction, it’s not ready to go to the market. This means you also have more time to mentally and emotionally prepare for the potential reaction that may come. The judgment you may believe is inevitable. The rejection is possible. The fear that will rise up. There are so many reasons that leave us spinning in unproductive action. Listen to today's episode as we discuss how you might be complicating and putting off action in your business. Join the Facebook group for marketing and mindset tips and direction for your business: https://www.facebook.com/groups/965361500541770

A month ago I set a goal for my business and shared it with my accountability group. It was a goal that was obtainable but definitely challenging. It would cause me to have to uplevel myself and figure out how to do so. It was a big goal that made me gulp at the possibility of what that would mean for me to hit that marker. And that is how I believe a goal should be set. If we set goals that we know are within our reach 100% of the time, we aren’t challenging ourselves out of our comfort zone. Do you see that? If I say I will do one sit up every day this week, that’s hardly a challenge. Most people can manage to do one sit up. And a goal should never be what you can just manage to do on a normal basis. A goal should cause you to have to dig down in yourself to figure it out and come up with the strength and determination to make it happen. The goal I set gave me one month to complete. It was a new level of success for me and it was something I did not have a clear answer for how I was going to get it done. So what were my results? In the simplest of terms, I did not achieve my goal. But I did figure out how to make it possible. And now I know that if I work this plan moving forward, I can hit the mark. I just got done journaling my results from the last month. All the things I did to try and hit my goal. All the shifts I made in my thinking, my business model, and my actions. And y’all it is amazing to look back and how much has happened and what has shifted since I made this goal. All of this is amazing goodness that will make me stronger moving forward and help me build a solid framework for future growth. I am excited about the possibilities of moving from here. I am going to keep the same goal and give myself another month to achieve it. Now with my new insights, protocols, and actions in place, I can see clearly how I can achieve it. So I challenge you to look at what you have going on in your life - or what you wish you had. What goal do you want to set for yourself that pushes you out of your comfort zone? What is the goal that makes you question how it is possible and leaves you a little nervous about your ability to achieve it? So what is your goal going to be? Join the new Facebook group and share your goal with us.

In order for you to take action and actually do the things you want to do in life, there are two elements that have to be in place in your life. You have to believe you are capable of doing the desired course of action You feel empowered to take action This is a part of the reason I created the ACE Method for my clients. ACE stands for Acceptance / Clarity / Empowerment. Once you have acceptance for what is in your life and what you are in control of you can develop clarity for how you want to move forward and take action which means you are ready to work on the final step of feeling empowered and capable to do so. I worked with a client recently who could believe in their ability to do something, had past evidence of having done the things, and seeing how fruitful it was, but after a situation happened that shook their confidence and broke their spirit, they felt incapable of tapping into their power again. They actually blamed their past actions as being the root of why this bad situation had happened in their life. So no matter how much this person believed they were capable of doing something, they were never able to take action because they didn’t feel empowered to do so. They had also not conquered the first two steps of accepting what had happened and coming to terms with where their power was in that situation. So there was no clarity about how to move forward in life. No clarity = no vision = no purpose = no drive to action = no results in life. I cannot stress this enough. It is your thoughts about yourself and your life that determine how you are going to show up and what you are going to do. If you think you are unworthy. You will be. If you think you are incapable. You’ll prove yourself right. If you think you can’t. You won’t. If you think it’s not possible. The odds will be stacked against you.And if you think things should be different, they never will be. You’ll just remain stuck in the past wishing things could change. Listen to this episode to discover how you can tap into your true worth and start living the life you desire. And...This week I am excited to announce the release of the new Facebook Group - Create Your Legacy. Look it up and join along as we have fun exploring our worth, our purpose for living, and how to create more in life. https://www.facebook.com/groups/965361500541770

In the marketing, field entrepreneurs talk a lot about the return on investment they get from running Facebook ads in the past few years. How the input of $1 outputs $2 and $3 in return on investment. That’s a sure-fire way to grow your business - making back your initial investment but also doubling and tripling your return. Even if you’re not good at math that feels like a pretty smart investment worthy of your attention. And yet, there are plenty of businesses that won’t invest in Facebook ads. They don’t believe the claims, they don’t want to risk the money, they are afraid of figuring it out, etc. And they go about their business without making that type of investment. That’s fine - no judgment on not wanting to try something new - it’s not for everyone but there are plenty of people to swear by the effectiveness and impact of running Facebook ads. Or YouTube advertising, Google Ad Words, whatever your marketing jam. And here’s the parallel I am trying to make for you. Investing in coaching is a sure deal. Even more than Facebook ads. It is extremely transformative and will yield you an exceptional return. Far more than just doubling your initial investment. But despite the impact of really great life coaching (like the way I help my clients) there are many people who do not feel worthy of the investment. They don’t feel they need the help, they don’t want the help, they have been burned by another coach, they have a preconceived idea about what it is and aren’t interested, or they truly just don’t feel worthy of investing in themselves and that freaks them out that they would spend money on themselves. So I ask you, are you worthy of investing in? Do you believe you are capable of earning your investment back double, triple, even 10 fold on what you pay to hire a life coach? These are the questions you have to answer for yourself and feel confident in - even if you’re still a little timid or afraid - that’s okay. Lean in to following your belief in yourself first and then take the kind of action that proves to yourself you are worth it. That’s great advice for anything in life. Don’t settle for things in life because you doubt your worth. Believe you are worthy and then claim a life that is evidence of that belief. Believing you are worthy of love means you will have amazing relationships - you won’t settle for abuse or neglect. Believing you are worthy of respect means you won’t let someone talk down to you and belittle your capability. Believing you are worthy of earning more means you will stop settling for low paying jobs and thinking that is the only thing available. You will discover new possibilities because you are worthy of having new opportunities. Believing you are enough just because you say you are not because of what other people think of you - whether or not they like you. Go out there and believe in yourself and believe you are worthy of investing in yourself - in whatever way that comes up in life - in work, relationships, good food, vacations, coaching, etc. And if you need help claiming that believe for yourself and seeing your worth, join me on a zoom call. I’ll serve as your mirror to show you what’s going on in your mind and we’ll help you see what’s holding you back from being all-in on believing in yourself. That’s where it has to start my friend. Send me an email at coach@unworthythoughts.com. Ask to experience the mirror effect and give me a couple of times that work for you. That’s it. I’ll take it from there and get back with you to book your session.

Is coaching an expense or an investment? Here’s how you can tell the difference in your life and have a clear indication if you are ready to sign up for coaching. Have you ever stopped to think about the difference between an expense and an investment?An expense is something that costs you money.An investment is something you want to spend on. -----------------An expense can be a spur of the moment decision or a charge you are forced into making. Think about buying new shoes as a spur of the moment. And think putting on a new roof as a charge you are forced in to. An investment is often a thoughtful consideration. You take the time to review the options and make sure it “feels right” before spending your money. -----------------An expense is more likely to be something that doesn’t earn you extra income. It may have a lasting purpose (like the roof) but you don’t make money off of it. It is just money that was used and all you got out of it was the product itself. An investment is something that feels valuable, worthwhile, and you believe will appreciate and give us a return for our money spent. -----------------Put that in the perspective of hiring a life coaching. Coaching is an expense for you if you are thinking of coaching in relationship to the money spent. If this is the case, you are not ready for coaching. You are still thinking of it in correlation to a tangible product - something you can touch and feel and show off to others. Now let’s look at it from the perspective of investing in coaching. When you make an investment in coaching you see value in your purchase both now and for your future. You believe that your willingness to spend money on yourself now will yield you a greater outcome later. I challenge you to stop and think about how do you view hiring a life coach? Do you think of it as a costly expense or do you think of it as an invaluable investment you are energized to spend money on? Answering that question will give you a clear distinction as to whether or not you are ready to hire a life coach for your life. -----------------I went all-in on what I believed to be the best coach certification program in the industry. And I am glad I did because it did not disappoint. And now I have the tools, the confidence, and the ability to serve my clients in new ways. And the good news for you is that unlike my $3,000 per month investment, it will only cost you $3,000 one time for six entire months of coaching. Coaching personalized to meet your needs. Coaching that helps you overcome your holdups and setbacks to become the best version of yourself - the version of yourself capable of amazing things. So if you’re ready to go all-in on for yourself and invest in one of the greatest returns you’ll ever experience, reach out to me and I’ll send you a PayPal link to get started. $3,000 for weekly one hour private sessions for an entire six months. Amazing value. Until next time, I’m wishing you the very best for your lasting success.

All it takes is a quick scroll of the internet to be reminded that no matter what you do someone will take offense, someone will poke fun of, and someone will be critical of how you show up. So if that’s the norm (which sadly that is the state of our society) why bother trying to be someone you’re not to impress? Why not just show up authentically you so you attract the people who do resonate with you? Forget about what the others think and how they cast judgment - that is on them, not you.This week I’ve been doing a five-day reflective study on judgment on my Facebook page and one of the biggest takeaways I can share with you now is that when you judge someone else, you are actually casting that judgment as a reflection of how you feel about yourself. One the one hand you might cast judgment about someone to temporarily make yourself feel better by picking on, accusing, or assessing that other person. This is all over the Internet right now after the republican national convention aired last night. Speakers had to bring the energy and share their message to what appeared to be an empty room while virtually broadcasting. That takes a unique element to speak with energy when you don’t have an audience to feed off of. Yet, today one of the most energetic and outspoken speakers of the event is being roasted online. People are making a mockery of her speech. Whether you agree with her message or not, is not the point. She got up and used her voice to share her message. She did it without being ashamed. She was confident and well-spoken. And now she is being criticized for speaking out. But I applaud her - just as I would applaud you - for being bold enough to stand up and share your message with authentic passion. It is not easy, whether you are taking a stake on national television or posting to your personal Facebook page, there is always the risk of negative feedback and criticism. You have to decide if it is worth it to you to show up and share your voice because you believe you have something worth sharing. So I ask you now, do you have a message you want to get out there? Is there something you desire to share, express, lead with, but you have held back out of fear of what others would think? How they would respond or react?That is one of the biggest hurdles you have to overcome when becoming an entrepreneur. When you are the face of the company, when it is your voice front and center, it can shake you at the core. Will you let it shake you and stop you from showing up or will it shake you and bounce back with my strength?For me, it took coaching to explore how I was worrying about the judgment of others. How I was hiding behind my fear of expressing my message. And I also had to take it another level deeper and work on how my message was authentic to myself versus feeling that I had to show up a certain way to be accepted. Tough work, but it was so valuable and has helped me to move forward so much. Here I am recording podcast #31 and I am grateful for you listening and sharing. The podcast stats continue to rise each week with an increased number of downloads. And my promise to you is that I am going to work on raising my standard, recording more episodes that are authentically my voice and mission, sharing the why behind what I do, and how I believe it can help you. I am in a service-based industry, I am here to be of value, that would be almost impossible to do if I was afraid of showing up and sharing my voice with you. Think about how you are showing up in your space. Is it enough? If you want to chat about what that would like for you and how you can move past worrying what other people will think when you do show up, connect with me at unworthythoughts.com and click the Reserve a free session button at the top of the page.

If you want to take action look at how you are feeling. Are you doubting your ability? Do you have shaky self-confidence? Do you feel incapable of success? If any of these feelings or something similar is popping up for you, take time, and explore why you feel that way. Write down the reasons you feel that way and then explore those thoughts. One of those thoughts is creating that feeling and if you can work through that way of thinking, you can transform your feelings and actions. And with a more confident feeling in place, explore how you will move forward, how you will take start taking action, and figure out the how as you go. One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is taking ownership for creating the how process. As you figure out how to do something, it feels really amazing that you were able to solve your problem, create a new solution, open the door to new opportunities. Whatever it is you are doing, you become more capable and more powerful as you embrace the responsibility for figuring it out. It’s an amazing result of taking action and I challenge you to experience it for yourself. Coming up next week on Facebook Live: Join me as we spend 10 minutes a day for five days reflecting on how judgment can hold us back from achieving our life purpose. Discover how sometimes we become our own worst enemy when self-judgment overtakes our self-confidence.Register now for free: http://unworthythoughts.com/judgment

In a coaching session about hiring a new employee, it dawned on me that the best thing I can do for my new employee and for myself is to figure out how to set them up for success. I can do my best as their manager, as the visionary of the organization, to give them the stepping stones they need to perform their job to the best of their ability and really be able to knock it out of the park. Discovering how to best serve as a manager is a new skill set for me. But rooting it on being intentional about how to help my employee succeed, instead of worrying if they will work out, or stressing if they will mess things up, is a much better foundation for our future together. It is about manifesting a successful partnership. And that is something I have gotten a lot better about doing in my own life. To help you make sure you are manifesting your future success, I recorded this podcast episode for you. It gives you a quick three-step framework, that works forwards and backward, and on repeat. That will all make more sense once you listen. Bottom line, enjoy as you begin to intentionally manifest your success.

Just what is life coaching and how will it help you? What could you expect from your coaching experience? I think you need an understanding of these basic questions in order to see believe coaching will bring value to your life. In my opinion, there are three questions you need to answer in order to move forward. 1. What is life coaching? Have an explanation that serves you. 2. What value will coaching create in your life? What benefit will you get from coaching?3. Who appeals to you as a coach? Pick a coach that you feel connected to and resonate with their style of coaching. Join me for a conversation about life coaching, my perspective on the value and benefits, and how you can make the most of your life coaching experience. And if you want more help you can:1. Get my free guide to making the most of your coaching sessions http://unworthythoughts.com/most-of-coaching2. Schedule an exploration call to experience coaching for yourselfhttps://calendly.com/marketingday/explore

I have to be completely honest, I'm freaking out a bit here. First, there is the wrong diagnosis that has allowed whatever this is, to continue to grow and spread all over my face since I was taking the wrong medication and seeking the wrong treatments. Secondly, the length of time this has continued to be present on my face has increased the amount of physical pain I am experiencing and makes me wonder if there is going to be complications or lasting damage as a result. None of which inspires me. When I look at this as a learning experience, I am reminded of some direct correlations to growing our businesses. Please allow me to repurpose my physical drama into insight about choosing the right path for your business mission. When we look at what has gone wrong with my misdiagnosis we can call out four negative results. The misdiagnosis has added to my pain and increased my complications. The misdiagnosis has made things more challenging as I had been implementing action steps for the wrong disease Things have taken longer than necessary. There is no way to know for sure, but given a proper diagnosis, the problem could have been resolved by now. The misdiagnosis has challenged my spirit as I have become frustrated and drained of energy. Look at these four things in light of your business. When have you been misaligned with your goal or striving to take on a project that didn’t feel right for your business and it became a lingering struggle? I’ve also worked with clients who try to fit themselves into a particular style. They try to become like someone they admire and execute activities in their business in order to mimic that other person’s success. The tactics are good, the effort is valid, but the alignment is all off and so are their results. They have misdiagnosed their course of action and therefore everything they keep trying to do is frustrating and more challenging then it needs to be. Do you see this? Have you experienced this in your own life and business? We have to correctly diagnosis our skills, interests, and desires in line with our business goals. We have to maintain integrity with who we are and what we are capable of without trying to fit ourselves into another person’s persona or approach. Things will start to happen when you are taking the right action that aligns with your purpose. Things will feel on point. There will be progressive results and you will feel good about what you are doing when you have the right diagnosis for your business.And I can hope the same will be true for healing my face with the right diagnosis in place.

Uncomfortableness comes around when we push ourselves to change. When we challenge ourselves to grow, develop, face our fears, take on something new, etc. in order to achieve our big “impossible” goal. This isn’t anything out of the ordinary and it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. It is just your brain’s way of warding off the unknown, and protecting you from what feels scary. Your brain creates unease to scare you from moving towards the unknown. It is a protective reaction. Whoa! But if you are willing to embrace it, feel it and still keep moving forward, it will either:Increase in intensity to try and ward you off more Dissipate and just become a part of your current reality Become bearable or even comfortable as you get used to it Listen to this episode for how you can begin to get comfortable with uncomfortable strides towards your goals. Ready to talk about your goals and eliminate the limiting beliefs holding you back? Schedule your free 30-minute consult and we'll talk it through. https://calendly.com/marketingday/explore Want more? Check out the YouTube channel for additional insights on videos like this:You can strengthen your abilities, your confidence, and your power by working on your dreams. Are you up for the challenge? https://youtu.be/rje2g6Y4OEU

Today I am talking about the virus known as shingles and the impact it has had on my life. Why? Because my body is battling shingles and I am having a major wake up call as I deal with shingle blisters growing and spreading on my face! I give some insight into what shingles are and the warning signs to watch for - but be advised I am not providing medical advice - simply sharing what I am experiencing and learning about this virus. With a little groundwork in place, I dive into a conversation around stress and how the impact of not processing my emotions has presented me with a new battle to face -- shingles on my face!Join me for this unique conversation on learning to listen to your body and take care of yourself both physically and mentally. Ready to explore what's going on in your mind? Schedule your exploration call to deal with your own stress and unworthy thoughts. https://calendly.com/marketingday/explore

Manifesting begins with believing in what you want. How do you do that when you don't yet have it? When you have no evidence of it in your past? You need to get really specific about what you do want - visualize it and store it in the front of your mind. Bring it up on a regular basis and remind yourself - training your brain - that this can be a reality in your life. This episode explores the four steps you need to take to start manifesting your reality - as you want it to be in the future. If that is something you want or something you want to do or be, it is all within your realm of possibility. Explore how. Beyond the podcast, you can continue this conversation on YouTube. Do you really want what you are trying to manifest? https://youtu.be/noq3HTBkPw0 The two things preventing you from manifesting: https://youtu.be/mX8HMUA7a_c Reserve a 30-minute exploration call to see what's going on in your mind and how coaching can help you move forward. https://calendly.com/marketingday/explore

I just discovered manifestation in my life and it is blowing my mind that this "discovery" is actually a practice I have had for many years, but just didn't call it that. I'm excited to share with you how it has been working in my life, what I have done with it, and how I am up-leveling and so can you. The key to manifesting something for yourself is believing it is possible. You have to be able to see yourself having it, being it, doing it, etc. As is my style, I'm sharing a very practical example, anyone could achieve, for how I have manifested something tangible I wanted in my life. Get your free worksheet to help you explore your thoughts about manifestation in your life at http://unworthythoughts.com/podcast23

I would like to challenge you to be reflective of the times when you feel the need to defend or protect your ideas. It is usually in those moments that we can learn more about ourselves. And here’s how. It reveals what is important to us. It can reveal our take on things It reveals areas we are fearful of being wrong Why does it matter to you that you are not wrong? Is this a topic that is open to discussion or not for you? Is this something that you must defend as truth in order for your life to make sense? All of these factors bring us back to some reflection questions for you to consider: What do you believe in, so firmly, that you would be unwilling to compromise?Why are you willing to stand behind your claim? How do you feel obligated to defend your point of view? Listen to this episode for more insights from a recent experience where I was triggered into wanting to defend my take on things. ---- Prefer to read as a blog? Visit the podcast page at http://unworthythoughts.com/podcast22

Happy Independence Day to all my fellow Americans. It is an honor to live in the USA at this time in history, with so much possibility and freedom to become whoever we desire to be. Our founding mothers – the women who have come before us – have done so much to give us this ability. No matter where you come from, what your past is, what your heritage, how can you show up now, and honor yourself and the women who have sacrificed so much, and not been given the same opportunities available to us today in 2020. Reflect with me on what independence as an American woman looks like for you and how you can squash the unworthy thoughts holding you back from fulfilling your full potential. When you're ready to take action with support and accountability, come join me for empowerment coaching at unworthythoughts.com.