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For this podcast discussion, Emily Lint and Kate Arms combined their two favorite loves: Psychology and Agile by discussing the Theory of Positive Disintegration and how it impacts the way we transform. Could hard transformations and struggles help us to actually grow better?    About the Featured Guest   Jessica Katz is a trainer, mentor and coach through Liberated Elephant. Jessica is passionate about working with individuals, teams, leaders, and organizations to help people discover and nurture their authentic selves. With this knowledge, Jessica helps them uncover solutions that move them forward on their journey. Her methodology is informed by Agile values, principles, and practices. Follow Jessica Katz on LinkedIn  The Women in Agile community champions inclusion and diversity of thought, regardless of gender, and this podcast is a platform to share new voices and stories with the Agile community and the business world, because we believe that everyone is better off when more, diverse ideas are shared. Podcast Library: www.womeninagile.org/podcast Women in Agile Org Website: www.womeninagile.org    Connect with us on social media! LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/womeninagile/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/womeninagile/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/womeninagileorg    Please take a moment to rate and review the Women in Agile podcast on your favorite podcasting platform. This is the best way to help us amplify the voices and wisdom of the talent women and allies in our community! Be sure to take a screenshot of your rating and review and post it on social media with the hashtag #womeninagile to help spread the word and continue to elevate Women in Agile.   About our Host Emily Lint is a budding industry leader in the realm of business agility. Energetic and empathetic she leverages her knowledge of psychology, business, technology, and mindfulness to create a cocktail for success for her clients and peers. Her agile journey officially started in 2018 with a big move from Montana to New Mexico going from traditional ITSM and project management methodologies to becoming an agile to project management translator for a big government research laboratory. From then on she was hooked on this new way of working. The constant innovation, change, and retrospection cured her ever present craving to enable organizations to be better, do better, and provide an environment where her co-workers could thrive.    Since then she has started her own company and in partnership with ICON Agility Services serves, coaches, and trains clients of all industries in agile practices, methodologies, and most importantly, mindset. Please check out her website (www.lintagility.com) to learn more. You can also follow Emily on LinkedIn.   About our Sponsor Scrum.org is the Home of Scrum, founded in 2009 by Scrum co-creator Ken Schwaber focused on helping people and teams solve complex problems by improving how they work through higher levels of professionalism. Scrum.org provides free online resources, consistent experiential live training, ongoing learning paths, and certification for people with all levels of Scrum knowledge. You can learn more about the organization by visiting www.scrum.org.

For this podcast discussion, Emily Lint and Kate Arms combined their two favorite loves: Psychology and Agile by discussing the Theory of Positive Disintegration and how it impacts the way we transform. Could hard transformations and struggles help us to actually grow better?    About the Featured Guest   Kate Arms is an Agile Coach once described as “our team's equivalent of Yoda.” She gave up programming as an act of teenage rebellion, but keeps coming back to tech, previously as a tech transactions lawyer. She holds a BA in Theatre and Biopsychology from Cornell University and a JD from Harvard Law School. She is an international coach federation PCC and an ICAgile Expert in Enterprise Coaching.   Follow Kate Arms on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/katearmscoach/)   References:   The Women in Agile community champions inclusion and diversity of thought, regardless of gender, and this podcast is a platform to share new voices and stories with the Agile community and the business world, because we believe that everyone is better off when more, diverse ideas are shared.   Podcast Library: www.womeninagile.org/podcast Women in Agile Org Website: www.womeninagile.org    Connect with us on social media! LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/womeninagile/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/womeninagile/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/womeninagileorg    Please take a moment to rate and review the Women in Agile podcast on your favorite podcasting platform. This is the best way to help us amplify the voices and wisdom of the talent women and allies in our community! Be sure to take a screenshot of your rating and review and post it on social media with the hashtag #womeninagile to help spread the word and continue to elevate Women in Agile.   About our Host   Emily Lint is a budding industry leader in the realm of business agility. Energetic and empathetic she leverages her knowledge of psychology, business, technology, and mindfulness to create a cocktail for success for her clients and peers. Her agile journey officially started in 2018 with a big move from Montana to New Mexico going from traditional ITSM and project management methodologies to becoming an agile to project management translator for a big government research laboratory. From then on she was hooked on this new way of working. The constant innovation, change, and retrospection cured her ever present craving to enable organizations to be better, do better, and provide an environment where her co-workers could thrive.    Since then she has started her own company and in partnership with ICON Agility Services serves, coaches, and trains clients of all industries in agile practices, methodologies, and most importantly, mindset. Please check out her website (www.lintagility.com) to learn more. You can also follow Emily on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilylint/).    About our Sponsor Scrum.org is the Home of Scrum, founded in 2009 by Scrum co-creator Ken Schwaber focused on helping people and teams solve complex problems by improving how they work through higher levels of professionalism. Scrum.org provides free online resources, consistent experiential live training, ongoing learning paths, and certification for people with all levels of Scrum knowledge. You can learn more about the organization by visiting www.scrum.org.  

Join Shannon and Christine for an Intellectual Wellness chat about Transcending the labels of ADHD & Autism with expert guest Kate Arms in episode 153 of Women Connected in Wisdom.   Shealo Glo - www.shealoglo.com  Now offering Subscriptions * Delivered on the 1st & 15th!     Stillpoint - https://www.amazon.com/Stillpoint-Self-Care-Playbook-Caregivers-Breathe/dp/1732370400    Join us in community:  https://women-connected-in-wisdom.mn.co/feed  Listen to past episodes: https://womenconnectedinwisdompodcast.com/  Join Christine at an event:  https://linktr.ee/christinegautreauxmsw  Book a free coaching consult with Christine here: https://www.christinegautreaux.com  Like & Subscribe to get notifications of when we are live:  Instagram @womenconnectedinwisdompodcast - https://www.instagram.com/womenconnectedinwisdompodcast/  Facebook page Women Connected in Wisdom Podcast - https://www.facebook.com/womenconnectedinwisdompodcast https://www.neurodiversitycoachingacademy.com/  https://katearms.com/ Using Play to Rewire & Improve Your Brain | Huberman Lab Podcast #58  You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults w    Connect with Kate here:  https://psychologicalsafetyatscale.substack.com/  Twitter: @Kate_Arms  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/in/katearmscoach   

In episode 41, Chris and Emma talked with Catherine Zakoian, MA, NCC, LPC, a counselor and educational consultant from Boulder, Colorado. Catherine is also the author of Raising Gifted Children: A Practical Guide for Parents Facing Big Emotions and Big Potential.We discussed emotional tension and the issue of confronting our individual shadows, as well as the shadow in groups, such as families and communities. Catherine shared valuable insights on navigating this type of inner work, which can be helpful for individuals and clinicians on their personal growth journeys.Catherine shared her experiences of applying Dabrowski's theory in her clinical practice, offering practical guidance for therapists and clients alike. Whether you're just starting to study the theory or working on yourself, you'll find plenty of worthwhile nuggets in this conversation.We talk about Catherine's expertise, which extends to educational consulting, where she provides guidance to schools and organizations serving gifted and twice-exceptional (2e) populations. She also shared some of her insights from working with gifted children and their families, offering practical advice for parents and educators.Catherine and Chris know each other thanks to participating in the Dabrowski Study Group that was recently mentioned in one of our posts on Substack.Links from this episodeRaising Gifted Children: A Practical Guide for Parents Facing Big Emotions and Big Potential by Catherine ZakoianWe discussed past Dąbrowski Congresses. Consider joining us at the 2024 Dąbrowski Congress!Learn more about the Dabrowski Study Group in Chris's post, The Positive Disintegration Study Group.Episode 28 with Kate Arms was mentioned.Catherine mentioned Michael M. Piechowski's 1975 monograph (PDF download).Chris mentioned the Parents of Gifted and Twice-Exceptional Kids Facebook group.Connect with us!Positive Disintegration on SubstackVisit the Dabrowski Center websiteFacebookInstagramThe Positive Disintegration YouTube ChannelAdults with Overexcitabilities group on FacebookDabrowski Center and Positive Disintegration Podcast Community on FacebookThe Tragic Gift blog by EmmaEmail us at positivedisintegration.pod@gmail.comPlease consider supporting the podcast to help fund this work through the Dabrowski Center, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization.Find Positive Disintegration MerchIf you enjoyed this episode on Apple or Spotify, please remember to click on the stars and leave a rating or write a review. Thank you!

In episode 28, Chris and Emma were joined by Kate Arms, JD, PCC, for a discussion on what positive disintegration looks like in organizations and workplaces. How are organizational dynamics similar to positive disintegration in individuals? Kate's approach to her work is one where the business itself, or the “system,” is considered the coaching client, and she observes not only the individuals but also the interactions between them. She feels that dynamisms show up as much in the interactions, and leadership, as in the individuals. A business, start-up, or organization can move through the levels of development—from the first grumblings of discontent in the workforce to a place of shared accountability and vision—and can transform. They are also prone to their own three factors; the start-up dream of the founders, the external pressures (like customers and market forces), and the emerging “third factor” of a growing workforce culture and shared vision.Kate shared tips for employees and employers for dealing with positive disintegration. We discussed the difficulty of being overexcitable and working in organizations where the individual is forced to conform and toe the line. We also talked about positive maladjustment, and the good that can come when a business or non-profit tackles social issues and works to create change in the world. Links from this episodeSignal Fire Coaching (Kate's website)Dr. Eric Vorm's presentation from the 2022 Dabrowski CongressEpisode 6 on Autopsychotherapy and Self-Leadership Follow us on social media:Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/positivedisintegrationpod)Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/positivedisintegration_podcast/)Twitter (https://twitter.com/DabrowskiPod)Join the Adults with Overexcitabilities group on FacebookPlease, consider supporting the podcast. Positive Disintegration is brought to you by the Dabrowski Center.Subscribe here for the Dabrowski Center's monthly newsletter and information about the 2024 Dabrowski Congress.If you enjoyed this episode on Apple or Spotify, remember to click on the stars and leave a rating or write a review. Thank you!Thank you for listening to Positive Disintegration. Please share with someone who might benefit from our work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit positivedisintegration.substack.com

Join Shannon & Christine as they chat about Intellectual Wellness with special guest Kate Arms. Join us in community: Women Connected in Wisdom Community Listen to past episodes: https://womenconnectedinwisdompodcast.com/ Our Sponsor - Shealo Glo - Now offering Subscriptions * Delivered on the 1st & 15th! Stillpoint: A Self-Care Playbook for Caregivers Join Christine at an event! Book a free coaching consult with Christine here: https://www.christinegautreaux.com Like & Subscribe to get notifications of when we are live: Women Connected in Wisdom Instagram Women Connected in Wisdom on Facebook ***Check out our new website at Women Connected in Wisdom***   Pixar - Purl   Inside OUt movie Silent Qutiing Sharon Salzberg - Real Change Ruth King - Meditating with Race InnerAlly.com Brene Brown - dare to lead InterPlay.org Leadershp Arts Review L.I.F.T.: A coach approach to parenting Repentance and Repair Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg Connect with Kate here: https://psychologicalsafetyatscale.substack.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/in/katearmscoach You can email her at Kate@katearms.com

Imposter syndrome is something that most people have felt at some point or another. Intense people may feel this in magnified ways, as the world tells them they are not welcome as they are. Join us on this guest call to learn more! Kate Arms is a return guest to the show, and I'm thrilled to welcome her back for this guest call. Kate is a classic overthinker, high achiever, and multipotentiality who exudes intensity. Her career has spanned being a lawyer, arts administrator, coach for gifted and twice-exceptional adults and parents of gifted and twice-exceptional kids, and an Agile Coach in a high-tech company. She is the author of several books and has experience in coaching, leadership development, and psychology. Kate is here to help us understand imposter syndrome and how to reduce our suffering within it by building more connections.    Show Highlights:   Kate defines imposter syndrome as “a group of symptoms clustered together to make us feel like we don't belong” How symptoms can include anxiety, hypervigilance self-consciousness, self-sabotage, perfectionism, and a sense of hiding who you really are How these symptoms pair with suffering to make us feel awful and ashamed How symptom relief and root-cause relief work together Why imposter syndrome boils down to belonging, connection, and a feeling of, “They won't want me if they know who I really am.” How we are programmed (especially intense people) to think we are not welcome as we are because of childhood shaming, being told to “tone down,” and being too much or too sensitive How the “mismatch” occurs and how to address it How the process of learning happens when we start out blissfully ignorant The difference between identity and character vs. skills and experiences Why we must to learn to be comfortable in being ourselves–even if it makes others uncomfortable Why it's hard to risk having the courage to overwhelm others with who we really are How we can build our sense of belonging through building our community How feeling connection with at least three people in your group will foster your feeling of belonging   Resources: Hear the follow-up conversation with Kate:  Community.embracingintensity.com 

Are you a recovering serious person who wants to be playful? In this weeks episode of the In the Lead Show, I talk to Kate Arms, Agile Coach. In this conversation we explore embodiment and neuroscience and how that impacts business agility and innovation. Kate says we can be really effective if we can integrate the body and the mind to create better outcomes, to be more innovative and more agile as a business. Key Takeaways: Business agility is all about pivoting. You cannot pivot if you're not centered where you are. To be innovative and to have the ability to be agile requires nuance. Nuance in thoughts, nuance in feelings, nuance in understanding where you are. If you are able to pivot, in collaboration with others who can pivot, then you have the ability to move more quickly. Space between where we are and where we want to be requires being comfortable with the discomfort. How mindful movement practices and allowing your body to respond can help you embrace & understand your body in a more powerful ways. Kate Arms has spent the last 35 years studying how creative and sensitive people create successful organizations that honor and respect the inner lives of the diverse people who run them. Along the way, she has raised four kids, written four books, started two podcasts, and drunk an enormous amount of coffee. These days you can find her at ecobee, where she works as an Agile Coach, and on the Leadership Arts Review podcast, which she co-hosts and produces. The Leadership Arts Review podcast: https://podcast.leadershipartsreview.com/ (https://podcast.leadershipartsreview.com/) My book: https://www.amazon.com/L-I-F-T-Approach-Parenting-Kate-Arms/dp/1999430271 (https://www.amazon.com/L-I-F-T-Approach-Parenting-Kate-Arms/dp/1999430271) Jennifer Tsang is an ICF Leadership Coach who partners with executives, leaders & everyday people to build more consciousness into how they lead their teams and most importantly, themselves. She believes that leadership is an inside out approach. As someone who has worked on her own personal development and self-leadership for over 15 years, she started her coaching practice in 2020 to help others discover how to lead themselves and grow professionally and personally. Today, Jennifer offers a wide variety of programs and services – from individual coaching, to group and team coaching and facilitated group conversations. If you want to contact Jennifer Tsang, visit Coaching Website: https://coachwithinsight.com/ (https://coachwithinsight.com/) Show website: https://intheleadshow.com (https://intheleadshow.com) Twitter: https://twitter/com/jenntsang (https://twitter/com/jenntsang)    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenn-tsang (https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenn-tsang) YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLH82NqeTJPyr3Yi_saY3Ng (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLH82NqeTJPyr3Yi_saY3Ng) Follow the conversation on Twitter every Wednesday at 5pm PST/8pm EST #LeadersChat

Listen now (61 min) | In episode 6, Chris and Emma were joined by Kate Arms, JD, PCC, a leadership coach who talked about her personal experience of development through positive disintegration, and how she created her own autopsychotherapy practice. What is Autopsychotherapy? This is a question that has been asked often on social media, and it is one of Dabrowski’s dynamisms that requires more explanation than you will find in the literature. Kate talks about some of the strategies and methods that have worked for her, and we share our ideas and stories on what we have found useful, in the hope that others in the process of development will benefit. Subscribe at positivedisintegration.substack.com

Kate Arms leads a discussion of The First 90 Days by Michael D. Watkins. We look at the skills and processes you need to get off to a good start in a new leadership role.

Continuing reruns for some of my favorite episodes from season 2 for this December! This week, I'm sharing my interview with Kate Arms! I met today’s special guest, Kate Arms, at the SENG conference recently and was so inspired by her talk entitled "Thriving with Intensity: Mining The Magic From Your Overexcitabilities” that I knew Kate would be the perfect fit for the podcast. Kate is a classic overthinker, high achiever, and multipotentialite who exudes intensity. She gets bored easily as evidenced by a career that includes being a lawyer, an arts administrator, a coach to parents of gifted and twice-exceptional kids and gifted and twice-exceptional adults, and an Agile Coach in a high tech company. She is an eager student of western secular developments from Buddhist philosophy and practices and the Theory of Positive Disintegration and the author of the Extreme Resilience Workbook, L.I.F.T.: A Coach Approach to Parenting, Unblock: Writing Prompts for Works in Progress, and award winning short stories in the literary fiction and horror genres. She hosts two podcasts: Kate’s Nuggets features short episodes with advice on living well drawn from the worlds of coaching, leadership development, and psychology; Leadership Arts Review features conversations with leadership coaches about books about good leadership and the ideas in them. But what really lights her fire is being silly with her four amazing kids. More in this episode: Kate’s shares details about her personal intensity. Factors that affected Kate’s intensity while growing up Kate describes ways her intensity could feel out of control in the past. Channeling ways of questioning others Using leadership thinking to question self How theater can help intense individuals. No one person will have all the answers for you. Kate’s personal practices The personal passion that fuels Kate's intensity The magic question Resources Mentioned in the Show: How to donate to help keep the podcast going via Patreon website: Thrive With Intensity website: Parents of Twice Exceptional Kids website: Signal Fire Coaching Signal Fire Coaching on Facebook Signal Fire Coaching on Twitter Undoing Depression, by Richard O’Connor Making It All Work, David Allen

Kate Arms leads a discussion of Who Do We Choose To Be by Margaret J. Wheatley. We discuss the leadership challenges of the modern world and Wheatley's call for everyone to face reality, claim leadership, and restore sanity in our world.

In this brand new series, Danielle Teal visits with members throughout the Rochester community to discuss hot topics that are on the minds of Rochester citizens. This week, Danielle chats with Rochester First Responders, Captain Jeff Stillwell of the Rochester PD, Mandee Marx with the Rochester Fire Department, and Kate Arms with the Mayo Clinic Ambulance Rochester. (MPTA, Legacy, KSMQ, 10-27-20) Learn more about your first responders: https://www.rochestermn.gov/departments/police https://www.rochestermn.gov/departments/fire https://www.mayoclinic.org/ambulance-service Connect with us! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KSMQPBS/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ksmqtv/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/KSMQ #RTown Website: http://ksmq.org/rtown R-Town, the show about Rochester, is brought to you in part by the Minnesota Arts and Cultural Heritage Fund and the citizens of Minnesota, and the members of KSMQ Public Television. Thank you!

Kate Arms leads a discussion of Say What You Mean by Oren Jay Sofer. We discss how mindfulness and non-violent communication skills help leaders have more impact and build better relationships through more effective and satisfying conversations.

Kate Arms leads a discussion of The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership by Jim Dethmer, Diana Chapman, and Kaley Warner Klemp. We discuss trust-based leadership, radical responsibility, play, and more.

How do you know which changes to make in your life if you don’t know what you want? What can you do to start the process of forming a vision? Kate Arms talks about why some people have difficulty finding a vision and provides a few options for how to proceed.

Kate Arms, CEO and Lead Coach at Signal Fire Coaching introduces herself and talks about the ways Kate's Nuggets can help you develop your self-leadership skills.

Favorite quotes of the episode: “Feedback is hard because feedback is about learning and growth and learning and growth are uncomfortable. Always.” “Learning that discomfort is not a barrier to being effective, is powerful.” “The purpose of feedback is to help people get more effective at meeting their own goals.” “Try it, do it badly, and you will get better.” Episode Overview I kicked off 2019 with a promise to discuss big issues, big ideas and provide real-world actionable solutions that we can all implement in our daily lives as busy professionals. In this episode, I talk with Kate Arms, on how to give and receive feedback. She has been creating cultures where people thrive since 1984 when she first realized she could turn the lonely outlier kids in her middle school into a group of friends. She has learned through experience that every person has the power to improve the culture of a group with or without formal authority. Her superpower is facilitating open, challenging, and respectful conversations on controversial topics on Facebook. She has negotiation and mediation training from Harvard Law School. Her coach training includes coaching certification from The Co-Active Training Institute (CTI), Organizational and Relationship Systems Coaching (ORSC) training from CRR Global, and certification in Creativity Coaching from the Creativity Coaching Association. She is a certified InterPlay Leader and a graduate of CTI’s Co-Active Leadership Program. TOPICS Kate’s career path Setting the stage, overview, how to prepare for feedback Preparing to receive feedback, building trust How to Give Feedback / How to Receive Feedback (steps, tactics, framework) From the book, Crucial Accountability: STAR Method (Situation, Task, Action, Result) Framework for looking at where failure happens: (Individual, Group/System, Tools) Does the individual have the skills to do the job? Does the individual have the right motivation? Does the group have the skillset? Does the group have the right motivation? (or incentive structures?) Does the individual have the right tools? Are the Tools impacting the motivation?  Common Fails, pitfalls to avoid 5 Questions Segment Q1. We know that the most successful and happy people have a morning routine, what do you do each morning or evening that sets your day up for success? I text my friend each morning a daily message to help keep us on task and being the people we want to be that day. Q2. What's your definition of Success? A sufficient quantity of good feelings, a sense of accomplishment, a sense that my work and I matter, a sense that I am leading my life rather than being a victim of circumstances, and good relationships. ~ from Martin Seligman’s work. Q3. What's your definition of Happiness? Enough ease with discomfort to pursue my goals, savoring success so that I truly enjoy it and enough courage to let go and begin again. Q4. What do you know now that you wish you would have known 10 years ago? I’m not dependent upon anyone else for my happiness and that I can create relationships that make me happy, I don’t have to wait for other people to do it. If I want great power, I have to take great responsibility, but only for things that are within my power. RESOURCES Connect with Kate: www.signalfirecoaching.com Upcoming class: Enhance Your Natural Leadership http://katearms.com/enhance-your-natural-leadership/ Books mentioned: Flourish by Martin Seligman Crucial Accountability by Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, David Maxfield Have a question for Kate?  Angela will be following back around with her next year, send your questions to angela@pawsconsulting.com Angela's favorite books will be raffled off to those who leave a review! Angela will raffle off, 1 book each week for every 5 new podcast reviews. After you've submitted your review, send an email to angela@pawsconsulting.com, include where you left your review, and the username you left the review under so we can read your review on a special podcast episode and communicate with you to ship out books to our winners! Join our email list at https://www.pawsconsulting.com/shownotes Sign up for a free High Performance Strategy Session at https://www.pawsconsulting.com/podcast  Connect with Angela at www.pawsconsulting.com or on Twitter, LinkedIn, and Instagram @DemareeDVM. How to leave a review on iTunes: Go to https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-the-stethoscope/id1354281411 or open iTunes. Click 'View in iTunes' (or maybe you are already there)                   Click 'Subscribe' Then Click 'Ratings and Reviews' Then Click 'Write a Review'  

If you’re the parent of a gifted or twice-exceptional child, then you know the struggles that come with the territory. Parents need a voice and an advocate, and today’s guest promises to be that voice--the one screaming out for the needs of these amazing kids. Jen Torbeck Merrill is an Illinois-based writer and gifted family advocate who is the mom of two teen sons. She homeschools one, but happily sends the other off to public school every morning. Her book, If This Is A Gift, Can I Send it Back: Surviving in the Land of the Gifted and Twice-Exceptional, struck a nerve with families who suspected Jen was living in their closet. Her second book, on the needs of gifted parents and self-care, is in progress. Jen is a Gifted Homeschoolers Forum Ambassador and is slated to be one of the SENG (Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted) Conference keynote speakers at their annual convention in Houston this July. She intends to support the parents of gifted and twice-exceptional kids because they are the ones doing the heavy lifting and are too often ignored, patronized, and discredited. She hopes that her sons never have to deal with these issues when they raise their own likely gifted children. I first encountered Jen when we contributed to the Hoagies’ Gifted Blog Hops together, and I was always delighted with the humor and relatability in her writing. I’m excited to see her next book come out! Jen is also teaming up with past EI guests Kate Arms and Chris Wells to put on a series of webinars for parents of gifted and twice-exceptional children. Show Highlights: Jen’s life as a musician, reluctant homeschooling mom, teacher, writer, and parents’ advocate How Jen is intensely passionate about life, screaming for the needs of these amazing gifted and twice-exceptional kids for the past 14 years How Jen was/is characterized as “tightly wound,” overly stressed, emotionally intense, and strong willed How she never recognized her own intensities and strengths until she learned them from raising her kids How she grew up in a diverse community with people of all ethnicities and backgrounds Why Jen wanted to be average as a teenager and “not stand out” How Jen’s intensity gets out of control sometimes, when she’s not taking care of herself, not sleeping well, and taking on too many projects How she uses vulnerability and honesty in her writing When parents AND their kids are profoundly gifted How Jen uses her fire for good in helping other parents Why it’s easy to discount the things that come to us easily Harnessing the power of intensity by being aware that the power actually exists How specific aspects of her intensity have made her a better writer and musician How personal habits have helped Jen harness her intensity How Jen embraces her “subtle arrogance” The best advice she’s ever received (even though she typically doesn’t listen to others’ advice): “Your book is good; you should write another one.” Two books that have helped Jen: Giftedness 101 by Linda Silverman and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson How Jen helps others use their fire by modeling hers Why she wants parents to trust themselves and believe in themselves Resources: Find Jen:  Laughing At Chaos Find Laughing At Chaos on Facebook and Twitter Giftedness 101 by Linda Silverman The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson

Today you’ll meet someone who manifests his intensity through music and dance. In sharing his passion, he also stays connected to his Indian culture and brings it to people across the US as he celebrates all things FUN. I first met Prashant Kakad in his role as a Bollywood DJ. I’ve loved attending his dance events because of the diverse variety of people and the open and free spirit of celebration. He is one of the best examples I know of psychomotor or physical excitability. As I’ve gotten to know Prashant better, I realized that he is gifted and intense in many different ways. From Orcas Island to the Florida Keys, this multifaceted Bollywood entertainer has spent the last 10 years traveling across the US sharing his passion for Indian music and culture. An Indian-born, first-generation immigrant, Prashant’s unique perspective as an Ivy League graduate and ex-Intel engineer-turned DJ transforming American nightlife has inspired many South Asians who seek to pursue a life beyond their tech job. Show Highlights: How Prashant has always been intensely passionate about dancing, music, and creative expressions---not being an Intel engineer How he travels the US with dance parties in various cities, along with dance classes and workshops Prashant’s natural inclination toward intensity in his dancing and in his meditation practice How he has had to “find the middle” of both extremes of his intensity How he grew up with a very intense life in the city of Mumbai, which has over 19 million people How Prashant stays connected to his Indian culture and loves giving others a window into that world How he had to downplay his passion for music and dancing as he grew up, mainly because of his family’s disapproval How his intensity sometimes gets out of control How Prashant finds opportunities to self-reflect and course-correct How he helps by holding opportunities sacred in bringing his culture to people and helping them connect to it Harnessing the power of his intensity by being around people who resonate with him Prashant’s personal habits of jumping headfirst, thinking later, going with his instinct, and embracing the unknown The best advice Prashant has ever received: “Live and go, based on your personal experience, not on what someone else does or says.” Prashant’s favorite books to recommend: The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho and Yoga Anatomy by Leslie Kaminoff and Amy Matthews How Prashant loves to help others in teaching dance because it’s both external AND internal Resources: Find Prashant on Instagram:  Instagram: Dream Prashant Find Prashant on YouTube:  Dream Prashant Find Prashant’s website:  Dreams Perfected Consider supporting the podcast:  Embracing Intensity From last week’s episode:  Side by Side: A Model of Healthy Relationships by Kate Arms

In May we are focusing on shifting perspective, and part of that is in shifting our perspective of intensity. For our Embracing Intensity group call, Kate Arms will be talking about Thriving with Intensity. This is the talk she did at the SENG 2018 conference. Thriving with Intensity: Dabrowski believed overexcitabilities enhance our capacity for self-actualization. How can we take advantage of this extra capacity? This presentation will focus on how adults can grow beyond coping with the challenges of being super sensitive and move toward greater fulfillment. Once a few tools are identified for getting the most out of extraordinary sensitivity, the potential for self-awareness and life-changing transformations are profound. Using a coaching and leadership skills framework, Kate Arms will explore how to discover the gifts in individual overexcitabilities and how to use those gifts to create a greater sense of fulfillment in any moment. Kate Arms is a personal and business coach at Signal Fire Coaching. She loves helping smart, sensitive, and creative people harness their many passions, skills, and sensitivities and use that energy to thrive. She is at her best with complex people facing complex problems. Particular passions are teaching emotional self-management to intense people, supporting parents of twice-exceptional kids, and teaching leadership, collaboration, and relationship skills to software developers. She is the parent of four gifted kids, three of whom are twice-exceptional and a different three of whom are triplets. Her current writing projects are focused on healthy interpersonal relationships at home and work and how to have effective high-stakes conversations. Call recordings for the discussion and past calls can be found in the Embracing Intensity Community. Links: Embracing Intensity Community Thrive with Intensity Thrive with Intensity Facebook Group Thriving with Complexity Webinar Series for Parents

Today’s guest has an amazing story to tell about her experience as a highly, exceptionally to profoundly gifted (HEPG) person. She and I met in gifted adult groups, and I knew I had to have her on the show. Kari Betton is a coach and mentor for sensitive, gifted, and highly creative individuals and has much knowledge about how we can visualize the brain. Starting the Chicago Neurodiversity and Acceptance Community, as well as her work around kink openness and sex positivity, encouraged Kari to write her blog, Follow Your Own Flow. The blog focuses on her life as a multi-exceptional and gifted adult, analyzes the essential elements of creativity and presence, and challenges extrinsic paradigms. Show Highlights: Kari’s intense passion for taking the extrinsic and integrating it with the essential “Extrinsic”--anything that is not the essential nature (“the fluff”) of a person Gifted people, perfectionism, and nature vs. nurture How Kari’s intensity forces her to “call people out on stuff”---and they don’t always like it How Kari knew she was different, even before she was found to be HEPG (highly, exceptionally, and profoundly gifted) Why Kari felt like “an alien” when she was radically accelerated to 5th grade as a 3-year-old, and then put back into first grade a couple of years later How Kari was recognized as a prodigy How being black and her positive disintegration affected how Kari expressed herself The revelation about structure that changed her life How Kari had to tone down and tune out her intensity all the time, as she struggled to connect to the totality of her inner self Why creativity is the essential element of her multi-potentialism How Kari felt that her intensity was out of control with positive disintegration, “going to the underworld every day” How Kari lets out her fire by running and doing yoga Meta-thinking, spiral thinking, and parallel processing of anxiety How sleep helps Kari harness the power of her intensity, but she had to work hard to figure it out How and why she resisted all routine for awhile How she uses personal habits to be in the moment wherever she is The best advice Kari’s received has often been from herself because she’s found it difficult to find good mentors How she learned to integrate her body and mind, realizing that her mind is multidimensional, but the body only exists in this dimension How “one-upmanship” plays into the gifted culture How Kari creates space for the intellectual intensity How Kari helps others through her coaching business and her neurodiversity group Kari’s parting words: “We need to understand that the more that we holistically assess everyone, we’ll start to understand what we need for our gifted communities.” Resources: Square Space Belonging Here: A Guide for the Spiritually Sensitive Person by Judith Blackstone Gifted Grownups: The Mixed Blessings of Extraordinary Potential by Marylou Kelly Streznewski Visit Embracing Intensity for more information about our community and our upcoming May 11 Group Call with Kate Arms on Thriving with Intensity.

Do you or someone you love struggle to find balance in life because of the effects of ADHD? This is the show with the answers! My guest has been where you are because he has ADHD and his passion is to help others. Brendan Mahan has a Master’s of Education and School Counseling. He’s an internationally-known ADHD Executive Functioning consultant, coach, and host of the ADHD Essentials podcast. He helps people manage the emotional, academic, and lifestyle impacts ADHD has on the people who have it and those who care for them. I was introduced to Brendan when he appeared on the ADHD ReWired podcast with Eric Tivers, where Brendan talked about his concept of “The Wall of Awful.” Show Highlights: The things Brendan is intensely passionate about: helping parents and non-ADHD people understand, storytelling, being a husband and father, and martial arts How Brendan’s intensity shows itself in stress and sensory overwhelm How Brendan grew up as a sensitive kid who was afraid to disappoint adults Brendan as a product of the 80s and 90s toxic masculinity who also had a nurturing side How he learned to say “the quiet parts” out loud How ADHD makes you impulsive and large, and Brendan tries to rein it in and not overwhelm others Establishing boundaries when people unload on you How to decompress Two recent moments of overwhelm for Brendan As an ADHD coach and consultant, Brendan works with kids, adults, families, schools, and mental health organizations as a speaker, podcaster, and (now) interim principal How Brendan inverts the fire of anxiety to use it to be more compassionate and empathic Why we need to give each other permission to struggle with mental health issues just like physical issues Habits that help Brendan the most: a calendar for scheduling time and commitments, and his wife and kids who help slow him down at times Why Brendan doesn’t believe in “lazy,” but believes it’s learned helplessness born out of a lack of skills Why you shouldn’t tell a kid, “This is easy” How much of Brendan’s coaching work comes down to problem-solving Why you CAN do that thing you think you can’t How you disempower those who want to help you when you don’t accept their help Brendan’s advice: “Be willing to be vulnerable with those whom you care about and care about you.” Resources: Find out more about Brendan and his work: Brendan Mahan Email: brendan@adhdessentials.com Self-Reg by Stuart Shanker Three upcoming events: Visit the Embracing Intensity Facebook page to join our EI Community or Patreon-- April 27: Seasonal Potluck in the Pacific NW April 29: Ignite Your Power course: Time and Energy Balance May 11: A (10:00 am Pac.) group call with Kate Arms on Thriving with Intensity

How does it feel to identify as broken and immensely different from all those around you? If these feelings continue and compound, then one ends up feeling mentally ill---doomed to be always on the outside of normal. Chris Wells joins us today from The Gifted Development Center in Westminster, CO. We met at the SENG conference, and then Chris’ name came up again in a conversation with Kate Arms, our guest from Episode 93. Chris has the knowledge and in-depth experience on the topic of positive disintegration. Her story is amazing--and you don’t want to miss it! Something new we’re doing here in the Embracing Intensity community is profiling different members of the community to share who we are, what we’ve figured out, and how we can get to know and understand each other better. I’m giving you a sneak peek of my interview with Javon Fernanders, and you can find out more when you join us at Embracing Intensity. Show Highlights: What Chris is intensely passionate about, in light of her history of mental illness and giftedness--and why she’s become an advocate What intensity looks like for someone who had “mental illness” since a young age Why it’s taken Chris her whole life to temper the way she is and to be able to move through the world without causing problems How intensity made everything more difficult because no one understood and she always felt alien and different How she spent 12 years on disability for bipolar and panic disorder, wondering, “What’s wrong with me?” Positive disintegration: a sign of strong developmental potential that says, “You are NOT broken.” What it means to be an empath and to no longer feel so alone The cultural factors that affected Chris and the messages she was raised with Why she wishes people would have encouraged her in the things she wanted to do How she “tuned herself out” and used her gifts to make adults’ lives difficult as a teen How Chris got on the path to “figuring things out”--after getting kicked out of high school, going to drug rehab, and writing a book Overexcitability and how it is misunderstood Chris’ younger life---”Intensity out of control” Why she felt like her personality wasn’t working anymore How she uses her fire for good, in studying positive disintegration in incredible depth Why she began studying Dabrowski’s Theory of Positive Disintegration What has helped in harnessing the power of Chris’ intensity and how “life flows more now” The best advice anyone ever gave Chris: From Linda Silverman, “Stop trying to fit in--and study Dabrowski’s theory.” Personal habits that help her use her fire in positive ways, like writing Books that have influenced Chris the most: Ordinary People by Judith Guest Mellow Out by Michael Piechowski Living with Intensity by Susan Daniels and Michael Piechowski How Chris helps others use their own fire Building community and connection with support and affirmation Resources: Chris Tane Wells Parents of Twice Exceptional Kids

Aurora met today’s special guest, Kate Arms,  at the SENG conference recently and was so inspired by her talk entitled  "Thriving with Intensity: Mining The Magic From Your Overexcitabilities” that she knew Kate would be the perfect fit for the podcast. Kate’s professional background includes working in a myriad of careers including being a lawyer, administrator, artist, writer, and coach. Kate describes her Signal Fire Coaching Program as a vehicle for her to do her life’s work: helping people thrive as the fullest version of themselves and creating effective systems that support the people working within them. More in this episode: Kate’s shares details about her personal intensity. Factors that affected Kate’s intensity while growing up Kate describes ways her intensity could feel out of control in the past. Channeling ways of questioning others Using leadership thinking to question self How theater can help intense individuals. No one person will have all the answers for you. Kate’s personal practices The personal passion that fuels Kate's intensity The magic question Resources Mentioned in the Show: How to donate to help keep the podcast going via Patreon website: Thrive With Intensity website: Parents of Twice Exceptional Kids website: Signal Fire Coaching Signal Fire Coaching on Facebook Signal Fire Coaching on Twitter Undoing Depression, by Richard O’Connor Making It All Work, David Allen

Hot Seat Time! Listen to this week’s episode with Kate Arms from Signal Fire Coaching as she puts me in the hotseat for one of her FREE 60-Minute Powerful Coaching Conversations that she offers on her website. Kate left me feeling completely at peace, grounded, and at the same time driven. She took me from my scattered thoughts of inefficiency to giving me ONE insight WITH an action plan to make it happen. She even gave me a date to get it done by. Pretty sure I’m going to hire her as my coach in case you’re wondering after you listen to the interview. See how Kate can help you realize your dreams…I’m not kidding or blowing smoke!  Within one hour of speaking to Kate I had already recommended her to two other people I care about. Enjoy this episode (and my vulnerability) as you watch Kate guide me towards my dreams one step at a time.