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Thanks Eric Tivers for interviewing me & allowing me to share the full episode here as well. His show notes:In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by Mattia Maurée, an award-winning composer, poet, and host of the AuDHD Flourishing Podcast. Mattia shares their insights into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent (ND) individuals, particularly those with ADHD and autism, as they navigate trauma, self-expression, and what they describe as “attention tunnels.”Mattia opens up about their personal journey, discussing the impact of complex PTSD, disordered eating, and their late diagnoses of ADHD and autism. They explain how monotropism—having a narrower field of focus—shapes their experience as a ND person. Through the lens of monotropism, Mattia explores how being stuck in an attention tunnel can make transitioning to different tasks or social situations feel overwhelming and distressing.Eric and Mattia dive deep into the intersections of trauma and neurodivergence, examining how ND brains may be more easily traumatized, especially in environments that fail to meet their unique needs. They discuss the profound impact of ND parents raising ND children and the challenges of navigating systems that don't support their differences.This conversation also highlights the importance of self-expression in healing and flourishing. Mattia explains how self-expression, rather than achievement, has become central to their definition of success, emphasizing the importance of creating work that resonates emotionally, even if it doesn't fit the traditional metrics of success.Other topics discussed include:The connection between hyperfocus and monotropism in ADHD and autismHow Mattia balances creativity, self-care, and flourishing as a ND individualThe complexity of navigating trauma in ND familiesThe importance of community and support systems for ND creatives and entrepreneursThis episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the complex interplay of trauma, neurodivergence, and flourishing. Whether you identify as ND or are simply curious about these experiences, this conversation offers valuable insights into the importance of creating space for self-expression, healing, and growth.Resources:Transcript DocEmail Newsletter: Nothing Wrong With UsLike Your Brain community space (Patreon) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers welcomes Chris Hooten, a LinkedIn Top Facilitation Voice and certified neuro-mindfulness coach. With over 15 years of experience, Chris specializes in helping neurodiverse organizations foster inclusive communication, leadership, and workplace strategies. Eric begins the episode with a personal update, sharing his ongoing journey of overcoming burnout and a recent formal autism evaluation. He also highlights his interviews on Chasing Life with Dr. Sanjay Gupta and Entrepreneur on Fire, as well as the pressing need for advocacy in the face of recent policy changes that threaten diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) initiatives. The core discussion revolves around communication challenges in neurodivergent teams and how traditional workplace structures often fail to accommodate neurodiverse employees. Chris introduces the 4D Model of Neuroinclusive Communication—a framework designed to improve communication by making it more descriptive, deliberate, direct, and diverse. They discuss common workplace miscommunication issues, the pitfalls of platforms like Slack for neurodivergent individuals, and how managers can foster psychological safety. Chris also explores the systemic barriers that impact neurodivergent and marginalized individuals in professional spaces. They emphasize shifting away from medicalized, deficit-based narratives about neurodiversity and adopting an intersectional, affirming approach that values lived experiences. Eric and Chris conclude by reflecting on the evolving nature of work, the need for workplace wellness, and how neurodivergent individuals are often the first to recognize unsustainable work environments. Chris shares insights on fostering genuine inclusion rather than performative DEI efforts and provides strategies for improving workplace culture.
Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, ADHD coach, and host of ADHD reWired. He's dedicated to helping ADHD adults live more intentional lives while avoiding burnout. Top 3 Value Bombs 1. Hustle culture is toxic culture. 2. You need to have a balance and perspective. You need the other areas in your life that are not related to your business to help you not to get burned out with your work and business. 3. Rest isn't a reward but it is required. Our brain needs rest and we need enough sleep. Check out Eric's website - ADHD reWired Sponsors Author100: A 100-day program where I will personally guide you 1-on-1 to create, write, publish and market your book! If you want daily guidance and mentorship from me, JLD, then head over to Author100.com to sign up for a free call to chat about the details! Airbnb: If you've got an extended trip coming up and need a little help hosting while you're away, hire a co-host to do the work for you! Find a co-host at Airbnb.com/host!
Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, ADHD coach, and host of ADHD reWired. He's dedicated to helping ADHD adults live more intentional lives while avoiding burnout. Top 3 Value Bombs 1. Hustle culture is toxic culture. 2. You need to have a balance and perspective. You need the other areas in your life that are not related to your business to help you not to get burned out with your work and business. 3. Rest isn't a reward but it is required. Our brain needs rest and we need enough sleep. Check out Eric's website - ADHD reWired Sponsors Author100: A 100-day program where I will personally guide you 1-on-1 to create, write, publish and market your book! If you want daily guidance and mentorship from me, JLD, then head over to Author100.com to sign up for a free call to chat about the details! Airbnb: If you've got an extended trip coming up and need a little help hosting while you're away, hire a co-host to do the work for you! Find a co-host at Airbnb.com/host!
Jason Schappert is a serial entrepreneur who boot strapped his last business from zero to an 8 figure exit and is doing it all over again with his newest business Moola which is working to empower members towards their journey of financial freedom. Top 3 Value Bombs 1. The truth of the matter is you don't have to get it right, you just have to keep it going. 2. Industries are revolutionized when an outsider comes in. 3. Innovation happens when you unveil your eyes that you don't have to be in the same industry that you are in. Unlock The Power Of Your Paycheck With Moola's Magic - Moola Sponsors Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, ADHD coach, and host of ADHD reWired. He's dedicated to helping ADHD adults live more intentional lives while avoiding burnout. Top 3 Value Bombs 1. Hustle culture is toxic culture. 2. You need to have a balance and perspective. You need the other areas in your life that are not related to your business to help you not to get burned out with your work and business. 3. Rest isn't a reward but it is required. Our brain needs rest and we need enough sleep. Check out Eric's website - ADHD reWired Sponsors YT 100: Email JLD to learn more about making YouTube magic in 100 days: john@eofire.com
In this episode of ADHD reWired, I'm pulling back the curtain on two intertwined journeys: my own path toward sustainability and the incredible growth story of Jessica, an alumna of our ADHD Coaching and Accountability Groups. As I've navigated my own challenges with burnout and the pressures of juggling too much, I've made a commitment this year to focus on what matters most. My word for the year—sustainability—has reshaped how I approach my work, my energy, and even this podcast. Jessica's story adds another layer of depth to this episode. After feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected while pursuing her PhD, Jessica joined our fall coaching group. Through her deeply personal and reflective audio journal, she shares how the program helped her build sustainable systems, reconnect with her goals, and find the motivation to tackle her work and her life with renewed energy. From discovering the power of accountability teams to replacing old habits with more supportive ones, Jessica's transformation offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to live more intentionally with ADHD. This season, we've made changes to our coaching program to better support ADHDers like you. Now 8 weeks instead of 10, the program is more focused and accessible. We've also introduced on-demand access to our yearly planning sessions, allowing you to go at your own pace. These adjustments reflect the principle that less is truly more when it comes to creating meaningful and lasting growth. The final registration events for our Winter Coaching and Accountability Groups are Wednesday and Thursday of this week, so now is the time to take the next step. If you're ready to stop juggling fireballs and start building a more sustainable, ADHD-friendly life, visit to pre-register today. Tune in to hear Jessica's story, learn more about what makes our coaching groups so transformative, and find inspiration to start your own growth journey. Together, let's challenge internalized ableism and reimagine what it means to thrive with ADHD.
Eric Tivers continues to reflect on his journey of overcoming burnout and seeking solutions for long-term sustainable energy management. ADHD at 80 MPH is a nod to the last episode recorded in the car about 9 years ago. Episode 47 called . Recording from his car during a road trip, Eric shares his experiences of taking a solo retreat to recharge and refocus and to think about yearly planning. He discusses his efforts to rebalance his work and personal needs, and some insights he's recently gained. The episode also touches on his continued discovery of being autistic alongside having ADHD and how it's shaping his approach to life and business. Eric also announces the opening of registration for winter coaching and accountability groups, reflecting on the value of community and structured support for ADHD individuals. The episode concludes with hearing from some recent coaching group alumi and with logistical details about upcoming coaching sessions and community events. 1:07 Winter Coaching and Accountability Groups 01:30 Road Trip Reflections 03:47 Burnout and Sustainability 15:45 Coaching Group Success Stories 22:02 Upcoming Events and Announcements 25:36 Conclusion and Farewell Registration for our winter groups starts Jan. 3, 2025. Winter sessions are January 30 - March 27. Add your name to our interest list at It's not to late to do your yearly planning with ADHD reWired in . Our 5-part yearly planning series is available on demand for Adult Study Hall Members. Join today. It's only $19.99 a month, or save with an annual membership for only $150 for the year. You can also support this work on *Note - There will be no Monthly Patreon Coaching Call, or Pomodoro Dance Party for Adult Study Hall Members in December. But we'll be back in January.
And We're Back!!! In episode 543 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers returns to mark a new beginning for the podcast. Eric focuses this episode on recognizing and overcoming burnout. After 10 years of weekly episodes, plus other stressors in business and life, the pace became unsustainable, leading him to experience significant burnout. Eric elaborates on these elements of burnout, describing emotional exhaustion as a deep-seated fatigue that impacts life engagement, depersonalization as growing detachment and cynicism towards work, and diminished personal achievement as a sense of ineffectiveness despite efforts. He recounts personal struggles, including a divorce and other stressors that exacerbated his burnout. Eric discusses the importance of meaningful alone time to recharge, using his motorcycle trips as an example of finding mental clarity and rebalancing life. He also outlines changes in his coaching seasons to ensure sustainability. Additionally, Eric introduces a new offering for Adult Study Hall where he will be leading members through a 5-week guided workshop for planning your year beginning November 20th, 2024. Learn more at - Plus sign up with our new annual plan and get 37% off your membership. Join us for our Live Monthly Q &A every 2nd Tuesday of the Month at 10:30 AM PT / 1:30 PM PT. RSVP at Support ADHD reWired by becoming a Patron at 00:00 Welcome to ADHD reWired 01:19 Introduction to Season Two 02:40 Understanding Burnout 03:19 Emotional Exhaustion 04:48 Depersonalization and Cynicism 06:02 Reduced Personal Accomplishment 07:57 Diagnosing Burnout 09:47 Personal Journey and Realizations 13:03 Rebalancing Life and Work 14:25 Upcoming Coaching Groups and Community Events 18:50 Yearly Planning Sessions 21:27 Conclusion and Future Plans
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Hey, it's Eric Tivers, host of ADHD reWired. I know it's been a minute since our last episode, but I've got something important for you—especially if you've been thinking about joining our This season, we're doing something a little different: an 8-week sprint instead of the usual 10. That means you'll finish by December 5th, right before the holiday craziness kicks in. And you'll also get access to our alumni community's deep dive into yearly planning, so you can head into 2025 with a clear plan and momentum on your side. Now, let's talk about pricing because I want to make this as accessible as possible. If you sign up during early registration, you can break it up into affordable payments: With PayPal Credit, qualified U.S. applicants can take advantage of 6 months interest-free payments—meaning you can pay just $199 a month. That's it for the entire group! Or, if you prefer to pay over 3 months, you can pay $399 a month with our payment plan. Payments are made via Zelle, with a backup card on file to keep it simple. And hey, if you miss the early registration deadline, you can still use PayPal Credit to pay over 6 months, and your monthly payment will only be $233. The early bird rate ends on Thursday, September 19th, so don't wait! Our fall sessions begin October 10th, and the final registration event is on September 26th. Registration events are at 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern. Head over to coachingrewired.com, add your name to the interest list, and start the pre-registration process today. And if our registration times don't fit your schedule, no worries—you can schedule a 1:1 registration call with me to lock in your spot. I can't wait to see you in this next season! Thanks for listening, and stay tuned—more episodes coming your way soon.
In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by Mattia Mauree, an award-winning composer, poet, and host of the AUDHD Flourishing Podcast. Mattia shares their insights into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with ADHD and autism, as they navigate trauma, self-expression, and what they describe as "attention tunnels." Mattia opens up about their personal journey, discussing the impact of complex PTSD, disordered eating, and their late diagnoses of ADHD and autism. They explain how monotropism—having a narrower field of focus—shapes their experience as a neurodivergent person. Through the lens of monotropism, Mattia explores how being stuck in an attention tunnel can make transitioning to different tasks or social situations feel overwhelming and distressing. Eric and Mattia dive deep into the intersections of trauma and neurodivergence, examining how neurodivergent brains may be more easily traumatized, especially in environments that fail to meet their unique needs. They discuss the profound impact of neurodivergent parents raising neurodivergent children and the challenges of navigating systems that don't support their differences. This conversation also highlights the importance of self-expression in healing and flourishing. Mattia explains how self-expression, rather than achievement, has become central to their definition of success, emphasizing the importance of creating work that resonates emotionally, even if it doesn't fit the traditional metrics of success. Other topics discussed include: The connection between hyperfocus and monotropism in ADHD and autism How Mattia balances creativity, self-care, and flourishing as a neurodivergent individual The complexity of navigating trauma in neurodivergent families The importance of community and support systems for neurodivergent creatives and entrepreneurs This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the complex interplay of trauma, neurodivergence, and flourishing. Whether you identify as neurodivergent or are simply curious about these experiences, this conversation offers valuable insights into the importance of creating space for self-expression, healing, and growth. Connect with Mattia Mauree: Website: Podcast: Support ADHD reWired on Patreon: If you've enjoyed this episode and want to support the podcast, consider becoming a patron at . Your support helps keep the podcast going and brings more episodes to listeners like you! Join ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups: Our coaching groups return this fall! Learn how to manage your ADHD more effectively in a supportive, community-based program. Visit to get all the details.
Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired. Our guest today is Dr. Gilly Khan, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist who specializes in working with children, teens, and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, and ADHD. In this episode, Dr. Khan shares her personal journey with ADHD, discusses the impact of hormonal fluctuations on ADHD symptoms, and offers practical advice on improving emotional regulation and social skills. Dr. Gilly Khan's Journey with ADHD Dr. Gilly Khan was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 33, a revelation that came as no surprise to her. Like many women, she had suspected for years that she might have ADHD. Her journey towards diagnosis began when she noticed ADHD symptoms in her young daughter, leading her to seek a diagnosis for herself. Encouraged by a colleague who was open about her ADHD diagnosis, Dr. Khan decided to embrace her neurodiversity and advocate for herself and her clients. The Impact of Hormonal Fluctuations on ADHD One of the most significant insights Dr. Khan offers is the connection between hormones, particularly estrogen, and ADHD symptoms. She explains that hormonal fluctuations can significantly impact mood, memory, and overall ADHD symptoms. This is crucial for women, especially during periods of hormonal change such as menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause. Dr. Khan shares her personal experience with migraines, which she began having in college, and later discovered were linked to estrogen levels. Her experience highlights the importance of considering hormonal influences when diagnosing and treating ADHD in women. Practical Advice for Emotional Regulation Dr. Khan emphasizes that medication can significantly help reduce ADHD symptoms, including emotional dysregulation. However, she also discusses the importance of practical strategies to manage emotions. One key approach is to take a time-out when feeling overwhelmed and practice coping skills like deep breathing in a calm environment before re-engaging with the situation. Dr. Khan's recommendation to include parents in the process is particularly insightful. Coaching parents to help their children recognize emotional dysregulation and use coping strategies can make a significant difference. Social Skills in ADHD Addressing social skills, Dr. Khan discusses the effectiveness of social skills groups, especially when tailored to the needs of neurodivergent individuals. She notes the importance of applied practice and the role of parents in coaching their children outside of therapy sessions. For adults with ADHD, Dr. Khan suggests finding activities and clubs that align with their interests to facilitate meeting like-minded individuals. She also highlights the importance of planning social interactions, just like planning professional activities, to maintain relationships. Overcoming Social Challenges Both Eric and Dr. Khan share personal anecdotes about the challenges of remembering names and maintaining social connections. Practical tips such as using a planner to schedule social activities and taking photos to remember names illustrate how even small strategies can make a big difference. Advocacy and Self-Education Dr. Khan stresses the importance of self-advocacy and educating oneself about ADHD. She advises seeking out credible resources and being prepared to discuss specific symptoms and experiences with healthcare providers. Her message is clear: understanding and advocating for one's own neurodiversity is crucial for effective treatment and self-acceptance. Conclusion Dr. Gilly Khan's insights provide a deeper understanding of the complexities of ADHD, particularly in women. From the impact of hormonal fluctuations to practical strategies for emotional regulation and social skills, her expertise offers valuable guidance for both individuals with ADHD and those supporting them. To learn more about Dr. Gilly Khan, her work, and her upcoming book on emotional dysregulation, visit her website at drgillykhan.com and follow her on Instagram at @drgillykhan. Thank you for tuning into ADHD reWired. If you found this episode helpful, consider supporting the podcast on Patreon, and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode. Together, we can continue to learn, grow, and support one another in our ADHD journeys. *Shownotes generated by Ai
In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes neurodivergent coach Vida Carey, who specializes in sex and relationships. Together, they dive into conversations about sexuality, intimacy, and the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in these areas. Vida shares her experiences and provides insights on discussing sex openly, defining kink, exploring different relationship structures, and addressing sexual desires in a shameless and authentic manner. The episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding personal needs, and fostering intimacy while managing ADHD. Additionally, the podcast highlights resources and support available through ADHD reWired's coaching programs and virtual community. Navigating ADHD and Intimacy: Conversations with Neurodivergent Coach Vida Carey In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes Vida Carey, a neurodivergent coach specializing in sex and relationships, who emphasizes comfort through humor and candid vulnerability. The discussion delves into the unique challenges of navigating sexual intimacy for those with ADHD, including overcoming societal norms, advocating for oneself, and understanding hyper- and hyposexuality. Vida shares her insights on redefining sex, utilizing intimacy menus, and having open conversations about one's desires. Additionally, the episode addresses the importance of developing healthy communication practices in relationships and offers a humorous yet candid look into making sex a more comfortable topic for neurodivergent individuals. The episode closes with reflections on how neurodivergent couples can better understand and support each other's needs. 00:00 Introduction to ADHD reWired 01:08 Meet Coach Vida Carey 02:36 Navigating Sex and Relationships 05:13 Understanding Kink and Communication 07:31 Advocating for Yourself in the Bedroom 10:16 Exploring Sexual Desires and Intimacy 18:33 Sex Rewards and Intimacy Menus 22:33 ADHD reWired Coaching Groups 28:38 Hyper and Hyposexuality in Neurodivergent Brains 30:44 The Reality of Life and Sex 31:48 Hypersexuality vs. Sexual Addiction 32:49 Exploring Relationship Structures 36:32 Navigating Intimacy and Communication 38:27 The Journey to Intimacy Coaching 41:41 Common Questions About Sex 47:51 The Importance of Communication in Sex 56:01 Final Thoughts and Resources
Episode 538 of the ADHD reWired podcast, hosted by Eric Tivers, addresses the complexities and intersections of neurodivergence (ADHD and autism) and LGBTQ identities. The episode features a panel discussion from a NeuroDivergent Pride event, co-hosted by Chris Wang from Shimmer. The panel includes Eric, Nate, and Vida, who share their personal journeys of coming out as queer and neurodivergent. They discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, masking, and the importance of supportive communities. The episode also emphasizes the impact of visibility and advocacy in both the ADHD and LGBTQ communities, encouraging listeners to join supportive spaces and take steps to be proud of their identities. 03:24 NeuroDivergent Pride Panel Introduction 09:14 Panelists Share Their Stories 22:34 Exploring Neurodivergent and Queer Identities 31:55 Impact of Heteronormative and Neurotypical Expectations 38:04 High-Level Masking and Personal Experiences 38:50 Coming Out and Family Reactions 40:40 Navigating Identity and Cultural Expectations 43:37 Unmasking and Embracing Neurodivergence 46:06 Challenges of Masking and Survival Strategies 53:30 The Continuous Process of Coming Out 01:04:12 Getting Involved in Neurodivergent and LGBTQ Communities 01:13:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Eric Tivers has shared 10 years of helpful content on his podcast, ADHD reWired. He's also built multiple careers helping neurodivergent folks: from therapy, to teaching high support need kids, to the current ADHD group programs. It's a never-ending journey of discovering what works for his current needs and capacity. And the relatively recent discovery of... oh... maybe there's something to this autism thing. Find Eric and his work at adhdrewired.comResources:Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail Newsletter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired! This episode is part of a special series we're calling the Coaches Roundtable, where ADHD reWired Coaches Brian Entler and Kristin Marts join me to discuss what's happening in our coaching and accountability groups each week. This week we're diving into the content from the 4th week of our coaching and accountability groups. This week, we're discussing importance of building strong foundations around habits and routines as an essential precursor to more effective daily and weekly planning. Come join us for our Summer Coaching and Accountability Groups. Take advantage of Early Bird Pricing by registering before May 27th. Learn more at Key Topics Discussed: Introduction: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners and introduces the special series focusing on the content from the 4th week of the coaching and accountability groups. Foundational Strategies: Eric, Kristin, and Brian discuss the importance of establishing routines as a strong foundations for managing ADHD. They share personal experiences and professional insights on creating routines and habits that support productivity and well-being. Tracking Progress: The conversation shifts to the significance of tracking progress. Eric explains how tracking can provide valuable insights and help in adjusting strategies for better outcomes. Kristin and Brian share their favorite tools and techniques for effective tracking. Sleep Management: Brian discusses the critical role of sleep management and shares tips on establishing a nighttime routine. The importance of consistent sleep patterns and how they can impact ADHD symptoms is highlighted. Engaging in Routines: Kristin shares her group's experiences with engaging in morning routines and how small adjustments can lead to significant improvements in managing ADHD symptoms. Personal Stories: Eric, Kristin, and Brian share personal anecdotes about their own routines, sleep management, and tracking progress, providing relatable and practical advice for listeners. Closing Remarks: Eric wraps up the episode with key takeaways and encourages listeners to implement the discussed strategies in their daily lives.
Welcome, everyone, to a somewhat different episode of the ADHD reWired Podcast. If you're new here, I'm your host, Eric Tivers, and today we're going to dive into a topic that's both personal and universal. And I',m gonna get kinda vulnerable with you here. But before we get into that, I wanted to let you know, that our spring Coaching groups which start on thursday, is experiencing lower than typical enrollment this season, which is why with group starting this Thursday, April 11th, 2024, we're giving you the the chance to join us for only $999. That's 50% off my section, and $650 off Coach Brian and Coach Kristin's section. Sign up by this Wednesay, by attending our last registration event wedneday at 12 pm pt / 3 eastern, or by going to coachingrewired.com and scheduling a 1:1 registration interview. Come join us for our lowest price since 2017, only 999. And with if you qualify for paypal credit, you can break it up over 6 months interest free. That's only $166 a month. It's the same great program, at a shockingly low price. Go to coachingrewired.com to get started with pre-registration. Add your name to the interest list. And we'll be in touch. Our episode is titled "When What Was Working, Stops Working," and it's a reflection on the journey of ADHD reWired over the last decade, where we are now, and we're going to end this short reflection with 10 tips that you can use when what was working, stops working. For those of you who have been with us from the beginning, you know that we've experienced an incredible journey together. We were the #1 ADHD podcast for 8 consecutive years, a title that we held with pride and gratitude. Our coaching groups grew consistently, and we were even featured as one of the innovative programs at the international conference on ADHD back in 2019 and we built a community that has been a source of support, inspiration, and transformation for so many. But as with all journeys, there have been twists and turns, unexpected challenges that have forced us to reevaluate and adapt. In the world of ADHD, this is a familiar theme. We find strategies that work for us, routines that bring stability and productivity, and then, for reasons often beyond our control, those strategies stop working. It can feel like hitting a wall, and it's a feeling that many of us in the ADHD community know all too well. In the past year, ADHD reWired has faced its own set of challenges. The landscape of ADHD support has changed dramatically, with a surge in new podcasts and coaching programs. When I started ADHD reWired in 2014, I beleive there were 7 or 8 other ADHD podcasts. I just counted on apple podcasts, 120 ADHD specefic podcasts! This influx, combined with the economic uncertainties that have affected so many, has made it more difficult for us to fill our coaching groups as we once did. And from talking to a number of other ADHD coaches out there, it looks like this is happening across the board. It's a situation that has prompted a lot of reflection and reevalution and has required me to make some really difficult decisions. For a decade, we've been on a trajectory of growth and success. We've built something truly special. During the peak of the pandemic we were doing 5 groups, and built a team to support this heightened demand. And over the last year or so, things have have changed. Over the last few seasons, due to decreased demand, we've went back to 3 groups, and even those have not been easy to completely fill. So we've lowered prices, which have helped, but I think between the economy and the current influx of other ADHD programs out there, what was working is no longer working. And, man, it's hard when when what had been working for so many years, just stops working. But it's also an opportunity, a chance to revisit what we stand for and how we can continue to serve our community in meaningful ways. Our mission has always been to provide a space where individuals with ADHD can come together to learn, grow, and support each other. It's been about more than just strategies and tips; it's been about building a community that understands the complexities of ADHD and offers a sense of belonging. As we navigate this period of change, we're reminded of the importance of resilience and adaptability. We're exploring new ways to reach and connect with our audience, to provide value and support in a changing world. We're looking at how we can innovate both within our coaching groups, and in other ways to ensure that ww continue to meet the needs of our community. And most importantly, we're reaffirming our commitment to you, our listeners and community members. Your stories, your struggles, and your successes are what drive us to do what we do. We're here to navigate the ups and downs of ADHD together, to celebrate the wins and learn from the challenges. So, if you've been thinking about joining our coaching groups, or if you've been a part of our community in the past, know that we're here for you. We're evolving, we're adapting, and we're optimistic about the future. Is it uncomfortable? Sure is. But I still believe that we can do hard things. So "When What Was Working, Stops Working" is not just a reflection on our journey, and a check in about where we are at right now, it's a call to action for all of us to embrace change and continue to grow. And now, I'd like to share with you 10 strategies that can be helpful when what was working stops working: Pause and Reflect: Take a moment to assess what has changed and why the old strategies are no longer effective. Seek Feedback: Reach out to your community or a trusted advisor to get a fresh perspective on the situation. Embrace Flexibility: Be open to trying new approaches and adapting your strategies as needed. Break It Down: Simplify your goals into smaller, manageable tasks to regain a sense of control. Prioritize Self-Care: Ensure you're taking care of your physical and mental health to maintain resilience. Revisit Your Values: Align your actions with your core values to stay motivated and focused. Set Boundaries: Define clear limits to protect your time and energy as you navigate change. Practice Gratitude: Focus on what is working and express appreciation for the progress you've made. Stay Curious: Approach challenges with a mindset of curiosity and a willingness to learn. Celebrate Small Wins and practice gratidue: Acknowledge and celebrate each step forward, no matter how small. And here's one more: And i'm serious about this one. Don't struggle alone. Remember, change is an inevitable part of growth. When what was working stops working, it's an opportunity to explore new possibilities and deepen our understanding of ourselves and our journey with ADHD. Want to talk about this or any other ADHD related topics with me? Join us for Tusday's live q & a. You can register at our newly designed website at www.adhdrewired.com
Mix together cello, ADHD, and an insatiable need for sushi, and you get Steven Sharp Nelson–one of the most watched musicians in the world! A self-titled “dorky dad”, Steven attributes his hard-earned “unlikely” success story to his unending love for helping people feel the worth of their own soul through music. Name a concert venue–he's sold it out! Name an iconic place in the world–he's filmed a music video there with The Piano Guys! His content is watched and streamed over 3 million times every day! He's performed and spoken to two million people around the world; as much as he loves all of this, his favorite thing in the world is one-on-one time with his wife and each of his four children who “tolerate” and sometimes even love his quirky creative persona! He is passionate about music education and its critical role in our culture. Learn More about Steven Sharp Nelson: Find him on ThePianoGuys.com Find Steven Sharp Nelson on Instagram @stevensharpnelson Find The Piano Guys on Instagram @thepianoguys In this episode, you'll hear tips, stories, and discussions about: Steven's fascination with music's power and effect on the brain “Perpetual burnout can often be a result of unhealthy hyperfocus and overdriving your overdrive.” - Steven Sharp Nelson Burnout as an indicator of your strengths rather than your weaknesses Practicing the art of self-awareness and healthy hyperfocus vs. unhealthy hyperfocus “A perfect balance does not exist!” Self-suggestibility and attention abundance “Not being present is the easiest way to be depressed.” / “Face down, chin up!” The parable of the spinning (too many) plates and chronic burnout The space between the notes / The meaning of life is in between our expectations; the space between our expectations is where we find meaning Music, mutualism, edification, and the role of intention Toxic positivity vs. a genuine desire to appreciate and be grateful “You are like a cello” and navigating our unique gifts, variables, and expressions of ADHD When too many options become too much Cataloging what you're working on and what you're not working on The wax and wane of motivation / The muscles of discipline and consistency Book :: Atomic Habits by James Clear (link here) Removing obstacles between us and the things we're working towards Hyperfocus, pros and cons, expecting internal pushback, and creating a virtual cliffhanger for yourself How do you interact with your hyperfocus? Website :: Arthur Brooks https://arthurbrooks.com The toxic belief that everything in our lives should “always be on an incline” Arc jumping and how to go from mid-life crisis to mid-life crescendo Are you bored or are you unfulfilled? A practice of fulfillment scores and finding out where your next sense of fulfillment will be YouTube Video :: Me and My Cello - Happy Together (Turtles) Cello Cover - The Piano Guys The importance of becoming friends with your instrument A message to you, our wonderful listeners, from Steven
Are you the type of person who tends to over-do it, because if one is good, ten is better? The inability to self-regulate is a hallmark symptom of ADHD. Because the ADHD brain does not regulate dopamine well. Which makes it hard to get started when a task seems boring, and hard to stop when you're feeling good. Typically perceived as a learning disability in school-aged boys, the ADHD diagnosis for women ages 30-49 has doubled in the last few years. Which is good…because without a proper diagnosis, most ADHDers attribute their struggles to a lack of integrity and discipline. But feeling like a failure only compounds the emotional energy required to function. And further increases your risk of addiction. Eric Trivers is a licensed clinical social worker, certified ADHD service provider and host of the hit podcast ADHD Rewired. In this episode, you'll learn: How ADHD impairs executive function and drains your emotional reserves How menopause affects the symptoms of ADHD in women Why undiagnosed ADHD makes you more susceptible to addiction How stimulant medications support the ADHD brain when overcoming alcohol use disorder Why the primary coping strategies for ADHD are awareness and self-compassion Find more with Eric Trivers @ADHDreWired on Instagram, Facebook and TikTok. Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN: If you're looking for a coach instead of a sobriety program so you can reduce your drinking without having to quit, schedule a free consultation with Colleen. You'll walk away from the call with clarity about why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.
On today's episode, Clutterbug's creator Cas Aarssen joins Eric on the podcast! Cas's Clutterbug is a home-organizing business which provides education, inspiration, and support to over half a million families worldwide through her YouTube channel, podcast, and various other social media platforms! Cas is also the author of four best-selling books about organization (listed below)! As a self-professed recovering “super-slob”, she discovered that through her own journey with clutter, that organization is not one-size-fits-all! She's identified four unique organizing styles and developed the Clutterbug method to help individuals discover their type and implement customized solutions that will finally get them organized long-term! Learn More about Clutterbug: Check out the website at Clutterbug.com where you can take the free quiz to identify your organizing style! Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/clutterbug.me/ Instagram @clutterbug https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ YouTube Channel – search for Clutterbug Clutterbug's Tough Love Find all of Cas's books here https://clutterbug.me/books In this episode, you'll hear tips, stories, and discussions about: What it was like being a hyperactive girl with ADHD From being 15 years old and homeless to becoming an adult and experiencing serious consequences How Cas became interested in home organization and being an ADHD mom – “My house was a wreck!” Big categories vs. small categories and having your house reflect the way YOU organize How an ADHD diagnosis helped change and shift a sense of self “Maybe I'm doing all this cool stuff because I have ADHD!” Having higher education does not necessarily mean you can't be great or do great things, such as having a TV show or having 4 bestselling books Cas's four different types of organizing, how you store your things, and how you sort your things Just because you're a visual person doesn't necessarily mean you're a “cluttery” person Turning subconscious tendencies into actionable and functional organization Visual homes vs. piles and taking advantage of how you naturally sort things How perfection can turn into procrastination and paralysis Being detailed and detail-oriented vs. being a perfectionist Learned behaviors, environmental behaviors, and other things that make our organizing styles unique Containers, bowls, boundaries, and self-awareness “We are gathering more than our brains can manage.” / “Everything you own is something you have to remember…” The actual differences between tidying, cleaning, decluttering, and organizing How to start decluttering, the anxiety around getting rid of things, and scarcity mindsets Having a tidy home that fits your organization style is a form of self-love and self-respect Clutter-blindness / Safety, security, and mindset around money vs. accumulating things Selling on eBay or Facebook Marketplace isn't always the answer Standing up to your clutter / You are not your stuff!
This week, Dr. Nate Page joins Eric on the podcast! Nate has many titles, including Ph.D, licensed psychologist, certified group psychotherapist; but his education on burnout has come through his own painful journey with burnout. He began presenting on burnout seven years ago after witnessing the devastating impacts of burnout and compassion fatigue on his own life, the lives of his colleagues, and the lives of his therapy clients. He soon was specializing in individual and group therapy services for healthcare professionals who are caught in the depths of burnout. Nate dedicates a significant portion of his career to providing education and training on these topics, which was how Eric was introduced to Dr. Nate Page - at the CHADD conference in 2023 when presenting on burnout! Get in touch with Nate: Check out his website at GroupTherapyCentral.com In this episode, you'll hear tips and/or discussions about: The stigma around burnout and reducing the stigma and shame Burnout: Not “if” but “when” The idea of burnout as an injury and re-scarring burnout wounds Compassion fatigue as bruises in the soul The good, the bad, and the ugly of stress Paying attention to burnout cues Context-driven depression, workplace, and situational depression Boredom and stress Addressing “a” problem vs. identifying the right problem to create appropriate solutions “Am I on the path to burnout or am I already burnt out but am ignoring/avoiding the signs?” The importance of taking restorative breaks Preventing the cycle of burnout / Healing and recovering from stress fractures Relationship dynamics, fairness, finding pebbles in the shoes, and potential extra stressors Maximizing the restorative nature of taking time off Creating structure during a break and getting the “recharge” effect Can you really “speed up” recovery? Compassion during healing and recovering from burnout The importance of engaging with what makes you feel alive Resources & Honorable Mentions Paper :: “Compassion Fatigue as Bruises in the Soul: A Qualitative Study on Nurses” DOI: 10.1177/09697330211003215 ADHD reWired episode :: 452 - Overcoming Burnout - with David Greenwood ADHD reWired episode :: 507 - Neurodiverging, Masking, Burnout, and More - with Danielle Sullivan ADHD reWired episode :: 512 - Creativity for Healing - with Melissa Seldon Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net)
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You can also find bonus questions, get full answers from this recording, and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more! Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! In this Q&A, you'll hear tips and discussions about: Personal positive experiences, nuances, and psychology of body doubling The positive effects of being connected vs. being alone to get things done Morning routines and strategies for an ADHD household to guide a child without a lot of struggle or frustration Morning routines, time management, getting out of the house and transitioning Incorporating and utilizing different human senses to help with time-awareness and transitions The differences in ADHD presentation between kids and adults and addressing outdated views of what ADHD looks like and how it can present Reasons why it may be difficult for friends and loved ones to shift their perceptions when discussing an ADHD diagnosis Self-love and self-acceptance with ADHD How sleep, exercise, nutrition, and overall well-being can affect our executive functions Finite and practical examples to help with time-blindness / Discovering pain-points and what creates avoidance of transitions Reframing what a break can be if you're resistant to taking breaks Task-batching / The effects of technology on transition time / Mindfulness with transitions “How can I get over the mindset that somehow I can't actually have money without spending it?” Emotional responses vs. value-based responses “Burnout is the body taking the rest it needs by force.” Planning and structuring for self-care / Meditation to re-regulate our nervous systems “Self-care time is productive time!” ADHD and emotional dysregulation, trauma, and bouncing back faster from dysregulation “There's nothing wrong with expressing your emotions.” “What would you tell a best friend if…” ...and so much more! Resources & Honorable Mentions Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired's Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 444: ADHD Tax Stories & Strategies with Rick Webster Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 338: Money Management with Rick Webster from RenaFi Article :: Adlerian Theory https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/Alderian-Psychotherapy-Intro-Sample.pdf App :: Brili Routines - Apps for Families & Adults with ADHD https://brili.com Website :: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff https://self-compassion.org Website :: RenaFi with Rick Webster - for money management when you have ADHD https://www.renafi.com Book :: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff Book :: Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) Tool :: Time Timer
This week, I sat down with ADHD expert Eric Tivers. Eric is the founder and CEO of ADHD Rewired and has been producing his acclaimed podcast for over 500 episodes! Eric shares his own ADHD journey, from struggling in college to finding the right medication and strategies that allowed him to thrive academically and professionally.In this uplifting conversation, Eric and I explore the power of community support and self-compassion for ADHDers. We also discussed the importance of finding the right therapist or coach who truly understands ADHD. Eric leaves us with some motivating words of wisdom - growth is possible if you focus on "less" and be patient with yourself.About Eric Tivers:Eric Tivers is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, ADHD Coach, Founder/CEO/Host of ADHD reWired Podcast Since 2014, he's produced over 500 episodes on his podcast. He's a leader in providing online group coaching and community-based group programs for adults with ADHD.His podcast ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group was recognized at the 2019 International Conference on ADHD as the Innovative Program of the Year. He runs a virtual co-working program for adults with ADHD called 'Adults Study Hall'. He graduated with a Bachelor's degree in Social Work from Bradley University and got his Master's degree in School Social Work at the Jane Addams College of Social Work at the University of Illinois at Chicago.Episode Highlights:[02:50] - Eric shares being diagnosed with ADHD at age 19.[05:12] - The revelation of realizing his struggles were not unique.[07:05] - Using medication and brute force strategies to succeed in college.[09:22] - Battling perfectionism after finally experiencing academic success.[10:24] - Learning practical strategies outside of just medication.[13:41] - The importance of building and tweaking systems that work.[17:13] - Rotating through ADHD management strategies is normal.[19:42] - Giving himself grace when executive functions are low.[21:17] - Focusing on resilience versus consistency.[23:00] - Producing 500+ podcast episodes by taking it week by week.[24:59] - Self-compassion starts with giving it to others first.[26:01] - The power of community support for ADHDers.[29:42] - Making big changes to correct life's path.[32:11] - Eric's reflections on his divorce.[35:11] - Comparing coaching mindsets to social work backgrounds.[37:08] - Leveraging strengths and resources.[38:21] - The importance of working with ADHD-informed professionals.[39:30] - The harm an ADHD-illiterate therapist can inflict.[41:35] - Eric's advice - growth is possible with patience.[42:53] - Focus on less stuff to allow more growth.[43:43] - Where to find Eric and ADHD Rewired.Connect with Eric Tivers:•Podcast/Coaching/Community: ADHD reWired https://www.adhdrewired.com/ •IG: https://www.instagram.com/adhdrewired/ If you enjoyed my conversation with Eric, please leave a rating and review! You can connect with me @coachingwithbrooke on social media. Thanks for listening!Do you second guess to death? Feel paralyzed by choices?Learn CWBs 5-Step Process to Stop Analysis Paralysis and make decisions with CONFIDENCE and EASE in our FREE Masterclass on Friday, March 22 @ 10am EST ▶ https://bit.ly/ADHDDecisions
In this episode, Kristin Koliha joins Eric on the podcast! Kristin, who was diagnosed with ADHD later in life, is a clinical social worker with a background in working with those who also have an ADHD diagnosis. She's a mom of two kids who also have ADHD and is also a business owner! Kristin works as a coach and educator for those with ADHD who struggle to manage their ADHD homes, working with them to create individualized strategies to help with home keeping. She focuses on mindset shifts, ADHD diagnosis education in the context of home environment, and also focuses on support for those who want to take their homes from chaos to calm! Find more from Kristin Koliha: Website :: https://www.welcomehomeadhd.com (where you can also take a quiz to find out your organizational style!) Instagram :: @welcomehomeADHD https://www.instagram.com/welcomehomeadhd/ In this episode, you'll hear tips and/or discussions about: The reasons for Kristin's interest in homekeeping for ADHD brains and struggles that a dependent encounters when beginning to “adult” Is Kristin an organized person? Discovering your “default” and how clutter can have a different effect on different people Decision making and decision fatigue How does Kristin help folks with the “decisions” of their stuff? Being intentional when bringing things in your new home and finding out where those things will live before you get them The frustration of organization and being experiential learners “Don't go buy the thing to solve the problem; think about how you can solve it without buying the thing, and what else needs to happen?” Scheduling regular maintenance sessions / How your environment can affect your mood Organized for display vs. organizing for function Defining and discussing the different strategies for the pile-r, the stuffer, and the magician The “touch it once” rule Perfection, energy management, expectations, all-or-nothing thinking, and “good enough” Flexibility with values and needs to help with mental health / Can you be “green” with ADHD? Strategies for working through the I-Don't-Wannas / Thinking about your future self Finding your pain points in a home that have different levels of care in different areas of cleanliness Honoring your tidying needs while honoring another person's tidying needs Being caring, kind, and alleviating shame / Why asking for what someone needs isn't always helpful Resources & Honorable Mentions Tidy-up tip from the editor: Do you have extra dryer sheets? Put a dryer sheet in your sink of hot water when soaking caked-on dishes to help loosen up the grime!
This week, ADHD reWired welcomes Coach Dana Crews back on the podcast! In this episode, Eric and Dana have a vulnerable and open conversation about navigating conflict, the difference between conflict and disagreements, recognizing emotions, and making space for people we love but may also–at times–disagree with! Find more from Dana: All about Dana at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews Second Arrow ADHD Coaching at secondarrowadhdcoaching.com ADHD reWired Episode 498: Will I Ever Be Content? In this episode, you'll hear discussions and tips about: Is conflict inevitable? What concepts come with conflict? / Thinking about the differences between conflict, disagreements, and avoiding conflict How can we disagree without the intense emotional state that causes more dysregulation? Differences between professional, personal, and family conflicts / Difficulties of transitions and the true size of ‘problems' Behaviors based on patterns and experiences even though we're not living in those moments and being stuck living in the past “We don't have to agree with a person's perspective.” / It's not WHAT we're disagreeing about – it's about HOW we're disagreeing. The importance of acknowledging the other person's feelings / Can I make space? Can I have empathy or compassion for the other person? Holding space also includes active listening and being present / Mindfulness and grounding to be in the present Stating intent: What is the goal? Is the goal to be heard? To be right? To be understood? To come to a resolution? A compromise? (The three Hs: Do you need to be heard, hugged, or helped?) Getting to a place of collaboration, connection, and trust; a lack of conflict isn't necessarily healthy The power of the pause, non-judgemental awareness, and recognizing one's own tendencies and patterns of behaviors Starting arguments as a way to stimulate the brain / Feeling understood and also feeling heard can also be stimulating Getting stimulus sustainably and healthfully without it being stressful, unhealthy, or a detriment to ourselves or our loved ones Setting boundaries and laying down expectations when needing to take a break to calm down from a conflict / How to come back after taking care of in-the-moment emotions Possibilities of creative problem solving / Acknowledging one's role in a conflict without blaming Stepping out of the content of a conflict and separating the emotion from the story you're telling yourself Identifying and tuning into emotions / “The story I'm telling myself is…” / Avoiding shame & guilt spirals Leaning into emotion vs. pushing away emotion Resources & Honorable Mentions App: How We Feel at howwefeel.org Article :: Turn Towards Instead of Away at gottman.com Article :: Crucial Conversations Skill Summary Book :: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg Book :: Rising Strong - Brene Brown Website :: The Center of Nonviolent Communication at Information :: Esther Perel: Understanding and Resolving Conflict How to Resolve Conflict (Esther Perel) Masterclass Information :: Paul Ekman - Emotions Revealed
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You can also find bonus questions & answers from past recordings and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more! Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! In this Q&A, you'll hear tips and discussions about: ADHD and long COVID mimicking ADHD symptoms Being a business owner with ADHD and hiring / training processes How involved one should be in helping a partner with their medication regimen Codependency vs. interdependency Observing, support, relationships, and not falling into codependency roles Being an accountability partner for a significant other Chronic pain and negative feedback cycles Negative feedback spirals vs. negative feedback loops Mindfulness in the body and mind and mindfulness-based stress reduction The importance of being transparent about chronic pain with loved ones Feeling safe, expressing needs, and accommodations around chronic pain Can ADHD exacerbate pain? Pain as part of our sensory system, ADHD, and different thresholds Different types of paper planners and accounting for transition time SHART: Sh*t Happens; Adjustment Recovery Time Point of performances Placeholders and flexibility when planning Tips for task-switching instead of avoiding moving from one task to another Practicing taking breaks at least once an hour Sleep, exercise, general self-care, and task-shifting abilities Identifying obstacles then creating and/or accommodating around those obstacles “What are you fearing if you stop now and [transition] to the next thing?” and pattern interruptions The importance of having a growth mindset and seeing setbacks as opportunities Resources & Honorable Mentions Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW! At theadhdcreativespodcast.com
In this episode, Emerson Jordan-Wood joins Eric–in person at ADHD reWired HQ–on the podcast! Emerson is a 27-year-old queer, non-binary, trans human. They are originally from Illinois, but have lived brief stints in Iowa, Texas, and most recently Minnesota! They studied civil engineering at The University of Iowa currently work in non-profit construction. Emerson was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021, and self-diagnosed with autism in 2022! They're also an active Alumni member of ADHD reWired's coaching and accountability groups! In this episode, you'll hear experiences, struggles, and discussions about: “Transitions are hard” and transitioning gender identities The overlap of ADHD, different means of transitionings, and barriers to access Hoops, hurdles, and executive function nightmares Experiencing gender dysphoria and body disconnect Navigating the medical system and knowing your options “This feels like me.” “Your transition is your transition and it doesn't have to be based on anybody else's.” Masking gender, masking as a neurotypical person, then unmaking gender identity Acceptance, freedom, and fully being your authentic self in the world “I was doing what I thought I ‘should' be doing.” Different perceptions of gender, how people respond and interact with those perceptions, and fitting in Experiencing gender privilege and gender discrimination in the workplace Understanding pros, cons, patterns, and social cues between the gender roles Being misgendered, coming to terms with your identity and doing the work towards acceptance Navigating and learning how to process irritability, anger, frustration, and general emotional dysregulation Struggling with task initiation, living in a constant state of flight, and not “panicking” through life From TikTok to the doctor Feelings of being unprepared, social expectations, and navigating new environments Social cues, dynamics in conversations, and autism The helpfulness of labels and language to describe different struggles to take action and better communicate
This week, Jeremy Nagel joins Eric on the show! Jeremy is a neuro-spicy software developer turned startup founder who is slightly obsessed with habits! He likes to start each day with a 2-hour morning routine and sometimes surprises colleagues by busting out a set of pushups during meetings to keep the energy high! When he's not working on startups, he enjoys cross-country skiing, trail-running, and cycling with his wife. Jeremy also hosts the podcast, “Focus and Chill”, a show about productivity for neurodivergent people! Find more from Jeremy: Check out his website and app at FocusBear.io Find the podcast at podcast.focusbear.io – “Focus and Chill” Get in touch with Jeremy on LinkedIn In this episode, you'll hear tips and discussions about: Micro-workouts to boost focus, mechanical multi-tasking through energy slumps & maintaining energy “Busy hands, quiet mind.” / Hyperfocus vs. the counterintuitive ideas of taking a break The benefits of actually stepping away and taking breaks Ways that your room or environments affect bigger- or smaller-picture thinking How do you stop when the focus feels good? / “Feeling are convincing liars.” Accountability, and body-doubling Consistency, resiliency, the law of averages, & the importance of learning your own patterns Addressing and dealing with stress, stressors, and burnout through physical activity Micro-workouts as a tool to manage emotional storms and dysregulation Exercise “snacks” and bite-sized workouts: Defining allotted times and types of workouts/movement Self-talk strategies when “I don't want to!” How do we modify or set up our environments to be more conducive for what we want and/or need to do? Consistency, variations, flexibility in routines, and small actions adding up over time “The more we are able to get ourselves into various routines, the less we are having to tax our executive functions to do the work we're trying to do within those routines.” “Stopping requires executive function.” Helpful in-the-moment vs. helpful in the long-term, not struggling alone, and self-compassion When we're doing everything right but our brain has other plans Externalizing executive functioning for days when the EF-tank is low Having limits in place and the power of the Pause Mindfulness, meditation, and dishes as a mindfulness practice Resources & Honorable Mentions Adult Study Hall by ADHD reWired at adultstudyhall.com Book: Burnout - The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA
In this episode of ADHD reWired, Skye returns to the show! Skye is an ADHD coach and founder of Unconventional Organization, an international ADHD support service that provides research-backed support to adults with ADHD. She also has years of experience working in adult education and has studied psychology, sociology, and public health. Skye was diagnosed with ADHD as a doctoral candidate before making the decision to leave her candidature to work full time on Unconventional Organization. Find more from Skye: Check out Unconventional Organization at unconventionalorganization.com The ADHD Skills Lab Podcast at unconventionalorganisation.com/theadhdskillslab In this episode, you'll hear tips and discussions about: Life updates from Skye with a new addition to the family Accepting when routines need to be altered when life circumstances change Dividing different todos, transitions, and location-basing your tasks Adjustments, reinforcements, and externalizing routines Interruptions, picking a task back up post-interruption, and external support Routines to preserve executive functions, transitioning, mental shifting, and adjusting Movement and dopamine to support working memory Dialing down stimulation rather than shutting it off Troubleshooting and problem solving in the moment when an unexpected interruption pops up Resetting, freezing, and externalized dysregulation vs. internalized emotional dysregulation “I have NO routines at all–where do I start?” How important is knowing how long each part of a routine takes? The difficulty of remembering routines and excited vs. working memory Remembering organically vs. being reminded and creating cues Googly eyes? Why not! AI and smart tools for helping with routines “ADHD is not a skill deficit.” …and more! Resources & Honorable Mentions ADHD reWired Episode 449 :: Getting Tasks Done with Skye Tool: reMarkable at reMarkable.com Check out The ADHD Creatives Podcast with ADHD reWired Coach Kristin Marts! theadhdcreativespodcast.com
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You can also find bonus questions & answers from past recordings and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more! Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! ⚠️ Our winter season of coaching & accountability groups starts on January 11th, 2024! Go to coachingrewired.com to find out all the up-to-date information and everything you'll need before we start! In this Q&A, you'll hear tips and discussions about: Navigating around responses and emotions, family dynamics during the holidays, and discussions around ADHD and neurodivergence Overestimating our capacity to get things done and avoiding / overcoming burnout Time management, energy management, and reframing expectations A strategy for remembering to actually stop your timer when time-tracking Tools/strategies to help with overwhelm, and the role of acceptance and community Using a camera and grid system to organize and declutter a room Emotional regulation practices / A.I. tools and services Intervening to taking breaks even when you “don't feel tired” and making decisions on a drained brain Cramming for deadlines and zeroing in on sources of procrastination Hybrid planning and the importance of experimentation Scope creep, saying no, learning our tendencies, and having a “parking lot” for our ideas Resources & Honorable Mentions Book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Tawwab Book: 168 Hours by Laura Vanderkam Book: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee G. Adams Book: The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron Website: GoodInside - Dr. Becky (at https://www.goodinside.com) Instagram: Nedra Tawwab @nedratawwab (Author of “Set Boundaries, Find Peace”) YouTube Video: How to Give Your Brain the Stimulation it Needs (a.k.a. a DOPA Menu!) with Jessica from HowToADHD Adult Study Hall by ADHD reWired at adultstudyhall.com App: Otter.ai Quotable Remembrances “You're not the jack-ass whisperer” - Brene Brown “You can't change the people around you, but you can change the people around you.” - The Minimalists (Joshua Fields Milburn and Ryan Nicodemus) “Novelty is great, but be wise about how you use it.” “If we don't have an accurate picture of what's going on in our macro life, how can we even begin to know what needs to change?” “If you can't change it, you can change the way you think about it.” “Am I overcomplicating this?” “If you don't know where your boundary is first, you are likely to scope-creep.”
Our 35th season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups are coming up fast! This winter season begins next week on Thursday, January 11th, 2024! Don't miss your chance to join - go now to coachingrewired.com to find this season's schedule and all the details, and to get your name on our interest list, so you can join one of our upcoming final registration events: Tuesday, January 9th (immediately following the Live Q&A); or Wednesday, January 10th at 10am Pacific / 1pm Eastern If those times don't work for you, you can even schedule a 1-on-1 with Eric, coach Kristin or coach Brian, or another member of the ADHD reWired team, who will help you get all the information you'll need to get registered! Growth happens here. Start the new year by starting with you - go now to coachingrewired.com!
This week, ADHD reWired Coaches Eric Tivers, Kristin Marts, and Brian Entler get together for the first ever round-table discussion! You'll hear stories about troubles and tips for how coaches manage their own transitions, how each person leverages the tools in their ADHD toolbelts, the role of novelty, thriving in a crisis, how different times of day affect each coach, and more! Send your suggestions and ideas of what you'd like to hear from the coaches in future Coaches Round Table episodes to support@adhdrewired.com with the subject line, “Round Table” You can hear more from Brian, Kristin, and other past guests in all of our recordings of our monthly Live Q&As! Find show notes to this episode and all past episodes adhdrewired.com/podcast! More notes on this amazing episode coming soon! In the meantime, checkout these resources mentioned on today's show! Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #342 - Transitions, Balancing Work, and Relations - with Adison Smith Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #429 - Growth Cycles with Brian Entler Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #514 - Introducing: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts Book :: The One Thing by Gary W. Kellar and Jay Papasan ADHD reWired Coaching :: About Coach Kristin Marts at https://www.adhdrewired.com/coach-kristin-marts ADHD reWired Coaching :: About Brian Entler at https://www.adhdrewired.com/coach-brian-entler Join our award-winning Coaching & Accountability Groups at coachingrewired.com If you love the show and want to support our work, consider becoming a Patron at adhdrewired.com/Patreon
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This week, Eric is joined by Donavan Robinson!
This week, get to know Coach Kristin Marts a little more as Eric and Kristin share a one-on-one conversation about the role and importance of creativity in her life, her history in dance and musical theater, her journey through ADHD reWired's Coaching & Accountability Groups, what sparked her to become an LCSW, and how she became a coach! You'll also hear about her joy of performing, life as a late-diagnosed neurodivergent mom with neurodivergent kids, and so much more! And, coming soon: Look out for the FULL trailer of The ADHD Creatives Podcast in your favorite podcast player on or before December 29th! Find Kristin: On her website at TheADHDCreativesPodcast.com As an ADHD reWired Coach at adhdrewired.com And get in touch with Kristin at kmarts@possibilitiestherapycenter.com Questions/Topics: [00:01:22] Introducing Kristin and sharing her story [00:03:52] Finding coaching and getting involved [00:07:24] Learning about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) [00:09:20] Thriving in a crisis, improvisation, and perfectionism [00:11:53] Creativity is “impulsivity gone right” - Dr. Ned Hallowell [00:12:19] Kristin reflects on her first year of coaching: perfectionism and being yourself [00:16:18] “We are our harshest critics.” [00:21.44] How the idea of The ADHD Creatives Podcast was born [00:23:23] Introducing a teaser of The ADHD Creatives Podcast trailer [00:24:28] Eric asks about Kristin's process and experience to create her podcast [00:30:15] Songs, shows, commercials, and a sense of timing [00:31:56] The experiences Kristin integrates into coaching [00:36:28] Masking, persona, creativity, forgiveness, and patience [00:40:53] Thoughts on gifts and superpowers [00:43:34] What inspired Kristin to become an LCSW [00:50:54] Favorite things about coaching, more about the upcoming new podcast, and closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: The One Thing Join ADHD reWired's ADHD-friendly online coworking community at adultstudyhall.com!
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You'll also find the bonus questions & answers from this recording and can listen in ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! Resources / Topics / Honorable Mentions Article: “Sailboat Metaphor” on scottbarrykaufman.com Article: “Why we Need to Evolve Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs from a Pyramid to a Sailboat Metaphor” by Kyle Kowalski Book: “No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model” Topic: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs Topic: Sailboat of Needs Topic: Motivational Interviewing Website: Chat GPT at chat.openai.com Website: IFS Institute (Internal Family Systems) at ifs-institute.com Website/App: Goblin Tools at goblin.tools
This week, Eric is joined by Melissa Seldon! Melissa is an artist, librarian-for-hire, and nature lover. Creating is a predominant part of her mental health and healing process that she is currently working through. Her art pieces can represent emotions and ideas that the deep and dusty corners of her brain offer up, as well as traits and behaviors that she is attempting to embody. The majority of Melissa's art has an illustration bent to it and is inspired by nature. The execution can range from the representational to the fantastical, as well as more stylized designs. Watercolor is Melissa's medium of choice, but lately, she has been revisiting metal jewelry, handbuilding with clay, and collage. Find Melissa on Instagram @apoideastudio Check out Melissa's website at apoideastudio.wordpress.com Questions/Topics: [00:01:06] Introducing Melissa [00:02:50] Melissa recaps a tough year at work, advocating, and dealing with anxiety [00:05:29] Asking for accommodations and flexible deadlines [00:08:07] “Middle school is hard for everyone.” [00:08:37] ADHD in the workplace and coming out of the pandemic [00:12:39] Opening up about crippling generalized anxiety [00:18:43] Recovering from burnout and aching for creativity [00:21:03] “I bought an anvil” [00:22:50] Art and connecting with a creative longing [00:24:36] Creativity to cope with and manage anxiety [00:25:56] Executive functions and barriers to get started on creative work [00:28:25] Connecting creating with feelings [00:29:55] The role of subject matter in personal creativity [00:32:17] A discussion on music and albums [00:39:34] Selling a painting, a gathering gallery space, and The Veiled Crow [00:42:06] The importance of community and choosing ‘now' to speak up about burnout [00:45:12] Life in the middle of burnout and recovery [00:47:53] “I'll do that later” [00:49:14] Melissa shares her thoughts on success [00:51:57] “If you could change one thing…” [00:55:25] “We have to listen to our bodies.” [00:58:58] Closing thoughts & getting in touch with Melissa Resources & Honorable Mentions: Shop: The Veiled Crow Music: Nightfall in Middle Earth
This week, Trina Haynes from MyLadyADHD joins the show! Trina is the founder of My Lady ADHD, which empowers and supports individuals facing ADHD challenges! She created a safe space and vibrant community for women, drawing from her own personal ADHD journey. Trina is also the host of the My Lady ADHD Podcast, and is the cofounder of Get Lost Retreats, featuring regular ADHD women's retreats around the globe! Learn more about Trina at MyLadyADHD.com! Check out Get Lost Retreats at getlostretreats.com Questions/Topics: [00:00:42] Introducing Trina [00:01:55] Eric and Trina talk about the struggle of making friends and maintaining friendships [00:06:45] Executive functions, planning & scheduling, maintenance, and avoidance [00:07:47] Perceived rejections, shame, and assuming the best of intentions [00:10:18] Connecting with ADHDers vs. connecting with neurotypicals [00:11:25] An ADHD moment… then, a discussion on fizzled-out friendships [00:14:18] The difficulty of making friends after lockdown and isolation [00:15:15] Introversion, extroversion, and recovery time [00:16:44] FOMO (fear of missing out) and the challenge of transitions to stop when being with friends [00:23:44] Another ADHD moment… [00:24:30] Trina shares lessons learned from friendships that didn't last, why friendships might not always last, and the importance of communicating clear intentions [00:26:48] Friendships, feedback, investing, and balance [00:31:13] Eric and Trina take an intentional moment to reach out to a friend [00:32:26] Managing emotions when worrying if friends will be upset with you, the importance of repair, and being a people-pleaser [00:36:36] Personal dumpster fires, healing, and exploring [00:39:37] The importance of going back to basics and max-capacities [00:47:16] Phone tools and apps to help with communication [00:50:23] Frontloading conversations with honesty and vulnerability [00:51:44] How to get in touch with Trina and closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Hear Eric on Trina's podcast on the My Lady ADHD Podcast Hear Trina and other panelists on ADHD reWired's Live Q&A from August 8th - Episode 500
This week, Eric is joined by Emily Karp! Emily is a 33-year-old entrepreneur, asexuality activist, and fan-work creator! She embraced her ADHD around age 30 and quit her tedious job to become self-employed as a funeral celebrant and memorial slideshow editor who crafts personalized funerals and celebration-of-life events for non-religious individuals. Emily went through the ADHD reWired coaching program in spring of 2021 and became a peer mentor in 2022. Emily is also one of the authors of the book Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing your Asexual or Aromantic Identity, and is a lead organizer of the Washington DC Metro Area Ace and Aro meetup group! Learn more about Emily at griefpictured.com! Questions/Topics: [00:01:39] Introducing Emily [00:02:41] Diving into the start of Emily's ADHD journey [00:03:37] The stakes of getting an ADHD diagnosis [00:04:47] Life as an administrative professional before treatments [00:08:47] Burnout, becoming an entrepreneur, sleep struggles, and coaching [00:10:30] The “why” behind becoming a non-religious Funeral Celebrant [00:13:24] Helping others grieve and heal, family estrangements, memorial gatherings, and closure [00:17:17] Grief to acceptance with ADHD [00:24:07] The basics of asexuality and aromantics [00:26:04] Nuances of ace relationships, significant others, attraction, and more [00:28:25] Physical desire, libido, and other statistics in the asexual community [00:30:44] A discussion on dysfunction, orientation, sexual trauma, and gatekeeping [00:33:20] ADHD and neurodivergence in the Ace community [00:42:07] The positive impact of community and relationships [00:45:01] Emily's facilitated sessions in the ADHD reWired community spaces [00:46:54] Sharing more wins [00:48:43] Emily's work, website, and closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Podcast: Aceterpretations Website: TAAAP - The Acc and Aro Advocacy Project @ taaap.org Book: Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing Your Asexual or Aromantic Identity Want to go to CHADD this year? Go to chadd.org to learn more!
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You'll also find the bonus Q&As from this recording and can listen in ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! Questions/Topics: [00:01:49] “For those who have done some individual coaching work on ADHD, how can groups offer to help with further progress if we've already learned some (ADHD management) strategies?” [00:03.06] An ADHD moment: introducing the panelists + sharing group-coaching experiences [00:08:21] Saying vs. Knowing [00:09:22] A listener asks about creating processes: “How do you draw the line between a useful process, but when it's so complex, it becomes dreadful, then ends up getting in the way?” [00:13.49] Dare to start small [00:14:55] Decluttering your processes [00:18:22] “As parents with ADHD, what are the dos and don'ts with a potentially neurodiverse child in school?” [00:20.39] A discussion on advocating for your child [00:23:07] The importance of managing emotions while advocating [00:30:21] “Because ADHD sometimes comes with emotional dysregulation, which sometimes happens to me at not-so-opportune times, do you have any tips or strategies for coaching oneself beforehand or ways to get oneself out of dysregulation when it's happening?” [00:30:55] DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), interrupting dysregulation in the body, and emotion in the body [00:32:38] The importance of knowing your tendencies [00:33:54] A discussion and sharing experiences with EMDR [00:35:21] The before, during, and after-care of emotions in certain situations; noticing physical responses [00:37:30] A listener asks about the Alumni Community versus Adult Study Hall and ADHD reWired's free Facebook community [00:37:50] Kristin shares her experiences of the Alumni community after coaching [00:38:58] Laura talks about the relationships and connections made [00:40:05] Brian's successes utilizing accountability and cultivating continuing growth [00:44:35] Closing thoughts & announcements Resources & Honorable Mentions Learn more about Wrightslaw What is EMDR? Join ADHD reWired's online body-doubling community at AdultStudyHall.com! Interested in going to the CHADD conference? Check it out at CHADD.org/conference!
In today's episode, Eric is joined by Edward Savio! Edward is a dad, has ADHD, wrote a musical, and grew up in Connecticut; after Howard University, Edward moved to Los Angeles to pursue screenwriting, where he became a 10-year overnight success! Savio's first novel, Idiots in the Machine, was picked up by Sony Pictures from the academy award-winning producers of Forest Gump. After more deals with Sony, Disney, and others, Edward shifted his focus writing novels so he could spend more time with his family. He wrote his first three novels in the home overlooking San Francisco Bay, where Danielle Steel wrote her first two breakout novels. He also once nearly drove Val Kilmer off a cliff! Learn more about Edward at his website: EdwardSavio.com
In today's episode, Danielle Sullivan joins the podcast! Danielle is the founder of Neurodiverging Coaching, which offers sliding scale neurodiversity-affirming coaching options for the community. Danielle is also a certified Positive Psychology coach, a certified Parent Coach, and a certified trauma-informed specialist! They had intended to remain in academia to work on gendered disability and religion, but then pivoted after she was diagnosed as autistic around age 30 after her eldest child was also diagnosed. In looking for resources for herself, she found very little, and began producing the Neurodiverging Podcast to try and develop and offer resources for others like her. In this episode, you'll hear about communication nuances and unpacking the challenges and adaptability for people with both ADHD and autism across different social contexts, managing the home, exploring home dynamics and practices for managing a neurodiverse household, and the importance of non-judgemental regulation. Then, you'll hear discussions about advocacy, ableism, confronting ableism, burnout and understanding burnout with sensory overload, burnout strategies and prevention, and explorations with technology and ADHD. Learn more about Danielle and find their podcast at Neurodiverging.com Questions/Topics: [00:01:36] Episode Summary [00:03:21] Introducing Danielle [00:06:29] Sensory differences, being the “difficult child”, stereotypical presentations, and exploring autism as an adult [00:09:53] A discussion on politeness norms and how environment can affect presentation [00:13:28] Coping with variables and novel situations [00:15:08] Managing a neurodivergent household, sensory mismatches, overwhelm, and regulation strategies [00:19:34] “What if I just do one more thing?” [00:23:53] Raising awareness around autism in adults: What is Neurodiverging all about? [00:27:53] Industries attempting to accommodate [00:29:13] A discussion on internalized ableism [00:33:04] Overly formal speech, chronic ear infections, and asynchronous development [00:37:37] A discussion on burnout: neurotypical vs. neurodivergent burnout [00:41:33] Recognizing burnout, autistic behaviors, and the effects of a dysregulated nervous system [00:45:19] “If you can name it, you can tame it.” [00:46:30] Danielle's go-to strategies for managing burnout and burnout prevention [00:47:03] Learning about your own sensory systems and triggers [00:48:49] An ADHD moment… [00:49:42] Addressing physical stress, emotions in the body, and closing the stress-cycle [00:53:29] Words of wisdom and closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Burnout - The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA
In today's episode, Eric is joined by Dr. Ali Arena! Dr. Ali is passionate about social cognition, language processing, executive functioning, and creating meaningful friendships and relationships. She is both a speech and language pathologist and a board-certified behavior analyst, has a doctorate degree in educational leadership, is becoming a licensed educational psychologist, and uses a neurodiversity- and trauma-informed lens when working with all clients. Dr. Ali's doctorate focus was unique, to say the least, as it addresses the dating intricacies of autistics, which led her to develop her private practice for anyone who wants help socially navigating in their workplace or relationships. Lastly, Dr. Ali feels social support is a biological necessity and wants to help all neurodivergent individuals to reach wholistic communication. Find out more and get connected with Dr. Ali at Connection-Squared.com Questions/Topics: [00:01:36] Introducing Dr. Ali [00:03:26] Eric asks Dr. Ali how she got into focusing on relationships and the dating intricacies of neurodivergent people [00:05:04] Emptying the dishwasher and other themes in neurodivergent relationships [00:06:40] A discussion on parentification [00:07:53] Ways to bring up difficult conversations with a partner [00:11:31] Cleaning up 99 percent, not assuming negative meanings, and shame responses [00:18:27] Listening, eye-contact, and different ways of processing while listening [00:22:35] “How do you cope with going out to eat in a noisy restaurant?” and other sensory challenges when communicating [00:24:41] Setting yourself up for talking with your partner [00:26:02] Communicating via text [00:32:47] A discussion on neurodivergent relationships and sex [00:36:57] Neurodiversity and the LGBTQ+ community [00:39:00] Explaining neurodiversity as part of one's identity in a relationship [00:42:54] The impact of being in a relationship with someone who understands your neurodiversity [00:45:31] Finding support for neurodivergent relationships and how to get in touch with Dr. Ali [00:46:20] One more question for Dr. Ali & closing thoughts
In today's show, Brooke Schnittman joins Eric on the podcast! Brooke is a professional coach who understands, first-hand, the challenges of living with ADHD. As an adult with a late ADHD diagnosis, she knows what it feels like to feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and ashamed. But, instead of giving up, Brooke decided to use her personal experiences to help others with ADHD. She left a school system in 2018 to create a specially-tailored program for individuals for ADHD, called 3C Activation, which focuses on the importance of boundaries and small actions to activate potential and achieve continued success through maintaining momentum! Listen to Brooke's Podcast: SuccessFULL with ADHD Check out Brooke's website and find her book: CoachingWithBrooke.com Find Brooke on Instagram: @coachingwithbrooke Questions/Topics: [00:01:25] Introducing Brooke, a little ADHD tangent, and a relatable discussion about paperwork [00:04:12] What is 3C Activation? [00:06:10] The importance of intentionality behind small changes and habits vs. making many changes all at the same time [00:08:09] 3 steps for tasks and setting up the readiness for behavioral change [00:10:07] A moment of reading chicken scratch and controlling the chaos of your own ADHD brain [00:17:07] Consistency, resiliency, self-compassion, and persistence [00:19:41] The importance of sharing and acknowledging your wins [00:21:40] Overcoming negativity bias [00:22:26] A framework of boundaries, questions to check in with yourself, and saying “no” [00:25:21] The nervous system and its effect on decision-making [00:28:43] Discussing the resistance to delegation [00:32:43] “People actually want to help.” [00:35:09] Delegating creative tasks [00:36:46] ChatGPT, anyone? [00:41:14] Brooke talks about her book [00:45:01] Closing thoughts & announcements Resources & Honorable Mentions: Website: Dan Sullivan
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You'll also find bonus Q&As and can listen to this episode ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! Questions/Topics: [00:02:39] A listener asks the panelists for advice on how to help others take steps to get an ADHD diagnosis [00:05:02] Discussing online assessments [00:07:51] Red flags when seeking help for ADHD [00:10:07] “How do you all overcome the difficulty of transitions? I know what needs to be done, but why does transitioning from one thing to another feel like such a chore?” [00:12:17] Habit stacking and buffer space [00:17:14] A listener chimes in with suggestions for overcoming the difficulty of transitions [00:20:57] Resources, tips and tricks for a listener who was diagnosed with ADHD at 61 [00:24:52] A discussion about medication and side-effects [00:26:54] More resources and how coaching can help [00:29:54] The multi-pronged approach to ADHD management [00:35:53] “I am pretty burnt out at work, and I was given/voluntold to take 2 weeks of rest; I was wondering what can I do in these next two weeks to improve my burnout and ensure I continue to improve when I return so I don't get burnt out again?” [00:38:14] A helpful resource on burnout and processes of introspection [00:44:51] Discussing health definitions and healthcare [00:47:24] Tips and strategies to engage with self-care and being “ready” for self-care [00:49:58] “ADHD is a performance disorder. We know what to do - that's not the issue. The issue is doing it.” [00:52:03] Self-awareness, dealing with compounded shame, and trauma [00:57:45] “Do you have any suggestions on how to communicate with someone who doesn't understand that the reason why I do something that doesn't make sense to them, and defending my stance, how can I still show accountability and not be so defensive? [01:00:43] Closing thoughts & announcements Resources & Honorable Mentions ADHD reWired episode 342: Transitions and Balancing Work & Relationships with Adison Smith Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear Book: Still Distracted After All These Years by Kathleen G. Nadeau Book: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov Website: The Gottman Institute at gottman.com The 6 Ways of Closing the Stress Cycle Loop (from Burnout by Emily & Amelia Nagoski): Physical Activity, Creativity, Laughing. Crying, Physical Affection, and Deep Breathing “Burnout is… the nervous system and body taking the rest it needs by force.” - Brian Entler “ADHD reWired Coaching is about iteration, reflection, feedback, and keep doing that over and over again.” - Eric Tivers “An ADHD diagnosis doesn't change the past, but it does change our understanding of the past.” “Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” - Brene Brown
In today's show, Shell Mendelson joins Eric on the podcast! Since January 2021, Shell's Your Next Career Move MasterclassSM has empowered ADHD adults to create confident career options and was trained by Richard Bolles, the author of “What Color is Your Parachute?” With a Masters in Career Counseling, Shell offers more than 35 years of client experience while bringing her counseling, coaching, teaching, training, and nurturing gifts to help others clarify and focus on a well-defined direction and abundant livelihood. Following her own diagnosis of ADHD later in life, Shell profoundly understands how ADHD can impact one's work and to reliably choose the best career direction: one that takes our “interest-based ADHD brain wiring” into consideration. Get in touch and find out more about Shell's Next Career Move MasterclassSM on her website at CareerCoachingWithShell.com Questions/Topics: [00:01:23] Introducing Shell [00:02:35] Training with Richard Bolles and how it changed Shell's life [00:07:13] What are some examples of some of the questions Shell might ask when someone is trying to figure out a career direction? [00:09:32] Looking beyond money and Safekeeping Self [00:10:32] Addressing potential deficits in self-awareness and answering self-assessment questions [00:25:44] So what is the “best” career for someone with ADHD? [00:26:55] If you were to ask 100 people if they knew exactly what they wanted to do for work, what is the percentage of people who could actually answer this question? [00:30:11] The role of stepping-stone jobs and the difference between someone who doesn't know what they want and someone who does know what they want [00:31:44] Addressing the person who holds a marketable skill set in a lucrative profession but hates the work [00:32:19] Stories that Shell hears from people who reach out to her [00:34:40] Looking at other career options: “How do we figure this stuff out?” [00:36:36] Once you discover your “what,” the “how” appears, and a discussion next steps and different types of research [00:47:40] What is Shell's 8-Week Masterclass and who is her class for? [00:52:21] How to get in touch with Shell, closing thoughts, and words of wisdom Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: What Color is Your Parachute by Richard Bolles
In today's show, Eric is joined by Jessica Ovadia! Jessica, who has a Bachelor of Science in communication from New York University and a Master of Public Health from Emory University, is a healthcare communicator and a problem solver with a decade of experience helping clients articulate their message through engaged interactions, artful language choice, and thoughtful strategy. Her love of healthcare and deep passion for effective clear communication naturally led to the foundation of her consulting firm - Jessica Ovadia: Healthcare Messaging! Having grown up with parents as physicians and being a parent herself, you'll hear about Jessica's struggles with the growing demands of life. Then, you'll also hear about simplifying complexities, motivation and burnout, creating your own structure, and overcoming tendencies to overcomplicate the way we communicate. Finally, you'll hear discussions on the importance of clarifications and knowing the audience, self-esteem when owning your own business, what communicating the ADHD experience can look like, and more! Learn more about Jessica at her website jessicaovadia.com! Questions/Topics: [00:01:25] Introducing Jessica [00:03:03] Jessica talks about ADHD and how becoming a parent brought her challenges to the surface [00:04:46] Getting reacquainted with ADHD and unlearning developed patterns [00:06:01] Eric asks Jessica about being a business owner with ADHD and what led her to her passion of clear communication around healthcare [00:09:49] A discussion on motivation and burnout [00:14:08] Managing scheduling, structure, and accountability when being your own boss [00:23:23] When it comes to communication, how do we recognize when we're overcomplicating things, then how do we simplify what and how we're communicating? [00:28:19] Read-receipts and challenges around writing and responding [00:29:26] What to think about when you have a message and keeping it simple [00:31:53] What can we do to make sure we are coming across clearly and are being understood? [00:34:15] “I would have written less if I had more time.” [00:35:00] Eric asks Jessica for a helpful reframe or a framework to think about effectively communicating different parts of ADHD in shorter-form content. [00:41:24] What has Jessica learned about her own brain through having her own business? [00:44:38] How can we communicate and get better public understanding and messaging about what ADHD really is? What would that messaging campaign look like? [00:47:31] A discussion & sharing thoughts about ADHD as a superpower [00:51:05] Closing thoughts