Podcasts about sense of self

The difference between a healthy sense of sense and being a "pushover".

In this episode, spiritual director John Bruna offers guidance regarding the wisdom aspect of Buddhism. He describes how the sense of self that we have is a dependently originated phenomenon that is actually empty of any inherent existence. Importantly, John helps us understand how we need to engage in cultivating a healthy sense of self first before we can be successful in realizing these deeper truths on the Buddhist path. This episode was recorded on April 29th, 2026.Welcome to the Way of Compassion Dharma Center Podcast. Located in Carbondale, Colorado, the Way of Compassion Dharma center's primary objective is to provide programs of Buddhist studies and practices that are practical, accessible, and meet the needs of the communities we serve.  As a traditional Buddhist center, all of our teachings are offered freely. If you would like to make a donation to support the center, please visit www.wocdc.org.  May you flourish in your practice and may all beings swiftly be free of suffering.

How do you view your sense of self? Do you feel more or less understanding of who you are? How about those around you, friends, family, and others? Do you sense them as feeling more or less stable regarding themselves and their place in the world? I think it's worth considering, and I feel a continued shift toward insecurity in an of ourselves, culturally. I have kids from 13 to 30 years old, from middle school to grad school, and I see and hear of consistent quandaries vs self and identity. But I'm 55 and even amongst my peers I feel there are struggles. My guest today has been researching this issue and as with so much of the human condition, feels our current age of tech and speed and constant transformation is having an effect on our sense of self. Patricia Martin is a cultural analyst and author whose insights have appeared in Harvard Business Review, The New York Times, Slate, and Psyche Magazine. She hosts the popular podcast, Jung in the World, as in Carl Young, and she is the author of four books including her most recent, and my focus here, Will The Future like You? Reflections on the Age of Hyper-reinvention. In the book, Patricia asks, “What if the harms of living an increasingly digital life go beyond undercutting our attention spans or blunting our social skills? What if it cuts deeper, to the core of who we are and who we know ourselves to be?” In this episode we explore the challenges that tech and the internet impose on the human psyche and discuss the processes that make us who we are. We also address three conditions Patricia cites as unraveling who we are: persona fog, chronic self-doubt, and cascading crossroads.  As is often the case, I hone in on understanding who we are outside of what we do and how we have grown to measure and judge our sense of self. Sign up for your $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to start your free trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's episode Kenzie sits down with Stephanie of the Marvelous Mrs Mahjong to talk mahjong, needlepoint, and advice for your younger self. Hope you enjoy!!

Ajahn Pasada explains the sense of self using the term "emotional home" as an analogy. Support us on https://ko-fi.com/thebuddhistsocietyofwa BSWA teachings are available: BSWA Teachings BSWA Podcast Channel BSWA DeeperDhamma Podbean Channel BSWA YouTube  

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Pre-Order My New Book “Mysterious Things” and Help Us Spread the Word: invisiblethings.co --- This episode is for you if: 1 - You have been pretending to be someone else for so long that you have forgotten who you are. 2 - You want to put more of your real self into your work and need help understanding how to do that. 3 - You need some fun and unexpected exercises to get back in touch with what you really care about and who you really are. Check out the “Right Side Out” Series here: http://andyjpizza.com/rso SHOW NOTES: Producer / Editor: Sophie Miller http://sophiemiller.coAudio Editing / Sound Design: Conner Jones http://pendingbeautiful.coSoundtrack / Theme Song: Yoni Wolf / WHY? http://whywithaquestionmark.comSpotify Playlist of WHY? Songs Used on This Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4ZIE7PHG5I1Ddg1BuVGRzj?si=4x_BzDZjQgqSpoaLXdVACg&pi=h4HsIKG0SP6Kg SPONSORS:SQUARESPACEHead to https://www.squarespace.com/PEPTALK to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code PEPTALK Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**CAUTION: This episode contains adult topics regarding sexuality and is not suitable for children. Listener discretion is advised.In this episode, I talk with my friend, Dr. Tony Angelo. Tony is a clinical psychologist specializing in forensic psychology. He has nearly 20 years of experience working specifically with convicted sex offenders in the state of California. Before his time as a forensic psychologist, he was in ministry. He first met his wife, Pamela, while doing mission work in Jamaica. The Angelos have been married for more than 30 years. They live in Southern California, not far from their two adult children and two beautiful granddaughters! Our conversation covers a lot of ground as Tony shares his unique insights from his career as a clinical professional, as well as a husband and father. We talk about how important the parent-child relationship is to a child's sense of self and worth, and how his faith, as well as his practice, has impacted his approach to parenting. It was an impactful conversation for me, and I hope it will be for you as well. Thanks again for stopping by for another Carline Conversation.

How do you actually build a sense of self with BPD?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Solène, André, and Katja continue the conversation on identity, this time focusing on what's helped us move toward a more stable sense of self. Still through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), we're looking at identity as something you can actively shape over time.If you've ever felt empty, disconnected, or like you're constantly reinventing yourself… this is the part where we talk about what starts to change that.We talk about:• how chronic emptiness and dissociation connect to identity• relying on relationships or external validation to define who you are• the difference between emptiness and boredom (and why that matters)• finding purpose, values, and small anchors that make you feel more “real”• learning who you are without labeling yourself as “broken”• building identity through creativity, feedback, and lived experience• integrating different parts of yourself instead of rejecting them• why identity takes time and doesn't form all at onceThis is part of our Season 7 series where we're breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.(In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. )⸻

Hi Parents! In this episode, I'm joined by Cathy Cassani Adams, LCSW - therapist, author, educator, and co-host of the Zen Pop podcast, for a powerful conversation about what it really means to help girls build a strong sense of self. So often, we focus on confidence and achievement, but confidence alone doesn't protect our girls from anxiety, self-doubt, or people-pleasing. Today, Cathy and I talk about the difference between confidence and a true sense of self, and why so many girls struggle when they learn to look outside themselves for approval instead of trusting their inner voice. We explore the subtle, well-intentioned ways adults can unintentionally undermine a girl's sense of self, how anxiety can show up when girls feel disconnected from who they are, and what it looks like to support girls without trying to fix or control their emotions. Cathy shares insights from her years of clinical work, teaching, and parenting, offering parents a compassionate and realistic lens for raising girls in today's high-pressure world. This conversation is especially for parents who want to raise girls who feel grounded, emotionally safe, and secure in who they are - not just confident on the outside, but deeply connected to themselves on the inside. Resources Mentioned:

Send me your thoughts in a Text MessageToday I share a very simple way of looking at experience.Using a drawing of two lines, we explore what is here in direct experience.One line represents life as it is happening — movement, thoughts, sensations, everything that appears. The other points to simple being — the sense of presence, the knowing that you are here.Between these, there is what we often take ourselves to be — a kind of “bundle” made of reactions, thoughts, and patterns. This bundle seems to be the one living life, making decisions, trying to control what happens.In the talk, we look at this directly.In this episode, we continue that exploration in a live Q&A.A participant describes their experience using the image of a lotus and scribbled lines — something clear and present, and the movement of thoughts appearing over it.From there, we look more closely.Is there something underneath that needs to come forward? Or is that another way of thinking about what is here? Again and again, the attention returns to what is actually happening.Thoughts appear. Reactions happen. A sense of “me” seems to form in the middle as a relationship.But when this is looked at directly, what is really there?There is a simple shift in seeing — from being caught in the movement, to noticing what is always here.Music by Valdi Sabev.In loving memory and gratitude for the music he shared.Coming this April, an 8-week Experience of Guided Self-Inquiry to see through the illusion of a separate self. More info here:https://bit.ly/4m3juCGSupport the showWebsiteshttp://ilonaciunaite.comhttp://liberationunleashed.com

In this episode of Conversations with Amoda Maa, Amoda and Kavi explore one of the most misunderstood topics on the spiritual path: the ego. Rather than something solid that must be destroyed, the ego is revealed as an activity of resistance within the mind — the movement of grasping toward experience or pushing it away. This movement creates the sense of a separate self and becomes the root of psychological suffering. The conversation looks at the difference between the functional sense of self, which allows us to live and relate in the world, and the psychological identity that becomes caught in comparison, defense, and control. From this perspective, awakening is not about eliminating the ego, but seeing through the mechanism of identification. They also explore the direct path — the recognition of awareness that is already present — and why glimpses of awakening may seem to come and go. The deeper invitation is not to recreate special experiences, but to meet life directly, as it is, in each moment. This dialogue reflects on surrender, identity, and the mysterious ways awakening unfolds, pointing again and again to the simple discovery of our true nature beyond the self-image we take ourselves to be.

What does it really mean to have a strong sense of self—and why does it matter so much in our relationships, faith, and personal growth? Today, Heather sits down with coach Tanya Hale to explore how developing a healthy sense of self transforms the way we experience life. Tanya shares how self-acceptance, compassion, and personal responsibility create emotional stability and strengthen our relationships with others and with God. They discuss the difference between confidence and comparison, why relying on others for validation leads to frustration, and how learning to extend grace to ourselves is a foundational step in emotional maturity.  If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, perfectionism, or seeking validation from others, this conversation will help you understand how to rebuild your sense of self—one small step at a time.   For more information about Tanya and for links to access all she has to offer, please click HERE! View on YouTube, go HERE. For more information and available downloads, go to: https://ldslifecoaches.com/ All content is copyrighted to Heather Rackham and featured coaches. Do not use without permission.  

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2026.03.09 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* A machine generated transcript of this talk is available. It has not been edited by a human, so errors will exist. Download Transcript: https://www.audiodharma.org/transcripts/24483/download ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2026.03.09 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* A machine generated transcript of this talk is available. It has not been edited by a human, so errors will exist. Download Transcript: https://www.audiodharma.org/transcripts/24483/download ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

Send me your thoughts in a Text MessageIf there is no mind, why does it feel so loud?In this episode I look at what we call “the mind” as a living stream of thoughts appearing. Images, commentary, expectations about awakening, ideas about how this should feel and what should happen next.We explore thinking by looking at it directly. Thoughts arise. They move. They dissolve. And it becomes clear that there is simply experience unfolding.Some thoughts pass lightly. Others carry emotional charge. We look at how old hurt can still live in the system, and how protection forms around it. Over time, that protection shapes identity — “I am shy,” “I am not worthy,” “I am ashamed.”Like a rubber band stretched between pain and the desire for relief, tension builds. When hurt receives attention and space, the energy settles. The story softens. Identity loosens.Attention gently returns to direct experience — sensation, sound, color, breath. Life is already here before thought describes it.This episode is an invitation to see thinking as part of the flow of experience, and to recognize what remains present through it all — simple awareness, here and now.Music by Valdi Sabev, Visit his channel for more calm and relaxed music https://www.youtube.com/c/ValdiSabev/featuredTo receive the link to the next meeting subscribe to my newsletter here https://zcmp.eu/ArU9Support the showWebsiteshttp://ilonaciunaite.comhttp://liberationunleashed.com

University of Chicago professor Eric Oliver explores what it actually means to know yourself, and why so many people feel quietly dissatisfied even when life seems fine.

Send me your thoughts in a Text MessageIn this episode, I invite you to look directly at the sense of self — not as an idea or a belief, but as lived experience.Before thoughts arise, before emotions move, before any story about “me” appears, there is a simple knowing of being here. A sense of existing. A feeling of “me.” This sense of self is so familiar that it is rarely questioned and often taken for granted.Together, we explore what this sense of self actually is. Where it appears in the body. How it shows up as sensation, pressure, orientation, or effort. How it organizes experience and creates the feeling of being at the center of life.You're invited to notice how the sense of self becomes especially clear in moments of pride or hurt, and how easily identification forms around these sensations. We look at how the sense of “me” can feel solid and personal, and what happens when it is met directly with attention.This is not about getting rid of the sense of self, fixing anything, or changing experience. It's about seeing clearly. When the sense of self is looked at directly, something often softens. Identification relaxes. What remains is openness, presence, and a quiet knowing that does not come and go.Nothing here needs to be believed. This is an invitation to look for yourself.Music by Valdi Sabev, Visit his channel for more calm and relaxed music https://www.youtube.com/c/ValdiSabev/featuredSupport the showWebsiteshttp://ilonaciunaite.comhttp://liberationunleashed.com

In this episode we contemplated a quote from Regina Dawn Akers, "Choosing to trust without knowing how or why ... choosing to trust without needing understanding ... this is the highest level of trust in the world.".

Isaiah 62 For Zion's sake I will not keep silent, and for Jerusalem's sake I will not be quiet, until her righteousness goes forth as brightness, and her salvation as a burning torch. 2 The nations shall see your righteousness, and all the kings your glory, and you shall be called by a new name that the mouth of the Lord will give. 3 You shall be a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God. 4 You shall no more be termed Forsaken, and your land shall no more be termed Desolate, but you shall be called My Delight Is in Her, and your land Married; for the Lord delights in you, and your land shall be married. 5 For as a young man marries a young woman, so shall your sons marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you. 6 On your walls, O Jerusalem, I have set watchmen; all the day and all the night they shall never be silent. You who put the Lord in remembrance, take no rest, 7 and give him no rest until he establishes Jerusalem and makes it a praise in the earth. 8 The Lord has sworn by his right hand and by his mighty arm: “I will not again give your grain to be food for your enemies, 11and foreigners shall not drink your wine for which you have labored; 9 but those who garner it shall eat it and praise the Lord, and those who gather it shall drink it in the courts of my sanctuary.” 10 Go through, go through the gates; prepare the way for the people; build up, build up the highway; clear it of stones; lift up a signal over the peoples. 11 Behold, the Lord has proclaimed to the end of the earth: Say to the daughter of Zion, “Behold, your salvation comes; behold, his reward is with him, and his recompense before him.” 12 And they shall be called The Holy People, The Redeemed of the Lord; and you shall be called Sought Out, A City Not Forsaken.

Have you ever felt like pieces of yourself have slipped away, and the numbness or heaviness you feel is your body asking you to come back home to yourself? Tune in for an inspiring discussion with Dr. Danielle Armour as we dive into her new book Awaken Your Body Awaken Your Desire: Using Science to Heal Your Stress & Find Your Sexual Vitality.  Moments with Marianne airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio Affiliate!  https://www.kmet1490am.comDr. Danielle Armour is a psychotherapist, clinical sexologist, and nervous system specialist with over 15 years of experience helping women and couples restore balance, resilience, and connection. Drawing on neuroscience, somatic healing, and cognitive restructuring, she offers a compassionate, science-based approach that reframes stress and disconnection as the body's natural way of seeking safety. Through practical tools like breathwork, yoga, mindfulness, and nervous system regulation, Dr. Armour guides people in cultivating self-awareness, confidence, and a renewed sense of vitality. https://daniellearmour.comFor more show information visit: https://www.mariannepestana.com/

Cheri Carandanis spent her career caring for others as an Air Force nurse and later in hospice. After two brain injuries forced her to retire, she had to face life without the role that once defined her. What began as a simple attempt to follow medical advice led her to something unexpected: painting. Through it, she found healing, direction, and a deeper understanding of herself. In this episode, Cheri talks about growing up in a military family, serving through deployments, and learning to rebuild after loss. Her story is a reminder that recovery takes time, creativity can be medicine, and there's always a way forward, even when life throws you a curveball. Timestamps: 04:00 - What deployment is like for a nurse 10:00 - Life on an early base in Afghanistan. Chaos, humor, and teamwork 15:00 - The brain injuries that ended her nursing career 17:30 - Picking up a paintbrush for the first time and finding peace 30:00 - Why she now sees the injury as a turning point, not an ending Links & Resources Veteran Suicide & Crisis Line: Dial 988, then press 1 Website: https://www.carandanisfineart.com Follow Cheri Carandanis on Facebook: www.facebook.com/carandanisfineart Follow Cheri Carandanis on Instagram: www.instagram.com/carandanisfineart Transcript View the transcript for this episode.

This episode with Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP MPH SEP, author of End Emotional Outsourcing, comes at a pivotal time in our culture's search for real self-worth and belonging. So many people today struggle with perfectionism, codependency, and people-pleasing, often because of pressures from work, social media, and our fast-paced world. Dr. Nicole, Hadlee, and Beatriz talk honestly about why these habits actually helped us cope and get by, how they're shaped by our nervous system and culture, and share simple ways to build real self-worth and stronger, healthier connections. We are launching this episode right around the holidays because this is a time when social pressure grows and many people experience emotional triggers or old patterns resurfacing. The end of the year can make feelings of loneliness, stress, or wanting to fit in feel stronger, especially with all the seasonal gatherings and expectations. This message, airing now, gives listeners tools and encouragement to reclaim agency and inner authority so they can face the holidays with more confidence and healthier boundaries. It arrives just when support and practical strategies are needed most. Check out her new book: End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits Follow her on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina   Additional Resources:

Arcana Coelestia 7850. And they shall eat the flesh. That this signifies the enjoyment of good, is evident from the signification of “to eat,” as being enjoyment (of which just above, n. 7849); and from the signification of “flesh,” as being what is man's own vivified by the Divine Human of the Lord, thus all celestial and spiritual good with man (see n. 3813, 6968).  The New Jerusalem and its Heavenly Doctrine 278. Another reason our life seems to be within us is that the principal cause, which is life from the Lord, and the instrumental cause, which is we ourselves as a recipient form, act as a single cause and therefore we as the instrument perceive life as our own 1 : AC 6325. Arcana Coelestia 6325. It is an eternal truth that the Lord rules heaven and earth, and also that no one besides the Lord lives of himself, consequently that everything of life flows in-the good of life from the Lord, and the evil of life from hell. This is the faith of the heavens. When a man is in this faith (and he can be in it when he is in good), then evil cannot be fastened and appropriated to him, because he knows that it is not from himself, but from hell. When a man is in this state, he can then be gifted with peace, for then he will trust solely in the Lord. Neither can peace be given to any others than those who are in this faith from charity; for others continually cast themselves into anxieties and cupidities, whence come disquietudes. Spirits who desire to direct themselves, suppose that this would be to lose their own will, thus their freedom, consequently all delight, thus all life and its sweetness. This they say and suppose, because they do not know how the case really is; for the man who is led by the Lord is in freedom itself, and thus in delight and bliss itself; goods and truths are appropriated to him; there is given him an affection and desire for doing what is good, and then nothing is more delightful to him than to perform uses. There is given him a perception of good, and also a sensation of it; and there is given him intelligence and wisdom; and all these as his own; for he is then a recipient of the Lord's life. It is known in the learned world that the principal cause and the instrumental cause act together as a one: man, being a form recipient of the Lord's life, is an instrumental cause, and the life from the Lord is the principal cause. This life is felt in the instrumental cause as of it, when yet it is not of it. Third Round posts are short audio clips taken from Round 3 comments in the online Logopraxis Life Group meetings. The aim is to maintain focus on understanding the Text's application to the inner life while reinforcing key LP principles highlighted in the exchanges.

P&C review La Chouffe, a strong Belgian Blonde ale, then discuss changing ideas about the self -- what it is, and how we think about it. In the ancient world, your "self" was more tied to your community and group. Augustine updated the sense of self as a reflective, moral agent. You don't just think, you think about what you're thinking. In the Protestant Reformation, the self took center stage. It was all about your own spiritual experience. Decartes takes a huge step with the mind-body split. There's a "you" that's separate from the body. Our soul is a ghost in the machine of the body. John Locke introduced the concept of the blank slate. You (or society) can affect who you become. That idea has lost a lot of its lustre as we've realized how much of our self is genetic. Is the self continuous over time? Is it an internal story: "I'm this kind of person"? Do some people have a stronger sense or perception of self than others do? Or is the self an illusion? Some contemplatives say they can transcend the self. The modern sense of self puts a huge burden on the individual. Everyone has to define what's good and decide for themselves what gives their life meaning and purpose. Is part of the reason we have so much depression and suicide? Join us for a deep dive into this fascinating topic.

Join Rabbi Joey Rosenfeld as he guides us through the world and major works of Kabbalah, Hasidic masters, and Jewish philosophy, shedding light on the inner life of the soul. To learn more, visit InwardTorah.org

"The Untethered Soul" by Michael A. Singer is a self-help book exploring personal transformation and achieving optimal performance. It delves into the importance of self-awareness and mindfulness in enhancing one's personal and professional life.Become a member https://www.patreon.com/MoonshotsThe book emphasizes that our thoughts, emotions, or external circumstances do not define us. Singer encourages readers to detach themselves from their inner voice, which often creates limitations and holds them back from reaching their full potential. By objectively observing their thoughts and emotions, individuals can better understand themselves and their behavior patterns.Buy the book from Amazon https://geni.us/Untethered_SoulGet the summary from Blinkist https://blinkist.o6eiov.net/jr1nMPSinger introduces the concept of the "witness," an inner observer or consciousness that can observe thoughts and emotions without getting entangled in them. Individuals can develop a sense of inner freedom and detachment from their inner dramas by cultivating this witness consciousness. This freedom allows them to make conscious choices and respond to situations with clarity and wisdom.Through various practical exercises and techniques, Singer guides readers toward inner peace and liberation from the limitations of the ego. He teaches the importance of letting go of past traumas, fears, and attachments that hinder personal growth and performance. By embracing the present moment and surrendering to the flow of life, individuals can tap into their innate creativity, intuition, and resilience."The Untethered Soul" offers valuable insights and practices for personal performance by encouraging individuals to step out of their comfort zones, embrace uncertainty, and cultivate a deep sense of self-awareness. By implementing the book's teachings, individuals can break free from self-imposed limitations, unlock their true potential, and experience greater fulfillment and success in various aspects of life.Buy the book from Amazon https://geni.us/Untethered_SoulGet the summary from Blinkist https://blinkist.o6eiov.net/jr1nMPRUNSHEETINTROOprah and Michael talk about Oprah's favourite chapterRemove Your Inner Thorn (3m42)MINDSET: LEARN TO MOVE ONMichael helps us understand - and therefore forgive ourselves - when we struggleSurrender (2m30)HABITS: WHAT WE CAN DOClark Kegley discusses the default way that people live their lives, and the strive for survivalPath 1 and FEAR (3m15)Clark Kegley helps us continue towards getting the roommate on your sidePath 2 and 2.0 YOU (2m58)OUTROMichael A. Singer shows us how to flow with our challenging moments, learn from them, and then let them goLet it pass (3m37)Buy the book from Amazon https://geni.us/Untethered_SoulGet the summary from Blinkist https://blinkist.o6eiov.net/jr1nMP

I recently watched a video posted by the owners of a female black labrador retriever who they took to an outdoor restaurant where they were grabbling a meal. The video showed the dog choosing to sit on a separate couch, all the way at the end, facing the opposite direction from it's owners while acting like she didn't want to have anything to do with them. The owners posted, “Our moody teenager who sat herself as far away as she possibly could from her parents. The nerve of this girl.” I chuckled a bit as we all remember our own teenage years and our desire, from time to time to NOT be seen with our parents. It's known as individuation, which is a normal developmental process where our kids want to develop their own sense of self and independence from their parents. But parents, realize this, they are still watching you. Your presence and influence are more important than ever, as you model and teach what it means to live as a faithful follower of Jesus Christ. 

In this thought-provoking episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the intricate concept of the sense of self. With her signature blend of humor and authenticity, Brianne explores how our sense of self shapes our self-image, self-worth, and overall identity. She poses poignant questions to her listeners, encouraging them to reflect on their own journeys and the moments they may have lost their sense of self.Throughout the episode, Brianne discusses the significance of self-awareness and how our interactions with the world around us—family dynamics, societal expectations, and personal experiences—contribute to the development of our identity. She shares her own transformative journey, illustrating how understanding and embracing both the light and shadow aspects of ourselves can lead to profound personal growth.Listeners will gain valuable insights into the signs of a strong sense of self, including the ability to empathize without taking on others' burdens, accepting responsibility for one's choices, and enjoying both social interactions and solitude. Brianne emphasizes that developing a robust sense of self is a lifelong process, one that requires continuous reflection, acceptance, and the courage to evolve. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that true strength lies in embracing our authentic selves and honoring our unique paths.

Psychological boundaries are internal boundaries that we set with ourselves, inside of our own heads. They allow us to decide what ideas, thoughts, or beliefs we want to accept and which ones we don't.  We will receive a lot of messaging about who we are and how we are and we get to decide which of those messages is okay and which are not okay. Having good psychological boundaries with ourselves is a precursor to being able to set clear and concise external boundaries with others. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #7 Boundaries Part 1 on Apple on Spotify #8 Boundaries Part 2 on Apple on Spotify #9 Boundaries Part 3 on Apple on Spotify #174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify #272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify  #274 When We Behave Badly on Apple on Spotify #314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard on Apple on Spotify #318 The Challenge of Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify #331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify #378 What Can Happen When We Don't Set Boundaries on Apple on Spotify #380 Boundary Guilt on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoachin Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

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(This episode first aired in November 2023) Today's guest is the Sunday Times' Style's beauty columnist India Knight. Every week thousands of women turn to her column for beauty advice - not beauty junkies, not trend followers, just regular women like you and me who want to know what works, why it works and what's worth spending their hard earned cash on. Now India has turned that column into a book, “India Knight's Beauty Edit: what works when you're older” giving practical advice if you've suddenly found your skin, body, hair, or all three, are changing and your tried and tested “look” is no longer working for you. India joined me to talk about Why she doesn't miss anything about being younger (no, not a single thing), how she gained a sense of self in her 50s, why skincare is the foundation of everything and what happened to make her - a loud and proud tweakement refusenik - finally cave. If you can't be arsed hunting down beauty tutorials on tiktok and there is no way on earth you're going to use 35 products where 2 or 3 will do this chat is for you. Finally I understand the point of serum. If you enjoyed this episode you might also like my conversations with Sali Hughes and Anita B. You'll find a link to them in the show notes. * You can buy all the books mentioned in this podcast at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Shift bookshop on Bookshop.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, including India's new book, Home, based on her substack of the same name, as well as the book that inspired this podcast, The Shift: how I lost and found myself after 40 - and you can too, by me. * If you enjoyed this episode and you fancy buying me a coffee, pop over to my page on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠buymeacoffee.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. • And if you'd like to support the work that goes into making this podcast and get a weekly newsletter plus loads more content including exclusive transcripts of the podcast, why not join The Shift community, come and have a look around at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.theshiftwithsambaker.substack.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • The Shift (on life after 40) with Sam Baker is created and hosted by Sam Baker and edited by Juliette Nicholls at Pineapple Production. If you enjoyed this podcast, please rate/ review/ follow as it really does help other people find us. And let me know what you think on Bluesky @theothersambaker.bsky.social or instagram @theothersambaker or message me on substack The Shift with Sam Baker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Setting boundaries in our most cherished relationships can be hard not just because we're often doing something that may be new and requires courage, but because many of us feel so much guilt when our boundary is not received with glowing accolades but rather with pushback and frustration and even anger. And that guilt comes from two places – ourselves and others. Learning to manage our thoughts to create self-respect and courage rather than guilt is an important part of developing healthy relationships with those we love. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #7 Boundaries Part 1 on Apple on Spotify #8 Boundaries Part 2 on Apple on Spotify #9 Boundaries Part 3 on Apple on Spotify #174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify #272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify  #314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard on Apple on Spotify #318 The Challenge of Parenting Adult Children on Apple on Spotify #331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify #378 What Can Happen When We Don't Set Boundaries on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Who knew that a lack of boundaries could cause so many emotional and mental struggles in our lives? Today I'm sharing with you an article adaptation from Dr. Henry Cloud's book Becoming an Adult: Advice on Taking Control & Living a Happy, Meaningful Life.  Dr. Cloud is one of the co-authors of the Boundaries books, and he shared 22 symptoms that we can experience when we don't set appropriate boundaries. I think you'll find this fascinating – I did! Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #7 Boundaries Part 1 on Apple on Spotify #8 Boundaries Part 2 on Apple on Spotify #9 Boundaries Part 3 on Apple on Spotify #27 Healthier Relationships on Apple on Spotify #47 Thoughts, Consequences, & Boundaries on Apple on Spotify #139 Being a Martyr on Apple on Spotify #140 Still Being a Martyr on Apple on Spotify #174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify #196 How to Break the Blame/Defense Cycle on Apple on Spotify #225 Shame, Blame, and Disempowerment on Apple on Spotify #227 Feeling Obligated on Apple on Spotify #240 Passive-Aggressive Behavior on Apple on Spotify #250 Being a Victim on Apple on Spotify #277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard on Apple on Spotify #331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify #333 Sense of Self and Dating on Apple on Spotify #334 Sense of Self and Marriage on Apple on Spotify #335 Sense of Self and Parenting on Apple on Spotify #336 Sense of Self and Our Spirituality on Apple on Spotify #337 Sense of Self and Our Sexuality on Apple on Spotify #349 It's Okay If People Don't Like You on Apple on Spotify #363 Breaking Your Over- and Under-functioning Cycles on Apple on Spotify #365 Villains, Victims, and Heroes on Apple on Spotify #375 Sense of Self and the Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/  

(Spirit Rock Meditation Center) We begin with about 7-8 minutes of developing stability of attention and less distraction, through concentration practice or some other practice. We then explore several aspects of how we "construct" experience. We look at impermanence in several ways, noticing the arising, staying and changing, and passing away with (1) the breath, (2) body sensations, (3) sounds, and (4) the open flow of experience (about 3 minutes). Then there is a period of mindfulness practice with the additional instruction of looking out for a moderate or strong sense of self. We close with a short period of a heart practice such as lovingkindness or compassion.

(Spirit Rock Meditation Center) We begin with about 7-8 minutes of developing concentration, becoming more settled and less distracted. We then explore the impermanence in several ways, noticing the arising, staying and changing, and passing away with (1) sounds, (2) body sensations, and (3) the open flow of experience (about 2 minutes). Then there is a period of mindfulness practice with the additional instruction of looking out for a moderate or strong sense of self. We close with a short period of a heart practice such as lovingkindness or compassion; brief instructions are given for self-compassion practice (as developed by Kristen Neff).

Having a strong sense of self is the key fundamental tool to creating strong relationships. Only when we have a sense of belonging to ourselves, a sense of our worth and value, of our inherent goodness even amidst our flaws and weaknesses, can we show up in the relationship circle as an equal partner. The stronger our sense of self, the greater our capacity for emotional, mental, and sexual connection. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify #371  Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify #372 Why Our Relationships Need Validation on Apple on Spotify #373 Safety in the Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify #374 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship on Apple on Spotify #331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify #333 Sense of Self and Dating on Apple on Spotify #334 Sense of Self and Marriage on Apple on Spotify #335 Sense of Self and Parenting on Apple on Spotify #336 Sense of Self and Our Spirituality on Apple on Spotify #337 Sense of Self and Our Sexuality on Apple on Spotify #349 It's Okay If People Don't Like You on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Sense of Self classes and Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/  

Host Shanera Williamson gives practical suggestions on how parents can build a positive racial identity in their kids to last beyond the first few weeks of a new school year.  Listen in for ways to give your children strong roots that give them stability and resilience.   Connect with Shanera and Brown Mama Bear: Facebook, Instagram, Website   Make sure you share Brown Mama Bear with at least 3 friends so you have someone to talk with about these things.  

When we feel safe in our relationships, we feel we can show up with more vulnerability.  When we show up with more vulnerability, we create more emotional and physical intimacy.  But oftentimes, the behaviors we are engaging in in our relationships put the other person into protective mode rather than feeling safe, and so we struggle to create the connected relationships we really desire.  In this podcast we will talk about ten ways we can create more of a safe space for our person. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #218 Honest Relationships #243 Having More Honest Communication #244 The Relationship Circle #284 Why Vulnerability Matters #295 Safety in the Relationship Circle #326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe #331 Sense of Self #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head #333 Sense of Self and Dating #334 Sense of Self and Marriage #341 Choosing to Be All In #344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability? #347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair #357 How to Be More Understanding #359 10 Ways to Be a Safer Spouse #364 Relationship Neglect Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/  

What if the dreams in your head are actually the road map to money in your bank account?Dr. Liz DeFinnis went from thinking her big dreams were locked away in an ivory tower to creating a new reality for herself by tapping into this one thing - a stronger sense of self. Press play to see how strengthening your inner "who" allows you to turn your biggest dreams into your most profitable reality. It's time to stop feeling icky about sales and become the confident action taker who gets the results you deserve.  P.S. Let's get you into the frequency of turning your dreams into dollars

Ego reclamation might sound contradictory to Islamic spiritual teachings, yet for Muslim women, it represents a critical step toward mental health and authentic faith. This episode challenges conventional wisdom about ego work by introducing a revolutionary concept: ego as a tool that can be picked up when needed and put down when not.Drawing from Islamic spiritual tradition, we explore the three states of nafs (ego) - the commanding self that urges toward sin, the reproaching self that swings between mistakes and regret, and the tranquil self in a state of peace. What if developing a healthy ego doesn't make you a selfish Muslim woman, but instead anchors you more firmly in your faith?The dominant spiritual language around ego - crushing it, controlling it, suppressing it - was primarily designed for men's spiritual struggles. For women already socialized to erase themselves, this approach causes harm rather than healing. When a Muslim woman struggles with voicelessness, people-pleasing, or hyper-responsibility, the solution isn't further ego diminishment but thoughtful reclamation. This episode distinguishes between true humility and ongoing humiliation, clarifying that submission in Islam means erasing yourself before Allah alone - not before other people.Discover how to discern when to strengthen your ego (setting boundaries, speaking up) versus when to dissolve it (in prayer, deep connection). A woman grounded in her values through a healthy ego becomes difficult to mistreat - not because she's confrontational, but because she's anchored in a dignity that recognizes manipulation and shame for what they are. Join us as we explore this path to mental health that honors both your personhood and your faith commitment.=======================================================================================Wisdom Wednesdays is your chance to apply what you learn in this podcast. It is my weekly coaching program that will create real time change based on everything you learn here. https://www.islamiclifecoachschool.com/wisdom-wednesdays

What does it actually look like to internalize the identity of the soul as our own? To approach our own reflection with a deep understanding of our essence, of the way it does not hinge on anything but the piece of G-d inside? In this episode, Shterna Ginsberg explores how to stop depending on others for your sense of self and find the infinite worth that lies within.|| To find more of Shterna's work, visit www.energizedliving.org. To sponsor an episode, please visit humanandholy.com/sponsor or email us at humanandholy@gmail.com.Human & Holy is currently on a season break. This episode originally aired in June 2022. * * * * * * *To inquire about sponsorship & advertising opportunities, please email us at info@humanandholy.comTo support our work, visit humanandholy.com/sponsor.Find us on Instagram @humanandholy & subscribe to our channel to stay up to date on all our upcoming conversations ✨Human & Holy podcast is available on all podcast streaming platforms. New episodes every Sunday & Wednesday on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Google Podcasts.* * * * * * *TIMESTAMPS0:00 - The Search for Sense of Self0:36 - Meet Shterna Ginsberg1:47 - What is the Neshama? 2:59 - Roots vs. Fruits: Why We Miss Our Essence4:34 - The Self-Care Problem: No Self to Care For6:09 - How to Bridge Concept to Experience7:21 - Hidden Hashem in a "Realistic" World8:07 - Power Dynamics: Who Controls Your Life?10:57 - Healthy vs. Unhealthy Dependency11:48 - The Inner Island of Love & Dignity13:41 - The Bell Story: Faith Must Be Practiced16:08 - Chochma, Bina, Das: Three Steps to Integration18:32 - Dealing with Inner Resistance & Toxic Self-Talk19:29 - Setting Up Your Internal "Fire Department"20:45 - The Shaitel Story: Practical Soul Identity22:37 - Essence vs. Personality: What's Really You?25:40 - "Just Be Nice"26:38 - No Excuses for Not Shining Your Light28:18 - Marriage Without a Self: The Dangerous Dynamic30:14 - "I'll Give You Everything for a Sense of Self"32:40 - Parenting from Wholeness vs. Neediness34:16 - The Apple Story: When Identity Depends on Details36:10 - Unconditional Love Requires Soul-Centered Identity38:21 - Root of All Problems40:45 - "You Are Worthy" - Empty vs. Soul-Based Truth43:08 - The Virtual Reality Experiment46:27 - Living in Hashem's Reality vs. Virtual Reality48:44 - Breaking Through the Barrier50:35 - Practical Integration: Using Daily Mitzvos52:28 - The Bell System: Connecting Dots in Your Day54:04 - Who Is the Self?

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The funhouse of an abusive, manipulative, or Narcissistic relationship can leave you very disoriented when you finally find your way out. The amount of trauma there is to process can feel stifling and the endless questions may bombard you. What was the extent of their lies? Was any of it true? Did they ever really love me? Why do I still have feelings for this person who hurt me so badly? Sometimes you just need some help to get out of the woods. This is where my guest this week, Bre Wolta, comes in. Bre is a Relationship Clarity Coach who is passionate about helping women heal from the mindf*ck of narcissistic relationships so that they can rebuild their confidence and securely attach in future healthy relationships. On this guest episode, Bre shares about her own toxic relationship healing journey, and her ability to hold safe space allows her to walk alongside clients as they build trust and rekindle the most important relationship of all: the one they have with themselves. Bre explains why she is so passionate about helping women heal from the narcissistic mindf*ck & the 3 elements she believes we need to fully heal the narcissistic wound and allow us to securely attach in all of our relationships with friends, lovers, and family. We both explore our personal past dealing with deceitful partners and how we are all capable of reclaiming our light and belief in true, safe, healthy love.Bre Wolta, EFT and The Clearing Work™ Certified Practitioner, is a Relationship Clarity Coach who helps Women heal and move into their highest experience in healthy relationships. Podcast: Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangle the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic RelationshipsIG: @lucid.living.with.breWebsite: www.brewolta.com

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This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2025.07.30 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* Video of this talk is available at: https://www.youtube.com/live/Q4KnKuG2P0A?si=9SchE4oMTDo4HL1N&t=1804. ******* A machine generated transcript of this talk is available. It has not been edited by a human, so errors will exist. Download Transcript: https://www.audiodharma.org/transcripts/23938/download ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

When humans act like humans, it can sure make our lives difficult. Of course it would be easier if they all just did what we wanted and behaved in ways we thought were appropriate, but that's just not going to happen. Challenges and difficulties in our relationships are inevitable and a normal part of all relationships. Learning to allow and even embrace these elements of our relationships is a valuable part of growing up into middle age. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #193 No Back-Burner Issues #216 One-Up and One-Down Relationships #217 Self-Respect and Being Wrong #244 The Relationship Circle #257 Other People's Agency #272 Stay In Your Lane #280 Living in Alignment #295 Safety In the Relationship Circle #296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship #298 Friendship in Marriage #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives #326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe #331 Sense of Self #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Get up to 10 FREE meals at ⁠⁠https://hellofresh.com/NOTFOREVERYONE10FM__Kooks, we've got a fun one for you. First, Jess and Caroline discuss the perfect response to getting ghosted, which leads them into a deeper conversation about dealing with haters on the internet, and how C handles rude comments on YouTube. Then, Jess talks about doing things slower, which leads to an epiphany about self actualization and striving to “be better.” They wrap things up with a complaint about Variety's popular Actors on Actors series, inequalities in acting and media, and what the best kind of representation looks like for underserved groups of people. Kisses!This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!