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It's my birthday week! Which means it's my annual birthday episode.This year I'm sharing the phrase that keeps running through my mind and the many ways I'm applying it to my past and my present.(Plus there's a special announcement at the end of this one. Don't miss it.)JOIN SECRET STUFF HEREFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Ep 265: How Have You Changed in the Last 10 Years? (with Meg Tietz)Ep 259: 10 Questions for the Anniversary of a Big EventEp 253: Regrets and Reflections from 15 Years Working on the InternetEp 225: Change Happens When You're Looking the Other Way (a birthday episode!)Ep 180: 4 Metaphors for Turning 44Ep 122: Don't Give Away Your Power (Thoughts On Turning 42)Ep 70: Age is just a number, right?Ep 21: 10 Thoughts On Turning 40 SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wondering why all of your favorite creators, journalists, and writers are moving to Substack? Have you signed up for a few but are basically confused about how to navigate the Substack universe? This episode is for you.I moved my longtime newsletter the Secret Posts and membership community Secret Stuff to Substack back in December, and I have lots of thoughts about this trend and how to make it your Substack user experience better.Click HERE to sign up for the Secret Stuff Substack, where you'll get all my Secret Stuff essays for free or can upgrade for the Book Club & Symposium meetings, plus lots of other goodies.FULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Secret Stuff SubstackSubstack Tutorial post (with screenshots)How to listen to Substack podcast episodes in my podcast app SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me to talk about the best books we've read (so far) in 2025! Join SECRET STUFF on Substack for our BONUS conversation and for Stephen King SummerWe've created special lists of all the books we talk about on amazon and on Bookshop FULL SHOW NOTES HERELaura's Best Books of the Year (so far):Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady HendrixLong Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-AknerThere's Always This Year by Hanif AbdurraqibShow Don't Tell by Curtis Sittenfeld Didion and Babitz by Lili AnolikYasmin's Best Books of the Year (so far):Careless People by Sarah Wynn-WilliamsEntitlement by Rumaan AlaamIt Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life by Jillian Turecki Steph's Best Books of the Year (so far):Run for the Hills by Kevin WilsonMutual Interest by Olivia Wolfgang-SmithLike Mother, Like Mother by Susan RiegerALSO MENTIONED:The Chani AppYou Were Born for This: Astrology for Radical Self-Acceptance by Chani NicholasThe Book Club for Troublesome Women by Marie BostwickSUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You!FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to mark your special day with a dedicated Birthday Journal. Whether you're celebrating on your actual birthDAY, or your birthday week, or taking your whole birthday month to look back and look forward on your life, these ideas and prompts will help you make the most of this period of introspection. The 4 sections of the birthday journal:TimelineWho I WasWho I AmWho I Want To BeFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Ep. 249: 4 Ways To Journal (For People Who Don't Like Journaling)ALL JOURNAL PROMPT EPISODESOther episodes about journaling:Ep. 9: 10 Ways to Journal Ep. 62: Should you reread or burn old journals and letters? Ep. 103: Journaling for GrownupsEp. 127: “You read my journals?” (A conversation with my mom) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In 2016, at age 47, Bethany Winters was diagnosed with Grade 3 Stage IIB Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. What followed was a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and total hysterectomy.In this episode, Bethany shares 10 Things about breast cancer survivorship, and how it's not ever really over even when declared "cancer-free." This is a tender and important conversation. This episode originally aired in 2021. As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past episodes, I wanted to replay this important conversation. 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime. Please take care while listening. SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is a conversation with my husband, Jeff, and our two teenagers Lucy and Finch. We're answering listener questions about family dynamics, living in LA, how the kids feel about their parents' careers, and what they picture for their futures. Other Tremaine family episodes:Ep 59: Marry the person you could quarantine with (the Tremaines wave hello from lockdown)Ep 69: 22 Things Out Family Watched in QuarantineBONUS: Tremaines Wave Hello From One Year of the PandemicEp 138: 10 Questions To Ask Your Kids (with Lucy & Finch)Ep 211: The Cell Phone Contract for TeensFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMentioned in this episode:Ep 255: Making R-Rated Art As A Mom (with Stacy Rukeyser)***SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1! Join us as we deep dive on the world's greatest living story teller. For Stephen King Summer 2025, we're reading:THE SHINING (1977)Under the Dome (2009)And we're watching:Christine (1983)Episode 1 of The Outsider (2020)Doctor Sleep (2019)Stephen King Summer is a part of my Secret Stuff book club & membership community. Browse Stephen King Summer MERCHNot sure where to start with Stephen King? Jump right into Stephen King Summer OR listen to this episodes for book recommendations: Ep 121: Stephen King Starter KitEp 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II (What To Read And What To Skip)Hope to see you over on Secret Stuff for the 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I had no idea how much I needed this conversation with actor, producer, director, writer, and musician Fiona Rene. In just one hour she taught me the value of believing in yourself above all else, more than anyone else, almost to the point of delusion. You might know Fiona Rene from her roles on Lincoln Lawyer, NCIS: Hawaii, I Know What You Did Last Summer, and her leading role in the #1 CBS show Tracker, but Fiona and I immediately connected over our Oklahoma roots. In this ONE THING conversation - where I ask my guests about the ONE THING they would tell you - we talk about self-confidence, the balance between "being" and "doing" and why believing in yourself above all else is the key to success. Follow Fiona Rene on InstagramLearn more about Grandma's HouseFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode with my friend Amy Ortloff originally aired in August 2021 with the title Teaching People To Grieve With Me. As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past episodes, I wanted to replay this conversation, which is one of the most important I've ever shared.Content warning: Child loss and suicideIn 2017, Amy Ortloff lost her middle child Ryan to suicide. Ryan was just 17 years old. Less than a week after his death, Amy took to her personal Facebook page and starting sharing every single day. She began by sharing stories about Ryan, family memories and examples of the kind of kid he was. She didn't want her child to be forgotten. As the weeks went by, deep in grief, Amy also started sharing her own experiences of this devastating time she was living through. She shared what she was learning in therapy, she set and shared her personal boundaries for interaction for those in her small town Oklahoma community. Amy's sharing was raw and vulnerable. It was heartbreaking and powerful. I made a point to read her posts every day that first year after Ryan. This episode is about the effects of that real-time sharing during the hardest time of her life, the positive and the negative. Amy was teaching us how to grieve with her, and it made an enormous impact on me long before I ever wrote a book about sharing stuff. If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text TALK to 741741. Please share this episode with anyone who needs to hear it. SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My favorite topic, any time of year.Join the SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB where we're about to kick off the 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER!FULL SHOW NOTES HEREBooks I'm Looking Forward To Reading:The Book Club for Troublesome Women by Marie BostwickPlayworld: A Novel by Adam RossBroken Country by Clare Leslie HallRun for the Hills by Kevin WilsonThree Biographies:Sister Sinner by Claire HoffmanMark Twain by Ron ChernowManson by Jeff GuinnBest Books Lately:There's Always This Year by Hanif AbdurraqibAmericanah by Chimimanda Ngozi AdichieParable of the Sower by Octavia E. ButlerLong Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-AknerThe Tell by Amy GriffinVictorian Psycho by Virginia FeitoWild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghyALSO MENTIONED:Ep. 258: Best Books Lately with Liz HeinNYTimes 100 Best Books of the 21st CenturyEp. 98: How To Start a Book ClubSUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is the very core of what 10 Things To Tell You is about: reflection, growth, and great conversations.And this conversation happens to be with one of my oldest friends and very favorite person to be on the microphone with: Meg Tietz. We're talking through the many ways we've changed in the last 10 years - since 2015 - in our home & family, career, and spiritually/emotionally. We have so much to say about our mid-30s, mid-2010s selves, and we're encouraging YOU to reflect on your own changes from the last decade.Meg is a writer, speaker, voice over artist, and internet pioneer. I have been following in her footsteps since high school, and she is responsible for giving me my first shot at podcasting when she launched the Sorta Awesome show in 2015. Together we created and produced Smartest Person in the Room and now we're both creating regularly on Substack.Read Meg's Substack Gemini WrongsHire Meg for voice over workFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Meg's Deconversion Series on Substack (Part 1) and Part 2 and Part 3Secret Stuff by Laura TremaineEp 235: 4 Lessons After Publishing 2 BooksEp 34: The RobberyEp 194: On Endings and Intuition SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever felt underestimated? Of course you have. Maybe YOU'VE underestimated yourself (which can somehow feel worse).My friend and fellow podcaster and author Mary Marantz joins me to talk about her new book Underestimated: The Surprisingly Simple Shift To Quit Playing Small, Name The Fear, and Move Forward Anyway. I just love Mary and love what she has to say about taking our future into our own hands.Click HERE to get Mary's preorder bonusesLearn more about Mary MarantzFollow Mary Marantz on InstagramBuy UnderestimatedFULL SHOW NOTES HEREALSO MENTIONED in this episode:Dirt by Mary MarantzSlow Growth Equals Strong RootsTake the Achiever QuizEp 213: Anxiety Always Makes Sense with Dr. Becky Kennedy SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You'll love this conversation if you've ever wrestled with the fact that achieving your dreams can look and feel different than you expected.Annie B Jones is most well known for owning The Bookshelf bookstore and for her book-focused podcast From the Front Porch, but now she's on the other side of publishing industry as she releases her debut book of essays Ordinary Time: Lessons Learned While Staying Put.In this conversation, Annie and I talk about how dreams don't always look the way you planned, like living near your hometown, owning a bookstore, even (especially?) writing a book! Our lives look so different from one another, but we found so many parallels.Follow Annie B Jones on InstagramBuy Ordinary Time: Lessons Learned While Staying PutFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I have been waiting for the right moment to feature this conversation with interior designer Michelle Fahmy, founder of Haus of Meeshie, about bringing bold color and unique style to your home and life. For the past two years, Meeshie has helped bring fresh life to our family's home in Los Angeles, bringing a whole new vibe to our living spaces.Since I've long preached the power of our spaces on this show, I knew Meeshie (with her very bold style) would be the perfect person to talk us through this topic. But this conversation ended up being about way more than just paint and wallpaper. Meeshie's own career trajectory and leaps of faith make this an inspiring message for how to create the colorful life you want.Follow Haus of Meeshie on InstagramFollow @laura.tremaine on IG for peeks of my personal homeCheck out the EXTRA THINGS conversation with Meeshie on Laura Tremaine's Secret StuffEpisodes that pair well with this one:Ep 236: Discovering what was always thereBONUS: 5 Rules To Create A House You LoveFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Over the last few years I've watched my friend, Jessica Turner, privately and publicly walk through her husband's coming out and their subsequent divorce as well as her efforts to find her equilibrium in this new family dynamic. Jessica has done it all with grace and kindness and honesty, sharing her story with incredible strength and vulnerability. Her newest book, I Thought It Would Be Better Than This, chronicles this journey and the lessons she's learned from it.In this conversation, Jessica shares what it was like to navigate her own grief about the end of her marriage while also remaining a friend and ally to her ex-husband as he navigated coming out as gay. She shares how she was helped by journaling and therapy (two drums I will continue to bang all my days) and the rules she has for herself when it comes to sharing difficult and vulnerable things online. Jessica's hard won wisdom is applicable to anyone dealing with disappointment. or who thought to themselves about their love life, career, parenting, or just adulthood...I thought it would be better than this.Learn more about Jessica TurnerFollow Jessica Turner on IGBuy her book (out now!) I Thought It Would Be Better Than ThisJessica's other books:The Fringe HoursStretched Too ThinJessica's other appearance on 10 Things To Tell You:Ep. 54: Best Books Lately with Jessica TurnerBONUS: How Influencers are making money off you. (a conversation with Jessica Turner)JOIN LAURA TREMAINE'S SECRET STUFF FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is for anyone who has gone through a friendship breakup, or who desires finding a best friend as an adult. Every week on this show I encourage you to take the prompts and topics to a best friend in order to have a deeper conversation and better connection. But what if you don't have a best friend? What if you used to have a best friend but now you don't and that pain still lingers? What if you want a best friend, but have no idea how to find that person?In honor of my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs celebrating its book birthday this week, I wanted to rerun this episode from January 2021 with Heather Adams. Even though we recorded this years before The Life Council came out, you can see how I was already threading together the ideas that would eventually become the book.Buy The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs on amazon or on bookshopFollow my guest Heather Adams, founder of Choice Media CommunicationsRead my free Secret Posts or become a SECRET STUFF member on Laura Tremaine's Secret SubstackFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm sharing my current favorite beauty products, apps, books, charities, and experiences of the last few months.JOIN SECRET STUFF to hear me share a few extra goodies like the current podcasts I'm bingeing, as well as a few not Favorite Things.What are YOUR favorite things in this season? Winter 2025 has been a doozy, so making a list of the things we love right now can give you such a boost of gratitude. I also really like how these lists mark a moment in time.FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Opal phone blocking appMoney Hair Mask: Deep Hydrating and Strengthening TreatmentTravel Hanging Organizer for Makeup & Skincare ProductsTravel Organizer for Sunglasses & JewelryThe Power of Intention by Wayne DyerInner Excellence by Jim MurphyLos Angeles Fire Department FoundationDirect ReliefAltadena GirlsGrady Hendrix Author EventWitchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady HendrixLaura Tremaine's Secret SubstackSubstack TUTORIALSUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Professional photo organizer Casey von Stein (aka Miss Freddy) is BACK and this time she's helping us handle all those old, sentimental photos we all have stuffed in boxes in a closet somewhere.Miss Freddy is answering my questions on how to make the physical photos into digital files and then how to organize and back them up online so we never have to worry they'll be lost or damaged in the future. She also says something to me about the 30,000 photos I have stored on my phone that might have just changed my life. Follow Miss Freddy on IG Learn more about Miss Freddy's BACKUP BOOTCAMPListen to past episodes with Miss Freddy:Ep. 41: 10 Tips to Organize Your Photos with Miss FreddyEp. 82: Create a Family Yearbook (10 Tips from Miss Freddy)MENTIONED in this episode:Epson FastFoto ScannerScanSnap portable scannerAura digital photo frameMiss Freddy's blog post: How to Convert DVDs to Digital FilesFULL SHOW NOTES HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This month marks 5 years still the Covid-19 pandemic turned our lives upside down. In this episode, I'm sharing 10 questions that can be used as journal prompts or conversation starters on the anniversary of any big event. I'm focusing my answers to these prompts on the five-year mark of the pandemic, but each question is crafted to be universal for any big event in your past. JOIN ME ON SUBSTACK for a JOURNAL PARTY on this topic with the members of Secret Stuff I'll also be posting all of the prompts on social media and in the show notes Follow me on IG @laura.tremaine FULL SHOW NOTES HERE RELATED EPISODES: 10 Questions for Starting Over 10 Questions To Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This month marks 5 years still the Covid-19 pandemic turned our lives upside down.In this episode, I'm sharing 10 questions that can be used as journal prompts or conversation starters on the anniversary of any big event.I'm focusing my answers to these prompts on the five-year mark of the pandemic, but each question is crafted to be universal for any big event in your past.JOIN ME ON SUBSTACK for a JOURNAL PARTY on this topic with the members of Secret StuffI'll also be posting all of the prompts on social media and in the show notesFollow me on IG @laura.tremaineFULL SHOW NOTES HERERELATED EPISODES:10 Questions for Starting Over10 Questions To Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a very special episode of Best Books Lately. Special because it's been awhile since we've had one, special because it's with my longtime internet friend and book twin Liz Hein, and special because we're weaving together some of the most important themes of 10 Things To Tell You: sharing your stuff, connection, and, of course, BOOKS.In this conversation, Liz and I are not only talking about the best books we've read lately (and we've both read some great things!), Liz is also sharing about the life of her father, legendary Chicago photographer Rich Hein, who passed away unexpectedly last month. Liz's book selections are inspired by her dad, and I love that we could honor his memory in this way.Follow Liz Hein @lizisreading_ on InstagramRich Hein's obituary was on the front page of the Chicago Sun-TimesFULL SHOW NOTES HEREJoin the SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUBLAURA'S BOOKS:Beautyland by Marie Helene BertinoWitchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady HendrixCue the Sun! by Emily NussbaumLiars by Sarah MangusoWe Used to Live Here by Marcus KliewerLIZ'S BOOKS:A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen MirzaHamnet by Maggie O'FarrellThe Remains of the Day by Kazuo IshiguroWild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghyThere's Always This Year by Hanif AbdurraqibALSO MENTIONED:Bob Dylan Goes Electric by Elijah WaldHow High We Go in the Dark by Sequoia NagamatsuHow to Sell a Haunted House by Grady HendrixThe Southern Book Club's Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady HendrixBy Any Other Name by Jodi PicoultThe Book of Two Ways by Jodi PicoultSmall Great Things by Jodi PicoultNever Let Me Go by Kazuo IshiguroAll Fours by Miranda JulyMigrations by Charlotte McConaghyOnce There Were Wolves by Charlotte McConaghyEPISODES MENTIONED:Ep. 250 Best Books of the Year 2024Ep. 252 Most Anticipated Books of 2025 with Traci Thomas of The Stacks podcastEp. 195 Why do smart people love dumb tv?Ep 239 Horror for Beginners with Meredith Monday Schwartz SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a very special episode of Best Books Lately. Special because it's been awhile since we've had one, special because it's with my longtime internet friend and book twin Liz Hein, and special because we're weaving together some of the most important themes of 10 Things To Tell You: sharing your stuff, connection, and, of course, BOOKS. In this conversation, Liz and I are not only talking about the best books we've read lately (and we've both read some great things!), Liz is also sharing about the life of her father, legendary Chicago photographer Rich Hein, who passed away unexpectedly last month. Liz's book selections are inspired by her dad, and I love that we could honor his memory in this way. Follow Liz Hein @lizisreading_ on Instagram Rich Hein's obituary was on the front page of the Chicago Sun-Times FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Join the SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB LAURA'S BOOKS: Beautyland by Marie Helene Bertino Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix Cue the Sun! by Emily Nussbaum Liars by Sarah Manguso We Used to Live Here by Marcus Kliewer LIZ'S BOOKS: A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza Hamnet by Maggie O'Farrell The Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy There's Always This Year by Hanif Abdurraqib ALSO MENTIONED: Bob Dylan Goes Electric by Elijah Wald How High We Go in the Dark by Sequoia Nagamatsu How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix The Southern Book Club's Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix By Any Other Name by Jodi Picoult The Book of Two Ways by Jodi Picoult Small Great Things by Jodi Picoult Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro All Fours by Miranda July Migrations by Charlotte McConaghy Once There Were Wolves by Charlotte McConaghy EPISODES MENTIONED: Ep. 250 Best Books of the Year 2024 Ep. 252 Most Anticipated Books of 2025 with Traci Thomas of The Stacks podcast Ep. 195 Why do smart people love dumb tv? Ep 239 Horror for Beginners with Meredith Monday Schwartz   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the headlines get harder, the politics more divisive, and the platforms themselves more corrupt, many of us are rethinking our social media usage in 2025. Yeah, sure, we've all said this before in the past. So we take breaks, or delete the apps off our phones, but we always come crawling back. Social media is just an ingrained part of our lives now. It's where we get our news, it's how we connect with others, it's a source of entertainment and expression. And yet...there is something different about this moment in internet history. People really are fed up, but it also seems impossible to quit cold turkey. There has to be a middle ground between spending large chunks of our day scrolling and walking away from social media completely. In this episode I'm walking through my own personal process of changing my relationship with my phone. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Opal app RELATED episodes: Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working on the Internet Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter Ep 211: The Cell Phone Contract (A conversation with my kids)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the headlines get harder, the politics more divisive, and the platforms themselves more corrupt, many of us are rethinking our social media usage in 2025.Yeah, sure, we've all said this before in the past. So we take breaks, or delete the apps off our phones, but we always come crawling back. Social media is just an ingrained part of our lives now. It's where we get our news, it's how we connect with others, it's a source of entertainment and expression.And yet...there is something different about this moment in internet history. People really are fed up, but it also seems impossible to quit cold turkey. There has to be a middle ground between spending large chunks of our day scrolling and walking away from social media completely. In this episode I'm walking through my own personal process of changing my relationship with my phone.FULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Opal appRELATED episodes:Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working on the InternetEp 246: A Funeral for TwitterEp 211: The Cell Phone Contract (A conversation with my kids) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes you read a friend's book and you're jealous they wrote something this good. This is how I felt when I read writer and podcast Melanie Shankle's latest Here Be Dragons: Treading the Deep Waters of Motherhood, Mean Girls, and Generational Trauma. This book is about Melanie's very complicated relationship with her mom, woven together with her own Big Feelings about the mean girls that took over her daughter's high school experience. As someone who regularly preaches that all of us should be sharing our stuff, my jaw dropped at some of the stories that Melanie is able to share so well. In this conversation, Melanie and I talk about all of those things. It's a tender topic, but Melanie is, as always, full of humor and wisdom in the face of it all. Follow Melanie Shankle on IG Buy Here Be Dragons: Treading the Deep Waters of Motherhood, Mean Girls, and Generational Trauma Listen to The Big Boo Cast FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs Ep 243: Best Books Lately with Sophie Hudson   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes you read a friend's book and you're jealous they wrote something this good. This is how I felt when I read writer and podcast Melanie Shankle's latest Here Be Dragons: Treading the Deep Waters of Motherhood, Mean Girls, and Generational Trauma.This book is about Melanie's very complicated relationship with her mom, woven together with her own Big Feelings about the mean girls that took over her daughter's high school experience. As someone who regularly preaches that all of us should be sharing our stuff, my jaw dropped at some of the stories that Melanie is able to share so well.In this conversation, Melanie and I talk about all of those things. It's a tender topic, but Melanie is, as always, full of humor and wisdom in the face of it all.Follow Melanie Shankle on IGBuy Here Be Dragons: Treading the Deep Waters of Motherhood, Mean Girls, and Generational TraumaListen to The Big Boo CastFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HEREMENTIONED in this episode:The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman NeedsEp 243: Best Books Lately with Sophie Hudson SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Now THIS is truly a conversation you won't hear anywhere else. My friend, television show runner Stacy Rukeyser, joins me to talk about making R-rated art when you're a mom. Stacy has written on some really great shows over the years, but she was tasked with creating Netflix's first foray into erotica with her show Sex/Life back in 2021 and it brought up some questions about making this type of creative content when you're a mom. Stacy rightly points out that men likely wouldn't be asked (or be asking) the same type of questions, but it was a fascinating conversation to explore. Stacy shares her fascinating Hollywood career trajectory, the column that broke open a One Tree Hill scandal, and the differences working in female-led writer's rooms. This episode is a bit of a curve ball, but I think you'll be riveted. Follow Stacy Rukeyser on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Stacy's great grandfather Hall Caine The Manx Man Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy Lenz Un-real on Netflix 44 Chapters About 4 Men by BB Easton Hollywood Reporter article about the One Tree Hill writer's room RELATED Episodes: Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes (And how it affects you) Ep 195: Why do smart people watch dumb tv? Ep 216: Stop Deferring Your Life (A ONE THING conversation with Amy B. Harris) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Now THIS is truly a conversation you won't hear anywhere else. My friend, television show runner Stacy Rukeyser, joins me to talk about making R-rated art when you're a mom.Stacy has written on some really great shows over the years, but she was tasked with creating Netflix's first foray into erotica with her show Sex/Life back in 2021 and it brought up some questions about making this type of creative content when you're a mom. Stacy rightly points out that men likely wouldn't be asked (or be asking) the same type of questions, but it was a fascinating conversation to explore.Stacy shares her fascinating Hollywood career trajectory, the column that broke open a One Tree Hill scandal, and the differences working in female-led writer's rooms.This episode is a bit of a curve ball, but I think you'll be riveted.Follow Stacy Rukeyser on IGFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Stacy's great grandfather Hall CaineThe Manx ManDinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy LenzUn-real on Netflix44 Chapters About 4 Men by BB EastonHollywood Reporter article about the One Tree Hill writer's roomRELATED Episodes:Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes (And how it affects you)Ep 195: Why do smart people watch dumb tv?Ep 216: Stop Deferring Your Life (A ONE THING conversation with Amy B. Harris)SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Continuing my look back on 15 years of working on the internet (and the last decade as working as a podcaster), I'm addressing a question that I've gotten fairly often recently: Any advice on starting a podcast? Based on my own mistakes working on three different shows, and observations about the podcast listening community and industry, in this episode I'm sharing what I would do if I started a new podcast today. While I speaking pretty specifically about podcasting in this episode, I also think that a lot of what I talk about applies to most creative endeavors on the internet in 2025. I'm talking about creativity, marketing, mindset, equipment, and more. And at the end I give a little pep talk that maybe we all need. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Audacity recording/editing software Riverside.fm software for remote recording Single microphone I used for years recording in person Current microphone I use RELATED episodes: Ep 124: Behind the Scenes of Podcasting Ep 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should Know Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working On the Internet   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Continuing my look back on 15 years of working on the internet (and the last decade as working as a podcaster), I'm addressing a question that I've gotten fairly often recently: Any advice on starting a podcast?Based on my own mistakes working on three different shows, and observations about the podcast listening community and industry, in this episode I'm sharing what I would do if I started a new podcast today. While I speaking pretty specifically about podcasting in this episode, I also think that a lot of what I talk about applies to most creative endeavors on the internet in 2025.I'm talking about creativity, marketing, mindset, equipment, and more. And at the end I give a little pep talk that maybe we all need.FULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Audacity recording/editing softwareRiverside.fm software for remote recordingSingle microphone I used for years recording in personCurrent microphone I useRELATED episodes:Ep 124: Behind the Scenes of PodcastingEp 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should KnowEp 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working On the Internet SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This month marks FIFTEEN years that I have been pursuing a career primarily by sharing myself on the internet. Starting with the Hollywood Housewife blog in January 2010, then building a social media presence, then becoming a podcaster and an author, and I have so many stories and thoughts to share about the last decade and a half. On this episode, I'm talking about the things I did right, the things I definitely got wrong, and how I've evolved right along with the World Wide Web. Join SECRET STUFF to hear even MORE behind-the-scenes stories. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MORE episodes on this topic: Ep. 73: I Wrote a Book! Ep. 63: Working From Home Ep. 111: Behind The Scenes of Publishing, Marketing, and Launching a Book (with Kelly Gordon) Ep. 166: How To Write a Book (in 10 Steps) Ep. 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working With a Business Coach (A Conversation with Retha Nichole) MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 251: 10 Things I Learned in 2024 Sorta Awesome podcast Smartest Person in the Room podcast Racial Bias series on SPITR Share Yo​​ur Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine The Life Council by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This month marks FIFTEEN years that I have been pursuing a career primarily by sharing myself on the internet. Starting with the Hollywood Housewife blog in January 2010, then building a social media presence, then becoming a podcaster and an author, and I have so many stories and thoughts to share about the last decade and a half.On this episode, I'm talking about the things I did right, the things I definitely got wrong, and how I've evolved right along with the World Wide Web.Join SECRET STUFF to hear even MORE behind-the-scenes stories.FULL SHOW NOTES HEREMORE episodes on this topic:Ep. 73: I Wrote a Book!Ep. 63: Working From HomeEp. 111: Behind The Scenes of Publishing, Marketing, and Launching a Book (with Kelly Gordon)Ep. 166: How To Write a Book (in 10 Steps)Ep. 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working With a Business Coach (A Conversation with Retha Nichole)MENTIONED in this episode:Ep. 251: 10 Things I Learned in 2024Sorta Awesome podcastSmartest Person in the Room podcastRacial Bias series on SPITRShare Yo​​ur Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineThe Life Council by Laura Tremaine SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

No matter the question, reading is the answer. And in a year starting off like 2025 is, we certainly need a lot of answers to life's questions. I am thrilled to welcome fellow Angeleno bookworm Traci Thomas (host of The Stacks podcast) to talk about the most anticipated new book releases of 2025. We talk about novels and nonfiction by debut and beloved authors publishing this year and sorry not sorry about this conversation that will send your book budget soaring. There are so many good books to look forward to in the next six months. Also in this episode, Traci really gives me a lot to think about in terms of how we talk about books and why it's okay to be publicly critical of books that don't work for us. As an author who is jumpy about that concept, Traci really shifted my perspective on this. You can listen to Traci on The Stacks podcast You can follow Traci on IG You can read Traci on her substack Unstacked You can join Traci's Patreon FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB MOST ANTICIPATED 2025 BOOKS: January Books: Black in Blues: How a Color Tells the Story of My People by Imani Perry Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix February Books: Pure Innocent Fun: Essays by Ira Madison III Show Don't Tell by Curtis Sittenfeld Death Takes Me by Cristina Rivera Garza One Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been Against This by Omar El Akkad March Books: Hot Air by Marcy Dermansky I'll Love You Forever: Notes from a K-Pop Fan by Giaae Kwon There is No Place for Us: Working and Homeless in America by Brian Goldstone April Books: Dear Writer: Pep Talks & Practical Advice for the Creative Life by Maggie Smith The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika Jaouad Authority: Essays by Andrea Long Chu May Books: Love and Exile by Shon Faye The Last Supper: Art, Faith, Sex, and Controversy in the 1980s by Paul Elie June Books: Atmosphere by Taylor Jenkins Reid Weepers by Peter Mendelsun ALSO MENTIONED in this episode: Sara Hildreth of Fiction Matters Episode 122 of The Stacks Podcast with Kiese Laymon, Breathe by Imani Perry Book Club Episode 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II The Keep It Podcast Read Traci's Most Anticipated List of 2025 with a different set of books than she talks about here Suleika Jaouad's Substack, The Isolation Journals MORE BOOKS mentioned in this episode: Blood in the Water by Heather Ann Thompson  South to America by Imani Perry Vexy Thing: On Gender and Liberation by Imani Perry May We Forever Stand: A History of the Black National Anthem by Imani Perry Breathe: A Letter to My Sons by Imani Perry Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates Looking for Lorraine by Imani Perry The Southern Book Club's Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld You Like It Darker by Stephen King Liliana's Invincible Summer by Cristina Rivera Garza American War by Omar El Akkad Evicted by Matthew Desmond Reagan: His Life and Legend by Max Boot You Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith  Between Two Kingdoms by Suleika Jaouad The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika Jaouad Beloved by Toni Morrison The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No matter the question, reading is the answer. And in a year starting off like 2025 is, we certainly need a lot of answers to life's questions.I am thrilled to welcome fellow Angeleno bookworm Traci Thomas (host of The Stacks podcast) to talk about the most anticipated new book releases of 2025. We talk about novels and nonfiction by debut and beloved authors publishing this year and sorry not sorry about this conversation that will send your book budget soaring. There are so many good books to look forward to in the next six months.Also in this episode, Traci really gives me a lot to think about in terms of how we talk about books and why it's okay to be publicly critical of books that don't work for us. As an author who is jumpy about that concept, Traci really shifted my perspective on this.You can listen to Traci on The Stacks podcastYou can follow Traci on IGYou can read Traci on her substack UnstackedYou can join Traci's PatreonFULL SHOW NOTES HEREJOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUBMOST ANTICIPATED 2025 BOOKS:January Books:Black in Blues: How a Color Tells the Story of My People by Imani PerryWitchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady HendrixFebruary Books:Pure Innocent Fun: Essays by Ira Madison IIIShow Don't Tell by Curtis SittenfeldDeath Takes Me by Cristina Rivera GarzaOne Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been Against This by Omar El AkkadMarch Books:Hot Air by Marcy DermanskyI'll Love You Forever: Notes from a K-Pop Fan by Giaae KwonThere is No Place for Us: Working and Homeless in America by Brian GoldstoneApril Books:Dear Writer: Pep Talks & Practical Advice for the Creative Life by Maggie SmithThe Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika JaouadAuthority: Essays by Andrea Long ChuMay Books:Love and Exile by Shon FayeThe Last Supper: Art, Faith, Sex, and Controversy in the 1980s by Paul ElieJune Books:Atmosphere by Taylor Jenkins ReidWeepers by Peter MendelsunALSO MENTIONED in this episode:Sara Hildreth of Fiction MattersEpisode 122 of The Stacks Podcast with Kiese Laymon, Breathe by Imani Perry Book ClubEpisode 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part IIThe Keep It PodcastRead Traci's Most Anticipated List of 2025 with a different set of books than she talks about hereSuleika Jaouad's Substack, The Isolation JournalsMORE BOOKS mentioned in this episode:Blood in the Water by Heather Ann Thompson South to America by Imani PerryVexy Thing: On Gender and Liberation by Imani PerryMay We Forever Stand: A History of the Black National Anthem by Imani PerryBreathe: A Letter to My Sons by Imani PerryBetween the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi CoatesLooking for Lorraine by Imani PerryThe Southern Book Club's Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady HendrixHow to Sell a Haunted House by Grady HendrixRomantic Comedy by Curtis SittenfeldAmerican Wife by Curtis SittenfeldYou Like It Darker by Stephen KingLiliana's Invincible Summer by Cristina Rivera GarzaAmerican War by Omar El AkkadEvicted by Matthew DesmondReagan: His Life and Legend by Max BootYou Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith Between Two Kingdoms by Suleika JaouadThe Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika JaouadBeloved by Toni MorrisonThe Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It may already be January, but it's time for my annual year-end reflection with 10 of the biggest things I learned that I hope will also resonate with you. 2024 was a weird year in so many ways. My lessons were all over the place, from examining self-confidence vs. self-esteem, finding out who I am in a crisis, being honest about what home renovations can bring up emotionally, facing my addiction to the news cycle, and discovering the big thing that motivates our family decisions. It was a year full of light bulb moments. I hope this helps you reflect upon your own lessons, struggles, and triumphs of the last year. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB HERE FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023 Ep 238: The Conversation That Changed My Year Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter The neck alignment thing that really works   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It may already be January, but it's time for my annual year-end reflection with 10 of the biggest things I learned that I hope will also resonate with you.2024 was a weird year in so many ways. My lessons were all over the place, from examining self-confidence vs. self-esteem, finding out who I am in a crisis, being honest about what home renovations can bring up emotionally, facing my addiction to the news cycle, and discovering the big thing that motivates our family decisions.It was a year full of light bulb moments. I hope this helps you reflect upon your own lessons, struggles, and triumphs of the last year.JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB HEREFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023Ep 238: The Conversation That Changed My YearEp 246: A Funeral for TwitterThe neck alignment thing that really works SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's the reading episode we look forward to all year! My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a supersized conversation about the best books we read in 2024.JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUBSince Stephanie, Yasmin, and I did a half-year Best Books episode together during the summer, we only gloss over a few of the books we discussed in depth in June. You can see the show notes from Ep 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far).Also an EXTENDED CUT of this episode and the BONUS episode where the three of us share books that didn't work for us this year (including a big surprise from me) is available for paid members SECRET STUFF (now on Substack!)FULL SHOW NOTES HEREFollow me @laura.tremaine on IGFollow Yasmin @yasminheartsbooks on IG(Stephanie doesn't post books on IG)MENTIONED in this episode:Yasmin's Best Books:Ours by Phillip B. WilliamsThe Wedding People by Alison Espach Guilty Creatures: Sex, God, and Murder in Tallahassee by Mikita Brottman Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence RealStephanie's Best Books:This Motherless Land by Nikki MayReal Americans by Rachel KhongBlue Sisters by Coco MellorsLaura's Best Books:Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy LenzHere One Moment by Liane MoriartyRebecca by Daphne du MaurierLink to Patreon episode about the Bee Sting - (Available for $3!)ALSO MENTIONED:Yasmin's Best Books (So Far) in the June Episode:You Like It Darker by Stephen KingJames by Percival EverettKnife: Meditations After an Attempted Murder by Salman RushdieStephanie's Best Books (so far) in the June Episode:Long Island by Colm TóibínNeighbors and Other Stories by Diane OliverSlow Horses by Mick HerronLaura's Best Books (so far) in the June Episode:The Bee Sting by Paul MurrayThe Book of Love by Kelly LinkHow to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. FreemanThe Way of Integrity by Martha BeckHolly by Stephen KingRita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption by Stephen KingSecret Windows by Stephen KingThe Body by Stephen KingThe Stand by Stephen KingMansfield Park by Jane AustenYou Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie SmithSociopath: A Memoir by Patric Gagne, Ph.D.All Fours by Miranda JulyThe Life Impossible by Matt HaigShare Your Stuff, I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineApples Never Fall by Liane MoriartyThe Immortalists by Chloe BenjaminBig Little Lies by Liane MoriartyWhat Alice Forgot by Liane MoriartyNine Perfect Strangers by Liane MoriartyA Year to Live by Stephen LevineHello Beautiful by Ann NapolitanoWithin Arm's Reach by Ann Napolitano Martyr! By Kaveh AkbarListen for the Lie by Amy TinteraCouple Found Slain by Mikita BrottmanNPR Best Books of the Year listNYT 10 Best Books of the Year listNYT Best Books of the 21st CenturyEp. 243 Best Books Lately (with Sophie Hudson)More Episodes with Yasmin and Stephanie:Ep. 46: Book Club 2019Ep. 90: Book Club's Best Books of the Year 2020Ep. 147: Best Books of the Year 2021Ep. 153: Best Books of the Year 2022Ep. 179: Best Books of 2023 (So Far)Ep. 199: Best Books of the Year 2023Ep. 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's the reading episode we look forward to all year! My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a supersized conversation about the best books we read in 2024. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB Since Stephanie, Yasmin, and I did a half-year Best Books episode together during the summer, we only gloss over a few of the books we discussed in depth in June. You can see the show notes from Ep 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far). Also an EXTENDED CUT of this episode and the BONUS episode where the three of us share books that didn't work for us this year (including a big surprise from me) is available for paid members SECRET STUFF (now on Substack!) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow me @laura.tremaine on IG Follow Yasmin @yasminheartsbooks on IG (Stephanie doesn't post books on IG) MENTIONED in this episode: Yasmin's Best Books: Ours by Phillip B. Williams The Wedding People by Alison Espach  Guilty Creatures: Sex, God, and Murder in Tallahassee by Mikita Brottman  Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence Real Stephanie's Best Books: This Motherless Land by Nikki May Real Americans by Rachel Khong Blue Sisters by Coco Mellors Laura's Best Books: Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy Lenz Here One Moment by Liane Moriarty Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier Link to Patreon episode about the Bee Sting - (Available for $3!) ALSO MENTIONED: Yasmin's Best Books (So Far) in the June Episode: You Like It Darker by Stephen King James by Percival Everett Knife: Meditations After an Attempted Murder by Salman Rushdie Stephanie's Best Books (so far) in the June Episode: Long Island by Colm Tóibín Neighbors and Other Stories by Diane Oliver Slow Horses by Mick Herron Laura's Best Books (so far) in the June Episode: The Bee Sting by Paul Murray The Book of Love by Kelly Link How to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. Freeman The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck Holly by Stephen King Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption by Stephen King Secret Windows by Stephen King The Body by Stephen King The Stand by Stephen King Mansfield Park by Jane Austen You Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith Sociopath: A Memoir by Patric Gagne, Ph.D. All Fours by Miranda July The Life Impossible by Matt Haig Share Your Stuff, I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty The Immortalists by Chloe Benjamin Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty Nine Perfect Strangers by Liane Moriarty A Year to Live by Stephen Levine Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano Within Arm's Reach by Ann Napolitano  Martyr! By Kaveh Akbar Listen for the Lie by Amy Tintera Couple Found Slain by Mikita Brottman NPR Best Books of the Year list NYT 10 Best Books of the Year list NYT Best Books of the 21st Century Ep. 243 Best Books Lately (with Sophie Hudson) More Episodes with Yasmin and Stephanie: Ep. 46: Book Club 2019 Ep. 90: Book Club's Best Books of the Year 2020 Ep. 147: Best Books of the Year 2021 Ep. 153: Best Books of the Year 2022 Ep. 179: Best Books of 2023 (So Far) Ep. 199: Best Books of the Year 2023 Ep. 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I know why you don't journal. I also know why you should journal. In this episode, I'm sharing all the benefits you'll gain from the occasional journal session and how to combat the (many) obstacles that keep you from starting. Then I'll share the 4 types of journaling that you can try in order to see growth and clarity in your life. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: My favorite plain notebook The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I know why you don't journal. I also know why you should journal.In this episode, I'm sharing all the benefits you'll gain from the occasional journal session and how to combat the (many) obstacles that keep you from starting. Then I'll share the 4 types of journaling that you can try in order to see growth and clarity in your life.FULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:My favorite plain notebookThe Artist's Way by Julia Cameron SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookJOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection GroupSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN the Secret Stuff PatreonBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My friend Nora Dahlia Zelevansky is a journalist, a novelist, a wellness writer, and now she's a romance author! As we celebrate the release of her latest book PICK UP, Nora and I chat about her writing trajectory, the differences between publishing and marketing the romance genre, and why she decided to write this book using a different name.We also talk about how fiction helps us process our pasts, and especially how our high school selves might not have grasped the full story, and how we wrestle with that in adulthood.So many aspects to this great conversation!PICK UP by Nora Dahlia is out now!Learn more about Nora Dahlia ZelevanskyFollow Nora on IGFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HEREMENTIONED in this episode:NaNoWriMoauthor Sarah MacLean's booksCompetitive Grieving by Nora ZelevanskyRoll, Red, Roll: Rape, Power, and Football in the American Heartland SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookJOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection GroupSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN the Secret Stuff PatreonBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My friend Nora Dahlia Zelevansky is a journalist, a novelist, a wellness writer, and now she's a romance author! As we celebrate the release of her latest book PICK UP, Nora and I chat about her writing trajectory, the differences between publishing and marketing the romance genre, and why she decided to write this book using a different name. We also talk about how fiction helps us process our pasts, and especially how our high school selves might not have grasped the full story, and how we wrestle with that in adulthood. So many aspects to this great conversation! PICK UP by Nora Dahlia is out now! Learn more about Nora Dahlia Zelevansky Follow Nora on IG FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: NaNoWriMo author Sarah MacLean's books Competitive Grieving by Nora Zelevansky Roll, Red, Roll: Rape, Power, and Football in the American Heartland   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As Taylor Swift ends her earth-shattering Eras tour this weekend after a year and a half of dominating the charts and the headlines, I'm sharing how her music and her professional presence has shaped me as an artist, a mom, a business woman, and a former angsty teenager. I hope this episode inspires you to share your own favorite Taylor Swift memories, songs, lyrics, and more. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Kate Kennedy's Be There in Five podcast Follow Kate Kennedy on IG Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter “Taylor Swift | The Eras Tour (Taylor's Version)”   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As Taylor Swift ends her earth-shattering Eras tour this weekend after a year and a half of dominating the charts and the headlines, I'm sharing how her music and her professional presence has shaped me as an artist, a mom, a business woman, and a former angsty teenager.I hope this episode inspires you to share your own favorite Taylor Swift memories, songs, lyrics, and more.FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Kate Kennedy's Be There in Five podcastFollow Kate Kennedy on IGEp 246: A Funeral for Twitter“Taylor Swift | The Eras Tour (Taylor's Version)” SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookJOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection GroupSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN the Secret Stuff PatreonBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One of the books that has made the biggest impression on me in the last few years is The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. I have talked about this book EVERYWHERE and insisted that even people who do not self-identify as "perfectionists" would get something out of it. So you can imagine that I was thrilled with the Secret Stuff members chose TPGTLC as a book club pick and I was doubly thrilled when author Katherine Morgan Schafler agreed to attend our regular monthly book club meeting to discuss it. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB HERE This episode is a replay of our book club discussion that was held over zoom, where Katherine and I held a great conversation about some of the major points of the book (including the five different types of "perfectionists"), and then Secret Stuff members got to ask her questions. I loved our conversation so much that I wanted everyone to hear it (and to read the book!). If you like these types of book club meetings, consider joining the Secret Stuff Book Club for 2025. We always have the best meetings with thoughtful conversations. Read The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control Follow @katherinemorganschafler on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown (also one of my favorite books of all time) “Tracker” on CBS   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the books that has made the biggest impression on me in the last few years is The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. I have talked about this book EVERYWHERE and insisted that even people who do not self-identify as "perfectionists" would get something out of it.So you can imagine that I was thrilled with the Secret Stuff members chose TPGTLC as a book club pick and I was doubly thrilled when author Katherine Morgan Schafler agreed to attend our regular monthly book club meeting to discuss it.JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB HEREThis episode is a replay of our book club discussion that was held over zoom, where Katherine and I held a great conversation about some of the major points of the book (including the five different types of "perfectionists"), and then Secret Stuff members got to ask her questions.I loved our conversation so much that I wanted everyone to hear it (and to read the book!). If you like these types of book club meetings, consider joining the Secret Stuff Book Club for 2025. We always have the best meetings with thoughtful conversations.Read The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing ControlFollow @katherinemorganschafler on IGFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown (also one of my favorite books of all time)“Tracker” on CBS SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookJOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection GroupSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN the Secret Stuff PatreonBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I joined twitter in 2009 and for 15 years - until this very month - it has been my favorite social media platform. The one place where I am only a consumer and not a creator. The place where I met my earliest online friends. The place where I made most of my best online memories following breaking news, political, scandal, and pop culture. And the only other person I know who has been obsessed with twitter for as long as I have been? None other than friend and podcaster Jamie Golden. Jamie and I have shared many obsessions over the years - and I write about her in The Life Council as the Fellow Obsessive friend - but our love of twitter has always been our biggest shared passion. And despite saying numerous times over the years that we'd never leave, we both decided in the last few weeks to depart our formerly favorite space. And thus, a funeral for twitter. In this conversation, Jamie and I talk about our earliest days on twitter, why we loved it so much, our favorite moments, a few of our regrets, and, of course, why we're leaving. You don't have to care about twitter to enjoy this passionate conversation between friends. My hope for this episode is that you'll get a little glimpse into some social media history and that you'll see yourself in a discussion about how being online has changed us. Follow Jamie Golden on IG Follow Jamie Golden on Bluesky Listen to Jamie Golden on her podcasts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie and Faith Adjacent Follow Laura Tremaine on BlueSky FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Black Twitter: A People's History (hulu docuseries) Extremely Online by Taylor Lorenz So You've Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson JAMIE's past episodes of 10 Things To Tell You: Ep. 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden Ep. 51: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) Ep. 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Holden RETURNS!) Ep. 164: Are we friends or not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) Ep. 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites (with Jamie Golden)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I joined twitter in 2009 and for 15 years - until this very month - it has been my favorite social media platform. The one place where I am only a consumer and not a creator. The place where I met my earliest online friends. The place where I made most of my best online memories following breaking news, political, scandal, and pop culture.And the only other person I know who has been obsessed with twitter for as long as I have been? None other than friend and podcaster Jamie Golden. Jamie and I have shared many obsessions over the years - and I write about her in The Life Council as the Fellow Obsessive friend - but our love of twitter has always been our biggest shared passion. And despite saying numerous times over the years that we'd never leave, we both decided in the last few weeks to depart our formerly favorite space.And thus, a funeral for twitter.In this conversation, Jamie and I talk about our earliest days on twitter, why we loved it so much, our favorite moments, a few of our regrets, and, of course, why we're leaving.You don't have to care about twitter to enjoy this passionate conversation between friends. My hope for this episode is that you'll get a little glimpse into some social media history and that you'll see yourself in a discussion about how being online has changed us.Follow Jamie Golden on IGFollow Jamie Golden on BlueskyListen to Jamie Golden on her podcasts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie and Faith AdjacentFollow Laura Tremaine on BlueSkyFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Black Twitter: A People's History (hulu docuseries)Extremely Online by Taylor LorenzSo You've Been Publicly Shamed by Jon RonsonJAMIE's past episodes of 10 Things To Tell You:Ep. 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie GoldenEp. 51: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)Ep. 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Holden RETURNS!)Ep. 164: Are we friends or not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)Ep. 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites (with Jamie Golden) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookJOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection GroupSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN the Secret Stuff PatreonBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When the world feels hard, and our lives feel loud, it can be difficult to find equilibrium. In this episode, I'm sharing 5 practices in various areas of my life that make me feel a little more like myself, a little more like a human, a little more sane and calm. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Learn more about #OneDayHH Join our Secret Stuff community for regular Symposium conversations Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod Episode 195: Why Do Smart People Love Dumb TV? with Matt Marr   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When the world feels hard, and our lives feel loud, it can be difficult to find equilibrium. In this episode, I'm sharing 5 practices in various areas of my life that make me feel a little more like myself, a little more like a human, a little more sane and calm.FULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Learn more about #OneDayHHJoin our Secret Stuff community for regular Symposium conversationsMiracle Morning by Hal ElrodEpisode 195: Why Do Smart People Love Dumb TV? with Matt Marr SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookJOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection GroupSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN the Secret Stuff PatreonBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With less than two months left in 2024, I'm sharing ten questions that will help you finish the year strong. We're talking achievable goals, mantras, connecting with others, and lingering decisions that need to be made. These questions will give you clarity for the weeks ahead and and let you set intentions for how you want to feel and who you want to be at the end of 2024. As always, you can take these questions to your journal for introspection and growth, or use them as conversation starters with friends and family. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN US FOR the 12th Annual #ONEDAYHH MENTIONED in this episode: BONUS: How To Decorate For The Seasons Without Buying More Stuff ( Conversation with Myquillyn Smith, The Nester) Other Year-end Questions Episodes: Ep. 45: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2019 Ep. 95: 10 Questions To Ask Yourself at the End of the Year 2020 Ep. 148: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2021 Ep. 198: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2023   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices