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What gets in the way of truly intimate, healthy relationships…and what can we do about it? In this moving episode, Forrest is joined by renowned couples therapist Terry Real to explore how we can build deeper, more meaningful connections. They unpack key concepts from Relational Life Therapy, including the shift from “me” to “us,” the difference between the adaptive child and wise adult, and how to stay grounded during conflict through relational mindfulness. Terry explains how individualism and patriarchal conditioning fuel disconnection, and how therapy can help couples move from power struggles to true collaboration. A highlight of the episode is a live experiential process, where Terry guides Forrest through some inner child work. About our Guest: Terry Real is a family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author known for his groundbreaking work on men, masculinity, and relationships. He is the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and the author of several books including The New Rules of Marriage and Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction  1:34: Systemic thinking in therapy, and the cultural forces that shape relationships 9:00: RLT and confrontation in therapy 12:58: The Adaptive Child, Wise Adult, and how internal parts shape how we relate 17:13: Relational mindfulness, and moving from 'me' to 'us' 27:12: Fierce intimacy: why telling the truth is more loving than being “nice” 30:16: Psychological patriarchy, and how it ruins our relationships 43:28: Experiential process: Terry guides Forrest through inner child work 54:07: How patriarchal norms distort emotional connection for men 1:06:24: Recap Rick's Change Your Mind Course: Learn how to break old scripts, get some space around self-doubting thoughts, and act in a new way. Six-week course starts June 21, learn more about it at RickHanson.com/changing. Use coupon code BeingWell25 to receive 25% off. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Head to acornsearly.com/beingwell or download the Acorns Early app to help your kids grow their money skills today.  Get Notion Mail for free right now at notion.com/beingwell, and try the inbox that thinks like you For a limited time, get Headspace FREE for 60 days. Go to Headspace.com/BEINGWELL60. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Go to ZOE.com and find out what ZOE Membership could do for you. Use code WELL10 to get 10% off membership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a world where we spend a lot of time acting independent, or falling into codependence, there is another way. We can learn to evolve to interdependence and focus on Us, rather than only You or Me. On today's episode, Terry Real discusses his new book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!

In a world where we spend a lot of time acting independent, or falling into codependence, there is another way. We can learn to evolve to interdependence and focus on Us, rather than only You or Me. On today's episode, Terry Real discusses his new book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!

In this powerful follow-up to our discussion on big “T” trauma, we dive deeper into how all trauma—big and small—shapes the automatic behaviors that can strain your marriage. From lying to stonewalling, these “stances” stem from your adaptive child, a part of you formed in childhood. Through heartfelt stories and practical steps, we explore how to identify these patterns, heal your inner child, and choose wiser responses to reclaim your relationship. Join Robert and Sharla for an honest, hope-filled conversation about breaking free from the past.SummaryRelationships aren't just about communication or date nights—the real work is growing beyond your automatic reactions. In this episode, we unpack how childhood trauma creates your relational “stance,” an instinctive response like fighting, fleeing, or fixing that shows up when stress hits. We share the story of Dan, whose evasiveness nearly cost him his marriage, and Jessica, whose stonewalling left her husband feeling disconnected. Drawing on insights from therapists like Terry Real and Pia Mellody, we explain how the “adaptive child” forms and how to spot it in yourself. Most importantly, we offer a compassionate, practical path to pause, reflect, and choose responses that prioritize love over survival. If you missed Part 1, go back and listen to our discussion on big “T” trauma—it sets the stage for this episode!Key TakeawaysYour Stance is Your Adaptive Child: Your knee-jerk reactions in marriage—like lying, shutting down, or people-pleasing—are coping strategies from childhood trauma, big or small. They helped you survive then but can hurt your relationship now.Trauma Isn't Always Big: “Little t” traumas, like being told your emotions were too much or lacking emotional guidance, wire your nervous system and show up as automatic behaviors in adulthood.Spot the Signs: You're in your adaptive child when you get rigid, harsh, or lose empathy. In your wise mind, you're curious, flexible, and compassionate—qualities that strengthen your marriage.Heal with Compassion: Don't indulge or shame your inner child. Instead, have a loving conversation: forgive them, apologize for their pain, and commit to protecting your partner.Choose Wisely: Pause before reacting. Wait for your “second consciousness” to choose a response that puts your relationship first, like Dan's honest “I forgot” moment.It's a Daily Practice: Reclaiming your marriage means identifying your stance, pausing, and choosing love moment by moment. With practice, you can shift from “me” to “we.”Dive DeeperResources Mentioned:Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real – The book featuring Dan and Julia's story, offering insights on relational healing.Pia Mellody's work on the “adaptive child” – Explore her books like Facing Codependence for a deeper understanding of how childhood shapes adult behaviors.Suggested Resources:The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – A must-read for understanding how trauma affects the nervous system and relationships.Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson – A practical guide to building emotional connection in your marriage.Journal Prompt: Reflect on your relational stance. Ask honestly, “What do I do when I'm triggered? What is my relational stance?”Get Coaching: Consider working with coach or therapist with experience dealing with trauma, or reach out to us for personalized coaching (see Connect with Us below).Connect with UsWe're here to support you in building a stronger, healthier marriage. If this episode resonated and you'd like help breaking free from old...

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Terry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher. His book I Don't Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression, is a national bestseller. His new book, Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship is a New York Times bestseller.Sponsors:Cresset prestigious family office for CEOs, founders, and entrepreneurs: https://cressetcapital.com/tim (book a call today)Ramp easy-to-use corporate cards, bill payments, accounting, and more: https://ramp.com/tim (Get $250 when you join Ramp)Wealthfront high-yield cash account: https://Wealthfront.com/Tim (Start earning 4.00% APY on your short-term cash until you're ready to invest. And when new clients open an account today, you can get an extra fifty-dollar bonus with a deposit of five hundred dollars or more.) Terms apply. Tim Ferriss receives cash compensation from Wealthfront Brokerage, LLC for advertising and holds a non-controlling equity interest in the corporate parent of Wealthfront Brokerage. See full disclosures here.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Thomas is joined by Terry Real, an acclaimed family therapist, bestselling author, and the founder of The Relational Life Institute. Terry shares insights from his years of work with couples and families struggling to repair their relationships, and how practicing what he calls “Relational Mindfulness” is a game-changer for anyone whose past traumas are negatively impacting their current connections. As Terry explains, the work of relationships is not day-by-day; it's moment-to-moment. And in each challenging moment, we have a choice: give in to our knee-jerk reactions and maladaptive trauma responses, or take a step back so that a more mature part of ourselves can emerge.  When we choose presence, collaboration, and interdependence over reactivity, conflict, and toxic individualism, we don't just heal ourselves and our relationships—we stop the flow of intergenerational trauma in its tracks, and this dynamic shift becomes a part of our legacy.    Click here to watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:

From Betrayed to Connected: Reclaiming Your Voice, Power & Relationships With Terry Real After infidelity, you don't just want to survive, you want to reclaim yourself, maybe your relationship, and thrive. Join Lora Cheadle, infidelity recovery advocate, and believer that women do not need to stuck in the devastation of betrayal forever, alongside renowned relationship therapist Terry Real, as they challenge misconceptions, cut through the noise, and help you take back your power. In this episode, Terry Real breaks down why traditional therapy often fails betrayed partners, the difference between individual and relational empowerment, and how to advocate for yourself without getting stuck in blame or resentment. Whether you're staying or leaving, you'll learn to transform your pain into a catalyst for joy, confidence, and the life you truly deserve. Top 3 Takeaways: Infidelity is a trauma, not a failure. Your pain is real, and healing starts with acknowledging the depth of your experience. Healing is about transformation, not just survival. The goal isn't returning to what was—it's creating something better, whether with or without your partner. Empowerment is relational, not individual. True healing comes when you reclaim your voice, set boundaries, and cultivate relationships that support your growth. Tune in weekly for insights, expert interviews, and real-world tools to help you rise, reign, and reclaim your worth. Ready to heal your body and mind after betrayal? Download your free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit at BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and book a complimentary 30-minute consultation with Lora today! About Terry Real: The author of four books, including the recent New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, Terry knows how to lead people on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy and personal fulfillment.   His revolutionary approach to couples therapy, Relational Life Therapy, underpins all his books, courses, and teachings. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to make love work and cultivate authentic connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole. A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. His extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce garnered Terry the reputation of “the turnaround guy,” and demand from other therapists to learn his RLT method skyrocketed.   To bring the remarkable results of RLT to as many people as possible, Terry established his Relational Life Institute. To date, thousands of mental health practitioners have benefited from a whole new perspective on couples therapy that has transformed their clients, their practice, and their own relationships.  Perhaps you're looking for guidance on how to restore closeness in your relationship, or maybe you're currently single but looking to learn the skills to build healthier connections. Either way, you're in the right place. Here, you'll find a wealth of resources—from free resources to online courses, all designed to help you forge healthy, fulfilling relationships that last a lifetime.  Special Announcement! Don't miss Lora Cheadle's new book, "It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive," This essential guide differentiates between burnout and betrayal, offering five transformative steps to recovery. Available on Amazon. www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways.  Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, emotional, and ancestral level—while also providing legal guidance to help them navigate the practical complexities of infidelity and relationship transitions. She empowers women to rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity and self-worth, break free from repeating patterns, and step into their power with confidence, clarity, and grace. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand what it takes to transform devastation into an invitation for healing, freedom, and joy. Her unique approach blends deep emotional healing with tangible legal and life strategies, guiding women beyond betrayal into lives of unapologetic confidence and purpose. As the founder of Life Choreography Coaching & Advocacy, Lora provides comprehensive legal, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual support on demand. She believes that infidelity doesn't have to be the end of the dream you poured your heart and soul into—it can be the beginning of a life filled with sovereignty, connection, and joy. Licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, Lora is also a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, and advanced integrated energy practitioner. She is certified in yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal training, bringing a holistic perspective to healing. She is the author of FLAUNT! 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For this episode, I'm doing something a bit different. I'm featuring five chapters from the audiobook Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real. What you will hear in this episode will help you identify both your and your partner's losing strategies in relationships, and help you move from disharmony to repair. Terry is the creator of Relational Life Therapy, or RLT, which underpins all his books, courses, and teachings and equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to make love work. He is also the author of five books, including the New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. And if you'd like an extra dose of calm, I recommend checking out Henry Shukman, a past podcast guest and one of only a few dozen masters in the world authorized to teach Sanbo Zen. Henry's app, The Way, has changed my life. I've been using it daily, often twice a day, and it's lowered my anxiety more than I thought possible. For 30 free sessions, just visit thewayapp.com/tim. No credit card required.Excerpted from Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with LOVE by Terry Real (Sounds True, 2018.). Used with permission.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After infidelity, you don't just want to survive—you want to reclaim yourself, maybe your relationship, and thrive. Join Lora Cheadle, infidelity recovery advocate, and believer that women do not need to stuck in the devastation of betrayal forever, alongside renowned relationship therapist Terry Real, as they challenge misconceptions, cut through the noise, and help you take back your power. In this episode, Terry Real breaks down why traditional therapy often fails betrayed partners, the difference between individual and relational empowerment, and how to advocate for yourself without getting stuck in blame or resentment. Whether you're staying or leaving, you'll learn to transform your pain into a catalyst for joy, confidence, and the life you truly deserve. Top 3 Takeaways: Infidelity is a trauma, not a failure. Your pain is real, and healing starts with acknowledging the depth of your experience. Healing is about transformation, not just survival. The goal isn't returning to what was—it's creating something better, whether with or without your partner. Empowerment is relational, not individual. True healing comes when you reclaim your voice, set boundaries, and cultivate relationships that support your growth. Tune in weekly for insights, expert interviews, and real-world tools to help you rise, reign, and reclaim your worth.  

Exploring Terry Real's Us: Healing Through Connection and Recognizing the Inner Child Episode Summary: In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra continue their mini-series based on Terry Real's book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. The focus is on recognizing how the "adaptive child" shows up in relationships, understanding the concept of relational trauma, and learning how to move toward healthier, more connected relationships. This deep dive explores the impact of past experiences on present behaviors and how to intentionally shift away from maladaptive patterns. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Understanding the Adaptive Child: How childhood coping mechanisms develop to protect us. Why these mechanisms often sabotage adult relationships. Identifying when your adaptive child is triggered. Trauma and Its Effects: The difference between Big T Trauma and Little t trauma. How even good parents can unintentionally pass down wounds. The concept of relational trauma and its generational impact. The Relationship Grid: Terry Real's trauma and relationship grid explained. How grandiosity, boundaries, and self-esteem interact in relationships. Recognizing where you tend to fall on the grid during conflict. Practical Strategies for Healing and Growth: How to nurture your inner child and develop your wise adult self. Tools to help you shift from reactive states to a place of connection. The importance of intentionality in countering society's individualistic bias. Key Quotes: "The only person who can consistently nurture and support your inner child is you." "Real maturity comes when we tend to our inner children ourselves and don't inflict them on our partners to care for." "Awareness is the first step to change. Once you become aware of your tendencies, the threshold for healthier relationships becomes lower." Actionable Takeaways: Reflect on your adaptive child's tendencies by asking: Who did I see this from? Who did it to me? Who did I do it to, and no one stopped me? Practice recognizing triggers and responding with grace and self-compassion. Use Terry Real's relationship grid to identify patterns and set goals for moving toward the center of health in relationships. Resources Mentioned: Terry Real's book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Episode 135: How to Do Repairs with Your Children. Free video: How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking Up in Silence – Click Here to Watch. Link to the Relationship Grid. Get Involved: Share your insights and experiences! Email us at podcast@thewholephysician.com. Leave us a 5-star review with a sentence or two—your feedback helps other doctors find us and builds our community. Closing Notes: You are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters. Until next time, remember that healing and connection are always possible. If you found this episode valuable, don't forget to subscribe and share it with a friend who might benefit! Resources: Link to Grid Link to Us Book Link to Free Session Link to Free Video

It's the reading episode we look forward to all year! My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a supersized conversation about the best books we read in 2024.JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUBSince Stephanie, Yasmin, and I did a half-year Best Books episode together during the summer, we only gloss over a few of the books we discussed in depth in June. You can see the show notes from Ep 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far).Also an EXTENDED CUT of this episode and the BONUS episode where the three of us share books that didn't work for us this year (including a big surprise from me) is available for paid members SECRET STUFF (now on Substack!)FULL SHOW NOTES HEREFollow me @laura.tremaine on IGFollow Yasmin @yasminheartsbooks on IG(Stephanie doesn't post books on IG)MENTIONED in this episode:Yasmin's Best Books:Ours by Phillip B. WilliamsThe Wedding People by Alison Espach Guilty Creatures: Sex, God, and Murder in Tallahassee by Mikita Brottman Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence RealStephanie's Best Books:This Motherless Land by Nikki MayReal Americans by Rachel KhongBlue Sisters by Coco MellorsLaura's Best Books:Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy LenzHere One Moment by Liane MoriartyRebecca by Daphne du MaurierLink to Patreon episode about the Bee Sting - (Available for $3!)ALSO MENTIONED:Yasmin's Best Books (So Far) in the June Episode:You Like It Darker by Stephen KingJames by Percival EverettKnife: Meditations After an Attempted Murder by Salman RushdieStephanie's Best Books (so far) in the June Episode:Long Island by Colm TóibínNeighbors and Other Stories by Diane OliverSlow Horses by Mick HerronLaura's Best Books (so far) in the June Episode:The Bee Sting by Paul MurrayThe Book of Love by Kelly LinkHow to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. FreemanThe Way of Integrity by Martha BeckHolly by Stephen KingRita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption by Stephen KingSecret Windows by Stephen KingThe Body by Stephen KingThe Stand by Stephen KingMansfield Park by Jane AustenYou Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie SmithSociopath: A Memoir by Patric Gagne, Ph.D.All Fours by Miranda JulyThe Life Impossible by Matt HaigShare Your Stuff, I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineApples Never Fall by Liane MoriartyThe Immortalists by Chloe BenjaminBig Little Lies by Liane MoriartyWhat Alice Forgot by Liane MoriartyNine Perfect Strangers by Liane MoriartyA Year to Live by Stephen LevineHello Beautiful by Ann NapolitanoWithin Arm's Reach by Ann Napolitano Martyr! By Kaveh AkbarListen for the Lie by Amy TinteraCouple Found Slain by Mikita BrottmanNPR Best Books of the Year listNYT 10 Best Books of the Year listNYT Best Books of the 21st CenturyEp. 243 Best Books Lately (with Sophie Hudson)More Episodes with Yasmin and Stephanie:Ep. 46: Book Club 2019Ep. 90: Book Club's Best Books of the Year 2020Ep. 147: Best Books of the Year 2021Ep. 153: Best Books of the Year 2022Ep. 179: Best Books of 2023 (So Far)Ep. 199: Best Books of the Year 2023Ep. 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACKBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's the reading episode we look forward to all year! My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a supersized conversation about the best books we read in 2024. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB Since Stephanie, Yasmin, and I did a half-year Best Books episode together during the summer, we only gloss over a few of the books we discussed in depth in June. You can see the show notes from Ep 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far). Also an EXTENDED CUT of this episode and the BONUS episode where the three of us share books that didn't work for us this year (including a big surprise from me) is available for paid members SECRET STUFF (now on Substack!) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow me @laura.tremaine on IG Follow Yasmin @yasminheartsbooks on IG (Stephanie doesn't post books on IG) MENTIONED in this episode: Yasmin's Best Books: Ours by Phillip B. Williams The Wedding People by Alison Espach  Guilty Creatures: Sex, God, and Murder in Tallahassee by Mikita Brottman  Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence Real Stephanie's Best Books: This Motherless Land by Nikki May Real Americans by Rachel Khong Blue Sisters by Coco Mellors Laura's Best Books: Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy Lenz Here One Moment by Liane Moriarty Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier Link to Patreon episode about the Bee Sting - (Available for $3!) ALSO MENTIONED: Yasmin's Best Books (So Far) in the June Episode: You Like It Darker by Stephen King James by Percival Everett Knife: Meditations After an Attempted Murder by Salman Rushdie Stephanie's Best Books (so far) in the June Episode: Long Island by Colm Tóibín Neighbors and Other Stories by Diane Oliver Slow Horses by Mick Herron Laura's Best Books (so far) in the June Episode: The Bee Sting by Paul Murray The Book of Love by Kelly Link How to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. Freeman The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck Holly by Stephen King Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption by Stephen King Secret Windows by Stephen King The Body by Stephen King The Stand by Stephen King Mansfield Park by Jane Austen You Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith Sociopath: A Memoir by Patric Gagne, Ph.D. All Fours by Miranda July The Life Impossible by Matt Haig Share Your Stuff, I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty The Immortalists by Chloe Benjamin Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty Nine Perfect Strangers by Liane Moriarty A Year to Live by Stephen Levine Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano Within Arm's Reach by Ann Napolitano  Martyr! By Kaveh Akbar Listen for the Lie by Amy Tintera Couple Found Slain by Mikita Brottman NPR Best Books of the Year list NYT 10 Best Books of the Year list NYT Best Books of the 21st Century Ep. 243 Best Books Lately (with Sophie Hudson) More Episodes with Yasmin and Stephanie: Ep. 46: Book Club 2019 Ep. 90: Book Club's Best Books of the Year 2020 Ep. 147: Best Books of the Year 2021 Ep. 153: Best Books of the Year 2022 Ep. 179: Best Books of 2023 (So Far) Ep. 199: Best Books of the Year 2023 Ep. 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine's SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No two people in marriage are the same, and differences that were initially fun and quirky may cause friction over time! In this weeks episode, listen to a conversation from Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, where Greg & Erin explain how you can learn to cherish the differences in your spouse. Later, we try a new segment called "What Would You Do?" where Greg & Erin talk about what they would do if one of them decided to leave the faith. Then, we answer a question from a listener about her alcoholic husband. Click here to receive "The Wholehearted Wife: 10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship" for a gift of any amount! Take the 4 Animals Personality Test Donate Now! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Welcome back to the podcast! Today, we're diving into *Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship* by Terrence Real. This book has left a deep impact on all three of us, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra, and we're excited to share key insights on how to foster deeper connections in relationships. 1. The Three Selves in Relationships Terrence Real introduces the concepts of the "Wounded Child," "Adaptive Child," and "Wise Adult" within us. Each part can impact our interactions, especially in times of stress. For example, when stress triggers the Adaptive Child, we might revert to defensive, perfectionistic, or rigid responses, limiting our ability to connect. 2. Moving Toward the Wise Adult The Wise Adult is the part of us capable of emotional regulation, grounded in the present moment, and focused on the “us” in relationships rather than just "me versus you." Practicing "relational mindfulness," as Real describes it, helps us move from reactionary behavior to thoughtful responses that prioritize the relationship. 3. Relational Mindfulness and Power Dynamics Real's approach encourages moving from a "power-over" to a "power-with" perspective. Relational mindfulness is about becoming aware of our own impulses and prioritizing the relationship ecosystem over individual needs. This doesn't mean neglecting personal needs but rather not letting those needs dominate interactions. 4. Relational Heroism Real's wife, Belinda, coined the term "relational heroism" for moments when, instead of defaulting to old habits, we choose connection and insight. This shift from automatic, defensive reactions to thoughtful, relational actions requires self-awareness and discipline. 5. Self-Responsibility and Maturity Maturity in relationships involves taking full responsibility for our actions and emotional triggers. This means acknowledging when we're operating from an adaptive, defensive place rather than our wise, grounded self. Understanding our reactions and managing triggers is essential for healthier connections. 6. Interpersonal Neurobiology Real touches on the science of how our central nervous system and relationships are deeply intertwined. Our early life experiences shape how we perceive intimacy and connection in adult relationships. Relationships are meant to be a source of co-regulation, enhancing our physical and emotional well-being. 7. The Importance of Connection Real discusses “Social Baseline Theory,” which emphasizes the evolutionary benefits of social connections. These connections help us conserve energy, regulate emotions, and mitigate risk. This need for connection is evident in research on loneliness and isolation, underscoring the importance of close, supportive relationships. 8. Understanding Subjective Reality Real emphasizes that subjective experience is often more important than objective facts. Accepting your partner's perception of reality can improve understanding and reduce conflict, shifting from a “me versus you” mentality to an “us” mindset. 9. The Framework of Connection True intimacy is built through awareness of each other's needs, emotions, and triggers. Individuality has its place, but lasting relationships thrive on mutual understanding, shared values, and a focus on connection over competition. Additional Resources and Final Thoughts As we continue our journey through this book, we invite you to explore Real's work, available in his books, online resources, and YouTube videos. Thank you for joining us today—be sure to check out our new free video linked in the show notes. Remember, you are whole, your gift to medicine is unique, and the work you do matters. https://www.amazon.com/Us-Getting-Build-Loving-Relationship/dp/0593233670 https://terryreal.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@realterryreal Check out our new video, "How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good, without Quitting Medicine, Cutting Back Hours, or Sucking it Up in Silence"-click here!

No two people in marriage are the same, and differences that were initially fun and quirky may cause friction over time! In this weeks episode, listen to a conversation from Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, where Greg & Erin explain how you can learn to cherish the differences in your spouse. Later, we try a new segment called "What Would You Do?" where Greg & Erin talk about what they would do if one of them decided to leave the faith. Then, we answer a question from a listener about her alcoholic husband.   Click here to receive "The Wholehearted Wife: 10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship" for a gift of any amount!   Donate Now!   We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

In today's episode, we're diving into the second part of our series on “Losing Strategies” in relationships. We explore how certain behaviors undermine connection, create emotional distance, and hinder growth, drawing insights from renowned therapists Terry Real and Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We begin with a quick recap of the first episode and then introduce five additional “losing strategies” that can be detrimental to relationships: 1. Playing the Victim – Recognizing the disempowerment in victimhood and how it can impact both personal and relational growth.2. Defensiveness – How defending ourselves undermines trust and prevents honest communication.3. Blaming – Shifting responsibility onto others as a way of avoiding self-reflection, creating a hostile environment.4. Scorekeeping – Keeping track of every wrong and using it as ammunition during conflicts, which prevents forgiveness and encourages resentment.5. Emotional Blackmail and Stonewalling – Emotional manipulation and shutting down emotionally to avoid discomfort, which erodes safety, trust, and connection. We also offer practical strategies to counter these behaviors, such as practicing gratitude, setting personal boundaries, and recognizing self-authorship. We remind listeners that these strategies are meant for self-reflection, not to be used as a tool for changing others. Finally, we discuss the importance of winning strategies that foster intimacy and growth, including empathy, active listening, and healthy conflict resolution. We'll explore these more in an upcoming episode. Resources Mentioned:- *I Don't Want to Talk About It* by Terry Real- *Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship* by Terry Real- Insight into “self-authorship” from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife If you found value in today's episode, please consider leaving a five-star review. This helps other doctors find our podcast and extends our reach. Also, don't miss our free video, *How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking It Up in Silence.* You can find the link in the show notes. Thank you for tuning in! Remember, you are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do truly matters. www.thewholephysician.com

In this episode, Joel Evan joins us for a conversation on the intersection of biohacking, relationship health, and personal transformation. With his extensive background in functional medicine and holistic health coaching, Joel is dedicated to helping others overcome their health challenges and optimize their performance.Joel opens up about the mental health struggles often overlooked in law enforcement, particularly the importance of nervous system regulation in high-stress environments like police work. He emphasizes that without first addressing the state of your nervous system, you can't effectively engage in a detox protocol or any healing process. Everything is connected to the brain, making nervous system regulation a critical component of overall well-being.Our guest today also leads the Limitless Fathers group, which aims to help husbands and fathers build deeper connections with their kids and cultivate stronger marriages. His approach to marriage highlights the idea that personal growth and relationship health are intertwined. By looking within and working on ourselves, we can foster more loving and connected relationships.We also discuss Joel's favorite biohacking tools and technologies that have made a difference in his life and his clients', such as red light therapy and the NeuFit machine. Overall, Joel's insights provide a holistic view of health, wellness, and personal development, making this episode a must-listen for anyone interested in pursuing the best version of themselves.HIGHLIGHTS[1:25] Joel's Intro to Biohacking[5:50] Embracing His Calling to Police Work[9:05] Regulating His Nervous System During Stressful Police Work[13:45] The Lack of Mental Health in Law Enforcement[17:00] The Potential in Flowspresso[22:25] Unpacking Joel's Life-Altering Decision[30:20] Discovering His True Self[32:20] Diving Into His Coaching Practice[36:50] On Working on Your Marriage[38:05] Looking Within to Transform Your Marriage[41:42] Relationship Insights from The Book “Us”[44:20] Joel's Favorite Biohacking TechnologyGUEST LINKSWebsite: https://www.joelevancoaching.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joelevancoaching/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSeTmYGSDO4xJKAUWPdRs4ATwitter: https://twitter.com/coachjoelevanUs: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship: https://a.co/d/aDNsDVdUPGRADE YOUR WELLNESSSilver Biotics Wound Healing Gel: https://bit.ly/3JnxyDDCode: BEAUTIFULLYBROKENHouse of Macadamias: https://www.houseofmacadamias.com/Code: beautifullybrokenLightPathLED https://lightpathled.com/?afmc=BEAUTIFULLYBROKENCode: beautifullybrokenFlowpresso 3-in-1 technology:https://calendly.com/freddiekimmel/flowpresso-one-on-one-discovery CONNECT WITH FREDDIE Check out my website and store: (http://www.beautifullybroken.world) Instagram: (https://www.instagram.com/beautifullybroken.world/) YouTube: (https://www.youtube.com/@BeautifullyBrokenWorld)

This week, Terry Real, renowned couples therapist and author “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship” reflects on the keys to building a successful long term relationship. In order to change inherited behaviors and dysfunction, Real cites his own struggle with family trauma and offers hope that with courage, discipline and hardwork change is indeed possible.   This episode of Life Examined with Terry Real was originally broadcast June 23rd, 2024

A few years ago I read Terry Real's book “Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.” He is a well established couple's therapist and friends with a fair number of celebrities, with the forward written by Bruce Springsteen.In one chapter he shares the story of two men, a “strikingly handsome couple” that were “killing each other (as they put it) over sex.” One man wanted it all the time, and the other virtually none of the time.He writes “as any good therapist would do, I draw from each of them not just their respective positions but also their interpretation, their narrative, of what sex means to each of them.”I asked myself the same question: what does sex mean to me?And I reflected on my previous and current relationships, and how my narrative may have shifted (or not) over time.I released my inquiry on Instagram over five parts, which you can find (with pictures!) here: One, Two, Three, Four, Five. And I decided to compile them all together in this post and release as a podcast episode. It was a fascinating experience to reflect on, and may stir many things for you. But before you read on…UPCOMING EVENTS & TRAININGSIn two weeks July 26-28 I'm holding my next in-person men's immersion Awakening the Wild Erotic. We have four spots left, so if this calls to you: Apply Now. In September we're launching the next cohort of The Deep Masculine, a 12 week online archetypal exploration into the realms of eros, sex & masculinity. Men can an join from anywhere the world. Apply Here.PART ONEMy first sexual experience with a woman was not intentional. I was 15, we were both intoxicated and she lead me into the bathroom at her friends house and proceeded before I knew what was happening. The encounter lasted seconds and I left confused and desiring to strike it from my memory.My first intentional sexual experience was with a middle school girlfriend. She was not a 'virgin' (a terrible construct fyi), and she had more experience. The encounter also lasted a short time before I ejaculated and reacted in a shame spiral that motivated me to literally leave the room, jump in my car and drive away.When I was able to calm down (or ‘auto-regulate' as Jessica Fern details in her book Polysecure) I returned to my girlfriend's house to reconnect.Over time I began to enjoy sex, even though for the rest of my high school years it had to remain secret from our parents.The only “sex talk” I received from my father was about how many semen live in a teaspoon of sperm - and the likelihood of getting an STD (now of course, we call them STI's). The sum total of the message being that sex would either 1) get a girl pregnant or 2) give me a disease.I don't judge him for this, as it's the story for so many youth. And I'm sure he received that much or even less as he crossed into puberty and his erotic life.What is the consequence of so many of us entering our sexual awakening with experiences of confusion, shame and trauma? And how might it be different?PART TWO At 26 I was married.Looking back it was a ludicrous decision to believe I was experienced enough to understand this massive lifelong commitment. This is a fate shared by most modern newlyweds bereft of true mentorship in love & relationships.In marriage, sex morphed into many things: the cultivation of pleasure, a way to co-regulate, and sometimes an expectation and a chore.Yet, if we went too long without sex, I would sometimes play a passive aggressive game: I would stop initiating entirely and wait to see if she would. This would show me whether she was “actually into it” and ideally show her how much I was carrying our sex life.It was easy to translate her lack of initiation or openness to my advances as rejection. Sex became more sparse and formulaic, as it often does into long term domestic relationships.Six years into the marriage, we shipwrecked on fertility challenges.This was also the time we discovered MDMA, Burning Man, orgy domes, and non-monogamy. For me, it was like landing on a remote island and living my whole life on the beach, thinking that was the entirety of the region to explore. Then suddenly discovering there was a vast archipelago of possibility that I hadn't known existed.We began tentatively exploring the terrain.I'll never forget when my wife kissed another man in front of me. It was exhilarating and terrifying at the same time. It was as if some fundamental truth about love & relationships had been shattered - that it was possible for my partner and I to share intimacy with others and remain in relationship.For me, there was no turning back. Yet for my wife, I was already racing too far ahead - and it was beyond her desire to follow me to the edges I wanted to explore.Erotic agreements were bent & broken on both sides.And a year later, we separated.PART THREEHeartbroken at the end of my marriage, I dove head long into the erotic underworld.I had lost the dream of the life I had, and I could see no merit in playing the role of “good boy” any longer.I committed to a polyamorous partnership with a woman who was the gateway to all the fantasies I longed to explore. BDSM & kink became the playground, and I revelled in the sensual freedom it represented.Sex became a way to push the edges of sensation, boundaries & convention. We exchanged the roles of domination & submission. It was a game we played continually, within our partnership & with lovers.If she had a sexual encounter with another, I would find my own to 'balance' the scales.Occasionally when either of us felt chosen over, feelings would be hurt and we weren't very good and speaking vulnerably to each other about this.Still, I sought the edges of my desire with unrestrained attachment to "liberation."I realize now that too often my seeking of sex became about escaping feeling.If I felt rejected by my partner, I would find a lover that would open to me to reclaim an inner validation. I could “win” over the Feminine, animated by the legacy of grief that lingered from the feeling of betrayal at the end of my marriage.I'm proud of what we did accomplish - we co-created a plethora of beauty, yet I believe I was not able to provide the ongoing secure anchor that she desired - one reason why she took on another partner during our time together.Eventually, I stepped back, realizing I needed to excavate my own unconscious patterns around sex & intimacy.Running parallel to this reality was my experience of Tamera, the radical “free love” research project in Portugal.My time there would change me utterly.PART FOURIn 2015, I first landed in Tamera, the radical community in Portugal, to make a film on their insights in liberating love.For almost 40 years, they have lived on the premise “there can be no peace on earth as long as there is war in love.”It was there, alongside my collaborators John Wolfstone & Julia Maryanska, that we experienced a social field unlike any other. Their members are dedicated to unearthing the generational trauma that burdens so many love relationships within modern society, and work in deep solidarity amongst the genders to regenerate trust.I learned that they consider “eros” the primal life-force of the natural world, and while humans partake in this energy through sex, this force is far vaster than such a narrow channel permits.Eros lives through the burst of molten lava from the raging mountaintop and the grace of the rain that nourishes the soil. Co-founder Sabine Lichtenfels has said “All the universe is an erotic encounter” and I began to understand her.At Tamera, they cultivate the landscape as well as the “lovescape” of their community, creating ritual spaces for the exploration of 'contact' amongst each other. They even have a Temple of Love, held by the village wise women, who mentor Temple Priests & Priestesses in the art of the sexual healing for community members.In group processes like Forum, the deepest personal challenges & insights are brought to the light of the collective, as they understand every participant does the work for the entire social organism.During my time, I was blessed with multiple experiences of releasing sexual shame & conditioning I had inherited from a society that I now recognized to be dysfunctional in the extreme.I wept an ocean of tears.I danced for hours in the sacred grove.I offered my pleasure to the luminous Goddess.And I witnessed the intelligence of eros again and again.We titled our film The Village of Lovers.The hardest part was leaving the community and attempting to live the possibility at home.PART FIVEThere's a saying: If you want to make God laugh, tell Him about your plans.In 2017, I made a grand declaration on Facebook that for my next chapter I would become “solo-poly”: which means open to dating others but not seeking a committed partnership.Weeks later I met Asha, a woman whose radiant beauty & sparkling spirit enthralled me so completely, I must have been brushed by the tip of Eros' arrow. I was compelled to explore our connection.The attraction was mutual and the passion immediate. Sex became a gateway to the purest realms of pleasure I had ever experienced. It wasn't long before I was declaring my love and soon after that I wished for partnership.A reading from the Osho Zen tarot deck appeared to announce we would have a child together. As we sensed into the wild mystery of that path, it felt true. The current of life pulsed through our beings & we surrendered to the divine intelligence. Sex became our participation in the cosmic dance of existence.Three months later, she was pregnant.Suddenly, the sobering possibility of this life-altering consequence became apparent. We barely knew each other and inviting a child into our midst seemed a reckless proposition. In our high stakes contemplation we toggled between ending the pregnancy or proceeding with the birth, knowing there was grief in either decision.Ultimately, spirit moved us to say 'yes' and we were entrusted with our blessed boy.For my partner and I, stepping into this responsibility without the prerequisite time to build a foundation of trust was costly. Amidst the joy & connection, so have our ancestral, familial, and personal wounds triggered each other so effectively.And yet, I can now see the wisdom at work.Eros has the power to attract polarizing forces together for the function of healing. When two people are willing to hold each other with compassion & commitment within a foundation of trust - transformation is possible.Our sex becomes a sacred temple of alchemy.Such a union of souls can light up the whole world.And we continue to listen for what's next...Thanks for reading. I would love to hear your comments & reflections below. And you're welcome to explore The Mythic Masculine eco-system of podcasts, online courses, and upcoming events here. Get full access to The Mythic Masculine at themythicmasculine.substack.com/subscribe

Are you and your partner struggling to make things work but deeply desire to stay together? This episode introduces the transformative tool called the Feedback Wheel, where thought and mindset work are applied within the context of a relationship. Created by Terrence Real's groundbreaking book, "Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship," this tool helped save my marriage and can do the same for you. Learn how to communicate effectively, understand each other's perspectives, and find actionable solutions to your conflicts. Whether you're in the midst of a challenging period or want to strengthen your partnership, this episode provides practical steps to navigate and improve your relationship. Click to listen and discover how the Feedback Wheel can change the game for you and your partner (whether that's your next relationship or your current). Terrence (Terry) Real: https://terryreal.com/books/

Getting car sick can really ruin a trip – for EVERYONE in the car! But maybe you've heard – there are now motion sickness glasses. Do they work? Reader's Digest tested them and a lot of their readers left reviews. Listen and you will hear what they said. https://www.rd.com/article/motion-sickness-glasses/ How can you be in a relationship and still be your individual self? That can be a tricky balance. And it has gotten even trickier as we have moved into our “It's-all-about-me” culture. Joining me to offer some insight into this is internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author Terrence Real. author of the book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (https://amzn.to/3bLzN6N). Terry's website is https://www.terryreal.com Who doesn't want to smell nice? Soaps, candles, laundry detergent, perfume – we really want everything and everyone to smell ever so lovely. But why? When did this all start? Listen to my guest Elise Pearlstine, a natural perfumer, consultant, and educator and author of a book called Scent: A Natural History of Fragrance. (https://amzn.to/3AtMA8b). If you have ever wondered why flowers or the smell of cut grass or vanilla smell so good, listen to find out. One of the worst things about summer is getting into a hot car that has been sitting in the sun. However, there is a way you can cool the car down before you get in it. Listen and I will tell you this fast and effective technique. https://www.wikihow.com/Cool-a-Hot-Car-as-Quickly-as-Possible PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Indeed is offering SYSK listeners a $75 Sponsored Job Credit to get your jobs more visibility at https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING Go to https://Shopify.com/sysk now to grow your business - no matter what stage you're in! eBay Motors has 122 million parts for your #1 ride-or-die, to make sure it stays running smoothly. Keep your ride alive at https://eBayMotors.com We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After 30 years of experience counseling couples, therapist Terry Real reflects on what makes building a long-term relationship difficult and the skills needed to keep a partnership intact. Reals says that even with changing dynamics and non-traditional partnerships, the age-old problems still exist. “Despite all of the gender fluidity and all of the experimentation, a two-person paired-for-life, monogamous core, is still alive and well and extremely difficult.” The pressure is on to find that “perfect” someone, yet, despite the romantic “idealization” of coupledom, promoted by a booming dating and marriage industry, the reality is that most couples won’t last a decade together, much less a lifetime. The US Census Bureau reports that most marriages last on average 8 years. Real says the odds in the U.S. are that roughly 50% of all marriages will end in divorce -  “the failure rate on marriage has hovered at about 40-50% for half a century.” The reason, Real explains, is that “we want to be lifelong lovers; we want long walks on the beach, we want heart-to-heart talks, great sex in our 60s and 70s but we don't have the skills to match this new ambition. We are trying to be lifelong lovers in a culture that does not cherish relationships.” We live in a society, Real argues, that asserts individualism. “We don't teach our sons and daughters and non-binary kids how to fight fair, how to stand up for yourself in a loving way. We don't teach the basic skills of relationships in this culture because we don't value it.” So what are the chances a couple has to beat the odds?  What’s the key to staying together? According to Real, it’s “hard work” and “it’s very rare that people have the discipline.” Relationship skills need to be learned and practiced. Real suggests that “basic relationship skills [be] taught in elementary and junior high.” Real, who’s also the founder of the Relationship Life Institute and author of numerous books including most recently Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, talks specifically about the impact of inherited family pathologies. He advises the reopening of childhood trauma to heal old wounds;  “Family pathology rolls from generation to generation, like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children.” In his book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, author Terrance Real says “we don't teach the basic skills of relationship in this culture because we don't value it. We're supposed to just know how to do it and most long-term relationships crash and burn. The failure rate on marriage has  hovered at about 40-50% for half a century.” Terry Real, pictured here, says “ you can have a superlative relationship if you're with a partner you love who is also in on the game and willing to do the work themselves. If both of you are willing to do that and you have the basic chemistry that drew you to each other to begin with,you can do it. But it's very rare that people have the discipline and the know-how to build it all.” Photo courtesy of Terrance Real at The Relational Life Institute Delve deeper into life, philosophy, and what makes us human by joining the Life Examined discussion group on Facebook.

Terry Real, renowned couples therapist and author of Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, shares insights and strategies on the building of long-term relationships in a society that values individualism and personal growth. 

So many people are lonely, even though they are surrounded by people. Why is that? It's because they are not thinking relationally. It's easy to get caught in a competitive stance in any relationship. It's especially easy in your marriage relationship--because there's so much to lose! Individualism is competitive, limited thinking, and separates you from the other. Relationality brings you together, makes sure there's always enough to go around, and is expansive. This episode explains two different types of individualism, and shows how being relational is different. It just might help you see your marriage in a whole new way. Mentions: Book: Us; Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship; by Terrence Real https://terryreal.com/books/ If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share it with friends!  You deserve to have an amazing marriage.  You know it's possible for you, but you don't know how to make it happen.  That's why we are here! Are you looking for some really fun ways to connect with your spouse? Get 24 super fun, free, and easy at home (or not) date ideas here: ⁠https://subscribepage.io/24athomedates ⁠ Or maybe you're struggling with setting healthy boundaries, and want to learn how to set unbreakable boundaries.  I've got you!  Click here: ⁠https://subscribepage.io/boundariespyramid⁠ If you are looking for a relationship coach, look no further! Andelin helps couples create more connection, intimacy, trust and love in their relationship through honest communication and setting healthy boundaries.  She currently offers 1:1 and couples coaching. Ready to book a free session now? Click here: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/andelinpricecoaching/life-coaching-session⁠⁠ Life without humor is not truly living!  We try not to take ourselves too seriously.   Connect with us: Website: ⁠https://andelinprice.com⁠ Email: ⁠info@andelinprice.com⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://facebook.com/andelinpricecoaching/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://instagram.com/andelinpricecoaching⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwaNdT_D6FtmnlrSZZ8LiXQ⁠ Podcast Music credit: Andelin Price Have a topic suggestion? Interested in being a guest? We are always looking for couples with interesting stories.  If this is you, send us an email!  We'd love to hear from you. Episode Photo by Daniel Álvasd on Unsplash

In this conversation, Michelle Renee and Grace Heer discuss the power of vulnerability and deep connection. They share personal experiences and insights on the importance of being authentic and open in relationships. They also explore the use of cards to deepen connections and create meaningful conversations. The conversation highlights the impact of vulnerability at events and the power of asking yourself what you need. They also discuss advice for mental health and self-care, as well as the process of figuring out what you want in life and listening to your body when making decisions. In this conversation, Michelle and Grace discuss the importance of exploring personal desires, taking care of mental health, recognizing the need for rest, listening to your body's signals, the importance of boredom and rest, balancing work and self-care, processing childhood experiences, and finding joy and self-care. Grace Heer is a professional cuddler, cuddle event facilitator, life coach, and end-of-life doula in Orange, CA. You can learn more about her at GracefulCuddles.com or on Facebook and Instagram at Grace Heer, Coaching and Cuddling. Links are on her website. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Takeaways Take the time to explore your personal desires and what you truly want in the moment. Prioritize your mental health and find small ways to make up for neglecting it. Recognize the signs of needing rest and create white space in your schedule. Listen to your body's signals and pay attention to what it needs. Embrace boredom and rest as essential for rejuvenation and creativity. Find a balance between work and self-care to avoid burnout. Take the time to process and heal from childhood experiences. Find joy in simple activities and prioritize self-care. Remember to prioritize your own needs and take breaks when necessary. If you'd like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, ⁠click here⁠. To grab your own set of We're Not Really Strangers, ⁠click here⁠. Links of note from today's episode: Michelle's Facebook 36 Questions to Fall in Love Kassandra Brown's Radical Listening Terry Real's book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

Reflecting on my past year with some random thoughts and updates. It's always good to look back a bit, don't you think? resources:*Us: Getting Past You & Me to Develop a More Loving Relationship by Terrance Real: https://amzn.to/45CX5TJ *All My Knotted Up Life by Beth Moore: https://amzn.to/485jQkx *get 10% off your first month of BetterHelp online therapy: betterhelp.com/allthattosay *Sixteen guided meditations: ⁠https://elisabethklein.com/guided-meditations/⁠ *Pause app: https://www.pauseapp.com/ *ALL COURSES now PAY WHAT YOU WANT: ⁠https://bit.ly/PAY-WHAT-YOU-WANT-FOR-ALMOST-EVERYTHING *to become a Patreon patron: ⁠patreon.com/elisabethklein⁠ morning prayer: this is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it; lead me to the ones I need and to the one needing me, and let something I do today be of eternal significance; and I receive all the mercy, love, healing and nourishment you wish to give me today --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/elisabeth-klein/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/elisabeth-klein/support

This episode is part 2 of a 2 part conversation with my friend, colleague, and all around amazing person, Maureen Kafkis. In this episode we cover topics like: People Pleasing/Holding Boundaries Being your Authentic Self The Importance of Self-Trust Reacting vs. Responding How to handle conflict productively Why we aren't the kind of partner we wish we were And more! Maureen Kafkis is the host of The Brain BS Podcast. The podcast where thought work, emotional intelligence, Human Design and Universal Law come together to empower humans to master their brain BS (subconscious and unconscious programming) for success and create a nervous system to support it Maureen is a doctor of occupational therapy, a certified life coach, and an expert on brain BS. Her mission is to motivate humans to learn how to live consciously and approach life in a collaborative way where we all support one another and raise the vibration of the planet together . Website link https://www.thebrainbs.com/ The Brain BS Podcast Community on FB https://www.facebook.com/groups/651943403024186 Other Mentions: “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship,” by Terrence Real https://a.co/d/cWDTfYj "Why Talking Is Not Enough” by Susan Page https://a.co/d/8SrBmxM Looking for more fun ways to connect with your spouse? Get 24 super fun, free, and easy at home date ideas here: https://subscribepage.io/24athomedates Want to book a session now? Click here: https://calendly.com/andelinpricecoaching/life-coaching-session If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe!  And feel free to share it with friends!  Life without humor is not truly living!  We try not to take ourselves too seriously.   Connect with us: Website: https://andelinprice.com Email: info@andelinprice.com Facebook: https://facebook.com/andelinpricecoaching/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/andelinpricecoaching Podcast Music credit: Andelin Price Have a topic suggestion? Interested in being a guest? We are always looking for couples with interesting stories.  If this is you, send us an email!  We'd love to hear from you.

Is "Brain BS" messing with your relationship? (Spoiler alert: it probably is!) Maureen and I had a GREAT conversation about this, and more importantly, we talk about what to do about it! This conversation was so amazing that we decided to divide it into two parts. (twice as nice, am I right?) Subscribe so you don't miss the second half next week!! Maureen Kafkis is the host of The Brain BS Podcast. The podcast where thought work, emotional intelligence, Human Design and Universal Law come together to empower humans to master their brain BS (subconscious and unconscious programming) for success and create a nervous system to support it Maureen is a doctor of occupational therapy, a certified life coach, and an expert on brain BS. Her mission is to motivate humans to learn how to live consciously and approach life in a collaborative way where we all support one another and raise the vibration of the planet together . Maureen's Website: https://www.thebrainbs.com/ The Brain BS Podcast Community on FB https://www.facebook.com/groups/651943403024186 The Brain BS Podcast: https://www.thebrainbs.com/podcast Find her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maureen.kafkis.52 Books mentioned: "Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship," by Terrence Real https://www.amazon.com/s?k=us+terry+real&crid=33JENORUG7E5E&sprefix=us+terry+rea%2Caps%2C165&ref=nb_sb_noss_2 Why Talking Is Not Enough" by Susan Page https://www.amazon.com/s?k=when+talking+is+not+enough&crid=2UTY6TYU4PFZ&sprefix=when+talking+is+not+enough%2Caps%2C235&ref=nb_sb_noss_1 Looking for more fun ways to connect with your spouse? Get 24 super fun, free, and easy at home date ideas here: https://subscribepage.io/24athomedates Want to book a session now? Click here: https://calendly.com/andelinpricecoaching/life-coaching-session If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and share it with friends!  Life without humor is not truly living!  We try not to take ourselves too seriously.   Connect with us: Website: https://andelinprice.com Email: info@andelinprice.com Facebook: https://facebook.com/andelinpricecoaching/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/andelinpricecoaching YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwaNdT_D6FtmnlrSZZ8LiXQ Podcast Music credit: Andelin Price Have a topic suggestion? Interested in being a guest? We are always looking for couples with interesting stories.  If this is you, send us an email!  We'd love to hear from you.

Over the last 10 years interest in therapy has boomed, and with the greater demand for therapists more people than ever are considering pursuing a career in mental health. On today's episode Forrest speaks to five therapists and therapists-in-training to learn the lessons they wish they'd known when they started. You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Intro2:15: Rick Hanson5:05: Key traits of good therapists17:50: Questions a prospective therapist might not think to ask25:00: Self-employement, emotional regulation, and boundaries27:45: Efficacy, complacency, and respecting the craft31:45: Lori Gottlieb35:20: Emotional intimacy and human connection38:50: Modalities 40:50: Vulnerability, uncertainty, and making mistakes48:10: Terry Real52:45: Learning how to heal yourself first55:35: What therapy is actually like59:30: Messiness1:03:15: Elizabeth Ferreira1:06:35: Somatics, and being yourself1:11:50: How to suffer with someone, then let it move through you1:16:45: Awareness and the bravery of owning what's in the room1:21:15: Chaos, and loving yourself1:27:45: Taylor Banfield1:34:00: Sitting with a client for the first time1:37:45: Choosing a specific career path1:39:10: Boundaries1:43:15: RecapAbout our Guests: Rick Hanson is a psychologist, Senior Fellow at UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, New York Times best-selling author, and frequent guest on Being Well.Lori Gottlieb is a practicing therapist in Los Angeles, and is the author of the bestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.Terry Real is a longtime clinician, the founder of the Relational Life Institute, and bestselling author of a number of books including Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.Elizabeth Ferreira is an associate somatic psychotherapist working in the San Francisco Bay Area. If you'd like to work with Elizabeth, you can reach out to her through her website or Instagram. Taylor Banfield is a graduate student in the PsyD program at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:InsideTracker gives you the personalized information you need to optimize your healthspan. Get 20% off by going to my special link: InsideTracker.com/beingwell.Finally get that project off the ground with Squarespace! Head to squarespace.com/beingwell for a free trial, and when you're ready to launch use coupon code BEINGWELL to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

Terry Real returns to the podcast to discuss his new book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry is the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a methodology that helps individuals become conscious of negative behaviors and guides them through trauma and inner-child work in the presence of their partners in order to build stronger one-on-one relationships. Terry's new book expands on the foundations of RLT, helping couples move beyond toxic individualism and into more harmonious, “fully relational” lives. We're happy to announce the launch of our new group practice for individuals and couples in New York City, Modern Mind. If you're experiencing a sense of stuckness in your life or relationship, we're here to help. Reach out to us at info@lovelink.co and we'll connect you with a therapist who's the right fit for you. LOVELINK is hosted by Brooklyn-based therapists Dr. Signe Simon and Dr. Simone Humphrey. To learn more about our work, visit lovelink.co. If you'd like to contact us directly, send us an email to info@lovelink.co. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovelink/support

Please give Talking to Teens 5 stars on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Reviews help other parents find us and helps us keep the lights on! Thanks for listening!For many of us, a perfectly harmonious home sounds like a dream. We'd love it if teens came home by curfew, our advice was always graciously accepted, and conflict was totally nonexistent. We'd never have to stress about what to make for dinner or worry about who our kids are hanging out with. Everything would be perfect and easy…right?As nice as harmony sounds, it's simply unrealistic–and not necessarily beneficial either. In fact, psychologists (like the one we're interviewing today) believe that conflict and disagreement are essential to building strong, nuanced, durable relationships with our kids. Without conflict, there's no repair. Without repair, relationships never grow and evolve.To explain how parents can embrace disrepair and negative emotions in relationships, we're sitting down with Terry Real, author of Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry is a world-renowned family therapist, speaker, and author of multiple other bestselling books about relationships. He's also the founder of the Relational Life Institute, where he offers workshops for parents, individuals and couples. He also holds professional training for clinicians to adopt his unique relational life therapy method.In this episode, we're talking about how conflict is essential to building strong bonds with kids. Plus, we discuss a concerning parenting phenomenon called false empowerment, and explain why parents need to encourage sensitivity in boys.

This episode's guest is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher that has been in private practice for over 30 years. Gwyneth Paltrow has praised Terry as her favorite relationship therapist, and many have credited him for saving their marriage. Bradley cooper has even been quoted saying that his work is “nothing short of miraculous” He's the author of the national bestseller: I Don't Want To Talk About It, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression. That was followed by three more successful books, including his most recent New York Times Bestselling book, Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry founded The Relational Life Institute and often appears in academic journals and media like Good Morning America, ABC News, Oprah, The Today Show, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and many others. In this episode, Terry and Vishen have a discussion on relationship advice and his new book, "Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Stay till the end because we may have a big surprise for you. Listen out for: - The difference between depression in men and women. - The core skill you need to learn to have a better relationship life.  - How many inner children do we have and how to tend for them? - 5 losing strategies that are the agenda of your inner adaptive child.   Bonus:                                                                          - Find out more about Terry Real here

Guest host Allison Pataki speaks to bestselling author and renowned marriage and family counselor Terry Real about Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, a New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA TODAY bestselling relationship guidebook that critiques toxic individualism and teaches compassion and collaboration. Terry shares several real client stories to illustrate relational mindfulness, thinking individualistically vs. relationally, trauma triggers, and the inner child. He also shares how he handles his own fights with his wife and hints at his upcoming documentary!Purchase on Amazon or Bookshop.Amazon: bit.ly/3P4wg31Bookshop: bit.ly/3VrvK1zSubscribe to Zibby's weekly newsletter here.Purchase Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books merch here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wrapping up my series on Terry Real and the message of his book, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. I'm with my co-host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and you're about to hear a very candid discussion on this concept of being we, without losing me. Randy listened to my conversation with Terry in episode 1029 and came into the discussion with his own insights, questions, and grapplings. We hit on some big issues, like the wedding tradition of each person having a candle, lighting one candle in the middle, then blowing out their individual candle. Is that really the intended  idea of marriage? And do you come into union with anyone so they “complete you” as the Jerry Maguire movie celebrated? Are you not to be complete on your own? Randy and I have been best friends for nearly a decade and partnered in multiple business endeavors and much of this US concept is relevant for our relationship, and we also bring in parenting to this US concept. I'm eager for you to hear this conversation and would be honored to hear your feedback. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I'm back with internationally renowned family therapist Terry Real to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive him to devote his life and livelihood to helping us have better relationships, with ourselves and others, and what he does to design a life that fulfills him.  If you listened to our first discussion together, you heard some of Terry's traumatic childhood. In this talk he discusses relational practices and struggles with his wife, enduring two bouts with cancer, how even into his 50s he loathed himself. And now what he does to help him hold himself tenderly and his testimony that today it's really pleasant to live in his skin. For some reason Terry delivers his insights in a way that is so incredibly humble and real, and I can relate to. He has such understanding and compassionate counsel. And he's a great storyteller, and you'll hear some great ones here. His new book again that I am wholeheartedly endorsing it US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Get it anywhere, and find him at terryreal.com where he has courses and classes and incredibly valuable resources to take advantage of and benefit from, immediately. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I've been fairly candid about my own, ongoing work with counselors, historically, and today. My current counselor really got deep with me into my relationship with myself and recommended a book called “​​I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression,” by a therapist named Terry Real. I got it and read it and it opened up a whole new level of understanding myself. Terry just recently put out a book called US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. My therapist got it and right away said, “Kevin, I want you to get this book.” I did. It revealed aspects of how I behave unhealthfully in relationships that are nothing less than revolutionary for my life. As an individual, spouse, parent, and more. And bigger picture, how we culturally live as “you and me” and individuals when the bedrock of our being is relational and us. It will either wow you as it did me, or you'll have to fully dismiss it. And I don't think you will. I then went to find out who this guy is and found this book US was was published by Goop press, which is founded and owned by famed actress and client of Terry's, Gwynyth Paltrow. Same with actor Bradley Cooper who emphatically endorses Terry. But then people like famed psychotherapists Esther Perel and Lori Gottliev I find are touting Terry and this book us. And interestingly, the forward is from one of Terry's patients. The forward alone rocked my world. It's by a singer you may have heard of. Bruce Springsteen. But it's not the celebrity component that impresses me, it's the humble and heartfelt words they shared about their life changes. Bruce said, “At age thirty two I hit an emotional wall and realized I was lost in a deep dark forest, largely of my own making without a map. So began forty years of trying to find my way through the shadowed trees, down to the river of a sustaining life. Terry Real has been a guide and this book is a map through those trees. I agree. I wanted to share Terry with you, so this episode is part one of my discussion with him. Find him at terryreal.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Whether you're single, in a relationship, married, or in an entanglement of sorts then this episode is a must listen. Heather is joined by internationally recognized family therapist and author Terry Real. Trust us when we say that you're going to want to grab pen and paper because this episode is full of knowledge. Heather and Terry get down to the nitty gritty of relationships and discuss all aspects of a partnership--from the differences between a good and a bad one (it's not as obvious as you might think) to the mysticism of marriage and why it does more harm than good. Think marriage will solve all your triggers and trauma? It might actually do quite the opposite. Learn all about the complexities of relationships and the dangers of individualistic thinking as Heather and Terry discuss his new book "Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship”. Plus, Heather and Terry make a case for compassionate hierarchy while navigating parenthood. Did we mention Terry reveals his REAL name?! Please support the show by checking out our sponsors! Airmed: Just visit airmedcarenetwork.com/heather today and get up to a $60 gift card with code HEATHER Bonafide: To get 20% off your first purchase when you subscribe to any product, go to Hello Bonafide.com/heather and use promo code HEATHER Vegamour: Go to VEGAMOUR.com/HEATHER and use code HEATHER to save 20% on your first order! Zocdoc: Go to Zocdoc.com/HEATHER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then start your search for a top-rated doctor today.

Long-term relationships and healthy marriages take work. Being right, trying to change your partner, attacking, or withdrawing can unravel your relationship over time. In this episode, expert couples therapist and author Terrance Real teaches us how to step out of toxic patriarchy and rugged individualism so that we can step into more loving, intimate, and connected long-term relationships. Terry Real offers practical skills you can apply to your relationship right away, and Diana Hill shares some of the successes and stuck points of her own marriage. You won't want to miss the insight, communication skills, and practical wisdom in this episode, and you will want your partner to listen too! About Terrance RealTerrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents along with a professional training program for clinicians to learn his Relational Life Therapy methodology. In addition to US: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, he is the bestselling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It, How Can I Get Through to You?, and The New Rules of Marriage.   Key TakeawaysMany men have difficulty with connecting because they were socialized to not be emotionally vulnerable Loving confrontation involves confronting the pattern in your relationship that is keeping you from connecting including being right, condemning your partner, dumping on your partner, retaliating or withdrawing  Learning about your adaptive child and your partner's adaptive child can help increase compassion for each other and help you step out of maladaptive patterns When you see your relationship as an ecosystem, you recognize that the goal isn't to be right or control your partner but to work together  Communication skills are central to long-term relationships, and sometimes we need direct coaching from a therapist or our partner to be more effective at communicating Objective reality has no place in relationships. What is more important is understanding your partner's reality. Relevant Resources Mentionedhttps://drdianahill.com/extras/ (Download Your Daily Practice for Episode 30 Here) https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/drdianahill (Watch Diana Hill and Terrance Real on YouTube!) https://catalog.pesi.com/sales/bh_c_001142_lastchancecouples_organic-17282?gclsrc=aw.ds&&utm_term=&utm_campaign=&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&hsa_acc=7268932594&hsa_cam=15699028317&hsa_grp=134607065514&hsa_ad=571893149718&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=dsa-1410349818921&hsa_kw=&hsa_mt=&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gclid=CjwKCAjwt7SWBhAnEiwAx8ZLahgq8a51JbDkhxJl9epLCMOinO2kzva7dF9U2wZuC3nRG0R5FznisxoCpisQAvD_BwE (Learn more about Relational Life Therapy) Learn more about https://terryreal.com/ (Terry Real) Are you a therapist and want to train in Relational Life Therapy? https://catalog.pesi.com/search?displaytype=1&pagesize=10&sortby=11&producttype=12&sst=p&isClosedCaptioning=false&fromDuration=&toDuration=undefined&certCreditType=&gclsrc=aw.ds&&utm_term=&utm_campaign=&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&hsa_acc=7268932594&hsa_cam=15699028317&hsa_grp=134607065514&hsa_ad=571893149718&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=dsa-1410349818921&hsa_kw=&hsa_mt=&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gclid=CjwKCAjwt7SWBhAnEiwAx8ZLaiGwqSSRECH1YSFnBAHawUx7hBy6la9_aL-hsmpHeGsdemlP3Z2FPBoC3IwQAvD_BwE (Check this out.) https://bookshop.org/books/us-getting-past-you-and-me-to-build-a-more-loving-relationship/9780593233672 (Read Us: Getting Past You And Me To Build a Better Relationship) https://drdianahill.com/events/ (Join Diana at an upcoming events) https://drdianahill.com/reset-and-restore-retreat/ (Reserve your spot with Diana for Retreat in Costa Rica in 2023)!  Thank you for listening to...

Recommend this show by sharing the link: pod.link/2Pages The book I'm writing at the moment is about relationships. I'm neither a relationship expert nor a psychotherapist, but they do say you should write so that you can teach what you need to know. This means I've been reading some of the big names: Esther Perel, John Gottman, and most recently, Terry Real, who has a brand new book out called Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. A phrase often used as part of this book's marketing that chimed deeply with me is this: ‘At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, Us provides the tools to find our way back to each other through authentic connection and fierce intimacy.' It's a big question – how much are we our own person, and how deeply must we connect?  Kevin Ashton's latest book is called How to Fly a Horse, and, if nothing else, that's a title that will get you curious. Kevin is also the guy who named the Internet of Things, and he's been a key player in its evolution. Before any idea becomes a big deal, though, it starts as a crackpot's mad imaginings. Even though the IoT was an idea that nobody really got, it was one that Kevin couldn't get rid of, and he had a self-created sense of urgency that said, ‘If I don't act on this now, I never will.' Get‌ ‌book‌ ‌links‌ ‌and‌ ‌resources‌ ‌at‌ https://www.mbs.works/2-pages-podcast  Kevin reads two pages from ‘Finding the Mother Tree' by Suzanne Simard. [reading begins at 19:50] Hear us discuss:  What it takes to cross the threshold: “Life is too short to get wrapped up in doing things just because you want the glory.” [24:57] | Knowing when it's time to move on: “Don't be a cliche.” [27:43] | “It's okay to move on from one thing before you move on to another.” [34:57] | What we can learn from trees: “Trees are intelligent.” [35:07]

Nothing ruins a trip like getting car sick. But now there are motion sickness glasses. Do they work? Reader's Digest tested them out and a lot of people who bought them left reviews. Listen and I'll tell you what they said. https://www.rd.com/article/motion-sickness-glasses/ How can you be in a relationship and still be an individual? It has always been a tricky balance that has gotten even tougher as we have shifted to a more “It's-all-about-me” culture. Joining me to discuss this is internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author Terrence Real. His latest book is titled US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (https://amzn.to/3bLzN6N). Listen as he offers some great insight and very specific advice on improving any relationship. What is it about fragrances? Soaps, candles, laundry detergent, perfume – we like things to smell nice. Why? When did this all start? Listen to my guest Elise Pearlstine, a natural perfumer, consultant, and educator and author of a book called Scent: A Natural History of Fragrance. (https://amzn.to/3AtMA8b). If you have ever wondered why flowers or the smell of cut grass or vanilla smell so good, listen as Elise explains. It can be brutal getting into a car that been parked in the hot sun. However, there is quick way to cool the car down before you get in it. Listen as I reveal a simple yet very fast and effective technique. https://www.wikihow.com/Cool-a-Hot-Car-as-Quickly-as-Possible PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Indeed' is doing something no other job site has done. Now with Indeed, businesses only pay for quality applications matching the sponsored job description! Visit https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING to start hiring now. Hometap is the smart new way to access your home's equity and pay for life's expenses without a loan! Learn more and get a personalized estimate at https://HomeTap.com With Avast One, https://avast.com you can confidently take control of your online world without worrying about viruses, phishing attacks, ransomware, hacking attempts, & other cybercrimes! The magic is waiting! Download Harry Potter: Puzzles & Spells, for free, from the iOS App Store or Google Play today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes I think one of the toughest choices you can make publicly is to call out false binaries. That's what comedian Trevor Noah recently did on his show where he was specifically talking about abortion saying that just going down to catchphrases like pro choice or pro life was reductive and took away conversation and nuance to views. And people got enraged on Twitter (both Republicans and Democrats). To be fair, people get enraged about a lot on Twitter and off Twitter now. But rage by itself? It's just rage. If you want change, you have to go after action. Carrie had a post about this on her own Facebook where apparently her call to action over a political issue wasn't what one of her local acquaintances wanted from me. So he turned his rage about politics into rage at me for not being rage-y enough. Yes, Carrie is still processing this, while Shaun just called him a f-stick and got over with it. This weekend, one of the many things that were trending in the world of Twitter conversation was the new book of an American family therapist, Terry Real, entitled, “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship,” where he argues it is because we've created “a toxic culture of individualism.” We have not read the book and honestly, the fact that he's a celebrity therapist who counsels people like Bruce Springsteen, makes me want to not want to read it. Springsteen wrote the introduction. But all the book reviewers at all the big papers are. He has two big terms in the book THAT WE WANTED TO MENTION: Adaptive childWise adult He defines them both in an interview with the New York Times's Maggie Jones (no relation) as: “Wise adults are present-based. They're not flooded with the past and can see things clearly. They have the capacity to see the whole of the relationship. They have the capacity to stop and reflect and choose. “When we move out of our prefrontal cortex, out of our wise adult self, we are in our adaptive child self. We get trauma-triggered, and the adaptive child — the things you learned to do as a kid because of emotional neglect or violence — part of us comes in and takes over. One of the bitter pills here is that the adaptive child part of us doesn't want to be intimate. It wants to preserve itself. It's about me, me, me. You-and-me consciousness is an adversarial world in which one loses and the other wins. It's a big power struggle. “By repeating the same adaptive child move over and over again, you get in a dysfunctional relational stance. I'll give you an example. Angry pursuit is a dysfunctional stance. Angry pursuit is an oxymoron. You will never get someone closer to you by complaining about how distant they are. Controlling your partner, retaliating or withdrawing will never solve your problem. These are the hallmarks of the adaptive child part of you. And the first skill is shifting out of that part of you into the wise adult.” Whew. That's a lot of quote right? But to me what he's saying is that if we want to be good, wise adults with happy freaking healthy marraiges we have to let go of the adaptive child. We need to think with nuance and empathy, which brings me back to Trevor Noah, right? Because Trevor is also talking about this. What our culture in the U.S. (at least) needs more of is that movement toward the wise adult, the ability to converse, to think with nuance, to go beyond false binaries, catch phrases and performative social media posts and work towards changing ourselves and our relationships and our country. Real talks about the mysticism of marriage in that interview and says, “There may be super placid couples who aren't terribly intimate, and they don't bug each other. But usually there are three phases of love: harmony, disharmony and repair. Those phases can occur 20 times during one dinner conversation or span over decades of your marriage or long-term relationship. The harmony phase is love without knowledge. You may have a soul recognition that this is your guy. But you don't know what he does with his socks in the morning. “The disillusionment phase is critical. It's the stuff of intimacy. It's the collision of your imperfections and how we handle it. Our culture doesn't equip people to deal with that disillusionment. It's rough. It's dark. I've run around the country for 20 years, talking about what I call “normal marital hatred” and not one person has ever come backstage to ask what I meant by that.” And it's a bit like we aren't just doing that to ours spouses, we're doing that to everyone. When we repair our country, we want to look to that repair the way Real advocates repairing marraiges—as a relationship, a group effort, a look to the higher good. Real thinks a lot of this also stems from patriarchy and our separation from nature and desire to dominate it. He says we have to move away from trying to control everything, but collaborate and to do it humbly, saying in that same interview how all of the world is interconnected. “You're not above the system, you're in it. You breath it.” DOG TIP FOR LIFE Don't let other people bite your jowls. LINKS https://nypost.com/2022/06/30/i-married-my-exs-dad-everyone-hates-me-but-its-the-best-sex/ https://nypost.com/2022/07/05/men-with-large-penises-wanted-for-doc-too-large-to-love/ SHOUT OUT! The music we've clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. Here's a link to that and the artist's website. Who is this artist and what is this song? It's “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free. AND we have a writing tips podcast called WRITE BETTER NOW! We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream live on Carrie's Facebook and Twitter and LinkedIn on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. Carrie is reading one of her poems every week on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That's a lot! Here's the link. Write Better Now - Writing Tips podcast for authors and writers loving the strange the podcast about embracing the weird Carrie Does Poems

Idit Sharoni interviews Terry Real who is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and wrote THE book on male depression. Idit & Terry discuss therapy in the aftermath of infidelity and his newest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship where Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate relationships.  This is part 2 of 2 parts.  Link to show notes Link to the book

Idit Sharoni interviews Terry Real who is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and wrote THE book on male depression. Idit & Terry discuss relationships, individualism, couples therapy, and his newest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship where Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate relationships.  This is part 1 of 2 parts.  Link to show notes Link to the book

As bestselling author Terrence Real says, if the person who cheated on you is willing to get real and do the work, you're a fool to leave. But if they are unwilling to take accountability and change, then you're a fool to stay. Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there's also not much that's more important. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.  In his transformative new book, “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship” bestselling author Terrence Real brilliantly observes how our individualistic, winner-takes-all culture infiltrates affair recovery with devastating results Top Take-A-Ways: Avoiding “The 5-Losing Strategies” of Relationship Recovery: Proving you are right Controlling your partner Unbridled self-expression Retaliation Withdrawal How to trade in a “power and control” model of relating for a “relational model” so you can cultivate calm when triggered, remember love, and speak, act, and behave in ways that make relationships better – even when you've been betrayed. Understanding and maintaining the “biosphere” of your relationship, so both partners can win, thrive, and transform despite difficulty Working with the partner you have, and not the partner that you deserve in order to create the relationship you want Terrence Real is the bestselling author of “I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression” and “How Can I Get Through to You?: Reconnecting Men and Women.” He has been a practicing family therapist for more than twenty years and has lectured and given workshops across the country. In March 2002, he founded the Relational Empowerment Institute. His work has been featured on NBC Nightly News, Today, Good Morning America, and Oprah, as well as in The New York Times, Psychology Today, Esquire, and numerous academic publications. His latest book is “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship,” and for any of us, but especially for any of us in the betrayal recovery space, this book is huge! Could it be time to stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple? At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real explains how – while self-reflection and working on yourself is indeed essential – too much poisons intimate relationships. With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that's based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness. “This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop “Us” is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist's flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin. Learn more about Terry Real at: https://terryreal.com/ and buy a copy of his latest book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship anywhere books are sold (or on his website!) Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Spring Sale! One-on-one affair recovery coaching for women who have been cheated on by their intimate partner who are committed to: Overcoming the devastation, pain, and obsessive thoughts and reclaiming peace, Rebuilding trust in themselves, their intuition, and the world, Making sense of their story regardless of their partner's participation, Reconciling the life they have now with the life they thought they'd have, Moving on with confidence and clarity – whether they are working things out with their partner or moving on alone, and Bringing themselves back to life again, stronger and happier than before! Only $333 per month for one 90-minute session per month, a monthly, 30-minute self-hypnosis to use between sessions, weekly prep work to augment your healing, and real-time Voxer support. Lora@loracheadle for more information or to apply. Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile!

Save Your Marriage After an Affair - Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship – with Terrence Real As bestselling author Terrence Real says, if the person who cheated on you is willing to get real and do the work, you're a fool to leave. But if they are unwilling to take accountability and change, then you're a fool to stay. Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there's also not much that's more important. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.  In his transformative new book, “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship” bestselling author Terrence Real brilliantly observes how our individualistic, winner-takes-all culture infiltrates affair recovery with devastating results Top Take-A-Ways: Avoiding “The 5-Losing Strategies” of Relationship Recovery: Proving you are right Controlling your partner Unbridled self-expression Retaliation Withdrawal How to trade in a “power and control” model of relating for a “relational model” so you can cultivate calm when triggered, remember love, and speak, act, and behave in ways that make relationships better – even when you've been betrayed. Understanding and maintaining the “biosphere” of your relationship, so both partners can win, thrive, and transform despite difficulty Working with the partner you have, and not the partner that you deserve in order to create the relationship you want Terrence Real is the bestselling author of “I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression” and “How Can I Get Through to You?: Reconnecting Men and Women.” He has been a practicing family therapist for more than twenty years and has lectured and given workshops across the country. In March 2002, he founded the Relational Empowerment Institute. His work has been featured on NBC Nightly News, Today, Good Morning America, and Oprah, as well as in The New York Times, Psychology Today, Esquire, and numerous academic publications. His latest book is “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship,” and for any of us, but especially for any of us in the betrayal recovery space, this book is huge! Could it be time to stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple? At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real explains how – while self-reflection and working on yourself is indeed essential – too much poisons intimate relationships. With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that's based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness.  “This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop “Us” is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist's flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin. Learn more about Terry Real at: https://terryreal.com/ and buy a copy of his latest book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship anywhere books are sold (or on his website!) Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Spring Sale! One-on-one affair recovery coaching for women who have been cheated on by their intimate partner who are committed to: Overcoming the devastation, pain, and obsessive thoughts and reclaiming peace, Rebuilding trust in themselves, their intuition, and the world, Making sense of their story regardless of their partner's participation, Reconciling the life they have now with the life they thoughtthey'd have, Moving on with confidence and clarity – whether they are working things out with their partner or moving on alone, and Bringing themselves back to life again, stronger and happier than before! Only $333 per month for one 90-minute session per month, a monthly, 30-minute self-hypnosis to use between sessions, weekly prep work to augment your healing, and real-time Voxer support. Lora@loracheadle for more information or to apply. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! 

World-renowned author and therapist Terry Real joins Dr. Solomon for a discussion about his career, his new book (Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship), men in relationships, conflict resolution, and more. The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real:https://bookshop.org/books/us-getting-past-you-and-me-to-build-a-more-loving-relationship/9780593233672Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Solomon's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Solomon:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

So, what if being fiercely self-reliant and individualistic was actually a terrible thing? I know, I know, sounds silly. I mean isn't that the very thing we're told to strive for from the youngest age? And, especially, in our culture now? Problem is, living in a me-first or me-over-you world is not only destroying our personal relationships, it's destroying us, our states of mind, and even physical wellbeing. And, intimacy, deep connectedness, even reliance on and elevating others just might be the solution to much of what ails us.That idea may sound strange at first, it's hard to argue that the rise of a wildly individualistic society has also gone hand-in-hand with the destruction of social bonds, friendship, mental health and nearly every marker of health in communities as well. As humans, we are all designed to be in relationship with others to experience the positive effects of connectedness, when that breaks down, so do we. And today's guest, Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. His new book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship is a guide not just for couples, but also just for all human beings, filled with tools and advice to help anyone tap into their most collaborative and relational self. In today's conversation with Terry, he shares his story of growing up in a dysfunctional home to reveal how the techniques we've all learned to survive dysfunction as children can take a toll on our present relationships. And we explore how re-engaging with the people around us we hold most dear just may save not only those relationships, but our lives as well, and society more broadly. You can find Terry at: Website | FacebookIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love the conversations we had with Julie and John Gottman about how to build deeper, loving relationshipsCheck out our offerings & partners: My New Book Sparked | My New Podcast SPARKEDVisit Our Sponsor Page For a Complete List of Vanity URLs & Discount Codes.Ka'ChavaThrive MarketRadio Headspace: Radio Headspace is a short, daily show about mindfulness, and it's hosted by Headspace's meditation teachers. Each episode is just a few minutes long. They cover things like how to find joy, or how to manage climate anxiety, in a mindful way. Search for Radio Headspace wherever you get your podcasts. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Terry Real has just released his 7th book! US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship and in this episode you will discover what has inspired him! Enlightened self-interest and making peace with others are at the heart of his quest. He firmly believes that humans are like pack animals and that we NEED the company of other humans for a healthy balanced existence. Terry explains the 'wise adult' vs his 'adapted child' theory and how we MUST quiet the inner child when we are faced with conflict and relationship issues. He mentions how we should protect and take care of our 'biospheres', empower the other and use 'soft power' to cherish those close to us, while remaining assertive. This is what he refers to as The New World Revolution. A soldier of love, Terry Real offers real solutions for improved and respectful relationships on all levels. A real gem of a show!

In a world where we spend a lot of time acting independent, or falling into codependence, there is another way. We can learn to evolve to interdependence and focus on Us, rather than only You or Me. On today's episode, Terry Real discusses his new book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.

In a world where we spend a lot of time acting independent, or falling into codependence, there is another way. We can learn to evolve to interdependence and focus on Us, rather than only You or Me. On today's episode, Terry Real discusses his new book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.

This week is a special chat with Terry Real!Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, author, and the founder of the Relational Life Institute (RLI). He wrote THE book on male depression, he's the marriage counselor Esther Perel turns to, and Bruce Springsteen and Bradley Cooper are among his clients and fans.His latest book, In US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship published by Goop Pressis out now! Oh and the forward was written by The Boss— Bruce Springsteen. Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate relationships. The excellent news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. His expertise on men's mental health and relationship issues have been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show and in The New York Times, among many others.Terry's LIVE 6 week course begins June 14th: Heal Traumas, Reconnect with Partner andCreate Ideal Relationship for You and Your Clients. Sign up at https://summit.terryreal.com/special/ When you buy the “US” book, get the free “Staying in Love online Course” (if purchased in first week of book release!) https://terryreal.com/freecourse/ Get the book at https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/670272/us-by-terrence-real/Learn more about Terry at https://terryreal.com/To join the next Online Dating Tech Support on Monday June 13th at 12PM, visit: https://agapematch.wufoo.com/forms/z1s18kn10qpwm8f/ Maria is going to Tulum, Mexico! Join her at the next Agape Intensive In Real Life by registering at http://agapeescapes.com Want to do an Agape Intensive virtual program instead? http://agapeIntensive.com To book a private dating strategy call with a member of Maria's team, visit https://calendly.com/felix-louieFollow Maria on Instagram at http://instagram.com/matchmakermaria

Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents along with a professional training program for clinicians to learn his Relational Life Therapy methodology. He is the bestselling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It, How Can I Get Through to You?, and The New Rules of Marriage. His book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship will be published by Goop Press June 7, 2022.

“I teach people how to put themselves aside and listen and respond with generosity,” says therapist Terry Real. “Our culture doesn't teach us how to do these things. We have to learn them.” In this open conversation with GP, Real explains why individualism and patriarchy has damaged our ability to be in healthy and loving relationships. They talk about why it's important for couples to take each other on, and Real shares his honest advice for how we can shift ourselves, our partners, and our collective culture toward more openness and compassion. Real's new book, Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, is out today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Zach and Laura chat with Terry Real about his life's work and new book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. There are many great takeaways that can transform the way you relate with your partner. Sponsor: https://meetfabric.com/mtr to apply for life insurance in 10 minutes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Research indicates that the biggest predictor of happiness—at least for most of us—is the quality of our relationships. And yet, so much of how we're wired can get in the way of good relationships. Things like pride and stubbornness. When we lean on those, we may erroneously conclude that we should be harsh and teach our partner a lesson. Spoiler alert: you'll hear from the expert on this episode that harshness is never a good idea even though it may feel right or even vindicating. So, since these skills are not taught in schools, how do we go beyond our knee-jerk responses and thrive as a couple? Fortunately, I know just the guy to ask! Terry Real (https://terryreal.com/) is an internationally known psychotherapist and a best-selling author who has written some of the most important books contributing to the field of individual and couples psychotherapy. His latest book is called Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Consistent with his incredible work, Terry brilliantly cuts to the core of how our brains work and shows how we can better use those brains in our relationships. Lori Gottlieb, Esther Perel, and even Bruce Springsteen (who wrote the foreword) love this book and I believe you will too. And I'm confident you'll be captivated listening to Terry who is a superior storyteller and the embodiment of kindness, wisdom, and strength. So, listen in as Terry and I talk about how to get past the stumbling blocks and how to find our way back to US. Book Link: https://tinyurl.com/3vdfwkh4

It's amazing how couples can function as two distinct individuals in a relationship. Maintaining your own identity while encouraging your partner's interests and personal goals is gold. On the other hand, individual independence can be toxic too. It can make you feel like you're competing with your spouse, getting into a power struggle, and everything else that comes from these two individual perspectives. In this episode, Terry Real encourages us to consider the consequences of approaching a relationship from a toxic individualism perspective and how critical it is to shift to a relational mindset as he shares some actionable steps from his new book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents, along with a professional training program for clinicians to learn his Relational Life Therapy methodology. He is the bestselling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It, How Can I Get Through to You?, and The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 9:18 The inspiration behind the book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. 12:42 What is toxic individualism and how does it affect relationships? 20:14 How to make the transition from automatic response to conscious communication? 23:52 How to empower your relationship. 46:00 Key takeaways. Mentioned Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Terry Real Websites: terryreal.com — relationallife.com Facebook: facebook.com/TerryRealRLI YouTube: youtube.com/user/TerryRealRLI/feed Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

When Terry Real started working with couples in the 90s he found that the conventional wisdom just did not work. Eventually he created his own model for working with couples called Relational Life Terapy.  He has also published several books including his most recent called US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.  Find out more at terryreal.com If you want to buy the book and get the Staying in Love workshop free here is the link https://terryreal.com/freecourse/ Live workshop starting June 14 https://summit.terryreal.com/special/ The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes. Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle This episode is sponsored by Clearly Clinical Continuing Ed.  Clearly Clinical is the nation's premier podcast Continuing Ed provider, and features industry experts from across the world.  Clearly Clinical is an approved CE provider with the APA, ASWB, NBCC, NAADAC, CCAPP, and CAMFT, and is women-owned, founded by Elizabeth Irias, LMFT.  Clearly Clinical supports minority and women presenters, and donates to  Feeding America.  And the best part?  Clearly Clinical is literally the most affordable continuing ed provider in the country, bringing you unlimited CE courses for just $60 a year.  As a promo for my listeners, you can use the code COUCH to get an additional 10% off.  They have a number of free podcast CE courses, too, including a CE interview with Dr. Julie Gottman.  Check those out at their website, ClearlyClinical.com. 

Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Patriarchy, Individualism, Sexuality, Masculinity Summary: Today I'm honoured to welcome Terry Real back on the podcast. An internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author, and the founder of the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Real has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists to help people create the connection they desire in relationships. His groundbreaking, bestselling book, I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, established him as one of the most respected voices in the treatment of men and male depression and his expertise on men's mental health and relationship issues have been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show and in The New York Times, among many others. In his practice, Real works with couples on the brink of disaster; he sees how individualism and patriarchy poisons our most intimate relationships. The excellent news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In Terry's new book, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, he shows people how to stop working on themselves as individuals and start working on their relationship as a couple.   Discover: How to move beyond your traumas and stressors and shift from thinking in terms of me and you to a different consciousness - the consciousness of us How patriarchy poisons our intimate relationships What's happening in your body when you're activated in conflict — plus scripts to help you move beyond your knee-jerk reactions and into your wiser, more collaborative self What's really behind defensiveness How men are programmed to squash what is most needed in their intimate relationships: vulnerability   Links: Check out Terry's first episode on the Mark Groves Podcast: The End of Women Caretaking Men terryreal.com US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On one of our favorite episodes of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by author and therapist Terry Real to talk about how to overcome the myth of toxic individualism, break trauma cycles, and experience real intimacy in our relationships. They discuss how to balance acceptance and agency, develop a healthy sense of trust and self-esteem, communicate what we want effectively, and experience our power through collaboration rather than dominance. Terry describes how we can move past the delusions of toxic individualism and patriarchy that plague our culture, moving away from ‘me vs. you' and into Us.About our Guest: Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute, which offers workshops for couples as well as professional training for clinicians in his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) methodology. His latest book is Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship which comes out June 7th.Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction1:45: Terry's personal transformation4:55: Regulating up to our parents7:05: The Adaptive Child vs. the Wise Adult14:25: Us vs. the delusions of individualism and patriarchy18:05: Balancing acceptance and agency22:45: Enlightened self-interest and working with couples29:25: Three phases to get more of what you want in relationships without a counselor33:35: How to support people–particularly women–in dealing with unfairness37:15: Gendered tendencies–moving into intimacy and out of patriarchy43:20: Shame and healthy self-esteem49:40: Relational reckoning and relational integrity56:55: Repairing trust and grandiosity1:01:00: RecapSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Try Splendid Spoon today and take meal-planning off your plate. Just go to SplendidSpoon.com/BEINGWELL for $50 off your first boxReady to shake up your protein Ritual? Being Well listeners get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/WELL.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to have a listener favorite guest, and one of their mentors, Terry Real, back on the podcast to tell us all about his new book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry shares some stories and concepts from the book, how Bruce Springsteen writing the forward of "Us" came to be, the difference between “us” vs. “you and me”, two parts of our brains: the wise adult and the adaptive child and what they mean, fight, flight, freeze, and fix responses to our partners - and which one Emmalee, Jen and Terry identify with, why Terry believes couples therapists should lovingly take sides, and so much more!  Link to Terry's new book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship: https://www.amazon.com/Us-Getting-Build-Loving-Relationship/dp/0593233670/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1654019537&sr=8-1 Terry's website & Relational Life Therapy Training: https://terryreal.com Never miss an episode of ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg Thanks to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Nuuly: Get $10 off your first month of Nuuly when you sign up with our code: SHRINK10 at nuuly.com   Coterie: Get 20% off your order plus FREE shipping when you go to coterie.com/shrink Truebill: Truebill is the new app that helps you identify and stop paying for subscriptions you don't need, want, or simply forgot about. Go to truebill.com/shrinkchicks to start cancelling today - it could save you thousands a year! Dipsea: Sign up for an extended 30 day FREE trial when you go to dipseastories.com/shrink  ZocDoc: Go to zocdoc.com/shrink and download the ZocDoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Many are available as soon as today! Shopify: Go to shopify.com/shrinkchicks for a FREE fourteen-day trial and get full access to Shopify's entire suite of features!

“I talk about dysfunctional relational stances that would repeat over and over again. For example, angry pursuit is an oxymoron. Angry pursuit will never get complaining about how the person isn't close to. You will never get then closer to you. It is dysfunctional. That's what dysfunctional means. It doesn't work. It'll never get you what you want. And the first phase of the therapy that we do, relational life therapy. And in some ways, the first phase of this book is identifying what your repetitive, adaptive child. Relational stance is the thing you do over and over and over again, automatically knee jerk. I talk about whoosh comes up like a wave. I just gotta do this. I've gotta fix this person. I've gotta stand enough for myself. I gotta get outta here. And that is the hallmark of your adoptive child that is automatic and, and compulsive. And this whole book is about moving beyond that part of you into the wise adult part of you, that can take a breath and do something, not automatic, but chosen deliberate, more skillful,” says bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terry Real. His new book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, combines new findings in neuroscience and his vast experience working with couples on the brink of disaster to give readers the skills necessary to move their relationship from a dysfunctional you vs. me into a more collaborative “us”.  There is no such thing as working on a relationship, Terry tells us, in order to work on healing the system, we must heal the individual parts. So many of us, he says, grew up without adequate emotional support, and the techniques we developed to survive in those environments as children, can go on to poison our intimate relationships. Though we may not remember the trauma, our knee-jerk reactions to distressing situations and relational conflict push our learned adaptive strategies into overdrive.   Terry's science-backed toolkit helps individuals move beyond their involuntary response, which tends to be rigid, harsh, and unforgiving; and come into their potential as a wise adult - one who stops, thinks, and reflects; able to tap into a more collaborative self for the betterment of the relationship. Through deep individual work, nurturing our inner child, and choosing to go against our impulses rather than indulging them; we can transform ourselves and save our relationships.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: Fight, flight, or fix?... Healing the individual to heal the relationship… Coming down from false empowerment… A contempt-free life… MORE FROM TERRY REAL: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship Terry's Website Read Terry's Other Work:  I Don't Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression How Can I Get Through To You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women The New Rules Of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work DIG DEEPER: Find an RLT Certified Therapist Near You  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I will never forget the day I was in my therapist's office sharing about how my anxiety was through the roof.  I was grieving the death of my father, saddened by my mother's cancer diagnosis, and fearful that my husband's business would have to close its doors.  I was the epitome of “down and out” in my life and marriage.My therapist had the ability to show deep compassion but also called me out on my denial when necessary.  She said, “Molly, you need help and I think you should begin with the book Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real."Terry's “say it like it is” attitude, transparency around his own marriage, and tips and tools, have literally saved my marriage and my soul.  After listening to today's episode I believe your relationships will also benefit from his ability to teach about communicating, not from the adaptive child but the wise adult.I'm so grateful that Terry not only said yes to being a guest on the podcast but said yes during a very busy time in his life with his new book, US: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, releasing on June 7th. It was this “yes” that brought forth an interview where we talked about how to be a present life partner and a loving parent.  He opened up about how his abusive childhood could turn into anger and grandiosity, but with deep internal work, it is now intense love and compassion for himself and others. And that he wrote his latest book to help us all remember how we can transform when there is unity and connection in relationships versus separation and disconnection. Terry is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker, and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy). Terry is the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work, Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with Love, and his latest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.His ideas on men's issues and couple's therapy have been celebrated in venues that include Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20,  Oprah, and The New York Times. When I look back 10 years ago, sitting in my therapist's office really struggling in my life, I know for sure that today I am a better wife, a less anxious human, and a more compassionate mom thanks to Terry Real. Learn more about Terry RealTerry's booksFind Terry on FacebookLearn more about Molly CarrollGet your free Body Emotion MapFind Molly on Instagram and Facebook 

Many professionals believe that fantasy is perfectly normal and harmless. They can be a reliable source of comfort, stimulation, escape, or relief. It can also be used to address long-standing relational needs and activate unconscious feelings of loss and emptiness. Unfortunately, people who utilize sexual fantasy as a primary coping mechanism may become disconnected from reality. Fantasies can be so addictive and compelling that they impair one's ability to be present in a relationship. And that's exactly what one of our listeners has been going through. In this episode, we look at how fantasies can reveal unmet needs and how to break the cycle, increasing your chances of experiencing supportive connections that cultivate the experience of intimacy and togetherness. Here's listener B's question: “My partner and I have been in a relationship for 10+ years - he was severely depressed at the beginning of COVID lockdowns due to job loss and medical issues. Because of this, our already minor codependency habits became incredibly magnified. Taking care of him and trying to 'fix' him became my entire life, while that only resulted in him feeling more worthless. This lasted for 2 years. During that time, I would often fantasize about another life, about being with someone else (unfortunately a friend of ours took that form in my thoughts), or just being single in general. It was an escape to feel somewhat good for a moment. In the past few months, however, things have changed quite dramatically (new medications for us both, new job offers) and it's all for the better! He's made significant improvements mentally and in his commitment to our relationship as well. ...So why doesn't it feel better? I still have the fantasy thoughts even though I don't want to, and on off days when I feel anxious or depressed, I convince myself that I shouldn't keep trying and it would be kinder to him to end it (which I have tried to do twice now) I do deal with some obsessive thinking and am medicated for ADHD - but how do I break this hurtful cycle? How do I get myself to realize we're in a good spot again, and that I don't need to rely on the coping mechanisms I developed when they weren't?” Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:18 When does a normal fantasy become unhealthy? 13:29 How fantasies can affect your relationship. 21:17 What do your fantasies reveal about you. Mentioned Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (book) Healthy Lust vs. Unhealthy Lust ERP 316: How to Recognize & Deal with Emotional Immaturity — An Interview with Dr. Eddie Capparucci ERP 286: How to Know If You Experience Limerence & What to Do About It – An Interview with Dr. L ERP 105: How to Deal With Limerence in Relationship Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker, and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher for more than twenty-five years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner, 2002), The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work, and his latest book, Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.terryreal.com/“Women are unhappy in their marriages because they want men to be more related than most men know how to be. And men are unhappy in their marriages because their women seem so unhappy with them.” ~Terry RealMichael Stone is a spiritual author, mentor, shamanic practitioner, radio host, producer, and trauma integration facilitator who co-creates individual and group environments and experiences that support people in transcending the myth of separation, and experiencing deep and profound interconnection with others and all of life. He has been teaching and leading experiential events, classes, teleseminars and workshops on Organizational Development, Embodied Shamanism, Moving Meditation, Mysticism, Personal Growth, and Spiritual Fulfillment for over 40 years.For more information on the Well of Light Global Community, Programs, Radio shows and Services go to www.welloflight.comTo access other great interviews and offerings: www.patreon.com/welloflightYour donations are gratefully received and make it all possible!