While We're Still Here

Caution: Suicide and alcoholism/addiction are mentioned in this episode. Ken is a man who gripped me right away. His energy and thought processes are such as I had not encountered previously. We enjoyed talking together so much I divided the episode into two parts. This is Part One.12:53 Ken paraphrases an important message from a distinguished author and claims it as his way of life. 15:33 If I'm going to live, this is my chance, or "ticket to life". https://www.nightingale.com/Send us a textListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.com Facebook: While We're Still HereStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

My dear friend Nan died too young. She was getting her life on a safer track only to be struck down by an unexpected work injury. We weren't always friends, but the statement above changed it all, for the better. Send us a textListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.com Facebook: While We're Still HereStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Nicole is the Bereavement Coordinator for Chaplaincy Hospice. She explains the services offered, community outreach, and support for families. We covered so much in this interview. Take a listen. 22:00 Who can utilize Bereavement Services? 39:30 Normalize death61:06 Contact Tri Cities Chaplaincy and Cork's Place 509-783-7416 (ext 3006)https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/98651688-where-did-benjamin-gohttps://tccbestlife.org https://headsuptc.orgSend us a textListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.com Facebook: While We're Still HereStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a textHello! During my time off I have continued learning, and the learning included the benefits of reflection. Not rumination - Reflection. Reflecting on experiences or conversations can spark an idea or emotion. These reflections may propel you forward. They could teach you a different way of thinking or behaving. They can also open a window that had long been closed. Listen to my reflection about my dear friend Nan. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a textAfter a break since July, I am happy to say I have made adjustments in my life and I want to continue our death conversations. I have an interview coming up I know you'll enjoy. This is what I want to do. I want to share with you all the things I hear about dying and death. Can we talk? Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.I am not saying goodbye today. I am saying so long for now. I didn't realize how quickly this day would arrive but here I am. Please reach out to me through my email or Facebook or LinkedIn. I'll be around in one form or another. Pausing feels right. I hope you understand.Have a question or topic you'd like to explore? I'm still here.... While We're Still Here (Facebook)https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathybraydoula/kathy@whilewerestillhere.comListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.Boy, what a tough few days I have had. There has been a lot of emotion churning inside me. I'll let you listen, but here are some key points in my mind that I want to get across to you:1. We hope to always have our memories, and therefore we buy things to memorialize special occasions or events, hoping that somehow the stuff will allow us to recapture the feelings from that event or occasion - to take us back there, even for just a moment. 2. It's Our life, and it's Our stuff. It isn't Their life and it's not Their stuff. They will have plenty of their own stuff. 3. Go do the thing. Don't wait your whole life and then not be able to enjoy the fruit of your labor. 4. Guard your tongue before you speak so you don't have to eat the words later. Lastly: Our memories are something we keep and give away at the same time,       in the stories we share with others and the mementos we've collected along       the way. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.They're coming. We can't stop them. Change happens. How will you face change?Winds of Change, song by The ScorpionsListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.This is not a repeat episode but a repeat topic with a bonus - more updated information for us to consider as we age and face our end of life. While We're Still Here Episode dated 09/20/2023 "Are You Living Your Last Decade? How Would You Know That?" https://peterattiamd.com/start-here/https://www.selfauthoring.com/https://chriskresser.com/ 988lifeline.orgListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.Snail mail that is. For years now, email has replaced old-fashioned "snail mail", which itself has been shadowed by the faster communication options such as texting and so on. Nonetheless, sometimes, receiving a written letter brings familiar memories. Listen to how Postal Service for the Dead helps us stay connected to ones we've lost. https://sleepysue.studio/  look up workshopsSend your letter to:Sleepy Sue StudioP.O. Box 31412Los Angeles, CA 90031Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.I'm learning that I keep learning everyday. I'm sharing some of that learning today and hope to inspire you all to grab learning where you can get it. I learn professionally, of course. In my life and relationships, I appreciate the opportunities to learn because, positive or negative, there are nuggets for me to take into new situations and old ones. https://fivewishes.orgListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.Here are some facts that I consider to be important reminders that we have work to do before we die. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.Dr. Mandar Kataria thinks so, and many professionals agree. In the grief space, being able to find my laugh again was a big step forward to healing. Recently in a webinar, a doula mentioned laughter yoga. I marked that in my notes. I looked it up and signed up for an online class. How was it? Listen in...https://laughteryoga.orgListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.Susan is a woman you won't forget. Here's her story....BUT THERE IS A WARNING: Adult topics like suicide are mentioned. Please call 988 if you or someone you share this with may be struggling and want to speak with someone who can help. This episode has so many nuggets I don't want you to miss any of them. Here is a list of nuggets I hope you can find in this episode: mamma bear, despair, invisible losses, laughter, loneliness, dating, button, little reminders, gratitude, being saved and being a savior, determination, trusted friend, tenacity, love, hope. https://griefrecoverymethod.comhttps://bkbooks.com/collections/booklets/products/gone-from-my-sight-the-dying-experience?variant=36961181171868https://988lifeline.orgListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.I found this piece and wanted to share it with you all. Many of us are familiar with the stages of grief Dr. Kubler Ross established for terminally ill patients. What you'll hear in this episode may validate some feelings around grief. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.Standby for tears today. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.This won't be a deep dive into tissue and organ donation, more like a comparison to whole body donation. I have also included some facts that I believe are important and crucial to anyone considering this method of body disposition. Important links are included below: Eye donation:https://www.eyedonation.org/https://donatelife.net/donation/organs/cornea-donation/https://www.aao.org/eye-health/treatments/donating-your-corneas-other-eye-tissuehttps://www.life-source.org/latest/what-is-eye-donation/Tissue donation:https://unitedtissue.org/whole-body-donation/pledge-yourself/https://donatelife.net/donation/organs/tissue-donation/Organ donation:https://www.organdonor.gov/ https://www.rush.edu/news/9-organ-donation-facts Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Send us a Text Message.Yes! I hadn't considered this as a green option for body disposition, but it checks the boxes so far as I have learned. https://www.ohsu.edu/body-donationListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

There are companies turning our loved ones' bodies into soil. Check it out. https://earthfuneral.comhttps://recompose.lifehttps://returnhome.comListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Many people I speak to have asked me about the idea of a body becoming a tree.  Pretty cool concept since our collective conscience is becoming aware of greenhouse gases and toxic pollutants. Maybe this is the answer! Not so fast....The designers of a body becoming a tree: Capsula Mundihttps://www.capsulamundi.it/en/https://www.thelivingurn.comListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

How many times have we said that? How many times have we said that and still didn't do something? How many times did we miss our chance to reach out - forever? That can be a heavy thought to have in your brain. The heaviness can lead to action:to not miss out on moments when the image of someone you are missing pops into your head and you think you should call, or text. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Let's start talking green burial. First off, you may want to find a cemetery that follows green practices. The best way to find that is to look at the Green Burial Council website. Their directory lists certified cemeteries by their criteria, by state. https://greenburialcouncil.org/cemeteries.htmlListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

April 16 is the day! You can complete an Advance Directive and Power of Attorney for Healthcare any day, but why not take advantage of this national day? Look for an event near you. I am planning an event in my area and I am so excited to see how many folks will attend to learn more about this important task. https://prepareforyourcare.orghttps://fivewishes.orghttps://theconversationproject.orgListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Garrick is a self-described gamer. He owns an escape room in Richland, WA, called PerplEXIT. We met at a Death Cafe and have had some one-on-one discussions as well. What could a gamer add to the death conversation? Plenty, and you have to listen to get the nuance of the relationship. --Listen for two topics: Gear Fear and Acceptance. If you aren't a gamer you may think you won't learn anything interesting about death. Not true! For example, what is a "Death drill"? (14:44)And how about: --"Worry less, have more fun" (20:30).--"I'm not the only one" (32:14).http://www.perplexitpuzzlerooms.nethttps://www.hbo.com/the-last-of-ushttps://ffvii.square-enix-games.com/en-usListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

We've covered active listening, starting conversations with those who need to share, and how to keep from shutting down conversation by turning the attention to ourselves. We want to be good listeners and display care for those folks speaking to us, but, when do We get to speak and share? Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Created for people to have a somewhat more comprehensive advance directive, the Five Wishes form includes the elements of the advance directive, the health care power of attorney, a wallet card, and space to fill out special instructions. Take a listen...Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Now that you've thought about who will speak and advocate for you should you be unable to speak for yourself, what will you include in your Advance Directive? This can be an emotional and difficult process. It's not a one-and-done document. You can and should review your AD when you have a new diagnosis or if you've learned something that has changed how you think about dying. -Note- Around the two-minute mark, I mentioned primary care providers not able to spend 15 minutes to discuss your AD. It's not because they're not interested: it's more that they are pulled in so many directions they may not be able to sit with you during a regular checkup. Perhaps an appointment specifically to discuss these matters can       be helpful. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

So, you've decided you want to ask someone to be your healthcare proxy, agent, or POA for healthcare. Have you considered them carefully, to make sure they are the best choice? Have you chosen alternates? Listen in to find out what considerations you should make in choosing your healthcare proxy, agent, or POA. Each state has their own name for this individual or these individuals. Check online for the forms. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Maybe Valentine's Day (or the day after) is as good a day as any to designate your health care proxy, or at least have a conversation with whom you'd want to advocate for you should you become unresponsive, or for whatever reason unable to communicate. Learn about the Durable Power of Attorney for Healthcare: listen in. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

This is what I would consider to be a foundational question you'll want to ask yourself as you consider your end of life. You have options. You'll want your loved ones to know your choices: Your ideal choice, the adequate choice, and the acceptable choice, based on finances and support system. You can also choose not to choose. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

Let's dig in and talk about the really tough topics. We've learned about thanatology, conversation, why to have one, and how to be a good listener. But what is it we're supposed to talk about?  Unless we address our own dying and death and how we would like our end of life to be, how can we talk about it with those folks who may be speaking for us some day? Facing each day knowing we will die actually makes living more fulfilling. Come on in and see where 2024 takes us. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

I've been thinking about this episode for a while now, and my encounter with a stranger was what I needed to record and bring it to you. Four letters: how can four letters make up a word that carries so much power? Sometimes, this word is THE BEST word for the job. I can't deny it. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show. Reach out to me if you want the score. The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch - maddelinesplushpouch@gmail.com

It sure can! We bought our son a deck of conversation starters when he was visiting over Christmas and it was fun going through some of the topics, which were light and fun. Since this show is about dying and death and having conversations about end of life, I present you with the End of Life Deck. This comes from the makers of the Death Deck. When a caregiver is building a trust relationship with a client this deck can be helpful in breaking the ice or at least getting to know one another. For family members, it can be a way to bring up tough subjects we encounter as one is aging and facing their end of life. https://thedeathdeck.comListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

We all go through tough times and sometimes situations seem insurmountable. Loving one another in a way they feel loved can be such a beautiful gift. If you can receive love in this way as well, that really tough situation may just seem a little less daunting. Taking advantage of the moment of sunshine, a warm smile, or something that makes us laugh can set aside the worries and heaviness - even for just a moment - but the FEELING of being loved can sometimes give us just enough strength to move through the tough situation one more day. Taking time to love our loved ones in a way they need to be loved can be as simple as asking the question: How can I love you today? Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com Reach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

We sure had a great time together for my last interview of 2023. These women are charming, smart, thoughtful, and just a treat to have on the show. I hope you enjoy the final question of the interview. Lots more in store for 2024. Stay tuned. Podcast mentioned: Terrible, Thanks for Asking  -  https://ttfa.orgEnd of LIfe Deck - https://thedeathdeck.comhttps://tumbleweird.orgListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

I met these two women, Sarah and Shanel, over the summer at a Death Café. While we both host/ed Death Café, their vibe is different than when I hosted. It reminds me that each person has a unique perspective to share with the world. They bring that vibe into the show, and I know you'll feel it as we talk together.Bonus: To keep this episode from being too long, I saved a little nugget from this interview for next week. We laughed a lot and the ladies answered my last, last question so well, I wanted to share it with you. But that's for next week.  Podcast mentioned: Terrible, Thanks for Asking  -  https://ttfa.orgEnd of LIfe Deck - https://thedeathdeck.comhttps://tumbleweird.orgListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

I'm angry and now I feel guilty for that, because you're gone--forever. Is it wrong for me to be angry? https://bookshop.org/p/books/first-wives-club-olivia-goldsmith/8880458?aid=88272&ean=9781416562832&listref=the-book-is-probably-better-than-the-moviehttps://www.imdb.com/title/tt0116313/https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7546362/Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

Candy Chang was in deep grief, feeling so heavy and alone. She got an idea and now it's a global movement. Check it out. Beforeidieproject.comListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

Our old family roles can resume when we gather, even though we live our present personal lives differently. Do I want to behave like I did when I was a kid, or teenager, or young adult when I'm with my parents, siblings and cousins? No. Do I want to behave as the adult I am today? Yes! I'd like to say I showed up as the adult, but I often reverted to the younger role without realizing it. Are we doomed to keep falling back to our old roles? Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

I once again am rearranging my recording space/office/guest room in anticipation of a visit from my son. In doing this I came across a special memento I had set aside a few months back to share with you all. Since it popped out at me again I figured now would be good a time to share it. Dave was a high school friend. I attended my first rock concert with him and our group of friends. We had good times together. When he was tragically taken from this world I was hit hard by the loss. I was young and had not experienced death this closely yet. Dave lives on in my memories and photographs taken through our years as friends. Now that I have shared it, the memento will return to its place in my notebook of memories, but Dave's memory resides in my heart forever. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

I haven't done this well in my younger years, but I strive to improve as I age. I will be the elderly family member one day, sitting in a corner, not engaging with the others. I don't want to become resentful and cranky. I want my family to know that I still have value. How can I begin the shift?Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

I'll explain this movement to help family caregivers and be the 'eyes and ears' for Hospice. I have tremendous respect for Hospice. They helped me and taught my family and me so much when our parents were dying. I presently am a Hospice volunteer. What Hospice nurses do day in and day out, all through the night, and so much more brings peace and some comfort to the family members doing the bulk of caregiving for someone with a life-limiting illness or disease. They offer social workers, chaplains, art/music therapy, pet therapy, and education. They cannot, however, be with patients and family 24/7. This is where an end of life doula can be of help. Take a listen...https://www.doulagivers.com Suzanne O'Brien offers free trainings for families wishing to learn how to care for a dying family member as well as training courses for those wishing to become a doula professional.Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

I wouldn't call myself a hypocrite if you asked me, but something happened today to make me realize, I just might be a hypocrite. I bring you this episode, unplanned, based on events of the morning. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

When you get that melancholy feeling, grief you can't shake, or wrapped in fond memories, wishing you could express everything you're feeling in that moment? What if you could make a call, into the wind, your message of love and sadness being carried off to your loved one?Listen in to learn about windphone. https:/www.mywindphone.comListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

When we are working on a project with many players or tasks, we "close the loop", or 'tie up loose ends". We don't want any part undone or people left uninformed. But if we were to die in the middle of a project, what then? If you're a crafter you likely are juggling many projects at once. What if you become ill or disabled and can't finish? What if you die? What if a crafter you know were to become disabled or die, with projects left undone? Enter looseendsproject.orgJen and Masey created this non-profit. Check out their website and learn about how to get those unfinished projects finished.  Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

Any minute, we could be dead. Someone we love could be gone. We do not know get to know the time of our death. Dr. Ira Byock wrote "The Four Things That Matter Most: A Book About Living". He found through his years as an emergency physician and Hospice physician that the dying often turn inwards, become softer, and retrace the footsteps of their lives and relationships. To affirm connections that are strained by telling loved ones The Four Things can be a life-changer, or end-of-life changer, if you will. What are the Four Things? Take a listen. https://irabyock.org/books/the-four-things-that-matter-mosthttps://theconversationproject.orgListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

Want more Melissa? Isn't she a great thinker and conversationalist? I couldn't imagine keeping this piece of her from you all. What surprises her and brings her joy? It's the small things. Listen in as we wrap our conversation. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

Boy, oh boy, are you in for a double treat! Melissa is someone I met almost 8 years ago. She moved away for a few years and, independent of one another, we suffered loss and went through sadness. We also grew in our faith and wisdom through wrestling with God, practicing forgiveness, experiencing grief, and so much more. Melissa explains her peace through trials because of her faith. We talked so much that I split our interview into two parts. Our first part covers love, forgiveness, serving, and faith. You will laugh and maybe shed a tear. You will walk away with some wisdom Melissa has gained from others in her own growth journey. Here's Melissa, Part One. Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

I read a social media post awhile back about Grief Groceries. It's not about the food, really, as much as it is about how to show up for those who are gripped with the pain and sorrow of grief. So, what does showing up look like? Take a listen. https://www.socialworker.com/feature-articles/reviews-commentary/book-review-home-made-grief-groceries-showing-up/ Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

When physicians diagnose an illness or disease, they use tests, examinations, and check blood markers, etc., to predict the outcome for a patient. Doctors can also predict when a person is likely to die. What??? How is that possible? Are they accurate? Take a listen. You may find yourself living a different tomorrow. Resources from this episode: VO2 max, or maximal oxygen consumption, refers to the maximum amount of oxygen that an individual can utilize during intense or maximal exercise. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17218891/Muscle strength vs. Muscle hypertrophyhttps://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/difference-between-strength-hypertrophyScience writer Penny Sarchet, in a Wellcome award-winning essay, begins by asking if just telling a man he has cancer can kill him? In 1992, the Southern Medical Journal described a case of a man diagnosed with liver cancer and given just months to live. After his death, an autopsy showed that his tumor had not grown or spread. His doctor wrote: “Could it be that, instead of the cancer, it was his expectation of death that killed him?”https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/jun/02/doctors-predict-patient-die-prognosis-wrongDo you want to know how long you will live? https://www.blueprintincome.com/tools/life-expectancy-calculator-how-long-will-i-liveListen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.

I was considering this difference between happiness, which is temporal, and joy, which is  a state of mind that can be present even in dark times. How are they different? How would one be able to tell the difference? Listen and read my blog: https://whilewerestillhere.com and https://grimtea.comReach me at kathy@whilewerestillhere.comStarting with Episode 56, the episode music was added. It was composed, produced and provided by Kyle Bray specifically for this show.The logo artwork was provided by Maddie's Plush Pouch.