Podcasts about Five Wishes

What if reflecting on our own mortality could lead to a richer, more meaningful life? In this episode, we sit down with internal medicine physician Dr. Pamela Pyle to explore how considering our earthly expiration date can transform the way we live today. While we touch on the importance of end-of-life planning, the heart of our conversation is about the here and now—how contemplating our mortality deepens our relationships, fuels forgiveness, cultivates gratitude, and inspires hope. Dr. Pyle also shares how this perspective has shaped her approach to life and work, including her powerful experiences in medical mission work in Rwanda. From the bedside to the broader human experience, this discussion invites us to embrace life with greater intention, purpose, and love. Don't miss this conversation on how the end can powerfully shape the present. Connect with Dr. Pamela Pyle on her website, Facebook, or Instagram. Find her book Anticipating Heaven: Spiritual Comfort and Practical Wisdom for Life's Final ChaptersFind out more about Africa New Life MinistriesCheck out Five Wishes, a beautiful and faithful way to plan for the end of your earthly life Need some help with your relationships before it's too late? Consider individual coaching with Dr. Carol. Dr. Carol loves to hear from you; you can leave a confidential message here. 

Have you ever wondered what it takes to overcome self-sabotage and truly live in your 'Zone of Genius'? In this enlightening episode, I sit down with the legendary Gay Hendricks, bestselling author of The Big Leap and Your Big Leap Year, who has served for more than 30 years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and body-mind therapies.Gay shares profound insights on the "upper limit problem" – how we unconsciously create problems when things are going too well because we've hit our internal thermostat for success, love, or abundance. Through personal stories and client experiences, he illuminates how these patterns manifest and offers practical wisdom for breaking through them.If you've ever felt like you're holding yourself back or playing small despite your capabilities, Gay's warm, authentic approach offers transformative guidance for embracing your full potential and living in your unique genius.What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Flying with Dad, Dying with Dad - Yvonne Caputo The Not Old Better Show, Art of Living interview Series Welcome to The Not Old Better Show, on radio and  podcast for all of us who embrace life's second act with curiosity, passion, and a drive to connect. I'm Paul Vogelzang, and today's episode is one you won't want to miss. It's a heartfelt and inspiring conversation about family, legacy, and the courage it takes to have the talks that truly matter. Our guest is Yvonne K. Caputo, author of two remarkable books: Flying with Dad and Dying with Dad. Yvonne's first book, Flying with Dad, is a poignant memoir about her father, a World War II veteran, whose stories of flying B-24 bombers changed their relationship forever. Once distant and brusque, her father became the man she truly got to know—story by story, mile by mile—leading to a connection she never thought possible. In her second book, Dying with Dad, Yvonne takes us on another intimate journey, sharing the profound and practical lessons she learned as she supported her father's end-of-life wishes. From navigating the powerful Five Wishes document to ensuring he passed away on his terms, Yvonne's story reminds us of the importance of conversations about life, death, and dignity. Today, Yvonne shares the hidden gifts in her father's stories, how these conversations transformed her family, and why it's never too late to have the tough talks that can bring us closer to those we love. So, grab your favorite cup of tea, settle in, and join us for this touching and inspiring episode of The Not Old Better Show. I'm your host, Paul Vogelzang—let's get started. My thanks to author Yvonne K. Caputo, for her generous time and wonderful, helpful insights about end of life deciions and more.  Please check out our website show notes for more details about Yvonne K. Caputo.  My thanks to our Smithsonian team, as well as Sam Heninger & Miranda Heninger for their help in making the show tip top!  My thanks to you our wonderful audience here on radio and podcast. Be well, be safe and let's talk about better.  The Not Old Better Show on radio and podcast.  Thanks, everybody and we'll see you next time.

Are we mass, energy or space? That's the question many have pondered time and time again. The answer: we're all 3 at the same time.  We are not just bodies of mass, though we feel the weight of our flesh, the solidity of our bones. Beneath this, there is a huge symphonic panorama inside of us, and when we tap into it, we can experience true healing and freedom. Often we focus on the mass aspect of existence, but the energetic aspect has a lot more power.  The ever-shifting flow of energy that rises and falls within us expresses itself as emotion, movement, and sensation. The rush of excitement, the pang of sorrow, the heaviness of grief—these are all movements of energy that can shape our physical experience. Beyond the mass of our bodies and the energy within, there is space. When we tap into that space, we find a sense of peace, a realization that we are not just our thoughts or emotions, but something much greater. How do we access space and energy? How do we stop identifying with the fluctuations of energy and start identifying with the space that holds it?  In this episode, we're joined by Gay Hendricks to talk about the power of mass, energy, and space, and how to stop living from the surface, but from the deeper, expansive place within us.    Things You'll Learn In This Episode  - Getting unstuck from your body traumas  The mass that is our body is a repository of personal and generational grief and trauma. How does energy and space heal all of these things?     - From repression to release We all possess within us an energy that flows freely. What are some of the things that compress this energy or misuse it?   - Learn to be with fear One way humans do away with fear is trying to control everything. Why is letting go of control a necessary step to tapping into the expansive space with us? Guest Bio Gay Hendricks has served for more than 30 years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies. Along with his wife, Dr. Kate Hendricks, Gay is the author of many bestsellers, including Conscious Loving, At The Speed Of Life, The Big Leap, and the New York Times bestseller, Five Wishes. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford in 1974. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at University Colorado, he founded The Hendricks Institute, and later co-founded its charitable organization, Foundation for Conscious Living. He was also the founder of a virtual learning center for transformation and a publishing company, and was a co-founder of a conscious entertainment company. Throughout his career he has done executive coaching with more than 800 executives, including the top management at such firms as Dell Computer, Hewlett Packard, Motorola and KLM. His book, The Corporate Mystic, is used widely to train management in combining business skills and personal development tools. Gay is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu. In recent years he has co-created a popular podcast called The Big Leap with Gay Hendricks and Mike Koenigs. He has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. Buy your copy of Your Big Leap Year here.  About Your Hosts Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.   Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.   Check out this episode on our website, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify and don't forget to leave a review if you like what you heard. Your review feeds the algorithm so the show reaches more people!

Welcome to our monthly book discussion series hosted by Marisa Serafini (@serafinitv) and me, Phil Svitek! This month, we explore The Five Wishes of Mr. Murray McBride by Joe Siple, a heartwarming and emotional story about finding meaning, friendship, and purpose in unexpected places. Murray McBride, a lonely 100-year-old retired Major League ballplayer, finds renewed purpose when he meets 10-year-old Jason Cashman, a boy with a terminal heart condition and a bucket list of five wishes. Together, they embark on a journey to fulfill Jason's dreams, forging a life-changing bond in the process. Join us as we delve into the book's poignant themes of intergenerational friendship, resilience, and the power of human connection. We'll share our thoughts on the characters' growth, the heartwarming moments, and the bittersweet life lessons that make this novel so impactful. We'd love to hear your insights, favorite moments, and interpretations, so be sure to share them in the comments! Upcoming Reads: • Howl's Moving Castle by Diana Wynne Jones (Feb 2025) • TBD (March 2025) • Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison (April 2025) Share your thoughts, questions, and insights in the comments or connect with Marisa (@serafinitv) and me on social media. Plus, check out Marisa's new podcast, Friends & Favorites w/ Marisa Serafini, available at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/friends-and-favorites-w-marisa-serafini/id1693327509. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe! Yours truly, Phil Svitek Filmmaker, author, podcaster & 360 Creative Coach ⁠http://philsvitek.com⁠

In this episode of The Healers Café, Manon Bolliger, FCAH, RBHT, speaks with Yvonne Caputo about the transformative impact of discussing and documenting end-of-life wishes, including the use of Advanced Directives and the Five Wishes document, to ensure a peaceful and personalized passing. For the transcript and full story go to: https://www.drmanonbolliger.com/yvonne-caputo    Highlights from today's episode include: Yvonne Caputo  07:13 It was such an indication to me about how much my father trusted me to do what he asked. You know, there was this bond, there was this trust, and that was his gift to me. You know, so do I grieve my father's loss? Absolutely! Manon Bolliger 13:25 I lost my mom a couple of years ago, and she really did exactly...she died exactly how she wanted to. And, I mean, we had it down to even the obituary. She wanted to write it so it would say exactly what she wanted it, you know. Yvonne Caputo  20:10 This is about you. This is about how you would like things to be. And she did that, and she said she sat down with her daughter, and they went over the document. She said it was one of the closest, loving, moving times of her life with that child,   ABOUT YVONNE CAPUTO Yvonne Caputo has been a teacher.  She taught in the Erie Pennsylvania Public Schools for 18 years.  She has also been the Vice President of Human Resources at a retirement community, a corporate trainer and consultant, and a psychotherapist.  She has a master's degree in education and clinical psychology. Her book, Flying with Dad, is a story about her relationship with her father through his telling of World War II stories.  Her second book, Dying with Dad shares how she and her dad had tough conversations about what he wanted in the end. She has always been a storyteller. She has used stories to widen students' eyes and soften clients' pain, and her stories have earned her rave reviews as a presenter and speaker. Yvonne lives in Pennsylvania with her best friend, who is also her husband. Together they have three children, three grandchildren, and a bernedooodle. Core purpose/passion: I am now deliciously semi-retired.  In that time, I have written two books, Flying with Dad and Dying with Dad. In the latter I talk about the conversations I had with my father about death and dying.  We made those conversations legal, and I spoke for him when he could no longer speak for himself.  Website | Facebook | LinkedIn |    ABOUT MANON BOLLIGER, FCAH, RBHT  As a de-registered (2021) board-certified naturopathic physician & in practice since 1992, I've seen an average of 150 patients per week and have helped people ranging from rural farmers in Nova Scotia to stressed out CEOs in Toronto to tri-athletes here in Vancouver.  My resolve to educate, empower and engage people to take charge of their own health is evident in my best-selling books:  'What Patients Don't Say if Doctors Don't Ask: The Mindful Patient-Doctor Relationship' and 'A Healer in Every Household: Simple Solutions for Stress'.  I also teach BowenFirst™ Therapy through and hold transformational workshops to achieve these goals. So, when I share with you that LISTENING to Your body is a game changer in the healing process, I am speaking from expertise and direct experience". Manon's Mission: A Healer in Every Household!  For more great information to go to her weekly blog:  http://bowencollege.com/blog.  For tips on health & healing go to: https://www.drmanonbolliger.com/tips    Follow Manon on Social – Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube | Twitter | Linktr.ee | Rumble   ABOUT THE HEALERS CAFÉ:  Manon's show is the #1 show for medical practitioners and holistic healers to have heart to heart conversations about their day to day lives.   Subscribe and review on your favourite platform: iTunes | Google Play | Spotify | Libsyn | iHeartRadio | Gaana | The Healers Cafe | Radio.com | Medioq |  Follow The Healers Café on FB: https://www.facebook.com/thehealerscafe     Remember to subscribe if you like our videos. Click the bell if you want to be one of the first people notified of a new release.   * De-Registered, revoked & retired naturopathic physician after 30 years of practice in healthcare. Now resourceful & resolved to share with you all the tools to take care of your health & vitality!

Welcome to our monthly book discussion series hosted by Marisa Serafini (@serafinitv) and me, Phil Svitek. If you're passionate about books, you're in the right place! This month, we dive into Hollow Kingdom by Kira Jane Buxton, a darkly comedic and heartfelt tale of a domesticated crow navigating a post-apocalyptic world. We'll explore the book's unique blend of humor and eco-fiction, its unforgettable animal characters, and its poignant themes of resilience, connection, and identity. Join us as we discuss S.T.'s hilarious and moving narration, the pets' emotional journeys, and the book's timely environmental message. Don't miss our upcoming reads: -The Five Wishes of Mr. Murray McBride - Joe Siple (Jan 2025) - Howl's Moving Castle - Diana Wynne Jones (Feb 2025) - TBD (March 2025) - Song of Solomon - Toni Morrison (April 2025) Share your thoughts, questions, and insights in the comments or connect with Marisa (@serafinitv) and me on social media. Plus, check out Marisa's new podcast, Friends & Favorites w/ Marisa Serafini, available at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/friends-and-favorites-w-marisa-serafini/id1693327509. Thank you for tuning in—we're excited to hear your thoughts on this captivating story! Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe! Yours truly, Phil Svitek Filmmaker, author, podcaster & 360 Creative Coach ⁠http://philsvitek.com⁠

Talk Money with Jim ShoemakerJoin Jim Shoemaker and Paul Malley as they cover an important topic, “Aging with Dignity: What are Your Five Wishes?” Additionally, Abby Wilson and Scott Jordan will explore an engaging topic: “What are the Differences in Boomers and Millennials?”                            "Helping You Make the Most of Your Money” Jim Shoemaker, CFP, ChFC, is an investment advisor representative offering advisory services through Cetera Investment Advisers, a registered investment adviser. Securities offered through Cetera Advisor Networks, member FINRA/SIPC. Cetera is under separate ownership from any other named entity. Shoemaker Financial is independently owned and operated. 2176 West St, Ste. 100, Germantown, TN 38138

What if the bond between a father and daughter could only be forged through years of emotional distance and transformative conversations? Join us as Yvonne Caputo, semi-retired author of "Flying with Dad" and "Dying with Dad," unveils the poignant journey of her relationship with her father. Yvonne opens up about their challenging yet ultimately rewarding emotional connection, sharing heartwarming anecdotes and hints of her future writing projects. Through her story, Yvonne illustrates the profound role that community support and open discussions play in navigating grief, loss, and trauma.As we continue to explore family dynamics, Yvonne takes us back to her childhood, recounting a memorable fishing trip that marked the beginning of her quest to win her father's approval. From heated arguments in her early years to a transformative dialogue in her 30s, Yvonne's journey is a testament to the power of understanding and patience. We dive deep into a wartime story involving her father that highlights the importance of end-of-life decisions, such as advanced directives and the "Five Wishes" document, and their impact on family dynamics.Finally, as a psychotherapist, Yvonne brings her professional perspective on grieving complex relationships. She emphasizes the necessity of processing grief through therapeutic means and the comfort that grief groups can offer. Yvonne also shares her insights from working in a retirement community, where open discussions about death have shaped her approach. The episode concludes with a lighthearted Q&A session, offering a glimpse into Yvonne's personal life and her delightful Bernadoodle. Join us for this heartfelt episode of Our Dead Dads, and discover how sharing our stories can pave the way for a more meaningful grieving process.YVONNE'S LINKS:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/xcskiyvonneTo purchase Yvonne's books, please go to https://www.ourdeaddads.com/book-recommendations. You will find Amazon and Barnes & Noble links for both of Yvonne's books!GIVE THE SHOW A 5-STAR RATING ON APPLE PODCASTS! FOLLOW US ON APPLE OR YOUR FAVORITE PODCAST PLATFORM! BOOKMARK OUR WEBSITE: www.ourdeaddads.com FOLLOW OUR DEAD DADS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ourdeaddadspod/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ourdeaddadspod TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ourdeaddadspod Twitter / X: https://x.com/ourdeaddadspod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmmv6sdmMIys3GDBjiui3kw LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ourdeaddadspod/

Talk Money with Jim ShoemakerJoin Jim Shoemaker and Paul Malley as they cover an important topic, “Aging with Dignity: What are Your Five Wishes?” Abby Wilson and Scott Jordan will share a new way to look at investing, “Investing is FUN(damental).”                                  "Helping You Make the Most of Your Money” Jim Shoemaker, CFP, ChFC, is an investment advisor representative offering advisory services through Cetera Investment Advisers, a registered investment adviser. Securities offered through Cetera Advisor Networks, member FINRA/SIPC. Cetera is under separate ownership from any other named entity. Shoemaker Financial is independently owned and operated. 2176 West St, Ste. 100, Germantown, TN 38138

In this milestone 400th episode, Lesley Logan interviews Gay Hendricks, the visionary author behind "The Big Leap." Dive into his wisdom on breaking through self-imposed limits, the significance of receiving care, and the magic of wondering. Explore how to identify and live in your zone of genius while mastering the art of time. This episode offers a rich blend of storytelling and practical guidance to elevate your life, relationships, and career.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How “The Big Leap” helps dismantle upper limiting beliefs.The importance of letting things in and receiving care.The power of “wondering” to discover one's genius zone.Why the more heartfelt your commitment, the faster it will manifest.The importance of daily commitment and perseverance in writing.The inspiration and influence behind Gay's Hendrick's daily inbox.Owning your time and making conscious choices on how to use it.Episode References/Links:Follow Gay Hendricks on IGFollow Gay Hendricks on TwitterHendricks InstituteFoundation for Conscious LivingHearts in Harmony with Katie and Gay HendricksFoundation for Conscious Living Facebook pageFoundation for Conscious Living on TwitterBig Leap Home on InstagramThe Big Leap by Gay HendricksA Year of Living Consciously by Gay HendricksGuest Bio:Gay Hendricks has served for more than forty years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and body-mind therapies. Throughout his career, Dr. Hendricks has coached more than eight hundred executives, including the top management at firms such as Dell, Hewlett-Packard, Motorola, and KLM. Along with his wife, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks, he has co authored many books including Conscious Loving, The Corporate Mystic, and his latest, the New York Times bestseller Five Wishes, which has been translated into seventeen languages. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford University. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at the University of Colorado, he founded the Hendricks Institute, which offers seminars in North America, Asia, and Europe. He is also a founder of The Spiritual Cinema Circle. In recent years his passion has been writing a new series of mystery novels featuring the Tibetan Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu. Ten's first adventure was The First Rule Of Ten, followed by The Second Rule Of Ten and more to come. (https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B000APFFK0/about)  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar  Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedIn  Episode Transcript:Gay Hendricks 0:00  We go around all the time looking for answers outside ourselves and asking gurus and teachers and things like that. But what's rare is to actually just genuinely wonder about it yourself for 10 seconds or 10 minutes, just to wonder what is it I most love to do? That's the key question is what do I most love to do? A second key question is, what do I most love to do that makes a contribution to other people? Lesley Logan 0:30  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.  Lesley Logan 1:12  Oh my God, Be It babe. Hi, happy episode 400. And I hope you saw whose name is my guest today. And if you've been listening to this pod, you're like, yeah, Gay Hendricks, I'm like, yeah, Gay Hendricks. We're gonna (inaudible) Gay Hendricks on the Pod today. And I'm even more obsessed with this person than I was going into this interview. I can't even get words out. I'm so emotional. I love this man. So much. More importantly, I think I love the relationship he and his wife have a lot. Like clearly affects him and makes him a man he is today. But also how truly giving and loving and generous he is for all of us. You know, this man is a true sign of abundance and like abundance mindset, because he wants all of us to live in our zone of genius, every single one, and he doesn't want a single one of us to self-sabotage are get in our own way. And he has been trying to teach us these tools for as long as he could write them. And for that I'm so grateful. And the fact that he is episode 400 is I never thought this interview would happen. And there's very few things that happen in my life now that are not a result of me understanding my upper limits since 2019, it might have been 2018, but definitely 2018. And so I can't wait for you to hear this episode. I can't, I can't wait. And so thank you, Gay Hendricks for being on the show. I don't know if you're listening to this intro. But thank you. And thank you every single one of you who listens to this show. If this is your first show, hi, I must look good. Thanks for being here. But, get his books. And I didn't even know he wrote 51 before I interviewed him. So now I have a bunch to go and read through. And I really hope our paths cross again. And I don't even know in what way they will. But I truly hope that they will because he has so much more to teach us all. And this interview I hope is the nugget of information you need right now. And I can't wait to re-listen to this interview because there was so many moments that I thought I knew what he was talking about and I got another level. Not a different lesson, another level, a deeper level. And it just shows that we are not, my friend, Erika Quest, would always say, well,we say we're not concrete we are constructs. Humble the Poet. It is, this interview is so representative of that. So, thank you for being here. Episode 400 is here and it is the one and only Gay Hendricks—someone who's been on my dream list to have on this podcast for years. And on the recap episode, I'll make sure Brad and I share, like I think he might have even recorded when I was like, oh my god, Gay said he will be on the show. I literally like threw my phone on the ground. I couldn't believe what I just read. So, anyways, here is Gay Hendricks, the author of The Big Leap and Your Big Leap Year and 49 other incredible books. Lesley Logan 4:14  Okay, Be It babe. I'm gonna be honest, I'm trying really hard not to fangirl. I'm so excited for our guests today. Gay Hendricks is in the Zoom house. He is here. He has no idea. But I have had him on the list for being on my podcast since we launched in 2021. And the time that he responded, it was this random, on Christmas day, I was like, I need something more inspirational. I'm gonna re-listen to Gay's book. So I was listening to his book on Christmas morning on a walk and I tagged him on a story and I kind of just like out of like loss, I was like, if anyone knows how to get this man on my pod, it'd be really great and you have responded. So Gay, thank you so much for being here. You are the author of Your Big Leap and then Your Big Leap Year, can you, in case anyone who's listening has not heard about how amazing you are, can you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at?Gay Hendricks 5:10  Well, thank you. I live in California and Southern California. I'm a psychologist by training. I got my doctorate at Stanford almost 50 years ago now. And so I've been practicing in one way or the other for the last 50 years. And to my great advantage, I met in 1980, the woman who would become my wife and mate and colleague and co-author for the next 44 years Kathlyn Hendricks, she goes by Katie to friends. And so Katie and I just celebrated our 44th anniversary of the day we met back in 1980. So that's been the dominant force in my life over the past bunch of years. So we've written, I think, 10 or 11 books together, co-authored books. And some of mine are written by myself if she's off doing something else that particular year engaged with a different project. So she just got back, actually last night, from speaking at a conference out in Chicago. And so we're having a happy reunion today as we speak. I've always been a writer. My mom was a newspaper reporter. And so I kind of grew up with the clacking of a typewriter in my ears all the time. Unfortunately, my mother chain-smoked unfiltered cigarettes and drank black coffee all day and all night. And so if you got nearer you were in this miasma of coffee and cigarettes. But other than that, she was fantastic inspiration as a writer, because she had a deadline to meet every day, and which I think was 7pm when she had to get her stuff to the newspaper. And so she weaved frantically while I was doing homework, I could hear that typewriter going. But mom tells me I'd been writing stories and things like that, since I could hold a pen pretty much. So I've always been a writer and I had the great, good fortune of in my, let's see, I would guess I was 22 or 23, when I discovered the field of counseling, psychology and transformation, and all the things that are very commonplace and well known now, but they were not very commonplace or well known 50 years ago that, you know, no self-help book existed or anything like that. So it was a very unusual time. And so I got very fascinated in human trends about human transformation. Because I became my own best customer in the sense that as soon as I started discovering psychology and counseling, I started working on my own issues. And at the time, I was overweight, and I myself smoked heavily. I was in this really toxic relationship, and working at a crappy job, or you know, everything was just going wrong in my life. And fortunately, I had a big wake up and enlightenment moment when I was 24 years old, where I kind of saw where all my programming came from. And I saw all of my emotions that I'd never expressed. And so it was like the lights going on inside me when I was 24. And ever since then, I've been on a mission to uncover more and more of my own genius and my own shadow and help other people. I think Katie and I counted up and we've had about 4500 couples now through our seminars and about 20,000 individuals. So in the past 50 years, we've been busy working with people in a very practical way here in our office, where I'm sitting or out in the world and seminars and things like that. And so both of us are very committed to the same types of things and are very fascinated by the same kinds of things. So, if possible in life, get yourself a good mate to work with, who's also your best friend, that can be the greatest blessing ever. I've had, I've enjoyed that for almost a half century now and there's nothing like it.Lesley Logan 9:17  Okay, so you answered some questions I had just like as I read The Big Leap. I actually listened to it a lot. I love, I love your voice. I love the way you read your book. I, if you feel like a really dear friend who's like coaching you through something so, love listening to it. But I've read it and I'm like, it's part of my like, recovering perfectionist overachiever inside of me, it's like, how did he just like do this and how are people doing this? And it sounds to me like you've been doing this for, you know, 50 years. Maybe, maybe it's like, we have to give ourselves permission these things that uncover our genius take time. And just for people who have not read The Big Leap, you should go get it and then also in Your Big Leap Year you talk about our zone of genius and our different things, can you kind of describe that for everyone? So when we say genius people know, it's not just like your smarty pants, it's like, it's it's part of you right?Gay Hendricks 10:14  Now, one of the, well, there were two really big points in my book, The Big Leap. And then this new book is a day book that breaks it all down into one day at a time kind of thing. But the two big points I really wanted everybody to know, is something I call the upper limit problem, which is, I've been all over the world I've, you know, worked with all these folks for 50 years. And I can say that one thing that human beings have in common, whether I'm in Brooklyn, or Mumbai, or the Bronx, or wherever, it's everybody's trying to get out from under their upper limit problems. And most people don't know where their upper limit problems are located. They think they're outside themselves. But what I point out in The Big Leap is that each of us have our own kind of self-sabotage mechanism that we have had oftentimes since childhood, in the form of old limiting beliefs, like, the most common one is the belief that you're fundamentally flawed in some way, that you're the wrong height to the wrong gender, or the wrong skin color, or the wrong age, or not pretty enough, or whatever it is, whatever it is we built in as our own upper limit. And every time we get beyond that, we've had ways of sabotaging ourselves. And so that's the upper limit problem. And in The Big Leap, I show people how to get in under the hood, and kind of dismantle that. And we can talk a little bit more about it. But I want to mention that geniuses are what I found, as people got out from under their upper limit problems, they became fascinated in finding out what they were really best suited to do in the world. And I, you know, like at this point, I've worked with people who like might be the CEO of a big Fortune 500 company, they'd look from the outside, like they've got it made, but on the inside, they feel like they're dying, because they're operating in their zone of excellence in the zone of what they know how to do. The genius zone is beyond that. It's in the realm of what do you love to do and what inside you is yearning to be expressed. And that is another thing that human beings have in common, wherever I go in the world, human beings are trying to open up and finding out what their real genius is, they may not have that language for it. But you know, everywhere, I get the most amazing email because of The Big Leap, people write me to tell me about their big leaps and that kind of thing. I always say I had the best inbox in town because now all I have to do is hit a button and wow, you know, I see these beautiful things. So everywhere around the world, you know, I got an email from somebody in the outback of Pakistan who had to walk 25 miles to some place to get the book, you know, and really amazing stories like that. And they're, they're obeying the same pool as a person is in Beverly Hills, who just had to send their butler down the street and get the book and bring it back. But everybody is got this in common, this yearning to express who we really are and what we're most uniquely suited to do, and blessings upon you and others like you who are in your genius zone now who have discovered that and can help lead other people into that. So I want to express my appreciation to you for every moment you worked your tail off to get into the genius zone, and now being in it, staying in it, you know, that's another trick there is to it.Lesley Logan 13:59  It's like a muscle.Gay Hendricks 14:00  It is, you know, or like core strength and Pilates. Why would I use that example?Lesley Logan 14:08  Okay, so thanks for bringing up the upper limit. And is it, okay, because when I created this podcast, Be It Till You See It, it's because people were asking me how I stay confident and I was like, inside sometimes I'm so scared because it's outside my comfort zone. And so here I am telling people to be it till they see it, which is like, there's a principle called the as if principle, acting as if you already have what you want, right? Which is not the same as being your zone of genius. But if you figure out your zone of genius, is you're gonna have to step into that. And part of that, to me is like, acting as if you know how to be there. Right? But every time we act outside of our comfort zone, as you've said, we upper limit ourselves and so I find that like, as I'm encouraging people to be it till they see it, if they don't know what their upper limits are, they're going to get there in their Be It moment and then have to pull back because we self-sabotage and something, you guys, and in Gay's book, you can learn all the different ways you do it. And one of the ways I discovered that I would upper limit myself is that I would, something would happen that's amazing, and then I would look for all the things that weren't finished yet. And I would go, yeah, but we haven't done this, this, this, this, this, and this, like, I just would list them all out. And so because I read that I was like, every time I was like, oh, that's just me upper limiting. I can, those things need to get done, but I can still celebrate this amazing thing. So, it's really awesome to have that kind of awareness of how we get in our own way.Gay Hendricks 15:32  Yeah, and most of it happens before we can think for ourselves, you know, a lot of these old limiting beliefs get installed at a very early age. And oftentimes, you know, two, three, four, five years old, you've already soaked up those limiting beliefs about what you can be in life. I had an amazing experience recently. I don't know if you heard but I broke my femur back in 2023. I've been, I've had, I have a rod and six bolts, and (inaudible).Lesley Logan 16:05  You are so lucky that they could fix it, you could also die. Gay Hendricks 16:10  Oh, yeah, 100 years ago, I would have been in a real pickle. But I had a bad slip and fall out in my backyard near, it was a rainy day, and I slipped on a thing. And I went straight down on my knee. Anyway, busted my femur up royally. I'd never broken a bone before. And I hadn't even had a cold in 25 years. And so I was unused to receiving care. And I realized what an important thing it is, especially if you're a giver to get good at receiving and letting things in. And so that's been one of the big messages of this whole experience for me. So anyway, I've had some personal experiences over the last year of really seeing where my own limitations were in letting people care for me, and, you know, just kind of letting myself rest. And I have written 51 books in 50 years. So I've been a busy little fellow. And so it was so rare for me just to kind of lay back and let myself not do anything for 10 seconds or 10 minutes. But, so life will present to us whatever the issues are, I think just in the regular old process of living, but a couple of the big messages in The Big Leap, especially, is to get busy wondering about what your genius zone is. And I want to draw a big red circle around the word wondering because wondering is an underutilized human superpower. Because if you think about it, we go around all the time looking for answers outside ourselves and asking gurus and teachers and things like that. But what's rare is to actually just genuinely wonder about it yourself for 10 seconds or 10 minutes, you know, just to wonder, what is it I most love to do? That's the key question is, what do I most love to do? A second key question is, what do I most love to do that makes a contribution to other people, because see, human beings, we're contributors, we want to reach out to other people. We may not let ourselves do that, but that's who we are down inside. You know, we're I always say there are two types of people there are glommer and splitters. You know, there are a lot of people who like alone time, they don't like people as much. And that's great. But we all have inside both the glommer and the splitter. We all need union and we all need individuation—being our own person, thinking our own thoughts. So as close as Katie and I are, we have tremendous room in our relationship for each other to be interested in different things. She's interested in a whole bunch of different things that I'm not interested in, I'm interested in a whole bunch of things that she's not interested in. Some of them we share, you know, like I'm a baseball nut and I've gradually trained her over the years to be a Dodger fan, (inaudible) she's not naturally given to that, but on the other hand, I have not ever chosen to go to a dance performance or a ballet or modern dance until I met her and now I've been to dozens of them and really liked them. So, hopefully, people when they get together, will let each other be individuals and also find crossing points where they're in union, too. Lesley Logan 19:40  Thank you for sharing your story about even as recently as a year ago, discovering some ways we can limit ourselves because I think it's really easy for us to go okay, I figured out my zone. Okay, figured out my upper limits, check check check. And we can just move on to the next thing but it's an awareness we have to develop and then it's something that will creep back in in different ways, especially when something uniquely different happens. I've, that's odd. So 10 years ago, I fractured my tibial plateau. And I bruise the head of my femur. And it was really hard for me because I was used to just doing everything on my own, my parents raised me be very independent, not need help from anybody, because then you owe them something. Right? Like that whole idea. And so I remember driving, going to the doctor and I was with my now husband, we'd been officially dating for one week, everyone, he said hey, he's like, I really like to feel needed. I really like to help people. So like, you're gonna be okay, because I'm going to help you through this. And I remember looking and going, you're just gonna have to do it because I'm not so good at asking. Like, I'm not gonna be able, I'm not sure I can ask you yet. And it was this really interesting few weeks of trying to like, noticing the different fears that came up, like worry that came up because I was in this new uncharted terrain. I've never broken a bone before. What happens when you're like, you can't walk on your leg. Like there's all these different questions that come up. And it's really can be overwhelming. And situations like that can bring back those upper limits, which we have to be aware of. So we know what's going on. Like, I could actually go okay, this is just fear that I've got, because it's not happening to me, there's like things I can learn from how do you help people figure out what their upper limits are? And then I guess if there's time, you know, what are some ways people can figure out their zone of geniuses as well? Like, in your Your Big Leap Year, you give us that hmm, I wonder—and I love that. But I'm just wondering if you have anything else for us?Gay Hendricks 21:42  Sure, well, first of all, take a snapshot or what some of the upper limit actions are that people will engage in, probably the number one upper limit activity is worrying. It's, I just urge everyone to just spend a day or two watching your worry thoughts. And here's my prediction, you will find that 99% of them are about things that you cannot possibly change or control. They're just spinning wheels in the mud, waiting to get some traction. And so just take a look, you won't believe me until you study it yourself. But notice that most of your worry thoughts are not about something you could actually make any difference or do. Some of them are, you know, you might have a worry thought, oh, gosh, though, (inaudible) or the washing machine is making a funny sound. I'll call the manufacturer and find out what happens if it's making that funny sound. That's not a worry thought that's a practical thought about taking care of good things. That's the use of the human thinking function. Where it gets out of control, of course, is when we overutilize that and start trying to plan the contingencies of every possible thing that could ever go wrong. And so you eat up a lot of your time and energy, looking for what's wrong and what's needs to be fixed and things like that, rather than looking for what would bring forth your genius. And so the big question everybody needs to live in is how can I expand my genius this very day? How can I do more of what I most love to do this day? How can I spend more time doing things that make a contribution to other people, but not in a martyr sense. You know, just to make a genuine contribution. There's somebody that could make a cake as a genuine contribution. There's 10 others that will make it as a martyr and not enjoy every moment of it, you know, and whatever tastes good either. So I, I think that one of the best things we can do is use our inner world as a laboratory and become the scientist that studies your inner laboratory because you'll find yourself worried. That's a big upper limit. Okay. So when you're doing that, here's what to notice. Notice that it's being driven by fear. One big thing to do to unhook your upper limit problems is to make a friend of fear. Get used to seeing when fear occurs in your body. Because every time you're doing an upper limit, you're scared. And it's so important because if you realize, oh, I'm scared and I'm cranking out mental scenarios of all the possible things that could go wrong. The best thing is to just notice, I'm scared because there's no way you can create all the scenarios in your mind to deal with that. One of the one of the turning point relationship moments in my relationship with Katie was we had made a vow to each other when we got together and decided to make a commitment to each other. But we made certain vows like one was to reveal rather than conceal, to always be looking for anything we hadn't said. Another one was to take responsibility in a healthy way— hmm, why would I be creating this argument right now? Rather than, why are you doing this to me right now? You know, that's a benign way of taking responsibility. I'm not saying blame yourself. Oh, why am I doing that again? Taking it on as a scientist. Hmm. I just noticed that I blamed dear. Here, let me look at what's going on in me. So here's just one moment. I was, I found myself criticizing Katie for something. I think she was a half hour late or something like that, coming home. And so I was talking to her in a kind of irritated tone of voice and I had this realization, oh, I sound irritated, angry. But what I'm feeling is fear in my belly. I noticed that and I just blurted it out, I just said that I said, you know, Katie, I just realized, I'm sounding like, I'm criticizing you, but what I'm feeling is fear in my belly. And I remember she suddenly just looked at me raptly like, oh, you know, like, we were in a process of discovery together. And that's what I mean by taking on your inner world, like a scientist and anthropologist to discover all these things. So what I said to her was, let me just take a second and figure out what I'm scared about. And so it only took me about two seconds, I tuned in, and I realized I just blurted this out, I said, I'm afraid I'm going to lose you. And she kind of started like that, you know, I say, I realize, I'm trying to, when I criticize you, I'm trying to keep you away so you won't get close enough to me so that it really matters if you leave me. I'm a, you know, it was like this little thing that had been down in my system. And there were some historical reasons why I might have felt that way. My mother, shortly after giving birth to me sort of disappeared. And so there was a kind of an imprint there of not having that person there. And so, you know, who knows what kind of things those old imprints can leave on us. But what I'm saying is, sometimes there's you know, a, quote, good reason for it. But still, I'm doing it in a relationship when I'm 34 years old. I don't have to repeat that over and over again. And so just by copping to that old pattern and copping to the fear, that changed our relationship completely. And so that was a real life example of revealing rather than concealing. Lesley Logan 28:03  Yeah, I this is, I really like how you are asking us to have that awareness and also like sharing what is coming up, because it does take away its power. And as you mentioned, like, you don't have to keep repeating it. Because a lot of the things that we'll have, you know, as you expressed in your book, and you guys will go read it like, we have ones that we tend to use, those are our go to upper limits, and a lot of it is because of fear we're feeling. And because there's something new happening, we've stepped outside our comfort zone. You know, living in your zone of genius is amazing, and unique and different and scary and not and like it should feel comfortable but, our brain doesn't know that.Gay Hendricks 28:48  It's actually, yeah, one of the greatest things that when I was learning to be a psychotherapist, back 50 years ago, one of the things the professor said, one thing I want to remind you of, I'll be reminding, you'll be reminding other people of it 50 years from now, he said there's no such thing as a grown up. That's a good thing to keep in mind, you know, that. I wanted to also mentioned that the whole subject of creativity becomes increasingly important in relationships and in life in general, the older you get, and that's a key to it too. Because if you can make a real life real time commitment to getting more creative every day and owning more of your genius opening up to more of your genius. It starts with a commitment. You have to start somewhere by taking a stand. And the more heartfelt you can make about that commitment, the faster it will manifest. The universe likes a head commitment, okay, but it loves a head and heart commitment. That's why I tell all my students, the longest important journey they'll ever make is only 12 inches from here in their heads down to their heart to get your head and your heart in alignment and working together. Because then that gives you an unstoppable power to bring forth the things that are most important to you. And if you don't, well, I think in one of my books, I can't remember, I think it's in The Genius Zone. I found this quote from the Gospel of Thomas going back 2000 years, the gospel of Thomas was one of the gospels that didn't make it into the official Bible, but they were floating around and people were reading them at the time. And I don't know the whole history of why they didn't put that in the Bible. But maybe it's because of a couple of things like this. One of the quotes that Jesus is supposed to have said was, if you bring forth what is within you, what is within you will save you, if you do not bring forth what is within you, what is within you will destroy you. Wow, you know, think of your clients and you think of yourself, you know, like I think of myself and all the years I spent with unfulfilled potential eating at me, I feel so blessed that I discovered that at age 24, because I have people in here all the time that are closer to 74, and are still working on bringing forth what their true genius is.Lesley Logan 31:25  I love that. And I think you're right, I think that that verse is very fain and gives a lot of people more independence. What a beautiful quote. Okay, so you wrote Your Big Leap Year, which is a daily book. And I will say like, when I came across it, your posts came up on my feed and I was like, oh, oh, this is amazing. Obviously, like, you've written 50 other books. The reason to write this, I feel like, since I've read the other ones, it's almost like, I wonder kind of like why you decided to write a daily, as opposed to just saying, hey, guys, just go read the amazing books. I read already. And also, like, as I'm reading these, I feel like the project has to be humongous. Because breaking up all of your excellent work into a daily bite-sized piece for us to understand. It's, it's wonderful. It's absolutely wonderful. But I guess I would just love to know, like, what brought that,what was the impetus behind that?Gay Hendricks 32:26  Well, it came in from several directions. I mentioned my sweet inbox every day. And so I've collected hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people who wanted something like that, you know, Hey, have you considered writing a calendar or something, a day-at-a-time book. And I know, those are very popular. And I even wrote one many years ago called A Year of Living Consciously and it was, it was popular for a number of years. But anyway, they are hard to write because you have to, you know, take an idea and distill it down to something that somebody can do in one minute or 10 seconds or two minutes. And so an idea and a guided meditation or an idea and an intention to set or something like that. But anyway, it does require quite a bit of kind of diamond cutting, you know, fine-tune, paste intensive things, and rewriting. But you know, it was I just set myself the task of writing, you know, 10 of them a day. And sometimes I'd exceed that. I'm a disciplined writer. I love to write and I love to write in the morning. By about this time of the day, like here in my part of the world, I'm recording this, I think at nine o'clock in the morning, by this time of the day, I'm finished with my writing, I'm an early riser. So I wake up at 4:30 or five, something like that. And I meditate and have a cup of coffee, and all those kind of things play with the cats and my wife likes to sleep in till 7:30 or eight. So I have those couple hours where it's just me and the two cats. And so I, a disciplined writer, after I meditate and all that I come in, and I sit down and I will usually work for a couple of hours in a kind of a zone, you know, I get into the zone. And so once I'm in the zone, didn't matter if I write two of those or 20 of them, you know, as long as I'm still in the zone, and then at a certain point, usually around eight or 8:30 whenever my wife happens to be getting up, I'm usually about the end of my writing time. And so anyway, I wanted to say that a lot of people, I'll come back to why I wrote the book, but a lot of people think that writing is about inspiration, but it's a lot about perspiration, too. It's a lot about daily commitment and showing up. You know, they always say, how's the definition of a writer, it's a person who writes, you know, so whether it's 10 minutes a day or two hours a day like I may do, it doesn't really matter as long as you're getting into your creative zone and it doesn't have to be writing, it could be just about anything. We say around here that creativity is anything that has the capacity to surprise you. So at least once a day when I'm writing, I'll write a sentence. And I'll stop. And I'll say, wow, where did that come from? You know, and it comes from the fact that I've been doing it for my life. But it also comes out of nowhere. Because if you're open to inspiration, these little happy surprises will happen. And so look for those kinds of things that give you that permission, I wanted to come back around to why I wrote the book, there's a wonderful publisher. I'll give him the name Joel. And he works for one of the big publishing houses. And I've known him on and off for 30 years at least. And interestingly enough, he was at the one time employed in a bookstore and hand-sold our book, Conscious Loving, when it came out 30 or 35 years ago. So anyway, we have a rich, long history. And he called me up one day, and he said, hey, I have a great idea. Have you? Have you considered writing a day book of The Big Leap? And I said, my first thought was, you and 1500 other had that genius idea. What took you so long? And, but he has other books to publish, too. So he's, but he's a Big Leap fan. And he wanted to get the word out to more people. And so he was another inspiration for writing a book. And so when the publisher himself calls you and says, you know, we want to publish your book, would you please write it? I've, you know, I said, okay, that's a good cue from the universe. And as that happened, I was soon to be engaged with the process of not going anywhere, sitting around nursing my leg, you know?Lesley Logan 36:56  Yeah, you didn't have a lot of other things to do with a broken femur.Gay Hendricks 37:01  So I went into this reality tunnel called the medical establishment, you know, and so I've been very used to going and getting my bones X-ray and everything. So the long drama of hurting myself, but it gave me a good excuse to sit around not to doing anything else. And so I, I, for a period of time, I stopped running around giving keynote speeches and doing all the things that are lucrative additions to my life. But I decided just to focus on the book for a while, and it worked out just fine.Lesley Logan 37:35  I really love it. I love the hmm, it's just, it's fabulous. And I also love you guys can start at any day of the year. So you don't have to start on the January 1st, it just starts on the day you start it you pick it up. Okay? I have. Yes.Gay Hendricks 37:50  As it happens. I have one here behind me.Lesley Logan 37:53  Me, too. My copy of The Big Leap I gave to someone who was at my house, it was literally upper limiting in front of me. And I was like, you have to read this book. Just keep it and pass it on, I will get another. So I, okay, in The Big Leap, you have a whole chapter on Einstein Time and Newton time. And I have to say, the first time I listened to it, I was like, where's this chapter? This whole section, it seems like its own book. And then the second and third time I like went through it I was like, oh, this is this is a genius chapter. This is the thing we all need to know. Can you tell me a little bit about how you decided for Einstein, and that Newton time chapter in The Big Leap and kind of because it's just, it's fascinating, fabulous. But it really the first time I was like, this is the whole this is like out of left field. Gay Hendricks 38:44  Yes. Well, first of all, thank you. And I appreciate you appreciating it, because it was my favorite chapter in there. And it's actually the one probably that generates the most email from people saying, wow, I've been thinking about this for 10 years. And I just got it, you know, because a lot of times it takes a while to sink in. But here's the thing. Okay. Sir Isaac Newton, great genius. Look him up some time, amazing human being. But he changed physics by naming some things that nobody had figured out before. So picture him under the apple tree, the apple falls off and bonks him in the forehead. Oh, there's a force—gravity, where would that come from? Oh, that's interesting. It's almost as if the Earth has some kind of an iron ore inside itself. It's not all dirt all the way down. So, observations like that, 300 or 400 years ago, were big time or like, you know, looking up and saying, wow, the sun doesn't go around the Earth. We're going around the sun. You know, that's what made everything makes sense. They didn't have to have all these complicated physics of things that suddenly went. And so in came this tick-tock version of time. For every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction Tick, tock, tick tock. That happened to coincide with the birth of the industrial revolution where people had to start showing up on time when the whistle blew. And if you were five minutes late, more than five minutes late, you got your pay docked for that for the hour. And so people became more and more conditioned over the hundreds of years, to bind themselves very carefully to that notion of tick-tock time. As you would expect, though, human beings, being who we are, and our lovable, slightly maddening ways, will often have an imperfect adaptation to time like some of us become highly time-conscious. And we're the ones that show up a minute early and get tweaked because the rest of the people haven't shown up in their seats. I used to be one of those, believe it or not, for my first grade birthday. What did I want more than anything else? I wanted a wristwatch. And the one I wanted, I remember, was the outrageous price of $2.99. Man, but I worked up courage to ask for it. And my granddad and my grandma and my mom pulled their money to get me that $2.99 wristwatch. So I became the only kid in the first grade to be sporting a wristwatch, you know, so I became the timekeeper for everything. Now the other adaptation to time is to be a time slacker. You're the one that shows up five minutes late. And everybody says where have you been? And you're the one that doesn't show up, and people have to apologize for so, of the two, which one was yours, Lesley, my dear? Lesley Logan 42:03  Oh, I'm the person with the watch. My dad is like, if you're not five minutes early, you're five minutes late, and I live by that. And I'm gonna tell you right now, my husband is a time slacker. He's like classes at six. So we're walking in the door at six, we're fine. And I'm like, no (inaudible) in the locker. We have to say, we have to take (inaudible) or not on time, we're not ready for class.Gay Hendricks 42:25  Yeah, so of all the people on earth, who, when a time freak, go out and marry, you want to find one that looks like an automatic fixer upper project for you to engage for your life done.Lesley Logan 42:40  He's helped me be late for some things we are working on it. I've helped him be more on time, he's helped me be more late.Gay Hendricks 42:48  Well, I'll say I've had more fun with that, that dynamic because in every audience I've ever spoken to, it doesn't matter if they're people in Calcutta or wherever, you know, everybody has their own adaptatin to time. Now, here's the thing. Beyond Newtonian time, is what I call Einstein Time. And let me tell you how that works. Because when Einstein came along, it explained a whole bunch of things about physics that Newton didn't get near, he couldn't figure him out. And one of the things that Einstein had was his theory of relativity. And I'll explain it to you just like he explained it to a group of people that happen to be I think, 15-year-olds, he was asked to explain theory of relativity to some high school people or something like that. And so he said, basically, that an hour with your beloved goes by like a minute, whereas a minute sitting on a hot stove, goes by, like an hour. And why is that? In other words, he was getting at the thing that time expands or contracts, depending on the quality of our experience. Wow, big time shift there. Because when I realized that, and by the way, I have a picture of Albert Einstein, one of my prized possessions on my wall is an autographed picture of Albert Einstein that my wife gave me for winning my first, I'm tearing up a little bit because it was, you know, sort of a expensive thing, but she gave it to me for my birthday. And I was very touched by it and work near it all the time. But Einstein, one of the things in his notebooks, he talks about wandering about a particular problem in physics every day for 27 years. Okay, that's a good wonderer, you know, before you finally kind of cracked the problem, you thought about it and wondered about it for 27 years. So wonder, is this incredible tool that human beings have access to that I want to inspire you now to wonder about how could you transform your experience of time? No matter where you're hearing or watching this now and in the future, how can you transform your experience of time? So it was never an issue for you. So you are never late, never early, where you were always exactly where you needed to be at the time you needed to be there. What would need to happen for that to happen? Well, that's the shift into Einstein Time. And it goes in several steps. One step is to start noticing where you complain about time, or where you address other people about time in a limiting way. For example, I caught myself when I first started studying this 30 years ago on myself, I, I kind of cracked my own time problem back in the 80s. And so I realized that one of the things that I did was I use time as an excuse, in basically telling a lie to other people. And I would always say something like, somebody would want to talk to me about something. And I'd listened to what they had to say. And then I would say, hey, listen, I wish I had time. But I've got this other thing I got to do. Okay, so that's using time as an excuse. What's the excuse for it? Well, it avoids the more vulnerable thing of saying, I don't want to talk to you anymore, right now. You know, that's kind of a different communication and those kinds of things. It's true. But we usually don't blurt those things out to other people. So you can administer your own dose of that first start with a little homeopathic dose of telling the truth in safe ways before you start actually doing it out there in the general world, because you will get, you know, if the grocery boy asks you, how are you today? And you say, well, actually, I just switched my meds and I'm feeling f* up. You know, that's, that might be the truth. But it's a little bit of truth is a blunt weapon, you know that. So you have to moderate your dose of it to get by and be successful in the real world. And the moderation is owning it all, owning it all, owning time. And so when people say, do you have a moment, I will sometimes, if I like them, I'll say, I'm where time comes from. Because that's the bottom line thing in Einstein Time. You take responsibility for creating whatever way about time you want to create, but you do it out of your own chosen creativity, not on an adaptation you may have taken on when you were in junior high school, being the being the slacker or being the, you know, why is everybody running late? You know, where's the teacher, you know, she's supposed to be here. So I think that the big thing is to make that move where you kind of go from thinking of something out here as where the problem is to saying, how could I make up my own relationship with time where I was impeccable in the material world and showing up where I needed to be when I agreed to be there. And I'm also in charge of making up as much time as I need to express my genius. That's a big deal. Because the more you can commit yourself to bringing forth more and more of your genius every day, then what you're doing is you're on a path that human beings hunger for all over the world, and you've chosen to be on that path, the path of expanding your genius, and what better way to spend your life. You know, there, it being your endless quest, no matter what out wherever else you're doing. You may be the you know, president into this, or the head of the Safeway, grocery store. But what you're also really interested in is bringing forth more of your genius and your employees' genius. Lesley Logan 49:37  Yeah. Oh my gosh, okay. You're phenomenal. You're amazing. We're gonna take a brief break because I feel like we've been an Einstein time if, this is amazing. We're gonna take a brief break and we'll come back and find out where people can find you work with you and your Be It Action Items.Lesley Logan 49:52  Alright Gay, where do you like people to go? Do you want them to read books? Do you want them to go to your website? Where should they hang out with you?Gay Hendricks 49:59  Oh, yes. Come to our website, that's where all the information is gathered. And that's hendricks.com with a C-K-S. H-E-N-D-R-I-C-K-S. And although I met Jimmy Hendricks, six years ago on spell my name differently without the x, so hendricks.com and there, you can find out also about how to jump over to our nonprofit foundation, if you want to look at all the free videos and stuff like that kind of self-training materials we have over there for couples and individuals. So that's the main place and of course, the books are wherever you get your books. Amazon, Barnes and Noble, your local Best Seller, bookstore, those kinds of places, look for us there we'll always be there. And the big thing, though, is to every opportunity, if you think of, if you even think of one of these, use it as an opportunity to wonder about how you can bring forth more of your genius at that moment. Lesley Logan 50:59  Yeah, that's I think the best thing we can all take away. That's like our Be It Action Item right there. You don't know this. But I have tattooed on my thumb. I'm left-handed. So, I tattooed on my left thumb it says, I wonder. I did it probably in 2020. Because I used to grab our dog and hug her in the morning. I used to go Gaia, I wonder how we're going to... and like, I would just like blurt out a question. And I would let it like, hanging out. And what happens is, you know, in 2020, everyone's lives change in a big way. And for my, my, for me, and my husband, like our entire business stopped and how we did things change. And I realized I wasn't in wonderment more, and I had, so I need to see it every day. And so I love how much you ask us to wonder.Gay Hendricks 51:54  It's human being's underutilized superpower in my view, so the more you wonder, the more beautiful life becomes. Lesley Logan 52:04  Yeah, yeah. Gay, you've given us so much. You've given the world so much. I mean, 51 books. Thank you so much for you coming on the show. Truly, this an honor. And I feel like you've given us a lot of different things to think about. So thank you. Thank you for being you. Thank you for (inaudible) us out there and you know, everyone, how are you going to use these tips in your life, make sure you check out Gays books and also go to hendricks.com. And I hope you wonder more, and share this with a friend who needs to hear it. Until next time, be it till you see it. Lesley Logan 52:38  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod. Brad Crowell 53:20  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 53:25  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co. Brad Crowell 53:30  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi. Lesley Logan 53:37  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals. Brad Crowell 53:40  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Most people experience an injury or other setbacks as an enterprise of the universe working against us. But what if the setback is an important transition, a demarcation point between who we were and who we're going to be going forward? Maybe it's buried traumas we need to address, or physical healing that will make us stronger.   We're being given the opportunity for a completion so we can move into a deeper level of harmony with ourselves and others.   It's so easy to fall into the old programming of self-pity and sadness, but everything that happens to us is reality trying to tell us something important.   It's a powerful opportunity to rewire ourselves. We can give an open invitation to the universe to rewire and reorganize us in a powerful way. Instead of asking “why is this happening to me”, we can ask “what is the deepest message this event is trying to tell me?”   How do we stop recycling old patterns and traumas and put something to rest? How do we step into new energy instead of trying to fight it?   In this episode, we're joined by Gay Hendricks and he shares what he's learned from a recent health setback. We also close off season 1 of this podcast by reflecting on lessons and powerful takeaways from this experience.   Give an open invitation to the universe to reorganize you in the spirit of how you need to be now and what would best serve you now. -Gay Hendricks     Three Things You'll Learn In This Episode    -How to bring completion to a pattern For a lot of people, past patterns and traumas can continue recycling themselves and we find ourselves in a loop of rehashing them. How do we fully and finally flush those things from our hearts, minds and bodies?    -An opportunity to rewire yourself Setbacks and challenges are something we often treat as the universe conspiring against us. Could they actually be the universe's way of helping us get rid of old energy and usher in what and who we need to be now?   -Connection, discovery and a fluidity of intelligence As we reach the completion of the first season of the podcast, what are some of the biggest lessons and special insights we've gained from it?   Guest Bio   Gay Hendricks has served for more than 30 years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies. Along with his wife, Dr. Kate Hendricks, Gay is the author of many bestsellers, including Conscious Loving, At The Speed Of Life, The Big Leap, and the New York Times bestseller, Five Wishes. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford in 1974. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at University Colorado, he founded The Hendricks Institute, and later co-founded its charitable organization, Foundation for Conscious Living. He was also the founder of a virtual learning center for transformation and a publishing company, and was a co-founder of a conscious entertainment company. Throughout his career he has done executive coaching with more than 800 executives, including the top management at such firms as Dell Computer, Hewlett Packard, Motorola and KLM. His book, The Corporate Mystic, is used widely to train management in combining business skills and personal development tools. Gay is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu. In recent years he has co-created a popular podcast called The Big Leap with Gay Hendricks and Mike Koenigs. He has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. Buy your copy of Your Big Leap Year here.

Talk Money with Jim ShoemakerJoin Jim Shoemaker and Paul Malley as they cover an important topic, “Aging with Dignity: What are Your Five Wishes?” Abby Wilson and Scott Jordan will share a new way to look at investing, “Investing is FUN(damental).”                       "Helping You Make the Most of Your Money” Jim Shoemaker, CFP, ChFC, is an investment advisor representative offering advisory services through Cetera Investment Advisers, a registered investment adviser. Securities offered through Cetera Advisor Networks, member FINRA/SIPC. Cetera is under separate ownership from any other named entity. Shoemaker Financial is independently owned and operated. 2176 West St, Ste. 100, Germantown, TN 38138

Send Victoria a text message!Dive into the depths of grief, joy, and the paradox of emotions with Yvonne Caputo on Grieving Voices this week. From personal tales to professional insights, learn how attentive listening can transform relationships and provide peace in life's transitions.Yvonne reflects on personally challenging life transitions that led her to therapy as she grappled with feelings of loss. Her journey emphasizes not just the grand losses but also those smaller ones that cumulatively shape our lives.Episode Highlights:The Paradox of Emotions: Yvonne talks about containing paradoxes—how we can experience joy in sorrow, teaching us valuable lessons about mental health and resilience. Storytelling & Healing: Listen to how conversations with her father about his WWII experiences helped unearth latent PTSD and transformed their relationship by simply offering an attentive ear.End-of-Life Wishes: Discover why discussing end-of-life preferences is crucial as Caputo recounts honoring her father's wishes for a peaceful passing versus the traumatic hospital death of her mother without known wishes.Therapeutic Practices: Learn from Caputo's approach to providing comfort in therapy—validating experiences without judgment—and its impact on elderly individuals in caregiving settings.From dealing with personal loss to facilitating meaningful dialogues around mortality, this episode is a testament to the healing power of being heard. RESOURCES:Book | Flying with DadBook | Dying with Dadfivewishes.orgGrief RecoveryBook by Annie Sklaver Orenstein | Support the Show.This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief. Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a supporter of the show HERE.

Frank Cifaldi, Tim Rogers and Brandon Sheffield cover Alex Jaffe's questions about SGF showcases, the N64 controller, and DQ slime war crimes. Hosted by Alex Jaffe, with Frank Cifaldi, Tim Rogers, and Brandon Sheffield. Edited by Esper Quinn, original music by Kurt Feldman. Questions this week: Ash Parrish asks: What's your dream Summer Game Fest showcase? (05:46) Why did the Nintendo 64 controller look like that? (14:42) Write a musical about Akihabara twenty years ago. (20:18) Insert Credit Quick Break: Mannequin Deposit by The Houseflies (47:25) Ponda asks: Which video games feature the best eating animations, and why is this difficult? (28:18) Which standard 52 playing card deck game has the best game design? (34:56) When has a game company returning to its roots most paid off? (40:06) LIGHTNING ROUND: Soda Jerk - Car Companies (45:14) Recommendations and Outro (52:15) Discuss this episode in the Insert Credit Forums A SMALL SELECTION OF THINGS REFERENCED: The Matrix (1999) Zion Jem Ready Player One The Matrix Resurrections (2021) The Matrix Online The Animatrix (2003) MultiVersus PC Gaming Show 2024 Devolver Direct: The Return of Volvy An Update from M-Corp (Skate 4 sketch) Sam Richardson Henry Cavill Man of Steel (2013) The Witcher Argylle (2024) Cyberpunk 2077 - Keanu Reeves On Stage Nintendo 64 controller Wii Link's Crossbow Training Hadestown Akihabara The Little Mermaid (1989) Hades Morning Musume Aya Matsuura Ayumi Hamasaki Namie Amuro Hikaru Utada Bôa Dragon Quest Overture Dragon Quest VIII: Journey of the Cursed King Tár (2022) Ryū ga Gotoku / Like a Dragon / Yakuza series Joey Chestnut Major League Eating: The Game Texas hold 'em Solitaire Tic-tac-toe Contract bridge Blackjack Fallout: New Vegas The Legend of Zelda The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild Super Mario Odyssey Lost Planet: Extreme Condition Lost Planet 2 Bionic Commando: Rearmed Dead Rising Dark Void Strider Street Fighter IV Resident Evil 2 Wii Sports Brain Age: Train Your Brain in Minutes a Day! Wii Fit Recommendations: Brandon: Get a DNR, get a Five Wishes document, make sure someone can access your medical records Frank: Will your assets, Recognize your own mortality Tim: Don't own a lot of stuff Jaffe: Be mindful of the mess you leave for others This week's Insert Credit Show is brought to you by Mannequin Deposit by The Houseflies, and patrons like you. Thank you. Subscribe: RSS, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, and more! Questions this week: Frank: Talk about video game recompilation efforts (05:58) Let's go over the Nintendo Direct (15:39) Insert Credit Presents: Why Marvel vs. Capcom 2 Is So Important, by Patrick Miller (25:57) 3. In video games with romanceable NPCs, should you as a player be unrestricted from pursuing any character regardless of gender or sexuality? (34:33) 4. Please explain the lore of Elden Ring to me. You have 6 minutes. (41:33) Insert Credit Quick Break: Mannequin Deposit by The Houseflies (47:25) 5. Aaron Pickus: If you were working in a rental store, what games would you intentionally place in the wrong cases to give renters a different experience? (48:47) 6. Are esports good? (55:04) LIGHTNING ROUND: New Robot Masters (01:04:56) Recommendations and Outro (01:09:13) Discuss this episode in the Insert Credit Forums A SMALL SELECTION OF THINGS REFERENCED: Taskmaster Selling Sunset The Boys Succession Boyz II Men Taskmaster Zelda: Majora's Mask is now a native PC game, and every N64 title could follow its lead Super Mario 64 Decompiled Mega Man: Legacy Collection Raw Danger! Steambot Chronicles Zelda 64 Recompiled: A Revolution In N64 Native Ports For PC (the DigitalFoundry video Frank mentions) Nintendo Direct 6.18.2024 Metroid Prime 4: Beyond – Announcement Trailer The Legend of Zelda: Echoes of Wisdom – Announcement Trailer The Legend of Zelda: Link's Awakening Zelda: The Wand of Gamelon Cadence of Hyrule: Crypt of the NecroDancer featuring the Legend of Zelda Hyrule Warriors: Age of Calamity The Legend of Zelda: Hyrule Historia Looney Tunes: Wacky World of Sports Mario & Luigi: Brothership – Announcement Trailer Dragon Quest III HD-2D Remake - Release Date Trailer Suikoden Eiyuden Chronicle: Hundred Heroes Kingdom Hearts series Final Fantasy series MARVEL vs. CAPCOM Fighting Collection: Arcade Classics - Announcement Trailer Marvel Vs. Capcom 2: New Age Of Heroes Bubsy in: The Purrfect Collection GEX Trilogy - LRG 2024 Trailer LEGO Horizon Adventures – Announce Trailer LEGO Star Wars series LEGO Indiana Jones: The Original Adventures Marvel Spider-Man God of War Astro Bot - Announcement Trailer Pharrell to tell his life story in a Lego movie Elden Ring Dragon Age series Dragon Age: The Veilguard - Official Reveal Trailer Mass Effect series Animal Crossing series The Twilight Zone Inuyasha George R. R. Martin BioShock 2 BioShock BioShock Infinite Wolfenstein II: The New Colossus Deus Ex series Gex Planet of the Apes (1968) Sonic the Hedgehog series Garfield licensees Freedom Planet Blockbuster Mario Party series Overcooked! Lethal Company Pummel Party Grand Theft Auto series Overwatch Valorant Counter-Strike 2 SonicFox Justin Wong Evo Moment #37 Saudi Arabia's plan to become the crown prince of gaming League of Legends Valorant Game Changers Nintendo World Championships Dota 2 ESPN8 The Ocho ESPN Esports: Inside its rise, fall and resonance Madden series NBA 2K series Recommendations: Ash: Fund independent news Frank: Become a reader again, Indika Jaffe: 52 Pickup, The House in Fata Morgana This week's Insert Credit Show is brought to you by Mannequin Deposit by The Houseflies, and patrons like you. Thank you. Subscribe: RSS, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, and more!

Frank Cifaldi, Tim Rogers and Brandon Sheffield cover Alex Jaffe's questions about SGF showcases, the N64 controller, and DQ slime war crimes. Hosted by Alex Jaffe, with Frank Cifaldi, Tim Rogers, and Brandon Sheffield. Edited by Esper Quinn, original music by Kurt Feldman. Questions this week: Ash Parrish asks: What's your dream Summer Game Fest showcase? (05:46) Why did the Nintendo 64 controller look like that? (14:42) Write a musical about Akihabara twenty years ago. (20:18) Insert Credit Quick Break: Mannequin Deposit by The Houseflies (47:25) Ponda asks: Which video games feature the best eating animations, and why is this difficult? (28:18) Which standard 52 playing card deck game has the best game design? (34:56) When has a game company returning to its roots most paid off? (40:06) LIGHTNING ROUND: Soda Jerk - Car Companies (45:14) Recommendations and Outro (52:15) Discuss this episode in the Insert Credit Forums A SMALL SELECTION OF THINGS REFERENCED: The Matrix (1999) Zion Jem Ready Player One The Matrix Resurrections (2021) The Matrix Online The Animatrix (2003) MultiVersus PC Gaming Show 2024 Devolver Direct: The Return of Volvy An Update from M-Corp (Skate 4 sketch) Sam Richardson Henry Cavill Man of Steel (2013) The Witcher Argylle (2024) Cyberpunk 2077 - Keanu Reeves On Stage Nintendo 64 controller Wii Link's Crossbow Training Hadestown Akihabara The Little Mermaid (1989) Hades Morning Musume Aya Matsuura Ayumi Hamasaki Namie Amuro Hikaru Utada Bôa Dragon Quest Overture Dragon Quest VIII: Journey of the Cursed King Tár (2022) Ryū ga Gotoku / Like a Dragon / Yakuza series Joey Chestnut Major League Eating: The Game Texas hold 'em Solitaire Tic-tac-toe Contract bridge Blackjack Fallout: New Vegas The Legend of Zelda The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild Super Mario Odyssey Lost Planet: Extreme Condition Lost Planet 2 Bionic Commando: Rearmed Dead Rising Dark Void Strider Street Fighter IV Resident Evil 2 Wii Sports Brain Age: Train Your Brain in Minutes a Day! Wii Fit Recommendations: Brandon: Get a DNR, get a Five Wishes document, make sure someone can access your medical records Frank: Will your assets, Recognize your own mortality Tim: Don't own a lot of stuff Jaffe: Be mindful of the mess you leave for others This week's Insert Credit Show is brought to you by Mannequin Deposit by The Houseflies, and patrons like you. Thank you. Subscribe: RSS, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, and more! Questions this week: Frank: Talk about video game recompilation efforts (05:58) Let's go over the Nintendo Direct (15:39) Insert Credit Presents: Why Marvel vs. Capcom 2 Is So Important, by Patrick Miller (25:57) 3. In video games with romanceable NPCs, should you as a player be unrestricted from pursuing any character regardless of gender or sexuality? (34:33) 4. Please explain the lore of Elden Ring to me. You have 6 minutes. (41:33) Insert Credit Quick Break: Mannequin Deposit by The Houseflies (47:25) 5. Aaron Pickus: If you were working in a rental store, what games would you intentionally place in the wrong cases to give renters a different experience? (48:47) 6. Are esports good? (55:04) LIGHTNING ROUND: New Robot Masters (01:04:56) Recommendations and Outro (01:09:13) Discuss this episode in the Insert Credit Forums A SMALL SELECTION OF THINGS REFERENCED: Taskmaster Selling Sunset The Boys Succession Boyz II Men Taskmaster Zelda: Majora's Mask is now a native PC game, and every N64 title could follow its lead Super Mario 64 Decompiled Mega Man: Legacy Collection Raw Danger! Steambot Chronicles Zelda 64 Recompiled: A Revolution In N64 Native Ports For PC (the DigitalFoundry video Frank mentions) Nintendo Direct 6.18.2024 Metroid Prime 4: Beyond – Announcement Trailer The Legend of Zelda: Echoes of Wisdom – Announcement Trailer The Legend of Zelda: Link's Awakening Zelda: The Wand of Gamelon Cadence of Hyrule: Crypt of the NecroDancer featuring the Legend of Zelda Hyrule Warriors: Age of Calamity The Legend of Zelda: Hyrule Historia Looney Tunes: Wacky World of Sports Mario & Luigi: Brothership – Announcement Trailer Dragon Quest III HD-2D Remake - Release Date Trailer Suikoden Eiyuden Chronicle: Hundred Heroes Kingdom Hearts series Final Fantasy series MARVEL vs. CAPCOM Fighting Collection: Arcade Classics - Announcement Trailer Marvel Vs. Capcom 2: New Age Of Heroes Bubsy in: The Purrfect Collection GEX Trilogy - LRG 2024 Trailer LEGO Horizon Adventures – Announce Trailer LEGO Star Wars series LEGO Indiana Jones: The Original Adventures Marvel Spider-Man God of War Astro Bot - Announcement Trailer Pharrell to tell his life story in a Lego movie Elden Ring Dragon Age series Dragon Age: The Veilguard - Official Reveal Trailer Mass Effect series Animal Crossing series The Twilight Zone Inuyasha George R. R. Martin BioShock 2 BioShock BioShock Infinite Wolfenstein II: The New Colossus Deus Ex series Gex Planet of the Apes (1968) Sonic the Hedgehog series Garfield licensees Freedom Planet Blockbuster Mario Party series Overcooked! Lethal Company Pummel Party Grand Theft Auto series Overwatch Valorant Counter-Strike 2 SonicFox Justin Wong Evo Moment #37 Saudi Arabia's plan to become the crown prince of gaming League of Legends Valorant Game Changers Nintendo World Championships Dota 2 ESPN8 The Ocho ESPN Esports: Inside its rise, fall and resonance Madden series NBA 2K series Recommendations: Ash: Fund independent news Frank: Become a reader again, Indika Jaffe: 52 Pickup, The House in Fata Morgana This week's Insert Credit Show is brought to you by Mannequin Deposit by The Houseflies, and patrons like you. Thank you. Subscribe: RSS, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, and more!

Music plays a crucial role in human existence, even if we don't always realize it! Join Deborah in her conversation with Yvonne Caputo as they explore the profound impact of music and its ability to weave narratives, transporting individuals through time. Music has the power to touch everyone, connecting us across time and space! Here are the things to expect in the episode:What did Yvonne learn about her father while writing the book?Engaging in conversations about death has positively impacted a relationship.How can music reconnect us with our past?Why is the Five Wishes document considered an important tool for end-of-life planning?And much more! About Yvonne:Yvonne Caputo has been a teacher. She has also been the head of Human Resources at a retirement community, a corporate trainer and consultant, and a psychotherapist. She has a master's degree in education and clinical psychology. Her book, Flying with Dad, is a story about her relationship with her father through his telling of World War II stories. Her second book, Dying with Dad. It shares how she and her dad talked about what he wanted in the end. Connect with Yvonne Caputo!Website: https://ingeniumbooks.com/yvonne-caputo/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yvonne-caputo-1449137/ Book Recommendations:Bittersweet (Oprah's Book Club): How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole by Susan Cain Five Wishes Paper Connect with Deborah Kevin:Website: www.deborahkevin.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/debbykevinwriterLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborah-kevin/Book Recommendations: https://bookshop.org/shop/storytellher Check out Highlander Press:Website: www.highlanderpressbooks.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@highlanderpressInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/highlanderpressFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/highlanderpress

This week on The Less Stressed Life Podcast, I am excited to be joined by Gay Hendricks. In this episode, Gay tells us how to find our Zone of Genius, which he talks about in his book, The Big Leap. Your genius is that activity or way of being that you are uniquely suited to do. Gay tells how to discover what you love doing and how to spend more time doing it. We also talk about the power of high quality questions. Check out Gay's new book, Your Big Leap Year!KEY TAKEAWAYS:Where are you sabotaging yourself?How to find your zone of geniusWhat are the four zones of genius?What are wonder questions?What are the Five Wishes?What are high quality questions for cultivating consciousness?ABOUT GUEST:Gay Hendricks has served for more than 30 years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and body/mind therapies. Along with his wife, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks, Gay is the author of many bestsellers, including Conscious Loving, At The Speed Of Life, The Big Leap, and the New York Times bestseller, Five Wishes. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford in 1974. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at University Colorado, he founded The Hendricks Institute, and later co-founded its charitable organization, Foundation for Conscious Living. He was also the founder of a virtual learning center for transformation and a publishing company and was a co-founder of a conscious entertainment company. Throughout his career he has done executive coaching with more than 800 executives, including the top management at such firms as Dell Computer, Hewlett Packard, Motorola and KLM. His book, The Corporate Mystic, is used widely to train management in combining business skills and personal development tools.WHERE TO FIND:Website: https://hendricks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hendricks.gay/Website: https://foundationforconsciousliving.org/ ***WORK WITH CHRISTA***: https://www.christabiegler.com/fssWHERE TO FIND CHRISTA:Website: https://www.christabiegler.com/Instagram: @anti.inflammatory.nutritionistPodcast Instagram: @lessstressedlifeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lessstressedlifeLeave a review, submit a questions for the podcast or take one of my quizzes here: https://www.christabiegler.com/linksNUTRITION PHILOSOPHY OF LESS STRESSED LIFE: Over restriction is dead; if your practitioner is recommending this, they are stuck in 2010 and not evolvingWhole food is soul food and fed is bestSustainable, synergistic nutrition is in (the opposite of whack-a-mole supplementation & supplement graveyards)You don't have to figure it out aloneDo your best and leave the restEPISODE SPONSOR:A special thanks to Jigsaw Health for sponsoring this episode. Get a discount on any of their products, including my favorite, Pickleball Cocktail. Use the code lessstressed10

www.fivewishes.orgwww.TheConversationProject.org/nhdd/

In this fascinating interview, I sit down with the author of The Big Leap and Your Big Leap Year, Dr. Gay Hendricks! Gay Hendricks has served for more than 30 years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and body-mind therapies. Along with his wife, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks, Gay is the author of many bestsellers, including Conscious Loving, At The Speed Of Life, The Big Leap, and the New York Times bestseller, Five Wishes. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford in 1974. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at University Colorado, he founded The Hendricks Institute, and later co-founded its charitable organization, Foundation for Conscious Living. He was also the founder of a virtual learning center for transformation and a publishing company and was a co-founder of a conscious entertainment company. 

Step into the world of Yvonne Caputo, a storyteller whose narratives echo with the resonance of life's deepest truths. With a gentle yet profound touch, Yvonne unveils the essence of human experience, inviting us to explore the depths of what it is to be human and alive, and the power of mindful presence.Yvonne's journey is not just about storytelling; it's a testament to the transformative power of conversation and connection. Through her books, "Flying With Dad" and "Dying with Dad," she guides us on a journey of self-discovery, grappling with the complexities of grief, loss, and the profound beauty of honoring loved ones' wishes.A Conversation on Life and Death: In our intimate conversation, Yvonne delves into the heart of the matter, asking the questions we often shy away from. Is it possible to prevent death if we had acted differently? How do we want to be remembered in our final days? These questions linger, challenging us to confront our own mortality and that of our loved ones with courage and compassion.So, Yvonne wondered, why do we avoid talking about the end of life until it's too late? It was during her time working in a retirement community that Yvonne discovered the Five Wishes®, sparking a courageous conversation with her father about his end-of-life wishes—a conversation that ultimately shaped the course of their journey together.From Heart-to-Heart: Yvonne's first book, "Flying with Dad," delves into her father's experiences in World War II, but it's the conversations about end-of-life wishes that resonate deeply with readers. In "Dying with Dad," she shares the joy of her father's passing on his own terms—a triumph born from heartfelt discussions and unwavering love."Dying with Dad" serves as a beacon of hope, inspiring us to embrace meaningful discussions about aging, death, and grief. Through Yvonne's guidance, we learn that these conversations aren't just about facing our mortality; they're about embracing life's final chapters with grace and dignity.As our conversation draws to a close, the echoes of Yvonne's wisdom linger, reminding us of the importance of embracing life in all its beauty and complexity. Let us heed her call to have the conversations that matter, before it's too late—illuminating the path towards a life lived fully, with love, with connection, and without regret.Find out more about Yvonne Caputo, and buy her books:https://ingeniumbooks.com/yvonne-caputo/ Find out more about Melissa, breathwork, mindfulness and somatic coaching for individuals and organizations at:https://www.thefullymindful.comOr email me today at: info@thefullymindful.comAnd check out the socials too:)

Gay Hendricks joins us on The Align Podcast, sharing his infinite wisdom on relationships and mind-body transformation that he has applied to his work for over 30 years. In this episode, you can expect to learn about your limiting beliefs, the importance of owning your flaws, discovering your true potential, finding peace in your relationship, and plenty more! This one is overflowing with such beautiful and honest insights, from a man who has dedicated his life to teaching others to love everything. Thank you for tuning in. Don't forget to share this one with your friends and family, we all need a bit of Gay in our lives! Use this podcast as a way of working on yourself, and helping those important to you. If you find yourself coming back to the podcast, hit that follow button and consider leaving us a kind review. I hope you enjoy this episode, and I'll see you again next week! Enjoy the magnificent, Gay Hendricks. More About Gay: Gay Hendricks has served for more than 30 years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and body-mind therapies. Along with his wife, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks, Gay is the author of many bestsellers, including Conscious Loving, At The Speed Of Life, The Big Leap, and the New York Times bestseller, Five Wishes. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford in 1974. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at the University of Colorado, he founded The Hendricks Institute and later co-founded its charitable organization, Foundation for Conscious Living. He was also the founder of a virtual learning center for transformation and a publishing company and was a co-founder of a conscious entertainment company. Throughout his career, he has done executive coaching with more than 800 executives, including the top management at such firms as Dell Computer, Hewlett Packard, Motorola, and KLM. His book, The Corporate Mystic, is used widely to train management in combining business skills and personal development tools. Gay is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu. In recent years he has co-created a popular podcast called The Big Leap with Gay Hendricks and Mike Koenigs. He has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS, and others. Where To Find Gay: Gay Hendricks' Website  Foundation for Conscious Living Hearts in Harmony Facebook Foundation for Conscious Living Facebook Foundation for Conscious Living Twitter/X Gay Hendricks' Twitter/X Big Leap Instagram  Gay Hendricks' Instagram Hendricks' Institute YouTube Gay Hendricks' Books BIOptimizers Nurture your mind and body with BIOptimizers' organic, full-spectrum magnesium supplement. Simply go to bioptimizers.com/align and use promo code ALIGN10 at checkout to save 10 percent.

What does it mean to “have your affairs in order”? Usually, this concept comes up after someone has died or diagnosed with a serious illness. “Did they/do they have their affairs in order?”  What "affairs" are they referring to? Financial allocations? Healthcare power of attorney? Living will? The “legacy contact” for your iPhone?? It's human to want to put off these decisions/plans since it forces us to confront our own mortality. It's not uncommon to have the occasional existential crisis, and certainly those feelings are less than pleasant... How can we make these things less scary and daunting? What if you had a “doctor friend” to help explain end-of-life planning? Do you think you'd be willing to take action if you understood your options better? Well, in today's episode, we did just that! We have a wonderful expert in the field of Palliative Care to help us understand how to navigate end-of-life care, both for ourselves and for the loved ones in our lives. Welcome, Matthew Tyler, MD! Dr. Tyler was a fellowship-trained in Hospice and Palliative Medicine at Northwestern University. He is the Section Chief of Hospice and Palliative care at Ascension Healthcare. He has been providing care for patients in their homes, in the clinic, and in the hospital for over a decade.  He also has a BIG social media presence, with the Instagram and YouTube handle of “How To Train Your Doctor”, where he provides meaningful, kind, information regarding palliative care, hospice, and general end-of-life questions for everyone. His website, howtotrainyourdoctor.com, provides support and resources for navigating serious illness, and is totally free, and so incredibly helpful! Topics covered in today's episode include: What is "hospice"? How is it different than "palliative care"? How does someone qualify for hospice care? Is it covered by insurance? Where is hospice care provided? In a hospital? Nursing home? At home? What is a "healthcare power of attorney"? What is a "living will"? How can you create one? Does "advance directive" mean the same thing? What does "DNR" mean? Are there other options other than "do everything" and "DNR"? What is "respite care"? Dr. Tyler recommends the following resources: PREPARE for your care- a free online resources to navigate end-of-life care. Five Wishes- tools to guide decision-making for end-of-life care options. The Medicare website "find hospice providers near me". Thanks for tuning in, folks! and please sign up for our "PULSE CHECK" monthly newsletter! Signup is easy, right on our website page, and we PROMISE we will not spam you! We just want to send you cool articles, videos and thoughts :) For more episodes, limited edition merch, or to become a Friend of Your Doctor Friends (and more), follow this link! This includes the famous "Advice from the last generation of doctors that inhaled lead" shirt :) Also, CHECK OUT AMAZING HEALTH PODCASTS on The Health Podcast Network   Find us at: Website: yourdoctorfriendspodcast.com  Email: yourdoctorfriendspodcast@gmail.com  Connect with us: @your_doctor_friends (IG) Send/DM us a voice memo/question and we might play it on the show! @yourdoctorfriendspodcast1013 (YouTube) @JeremyAllandMD (IG, FB, Twitter) @JuliaBrueneMD (IG) @HealthPodNet (IG)

In the journey towards our most expansive, genius self, one thing likes to trip us up - our upper limit. You'll see it in every culture, no one goes unscathed. If you've ever noticed how your big mess ups happen after something good happens - you might have an upper limit problem.   Anytime we grow, a loud alarm goes off in our subconscious. Our job is to integrate our “more-ness” so we can truly experience our own lovability, wholeness, and essence.   We have the wonderful treasure of becoming tuned in to our inner landscape, and that can help with the upper limit problem. Like a sophisticated heist crew, we can learn to move and expand without tripping that upper limit alarm.   How do we identify our upper limit problem and make changes without tripping it? How do we let go of our superficial seeing-ness so we can identify energies in people?   In this episode, we're joined by Gay Hendricks, and we talk about his new book “Your Big Leap Year”, how to deal with the Upper Limit Problem, and the beautiful story of how he and Katie met!   The upper limit is our ability to handle more and more things going well. -Katie Hendricks    Three Things You'll Learn In This Episode    -How to identify an expanded essence How do we learn to read energy and get that real-time human data from the people we meet?   -A physical upper limit problem  We often use things like our weight to hide or buttress ourselves against the world and store our genius. How do we know when we're no longer hiding behind those facades?    -Sneak expansion in  How do we create slivers of creativity small enough so that we can expand without tripping the upper limit?   Guest Bio   Gay Hendricks has served for more than 30 years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies. Along with his wife, Dr. Kate Hendricks, Gay is the author of many bestsellers, including Conscious Loving, At The Speed Of Life, The Big Leap, and the New York Times bestseller, Five Wishes. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford in 1974. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at University Colorado, he founded The Hendricks Institute, and later co-founded its charitable organization, Foundation for Conscious Living. He was also the founder of a virtual learning center for transformation and a publishing company, and was a co-founder of a conscious entertainment company. Throughout his career he has done executive coaching with more than 800 executives, including the top management at such firms as Dell Computer, Hewlett Packard, Motorola and KLM. His book, The Corporate Mystic, is used widely to train management in combining business skills and personal development tools. Gay is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu. In recent years he has co-created a popular podcast called The Big Leap with Gay Hendricks and Mike Koenigs. He has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. Buy your copy of Your Big Leap Year here.

The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. And yet, it's an area many of us have regular struggles with. We think the problem is sex, money, how to discipline the children… it's not. In this episode world-renowned, Oprah-endorsed, relationship expert with over 40 years of experience Gay Hendricks pulls back the curtain on this one. He reveals what is REALLY keeping you from the peaceful, harmonious & joyful relationship you are seeking. The answer may well surprise you, just like it did me!  You'll also learn: 01:12 The reasons why relationships are so hard08:50 Sex, money & the kids is NOT the real problem, this is… 13:15 Asking executives in a boardroom: What are you afraid of?15:14 The 4 types reactions that really harm a relationship16:57 Your body holds the clues... are you listening?18:55 When & When NOT to try and resolve a conflict...22:31 Gay & Katie Hendricks have a 40+ year marriage: here are the 3 things he says have made that happen24:38 The unexpected relationship killer (I've never heard this one before!)  41:02 Finding your genius zone to thrive in relationships & in life51:58 3 easy ways to improve your relationship with your partner If you've been a long standing listener of the show and would like to express your gratitude and support the continuation of high-quality weekly content, please pledge your support on Patreon. Lastly, come and say hello on socials! I love hearing from you. InstagramTikTokYouTubeWebsiteResources for Gay Hendricks:Instagram: @hendricks.gayFacebook: Gay HendricksYouTube: hendricksinstituteWebsite: hendricks.com Foundation: foundationforconsciousliving.orgRead: The Big Leap, Five Wishes, Conscious Loving, Conscious Loving Ever After & moreMus

Corey and Cal talk with Paul Malley, President of Aging with Dignity, about Five Wishes. Five Wishes is a legal advanced care planning program without the legalese.  Cal comes a little late because they had a small snafu involving a lack of available ATMs and a tradesman who only accepted cash.Links: Five WishesAging With DignityThe Coalition to Transform Advanced Care (C-TAC)Paul Malley is president of Aging with Dignity, a position to which he was named in 2002. He previously served as the organization's communications director since 1998. With nearly 20 years of experience in the field of aging and advance care planning, Paul is a national expert, frequent speaker, and advocate for quality and dignified care at the end of life. He served on the Florida delegation for the White House Conference on Aging, and is a member of the national Coalition to Transform Advanced Care. Paul holds a Master of Arts degree in Communications from Florida State University.Support the showCheck out our new podcast! The Rub: a podcast about massage therapyGiving Tuesday is over, but you can still support Healwell and the cool things we make by donating here!Other ways to help and join in: Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts Let us know what you think! Send us an email: podcast@healwell.org Find bonus content from Interdisciplinary and early release episodes for our current show: "The Rub" on Patreon! Check Healwell's live and online classes Continue the conversation with a two-week free trial of the Healwell Community Merch! Find your Healwell fashion here Find a copy of Rebecca Sturgeon's book: "Oncology Massage: An Integrative Approach to Cancer Care" Thank you to ABMP for sponsoring Interdisciplinary!...

In this short bonus episode, Yvonne Caputo joins us again (see her episode Flying with Dad) and takes us on a personal ride through the heart and soul of Five Wishes. She shares how this game-changing document lets you call the shots on your healthcare – from who's in charge when you can't decide, to the kind of treatment you do or don't want. It's like leaving a note for your family and doctors on how you want to be treated, ensuring your wishes are known and respected. Join Yvonne in this candid chat about the power of Five Wishes and the peace it brings to life's tougher moments. Five Wishes Website

Talk Money with Jim ShoemakerJoin Jim Shoemaker, Paul Malley, and Scott Jordan to discuss “Your Five Wishes,” "National Caregivers Month,” and “Answers to Your Investment Questions.” Daniel Irwin will take us back to “Scam School – In the 901”.                                          "Helping You Make the Most of Your Money Jim Shoemaker, CFP, ChFC, is an investment advisor representative offering advisory services through Cetera Investment Advisers, a registered investment adviser. Securities offered through Cetera Advisor Networks, member FINRA/SIPC. Cetera is under separate ownership from any other named entity. Shoemaker Financial is independently owned and operated. 2176 West St, Ste. 100, Germantown, TN 38138

Talk Money with Jim ShoemakerJoin Jim Shoemaker, Paul Malley, and Scott Jordan to discuss “Your Five Wishes,” "National Caregivers Month,” and “Answers to Your Investment Questions.”  Daniel Irwin will take us back to “Scam School – In the 901”.                                          "Helping You Make the Most of Your Money Jim Shoemaker, CFP, ChFC, is an investment advisor representative offering advisory services through Cetera Investment Advisers, a registered investment adviser. Securities offered through Cetera Advisor Networks, member FINRA/SIPC. Cetera is under separate ownership from any other named entity. Shoemaker Financial is independently owned and operated. 2176 West St, Ste. 100, Germantown, TN 38138

Anne loves a thrilling tale, and there are a few in Anne of Windy Poplars that are perfect for a very spooky Halloween episode of Kindred Spirits Book Club. Ragon and Kelly examine Anne's years on Spook's Lane through the lens of graveyard stories and haunted mansions. Highlights include Kelly's discussion of Gothic literature, and Ragon's upcoming Halloween party! Inspired by: Ragon is inspired by spooky games like Betrayal At House On The Hill and  Gloom. Kelly is inspired to make decisions about the end of life with Five Wishes. If you want to get a free logo sticker from us, either leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or share your love for the pod on social media!  Send us a photo of your share or review at either our email: kindredspirits.bookclub@gmail.com or on our KindredSpirits.BookClub Instagram. 

In this episode, Madi is joined by psychologist and The Big Leap author, Gay Hendricks to chat about his teachings in The Big Leap, and conscious loving! Madi has learned a lot from Gay's written pieces, and frequently uses them in her teachings. This is an episode you're not going to want to miss!   Gay Hendricks has served for more than 30 years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies. Along with his wife, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks, Gay is the author of many bestsellers, including Conscious Loving, At The Speed Of Life, The Big Leap, and the New York Times bestseller, Five Wishes. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford in 1974. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at University Colorado, he founded The Hendricks Institute, and later co-founded its charitable organization, Foundation for Conscious Living. He was also the founder of a virtual learning center for transformation and a publishing company and was a co-founder of a conscious entertainment company. Throughout his career he has done executive coaching with more than 800 executives, including the top management at such firms as Dell Computer, Hewlett Packard, Motorola and KLM. His book, The Corporate Mystic, is used widely to train management in combining business skills and personal development tools. Gay is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu. In recent years he has co-created a popular podcast called The Big Leap with Gay Hendricks and Mike Koenigs. He has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others   We hope you absolutely love this one!  ♡  Gay's Website Gay's Twitter Gay's Instagram Hendrick's Institute YouTube Big Leap Instagram Foundation for Conscious Living Website Foundation for Conscious Living Twitter Relationship Advice from Katie & Gay Foundation for Conscious Living Facebook ♡ Madi's Offerings (retreats + programs)  ♡  BREAKING BUTTERFLY HOTLINE ANONYMOUS SUBMISSION DISCORD ♡  Breaking Butterfly Instagram  Madi's Instagram  Madi's Website 

— Is it possible that you could have prevented your father's death if you had saved him? In spite of the fact that this was what he wanted, wasn't that difficult? ” When we die, how do we want others to remember us? In our final days, how do we want to be treated? Death is nothing new to Yvonne Caputo. In her early thirties, she was able to name seventeen family members and friends who had passed away. Claude and his son Jimmy, both dead by suicide, her cousin Alan, murdered in Central Park, and her brother Mark, killed in a car accident, were among those who died. Each of these deaths left her with many questions, the most important of which was: Why don't we talk about the end of life before the end of life? While working in a retirement community, Yvonne learned about the Five Wishes®, a legal document that expresses a person's end-of-life wishes beyond an advance directive. She decided to broach this difficult subject with her dad. What would the outcome of discussing such a dark subject be? Yvonne Caputo's first book, Flying with Dad, was about her father's experiences in World War II. But this wasn't what readers focused their questions on. Instead, they asked her about how she and her dad talked about what he wanted for his end-of-life experiences, how she walked him through his Five Wishes document and how, when the day came, she stopped the paramedics from reviving him. In Dying with Dad, Yvonne shares the joy she felt when her father died on his terms. And the reason she knew what those terms were was because they had had a heart-to-heart conversation about it before it was too late. Dying with Dad inspires us to think about meaningful discussions for when we or our loved ones are aging or preparing for death. Discussions about death and grief, but also about crossing the finish line joyfully and triumphantly. You can have the conversations that matter, before it's too late. Valeria interviews Yvonne Caputo  — She is the author of Flying with Dad: A Daughter. A Father. And the Hidden Gifts in His Stories from WWII and Dying with Dad: Tough Talks for Easier Endings.  Yvonne Caputo is also a psychotherapist, corporate trainer, a consultant, and she has been a teacher and the head of a human resource department in a retirement community. She has a master's degree in education and clinical psychology.  To learn more about Yvonne Caputo and her work, please visit: https://ingeniumbooks.com/yvonne-caputo/               — This podcast is a quest for well-being, a quest for a meaningful life through the exploration of fundamental truths, enlightening ideas, insights on physical, mental, and spiritual health. The inspiration is Love. The aspiration is to awaken new ways of thinking that can lead us to a new way of being, being well. 

Episode Summary This week on Live Like the World is Dying, Inmn is rejoined by Wōen and Roxanne from the Woven Ends Collective to talk about death, dying, and the work of death doulas. Host Info Inmn can be found on Instagram @shadowtail.artificery. Publisher Info This show is published by Strangers in A Tangled Wilderness. We can be found at www.tangledwilderness.org, or on Twitter @TangledWild and Instagram @Tangled_Wilderness. You can support the show on Patreon at www.patreon.com/strangersinatangledwilderness. Transcript Live Like the World is Dying: Woven Ends on Death & Dying pt. II Inmn 00:15 Hello, and welcome to Live Like the World is Dying, your podcast for what feels like the end times. I'm your host today again Inmn Neruin and I use they/them pronouns. We're back again this week to finish up our chat with Wōen and Roxy from the Woven Ends Collective to talk about death and dying. I'm not sure exactly where the episode got cut in half, but today we're probably going to hear a lot more about caring for people who are dying and the work of a death doula. Like last week, we're talking about some heavy stuff but in the spirit of building more resilient communities that can prepare for the end times together in all ways. And again, we hope that conversations like this can help shift how people talk about death and dying. And, we don't want to bring this stuff up to either romanticize death or to incite fear of death. It's just going to happen. And I know I would like for my circles to have all the resources that they need when I die. And oh please, god, don't embalm me. I really, really, really want to rot. Does this count as a power of attorney? As we learned last week, no, it does not. Content warning again. At some point we talked about the idea of choosing to die from the perspective of being terminally ill. But before we go into it, we are a proud member of the Channel Zero Network of anarchist podcasts and here's a jingle from another show on that network. Doo doo doo doo doo [Singing the words like a melody] Molotov Now 01:48 Yeah, welcome to Molotov Now, a podcast about taking action. Molotov Now 01:59 In Molotov Now, we analyze and discuss news articles and stories of resistance from around the globe and connect them to our struggles here at home in Aberdeen, Washington. Molotov Now 02:09 In the spirit of building solidarity between the rural and the urban, we hope to inspire direct action in the face of oppression and to light a fire to find each other in the darkness. Inmn 02:29 So what is kind of the pathway from like, say that I die tomorrow--I die in a hospital--like what is the pathway between like, I die in a hospital and my friends bury me in our home cemetery? Like, how does the possession of my remains work? Like, in Little Miss Sunshine, are people gonna have to pay to get my corpse? Like, can they get my corpse? Like, how does that work? Wōen 03:04 Yeah, so you don't...you know, whoever is the designated person, so either the next of kin legally or the legally designated healthcare power of attorney who was also your power of attorney over your disposition, they will have the rights to your body, and you do not have to...If you die at a hospital, you're not going to have to pay to have the body released to you. What normally happens is the hospital will give a family a list of funeral homes, and then from there you'd call the funeral home, then the funeral home will do all the transportation. And then, you often won't even see that exchange from the hospital to the funeral home. You'd go to the funeral home and make arrangements and go from there. But, as the person with the rights, you can do all of that yourself. You can go pick them up and drive them to where they need to be. It's--and this is where like educating around things like bodily care and home funerals is really important--because there are logistical things you need to think about with transportation and caring for the body at home. And so, it can be a little daunting to do on your own, but, you know, if there's a lot of people supporting you, it's actually not very hard. Like, the intimidation factor is the hardest part. And, you know, having a vehicle that can get you home and a space where you can do the burial, those are really the next parts. And we all kind of know inherently how to do these rituals. Like once you enter into that space, it's really beautiful like how people just like fall into these different roles that they feel really confident in. And, yeah. So I would say, you know, if you're not going on that normal mode from hospital to funeral home to cemetery, like having a lot of people involved to care for the process is...Yeah, it's very doable and beautiful. Inmn 05:52 Cool. Will--this is a weird logistical question, but I feel like this is kind of, you know, what we're here for--like, say, if I die, and I die in a hospital and like, say my family, chosen family, support network, which, you know, whoever it is, and we're trying to do like a home burial and they're not ready to, you know, take possession of my body, like will the hospital hold on to it for a little while? In like a refrigerator? Like, what if they're not ready for it? What if they like...you know, obviously, I just died. Maybe they need a week to deal with it. But, they don't want me embalmed and want to take possession of my remains. Wōen 06:54 I can't say the exact timeline, I think it's probably a different state by state, but there is a limit on how long a person can stay at a hospital morgue. So that's a good thing to know where you are. But, another good thing to know is that often you can work with funeral homes to just do transportation or cold storage to give you time. And so I think that would be the best pathway is like, "Okay, we're not ready. Let's call a funeral home and just get them to pick our person up and put them in cold storage. And that will give us time to breathe and figure out what we need to do. And then from there, like you can ask them to, you know, transport them to where they need to go or you can pick them up from the funeral home. You can chip away at what the funeral home is offering. And some, you know, sometimes it'll be met with a little resistance. But like, you can have people tasked with advocating, and having more people to negotiate with different parts of the process is really helpful. Inmn 08:18 Yeah, cool. That is good to know. So I feel like we keep going back to this power of attorney. If I get a medical power of attorney, does that extend to my remains? Like does who has my medical power of attorney also have the rights to the...to my disposition, or? Wōen 08:50 Yeah, the answer is yes. And, it's important to get a good Advanced Directive. Some Advanced Directives don't have a section for disposition and it's important to get one that does. Because if it doesn't, then that is a situation where there could be like...Yeah, where if it's contested on who has rights, the advance directive could fall short. So, knowing that your Advanced Directive has that part, that section, in it is really important. Not all do and it sucks. So, figuring out that you have the right kind of Advanced Directive, and a lot of them do, but some of the popular ones--like the Five Wishes, which is really popular--it doesn't have that section in there. You can write it in yourself. But, if you're doing it and don't have guidance and have never done it before, that part can be missed. And then yeah. And then you could lose that right if it gets contested or there's a situation. Yeah. Inmn 10:18 It's so weird that I think that this is like so--and maybe this is part of it is that in my head all of these decisions are these weird legal red tape or I'm like...I'm surprised to hear and, you know, grateful to hear that my friends could just get my body and do whatever...like, do what--not whatever they want with it...Like, hopefully do what I want them to do. [Everyone laughing] But, it's dispelling this myth that I have died and the State owns me, that the State owns my body and the State determines what happens to it. Like, I had this question for y'all where I was like, "Okay, but how do I get my...like...How do I get the name that I go by, and that people know me in the world by, on my tombstone instead of my legal name?" And it's like...it's...because in my head the Social Security Administration is who sends the form to the stone carver to make that and I'm like, "Why do I have these these weird myths in my head about, like, who owns my body?" Wōen 11:40 I mean, because we live in...Like, when we're, you know, quote unquote, "healthy," we're dealing with that every day. Like people owning our time. You know, the Capitalist...Yeah, the Capitalist greed has infected all parts of our body. Yeah, it's really easy to assume that it will affect us after death too. Yeah. And on your note about your stone, like a headstone, yeah, you can put whatever you want on it, honestly. Like, it's up to you and the stone carver and the cemetery. There's no law or regulation around that. It's whoever has the rights of disposition. Inmn 12:35 Yeah, yeah. And I know, Wōen, that you have to go in a second, so I just have this one last question. And, you know, maybe this is more of a Roxy question or...I don't know. So, I can have a home burial. Can I? Can I die at home? Are there complications to me--like legal complications for my friends--to like...Say, I'm having some kind of medical emergency, and my friends know in my power of attorney that I don't want anything done, that there are interventions that are...like that I've like excluded, like CPR or anything, and I'm in a situation where I need CPR. If they watch me die, is that legally complicated for them? Roxanne 13:30 No, actually. Well, I mean, it could be in the way that there would have to be a lot of proving different things. But it's not illegal to die at home. It's also not illegal to choose death. So maybe slight content warning, you know, it's not illegal to choose to die. And, you don't put other people at risk for any kind of weird legal things for being present when, for example, if someone chose to die and you were there, that's not a legal issue. Wōen 14:20 Yeah, yeah. Just to, you know, be mindful that if there isn't a doctor involved or, you know, ongoing palliative care, like hospice, it's considered to be unexpected in a way. So, whenever, like, say you die at home, whoever finds you or that's there, they need to call emergency services, EMS, and usually, you know, you can tell them to come quietly with their lights off, but they'll need to come. And if there isn't a clear, you know, reason or like you can't, you know...Often the medical examiner, or always the medical examiner, will need to be there if there isn't a doctor involved. And then that often means that police can be there too. So it's, you know, if you have the choice to plan on that, just everyone involved, you know, in planning, like create a complete safety plan around that. Because, that will be the response that EMS will need to come and sometimes the police too. Roxanne 15:53 And the situation really varies. Like in Washington State, I volunteer doing medical aid and dying support. So I go and sit with people who have a terminal diagnosis that have been given six or less months left to live and they ingest a medication that ends their life. So like in those situations, you know, doctors have signed off on it. People know. But, folks are absolutely dying at home. And, we have loose terms around what "home" is in that case. But yeah, and in those situations, for example, maybe a patient did have hospice, we'll call hospice. Otherwise, you know, we'll call the medical examiners or you like...You have to notify someone. But yeah, dying at home--and honestly, I know that this can also be like an issue of resources, and this could be a complicating statement--but I feel like if it is possible, and you feel safe to die at home, and the people that are in your home feel safe with you dying at home, that to me, that is a really ideal scenario and is a really comfortable and safe and nice place to no longer have to exist in. Inmn 17:32 Yeah, yeah. Do you have to go, Wōen? Wōen 17:35 I do. Thank you so much. Inmn 17:38 Yeah. If there's any kind of last things that you want to say before you go or like anything you want to plug...But also, we didn't really get into this as much and I would love to have you back on to talk about this, but would love to at some point have you back on to talk more about grief and like mourning. If that's something that you want to talk about. Not now but at a later situation. Wōen 18:09 Totally. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I think we both would have a really awesome perspective on that. Probably different. It's all different. So. Yeah, that'd be sweet. Inmn 18:27 Yeah. Great. Great. Well, thanks so much for coming on. Roxanne 18:31 Yeah, yeah. Hope you have a beautiful day and that it's not too hot. See you. Inmn 18:41 So I wanted to kind of double back on this question that came up before and it's...Yeah, I guess that it's a little unrelated to this, but we keep going back to the medical power of attorney. I feel like this is like the golden point of the episode is get a power of attorney. Inmn 19:08 And does my hospital debt also pass on to my power of attorney or does that? How does hospital debt work? Like, if I die and there are unpaid hospital bills like what happens? Where does that go? Roxanne 19:08 Yes. Roxanne 19:44 Yeah, that's a great question. I don't fully have the answer to that. It wouldn't just go to someone because they're your power of attorney. That would be more like the person who has control of your assets. So, yeah, in those scenarios, the person who has financial control would be the one that would then, you know, is supposed to settle up. But I, honestly, that's not my powerhouse. So I'm not totally sure. Yeah. Yeah, I don't have the answer to that. I'm so sorry. Oh, Inmn 20:46 No worries. You know, I'm here to...I love bringing up questions even if it, even if there's no clear answers to them Inmn 20:55 I was thinking of the situation where, you know, I do love my family. I don't think I want them controlling my remains, which is...I don't think my family listens to the show. So, hopefully, they didn't hear that. But, let's say I, you know, if I, you know, if I hated my family, then, I'm imagining this situation where I've given my medical power of attorney and the rights to my disposition to, you know, my chosen family. And then...but, financially that my assets are still tied to my next of kin. So, I could give all the good parts to my friends and then shirk that debt off on my piece of shit family. Which, you know, that's a hypothetical. I love my family. All my families. Roxanne 20:55 Totally. Roxanne 21:57 Yeah, that's a spicy...That's a spicy suggestion/question. I like it. Inmn 22:05 Yeah. Or, I don't know. It makes me think about like, I had a friend who--this was years and years ago--and I think we were all 22 or something, and they were like, "Oh, I have to go sign these weird documents today." And I was like, "Oh, why?" And they're like, "Oh, my friend is making me the trustee for their life insurance policy." And I was like, "Oh, a 22 year old is getting a life insurance policy?" And they're like, "Yeah, So, if this person accidentally dies, like, I will get a million dollars." And I was like, "Yeah, that is...Okay. Yeah. How do we,"--not how do we scam death because that's not what's going on--but like, I'm wondering, thinking about how do we set people up for if something does happen to us, that instead of inheriting debt, they're getting money or something? I don't know. Roxanne 23:09 Definitely. And there are people thinking of that. And I think it's so cool. And yeah, I think that that could be a really great way to resource a community also, you know? Being like, okay, death is inevitable. Some of us are going to die younger than others. As many of us as we possibly can, like, maybe we should be all throwing together and have kind of like a big mass life insurance thing pool where everyone...You know, to make sure everyone can get a policy. And within that you can, you know, ask that those funds go into whatever community project or, you know, or to people that, you know, that could really benefit from that resource. Yeah, I think that that's really smart. And the cool thing, too, is, you know, obviously, depending on state and depending on the policy, it covers all different kinds of death, including chosen death. And that's not always true. But, there are many cases in which that is true. You just have to have the policy for a certain amount of years or, you know, there's circumstances in which that's also the case, which I think is good to remember. Inmn 24:41 Yeah. Which it's like, obviously, I would...I'm gonna put all of, as many resources as I can, into people in my community not dying. But... Roxanne 24:52 Yes. Inmn 24:53 But, we are, you know, like you said, we are all going to die and unfortunately we do live in a rapidly changing world, and a world that has always been, you know, very dangerous for queer people, for trans people, for people of color, for disabled people, for, you know, all of these different kinds of people. And I...It's like, I never...I just never want...I never want to see a mutual aid or crowdfunding request for extreme funeral expenses, you know? And, because it's like that...it's obviously important to be able to mourn someone and celebrate someone in the ways that they want it or in not rushed ways or in ways that aren't financially ripping people's lives apart. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, just some things to think about. Roxanne 26:05 Totally. Yeah, definitely. Inmn 26:09 To switch gears a little bit, you have spent a lot of time hanging out with people while they're dying, and I'm wondering if you wanted to talk about that a little bit. I feel like I don't have any super specific questions around that. But, it's something that I'm...something that I'm very unfamiliar with and wish I--I mean, I don't wish that people that I was close to were dying--but, you know, I always want tools for navigating those experiences when they do happen. Roxanne 26:49 Yeah. So I feel like getting to spend time with people in their last few moments is such a special and specific form of intimacy that can't really be recreated. You know, I feel like death workers tend to--and I've also been guilty of this myself--just talk about, like, how beautiful the, you know, this process is and what a gift it is to get to be in the space. And, I believe and agree with all of that. And, I also know that for grieving people, it doesn't always feel beautiful to watch your loved one...You know, maybe their body looks different than you're used to. Or, you know, like to watch someone go through this, sort of change, this metamorphosis. doesn't always feel special and beautiful to people when they're grieving. So I don't...I don't want to negate the heaviness of it. But, I think, you know, in a way, it is really beautiful and it is really special. And, you know, they say that hearing is the last thing to go, so something that I always urge family members, when they're in the room with someone who seems like, you know, like they can't interact with you, they're just breathing and, you know, you can't really like have much interaction with them, is just to talk to them and tell them the things that either, you know, last words that you wish that you could tell them or I think oftentimes dying people want permission, want permission to die. And, you know, if people can, I really encourage them in those last moments, those last bits, to just like, you know, to release someone from this, from this Earthly existence. And I don't, you know, I have...I am not going to speak to whether or not we just die, whether or not there's an afterlife, or, you know, that's not my wheelhouse, but I do know that it feels so nice to know that someone is letting you know that it's okay to go. You know? And, that, you know, people are going to be okay. Like what a relief and what a gift that can be to someone. Yeah. And the whole point of all of this, including, you know, the Advanced Directives and having your disposition stuff figured out, all of this is just to set us up to be able to provide the people that we love more time and space to grieve in ways that feel appropriate for them. You know, the more decisions we make for them about how to deal with the fact that we've died. That's just offering up so much space. And then, people get to really be in their process if, you know, if they can. Sometimes it takes people years to grieve. But, you know, as much as we can set them up for success, I think that's the best case scenario. Inmn 31:07 Yeah. Yeah. I feel like I know the answer to this, but just to vocalize that as a question, like, is it important for a death doula to be close to the person that they are providing end of life care for? And...Or how would, how would you phrase those words, What terms? What terms would you use? Roxanne 31:34 I guess I want to make sure that I understand the question. Like, do you mean physically close? Or do you mean, is it important that the death doula be in relation and community with that person? Inmn 31:50 The latter. Yeah. Roxanne 31:51 Yeah, definitely not. I think that that is a wonderful scenario. And when that can happen, like, what a beautiful gift and the depths that you can go to together in like figuring out this process is just like, even better. But I think, you know, sometimes people really want someone who's kind of removed. Because, some of this, sadly, is our transactional decisions. And sometimes it feels a little too close to home or someone can't be fully honest with someone that they know really well and they want sort of...kind of like a stranger buffer, kind of like why some of us choose therapists, you know? Like, you want this kind of like outside resource that you can reflect and say things that you might not want to say to someone that you really love, you know? I think that it can be a similar thing. So, you know, I think it's great when it can happen, that it be someone that you're close to. And I also understand why some people want it to be a stranger. There's benefits to both. Inmn 33:25 Yeah. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. It's...I feel weird to bring this component into it. And I don't really remember these books. And I've also heard that the author is questionable, like a lot of people in the world. But, there was this concept that, you know, I'm half remembering from a book. Have you ever read "Speaker for the Dead?" [Roxanne makes a sound of negation] It's this book by Orson Scott Card, who...Yeah, I don't know, maybe there's questionable things, I don't know. But it proposed this, you know, this concept of this person who was this speaker for the dead and this person's role was to go around and facilitate these rituals or these processes around people who had died and, you know, they're pointedly like, not even necessarily part of that community. And, you know, they've maybe never...they've probably never interacted with even like the living person. And I, you know, I found that concept super interesting and alluring when I was 12 and reading these books, which is ultimately not really what that book was about, but the concept of a "speaker for the dead" or like...that's maybe not even necessarily like what a death doula is...It was just super interesting and intriguing to me. Roxanne 35:09 Yeah. Yeah, that sounds really cool. The thing that I thought of when you said that was just thinking about like feeling cautious around some of that, like as a white person, making sure that you are not walking into communities of color and trying to tell them how to grieve and what a funerary process can look like and things like that. So yeah, I think it's interesting to think about, like, the outsider piece. And also, yeah. Sounds like that's not what the book was saying. But that's what it brought up for me. Just thinking about...Yeah, I know, I keep mentioning how death work and birth work are so similar, but I think both things have historically been, you know, really white washed, and have been given to more privileged communities, you know? Like, many good forms of care are saved for extreme privilege. But, hopefully we're changing that. Inmn 36:44 Yeah, yeah, totally. Um, one kind of like, I guess, you know, post-life death mourning celebratory experience--flailing for words--Turns out our culture doesn't have a lot of words for talking about these things. Maybe that's part of the problem. Yeah. But like, one thing that I've heard about--I've never experienced one--that I was always like...that sounds amazing. And, you know, I'm not part of this culture. So, you know, I'm not gonna have one or anything. I just think it's beautiful, is the idea of second lines, which are a thing in New Orleans. I don't know if they're specific to New Orleans. Do you know much about second lines? I feel like I'm bringing up a concept... Roxanne 37:34 They're so beautiful. Yeah. I don't feel like it would be appropriate for me to really explain it, because it's also not my culture, but I think that it's such a--I have seen second lines--and I think that it's such a beautiful and, you know, joyous way for community to come together and mourn and grieve together and dance and scream. And yeah, it's such a beautiful ritual. That is what I can say about it, is that it's absolutely such a beautiful ritual. Yeah, and I hope that, you know, we can think of and create more and more beautiful rituals as we go along on ways to both celebrate and grieve at the same time, because those two things really, you know, joy and grief really love each other. We often treat them as opposites, but they are...Because of one, we have the other. And, it's such a beautiful blend. Inmn 37:35 Yeah, yeah. I feel like this is getting into a territory that I absolutely want to talk about more, but I also really want to have y'all back on at some point to talk about mourning and grieving and kind of like post-death experiences. Roxanne 39:12 Would love to do that. Inmn 39:14 Wonderful. So yeah, I don't want to get into it too much. But um...Yeah, are there any other kinds of things about kind of like death doulaing...death--being a death doula, that you want to bring into this into this conversation? I'm sorry, I don't have any...I'm super intrigued by it, but I don't have any super specific questions. Roxanne 39:39 Yeah, totally. You know, the thing that I think I would talk more about but I don't exactly know how to really get it going is to talk about "Death with Dignity," sort of. Like, "Right to Die," stuff, because it is really changing in this country right now. And, it's really exciting. And, there are definitely aspects of it that are contentious. But, I feel really privileged to be someone that has gotten to experience this pretty extreme form of autonomy and self-direction that I find really inspiring and intense and brave. And, I don't really know...You know, it's like my role and capacity as someone who sits with people making these choices isn't as a death doula. It's just as a volunteer, a member of a community, who deeply believes and advocates for the fact that people shouldn't have to die alone. And I think because of this specialization thing that we've touched on a few times, people don't feel confident dying or sitting with people while they die, or, you know, all...pretty much all of the things that we've been talking about in this episode. And I think the more that we're educating each other, the more that we're talking about these things as a community, asking questions, the more confident we will be in approaching these situations and making autonomous, and educated, and self-directed decisions for ourselves. And, that's really the point here is autonomy and self-determination. And as a queer, as an anarchist, you know, like, all of the things that that feels like such an important place, that we're not just trying to figure out the things in our life, but that we're also figuring out those things in our death. Inmn 42:22 Do you--God, this is a weird question--but do you have any tips for people who are...who are sitting with people who are dying, or holding space or like caring for people who are dying, who, you know...people who aren't death doulas? Like say, that person's friends and loved ones. Roxanne 42:46 Totally. Like someone sitting with their grandmother, for just an example or something like that, you know, ask questions, if at all possible. If verbal communication is a possibility, I would ask questions. Touch. Touch each other. I feel like that's such a powerful gift and tool that we can use. You know, I think because we lack the confidence in death and dying, you know, it's almost like, "Oh, somebody just died, Like, I'm not allowed to touch them," like it becomes a crime scene or something. And that's not the case. When my father died, I absolutely climbed into bed and just laid next to him for a long time. And, that felt like such an important part of my healing process. And that might not be true for other people, but yeah, I really encourage people to really, as much as they feel comfortable, to be hands on, ask questions, and if it seems like, you know, if this is a consenting situation. You know, I recorded my dad breathing a lot. Just so that way I could have something when I felt like I really needed that, that I could go back to and listen. And yeah, I think...Yeah, asking questions, inviting vulnerability where you have capacity for, and asking for help. If you need help, that's okay. And I feel like sometimes, you know, sometimes we feel like, "I'm the only one that can handle this." I feel like so often in grief, we really feel like we're the only ones that have been through a situation. And there might be specifics to what we're going through that are specific to our individual situation. But, the more and more people you talk to about this, you know, like, most people have lost someone, have been through some kind of stage of grief. And even if we feel alone, we're not actually alone. And when we find the capacity to open up and let other people into that space of grief with us, you'll find that there are so many people that can share similar experiences with you. But you know, that's all when people are ready. Inmn 45:27 Yeah. Yeah, totally. I like...I'm gonna have a weird moment of vulnerability and honesty with...the world. But, you know, like, I, when I've had people who I have been close to die, like, I have noticed that I like...I shut down a little bit. And it's hard for me to understand how to interact with someone, I think, you know, because of this, like this weird divide that we have around death, this thing where it's like, "Do we do we talk about it? Do we talk about this person dying? Like, you know, with that person?" And I think this thing that I always wonder is I'm like, "What do people want?" Like that...What have you found people want when they're dying? When they're sick? When they have terminal conditions that everyone is aware about? Like? Yeah, what? What do people want? What I imagine they don't want are these awkward conversations where no one's really talking about it or people are hyper focusing on it. And like, I get caught in the...Like, where's the middle ground between those things? And like, personally, I'm like, I don't know, I can be--not like blunt--but just like super willing to talk about awkward things that are in the room. Yeah, I don't know. That's a weird, broad question. But yeah, what do people want when they're sick? Or? Roxanne 47:08 Yeah, I think that's a great question. And obviously, it's gonna depend person to person. And because of that, I think really just, you know, use your active listening skills and follow their lead. It's absolutely okay to ask questions. I feel like, in some instances, people really want to talk about what's going on with them, or the things that they're scared of, or resolving some aspects of conflict. And sometimes, people want to act like it's not happening at all, you know? And sometimes...And a part of that is people holding out, you know, some form of hope that at the, you know, at the 11th hour, something's gonna come in and change their situation. And there's a lot of different reasons for how engaged people do or don't want to be. But, I think it's always okay--You know, people are so worried about saying the wrong thing. And I don't really think that that's...I don't really think that that's possible. I think that as long as you're approaching someone with love, and compassion, and you're not pushing anything, if you get the impression, or someone says that they don't want to talk about something, let them be the guide and don't push it. But, I think oftentimes, you know, people might not want to, you know, constantly be harboring on, you know, the terminal cancer that they have or something. So, you can ask them about aspects of their day that brought them joy, you know? It doesn't have to be--just because someone's dying, that's not the end of their life, until they die. So, you know, there's still a lot of room for joy, and connection, and intimacy that has nothing to do with the inevitability of their situation. And, you know, I think that's true for for grieving people too, which maybe we'll touch on in the future, but I feel like when someone has someone close to them that dies, you know, people might not--oftentimes people don't talk to them about that because they're worried about, you know, bringing up something that feels hard or, you know, they just don't--people are scared of not having the right thing to say. And I think that, you know, asking questions and allowing people space to communicate their needs and desires. And, you know, for me, when I'm sitting with patients' families after they die, one of my favorite questions is to ask them about a story or like to ask them to tell me something that they really loved about that person. And that's, that can be like a really special moment because people, you know, we all like to brag on our people and bring that softness into the room and give people the opportunity to just really express gratitude and joy around the thing that they're, that they're gonna miss. Yeah. Inmn 50:43 Yeah, yeah. It feels like this isn't, you know, too much of a surprise, but from everything that you've just described, it seems like the best way to interact with people is to continue treating them like a person and having these humble and inhuman interactions in ways that you, you know, in the ways that we hope that we're interacting with or treating loved ones in all parts of our life already. Roxanne 51:18 Exactly. Inmn 51:20 But, it's like when death is suddenly a factor, when sickness is suddenly a factor, it's like something changes. And I don't know, does that, does that feel true? Or, I guess, that's something I experience, so I guess it's true. But like, yeah, what do you have to say about that? Roxanne 51:46 Yeah, I think it can change. And I think that keeping our eyes on how those things are changing, you know, is important. Like, maybe you have a close friend who's dying. So, obviously it feels like something is changing. But again, like, as we just said, like treating those people like people, asking about their day, you know, the more kind of mundane things, and yeah, I guess, like...I guess what I was thinking is like, questioning, like, you know, potential for internalized ableism around how things are changing, or why they're changing, and making sure that we aren't projecting that change on to someone unnecessarily. Because things are changing, all the time, every day, in every situation, for all of us. Whether we're facing an imminent life ending situation or not. Yeah, maybe that's not exactly the question that you were asking, but... Inmn 53:09 Oh, no. Yeah, I think that definitely covers it. I thought of this other thing while you were talking about that that was, I feel like, it's like, maybe the thing that changes sometimes is like, when someone, when we know that someone is sick or going to die, or likely going to die, or it's a question in the room, it's like a--this is not the word that I want to use, but I don't know what other word to use--It's suddenly like they are like...God, I really don't want to use this word. Really gonna try to think of another one. Not like a pariah, but like, it's like they're like...It's like a--I can't think of another word to use, so I'm just going to use it--and obviously this word has like different contexts--but it's like almost like an othering experience where like, this person is suddenly just something else. And--or like an alien. That's also not the word but like... Roxanne 54:24 Fragile? Is it fragile? Inmn 54:26 Yeah, maybe fragile? Roxanne 54:28 Yeah, I think, you know, giving space for the potential of fragility makes sense. But, I think it's also really important to not treat people like they're fragile just because they're dying or just because they're extremely sick, unless they have signified to you that that is a way that they want be interacted with. You know? I think I've definitely heard that a lot, especially from, you know, I was an oncology nurse for a long time. And I feel like I heard that a lot of my oncology patients were just being like, "Yes, I have cancer. Yes, I'm fucking dying. No, I don't want to be treated like I'm, you know, suddenly incapable of making decisions for myself or like everything is gonna hurt me or..." you know? Like, yeah, they're the--I think that it is really, you bring up a really good point about the othering aspect, and I think that that's like, from my understanding, a lot of what disability justice stuff is working on, is trying to shift the narrative of that othering. And, because... Inmn 56:02 Yeah, because that's like, that's a big thing for disability communities in our society is that they kind of get othered in this way or like... Inmn 56:15 I don't know, is that...We don't have a ton of time, but I would love to, if you have anything to say about bringing kind of that lens into this conversation of death, dying, and the conjunction with disability. It could be a larger conversation...Yeah, it could be an entire... Roxanne 56:15 Yeah. Roxanne 56:36 It could be its own...That is a very very large conversation. But, I think as far as how we treat each other, just yeah, really following people's lead and believing them when they say how they do or don't want to be treated. And that's true for all forms of living. That's true for all forms of dying, you know? Just making sure that we're checking ourselves, not projecting our own sense of urgency on each other, and just letting those people--meaning in this situation, people that are dying--you know, direct how things go. And yeah, there's really so much that can be said on that topic. And I'm so happy that you touched on it. Inmn 57:35 Yeah, I feel bad just touching on it. But it's kind of like where the conversation ended up flowing. But, which...Yeah, I guess. Yeah, I guess what I would just love to say about in this more brief context is that it seems like a lot of things that are applicable to the world of death and dying are things that disabled people have been talking about for a very long time already and like doing a lot of work around. Obviously, they're not the same things, but they're, seems like there's similar things that come up in both of these situations. And yeah, we should do a different other episode about that whole conversation. Roxanne 58:34 Yeah, there's so much to be said. And this is a really important thing to talk about. So yeah. Mhmm. Inmn 58:43 Yeah. Um, with that, we are kind of coming up on the end of our time for this, what turned into a two-parter episode, as much as I would love to make it a three parter episode, I probably can't talk for another hour. But yeah, obviously, I would love to have you and Wōen, and or like other people from Woven Ends to come back on and like talk about grief and mourning and celebration even. Yeah, and I just want to mention this because it's a piece--obviously, we could do a whole episode about this too. There's so many things to talk about. But, so you used to do a workshop about death and dying. And, that's actually what got me interested in doing this episode is that I went to one of these workshops, you know, years and years and years ago. And, as we've been doing this podcast, it's been this constant question in my mind, is like, "How do we prepare for death as a community?" And you know, maybe we can do an episode in the future that's just about that. But, there's this little piece from it that I just want to bring into this conversation that I, you know, probably could have gone in a different spot of the talk. But, obviously, we need to...The important thing is to have conversations as a community about death, about dying, about preparing to die, or preparing to get sick, or preparing to have some large life changing thing happen. And one of the things that that brought up for me was this idea that like, you know, a lot of people, especially queer and trans people, have some amount of separation between their lives and their biological family or the family that raised them, and these worlds can look very different. Like, a lot of us can build these separate worlds where we're these two different people depending on how out we are to our biological families or families that raised us. And, it brought up this big thing for me where I was like, "Oh, one big conversation that I need to have with my friends and my chosen family is how to talk to the people that raised me and my biological family, like two groups of people that I love, but two groups of people that I have very different and separate relationships with. And, you know, for other people, thinking about things like, does your...if your chosen family and your biological family, if they have to interact, does your biological family or the people that raised you, like, do they know what name you go by? Do they know that you're queer? Do they know that you're trans? Do they know that...Like, what gaps in information are there and having conversations with your friends now about like things that they might have to deal with if you get sick or die, in having those conversations with people who might--Like it might be great and civil and wonderful and everything goes really, really well and it's really joyous. Or, it might be incredibly conflictual and difficult. And, yeah, not really a question. Just a piece that I really wanted to bring it into the conversation. Roxanne 1:02:43 Yeah, definitely. And like, yeah. I think as much information as you can give your chosen family about how you want those interactions to go, you know. Some people are, you know, out to their community, but aren't out to their family and would like to remain not out to their family. And, that's okay. And, I think as a form of respect, you know, people need to use names and pronouns that are consistent with what someone is asking for in those situations. And, again, that is one of the many reasons why these conversations are so important. And again, just to keep plugging Advanced Directives, is why Advanced Directives are so important. And, you know, if we can write down even--if for some reason you don't feel like you can have those conversations with your family or your community, you know, you can write it down and, and give someone a sealed envelope that's like, "In case I die, please read this. This is how I want things...This is how I want to be talked about. This is how..." you know, because I believe and really trust at the end of the day that people want to honor you in the ways that you want to be honored and do really want to respect you and make decisions that are good and safe for the individual as well as the community. Inmn 1:04:33 Yeah. Yeah. Cool. Well, do you have any other last last things to say, anything that we didn't talk about, any questions that I should have asked you that I didn't? Roxanne 1:04:46 I don't think so. I just want to thank you so much for opening the space. I know that it is really a hard thing for people to talk about. You know, when we talk about death, generally, it's hard not to think about death, specifically, in our own circumstances. And, dealing with the fact that other people die means that we have to deal with the fact that we're going to die. And yeah, it just feels really special to be in communication with you about this. And yeah, I just, I feel really grateful that y'all were willing to open the space and this dialogue. And yeah, I just, I really feel like it's important. And, yeah, special. And I feel so grateful. Thank you so much for this. Inmn 1:05:46 Yeah, totally. Thank you so much. It's been a pleasure. I love talking about these things. And I'm so glad that there's people doing so much really amazing work around opening up these spaces and maintaining these spaces. And yeah, yeah. I don't know. Obviously, the work that you've already done to do that has made it so that I want to bring these conversations into this space of community preparedness. So yeah, thank you. Roxanne 1:06:22 Yay. Inmn 1:06:23 Is there anywhere on the internet that you would like to be found or that Woven Ends would like to be found? The answer can be, "No. Don't find me." Roxanne 1:06:39 Currently, no for Woven ends, and honestly, no, for me too, I do have an old death doula Instagram account that I used to refer people to, but I don't really use it. It's not a good resource tool. So, no. Inmn 1:06:59 I love it. I love when people can't be found and shouldn't be found on the internet. Roxanne 1:07:05 But if people have dire questions--Gosh, we really should have some kind of email or something. Maybe I can send that to you? Inmn 1:07:18 Yeah. Yeah, we can put some stuff in the show notes. Roxanne 1:07:21 Some sort of way for people. Yeah. Because I don't. Yeah. If people want to, I don't have a quick like, "Here's my Twitter handle." Inmn 1:07:35 Thank God. Yeah. Got it. Yeah, if you have anything, send it to us. We'll throw it in the show notes. The episode is not going to come out for a couple weeks, probably. Yeah. Cool. Thank you so much for coming on. And we will see you and Wōen back, hopefully soon, to talk more about this. Roxanne 1:07:58 Definitely. Thank you. Have a good day. Inmn 1:08:07 Thanks so much for listening. If you enjoyed this podcast, please live like you will die. Because we all will. But more importantly, talk to your community, your families, your friends, your ancestors, about death because having these conversations doesn't have to be scary and having them now can really make a difference in other's lives and for our end of lives. You should also tell people about the show, you can support this podcast by telling people about it. You can support this podcast by talking about it on social media, by rating, and reviewing, and doing whatever the nameless algorithm calls for. Feed it like a hungry God. But, if you'd like to support us in other, sillier ways that don't involve feeding a nameless and mysterious entity, you can support us on Patreon at patreon.com/strangersinatangledwilderness. Our Patreon helps pay for things like transcriptions, our lovely audio editor, Bursts, as well as going to support our publisher Strangers in a Tangled Wilderness. Strangers in a Tangled Wilderness is the publisher of this podcast and few other podcasts, including my other show Strangers in a Tangled Wilderness, a monthly podcast for anarchist literature, and the Anarcho Geek Power Hour, which is the podcast for people who love movies and hate cops. And, we would like to shout out a couple of our patrons in particular. Thank you, Carson, Lord Harken, Trixter, Princess Miranda, BenBen, Anonymous, Funder, Jans, Oxalis, Janice & O'dell, Paige, Aly, paparouna, Milica, Boise Mutual Aid, theo, Hunter, Shawn, SJ, Page, Mikki, Nicole, David, Dana, Chelsea, Cat J., Staro, Jenipher, Eleanor, Kirk, Sam, Chris, Michaiah, and the eternal Hoss the Dog. We could not do this without y'all and I love how wacky and long this list is getting. I love it so much. Thank you so much. And I hope that everyone is doing as well as they can with everything that's happening. And I hope that this conversation, I don't know, gets you talking with your community or just instigates some stuff, some good conversations about something that is weird and scary. Take care, and we'll talk to you soon Find out more at https://live-like-the-world-is-dying.pinecast.co

Joanne Eason, President of Five Wishes, knows it's important to document our end-of-life wishes so our voices are heard when we can't speak for ourselves.   Five Wishes was established over 25 years ago through a series of listening tours, asking people what was important to them.  From those results, the Five Wishes document was formed with guidance from the American Bar Association and other palliative care providers across the U.S.  It's designed for individuals to use when sitting down with their families, a tool for talking about what's important to the person.    Five Wishes has incorporated three questions into their Five Wishes document: How comfortable do you want to be? How do you want to be treated? What do you want those around you to know about you?  Those answers are the voice of the patient.  Where health systems use certain forms to document decision-makers and specific medical directives, Five Wishes is about not just the wishes of the person, but who they are. It can be used like a workbook and comes in both digital and paper forms.  The workbook is a living document and should be revisited as healthcare status changes or your spokesperson changes.   Five Wishes can also be utilized by hospice agencies, healthcare organizations, and businesses. It's legal in almost every state in the U.S. so it's a very flexible document.  If you live in one of only four states (New Hampshire, Kansas, Ohio, or Texas) you can still use the Five Wishes Paper but may need to take an extra step.  Five Wishes is available in 30 languages, as well as Braille. Find out more about Five Wishes at fivewishes.org.  Follow Five Wishes on Facebook, YouTube, IG, and Twitter.    Check out Five Wishes for your personal use here. Get information about utilizing Five Wishes for your patients or employees by clicking here. Visit the Five Wishes store here. Check out the free webinars from Five Wishes here. Looking for a copy of the Odonata Care Plan?  Click here to purchase it for yourself or your care agency.   NEW** - the Odonata Care Plan is now available in SPANISH - purchase it here!!  Check out the free Care Video tutorials from Odonata founders and hospice nurses Nancy Heyerman and Brenda Kizzire here.   Partner with National HME to provide medical equipment for your patients at nationalhme.com. Find more podcast episodes from The Heart of Hospice at The Heart of Hospice Podcast (theheartofhospice.com)  Book podcast host Helen Bauer to speak at your event or conference by sending an email to helen@theheartofhospice.com.  Follow The Heart of Hospice on Facebook,  Instagram, and LinkedIn.  Connect with The Heart of Hospice podcast on The Whole Care Network, along with a host of other caregiving podcasts by clicking here.  

As the Inside Influence Team and I take a short break to refuel our collective batteries over Summer - or Winter depending on where you are in the world - we've got you covered. For the month of August we will be releasing a weekly ‘PowerCut' of our favorite (and your favorite) podcast episodes from the past year. These are short powerhouse episodes, to keep you fuelled and showing up at the next level. Each PowerCut contains the most useful tools, moments or insights from the full conversation, essentially a mini masterclass in influence.Our final PowerCut episode is with the incredible Gay HendricksToday's Guest Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the field of transformation and bodymind therapy for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from Stanford, Gay served as professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. In that time he has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as ‘Five Wishes', ‘The Big Leap' (probably the book I have recommended the most this year) and ‘Conscious Living' - all of which are still used as primary texts in universities around the world. Gay conducts seminars worldwide and has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC and many, many others.LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/gay-hendricks-195a90/Twitter: https://twitter.com/GayHendricksInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hendricks.gay/You'll LearnThe Upper Limit problem – why we consistently limit ourselves and the level of possibility we have available - whether you're an award winning musician or a Fortune 500 CEO. The 4 hidden triggers that lock our Upper Limits into place and how to quickly get unstuck and back on your path of potential.Finally the ‘Zone of Excellence' vs. the Zone of Genius'. Essentially what you're great at (but not passionate about) vs. what brings you alive.If you enjoy this PowerCut episode and would like to hear my full conversation with Gay, check out the link below - or search for Episode 152 at any of your favorite podcast places.References and links mentionedwww.foundationforconsciousliving.orghttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UClM0-K91XTAnCcfipSmUatw?view_as=subscriberhttps://www.amazon.com/Gay-Hendricks/e/B000APFFK0/ref=aufs_dp_fta_dskFull length episode: Gay HendricksThanks for tuning into this week's episode of the Inside Influence Podcast! Please head over to iTunes, subscribe to the show, and leave an honest review. Don't forget to hop on my website juliemasters.com and download my new ebook. The Influencer Code or become an insider by signing up to my newsletter. Influencer Code or become an insider by signing up to my newsletter. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The one and only Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and body-mind therapies for more than 45 years and author or more than 40 books (including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving) joins us to tell his fascinating stories of his biggest successes in life!He is an amazing storyteller and teacher! And in this episode, he goes into multiple examples of when he negotiated with the Universe in order to get what he wanted, and, of course... it worked!So if you're ready to live a no-compromise life and experience what you know in your heart you want and deserve to experience, this episode is for you.Not only will you be entertained and inspired, but you'll also get to hear about...What Oprah is really like (since Dr. Hendricks has been on her show multiple times)All about love manifestation and how he met and attracted his lovely wifeThe Upper Limit Problem that most of us have A new way to approach manifestingAnd so much more!This one's for all the peeps ready to take their manifestation game to the next level!Hendricks Institute Website: hendricks.comRead ALL of Gays Amazing Books: amazon.comSPONSORS AND PERKS:Download Kelsey's Money Magnetics Guided Meditation for FREE: kelseyaida.com/mmfreebieGet 10% off Lynnsey's Hypnotherapy Membership every month: tinyurl.com/pod-loveJoin our Patreon to support the show and get access to extended episodes and more: patreon.com/highvibe

Gay explains to Chris and Jess how to break through our blocks of fear and to conquer our old beliefs to take our lives to the next level. Gay Hendricks has been a transformational leader for more than 45 years with numerous appearances on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday and multiple best-selling books, including The Big Leap, Five Wishes, and Conscious Loving. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/spiritualised/message

Hello, Wine and Dime listeners! Thank you once again for joining the show. Today, we are diving into a topic that is often overlooked but incredibly important in estate planning: The Five Wishes. This document, created by the organization Five Wishes, is the first living will that addresses not only your medical wishes but also your personal, emotional, and spiritual needs. It allows you to choose the person who will make healthcare decisions for you if you are unable to do so yourself.Key Takeaways:The Five Wishes is a comprehensive living will that addresses personal, emotional, and spiritual needs, in addition to medical wishes.The document allows individuals to choose a healthcare decision-maker and specify their medical treatment preferences.It covers how individuals want to be treated, what they want loved ones to know about them, and their funeral wishes.Distribute copies of the Five Wishes to relevant parties and keep the original in a safe place at home.Aging with dignity involves ensuring that family members are aware of an individual's final wishes.Before we delve into the details of The Five Wishes, let's take a moment to talk about something a little lighter. In our previous episodes, we featured a winery called Billsboro on Seneca Lake. If you ever find yourself in the Finger Lakes area of New York, I highly recommend visiting Billsboro. Their wines are delightful, and the setting in their beautiful old barn is truly picturesque. One wine that stood out to me was their 2022 Sarah, which will be released soon. It's a light and rich-flavored wine that I believe many wine enthusiasts will enjoy.Now, let's get back to the topic at hand: The Five Wishes. This document is a comprehensive living will that covers various aspects of your healthcare and end-of-life wishes. It was created with the help of the American Bar Association Commission on Law and Aging and is available in 29 languages.The Five Wishes addresses five key areas:1. Choosing a Healthcare Decision-MakerThe first wish allows you to designate the person you want to make healthcare decisions for you if you are unable to do so yourself. This person, known as your healthcare proxy or agent, will have the authority to make medical decisions on your behalf. It's crucial to choose someone you trust and who understands your values and wishes.2. Defining Your Medical Treatment PreferencesThe second wish focuses on your preferences for medical treatment. It allows you to specify the kind of medical treatment you want or don't want in various scenarios. You can outline your preferences for pain management, comfort, and life-supporting treatments. The document provides options for you to be as specific as you'd like, ensuring that your wishes are known and respected.3. Ensuring Comfort and DignityThe third wish centers around your desire for comfort and dignity. You can express how you want to be cared for, including specific requests such as having pictures of loved ones in your room, being treated with kindness and cheerfulness, or even being called by a particular name or nickname. This wish allows you to define how you want people to treat you during your healthcare journey.4. Communicating Your Personal WishesThe fourth wish is an opportunity for you to communicate your personal wishes to your loved ones. You can express forgiveness, love, and any other sentiments you want your family and friends to know. Additionally, you can outline your preferences for your body after death, such as burial, cremation, or donation. This wish ensures that your

Here's what to expect on the podcast:How can asking someone to "tell me more" contribute to staying connected with them?How can traveling together help children uncover new aspects of their parents' interests, values, or experiences?How can the memories and shared adventures created during travel contribute to a stronger bond between children and their parents?What is the Five Wishes document, and how does it relate to retirement communities?And much more!PS: This podcast is dedicated to my father, Frank John Zolfo, who passed at 81 years young on June 23, 2023.  He was an amazing man who lived a big life and - along the way - he made a massive impact on the hearts and lives of all those he encountered around the world. To learn more about this incredible man and legend, click here.Meet Yvonne Caputo:Yvonne Caputo has been a teacher, the head of human resources in a retirement community, a corporate trainer and consultant, and a psychotherapist. Yvonne is also an accomplished author. Her book, Flying with Dad, is a story about her relationship with her father through his telling of WWII stories. Her second book, Dying with Dad, was released in May 2022.  It focuses on the Five Wishes®, a legal document that expresses a person's end-of-life wishes beyond an advance directive.She decided to broach this difficult subject with her dad...and it made all the difference on the last day of his life. Yvonne Caputo has been a storyteller all her life. She uses stories to widen the eyes of her clients and readers to soften the pain in their hearts and bring a point home for her audiences.She is married to her best friend and is the proud mother and stepmother to three wonderful children and three marvelous grandchildren. A delightful labradoodle rounds out her family. Connect with Yvonne Caputo!Website: https://ingeniumbooks.com/yvonne-caputo/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yvonne-caputo-1449137/Check out Yvonne Caputo's book, Flying with Dad: A Daughter. A Father. And the Hidden Gifts in His Stories from World War II, and on Amazon! https://rb.gy/b9w50 Connect with Host, Julie ZolfoGrab Your Free ABC's for Living Ridiciously Fulfilled: https://www.livingthetravelersheart.com/free-giftBe A Podcast Guest: https://www.juliezolfo.com/podcastConnect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/juliezolfo/Leave a Comment about the Episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/livingthetravelersheartInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliezolfo/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/juliezolfo/

In this episode, Michelle and Alyson discuss some of the resources available to help us have important conversations about end of life with our loved ones. Death is inevitable. We all know this. Let's explore the options we have to honor our loved ones in the way they want to be honored. What measures can we take, at any age, to alleviate the burden of our inevitable death for our loved ones who are mourning? What are the current trends surrounding the passing of a loved one? Listen in to find out! Three take-ways from this episode: Dying is a natural part of life. Ignoring or denying this prevents us from getting the closure that we want for ourselves and for our families. Embrace what choices we do have when it comes to the end of life. Have the conversations about it. Funerals for the living, celebrations of life, death doulas and other trends are changing how we can process the death of a loved one. Useful links - The Conversation project www.theconversationproject.org Coda Alliance www.codaalliance.org Compassion & Choices www.compassionandchoices.org Five Wishes www.fivewishes.org Honoring Choices MA www.honoringchoicesmass.com Hospice Foundation of America www.hospicefoundation.org International End-of-Life Doula Association www.inelda.org Celebration of life/funeral trends – (From website Funerals by T.S. Warden www.tswarden.com) Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! More information at https://2sisters-sla.com/ © 2021 - 2023 Michelle Woodbrey and Alyson Powers

In this episode, Dr. Gay Hendrick brings his life and professional wisdom to the podcast and shows us how we can turn criticism into creativity. In one of the more powerful podcast episodes I've ever recorded, Gay helps empower us to understand that beyond name, form, career - we are pure consciousness and helps us understand how taking responsibility for our thoughts and habits can change our lives. Gay shares his breakthroughs early on in life and helps us connect the dots between generational trauma - and, what we can do about creating new generational patterns.  Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford, Gay served as professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving (co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks), both used as a primary text in universities around the world. His latest book, The Genius Zones and explores his breakthrough process to end negative thinking and live in true creativity. Today we cover:  Gay's early life influences, including his grandparents and how the months prior to his birth influenced his relationship to emotions, food and self.  Gay's encounter with Ram Das in his early 20's and how this planted seeds for continued growth  How Gay defines enlightenment  Gay shares why recommitment needs more press  The role of self-blame and criticism and how they color and block creativity  How we can nurture ourselves into creativity and expansion Why taking radical responsibility for your life isn't about blame How taking responsibly is both invigorating and creative!  How do view each decade in clinical psychology  The role of our family's generational trauma and experiences in our current lives  What congruence is and why it's so important for aliveness Why emotions are essential for us to embrace who we really are Gay offers news ways to view emotions like anger and fear  What Gay is currently unlearning  To learn more about Gay and Katie Hendricks, visit: https://hendricks.com Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach who works with leaders and organizations to break repeated drama patterns and create more skillful and joyful workplaces. To learn more about her work, visit: www.elisamaryhaggarty.com      

Yvonne Caputo felt compelled to write about her experiences with her father and family. She wrote "Flying with Dad: A Daughter. A Father. And the Hidden Gifts in His Stories from World War II" plus her second book, "Dying With Dad: Tough Talks for Easier Endings." In her work in retirement homes and as a psychotherapist, Yvonne knew that it mattered to have conversations about the end of life, and because she and her dad were able to have those, including working through "The Five Wishes," they gained trust, clarity and connection. fivewishes.org For more information on Best Life Best Death please visit our website at ⁠www.bestlifebestdeath.com⁠ Follow us on our social channels to receive pertinent and helpful resources on death, grieving, and more at: Facebook: ⁠www.facebook.com/bestlifebestdeath⁠ Instagram: ⁠www.instagram.com/bestlifebestdeath⁠

Having the hard conversations with a loved one and then sharing what we've learned can be a gift to others who love that person but can't have those conversations. The Five Wishes helped me start those conversations. ~ Yvonne Caputo How much do you enjoy having hard conversations? If you're like most of us, you'd rather go to the dentist than have a difficult conversation with a loved one–or anyone, for that matter. Hard conversations are, well, hard. They frequently involve intense and unpleasant emotions, and we only venture into that territory when we've exhausted every other means of avoiding the situation. But Yvonne Caputo, this week's guest on the Brilliantly Resilient podcast, has experienced the upside of hard conversations–getting to know a loved one better and honoring him towards the end of, and after his life. Yvonne is the author of Flying with Dad and Dying with Dad, two books that prove the value of asking difficult questions and listening (deeply, as Yvonne says), to the answers. While it wasn't easy to initiate those conversations, Yvonne found help in utilizing a document titled The Five Wishes, which encourages conversations about end of life care and the needs and wishes of those relying on others for care. After asking the tough emotional questions, Yvonne found that the answers prompted more loving and enlightening conversations with her father about his life. Having challenging conversations, no matter the topic, is never easy. Yet once we begin asking questions and seeking answers, we often find new information that makes a situation easier to understand and navigate. Part of being resilient is having the courage to move forward even when we don't really want to. Tune in to hear more of Yvonne's wisdom on this week's episode of the Brilliantly Resilient podcast and be sure to listen for these additional bits of brilliance: The more I asked questions, the more he trusted me. And I began to understand my father on a deeper level. The five wishes was a critical document. It took an advance directive for a parent and brought out all the heart. By asking the questions, I found discovery after discovery about my father. Knowing what my father wanted, I was able to honor him. By knowing what people want, we can ease their transition for us and them. Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! XO, Kristin and Mary Fran  

Death. It's the one thing we can count on and the one thing we'd like to avoid. So we try not to think about it, talk about it or plan for it.As a result, difficult conversations go unspoken and last wishes go unknown - further complicating the emotional, stressful, and heartbreaking process of death.  In this inaugural series of the podcast, we're focusing on the critical issues we all face at some point in our lives, either personally or on behalf of a loved one.  We're calling the series "What to Know Before You Go" in an effort to make a daunting subject more approachable. Each week in April, we will discuss topics designed to help us feel more comfortable and confident in facing the future.This week, we lean into Denise's years of experience as an end-of-life social worker. In this episode, she shares everything we need to know about advance directives and the importance of not only documenting our medical preferences but also discussing them with family and healthcare professionals. It's an episode designed to empower us to do hard things and have tough conversations - knowing these are gifts we share with those we love. And it's an episode you don't want to miss. Show Notes:To print off a copy of an advance directive for completion:https://missourilawyershelp.org/legal-topics/durable-power-of-attorney-for-health/To access the Five Wishes form referenced, go to:https://www.fivewishes.org/for-myself/For resources on how to have caring conversations about the end of life: https://www.practicalbioethics.org/featured-resources/caring-conversations/To order the Go Wish cards Denise discussed in the episode, go to:https://codaalliance.org/go-wish/

Join host Ned Buskirk in conversation with Hospice Nurse Penny Smith, a nationally certified hospice & palliative care registered nurse, talking about her recent experience as a bystander to a fatal car accident & what she learns in life&death moments like these to offer others, like the wisdom she offers host Ned about the death of his own mother.Hospice Nurse Penny'stiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hospicenursepenny instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hospicenursepenny/ youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@hospicenursepenny ResourcesAmerican Hospice: https://americanhospice.org/learning-about-hospice/ Five Wishes [the nation's only national advance care planning program]: https://www.fivewishes.org/ Dementia Directive: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5a0128cf8fd4d22ca11a405d/t/60c51d29f5c2833ef87698d1/1623530793274/dementia-directive.pdfProduced by Nick JainaAssociate Produced by Jasmine PritchardSoundscaping by Nick Jaina”YG2D Podcast Theme Song” by Nick JainaFOLLOW YOU'RE GOING TO DIEon Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yergoing2die/ on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yergoingtodie/ on Twitter: https://twitter.com/YerGoing2Die THIS PODCAST IS MADE POSSIBLE WITH SUPPORT FROM LISTENERS LIKE YOU.Become a podcast patron now at https://www.patreon.com/YG2D.

All Home Care Matters was honored to welcome a distinguished guest, Mr. Jim Towey.     Jim Towey was a trusted advisor and personal friend of Mother Teresa of Calcutta for twelve years and did the first reading at her Mass of Canonization in Saint Peter's Square. He headed the White House Office of Faith-Based and Community Initiatives under George W. Bush and served on his senior staff.     Jim's career spans the presidency of two Catholic colleges for thirteen years, a seven-year stint as a US Senate staffer, and the leadership of Florida's 40,000-employee health and human services agency. In 1996, with Mother Teresa's encouragement, he founded the nonprofit advocacy organization Aging with Dignity and created the Five Wishes advance directive, which has sold over 40 million copies and is used in all fifty states.     Towey met his wife, Mary, in Mother Teresa's Washington, DC, AIDS home, and they have five children and three grandchildren. He continues to provide pro bono legal services for the Missionaries of Charity. His book, To Love and Be Loved: A Personal Portrait of Mother Teresa, was published by Simon and Schuster in September 2022.

Learn more about the Five Wishes document and why it can be a good choice as an advance directive. My guest Joanne Eason is the president of Five Wishes, the nation’s only national advance care planning program. She discusses the history of the Five Wishes organization and the benefits of using the Five Wishes form… Continue reading Ep. 386 Five Wishes: Advance Care Planning for Everyone with Joanne Eason

Happy Holidays Friends, I kept this podcast short today as I wanted you all to be with family, friends, loved ones and ... to please write at least 3 cards or emails to the ones you love, today . -I wish for you to find kindness in this world -Let's ask more of the question "How can I help?" -We can try our best to try to not judge others - and this is hard - it will take time! -I wish for you to know how loved you are -I want each of us to be the change we wish to see - take action -Look for kindness in another person - and a big heart -Lastly - I wish for you to be able to seek out your dream and fulfill your life's calling -Let's listen more this year - and support our friends & loved ones through the worst of times -Learn more about your own friends & family + show them through action how much you care xx with love xx now go write your cards! xxCandice

Today's guest is renowned psychologist, writer, and teacher Gay Hendricks, PhD, best known for his work in the field of body intelligence, relationships, and personal growth. The curtain is pulled back in this one, revealing what's keeping you from living and expressing fully, discerning between growth and misalignment in relationships, and finding center within your personal genius zone.  Don't miss this heart-filled conversation, as K+L reveal the profound effect Dr. Hendricks's work has had in their own lives (during their Saturn return) and how it formed an important foundation for the early years of Almost 30, inspiring us to support people in their own evolution.  Start a path toward harmony of mind, body, and spirit today – and share this episode with a friend who's on the journey with you.  We also talk about:How your upper limit affects your career and relationships Discover what you love doing and do more of it Taking a big leap into your genius Unconscious vs. conscious loving Roadmap for conscious relationships Communicating authentically Taking responsibility in your relationships Your body is a parfait Honing your ability to receive  Resources:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hendricks.gay/ (@hendricks.gay) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gayhendricks (Gay Hendricks) YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/hendricksinstitute (hendricksinstitute) Website: https://hendricks.com (hendricks.com)  Foundation: https://foundationforconsciousliving.org/ (foundationforconsciousliving.org) Read: https://www.amazon.com/The-Big-Leap-Gay-Hendricks-audiobook/dp/B00282MRQI/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=gay+hendricks&qid=1665547974&qu=eyJxc2MiOiI0Ljc4IiwicXNhIjoiNC40NyIsInFzcCI6IjQuNTQifQ%3D%3D&sr=8-3 (The Big Leap), https://www.amazon.com/Five-Wishes-Gay-Hendricks-audiobook/dp/B00188ABNE/ref=sr_1_13?keywords=gay+hendricks&qid=1665547974&qu=eyJxc2MiOiI0Ljc4IiwicXNhIjoiNC40NyIsInFzcCI6IjQuNTQifQ%3D%3D&sr=8-13 (Five Wishes), https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Loving-audiobook/dp/B071X7FFGY/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=gay+hendricks&qid=1665547974&qu=eyJxc2MiOiI0Ljc4IiwicXNhIjoiNC40NyIsInFzcCI6IjQuNTQifQ%3D%3D&sr=8-5 (Conscious Loving), https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Loving-Ever-After-audiobook/dp/B016V425VA/ref=sr_1_11?keywords=gay+hendricks&qid=1665547974&qu=eyJxc2MiOiI0Ljc4IiwicXNhIjoiNC40NyIsInFzcCI6IjQuNTQifQ%3D%3D&sr=8-11 (Conscious Loving Ever After) & https://www.amazon.com/s?k=gay+hendricks&ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_13 (more) Join our community:http://almost30.com/membership (almost30.com/membership) https://www.facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups (facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups) Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: https://almost30.com/disclaimer (almost30.com/disclaimer).  Find more to love at http://almost30.com/ (almost30.com)! Almost 30 is edited by http://crate.media (Crate Media). Mentioned in this episode: https://almost30.captivate.fm/srimu ( Use code ALMOST30 for 20% off all single orders, and 20% off your first 4 orders when you sign up for a subscription, at SriMu.com.) https://almost30.captivate.fm/issuu (Get started for free or get 50% off a premium account at issuu.com/podcast and use code ALMOST30) https://almost30.captivate.fm/gladskin (Almost 30 listeners receive 15% off plus FREE shipping on your first order at Gladskin.com/Almost30.) https://almost30.captivate.fm/lmnt (Go to DrinkLMNT.com/Almost30 for a special offer.) Chirp http://chirpbooks.com/almost30 (Go to chirpbooks.com/almost30 and grab our next pick, Getting The Love You Want, on sale for $1.99 for a limited time.)