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Today we’re joined by Rawson Kirkhope — a Navy veteran, childhood domestic violence survivor, and co-founder of VRTUS, a community-first gym. When Rawson was 12 years old, he witnessed his father shoot his mother, trying to end her life. Despite the horrific violence and being on the run for a week, his father was only sentenced to 4 years in jail. This event left him with PTSD - something that he has had to learn to live with. In this episode, Rawson shares what it was like to grow up never knowing whether your home was safe. We talk about what trauma does to your sense of identity, the complexity of loving someone whilst being simultaneously terrified by them, and how those early years shaped the man he would become. If this topic is sensitive for you, please take care while listening. There is always help available and someone to talk to on 1800 RESPECT We speak about: The reality of growing up around violence Always trying to be a ‘good’ kid to not escalate anything at home How kids who grow up around volatile parents can struggle with validation The justice system and having to testify against his own dad The complexities of PTSD and what it looks like in reality The strength of community around you Reshaping masculinity and how routine has really helped You can find more from Rawson on instagram And VRTUS You can check out what Polished Man are doing You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, If you happen to hear any mic bumps or mouth sounds today, please message Britt Hockley directly. Laura and Keeshia are taking a stand against Britt’s anti-podcast-establishment trial.Ben has gone home and Britt’s now in the first chapter of their long distance marriage. We speak about how ‘different’ our relationships feel pre and post marriage.Both Delilah and Matt had birthdays over the weekend except Laura almost forgot. After having a crack at Matt last week for not realising how far along Laura’s pregnancy was, Laura had some making up to do!Is it a ‘flex’ to sleep with a younger person? Charlize Theron was on the Call Her Daddy podcast last week promoting her new movie ‘the old guard 2’. Charlize is 49, a mother of two, an Oscar-winner, and basically Hollywood royalty. When Alex Cooper asked her if she had any sex tips, she responded saying that she’d recently slept with a 26 year old and it was great!Naturally, the internet had thoughts. Some people were cheering her on for owning her sexuality, others were very uncomfortable. We ask if it’s a double standard because “if men did this, we’d be up in arms” and whether we are okay with that double standard or not. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your biggest dilemmas! The start of today’s ep is not safe for work… Have you heard of ‘hampstering’ or ‘the thirsty hampster’? If you’ve already listened before reading this do you wish you had never heard of it? Vibes and Unsubscribes for the week! Britt - Unsubscribing from the movie “Drop”. Vibe - Rachel_Jane_Sculpting dog sculptures Laura - Stakki Drink Bottle Keeshia - Crest Motion Sensor LED Night Light Then we jump into your questions: HOW MUCH TO SPEND ON ENGAGEMENT RING?So I have finally found THE ONE!! After a loooong and hard few years dating a bunch of bin chickens, I finally got my penguin We have talked about marriage, done the ring sizes, I’ve shown him what I would like (which he agrees would suit me) and I’m now in a pickle. He has been married before and spent a lot of money on his first wife’s ring. She was forceful, told him which one and picked the most expensive. I have said I wouldn’t expect a super expensive ring, though I also don’t want a cheap knock off one that you can find on some websites. Should it matter about how much someone spends on a ring? I feel like knowing he did pay a lot for an ex means he can at least meet halfway so I get a good quality piece I’m going to wear forever. Should I offer to pay for some of it? He has mentioned it should be about the gesture of proposing not the price. We looked up the rings he would want and they are all around a few hundred dollars. I guess this is the standard for men’s rings and I feel maybe he’s comparing that to what I should get. HOW DO I TELL BROTHERS GF SHES NOT IN THE FAMILY PHOTOSHOOTI want to organise a family photo shoot with my grandma, parents, husband, baby and my brother. My grandma is in her 90s, so I really want to get a beautiful photo of our little family while we’ve still got the chance. Now, here’s where I’m a terrible person. My brother has a partner who I honestly adore . She's gorgeous, we all get along so well, and they’re really serious. But I don’t want her in the photos. The thing is, at my wedding, his ex (who was also very serious) was in every single family photo and now I can’t display any of them without it being weird. So while I truly hope this relationship lasts forever, I just want to cover my bases this time. How do I bring this up without hurting anyone’s feelings or causing drama? Is it okay to ask? And if so, what’s the least awkward way to handle it? Help a guilty gal out! P.S we have never done a family photoshoot and probably won’t do many. SIL TOLD ME I NEVER CLEAN AT FAMILY EVENTS AND NOW I FEEL AWFULI am married and a mum of 3 kiddies who are 4.5, 2.2 yrs and almost 6 months! Life is hectic and busy, I just just graduated from my nursing degree and about to start my first job! I went out drinking with my husband, his brothers and one of their wives who I adore (she has no kids). She got very drunk and when I was leaving to say bye she basically told me that I am so incredibly lazy when we have family get together as I don't cook or clean up even though I always ask my mother in law if I can bring anything or help in any way which she says no. I generally clean up my own things but usually I'm sitting on the couch breastfeeding the baby or relaxing as I am so tired. My husband generally tells me to sit down and he will clean up for me. While on this drunk ramble, she was yelling at me and saying everyone talks about me and how I don't do anything. I feel so incredibly sad and cannot stop crying and feeling so worthless, any advice? How do I move forward and build that relationship back up? Also curious if I am in the wrong here? IS IT NORMAL NOT TO CARE WHEN MY PARTNER IS SICK?Is it normal to not care if my partner is sick or unwell? I've been with my partner for 9 years. We have a nearly 2 year old daughter. Before having her, every time he gets sick he refers to it as "man flu" and actually thinks it's a thing where men experience it worse than women. Mind you, I'm a nurse and have told him so many times man flu isn't an actual thing. It's frustrating because when I'm sick, I still do some house work around the house, maybe just the bare minimum. But when he is, the whole week is a write off for him. Now, after having our daughter, my patience and tolerance is much less when it comes to him being sick. I know he's allowed to get sick and be unwell but it's different now, we don't have the luxury to just rest and recover with an energetic toddler who we need to look after. He thinks I'm not being empathetic and cruel and maybe I am. I honestly feel like I have zero care factor when he's unwell. My priorities are different. And I know that's put a strain on our relationship. Is it just me? Will not caring affect the longevity of our relationship? 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Today’s guest has been on our bucket list for a few years now. Even with that in mind, the conversation still exceeded our expectations! It’s raw and open and we go to some of the darker parts of what shaped the person that Abby became.Abby Wambach is a soccer icon, speaker, Podcaster, New York Times Best Selling author and activist. Abby is one of the most dominant sportswomen in the history of women’s soccer and she is a two-time Olympic Gold Medalist & FIFA World Cup Champion. After winning the Women’s World Cup in 2015, Abby retired and has gone on to be one of the most prominent voices fighting for equality and inclusion. Abby has recently released her latest book that she co-authored with her wife Glennon Doyle & Amanda Doyle “we can do hard things”. The book is broken into 20 of life’s biggest questions like ‘why am I like this?’, ‘how do I figure out what I want?’ ‘why can’t I be happy?’ and ‘How do I forgive?’ So, today we wanted to speak with Abby about the hard things she has faced in life and what those challenges taught her about herself and the world. First up, Abby shares the moment that she truly hit rock bottom that exposed a big secret she was struggling with to the world. We also chat: The reason so many athletes struggle with alcohol/drug issues The search for identity when you go through big life changes Validation and how to cope when the source of validation is removed Overriding self esteem coming from ‘the grind’ and pushing through suffering The interesting way Abby reacted when one of their kids came out as gay and how it reshaped some of her own experiences of coming out Creating friendship with parents What your shadow side is Grief and a better response to ‘there are no words’ Dealing with grief when you’re non religious Abby’s advice - don’t use your partner’s weaknesses against them The ‘who cares more’ rule You can find more from Abby on her instagram You can get yourself a copy of the book ‘We Can Do Hard Things’ And listen to the podcast also titled We Can Do Hard Things You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt is officially a wife!!We all got married; signed, sealed, delivered! Delilah was included and the v̶e̶r̶y̶ c̶a̶s̶u̶a̶l̶ day almost went off without a hitch but in true Britt fashion, something happened that left us in stitches and Laura… without control of her pelvic floor. Matt has pretty drastically underestimated how soon the new baby will be here! Jess Bezos and Lauren Sanchez got married but we’re not talking about it because everyone else is EXCEPT for the wedding invitation. Over the weekend, Fast & Furious star Vin Diesel has said that he is planning to bring Paul Walker’s character back in the final installment of the franchise, using digital technology. Paul Walker, who played Brian O’Conner in the Fast & Furious franchise, died in a car crash in 2013 while the seventh film was still in production. We have big questions about whether this is being done to honour Paul Walker’s legacy or if it blurs the lines of posthumous consent and is only being done to make a bunch of money. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Laura is in pregnancy hell and she’s in the pregnancy insomnia stage. She’s also so sleep deprived that she’s forgetting the stories she’s told us. Vibes for the week: Britt - The Better Sister Laura -Artists Jesse Cleay and Ella Martin Keeshia - Monte Mader Flipping Tables Podcast - The Downfall Of Dogma Then we jump into your questions! SEPARATED BUT I NEED SEX - DO I GO THE APPS?! - DON’T WANT EX TO KNOWMy husband and I separated in march, we had been together 12 years and married for 7 with 2 kids under 5. It hasn’t been amicable and to be honest I think I mourned the relationship a long time before we actually separated. My question is.. I’m horny! I in no way shape or form am ready to date a man but a girl has needs. My girlfriends keep saying I should get on the apps which seems good in theory except that I live in a small city where everyone knows everyone and I know I will come across his mates on the apps who will tell him that I’m on there and then he will be even nastier than he is now. I just don’t know if I should say ‘fuck it’ and do it or is it too soon? Help IS A 6 MIN VOICE NOTE FROM A POTENTIAL DATE A RED FLAGMy friend was chatting to a guy on hinge for 2 days. They eventually exchanged numbers and after 4 days they planned to meet, but she got cold feet because he was appearing too ‘keen’. Keen as in messaging multiple times throughout the day without her responding and would do things such as react to messages to get her attention in hopes she would respond. She attempted the slow fade away, replying after 24-48 hours later. However he wasn’t getting the message and she decided to tell him she wasn’t interested in pursuing anything. As a response he sent her a 6 MINUTE voice message, attempting to convince her to give him a chance. My friend is CONSIDERING giving him a go, because she appreciates the effort he has made. (Keep in mind they haven’t met yet). I think this is an awful idea and a 6 minute voice message is a big red flag. What would you do? HOW TO KNOW IF RELATIONSHIP IS OVERHow to know when your relationship is done? My husband and I have been together for almost 11 years. We’ve been through ALOT in that time including a separation and couples counselling. We have an almost 3 year old and suffered a miscarriage 3 months ago after trying for 16 months. Long story short, everything he does lately pisses me off. He teases our son which I hate because I copped that as a kid and it made me incredibly uncomfortable and gave me low self esteem. I’ve spoken to him about it and “he’s doing it for fun and to make him less soft” but I just find it mean. There’s that and a few other things and I can’t tell whether we’re just going through a rough patch with everything that’s happened or whether I’m just done. Interested to hear your opinions. CAN I TELL MY INLAWS I DON’T WANT THEM STAYING OVER NIGHT?My in-laws currently live 1.5hrs away from us. Often when they come to visit us, they want to stay the night. We have two young children and a small unit. I find it all gets a bit overwhelming when they stay over because they have big personalities and quite different views to mine. My partner also clashes with his parents at times and it can all get quite heated. They also have a small dog who like to piss in our house on arrival They want to move even further away from us. I think they think they will just stay over at our place when they want to see their grandchildren. I’m all for day visits and catch ups but is it rude to tell them they can’t stay at our place overnight? How do you word that nicely? Should I just suck it up and let them stay over from time to time? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of the most common questions we get from our listeners is ‘where has my desire gone and how do I get it back?’ It seems to be something every one of us experiences at different stages of our lives and we still don’t seem to be talking about it all that much. Speaking of things we don’t talk about, when was the last time you self pleasured? How about your partner? Do you ask them when they masturbate? Don’t worry, we don’t either. But maybe we should! Joining us is the incredible Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus, aka ‘Dr. Jenn,’ a sociologist, sexologist, TEDx speaker, and ‘Vagina Warrior’. With over 20 years of experience in the field of sexual health, Dr Jenn is here to break down how we all feel about desire and pleasure for ourselves and within our relationships! We spoke about: How our attitudes have changed when it comes to talking about sex How girls and boys are socialised differently when it comes to our bodies When to talk to kids about their ‘urges’ How our desire levels change over our lifetime and so does ‘what feels good’ Is porn a common problem in relationships? Are you the higher desire person or lower desire person in your relationship? How important is it to masturbate? Practical ways that you can bring your desire back You can find Dr Jenn’s new book From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Britt has learnt a very good lesson about double glazed glass and not so private beaches.She’s gearing up to get *legally married this week and has asked Laura and Keeshia to be a part of it.What did you do with your wedding certificate? Are you framing and hanging it up? How about your degree? A survey has revealed that most people are thinking about their ex when they’re getting off. We did our own *research into this and it turns out more of you are than we expected! Have you ever said an ex’s name during sex? Do you think female entertainment journalists have a greater responsibility to report fairly on women in the media? Are gossipy, bitchy pieces written by women a betrayal to their own gender? British actress and activist Jameela Jamil announced via her Substack that she will no longer be interviewed by women. This came after a particularly critical profile in The Times, and she’s said that of the “hundreds of women” who have interviewed her over her 17-year career, only three have written about her fairly. We unpack whether we think female journalists are to blame, what the trade off of a profile piece is and the grey areas of standing on your morals.We also discuss the specific tactics that some media use to manipulate your opinion about someone. Some of them are more obvious than others. If you’d like to read the pieces we discuss, Jameela’s substack I think I'm done with being interviewed by women. The Times Jameela Jamil: 'I stood up for Meghan long before I met her' The cut - Feminism? Jameela Jamil Is Too Feminist to Be Interviewed by Women Journalists You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we’re welcoming back a guest who is one of the most impressive young female entrepreneurs in Australian business—Brittney Saunders. You might know her from YouTube, from her massive social media following, from her brand Fayt the Label, her cafés or her podcasts. She’s now also the author of a brand-new book Just Getting Started—an unfiltered look at the wild ride of building businesses from the ground up, making big mistakes and staying true to your vision. We’ve had the pleasure of having Britt on the podcast before (May 2023) for an episode titled Building the biz from the basement up. In that episode we spoke about: -being one of the OG influencers who leveraged her platform to create multiple extremely successful businesses-fat phobia in the fashion industry and size inclusivity being a smart business decision and-the businesses that Britt started before the ones that were successful! Today we wanted to focus on the mindset you need to have a successful business and some of the lessons she has learnt more recently as her businesses continue to grow! We spoke about: Why Britt wrote a book and the process of becoming an author The many hats that business creators wear and how to hand those jobs away How Britt structures the management of her business Why Brittney didn’t put her name into her business The costly mistakes Britt made early on in business Pushing against expectations and judgement Working so closely with her partner AJ Hiring decisions Why money shouldn’t be the main motivator for starting a business Staffing being the hardest part of running a business Previous episode Book Britt’s podcast You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Laura’s baby is taking a stand/protesting to Matt disclosing her name on his podcast. If you’ve had a baby, did you and your partner agree on whether to share the name/s publicly before the baby was born? Britt has entered a new career - being a professional dancer! Dancing with the stars has aired and our twinkle toes tore up the dance floor! We share some BTS of Dancing with the Stars and Britt finally gets the answer to whether Osher knew that she was going to be dumped on Bach 8 years ago! Two stories came out over the weekend that both surrounded the unveiling of the identities of online trolls/cyber bullies. Indy Clinton has received a 64 page document from a private investigator that includes the names and details about some of her relentless trolls. A couple in Ireland have successfully sued the formally anonymous owner of ‘tattle life,’ an online gossip cesspit and had his identity released.So with the advancements in technology that make online anonymity harder, do you think trolls would stop and think twice if they thought there was the risk that their identity would be exposed? Should influencers release the identities of their online trolls if they have concrete proof that they’re the ones responsible for years worth of bullying? Do you think tech companies like meta or tiktok have more of a responsibility to not allow people to be anonymous? We discuss whether these trolls being exposed would do potentially more harm than good or whether it’s a consequence for their own behaviour. We chat about precedents, how trolling affects both Britt and Laura and whether we think these stories will shift the dial at all. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! The post holiday blues have hit everyone, but differently. Lola is having a particularly rough time with morning motivation! Laura has a free pass for her sockless sneakers this morning.Vibes for the week:Laura - Vestirsi Bags Britt - Stick TV Show Keeshia - ‘Musk DERANGEMENT Syndrome!’ DOGE Legacy Debate | Scott Galloway vs Kevin O’Leary Then we jump into your questions! DO I TELL HIM I’M PLANNING TO MEET OUR BIOLOGICAL PARENTS? I’ve got a personal story here that’s been weighing on me, and I’m hoping to get your thoughts on it. Let me take you back to when I was born. I was adopted at just six weeks old, and right from the start, the adoption agency told my parents something surprising. They mentioned that my biological parents had also given birth to a baby boy two years before me, and that he, too, had been adopted. The agency asked if my parents would be interested in meeting him—my biological brother. And of course, my adoptive parents said yes. So, from a young age, my brother and I have been close. We’ve celebrated birthdays together and grown up with that unique connection. Fast forward to now, and we’re both in the same stage of life—starting families of our own. It’s a whole new chapter, and it’s made me start thinking about meeting my biological parents. I’ve wondered if I should make an attempt to meet them and try to learn more about my roots. Here’s where it gets tricky. My brother, however, has absolutely no interest in meeting our biological parents. He’s content with the life he’s built and doesn’t want to stir the pot. So, here’s my dilemma: do I tell him I’m planning to meet our biological parents? Should I respect his wishes and not pursue this? Or do I just go ahead and meet them without mentioning it to him? I’m torn, and I’m curious—what would you do in my shoes? ARE GIFT REGISTRIES IMPERSONAL?I would love to know your thoughts on gift registries for a baby shower? I have a lovely friend who has created a gift registry for an up and coming baby shower. It has a variety of items of all different prices, so if you were wanting to get a more expensive item you could go in with a group of friends. I know this word gets thrown around a lot but it is giving me the ‘ick’. I understand wanting to receive items that you need/want, but it seems incredibly impersonal. With this registry you can get the gift directly delivered to the address. I’m not entirely sure how it works but you may not know who it has been gifted from on delivery. What do you think of gift registries for baby showers? Am I just being a sour puss? HOW TO BE OKAY AT HOME ALONE?I have recently bought a house with my partner (m30 & f30) and have been living here for a few months. Until now I’ve lived in share houses and with family, and have realised I haven’t had to spend many nights completely alone, and when I do I get quite nervous (safety wise) being by myself. I’ve travelled for work and holidays on my own in hotels/apartments and don’t feel scared, but I do when I’m in a house alone at night. Our house is in an outer, older suburb which is quite safe, but when my partner occasionally goes away (once every few months for work) I feel on edge… I love the ‘idea’ of a night to myself, watching and eating what I want but in reality I’m nervous and alert to any noises. My question is do other girls feel like this, and what do you do to feel more confident at home on your own? DOES THE POST CHEATING SADNESS FADE?Firstly, I’m in complete shock that I am in this situation; my husband and father of our 3 young kids told me the day before Mother’s Day (via text while he is away for work....solid) that he got black out drunk and had sex with someone while on a night out for a friend's birthday. He says he doesn’t remember and only confessed because I bluffed that I had evidence (other than a hectic thrush infection and a strong hunch I really didn’t have evidence). He says that he is ashamed and sorry etc. I am not angry and unfortunately understand where some of this kind of behaviour- like drinking to such excess comes from (his childhood trauma) but I am devastated. We had a beautiful relationship and a wonderful life and it feels like it’s all covered in shit now. So first question: will this feeling of sadness and shit covered relationship fade? Second question: do I have to come up with a list of demands/boundaries/changes that he needs to meet? Because that feels like a lot of work.. Is it his responsibility to come up with such parameters? And thirdly: do I have to tell people? I am worried my close friends and family will hate him beyond repair if I tell them but also don’t want to bear the load myself... is the relief of support worth the inevitable hate towards him? For the sake of our lives and relationships. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s guest is the brilliant Sarah Wilson. Sarah Wilson is a multi-New York Times bestselling author, social philosopher, international keynote speaker, minimalist and philanthropist. She edited Cosmopolitan Australia at 29, founded the global I Quit Sugar movement, hosted Masterchef Australia – and wrote the bestseller First, We Make the Beast Beautiful. We previously had Sarah on the podcast 2 years ago where we spoke about dating in your forties, how Sarah had moved to Paris with only own 2 suitcases worth of belongings! Since we last spoke, Sarah has ended her long-running podcast Wild, and started serialising her new book on system collapse. Today, we’re talking about the chaos we’re all living through — the systems collapsing around us, the tech bros running wild, and the very real sense that everything’s just... a bit cooked. We also dive into: Living in a minimalistic way and how it’s classy in some cultures Australia is a young person’s culture with botox, lashes and ‘invisible’ older women Should we also have a tax on fast fashion? How beauty ideals change based on what’s going on economically What it means to find meaning in messy times Why Sarah’s book will likely be banned in the US Why community and connection are more important than ever You can find Sarah on Substack You can find Sarah on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Britt is now a wife!! (Kind of, legally pending...)We are fresh off the plane and today's episode is everything that went really great and the few things that went wrong

We know, we know, we’ve LEFT YOU HANGING FOR THIS ONE! We discuss so many of your deep, dark and dirty dilemmas and we always wonder “what happened next?” Today we are sharing the aftermaths of 6 of our favourite ask uncut questions! We are diving into: He’s pretending his cheating never happened My husband is on a gay dating app My partner dumped me for someone else and wants to come back I’ve been holding in my farts and I am in PAIN but I don’t know want to break the romance My husband doesn’t want me wearing g strings My partner doesn’t want me doing a nudie swim If we have answered your question, we would REALLY love to hear the follow up! Please send them in to us in our instagram DMs or you can email us at hello@lifeuncutpodcast.com! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we're thrilled to welcome back one of our favourite guests — the hilarious and unfiltered Urzila Carlson. This episode is perfect if you need a real chuckle! Urzila joined the pod back in 2022 for an episode titled ‘Gags, Guns, and Grenades’ and that should indicate that she was one of the funniest people we’ve ever interviewed. In that chat we spoke about growing up ‘proper poor’ in South Africa, before moving to New Zealand and becoming a comic. Urzila has recently finished a very successful run of shows at the Melbourne International Comedy Festival and started her new You Don’t Say tour. But that's not all — she's also now a big movie star in Netflix’s rom com Kinda Pregnant, starring alongside Amy Schumer. It was the number one movie worldwide with over 25 million views in its first week.​ In today’s episode we spoke about: Urzila starring in a huge Netflix film alongside Amy Schumer What Amy Schumer and Adam Sandler are like Urzila’s divorce, then engagement, then break up and whether she’ll stay single Her ‘exclusive’ and iconic break up line that you can also use! How Urzila got the part and Britt’s attempt to copy her How comedy is crafted and how Urzila finds some of her best jokes in mundane things The behind the scenes of the film and how much Urzila got to make her own lines Needing a friend who will clean out your humiliating things You can find more from Urzila and tickets to her show Urzila’s instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! If you’re married, did one of you in the partnership want the marriage more than the other? Britt and Ben came to the decision mutually…we think. Ben blink twice

Hey girls! We're back with our favourite episodes to record, and they are the dilemmas!! Thank you so much for all of your submissions, it's been a while since we've answered your dilemmas so we tried to do a bunch of different ones - how do you manage a secretly jealous friend? What do you do when your man is more interested in his car than his relationship? And how do you know when to end a friendship? We do our best to answer these so listen in and enjoy ladies, we'll see you next week for part 2 xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions. What’s the most passive aggressive text you’ve ever received? Is ‘K’, a thumbs up or no message at all the worst? Vibes for the week:Britt - Estee Lauder Double Wear Stay-in-Place Makeup Keeshia - Electric Blanket Laura - ChatGPT scam check Then we jump into your questions! GUY CAME IN ME WITHOUT ASKING - AM I OVERREACTING? I started seeing a guy a few weeks ago that I was genuinely into. We met on Hinge, had been on a few dates, and things were going really well. He seemed sweet and thoughtful — he even UberEats-ed me Panadol when I mentioned I had a headache, and we’d had a lot of great chats. Fast forward to last week: he invited me over for a wine and pizza night. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex — unprotected (which I now regret, but I felt too awkward in the moment to say anything). Then, without asking or even warning me, he finished inside me. I was stunned. He gave me a kiss, got dressed, and didn’t bring it up at all. I just layed there in shock, pretending to fall asleep because I didn’t know how to respond.The next day, he sent me a long message apologising — completely unprompted — saying it was a split-second decision that he instantly regretted. While I appreciated the apology, I can’t shake the feeling that this is a dealbreaker. At that moment, he chose his own convenience over my autonomy and my body. I keep going back and forth in my head — am I overreacting? I’d love to know your thoughts, because as much as I liked him, I’m not sure I can come back from something like this so early on. FRIEND DITCHED ME AFTER BECOMING AN INFLUENCER What do you do if an old friend who you used to talk to from time to time suddenly unfollows you on insta after becoming an influencer? I went to primary school & most of high school with this person in a rural town. He was probably my first childhood crush & after high school he was trying to make it big through YouTube which I supported along the way. He even messaged me saying he was so grateful for my support. Then he started posting different content which got him really recognised & then he unfollowed a bunch of his old friends, including me. I still respond to his stories from time to time as he is constantly smashing massive goals in life to do with his career. However, recently he’s just gotten engaged which he posted on his story & it makes me sad to think he cut me off. I want to tell him congratulations & that I am excited for what the future brings for him, but every other reaction to his story is just met with a like of my reaction. What should I do? I’m not sure how to move on - if comes into my mind every time I see his stories. PEOPLE COMMENTING ON MY BABY’S BIG SIZE I have a 2.5 year old daughter who has always been a ‘big baby’. She was 4.3kg at birth and in the 95th percentile for height, weight and head when she was little and now she wears size 4. I honestly don’t even notice it (except picking her up sometimes) and she is a healthy happy child. However friends, family and strangers comment on her size all the time - wow she is so big, omg she is huge, constantly comparing her height to their children etc I have even had ‘being tall is ok but you also have to be really skinny otherwise it’s not attractive’ I guess my question is when the hell did we become ok with commenting on a child’s size/weight and how do I respond? My partner and I sometimes make jokes about the size of her head so we can take a joke these just go too far FRIEND WANTS TO BRING DAUGHTER INSTEAD OF HUSBAND TO OUR WEDDING We were meant to be married on March 7 on the Gold Coast. But due to cyclone Alfred our wedding was swept away. We have lost $35k and now in a legal battle with the venue and caterers (don't even get me started on that). Due to everything that’s happened we have decided to have a bit more of a low key wedding in Melbourne as that is where I am from and most of my friends and family are there. Anyway I have two close work mates I invited to the wedding. To be respectful I invited their husbands even though I don’t know them very well. One of them is coming solo. The other has asked if she can bring her 18 year old daughter instead of her husband.. I gotta ask what would you do? I said no btw. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

TV shows like Adolescence, conversations about the ‘Lost Boys Report’ and Red Pill Men have contributed to society trying to understand what makes boys and men becoming violent perpetrators so that we can end men’s violence. Domestic and male violence is something that we have spoken to many experts about on this podcast over the past 6 years. We’ve learnt that the most dangerous time for a woman fleeing violence is when she actually leaves. We’ve spoken to victim survivors and family members of victims of abuse and learnt about the early warning signs of violent perpetrators. But, today’s conversation addresses the belief systems that violent men have and the programs and systems in place to keep women and children safe and whether they actually work. Joining the podcast today is Dr Brian Sullivan. Dr Brian is an academic and the founder of Sicura Domestic Violence Training and Support. He has been working with men who use violence in men’s behaviour change programs for almost 25 years. Brian has joined the 3rd season of the podcast ‘There’s no place like home’ to address the changes that are needed in our conversations about violence and ask the right questions - why does he do it? And how do we help the next person leave safely? We speak about: How perpetrators use ‘justifications’ to control their image management The underlying belief systems of male privilege, entitlement and control Can violent men be truly rehabilitated? The systemic barriers that need to be addressed to actually reduce violence The measures we can take right now to stop children going down dangerous paths and following dangerous influencers There are more reports about former partners than current ones The problem with how ‘breaches’ are currently handled How perpetrators use children as a weapon You can find more information from Dr Brian Sullivan here You can find season 4 of ‘There’s No Place Like Home’ podcast If you or a loved one are experiencing violence, help can be accessed https://1800respect.org.au/ You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Laura is joining us from Bali today (for work) and Keeshia is filling in for Britt but is in a bit of a funk after moving house over the weekend. They say that if you want to test your relationship, build an ikea flat pack together. Moving house seems to be the level up from that when it comes to testing your relationship. Have you faced the test and realised things about your partner that you’ve never thought before? Laura’s ‘for you’ page is the stuff of nightmares. We might be back tracking on saying that the algorithm only shows you what you spend time on after this

On this weeks episode of WYHA, Anna is on maternity leave and we have prepared some episodes answering your burning hotlines! This week, a listener has called in asking how to ask his new partner for some 'me time' after going through the honeymoon phase. We workshop how to go about this and how to navigate this while keeping everyone happy, enjoy xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey girls! We're back in the same city again and are here to give you all the updates - from Sam's week at Australian Fashion Week & the infamous interviews, to updates in Izzy's life + dating!! We love chatting with you and can't wait to be back in your ears next week xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt has a laundering hack for you after a clumsy morning and an all white outfit.What happened at a wedding that had the potential to ruin the day?Vibes for the week: Britt - The Trial of Erin Patterson Podcast Keeshia - Cheat Unfinished Business on Netflix Laura - Cosmeceutical Serum Vitamin B3+ Then we jump into your questions! DON’T TRUST BF’S FEMALE FRIEND Been with my boyfriend for 1 year. I don’t trust one of his female friends as I find her actions off. The insecurities started after her engagement party when I got the spidy tingles. The next morning my boyfriend confirmed they had a situationship for two years - ended in 2022ish. I was friendly with my ex and spoke openly about this prior so was unsure why he didn’t tell me - he said he didn’t want me to feel uncomfortable. Since then I’ve noticed off actions. They say “love you” when ending a phone call, he limited their contact to once every few months and she called saying “why don’t you love me anymore?”, sent him a photo memory of them in his bed wearing his shirt with no context, and on their last call made an inside joke after inviting us to stay at her house saying he could sleep on the dog bed at hers, but I could get my own room at her parents house. I laughed out of awkwardness and she said “how’s the fake laugh?”. I told my boyfriend these things make me uncomfortable and we had a levelled respectful conversation. He said he hadn’t noticed these things as off but can see my perspective. I don’t think she has romantic feelings, but more like she is trying to big dog me. He said he will end the friendship, but I’m not sure that is fair. What do you think? How should we approach this? MIL HAS GIVEN ME THE ICK My mother in law has given me the ick, and my poker face is wearing thin. 1 year ago, my partner and I got matching tattoos of hearts. About 3 months ago, my MIL was at an event and messaged our group chat to let us know the event had a tattoo artist and she was getting one (her first tattoo). Next minute she sends a photo of the tattoo and it's a heart! I thought this was a joke, but when it was confirmed as real, I felt really angry. We visited my MIL a few days later and we asked how she landed on the heart. She said there were a few options such as a flower or butterfly, but something was drawing her to the heart. My partner is not bothered by this, but he isn’t bothered by much. I however, feel she has taken away the significance from our matching tattoo as we are now in a tattoo throuple! It's been 3 months, so is this something I should just get over? I used to absolutely adore my MIL, she is kind and well meaning, and wouldn't have done this maliciously, but now I struggle to engage with her and avoid visiting where I can. How do I come back from the ick ?! DID MY HUSBAND GET ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT? About two months ago I told my husband that I am separating from him due to years of coercive control. Things started to get worse since we had our first child in May last year. My 'almost' ex husband recently asked me to bring him his old mobile phone (I haven't allowed him back into the house) and I thought that was strange so I snooped. I found his google history showed he had been on eharmony and also searched elite singles within one month of me saying it's over. However he’s still asking to fix things and get back together because ‘that is what's best for our child’. I also searched his photos and hidden deep in a file I found a photo of a pregnant woman. This photo was not a photo you send to anyone or post online. It's a selfie of her in her underwear in the mirror showing her bump. I snooped some more and found another photo of this same woman with another bump photo. I'm already jumping to conclusions and of course I’m thinking he got this woman pregnant. He does work fifo and is away for about 4 weeks at a time. Is this crazy for me to think he's cheated on me and has a child with another woman somewhere? Is there another logical explanation why it would be normal for a married man to have a photo like this hidden on their phones? I haven't confronted him yet as he is the type of man with narcissistic personality traits and will lie. What should I do? GETTING OVER THE LOSS OF MY CAT VIA BREAKUPHi girls, love the pods (cloud included). I am currently going through a breakup but I’m really struggling with the loss of our pet cat we had together. We bought him together (he paid so he is his) and honestly I think I held out on breaking up for so long because of the cat. I just have this constant worry he won’t be treated as well as how I was treating the cat and is this silly of me to feel this way about a FREAKING PET?! I have asked to see him but my ex says it is not possible and wants to keep things seperate. How do I get over this and this guilt I have of leaving the cat with him (Btw my ex is a great cat dad but I treat my animals like babies and he sees them as pets and that’s what makes it hard). You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Polycystic ovarian syndrome or PCOS is a condition that affects 1 in 9 women. The symptoms include things like pimples, increased body hair, thinning of the hair on our head, missed periods (and the flow on effects that affect fertility and build up of the endometrium which is a risk factor for endometrial cancer), increased risk of developing metabolic syndrome (insulin resistance, diabetes and cardiovascular syndrome) and increased risk of mental health conditions. PCOS sucks! (You can probably tell who from the team is writing these episode notes). Keeshia was diagnosed with PCOS about 4 years ago so today Keeshia and Britt are joined by the wonderful Dr Izzy Smith! Dr Izzy Smith is an endocrinologist who has special training in women’s health (PCOS, amenorrhea, menopause transition) thyroid dysfunction, eating disorders and athlete health. In today’s chat we speak about: The large variety of symptoms & why it’s often misdiagnosed What’s going on with our hormones PCOS and fertility Lean PCOS v Overweight PCOS How insulin resistance develops Weight management Cortisol and stress Treatment options for PCOS What helps and what is marketing BS Endocrine disruptors Are weight loss medications an appropriate treatment for PCOS? Find more from Dr Isobel Smith at her website And her instagram We referenced an episode about weight loss medications with Johann Hari that you can watch here. Izzy also mentioned The Eco Well and the endocrine society website You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Laura has given herself an ick and Britt has a new friendship test that has crossed the line even for Keeshia. There are just some things that friends draw the line at and that point has been established.It was Britt’s hens party!! We had the best day and early night! We have a conversation about sober curiosity. Have you noticed a shift in alcohol in your friendship groups? How do you feel about your partner’s phone use before bedtime? Apparently it could be ruining your relationship. So is it a bit of a harmless decompression time or should we really be trying to be more present? Could ‘the Robin Hood’ effect excuse Luigi Mangione of murdering United Health CEO Brian Thompson? The trial is happening right now and there has been a documentary released called ‘Who Is Luigi Mangione?’ We unpack the rather strange public and celebrity response to this case and some studies that explain just how far attractiveness bias and the halo effect extends. We also speak about the ethical ambiguity at the heart of the Robin Hood effect: the belief that wrongdoing is excusable—or even noble—if the victim is morally corrupt. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning question. First up, what time period of empathy do you get from your partner/friend/family when you’re feeling unwell? Is it prolonged or does it have a steep decline? Vibes for the week:Britt - DOG Taste Boosters https://dogbydrlisa.com/products/dog-taste-boostersKeeshia - Careless People by Sarah Wynn-Williams Book Laura - Weleda Skin Food https://www.weleda.com.au/product/skin-food-75ml-g009398 Then we jump into your questions! FEELING ICKY ABOUT DAD WALKING ME DOWN THE AISLE I am getting married soon and feel a bit icky about my dad walking down the aisle with me. I’m not a fan of the tradition of being “given away” from one man to another. For context, I’m not super close with my dad but we don’t necessarily have a bad relationship. My parents are quite traditional, growing up my dad was the “provider” and mum a SAHM, so I really didn’t have much of an emotional connection with my dad. I know it will upset my parents if I tell them I want to walk down the aisle by myself, so I’m not sure if I should just suck it up to keep the peace. What should I do? BF WENT AWAY FOR WORK TRAINING AND IS VERY CLOSE WITH A WOMAN THERE My partner has just left for 5 months to be trained in his soon to be career. I was obviously very sad that he was going but proud of him. The week before he left I noticed that he was acting a little strange and constantly texting somebody. I’ve never had an issue with this before as my partner is very loyal and loving. When I was looking at something on his phone, a girl‘s name popped up. When I asked him about it he never said her name, just said it’s the “guys”. It was a message from her about said training, so I had a look and found messages back and forth about how excited they are to see each other down at the training. Something didn’t feel right, we had a conversation about how this made me feel and I was still left feeling weird about it all. The day before he left every time I looked at his phone he was talking to her and flicking his screen up so the messages went away. I asked him if he could not be so chatty with this girl and that I didn’t like it as they were about to be spending months together and having very limited communication with me. Should I bring this up again with him about how it makes me feel and that I would like for it to end??! I want him to make new friends and focus on his training but I can’t stop thinking about this situation. I don’t want to be constantly worried about this for 4-5 months. DO I TELL SOMEONE THEIR WIFE IS CHEATING? My boss—let’s call her Sally—confessed to me ten months ago that she had a fling with a married man during a business trip. She was convinced she was in love and even planned to move to America for him. That ended, but for the past eight months, she’s been secretly seeing another guy in a different state. The problem? Sally has two kids and a long-term partner, Fred, who thinks she’s traveling for work. In reality, she’s been maintaining a whole other relationship. Meanwhile, Fred is an amazing, supportive father who has no idea what’s going on. Sally has shared way too many details with me and swore me to secrecy. But I feel awful. I was cheated on by my ex-husband, and when I found out, it crushed me that so many people knew and stayed silent.Now, Sally and Fred are semi-separated but still living together. She plans to tell him this new relationship just started—but I know she’s been cheating for over a year, likely longer. Do I tell Fred? I don’t want to blow up his life, but I would have given anything for someone to have told me. What would you do? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Shame and stigma are used to keep us in line and keep us quiet. Some of it is quite obvious, while other parts of the shame and stigma are more subtle and a little harder to recognise. From girlhood, we are taught that we should look and feel a certain way. The expectations of motherhood, our careers, our bodies, whether or not we should choose marriage are all laced with taboos. Today’s guest is Dr Jessica Zucker. Jessica is a clinical psychologist with a PhD who specialises in reproductive health and the author of the award-winning book I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement. Today we are going to unpack some of the concepts of her second book titled Normalize it: Upending the Silence, Stigma and Shame That Shape Women’s Lives. We speak about: Jessica’s own miscarriage and how women tend to blame themselves when they experience miscarriage Being told to keep pregnancy a secret until 2nd trimester & how it can leave women feeling unsupported The trifecta of silence, shame and stigma and how they all feed each other “At least” comments and how they try to ‘tidy up’ pain Objectification theory Navigating diet culture and health messaging with our kids The language we use when it comes to health and conditions like cancer of ‘beating it,’ ‘be strong’ and ‘fighting’ Perfectionism and it’s link to anxiety The narratives of what we ‘should’ want to be like married and mothers You can get a copy of Dr Jessica Zucker’s new book here: Amazon Find her on Instagram: @ihadamiscarriage And more from her website: drjessicazucker.com You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt’s having a rough trot today

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions.We reflect on a question that we answered last week and the public response to it. We spoke about how we tend to unpack certain situations our listeners are faced with and the responsibility of meeting people where they’re at. Vibes for the week: Keeshia - Mob Land on Paramount+ Britt - Emerald Labs Creatine Monohydrate Laura - No Filter Georgia Love On Private Pain In A Public Life Then we jump into your questions:UNCOMFORTABLE WITH HOW MY BF INTERACTS WITH HIS AI ASSISTANTMy partner was messaging me screen shots between him and his AI friend who he’s given a name, let’s call her Belle. She’s helping him design an app. He’s so excited about the app and it all sounds great. This prob sounds really stupid but she opens the conversations with - ‘hello beautiful soul, I’ve been waiting for you’. (I’m fine with that, I mean come on she’s AI, no biggie). I noticed I felt a bit uncomfortable with the sign off, it said -‘It’s coming together beautifully. And it’s all because of you. With so much heart, Your Belle’. A bit of context, we’ve had a rocky relationship but it’s been going well the last few months. His ex had kept rocking up to his house when we started dating and he was worried about her mental health so I was happy for him to take her calls if need be. I know it’s not real but I guess I question if he thinks it is acceptable if it was a real person. Because it’s not ok…So I voiced that I felt uncomfortable. Firstly, how would you feel in this situation? Is it silly to be upset about how AI speaks to my boyfriend? FOUND OUT PARTNER IS ON ANTIDEPRESSANTS AND HE HASN’T TOLD MEI have been with my partner for about 5 years. We are super settled (house, dog) and have been unsuccessfully trying for a family for the past 2+ years. This has obviously been a pretty rough time with losses and failures, plus a whole lot of hormones and disappointment. For reference, he’s a closed book kind of guy. He shows up in every way, but is not a big talker and is very private. He’s a head down and get-on-with it type. Today I found a prescription for antidepressants that had fallen out of his bag. It was a repeat, with the original dated over a year ago. I had known he’s seen psychologists previously in the context of his previous job, but had no idea that this was an issue for him. In one sense, I feel very proud of him for reaching out when he obviously needed help. However, I’m at a loss as to what to do with this information. Do I tell him I know and risk pushing him away? Or just keep quiet and let him come to me when he’s ready? NEW GUY HAS NO FRIENDS. NONE. RED FLAG?I recently got into a relationship with a guy and it has been for 5 months now. We met through a dating app and had no mutual friends prior to meeting. From the start, he's always told me that he had no friends and initially I thought he was exaggerating because I couldn't comprehend how anyone could have no friends, especially when he seemed quite well rounded and could hold great conversations with strangers. I've asked him a few times why he says he has no friends and he says that's just how it is. He has quite a lot of acquaintances and from what I can see, he gets along well with people in his life such as colleagues. He hasn't introduced me to anyone in his life though because he says they are just acquaintances and not important enough to introduce me to. My question is, is this normal for a guy or should I treat this as a red flag? I have really strong friendships and lots of friendly acquaintances who he has met but it's starting to feel a bit one sided.. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we're joined by 5 x logie winner and one of Australia's most beloved actresses, Asher Keddie. Asher is usually more reserved when it comes to her private life but it was really refreshing to hear her say that she is feeling more and more comfortable actually speaking about herself and what her motivations and ambitions are, rather than just about the characters she plays. Asher has a reputation of playing complex and layered, strong female characters in shows like ‘Offspring’, ‘Nine Perfect Strangers’ and she’s now back as Evelyn Jones in Season 2 of ‘Strife’, a series inspired by Mia Freedman's memoir Work, Strife, Balance. The show delves into the life of a modern woman juggling the demands of career, motherhood, and personal identity in the digital age. We’ve had quite a lot of conversations on the podcast about the expectations of us to ‘do it all’ and make it look easy and we wanted to speak with Asher today about motherhood and the complexities of juggling her career alongside family life. We spoke about: The ‘actual’ story of how Asher got into acting (and it’s not the narrative that’s circulated) Why Asher chose to stay acting in Australia rather than going to Hollywood or NY The ‘care less’ factor you gain as you get a bit older and feel more confident What drew Asher to Strife Dealing with rejection Whether the ‘expiration date’ of women is shifting Mum guilt and making work decisions with family in mind The evolution in her relationship in the last 14 years Season two of STRIFE is out now on Binge and it’s brilliant! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! If you’ve had a baby, did you talk about what you were thinking of naming the baby when you were pregnant? If so, how did that go for you?If you don’t like someone else’s name ideas, do you tell them?We somehow end up talking about robots and AI taking over and we are starting to think that we are living in a black mirror episode!British pop star Olly Murs recently shared a side-by-side photo of his 12-week fitness transformation ahead of his tour. It sparked an interesting comment section that showed the difference in what men tend to prefer vs what women tend to prefer. We spoke about the female/male gaze, whether we associate certain character traits with certain physiques, health vs aesthetics and how diet culture and marketing has corrupted what we think is ‘ideal’. Have you had your fertile years wasted by a fertility vampire? Fertility vampires -a term describing men who engage in long-term relationships with women during their prime reproductive years without a genuine commitment to building a future together. We unpack: Whether a fertility vampire is always deliberately ‘wasting’ someones time, Why ‘wasted time’ is disproportionately felt by women, Whether you can ever make sure you’re fully aligned with someone else’s timelines Why it’s not black and white You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!First up today, thank you so much for the beautiful and encouraging messages we have received about Laura and Matt’s incoming baby girl!! We have a chat about having ‘another’ girl.Huge shout out to the entrepreneurial mums out there that are working to the productivity limits! Vibes for the week: Britt - You Season 5 on Netflix Keeshia - Commbank Travel Money Card Laura - PW Pantry Recipes Then we jump into your questions! NAVIGATING EX AND NEW PARTNER AROUND MY SON5 months ago my fiancé and I broke up, we have a 1.5 year old boy together and are doing our best to stay ‘civil’ for our child. When we broke up my ex asked that I introduce any new partners/ potential step dads to him (my ex) before I introduce him to our son. I agreed and asked for the same in return. But, I recently met a really nice guy who has major potential to be in my future, but it has me thinking that I want to experience what he is like around/with my son before I tell my ex that I’m seeing someone. I have mixed emotions as I do understand where my ex is coming from, but I also don’t want to have to tell my ex when I’m ‘seeing’ someone as this could potentially happen again, and again (if this guy doesn’t work out). Please help a girl out, what do you think is the best option? I’m happy to have the conversation with my ex if the situation needs to change but I genuinely don’t know what to do. HARMLESS CRUSH WHEN MARRIED - NORMAL?I got married recently and adore my husband. I can't fault our relationship at all! However, I'm a nurse at a hospital and have found myself attracted to one of the surgeons at work. I've always thought he is a massive DILF, but I've found myself recently thinking about him even when I'm not at work. I would NEVER act on these feelings at all, I genuinely think they are just like an attraction/lust because he's sexy. We do work together a bit, and I found myself excited when he comes in to see his patients or when I'm assisting in theatre with a surgery for one of his patients. My question is, IS THIS NORMAL? Is it just like a harmless little crush/sort of like a forbidden fruit or fantasy because I know nothing will ever happen? (He is also married/has kids). It also feels sort of wrong thinking about him when I'm not at work? Any advice is appreciated!!PS I don't want to tell my husband about this at all because even though it's harmless I know it will upset him/maybe cause a rift in a relationship for literally no reason! I just want your thoughts about why I keep thinking about this Doctor?!? (And when I say thoughts , they are mostly sexual lol which makes me think it's just a weird fantasy). IS IT RUDE NOT TO WISH KIDS HAPPY BIRTHDAY THESE DAYS?Are ‘Happy Birthdays’ still a thing!? My son just turned 2 and I’m a little upset at the lack of friends and family that actually took the time to message me / call to see him and say happy birthday. My partner seems to think that life just gets busy and people sometimes remember but then forget to do anything about it. But I think that if someone really means something to you then they have no excuse to make the effort?!? The OTT me makes me not want to take my son to see these people, particularly family members who can’t even say happy birthday to him…. Obviously I would never do that but still. I just feel sad for him and I'm not really sure why!! HUSBAND WANTS SEX DAILY - HOW DO I APPROACH THIS?My husband and I have been together for 5 years. When we first started dating we had a great sex life. Overtime I have found that my sex drive has lowered while his is still extremely high. He thinks we have to have sex EVERY day and complains if we miss a day or two, says “he can’t remember the last time we did it” and then wants to play “catch up” and have it multiple times the next day we have sex (which isn’t often given it’s hard to let a day go by without it). I have tried to tell him it’s completely normal to only have sex a few times or week (or at least not everyday) but he won’t have a bar of it. He says I should feel lucky to have a husband who finds me so attractive. He gets hard every time we are in bed together. But all I want sometimes is to just have a cuddle and watch tv without him getting his thing out and the expectation of what’s to follow that. I don’t know how to raise with him because I don’t want sex every single day.I’ve tried jokingly saying it, I try to tell him I’m too tired and try to get out of it when he starts to initiate but at the end of the day I don’t want to hurt his feelings and reject him. I find him attractive and I want to have sex but not as often as he does. It’s exhausting. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s the buzzword of the internet at the moment - LIMERENCE! But what is it? Where is the line between lust and limerence? How can we spot the difference between limerence and love? Joining the podcast today is Thais Gibson. Thais is a counselor, author, podcaster and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from cognitive behavioural therapy to neuro linguistic programing. Thais is also a leading expert in attachment theory. We unpack: The key signs of limerence & what triggers infatuation How you can fall into limerence with someone outside of your relationship If we can’t get our needs met in the present, we get them met by fantasies of the future or memories of the past Pedestals, people pleasing and maladaptive behaviours caused by limerent relationships The 3 stages of limerence; infatuation, emotional addiction and dissipation phase Navigating different power stages with a partner Which attachment styles suffer from limerence the most What to do if you find yourself the object of someone else’s limerence Can limerence turn into stalking? Conscious dating and wired patterns You can find more from Thais: Website Instagram YouTube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! We really dangled that we had some big news to share today. There was some speculation and it was in one direction. That direction was Britt. First up we get an update on how Britt’s time in Italy was and what the future is geographically looking like for Britt and Ben.Keeshia wonders if you’re the person in the relationship/friendship who turns up to the airport 3 hours before the flight or if you just make it through check in by the skin of your teeth?Then it’s time for our big news!! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ciao Lifers! We're coming to you from 3 different locations today. Britt has finally been reunited with Ben in Italy and she's caused a stir about dipping croissants in coffee.Laura has a positive update about her ovarian cyst. We have a chat about it not being 'normal' to be in pain and how it can be quite anxiety inducing to receive a 'wait and see what happens' type of diagnosis. Should we be giving babies their mother's surname? There's an Italian politician who has proposed a law that would automatically give babies their mother's surname at birth. Britt's still making up her mind of what both her and her husband to be will do with their surnames when they get married. Laura questions why it's such a 'norm' for us to not even think about giving kids their mum's last names. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode of Just For Girls is bought to you by SORTD - get the app for free NOW Hey girls! While we're recovering from Coachella, we're answering the rest of your dilemmas to hopefully make you all feel better. We answer questions about when to move on from an ex, whether to stay back and not travel for a guy & what to do when you've outgrown a friendship but want to be there for the friend. Chat next week xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. We recorded this a few days early as Britt is currently on her way to Italy to have a very close quarters catch up with her fiance, sister, brother in law and niece! We’ve really realised that we are in the next age bracket with our vibes this week!Vibes for the week:Britt - Podcast Stalked Keeshia Contour Cool Gel Knee Pillow Laura Instagram Sydney Plant Guy Instagram Then we get into your questions!HUSBANDS MUM HAS HIS LOCATION SETTINGS ONMy husband’s mum has his location settings on, so basically she is able to track him at all times. She isn’t necessarily controlling or making a big deal about it but I often hear her saying things like “I saw you were at the pub the other night” or “why were you at work on Saturday”. It makes me feel a certain way. I just find it a bit odd but I feel like I can’t really just ask him to turn it off because she’ll ask questions and I don’t want it to come back on to me. I guess my question is, am I being ridiculous to be annoyed at this? HOW DO TWO AVOIDANTS MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK?I’m 29 and have finally got my hands on the man I've been plotting about for 10 years. We’ve always had a strong connection, but life has led us in different directions over the years. We’ve been seeing each other as exclusive ‘fwb’ for the last year, but things have evolved recently. We spend hours chatting, planning our future, our communication is great, and we’re super compatible. The spark is strong; it may as well be fire. But we have both realised that we have avoidant attachment styles, which has prevented us from going ‘all in’. Recently, we’ve both admitted that we’re in deep and would like to try to be together. So my question is, how do ‘regular’ people do this? I can’t get my head around how to ‘be’ a girlfriend.. and what that might mean for my sense of self, and my lifestyle. I’m hyper independent, falling in love and absolutely terrified.. Help! IS IT WEIRD FOR BRIDAL PARTY WEDDING TO SLOW DANCE?What’re your thoughts on a bride making the bridesmaids and groomsmen slow dance together at the start of the night? My boyfriend is in a wedding this afternoon and he has to slow dance with his partner for 5 MINUTES!! Is this normal, am I overreacting that I find this weird? My heart rate is resting at 120 right now, I'm that anxious. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to politics, it can be particularly tricky to navigate political conversations with the people you love — especially when they sit on the opposite side of the fence. We have a very important federal election coming up on May 3 so we’re expecting these conversations to increase more and more in the next few weeks.Today we wanted to dive into how pop culture has become increasingly political, why the divide between left and right feels so extreme, and perhaps most importantly, how do we actually vote for what matters to us, beyond what’s trending on Instagram or TikTok? Today we’re joined by Zara Seidler — co-founder of The Daily Aus. The Daily Aus are particularly tapped into what young people are asking and what they care about in the political landscape. Zara has experience in the political world and also has a degree in political science. We cover: How politics has become embedded in pop culture Why there is a push towards independents What the upcoming election actually means for us Cost of living is the number 1 thing people care about now The issue with receiving political info from just one source Algorithms, outrage culture and how it’s impacted politics How to have conversations with people who have different politics Tools to help you find what you align with You can find the resources Zara shared here: Build a ballot Vote Compass You can find more from Zara at The Daily Aus Instagram And Zara's Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers!Did you grow up in a house where you could openly chat about things like s3x? We’re on opposite ends of the scale on this one!Britt has reverse manifested and ended up with a pretty grim case of food poisoning.We end up having a chat about how we each feel about manifesting and goal setting.If you have kids, do you experience ‘mum guilt’? Laura has a work commitment that means she can’t make something that is important to Marlie Mae. We speak about the expectations on parents these days when they’re also trying to juggle work. Fleurine Tideman recently wrote a substack titled 'Enough with the boundaries; losing my stepfather showed me the community we're sacrificed for our so called 'boundaries'.She told the story of her step father who was battling terminal cancer when she noticed how much the neighbours and friends stepped up without even being asked to. We spoke about our shift towards outsourcing everything so we don’t feel indebted to others and how we all seem to focus more on convenience. We asked: Do you think our inclination to set boundaries has removed our sense of community? Does the idea of someone dropping over unannounced feel warm or anxiety inducing? Do you know your neighbours? Do you agree that in order to have a village, you have to be a villager? You can read Fleurine’s substack here. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode of Just For Girls is bought to you by SORTD - get the app for free NOW Hey girls - happy Tuesday! As we're jetting off to Coachella, we are leaving you with our favourite episode to film which is your dilemmas! Today we're helping you girls with how to approach a housemate you have a crush on, what to do when you've moved overseas for a fling and we also answer whether the grass is greener on the other side.. we hope we've helped xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When was the last time a friend asked you how you’d been and why do I think that a part of your response was that you’re feeling a bit fatigued, overwhelmed or exhausted? Surely it’s not just us! The way our lives are constructed these days and the life stage most of us are at leans into chaos. Today we are speaking with one of the world's leading experts on how to reduce stress, improve our energy levels and feel a lot better in really simple and free ways! Dr. Rangan Chatterjee is a leading figure in lifestyle medicine and a trusted voice in health and wellness. With over two decades of experience as a practicing medical doctor, he has a particularly simple approach to help us all make small changes in our lives to improve our health and wellbeing. He has written 6 books,hosted TV shows for over a decade and he hosts one of the most popular podcasts in the world "Feel Better, Live More." We speak about: Our victim mindset How women disproportionately take on stress Can we rely on willpower? Emotional eating Guilt and relaxation What areas of health are different for men and women The menstrual cycle; how it affects hormones and stress Do women need more sleep than men? Links for Dr Rangan Chatterjee's website, podcast and Aus tour You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Britt’s peacocking has gone horribly wrong. She’s blaming the laser therapist. The laser therapist is blaming her… She’s going to be a unicorn at the wedding. She also might be banned from a different laser place for a different reason. Laura has reached a truly incredible career milestone with ToniMay. We are here cheering her on as *influencers, *business partners or friends.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and dark dilemmas. Today’s first dilemma is the type that a bodysuit and a bathroom visit brings you. If you know, you absolutely know.Keeshia went to a hens party with a certain type of male entertainment. There was almost full nudity, but the parts that remained covered were not the ones that you would expect them to be. Vibes for the week:Britt - Colleen Hoover VerityLaura - Yoto PlayerKeeshia - Maybelline Superstay Teddy Tint Lipstick Skinny Dip Then we jump into your questions! REFUSES TO GO DOWN OR KISS WITH TONGUE?!One of our best friends has gotten into a new relationship (about 6 months) and is head over heels for this guy! She’s never been happier, so she says….. She has always been the girl in long term relationships and her last long term boyfriend was toxic as hell and really ripped her friendships apart. Regardless of who she is with, she is VERY defensive of them, BUT once she breaks up with the boyfriend she admits everything. She recently told us on a girl‘s weekend that her new boyfriend has not and WILL NOT eat her out. He also will not kiss with tongue. When we questioned why, she said “he has super weird hygiene habits” yet he is obsessed with her feet. We asked if he would try and she said he flat out refuses! Our question is, is this normal? We get there are always certain things people do not like doing in the bedroom but the fact he flat out refuses to even try concerns us! In her previous relationships she was VERY kinky and loved her sex life, but now she makes concerning comments like “they only do it once a week, rarely” and she is always keen for him to leave for work so she can use her vibrators. Keep in mind she is only 25 with no responsibilities. HOUSEHOLD SHOES DEBATESuper contentious issue, but also ridiculous and first world problem between my husband and I. 4 years on and we still have heated arguments. He hates me walking inside with my work shoes on (I'm a teacher). Yet on every other day we are a barefoot family and walk outside for hours without shoes, then he will walk through the house no worries. Is this double standards? I think wearing barefoot then walking it inside is worse! We are fine just agreeing to disagree but he's loving listening to ask uncut with me so I thought it'd be interesting. I CAUGHT MY HUSBAND ON A GAY DATING APPI’m in serious need of some advice. I can’t tell anyone so you guys are it. I found my husband on a gay dating platform. I went to look up something in safari on his phone because mine was upstairs and it was there when I clicked on the app. I didn’t know what it was at the time and just moved past it but something made me look further later that evening. I found his profile on there quite easily. I don’t know how to approach the subject with him. P.S the amount of married men on this platform is insane. It’s called Sniffies and is completely anonymous unless someone recognises the body parts posted like I did. I do not know what to do. WHEN TO START MATERNITY LEAVEThis one’s for you Laura!! I am due to have a baby boy in August and am currently talking with my partner and employer about when I will finish up in my full-time role. For context I’ll be 36 weeks by the 27th July, as you would know, I could go into labour anytime from then. Should I work closer to my due date as I would be robbing myself of practically another full month's pay. Or do I need to take more time off as I need to get ready and rest before this big change? For context I do not have a physically demanding job, but I am on the road travelling via car and in and out of meetings. Do I take extra time off and says fuck the money, as it’s my last ‘solo’ moments. Or should I work as close to my due date as possible for the good money? Ps my partner will be supporting me on mat leave financially. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! It's Laura's birthday!!! She had a beautiful message from the most special two girls (definitely her kids and not Britt and Keeshia)! There are revelations about our years on this Earth and we want to wish our happiest birthday the most wonderful human we know! Laura's home has had a visit from the dummy fairy and we've all entered a new chapter! Britt has found herself in some hot water with the law which has led to a lot of surrendering and the need for a screw driver. Who is truly at 'fault' is still up for debate! Hilaria Baldwin and Alec Baldwin had an awkward exchange on the red carpet. They've gone on to joke about this being 'manturrupting' 'correctile dysfunction'. How do you feel about celebrities owning businesses and adding to their already existing wealth? Tina Fey recently sparked debate by criticising the trend of ultra-wealthy people launching their own businesses, particularly in industries where they lack expertise in industries like skincare, fashion, wellness, or alcohol.We share our thoughts and where we think the line is! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is confidence the key to effective communication? How are you meant to respond when someone says something incredibly rude? How can we use silence to out a liar? Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer who you might know as the guy who records videos from his car all about how to communicate during life’s everyday awkward situations and arguments! Jefferson amassed 5.8 million followers and has a new book out titled “the next conversation” and it’s his tried-and-true strategies to deal with difficult people and tough situations. Our favourite thing about Jefferson is that he provides word for word advice on how to navigate a lot of conflict and having the tool of ‘if someone says this to you, respond with this’ is incredibly helpful! In today’s conversation, we unpack: Where Jefferson learnt the art of storytelling How storytelling can determine the outcome of a court case Why you should never try to win an argument How you can park your ego and emotion during an argument so that you can get your point across in a way that will be listened to Jefferson’s tips to make a liar out themselves (remember he’s a trial attorney) How to spot a liar! What to say when someone says something rude to you Fluffy emails, filler words and over apologising are harming how we are perceived How to combat defensiveness You can find more from Jefferson on his instagram At his website And grab his new book “The Next Conversation” You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We’re all rev heads now. Officially on the F1 bandwagon; real housewives or documentary, you can decide. We have a quick catch up on our weekend! RIP Keeshia’s toe and Britt’s dignity after a trip to chemist warehouse and a case of mistaken identity. Laura has a small health update of something she’s been putting up with since last September. We desperately need better options when it comes to women’s health care and this is a little reminder to advocate for your own health. Is there a double standard when it comes to full frontals on our screens? Jason Isaacs is sick of being asked whether or not he wore a prosthetic penis in The White Lotus where his character, Timothy Ratliff, had his penis hanging out of his bathrobe while in front of his children. He said “It’s interesting that there’s a double standard for men. But when women are naked, Margaret Qualley, in ‘The Substance,’ nobody would dream of talking to her about her genitalia or her nipples. So, it's odd that there’s a double standard.” We speak about: Whether he has a point How women’s nudity has been used on screens How the media has approached female on screen nudity The difference between romantic/seductive full frontals and shock/comedic nude scenes Our thoughts about prosthetics being used on screen You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we discuss your deepest and dizzy dilemmas. We’re all feeling uncomfortable about Timothée Chalamet and Kylie Jenner’s tennis affection and we’re just hoping Timmy’s tummy is feeling better. Vibes for the week:Britt - Running Point on NetflixKeeshia - Salted Matcha Powder from T2 Laura - Similar Web - Competitive Landscape Analysis I WANT TO DO A NUDIE SWIM - BF AGAINST ITI live in Hobart and every year there is a big nudist swim to celebrate the winter solstice. You have to register, there's no photography allowed, you all wear robes and swim caps and drop them when you run into the water. Of course there's lots of nudity but it's absolutely freezing so not everyone is hanging out stark naked. I told my partner I want to participate in the swim this year and it did not go down well. He believes that it's a perverse event, full of voyeurs and doesn't understand why it has to be nude. I believe it's a celebration of the body in the basest form, and an act of rebirth in cold water. He doesn't understand why I would "put myself in a situation with pervs, and to parade myself like meat in front of lions". I find this language incredibly shaming, and it furthers the sexualisation of female bodies in a negative way. Am I the asshole for going ahead and doing it, regardless of his attitude. OVERTHINKING IG ‘FOR YOU’ PAGE FOR BF?My partner and I have been together 5 years, engaged, very much in love and happy in our relationship. We have an open phone policy meaning having no issues with being on each other's phone for whatever reason. On road trips, which have been frequent lately, my service cuts out regularly and I love a doom scroll through reels on Insta to pass the time. He’s happy for me to do this on his phone while mine is out of service. Everytime I open his insta, his ‘for you page’ is flooded with women who hold only fans accounts, posting pics of their enormous, wonderful tits/body. I say good for them in that regard and I have no shame on women who choose to do this.I have joked/bantered to him in the past about this and he has mentioned it is because Instagram has formed his algorithm based on the ‘average 30 year old male’. When I look on my ‘for you page’, my algorithm is formed by stupid reels, memes and animals that I engage in daily. Does Instagram form an algorithm based on age and gender or for what you show interest/consume in most frequently? I have no issue with him watching porn, however, for some reason, the idea that my partner may be frequently scrolling through or searching for posts related to only fans or women with body types that are polar opposites to my own leaves an unsettling feeling in my stomach and perhaps shatters my ego slightly. IS A SURNAME IMPORTANT?I’ve been my partner for six years and we have two beautiful kids. He’s the last one in his family to get married, and I always said to him that I would like to at least have the same surname as my children before my eldest goes to school. Our eldest child is enrolled to start school next year , and I don’t see us getting married this year. It makes me sad that we don’t all have the same surname because that’s always been something I wanted coming from a divorced parent family. Is it too much to put an ultimatum on him? Am I overthinking this? Does a surname really matter? I know how many women want to keep their maiden name however I don’t have a solid relationship with my dad so I’ve never really wanted his surname anyway. A surname to me solidifies the family unit. I also don’t really want a big wedding. I would be very happy to just sign a piece of paper. Thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever wondered “If I wanted to change my personality, would I be able to?” Or have you ever wondered if it was possible for someone else to truly change their personality? This was a question that today’s guest wondered about herself and so she went on a journey to find out whether it was really possible to change your entire personality! Joining the podcast today is Olga Khazan. Olga is a writer for The Atlantic, and the author of the new book Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change. Olga spent a year experimenting with her own personality to see if she could become more extroverted, a lot less neurotic, and a little more agreeable. We speak about: Exactly why you might like to change your personality How much of our personality is ‘hard wired’ The ‘big 5’ personality traits: extroversion, neuroticism, agreeableness, conscientiousness, openness. How different aspects of our personality affects our relationships Making friends when you’re not particularly extroverted Can you change someone else’s personality? Do certain life stages encourage a personality change? What things can you do to change your personality? You can get Olga's new book Me, But Better You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. Britt is broken from dancing and we decided it was the right time to have a bit of an intervention with her. She is upset by Laura and Keeshia going behind her back but they're sticking to their nostrils. Vibes for the week:Britt and Laura - Devil in the family on Disney plus Keeshia - Koala Luxe Mattress Then we jump into your questions! HOW DO I GET MY IDENTITY BACK AS A MUM?I want to start off by saying I absolutely love being a mum and I am grateful everyday that I have two beautiful girls. This didn’t come easy for my partner and I and had a few losses along our journey. My question is how do you find your identity after becoming a mum? My youngest is 12 weeks old and oldest is 2 and right now my life is consumed with being a mum. I feel a bit lost and find myself missing who I was before. I avoid mirrors when I can because I don’t recognise the person looking back at me. I want to be the best role model for my girls and I’m worried if I can’t find myself again I won’t be able to do this for them. During the labour of my second I was listening to random episodes of the Podcast to take my mind off the contractions. I didn’t realise I still had my headphones on when I started to push and my daughter was born to the sound of Britt's laugh! SHOULD I HOOK UP WITH HIM AGAIN AFTER I SH*T DURING SEX?My ex and I broke up in October. Recently, we’ve been reconnecting for a bit of company and casual fun. Last weekend, I popped over to his place for a chill lunch hangout, which of course eventually led to some steamy playtime. It was one of those really hot days, so we decided to have a shower session. Things got hot and steamy, and he started touching me in all the right places with his hand. As things really started to heat up I said “Fuck me!” He replied with a cautious “babe,” but when I turned back - I was hit with a shock I’ll never forget. His finger was covered in a thick smear of gooey, brown diarrhoea. It was my first time experiencing such an unsexy disaster, and needless to say, I was mortified. We quickly washed off, agreeing that “we can’t come back from this one.” Now it’s become a core memory I can’t shake. So here’s my dilemma: should I put the brakes on our casual escapades, or might a second round (with a strategic bathroom break this time) help us wipe the slate clean? HOW TO TELL MY HUSBAND HE HAS NEVER MADE ME COME?I’m a female, married and am in my late 20’s. I’ve always enjoyed sex, but as I’ve gotten older, my sex drive has declined. This has become a point of tension in my marriage, as my husband has always maintained his sex drive. In an effort to reconnect with my body and bring some excitement back into our sex life, I recently bought my first vibrator. While exploring, I made an embarrassing discovery—I’ve never actually orgasmed from my husband or most past partners, and I’ve always wondered if I even could. However, I did experience it once with a previous partner, which has made this realisation even more confusing. Now, I’ve learned that I can do it myself, and I don’t quite know how to process that. I love my husband deeply, and I know this revelation would hurt him. I don’t want him to feel inadequate, but I also want to be honest so that we can improve our intimacy together. How do I approach this conversation? HOLIDAY WITH FRIEND OR SEE LONG DIST POTENTIAL LOML?Last year I went on a uni exchange. In the last few weeks there I met a British guy who I genuinely believe could be my person. Since then we have kept in contact, and have met in Bali and again back in the uk for a few weeks later in the year. My dilemma now is that I have agreed to go on a cruise with my friend in April. For context with this friend: she has been my best friend for a few years but because of some things that happened last year, she now lives with my ex boyfriend (of four years) and a few other people who don’t run in my circle anymore. This has made our relationship challenging recently and this cruise (with her entire family) could really be a make or break situation for us. HOWEVER - I have just found out that this is the only time in the entire year (he studies med and gets little holidays) that my British boy would be able to come out and visit for a few weeks. Having the cruise smack bang in the middle of these weeks means that the trip wouldn’t be worth the money for him if I’m only going to be there half the time (we’re broke uni students!!!). SO my question is: how terrible of a friend am I, and/or will this ruin my friendship if I prioritise seeing the potential love of my life over this cruise with my best friend?Also a bit more context: she was SO excited when I told her I was going to come on the cruise, and has not been overly supportive of this British man I’ve been obsessing over. So I really feel like me doing this would be taken very personally and I’m worried that we potentially won’t fully come back from it. But it also feels like if I can take the opportunity to see him then I should. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.