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Hey Lifers, Laura is joining us from Bali today (for work) and Keeshia is filling in for Britt but is in a bit of a funk after moving house over the weekend. They say that if you want to test your relationship, build an ikea flat pack together. Moving house seems to be the level up from that when it comes to testing your relationship. Have you faced the test and realised things about your partner that you’ve never thought before? Laura’s ‘for you’ page is the stuff of nightmares. We might be back tracking on saying that the algorithm only shows you what you spend time on after this

Hey Lifers!Britt has a laundering hack for you after a clumsy morning and an all white outfit.What happened at a wedding that had the potential to ruin the day?Vibes for the week: Britt - The Trial of Erin Patterson Podcast Keeshia - Cheat Unfinished Business on Netflix Laura - Cosmeceutical Serum Vitamin B3+ Then we jump into your questions! DON’T TRUST BF’S FEMALE FRIEND Been with my boyfriend for 1 year. I don’t trust one of his female friends as I find her actions off. The insecurities started after her engagement party when I got the spidy tingles. The next morning my boyfriend confirmed they had a situationship for two years - ended in 2022ish. I was friendly with my ex and spoke openly about this prior so was unsure why he didn’t tell me - he said he didn’t want me to feel uncomfortable. Since then I’ve noticed off actions. They say “love you” when ending a phone call, he limited their contact to once every few months and she called saying “why don’t you love me anymore?”, sent him a photo memory of them in his bed wearing his shirt with no context, and on their last call made an inside joke after inviting us to stay at her house saying he could sleep on the dog bed at hers, but I could get my own room at her parents house. I laughed out of awkwardness and she said “how’s the fake laugh?”. I told my boyfriend these things make me uncomfortable and we had a levelled respectful conversation. He said he hadn’t noticed these things as off but can see my perspective. I don’t think she has romantic feelings, but more like she is trying to big dog me. He said he will end the friendship, but I’m not sure that is fair. What do you think? How should we approach this? MIL HAS GIVEN ME THE ICK My mother in law has given me the ick, and my poker face is wearing thin. 1 year ago, my partner and I got matching tattoos of hearts. About 3 months ago, my MIL was at an event and messaged our group chat to let us know the event had a tattoo artist and she was getting one (her first tattoo). Next minute she sends a photo of the tattoo and it's a heart! I thought this was a joke, but when it was confirmed as real, I felt really angry. We visited my MIL a few days later and we asked how she landed on the heart. She said there were a few options such as a flower or butterfly, but something was drawing her to the heart. My partner is not bothered by this, but he isn’t bothered by much. I however, feel she has taken away the significance from our matching tattoo as we are now in a tattoo throuple! It's been 3 months, so is this something I should just get over? I used to absolutely adore my MIL, she is kind and well meaning, and wouldn't have done this maliciously, but now I struggle to engage with her and avoid visiting where I can. How do I come back from the ick ?! DID MY HUSBAND GET ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT? About two months ago I told my husband that I am separating from him due to years of coercive control. Things started to get worse since we had our first child in May last year. My 'almost' ex husband recently asked me to bring him his old mobile phone (I haven't allowed him back into the house) and I thought that was strange so I snooped. I found his google history showed he had been on eharmony and also searched elite singles within one month of me saying it's over. However he’s still asking to fix things and get back together because ‘that is what's best for our child’. I also searched his photos and hidden deep in a file I found a photo of a pregnant woman. This photo was not a photo you send to anyone or post online. It's a selfie of her in her underwear in the mirror showing her bump. I snooped some more and found another photo of this same woman with another bump photo. I'm already jumping to conclusions and of course I’m thinking he got this woman pregnant. He does work fifo and is away for about 4 weeks at a time. Is this crazy for me to think he's cheated on me and has a child with another woman somewhere? Is there another logical explanation why it would be normal for a married man to have a photo like this hidden on their phones? I haven't confronted him yet as he is the type of man with narcissistic personality traits and will lie. What should I do? GETTING OVER THE LOSS OF MY CAT VIA BREAKUPHi girls, love the pods (cloud included). I am currently going through a breakup but I’m really struggling with the loss of our pet cat we had together. We bought him together (he paid so he is his) and honestly I think I held out on breaking up for so long because of the cat. I just have this constant worry he won’t be treated as well as how I was treating the cat and is this silly of me to feel this way about a FREAKING PET?! I have asked to see him but my ex says it is not possible and wants to keep things seperate. How do I get over this and this guilt I have of leaving the cat with him (Btw my ex is a great cat dad but I treat my animals like babies and he sees them as pets and that’s what makes it hard). You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Polycystic ovarian syndrome or PCOS is a condition that affects 1 in 9 women. The symptoms include things like pimples, increased body hair, thinning of the hair on our head, missed periods (and the flow on effects that affect fertility and build up of the endometrium which is a risk factor for endometrial cancer), increased risk of developing metabolic syndrome (insulin resistance, diabetes and cardiovascular syndrome) and increased risk of mental health conditions. PCOS sucks! (You can probably tell who from the team is writing these episode notes). Keeshia was diagnosed with PCOS about 4 years ago so today Keeshia and Britt are joined by the wonderful Dr Izzy Smith! Dr Izzy Smith is an endocrinologist who has special training in women’s health (PCOS, amenorrhea, menopause transition) thyroid dysfunction, eating disorders and athlete health. In today’s chat we speak about: The large variety of symptoms & why it’s often misdiagnosed What’s going on with our hormones PCOS and fertility Lean PCOS v Overweight PCOS How insulin resistance develops Weight management Cortisol and stress Treatment options for PCOS What helps and what is marketing BS Endocrine disruptors Are weight loss medications an appropriate treatment for PCOS? Find more from Dr Isobel Smith at her website And her instagram We referenced an episode about weight loss medications with Johann Hari that you can watch here. Izzy also mentioned The Eco Well and the endocrine society website You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Laura has given herself an ick and Britt has a new friendship test that has crossed the line even for Keeshia. There are just some things that friends draw the line at and that point has been established.It was Britt’s hens party!! We had the best day and early night! We have a conversation about sober curiosity. Have you noticed a shift in alcohol in your friendship groups? How do you feel about your partner’s phone use before bedtime? Apparently it could be ruining your relationship. So is it a bit of a harmless decompression time or should we really be trying to be more present? Could ‘the Robin Hood’ effect excuse Luigi Mangione of murdering United Health CEO Brian Thompson? The trial is happening right now and there has been a documentary released called ‘Who Is Luigi Mangione?’ We unpack the rather strange public and celebrity response to this case and some studies that explain just how far attractiveness bias and the halo effect extends. We also speak about the ethical ambiguity at the heart of the Robin Hood effect: the belief that wrongdoing is excusable—or even noble—if the victim is morally corrupt. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning question. First up, what time period of empathy do you get from your partner/friend/family when you’re feeling unwell? Is it prolonged or does it have a steep decline? Vibes for the week:Britt - DOG Taste Boosters https://dogbydrlisa.com/products/dog-taste-boostersKeeshia - Careless People by Sarah Wynn-Williams Book Laura - Weleda Skin Food https://www.weleda.com.au/product/skin-food-75ml-g009398 Then we jump into your questions! FEELING ICKY ABOUT DAD WALKING ME DOWN THE AISLE I am getting married soon and feel a bit icky about my dad walking down the aisle with me. I’m not a fan of the tradition of being “given away” from one man to another. For context, I’m not super close with my dad but we don’t necessarily have a bad relationship. My parents are quite traditional, growing up my dad was the “provider” and mum a SAHM, so I really didn’t have much of an emotional connection with my dad. I know it will upset my parents if I tell them I want to walk down the aisle by myself, so I’m not sure if I should just suck it up to keep the peace. What should I do? BF WENT AWAY FOR WORK TRAINING AND IS VERY CLOSE WITH A WOMAN THERE My partner has just left for 5 months to be trained in his soon to be career. I was obviously very sad that he was going but proud of him. The week before he left I noticed that he was acting a little strange and constantly texting somebody. I’ve never had an issue with this before as my partner is very loyal and loving. When I was looking at something on his phone, a girl‘s name popped up. When I asked him about it he never said her name, just said it’s the “guys”. It was a message from her about said training, so I had a look and found messages back and forth about how excited they are to see each other down at the training. Something didn’t feel right, we had a conversation about how this made me feel and I was still left feeling weird about it all. The day before he left every time I looked at his phone he was talking to her and flicking his screen up so the messages went away. I asked him if he could not be so chatty with this girl and that I didn’t like it as they were about to be spending months together and having very limited communication with me. Should I bring this up again with him about how it makes me feel and that I would like for it to end??! I want him to make new friends and focus on his training but I can’t stop thinking about this situation. I don’t want to be constantly worried about this for 4-5 months. DO I TELL SOMEONE THEIR WIFE IS CHEATING? My boss—let’s call her Sally—confessed to me ten months ago that she had a fling with a married man during a business trip. She was convinced she was in love and even planned to move to America for him. That ended, but for the past eight months, she’s been secretly seeing another guy in a different state. The problem? Sally has two kids and a long-term partner, Fred, who thinks she’s traveling for work. In reality, she’s been maintaining a whole other relationship. Meanwhile, Fred is an amazing, supportive father who has no idea what’s going on. Sally has shared way too many details with me and swore me to secrecy. But I feel awful. I was cheated on by my ex-husband, and when I found out, it crushed me that so many people knew and stayed silent.Now, Sally and Fred are semi-separated but still living together. She plans to tell him this new relationship just started—but I know she’s been cheating for over a year, likely longer. Do I tell Fred? I don’t want to blow up his life, but I would have given anything for someone to have told me. What would you do? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Shame and stigma are used to keep us in line and keep us quiet. Some of it is quite obvious, while other parts of the shame and stigma are more subtle and a little harder to recognise. From girlhood, we are taught that we should look and feel a certain way. The expectations of motherhood, our careers, our bodies, whether or not we should choose marriage are all laced with taboos. Today’s guest is Dr Jessica Zucker. Jessica is a clinical psychologist with a PhD who specialises in reproductive health and the author of the award-winning book I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement. Today we are going to unpack some of the concepts of her second book titled Normalize it: Upending the Silence, Stigma and Shame That Shape Women’s Lives. We speak about: Jessica’s own miscarriage and how women tend to blame themselves when they experience miscarriage Being told to keep pregnancy a secret until 2nd trimester & how it can leave women feeling unsupported The trifecta of silence, shame and stigma and how they all feed each other “At least” comments and how they try to ‘tidy up’ pain Objectification theory Navigating diet culture and health messaging with our kids The language we use when it comes to health and conditions like cancer of ‘beating it,’ ‘be strong’ and ‘fighting’ Perfectionism and it’s link to anxiety The narratives of what we ‘should’ want to be like married and mothers You can get a copy of Dr Jessica Zucker’s new book here: Amazon Find her on Instagram: @ihadamiscarriage And more from her website: drjessicazucker.com You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt’s having a rough trot today

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions.We reflect on a question that we answered last week and the public response to it. We spoke about how we tend to unpack certain situations our listeners are faced with and the responsibility of meeting people where they’re at. Vibes for the week: Keeshia - Mob Land on Paramount+ Britt - Emerald Labs Creatine Monohydrate Laura - No Filter Georgia Love On Private Pain In A Public Life Then we jump into your questions:UNCOMFORTABLE WITH HOW MY BF INTERACTS WITH HIS AI ASSISTANTMy partner was messaging me screen shots between him and his AI friend who he’s given a name, let’s call her Belle. She’s helping him design an app. He’s so excited about the app and it all sounds great. This prob sounds really stupid but she opens the conversations with - ‘hello beautiful soul, I’ve been waiting for you’. (I’m fine with that, I mean come on she’s AI, no biggie). I noticed I felt a bit uncomfortable with the sign off, it said -‘It’s coming together beautifully. And it’s all because of you. With so much heart, Your Belle’. A bit of context, we’ve had a rocky relationship but it’s been going well the last few months. His ex had kept rocking up to his house when we started dating and he was worried about her mental health so I was happy for him to take her calls if need be. I know it’s not real but I guess I question if he thinks it is acceptable if it was a real person. Because it’s not ok…So I voiced that I felt uncomfortable. Firstly, how would you feel in this situation? Is it silly to be upset about how AI speaks to my boyfriend? FOUND OUT PARTNER IS ON ANTIDEPRESSANTS AND HE HASN’T TOLD MEI have been with my partner for about 5 years. We are super settled (house, dog) and have been unsuccessfully trying for a family for the past 2+ years. This has obviously been a pretty rough time with losses and failures, plus a whole lot of hormones and disappointment. For reference, he’s a closed book kind of guy. He shows up in every way, but is not a big talker and is very private. He’s a head down and get-on-with it type. Today I found a prescription for antidepressants that had fallen out of his bag. It was a repeat, with the original dated over a year ago. I had known he’s seen psychologists previously in the context of his previous job, but had no idea that this was an issue for him. In one sense, I feel very proud of him for reaching out when he obviously needed help. However, I’m at a loss as to what to do with this information. Do I tell him I know and risk pushing him away? Or just keep quiet and let him come to me when he’s ready? NEW GUY HAS NO FRIENDS. NONE. RED FLAG?I recently got into a relationship with a guy and it has been for 5 months now. We met through a dating app and had no mutual friends prior to meeting. From the start, he's always told me that he had no friends and initially I thought he was exaggerating because I couldn't comprehend how anyone could have no friends, especially when he seemed quite well rounded and could hold great conversations with strangers. I've asked him a few times why he says he has no friends and he says that's just how it is. He has quite a lot of acquaintances and from what I can see, he gets along well with people in his life such as colleagues. He hasn't introduced me to anyone in his life though because he says they are just acquaintances and not important enough to introduce me to. My question is, is this normal for a guy or should I treat this as a red flag? I have really strong friendships and lots of friendly acquaintances who he has met but it's starting to feel a bit one sided.. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we're joined by 5 x logie winner and one of Australia's most beloved actresses, Asher Keddie. Asher is usually more reserved when it comes to her private life but it was really refreshing to hear her say that she is feeling more and more comfortable actually speaking about herself and what her motivations and ambitions are, rather than just about the characters she plays. Asher has a reputation of playing complex and layered, strong female characters in shows like ‘Offspring’, ‘Nine Perfect Strangers’ and she’s now back as Evelyn Jones in Season 2 of ‘Strife’, a series inspired by Mia Freedman's memoir Work, Strife, Balance. The show delves into the life of a modern woman juggling the demands of career, motherhood, and personal identity in the digital age. We’ve had quite a lot of conversations on the podcast about the expectations of us to ‘do it all’ and make it look easy and we wanted to speak with Asher today about motherhood and the complexities of juggling her career alongside family life. We spoke about: The ‘actual’ story of how Asher got into acting (and it’s not the narrative that’s circulated) Why Asher chose to stay acting in Australia rather than going to Hollywood or NY The ‘care less’ factor you gain as you get a bit older and feel more confident What drew Asher to Strife Dealing with rejection Whether the ‘expiration date’ of women is shifting Mum guilt and making work decisions with family in mind The evolution in her relationship in the last 14 years Season two of STRIFE is out now on Binge and it’s brilliant! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! If you’ve had a baby, did you talk about what you were thinking of naming the baby when you were pregnant? If so, how did that go for you?If you don’t like someone else’s name ideas, do you tell them?We somehow end up talking about robots and AI taking over and we are starting to think that we are living in a black mirror episode!British pop star Olly Murs recently shared a side-by-side photo of his 12-week fitness transformation ahead of his tour. It sparked an interesting comment section that showed the difference in what men tend to prefer vs what women tend to prefer. We spoke about the female/male gaze, whether we associate certain character traits with certain physiques, health vs aesthetics and how diet culture and marketing has corrupted what we think is ‘ideal’. Have you had your fertile years wasted by a fertility vampire? Fertility vampires -a term describing men who engage in long-term relationships with women during their prime reproductive years without a genuine commitment to building a future together. We unpack: Whether a fertility vampire is always deliberately ‘wasting’ someones time, Why ‘wasted time’ is disproportionately felt by women, Whether you can ever make sure you’re fully aligned with someone else’s timelines Why it’s not black and white You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!First up today, thank you so much for the beautiful and encouraging messages we have received about Laura and Matt’s incoming baby girl!! We have a chat about having ‘another’ girl.Huge shout out to the entrepreneurial mums out there that are working to the productivity limits! Vibes for the week: Britt - You Season 5 on Netflix Keeshia - Commbank Travel Money Card Laura - PW Pantry Recipes Then we jump into your questions! NAVIGATING EX AND NEW PARTNER AROUND MY SON5 months ago my fiancé and I broke up, we have a 1.5 year old boy together and are doing our best to stay ‘civil’ for our child. When we broke up my ex asked that I introduce any new partners/ potential step dads to him (my ex) before I introduce him to our son. I agreed and asked for the same in return. But, I recently met a really nice guy who has major potential to be in my future, but it has me thinking that I want to experience what he is like around/with my son before I tell my ex that I’m seeing someone. I have mixed emotions as I do understand where my ex is coming from, but I also don’t want to have to tell my ex when I’m ‘seeing’ someone as this could potentially happen again, and again (if this guy doesn’t work out). Please help a girl out, what do you think is the best option? I’m happy to have the conversation with my ex if the situation needs to change but I genuinely don’t know what to do. HARMLESS CRUSH WHEN MARRIED - NORMAL?I got married recently and adore my husband. I can't fault our relationship at all! However, I'm a nurse at a hospital and have found myself attracted to one of the surgeons at work. I've always thought he is a massive DILF, but I've found myself recently thinking about him even when I'm not at work. I would NEVER act on these feelings at all, I genuinely think they are just like an attraction/lust because he's sexy. We do work together a bit, and I found myself excited when he comes in to see his patients or when I'm assisting in theatre with a surgery for one of his patients. My question is, IS THIS NORMAL? Is it just like a harmless little crush/sort of like a forbidden fruit or fantasy because I know nothing will ever happen? (He is also married/has kids). It also feels sort of wrong thinking about him when I'm not at work? Any advice is appreciated!!PS I don't want to tell my husband about this at all because even though it's harmless I know it will upset him/maybe cause a rift in a relationship for literally no reason! I just want your thoughts about why I keep thinking about this Doctor?!? (And when I say thoughts , they are mostly sexual lol which makes me think it's just a weird fantasy). IS IT RUDE NOT TO WISH KIDS HAPPY BIRTHDAY THESE DAYS?Are ‘Happy Birthdays’ still a thing!? My son just turned 2 and I’m a little upset at the lack of friends and family that actually took the time to message me / call to see him and say happy birthday. My partner seems to think that life just gets busy and people sometimes remember but then forget to do anything about it. But I think that if someone really means something to you then they have no excuse to make the effort?!? The OTT me makes me not want to take my son to see these people, particularly family members who can’t even say happy birthday to him…. Obviously I would never do that but still. I just feel sad for him and I'm not really sure why!! HUSBAND WANTS SEX DAILY - HOW DO I APPROACH THIS?My husband and I have been together for 5 years. When we first started dating we had a great sex life. Overtime I have found that my sex drive has lowered while his is still extremely high. He thinks we have to have sex EVERY day and complains if we miss a day or two, says “he can’t remember the last time we did it” and then wants to play “catch up” and have it multiple times the next day we have sex (which isn’t often given it’s hard to let a day go by without it). I have tried to tell him it’s completely normal to only have sex a few times or week (or at least not everyday) but he won’t have a bar of it. He says I should feel lucky to have a husband who finds me so attractive. He gets hard every time we are in bed together. But all I want sometimes is to just have a cuddle and watch tv without him getting his thing out and the expectation of what’s to follow that. I don’t know how to raise with him because I don’t want sex every single day.I’ve tried jokingly saying it, I try to tell him I’m too tired and try to get out of it when he starts to initiate but at the end of the day I don’t want to hurt his feelings and reject him. I find him attractive and I want to have sex but not as often as he does. It’s exhausting. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s the buzzword of the internet at the moment - LIMERENCE! But what is it? Where is the line between lust and limerence? How can we spot the difference between limerence and love? Joining the podcast today is Thais Gibson. Thais is a counselor, author, podcaster and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from cognitive behavioural therapy to neuro linguistic programing. Thais is also a leading expert in attachment theory. We unpack: The key signs of limerence & what triggers infatuation How you can fall into limerence with someone outside of your relationship If we can’t get our needs met in the present, we get them met by fantasies of the future or memories of the past Pedestals, people pleasing and maladaptive behaviours caused by limerent relationships The 3 stages of limerence; infatuation, emotional addiction and dissipation phase Navigating different power stages with a partner Which attachment styles suffer from limerence the most What to do if you find yourself the object of someone else’s limerence Can limerence turn into stalking? Conscious dating and wired patterns You can find more from Thais: Website Instagram YouTube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! We really dangled that we had some big news to share today. There was some speculation and it was in one direction. That direction was Britt. First up we get an update on how Britt’s time in Italy was and what the future is geographically looking like for Britt and Ben.Keeshia wonders if you’re the person in the relationship/friendship who turns up to the airport 3 hours before the flight or if you just make it through check in by the skin of your teeth?Then it’s time for our big news!! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ciao Lifers! We're coming to you from 3 different locations today. Britt has finally been reunited with Ben in Italy and she's caused a stir about dipping croissants in coffee.Laura has a positive update about her ovarian cyst. We have a chat about it not being 'normal' to be in pain and how it can be quite anxiety inducing to receive a 'wait and see what happens' type of diagnosis. Should we be giving babies their mother's surname? There's an Italian politician who has proposed a law that would automatically give babies their mother's surname at birth. Britt's still making up her mind of what both her and her husband to be will do with their surnames when they get married. Laura questions why it's such a 'norm' for us to not even think about giving kids their mum's last names. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode of Just For Girls is bought to you by SORTD - get the app for free NOW Hey girls! While we're recovering from Coachella, we're answering the rest of your dilemmas to hopefully make you all feel better. We answer questions about when to move on from an ex, whether to stay back and not travel for a guy & what to do when you've outgrown a friendship but want to be there for the friend. Chat next week xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. We recorded this a few days early as Britt is currently on her way to Italy to have a very close quarters catch up with her fiance, sister, brother in law and niece! We’ve really realised that we are in the next age bracket with our vibes this week!Vibes for the week:Britt - Podcast Stalked Keeshia Contour Cool Gel Knee Pillow Laura Instagram Sydney Plant Guy Instagram Then we get into your questions!HUSBANDS MUM HAS HIS LOCATION SETTINGS ONMy husband’s mum has his location settings on, so basically she is able to track him at all times. She isn’t necessarily controlling or making a big deal about it but I often hear her saying things like “I saw you were at the pub the other night” or “why were you at work on Saturday”. It makes me feel a certain way. I just find it a bit odd but I feel like I can’t really just ask him to turn it off because she’ll ask questions and I don’t want it to come back on to me. I guess my question is, am I being ridiculous to be annoyed at this? HOW DO TWO AVOIDANTS MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK?I’m 29 and have finally got my hands on the man I've been plotting about for 10 years. We’ve always had a strong connection, but life has led us in different directions over the years. We’ve been seeing each other as exclusive ‘fwb’ for the last year, but things have evolved recently. We spend hours chatting, planning our future, our communication is great, and we’re super compatible. The spark is strong; it may as well be fire. But we have both realised that we have avoidant attachment styles, which has prevented us from going ‘all in’. Recently, we’ve both admitted that we’re in deep and would like to try to be together. So my question is, how do ‘regular’ people do this? I can’t get my head around how to ‘be’ a girlfriend.. and what that might mean for my sense of self, and my lifestyle. I’m hyper independent, falling in love and absolutely terrified.. Help! IS IT WEIRD FOR BRIDAL PARTY WEDDING TO SLOW DANCE?What’re your thoughts on a bride making the bridesmaids and groomsmen slow dance together at the start of the night? My boyfriend is in a wedding this afternoon and he has to slow dance with his partner for 5 MINUTES!! Is this normal, am I overreacting that I find this weird? My heart rate is resting at 120 right now, I'm that anxious. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to politics, it can be particularly tricky to navigate political conversations with the people you love — especially when they sit on the opposite side of the fence. We have a very important federal election coming up on May 3 so we’re expecting these conversations to increase more and more in the next few weeks.Today we wanted to dive into how pop culture has become increasingly political, why the divide between left and right feels so extreme, and perhaps most importantly, how do we actually vote for what matters to us, beyond what’s trending on Instagram or TikTok? Today we’re joined by Zara Seidler — co-founder of The Daily Aus. The Daily Aus are particularly tapped into what young people are asking and what they care about in the political landscape. Zara has experience in the political world and also has a degree in political science. We cover: How politics has become embedded in pop culture Why there is a push towards independents What the upcoming election actually means for us Cost of living is the number 1 thing people care about now The issue with receiving political info from just one source Algorithms, outrage culture and how it’s impacted politics How to have conversations with people who have different politics Tools to help you find what you align with You can find the resources Zara shared here: Build a ballot Vote Compass You can find more from Zara at The Daily Aus Instagram And Zara's Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers!Did you grow up in a house where you could openly chat about things like s3x? We’re on opposite ends of the scale on this one!Britt has reverse manifested and ended up with a pretty grim case of food poisoning.We end up having a chat about how we each feel about manifesting and goal setting.If you have kids, do you experience ‘mum guilt’? Laura has a work commitment that means she can’t make something that is important to Marlie Mae. We speak about the expectations on parents these days when they’re also trying to juggle work. Fleurine Tideman recently wrote a substack titled 'Enough with the boundaries; losing my stepfather showed me the community we're sacrificed for our so called 'boundaries'.She told the story of her step father who was battling terminal cancer when she noticed how much the neighbours and friends stepped up without even being asked to. We spoke about our shift towards outsourcing everything so we don’t feel indebted to others and how we all seem to focus more on convenience. We asked: Do you think our inclination to set boundaries has removed our sense of community? Does the idea of someone dropping over unannounced feel warm or anxiety inducing? Do you know your neighbours? Do you agree that in order to have a village, you have to be a villager? You can read Fleurine’s substack here. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode of Just For Girls is bought to you by SORTD - get the app for free NOW Hey girls - happy Tuesday! As we're jetting off to Coachella, we are leaving you with our favourite episode to film which is your dilemmas! Today we're helping you girls with how to approach a housemate you have a crush on, what to do when you've moved overseas for a fling and we also answer whether the grass is greener on the other side.. we hope we've helped xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When was the last time a friend asked you how you’d been and why do I think that a part of your response was that you’re feeling a bit fatigued, overwhelmed or exhausted? Surely it’s not just us! The way our lives are constructed these days and the life stage most of us are at leans into chaos. Today we are speaking with one of the world's leading experts on how to reduce stress, improve our energy levels and feel a lot better in really simple and free ways! Dr. Rangan Chatterjee is a leading figure in lifestyle medicine and a trusted voice in health and wellness. With over two decades of experience as a practicing medical doctor, he has a particularly simple approach to help us all make small changes in our lives to improve our health and wellbeing. He has written 6 books,hosted TV shows for over a decade and he hosts one of the most popular podcasts in the world "Feel Better, Live More." We speak about: Our victim mindset How women disproportionately take on stress Can we rely on willpower? Emotional eating Guilt and relaxation What areas of health are different for men and women The menstrual cycle; how it affects hormones and stress Do women need more sleep than men? Links for Dr Rangan Chatterjee's website, podcast and Aus tour You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Britt’s peacocking has gone horribly wrong. She’s blaming the laser therapist. The laser therapist is blaming her… She’s going to be a unicorn at the wedding. She also might be banned from a different laser place for a different reason. Laura has reached a truly incredible career milestone with ToniMay. We are here cheering her on as *influencers, *business partners or friends.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and dark dilemmas. Today’s first dilemma is the type that a bodysuit and a bathroom visit brings you. If you know, you absolutely know.Keeshia went to a hens party with a certain type of male entertainment. There was almost full nudity, but the parts that remained covered were not the ones that you would expect them to be. Vibes for the week:Britt - Colleen Hoover VerityLaura - Yoto PlayerKeeshia - Maybelline Superstay Teddy Tint Lipstick Skinny Dip Then we jump into your questions! REFUSES TO GO DOWN OR KISS WITH TONGUE?!One of our best friends has gotten into a new relationship (about 6 months) and is head over heels for this guy! She’s never been happier, so she says….. She has always been the girl in long term relationships and her last long term boyfriend was toxic as hell and really ripped her friendships apart. Regardless of who she is with, she is VERY defensive of them, BUT once she breaks up with the boyfriend she admits everything. She recently told us on a girl‘s weekend that her new boyfriend has not and WILL NOT eat her out. He also will not kiss with tongue. When we questioned why, she said “he has super weird hygiene habits” yet he is obsessed with her feet. We asked if he would try and she said he flat out refuses! Our question is, is this normal? We get there are always certain things people do not like doing in the bedroom but the fact he flat out refuses to even try concerns us! In her previous relationships she was VERY kinky and loved her sex life, but now she makes concerning comments like “they only do it once a week, rarely” and she is always keen for him to leave for work so she can use her vibrators. Keep in mind she is only 25 with no responsibilities. HOUSEHOLD SHOES DEBATESuper contentious issue, but also ridiculous and first world problem between my husband and I. 4 years on and we still have heated arguments. He hates me walking inside with my work shoes on (I'm a teacher). Yet on every other day we are a barefoot family and walk outside for hours without shoes, then he will walk through the house no worries. Is this double standards? I think wearing barefoot then walking it inside is worse! We are fine just agreeing to disagree but he's loving listening to ask uncut with me so I thought it'd be interesting. I CAUGHT MY HUSBAND ON A GAY DATING APPI’m in serious need of some advice. I can’t tell anyone so you guys are it. I found my husband on a gay dating platform. I went to look up something in safari on his phone because mine was upstairs and it was there when I clicked on the app. I didn’t know what it was at the time and just moved past it but something made me look further later that evening. I found his profile on there quite easily. I don’t know how to approach the subject with him. P.S the amount of married men on this platform is insane. It’s called Sniffies and is completely anonymous unless someone recognises the body parts posted like I did. I do not know what to do. WHEN TO START MATERNITY LEAVEThis one’s for you Laura!! I am due to have a baby boy in August and am currently talking with my partner and employer about when I will finish up in my full-time role. For context I’ll be 36 weeks by the 27th July, as you would know, I could go into labour anytime from then. Should I work closer to my due date as I would be robbing myself of practically another full month's pay. Or do I need to take more time off as I need to get ready and rest before this big change? For context I do not have a physically demanding job, but I am on the road travelling via car and in and out of meetings. Do I take extra time off and says fuck the money, as it’s my last ‘solo’ moments. Or should I work as close to my due date as possible for the good money? Ps my partner will be supporting me on mat leave financially. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! It's Laura's birthday!!! She had a beautiful message from the most special two girls (definitely her kids and not Britt and Keeshia)! There are revelations about our years on this Earth and we want to wish our happiest birthday the most wonderful human we know! Laura's home has had a visit from the dummy fairy and we've all entered a new chapter! Britt has found herself in some hot water with the law which has led to a lot of surrendering and the need for a screw driver. Who is truly at 'fault' is still up for debate! Hilaria Baldwin and Alec Baldwin had an awkward exchange on the red carpet. They've gone on to joke about this being 'manturrupting' 'correctile dysfunction'. How do you feel about celebrities owning businesses and adding to their already existing wealth? Tina Fey recently sparked debate by criticising the trend of ultra-wealthy people launching their own businesses, particularly in industries where they lack expertise in industries like skincare, fashion, wellness, or alcohol.We share our thoughts and where we think the line is! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is confidence the key to effective communication? How are you meant to respond when someone says something incredibly rude? How can we use silence to out a liar? Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer who you might know as the guy who records videos from his car all about how to communicate during life’s everyday awkward situations and arguments! Jefferson amassed 5.8 million followers and has a new book out titled “the next conversation” and it’s his tried-and-true strategies to deal with difficult people and tough situations. Our favourite thing about Jefferson is that he provides word for word advice on how to navigate a lot of conflict and having the tool of ‘if someone says this to you, respond with this’ is incredibly helpful! In today’s conversation, we unpack: Where Jefferson learnt the art of storytelling How storytelling can determine the outcome of a court case Why you should never try to win an argument How you can park your ego and emotion during an argument so that you can get your point across in a way that will be listened to Jefferson’s tips to make a liar out themselves (remember he’s a trial attorney) How to spot a liar! What to say when someone says something rude to you Fluffy emails, filler words and over apologising are harming how we are perceived How to combat defensiveness You can find more from Jefferson on his instagram At his website And grab his new book “The Next Conversation” You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We’re all rev heads now. Officially on the F1 bandwagon; real housewives or documentary, you can decide. We have a quick catch up on our weekend! RIP Keeshia’s toe and Britt’s dignity after a trip to chemist warehouse and a case of mistaken identity. Laura has a small health update of something she’s been putting up with since last September. We desperately need better options when it comes to women’s health care and this is a little reminder to advocate for your own health. Is there a double standard when it comes to full frontals on our screens? Jason Isaacs is sick of being asked whether or not he wore a prosthetic penis in The White Lotus where his character, Timothy Ratliff, had his penis hanging out of his bathrobe while in front of his children. He said “It’s interesting that there’s a double standard for men. But when women are naked, Margaret Qualley, in ‘The Substance,’ nobody would dream of talking to her about her genitalia or her nipples. So, it's odd that there’s a double standard.” We speak about: Whether he has a point How women’s nudity has been used on screens How the media has approached female on screen nudity The difference between romantic/seductive full frontals and shock/comedic nude scenes Our thoughts about prosthetics being used on screen You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we discuss your deepest and dizzy dilemmas. We’re all feeling uncomfortable about Timothée Chalamet and Kylie Jenner’s tennis affection and we’re just hoping Timmy’s tummy is feeling better. Vibes for the week:Britt - Running Point on NetflixKeeshia - Salted Matcha Powder from T2 Laura - Similar Web - Competitive Landscape Analysis I WANT TO DO A NUDIE SWIM - BF AGAINST ITI live in Hobart and every year there is a big nudist swim to celebrate the winter solstice. You have to register, there's no photography allowed, you all wear robes and swim caps and drop them when you run into the water. Of course there's lots of nudity but it's absolutely freezing so not everyone is hanging out stark naked. I told my partner I want to participate in the swim this year and it did not go down well. He believes that it's a perverse event, full of voyeurs and doesn't understand why it has to be nude. I believe it's a celebration of the body in the basest form, and an act of rebirth in cold water. He doesn't understand why I would "put myself in a situation with pervs, and to parade myself like meat in front of lions". I find this language incredibly shaming, and it furthers the sexualisation of female bodies in a negative way. Am I the asshole for going ahead and doing it, regardless of his attitude. OVERTHINKING IG ‘FOR YOU’ PAGE FOR BF?My partner and I have been together 5 years, engaged, very much in love and happy in our relationship. We have an open phone policy meaning having no issues with being on each other's phone for whatever reason. On road trips, which have been frequent lately, my service cuts out regularly and I love a doom scroll through reels on Insta to pass the time. He’s happy for me to do this on his phone while mine is out of service. Everytime I open his insta, his ‘for you page’ is flooded with women who hold only fans accounts, posting pics of their enormous, wonderful tits/body. I say good for them in that regard and I have no shame on women who choose to do this.I have joked/bantered to him in the past about this and he has mentioned it is because Instagram has formed his algorithm based on the ‘average 30 year old male’. When I look on my ‘for you page’, my algorithm is formed by stupid reels, memes and animals that I engage in daily. Does Instagram form an algorithm based on age and gender or for what you show interest/consume in most frequently? I have no issue with him watching porn, however, for some reason, the idea that my partner may be frequently scrolling through or searching for posts related to only fans or women with body types that are polar opposites to my own leaves an unsettling feeling in my stomach and perhaps shatters my ego slightly. IS A SURNAME IMPORTANT?I’ve been my partner for six years and we have two beautiful kids. He’s the last one in his family to get married, and I always said to him that I would like to at least have the same surname as my children before my eldest goes to school. Our eldest child is enrolled to start school next year , and I don’t see us getting married this year. It makes me sad that we don’t all have the same surname because that’s always been something I wanted coming from a divorced parent family. Is it too much to put an ultimatum on him? Am I overthinking this? Does a surname really matter? I know how many women want to keep their maiden name however I don’t have a solid relationship with my dad so I’ve never really wanted his surname anyway. A surname to me solidifies the family unit. I also don’t really want a big wedding. I would be very happy to just sign a piece of paper. Thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever wondered “If I wanted to change my personality, would I be able to?” Or have you ever wondered if it was possible for someone else to truly change their personality? This was a question that today’s guest wondered about herself and so she went on a journey to find out whether it was really possible to change your entire personality! Joining the podcast today is Olga Khazan. Olga is a writer for The Atlantic, and the author of the new book Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change. Olga spent a year experimenting with her own personality to see if she could become more extroverted, a lot less neurotic, and a little more agreeable. We speak about: Exactly why you might like to change your personality How much of our personality is ‘hard wired’ The ‘big 5’ personality traits: extroversion, neuroticism, agreeableness, conscientiousness, openness. How different aspects of our personality affects our relationships Making friends when you’re not particularly extroverted Can you change someone else’s personality? Do certain life stages encourage a personality change? What things can you do to change your personality? You can get Olga's new book Me, But Better You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. Britt is broken from dancing and we decided it was the right time to have a bit of an intervention with her. She is upset by Laura and Keeshia going behind her back but they're sticking to their nostrils. Vibes for the week:Britt and Laura - Devil in the family on Disney plus Keeshia - Koala Luxe Mattress Then we jump into your questions! HOW DO I GET MY IDENTITY BACK AS A MUM?I want to start off by saying I absolutely love being a mum and I am grateful everyday that I have two beautiful girls. This didn’t come easy for my partner and I and had a few losses along our journey. My question is how do you find your identity after becoming a mum? My youngest is 12 weeks old and oldest is 2 and right now my life is consumed with being a mum. I feel a bit lost and find myself missing who I was before. I avoid mirrors when I can because I don’t recognise the person looking back at me. I want to be the best role model for my girls and I’m worried if I can’t find myself again I won’t be able to do this for them. During the labour of my second I was listening to random episodes of the Podcast to take my mind off the contractions. I didn’t realise I still had my headphones on when I started to push and my daughter was born to the sound of Britt's laugh! SHOULD I HOOK UP WITH HIM AGAIN AFTER I SH*T DURING SEX?My ex and I broke up in October. Recently, we’ve been reconnecting for a bit of company and casual fun. Last weekend, I popped over to his place for a chill lunch hangout, which of course eventually led to some steamy playtime. It was one of those really hot days, so we decided to have a shower session. Things got hot and steamy, and he started touching me in all the right places with his hand. As things really started to heat up I said “Fuck me!” He replied with a cautious “babe,” but when I turned back - I was hit with a shock I’ll never forget. His finger was covered in a thick smear of gooey, brown diarrhoea. It was my first time experiencing such an unsexy disaster, and needless to say, I was mortified. We quickly washed off, agreeing that “we can’t come back from this one.” Now it’s become a core memory I can’t shake. So here’s my dilemma: should I put the brakes on our casual escapades, or might a second round (with a strategic bathroom break this time) help us wipe the slate clean? HOW TO TELL MY HUSBAND HE HAS NEVER MADE ME COME?I’m a female, married and am in my late 20’s. I’ve always enjoyed sex, but as I’ve gotten older, my sex drive has declined. This has become a point of tension in my marriage, as my husband has always maintained his sex drive. In an effort to reconnect with my body and bring some excitement back into our sex life, I recently bought my first vibrator. While exploring, I made an embarrassing discovery—I’ve never actually orgasmed from my husband or most past partners, and I’ve always wondered if I even could. However, I did experience it once with a previous partner, which has made this realisation even more confusing. Now, I’ve learned that I can do it myself, and I don’t quite know how to process that. I love my husband deeply, and I know this revelation would hurt him. I don’t want him to feel inadequate, but I also want to be honest so that we can improve our intimacy together. How do I approach this conversation? HOLIDAY WITH FRIEND OR SEE LONG DIST POTENTIAL LOML?Last year I went on a uni exchange. In the last few weeks there I met a British guy who I genuinely believe could be my person. Since then we have kept in contact, and have met in Bali and again back in the uk for a few weeks later in the year. My dilemma now is that I have agreed to go on a cruise with my friend in April. For context with this friend: she has been my best friend for a few years but because of some things that happened last year, she now lives with my ex boyfriend (of four years) and a few other people who don’t run in my circle anymore. This has made our relationship challenging recently and this cruise (with her entire family) could really be a make or break situation for us. HOWEVER - I have just found out that this is the only time in the entire year (he studies med and gets little holidays) that my British boy would be able to come out and visit for a few weeks. Having the cruise smack bang in the middle of these weeks means that the trip wouldn’t be worth the money for him if I’m only going to be there half the time (we’re broke uni students!!!). SO my question is: how terrible of a friend am I, and/or will this ruin my friendship if I prioritise seeing the potential love of my life over this cruise with my best friend?Also a bit more context: she was SO excited when I told her I was going to come on the cruise, and has not been overly supportive of this British man I’ve been obsessing over. So I really feel like me doing this would be taken very personally and I’m worried that we potentially won’t fully come back from it. But it also feels like if I can take the opportunity to see him then I should. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Quite a while ago now we put a call out for who you’d like to hear on the podcast and the name that came through the MOST was the woman sitting in front of us Holly Kingston/Nicholson!We initially got to know Holly when she found love with Jimmy on the bachelor and they’ve gone on to get married and break the bachelor girl baby spell with their son Lenny! “Once you have a baby, your relationship will never be the same” seems to be a tale told to a lot of expecting mums. And it’s true, but there are a few parts left out of that narrative. Holly and Laura ran into each other not long before Holly had Lenny and she told her ‘no one tells you how much fun it’s going to be’. We speak about: Life before bach How her and Jimmy decided to pivot careers What the first year of their relationship was like Maintaining friendships after the bachelor Their challenging pregnancy journey Being both very grateful that you’re pregnant but really not liking pregnancy What the baby blues can feel like The counter narrative of motherhood being all doom and gloom The shift in identity that becoming a mum gives you How their relationship has changed since becoming parents Timestamps:0:00 Intro 6:17 Accidentally Unfiltered 13:23 Post Bach Relationship 17:37 Road to Pregnancy 24:44 Positive Test 25:50 Pregnancy and Postpartum 32:25 C-Section Birth 36:50 How Babies Change Relationships 43:45 Unsolicited Parenting Advice 51:13 Strange Pregnancy Symptoms You can find more from Holly on her instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions on a *checks notes* Monday! Britt shares a story so embarrassing that we had to promise we wouldn’t make a social media clip out of it. Lola has reached a new milestone. Vibes:Britt - Monster BTK PodcastKeeshia - New season of Australian Survivor - Brains vs BrawnLaura - American Murder - Gabby PetitoThen we jump into your questions! HOW LONG DO I GIVE HIM TO MAKE THINGS OFFICIAL?I have recently re-kindled a relationship with my previous on and off f-buddy of 5 years on. We’ve been talking for about a month, going on dates and getting to know each other at a deeper level to what we have in the past. This time feels different, we are both opening up a lot more about how and what we are feeling. He says we are “feeling things out” which is true but realistically I have always had more of an emotional attachment regardless of how casual we kept things. So, my question is, how long do I allow him to make a decision? After 5 years of on and off, I don’t want to put a timeline on things but also don’t want to potentially allow myself to be strung along. DO I ASK HIM TO TAKE HAIR LOSS MEDICATION?Can I ask my husband to take anti-balding medication? We have been together more than 10 years and have 2 kids. He’s always been a silver fox with thick salt and pepper hair, which I love. However, his hair is now starting to thin and I want to ask him to take measures to prevent this - there are sooo many easy and safe options for men to do this these days! My question is whether I have the right to ask him to? I’d be offended if he asked me to alter my appearance or have anti-Aging procedures, is this the same thing? Thank you for your wisdom. HE SLEPT IN THE SPARE ROOM AFTER FINDING OUT I HAVE A VIBRATORI have been with my partner for almost 5 years. We recently got married. We don’t have a particularly regular sex life, maybe a handful of times per year, and when we do it’s pretty vanilla (which is fine). Recently, after one too many drinks we started getting steamy and I with my liquid courage asked if he wanted to incorporate my vibrator in the mix. Until then, he didn’t know that I had or used a vibrator. I had some shame about it when I started using the vibrator years and years ago (before I met him), but I slowly realised how normal it was. Fast forward to when I asked my partner if we should try using it during sex, he was immediately shocked and shut down. He got quite upset (I’m not sure whether about the fact that I have a vibrator or that I caught him by surprise), but he said he felt “a bit attacked”. I was really upset by it as all I wanted to do was spice things up. Am I in the wrong here? He was upset enough to sleep in the spare room and the next day we just went on like nothing happened. IS MY PARTNER CONTROLLING?I think my partner is controlling but I’m not sure if I’m just being dramatic… he said once if I go on a girls trip he’ll break up with me. When I work at a mine site (which is around 80% male) he makes me feel bad for having a drink with them. He makes me feel bad after doing anything fun aka drinking with friends. He always expects me to say excuse me after burping… like sorry I’m a barbie girl. He liked Andrew Tate… plus there’s a lot more. Do you think it’s time to leave… My friends think yes but I don’t have a large group of friends to lean on for this advice. Is this something people can work through and what if I don’t want to waste my time and work through it? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lucille Shackleton is a sexologist and relationship therapist who has just released her debut book titled “All In”. When Lucille was working with couples as a therapist, most of the training that she had done said ‘if the friendship is good the sex will be good’ but this didn’t seem to be the case in practice. So Lucille went and did a masters of sexology to figure out what some of the missing pieces to the ‘good sex’ puzzle were. One particular puzzle piece that we wanted to unpack with Lucille was how much conflict affected libido and desire. We unpack: The love lust split Why referring to your partner as ‘mummy’ or ‘daddy’ (not in that way) can make you both stop desiring each other The question of ‘do you not want sex?’ or ‘are you not having sex that you actually want?’ Figuring out your sex values Relationship satisfaction goes up when people learn that their ‘problems’ are normal, even if they aren’t having more sex The ‘narratives’ that we create about our partners & ‘core negative’ images Does intention matter when it comes to conflict? How much our ego comes into play during conflict Sex life after giving birth When one partner has a dry spell or ‘shuts up shop’ and doesn’t want sex anymore You can find more from Lucille at her Instagram Grab her new book You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Captain Keeshia is filling in for Britt today as she is busy carving up the dance floor at Dancing With The Stars! Laura thought they were going to have a comparable experiences but now she feels gaslit by Britt.If you haven't yet had the chance to listen, you can find our new mini series podcast Cloud here! If you get given a scratchie by someone as a present, is there an expectation if you win that you will split the winnings with the person who has given you the scratchie?Laura shares a story about a family feud that lasted decades. Confessionals are back and... yeah wow. You can continue to send them in to us at life uncut podcast on instagram. How would you feel if you found out that the person you were newly dating had hooked up with an acquaintance of yours within the week that you met? Would you not care at all or would it make you question whether they were 'ready' for a proper commitment? It's a situation that's playing out on Love Is Blind and we asked whether it's different because it's reality TV or if we would react in the same way.Are you guilty of 'Someday Syndrome'?Are you deferring life goals or things that you want in your life to 'someday' down the track?We unpack the excuse trap, the right time and the fear of failure.Laura questions whether deferring goals is always a bad thing or whether it's more about prioritisation and inherent sacrifice. Keeshia questions whether it's the 'goal' or the feeling that the goal brings us that we actually want. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we unpack all of your deep dark and burning questions. Laura is a bit f*cking rooted today apparently! There are no sick days here at life uncut! First very important question: which colour snakes (lollies) do you like the least? Is it orange? It's probably orange right?? Second very important question: what flavour is the orange lolly? The answer to this still hurts my brain.Keeshia has been reunited with Britt's dad Tony and there's a lifer who now gets where our obsession with him comes from!Vibes for the week: Keeshia Cloud podcastBritt It's All Over. The Kiss That Changed Spanish Football on NetflixLaura White Lotus Season 3 Then we jump into your questions: DO I LET IT GO TO PROTECT MY DAD?Growing up, I always looked and felt really different from the rest of my family. It was always a running joke that I was the “adopted” child because I don’t resemble anyone. When I was 14 and really into science, I learned that my blood type wasn’t a possible combination of my parents. I brought it up with my mum, but she completely shut me down and made me feel silly for even questioning it. Fast forward to late last year, and my sister and I did a heritage DNA test for fun. When the results came back, we found out we’re only half-sisters—meaning we have different dads. I have no idea what to do with this information. I’ve always had suspicions that my mum might have had an affair over the years (I’ve even seen some texts on her phone to another man). The thing is, my dad is the sweetest, most pure-hearted man. He’s retired now and living his best life, and I know that something like this could absolutely shatter him. I don’t know if it’s my place to bring it up or if he would be happier living in ignorant bliss. I don’t care about finding out who my “real” biological father is—I just care about what’s best for my dad. Is it my duty to dig deeper and confront my mum? Or do I let this go to protect him? I’m completely torn. CONCERT ETIQUETTE Can you stand up at a concert when in a reserved seating area? If you want to stand to pop along, should you book a GA standing? DO I REKINDLE THINGS AFTER SHE HAS THE BABY?I’ve just started talking to a new man for the first time after being cheated on in my last relationship. We went on two dates, and I really liked him. We slept together, he stayed the night, it was great! This man ticked all of my boxes. All of a sudden, after staying the night, he stopped replying! I thought he’d ghosted me and things were done. Then three days later, he came back and explained that he and his ex had hooked up in October last year and SHE IS PREGNANT! She’s now just started her second trimester. He said he wants to prioritise the baby and her, and he and his ex agreed on no dating/communication through the pregnancy, which is completely reasonable. He said he wants to keep talking to me after the birth because he really enjoyed spending time with me and wants to see where things go. My question is, do I rekindle things in 5 months, or is it just too messy? CAREER OR MOTHERHOOD?My partner and I are trying to work out when we should have kids. I’m 30 and he is 39. His career is well and truly set up and he is happy where he is. I however am not! When I was younger I always wanted to be a mum, but as I get older my priorities have shifted to being career focused. I am a pilot and I want to progress in my career a little more before we have kids. I am not happy where I currently work (very toxic workplace) and want a bit more of a stable job, especially one to go back to after having babies. I’m not sure this new job will come in the next year or so, so my husband and I have been talking about prioritising babies first, due to my husband approaching 40. As much as I want to be a mum, it breaks my heart that I may not get my dream career that I’ve worked years for and spent $200 K to train for (does this mean I shouldn’t be a mum?

Today’s guest is one of the most funny, relatable and completely open people we’ve been lucky enough to chat with. Tanya Hennessy is a comedian, radio announcer, TV presenter, multi-bestselling author and content creator. We kick this chat off by speaking about something Tanya recently wrote about called the ‘catch up trap’. It’s where we all seem to be just ‘catching up’ with our friends and recapping our lives rather than actually creating new memories together. It can be reflective of the stage of life that we’re in, but it can also make you question whether it’s a good use of our time to just be relaying what we’ve been up to since the last time we spoke. When was the last time you created ‘new’ memories with your friend? Tanya is now all about creating these new memories and seeking deep joy from her friendships. Tanya has been very open with her long ‘journey’ with challenging fertility. The main difference is that Tanya speaks about it in real time, not hindsight. Tanya is currently going through the process of her 7th round of IVF and has tried quite literally everything that you could imagine.Something we are often asked during Ask Uncut is how to speak about kids, pregnancy or trying to conceive with a friend that you know has been struggling with their own fertility. Unfortunately there is no one size fits all answer of how to do it right. But, we ask Tanya how she navigates her friendships with her loved ones that have kids, how she responds to social media announcements and things like baby showers etc. Tanya also speaks about the things that we need to address on a systemic level like pregnancy loss care and removing the deafening silence of fertility struggle stigma. You can find more from Tanya on her instagram and tiktok You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Today's episode is with our favourite cast away. Matt is back from the jungle and he's dishing the tea on the behind the scenes of what happened in camp. To summarise, it's not been sunshine and rainbows and special reunion times between our mum and dad... Britt is actually the therapist of today's episode.We speak about: The real reason Matt didn't quit Matt's bone to pick with Britt Who Matt expected to win The part that Laura hated of Matt on screen Laura's travel with the kids and filming the finale How Lola has responded to Matt being away What Matt and Laura have been bickering about since Whether Matt *self pleasured in the jungle (this one will shock you) You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions!We had to record this episode a few days early because we didn’t know if Laura would be on a plane to South Africa to be reunited with Matt after I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here!By this time, you’ll well and truly know the outcome of whether he made it to the final and whether Laura survived the 30 hours of flying with two kids!Vibes for the week:Britt - Netflix Apple Cider Vinegar Keeshia - Mid Amanda Keller and Anita McGregor Know How Lucky They Are Laura - Case-Mate Stick It! Then we jump into your questions!CAN I DATE MY LATE HUSBAND’S FRIEND?My husband passed aways in an accident nearly 3 years ago, he was 29 and we had been together since we were 16. After years of heartache (which will live with me forever) I’m finally feeling open to the idea of dating again. I’ve recently reconnected with an old friend who was a friend of my husbands too. He has the most grounded, secure, kind energy and I have found myself having feelings for him. I have no idea where he stands on this situation and whether or not he just sees me as a friend. I want to ask him/ tell him how I’m feeling but I don’t want to get it wrong and potentially uplift our friendship. Help THEY NAMED US GODPARENTS WITHOUT ASKING US FIRSTA couple of weeks ago, my husband and I attended my cousin's baby's dedication at church. All was going well until they announced in front of all our friends and family that my husband and I were the Godparents to their child....We were shocked. There was no previous conversation surrounding this topic, and my husband and I agreed that if they asked us, we would politely decline as it's a serious role to take on as we already have 3 kids of our own (and wanted to try for another). We stood there awkwardly smiling and didn't know how to react. We were never "asked" to be their child's Godparents and were announced with the title in front of everyone with no prior discussion. Is it rude of me to have a conversation with them and explain that we thought it was unfair of them to announce that in front of our family when we were never even asked if we would take on the role, or should I say nothing and pretend like we aren't bothered by it?SHOULD I HAVE MY PARTNERS PHONE PASSCODE?I have a lot of trust issues… I’ve had a rough time with relationships and trust. I always go through my husband's phone (once a day I would say) not necessarily finding anything just “making sure”. About a month ago I asked him to change his password so I couldn’t go through his phone anymore. What do you ladies think about this; not having your partner's phone password? Do you think it will help my trust as I have to keep reminding myself he is a good guy and my past is still haunting me or do you think it’s unhealthy? I did counselling for a long time after my previous relationships but now it’s too expensive with two children. COULD MY PARTNER BE GETTING A FREE RIDE?I have been with my partner for 5 years and we are expecting our first child. I already owned a house before meeting him and have since sold it so we can buy something for our growing family. The issue is, I am the only one contributing to the deposit and it is a large sum of money from the sale. He is older and has no assets of his own. How do I navigate this so I don’t resent him for ‘getting a free ride’ to a house which I’ve worked so hard to have for myself? I can’t help but resent him for not getting his shit together earlier. For context, we had similar upbringings and occupations so there isn’t much of a salary difference between us. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to topics like pleasure and sex, we all have different biases and shame that we carry and it’s difficult to distance ourselves from the conditioning and societal values that we’ve grown up with. But this episode is definitely going to make you evaluate your thoughts on sex, shame and empowerment. Joining the podcast today is sexologist and academic Dr Hilary Caldwell. Hilary was a sex worker in secret for 20 years and kept her double life from her friends and family. She didn’t have any of the stereotypes that seem to surround women for their reasons of getting into the sex industry and she certainly didn’t need to be saved from it.Hilary has used her experiences in the industry alongside her research to unpack why we feel so much internal shame when it comes to sex. Dr Hilary Caldwell is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women Who Buy Sex in Australia’ was the first study in the world to explore women buying sexual services and was informed by her professional career in the field of sexology. We chat: Hilary’s reasons for entering the sex work industry and whether they’re the same as everyone who enters the industry Hilary’s experiences entering the industry that oppose preconceived ideas and the things she regrets Why Hilary continued nursing at the same time Why she kept her other work a secret from friends and family What made Hilary want to enter academia and infiltrate the system The different experiences that women have around sex in comparison to men Emotions like jealousy and how poly relationships navigate jealousy Some of the things that sex workers collectively keep secret Why sex workers are fighting for decriminalisation rather than legalisation of their industry You can find more from Hilary at her website And instagram You can find Hilary’s book “Slutdom: Reclaiming shame-free sexuality” You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, First up, please vote to save Matt in the jungle here!Laura is slightly concerned about Lola's 'spontaneity' if they end up being sent to South Africa to be there for the final of I'm a celeb. She's developed a new way to release her rage

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest, darkest dilemmas.Did you have a good 'theme' for your hens? We might all be going as the different versions of Britt. There are a few to choose from!We have spoken about Laura's revelation about how chickens reproduce for the past few weeks but today we list the ridiculous things that you didn't learn until far too late. Vibes and unsubscribes for the week:Britt - unsubscribing from fake real estate photosKeeshia - Prof G Markets PodcastLaura - The brand - Kinga Csilla Then we get into your questions! DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE BECAUSE SHE IS?One of my closest friends has a toxic relationship with her toddler's father. He abandoned her around the time of the birth, and for the first year of the child's life. He has a drinking problem, has cheated, has said some really vile things and even got her pregnant again while having another girlfriend on the side. As you can imagine, I've been there for all of this, and stepped in during his absence a lot. I obvs hate his guts. After being away from him for some time and getting her life back together, he has come crawling back, and now they are back on and LIVING together. I physically cannot bring myself to support this, and I feel awful because I have distanced myself entirely for months. Am I being selfish, and should I give him another chance because she is? I haven't told her how I feel but my silence and absence I think would speak volumes - and hers does too. How to handle this? DO I TELL MY HUSBAND MY PAST DATING LIFE INCLUDED WOMEN?My husband and I are happily married with kids. We’ve been together for about 8 years. He’s a pretty open guy generally speaking but we are from a conservative city so I do sometimes hear comments from him and his family to suggest otherwise. I listened to your episode yesterday about talking about your past relationships. My husband has never wanted to hear about my past relationships, nor share much about him. So here’s the thing… My past few years of relationships before we got together were with women (one of which I lived with). I have no issue with my sexuality but the years of not sharing these details with him have made this into a bigger deal in my head and I feel like if he found out now, it would be a bit of a shock to him. So my question is, should I tell my husband I like pussy or leave it? COUSIN’S HUSBAND SAYS HE HAS FEELINGS FOR MEMy cousin “Shelly” and her husband “Dean” have been together for 14 years and have 3 kids. Recently, they’ve joked about separation and divorce. My husband and I also have kids and often catch up with them. Over the past few weeks, Dean started messaging me, saying Shelly didn’t want him to talk to me but he needed to tell me something in person. I ignored him at first, thinking it was strange, but he kept insisting. I assumed he’d found out something about my husband as our relationship has also been very rocky. Today, when we caught up, Dean told me he and Shelly were essentially separated but staying together for the kids. He said he’d been unhappy for years but felt happy and comfortable around me, repeatedly complimenting me and saying he likes being around me. It was clear he has feelings for me, so I tried to shut it down, reminding him that he and Shelly have been through a lot and we are family. Should I tell Shelly what happened? I don’t want her to think I’m betraying her or have ill intentions. I feel blindsided and thrown into their drama. Our family can be intense, and if this gets out, it’ll likely cause a huge mess. I don’t want to hurt my cousin. MY FRIEND’S BOYFRIEND FOLLOWS PROBLEMATIC ACCOUNTSMy really good friend has this boyfriend who I have been a bit wary about because of some of his political views. He follows some far right, almost conspiracy level accounts that are hectically pro trump, and other dangerous men like Ben Shapiro etc. He also follows a LOT of onlyfans girl’s accounts. Here's where it also gets a little complex- my friend is Asian and has joked about perhaps her (white) boyfriend being with her only because she is Asian and wondering if he has "yellow fever" (a derogatory term for men who like to date Asian women because of the kink of submissive behaviour). All of the women were Asian creators on his follow list. My friend doesn't have instagram so she won’t check to see who he is following. Should I tell her about his instagram account or just stay out of it? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve said it a hundred times; communication is everything. But we aren’t really ever taught how to actually communicate. What makes someone a good communicator? And why is it so important? People aren’t just born good communicators and it’s something that we can all improve our skills on. Joining the podcast today is Pulitzer prize winning reporter and author Charles Duhigg. Charles’ most recent book titled ‘supercommunicators’ investigated the simple and tested methods for communicating and connecting with anyone. Charles went deep on what exactly makes someone THE person that everyone wants to have conversations with; whether it be in your romantic relationship, at work, with friends and even with strangers. We speak about: How having ‘different types’ conversations with partners is likely why you feel misunderstood or not listened to Becoming ‘neurally entrained’ and using the ‘matching principle’ to be a good communicator How to ask the right questions The communication of conflict and how to avoid it - ‘when you’re feeling furious, get curious.’ Can you ‘learn’ to use communication in a manipulative way EQ, unlike EQ is learned, not born with The difference between true vulnerability and fake vulnerability You can find more from Charles at his website You can follow Charles’ InstagramHis book “supercommunicators - How to unlock the secret language of connection’ is available in hardcopy and audiobook on audible and spotify. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest dilemmas!Last week we learned that Laura was in her mid twenties when she realised how chickens procreated. It turns out, she was absolutely not alone! Which voice do you like your robots to have? Are you into the simple factory setting Siri or would you prefer a bit of hot guy ASMR? Vibes for the week:Laura - The Six Triple Eight film on NetflixBritt - The Telepathy Tapes PodcastKeeshia - The Traitors US on 10Play Then we jump into your questions! USED CONDOMI was with my ex for almost 3 years when we had a baby. The baby was 1 and things in our relationship went downhill. We called it off due to my partner needing space. 3 weeks after breaking up we had a chat and agreed that we would see each other again and not see anyone else. I have now found a used condom in the bin. Some background context; he got asked to be a sperm donor by a friend and has said that he masturbated into the condom to save it. Am I wrong in not believing why the condom was used? FAST MOVING RELATIONSHIP AND THEFTI have been seeing a guy for about 6 months. It’s one of those romances that moves quite fast and feels so perfect. I have not had many adult relationships, never felt this loved so it’s all full steam ahead. I’ve had a few comments from friends and family about the speed we are moving but that’s probably expected. We are currently applying for houses so we can live together. He has kids from past relationships that he has a lot of the time. I love kids so no problem here.My question is I have just found out that he has some legal proceedings coming up this year. He used someone else’s bank details to purchase items for himself, so effectively stealing/fraud but he stands by that he was told he could spend the money on himself even though he thought it seemed a bit odd at the time. He will be pleading guilty as his lawyer advised this will be the best outcome for him. I am so conflicted as I have never felt this loved by someone and felt like I was really finally getting my fairy tale ending after watching everyone else get theirs. Is it a bad idea to stand by and support him while he goes through this knowing he has stolen from someone? I can’t even fathom having to try and find someone else at this point as I really want kids of my own in the next few years and it took me 10 years to find someone. WE ELOPED AND MY PARENTS ARE ANGRYMy husband and I recently eloped overseas. We made the decision to keep it a surprise and tell everyone at the same time with individual messages to our immediate families and social media informing all other family and friends. Everyone so far has been extremely happy for us and shared that excitement, mainly my husband's family. My parents however have not contacted me since we told them over 2 weeks ago, absolute radio silence. I preempted this reaction from my mum seeing as my MIL was actually on the holiday with us and was able to be at the elopement. I knew this would upset her, however I still hoped she could put aside her personal hurt to still be happy for us. I am angry at my parents for their lack of interest in such a pivotal point in my life and am adamant that I am not the one who needs to reach out at this time. Am I right to leave the ball in their court to reach out? Every day that goes by seriously affects how our relationship looks in the future. Please note my mum is often a selfish person who is always the victim. My dad hurts more though as he appears to have sided with mum in not messaging me even personally. DEALING WITH MY MILMy MIL plays a minimal role in our daughter's life, but recently we have asked her to mind our little one for an hour each week. When the MIL comes over, she is always calling me a ‘mean mum’ to my daughter. For example, we were heading off for a big swim in the river, the furthest I would have ever swam and I had made myself some food which was different to my daughter’s dinner as I have lots of food allergies. Of course my daughter wanted some of mine, but I was trying to encourage her to eat her own food. My mother in law then called me a ‘mean mum’ over and over again. Our daughter is 18 months and will probably begin to understand the animosity here soon. I always play nice and laugh it off. She NEVER does this when my husband is around, so when I tell him about it, as much as he believes me, it makes it tricky to bring up. I have tried saying things like, ‘Hey, that’s not very fair or kind’, but she continues. Any further suggestions? My family lives 4 hours away and I really need that 1 hour break so I can go exercise with my husband and we have time together. Our second baby is on the way and I can’t afford to damage the relationship further. 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Toni Lodge is a comedian, the author of ‘I don’t need therapy’ (and other lies I’ve told) and half of the Toni and Ryan podcast! The perfect way to sum up today’s episode is ‘dark humour’. Toni is truly one of the funniest people we’ve ever met and she shares two of the most ‘vulnerable’ accidentally unfiltered stories we’ve ever heard.We speak about Toni’s rise to being one of the most popular podcasters in the country after being told that she wasn’t quite the right fit for the microphone when she was in radio. We speak about the different ways that people reach success in media these days and not having to check the same boxes that people used to. We take a bit of a behind the scenes tour into how podcasting actually works, how it’s monetised, who owns what etc. We speak about: The dynamics of relationships when you work with one of your closest friends Choosing to be child free and finding peace with that decision Grief can look different to what we expect it to Feeling like it was really hard to casually speak about her mum after she passed away Toni wants people to stop saying “sorry” when someone passes away Achieving things after losing a parent and wanting to be able to tell them Handling grief and sad things in general with humour creates a split crowd Writing down your non negotiables - 5 things that you will not leave this life without achieving You can find more from Toni on her Instagram and her podcast You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Laura's past is coming back to haunt Britt and this time it's in the form of 8 legged creatures! Also just a reminder that this is not a national geographic podcast and you should take our animal facts with about a 50% accuracy assumption... Vibes for the week! Britt: Nektech MassagerKeeshia: Diddy: the Making of a Bad Boy on BingeLaura: An Update On Our Family Docuseries on Binge Then we jump into your questions! MY TWO HOUSEMATES ARE SLEEPING TOGETHERWe recently found out that two of my housemates are sleeping together and I can’t help but be a little pissed off at them. The guy recently had a messy breakup in the first week of our lease where his partner (one of my best friends) had to move out. The house is only just recovering from this. The girl he is sleeping with (our other housemate) has lived with us for two and half months so she was also living with the guy's ex. I’m finding it hard to be nice to them around the house but have been told by my partner for the sake of the house to be pleasant.What should I do? FINGER UP THE BUMThis was a hot topic out for dinner with my girlfriends…. if you man sticks his finger up your butt during foreplay/sex what does it mean? Is it for your pleasure? Because he wants the same in return or could it be that he wants to try anal? Or is it just a simple finger in the butt that shouldn’t be questioned? ROOMMATES CATS DAMAGING PROPERTYI live in a shared house with two other girls. One of the girls has adopted two cats that now live with us. The cats are damaging property in the house that belongs to me like countless houseplants and scratching/making pulls in the couch. Am I within my right to ask for financial reimbursement for damages to my property or asking her to replace these items? She doesn’t apologise for the damage or destruction/death of plants and instead blames me. How should I approach this and is it fair to ask for financial reimbursement? BOYFRIEND DOESN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT EXESIs it ok For your boyfriend of 3 years to not want to talk about his exes ? I feel like for me it’s not a big deal. Your past is your past, which is something you should be able to share with the love of your life: It’s part of who you are and why and how you’ve grown? Why should it matter if you have moved on? Why can’t or doesn’t he want to talk about it? He is 32 and I’m 28? Any suggestions or thoughts? We spoke about the episode with Haven Shepherd that you can watch here! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!!!We hope you're in the mood for a bit of a chaotic laugh! We are catching up on the highlights and 'vibe' of our summer break.Laura's attempt at spicing up their sex life ended in a hard, terrible way...Britt had an overseas sauna experience that she will not forget anytime soon.Tiktok came back from cancellation quicker than we've ever seen a celebrity recover.Thinking that the app would be closed for business forever, some American tiktokers confessed their lies that helped them go viral! Some were innocent, others were a lot more on the nose. Are we surprised that creators lie in order to go viral? Not at all. But is it questionable when they've financially profited off the back of deceiving people? We speak about Trump's inauguration and how Melania's outfit choice sums up the mood. We also speak about the tech bros that attended and their attempts at rebranding their personal image. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Tuesday girls! We hope 2025 is treating you well so far and we can't wait to give you all of our updates very soon. Until then, we are throwing it back to one of our favourite episodes & trips this year and revisiting our wild trip to Coachella! We love you and can't wait to be back with you soon xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's episode is a special bonus episode with Britt's sister Sheri!We put a call out a little while ago and Sheri was one of the most requested guests so we thought it was time to get a bit of a life update! Since we last had Sheri on the podcast, her and her husband have moved over to Scotland and had their first baby Maya. Maya was born 5-7 weeks premature. We asked Sheri: How are you going wearing hearing aids now? Do you feel stigma about being so young? How does Sheri feel about Britt's long distance relationship and pending marriage? What made you want to move overseas and did you feel guilty being so far away from family? Their pregnancy journey Maya's birth story What was the best gift you were given after birth? Have you lost much of your identity since becoming a mum? How did you navigate getting 'back' nutrition and exercise? You can find Sheri's Instagram and Strive here. You can listen to Sheri's previous episodes with us:Talking Diet Culture and Nutrition with Sheri Hockley You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We had the Australian podcast awards but the real take away in the media is how unhinged Laura is and that she (and I quote) "leaves fans questioning her lifestyle habits". Britt is having a bit of a mid wedding planning crisis. Actually a big mid wedding crisis.If you've planned a wedding, did you chop and change your mind on things like your dress in the lead up to your wedding? We discuss the paradox of choice and decision fatigue. It's sledging season! A new term for how people are strung along over the Christmas/New Years period, delaying a break-up or continuing dating someone they know they're not interested in. We chat about when "is" the right time to end a relationship around this time and the reasons why so many couples break up around this time of the year.New Year, New Relationship!   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Laura has had to go on a 'fishing' expedition in the grossest of places all thanks to Lola! Has your kid ever 'dropped' something valuable in a place that they shouldn't have?Britt tried to replace the shrine but failed epically and has had to employ a man who woke up in our friend's bed to fix the problem!  Vibes for the week:Britt - Picking up a new hobby. BasketballLaura - India Oxenberg's book 'Still Learning'Keeshia - By Maay Brooklyn work bag Then we get into your questions! DO I START SLEEPING WITH STRANGERS OR JUST HAVE NO SEX LIFE THANKS TO MY PARTNER?My partner and I have been together for 15 years. We have a 7 year old child who we love. But our sex life is 0. We talked a few months ago about opening our relationship. We both agreed and didn't have many rules. A few weeks later, I slept with an old friend. My partner was unhappy to say the least. Since then he convinced me to let him keep sleeping around but I can only see people I don't know. Now my question is... I'm not comfortable with people I don't know. Sex to me is intimate and needs friendship. Do I start sleeping with strangers or just have no sex for the rest of my life? MY HUSBAND GAVE ME MONEY AS A BDAY PRESENT My husband recently gave me $400 in cash for my birthday present.  For context, we have a joint account and each has a personal account and we get paid equal amounts in our personal accounts every week. We keep a money tin at home where we keep a bit of cash to the side to spend on joint expenses. The $400 birthday money came from our shared tin. At the time I was super grateful and thankful for the cash gift. He also took me out to dinner and paid for that with his personal money which was part of the gift. He said the money is to go towards getting a necklace made that I've been wanting for a long time. We aren't huge on gift giving but I can't help but feel a little disappointed that he didn't put any time into thinking about a nice present for me that wasn't just grabbing money out of the tin and putting it in a card. He did cook me breakfast and show me love in other ways on my birthday but I wish he put some thought into a gift for me. We do live very busy lives and are both self employed and work together so I don't want to be too hard on him as life has been pretty hectic for both of us lately. How would you bring this up, if even at all? Or do I just move on and stop even thinking about it? Maybe I'm just being completely unreasonable. DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER GO AFTER HE DUMPED ME FOR ANOTHER GIRL?My partner & I were together for 2 years, lived together, were speaking of marriage & kids within the coming year. 8 months ago, something happened randomly and my partner started pulling away. He was so checked out. He said he wanted to go to Bali with a mate and when he returned home he dumped me 2 days later. Little did I know he found a new girlfriend over in Bali, made it official & hard launched their relationship on Instagram 2 weeks later. I was beyond heart broken. I moved back in with my parents & it was the worst time of my life. Fast forward 8 months, he's called things off with the new girl & has said he can't move on from me. He said that he's realised what he's lost, he has massive issues & is willing to do anything to fix things including couples counselling and deleting his social media in order to gain my trust back… My whole family & friends hate him & I don't know what to do. Is it worth giving him another go & trust he won't break my heart again? Or am I risking ending up back at square one and too much damage has been done? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, It's officially Britt's bangiversary! She's tried to dupe Ben into a fancy gift but Ben's aware of her antics.We speak about the advice we got from our grandmothers. Some of it hasn't aged particularly well.  We might have found the world's most conflict avoidant man; the man who *likely has faked his own death to ditch his family and go to a woman in Europe. There was a video filmed back in June (two months before Ryan Borgwardt's disappearance). It shows a man on a bike asking if he should go to Uzbekistan to meet a woman, despite being married. After the video went viral, authorities say that the video isn't Ryan.  Also, how do you like your labia? We've spoken about symmetry, length and comfort when it comes to labia but labia puffing seems new.We ask: Is our generation more obsessed than ever with labia? Do you think this trend highlights empowerment or unnecessary pressure for perfection? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt has had an extremely embarrassing moment at the hairdresser. We would want the ground to swallow us whole.Has your dog ever caused you to be in the most embarrassing moment of your life? Laura is having a bit of trouble getting Lola to give up something that she loves. Lola is in negotiations and Laura is struggling to reach a mutually agreed upon solution!Vibes for the week: Britt: Martha on NetflixLaura: Marigold's Magic Stars book by Samantha WillsKeeshia: RecipeTin Eats Tonight Cookbook Then we get into your questions! I CAN'T SLEEP WHEN WE ARE IN THE SAME BEDI've been with my partner for about four years, he's 33 and I'm 27. Everything's great BUT the one thing that I cannot do with him, is sleep in the same bed. This is largely due to his snoring and sleep noises combined with my light sleeping. He would love to share a bed but I seriously just don't sleep when I'm in the same bed. We always have great sex, have a cuddle at night, but then I'll go to my room to sleep and then will wake each other up in the morning with a cuddle. It's been a great arrangement but I get so worked up and worried about ever going away together. I feel like when we do share a room I'm sleep deprived, miserable and resentful. We want to go overseas together soon but again I get worried about future endeavours together because I'm scared I'll never be able to sleep in the same bed and have a good sleep. Is this a sign that it's not going to work? Or do we just have to keep making arrangements for separate beds where we can, and I get used to no sleep when the occasions arise that we do need to share a bed? Also just for context, he has undergone nasal surgery to straighten his septum in order to try fix the snoring and I've invested in so many different types of ear plugs but nothing has worked. Help please  BOYFRIEND SUPPORTS TRUMPI love my boyfriend but I think he supports Trump. After Trump just got elected, he said “well what did he do that was actually so bad the first time?” He thinks the hate against him is a media conspiracy. Can I be in a relationship with someone who feels this way about misogynistic people? HOLDING IN MY GAS AROUND HIMI've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now, we're exclusive and it's going well. It's the first time I'm getting serious with someone so the first time I've been hanging out with a guy quite a lot over night/all weekend. The issue is I am quite a gassy person… I don't have any stomach issues. I just tend to need to do a few pop offs after big meals or in the morning, and I also poop quite often too. I have been WAY too nervous to poop around him as I get scared he's going to go in after me and smell it. I also am holding in ALL my farts. This is causing me serious stomach aches and pain. I'm often recovering from holding them in for 1-2 days after seeing him. Side note- he farts in front of me but I'm way too embarrassed to do it back… You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.