Heauxly Coitus

I was raised as a Seventh-Day Adventist pastor's kid, attending SDA schools through college. While I never really bought into it and mostly stopped going to church in my 20s, I didn't start deconstruction and doing trauma therapy until last year at 42 years old. Through deconstructing and with the help of trauma therapy - which I can't recommend enough! - I started unpacking purity culture and realized I'm lesbian. I'm so excited for the future and being able to live authentically is such a gift and I'm so grateful. Therapy is magic! . A heaux is someone who follows and honors their own desires, who finds joy in being true to themselves first and foremost. A heaux is also very sex and body positive! . I just really love this pic and this variation is not one I've seen often! This represents how I think of myself and my body - beautiful. ____________ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Patrick @secure_not_pure is from Germany and has American roots - not only by blood, but he considers himself a transatlantic dropout from 1990s American purity culture. His ongoing journey of de/reconstruction has led him away from toxic church structures and a static view of the divine, towards a more healthy and inclusive mindset - and all the way into consensual non-monogamy (which he actually didn't see coming). Patrick is healing from early trauma and shame, and learning to embrace his own body and sexuality. Topics covered in this conversation include European secularism and faith, the True Love Waits movement, sex positivity, therapy, and the importance of consent and good communication in unconventional (meaning non-monogamous/polyamorous) relationship/family structures. .

I was raised in the fundamentalist Evangelical Christian movement, where there were very strict predetermined ideas of what was acceptable, holy, and sacred, and what was considered rebellious, evil, and profane. When I started exploring outside of those strict beliefs, I discovered to my surprise, that the sacred is often found with the profane. I often saw the most beautiful examples of God and God's love wrapped up with what was considered sinful by the church. As a response to my exploring, I was rejected by my church of origin and suffered emotional abuse and spiritual trauma, resulting in a complex PTSD diagnosis. Through this painful journey I developed a faith in my own goodness and the goodness of a divinity that can be found by anyone of any religion, culture, or background; a divinity of Oneness and Love. I believe we each have something unique and valuable to bring to the table and that all voices need to be heard.  It's my passion today to speak out on issues of religious oppression and abuse through my writing and in conversations. I am particularly passionate about connecting with anyone who has a story of spiritual trauma and/or PTSD, and mutually empowering each other by speaking our truths and healing together.  Instagram: @sacredunraveling Blog: sacredunraveling.com ~ Sarah Van Etten Leupold~ . @heauxlycoitus

My name is Sarah, and I am a physical therapist who also runs an instagram account in my free time called @DeconstructingPurityCulture. I started this account as a way to process through my own religious deconstruction, specifically when it came to purity culture, and I feel so honored that my words have resonated with so many people. The only goal of my account is to help people feel less alone while processing through and deconstructing their own journey through religion and specifically purity culture. I want to bring to light the numerous scientific studies that have been done recently regarding the effect of purity culture on our bodies and also help people learn how to start asking the hard questions about religion that they were never allowed to ask growing up. You can follow along @deconstructingpurityculture on instagram! . A heaux is someone who understands and embraces that their body is their own and understands that religion doesn't get to define their body or sexual preferences. Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Untamed and unpolished, I've always struggled with acne and a distorted view on beauty being done up. Over the course of Covid and the world shutting down I embraced getting real with myself, makeup was prolonging my acne and not being true to myself was causing stress and that would come through in my skin. It's still a growing process but the more I learn to be very genuine to myself the more my body loves me back for it. I think this bleeds into all aspects of life. It become more about the energy you embody rather than just the external performance. A heaux is not being afraid to explore the depths of your desires, being eager to understand where a desire roots from and what is there for you to explore. Not for others, but for yourself. Growing up with a single mother taught me that love comes from within, how I view and speak about myself will radiate back what is meant for me in this world. I don't hide from my mistakes, I find the love in the lessons. I want to help others learn to embrace that their authentic self is what this world needs. The only way I know how to do this is by being vulnerable myself. Everyone can keep up with my journey on justpressforeplay.com ❤️ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

In this compelling memoir, Tasha Denese lays her soul bare as she recounts the adversities of her
childhood. Overcoming the Drug Addiction I Never Had is the incongruous true story of deep-rooted trauma and pain from years or physical, sexual and emotional abuse at the hands of people who were supposed to love and protect her. By breaking her silence and finally speaking her truth, Tasha Denese has sought to not only give a voice to other victims of childhood abuse and suffering but she was able to reclaim her life, mental health, and happiness. Born in Miami, Florida, Tasha Denese spent her childhood and a portion of her young adulthood growing up between households as well as between the cities of Miami and Fort Myers, Florida, respectively. 
Tasha Denese is dedicated to her own self-growth journey and loves using her words and writings to inspire others. She enjoys connecting to others and is extremely excited about the début of her first book and hopes her writings will encourage others to Overcome their own adversities and make peace with their past, find self-acceptance, self-love, and graciously step into their purpose. 
Available for interviews, book signings, and speaking engagements. ⭐️ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

It's awkward for me to post a picture of myself.  Not because I am self conscious of my body.  But it feels weird to say “hey, this is a picture of me that is sexual.”  I think it may be due to the fact that humility was hammered into me at a young age and it had both positive and negative consequences.  This first picture is of me in my running gear.  Being physically fit and how I look after a run or a ride makes me feel sexual.  I was taught and taught and taught from a young age that it's not what's outside, but inside that counts.  And as a “late bloomer” I was always told I was good marriage material or I was a nice guy but nobody seemed to want to date or fuck me.  Of course, lots of this is personal body image/purity culture stuff.  But being fit has made me feel sexually attractive and vibrant.  But I'm also posing in a goofy way which is very much me both in and outside of the bedroom.  The second picture is of my bicycle on the longest ride I ever went on. I took this picture in a place called Climax, Colorado.  It made me feel fit and I also love to climax.  It's the greatest feeling in the world. . A heaux is a person who is free to engage in and practice their on sexuality, sensuality, and romance in whatever manner that brings themselves and whomever else they engage with pleasure.  A heaux is a person that views sexuality through a natural, pleasurable, consensual, emotional, physical, and scientific lens. . You can follow me on Instagram. I have an account that is attempting to create a community of former evangelicals in both Colorado and anywhere else.  That handle is @springsformerevangelicals.  You can also follow my personal account @bjkarlik.  You can follow me on twitter @bj_karlik . @heauxlycoitus

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My name is Pratibha Dey, Founder @ Chai Together. A video podcast showcasing mental health journeys. I am a treatment specialist for men in domestic violence and I provide mental health support for engineers in the Cyberspace. I enjoy wheel throwing(pottery), current book interest is Osho's “The Book of Women”, and I'm traveling to Japan this year! . “ Our spines are the most important covers of our lives. They unveil what's beneath us, what's unfinished, and what's to come after gruesome encounters. Our spine is what helps us stand straight and curves us when we need to redirect ourselves. Disability is a thought, we're merely judge mental to ourselves. Everyday can be different, even when it's the hardest of times. • Keep your faith. •

Shannon TL Kearns is a transgender man who believes in the transformative power of story. He is an ordained priest, a playwright, and a theologian. He is the co-founder of QueerTheology.com which has reached more than a million people all over the world through videos, articles, and online courses and community. His first book “In the Margins: A Transgender Man's Journey With Scripture” comes out August 9 from Eerdmans Publishing. Shannon is a recipient of the Playwrights' Center Jerome Fellowship in 20/21 and he was a Lambda Literary Fellow for 2019 and a Finnovation Fellow for 2019/2020. He is a sought after speaker on transgender issues and religion as well as a skilled facilitator of a variety of workshops. You can connect with him on social media @shannontlkearns (Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitter) or on his website: www.shannontlkearns.com . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

**This episode contains themes (abuse, assault, suicide, trauma) that may be triggering to sensitive ears and hearts. If you're in crisis, contact National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK) | website Deaf, hard of hearing TTY and chat options hereEn Español, call 1-888-628-9454… Crisis Text Line | Text HOME to 741-741 | website ** I am Phoenix Rising and I am a purity culture survivor. After surviving abuse from my biological family and the church, I left to find my own truths about life starting with who I am. I have learned and accepted myself as pansexual. Even though I identify as asexual as well due to sexual abuse, I find with the right partner I enjoy sex - yes, outside of marriage - and it's awesome! Feel free to reach out if you have questions or find yourself in situations like me - @phoenix.rising22 on Instagram. . I chose a Phoenix because it represents my transition from my past life in purity culture to making my own core values and choices when it comes to sex and relationships. . To me a heaux is anyone who lives their own choices and freedoms in the ways of sex and/or relationships. A heaux is a beauty beyond "traditional" relationship expectations. . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

A Heaux Abroad: Taking a Break from the Heaux Life Have you ever felt like you needed a break from the heaux life? Today Jalila and I talked about being a heaux abroad and what happens when you need to take a break from the heaux life because something has gone wrong. Jalila is an American expat living in Shanghai, yes, Shanghai lockdown, you've been glued to your social media feeds I'm sure, but I they should be free now. Jalila moved abroad to Beijing China September 2019 and after working for one year in Beijing for Disney English, she relocated to Shanghai after Disney English shut down due to Covid-19. In America she had stable intimate relationships but in China she hasn't experienced that. Jalila was content enough being a heaux and embracing her sexuality but had two different experiences where the a man she was seeing stated the intention of wanting a relationship, but whose actions were opposite. After the second experience Jalila decided was hurt and would ghost men after a liaison. Recently Jaila took a break when her last intimate partner reached out and asked what he had done to be treated that way and liked her. Jalila realized that she had no reason, but needed to reevaluate what she wanted from her heaux experience and has taken a break from dating. Jalila believes it's important for me to be happy in doing whatever she's doing and not hurt others and not get hurt as well. She was unhappy in her career in America and found teaching English abroad, and now unhappy in how her heaux experience was going, she's found more happiness in taking care of her own heaux needs on her own. Jalila does wonder about possibly entering into a polyamory relationship once she back from self-imposed hiatus, because she knows that she wants the warmth that a stable consistent relationship brings but also needs the fire that the spice and variety of different partners provides as well. To listen to Are we home yet podcast, a biweekly expat podcast with guests from around the world, with creator and host Jalila Clarke, click the below link and select any podcast player : Subscribe, Download, Share, Rate, Review the podcast! Connect via social media at: IG : @arewehomeyetpodcast FB : @arewehomeyetpodcast FB Community: Are we home yet podcast Pinterest: @arewehomeyetpodcast Twitter: @arewehomeyetpod All of these can be found on the website: Arewehomeyetpodcast.com . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Hello! I'm Angela. I'm an everyday 30 year old living on this rock like the rest of you. I have deep southern “geechee” roots but Atlanta will always be home to me. I hope to inspire new moms who are trying to find themselves after going through tumultuous transitions. Sex has always been an ongoing battle for me, but I'm proud I was able to save myself and loving how liberated I feel because of it. I'm happy to share my story and hope you find the courage to continue and rewrite your own. A “heaux” to me is someone who knows themselves very well and that's powerful. You can do and be anything or one with the right amount of confidence. Reach me on IG directly @annie_schmannie Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

This picture (check out IG!!) means a lot to me because I'm proud of the man I have became and I can show off my chest if I want to. Talk about freedom! A heaux in my opinion would be a sexually free woman so I'll leave it to the women to make comments on that one haha. King Aiden is an independent American actor, musician and singer-songwriter. Sent to artist development at The Abbott Agency in Nashville by Terry Watson from Warner Music Group. Aiden has worked with artists and producers such as XanTheArtist, Ian Keaggy, Terry Watson, Ryan Cassata, Robert Marvin, David Mullen and TobyMac. He appeared in one of TobyMacs' music videos with 29+ million views so far. Aiden also landed a role on the show “Nashville” from ABC. Nowadays, King Aiden has found himself a lane in the hip hop and RnB genres and some pop. 
All social media: @onlykingaiden _________ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Follow @BlackSheepBios on Instagram to learn more about Deconstructing religion, faith, spirituality, and all things purity culture! A Heaux Is someone who embraces their sexual autonomy, and as long as it remains consensual and causes no harm, doesn't allow religion to dictate what they do with and think about their body. ~ Black Sheep Bios _______ I don't normally do show notes, but BSB was super organized and I want to acknowledge her preparation! See below for our talking points. 1) My Purity Culture Experience - Purity Ring -Youth Group -"Messing up" and enjoying a redemptive testimony -Conditional love from friends/family, being threatened -Leaning into purity culture and being shocked it wasn't all it promised 2) How Purity Culture messed up my Sexuality -When i had sex, i didn't do so safely (if you bring protection... that makes it a premeditated sin lol) -Sex was always intense, passionate, hard, fast, "naughty"... because it was sin. So if I wanted to do it... I had to really lean into that. Unfortunately I'm STILL learning how to embrace the soft, slow, passive, safe, intimate side of it.  -Sex was a power trip for me. As a woman who had grown up absolutely stifled by misogyny it felt wildly powerful to feel really in control of a man. - I didn't truly embrace and accept guilt-free sex until after I was already in a healthy, committed hetero marriage 3) Deconstruction & Black Sheep Bio's 8 points of "Purity Culture: Fallout" 1. Lasting Shame 2. The Pressure to Perform 3. Unrealistic Romantic Expectations 4. Body Dysmorphia 5. Self- Gaslighting 6. Emotional Disappointment 7. Feelings of Spiritual Inadequacy 8. Unhealthy Sexual Identity Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Tia Jones is a trauma survivor and trauma-informed self-trust coach for BIPOC women and femme cycle-breakers. She's obsessed with helping you be your own cheerleader while pursuing a life you love with more grace, gentleness, and fun! Generational trauma healing is hard. It's Tia's mission to help you inject some loving lightheartedness along the way.  _________ A heaux is someone who confidently takes ownership of their pleasure and understands its not a gift that only other people can give, its something they can give themselves. ~Tia _________ This picture (check out IG or HC's website) perfectly encapsulates my view of my body because I accept me as I am. Fatness and all.  __________ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

ister Shannon is an ExCatholic coach, helping people raised in Catholicism or impacted by its teachings reclaim the inherent GOODNESS of their bodies and step into their sexual power. IG:@sister.shannon . This is my regular day - because as I practice healthy sex and pleasure, I've built such reverence for my pleasure in EVERY moment that I now understand what looks luxurious, over-the-top, “too demanding” to some (I sit in a cafe like this almost every day), is actually my DESIRE. It's just what I want. It's just what makes me feel radiant, connected, part of something bigger than myself. (Check out the pics on IG @heauxlycoitus) _______ When I grasped the immensity of the pleasure I was designed to experience, and cut out the church crap about desire being devilish, it became my CALL to experience as much pleasure as possible

B is a 40 year old midwesterner finding his way out of the shame and fear of evangelicalism and purity culture in part by taking and sharing revealing, freeing selfies and self-portraits that are helping him move toward a new love for and confidence in his body. You can follow him on instagram at @happyinmyownskin. “A heaux is someone who embraces, expresses and explores their desires.” ~B ______ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

My name is Treasure (she/her), I'm sunshine radiating as a Black Queer woman. I'm studying English Literature Online as I maneuver and create a new path of authenticity, free from religion, on the island of O'ahu Hawaii as a newish military spouse. . It's important for me to say that because I'm finally able to live the life I've always wanted, with freedom and privacy to dream and create. You'll find my thoughts and writings @bodhi.curry & @freespace.diary. . A Heaux is an individual who recognizes and lives in the awareness that sexuality is simply being human. They define their own paths through deliberate intention: “Yes I'm Heaux because I'm listening to what my body wants and we're vibing, figuring it out together.” . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

I'm @realahmadray on all social media platforms and Ahmad Ray on YouTube! https://solo.to/realahmadray “A heaux is knowing what you want, when you want it, how you want it, and enjoy it happening.” LGBTQAI+ Resources https://docs.google.com/document/d/1JrYFefymLHtJncJi-Zo_H5QmHh_41o4cbLSjs38Us8g/edit . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

My books are an exploration of Love and Sex and how they come together. I wrote them in response to a lot of the prevailing toxic tropes in Romance and mainstream stories that I believe have shaped how we approach relationships and the unhealthy expectations we create around them. What I learned over the course of writing these books is that when we can embrace our sexuality and come into that personal power it affords us, our relationships can be more than we ever thought possible.  A heaux is someone whose sexual power is so firmly embedded in their being that it is expressed in all they do, say and think. It does not mean that they are sex obsessed or preoccupied. Rather, they acknowledge that to be in their power means owning their sexual identity and not hiding it away out of shame or guilt. We're not meant to compartmentalise who we are or make ourselves palatable depending on the audience of the day. In the end, who we are is all we are. No exceptions. Since 2014, Elizabeth has written nine novellas in her Gilded Flower Trilogies, as well as five standalone contemporary romance novels in her spin-off Wildflowers Series. A mother of two children, as well as a spiritual advisor and teacher, she was inspired to write these female-driven and inclusive stories to give the next generation more positive views of love and sex. Elizabeth's goal is to continue to publish stories that highlight women's strengths in all areas of their lives and that serve as positive examples of what elevated love relationships and sex can do for everyone—even men. Moreover, as a diverse female, she feels passionate about bringing minority voices to the pages of contemporary Romance. Elizabeth is also the co-host of Karma's my Bitch podcast, that explores how taking a spiritual perspective to life issues including relationships, sex and dating can heal how we approach life. In addition to being an author and podcaster, she is also a professional expat who has moved across four continents over a span of seventeen years.  . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

This is a digital rendering of a nude of mine done by @lord_kpuri. I used it to come out as queer on my personal page. It, my like my interview with you, is a type of disrobing. I'm revealing myself, as I am or as I see myself, to the world. Take me or leave me. It's really that simple. (Click on website below to see this picture.) . “A heaux is any particular individual who, while understanding and accepting all the consequences, engages in a sexual lifestyle that deviates from the the ‘patriarchal, cis-hetero, white supremacist seeped evangelical cultural normative' that constitutes today's society. For me, the emphasis is on the individual who understands the consequences and accepts them which would make the “trauma ho” ineligible.” —Helen . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Aryam Marafi is a 21 year old Kuwaiti medical student and activist. She is an abuse survivor who advocates for survivors of abuse and raises awareness of safeguarding issues in Kuwait. She is currently seeking asylum in the UK. Instagram: @aryammarafi . This is a drawing (see below for website link) I made that I feel represents my view of my body. It expresses my frustration that my body and what I do with my body is always up for debate and my choices are never respected. The hands creeping in from the corners represent my experiences with sexual abuse and people feeling entitled to use my body as they please without my consent. The shadow depicts my experiences with dissociation. I wanted to express how overwhelming and lonely it feels to constantly be controlled and used. The flowers signify the beauty into he world that can be easy to overlook when we suffer from abuse and trauma. . A heaux is someone who makes their own choices about their body and enjoys their body even when others try to take that joy away. . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Externally, I have presented as straight, cis-gender, and accommodating. I have seemed to follow purity culture even though I didn't completely. But those close to me know better and that's something I will always appreciate, both about me and about them. I think the whole bigger on the inside thing is also a good description of the love I have cultivated individually for my body in a fatphobic culture. “A heaux is someone who says no to oppressive control of their sexuality, body image, and sexual relationships.” Emily Hedrick is a religious trauma-informed spirituality coach. She is passionate about creating new structures, stories, and rituals with creative, down-to-earth, spiritually-minded humans. Committed to naming the ways rigid religion can cause harm, Emily is clearing space for human spirituality that resists exploitation from charismatic gurus and systemic violence present in many established religious institutions. She believes in the power of metaphor, poetry, and community and can't wait to welcome people to a world where we can be fully ourselves while embracing meaning, connection, and transcendence in everyday life. You can find her @goingodless on insta, Going Godless on Facebook and on her website goingodless.com Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

I grew up as a Baptist missionary kid in South America and attended a notorious right wing Bible college. After seven children and 32 years, I pulled the rip cord in pursuit of my own happiness and integrity. When I left my marriage in May of 2021, I became homeless virtually overnight. The judge signed my divorce papers unexpectedly with no hearing the same day I presented them while I had been counting on a 6-week or so waiting period. My Uber-holy Christian ex gave me the boot because “we're no longer married..so to protect my testimony, you must leave.” I walked out the door with a suitcase and no plan. A kind man I only knew from singing karaoke online, who was in upstate New York, said I could come stay a while. So I did. Y'all, it was like the parable of the widow's mite. The poor guy had so little to offer, he was an alcoholic with major PTSD and had been abused by a girl as a child. His living conditions weren't fabulous. But he gave me what he had: sex. Great, connected, lavish, beautiful, hot sex. Lots of it. He healed wounds in me I had never acknowledged and introduced me to erogenous zones I didn't know existed. Trauma going back 30 years at least to my honeymoon… Because everything I was told was taboo, I just want to explore more. A heaux is anyone who is practicing autonomy over their body and sexual desires or lack thereof. For those interested in learning more about the differences in various fundamentalist organizations and viewpoints, check out this YouTube link. Follow, support, send love to @theviolentbareitaway. . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Hi! My name is Fran, a family man in his 40s from the South of Spain who frequently travels. In this podcast I spit it all out for when it comes to erotic photoshoots which I love to do as I'm a hobby photographer. I love helping women realize their dream of being nude in front of a camera, and making them comfortable with it, otherwise it's no fun! A heaux is nothing else than a woman craving for love. Erupting her lava into another soul in the form of sex, the heaux is there to be taken or to get burned but never to be ignored. Heaux is generosity and modesty. The heauxlycoitus search until they find, until they settle, but only while they satisfied, that's when they are truly liberated, just as love starts hurting. The picture above is from my muse. I am booked for the foreseeable future … that's how it goes! To the Spanish-speaking women out there, the “desenfrenadas” or “desenfrenadascoitales” we salute them warningly hoping for you to share your journey with us. Un fuerte abrazo. Nos vemos pronto. Be a heaux! ______ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

I'm a philosopher, author, and podcaster in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA. I mostly work on disagreement, public discussion, trust, expertise, politics, and religion. My podcast is called “A Pastor and a Philosopher Walk into a Bar” and can be found wherever you get podcasts. You can find me on Twitter @robertkwhitaker and at my website: robertkwhitaker.com . Evangelicalism sends contradictory messages, especially to youth, about sex. “God made it, so it's good and you should want it, but also it's bad to want it too much or too soon or with almost any actual person, so definitely don't actually do it or think about it.” . “A heaux (I've just learned) is a person wresting control of their sexuality back from institutions that are oppressive and/or untrustworthy. In that sense, long live heauxdom!” _____ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

I'm Cat Delmar and I write about my experiences as a first-generation Jamaican-American, from leaving Christianity/Seventh-day Adventism and healing my intimacy disorder to my journey into earth-based spirituality and discovering and embracing an edifying type of sexuality. I struggled with sex and love addiction for years due to purity culture and narcissistic abuse. Then I had a spiritual awakening and came out of my “trauma ho phase.” Now I'm a free-spirited, twerking mermaid heaux for myself and my fiancé, trying to be a good veterinarian while I juggle writing a book about my journey out of addiction as well as finding ways to help people on their journey! Let's connect, share, and elevate! I'm on Instagram and Twitter using the handle @catmangrove. ~A heaux is liberated from societal conditioning and follows her own personal moral code. She has agency in all of her affairs and she has harnessed and mastered the magical craft that is seduction. A heaux does not simply give or receive pleasure; she is the walking and breathing embodiment of pleasure. A heaux lives confidently, peacefully, boldly, and mindfully because she intimately knows and honors all the longings of her mind, body, and soul.~ Cat Delmar Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Nkem is a human-goddess hybrid who is devoted to using her highly sensitive nature as a super power to access pleasure in this lifetime, whether sensing pleasure directly or in transmuting pain into pleasure through writing, dancing, and connecting with other souls across this big-but-small world. You can follow her @naturallyfree123 and read her written work at www.bynkem.co/words. A heaux is a person actively involved in the pleasure they receive; a person who prioritizes pleasure; a person who takes pleasure in prioritizing pleasure. Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Rachel is the author of "Confessions of an American None: A Credo of Sorts" and the founder of @AmericanNone. She has overcome religious trauma both in her childhood and adulthood. Now she advocates for a world in which #LoveisGreaterthanLabels.  @rachel_l_roberts rachelroberts@americannone.com — From Rachel: A heaux is owning the dichotomy that we can be sexually primal, raw, and rabid AND be vulnerable, sensitive, and delicate. Healthy sexuality represents the best of the spectrum of the totality of being human. Personally, I prefer a monogamous, loving relationship where I feel both safe and free to explore my wild side. Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

Jennifer C. Martin is a writer living in Richmond, VA with her two partners and their two children. She is a polyamorous dirtbag Christian and a proud leftist. In her spare time, she enjoys baking, yoga, gaming, and consuming all kinds of media. You can find her on Twitter or Instagram at @notreallyjcm. “My body was once a prison. It was something I hated, something that was too much and not enough at once. And now, it's home.” ~A heaux is a person who is totally comfortable with themselves, whether or not society is comfortable with them.~ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus

My name is Mackenzie and I am a deconstructing Christian living in the High Rockies of Colorado. After a lifetime of conservative indoctrination influenced by denominations such as the Church of Christ and Assembly of God, I started an Instagram called "Why I Left the Church" as a personal journal project. I have since amassed more than 800 followers. This online community has brought me great relief in knowing that I'm not alone and a lot to think about in my own spiritual journey. This month, I celebrate the ninth anniversary of the first time I went to a social dance. Learning how to partner dance was my personal gateway to self-acceptance and building a positive body image. A heaux is someone who knows what she wants and she takes the time to gather all relevant information in any situation that carries risk. She feels confident in her ability to make decisions. Her decisions are made for *herself* and nobody else. Whether she's choosing what to wear, who to kiss, or how to dance; it's her life! . Find, follow, support, and send love to Mackenzie on her Instagrams: @WhyILeftTheChurch @Dotsontheglobe . Come share your heaux story. Your voice and journey deserve to be heard. Schedule a convo and be a feature on Heauxly Coitus Podcast! Find, follow, support, and send love to Ms. Heauxly Coitus: @heauxlycoitus . Check out http://jenaya-global.myshopify.com for super cool heaux gear—tshirts, bags, and coffee mugs! Check out http://heauxlycoitus.home.blog for pics of Mackenzie and past episodes.

Melissa is writing a book! The Glory Whole – a memoir of misogyny, sex, family, secrets and purity culture within the claustrophobic depths of the Seventh-Day Adventist church. Raised in a severe, cult-like branch of the extreme fundamentalist SDA church, Melissa fled the church at 18 and plunged headlong into the “real world,' notching an Ivy League degree, a modeling and movie career, jobs working for famous politicians and billionaires, and seeking every excess possible with the sex & celebrity crowd across the US and Europe. Thoroughly congratulating herself on escaping her upbringing, she sailed smugly into adulthood where, in the middle of two marriages and two children, she learned multiple members of her family had been child molesters and abusers within the SDA church. This brought on a decades-long discovery process: finding a speaking to the victims, confronting family and church members, reaching out to further victims within the SDA system, and ultimately discovering and addressing her own far-reaching trauma from purity culture, patriarchal domination, family dynamics, fundamentalist mind-fuckery, and more. . Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube: @the_glory_whole . Come share your heaux story on the pod! Be the next guest. Inbox me, Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus . To be a heaux is to engage in consensual sex, be kind your yourself and partner(s), creative, fully embodied, unapologetic, powerful, and free.

Ms. HC retells an early encounter in her heaux phase and reflects on some lessons she's since learned about power, agency, coitus, and expectations men have about women.

Cindy spent her college years and early adulthood in an exceptionally strict evangelical Christian group that took ownership of folks' agency. Purity culture is hard to be in and hard to get out of, but Cindy found strength to choose herself, take ownership of her own vagina and her body, and free herself to pursue wholeness. In her coitus convo, we talk about her journey and what she's learned over the years.

Our guest today, Nella, shares her sex story and her work in normalizing sexual pleasure and information for everyone. She has found her home and curiosity satiated in the BDSM community and encourages everyone to think outside the box and truly find their voice and orgasm. From being the go-to person in her high school for sexual education and condoms even though she herself was a virgin, to when she was a nude model in college and saw her body as art, to when she experienced alternative lifestyles and BDSM, she has had a incredible journey that is far from over.

Ms. Heauxly Coitus reminisces on one of her first coital encounters. She now knows why folks say don't have sexy with your neighbor. Also, 4.5 strokes only? Surely you jest! Truly a pity this one was. Stay tuned. Send this episode to your people. Share your story on the pod. Website: heauxlycoitus.home.blog Follow on Insta: @heauxlycoitus

Hey y'all. It's me, Ms. Heauxly, and I invite you to join me as I retell stories of my heaux phase. Get to know me, why I'm doing this podcast, and how you too can be a part of the pod. Follow on Instagram @heauxlycoitus and the blog heauxlycoitus.home.blog. Do you have a sex story or shenanigan you need to get off your chest? Come tell it here! Episodes come out weekly. Have a coitus and/or orgasm-filled week, beloved