NIGERIAN DYKE REALNESS

A little abuse once in awhile? Or no abuse at all? Which do you prefer? When you tolerate a little disrespect, a little shade, a rude comment here or there, you are accepting a little poison. A little poison is still poison. All that little adds up over time. Choose wisely. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the showMore about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

You. Yes, You. You are someone's favorite artist. Favorite nail tech. Favorite painter. Favorite writer. Favorite dancer. What you are working on right now will change someone's life--starting with you. Something you wrote, painted or created is something that someone goes to again and again and loves in new ways. You are someone's favorite. Also: be your own favorite. P/S: Shout out to kind strangers. Love you forever. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the showMore about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

What if as a writer you were considered an athlete and your writing was your sport--how would you approach your art differently? Would your writing practice change? Do you wait for inspiration? Or do you create regardless of whether you are inspired? These are some question this podcast episode explores. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the showMore about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

When you try to force yourself to be happy all the time, you stifle the valleys, the peaks, the flatlands, the mountains, the diverse emotional topography of the land that is you. Allow yourself to be who you are and feel how you feel. Allow yourself to breathe. You don't owe anyone your happiness, you owe yourself to be yourself. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the showMore about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

filter out of your life people who don't deserve you, trust me, you your & peace increases. seeking answers from someone who hurt you is pointless, in my opinion, because even if they tell you the precise genesis of why they harmed you--you were still harmed and still have to heal from your pain. a huge part of your power is not in chasing the people who harmed you to answer the WHY/HOW COULD YOU, but rather in choosing who has access to you based on how they treat you, not whether you love them. just because you love them, doesn't mean they deserve your love, baby! Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

When people are being nosy, leave their questions unanswered. Especially when living an unconventional life, taking a unique path in life or choosing to be child-free--you will be questioned by the nosy and the presumptuous. Don't entertain them. You don't have to answer, explain or justify your choices. It's YOUR life, baby. Live it YOUR way. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

Make time for the things you care about. Hobbies are important. Not every moment you spend in your life should be spent making money. Do your best to make some time for art that is purely for your own pleasure, enjoyment, release and/or self-expression. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

Just as you plan for every aspect of your life, so too must you plan for retirement. Children are a blessing, not a retirement plan or financial investment you should be expecting a return on. Feeling entitled to your children taking care of you in your old age is selfish. You chose to be  a parent, be a parent. Allow your children to grow up without worrying about providing for you. Allow any financial gifts from your child be from love, not obligation and after being pressured. Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

the entitled, intrusive questions are actually a violation of human rights at this point. enough is enough. Support the showMore about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

Some questions to ask yourself when evaluating your work, your process, your practice, your journey as an artist. Support the showMore about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

A more efficient use of your energy? Believe, truly believe, it works out perfectly for you. Support the showMore about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

What does it mean to say no to abuse in an abusive family? Being the one to change a family dynamic or break toxic emotional patterns takes a lot of strength and courage. Sometimes the person with that courage becomes the black sheep, exiled from the family because of a refusal to go along with the toxicity. There can be a high price to pay for standing up for what you believe in, including losing people who embrace their dysfunction over being healthy relationships. What is the impact on the mental health and on the lives, of those who choose to walk away from their abusive families? What is the cost of being the person who walks away? Support the showMore about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

Do we make room for artists to change and explore who they are and what they most desire to create? Do we allow artists to create their own vibe/sound/aesthetic before calling them tired, over or overrated? Do artistic eras exist anymore? How has social media impacted the shelf life of work and our patience with artists' process? From discussing the pandemic's impact on the arts to talking about what it means to change/grow as an artist, listen up and let's chat. Support the showMore about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ

Heartbreak comes in many forms. Whether from a romantic breakup, friendship breakup or as a result of trauma, grief or other life experiences. Heartbreak can come into our lives for a million reasons. How do you heal from it? How do we deal with it? Let's talk. Chat me up @NDRpodcast or @myloveisaverb on twitter. Support the show

Do you feel self-conscious about what you truly desire? Whose standards are you living your life by? Your own? Or your friends? Your parents? What's allowed in your space and what's not? Are you chasing your dreams? Or someone else's idea(l) of what your life "should" be? Take a listen, babes. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

Is forgiveness necessary for your soul's growth and healing? Some things are unforgivable. You deserve healing regardless of whether you choose to forgive. Energy is food, is power. You feed and empower what you give energy to. Especially as you heal: why bother to expend energy towards those who hurt you by feeding them with your energy? This episode explores pathways to freedom past pain and into a deep recognition of the power of your own energy. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

Not everyone deserves your prayers. If they don't deserve that prayer, put an expiration date on it and direct that loving energy to someone who deserves it--YOU! Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

Legendary singer, actress, dancer, Eartha Kitt said: "It's about falling in love with yourself and sharing that with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit." This episode explores this quote and what it means to be a WHOLE human being without needing or relying on another to complete you. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

Protests have been ongoing for six days in Nigeria and throughout the world against SARS (the Special Anti-Robbery Squad), a section of the Nigerian police that murder, steal, commit violence against and extort money from Nigerian citizens. #SARSMustEndNow protests have been led by Nigerian youth throughout the country, who are incredibly passionate because, simply put, they have had ENOUGH. In today's episode, I talk about the political context of this moment, the consequences of such violent suppression of the people and more. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

The idea of "being likable" has been used to suppress women, African women in particular. In this episode, I discuss the invisible impact of colourism, the ways it's often ignored and dismissed. Also: I talk a bit about never taking your own beliefs for granted. Ask yourself what you believe now. Goals change. Don't let yourself get stuck in your vision of who you used to be. Take a listen. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

Everyone needs a code in this world, my love. Exploring loyalty to self, to others, to versions of yourself. My thoughts on LOYALTY as a choice and a gift, rather than compulsory. Take a listen. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

This is a Special Edition of the podcast! This is the audio from my YouTube channel exploring: What does it mean to embark on a new spiritual journey? To heal from grief, take care of your mental health, be vulnerable *and* listen to your heart? What does it mean to heed the call of your soul when you can't quite decipher the message or the path ahead? For the full visual and audio experience, hop on over to my YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/yangagoddessSupport the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

I got a text at 2:01pm from the Joe Biden campaign announcing Kamala Harris, California Senator and former presidential candidate, as his Vice Presidential nominee. I was so shocked by this choice! Take a listen and find out why. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

What exactly is the meaning of a birthday in the midst of a global pandemic? Live and direct, Yvonne celebrates her birthday, talks about divinity, the meaning of life and transforming pain and depression into lessons. Beyond cookie cutter advice on healing, how do you heal? How do you face your wounds? Yvonne comically advises against the uselessness of comparing yourself to other people and discusses the importance of compassion in spiritual spaces as well as in our own personal healing journeys. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

In conversations about gay tingz, apparently all the gays are men and all the women are straight. WHAT ABOUT AFRICAN DYKES THO?! In recent news, Philip Schofield, British ITV new presenter, came out as gay, after 27 years of marriage to a woman with whom he has 2 daughters. From this surprising news came a lot of conversation, a lot of homophobic comments and a lot of questions--like: can we talk about homosexuality in ways that do not revolve around DL (down low) men or on the impact closeted gay men have on on straight women? Can we expand/deepen, and in fact focus our conversations around queerness on queer people? Why are queer women always left by the wayside, forgotten, dismissed from these conversations? Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

Yv. nerds out about the origins and history of henna not only as a beautiful form of body art over 5,000 years old, but also the plant henna comes from and its medicinal, spiritual and cosmetic uses. Henna is used all over the world--in Tunisia, Nigeria, Egypt, India, Iran, Yemen and more. How has henna use in the U.S. impacted the authenticity of this artform and its aesthetics? What is lost when an artform like henna travels to places where there is no cultural context for it? Also: henna should be its own official tattoo style people specialise in period point blank. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

There are a million (yes, literally one million) things to think about before getting a tattoo. From choosing a tattoo artist to choosing what to get tatted and where to get tatted, Yv. goes IN, shares advice, reflections and the significance of tattoos to her. Whether inked already or considering getting your first tattoo, ask yourself these questions to help you along your tattoo journey. To see some of Yv.'s tatts, check www.instagram.com/myloveisaverb Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

The holidays can be hard. This episode explores different tips and tools to get through it. Some jokes. Some music to vibe to, movies/shows to watch and of course some love to wrap yourself up in to get through this holiday season. Sending big big love. xoxox. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

Episode 3 explores the criticism Summer Walker experienced recently over a performance, the ways Black girls and women girls experience disproportionately high suspension and expulsion in schools as well as the general lack of compassion for Black women experiencing anxiety and addiction. Also: Black trans girls + women are the future. Shout outs to Whitney Houston, Summer Walker and Moya Bailey. It’s a lit episode, dive in. (www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

Positivity used to dismiss people's pain is a SCAM. I said what I said. (www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)

In the first episode of NIGERIAN DYKE REALNESS, Yv. discusses the idea of matching the energy of the people we meet. How do you move through and navigate the people and situations you encounter? Do you match the energy of others? Extract your energy altogether? Or create your own vibe? (www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)