Not Bitter. Just Petty.

I have been gone for so long.  This episode is my attempt to jump back in the saddle and to re-introduce frequent visitor Trenace Richardson as the new co-host of the podcast. I'm excited still to do this podcast but the truth is, this is exhausting work.  I became exhausted from being still so hurt and emotional about the whole thing, the loneliness that ensues, feeling like I am a champion of people and I wanted and needed a champion for Ree-Ree.   Having one of my children express wanting to die and having Nyles say he didn't believe it... I've been in a rabbit hole y'all. A messy rabbit hole and I don't see a bottom.  But look on the brightside, I've been looking like I'm feeling great most days! There's that.....

I'm not in a good place.  It took me a while to get this episode done. I recorded the episode in May on a day I had been really, really, low.  I don't even remember what it was about. So I apologize in advance for my editing! In this volume, I am talking with Jo.  Jo is the wife behind a blog and podcast titled I. Am. The. Wife.  She started it to deal with the immense pain she felt after her husband betrayed her while she kept up their home in children in England and he was away with the military. Her husband was brave enough, disciplined enough, to finally end the affiar and attend counseling. But she shares candidly how hard healing has been. How invasive the thoughts are.  This is only a part of the interview. I plan to share in a fuure episode!

Have you ever done something that you knew for sure was a part of your destiny? Something that represented God's will for your life as you knew it, but it wasn't easy?  That conference kicked my butt! So I reached out to Dr. Kenae Black.  SHe is convening a retreat at the end of June called the Will of Wellness.  I watned to talk to her about the retreat and her experience on how heavy it is to carry purpose from God.   Check out the event at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-will-of-wellness-retreat-tickets-311058352907

The conference is coming up on Friday.  There is still time to join us in person here in the DMV and to purchase a ticket to watch the replay! Today, I am talking to my friend Robyn.  She talks about why the conference is important and exciting to her, why she's so excited, and what One Fierce Woman means to her.

LONG EPISODE ALERT!!!! I do not enjoy Mother's Day anymore.   There's the fact that I've had six children with a man who from the day he left, has never ackwleged me.   It's the fact that I have a daughter who doesn't speak to me and a mother in law who also abandoned me and has chosen to welcome a mistress as her daughter-in-law.   What if this were her mother that her father abandoned? I decided to share more of the story of becoming pregnant with my first daughter and how I was treated as well as more on the deterioriation of the realtionship with my mother-in-law. It is a deterioriation my daughter and her son spearheaded and left me holding the bag. As you listen to my motherhood story keep in mind that as we fight to maintain a woman's Pro Choice rights, they don't expire.  Nyles actually wrote in a court document that the entire problem was "she was supposed to have an abortion". Snake. OneFiercewoman.com  

Have ya heard? One Fierce Woman Conference Experience is here! LaTasha Briscoe of LB Innovations sits diown with me to discuss how this conference is for all women.  I can't wait to meet you here in the DMV for this experience.   Our keynote speaker is Maimouns "Mumu Fresh" Youssef and she's perfoming too!  Listen in!

Trenace Richardson joins me as co-host for this interview with author Candice Marie Benbow.  She is one of my new favortie authors online and her book "Red Lip Theology" is at the top of my lifetime list of books that changed me. Candice talks about what began her process for writing this book and how it came from a place of needing healing after the death of her mother.   Has church theology left you confused and wanting? Well, let's look at that pain through the lens of Candice's Red Lip Theology.   Candice Benbow can be found online here and on social media here. Trenace is here on IG @IamTrenace And I KNOW you're planning to join the One Fierce Woman Conference Experience check me out on IG here at @OneFierceWoman    

My friend Byron who is the creator of the FB Group Nerdy, Sexy, Cool, introduced me to the story of Dr. Griffin.  Dr. Griffin has a story about having confidence himself and starting his own Plastic Surgery Practice.  There's a lot to learn from that, but I really wanted you guys to hear a frank talk about plastic surgery! I had surgery .. listen to the episode to find out what procedures!  Although Dr. Griffin wasn't my surgeon... you should follow his IG and check out his work! You'll be flying to Detroit and getting your whole thang snatched!

The converwsationwith my cousin Shun continues.  On top of becoming a widow and losing three of her step children in a tragic accident, she was almost immedieately thrown into a battle with his first wife.  It's hard to explain, you just have to listen.   I also talk a little bit about how I experienced similar behavior when my own daughter started writing articles about me saying i was an abuser! We talk about how people say "Why do you care what people think" and "just let it go" and how hurtful...Lordy...just listen.....

My cousin's widow, Shun, is my guest on this episode.  We've talked about our expectations of God in many forms for over a year.  Shun shares her experience of tasting a sweet life... being married to my cousin for only 14 days... and then losing him when he passed away along with three of his children.  Her heart was broken becaue of the death of her husband and step children.  However, there's that part of our broken heart that seems taboo to talk about. The part of our heart that is broken because we thought God would keep this type of heartache from us.  

It's episode one of the new season! Today I am talking to author Dominique Dewel.  She wrote a journal with the most petty title I've ever heard... "I miss you, but F#*@ you!".  The title resonated and set off a million bells within me. I am so proud of her creating this journal to help us put those complex feelings down on paper. I miss you, but.... you know the rest!

This season ending bonus episode is a formal introduction and invitation to the One Fierce Woman Conference Experience!  The conference is being held in Arlington, Virginia on May 20 and 21, 2022.  It is an in-person event to which I hope you will all travel. However there will be atickets available to watch all the good stuff virtually on-demand! Check out thte conference website at OneFierceWoman.com and spread the word!

This is the season ending episode for season 2.  It is one of those ones where I readily admit, It ain't the best episode. I held onto it for a couple of weeks. I'm so greived. I ramble. But I got it out.  It needed to come out of me.  Thanks for listening and bearing with me...even though this aint the best.

As Nameica, Kimberly, Angila and I were wrapping up we started discussing things we would change on our wedding days. Titus 2 states that the older women should teach the younger woman. Nameica, however, says she's not sure she wants to follow the women of the old as it relates to marriage.  Is it still a good idea to follow the old ways? Are the older women really helping us?  

I asked Angela Curvey-Chukwu, Kimberly Cleveland, and Nameica Craig to join me for a Q&A session.  We were able to get a few questions in, but it really felt like a few friends talking!  We covered... what I hoped to gain from sharing my story and doing this podcast. Whether I believed in love or marriage anymore. What advice I had for young women contemplating marriage, and more. Nameica Craig can be found at NameicaSpeaks.com KimberlyCleveland on IG here Angila Curvey-Chukwu on FB here  

My guest is mindset coach De Lacy Paisley.  We went all way 'round Gee's Bend in this conversation!  She was such a pleasure to talk to.   In the first part of this interview, we discuss purpose and how we know we are in our purpose vs. serving in a role.  And how to change out mindset in order to help stay in that purpose.  We also talk a lot about labels.  Specifically, how there are so many labels attached to womanhood and we need to start RE-JEC-TING all'oem! We discuss aggressive, angry, emotional, irrational, and difficult.   As De Lacy says at the bottom of the episode... that's just foolishness and fuckery!  Take a listen and don't forget to check out the conference at OneFierceWoman.com.  Can't wait to see you in May!   Reach De Lacy on IG at https://www.instagram.com/doponpurpose/?hl=en and DopOnPurpose.com

My guests are dedicated fathers, all around awesome guys...Haile and Hampton.  I am continuing to get the male perspective on the Richard Williams debate.  How do we appropriately address the issue of men who abandon, cheat, and destroy their children without stereotyping the entire group. I think this is an episode to share with men in your life.  But also, as Hampton says during the episode, there is a lot of information married women need  to hear also.  Listen, and as always, let me know your thoughts!  Follow me on IG @GoReeReeGo and @OneFierce Woman.  The conference is coming up... One Fierce Woman: By Word of HER Testimony. Are you ready??

Cisco was full of wisdom in our last episode.  I couldn't let go of many of his great observations and advice from our recording session.  Here is a bonus episode of those clips I wanted to make sure to share with you.  :59 Cisco shares how he had to "wrap his brain" around his efforts going to church, being a family man, yet having his marriage end. 1:23 Talking with his children and having conversations as Daddy vs. conversations as a man. He shares advice she gave his daughter and her husband before they moved in together. 2:45 Cisco shares what he'd tell his daughter if she were to confess being cheating on and leaving her husband. 4:28 After two divorces, our guest tells us what he'd do differently. 6:05 What he's learned about women from women starts here.  Then, we talk about what attracts women to married men and faithful fathers. 11:38 Cisco talks about the judgment he received because he was a man who had been cheated on. He also talks about how the religious condemnation about men getting divorced and the perception that they didn't lead their families. 16:40 What is it that makes him able to take a leap and get married again.  This is a GOOOOD answer! 20:30 The Long game adulterous women play explained.

After seeing a post about Richard Williams, father of Venus and Serena, I decided to explore a sensitive topic. Is it a fallacious narrative that African American fathers aren't present? How do we honor amazing black dads without dishonoring the experience of children and women who haven't been treated so well by the black fathers and husbands in their lives? I started the conversation by chatting with Cisco Turpin.  I don't think I got my questioned answer but it's a great start! Take a listen and let me know your thoughts.

I am continuing to talk to Dr. Thandi.  She is a divorced mother of two who after being betrayed by her husband, now has to coparent with him and his side piece.  It ain't going good! Like the word "petty" I think the word "co-parent" is used without thought. Women, lawyers, legislators, and counselors  haven't really thought about the impossibility of working jointly with someone who is unreasonably angry and, by the nature of their actions, not acting in the best interests of their children.   Dr. Thandi and I discuss two alternative words, parallel parenting and counter parenting.  I'm interested to know what you think.  Follow me on IG @OneFierceWoman and @GoReeReeGo

I know, I know... been long time.  I'm working through my stuff. And I'm committing again, to being regular with the podcast no matter how I feel.  So, thanks to Dr. Thandi for starting us back up.   She's here to talk about the elusive unicorn of Coparenting. Our views differ just a bit.  This is part one of two, and in this episode  she talks about the background of how she came to be a single mom.  We'll get into the coparenting opinions next week with part two.  If you want to get in touch with Dr. T, here's her Facebook link here.

Well, this is one of the episodes I recorded in August when I wasn't doing the best.  I decided to release it because my guest Loveli Brown Esteem  just made some awesome comments.     She posted a meme that identified anger as a useful and purposeful emotion in our life.  When you've been wronged it so easy to tell people not to be angry or being angry is wrong.  However, the Bible says "Be angry and sin not." Anger is a natural emotion we were designed to experience.  Not engulf ourselves in, surely; but experience... yes.  

I've been MIA.  I lost my spark for a minute.  Let's catch up on this loosely collected thought trail called an episode.  Follow me @OneFierceWoman on IG and Facebook.  I've got a BIG event planned for next year.  I need y'all in place on social media when I announce it!

The conversation with Certified Life Recovery and Addictions Coach Ashley Gilbert continues today. She begins with the concept of "freedom".  Having the  freedom to understand who you are and explore is where we need to begin.  She goes back to the beginning of her marriage and shares what she may have seen as red flags.  Not all marriages affected by pornography addiction can be saved.  However, Ashley makes some great points about the need to save yourself. Go, Ashley, Go! And remember....Pornography isn't a problem, until it's a problem. That's the bottom line.   Check Ashley out at AshleyGilbert.net www.GoReeReeGo.com

Pornography isn't a problem, until it's a problem. That's the bottom line.  Ashley Gilbert is my guest today. She is a certified Life Recovery and Addictions Coach.  Her newlywed years were spent navigating the discovery, admission, and recovery from her husband's addiction to porn.  Him seeking healing, led her to her own discoveries and healing process because of behaviors she learned as a result of childhood trauma and reactive behaviors she learned to cope with his addiction. Check Ashley out at AshleyGilbert.net www.GoReeReeGo.com

I'm not even sure how to describe this episode.  It's a continuation of episode 218, but we move on to my feeling that I'm heavy because of the loss of relationships with people. When you start caring more for yourself than you do pleasing others, you will lose a lot.   Also, I'm heavy because I haven't received justice.  I want justice.  Can't have peace in my soul without it.  Each day that I live and I fake it to make it, I'm just not at peace.  No justice. No peace....damn it. Get tickets to join me in person on August 25th here. Y'all connect and follow everybody from this episode! Shavon M. Carter Purposed Publishing Trenace Richardson  

Shavon Carter is the YOU relationship expert!  In this episode Dr. Trenace Richardson and I listen to Shavon share the healing journey she went on to recover from abortion, miscarriage, and childlessness.  A journey that took her eventually to the freedom to re-identify herself as child-free!  This episode may not be for you if you have not healed from abortion or pregnancy loss trauma.  Tune in and let me know what you think.   Follow Shavon on Instagram  @ShavonMCarter.   Follow Trenace @IAmTrenace And follow me on Instagram @GoReeReeGo.  There's a link tree in my bio that will take you to all things Ree-Ree! Let's go!

Do you really ask for what you want? Do you even know what you want?  My friends Compton (Nicole) and Marimba join me today and talk about how easy it is to never ask for what you want, and how hard it can be to start asking for-and receiving- the cheese. What's your cheese?  Some of "my cheese" is fidelity, love, financial security, a healthy body and a healthy mind.  Listen to this episode and then grab a pen and paper and start thinking "What is my cheese?" Save the date for "Who Told You That You Were Naked?".  It's an in person talk with me, Ree-Ree, scheduled for August 25, 2021.  I'd love to see you there! Follow me. on Instagram @GoReeReeGo.

Continuing with our Heavy series, Dr. Vikki Johnson and Dr. Trenace Richardson join me for this episode to talk about how the spirituality of our sexuality weighs us down.   There is power in our sexuality.  It's an ancient power that is encoded in our DNA.  As Dr. Vikki explains in this episode, however, it is a power and a knowledge that we are taught to forget.  And in forgetting, we lose sight of loving ourselves and living authentically in every aspect.  Especially, living authentically in our sexuality.    

I am lightening up the 'Heavy' series with this bonus episode.  It's a  fun conversation with Shanella and Chef Lo.  Have you ever wanted to just jump out there and get your freak on and just dance?  Well I've been wanting to not only dance, but also dabble in pole dancing in a club for a long time!   Watching Chef Lo dance seductively in Shanella's class inspired me take the Dancing in Heels class and a private pole and chair dance class.  What's your secret inner sexy goddess dream you're holding on to?  Connect with Chef Lo on Instagram at @ChefGoldenLo and @NFSDConsulting which is her Instagram for her CBD Infused products.  See all that Shanella is doing in the dance world by following her on IG at @TheRealShanella. And..... watch out for me..Reeyonce', coming to a club near you... well not near you, I'm shy, but you get my drift!

This is the first in a series of episodes on "Heavy".  Yes, I'm talking about the physical weight we see on our bodies, but what about those emotional weights that plague as and show up as dissatisfaction, confusion, underachievement, procrastination?  Sounding familiar.  Listen in as Dr. Trenace and I talk about some things that weigh us down. Not sure if you are heavy? Well, listen to this episode and let me know what you think afterwards.   Connect with Trenace on Instagram @IAmTrenace or through  Trenace's Website.

Sex Therapist Gwen Butler doesn't joints for this session, but make sure you are following her on Instagram @TalkSexWithGwen and also that you've purchased her book "Indulge" It's available right now on Amazon. In this episode, Dr. Marcia is answering listener questions about sex and sexuality.  We cover: Pain During Sex Revealing a serious STI with a new partner Women have a physical need for foreplay ED How a sex addict has described sex addiction How Porn and Excessive Masturbation impacts ED Email me and let me know what your questions are!  We may cover them on a future episode.  Follow me on IG @GoReeReeGo and check out my book Not Bitter. Just Petty. on my website GoReeReeGo.com.

Gwen Butler, Licensed Sex Therapist and author of "Indulge: 25 Indulgences to Unlock your Sensual Self- Explore Your Erotic Nature and Dr. Marcia, Family Physician, are my guests today, They are answering listeners' questions about sex. I expect this to be an ongoing conversation. Follow Gwen on Instagram @TalkSexWithGwen and follow me @GoReeReeGo on Instagram. Here are just some of the questions we cover in this episode: What is an orgasm and how to achieve one? The Different types of orgasms. Discussion of how sex toys can help in the pursuit of self-pleasure and orgasm. How to introduce the idea of trying new things with your partner. Part two of the conversation will air next week. So get ready!

Joy Hill continues with her story.  We talk about how the 'people' hurt her with their indifference and inaction when she was betrayed by her ex-husband.  We also talk about how she's found purpose and joy through her pain.  In part, she's done that by mentoring other women in her Joy For the Journey Coaching program.  Check it out here on her website.  And check me out at GoReeReeGo.com and pick up my book, Not Bitter. Just Petty. My thoughts on my cheating husband and his side piece that are trivial and of little importance.

Joy Hill shares her courageous story of going from being the wife of a Pastor, sharing a world wide ministry with him, to the revelation of his affair with a trusted person.  A true descent to hell on earth. But look... that isn't the end of her story.  Hear part one and subscribe to her websiteI Am Joy Hill.

Joy is our guest today.  She talks about being labeled negatively within her family because of her strength.  The irony is, a lot of times, women who receive the label of "strong", "combative", or like in Joy's case, "vitriolic" have been forced into positions of strength or into the role of protector in support of the very people that use their 'strength' against them.  Listen to Joy talk about how being labeled as strong happened and how it has been weaponized in dating, family, and other social relationships.   Be sure to follow me on Instagram @GoReeReeGo and on Facebook @GetUpAndGoReeReeGo.   I will also be posting a new blog post about this topic! Check it out next week at goreereego.com

In this episode, I'm ranting... I mean talking... about Derrick Jaxn's wife and her bonnet.  She calls it her helmet of salvation and I'm here for it.  I have no idea what her spiritual and worldly motivations are behind appearing with the bonnet, but what I do know is that it has nothing to do with her worthiness as a wife.  Stop clowning the women for staying, for leaving, for protecting herself and her children, her future, her money, and / or her bonnet.  Derrick Jaxn is better than the  "Nyles'"of the world anyway. At least he stayed and is trying (for now).  And the other women Derrick tricked into a relationship are getter that the damn Krisica's of the world. At least they didn't know he was married, nor were they married.

Kay is the guest on this episode and she's being pretty dang on open about her feelings on the double standards concerning sex! Our conversation began months ago at a party, where she challenged my bias toward how I viewed sex and my daughters vs. how I viewed sex and my sons.  I hope it begins a big old conversation about why we hold the views we do.  She closes the episode giving her thoughts on what needs to change... number one for me is prenups should be normal. Number one for her seems to be normalizing female masturbation today! Oh goodness.  We talkin' 'bout it!   goreereego.com  

In this episode, my guest is my cousin Neka.  She provides a view of child support from the perspective of a mother who was never married.  Her story is all too familiar.  When the child support order catches up with the father of her elder daughter, he quits his job and the process must then start all over again.  The end result?  Her daughter has received about $5,000 in support over 16 years.  There is no money for basic comforts. Robbing Peter to pay Paul isn't an option because in her life, Paul is often broke as well.  She is often left effectively homeless because their housing is always insecure.  Listen to this episode and hear her story.     www.GoReeReeGo.com

This episode features a past guest, Debra, talking about her efforts to cooperatively get child support from her husband.  When that didn't work, she was forced to turn to the court system.  Why then, was her husband so upset when she did ?!? These men - caught in an affair, lying to make it make since, wanting to abandon their wives and children- yet don't want to pay the "cost to get lost"!  Listen to Debra tell her story and know that there are so many similarities between what her husband said and what Nyles has said.  Uncanny.  Let me know what you think! www.goreereego.com

Today's guest is talking candidly about how his childhood experiences with abuse, neglect, and rape shaped him as a man, husband, and father.  He courageously admits that he brought some of that baggage into his marriage and into adulthood.   More men than you know are weighed down by their childhood.  In my opinion, they destroy their families before they deal with their baggage.  Listen to this episode and let me know your thoughts! www.goreereego.com

I hope you got a chance to hear Keah's story last week. If not, I'll wait here while you catch up! Today, we finish the talk with Keah talking more about the loneliness of losing her mother last year.  More viewer perspectives on loneliness are included in this episode. There's really no way to identify all that ways we feel loneliness or predict how we'll each respond.  Keah's contribution to that conversation is her book "When Loneliness Visits". Find the book here at Purposed Publishing Company   www.GoReeReeGo.com  

I heard Keah Mason speak about loneliness years ago.  She was so honest and transparent. Her speaking and blogging about the topic have naturally led her to write a book "When Loneliness Visits" about it. You can find the book at Purposed Publishing Company Included in this episode are recordings of listeners sharing their experience with loneliness.  While we all experience loneliness, the cause isn't always the same and how we handle it isn't always the same.   www.GoReeReeGo.com

My private investigator Brian Bucksell of Buckselll Investigations is my guest.  In this episode, he talks about some of the specifics of my case and what he thought. He also shares his opinions on  how a man is snookered by another woman and then convinced to leave his family.  Drawing on over two decades of investigative experience, he’s the perfect voice to help betrayed women AND to help men who are thinking about giving up on their marriage and giving in to the manipulations of a paramour.     

The guest for this episode is my 'lawyer' David Coaxum.  He was an amazing counselor of law and he's here to share his take on men in divorce, men in affairs.  It's a long episode, but I think the entirety of his interview is a must listen for not just my women listeners, but also for men... especially men who are currently married. Check yourself before you wreck yourself and your entire family.  Listen to this wise advice from David Coaxum.   Reach David here. and connect with me here .

Season 2 is coming up.  Here is a quick update on the past few weeks, and a little sneak peak into the first episode of season 2. Easing back into the grove of things!

Dr. Trenace Richardson's moving rendition of I want Jesus to Walk With Me inspired me to do this last episode.  Not what I originally planned to share, but I truly did my best to complete it despite the circumstances.  Please check out Trenace and the awesome work she does for women at https://realwomenrock.org & https://www.trenacerichardson.com.  She'd an incredible psalmist, speaker, and preacher. Lastly, head over to Netflix and check out Voices of Fire with Pharell Williams.  Trenace and her mother are featured. I'll see you guys in season two. Pray for me and I'll pray for you.

Not the original episode I envisioned but I'm trying to keep pressing.  I didn't include y interview with Coach Karena about this topic.  I just wasn't able to edit it. But, check out Coach Karena Calhoun to explore "YOU" further.  She has an amazing mastermind on determining your purpose the may help you with that. WarKry.com is her website and I plan to have her as a guest in Season 2.

Can you imagine that well respected doctor or lawyer or police officer is your spouse?  Everyone respects him; he's the "good guy" at work.  Privately, he's destroying you, your home, and your family.  There are some professions where men can hide behind the good guy image.  My friend Tiffanie is today's guest. She talks about how her ex-husband, a respected principal, was a horrible husband and cheated with people at his work and at his school and how difficult it was to standby and watch everyone praise the hero who was privately the villain in her home.   www.goreereego.com

Here's another one.  With Meg... what's up with husband's cheating, catching diseases, bringing them home and blaming their wife.  Mother in law's y'all good with this?  Hear Meg's story about what it feels like when like a dog in heat, your husband messes around and brings home the coodies.

It is what it is.   www.GoReeReeGo.com