The Ugly Truth Of Divorce

If you're navigating high-conflict divorce or co-parenting and feel constantly overwhelmed, triggered, or angry… your nervous system is likely stuck in survival mode.In this episode, we break down simple, practical tools like box breathing and basic meditation to help you regulate your nervous system, reduce reactivity, think more clearly, and protect your peace. You'll learn how these techniques improve your mental clarity, emotional control, sleep, stress levels, and even how you show up for your kids.This is especially powerful for divorced moms dealing with high-conflict dynamics, manipulation, or constant stress. When you regulate your nervous system, you stop reacting emotionally and start responding strategically.If you're ready for deeper support, live coaching, and practical tools to help you heal, regulate, and co-parent with confidence, join us inside The Next Chapter membership. This is where we do the real work together.

When your ex starts bringing a new girlfriend around your kids, it can hit in a way you weren't prepared for. Even if you don't want him back. Even if you're the one who filed.In this episode, we're talking about why it feels so triggering when your ex moves on — especially when he's not “doing it alone” and your kids are suddenly around another woman. We unpack the jealousy, the anger, the curiosity, the spiraling thoughts… and what's actually underneath all of it.You'll learn:Why this dynamic activates your nervous systemThe real reason you feel so mad (even if you don't want him)How to stop obsessing over herHow to regulate yourself before reactingHow to protect your peace while co-parentingIf you're navigating high-conflict co-parenting or struggling with your ex introducing a new partner, this conversation will help you feel grounded, validated, and back in control.

Divorced moms are some of the strongest women we know… and also the hardest on themselves.In this episode, we're talking about the silent guilt, shame, and self-criticism so many moms carry after divorce — especially when navigating high-conflict co-parenting.If you've ever thought:“I broke my family.”“I should handle this better.”“A good mom wouldn't get so triggered.”“I should've known better.”This episode is for you.We're breaking down why self-blame skyrockets after divorce, how nervous system triggers get mistaken for weakness, and the practical steps you can take to stop attacking yourself and start rebuilding real confidence.You'll learn:Why emotional reactivity doesn't make you a bad momHow to separate responsibility from shameA simple nervous system reset you can use during co-parenting triggersHow to build confidence through small self-trust winsHow to give yourself grace without lowering your standardsYou are not failing. You are rebuilding.If you're ready for deeper support, live coaching, and real tools to help you heal, regulate your nervous system, set boundaries, and co-parent with confidence — that's exactly what we do inside The Next Chapter.

If your child comes home from their other parent's house and suddenly you're getting attitude, shutdown, coldness, or full-blown emotional explosions… this episode is for you.Before you spiral and assume you're failing, we need you to hear this clearly:It doesn't mean your child doesn't love you.It often means you're the safe parent.In this episode, we break down why kids in high-conflict co-parenting dynamics often hold it together at one house… and then unload everything onto mom. We talk about nervous system crashes, loyalty binds, displacement, control-seeking behavior, and why testing limits can actually be a test of unconditional love — not defiance.You'll walk away understanding what's really happening underneath the behavior — so you can stop taking it personally, regulate yourself first, and respond in a way that protects your peace and your relationship with your child.If this dynamic feels painfully familiar, you do not have to navigate it alone. Inside The Next Chapter, we give you weekly coaching, practical tools, and real support from women who get it — so you can stay steady even in high-conflict chaos.Join us inside The Next Chapter

How do you know when it's actually time to walk away from your marriage?In this episode, we're having the honest conversation so many women are scared to say out loud. We talk about the quiet signs your marriage may be over, the fear of blowing up your kids' lives, the overwhelm that keeps you stuck, and the identity crisis that can follow divorce.We also dive into:The difference between a rough season and a dead marriageThe fears that keep women frozen (money, custody, judgment, shame)Mom guilt and the pressure to “keep the family together”The stigma women carry when they choose themselvesHow to begin finding your identity again after divorceIf you've been lying awake at night wondering, “Is this it?” — this episode is for you.You are not weak for questioning. You are not selfish for wanting peace. And you are not crazy for wanting more.If you're navigating divorce, high-conflict co-parenting, or trying to rebuild your confidence after walking away, we support you every step of the way inside The Next Chapter

If you're going through a divorce and telling yourself, “I just need to get through this,” you are not alone. But what if that mindset — while emotionally protective — is setting you up for long-term financial stress?In this episode, we're joined by Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) Morgan to break down why “just get through the divorce” can be dangerous financial advice — especially for women navigating high-conflict divorce and co-parenting.We talk about:• The survival-mode decisions women make during divorce • Why keeping the house isn't always the safest choice • The hidden risks of vague support agreements • What doesn't show up in court orders (cash flow, tax consequences, long-term tradeoffs) • How trauma-informed financial planning protects your future • 3 powerful questions to ask before finalizing your divorce agreementIf you're feeling overwhelmed, rushed, or pressured to settle just to make it stop, this conversation will help you slow down, think long-term, and protect your peace — financially and emotionally.

Radical acceptance is one of the most misunderstood — and most powerful — tools when it comes to divorce, co-parenting, and healing.In this episode, we break down what radical acceptance actually is, what it's not, and why it's so essential if you want to stop spiraling, reduce emotional exhaustion, and reclaim your peace after divorce.If you've been stuck in anger, grief, resentment, or constantly wishing your ex would change… this conversation will help you understand why fighting reality keeps you stuck — and how acceptance can be the turning point in your healing journey.This episode is especially helpful if you're:Navigating divorce or post-divorce emotionsCo-parenting with a difficult or high-conflict exFeeling emotionally drained, reactive, or stuck in the same patternsTrying to heal without bypassing your feelings or lowering your standardsRadical acceptance doesn't mean approving of what happened or letting anyone off the hook. It means ending the internal battle that keeps you tied to the past — and learning how to move forward with clarity, boundaries, and emotional steadiness.

In this episode, we're sharing a behind-the-scenes recap of our recent Costa Rica healing retreat for divorced moms — and what truly unfolded when women stepped out of survival mode and into safety, support, and community.We talk about the emotional shifts we witnessed, the common breakthroughs that surfaced, and why so many moms arrived carrying more than they realized. From releasing guilt and hypervigilance to feeling deeply seen and understood, this retreat reminded us how powerful it is when women are given space to slow down, regulate their nervous systems, and reconnect with themselves.We also discuss why healing doesn't end when a retreat does — and why ongoing support, tools, and community are essential for lasting change after divorce and during co-parenting.If you've been craving deeper support, clarity, and connection on your healing journey, The Next Chapter is where that work continues. Inside the membership, you'll find practical guidance, emotional support, weekly trainings, live conversations, and a community of women who truly get it.

Self-forgiveness after divorce can feel impossible—especially for moms carrying guilt, shame, and regret about their marriage, their kids, and their co-parenting decisions.In this episode, we talk honestly about why self-forgiveness is one of the hardest—and most necessary—parts of divorce recovery. We break down what moms commonly blame themselves for, including staying too long, missing red flags, survival-mode coping, emotional reactions, and the impact divorce has on their children.You'll learn practical, tangible steps to release self-punishment, separate responsibility from blame, and rebuild trust with yourself as you move forward through divorce and co-parenting. If you find yourself replaying the past, questioning your decisions, or feeling stuck in guilt, this conversation will help you begin letting that weight go.If this episode resonates and you want continued support, deeper guidance, and real-life tools for healing and co-parenting with confidence, The Next Chapter is where that work continues. Inside the membership, you'll find weekly support, practical workshops, expert guidance, and a community of moms who truly get it—so you're not doing this alone.

After divorce, so many women ask the same quiet, unsettling question: Who am I now?When your identity has been wrapped up in being a wife, a mom, or the one who holds everything together, divorce can leave you feeling untethered—like you don't recognize yourself anymore.In this episode, we talk about what identity loss after divorce really looks like, why it's so common, and why it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. We go beyond the labels of “mom” and “ex-wife” and explore how to rebuild a sense of self that feels grounded, confident, and aligned with who you actually are now—not who you had to be to survive your marriage.You'll learn:Why feeling lost after divorce is a normal response to role lossHow to stop asking “Who am I?” and start reclaiming parts of yourself you had to silenceWhy rebuilding identity is about self-trust, not reinventionPractical, low-pressure ways to explore who you're becoming without overwhelming yourselfHow to build confidence by honoring your needs, boundaries, and valuesIf you're a divorced mom who's done surviving and ready to feel like yourself again, this conversation is for you.

Divorce is hard—but wondering whether your child is really okay can feel overwhelming.In this episode, we talk about one of the biggest fear areas for moms navigating divorce and co-parenting: How to know if your child needs therapy—and how to support them without overreacting or spiraling.We cover:The difference between normal divorce-related emotions and signs your child may need extra supportCommon behavioral and emotional patterns to pay attention to (and what not to panic about)When therapy can be helpful—and when it may actually do more harm than goodHow to support your child without making them feel broken or responsible for adult emotionsHow to stay involved, informed, and grounded as a parentThis episode is for moms quietly asking: Am I missing something? What if therapy is being weaponized? How do I protect my child without making things worse?If you're trying to make thoughtful, calm decisions for your child during an already emotional season, this conversation will help you feel more confident and less alone

Divorce doesn't just end a marriage — it quietly takes a toll on women's mental health in ways no one prepares you for.In this episode, we break down the top 5 ways the divorce process impacts women emotionally, often long before the paperwork is finalized. From living in constant survival mode to feeling intimidated by the legal system, many women leave divorce feeling depleted, anxious, and disconnected from themselves — even when they know they made the right decision.This conversation isn't about blaming yourself or your ex. It's about understanding why divorce feels so destabilizing, especially for women who are used to holding everything together.If you've ever felt:constantly on edge waiting for emails, court dates, or updatesemotionally exhausted but expected to “stay rational”small, dismissed, or rushed by professionalslike peace feels impossible until the divorce is finally overyou are not alone — and nothing is wrong with you.Inside The Next Chapter membership, we go deeper into how women can protect their mental health during divorce — including access to our full workshop, How to Work With Your Attorney and Protect Your Peace, with special guest Christopher Anderson.If you're ready to stop living in survival mode and start moving through this process with clarity, confidence, and support, The Next Chapter was created for you.

Mandatory phone calls are often framed as “good co-parenting.” But in high-conflict divorce and custody situations, they can do more harm than good.In this episode of Divorce with Sam & Leah, we break down why mandatory phone calls don't belong in high-conflict parenting plans—and why so many moms feel more anxious, powerless, and dysregulated because of them.We cover:How phone calls turn into investigative tools instead of connectionWhy mandatory calls often become a harassment or control mechanismThe emotional impact on children before and after high-conflict callsWhy you're unlikely to get honest answers—and why that keeps you stuckThe hard but necessary truth about accepting limits after divorceIf you're co-parenting with a high-conflict ex and trying to reduce chaos, protect your child's emotional well-being, and reclaim your peace, this conversation is for you.

Divorce isn't just emotionally painful — it can be deeply traumatic.In this episode, we're talking about the real trauma that comes with divorce and why so many women feel stuck, triggered, exhausted, or like they “should be further along by now.”If you've ever wondered:Why am I still so reactive?Why does one text from my ex send me into a spiral?Why does healing feel so slow and messy?This conversation is for you.We break down how divorce impacts your nervous system, why betrayal and high-conflict co-parenting can keep wounds open, and how losing your marriage can create an identity rupture that no one prepares you for. We also talk about the secondary trauma women experience — judgment, shame, and pressure to “move on” before their body feels safe.This episode isn't about pushing through or pretending you're fine. It's about understanding what's actually happening in your body and brain — and why healing requires more than willpower.✨ Inside this episode, we cover:How divorce dysregulates the nervous systemWhy betrayal trauma cuts so deepThe identity loss no one warns you aboutWhy high-conflict co-parenting can feel re-traumatizingHow shame and isolation slow healingIf this conversation resonates, this is exactly why we created The Next Chapter — our membership for divorced moms who want real tools, support, and relief.Inside The Next Chapter, you'll find trauma-informed workshops that help you:Regulate your nervous system during triggersRelease stored emotional traumaUnderstand why you react the way you doHeal without spiritual bypassing or toxic positivityFeel grounded and emotionally safe againYou don't have to white-knuckle your way through healing. You don't have to do this alone.

Divorce can feel isolating, overwhelming, and emotionally exhausting—especially for moms navigating healing, co-parenting, boundaries, and high-conflict dynamics. In this episode of Divorce with Sam & Leah, we pull back the curtain on The Next Chapter, our private membership created specifically for divorced and divorcing moms who are ready to stop surviving and start rebuilding.We break down what The Next Chapter actually is, who it's for, and why traditional support systems often fall short for women going through divorce. From live weekly workshops and expert-led trainings to real-life tools for emotional regulation, boundary setting, and confident co-parenting, this episode gives you a clear picture of how healing can feel supported instead of lonely.You'll hear about the specialists and experts we've brought inside the membership—including family law attorneys, trauma-informed therapists, financial professionals, nervous system educators, and co-parenting strategists—and how these conversations help moms feel more empowered, informed, and regulated during one of the hardest seasons of their lives.If you're a divorced mom feeling stuck in survival mode, constantly second-guessing yourself, or exhausted by high-conflict co-parenting, this episode is for you. You don't need to do this alone—and you don't need to figure it out the hard way.✨ The Next Chapter is where healing becomes actionable, boundaries become confident, and support becomes consistent.

If you're facing a high-conflict divorce or co-parenting situation and wondering how to do things smarter, not harder, this episode is for you.In this powerful conversation, Sam breaks down the top 5 things she would do differently if she were divorcing a high-conflict person in 2026—with today's realities in mind: narcissistic behavior, manipulation, custody conflict, legal overwhelm, emotional burnout, and the long game of protecting your peace and your kids.This isn't theory. These are real-world, hard-earned strategies for women divorcing a high-conflict or narcissistic ex who want to stop reacting, start planning, and avoid the most common (and costly) mistakes.If you're divorcing, recently divorced, or stuck co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, this episode will help you feel more grounded, empowered, and clear on your next steps.✨ Want ongoing support, tools, and real guidance from women who get it? Check out The Next Chapter membership—a private community for divorced moms navigating high-conflict divorce and co-parenting. Inside, you'll find weekly workshops, expert guidance, live support, and practical tools to help you heal, rebuild confidence, and move forward without losing yourself.

Disney didn't just entertain us — it conditioned us.From princess stories to cultural messaging, many women were taught at a young age what to expect, tolerate, and sacrifice in the name of “love.” Self-abandonment was romanticized. Emotional labor was normalized. Endurance was praised. And choosing yourself? Rarely modeled.In this episode, we unpack how early conditioning—from Disney movies, family dynamics, religion, and society—shapes the partners we choose and the unhealthy beliefs we carry into adult relationships.We explore:Why so many women confuse self-sacrifice with loveHow trauma, attachment styles, and nervous system dysregulation affect attractionWhy intensity gets mistaken for chemistryHow being “chosen” became a measure of worthWhy staying too long is often praised more than leaving when something is no longer healthyThis conversation is especially for divorced or divorcing women who are realizing: “I didn't choose wrong because I was broken — I chose based on what I was taught.”If you've ever wondered why you tolerated less than you deserved, why safe love felt boring, or why leaving felt harder than staying — this episode will help you connect the dots and start rewriting your relationship blueprint.✨ Healing starts with unlearning. And you don't have to do it alone.If this episode resonates, check out The Next Chapter membership — a supportive space for divorced moms who are ready to heal, rebuild confidence, set boundaries, and stop repeating the same relationship patterns.

You're smart. You're self-aware. You've done the work. So why does dating after divorce still feel so hard?In this episode, we unpack the top 5 reasons smart, emotionally aware women still settle in dating after divorce — even when they know better.This isn't about low standards or bad choices. It's about subconscious patterns, nervous system wiring, and the quiet ways fear and self-protection influence who we choose.We explore:Why loneliness gets mistaken for compatibilityHow trauma bonds masquerade as chemistryThe fear of starting over again — and how it drives compromiseOver-intellectualizing emotions instead of trusting intuitionWhy lowering standards often comes from fear, not lack of self-worthIf you've ever thought, “I've done the work… so why does this keep happening?” — this conversation will feel deeply validating.To go deeper, we're hosting a powerful workshop inside The Next Chapter with relationship coach and certified hypnotherapist Mina Yang: High Standards, Soft Heart: The New Rules for Empowered Dating.This workshop isn't about dating tactics. It's about healing the subconscious patterns that drive attraction and attachment — so you can stay open to love without shrinking, settling, or losing yourself.

High-conflict co-parenting has a way of slowly draining your power—especially when you don't yet have the tools, boundaries, or support.In this episode, Sam opens up about her personal story and shares the top 5 ways she unknowingly gave her power away while co-parenting with a high-conflict ex. These are the patterns so many moms fall into when they're just trying to keep the peace, protect their kids, and survive the chaos.If you're exhausted, second-guessing yourself, or feeling like co-parenting is running your life, this episode will help you feel seen—and show you what's possible on the other side of survival mode.

Divorce is hard, and parenting through it while you're still healing can feel overwhelming, especially in high-conflict or narcissistic co-parenting situations.In this episode, we talk about what actually helps kids thrive after divorce — without asking moms to suppress their emotions, fake happiness, or be “perfect” for everyone else's comfort.You'll learn:Why emotional honesty matters more than pretending everything is fineHow to support your kids while you're still processing your own grief and angerWhat builds true emotional resilience in children — especially during high-conflict divorceHow to model healthy coping skills without oversharing or emotional dumpingWhy supporting yourself is one of the most powerful things you can do for your kidsIf you're navigating divorce or co-parenting with a narcissist and feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells, this episode will help you shift from survival mode into grounded, confident parenting — for both you and your kids.

No one prepares you for what the first year after divorce really feels like.The paperwork might be done, but the emotional aftermath is just beginning — the grief that comes in waves, the unexpected loneliness, the identity loss, the guilt that follows relief, and the quiet moments where you wonder if what you're feeling is normal.In this episode, we're talking about the 10 things no one warns you about in the first year after divorce — and why struggling during this time doesn't mean you're failing… it means you're healing.We cover:Why grief can hit even when the divorce was your choiceThe identity shift that leaves many women feeling lostThe loneliness that surprises even strong, independent momsWhy relief can come with guilt — and how to release itHow your nervous system stays in survival mode long after the divorce is finalWhat real healing actually looks like (and why it's quieter than you expect)If you're in year one and wondering “Why is this still so hard?” — this episode will help you feel seen, validated, and less alone.✨ Ready for more support? If you're navigating divorce, healing after a high-conflict relationship, or trying to rebuild your confidence as a mom, The Next Chapter was created for you.Inside the membership, you'll find:Weekly live workshops and coachingA private, supportive community of divorced momsPractical tools for emotional regulation, boundaries, and co-parentingReplays you can access anytime — even on the hard days

If you're facing a high-conflict divorce or co-parenting situation and wondering how to do things smarter, not harder, this episode is for you.In this powerful conversation, Sam breaks down the top 5 things she would do differently if she were divorcing a high-conflict person in 2026—with today's realities in mind: narcissistic behavior, manipulation, custody conflict, legal overwhelm, emotional burnout, and the long game of protecting your peace and your kids.This isn't theory. These are real-world, hard-earned strategies for women divorcing a high-conflict or narcissistic ex who want to stop reacting, start planning, and avoid the most common (and costly) mistakes.If you're divorcing, recently divorced, or stuck co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, this episode will help you feel more grounded, empowered, and clear on your next steps.✨ Want ongoing support, tools, and real guidance from women who get it? Check out The Next Chapter membership—a private community for divorced moms navigating high-conflict divorce and co-parenting. Inside, you'll find weekly workshops, expert guidance, live support, and practical tools to help you heal, rebuild confidence, and move forward without losing yourself.

Going through a high-conflict divorce and watching the legal fees pile up can feel terrifying — especially when you're also trying to protect your kids, your sanity, and your future. In today's episode, we're breaking down the top five proven ways to cut costs during a high-conflict divorce without sacrificing your boundaries, your rights, or your peace.You'll learn how to communicate in a way that reduces attorney involvement, how to stay organized so you're not billed for unnecessary back-and-forth, which battles are worth fighting, and how to leverage support systems that are far more cost-effective than relying on your lawyer for everything. These strategies are practical, mom-friendly, and designed to help you stay grounded in one of the most overwhelming chapters of your life.If you're ready for more support, tools, community, and coaching to help you navigate divorce and high-conflict co-parenting with confidence, click the link below to join The Next Chapter. You don't have to do this alone: https://www.samandleah.com/services

If you've been struggling with the guilt of wanting a divorce — especially from someone who isn't abusive, toxic, or “the bad guy” — this episode is going to feel like a breath of fresh air.Today, we're talking about the truth so many women are afraid to say out loud: It's okay to get divorced even when no one did anything “terrible.” You don't need a villain. You don't need a dramatic storyline. You don't need to justify your unhappiness.In this episode, we break down 10 completely valid reasons marriages end — emotional disconnect, growing apart, feeling lonely inside the relationship, lack of intimacy, misaligned values, and more. These are the quiet, honest, deeply human reasons women leave… and they deserve to be acknowledged without shame.If you've been questioning your marriage, doubting yourself, or feeling guilty for wanting more, this conversation will validate you, ground you, and remind you that your truth matters. You're allowed to choose yourself. You're allowed to want joy, connection, peace, and fulfillment.And you're not alone on this journey.✨ Click the link below to join The Next Chapter, our support community for divorced and divorcing moms who want healing, confidence, and clarity in their next season: https://www.samandleah.com/services

If you're ready to walk into the new year feeling grounded, nourished, and inspired, this episode is the cozy little reset your heart needs. We're sharing our favorite self-care products, wellness rituals, mindset shifts, and simple everyday habits that are helping us prepare for a stronger, softer, more intentional year ahead.From the things that make life easier… to the things that make you feel good again… to the practices that help you show up as the woman you're becoming— we're talking about all of it.Whether you're rebuilding after divorce, navigating co-parenting, or simply trying to take better care of yourself, you'll walk away with practical ideas you can start using today to feel more supported, more energized, and more like you again.✨ If you're craving deeper healing, confidence, and community, join us inside The Next Chapter — our monthly membership for divorced moms who want real tools, real support, and a fresh start. Join here: https://www.samandleah.com/services

Custody exchanges can bring out every trigger in your body—tight chest, racing thoughts, shaky hands, and that familiar “walking on eggshells” feeling. In this episode, Sam and Leah break down the top 5 ways to regulate your nervous system before and during custody exchanges, so you can stay grounded, calm, and in control even when your high-conflict ex is doing the most.You'll learn simple, science-backed tools you can use in the car, during the drop-off, and right after the exchange… without needing a therapist, a full meditation session, or perfect circumstances. These are the strategies that help you protect your peace, parent with confidence, and stop letting your ex hijack your emotions.If you're co-parenting with someone who drains you, triggers you, or constantly tries to create chaos—you're going to feel so seen in this episode.✨ Ready for deeper support, weekly coaching, and tools that actually work? Join The Next Chapter, my membership for divorced moms navigating high-conflict co-parenting. Get instant access to workshops, replays, community support, and a toolkit that makes this whole journey lighter. ➡️ Click the link to join: https://www.samandleah.com/services

If you're co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, you already know…the holidays aren't always “the most wonderful time of the year.” Winter break, Christmas, and New Year's can turn into a battlefield of last-minute schedule changes, guilt trips, manipulation, and chaos your kids don't deserve.In this episode, Leah and Sam break down the 10 most common ways a high-conflict ex will sabotage winter break, why they do it, and—most importantly—how to protect your peace and keep the holidays joyful for your kids.We're talking: • holiday manipulation • schedule sabotage • emotional guilt-tripping • control games • boundary violations • co-parenting drama • and how to stay grounded when he's determined to create chaosYou'll walk away with practical strategies and clear reminders so you can stop reacting to his behavior and start leading your family with confidence, stability, and calm.✨ Ready for real support? Join The Next Chapter Membership—your go-to space for healing after divorce, rebuilding your confidence, and learning how to co-parent with a high-conflict ex without losing yourself.

If you're co-parenting with someone who thrives on chaos, manipulation, or control, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. We're breaking down the five non-negotiables your parenting plan must include when you're dealing with a narcissistic or high-conflict ex—so you can protect your peace, stay organized, and keep your kids out of the middle.We walk you through the exact boundaries, communication rules, scheduling details, and decision-making structures that help moms stop reacting and start leading with clarity and confidence. If you've ever felt confused, overwhelmed, or gaslit in the process, this episode will make everything click.And if you want ongoing guidance, tools, and a supportive community of moms who get it, you're invited to join The Next Chapter, our monthly membership designed to help you heal, gain clarity, and co-parent with confidence: https://www.samandleah.com/services

Today, Leah and Sam are joined by the incredible Olivia Howell — nationally recognized divorce educator, clinical hypnotherapist, and CEO & co-founder of Fresh Starts Registry, the world's first divorce registry and expert-led support network dedicated to helping people rebuild their lives with dignity, confidence, and trauma-informed care.In this conversation, we unpack what it really looks like to create your fresh start after divorce — emotionally, financially, and logistically. Olivia shares the first steps women should take when they're starting over, the hidden roadblocks that keep so many moms stuck, and why support systems (including divorce registries!) can be life-changing during this chapter.We also dive into the power of reclaiming your identity, accepting help without guilt, and building a foundation that feels safe, stable, and truly yours.Whether you're newly divorced, deep in the chaos of co-parenting, or finally finding your way back to yourself, this episode is full of clarity, warmth, and grounded guidance.✨ Check out the Fresh Starts Registry and all of Olivia's resources here: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/✨ Ready for deeper support? Join The Next Chapter — our monthly membership for divorced moms who want to heal, rebuild confidence, and co-parent with clarity: https://www.samandleah.com/servicesHashtags#DivorceSupport #FreshStartAfterDivorce #DivorcedMoms #CoParentingHelp #DivorceRecovery #HighConflictCoParenting #TraumaInformedDivorce #DivorceHealing #StartingOverAfterDivorce #EmpoweredWomen #NextChapterMembership #SingleMomLife #FreshStartsRegistry

Dating after divorce can feel exciting… and absolutely terrifying at the same time. How do you know when you're ready? What boundaries should you set? And how do you avoid repeating the same mistakes from your last relationship?In this episode, Sam and Leah break down the biggest do's and don'ts of dating after divorce so you can protect your peace, spot red flags early, and stay grounded in your worth. Whether you're newly divorced or just thinking about putting yourself back out there, this conversation will help you date smarter, not harder.We're talking: ✨ How to know you're ready to date again ✨ Avoiding trauma bonds and unhealthy patterns ✨ Why consistency > chemistry ✨ Red flags divorced moms should never ignore ✨ Keeping your identity and boundaries strong ✨ When (and if) to introduce someone to your kidsYou deserve a love that feels safe, steady, and aligned with the woman you've become.

The holidays can feel especially heavy after divorce. Everywhere you look, it seems like everyone else has the perfect family, perfect photos, and perfect plans — while you're just trying to hold it together.In this honest and heart-to-heart episode, Sam and Leah open up about why the holidays hit so hard after divorce — the loneliness, the “what-ifs,” the temptation to numb with alcohol, and the stories that play on repeat in your head. Together, they unpack what's really behind those feelings and how to shift your perspective so you can experience peace, presence, and self-connection this season — even if you're spending it alone.You'll learn how to: ✨ Handle loneliness without numbing or spiraling ✨ Reframe old traditions and create new ones that fit this chapter ✨ Recognize and challenge the negative thoughts that steal your peace ✨ Set healthy boundaries around alcohol, spending, and people-pleasing ✨ Redefine what joy and connection look like nowThis conversation is raw, relatable, and full of reminders that you're not broken — you're rebuilding. The holidays don't have to be perfect to be peaceful.

The holidays can be one of the hardest times after divorce—especially when it's not your year to have the kids. In this honest and heart-to-heart conversation, Sam and Leah talk about what it's really like to go to holiday events alone: handling questions like “Where are the kids?”, managing emotions, avoiding overdrinking, and finding peace in the middle of it all.You'll learn practical, empowering ways to: ✔️ Cope with loneliness and missing your kids ✔️ Navigate social events and family gatherings with confidence ✔️ Set emotional boundaries and protect your peace ✔️ Reframe the holidays and create new traditions for yourselfWhether you're freshly divorced or years into co-parenting, this episode will remind you that you're not alone—and that this season can still be meaningful, even if it looks different.

The holidays can be one of the hardest times after divorce—especially when it's not your year to have the kids. In this honest and heart-to-heart conversation, Sam and Leah talk about what it's really like to go to holiday events alone: handling questions like “Where are the kids?”, managing emotions, avoiding overdrinking, and finding peace in the middle of it all.You'll learn practical, empowering ways to: ✔️ Cope with loneliness and missing your kids ✔️ Navigate social events and family gatherings with confidence ✔️ Set emotional boundaries and protect your peace ✔️ Reframe the holidays and create new traditions for yourselfWhether you're freshly divorced or years into co-parenting, this episode will remind you that you're not alone—and that this season can still be meaningful, even if it looks different.

Custody evaluations can feel terrifying — especially when you don't fully understand why they happen or what they mean for your parenting rights.In this episode, Sam and Leah break down the top 10 most common reasons custody evaluations are ordered, from high-conflict co-parenting and mental-health concerns to relocation requests and parental-alienation claims. You'll hear how the process works, what the court is really looking for, and how to protect your peace through it all.Whether you're facing an evaluation now or want to be prepared for anything down the road, this conversation will help you feel more informed, grounded, and confident.

If you're co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, this episode is a must-listen. Leah and Sam break down the top 10 things you should be documenting during divorce and co-parenting — from missed pickups and schedule changes to boundary violations, emotional manipulation, and expense tracking.Documentation isn't about control — it's about protection, clarity, and peace of mind. When you keep detailed, factual records, you stay grounded, credible, and ready for whatever comes your way.Because when you're organized, you're not just protecting yourself — you're modeling calm and stability for your kids, too.

Not every divorce comes from chaos. Sometimes you leave because you feel unseen, lonely, or like roommates.

Not every divorce comes from chaos. Sometimes you leave because you feel unseen, lonely, or like roommates.

What happens when the person you're divorcing is still living under the same roof? In this episode, we're talking about one of the hardest and most emotionally draining parts of divorce — sharing a home with your ex while trying to move on.You'll learn the top 10 reasons why so many divorced moms end up stuck in this situation and how to navigate it with less stress, fewer arguments, and more peace. If you're living with a high-conflict ex and trying to keep your sanity — this episode is for you.✨ Ready for more support? Join us inside The Next Chapter Membership for our exclusive workshop, “Divorcing but Still Roommates,” where we'll teach you step-by-step how to navigate this dynamic, protect your peace, and start creating the freedom you deserve.

Whether your kids are toddlers or teenagers, divorce affects them all — just in different ways. In this episode, Sam & Leah break down how children of different ages experience divorce and what parents can do to help them feel secure, seen, and supported.You'll learn:

Halloween should be all about candy, costumes, and fun — not chaos, guilt trips, and last-minute plan changes. But when you're co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, even one night of trick-or-treating can turn into an emotional battlefield.In this episode, Sam and Leah break down the top five ways a high-conflict co-parent will try to ruin Halloween — and how to protect your peace, stay grounded, and keep the focus on your kids (where it belongs).You'll learn how to:

Even with 50/50 custody, one parent almost always carries the heavier load—and it's usually mom. In this episode, we're breaking down the truth about the “default parent” role after divorce: the one organizing school projects, handling sick days, managing communication with teachers and coaches, and carrying the invisible mental load that no one talks about.We'll unpack why this imbalance happens, how to protect your energy, and what boundaries you can start setting today to make co-parenting more manageable and fair.If you're ready to stop carrying it all alone and start getting the tools, support, and confidence to thrive after divorce, join The Next Chapter—our monthly membership for divorced moms who are ready to heal, rebuild, and co-parent with confidence.

Divorce can drain you — emotionally, mentally, and physically. That's why self-care during divorce isn't optional, it's essential. In this episode, Sam & Leah share the most practical, realistic ways to take care of yourself while navigating one of life's hardest transitions.From getting better sleep and moving your body to setting boundaries around your ex and your energy, these simple daily habits will help you feel stronger, calmer, and more in control. You'll learn how to protect your peace, support your nervous system, and start rebuilding the version of you that feels grounded and confident again.Because when you take care of you, everyone — especially your kids — benefits.✨ Join The Next Chapter Membership ✨ If you're ready to heal, rebuild your confidence, and co-parent with more peace, join our private community for divorced moms: The Next Chapter. Inside, you'll get live weekly workshops, expert guest speakers, a supportive community of moms who get it, and tools to help you move forward with confidence.

Renowned forensic psychologist and Bad People Bible author Dr. Peter J. Favaro joins Sam and Leah to uncover the hidden signs of manipulation in relationships and co-parenting. With insights from over 40 years and 6,000 high-conflict divorce and custody cases, Dr. Favaro shares how to spot red flags early, and rebuild trust in yourself after emotional manipulation.✨ If you're ready for deeper support as you heal and co-parent with confidence, join our private membership The Next Chapter for live workshops, expert coaching, and a safe community of moms who get it: https://www.samandleah.com/servicesLearn more about Dr. Favaro and his book Bad People Bible at: https://centerihr.teachable.com/

Are you replaying fears like “I'm ruining my kids,” “I'll be alone forever,” or “My ex's lies will destroy me”? You're not alone—and none of it is true.In this episode, we unpack the 10 most common lies, limiting beliefs, and fears moms tell themselves during divorce and shares empowering truths to break free. You'll hear how to:Separate fact from fear so you can breathe againRebuild confidence and trust in yourselfModel resilience and healthy boundaries for your kidsIt's time to replace shame and worry with clarity and hope.✨ Ready for your next chapter? Join The Next Chapter membership for weekly workshops, a private support group, and real-life coaching designed to help divorced moms heal and thrive. Click here to join now and start creating the life you deserve: https://www.samandleah.com/services

In this episode, we're sharing a real moment from inside The Next Chapter—one of our members opened up about something so many single moms feel but rarely say out loud:“I get to the end of the day completely fried, and I still feel like there's so much to do. I have to choose between sleep, finishing tasks, or getting a moment to myself—and no matter what I pick, I feel like I'm making the wrong decision.”If that hits home for you too, this episode is for you.We'll talk about what to do when you're overwhelmed, exhausted, and trying to juggle everything—work, kids, court prep, and just surviving the day. We'll give you actionable tips that are realistic, not overwhelming. You'll leave this episode with quick tools to reset your day, protect your energy, and stop feeling like you're always behind.✨ Because you're not lazy. You're overloaded. And you're doing way better than you think.Mentioned in this episode:

Right of First Refusal sounds great on paper—more time with your kids and shared flexibility. But in a high-conflict co-parenting relationship, especially with a narcissistic ex, it can turn into a nightmare.In this episode, Sam & Leah break down the five biggest reasons ROFR often backfires: from constant last-minute texts and power plays to the emotional toll on the kids and the stress of documenting every missed notification.Whether you're negotiating a parenting plan or revisiting your agreement, you'll learn how to protect your peace, prioritize stability for your children, and set boundaries that actually work.✨ Ready to heal and co-parent with confidence? Join The Next Chapter membership for live weekly workshops, expert advice, and a supportive community of divorced moms who get it. Learn more here: https://www.samandleah.com/services

Thinking about divorce but worried about how your narcissistic partner will react? In this episode, Sam & Leah share five manipulative tactics narcissists use to stop you from leaving—from love-bombing and false promises to guilt trips, gaslighting, financial manipulation, and intimidation.You'll learn how to recognize these behaviors, stay grounded in your truth, and protect your emotional well-being while moving toward the freedom you deserve.

Divorcing a narcissist comes with challenges that most people can't even imagine—especially when kids are involved. In this episode, we're breaking down the top 10 things to look out for when you're co-parenting with a narcissistic ex. From triangulation and manipulation, to undermining rules, spoiling, and gaslighting, we'll walk you through the subtle (and not-so-subtle) tactics narcissists use to pull kids into the middle. You'll learn how to recognize the red flags, protect your children from emotional harm, and stay grounded in your role as the safe, consistent parent.If you're ready for deeper support, tools, and a community of moms who truly understand, join us inside The Next Chapter—our membership designed to help you heal after divorce and co-parent with confidence. You don't have to go through this alone, and you don't have to keep second-guessing yourself. Click here to learn more and join us today: https://www.samandleah.com/services

Let's get real—sleeping with the person you're divorcing is way more common than people admit. In this episode, we break down the top 5 pros and top 5 cons of ex-sex so you can see the full picture. From the comfort and familiarity it brings to the regret, guilt, and confusion it often leaves behind, we're going there.If you've ever wondered whether it's helping you heal or keeping you stuck, this conversation will give you the clarity you need.✨ You deserve intimacy, connection, and love that doesn't come with strings attached to your past.

Starting over after divorce can feel overwhelming—but it's also a chance to rebuild your life in a way that feels aligned, supportive, and empowering. In this episode, we're sharing the top 10 must-haves for your divorce registry—the essentials every mom deserves as she steps into her new beginning. From creating a cozy home space to investing in self-care, financial tools, and community, this list will inspire you to prioritize yourself and make the most of your fresh start. If you've ever wondered what you really need to feel grounded, confident, and ready for the next chapter, this episode is for you.#divorcerecovery #startingoverafterdivorce #divorcesupport #divorcedmoms #lifeafterdivorce #divorcetips #healingafterdivorce #divorcereset #coparenting✨ Ready for more support as you heal and rebuild? Join us inside The Next Chapter Membership, where divorced moms come together for weekly workshops, expert coaching, and a private community that understands what you're going through. Your new chapter is waiting—click here to join us today: https://www.samandleah.com/services

Co-parenting with a high-conflict ex can feel like walking through a minefield. The smallest interaction can spiral into chaos—and the emotional toll is exhausting.In this episode, we're breaking down the 10 most common scenarios that can quickly escalate into fights or triggering conversations when you're co-parenting with someone who thrives on conflict. From holiday schedules to new partners, money disputes to manipulative communication, we'll uncover the hotspots you need to watch for and share how to approach them with clarity and boundaries.If you've ever felt like every conversation with your ex is a battle, this episode will help you anticipate conflict before it happens, protect your peace, and refocus on what matters most—your kids and your healing.✨ Ready for more support, strategies, and a community that gets it? Join us inside The Next Chapter Membership, where divorced moms learn to co-parent with confidence, heal deeply, and build a life they love. Click here to join today: https://www.samandleah.com/services