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#339: You were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time. That's the truth that so many of us struggle to accept when we look back at our past decisions - the relationships we stayed in too long, the boundaries we didn't set, the times we said yes when we meant no. There's this part of us that believes if we're mean enough to ourselves about these choices, we won't make them again. But here's what science tells us: beating yourself up doesn't create change. This episode explores why compassion for your past self is essential for creating real, lasting change. Listen in today to discover how hating who you used to be blocks growth, and why being kind to your past self isn't about excusing behaviors or pretending everything was perfect.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/339Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale EEO Pre-Sale

There's this bone-deep fatigue that seeps into you when you've been performing yourself for everyone else instead of living your life for you. It's different from being tired after a busy day. It's the exhaustion that comes from constantly calculating what version of yourself the room needs. Meanwhile, real love doesn't require a costume. No tap dancing required for real, true, authentic, grounded, open-hearted love, love, love. That's what my book, End Emotional Outsourcing, is all about: helping you take off the mask and discover that this big, messy world needs the real you, not the performing you. And I cannot wait to share my new book with you, where I'll teach you all about it.Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

#338: Shame is one of the most powerful forces keeping us stuck in emotional outsourcing, and we don't talk about it nearly enough. This invisible force runs so deep that we often don't even realize it's guiding our thoughts, feelings, and actions.My book, End Emotional Outsourcing was born from my search for a shame-free, inclusive, feminist framework to name these patterns, and to begin healing them. If you've ever felt like your habits made you broken or unworthy, this conversation is for you.Join me this week as I explore the complex relationship between shame, the nervous system, and emotional outsourcing - three interconnected forces that keep us locked in patterns of codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/338Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Ever have that moment where you realize you've been living your entire life for everyone else? You're not alone, and you're not broken. You've just been emotionally outsourcing.In this book series bonus, I name the pattern, share why it develops, and explain how it shapes everything from your relationships to your sense of self. And I'll tell you how my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, can help you start coming home to yourself - no longer orbiting everyone else's needs, but finally living for you.Pre-order the book now at victoriaalbina.com/book and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

It's my birthday month, and I'm doing what any Leo Somatics nerd with a microphone and a brand new book would do. I'm giving you the gifts. If you pre-order End Emotional Outsourcing by August 18th, 2025, you're automatically entered to win a 30-minute, one-on-one coaching session with moi, not publicly available. Bring your most tangled thought habits, your most scrunched up somatics. Or, a 90-minute breathwork session to help you feel like yourself again, in your body and your spirit, not just your brain. Go to beatricealbina.com/birthday for the details and to get in on the magic.

#337: Money shapes more than just our bank accounts - it touches how we show up in relationships, how we value ourselves, and whether we feel secure enough to set boundaries with those who support us financially.This week, I sit down with financial therapist and author of Feel-Good Finance: Untangle Your Relationship with Money for Better Mental, Emotional, and Financial Well-Being, Aja Evans, to explore the intersection of money and mental health, particularly how codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits show up in our financial lives. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/337Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

#336: Modern friendship isn't what it used to be. We're navigating a world where identity is more complex, where we have unlimited choice in who we befriend, and where the burden of maintaining connections falls entirely on our individual shoulders. Friendship expert, speaker, journalist, and author of Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections, Anna Goldfarb, also known as "The Friendship Explainer," reveals that this shift has created both unprecedented freedom and unexpected challenges in how we connect with others.In this conversation, Anna and I examine why so many of us feel lonely despite having full contact lists, and how our codependent and people-pleasing patterns can actually sabotage the authentic connections we crave. Anna shares her research on the five core reasons people make friends and offers a framework for building deeper connections.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/336Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn't mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person's actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You'll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person's a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It's about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It's clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

#335: This week, I'm joined by Human Design Expert, Master Coach, Behavioral Specialist, and host of The Human Design Podcast, Emma Dunwoody. Emma shares her personal journey from a diagnosis of lifelong mental illness to becoming a Human Design expert, and how this system helped her understand not just her behaviors, but the energetic blueprint underneath them all.Join us as we explore Human Design as a synthesis of four ancient wisdom traditions, all mathematically mapped together to create your unique chart. Emma breaks down how this knowledge transforms everything from parenting and business decisions to healing childhood wounds and building authentic relationships. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/335Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn't mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person's actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You'll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person's a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It's about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It's clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

#334: Have you ever looked at your life - your career, relationships, achievements - and wondered why success doesn't feel as fulfilling as you thought it would? You're not alone. Through the relentless pursuit of more, many of us have unknowingly built ourselves beautiful cages instead of the freedom we were seeking.In this week's powerful episode, I sit down with certified executive coach, speaker, and author Keren Eldad to discuss her new book Gilded: Breaking Free from the Cage of Ambition, Perfectionism, and the Relentless Pursuit of More and explore how overachievement can become a trap rather than a path to fulfillment.Join us today to hear how to recognize if you're living in a gilded cage of your own making and how to break free. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/334

#333: The phrase "no one is coming to save you" gets thrown around social media like gospel truth, wrapped in empowerment packaging that sounds like it should light a fire under you. Maybe it even worked for a moment when you needed to snap awake and take charge of your own life. But there's something deeply problematic lurking beneath this seemingly motivational message.Join me this week as I unpack why this messaging is particularly dangerous in times of rising fascism and manufactured division.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/333

#332: This episode is for the folks who look like they've got it together, who've checked most of the boxes: the career, the home, the relationships. You're productive, responsible, kind, maybe even the one people come to for help. But when it's quiet, really quiet, there's this persistent low buzz of disconnection.This week, I want you to know that you don't need to earn your healing or wait for a crisis to change. You'll hear why this is one of the most dangerous ideas patriarchy has sold us, and how growth comes from wanting more - more presence, more peace, more pleasure, more days that feel like yours.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/332

I had the most amazing conversation with Busayo Ayodele, who was in Anchored last year, and I just couldn't wait to share it. We had such a fun conversation, and everything she shared about her experience was just so inspiring, so moving, made my heart feel so explode-y. The way Busayo grew in Anchored is everything I dream of. It's the reason why I built Anchored. So, in case you're thinking, “I can't change. I will never stop living with these codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. I'm just stuck in this forever. I was born this way. I'll die this way. I am inherently defective.” I want to say a big, “Not so fast.” These are survival skills. They're habits. They're changeable. And please, listen to Busayo. If you are moved and want to join Anchored, there are a few spots left for the group starting very soon and I cannot wait to have you join us: https://beatrizalbina.com/getanchored/

#331: After over a decade of coaching women through codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, I'm seeing a heartbreaking pattern: the people who most need community support and nervous system regulation are talking themselves out of the very programs designed to help them.Whether it's the fear of being a burden, worrying you'll fall into old patterns of over-functioning, or believing you need to fix yourself before deserving help, these barriers could be keeping you trapped in a life you already know you don't want to live.Tune in this week to discover how healing happens in community, why you can't overcome relational trauma in isolation, and what it actually feels like to be witnessed, supported, and loved without having to earn it through performance or perfection.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/331

#330: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you. You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you're living with emotional outsourcing.Tune in this week as I break down how emotional outsourcing develops early, gets reinforced by cultural systems, and shows up in our bodies as chronic anxiety, exhaustion, and disconnection. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/330

#329: This week, I sit down with Carey Cramer, an Anchored program alum, to explore their transformative journey through attachment healing and relational growth. Over the past two and a half years since completing the program, Carey has developed a completely new way of showing up in relationships - one marked by presence, trust, and authentic connection.Through our conversation, Carey shares how the combination of thought work and somatic practices helped them move from a place of constant relational dysregulation to being able to maintain healthy relationships. Carey's story demonstrates how doing this work ripples out to positively impact not just our own lives, but our entire community as we learn to show up with greater integrity and authenticity. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/329Mentioned in this episode:Come Home to Yourself in AnchoredDoors are open for my 6-month group coaching program, Anchored, until July 1. We start on June 23, however, and the sooner you join the more bonuses you get! Join Anchored

#328: Do you struggle to make decisions, not because you're unsure of your desires, but because you're constantly weighing everyone else's? This isn't just indecision; it's emotional outsourcing, a pattern where we disconnect from our own authentic wants in favor of what others expect.Tune in this week as I share how, through practical somatic practices and nervous system work, we can begin reconnecting with our authentic desires and rebuild trust in our own internal wisdom.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/328Mentioned in this episode:LAST CHANCE!Join me for This Is Your Life: Integration & Sustainable Change — a live Zoom workshop on May 28 at 8PM ET. Come learn how to make change that STICKS! Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcastWorkshop Series

If you're ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can have a life full of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you.We start on June 23, and doors are open until July 1. Click here to sign up: feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/anchoredI can't wait to see you there!

In this free, final workshop of the series, you'll learn how to make nervous system change actually last, how to stop backsliding when life gets chaotic, and how to create the kind of internal safety that sustains healing long term. It's happening on Wednesday, May 28, at 8pm eastern on Zoom. Click here to grab your spot: feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcastP.S. If you missed the other workshops in the series, there are limited-time replays available!

#327: Imagine cutting veggies after a long day when your partner bursts in venting about their coworker. You care deeply, but right now, your shoulders tense, your jaw locks, and you're just not available – though you never say so. Instead, you nod, make the right noises, and count the seconds until it ends. Later, you're both left feeling vaguely disconnected, with a subtle rupture hanging in the air between you.This disconnection happens when we skip conversational consent – not just physical consent, but emotional and energetic consent too. Most of us were never taught to pause and check, "Hey, are you available for this?"Join me this week as I break down the truth about consent and requests in conversation, and what it means to name what you need. You'll learn why asking for consent is a practice that's especially crucial for those of us working to overcome emotional outsourcing tendencies, and how incorporating conversational consent helps us create genuine connection in our relationships.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/327Mentioned in this episode:LAST CHANCE!Join me for This Is Your Life: Integration & Sustainable Change — a live Zoom workshop on May 28 at 8PM ET. Come learn how to make change that STICKS! Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcastWorkshop Series

If you find yourself constantly overwhelmed, anxious, wired but tired, shut down, or bouncing between them, there's a reason. One I know all too well. In this new upcoming workshop, Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece, I'll help you understand exactly what's happening inside your body when your nervous system drives the bus. You'll learn how to come back to yourself, reduce your stress, and make real time change possible.It's happening on Wednesday, May 21, at 8pm eastern on Zoom. Click here to grab your spot: https://beatrizalbina.com/workshop/utm_source=podcast

#326: Have you ever felt that sharp sting of resentment when watching someone set a boundary with ease or embrace their imperfections without shame? That irritation you feel might be pointing to something deeper – the very freedoms you deny yourself every day.Join me this week to learn how our childhood pain shapes patterns that masquerade as virtues, making them nearly impossible to detect without compassionate awareness. You'll learn a gentle, revolutionary practice to begin dismantling these invisible rebellions, and how this simple tool will help you start reclaiming the freedoms you've denied yourself and step into a life built around who you truly are, not who you're afraid of becoming.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/326Mentioned in this episode:Free Upcoming WorkshopJoin me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We'll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcastWorkshop Series

You don't need another journal prompt telling you to trust your intuition. You need to understand why self trust feels out of reach in the first place.In my upcoming workshop, you'll learn the nervous system science behind why you don't trust yourself yet. We'll talk about somatics, polyvagal theory, and why people pleasing and perfectionism show up before your brain even catches it. It's happening on Wednesday, May 14, at 8pm eastern on Zoom. Click here to grab your spot: https://beatrizalbina.com/workshop/utm_source=podcastYour body already knows what you need. Come remember how to listen.

#325: How often do you find yourself seeking validation from others, feeling like your worth depends on what they think of you? I recently had a fascinating conversation with Abbie Attwood, an anti-diet, fat-positive, weight-inclusive nutritionist whose practice is grounded in self-compassion and intuitive approaches to healing relationships with food, movement, and body image. In this episode, we dive into what I call emotional outsourcing, and how this pattern shows up as perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependency, creating cycles that leave us exhausted and disconnected from our authentic selves.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/325

Are you stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, second-guessing your every move, and feeling like you're constantly people-pleasing? It's not that you're broken—it's your nervous system keeping you in these patterns for safety, even though they no longer serve you. In this free, live workshop on Wednesday, May 7, we'll dive into the nervous system roots of emotional outsourcing, indecision, perfectionism, and codependency. You'll learn why willpower alone hasn't worked, and how you can break free from these patterns to reclaim your life. Click here to join us:https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast

#324: Have you ever wondered what it's like to break free from emotional outsourcing patterns that keep you stuck in life? Today, I'm joined by Paula Greenwood, an Anchored alum who shares her transformative journey from feeling trapped in negative thought loops to creating a life aligned with her true passions. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/324Join us to hear to hear how Paula's story demonstrates what's possible when we commit to our own healing and growth.Mentioned in this episode:Why You're Stuck: A Live Workshop SeriesJoin me for Why You're Stuck — a live Zoom workshop on May 7 at 8PM ET. We'll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcastWorkshop Series

Are you tired of feeling stuck in the same old patterns, no matter how much work you put into changing? Join me for a free, four-part workshop series starting May 7, where I'll dive deep into why your nervous system keeps pulling you back into people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependent habits. Learn how to break free from these patterns using the powerful tools of neuroscience, somatics, and emotional regulation. This isn't just feel-good talk, it's real, life-changing work. Register now and I'll see you there!https://beatrizalbina.com/workshop/utm_source=podcast

#323: Are you waiting for someone to magically transform into the person you need them to be? In this episode, I break down what relationship magical realism is, how it manifests in our thoughts and behaviors, and the real cost of staying in these fantasies. I share practical steps to recognize when you're caught in this pattern and how to start seeing relationships for what they truly are – not just what you wish they could be.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/323Mentioned in this episode:Why You're Stuck: A Live Workshop SeriesJoin me for Why You're Stuck — a live Zoom workshop on April 30 at 8PM ET. We'll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcastWorkshop Series

If you keep second-guessing yourself, people-pleasing on autopilot, or struggling with chronic indecision — you're not broken. But your nervous system might think that playing small is what keeps you safe.In my upcoming live workshop, Why You're Stuck, we'll explore the real, nervous-system-based reasons why willpower hasn't been enough to get you unstuck — and how to finally change that. It's happening Wednesday, April 30 at 8PM ET on Zoom, and it's the first in a 4-part series.Grab your spot at beatrizalbina.com/unstuck-workshop. I'd love to see you there.

#322: Are you stuck in a relationship where every disagreement turns into an emotional marathon? Where the same wounds keep getting ripped open no matter how hard you try to heal them? When we fight with our partners, family members, or friends, what's really happening goes far beyond the words being exchanged. In this week's episode, I dive into the four nervous system responses that show up during conflict—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and how each one shapes your reactions in ways you might not even realize. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/322Mentioned in this episode:Why You're Stuck: A Live Workshop SeriesJoin me for Why You're Stuck — a live Zoom workshop on April 30 at 8PM ET. We'll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcastWorkshop Series

#321: Have you been living from the neck up?Disembodiment doesn't happen by accident. Many of us learned early that being fully present in our bodies wasn't safe. And in a world that rewards overthinking and overfunctioning, checking out of your body can feel like the only way to survive.In this week's episode, I dive into the concept of embodiment - what it really means beyond the wellness buzzword, and why it's the missing piece in your personal growth journey.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/321Mentioned in this episode:Somatics Webinar 101

#320: Have you noticed how "wellness" has become more about expensive supplements and exclusive retreats than actual healing?It's time we had an honest conversation about how the wellness industry has been hijacked by capitalism and privilege, leaving behind the very people who need healing most.In this week's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the wellness industrial complex and offering a different vision - one that's rooted in accessibility, community care, and genuine healing.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/320Mentioned in this episode:Feeling overwhelmed by your emotions? Struggling to find balance in your life? Unlock the power of your body in our Somatics 101 Webinar here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/podcast-somatics-webinarSomatics Webinar 101

#319: Have you ever felt like you're constantly trying to get everything "right"?Like you're stuck in an endless cycle of seeking validation from others, while your own voice gets smaller and smaller?Today, I want to share a powerful story that might feel familiar.Dr. Ashley Albers, a physician who went through my Anchored program, once couldn't even speak during coaching sessions. Her body's message was clear: "We are not safe."But through somatic work and dedicated practice, she transformed that relationship with herself and her body, and she's telling us about it in this week's episode.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/319Mentioned in this episode:Feeling overwhelmed by your emotions? Struggling to find balance in your life? Unlock the power of your body in our Somatics 101 Webinar here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/podcast-somatics-webinarSomatics Webinar 101

#318: Have you ever caught yourself dismissing someone's feelings with phrases like "at least..." or "it could be worse"?We often do this with the best intentions - trying to help, trying to fix, trying to make things better. But what if these well-meaning responses are actually creating emotional distance in our relationships?In today's episode, I dive into why we struggle to let others have their feelings and how to reclaim emotional space - both for ourselves and those we love.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/318

#317: If you're the person everyone comes to with their problems, or if you find yourself exhausted from managing others' emotional states, this week's episode is for you.Here's the truth: Your tendency to take on others' emotions isn't just a personal quirk – it's deeply rooted in systems of oppression and societal conditioning that have taught us to prioritize others' feelings over our own.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/317

#316: Have you ever caught yourself trying to fix someone's feelings instead of just listening? In this week's episode, I dive into why we sometimes shut down others' emotions and how this habit often starts with our own relationship to feelings.This conversation is crucial for anyone who wants to build deeper, more authentic connections with the people they care about. Whether you're the one doing the shutting down or you've been on the receiving end, there's something here for you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/316

#315: Are you stuck in an emotional loop, unsure if you're feeling your feelings or just wallowing?In this episode, I dive into the difference between processing emotions and getting stuck in them. You'll learn why feeling your feelings is a radical act of self-respect and how it can transform your relationship with yourself, how to spot the signs of wallowing, and practical tools to shift into genuine emotional processing.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/315

#314: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself truly feel your feelings?In a world that values constant productivity, it's easy to see emotions as inconvenient roadblocks. But what if feeling our feelings is actually the key to deeper connection with ourselves and others?Join me on the podcast this week as we unpack the role of perfectionism, fear of rejection, and societal conditioning in blocking our emotional expression. Together, we'll explore gentle, somatic practices to help you reconnect with your body and build the capacity to feel.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/314

#313: How do you keep your relationship loving and friction-free?In this special pre-Valentine's Day episode, I'm joined by my amazing wife Billey to share some of the practices and tools that help us stay present, emotionally generous, and deeply connected with each other.From reframing with "of course they did" to asking for "do-overs" when we miss the mark, to transmuting negative energy through Tonglen meditation, we cover many simple yet profound ways to show up as the partners we most want to be.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/313

#312: Do you ever catch yourself labeling feelings like anger or sadness as "bad" or "negative"? In a world obsessed with toxic positivity, it's easy to internalize the message that certain emotions are unacceptable. But the truth is, emotions are not moral - they're messages from our bodies that deserve to be heard. In this week's episode, I explore the role of shame, cultural conditioning, and emotional outsourcing in making it hard to feel our feelings. Plus, I share a simple somatic practice to help you start reconnecting with your emotions in a gentle, compassionate way. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/312

#311: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself feel your feelings? If so, you're not alone. But here's the good news: you can absolutely build the skill of feeling your feelings safely and gently. It's not about diving in all at once, but taking tiny kitten steps to show your body that it's okay to feel. Tune in to learn three key reasons why it can be so challenging to allow your emotions, and how to start allowing your emotions in a way that feels manageable and safe for you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/311

#310: Do you find yourself shoving down your feelings just to get through the day? What if I told you that those emotions you're avoiding are actually the key to the calm, clarity, and joy you've been seeking? In this week's episode, I explore why allowing our feelings is so vital for our well-being and relationships. I share practical tools for sitting with big emotions, even when it feels scary, and I invite you to imagine what life could look like if you treated your feelings as wise guides, not enemies that are an inconvenience.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/310

#309: Do you feel stuck in a job or life situation that no longer serves you? Are you afraid to make a change, even though you know it's what you truly want?In this week's episode, I'm joined by coach and former attorney Goli Kalhoran to dive into the art of quitting - and why it's actually an essential skill for crafting a life true to YOU. We talk about learning to trust your own wisdom, quieting the noise of external expectations, and finding the courage to pivot (even if it means "failing" a few times along the way). Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/309

#308: Have you ever found yourself in a challenging situation where you felt triggered and unsure of how to respond? In this powerful episode, I share a recent experience where a man started verbally attacking me for simply explaining some science. But thanks to my somatic practices, I was able to stay grounded, present, and not let his words make me doubt myself. This is the gift of being in our bodies - the self-trust and choicefulness that allows us to respond instead of react, even in challenging situations. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/308

#307: Are you tired of the same old New Year's resolutions that leave you feeling like you're never enough? What if there was a different way to approach this new beginning?In this week's episode of Feminist Wellness, I invite you to reclaim your core values - honesty, trust, compassion, integrity - and come home to ourselves. It's not about fixing ourselves or hustling for worthiness, but about remembering who we've always been.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/307

#306: Are you an eldest daughter, immigrant, or first-generation woman who feels the pressure to be perfect and put others first? In this week's episode, I explore the five wounds of “calladita” culture with life and business coach and host of the globally acclaimed Cafe con Pam Podcast, Pam Covarrubias. We explore her work supporting first-generation women and femmes in rejecting the silencing and submission of calladita culture and practical ways to create more spaciousness to heal these wounds. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/306

#305: Do family gatherings leave you feeling like you're competing in the emotional outsourcing Olympics? You walk in with the best intentions, but within minutes, your nervous system is doing backflips. Your cousin is making passive-aggressive comments about your career, your mom is guilt-tripping you about not calling enough, and of course, someone has brought up politics over dessert. Sound familiar?Join me this week as I share my top tips for talking to challenging family members, complete with examples and even a sprinkle of pizzazz. We'll cover everything from setting limits with love to managing political conversations without wanting to scream into a pillow afterwards. If you've been wishing for a way to navigate family gatherings without feeling emotionally drained, this episode is for you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/305

#304: Do you ever feel like you're carrying the weight of the world, pouring yourself out for everyone but you? What if I told you there's a reason your body feels braced, tense, or disconnected - and that your wise body holds the keys to a radically different experience?In this episode, I explore the science of why nervous system education and somatic practices are vital for building a life of ease, connection, and authenticity. I also show you how to reclaim your birthright of joy and break free from old patterns that are keeping you small.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/304

#303: Are you clinging to relationships, roles, or identities that no longer fit the person you're becoming? In this episode, I explore how to consciously evaluate the relationships in your life - with people, jobs, titles, and even your own stories. Letting go of what doesn't serve you is a profound act of self-care. It creates space for the relationships and experiences that truly nurture your growth, and this week, you'll learn how to build a life filled with authentic connections. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/303

#302: Do you find yourself constantly trying to please others, even to your own detriment? In this episode, I'm joined by Paige Pritchard, a finance coach on a mission to educate ambitious women who are ready to leave their financial self-sabotage in the dust. We dive deep into the concept of emotional outsourcing - when we look outside ourselves for safety, belonging, and worth - and discuss how this shows up in overspending, people-pleasing, and living inauthentic lives. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/302

#301: Feeling the weight of this post-election moment? Me too. In this episode, I explore how to keep moving forward without falling prey to the swirling chaos designed to leave us exhausted and isolated. I share nine key practices to stay grounded, connected, and committed to creating change, from trusting your inner wisdom to understanding how to disrupt power structures. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/301