How to Be Human

It's been a minute ya'll! The winds of change are blowing. There is a lot to reflect on right now, and Anna is here to be your mirror. In this ep, she gives us a tarot reading to check in on where we are at and how to get to where we are going as we drop into a new year. But before that, Anna is going to take some time to tell us where SHE is going, where she has been and what we can expect from her as she taps deeper into creativity and transformation herself. Over the last few years, we've all been digging around, tilling soil and trying to plant new things. Have you been feeling like it's time to turn a new page? We have! With so much going on in the world, it can be hard to get real with yourself about what you want, what is working or even what your motivations are for the things you dedicate your time to. Let's take a minute to sort ourselves out and see what the next chapter looks like.Resources :Write or DieKate DevineSarah McCollTell Me Why You Love It Submissions Channeling the Magician A Creative Cohort with Anna Book a Session with AnnaFollow How to Be Human on InstagramFollow How to Be Human on Substack

We know you know that you should probably start meditating again. But what many of us don't know is exactly what it really is or if we are doing it right. There are different types, different reasons to try it, and many excuses for not ; so we asked Vanessa the Aquarean to talk to us all about it.Vanessa is a psychic, tarot reader, medium, occult enthusiast and astrologer. Her podcast, The Aquarean, deep dives all these themes and more with a grounded yet magical point of view. She knows what's up and is down to experiment with the unknown. On this episode, she shares what meditating can feel like for folks with trauma or mental health issues, why it is important to quiet the mind, and other very fun takes about our intuition overall. Resources Mentioned in the Episode + Where to Find us The AquareanThe Aquarean on InstagramThe Aquarean PodcastDiscount Code for The Aquarean 30 Day Meditation Journey - THEAQUAREAN25Book a Session with AnnaFind Anna on InstagramTo Suggest a Topic Email - annatoonk@gmail.comFollow How to Be Human on InstagramFollow How to Be Human on SubstackHTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

It's Halloween people, and boy are things a little scary. The veils are thin, but the vibes are heavy. This time of year is always both a reality check and a point of surrender, but this go round is especially penetrating.Scorpio season is deep fall. It refuses to look away. If you are feeling stuck or overwhelmed right now, you are not alone. One of our favorite tools to walk us out of a stuck point is our bestie, the tarot. In this mini episode, Anna gives us a reading on grief that holds us and helps us take a breath and get clearer on what the best way to be engaged during this spooky, spooky season.Book a Session with AnnaFind Anna on InstagramTo Suggest a Topic Email - annatoonk@gmail.comFollow How to Be Human on InstagramFollow How to Be Human on SubstackHTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

As much as we fight it, social media has become a marketplace for us all. We are constantly on our devices, our algorithms telling us what to eat and buy and our parasocial relationships edging closer and closer to replacing our real ones.Lee Tilghman was at the height of her influencer game when she had a sharp realization that the cost of living under a lens was higher than the checks her sponsored content was bringing in. After building Lee from America, her online wellness persona that garnered over 300k followers, she realized that she had been housing her own pain in the identity she crafted. This life changing revelation rocked her finances and her life in Los Angeles. She talks to Anna about how she came to realize she was in over her head and how she found her authentic voice once she set the Lee from America brand down. Where to find us: Lee's WebsiteLee on SubstackLee in the New York TimesBook a Session with AnnaFind Anna on InstagramTo Suggest a Topic Email - annatoonk@gmail.comFollow How to Be Human on InstagramFollow How to Be Human on SubstackHTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

We all have a story. We are born into family legacies, we develop personalities, we meet people and see ourselves in each other. Who we are finds its way into both the mundane and the expansive throughout our lives, usually in a variety of modalities or forms of expression.Sarah McColl is a writer who shares her curiosities and her point of view in a beautiful way. Her honest and tender memoir, Joy Enough, chronicles her mother's death and the divorce Sarah went through concurrently. It left us stunned. Anna and Sarah go deep on all of the things that come up in every stage of clarifying your own story, the ebb and flow of creativity and productivity, and tons more food for thought about living life and feeling feels. Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Beth Pickens - Make Your Art No Matter WhatOff the Grid PodcastMaking a Life As An Artist - Andrew SimonetMarlee Grace Where to find us:Learn more about Sarah McColl Subscribe to Lost Art Read Sarah's Book Joy Enough How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaTo suggest a guest/topic, or just get in contact annatoonk@gmail.com Episode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

Connection is one of the most essential, yet sometimes precarious of human needs. We have never been more connected or more isolated, and over the last few years boundary discourse has loomed large online. It seems everyone is working on theirs, or at least reading about them, and sometimes it feels like we are getting it wrong. Enter Dr. Josh Mirmelli, Licensed Psychotherapist and round two How to Be Human guest. He is back with us to answer our questions about all of that and more. There are many common misconceptions about what a healthy boundary is and how to communicate them safely. Dr. Josh will walk Anna through some possible ways we misinterpret them, and give us tips on how to set some that work.Resources Mentioned in the Episode:“Is Therapy Peak Making Us Selfish” Bustle April 2023Jessica LanyadooGhost of a Podcast 234 ‘How to Have Boundaries with Family”Ghost of a Podcast 260 “Boundaries for IntrovertsWhere to find us:Learn more about Dr. JoshFollow Dr. Josh on Instagram How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaTo suggest a guest/topic, or just get in contact annatoonk@gmail.com Episode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

We're back! It is fall! Part of us is raring to go commune with leaves and pumpkins, part of us wants to crack books and learn something new, and then there is the (not so) secret third thing of the season that involves magic, spirituality, grieving and self inquiry before the winter ahead. One of the best ways to come back to yourself and the magic inside is with tarot! Anna gives us a fantastic reading of the energies that lie ahead that is validating, yet not sugar coated. We are taking responsibility for our lives through strengthening our intuition and being real with ourselves and others. Whatever is coming up, we can handle. Feel it all and keep it moving, night awaits.Resources Mentioned in the Episode: Ryan Marquardt AstrologyClairannoyance with Ryan Marquardt + Megan LundWTF is Tarot and How Do I Do It - Book - Bakara WintnerBakara's New Class - WTF is Tarot IntensiveWhere to find us:How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaTo suggest a guest/topic, or just get in contact annatoonk@gmail.com Episode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

Vanessa Hardy is back for a little astrology jam! Venus is already halfway through her retrograde #venusday, and now Mercury is getting ready to park it for a retrograde that begins August 23rd. This has been a summer of many astrological shifts, and we talk a lot about how to honor the changes while also keeping our own good sense intact. We also answered some listener questions! We cover creativity and pregnancy, a listener with a natal Venus retrograde who deserves more than a fairweather lover, Sabian Symbols, and memorable blows to our ego. We close this episode out with some thoughts about addiction, and if you are struggling we encourage you to stay the course and use some of our resources below for help. Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Astrology, Psychology, and the Four Elements Stephen ArroyoSabian SymbolsVisionary Activist Astrologyhttps://dopeisdeath.com/ Podcast and Film on the use of Acupuncture in Harm Reductionhttps://harmreduction.org/Alcoholics AnonymousAlanonSLAACodependents AnonymousWhere to find us:Book a session with Vanessa Subscribe to View of an Hour Vanessa's Substack Find How to be Human on IGFind Anna on IG Book a session with AnnaTo suggest a guest/topic, or just get in contact annatoonk@gmail.com Episode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

Empathy has exploded in mentions in the past few years but do we actually get it? Anna's asking questions and curious about are we nailing empathy or have we gone somewhere else? Anna and astrologer Vanessa are also working on a cosmic advice episode! Plz submit your questions about Venus retrograde, Mercury retrograde, your own chart, running a spiritual business, tarot, whatever you plz and we'll take a stab at answering using are most magical of skills. You can submit your question via email, IG or the speakpipe. Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Brene Brown empathy video Where to find us:How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaTo suggest a guest/topic, or just get in contact annatoonk@gmail.com Episode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

If you are a fan of this podcast, there is a good chance you are someone who deserves to take up more space. But listener, we will bet that your own self awareness, compassion and perhaps even naivete has led you to confuse confidence in others with arrogance. We all want to find the right mix of proudly being who you are and knowing when you are the expert in the room, but the fear that we are being rude or selfish often makes doing that very difficult for folks who care about other people.In this mini episode, Anna jumps in to share her experience with clocking arrogance in people, and she shares some great musings from the How to Be Human community. Pro tip here, if you are concerned with sounding arrogant, you are likely on the right side of the coin and deserve a little brag sesh. It's Leo season!Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Nimity Online The Subtle Difference Between Arrogance and Confidence This American Life Episode Where to find us:How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaEpisode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

This week an episode of the The Compulsive Storyteller as a treat. Cancer is the sign associated with the mother, and today we are swapping podcasts with The Compulsive Storyteller to tell the story of a remarkable Mom. As the one of the first female pilots in the US Airforce, Betty LeFevre traveled around the country as one of ten applicants selected to take part in the Womens' Air Force Service Pilots, aka the WASPS. Betty was a remarkable woman, talented and dynamic. Despite her courage and strength; she dealt with sexism and exploitation as she served. In this podcast, host Gregg LeFevre shares his perspective on her life both as a WASP and the years that followed once the war concluded.https://www.thecompulsivestoryteller.com/National Women's History Museum-WASPS

Splish, splash- it's Cancer Season ya'll. The Moon's in charge now, and so are the feels. But, while summer famously tempts us all to check out, Cancer season is also about slowly starting to make moves. In this episode, Anna breaks out the cards to give us a collective vibe check on where we are at now, and where our hearts may lead us.If you are a tarot newbie, she's got you covered. Anna touches on the Major and Minor Arcana, Suits and Elements, and we get to go on a side quest with Lilith, the original baddest bitch. Anna has some gentle suggestions on how we can juggle the desire to become beach bums, the buzz of overactive minds, and how to handle the boxes we have to check on the way to our big goals. Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Spirit Speak Apparition DeckBlack Moon Lilith in Leo, Explained-NYLONWhere to find us:How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaEpisode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

**Trigger/Content Warning discussions of medical procedures, dieting, weight loss**Anna is a Southern gal who will never stop being polite, but she is getting very real in this solo ep. Join Anna as she clues us in on her weight loss surgery, and her medical journey leading up to making that decision. She covers hard facts and logistics, dealing with pandemic related fat phobia, Ozempic, Metformin and helps us apply a more nuanced perspective on body positivity and health. If you are working on your relationship with your body at any weight, Anna's candor will offer you space to examine your motivations and perhaps open a door to some new ways of moving forward. If you want to be a better, more inclusive human, this episode is the one to listen to. Resources Mentioned in the episode: Anna speaks on Ozempic in The Cut- November 2022Emily McCombs - "I Gained 70 Pounds During COVID. Here's What Happened On My First Day Back In The Office"Lily Feeds You - Nutrition and Holistic Health PractitionerNYU Weight Management Center Where to find us:How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaEpisode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

Money. We need it. You know it, we know it, but many of us have a hard time facing it. When we get into healing, we hear a lot about scarcity and gratitude, but those are big picture concepts that unfortunately just don't cut it when the bills are due. Underneath those ideas are many other complicated feelings and traumas that need to be named and integrated in order for us to build a secure money foundation. Money is a part of life, death and everything in between and the financial decisions we make can cause a ripple of impact. It is a topic that must be embraced with care. In this episode, Stella Gold, of My Gold Standard, talks to us about how to address the emotional side of money while being realistic about it. Stella is a certified Trauma of Money facilitator with over 7 years in fintech and wealth advocacy under their belt. In this grounded, informative episode, they share their personal story around financial literacy, ancestral healing, and gently walks us through a validating wake up call to the necessary facts about money management.Resources Mentioned: The Law of Divine Compensation - Marianne WiliamsonTrauma of Money Method Where to find us:Stella's Website My Gold Standard Stella's Instagram Sign up to be first to know of MGS's next offering, The Wealth Activism Collective. Launching August 2023How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaEpisode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

Big business on the docket for this astrology episode with Vanessa Hardy. Q3 has arrived and it is time to talk about Venus, Mars, the Nodes and how the personal and political intersect. It's a summer of love- but that doesn't just mean romance, it's deeper than that. It's the juice, the joy, and the reason why we fight for better worlds. Leo is not only the drama, but the generous Queen who is happiest when everyone is pleased. Anna and Vanessa both reflect on the last time Venus went retrograde in Leo, summer 2015. They also touch on Nodal shifts, the Nodal return that occurs around age 36, and ride a few astrologically inspired tangents. Get ready to wing it a little this summer, it's going to be a hot one. Resources MentionedAlice Sparkly KatWell and Good - Discover Your North Node To Learn Your Cosmic Destiny and True CallingThe Nap Ministry Rest DeckRefinery 29 Is Therapy Speak Ruining Our RelationshipsDecolonizing Non Violent CommunicationWhere to find us:Book a Summer of Venus Reading with VanessaSummer of Venus Mini WorkshopLeave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaEpisode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

I mentioned in the last episode I've got some health stuff going on which is making my schedule a little bonkers. It's made recording and getting to the podcast a bit difficult. Today I feel like is a clever solve, rather then leave you hanging I asked Ryan if he would share the episode of Clairannoyance I was on to share with ya'll. Thanks to Ryan and Megan being true gems they were down so please enjoy the episode. Below are the original show notes from the episode because they didn't do all that work for me NOT to share them :) n our first (of many!) guest interview episodes, co-hosts Megan Lund and Ryan Marquardt sit down with one of the most multifaceted, wildly talented and unendingly knowledgable spiritual badasses in the game: Anna Toonk. Anna guides us into the world of tarot, dancing between topics including the history of tarot, why it's appealing to clients, the importance of understanding the traditional meaning of the cards, finding your own interpretative style as a reader, whether astrology and tarot should be as interconnected as they've become, and much more. We discuss some of our annoyances about tarot and the larger spiritual community as well, from receiving requests for free readings to the horrors of dating as a spiritual professional.Based in New York City, Anna has been a professional tarot reader for many years, but her prowess transcends the boundaries of most tarot practitioners. She's an intuitive healer, Akashic records reader, and a resilient entrepreneur. Anna is carving an evolving legacy for herself, currently broadcasting her distinct voce and curious mind via her illustrious podcast, "How to Be Human." (Not Sponsored: Anna legitimately runs one of the best podcasts available right now.) Every week, "How to Be Human" explores the common and often confusing themes of humanness including spirituality, connection, wellness, self-acceptance, and more. Anna uses her humor, honesty and intuition to discuss unanswerable questions we all share. She speaks with many brilliant guests as she searches for clarity in the most human way possible; together. As our first guest, Anna sets the bar high. Stay tuned for many more guest episodes coming soon with fascinating, well-vetted people who help us shed light on all corners of the spiritual world, from tarot to human design, past lives to the paranormal, and beyond.Key Takeaways in this Episode • Meet Anna, who transitioned from a successful 15+ year career in television to spiritual work • Acquire seasoned advice and insights about what tarot is (and isn't!), how it's used, why it's appealing, plus some tarot tips and tricks • Hear our unfiltered annoyances, hilarious tangents and overdue vents about tarot and spiritualityConnect with Anna Toonk • Website: annatoonk.com • Anna's Instagram: @annatoonk • "How to Be Human" Instagram: @howtobehumanpod • "How to Be Human" on Apple Podcasts • "How to Be Human" on Spotify • "How to Be Human" SubstackAdditional Resources • Clairannoyance Instagram • Clairannoyance TikTok...

Anna is thinking about the future! Specifically the future of the pod, which has been evolving and growing over the years. In this solo episode, she took it to Speakpipe to respond to some listener's takes on advice. The best of it, the worst of it and where it can go awry when unsolicited. Whenever we are in brainstorming mode, there is more room for what other people have to say about our situation-for better or for worse. Moving through lifes' mile markers requires clarity, flexibility and support. Advice can be helpful, but it's an art like anything else. Let's learn how to craft better guidance.Resources mentioned: “Helped, Heard, or Hugged? When someone you love is upset, ask this one question”- NY TIMES “Where to find us:Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaEpisode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

In part two of her story, Casey talks us through so many complex facets of being a human- siblings, mental health, privilege- and she lands the plane on a great story combining a little super sleuthing and unlikely friendships. Casey starts to piece together more clues and finds a new sense of confidence through taking control of her story. Come for the info, stay for the great cast of characters doing their best to find their footing with each other.Resources mentioned:The Primal WoundSeven Cores Issues in Adoption and PermanencyFree Time MediaFree Time Media on IGWhere to find us:Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaEpisode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

Casey Kahn spends her time helping people and brands tell their stories as Co Founder of Free Time Media, so it was our pleasure to turn the mic towards her and give her a chance to share hers. In this episode, Casey looks back on her childhood and teen years through the lens of her adoption story, and shares her realizations around how being an adoptee may have impacted her social life in subtle but significant ways. She also covers the very important journey of finding out whether or not she was a Scorpio or a Sagittarius! Crucial info!According to The Adoption Network, while 2-4% of Americans have adopted, more than ⅓ of Americans have thought about it, so if you've been curious this episode might be a great place to start. Resources mentioned:The Primal WoundSeven Cores Issues in Adoption and PermanencyNY Times Article-New York Adoptees Fight for Access to Birth CertificatesWall Street Journal-Bill Would Grant New York Adoptees Access to Birth Certificates for First Time in DecadesFree Time MediaFree Time Media on IGWhere to find us:Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaEpisode credits:HTBH is Produced by Anna Toonk and The Wave PodcastingHTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting HTBH Show Notes are written by Vanessa Hardy

I definitely remember being intimidated by Shauna when I first met her. Was it the perfect red lip, the quiet confidence or the smooth voice for meditation? Who can say but thanks to Maha Rose I got to experience her work. I was not only intimidated by Shauna but hypnosis as well and she couldn't be a better ambassador for the process. We discuss how Shauna got into hypnosis, what it actually is versus the cluck like a chicken reputation, whether or not Shauna uses hypnosis to make people bring her snacks and more. We also touch upon Shauna's art and book Wishcraft built off wishing well traditions, and hypnosis for crafting a better world for yourself and the collective. Shauna is a super skilled practitioner and just all around cool person I feel lucky to know and have benefited from her expertise. It's possible this podcast exists because of her work and her help getting me out of my own creative way. Where to find us:Shauna's WebsiteShauna's Instagram Get Shauna's Book WishcraftHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaHTBH is Produced by The Wave Podcasting HTBH is edited by Iva Hristova at The Wave Podcasting

Organizational expert and founder of Organize That Effy Terry and I talk organizing. Effy is not only super organized but she's done a lot of educating about neurodiversity and how different brains need different systems. She is a big believer in finding a system that works for you versus one size fits all. One of the most refreshing things she offers is that being organized doesn't make you a better person, however it can aid your mental health. She blows my mind mentioning techniques such as body doubling and more. As someone who organization and tidying is not a strength I loved hearing Effy's take and how much compassion she approaches the work she does. Now if she would come organize my apartment. Resources mentioned:KonMari Method Institute for Challenging Disorganization Hoarders (Canadian version if you want to spot Effy :)Where to find us:Effy's WebsiteEffy's Instagram How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

Aja and I are back with Pt. 2 today! I hope you are already familiar with Aja Barber and her work but if you're not buckle up. I was prepared for Aja to be unfathomably smart, and informative but she's also very funny and easy to talk to. Her book Consumed is a super informative, surprisingly easy read for such dense material and the planets aligned to let Aja and I have a conversation during Earth Month. We cover a lot of ground today discussing fast fashion, ways to challenge our consumption and some of the more insidious aspects of the fashion industry and how it relates back to colonialism. Thanks to Aja being so generous with her time and mind. Resources mentioned:NooworksBig Bud PressLora Gene Céline Semaan and The Slow Factory Where to find us:Aja's WebsiteAja's IGSupport Aja's PatreonBuy Aja's Book Shop Aja's collection with Lora Gene How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

I hope you are already familiar with Aja Barber and her work but if you're not buckle up. I was prepared for Aja to be unfathomably smart, and informative but she's also very funny and easy to talk to. Her book Consumed is a super informative, surprisingly easy read for such dense material and the planets aligned to let Aja and I have a conversation during Earth Month. We cover a lot of ground today discussing fast fashion, ways to challenge our consumption and some of the more insidious aspects of the fashion industry and how it relates back to colonialism. Thanks to Aja being so generous with her time we chatted it UP so I broke our recording into two episodes because I didn't want you to miss anything and wanted to keep it digestible. (Control freak? Moi? Neverrrrrrr.) I hope you enjoy Part 1 this week and rethink any future Shein purchases moving ahead :) Resources mentioned:NooworksBig Bud PressLora Gene Céline Semaan and The Slow Factory Where to find us:Aja's WebsiteAja's IGSupport Aja's PatreonBuy Aja's Book Shop Aja's collection with Lora Gene How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

Founder of Mood Barre, writer, and my beloved writing teacher Kate Devine is today's guest. We discuss the benefits of investigating your personal narrative, the connections between movement and writing, and the different ways self expression serves us. Kate is in deep service of creativity and how to foster it and believes in developing self awareness that allows you to express yourself more clearly and feel more expressed. Luckily she shared some of these helpful and thought provoking ideas and processes with me. We talk a little about how writing is it's own form of spirituality and she even agreed to read work in progress for us. What's better than story time? Where to find us:Kate's WebsiteMood Barre (hint there's a free trial)Kate's Instagram Kate's Upcoming Classes How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

New York Times bestseller, and author of the very popular Wintering Katherine May joins me today to discuss her third book Enchantment: Awakening Wonder in an Anxious Age . We discuss what lead her to see she needed enchantment in her life, the benefits of living in the mystery and how exhausting the dystopian future rhetoric is. I felt like her book Enchantment really summed up a lot of things I had been feeling and was thrilled to get to discuss them with Katherine. Where to find us:Buy Katherine's BookKatherine's WebsiteKatherine's Podcast Katherine's Substack Katherine's InstagramHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

I deeply appreciate the pragmatism Mari possesses. It feels like a refreshing and compassionate balm in a time when people are very quick with answers and solutions. The word embodiment has lost meaning for me at times because it was being so overused in the wellness community, and being weaponized. Good people are embodied! When in doubt moralize it right? But what actually is embodiment, what does it mean? It means in simplest terms to give shape or form to something, to make something tangible. Spoiler but something I really appreciate that Mari brings up and discusses is that embodiment isn't so much a destination we arrive at but a reminder of all that we possess within. Where to find us:Mari's WebsiteMari's Substack Mari's Instagram How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

Artist and Author of the book Flowers and Their Meanings Karen Azoulay joins me today to talk flowers. We've been giving flowers meaning and using them in rituals since the beginning of time and I appreciate Karen's deep interest in that. I also love that she decided the 19th century book about flowers meanings needed an update. Karen's instagram is one of my faves where she is illustrating through the ages how we've used flowers in rituals and assigned meanings to them across the globe and time. It's also a feast for the eyes besides being fascinating. This conversation felt like a fresh breeze to welcome spring with and think about what's growing in my own life and what floral messages I want to send. Karen graciously decoded the meaning of the flowers I bought for the episode (I declared love for myself via tulip) and we hopefully will be starting a trend of sending your friends funny messages via bouquet. Where to find us:Buy Karen's book Where to Find Find KarenFlowers and Their Meanings InstagramLeave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

Heather Hogan's magic is difficult to fully encapsulate. She has a fierce courage that allows her to embrace life and death with eyes wide open and with so much compassion. She's a life coach, tarot reader, Buddhist meditation teacher and a death doula. We discuss her experiences with death that lead to her embracing life and discovering death doula work. Heather believes passionately that most people's relationship with death could be more positive but we have to talk about it in order for that to happen so we do just that. If you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world. Resources mentioned:Hospice care Support Death Differently Where to find us:Heather's WebsiteHeather's Instagram Support Heather's doc Death Differently Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

Vanessa Hardy is back and we're not just doing a business ladies parody talking quarterly reports we're delving back into the astrology that lies ahead. Vanessa tells us what Spring's astrology has in store for us in Q2. Who this quarter's heavy hitters are and what kind of vibes lie ahead. Vanessa breaks down what Saturn, Pluto and Jupiter have in store for us and who this may impact the most. Get clued into how this will affect your chart and...you know everyone else around us. If you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world. Resources mentioned:Bad PastorWhere to find us:Vanessa's Instagram Book a session with Vanessa Subscribe to Vanessa's Substack Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

When you are going to talk staying with yourself seems like you should do that by yourself. I'm solo today discussing a topic close to my heart because I can't stop dancing with it. Self abandonment! How can we leave ourselves when we're always with ourselves? I get it into it. Chatting what it is, what makes me do it and how I'm learning to stay.Resources mentioned in today's episode:Dear Chelsea episode with Lori Gottlieb Melissa Febos Abandon Me Peter Matthiessen Snow Leopard Mari's Newsletter National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)

Dream Queen Autumn Fourkiller is back! We chat about some common dream themes, death, pregnancy, and recurrent locations. Then Autumn interprets some listener's dreams giving a little peek into her reading style and ways to think about interpreting dreams. Where to find us:Subscribe to Autumn's Substack Autumn's WebsiteFollow Autumn on Instagram Book a session with Autumn Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

What happens when a psychosomatic therapist and a somatic psychotherapist team up? They do incredible work about topics like co-dependency that you and I get to benefit from. Today's episode with Heidi Smith of Moon and Bloom, and Deborah Bagg of Love is Juniper is filled with helpful information. What is co-dependency? How can we know it when we feel it? What's a caring relationship versus controlling one? Both Heidi and Deborah give some tools to navigating the topic for as Deborah put it "optimal relationships," which I am stealing and love. Optimal seems like a great goal. Where to find us:Learn more HeidiLearn more about Deborah Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

*Content | Trigger Warning* There are brief mentions of suicide. If you or someone you love needs help please visit https://www.samhsa.gov/ for resources. Men have never been worse. Noooooo, I don't mean toxic masculinity. Dr. Josh joins me to discuss the crisis that is men's mental health. The stats in the US are alarming with more men losing their battle with mental health then ever before. Dr. Josh shares what men uniquely grapple with, how they can better access support and the importance of that support. He also gives a great answer as to why men participate in toxic masculinity which I will forever be grateful to him for giving language to. Where to find us:Learn more about Dr. JoshFollow Dr. Josh on Instagram Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

She's back! You loved her first episode on perfectionism and today we are talking joy. Today's guest psychotherapist, and author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power Katherine Morgan Schafler really knows the value of allowing ourselves more joy in our lives. Most of us want a more joyful life but why does it seem hard? Or does joy seem scary sometimes? We get into it today. Katherine talks about different ways we can invite more joy into our lives or look at where the resistance is. Enjoy! Where to find us:Get Katherine's bookTake the quiz find out what kind of perfectionist you areFollow Katherine on InstagramKatherine's Website Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

Thrilled for one of my favorite people to be on today's episode. Liz Migliorelli belongs to a lineage of bee maidens, apple romancers and herb cunning-folk. She is a clinical herbalist, animist and educator who roots her work in the stories and practices of her ancestors. She lives on unceded Munsee-Lenape-Esopus lands (also known as the Hudson River Valley in New York), at the foot of the Catskill Mountains where she tends to a big garden. Some of her favorite divination tools are beeswax, murky waters and chickens. Liz weaves together and facilitates classes on plant medicine, ancestral remembrance, earth rhythms, folk magic, hearth culture, poetry and social justice movements. You can learn more about her work at www.sisterspinster.netIn this episode I ask her does magic help the mundane? How do you wade into the wild world of herbs? And lots more she graciously answers. Where to find us:Liz's Website Follow Liz on Instagram Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

How many of you have been startled to find out you're a perfectionist? Raises my own hand. Even today's guest psychotherapist, and author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power Katherine Morgan Schafler was when she discovered she had perfectionistic tendencies. Katherine joins me today to talk perfectionism! I have been talking about Katherine for multiple episodes so now you finally get to meet her and hear why I have been hyping her so hard. She explains the 5 different kinds of perfectionist personalities, why trying eradicate parts of yourself isn't the move and how joy and pleasure is the antidote to what ails a lot of us. I love her thoughts on how we often misunderstand presence and the myth of a balanced life wellness sells to women. She is so kind and smart I could talk to her for days and hope everyone benefits from her wise words whether on the pod or in her book. Where to find us:Get Katherine's bookTake the quiz find out what kind of perfectionist you areFollow Katherine on InstagramKatherine's Website Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

Vanessa Hardy is back and she is sharing with us what Astrology of 2022 still might be significant for us, and tells us what lies ahead in Q1 of 2023. We cover some basic astrology terms (what's a conjunction? A transit) best practices and our mutual love of Anne Ortelee. Vanessa shares some themes to think on and places we can look in our own birth chart for what stories are playing out for us. Resources mentioned:Anne Ortelee's Weekly Weather report Mystic Medusa Where to find us:Vanessa's Instagram Book a session with Vanessa Subscribe to Vanessa's Substack Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaIf you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world.

A little check in, a little recap and a little teary at the end to know it's the most tender part of the year. Endings and beginnings. What did I learn in 2022? How is that informing 2023? Do New Years resolutions work? I talk about why I set intentions instead. Resources mentioned:Take Kate Devine's Lyric Essay course Get to know Katherine, and pre-order her book. Melissa Febos' Work Love Jillian Turecki's work around self abandonment We the Urban Where to find me:Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on SpeakpipeHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaIf you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world.

I knew I liked Mari immediately when I met her. We met in Fariha Roisin's Writing with Vulnerability in Mind and as soon as Mari started talking I thought that woman knows some things. Turns out she really really does. Mari Orkenyi is a Contemplative Educator, Psychoanalyst Candidate and Writer. Her work lives in the space where Contemplative Practices, Buddhist Psychology and Psychoanalysis intersect. Mari holds a Masters in Arts, is Certified in Contemplative Psychotherapy and is Certified Meditation Teacher. She supports individuals, corporate teams and groups with Contemplative Practices guiding them on a journey of self awareness, exploration and integration. Mari has collaborated with Moca, The Marciano Foundation, Loom, Apple, DoorDash, LA Dance Project and more. As a native Brazilian immigrant with Hungarian roots, living in Los Angeles by way of Spain and Mexico, her multicultural perspectives and backgrounds are continuously informing her work. She's not just accomplished, and accredited she's an incredibly warm accessible person which feels like a tricky balance she pulls off effortlessly. Please enjoy our conversation on what mindfulness is and isn't, why Mari's approach feels radically permissive and why to meditate at all. Where to find us:Mari's WebsiteMari's NewsletterMari's InstagramHow to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaIf you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world.

Anna met casting agent, astrologer, and energy healer Vanessa Hardy at Maha Rose years ago and chats having an evolving career life with her in this episode. They initially connected over balancing careers in production and wellness but really it's a shared belief in self-knowledge being reflected in career decisions as well. Vanessa shares how awareness of an early ability to see what people were uniquely good at has shaped her career decisions and how she explores that gift. Vanessa also shares what it's been like to return to school as an adult and continue to show up for herself differently in her professional life. Where to find us:Vanessa's Instagram Book a session with Vanessa Subscribe to Vanessa's Substack How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaIf you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world.

Content creator, writer, model, and author of forthcoming The Realest Oracle deck Kendra Austin joins Anna today in conversation about deservedness. Anna and Kendra discuss the difficulty of defining an internal value that the outside world has a lot to say about and ways they've gone about it. Kendra shares how she's learned to investigate her motives for what she's seeking in her life how she to checks in around it. Kendra also shares how her story with deservedness has changed how she shows up in community.Where to find us:Kendra's Instagram Kendra's SubstackPre-Order The Realest Oracle Deck How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

Anna re-read Molly's book The Fixed Stars on her way to Italy and it hit deeper. A story of having the courage to transform your life out of a desire to be true to yourself. Swoon. Also tons of themes around love, sexuality, and figuring out what kind of life you want. For real read it. Thanks to this digital age, her wish to talk to Molly about the process of writing such an incredible book about your lived experience was able to be realized by sending a simple email. Writer, podcaster and lovely person Molly Wizenberg was gracious enough to say yes and join Anna for a lively conversation about trusting your memory, ways to write about your own life that don't have to always be mining the sad memories and the commitment to forever seeking! Where to find us:Molly's Instagram Molly's WebsiteMolly's Substack Molly Podcast Spilled Milk How to Be Human InstagramAnna's InstagramBook a session with Anna

In the wake of Nina's departure from the pod Anna is exploring break ups today. Break ups, they suck but offer new beginnings with all of their confusing feelings. Anna shares some of the ones that have stuck with her and then chats with guest jewelry designer Erica Weiner about a break up that was equal parts dramatic and intuitive. What does that mean? Listen and find out! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music, iHeartRadio, Stitcher, or on your favorite podcast platformResources Mentioned:Maha Rose Agnes Pelton Therapy as per usual Sigh Swoon's How to Heal HeartbreakGet in Touch:How to Be Human InstagramHow to be Human Substack Anna's InstagramBook a session with AnnaErica's WebsiteErica's Instagram

Anna and Nina have an important update for the show and discuss what it's been like to get clarity about their priorities, especially when it comes to their careers. For Nina, she wants to be more present with her one-on-one clients, classes, and family, so she's taking a step back from the podcast. Anna is going to continue as a solo host and is playing around with some ideas for the next iteration of How to Be Human, so stay tuned.  Though it's a bittersweet end of an era, Nina explains how she came to the conclusion that she can no longer show up for the HTBH community in the way that she wants to. She and Anna talk about what it's like to grow out of decisions and reframe the idea of quitting. They also touch on how they communicated about Nina's departure from the show and the peace that comes from accepting things for what they are instead of personalizing other people's actions.  Listen to the episode on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-human/id1575612024 (Apple Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/1V8taFSZQDpMcXkrP5dGrs?si=PtYeksWSRLGn_vu1vWBvMw&dl_branch=1 (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9yTHpBOUg2Mg (Google Podcasts), https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/fa34c28b-2ac5-49cb-9fc7-15328379d789 (Amazon Music), https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-how-to-be-human-84625355/ (iHeartRadio), https://www.stitcher.com/show/how-to-be-human-5 (Stitcher), or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Finding alignment with your intentions and actions  Allowing yourself to explore and expand  The consequences of ignoring the energetics of a situation  Practicing neutrality instead of trying to control, deny, or avoid feelings Unapologetically owning your happiness  Ideas for the future of this show  Get in Touch: https://howtobehumanpod.com/ (How to Be Human) https://www.instagram.com/howtobehumanpod/ (How to Be Human Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/annatoonk/ (Anna's Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/ninaendrst/ (Nina's Instagram) https://www.annatoonk.com/ (Book a session with Anna) https://ninaendrsthealth.com/ (Book a session with Nina)

Your habits create your life and determine your lifestyle. On today's episode, Anna and Nina discuss why it's crucial to cultivate habits that serve you and help you reach your goals. They dig into the science behind habits, how to figure out what type of structure works best for you, and the framework for creating positive habits.  Where in your life have you enforced arbitrary rules for yourself that aren't actually in alignment with how you want to live?  In order to create new habits, we have to first understand what our current patterns are and where they come from. From there, we can start to explore what we want to accomplish during the day from a happiness standpoint instead of looking at everything through the lens of productivity.  Anna and Nina talk about how they've learned to work with their natural lifestyle rhythms and create habits around that. They touch on how their morning and nighttime routines have changed since tuning out what society deems as acceptable and plugging into what helps them thrive. Plus, they talk about ways to effectively break habits and replace them with new ones.  Listen to the episode on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-human/id1575612024 (Apple Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/1V8taFSZQDpMcXkrP5dGrs?si=PtYeksWSRLGn_vu1vWBvMw&dl_branch=1 (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9yTHpBOUg2Mg (Google Podcasts), https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/fa34c28b-2ac5-49cb-9fc7-15328379d789 (Amazon Music), https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-how-to-be-human-84625355/ (iHeartRadio), https://www.stitcher.com/show/how-to-be-human-5 (Stitcher), or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Giving yourself permission to live the lifestyle that you desire  The four parts of a habit loop  What intuitive eating is and the benefits of practicing it  Examples of building habits slowly and sustainably  The profound effect of saying your goals and affirmations out loud  Giving yourself positive reinforcement when you create new habit channels  Resources Mentioned: https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits (Atomic Habits by James Clear)  https://www.healthline.com/health/the-science-of-habit#1 (The Science of Habit)  https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/ (The Four Tendencies Quiz)  Get in Touch: https://howtobehumanpod.com/ (How to Be Human) https://www.instagram.com/howtobehumanpod/ (How to Be Human Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/annatoonk/ (Anna's Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/ninaendrst/ (Nina's Instagram) https://www.annatoonk.com/ (Book a session with Anna) https://ninaendrsthealth.com/ (Book a session with Nina)

Anna and Nina are taking time to unpack some things that they've been working through, particularly in their friendships and careers.  They discuss their recent experiences of feeling left out and reflect on relationships that fell apart when they asked the other person to take responsibility for careless behavior. Nina has been feeling empowered in her sense of self and ability to let go of people who aren't in alignment anymore, even if they've been in her life for a while. Anna admits that she has a harder time getting to that place and has been confronting her fear of loss and emotional hoarding since she got back from her month abroad.  Both Anna and Nina are experiencing a sense of restlessness in their careers, and Anna announces that she's going to be retiring from one-on-ones and readings in 2023. They talk about burnout in the Tarot industry and how they're trying to find solutions that work for their businesses. Nina has also been focusing on creating an offering that blends her practical and mystical sides in an authentic and not-cheesy way.  Listen to the episode on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-human/id1575612024 (Apple Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/1V8taFSZQDpMcXkrP5dGrs?si=PtYeksWSRLGn_vu1vWBvMw&dl_branch=1 (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9yTHpBOUg2Mg (Google Podcasts), https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/fa34c28b-2ac5-49cb-9fc7-15328379d789 (Amazon Music), https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-how-to-be-human-84625355/ (iHeartRadio), https://www.stitcher.com/show/how-to-be-human-5 (Stitcher), or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Conditional relationships and feeling discarded  Why you don't have to be digestible to be interesting  Being aware of where you're settling and selling yourself short  The importance of validation in friendships  Finding clarity around the next chapter of your career   Resources Mentioned: https://www.amazon.com/Stay-Sexy-Dont-Murdered-How/dp/1250178959 (Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark )  Get in Touch: https://www.instagram.com/howtobehumanpod/ (How to Be Human Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/annatoonk/ (Anna's Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/humannamednina/ (Nina's Instagram) https://www.annatoonk.com/ (Book a session with Anna) https://ninaendrsthealth.com/ (Book a session with Nina)

Who am I? What am I? What is my purpose? These are the kinds of questions that Nina and Anna's clients often come to them with. So many of us get caught up in our own conditioning and other people's identities that it becomes difficult to decipher who we really are. On today's episode, Anna and Nina discuss their thoughts and experiences with personal and social identity.  One of the greatest factors that muddles our relationship with identity is social media. Nina notes that there's a huge business of selling an image and use of façade marketing, especially in the world of fitness influencers. Anna and Nina talk about the importance of allowing yourself to experiment and honor what feels good without getting caught up in the ego or ideas of who you should be.  They also touch on the consequences of having a lack of coherent sense of identity. It usually results in a lack of compassion and acceptance of others, which creates an environment where people are afraid to affirm themselves and live freely. Anna and Nina round out their conversation by describing what they identify as and how that shapes their everyday lives.  Listen to the episode on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-human/id1575612024 (Apple Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/1V8taFSZQDpMcXkrP5dGrs?si=PtYeksWSRLGn_vu1vWBvMw&dl_branch=1 (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9yTHpBOUg2Mg (Google Podcasts), https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/fa34c28b-2ac5-49cb-9fc7-15328379d789 (Amazon Music), https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-how-to-be-human-84625355/ (iHeartRadio), https://www.stitcher.com/show/how-to-be-human-5 (Stitcher), or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: The struggles of working with different identities as a Tarot reader  The obsession with being a social media star and selling an image Getting more comfortable with calling out people who create unsafe and exclusive environments  The problem with choosing your identity instead of internalizing your own values Discovering one's personal potential  Resources Mentioned: https://ystudios.com/insights-people/influence-on-identity (Y Studios - What Factors Really Influence Identity?)  https://www.newyorker.com/books/under-review/how-social-media-shapes-our-identity (The New Yorker - How Social Media Shapes Our Identity By Nausicaa Renner)  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/science-choice/201412/basics-identity (Psychology Today - Basics of Identity )  https://open.spotify.com/show/0podj5AKLOFvJAS1raltmw?si=efa2fb3e766f44a4 (Sounds Like a Cult Podcast)  https://rachelcargle.com (Rachel Cargle)  http://ihartericka.com (Ericka Hart) Get in Touch: https://howtobehumanpod.com/ (How to Be Human) https://www.instagram.com/howtobehumanpod/ (How to Be Human Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/annatoonk/ (Anna's Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/ninaendrst/ (Nina's Instagram) https://www.annatoonk.com/ (Book a session with Anna) https://ninaendrsthealth.com/ (Book a session with Nina)

The spectrum of art and creativity reaches every corner of our lives. The music that we listen to, the shows that we watch, and the way we decorate our spaces are all forms of artistic expression. So, why is there so much pressure to abandon your creative side and return to ‘the real world'?  There's often an immense push to grow out of creativity in order to make money. Anna and Nina challenge the idea that if you choose a creative career or lifestyle that you're destined to struggle financially. Nina explores how this concept has shown up in her marriage, as Huê is a working artist. She emphasizes how important it is to honor what's going to help you show up as a full person.  Anna and Nina also dig into their experiences with fine art. They talk about the expectation that exists to feel or react a certain way to fine art. They also talk about gatekeeping in the industry and where that might come from. Plus, they touch on why it's important to protect the sacredness of sharing your art and emotions with others, especially online.  Listen to the episode on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-human/id1575612024 (Apple Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/1V8taFSZQDpMcXkrP5dGrs?si=PtYeksWSRLGn_vu1vWBvMw&dl_branch=1 (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9yTHpBOUg2Mg (Google Podcasts), https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/fa34c28b-2ac5-49cb-9fc7-15328379d789 (Amazon Music), https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-how-to-be-human-84625355/ (iHeartRadio), https://www.stitcher.com/show/how-to-be-human-5 (Stitcher), or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: The relationship between art, creativity, and Tarot Discovering healthy ways to access and express emotions  Understanding that everything you create doesn't have to be monetized and marketed  Allowing yourself to be a beginner  The discipline, vulnerability, and work ethic that's required of artists  Recognizing that once you share your work with the world, it isn't just yours anymore Get in Touch: https://howtobehumanpod.com/ (How to Be Human) https://www.instagram.com/howtobehumanpod/ (How to Be Human Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/annatoonk/ (Anna's Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/humannamednina/ (Nina's Instagram) https://www.annatoonk.com/ (Book a session with Anna) https://ninaendrsthealth.com/ (Book a session with Nina)

Most children dream of being an astronaut or a princess when they grow up, but Autumn Fourkiller wanted to be a brain in a glass jar. Two decades later, the Indigenous writer doesn't feel too far off from that career trajectory, but instead of floating on display, she showcases her experiences and thoughts in her newsletter, short stories, and upcoming novel.  Anna and Nina sit down with Autumn to discuss dream interpretation, ritual ceremony, and processing grief through writing. Autumn illustrates how her Southern Baptist upbringing initially informed her spiritual journey and how her relationship with death has changed throughout her life. She opens up the dynamic she had with her estranged father and what it's like to live and work from his house now that he's passed away.  Anna, Nina, and Autumn touch on the role of identity-defining relationships, particularly through the lens of teenage love and intimacy. They also dig into what cultural appreciation and knowledge looks like and compare that to harmful cultural appropriation. At the end of their conversation, Anna pulls a card for Autumn and they talk about what's in her best interest right now.  Listen to the episode on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-human/id1575612024 (Apple Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/1V8taFSZQDpMcXkrP5dGrs?si=PtYeksWSRLGn_vu1vWBvMw&dl_branch=1 (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9yTHpBOUg2Mg (Google Podcasts), https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/fa34c28b-2ac5-49cb-9fc7-15328379d789 (Amazon Music), https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-how-to-be-human-84625355/ (iHeartRadio), https://www.stitcher.com/show/how-to-be-human-5 (Stitcher), or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Autumn's experience with storytelling and dream interpretation throughout her life  What it's like to identify with parts of your parents, especially after they've died  Trusting the lessons that life teaches you  Non-performative embodiment practices  Discovering what you want to do with your magic  Resources Mentioned: https://scalawagmagazine.org/2022/02/cherokee-nation-stilwell-oklahoma/ (Life and Death in Strawberry Land) Connect with Autumn:  https://www.autumnfourkiller.com/ (Autumn's Website) https://www.instagram.com/sadboyhowdy/ (Autumn's Instagram) Get in Touch: https://howtobehumanpod.com/ (How to Be Human) https://www.instagram.com/howtobehumanpod/ (How to Be Human Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/annatoonk/ (Anna's Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/humannamednina/ (Nina's Instagram) https://www.annatoonk.com/ (Book a session with Anna) https://ninaendrsthealth.com/ (Book a session with Nina)

Perhaps the only silver lining of learning about your attachment style is realizing that it can be healed and repaired, or at least that's how Anna sees it. On today's episode, Nina and Anna unpack their results from the https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/ (Attachment Style Quiz) and discuss the current research behind how attachment styles are formed. They reflect on familial and biological factors that they believe have influenced their attachment styles and the work that they continue to do to become more secure individuals.  There are four main attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure. They start to develop in utero, are put into place by 18 months old, and firmly developed by the age of four. Anna explores how her anxious attachment most likely came from experiencing emotional neglect as a child and not getting the comfort that she needed. She illustrates how this has affected her as an adult and how she's working on cultivating safe connections.  On the other end of the spectrum, Nina's test result revealed that she has secure attachment. She admits that if she had answered the questions 10 years earlier, the results might've been different, but she's learned to openly express her emotions and depend on her husband. She shares her perspective on attachment styles as a mother and ways that she sees it showing up in her four-year-old son.  Listen to the episode on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-human/id1575612024 (Apple Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/1V8taFSZQDpMcXkrP5dGrs?si=PtYeksWSRLGn_vu1vWBvMw&dl_branch=1 (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9yTHpBOUg2Mg (Google Podcasts), https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/fa34c28b-2ac5-49cb-9fc7-15328379d789 (Amazon Music), https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-how-to-be-human-84625355/ (iHeartRadio), https://www.stitcher.com/show/how-to-be-human-5 (Stitcher), or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Psychologist John Bowlby‘s work on attachment theory How your early relationship with your caregivers influences how you build relationships as an adult Looking at the relationship between intergenerational trauma and attachment styles When the workload of motherhood starts to overshadow the emotional and physical needs of a child  The body and intuition component of attachment styles  Resources Mentioned: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=tmm_pap_title_0 (Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller) https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2XRRLTF5X82ZV&keywords=children+of+emotionally+immature+parents&qid=1662487118&s=books&sprefix=children+of+emotionally+immature+parents%2Cstripbooks%2C170&sr=1-1 (Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson )  Get in Touch: https://howtobehumanpod.com/ (How to Be Human) https://www.instagram.com/howtobehumanpod/ (How to Be Human Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/annatoonk/ (Anna's Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/humannamednina/ (Nina's Instagram) https://www.annatoonk.com/ (Book a session with Anna) https://ninaendrsthealth.com/ (Book a session with Nina)

Nobody likes to be blamed for anything, yet so many of us are quick to dump responsibility on someone else or shift away from accountability. It makes it hard to learn from mistakes and see opportunities for empathy. So if no one likes being on the receiving end, why do we do it?  Anna and Nina explore why people resort to blame and how it often comes from being scolded for errors or misunderstandings. In their experience, the constant reach for perfection can cloud your judgment and make you second guess your intuition. Anna and Nina discuss how the blame cycle showed up in their professional lives and the lessons they learned from working in environments where blaming was the norm. Nina digs into how her relationship with blame has changed a lot over the years and how she's learned how to flip the narrative and take ownership over her life. A lot of that is due to practicing sitting in discomfort and embracing emotions head-on. Anna and Nina also share examples from their personal lives where they've been blamed or done the blaming, and what they've taken away from those situations.  Listen to the episode on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-human/id1575612024 (Apple Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/1V8taFSZQDpMcXkrP5dGrs?si=PtYeksWSRLGn_vu1vWBvMw&dl_branch=1 (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9yTHpBOUg2Mg (Google Podcasts), https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/fa34c28b-2ac5-49cb-9fc7-15328379d789 (Amazon Music), https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-how-to-be-human-84625355/ (iHeartRadio), https://www.stitcher.com/show/how-to-be-human-5 (Stitcher), or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: The relationship between shame and blame  Where compassion ends and accountability begins  Developing coping skills and upholding professional boundaries  The difference between confidence and experience  Finding ways to tolerate and move through discomfort  Resources Mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZWf2_2L2v8 (Dr. Brené Brown on Blame)  Get in Touch: https://howtobehumanpod.com/ (How to Be Human) https://www.instagram.com/howtobehumanpod/ (How to Be Human Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/annatoonk/ (Anna's Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/humannamednina/ (Nina's Instagram) https://www.annatoonk.com/ (Book a session with Anna) https://ninaendrsthealth.com/ (Book a session with Nina)